I see where you’re coming from, but I think it depends on the situation. Some people take breaks to figure out their feelings or work on themselves. It’s not always black and white. Relationships are messy.
@@UnderworldTalesssSure, but it usually turns out that "taking a break fo figure out feelings" translates to "I want to bang someone else" in reality these days. Worse, there's a lot of social media, websites and magazines out there that specifically tell women to 'sort out their feelings' by "taking a break' and going to bang someone else to see if they really love their partner. Lots and lots and lots of it over the past 20-30 years. This is why if your partner wants a break, you give them a break-up. The odds are overwhelmingly such that the 'break' is just to bang someone else and you just can't take the risk.
This story is a perfect example of how a guy tries to take the high road and ends up the villain. The truth will set you free and it's not being petty for telling it. F them if they can't handle the truth.
Yeah, people like this will always take advantage of you give them to opportunity to control the narrative. It’s always better to tell the truth, and do it asap so you don’t get thrown under the bus. Manipulative people will manipulate, so don’t give them the space to do so.
Hate it when dudes do this. Don't let his control the story, ever. Scream wtf happened from the mountaintops if need be, because she _will_ spin, twist, and downplay whatever she needs to make herself look as good and the guy as bad as possible.
@@Ronarch2671 Men are sold a romantic version of the female nature by childhood, first by their mothers. Then forbid from ever questioning this "goddess". I admire men with a strong mind who can go against that but I don't blame many for losing to the gaslighting either.
Her audacity to say she was going to mess around with Dylan, but OP needed to sit around and think about their relationship is wild to me. She really thought too much of herself if she thought OP would let her F someone else then comeback like nothing happened. Now she can rot, knowing she threw away a good thing and she can stay with Dylan, who treats her like sh*t which she deserves.
Ironic how the person (man or woman) who cheats expects their partner to just forget about it and take them back with open arms. Or even better when they throw out the "i can't believe you're throwing us away" where was that sentiment when they were out getting their rocks off with an entirely different person?
There wasn't anything to stand up to. He basically indirectly let everyone know he really doesn't care about their opinion and just kept living his life as though she didn't matter Some people don't even need a reaction from them because they prove to be so insignificant in the grand scheme of your future
Why do we as men allow a narrative to spin up like that? In his group chat he should have told the real reason and paint her as the bad person like she really is.
Modern women choosing a Chad over a loving, caring man. They’re so allergic to accountability and then they freak out after the walking ATM closes after they treat them like crap.
What make you so sure she did not already cheat on him? Maybe she wanted to take the next step with her ex. You can see from the story she has already texting him behind his back.
Actually, this is THE reason why a large body count is a glaring red flag: nobody is perfect, and being in a relationship where your partner might entertain thoughts of "revisiting the past" with numerous former partners is nothing short of masochism.
How WEAK, you say ok but give me the ring back. End of Conversation FOR EVER! Even weaker was not TELLING EVERONE IMMEDIATELY. Only an idiot don't do that. I Love how he said he didn't say anything because he thought it was the mature thing when in reality it was because he was to WEAK!
some women act like them being loyal is a bonus, like there doing you a favour by being with you. this is why more and more men have stopped dating all together
This guy is pitiful. He could have just told the truth and be done with it, but no he seems to want the drama by keeping the information hidden while she crafted her lies.
To me, if someone is arguing with you, then out of nowhere decides to agree with you, you should be very careful about how you act. She messed up big time.
Good for the main character in just dumping her, but he really fucked up by not blasting out a group text/online post to everyone he could think of that she knew saying exactly why he dumped her. Never take the "high road" by letting them control the narrative; it never works out well.
She wasn't trying to figure out what she wanted. She was trying to figure out if her ex was going to want to be with her in the long run. She started having a fling with him but he wasn't sure if he wanted to stay with her so she was trying to buy time. The hodacity😂
16:11 I've been through this and no, your ex wasn't thinking of you at all. She was thinking only about herself and she had been for some time if not the whole time.
