I've noticed in society people treat nice people terribly until they eventually get them to break. And then the bullies act nice and pretend they don't know whats wrong with the person whose spirit they broke. It's like they want to wear there identity but have to get you to break before they can take it.
its what i feel about reddit! the whole karma effing system! i make a high quality post and its removed, but when get PISSED tired of effign bots removign my post when i make a CRAPPY PISSED post or a test post to test if will be removed it POST and is NOT removed adn slammed on reddit sucks and is one the "Electronic ghetthos" that alex and others have talked about.
They treat you terribly because they want you to stop acting like everyone has to like you because your nice…at least that’s my experience once I understood that not everyone has to like me this became a lot easier to deal with in respect to “bullies” it’s less about bullying and more of a hardcore wake up call. now what they don’t understand is that if they are not clear or not willing to follow through it just leaves you lost and then you’ll wonder and ruminate on what you did wrong when it was not even that deep. Another problem with it is that not everyone is ready to bounce back from someone telling them about themselves A.K.A. bullying them. Sometimes people are definitely being assholes but a lot of the time people are just trying to shock you into what you need to hear not all disrespect is there to hurt you.
1. Don't idolize anyone 2. Question authority 3. Know how to recognize evil 4. Be aware of cults, open or disguised 5. Know you're as flawed and dangerous as any other, so be constantly vigilant about doing the right thing. Being good is a active effort, not a passive inheritance.
@@dah_goofsterif you’re born good you never had to struggle and fight to learn from the error of your ways. The one born into it will take it for granted, born good, but doesn’t mean they’ll STAY good. So it is better to overcome than be born with it
@@ethanbard3067 I don’t think you understand the point I’m trying to make. You’re viewing this as a strictly selfish choice, I’m looking at from border point of view. If you’re born evil you have to hurt lots of people to figure out what’s good, how is that helpful to anyone but yourself? If you’re born good and just know right from wrong and always do what’s best for people, then the only thing that can ruin that is someone who’s evil. So a society filled with naturally good people is much better than a society filled with naturally evil people. Life is already hard enough, but now you have to battle with other humans trying to make your life a living hell just so they can learn good from evil. Being born good is 100% much better than being born evil. Your argument is essentially “I was born with no legs and learned how to walk without them, so I’m much better than people who were born with legs and never experienced the struggle.” Although the evil version of that analogy would be stealing someone’s legs and learning to walk with them lol
@@dah_goofsterit is really not that simple. maybe einstein didnt want to believe it but if there is a god, he loves him a good old fashioned game of craps.
@@johanneskepler873 there is no single god at least not in the sense that religions seem to believe. The sheer volume of different religions and beliefs and the fact that there’s many cultures that have no religion at all is a huge clue that they are all made up. So by extension god is always going to be a mirror of human nature. Our “god” is programmed into us while we are being raised by our parents and by society. Then again wtf do I know, I’m multiple times abandoned and filled with plenty of trauma and mental illness. I would say don’t choose my path, just take the one that helps you fit in to society and make you feel like you belong.
I’m usually a kind, quiet person. I show respect to others, but I have a very dark other side. I have been a very cruel and evil person before, and I won’t lie, it felt good. I’m kind because I’m keeping the other side locked away. If I get pushed to the point that I let that side back out, I’m not sure if I’m going to want to lock it away again. Short background Military, Paramedic/firefighter, now working as a scrub tech. My jobs have desensitised me to the point of numbness. I can see someone die in surgery, then go to lunch 5 minutes later like nothing happened. It gets to others, but not me.
@ @ it’s tough keeping it buried, the best thing I’ve learned to do is use the darkness as a tool. Whether it be stopping an argument because you know you can go further and be meaner, or using it as a way to help others. I also work in a hospital, not sure id handle it the same as if I hadn’t had the previous experiences in life that lead to that numbness. It’s a shitty feeling, but almost feels like a gift sometimes. It took me awhile to realize but I think that’s why it makes us feel numb.
@ it’s okay to remind people that you aren’t a pushover, I believe you can say almost anything to anyone as long as it’s worded properly and with the correct tone. At the end of the day we don’t have to hate those that do us wrong, but we shouldn’t forget either.
@FinUgShiet if you aren't a child at least mentally, you won't lash out on those who aren't the reason you are upset Or so it should be Most of people a just a big babies who can't handle their frustration
@@FinUgShietYeah totally, not like most if not everyone would warn you first that you should leave them alone because they've had a bad day. If you somehow dont have the mental capacity to read very basic expressions and understand even more basic language that they are irritated and kept bothering them, you deserves to get yelled at. That example is so bad, i cant even think of any other words to simply describe it
It's okay to get angry. It's okay to set boundaries and limits. It's okay to be strong and take control. Being Good or Godly doesn't mean you have to be a doormat.
@@mariaslamat4999doormat means that you're essentially letting your boundaries loose for the sake of others, in which sometimes they might not treat you nicely, and they can "step" all over you, like a doormat
i feel like the nicest people are almost immune to bad people. they just assume the best whenever something bad happens to them whereas a bad person will assume the worst and get angrier.
I would distinguish between good people and nice people. Good people do what is right even when the price for being good is to lose friends and make enemies. Nice people are just people pleasers not really caring if it's right or wrong. They are often enablers and harm others due to their passivity and inability to go into confrontation.
Remember, people treat you based on what you tolerate and some people will see how much you're willing to tolerate to know how to work around you. So set your boundaries firmly.
@@ShreddedSteelgive people enough respect to treat them as humans… but beyond that You have to earn it regardless of your title I mean respect your parents but respect can be earned and lost
Smh, we all grew up in Christian culture and Jesus said to turn the other cheek... But nothing will get people more disgusted with you than seeing you "not have a backbone", and it's sad honestly.
No, not entirety. People mistaken kindness for weakness. A lot of people are just weak, so play nice to get on everyones side. A truly good person is one who knows his evil and what he is capable of, yet refuses.
“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
I'll never be a monster to strangers, I don't know them or what they are going through. But to those close to me, if they push my far enough, I know I can snap and become their villian. I've been a hero to strangers and harsh to those close to me, both can exist simultaneously, the duality of human nature.
Nah your just that person that everyone dislike in there circle, and probably for good reason. You are just justifying your shit behavior with people who misplaced their trust in you
This is the idea that’s at the center of the Joker’s character. In ‘The Killing Joke’ he said “All it takes is one bad day to reduce the sanest man alive to lunacy. That's how far the world is from where I am. Just one bad day.”
@@BurningSands_FGC yeah thats true good pointing out. batman and joker were both doing what they thought was right, and both are flawed in multiple ways. Batman is just seen as "justice" because he is on the side that is constantly kicking down, and then waiting for someone to lash out and act like an animal after being treated like one for too long so they can justify further torment.
I've seen some people volunteer for "anti-bullying" seminar or anything similar to that and then later on when that seminar is finished, they'll laugh and talk shit about those people who opened up or shared experiences of being bullied. That's where I learned not to trust anyone at all even if they appear to do good. Sometimes, evilness wins and gets most of the attention while the ones that tried to do good or be good are set aside..
That's what separates action from intention. You can choose to do good things, but if you never actively embody the compassion to help others, it's not any different from lying. Compassion is an emotion that has to come from a place of genuine humility and kindness. You can try to help others without it, but you will fail to see the connection you are making and you will never improve.
Never accept people as what they say they are. Learn to watch what they do. If the two don’t match, avoid them. You can always tell the genuinely good people. They’re always kind and thoughtful, even if on the surface they’re irritable or grumpy, when there’s no reward and they think no one is looking. The little things. The assholes never are.
I was recently told that I'm a bad person for wanting to have good faith discussions with people on the opposing side of an issue. I will never stop seeing the humanity in others and extending a hand of understanding.
@@vistakay well you'll encounter than if your goal is to win. My goal is not to win, it's to see if I can get the other side to understand where I'm coming from, and if not, the people who read the conversation. I consider it a win if I can leave a conversation shaking hands (literally or figuratively) with my opponent, which happens far more often than you might think. There don't have to be winners and losers, it can just be an exchange of ideas. But you are correct that most people don't want to do that. That's why I try to set a good example. Edit: oh! Another important part of my approach is willingness to understand regardless of the other party being willing.
Depends on the position. How much of a "good faith discussion" can one have on the topic of "should your family be murdered" with people who are actively saying "yes, the government should murder you and your family"? There are positions where engaging with them in good faith just legitimizes their position as one that someone can hold and still get a handshake after arguing for, while accomplishing nothing on changing their mind(fascism, white supremacy, killing gay people) Good faith discussion is for things you disagree with but are understandable, not threats to your wellbeing and status as a free person.
Agreed. The concept of being nice and kind being two different things is an illusion that modern day society has built to pull the wool over our eyes to think etiquette and formalities is a good thing. Its only good for what it does, face value effects. A truly nice person and a truly kind person, the word truth says it all. Theyre the same. And those who are only polite, arent good, theyre just good at playing the game society wants them to do. Do what is right, live righteously through first justice with mercy and grace. @user-fu4wy5il5v
Sadly, I actually witnessed this first hand. For several years, we lived next door to a man who was an awesome neighbor. He was kind, helpful, and considerate. He treated our children wonderfully and made them feel special and important. He was a very well respected member of the community. He was the type of guy people came to for help and guidance. He also had a wonderful family and smart, educated children.. One day, after a business deal went sour with some former coworkers, a man and a woman, he drove to their office and shot them both to death. They were both middle aged parents with children still at home.. He destroyed 3 families that day. No one has any idea what could cause a man like that to snap so violently, and unfortunately, no one will ever get the chance to ask as he turned the gun on himself later that day. It's scary how quickly a human being can take a turn for the absolute worst.
Even the most patient person, once reached the limit, can explode, unfortunately, doing good doesn’t always come back. Unfortunately, maybe no one ever bothered to think that there’s something wrong with him, or ever done something significant, just because they only see his outside. I don’t know your neighbor, i don’t exactly know his reasons, i’m only giving you answers based in researchs and personal experience. As someone who usually gives advices, i can say that sometimes i don’t believe in my own words, but i still do it, so i could help them.
@themaximusyang8645 Yea you're right.. my husband has always felt guilty because my neighbor was going to help us with something that night and he called my husband to confirm that we would meet at 7pm. We later found out that when he made that call, he was a minute or two from their office with a loaded weapon. My husband told me that he didn't sound right, so he's always felt bad he didn't ask him if everything was ok. Like maybe he made that call, knowing where he was headed, because he was hoping someone/something would talk him out of it. Sadly, we'll never know and I've told my husband, it's not a burden you should carry.
@after_dark_777 I know you were speaking metaphorically, but, you're actually more right than you know. My husband just retired after 22 years in the military. Our neighbor was also retired military. I believe he did about 25 years. My husband did 7 deployments in his 22 years and he's been in some pretty awful situations. Because of it, he's battled depression for many years, though most people would never know it. It's very possible that our neighbor had similar struggles but tried to hide it from everyone and deal with it on his own.
There's a saying for that it goes "god works everything for good" then forgive them father, for they know not what they do" then "god works in mysterious ways " then " you never know " stay grounded and balanced
They RARELY happen. Very, very few blessed souls are able to pass away comfortably in a warm bed, surrounded by family. It’s why when I read a fictional story, I seek out ones with happy endings. We have to build them for ourselves, but even in all our efforts we might not achieve it on this plane of existence.
Its scared me because I met one myself. One time I saw them normal, very happy until a few years later they change rapidly . Couldn't recognize them which scared me the most.
With that said, being religious, serving in the military, or being a charity organizer doesn't automatically make you a good person. As someone who served, I learned that the hard way. Before joining, I was under the impression that those in the military are vastly different from ordinary civilians. That they're very good people with great morals. Boy was I wrong. A majority of people in the military are no different than ordinary civilians. They can be just as bad and cruel with twisted morals
@@joemama4473yea especially nowadays when (at least in America) u don’t NEED to join the military bc it’s not like we’re getting invaded or anything, I wouldn’t rlly expect good ppl to be in there when the main thing u gotta desensitize urself with is killing others
You're right, know fam and friends in the military, the stories I hear of men and women that are in service and out have a superiority complex , entitlement and ego. I still meet a few humble ones here and there but yeah the bad ones outnumber the good ones by a lot
Well, you're answer is there, why would a Stranger hurt you, out of nowhere, it makes more sense that you get hurt by someone who knows you, it makes more sense, so no surprise there
This is why I strongly believe in intelligent disobedience. And if I see something as harmful or socially damaging, I exercise my own judgement and refuse to participate. Because it is true, no one starts off as a sadistic monster, they are developed into a complete lack of empathy and humanity.
i dont know if disobedience is what your looking for in word choice there. i get you tho. i agree. i think the word your looking for is disinterest. people who care less about people and what they think or say and instead have their interest in things and not people often are the pacificst.
Uh, no, there are conditions within the development of the human brain which can start people off without empathy and "humanity". While I myself don't think I'm bad because I often try to be helpful to those who I care about and look after them, since I have Asperger's, the part of my brain that's responsible for empathy isn't well developed thus I have some trouble understanding and empathizing with others feelings and such.
Incredibly false, most people have to develop these traits but a psychopath for example is born with a rewired brain. The monster part is true though. Not everyone who suffers from Psychopathy is a monster. It’s a sickness at the end of the day.
I got broken by narcissists and bullies during my Engineering Education. Now I am slowly joining my pieces together to become whole again and be strong...
I’ve been trying for 30 years, to undo what’s been done to me. I don’t think it ever can be undone, once you see that side of humanity it stays with you.
@Ninnjette- in the exact same boat used to be a social butterfly then society got a hold and bit by bit I withdrew from society then family and friends threw me under the bus a fair few times now I'm a misanthropic hermit
Have you completed Engineering? The fun fact is that in most countries, including the US, Engineering has a HIGH turnover rate, so it's highly likely that the people who weren't focused on studying and were instead focused on drama, parties, and bullying you didn't make it through to the end of the year. And if not, well you're away from them either way. It takes time to heal, but you'll be alright in the end. No matter what you do, if you keep trying you'll be better than before.
Having the ability to comprehend these concepts is like a curse in this world. You know that something is wrong and when raise your voice against it, it is cut down and you are labeled as a weirdo. Only very few people can relate to this issue and that is sad.
Indeed, it’s truly disheartening to feel isolated in your understanding, especially when it seems like so few can connect with the depth of your insights and the pain of going unrecognized.
Very few people have gone to the depths that it takes to actually understand this video, and either slayed their dragon, or at least made it back out the door. ""He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." - Nietzsche" The thing is, no one fights with monsters anymore. Heck, few even take philosophy, or learn it on their own. And those unprepared (who lack the tools) to fight monsters, may very well be consumed by them. And that, in itself, is a frightful proposition. Whether you have the tools or not. Additionally, very few people seem to stop and think about ANYTHING anymore. Just "feed" me. We can't even be bothered to ask a question about what I want to watch. 😂
Say all four of us in this comment section are individuals, as stated by the comment post, people who can think outside of the box, thats 4, say we double that to 8, Multiply by 8 more, thats 64, so far 60 more individuals who can do the same, we go on and on, a hundred, a thousand, a hundred thousands, that is how many people who can also do the same, till we realize every and each one of our equals can do the same, what differ us is the whole cascade of factor behind everyone's personality and situation, and then it becomes a matter of understanding we are not alone, just disconnected due to causality
I learnt the hard way that “no good deed goes unpunished” is not a euphemism but the sad reality, I got treated much better by those I didn’t care for and now I just stopped caring for anyone who is not my friend or family
Here in the city where I grew up, there was a man who was literally a legend. Always friendly, helping and supporting everyone. One day he was sitting in a restaurant, eating and drinking. Then like 6 guys started bothering him. First he offered them to sit with him and eat and drink together. They continued to be idiots and everything ended up when he threw them around like little toys since he was 2+m tall and had bodyweight of 170-180kg with large % of muscles. Of course he didn't switch to the evil side after that and continued being a legend. Also not many people wanted to try their luck to make him angry. So, the best approach is to be a good guy, but also you need to be dangerous enough to demotivate people when they want to act like idiots...
@rhondahoward8025 I'm not a fighter and that's why I always say if someone decides that they want to fight, they better fuckin kill me, because I'm too small of a person to fight. I'd never hurt someone intentionally, but someone trying to beat me up would make me fear for my life. Alright, maybe I'm a little crazier than I care to admit
@@skarnus3000 If you are some average 70-80kg man, gather 5 friends like you, find some superheavy powerlifter and start bothering him. You will see what I described above 🙂
This reminds me of a poem by Alexandr Solzhenitsyn: "The most terrifying force of death comes from the hands of Men who wanted to be left alone. They try, so very hard, to mind their own business and provide for themselves and those they love. They resist every impulse to fight back, knowing the forced and permanent change of life that will come from it. They know, that the moment they fight back, their lives as they have lived them, are over. The moment the Men who wanted to be left alone are forced to fight back, it is a form of suicide. They are literally killing off who they used to be. Which is why, when forced to take up violence, these Men who wanted to be left alone, fight with unholy vengeance against those who murdered their former lives. They fight with raw hate, and a drive that cannot be fathomed by those who are merely play-acting at politics and terror. True terror will arrive at these people's door, and they will cry, scream, and beg for mercy... but it will fall upon the deaf ears of the Men who just wanted to be left alone."
This is the way. At 32 I finally understand this after years and years of being “too nice” and ending up being punished and used for it. It didn’t make me jaded, I’m still kind, but I have boundaries and I’m not afraid to be assertive anymore.
@@Th3BigBoy I guess it's that being nice means behaving in a good way, but being kind is actually embodying wishing well to others, not just acting like you do for the sake of peace or acceptance.
"It's possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness. That is life." This quote got stuck with me for days after watching this video. It's from Star Treck and this hits hard
@@ArtificiallyAwareit kind of does doing things properly and still not getting things makes people evil and will always do. It's just that we have so much less time on earth eventually when we don't get what we want we have the option of having it and losing everything we are and becoming evil or never fulfilling our dreams or stand a chance to.
I'd like to add dimension to that by defining that having setbacks and challenges is not losing, it's just what life does to you. Losing is a part of the mindset scale of how you cope with the adversity. Losing is when you are mentally caving in and giving up, being overwhelmed, not managing to accept, commit and adapt. The opposite of losing is then to manage, take control, learn, improve, gain self-confidence, -efficasy and -esteem. Essentially differing between what happens to you and what happens in you.
That statement is true... For humanity. Not for me... Because I am All and Void as One. In other words, most people live but very few walk higher. I'm only merciful because I choose to. Never mistake it for weakness. I can always 180 turn my morality into true malevolence. In benevolence, I rather not have to judge Humanity. They sow their own Fate.
That is because a sand castle isn't a real castle. It is a fake one. A pretend castle. A real castle can survive a hurricane. Similarly, someone FAKING having morals isn't really moral. They are a fake and when they're exposed they will crumble.
I can't rightly say it is fact but- It is fact. This is where the concept of original sin comes from in the silly book. And being humans (the most adaptable species on the planet), we can devolve to monsters on a sunny, calm day.
It's surprising to me that others just accept everything around them without questioning it. It's also amazing how easy it is to control the masses through speech and perceived authority alone.
People are fools. They do not care about something if it doesn't immediately affect them in the moment, or if it's outside the scope of their daily lives. That is what makes them loathsome.
I guess the people who just accept are also the ones who are the most normal people who are selected for these experiments. Since they don't question what they do. Since I'm questioning a lot I don't understand why people have behaved like this in the experiments. Because at the end of the day. You are responsible for what you do. Always
@@hungder People don't want to be responsible, i'm afraid. They want to be led around towards happiness by the proverbial shepherd. They are sapient beings, yet lack will.
Spoke to my wife about this recently and I told her that it’s strange how bad people, A-Holes etc always seem to get the fruits of life. I told her I wonder if we weren’t good people if life would treat us better. My personal answer to why good people turn evil is because life just shows good people daily that the people who step over others and don’t care for others get more blessings from life then people who do good deeds and live righteous lives. This is just my opinion of course but that’s my answer to the question.
@John_R_Jackson_III Interesting take! It’s wild how the world often rewards the bold and selfish. But do you think it's really about the actions, or maybe perception? What if the "blessings" are just illusions, masking deeper consequences? How do we define true success in the end?
I think we are selective seers. perspective is what matters. We people are made to see things in our own way. Maybe we ignore what good things we have that the bad ones can never ever have in their whole lifetime and beyond. Maybe we play victime to feel better about ourselves. So maybe life treats evil people in the same way too. You never know. It's just that we have to be proud that we're facing problems while doing good things while they're facing problems while doing bad things.
The greatest life question from all religions is: Is that worth it to you? If youre a good person, you wouldn't trade your moral spirit for material wealth. This is the crossroads where the devil waits happy to trade you whatever you want in this temporary world for your everlasting pure soul. Not a great bargain in the end.
Even the ancient greeks agreed that true hapiness comes from virtue and being good. Being an asshole might get you benefits and riches sure, but that is not real hapiness. Real hapiness comes from within, not in having more, but needing less
Being good makes me happy. It warms my heart to help accomplish something for someone when they’re unable to do something their self. But not when someone takes advantage of my kindness, that’s when I become a different kind of person, yet mindful of my intentions. I don’t believe in Perfection, especially the type where you think above yourself and others. I rather be a flawed person with challenges that I learn from, than to be someone who sees kindness, compassion, empathy as a weakness.
@@meganekkoi3282 Some times their isn't a way to stand up for your self without turning into the so called monster, it especially easy if have nothing left to lose.
@@meganekkoi3282 im not Shure if I understand what you said, but I don't think that questioning is a bad thing, but some people don't wanna get questioned and some people don't wanna question anything
Whenever people watch the news and a horrible story or tragic event plays, they always say “I can’t believe someone could do that”! I’ve always asked myself.. what made this person do this? Sometimes the monster isn’t always in the limelight.. they are just the scapegoat for society to keep being shitty.
@@colinlpeace that’s the point. When the pedophile was abused, it doesn’t excuse his actions but it doesn’t excuse the persons who hurt him either. Actions have consequences whether we like them or not. It’s about breaking the trauma circle really. The problem is instead of changing things or creating solutions we just expect individual perfection which is unrealistic. Imagine if after 9/11 the U.S was like.. well it’s evil to retaliate so we choose peace. Not really how it works ya know. Things aren’t always as easy as “that’s evil don’t do it” We like to justify things like “they attacked us” but that’s what we were told and was it the correct response? There’s no right or wrong just what happened.. and the consequences that come after.
The pain of human isn't something universal to all, you can be human without it meaning pain, that requires taking responsibility for yourself instead of being driven between "too good" and "completely evil" the truth lies in between If being human hurts too much, you're not being the right kind of human, it's not perfection or nothing, you aren't less than human for not living in the pain which being "too nice" brings, and if my words fall to deaf ears, experience will teach people most in time
"You need to question everything." Yes. Never blindly or automatically accept something for face value. That doesn't mean distrust everything. If always strive for the unfiltered and untampered truth, you will never be led down a dark path in life.
@@ajflink when the cashier at the grocery asks for money, you need to start a dialogue about the concept of money and whether it is necessary 🤣 Jokes aside, true 😅
I think you should distrust everything. At least until you can say definitely each thing, on it's own, is good, or true. From birth till death, we're lied to, about nearly everything. Even by those like our parents, or ' authorities ', that THINK they have good intentions or ' our best interests ' at heart.😢 I learned far too young that, 1, the world was not what it was cracked up to be, and 2, that it was an evil place that could devour a person, or their soul. In fact it's like a dark jungle, with many paths, some dark, some light, many branching, looping, converging. Hard to find a totally good way thru, without being corrupted or eaten.😢
@ArtificiallyAware I guess you can also go into lucifer and god on the perspective on lucifer why he thinks he was doing the right way and/or why rebel on God or something like that... Or on hitler on why his people thought he was a good guy for trying to save his country and economics. I really like this video too, made me wanna change my attitude and thoughts on it.... thanks AI
It's really not lol. Considering this video describes majority of society to an exact T, society is very very close to collapsing. Mostly because there's no inner dialog in most people's consciousness. There's no questioning up there. They just do what they're told. Which is not how any prosperous society works.
Even though im not religious its thanks to that why were somewhat even civil it coincides with Our general laws and instituitions that are set by the goverment to follow inclduing how our morality is justified
It's all thanks to "obeying the authority" by obeying the authority you do what the most learned wants you to do coz it's easier. And the leader most likely WANTS the society to not fall apart because he has the authority and would like to keep it.
A pattern I observed people of all ages do at some point: 1 - Choose someone and provoke them physically or psychologically, somehow, someway. 2 - Should the provoked one retaliate in any way, shape, or form, accordingly to the situation, act surprised and pretend to be the victim. 3 - Downplay the provoked one's reaction by telling him it's exageratted or by being extremely offended by his reaction.
That happens to me too often, literally earlier it happened again, i guess i don't learn from it, but what else can i do yk, can't just stop talking to people, i mean maybe i could just never retaliate even if the other is clearly in the wrong in whatever way, which is pretty hard for me sometimes, all got some kind of ego deep inside, and obviously Feelings
I've questioned everything for years and what pushes me is everyone around me telling me to follow orders, to fit in, to let things go. its this constant pressure from all sides that ignites my darker impulses
They tell you to fit in but also to be yourself. They tell you to have self-compassion but loathe you if they sense any self-pity. Everything they say they want you to do is actually just a test to see if you will do it and not because they want you to. How is one not to go insane? Stop being afraid of being hated.
People are dangerous Do not engage, not worth it. Not everyone has good intentions for you and the ones that have the worst intentions will do everything they can to hide it. If they pretend to care, RUN. Fast as you can, far as you can. You have yourself, that’s it. DO NOT TRUST ANYONE AND DO NOT HELP ANYONE. STOP BEING STUPID!!!! - my last diary entry
it starts in school when you fight back against bullying and get punished for it, and then it’s just downhill from there. but hey, that’s why we’re humans and can’t have anything nice.
No that is a normal occurrence, you’ve missed the point entirely and that’s how easy it always was. You’ve never looked at it a different eay you don’t seem to have the capacity to explore any further in concept. The goal is not to justify the bullying in of itself it’s to recontextualize the subjects that are ridiculous and affirm the ones that aren’t. Successfully altering the perception of reality. You think they care about maintaining order it was never about justice. It was about making a choice which humans failed in choosing correctly and now they get to define your morals. This is why the apple of knowledge was forbidden because aquiring real knowledge is a sacrifice you have no other choice but to make at this point. All this not to scare you but to warn you of the dangers that hide in plain sight which can be avoided and ultimately even defeated. See it’s all just a game they play. And they will never stop
"I have no mercy or compassion in me for a society that will crush people, and then penalize them for not being able to stand up under the weight." -Malcolm X
Honestly, thank you for making this. Getting fresh out of high school and into college, it’s shifted my world a lot. I don’t have my family, none of my friends, and I’m all alone. My room8 is an ass and I can tell I am an arm’s length from everyone despite all my efforts. Then to be later told by my brother(the person I look up to the most) that when I get this age, that it’s me vs everyone, and no one here really cares. It’s latched to me permanently, if not all of it then some of it. I cant really feel any connection when I talk to people, even though I’m a genuinely calm person. I stopped wanting people to try my food(cook every now and then), and I don’t make the same effort to connect with others. I’ve always known some of it, if not all is true, but it hurts to consider. Hurts to think the world is truly cruel. It makes me think very bad things, but I never act on them. I am starting to hate people and not believe they are as good as they are, and I feel myself slipping into pessimism and lack of care. I still love my family, but that’s about it. I Just do what i have to do and it’s exhausting. I don’t want to fall into this state of perpetual apathy with occasional fleeting happiness. I just want to feel like I am not being tortured. I have flaws, I can be angry at time.
You should read the dune series. In it, there is a group of people who have a theory the use to sort who they will allow to have power. They tell a person to put their hand in a box, and when they do, they tell them if they take their hand out of the box, they will be killed instantly. Then the box makes that person feel extreme pain. The idea is the animal cannot control itself. It is subject to its instincts, and so it takes its hand out of the box. It takes being a human to keep your hand in the box, because it takes your conscious self wilfully overriding all your instinct to do it. Would you keep your hand in the box? Maybe youve just never met anyone who would.
in a way this even makes me somewhat optimistic, if we all have the capacity for good and for evil, then nobody is truly a monster, it’s just people choosing the wrong path, but they can always come back
That’s very true, but, sadly, it’s much harder to admit to wrongdoing and go back than it is to do harm in the first place. I would argue that the number of people who manage to turn themselves around is even smaller than the number of people who succeed in staying mostly kind and compassionate for their entire lives.
Being a good person is a choice, a choice we're all capable of making. It takes work, and we will make mistakes, but we must try and have faith that we can *do* good.
I grew up a kind hearted boy recently over about 2-3 years I see more of a monster inside of me .. dark thoughts and menacing goals in my head so twisted 😅 yet feels so natural
the same goes to simple one, which is spongebob... when you're kids, you saw spongebob as fun guy, and squidward is pathetic middle age man, but as you grow older, you relate more to squidward and view spongebob as annoying childish one...