Yeah three things you should have said 1: give me the ring back 2: don't expect to come back to me if it goes wrong 3 if she comes back: I won't ever be with you ever again
Him: “You want to date your ex while we are still engaged?” Her: “I need to find this out then I’ll come back. Meantime you can reflect on us while I’m gone.” Him: “Sure, in the meantime I’ll date MY ex while you’re gone.” Her: “Wait…….”
OP shouldnhave told everyone that Tessa wanted a break to try out her ex. Instead, he turned soft and said it was mutual agreement. It wasnt a mutual agreement, it was her wanting her ex.
OP should have liked the comment some people will throw away diamonds to chase stones and commented that he is happy she finally realized that chasing after her abusive boyfriend and giving up on OP was a mistake
If a woman asks for a break or an open relationship, you are either already in one and don't know it, or there is someone she wants to go sleep with and doesn't want to feel guilty about it. At that point it's time to move on. Don't be anybody's second option... Have some damn self-respect.
These guys never take control of the narrative. Not only do they cut themselves off from their support network, and they allow their reputations to be stained. Stupid.
😂 she asked for a break when you are in a relationship you don't tell the other person can you have a break don't be surprised when the other person make your break forever😢😂😂
Lol HOW MANY GUYS HERE have had a Girl tell them "I'm Dating someone NOW, but if it DOESN'T WORK your next on deck"🤣. Literally had a girl in College tell me that.
Two things that we can learn from this is never give your significant other the belief that they can disrespect you and your relationship without repercussions or they will take advantage of you. The other thing to learn is to always control the narrative immediately. Never love anyone so much that you can't just walk away and make sure they know that.
The way he handled it and didn't tell people what she did is the reason she played him like that in the first place. She knew he was soft and wouldn't do anything.
Why not jut tell her NO…it’s over…why play along, just tell her..WE ARE DONE!!!…because she left thinking you are a SIMP, and that was a SIMP move by not telling her.
She's for the streets, NEXT!! If anyone in the relationship suggests a break as a self-respecting individual you should add the UP and just walk away. That's just an excuse to cheat without cheating.
If this idiot had just dumped her immediately, and told the truth, he would've controlled the narrative instead of running into the drama he got hit with.
I also want to say if anybody's ever in this situation please just tell everybody the fucking truth people in these stories need to stop this whole entire oh I'm just trying to be nice and simple bullshit
Dylan hasn't changed and I'm sure she only figured that out AFTER she slept with Dylan Women entitlement and belief they are deserving of everything they want nowadays is appalling 😂😂😂😂
You can tell a story is fake when the writer focuses on small insignificant details. “Whats up? he asked me casually” like bro if youre writing a story about your revenge on your ex youre not stopping to describe the tone your friend used when saying “whats up” months ago
I'm not a "plan b". the only way you get to explore other relationships is to end this one. and if you even think you need to explore other relationships then you are not committed to this one.
i don't know if this story is real or made up but women do this stuff and they deserve to be single for it. that guy should have never argued back with her. he shoulda just gone along with it, let her leave, then ghost her after she left. what would he have done if he said "and what about what you owe me? we're engaged" and then she said "your right, sorry. I apologize this thinking is wrong" so what, now its all ok? so he would just progress with someone who is dreaming of the ex? thats why im sayin, he should have just let her talk and then ghosted her after she left.
You are absolutely WRONG about forgiveness my friend!!!! I hope one day you realize this!!!! You have to forgive everyone, eventually!!! If not it will eat at your soul and make you sick, unhappy, and meet an early death!!!!! Now I’m not saying yall can be friends & start talking again, but you can forgive her, move on, & never have to talk to her again!!!! I’m wrote this just in case sombody believes what you just said about you don’t have to forgive every body!!! This is wisdom….
Bro was lucky. She was honest. That honesty gave him options. She could have kept it in the dark. He could have been a victim like a lot of dudes. Great poultritude👈🏿🫡
This sounds like a person wrote it, but it's still fake. It's not: "i talked to her, and the conversation went this way, in summary," it's "i said this, and then this was her reply." That's not how memory realistically works. Edit: nvm, it is ai, just better ai than these stories usually have. It was likely edited by whoever posted it beforehand to make it less repetitive. Good story, though, quite satisfying.