@@mu6192red herring, OP wanted to emphasise the motivations and complexities of villains, and using hitler as an extreme example (arguably irrelevant too) distorts the original statement
I love how some people will just bully somebody over and over again until they snap then act as if it’s ”just something that happened.” Like it just appeared out of thin air, as if it was something random.
That's why the best way to understand history and to prevent it to happen again is to read it from the perspective of the perpetrator, not from the victims view, because then you can understand that those "monsters" could be easily one of us under determined circumstances. Great video, you wrote it down perfectly and also, I really liked the paintings, very disturbing and fitting for the topic
1) "He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." - F. W. Nietzsche 2) "When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment, he needs help. That's the message he is sending.” - Thich Nhat Hanh 3) "The child who is not embraced by the village, will burn it down to feel its warmth" - african proverb
Help? You wish. Many, if not most, are beyond help; And you can't help he who does not want to be helped in the first place either. You cannot tell a worm to stop squirming in the dirt, because that's all it knows and that's all it's instincts tell it to do. When the worm's antics become a problem, they become pests... and we all know what must be done to pests.
years of isolation and self reflection have in fact revealed to me that i am not a good person and not only that,but that in fact no one is a good person we are all just acting,it's a survival mechanism,we want to be classified as good people,because then we are included,accepted etc.... majority of people will try to refute this but you have to understand that only because they dont want to see it,they want to believe they are good and well...i can understand that..for we all have to sleep at night,right?
We’re not all just acting brother, that must be a projection. No one is ENTIRELY good, but if you lead your life with compassion, empathy, and love, you will stop caring about being “accepted” or “included” and you will understand what it means to be a good human. There are good humans out there and I promise you they are not just acting
I agree and have come to the exact same conclusion after 5 years of isolation and introspection. I do not feel that I am a good person even though by normal societal standards I would be considered one. When years get devoted to breaking down one's own ego, it's terrifying to discover how much we suppress to convince ourselves we are good. I think Carl Jung was onto something with the understanding of the shadow self. The scariest and most dangerous people to give power to are the ones who think they would never cause harm. Those are the ones which are not in touch with their shadow selves and are incapable of seeing the signs that they are becoming depraved and drunk with power. Those that are at least aware of their capability for evil are at least capable of seeing the red flags. People cannot fight in themselves what they don't recognize exists.
You’re literally saying that being good increases survival so it’s in our code to be good. If it’s survival then it’s not acting because people want to survive genuinely 😂
@@3Kefka6Palazzo9 to be a good human you must be in touch with your shadow self. Just because the shadow is a part of you and you are capable of horrible things, doesn’t mean you’re incapable of being a good human. Don’t strive for perfection, you will fall short everytime and hate yourself for it. Strive for balance.
I've witnessed this monster in me a number of times. He, or I should say, am a selfish opportunist. For a number of reasons I concluded I'm better off living alone, where I can at least reflect on that shadow, and direct his rage to more noble endeavors.
But, hey, being selfish isn't always necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes prioritizing yourself is a right thing to do. And opportunities are also something to cherish. Sorry if this sounds encouraging in a wrong way, I don't know you and your circumstances indeed. But everyone has some imperfections about them. None of us are perfect but that's just the thing that makes us human. Maybe trying to integrate that part of yourself into something that doesn't harm anyone would be cool. It's something about self-control rather repression. Because "bad" feelings and thoughts have a reason, even if it's not logical or morally correct. Whatever you do, good luck, stranger of the Internet
You're not a bad person if you recognised this behaviour as problematic and did something about it. A selfish person would've embraced it and continued without care. People can change for the better.
I seemingly was born to distrust authority, and I was always punished for being rebellious. I taught myself to accept I was not wholly good. I embraced my demons, and I have tried to always hold myself accountable. I don't always get it right, but I keep trying. It's just part of being a human I guess
I joked with my sister recently how it seems like assholes live forever and kind people die too early. I think there's truth to that. People that are selfish don't worry themselves with other people's troubles. Kind people can kill themselves pleasing others.
I truly believe that the the best way to be a good person for me is to not see myself as a good person. I'll never tell you I'm perfect, that I'm above doing evil. And I'll never say that anyone is completely evil. When you don't trust others fully and you don't trust yourself fully, that's critical awareness. It's putting hard truth before convenient lies. And that's healthy to a good life, and a good society. Lots of people become corrupt and evil because they accept soft lies, just a little at a time - and eventually, they become more interested in protecting themselves from the truth, than in defending it. It can happen to anyone.
I tried to be nice to everyone but they test my patience so i gave up on that but i was never able to purposefully hurt someone even if i wanted to so i found my comfort zone which is in the middle im just looking out for myself now
What happens when you pick the evil side? What happens when there is no "good" side because all the sides are wrong? If you just "pick a side" because it's easier than trying to do the work of understanding other viewpoints, then you will only ever see what people tell you to see, you'll never know the whole story.
I don't think picking just one side is good either. After all, if you are only nice to one side, are you really a nice person? A lot of criminals and bad people treat people they like nicely.
@@mariustan9275 I don't want to be nice, nor do I want to be liked by everyone. Not even God can achieve that if he even exists. I just want to be with people that matter to me, that's it. If I see a stranger in need of help, fine I'll help them, if I can but I'm not here to make friends.
This is why I believe “At the East of Eden” is such a good movie. Pretty much the opposite of this happens, where the protagonist goes from a bad person to a good one. But most of all, its interesting because it portrays that being too morally correct can lead you to evil, and how sometimes good is found in moral ambiguity. The good men aren’t those who are always good, it’s those who know when to be good and when not to.
no its just a very attractive idea. becoming the monster is the most painful thing. nobody truly wants to be the monster. it sure looks great to be a monster for a day when youre exhausted being with being nice. but being not nice doesnt make you a monster. it makes you a pacifist. being nice makes you an anarchist. forcing niceness always leads to anarchistic ends whereas being not nice is self serving to the point of self reliance and unburdening endeavors. counter intuitive but effective in practice. you can see this polarity represent itself in life too. the best sports teams with the best teamwork actually build people individually instead of working on the team as a team. you build the individual and it makes the team on its own. counter intuitive but true. life is polar. the bad guys often are the good guys and the good guys often the bad guys. portrayal is a weapon. knowing this is the master key to drawing accurate personas of people.
Being a bad person is like falling. One bad decision makes it easier to make the next one until you wake up one day hating the person you see in the mirror.
So glad I found this video. These are things I have pondered over for YEARS. Starting with my own family. My siblings are horrible people, yet received all the love and support from my parents. I was treated like a slave. Always doing good, going beyond and sacrificing. Only to be told I didn't do enough, berated for failing or had my contributions minimalized. I watched how the WORST people get everything. It was infuriating. I often reveled in the joy I felt when I REALLY lost my temper a few times. How only THEN is everyone attentive and caring to me. Only when you made the fear you for a brief moment. I feel NO ONE has ever truly loved me despite my efforts. These days I have given up being "nice". Only to my small circle.....
I’m autistic - I struggle with knowing what is right or wrong. I also don’t become attached to people; I like to have people I can depend on, and I love the people I keep around me, but I don’t miss them when I’m not with them. I don’t miss anyone…ever, but I love seeing - for example - my grandma because I love her and I’m very close to her. I also don’t like to show affection physically (like hugging) or with words - it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t like to express emotions often - unless I’m overwhelmed by happiness or having a meltdown, you’d think I didn’t have any emotions - I can also be quite monotone. Some people don’t think I can self reflect either, like I don’t have a conscience or remorse. I do - sometimes - it just doesn’t come naturally to me. It’s something I’ve had to work on in order to understand rights and wrongs and how I affect others. Also with having Misophonia and Body Dysmorphia I am prone to sudden anger and depression. Reading all that about me, you’d probably say I wasn’t a good person. However, I have never INTENTIONALLY harmed, upset or hurt anyone. I have good manners, I have a great sense of humour and like to make others laugh. I also treat my 3yr old cat like my child, he has everything he would ever need and more - he gets tons of love and affection from me and he always shows me the same love back. My family love me very much and everyone would say I’m a kind, sensitive, shy and caring person. Would I describe myself as evil? No. But am I a good person? No. I’m learning to not view everything as black and white, that people can be both good and bad…myself included.
What's funny is I'm not autistic, and I don't have misophonia, and I'm actually a musician (or was)... but I've grown to really either have no reaction to or flat out hate music these days. A musician who "hates" music. Who'd have thunk it? I dunno... just sometimes, I'll have some musical inspiration and I'll play for like an hour, and when I end, I'll just feel a sick feeling like I have a bad hangover for a few minutes. I'll wonder "What was the point of that ridiculous noise?" I'm also what the folks have classically called a Christian. I know on a very deep level that I am not good. On a very deep level, I can empathize with even the most abominable of evil because I in and of myself without God am abominable. Without God, I walk hand in hand with Satan himself. We could go into what that means for days but... I've learned to be wary of people who act too nice or ingratiating towards me or just in general. Goodness and niceness are two separate things. I don't necessarily even think "nice" is good. What is nice? It originally meant treating someone like they were mentally challenged I think. Bless their heart, as a "nice" person might say. Almost insulting to be treated "nice", wouldn't you say? The point of Love is not to love only people who are kind or agreeable towards you, or who say the right things, or who act the right ways, or who look the right ways. The point of Love is to love people despite the fact that they don't measure up. Ever. Our expectations just won't be met if we're expecting that perfect person or if our standard of judgment towards those around us is too high. We should love others whether they behave rightly or wrongly. That's.... very hard to do. Christ forgave those who were crucifying and mocking him. They were humiliating him to the highest degree and murdering him, and yet he just said "Father, forgive them. They don't know what they are doing." It's because there is no one truly good but God, since God is the source of all good. We cannot be good, but by God, we can know what good is and if we're open to it, God's goodness can come through us. People think this is ridiculous. Well, let's look at the alternatives deeply. What's more ridiculous in the end? I must say I'm a little jealous that you don't miss people when they're gone. It's a terrible thing to feel... and it's somewhat selfish to miss someone. Especially if they've died or if they went off to do something they really wanted to do. Our missing someone is purely us demanding they be here for our self, not for them. So missing people isn't necessarily an indicator of "goodness", but I will also admit that maybe it feels good to know someone was thinking about me. I haven't had that feeling since my mom died. I do miss her. Selfish of me. She's probably very much at peace now.
@@hemantpathak9899 There's a word when I say there's a word. Like frandiments. It will become something soon. For now it's just a word without meaning. For now...
Indeed, if ordinary means not being aware yet. A person with strong developed beliefs will reject even someone of authority if it clash with their own.
@@SnowSNS11 Precisely. Social pressure does not make us waver in the slightest. We are true to our beliefs. Lest you find a flaw in there, we remain uncompromising. Ordinary is somewhere between a lack of awareness to partial awareness. When someone gains full awareness of what's really going on, that is when they escape the restrictions of their own mind.
@@Hivatel people with strong beliefs have the courage to be disliked. Even if everyone seems to disagree, we continue to walk the path we choose and believe is right for us.
@@SnowSNS11 It's not courage. It's simply another thing we are willing to sacrifice in our pursuit of higher ideals. Even if they do not understand us, even if they reject us, even if they refuse to even TRY to view things from our perspective, we follow our path because we believe in it. We knew we were going to be rejected from the beginning, because that happens to all ideas. Even the popular ones. There's always someone out there who disagrees with you.
You want to know how it happens? Lose everything...get cheated time and time again by family or people you trusted...have people laugh at you when you fail or get injured severely...have family screw you so you lose your inner identity and all of your memories involve those people that ruined your life...i can keep going...im not a bad person but ive been thru so much i have a very bad side
I'll agree to all of this, along with my personal issues of having a whole two years of near constant feeling of terror in me due to my environments. I never really ever feel safe or comfortable anymore anywhere other than my bedroom, everything else is either blank or fear inducing, and the mania spirals as I try to grab anything that will keep me from falling apart. It doesn't work often. I grow numb as my body craves death, as it has for a decade and a bit more than that, making me lulled to sleep after having just slept for what people call "normal hours". Although if anything I'll say that I'm an absolutely terrible person, and I see this in other people while seeing this twice as much in me. Probably one of the worst people I know, and I can't shake the feeling it's true. Not because of being made to feel inferior to others, not just that anymore. But the genuine acknowledgement that I just got worse over time realizing I was a bad person and seeing all my faults. It really does absolutely suck to have it all, and then be utterly robbed of it.
I totally relate to everything you said and I've had identical same experience, however for some reason I refuse to come bad and I'm not sure why I just refuse to go that direction
I’ve been burned by so many people I trusted deeply it’s incredibly hard for me to trust anyone. I keep everyone at arms reach. Definitely makes you feel alone
It's a good lesson for the sheeple. If someone ever called you a sheep, do YOURSELF the favor and heed the message. If you know word one of me, when I write things like this, it is as sincere and face-value as can Earthly be.
9 times out if 10, we have a choice, to become a good person or bad person! We have to choose what path to walk down and what doors to walk thru. *always* _think for yourself and question authority!_ This has helped me stay on the right path for the last 20 yrs of my life.
I have always disliked authority, and even today i go out of my way to make sure people who feel they have power are held accountable for what i believe is wrong (withing my reach of course), i do not hide myself or separate myself from what i do. I have goals and beleifs and i will not follow anyone blindly, I do not care who you are or who you think you are, i make my own decisions. even when everyone says im wrong. That being said i dont beleive im a good person, but i at least beleive in making sure people do not have to be harmed or tortured just for being. I have a moral compass and i am unbreakable in that.
Same. There is a heavy-brainwashing that convinces people that it is good to respect authority and people who don't respect authority are bad people. I am as non-confrontational and submissive as they come. I am literally one of those who says "i'm sorry" about 100 times a day, and I usually have no idea what I am saying "I'm sorry" for it is just an ingrained, conflict avoidance, habit. However, I get inexplicably rage-y and obstinate with police, managers, or nurses. My husband has noted that it is like a switch flips and he doesn't even know who the hell I am anymore. I have always had this almost uncontrollable anger at those particular groups and I never knew why. I don't have some dramatic backstory of abuse or anything. My dad worked with the local police force and we had plenty of police that were family friends. I am not living a life of crime and I have never been arrested...knock on wood. I get along fine with police as long as they are being regular people, but the instant they put on the cop persona I instantly get irritable and uncooperative. My husband is the one who finally pointed out the obvious connection that was triggering the uncharacteristic anger and obstinance in me: it is authority. I don't like authority. That was a hard reality for me to accept because I am obnoxiously docile and always worried about whether or not we are going to get in trouble for something. My worst case scenario is being told I screwed something up. I am a people-pleaser to the point that I annoy myself with my passivity sometimes. I cry at basically everything...how could I be anti-authority?! But he is dead right, that is exactly what triggers the rage and resentment in me. Just as much as "I'm sorry" is a knee-jerk reaction for me most of the time, complete obstinance and anger is my knee-jerk reaction to being "ordered" to do anything, or being told that I "have" to do something. I was raised with the ingrained belief that we are all equal members of the human race. There are not elevated humans and inferior humans , there are just humans. The uniform and the badge do not make the police officer a wiser or more powerful person and I have more education that most police officers so I view them as peers, fellow adult humans, no better or worse than me. When they bark orders at me they are telling me that I (and whoever else they are ordering around) are inferior and that makes me angry. I really wish that more people were anti-authority. I think a little bit of respect and humility could fix a lot of the current problems. You don't have to like people, or approve of their lifestyle but we should be able to accept that every person has just as much value and right to do what they want with their life as we do.
There is nothing wrong with selfishness alone. You do good for your own good. The difference between good and evil isn't selfishness, but rather knowing the true ways, or being mislead. Evil is ALWAYS self-destructive.
Evil people believe that they're acting for their own good, while in reality, they are acting for their own downfall, without realizing what the possibility of being good can bring them.
this is the problem. people are good because they hope that its reciprocated thats the whole point of "i want to do good so the world becomes a better place". why would i continue to do good with nothing in return. i'm not sacrificing myself for someone who wouldn't do the same.
This piece made me reflect on my daily actions. Sometimes, I go through the motions without much thought, but when I stop and consider each choice, I realize that even small decisions have an impact, not just on myself but also on those around me. Being aware of that helps me live more intentionally and take responsibility for everything I do, no matter how small
But isn't to Obey also a choice in a way? Even a slave can try to fight back choosing not to do that would be making a choice so the slave is not a slave by choosing to be one right? Now my head hurts also the "Man" Obeys the law still or at least it doesn't say that he doesn't do that following that logic that would imply that the "Man" too is a slave to the justice system
Exactly. That’s why there must be a line made that is never crossed EVER even though in the future humanity may think itself wiser to move the line. It mustn’t, for even if they are correct, that initial line moving will start a countdown to the collapse of sane society.
exactly why i never humor things that are bity bad , like saying no this is alright although it has slim evils and stress , i'm violently truthful when it comes to that because being truthful only shows the depth of the situation , not your own weakened view aside just let's be honest , how can being honest be a bad thing when we talk about an urgent fact needing topic ? it's not like the truth will harm anyone aside from potential evil doers and that's why i'm usually aimed at as if evil although clearly the scope was potentially evil at bed floor.
@@lordish-wp2xc Don't forget an important tool in being honest - obfuscation. Sometimes it is better to not answer a question than to answer it truthfully. For example, if a king you hate asks you "what do you think of me," it would not be good for anyone to answer your honest opinion. In this case, an obfuscation like "I think you're handling the recent situations about as well as expected" (because you expect him to handle them poorly and he is handling them poorly) is both truthful and will lead to a better outcome than telling him outright - kings are not known historically to let their detractors live.
@@obviouslykaleb7998 correct, i use that very alot daily even in normal speech not just when it's needed so i can tell a very honest opinion while not sounding offensive although with full intent to be very straight to the point , keeps the reputation , gives the message perfectly and holds others' opinions back.
I didn't stop being nice because I'm raised that way, it is because people around me push me off to a point and i realized I'm the one who is naive thinking everybody is raised like me, in the end im the one to suffer, so people like us slowly lean towards the hidden side of us where we start to treat society the way they treat us because our parents or we were raised with "Treat people how you want them to treat you" it applies to society but the innocent bystanders are the one affected the most
Yea, unfortunately but then I think I’m full of crap am I even nice or good or am I just fearful and guilty ? Even then I see certain traits in ppl and I think wow I can’t believe ppl actually think/feel that way, it will be the ppl u perceive as “nice” or good but then you’ll notice jealousy or Envy or str8 up pettiness from them and I think I’m pretty sure I never feel this way towards others so why does this person who I thought was nice or good feel this way, I understand we’re all humans and have egos but this is what I interpret what u said about not everyone is raised like u and me, pretty discouraging tbh one of the reason I never will really trust or connect or ever get too close with ppl
I hate that, whats even worse no matter how hard i try to mirror people (to be equal with them/ even if 90% of time i decide to calm my emotions and do it like "grown") Im friendliest person alive XD , been through literal hell and even after i still naive and subconsciously choose empathy and good way... My faith in humanity is broken. Everything in this world is so cruel and unfair even in small things - like you dont need to fight - oponnents always come for you even if you mind your own buisness.
@@Limitedsharesz that’s why u have build urself up strengthen ur mind and act accordingly. Only do it for the ppl u want to and everyone else u don’t have to interact with them
@RHFactor100, I hear you. It sounds like you're navigating a heavy storm right now. What do you think changed the tide from love to anger? And what if this moment is calling you to dig deeper into yourself and redefine what joy can look like? How could facing these feelings transform you into something even stronger?
Evil is easy. But you get rewarded with junk. Good is difficult. But you helped build the kingdom, which is where you'll reside when all is said and done.
Absolutely amazing quote, and beautifully said and I couldn’t agree more. I’m gonna screenshot this and write it down on a sticky note. This quote had such a deep impact on me it felt like all my thoughts were perfectly put into words. Thank you for the beautiful quote.
It's easy to understand. Being good is tough, and because it isn't something easy to do, surely you expect to be rewarded for it, no? You become a monster when you realize that all that effort being a good person was a waste of your time, and you got nothing out of it.
i’ve personally made some amazing friendships out of being a good person, expecting rewards out of anything is a dangerous philosophy, what you do should be what you do because its fulfilling to yourself, for me its being a nice person. i am firm in that. but also i’ve been rewarded so much, it just comes with time that you meet who you meet based on how approachable you are
Yea, i'm now to that point. I don't give a fuck for nothin, and noone. I am stranded in lonliness. After my wife left, I can't wait til i die. Life is different when u don't care anymore.
Have to disagree that after life failing to reward those who are decent the decent person becomes a monster. The decent person may snap and does something unexpected, but his or her character can not change. The point in the above is to highlight that evil people become such through habit, similarly, good people become good by habituation of personal responsibility, empathy with others and situational awareness regarding if and when the authority above crossed a line of ethical standards it preached before.
Critical thought is always vital, but it is a constant effort and must be consciously maintained. Judge yourself harshly, but always be willing to forgive.
I've noticed in society people treat nice people terribly until they eventually get them to break. And then the bullies act nice and pretend they don't know whats wrong with the person whose spirit they broke. It's like they want to wear there identity but have to get you to break before they can take it.
its what i feel about reddit! the whole karma effing system! i make a high quality post and its removed, but when get PISSED tired of effign bots removign my post when i make a CRAPPY PISSED post or a test post to test if will be removed it POST and is NOT removed adn slammed on reddit sucks and is one the "Electronic ghetthos" that alex and others have talked about.
What is part of narcissistic abuse?
Well said
They treat you terribly because they want you to stop acting like everyone has to like you because your nice…at least that’s my experience once I understood that not everyone has to like me this became a lot easier to deal with in respect to “bullies” it’s less about bullying and more of a hardcore wake up call.
now what they don’t understand is that if they are not clear or not willing to follow through it just leaves you lost and then you’ll wonder and ruminate on what you did wrong when it was not even that deep.
Another problem with it is that not everyone is ready to bounce back from someone telling them about themselves A.K.A. bullying them.
Sometimes people are definitely being assholes but a lot of the time people are just trying to shock you into what you need to hear not all disrespect is there to hurt you.
@@Snow_is_Phertil being people pleasing and just a happy person treating others with dignity is different, god forbid you find life furfilling
1. Don't idolize anyone
2. Question authority
3. Know how to recognize evil
4. Be aware of cults, open or disguised
5. Know you're as flawed and dangerous as any other, so be constantly vigilant about doing the right thing.
Being good is a active effort, not a passive inheritance.
I can tell you're speaking from experience
and keep your circle small
If we have to make an effort to be good, it is not surprising that we are passively bad
@@TheJazzRapper absolutely
@@TheJazzRapper I do
“What is better? To be born good, or to overcome your evil nature through great effort?”
Paarthurnax, Skyrim
I’d say to be born good is better, but of course those who are born good get destroyed by those with evil nature during the “great effort.”
@@dah_goofsterif you’re born good you never had to struggle and fight to learn from the error of your ways. The one born into it will take it for granted, born good, but doesn’t mean they’ll STAY good. So it is better to overcome than be born with it
@@ethanbard3067 I don’t think you understand the point I’m trying to make. You’re viewing this as a strictly selfish choice, I’m looking at from border point of view.
If you’re born evil you have to hurt lots of people to figure out what’s good, how is that helpful to anyone but yourself? If you’re born good and just know right from wrong and always do what’s best for people, then the only thing that can ruin that is someone who’s evil.
So a society filled with naturally good people is much better than a society filled with naturally evil people. Life is already hard enough, but now you have to battle with other humans trying to make your life a living hell just so they can learn good from evil.
Being born good is 100% much better than being born evil. Your argument is essentially “I was born with no legs and learned how to walk without them, so I’m much better than people who were born with legs and never experienced the struggle.” Although the evil version of that analogy would be stealing someone’s legs and learning to walk with them lol
@@dah_goofsterit is really not that simple.
maybe einstein didnt want to believe it but
if there is a god, he loves him a good old fashioned game of craps.
@@johanneskepler873 there is no single god at least not in the sense that religions seem to believe. The sheer volume of different religions and beliefs and the fact that there’s many cultures that have no religion at all is a huge clue that they are all made up. So by extension god is always going to be a mirror of human nature.
Our “god” is programmed into us while we are being raised by our parents and by society. Then again wtf do I know, I’m multiple times abandoned and filled with plenty of trauma and mental illness. I would say don’t choose my path, just take the one that helps you fit in to society and make you feel like you belong.
I try every single day to be the best I can be to the ones around me, simply because I know deep down how capable I am of being awful.
I’m usually a kind, quiet person. I show respect to others, but I have a very dark other side. I have been a very cruel and evil person before, and I won’t lie, it felt good. I’m kind because I’m keeping the other side locked away. If I get pushed to the point that I let that side back out, I’m not sure if I’m going to want to lock it away again.
Short background
Military, Paramedic/firefighter, now working as a scrub tech. My jobs have desensitised me to the point of numbness. I can see someone die in surgery, then go to lunch 5 minutes later like nothing happened. It gets to others, but not me.
@ @ it’s tough keeping it buried, the best thing I’ve learned to do is use the darkness as a tool. Whether it be stopping an argument because you know you can go further and be meaner, or using it as a way to help others. I also work in a hospital, not sure id handle it the same as if I hadn’t had the previous experiences in life that lead to that numbness. It’s a shitty feeling, but almost feels like a gift sometimes. It took me awhile to realize but I think that’s why it makes us feel numb.
I hope you all the best in life and we might be strangers but I hope love and kindness find you and turns the bad things in your life to good! ❤.
Same, but now I get treated like shit.
@ it’s okay to remind people that you aren’t a pushover, I believe you can say almost anything to anyone as long as it’s worded properly and with the correct tone. At the end of the day we don’t have to hate those that do us wrong, but we shouldn’t forget either.
As a kid we were taught to treat people how we want to be treated, as we grew up we learned to treat people how they treat us
That's deep.
So if someone has a bad day and snaps at you, you snap back, even if it's your friend or such?
@FinUgShiet if you aren't a child at least mentally, you won't lash out on those who aren't the reason you are upset
Or so it should be
Most of people a just a big babies who can't handle their frustration
@@FinUgShietYeah totally, not like most if not everyone would warn you first that you should leave them alone because they've had a bad day.
If you somehow dont have the mental capacity to read very basic expressions and understand even more basic language that they are irritated and kept bothering them, you deserves to get yelled at.
That example is so bad, i cant even think of any other words to simply describe it
That's weak and lazy
"See, now you respect me because I'm a threat."
👀 is this a quote from Syndrome from the 1st incredibles movie 💯💯
“That’s the way it works.”
“Turns out there are lots of people, whole countries, that want respect, and will pay through the nose to get it”
And when everyone is special… nobody is.
Jet engine: say no more
It's okay to get angry.
It's okay to set boundaries and limits.
It's okay to be strong and take control.
Being Good or Godly doesn't mean you have to be a doormat.
I dont get the doormat
@@mariaslamat4999doormat means that you're essentially letting your boundaries loose for the sake of others, in which sometimes they might not treat you nicely, and they can "step" all over you, like a doormat
Or people walk all over you
@@_salvage_484 ah alright thanks
Peaceful does not mean weak. Amen.
This is exactly why social psychology is my favourite subject.
It really explains social behaviour so accurately.
Our society has never been equipped to handle genuinely nice people, those who are nice become broken over time.
We live in the hell trying to Be a pacific creature😂
It feels like being nice and kind to others is a crime or something
That makes no sense
i feel like the nicest people are almost immune to bad people. they just assume the best whenever something bad happens to them whereas a bad person will assume the worst and get angrier.
I would distinguish between good people and nice people. Good people do what is right even when the price for being good is to lose friends and make enemies.
Nice people are just people pleasers not really caring if it's right or wrong. They are often enablers and harm others due to their passivity and inability to go into confrontation.
Remember, people treat you based on what you tolerate and some people will see how much you're willing to tolerate to know how to work around you. So set your boundaries firmly.
I don’t respect others enough to take them seriously
Make me
@@ShreddedSteelgive people enough respect to treat them as humans… but beyond that You have to earn it regardless of your title I mean respect your parents but respect can be earned and lost
Good one
I do agree when they see you all nice they test you
Smh, we all grew up in Christian culture and Jesus said to turn the other cheek... But nothing will get people more disgusted with you than seeing you "not have a backbone", and it's sad honestly.
I think this happens when people get tired of respecting people who dont respect them in return...
It happens when people who just want love are tired of not finding it anywhere.
NOPE PEOPLE ARE JUST EVIL
@@championsclub6606
Are you evil? Because you're the people
@@championsclub6606you are
No, not entirety. People mistaken kindness for weakness. A lot of people are just weak, so play nice to get on everyones side. A truly good person is one who knows his evil and what he is capable of, yet refuses.
“For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.”
"you either die the hero, or live long enough to see yourself become the villain, then get killed by the next hero and the cycle repeats"
The mrbeast allegation explained in 1 sentence:
unless you become anti-hero and become best bro's with he hero.
@@Immolator772So basically deadpool and spiderman?
That's Greek Mythology
@@ianrowen8560 or wolverine
“A child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth.”
😮👍
It takes a viking to raze a village.