Why sell the house if its yours and its your name only on the deed. Just change the locks and get security motion cameras for your property. Why so passive instead of being masculine and simply tell her its over and we are done. Pack her things in boxes and put them at the front of the yard. Contact her and tell her to come and get your items from the yard. Dont answer the door and if she refuses to leave get law enforcement to do their job removing her from your property. Seems quite simple and straightforward to anyone with sense,self respect,backbone and a strong spine and dignity.
Sometimes it's good to get a complete new start. And with how this story went it sounded like OP bought the house since they were going to get married.
Honestly if I could relive an old relationship it would be my first g/f and I have no problem telling my wife that. I was a really stupid kid and I would undo some stupid decisions with my first g/f
Es una situación muy complicada y dolorosa. Recuerda priorizar tu bienestar emocional y reflexionar sobre lo que realmente mereces en una relación. A veces, tomar distancia y pensar con claridad ayuda a tomar las mejores decisiones.
I'm going to be perfectly on this year if you're going to marry somebody or be engaged to them understand that that means your loyalty has to be given to them 100% the same way that person has given their loyalty to you because of you pull the shit that the ex did in this story then yeah you're going to end up exactly like the x and not getting this person to stay waiting for you
Jan2025: There are many songs, stories, and folklore descibing how hard it can be for a woman to get her man to the alter. The gal in this story foolishly walks out on her fiance' and her chance to be a bride. BF clears out before her inevitable attempt to return. Retired in Sacto.
Her: "We need to take a break."
Him: "Give me back the Ring."
My thoughts exactly
"Some people will throw away diamonds chasing stone" she really cant see the irony in that?
When in a relationship, there are *no* breaks. There is only together or broken up. Nothing in between.
YES. Shoot, Ross and Rachel taught us that in the 90's!
I see where you’re coming from, but I think it depends on the situation. Some people take breaks to figure out their feelings or work on themselves. It’s not always black and white. Relationships are messy.
@@UnderworldTalesss Yes but it's not a break if you are dating some else, especially if take time away to date some else
@@UnderworldTalesssSure, but it usually turns out that "taking a break fo figure out feelings" translates to "I want to bang someone else" in reality these days. Worse, there's a lot of social media, websites and magazines out there that specifically tell women to 'sort out their feelings' by "taking a break' and going to bang someone else to see if they really love their partner. Lots and lots and lots of it over the past 20-30 years.
This is why if your partner wants a break, you give them a break-up. The odds are overwhelmingly such that the 'break' is just to bang someone else and you just can't take the risk.
@@UnderworldTalesss If the break involves dating or hooking up with other people, it is not a break, it is breaking up.
This story is a perfect example of how a guy tries to take the high road and ends up the villain. The truth will set you free and it's not being petty for telling it. F them if they can't handle the truth.
Yeah, people like this will always take advantage of you give them to opportunity to control the narrative. It’s always better to tell the truth, and do it asap so you don’t get thrown under the bus. Manipulative people will manipulate, so don’t give them the space to do so.
Should have taken the ring back immediately when she asked this garbage.
" I know the truth " wth is even that
Newsflash, if you don't set things right and defend the truth, her lies becomes the truth
Exactly how hard is it to say this
Hate it when dudes do this. Don't let his control the story, ever. Scream wtf happened from the mountaintops if need be, because she _will_ spin, twist, and downplay whatever she needs to make herself look as good and the guy as bad as possible.
@@Ronarch2671 Men are sold a romantic version of the female nature by childhood, first by their mothers. Then forbid from ever questioning this "goddess". I admire men with a strong mind who can go against that but I don't blame many for losing to the gaslighting either.
Exactly sounds like a idiot.. smh
She's basically telling OP: you are my backup option and I don't love you.
Her audacity to say she was going to mess around with Dylan, but OP needed to sit around and think about their relationship is wild to me. She really thought too much of herself if she thought OP would let her F someone else then comeback like nothing happened. Now she can rot, knowing she threw away a good thing and she can stay with Dylan, who treats her like sh*t which she deserves.
Ironic how the person (man or woman) who cheats expects their partner to just forget about it and take them back with open arms. Or even better when they throw out the "i can't believe you're throwing us away" where was that sentiment when they were out getting their rocks off with an entirely different person?