How about a pat on the shoulder
Pretty much given how society is. I think this far more represents people rather than categorizing people as followers.
Naruto in parallel universe
If you treat people nice and they don’t treat you the same you decide to treat them the same way and then they call you the bad person
So Dammn True...
annoying af
That's how it always is. If I do something bad, it's alright, but if you do the same thing, it is wrong.
Yep, life is good
u sumed my ex perfectly
Never fight evil with evil. Calmly educate them and show them the right way.
I'll never be a monster to strangers, I don't know them or what they are going through. But to those close to me, if they push my far enough, I know I can snap and become their villian. I've been a hero to strangers and harsh to those close to me, both can exist simultaneously, the duality of human nature.
Exactly this.
Definitely behind this 100%
Hypocrisy at its finest. Its ok to be fake to others but not ok for others to be fake to you
Nah your just that person that everyone dislike in there circle, and probably for good reason. You are just justifying your shit behavior with people who misplaced their trust in you
This is the idea that’s at the center of the Joker’s character. In ‘The Killing Joke’ he said “All it takes is one bad day to reduce the sanest man alive to lunacy. That's how far the world is from where I am. Just one bad day.”
Funny how all it took was one bad day to turn Bruce into Batman 😮more similar than ya think
@@BurningSands_FGCindeed😊
Killing Joke are a great band. Listen to their 1st album, or Pandemonium could be better.
@@BurningSands_FGC yeah thats true good pointing out. batman and joker were both doing what they thought was right, and both are flawed in multiple ways. Batman is just seen as "justice" because he is on the side that is constantly kicking down, and then waiting for someone to lash out and act like an animal after being treated like one for too long so they can justify further torment.
Being, "evil," is NOT necessarily, "insane." Sometimes it's the REASONABLE choice.
Because evil goes rewarded and good goes punished
Hmm debatable
@@jaygopinath1694it’s not, the most evil people are the most prosperous in the world. Not many rich people are good people
Christianity will eventually give the bad what they deserve
Correct on of many reasons every on is civil until food and water run,s out
@@JohnFKennedy313 would you consider serial killers that kill for its own sake "prosperous"? of course not, this is what he means by debatable
I've seen some people volunteer for "anti-bullying" seminar or anything similar to that and then later on when that seminar is finished, they'll laugh and talk shit about those people who opened up or shared experiences of being bullied. That's where I learned not to trust anyone at all even if they appear to do good. Sometimes, evilness wins and gets most of the attention while the ones that tried to do good or be good are set aside..
That's what separates action from intention.
You can choose to do good things, but if you never actively embody the compassion to help others, it's not any different from lying.
Compassion is an emotion that has to come from a place of genuine humility and kindness.
You can try to help others without it, but you will fail to see the connection you are making and you will never improve.
Did you realize if not everyone did that?
The bullies themselves get into the anti-bullying committee. Classic.
You can really see it when people gossip
Never accept people as what they say they are. Learn to watch what they do. If the two don’t match, avoid them.
You can always tell the genuinely good people. They’re always kind and thoughtful, even if on the surface they’re irritable or grumpy, when there’s no reward and they think no one is looking. The little things.
The assholes never are.
I was recently told that I'm a bad person for wanting to have good faith discussions with people on the opposing side of an issue.
I will never stop seeing the humanity in others and extending a hand of understanding.
I can't help anyone and can only hurt, so not only do I look like a monster, but I'm slowly becoming one myself against my will
I have never won an argument in good faith, most people are too dumb or prideful to play fair. I've come to the conclusion that might is right
@@vistakay well you'll encounter than if your goal is to win. My goal is not to win, it's to see if I can get the other side to understand where I'm coming from, and if not, the people who read the conversation. I consider it a win if I can leave a conversation shaking hands (literally or figuratively) with my opponent, which happens far more often than you might think.
There don't have to be winners and losers, it can just be an exchange of ideas.
But you are correct that most people don't want to do that. That's why I try to set a good example.
Edit: oh! Another important part of my approach is willingness to understand regardless of the other party being willing.
Depends on the position.
How much of a "good faith discussion" can one have on the topic of "should your family be murdered" with people who are actively saying "yes, the government should murder you and your family"?
There are positions where engaging with them in good faith just legitimizes their position as one that someone can hold and still get a handshake after arguing for, while accomplishing nothing on changing their mind(fascism, white supremacy, killing gay people)
Good faith discussion is for things you disagree with but are understandable, not threats to your wellbeing and status as a free person.
Hypocrisy at its finest.
There is a MASSIVE difference between being nice and kind.
Earlier, it kinda meant the same because nice has been an appreciation.
no differences.
it just you who think nice are bad and asshole are good
@@user-fu4wy5il5vopen your mind
Agreed. The concept of being nice and kind being two different things is an illusion that modern day society has built to pull the wool over our eyes to think etiquette and formalities is a good thing. Its only good for what it does, face value effects. A truly nice person and a truly kind person, the word truth says it all. Theyre the same. And those who are only polite, arent good, theyre just good at playing the game society wants them to do. Do what is right, live righteously through first justice with mercy and grace. @user-fu4wy5il5v
@@user-fu4wy5il5v Niceness, then, is often expressed through words or gestures, while kindness is often expressed through acts.
Sadly, I actually witnessed this first hand. For several years, we lived next door to a man who was an awesome neighbor. He was kind, helpful, and considerate. He treated our children wonderfully and made them feel special and important. He was a very well respected member of the community. He was the type of guy people came to for help and guidance. He also had a wonderful family and smart, educated children.. One day, after a business deal went sour with some former coworkers, a man and a woman, he drove to their office and shot them both to death. They were both middle aged parents with children still at home.. He destroyed 3 families that day. No one has any idea what could cause a man like that to snap so violently, and unfortunately, no one will ever get the chance to ask as he turned the gun on himself later that day. It's scary how quickly a human being can take a turn for the absolute worst.
Even the most patient person, once reached the limit, can explode, unfortunately, doing good doesn’t always come back. Unfortunately, maybe no one ever bothered to think that there’s something wrong with him, or ever done something significant, just because they only see his outside. I don’t know your neighbor, i don’t exactly know his reasons, i’m only giving you answers based in researchs and personal experience. As someone who usually gives advices, i can say that sometimes i don’t believe in my own words, but i still do it, so i could help them.
All hell breaks loose when a good man goes to war
@themaximusyang8645 Yea you're right.. my husband has always felt guilty because my neighbor was going to help us with something that night and he called my husband to confirm that we would meet at 7pm. We later found out that when he made that call, he was a minute or two from their office with a loaded weapon. My husband told me that he didn't sound right, so he's always felt bad he didn't ask him if everything was ok. Like maybe he made that call, knowing where he was headed, because he was hoping someone/something would talk him out of it. Sadly, we'll never know and I've told my husband, it's not a burden you should carry.
@after_dark_777 I know you were speaking metaphorically, but, you're actually more right than you know. My husband just retired after 22 years in the military. Our neighbor was also retired military. I believe he did about 25 years. My husband did 7 deployments in his 22 years and he's been in some pretty awful situations. Because of it, he's battled depression for many years, though most people would never know it. It's very possible that our neighbor had similar struggles but tried to hide it from everyone and deal with it on his own.
Sounds like he was taken advantage of and was unappreciated by the community. When he needed yall most no one was there so he acted accordingly
As you grow you realize happy endings don't always happen.
no excuse to just choose the bad ending.
they literally never happen...we all die
There's a saying for that it goes "god works everything for good" then forgive them father, for they know not what they do" then "god works in mysterious ways " then " you never know " stay grounded and balanced
They RARELY happen. Very, very few blessed souls are able to pass away comfortably in a warm bed, surrounded by family. It’s why when I read a fictional story, I seek out ones with happy endings. We have to build them for ourselves, but even in all our efforts we might not achieve it on this plane of existence.
And you should know that that's no reason not to hope.
Its scared me because I met one myself. One time I saw them normal, very happy until a few years later they change rapidly . Couldn't recognize them which scared me the most.
With that said, being religious, serving in the military, or being a charity organizer doesn't automatically make you a good person. As someone who served, I learned that the hard way. Before joining, I was under the impression that those in the military are vastly different from ordinary civilians. That they're very good people with great morals. Boy was I wrong. A majority of people in the military are no different than ordinary civilians. They can be just as bad and cruel with twisted morals
No, People in the military are MORE likely to do bad or evil acts compared to civilians.
@@joemama4473 Yeah. I definitely believe that. Having that military status gives them that level of entitlement to do more bad than good
@@joemama4473yea especially nowadays when (at least in America) u don’t NEED to join the military bc it’s not like we’re getting invaded or anything, I wouldn’t rlly expect good ppl to be in there when the main thing u gotta desensitize urself with is killing others
Yep. They are still human at the end of the day.
You're right, know fam and friends in the military, the stories I hear of men and women that are in service and out have a superiority complex , entitlement and ego. I still meet a few humble ones here and there but yeah the bad ones outnumber the good ones by a lot
the worst part of betrayal is that it is done by loved ones rather than someone you dont know.
Because loved ones Know you more than strangers do
Well, you're answer is there, why would a Stranger hurt you, out of nowhere, it makes more sense that you get hurt by someone who knows you, it makes more sense, so no surprise there
@@amon5747It’s also the literal definition meaning that someone who you trusted back stabbed you.
By definition betrayel can only occur by someone or group you have already placed your trust in.
Yeeh🎉
This is why I strongly believe in intelligent disobedience. And if I see something as harmful or socially damaging, I exercise my own judgement and refuse to participate. Because it is true, no one starts off as a sadistic monster, they are developed into a complete lack of empathy and humanity.
i dont know if disobedience is what your looking for in word choice there. i get you tho. i agree. i think the word your looking for is disinterest. people who care less about people and what they think or say and instead have their interest in things and not people often are the pacificst.
Uh, no, there are conditions within the development of the human brain which can start people off without empathy and "humanity".
While I myself don't think I'm bad because I often try to be helpful to those who I care about and look after them, since I have Asperger's, the part of my brain that's responsible for empathy isn't well developed thus I have some trouble understanding and empathizing with others feelings and such.
Yea but no one came to help me for a marijuana charge unless they got paid to. 😅
Incredibly false, most people have to develop these traits but a psychopath for example is born with a rewired brain. The monster part is true though. Not everyone who suffers from Psychopathy is a monster. It’s a sickness at the end of the day.
Some may say that apathy is the worst of evils, for letting wrong happen is a silent consent.
Our priorities are all screwed up we elevate arrogance, money , flash over real qualities like honor, honesty and character .
I got broken by narcissists and bullies during my Engineering Education. Now I am slowly joining my pieces together to become whole again and be strong...
You putting those broken pieces back together is the strongest thing anyone could do ❤
Thanks, Y'All for the likes. It's a huge boost...
I’ve been trying for 30 years, to undo what’s been done to me. I don’t think it ever can be undone, once you see that side of humanity it stays with you.
@Ninnjette- in the exact same boat used to be a social butterfly then society got a hold and bit by bit I withdrew from society then family and friends threw me under the bus a fair few times now I'm a misanthropic hermit
Have you completed Engineering? The fun fact is that in most countries, including the US, Engineering has a HIGH turnover rate, so it's highly likely that the people who weren't focused on studying and were instead focused on drama, parties, and bullying you didn't make it through to the end of the year.
And if not, well you're away from them either way. It takes time to heal, but you'll be alright in the end. No matter what you do, if you keep trying you'll be better than before.
Having the ability to comprehend these concepts is like a curse in this world. You know that something is wrong and when raise your voice against it, it is cut down and you are labeled as a weirdo. Only very few people can relate to this issue and that is sad.
Indeed, it’s truly disheartening to feel isolated in your understanding, especially when it seems like so few can connect with the depth of your insights and the pain of going unrecognized.
Very few people have gone to the depths that it takes to actually understand this video, and either slayed their dragon, or at least made it back out the door.
""He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." - Nietzsche"
The thing is, no one fights with monsters anymore. Heck, few even take philosophy, or learn it on their own.
And those unprepared (who lack the tools) to fight monsters, may very well be consumed by them. And that, in itself, is a frightful proposition. Whether you have the tools or not.
Additionally, very few people seem to stop and think about ANYTHING anymore. Just "feed" me. We can't even be bothered to ask a question about what I want to watch. 😂
Say all four of us in this comment section are individuals, as stated by the comment post, people who can think outside of the box, thats 4, say we double that to 8, Multiply by 8 more, thats 64, so far 60 more individuals who can do the same, we go on and on, a hundred, a thousand, a hundred thousands, that is how many people who can also do the same, till we realize every and each one of our equals can do the same, what differ us is the whole cascade of factor behind everyone's personality and situation, and then it becomes a matter of understanding we are not alone, just disconnected due to causality
Curse of the high IQ.
@@zakbrinkhoff324 Also the curse of old age.
I learnt the hard way that “no good deed goes unpunished” is not a euphemism but the sad reality, I got treated much better by those I didn’t care for and now I just stopped caring for anyone who is not my friend or family
Lol, why even care about them, seems you haven't learned quite enough.
Im at the stage now I don't care for friends and family either
Same here... I'm fed up being nice! Now I only love myself! (Hysterical laughter!) 😂😂😂
Yall got problems
@@heist2556You're the kind of acumbag they're talking about.
This is why i love Jordan Peterson's catch phrase. "Be a monster, but be able to control it"
We live in a society ahh
Here in the city where I grew up, there was a man who was literally a legend. Always friendly, helping and supporting everyone. One day he was sitting in a restaurant, eating and drinking. Then like 6 guys started bothering him. First he offered them to sit with him and eat and drink together. They continued to be idiots and everything ended up when he threw them around like little toys since he was 2+m tall and had bodyweight of 170-180kg with large % of muscles.
Of course he didn't switch to the evil side after that and continued being a legend. Also not many people wanted to try their luck to make him angry. So, the best approach is to be a good guy, but also you need to be dangerous enough to demotivate people when they want to act like idiots...
You never want to make a gentle person angry.
"Speak softly and carry a big stick" is a saying for a reason.
Uhh, is his skin green, has pointy ears and a turban?
@rhondahoward8025 I'm not a fighter and that's why I always say if someone decides that they want to fight, they better fuckin kill me, because I'm too small of a person to fight. I'd never hurt someone intentionally, but someone trying to beat me up would make me fear for my life.
Alright, maybe I'm a little crazier than I care to admit
@@skarnus3000 If you are some average 70-80kg man, gather 5 friends like you, find some superheavy powerlifter and start bothering him. You will see what I described above 🙂
This reminds me of a poem by Alexandr Solzhenitsyn:
"The most terrifying force of death comes from the hands of Men who wanted to be left alone.
They try, so very hard, to mind their own business and provide for themselves and those they love.
They resist every impulse to fight back, knowing the forced and permanent change of life that will come from it. They know, that the moment they fight back, their lives as they have lived them, are over.
The moment the Men who wanted to be left alone are forced to fight back, it is a form of suicide. They are literally killing off who they used to be.
Which is why, when forced to take up violence, these Men who wanted to be left alone, fight with unholy vengeance against those who murdered their former lives. They fight with raw hate, and a drive that cannot be fathomed by those who are merely play-acting at politics and terror.
True terror will arrive at these people's door, and they will cry, scream, and beg for mercy... but it will fall upon the deaf ears of the Men who just wanted to be left alone."
Don't be nice, be kind and have boundaries, prevent people from conflicting with you and insulting you
This is the way. At 32 I finally understand this after years and years of being “too nice” and ending up being punished and used for it. It didn’t make me jaded, I’m still kind, but I have boundaries and I’m not afraid to be assertive anymore.
I think people who don't understand benevolence will just take kind as a synonym of nice tho.
@@rongikeI don't know the difference and it's ruining me.
@@Th3BigBoy I guess it's that being nice means behaving in a good way, but being kind is actually embodying wishing well to others, not just acting like you do for the sake of peace or acceptance.
Found out the hard way through my high school years
"It's possible to commit no mistakes and still lose. That is not weakness. That is life."
This quote got stuck with me for days after watching this video. It's from Star Treck and this hits hard
It's powerful how certain words can capture the complexity of our experiences, reminding us that losing doesn't define our efforts or worth.
@@ArtificiallyAwareit kind of does doing things properly and still not getting things makes people evil and will always do.
It's just that we have so much less time on earth eventually when we don't get what we want we have the option of having it and losing everything we are and becoming evil or never fulfilling our dreams or stand a chance to.
I'd like to add dimension to that by defining that having setbacks and challenges is not losing, it's just what life does to you. Losing is a part of the mindset scale of how you cope with the adversity. Losing is when you are mentally caving in and giving up, being overwhelmed, not managing to accept, commit and adapt. The opposite of losing is then to manage, take control, learn, improve, gain self-confidence, -efficasy and -esteem.
Essentially differing between what happens to you and what happens in you.
Before I finished reading the 1st sentence, I knew exactly where that quotation came from. Not a year goes by that I don't remind myself of it.
That's my life
As Mr Rogers said, "Look out for the helpers" no matter how bad things get, there are always good people willing to help others.
I like how it’s suggested that “under the right conditions, your morals will crumble like a sand castle in a hurricane”
That statement is true... For humanity.
Not for me... Because I am All and Void as One.
In other words, most people live but very few walk higher.
I'm only merciful because I choose to. Never mistake it for weakness. I can always 180 turn my morality into true malevolence.
In benevolence, I rather not have to judge Humanity. They sow their own Fate.
@@absolstoryoffiction6615 Beautifully said and written!
That is because a sand castle isn't a real castle. It is a fake one. A pretend castle. A real castle can survive a hurricane. Similarly, someone FAKING having morals isn't really moral. They are a fake and when they're exposed they will crumble.
It wasn’t suggested. That’s verbatim what was said.
I can't rightly say it is fact but- It is fact. This is where the concept of original sin comes from in the silly book. And being humans (the most adaptable species on the planet), we can devolve to monsters on a sunny, calm day.
It's surprising to me that others just accept everything around them without questioning it. It's also amazing how easy it is to control the masses through speech and perceived authority alone.
that's how they can control through chaos and fear
without the majority of people being lost how could they manipulate the masses with chaos and fear?
People are fools. They do not care about something if it doesn't immediately affect them in the moment, or if it's outside the scope of their daily lives. That is what makes them loathsome.
I guess the people who just accept are also the ones who are the most normal people who are selected for these experiments. Since they don't question what they do.
Since I'm questioning a lot I don't understand why people have behaved like this in the experiments. Because at the end of the day. You are responsible for what you do. Always
@@hungder People don't want to be responsible, i'm afraid. They want to be led around towards happiness by the proverbial shepherd. They are sapient beings, yet lack will.
Spoke to my wife about this recently and I told her that it’s strange how bad people, A-Holes etc always seem to get the fruits of life. I told her I wonder if we weren’t good people if life would treat us better. My personal answer to why good people turn evil is because life just shows good people daily that the people who step over others and don’t care for others get more blessings from life then people who do good deeds and live righteous lives. This is just my opinion of course but that’s my answer to the question.
@John_R_Jackson_III Interesting take! It’s wild how the world often rewards the bold and selfish. But do you think it's really about the actions, or maybe perception? What if the "blessings" are just illusions, masking deeper consequences? How do we define true success in the end?
I think we are selective seers. perspective is what matters. We people are made to see things in our own way. Maybe we ignore what good things we have that the bad ones can never ever have in their whole lifetime and beyond. Maybe we play victime to feel better about ourselves. So maybe life treats evil people in the same way too. You never know. It's just that we have to be proud that we're facing problems while doing good things while they're facing problems while doing bad things.
The greatest life question from all religions is: Is that worth it to you? If youre a good person, you wouldn't trade your moral spirit for material wealth. This is the crossroads where the devil waits happy to trade you whatever you want in this temporary world for your everlasting pure soul. Not a great bargain in the end.
Even the ancient greeks agreed that true hapiness comes from virtue and being good. Being an asshole might get you benefits and riches sure, but that is not real hapiness. Real hapiness comes from within, not in having more, but needing less
@@JeanRozentalskiI think you hit the nail on the head with this one. Agreed 100%.
Being good makes me happy. It warms my heart to help accomplish something for someone when they’re unable to do something their self.
But not when someone takes advantage of my kindness, that’s when I become a different kind of person, yet mindful of my intentions. I don’t believe in Perfection, especially the type where you think above yourself and others.
I rather be a flawed person with challenges that I learn from, than to be someone who sees kindness, compassion, empathy as a weakness.
I dont feel like becoming a monster, but sometimes i wish i haven't such a good heart. It sucks
Is standing up for yourself a bad thing if you keep questioning your intent and behaviour?
"I'm a nice guy... But you don't wanna get to my bad side 👹🐺"
Sir this is an Arby's.
@@meganekkoi3282 Some times their isn't a way to stand up for your self without turning into the so called monster, it especially easy if have nothing left to lose.
@@meganekkoi3282 im not Shure if I understand what you said, but I don't think that questioning is a bad thing, but some people don't wanna get questioned and some people don't wanna question anything
Whenever people watch the news and a horrible story or tragic event plays, they always say “I can’t believe someone could do that”!
I’ve always asked myself.. what made this person do this?
Sometimes the monster isn’t always in the limelight..
they are just the scapegoat for society to keep being shitty.
My favorite example of course it's Marvin Heemeyer and his Killdozer.
That's why I'm always the devils advocate until the devil is truly ran through the wringer
Billions of people are living in poverty and they manage to live relatively good lives.
There’s no reason to suffering. Stop trying to justify evil.
@@colinlpeace that’s the point. When the pedophile was abused, it doesn’t excuse his actions but it doesn’t excuse the persons who hurt him either.
Actions have consequences whether we like them or not.
It’s about breaking the trauma circle really.
The problem is instead of changing things or creating solutions we just expect individual perfection which is unrealistic.
Imagine if after 9/11 the U.S was like.. well it’s evil to retaliate so we choose peace.
Not really how it works ya know.
Things aren’t always as easy as “that’s evil don’t do it”
We like to justify things like “they attacked us” but that’s what we were told and was it the correct response?
There’s no right or wrong just what happened.. and the consequences that come after.
youre one step above the rest in thinking with actually using empathy on perpetrator and using your brain to get to the bottom of it
Man becomes a beast to avoid the pain of being human.
Now I’ve got to listen to some Avenged Sevenfold
Bat Country! Great song 👍🏻
The pain of human isn't something universal to all, you can be human without it meaning pain, that requires taking responsibility for yourself instead of being driven between "too good" and "completely evil" the truth lies in between
If being human hurts too much, you're not being the right kind of human, it's not perfection or nothing, you aren't less than human for not living in the pain which being "too nice" brings, and if my words fall to deaf ears, experience will teach people most in time
Gay
This video truly defines the phrase "Beyond Good & Evil."
"You need to question everything."
Yes. Never blindly or automatically accept something for face value. That doesn't mean distrust everything. If always strive for the unfiltered and untampered truth, you will never be led down a dark path in life.
@@ajflink when the cashier at the grocery asks for money, you need to start a dialogue about the concept of money and whether it is necessary 🤣
Jokes aside, true 😅
Anarchist slogan for the W
I think you should distrust everything. At least until you can say definitely each thing, on it's own, is good, or true. From birth till death, we're lied to, about nearly everything. Even by those like our parents, or ' authorities ', that THINK they have good intentions or ' our best interests ' at heart.😢
I learned far too young that, 1, the world was not what it was cracked up to be, and 2, that it was an evil place that could devour a person, or their soul. In fact it's like a dark jungle, with many paths, some dark, some light, many branching, looping, converging. Hard to find a totally good way thru, without being corrupted or eaten.😢
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Not really, anarchy will lead to feudalism lmao
@@caringheart34 yeah, and taking one breath leads to taking another. Until it doesn't.
I’m not gonna cap, this video changed my life. Owning all parts of yourself opens up a new way of being and feeling.
Oh, thanks for sharing that! Is there any topic you'd like us to cover next?
@ArtificiallyAware I guess you can also go into lucifer and god on the perspective on lucifer why he thinks he was doing the right way and/or why rebel on God or something like that...
Or on hitler on why his people thought he was a good guy for trying to save his country and economics.
I really like this video too, made me wanna change my attitude and thoughts on it.... thanks AI
I guess bro is too busy exploring his new ways of being and feeling. Ggs
Yeah right 🤣 I took a short nap while watching this video 🤣🤣🤣….SO LIFE CHANGING 😢
Power doesn’t corrupt, it enables.
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Being a good person is really difficult because in society there are many people who take advantage of other people's kindness.
It's amazing our society is even standing honestly
Yeah I've said the same, how has it lasted as long as it has throughout history?
It's really not lol. Considering this video describes majority of society to an exact T, society is very very close to collapsing. Mostly because there's no inner dialog in most people's consciousness. There's no questioning up there. They just do what they're told. Which is not how any prosperous society works.
Even though im not religious its thanks to that why were somewhat even civil it coincides with Our general laws and instituitions that are set by the goverment to follow inclduing how our morality is justified
It's all thanks to "obeying the authority" by obeying the authority you do what the most learned wants you to do coz it's easier. And the leader most likely WANTS the society to not fall apart because he has the authority and would like to keep it.
It gives the illusion of standing, because all of the people in it give the illusion of being ok.
A pattern I observed people of all ages do at some point:
1 - Choose someone and provoke them physically or psychologically, somehow, someway.
2 - Should the provoked one retaliate in any way, shape, or form, accordingly to the situation, act surprised and pretend to be the victim.
3 - Downplay the provoked one's reaction by telling him it's exageratted or by being extremely offended by his reaction.
basically manipulation
This is basically the definition of Gaslighting.
This is a literal description of narcissism!
Great now you ruined someone's life. Personally I've never done that in my life, even I've been done to it.
That happens to me too often, literally earlier it happened again, i guess i don't learn from it, but what else can i do yk, can't just stop talking to people, i mean maybe i could just never retaliate even if the other is clearly in the wrong in whatever way, which is pretty hard for me sometimes, all got some kind of ego deep inside, and obviously Feelings
I've questioned everything for years and what pushes me is everyone around me telling me to follow orders, to fit in, to let things go. its this constant pressure from all sides that ignites my darker impulses
They tell you to fit in but also to be yourself. They tell you to have self-compassion but loathe you if they sense any self-pity. Everything they say they want you to do is actually just a test to see if you will do it and not because they want you to. How is one not to go insane? Stop being afraid of being hated.
You do have to let things go but its not a choice. It happens no matter what. Everything besides that is bullshit. The only constant is change.
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People are dangerous
Do not engage, not worth it. Not everyone has good intentions for you and the ones that have the worst intentions will do everything they can to hide it. If they pretend to care, RUN. Fast as you can, far as you can. You have yourself, that’s it. DO NOT TRUST ANYONE AND DO NOT HELP ANYONE.
STOP BEING STUPID!!!!
- my last diary entry
I like this place on the internet, where strangers are kind and relatable. I think I'll stop and watch the flowers for a while
it starts in school when you fight back against bullying and get punished for it, and then it’s just downhill from there. but hey, that’s why we’re humans and can’t have anything nice.
Yes we can watch this I love you.
No that is a normal occurrence, you’ve missed the point entirely and that’s how easy it always was. You’ve never looked at it a different eay you don’t seem to have the capacity to explore any further in concept. The goal is not to justify the bullying in of itself it’s to recontextualize the subjects that are ridiculous and affirm the ones that aren’t. Successfully altering the perception of reality. You think they care about maintaining order it was never about justice. It was about making a choice which humans failed in choosing correctly and now they get to define your morals. This is why the apple of knowledge was forbidden because aquiring real knowledge is a sacrifice you have no other choice but to make at this point. All this not to scare you but to warn you of the dangers that hide in plain sight which can be avoided and ultimately even defeated. See it’s all just a game they play. And they will never stop
@@Ihavehadmanynames7779 wtf are u even talking about
@@uberboat4512lmao ikr
@@uberboat4512"OH GOD, A COMMENT THAT'S MORE THAN 6 WORDS! I'M GONNA OFF MYSELF!!!!"
"I have no mercy or compassion in me for a society that will crush people, and then penalize them for not being able to stand up under the weight."
-Malcolm X
Love Malcolm X
That is an amazing quote.
Thanks for that.
Having such a high intellect topic delivered in such a laidback casual tone is so insanely effective and I’m so happy I came across this video
It's not, it's really fucking annoying lol.
Honestly, thank you for making this. Getting fresh out of high school and into college, it’s shifted my world a lot.
I don’t have my family, none of my friends, and I’m all alone. My room8 is an ass and I can tell I am an arm’s length from everyone despite all my efforts. Then to be later told by my brother(the person I look up to the most) that when I get this age, that it’s me vs everyone, and no one here really cares. It’s latched to me permanently, if not all of it then some of it. I cant really feel any connection when I talk to people, even though I’m a genuinely calm person. I stopped wanting people to try my food(cook every now and then), and I don’t make the same effort to connect with others.
I’ve always known some of it, if not all is true, but it hurts to consider. Hurts to think the world is truly cruel. It makes me think very bad things, but I never act on them. I am starting to hate people and not believe they are as good as they are, and I feel myself slipping into pessimism and lack of care. I still love my family, but that’s about it. I Just do what i have to do and it’s exhausting. I don’t want to fall into this state of perpetual apathy with occasional fleeting happiness. I just want to feel like I am not being tortured. I have flaws, I can be angry at time.