Dude didnt stand up for himself at all. Blocked her. Whoa there big fella. Don't go nuts.
There wasn't anything to stand up to. He basically indirectly let everyone know he really doesn't care about their opinion and just kept living his life as though she didn't matter
Some people don't even need a reaction from them because they prove to be so insignificant in the grand scheme of your future
Why do we as men allow a narrative to spin up like that? In his group chat he should have told the real reason and paint her as the bad person like she really is.
I do not. Fortunately my wife hates crap like this even more than me and that’s saying something
This story at some parts had me turn Full Nigerian with the """Hey!!!!"""🙆🏾♂️🙆🏾♂️🙆🏾♂️🙆🏾♂️
i am nigerian
😂❤😂❤For Real!!!
As a Nigerian, I’m rolling on the floor with that one.
Lol, I shouted "Nawa"😂😂
Modern women choosing a Chad over a loving, caring man. They’re so allergic to accountability and then they freak out after the walking ATM closes after they treat them like crap.
Most of the stories posted here are fake ai generated.
Yeah that one Chad from her college was enough to throw away a future with a good husband. She isn't alone in this. Alpha widows are a thing.
Why even argue about this, take the ring, and tell her to live her life with her cheating ex
I would have taken back the ring the minute she asked for a break.
At least she was honest. Most women would disappear for a weekend under the pretense of seeing friends.
What make you so sure she did not already cheat on him? Maybe she wanted to take the next step with her ex. You can see from the story she has already texting him behind his back.
Need space = cheating
Not if the other person genuinely did something wrong, but if it comes out of the blue, then yeah. Most likely
Actually, this is THE reason why a large body count is a glaring red flag: nobody is perfect, and being in a relationship where your partner might entertain thoughts of "revisiting the past" with numerous former partners is nothing short of masochism.
How WEAK, you say ok but give me the ring back. End of Conversation FOR EVER! Even weaker was not TELLING EVERONE IMMEDIATELY. Only an idiot don't do that. I Love how he said he didn't say anything because he thought it was the mature thing when in reality it was because he was to WEAK!
some women act like them being loyal is a bonus, like there doing you a favour by being with you. this is why more and more men have stopped dating all together
“ADULTERY IS NEVER A MISTAKE. ADULTERY IS ALWAYS A PREMEDITATED ACT OF BETRAYAL!!!!”
This guy is pitiful. He could have just told the truth and be done with it, but no he seems to want the drama by keeping the information hidden while she crafted her lies.
To me, if someone is arguing with you, then out of nowhere decides to agree with you, you should be very careful about how you act. She messed up big time.
Good for the main character in just dumping her, but he really fucked up by not blasting out a group text/online post to everyone he could think of that she knew saying exactly why he dumped her. Never take the "high road" by letting them control the narrative; it never works out well.
She wasn't trying to figure out what she wanted. She was trying to figure out if her ex was going to want to be with her in the long run. She started having a fling with him but he wasn't sure if he wanted to stay with her so she was trying to buy time.
The hodacity😂
16:11 I've been through this and no, your ex wasn't thinking of you at all. She was thinking only about herself and she had been for some time if not the whole time.
It's funny how these stories are supposed to be "real", told by "real people". But they always have these over-the-top detailed book dialogues.
Yeah three things you should have said
1: give me the ring back
2: don't expect to come back to me if it goes wrong
3 if she comes back: I won't ever be with you ever again
Him: “You want to date your ex while we are still engaged?”
Her: “I need to find this out then I’ll come back. Meantime you can reflect on us while I’m gone.”
Him: “Sure, in the meantime I’ll date MY ex while you’re gone.”
Her: “Wait…….”
This is a great example of the "default setting" concept. The man she sees as highest value she used to have is what she wants.
Bro is just a chill guy
The entitlement to think someone will wait while you finish cheating on them and come back
OP shouldnhave told everyone that Tessa wanted a break to try out her ex. Instead, he turned soft and said it was mutual agreement. It wasnt a mutual agreement, it was her wanting her ex.