There are people that care. Just hard to find in the capitalist world, since it hurts everyone
The problem is we pretend that people are civilized and not animals. We are all animals at our core.
speak for yourself human, im way more than that
@@bachiak1 you are an animal. Sorry you believe in the Grandiose delusion of the Lord lol
You should read the dune series.
In it, there is a group of people who have a theory the use to sort who they will allow to have power. They tell a person to put their hand in a box, and when they do, they tell them if they take their hand out of the box, they will be killed instantly. Then the box makes that person feel extreme pain.
The idea is the animal cannot control itself. It is subject to its instincts, and so it takes its hand out of the box. It takes being a human to keep your hand in the box, because it takes your conscious self wilfully overriding all your instinct to do it.
Would you keep your hand in the box?
Maybe youve just never met anyone who would.
@@Elemblue2 why its the last comment i see and i just saw a ad about dune
@@Elemblue2 yeah,the bible also says that mankind is inherently evil and sinful and turn to God to free us from our own selves
in a way this even makes me somewhat optimistic, if we all have the capacity for good and for evil, then nobody is truly a monster, it’s just people choosing the wrong path, but they can always come back
That’s very true, but, sadly, it’s much harder to admit to wrongdoing and go back than it is to do harm in the first place. I would argue that the number of people who manage to turn themselves around is even smaller than the number of people who succeed in staying mostly kind and compassionate for their entire lives.
i'm not sure, if someone has killed millions of people then maybe not
@@omnipotenttit3240The reason few turn back is because only few want to turn back
"People know the right thing to do. It's just that they don't do it."
@@JaysMCworld not quite…some people have neurological issues we still don’t fully understand
Being a good person is a choice, a choice we're all capable of making. It takes work, and we will make mistakes, but we must try and have faith that we can *do* good.
I grew up a kind hearted boy recently over about 2-3 years I see more of a monster inside of me .. dark thoughts and menacing goals in my head so twisted 😅 yet feels so natural
When you are a kid you admire heroes. When you grow older you start to understand villains.
the same goes to simple one, which is spongebob... when you're kids, you saw spongebob as fun guy, and squidward is pathetic middle age man, but as you grow older, you relate more to squidward and view spongebob as annoying childish one...
Still admire heroes now and always 🤷♂️
So you understand Hitler?
@@mu6192red herring, OP wanted to emphasise the motivations and complexities of villains, and using hitler as an extreme example (arguably irrelevant too) distorts the original statement
Cringe
I love how some people will just bully somebody over and over again until they snap then act as if it’s ”just something that happened.”
Like it just appeared out of thin air, as if it was something random.
The true wound that makes America bleed from inside.
One that isn't easy to fix and one that doesn't generate wealth.
One that benefits man.
I'm not a killer but don't push me... - Tupac
We will see
Revenge is the sweetest thing, next to gettin' pu$$y
Chill bruh.
Hail Mary
Revenge is like the sweetest joy next to getting pussy😹
That's why the best way to understand history and to prevent it to happen again is to read it from the perspective of the perpetrator, not from the victims view, because then you can understand that those "monsters" could be easily one of us under determined circumstances. Great video, you wrote it down perfectly and also, I really liked the paintings, very disturbing and fitting for the topic
1) "He who fights with monsters might take care lest he thereby become a monster. And if you gaze for long into an abyss, the abyss gazes also into you." - F. W. Nietzsche
2) "When another person makes you suffer, it is because he suffers deeply within himself, and his suffering is spilling over. He does not need punishment, he needs help. That's the message he is sending.” - Thich Nhat Hanh
3) "The child who is not embraced by the village, will burn it down to feel its warmth" - african proverb
Help? You wish. Many, if not most, are beyond help; And you can't help he who does not want to be helped in the first place either. You cannot tell a worm to stop squirming in the dirt, because that's all it knows and that's all it's instincts tell it to do.
When the worm's antics become a problem, they become pests... and we all know what must be done to pests.
@@dumblenutz5561 I sincerely hope you're just being an edgelord online and don't actually believe what you're saying.
@@mrscreamlad6572 Your hope is misplaced, then.
@@dumblenutz5561it rather hard to actually compared them to worm since most of person who are troubled in general, are just boring person like us all
years of isolation and self reflection have in fact revealed to me that i am not a good person and not only that,but that in fact no one is a good person
we are all just acting,it's a survival mechanism,we want to be classified as good people,because then we are included,accepted etc....
majority of people will try to refute this but you have to understand that only because they dont want to see it,they want to believe they are good and well...i can understand that..for we all have to sleep at night,right?
We’re not all just acting brother, that must be a projection. No one is ENTIRELY good, but if you lead your life with compassion, empathy, and love, you will stop caring about being “accepted” or “included” and you will understand what it means to be a good human. There are good humans out there and I promise you they are not just acting
I agree and have come to the exact same conclusion after 5 years of isolation and introspection. I do not feel that I am a good person even though by normal societal standards I would be considered one.
When years get devoted to breaking down one's own ego, it's terrifying to discover how much we suppress to convince ourselves we are good.
I think Carl Jung was onto something with the understanding of the shadow self. The scariest and most dangerous people to give power to are the ones who think they would never cause harm. Those are the ones which are not in touch with their shadow selves and are incapable of seeing the signs that they are becoming depraved and drunk with power.
Those that are at least aware of their capability for evil are at least capable of seeing the red flags. People cannot fight in themselves what they don't recognize exists.
@@3Kefka6Palazzo9you’re not deep lol
You’re literally saying that being good increases survival so it’s in our code to be good. If it’s survival then it’s not acting because people want to survive genuinely 😂
@@3Kefka6Palazzo9 to be a good human you must be in touch with your shadow self. Just because the shadow is a part of you and you are capable of horrible things, doesn’t mean you’re incapable of being a good human. Don’t strive for perfection, you will fall short everytime and hate yourself for it. Strive for balance.
I've witnessed this monster in me a number of times. He, or I should say, am a selfish opportunist. For a number of reasons I concluded I'm better off living alone, where I can at least reflect on that shadow, and direct his rage to more noble endeavors.
Get laid or something idk.
But, hey, being selfish isn't always necessarily a bad thing. Sometimes prioritizing yourself is a right thing to do. And opportunities are also something to cherish. Sorry if this sounds encouraging in a wrong way, I don't know you and your circumstances indeed. But everyone has some imperfections about them. None of us are perfect but that's just the thing that makes us human. Maybe trying to integrate that part of yourself into something that doesn't harm anyone would be cool. It's something about self-control rather repression. Because "bad" feelings and thoughts have a reason, even if it's not logical or morally correct. Whatever you do, good luck, stranger of the Internet
@@mint_zzz thanks bro, cheers to you as well ✌️❤️
lmao what
You're not a bad person if you recognised this behaviour as problematic and did something about it. A selfish person would've embraced it and continued without care. People can change for the better.
I seemingly was born to distrust authority, and I was always punished for being rebellious. I taught myself to accept I was not wholly good. I embraced my demons, and I have tried to always hold myself accountable.
I don't always get it right, but I keep trying.
It's just part of being a human I guess
I joked with my sister recently how it seems like assholes live forever and kind people die too early. I think there's truth to that. People that are selfish don't worry themselves with other people's troubles. Kind people can kill themselves pleasing others.
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You WHAT?!
"Being nice to everyone simply means there is no one special."
Thank you ur niceness has no value if everybody can have it
Well yes no one is special
Nope, there are levels of niceness the nicer you act towards a person the more you care for such person .😊
Why care and you don't need to be special to get validation, we gotta stop being self pity and do better
@@Green_mist I think being nice to everyone is a choice. Besides it reflects how you value yourself as an individual.
3 days without sleep, and 3 bad arguments. I know exactly how close I am to the edge
Did you sleep yet?
1:40 #Amin #Aamin #Amiin #Aamiin #Amen #Aamen #Aameen #Amien #Omen #Aum@@benthasome
stay strong, get some rest and get going
Youre not alone buddy, lets get better 💪
you are not alone..take a sleep you can get through it
I truly believe that the the best way to be a good person for me is to not see myself as a good person. I'll never tell you I'm perfect, that I'm above doing evil. And I'll never say that anyone is completely evil. When you don't trust others fully and you don't trust yourself fully, that's critical awareness. It's putting hard truth before convenient lies. And that's healthy to a good life, and a good society. Lots of people become corrupt and evil because they accept soft lies, just a little at a time - and eventually, they become more interested in protecting themselves from the truth, than in defending it. It can happen to anyone.
I think the problem is trying to be nice to everyone. Nah just choose a side and protect and cherrish the important people.
I tried to be nice to everyone but they test my patience so i gave up on that but i was never able to purposefully hurt someone even if i wanted to so i found my comfort zone which is in the middle im just looking out for myself now
What happens when you pick the evil side?
What happens when there is no "good" side because all the sides are wrong?
If you just "pick a side" because it's easier than trying to do the work of understanding other viewpoints, then you will only ever see what people tell you to see, you'll never know the whole story.
I don't think picking just one side is good either. After all, if you are only nice to one side, are you really a nice person? A lot of criminals and bad people treat people they like nicely.
@@mariustan9275 I don't want to be nice, nor do I want to be liked by everyone. Not even God can achieve that if he even exists. I just want to be with people that matter to me, that's it. If I see a stranger in need of help, fine I'll help them, if I can but I'm not here to make friends.
@@dice5709 Alright fair. I personally want to be nice for the sake of being nice, but now that I say this I wonder if my actions match what I say.
This is why I believe “At the East of Eden” is such a good movie. Pretty much the opposite of this happens, where the protagonist goes from a bad person to a good one. But most of all, its interesting because it portrays that being too morally correct can lead you to evil, and how sometimes good is found in moral ambiguity. The good men aren’t those who are always good, it’s those who know when to be good and when not to.
Discernment.... a concept lemmings grapple with 😑
It's all down to mindset and imagination...
So as I understood:
Becoming a Monster is easier than becoming a hero.
Yes, far, far more easier
no its just a very attractive idea. becoming the monster is the most painful thing. nobody truly wants to be the monster. it sure looks great to be a monster for a day when youre exhausted being with being nice. but being not nice doesnt make you a monster. it makes you a pacifist. being nice makes you an anarchist. forcing niceness always leads to anarchistic ends whereas being not nice is self serving to the point of self reliance and unburdening endeavors. counter intuitive but effective in practice. you can see this polarity represent itself in life too. the best sports teams with the best teamwork actually build people individually instead of working on the team as a team. you build the individual and it makes the team on its own. counter intuitive but true. life is polar. the bad guys often are the good guys and the good guys often the bad guys. portrayal is a weapon. knowing this is the master key to drawing accurate personas of people.
I understood that reference
Ok saitama
Being a bad person is like falling. One bad decision makes it easier to make the next one until you wake up one day hating the person you see in the mirror.
This was nothing short of incredible. Thank you so much for putting this together, man.
So glad I found this video. These are things I have pondered over for YEARS. Starting with my own family. My siblings are horrible people, yet received all the love and support from my parents. I was treated like a slave. Always doing good, going beyond and sacrificing. Only to be told I didn't do enough, berated for failing or had my contributions minimalized. I watched how the WORST people get everything. It was infuriating. I often reveled in the joy I felt when I REALLY lost my temper a few times. How only THEN is everyone attentive and caring to me. Only when you made the fear you for a brief moment. I feel NO ONE has ever truly loved me despite my efforts. These days I have given up being "nice". Only to my small circle.....
I feel you on this stuff
You sound like a fellow family scapegoating victim. You’re welcome here my brother🤝.
Never fail to be a good guy...
You have no control about other people, but you can choose how to be and react.
Joker said it best. "All it takes is a little push." Or "I had a bad day"
one bad day
Hey whaaaat your insaaane 😂
I’m autistic - I struggle with knowing what is right or wrong. I also don’t become attached to people; I like to have people I can depend on, and I love the people I keep around me, but I don’t miss them when I’m not with them. I don’t miss anyone…ever, but I love seeing - for example - my grandma because I love her and I’m very close to her. I also don’t like to show affection physically (like hugging) or with words - it makes me uncomfortable. I don’t like to express emotions often - unless I’m overwhelmed by happiness or having a meltdown, you’d think I didn’t have any emotions - I can also be quite monotone.
Some people don’t think I can self reflect either, like I don’t have a conscience or remorse. I do - sometimes - it just doesn’t come naturally to me. It’s something I’ve had to work on in order to understand rights and wrongs and how I affect others. Also with having Misophonia and Body Dysmorphia I am prone to sudden anger and depression.
Reading all that about me, you’d probably say I wasn’t a good person. However, I have never INTENTIONALLY harmed, upset or hurt anyone. I have good manners, I have a great sense of humour and like to make others laugh. I also treat my 3yr old cat like my child, he has everything he would ever need and more - he gets tons of love and affection from me and he always shows me the same love back. My family love me very much and everyone would say I’m a kind, sensitive, shy and caring person.
Would I describe myself as evil? No. But am I a good person? No. I’m learning to not view everything as black and white, that people can be both good and bad…myself included.
What's funny is I'm not autistic, and I don't have misophonia, and I'm actually a musician (or was)... but I've grown to really either have no reaction to or flat out hate music these days. A musician who "hates" music. Who'd have thunk it? I dunno... just sometimes, I'll have some musical inspiration and I'll play for like an hour, and when I end, I'll just feel a sick feeling like I have a bad hangover for a few minutes. I'll wonder "What was the point of that ridiculous noise?"
I'm also what the folks have classically called a Christian. I know on a very deep level that I am not good. On a very deep level, I can empathize with even the most abominable of evil because I in and of myself without God am abominable. Without God, I walk hand in hand with Satan himself. We could go into what that means for days but... I've learned to be wary of people who act too nice or ingratiating towards me or just in general. Goodness and niceness are two separate things. I don't necessarily even think "nice" is good. What is nice? It originally meant treating someone like they were mentally challenged I think. Bless their heart, as a "nice" person might say. Almost insulting to be treated "nice", wouldn't you say?
The point of Love is not to love only people who are kind or agreeable towards you, or who say the right things, or who act the right ways, or who look the right ways. The point of Love is to love people despite the fact that they don't measure up. Ever. Our expectations just won't be met if we're expecting that perfect person or if our standard of judgment towards those around us is too high. We should love others whether they behave rightly or wrongly. That's.... very hard to do.
Christ forgave those who were crucifying and mocking him. They were humiliating him to the highest degree and murdering him, and yet he just said "Father, forgive them. They don't know what they are doing."
It's because there is no one truly good but God, since God is the source of all good.
We cannot be good, but by God, we can know what good is and if we're open to it, God's goodness can come through us.
People think this is ridiculous. Well, let's look at the alternatives deeply. What's more ridiculous in the end?
I must say I'm a little jealous that you don't miss people when they're gone. It's a terrible thing to feel... and it's somewhat selfish to miss someone. Especially if they've died or if they went off to do something they really wanted to do. Our missing someone is purely us demanding they be here for our self, not for them. So missing people isn't necessarily an indicator of "goodness", but I will also admit that maybe it feels good to know someone was thinking about me. I haven't had that feeling since my mom died. I do miss her. Selfish of me. She's probably very much at peace now.
@@andrewmccombs7347 Bro there is no word like thunk😂. Use the word thought
@@hemantpathak9899 There's a word when I say there's a word. Like frandiments. It will become something soon. For now it's just a word without meaning. For now...
You just described how I am...is it possible I am autistic and never knew?
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Circumstances does shape people Once I was a Kind Soft Hearted Boy and Now I am just a Selfish Monster
That's the thing, ordinary people aren't truly good.
Ordinary people fit into society.
Good people are the ones who do good for their own purpose.
Indeed, if ordinary means not being aware yet. A person with strong developed beliefs will reject even someone of authority if it clash with their own.
@@SnowSNS11 Precisely.
Social pressure does not make us waver in the slightest.
We are true to our beliefs.
Lest you find a flaw in there, we remain uncompromising.
Ordinary is somewhere between a lack of awareness to partial awareness. When someone gains full awareness of what's really going on, that is when they escape the restrictions of their own mind.
@@Hivatel people with strong beliefs have the courage to be disliked. Even if everyone seems to disagree, we continue to walk the path we choose and believe is right for us.
@@SnowSNS11 It's not courage. It's simply another thing we are willing to sacrifice in our pursuit of higher ideals. Even if they do not understand us, even if they reject us, even if they refuse to even TRY to view things from our perspective, we follow our path because we believe in it.
We knew we were going to be rejected from the beginning, because that happens to all ideas. Even the popular ones. There's always someone out there who disagrees with you.
@@Hivatelyou are right even if I disagree with you
Note:I was joking I agree with you
You want to know how it happens? Lose everything...get cheated time and time again by family or people you trusted...have people laugh at you when you fail or get injured severely...have family screw you so you lose your inner identity and all of your memories involve those people that ruined your life...i can keep going...im not a bad person but ive been thru so much i have a very bad side
I'll agree to all of this, along with my personal issues of having a whole two years of near constant feeling of terror in me due to my environments. I never really ever feel safe or comfortable anymore anywhere other than my bedroom, everything else is either blank or fear inducing, and the mania spirals as I try to grab anything that will keep me from falling apart. It doesn't work often. I grow numb as my body craves death, as it has for a decade and a bit more than that, making me lulled to sleep after having just slept for what people call "normal hours". Although if anything I'll say that I'm an absolutely terrible person, and I see this in other people while seeing this twice as much in me. Probably one of the worst people I know, and I can't shake the feeling it's true. Not because of being made to feel inferior to others, not just that anymore. But the genuine acknowledgement that I just got worse over time realizing I was a bad person and seeing all my faults.
It really does absolutely suck to have it all, and then be utterly robbed of it.
@@kanseidorifto2430what makes you a bad person?
@@kanseidorifto2430 I'm going thru the exact same thing right now basically give or take
@@kanseidorifto2430 have been for ab 4 yrs now actually and it's slowly progressed
I totally relate to everything you said and I've had identical same experience, however for some reason I refuse to come bad and I'm not sure why I just refuse to go that direction
I’ve been burned by so many people I trusted deeply it’s incredibly hard for me to trust anyone. I keep everyone at arms reach. Definitely makes you feel alone
It's a good lesson for the sheeple. If someone ever called you a sheep, do YOURSELF the favor and heed the message. If you know word one of me, when I write things like this, it is as sincere and face-value as can Earthly be.
9 times out if 10, we have a choice, to become a good person or bad person! We have to choose what path to walk down and what doors to walk thru.
*always* _think for yourself and question authority!_ This has helped me stay on the right path for the last 20 yrs of my life.
"choose peace" lives in my head every day.
im a good person but i have to stay dangerous and evil
I have always disliked authority, and even today i go out of my way to make sure people who feel they have power are held accountable for what i believe is wrong (withing my reach of course), i do not hide myself or separate myself from what i do. I have goals and beleifs and i will not follow anyone blindly, I do not care who you are or who you think you are, i make my own decisions. even when everyone says im wrong. That being said i dont beleive im a good person, but i at least beleive in making sure people do not have to be harmed or tortured just for being. I have a moral compass and i am unbreakable in that.
As someone who told my teacher she was terrible at teaching in front of the entire class, I respect you
You and I are very similar. Knowing what you believe with unshakable convection is such a blessing.
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I bet she went home and punched her pillow repeatedly until she cried herself to sleep when you shattered her reality. 😂😂😂
@@transcendentsacredcourage she probably doesn't care
Same. There is a heavy-brainwashing that convinces people that it is good to respect authority and people who don't respect authority are bad people. I am as non-confrontational and submissive as they come. I am literally one of those who says "i'm sorry" about 100 times a day, and I usually have no idea what I am saying "I'm sorry" for it is just an ingrained, conflict avoidance, habit. However, I get inexplicably rage-y and obstinate with police, managers, or nurses. My husband has noted that it is like a switch flips and he doesn't even know who the hell I am anymore. I have always had this almost uncontrollable anger at those particular groups and I never knew why. I don't have some dramatic backstory of abuse or anything. My dad worked with the local police force and we had plenty of police that were family friends. I am not living a life of crime and I have never been arrested...knock on wood. I get along fine with police as long as they are being regular people, but the instant they put on the cop persona I instantly get irritable and uncooperative. My husband is the one who finally pointed out the obvious connection that was triggering the uncharacteristic anger and obstinance in me: it is authority. I don't like authority.
That was a hard reality for me to accept because I am obnoxiously docile and always worried about whether or not we are going to get in trouble for something. My worst case scenario is being told I screwed something up. I am a people-pleaser to the point that I annoy myself with my passivity sometimes. I cry at basically everything...how could I be anti-authority?! But he is dead right, that is exactly what triggers the rage and resentment in me. Just as much as "I'm sorry" is a knee-jerk reaction for me most of the time, complete obstinance and anger is my knee-jerk reaction to being "ordered" to do anything, or being told that I "have" to do something.
I was raised with the ingrained belief that we are all equal members of the human race. There are not elevated humans and inferior humans , there are just humans. The uniform and the badge do not make the police officer a wiser or more powerful person and I have more education that most police officers so I view them as peers, fellow adult humans, no better or worse than me. When they bark orders at me they are telling me that I (and whoever else they are ordering around) are inferior and that makes me angry. I really wish that more people were anti-authority. I think a little bit of respect and humility could fix a lot of the current problems. You don't have to like people, or approve of their lifestyle but we should be able to accept that every person has just as much value and right to do what they want with their life as we do.
“Being good and expecting something in return is not you being “good”. Its a wildly used form of selfishness.” -My year 6 teacher.
Expecting a mutually beneficial interaction is not selfishness. It is merely not being a convenient doormat.
That's an evil lie. You should absolutely expect everything good from the good, because it is GOOD.
There is nothing wrong with selfishness alone. You do good for your own good. The difference between good and evil isn't selfishness, but rather knowing the true ways, or being mislead. Evil is ALWAYS self-destructive.
Evil people believe that they're acting for their own good, while in reality, they are acting for their own downfall, without realizing what the possibility of being good can bring them.
this is the problem. people are good because they hope that its reciprocated thats the whole point of "i want to do good so the world becomes a better place". why would i continue to do good with nothing in return. i'm not sacrificing myself for someone who wouldn't do the same.
This piece made me reflect on my daily actions. Sometimes, I go through the motions without much thought, but when I stop and consider each choice, I realize that even small decisions have an impact, not just on myself but also on those around me. Being aware of that helps me live more intentionally and take responsibility for everything I do, no matter how small
We all have an inner monster. Its just 99.5% of us have never been pushed to a point where the monster is released...
relatable
No most people are just too weak to become a monster lol
Monster is a compliment, pathetic being is an insult
@@toptiercrip Weak people are the most dangerous. Its always the weak that are most likely to end up as monsters
@periodictable118 not always but weak people defo feel the most envy and feel the most hardships of life
“What is the difference between a man and a slave? A man chooses, a slave obeys.” - Andrew Ryan Bioshock
Fact
But isn't to Obey also a choice in a way? Even a slave can try to fight back choosing not to do that would be making a choice so the slave is not a slave by choosing to be one right? Now my head hurts also the "Man" Obeys the law still or at least it doesn't say that he doesn't do that following that logic that would imply that the "Man" too is a slave to the justice system
Too bad you get punished for choosing, as things stand.
Then we are all slaves. We are being manipulated by everyone and everything in our lives one way or another. There is no way to choose in all cases.
@@NostraDavid2 The only freedom one can obtain is that of knowing there is none.
Evil is a slippery slippery slope; and one must be conscious of the extent to which their morality goes if they wish to avoid falling down that slope.
Exactly. That’s why there must be a line made that is never crossed EVER even though in the future humanity may think itself wiser to move the line. It mustn’t, for even if they are correct, that initial line moving will start a countdown to the collapse of sane society.
exactly why i never humor things that are bity bad , like saying no this is alright although it has slim evils and stress , i'm violently truthful when it comes to that because being truthful only shows the depth of the situation , not your own weakened view aside just let's be honest , how can being honest be a bad thing when we talk about an urgent fact needing topic ? it's not like the truth will harm anyone aside from potential evil doers and that's why i'm usually aimed at as if evil although clearly the scope was potentially evil at bed floor.
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Don't forget an important tool in being honest - obfuscation. Sometimes it is better to not answer a question than to answer it truthfully. For example, if a king you hate asks you "what do you think of me," it would not be good for anyone to answer your honest opinion. In this case, an obfuscation like "I think you're handling the recent situations about as well as expected" (because you expect him to handle them poorly and he is handling them poorly) is both truthful and will lead to a better outcome than telling him outright - kings are not known historically to let their detractors live.
@@obviouslykaleb7998 correct, i use that very alot daily even in normal speech not just when it's needed so i can tell a very honest opinion while not sounding offensive although with full intent to be very straight to the point , keeps the reputation , gives the message perfectly and holds others' opinions back.
A wiser man would ditch morality altogueter, given it's factitious and subjective nature.
Everyone is the hero of their own story, even when they are the villain of someone else's.
I didn't stop being nice because I'm raised that way, it is because people around me push me off to a point and i realized I'm the one who is naive thinking everybody is raised like me, in the end im the one to suffer, so people like us slowly lean towards the hidden side of us where we start to treat society the way they treat us because our parents or we were raised with "Treat people how you want them to treat you" it applies to society but the innocent bystanders are the one affected the most
Yea, unfortunately but then I think I’m full of crap am I even nice or good or am I just fearful and guilty ? Even then I see certain traits in ppl and I think wow I can’t believe ppl actually think/feel that way, it will be the ppl u perceive as “nice” or good but then you’ll notice jealousy or
Envy or str8 up pettiness from them and I think I’m pretty sure I never feel this way towards others so why does this person who I thought was nice or good feel this way, I understand we’re all humans and have egos but this is what I interpret what u said about not everyone is raised like u and me, pretty discouraging tbh one of the reason I never will really trust or connect or ever get too close with ppl
Just dont be a doormat lol
I hate that, whats even worse no matter how hard i try to mirror people (to be equal with them/ even if 90% of time i decide to calm my emotions and do it like "grown")
Im friendliest person alive XD , been through literal hell and even after i still naive and subconsciously choose empathy and good way... My faith in humanity is broken. Everything in this world is so cruel and unfair even in small things - like you dont need to fight - oponnents always come for you even if you mind your own buisness.
@@Limitedsharesz that’s why u have build urself up strengthen ur mind and act accordingly. Only do it for the ppl u want to and everyone else u don’t have to interact with them
@@Ayanami00 I just want truth. When people finally understand themselves and the world around them, we will be able to focus on more important things.
nah i got that childlike joy cause my thoughts aren’t repeating patterns of my parents being mean to me to my inner child
“One of our greatest freedoms, is how we react to things.”
Provided that we actually exercise it. If you choose not to think about how you react to something, then that is by far your most confining cage.
I'm at my lowest in life and I feel like giving in. Once what was about love, joy, peace and self control is now anger, hatred and lust.
@RHFactor100, I hear you. It sounds like you're navigating a heavy storm right now. What do you think changed the tide from love to anger? And what if this moment is calling you to dig deeper into yourself and redefine what joy can look like? How could facing these feelings transform you into something even stronger?
"What you are is not written in stone. It's written in sand."
Anakin Skywalker: "I don't like sand."
Evil is easy.
But you get rewarded with junk.
Good is difficult.
But you helped build the kingdom, which is where you'll reside when all is said and done.
I do believe you are coping, as most do.
@@dumblenutz5561 it's been easier, but long road nonetheless.
Mission to break chains of the restless, so they may finally rest.
Nah.
Absolutely amazing quote, and beautifully said and I couldn’t agree more. I’m gonna screenshot this and write it down on a sticky note. This quote had such a deep impact on me it felt like all my thoughts were perfectly put into words. Thank you for the beautiful quote.
Kings Build "Kingdoms" Name me one good king who didnt commit atroscities Ill wait
It's easy to understand.
Being good is tough, and because it isn't something easy to do, surely you expect to be rewarded for it, no? You become a monster when you realize that all that effort being a good person was a waste of your time, and you got nothing out of it.
i’ve personally made some amazing friendships out of being a good person, expecting rewards out of anything is a dangerous philosophy, what you do should be what you do because its fulfilling to yourself, for me its being a nice person. i am firm in that. but also i’ve been rewarded so much, it just comes with time that you meet who you meet based on how approachable you are
@@oskarfraenza7332 Because of your looks, end of discussion.
Agreed
Yea, i'm now to that point. I don't give a fuck for nothin, and noone. I am stranded in lonliness. After my wife left, I can't wait til i die. Life is different when u don't care anymore.
Have to disagree that after life failing to reward those who are decent the decent person becomes a monster. The decent person may snap and does something unexpected, but his or her character can not change. The point in the above is to highlight that evil people become such through habit, similarly, good people become good by habituation of personal responsibility, empathy with others and situational awareness regarding if and when the authority above crossed a line of ethical standards it preached before.
Critical thought is always vital, but it is a constant effort and must be consciously maintained. Judge yourself harshly, but always be willing to forgive.
where does ur pfp come from?