You can't have your cake and eat it!😂
OP should have liked the comment some people will throw away diamonds to chase stones and commented that he is happy she finally realized that chasing after her abusive boyfriend and giving up on OP was a mistake
Nope once you break up with me once, we are done for good.
bro dodged the whole ammunition depot of the US military.
NTA, if she wants a 'break' to test drive her ex, she can stay there 🚩
“So we don’t lose the progress we made” oh sweet irony 12:42
Should have told everyone the whole story about her and the break up. Clearing all doubt from her one sided sob story
If a woman asks for a break or an open relationship, you are either already in one and don't know it, or there is someone she wants to go sleep with and doesn't want to feel guilty about it. At that point it's time to move on. Don't be anybody's second option... Have some damn self-respect.
I would have told everyone exactly what she pulled and then blocked her. After taking back the ring of course.
I will try to be the bigger person UNTIL they make me out to be the villain. Once they do that i definitely am going to get petty as fuck 😂
Never let a woman destroy your name. Always tell the truth and let those that are important to you the whole story. She made you look really bad..
These guys never take control of the narrative. Not only do they cut themselves off from their support network, and they allow their reputations to be stained. Stupid.
Never be "classy" by staying quiet. Reveal your side of the narrative as quickly as possible.
😂 she asked for a break when you are in a relationship you don't tell the other person can you have a break don't be surprised when the other person make your break forever😢😂😂
terrible AI story where every action is designed to draw out the story longer.
The tears start only when the consequences became permanent
Lol HOW MANY GUYS HERE have had a Girl tell them "I'm Dating someone NOW, but if it DOESN'T WORK your next on deck"🤣. Literally had a girl in College tell me that.
Two things that we can learn from this is never give your significant other the belief that they can disrespect you and your relationship without repercussions or they will take advantage of you. The other thing to learn is to always control the narrative immediately. Never love anyone so much that you can't just walk away and make sure they know that.
I am faaaarrr too petty not to tell everyone making snide comments the exact reason why it was broken off/cancelled.
The way he handled it and didn't tell people what she did is the reason she played him like that in the first place. She knew he was soft and wouldn't do anything.
she had wedding blues women like that are not worth marrying the moment you start see actions like that you dump them instantly
Didn't I see this exact story just a couple of days ago? Why -- yes. Yes, I did. (Waste of time.)
Why not jut tell her NO…it’s over…why play along, just tell her..WE ARE DONE!!!…because she left thinking you are a SIMP, and that was a SIMP move by not telling her.
What a simp - he let Tessa walk all over him and sabotage his reputation.
That isn't what a simp is. A simp would still be with Tessa.
She's for the streets, NEXT!! If anyone in the relationship suggests a break as a self-respecting individual you should add the UP and just walk away. That's just an excuse to cheat without cheating.
There not married! Omg, he's so lucky! Dodged a bullet.
Well-played man! And good luck in the future. 😂
He gave her way too much room for bullshit...
Really? That's rich coming from her. Didn't she "throw away" her diamond of a fiance for a chance with her "rock" cheating ex boyfriend?
I don’t understand why he didn’t take his ring back before she left the house
If this idiot had just dumped her immediately, and told the truth, he would've controlled the narrative instead of running into the drama he got hit with.
I also want to say if anybody's ever in this situation please just tell everybody the fucking truth people in these stories need to stop this whole entire oh I'm just trying to be nice and simple bullshit
Dylan hasn't changed and I'm sure she only figured that out AFTER she slept with Dylan
Women entitlement and belief they are deserving of everything they want nowadays is appalling 😂😂😂😂
The result of feminism and their brainwashing
Cousin Mark would get the mind your own business talk
Exactly!
His
Mother is like his ex. Don’t trust her.
I would at least tell my mom the real story. I couldn't believe he wouldn't.
You can tell a story is fake when the writer focuses on small insignificant details. “Whats up? he asked me casually” like bro if youre writing a story about your revenge on your ex youre not stopping to describe the tone your friend used when saying “whats up” months ago
I'm not a "plan b". the only way you get to explore other relationships is to end this one. and if you even think you need to explore other relationships then you are not committed to this one.
I feel insulted that the cheating ex has thr same name as me 😢😢😢😢
i don't know if this story is real or made up but women do this stuff and they deserve to be single for it. that guy should have never argued back with her. he shoulda just gone along with it, let her leave, then ghost her after she left. what would he have done if he said "and what about what you owe me? we're engaged" and then she said "your right, sorry. I apologize this thinking is wrong" so what, now its all ok? so he would just progress with someone who is dreaming of the ex? thats why im sayin, he should have just let her talk and then ghosted her after she left.
You are absolutely WRONG about forgiveness my friend!!!! I hope one day you realize this!!!! You have to forgive everyone, eventually!!! If not it will eat at your soul and make you sick, unhappy, and meet an early death!!!!! Now I’m not saying yall can be friends & start talking again, but you can forgive her, move on, & never have to talk to her again!!!! I’m wrote this just in case sombody believes what you just said about you don’t have to forgive every body!!! This is wisdom….
Bro was lucky.
She was honest.
That honesty gave him options.
She could have kept it in the dark.
He could have been a victim like a lot of dudes.
Great poultritude👈🏿🫡
Woman "logic" 😂
This sounds like a person wrote it, but it's still fake. It's not: "i talked to her, and the conversation went this way, in summary," it's "i said this, and then this was her reply." That's not how memory realistically works.
Edit: nvm, it is ai, just better ai than these stories usually have. It was likely edited by whoever posted it beforehand to make it less repetitive. Good story, though, quite satisfying.
The journeys and logic of modern women
should have taken the ring back
So this idiot called off the wedding and didn't tell anyone that he did?
"So here’s the deal" ah. Fake story.
Why sell the house if its yours and its your name only on the deed. Just change the locks and get security motion cameras for your property. Why so passive instead of being masculine and simply tell her its over and we are done. Pack her things in boxes and put them at the front of the yard. Contact her and tell her to come and get your items from the yard. Dont answer the door and if she refuses to leave get law enforcement to do their job removing her from your property. Seems quite simple and straightforward to anyone with sense,self respect,backbone and a strong spine and dignity.
Sometimes it's good to get a complete new start. And with how this story went it sounded like OP bought the house since they were going to get married.
Honestly if I could relive an old relationship it would be my first g/f and I have no problem telling my wife that. I was a really stupid kid and I would undo some stupid decisions with my first g/f
He is so dumb. By keeping it to himself, he let her get the chance to tell lies.
He should have told the truth from beginning
Trading reality for fantasy is always dumb.
Why in the hell didn’t he get the ring back???
Es una situación muy complicada y dolorosa. Recuerda priorizar tu bienestar emocional y reflexionar sobre lo que realmente mereces en una relación. A veces, tomar distancia y pensar con claridad ayuda a tomar las mejores decisiones.
There it's a lesson to be learned here never deal with damage goods
Dude still act like a white knight to his ex fiancee lol no saving face should be.
All i can say in my Nigerian voice is ; nawa for women o😅😅😅
How is it so hard to make one post saying she cheated on me with her Ex and we are no longer together
I'd say she deserves whatever's coming. That future can be w another
Why are these people such pansies Tell how it is.She went off and cheated on me.I left her
X for doubt
I dunno, but if my boss had called, it would have been less of "are you ok" to "your ex has said some stuff you need to know about"
I hope OP got the ring back when she dumped that on him !!
I know this is a story but dude it made my blood boil...
I'm going to be perfectly on this year if you're going to marry somebody or be engaged to them understand that that means your loyalty has to be given to them 100% the same way that person has given their loyalty to you because of you pull the shit that the ex did in this story then yeah you're going to end up exactly like the x and not getting this person to stay waiting for you
Why play all these games? Tell her it's over and bounce.
Ticktock brain 🧠 the killer of all relationship's
Jan2025: There are many songs, stories, and folklore descibing how hard it can be for a woman to get her man to the alter.
The gal in this story foolishly walks out on her fiance' and her chance to be a bride. BF clears out before her inevitable attempt to return.
Retired in Sacto.
Ummm...YOU'RE making the dinner? Trust me, the woman doesn't love you know matter how good you are at cooking.