The Difficulties of Finding an Assistant as a Disabled Person (Disability Documentary) | Only Human
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- Опубликовано: 17 авг 2021
- Two-part documentary in which four young ambitious disabled people are cared for by unemployed people their own age. Josh's carer Francesca battles with Josh's crude humour.
In this two-part documentary, four young ambitious disabled people are cared for by unemployed people their own age.
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As a disabled person myself I totally understand that a PA is an important relationship, but these people portray wanting a best mate of even a significant other instead of a carer. Asking a PA if they would introduce you to their friends and/or drink with them is unnecessary, & frankly it crosses a line IMO.
I agree. This seems an odd approach to screening people who must be physically strong, smart, and well-trained. We have certificate training programs for " Nurse's Assistants" in the USA, which I think may be a comparable professional. I am shocked at this rather immature and amateur employment process. 😳
I agree - I don't think not providing a more complete description for the position in the advertisement is a great idea either. I
was a support worker for about 20 years, and even though having someone with similar interests, etc is wonderful, the person needs to have some kind of knowledge. It's not a great idea to be seeking someone based on the friendship factor. There needs to be some kind of boundary/ relationship of employer/ employee. I've seen situations in the past where that line blurred, and never ended well.
All people disabled or not have same needs. Medicalizing a human is wrong. The system forces you to be broke & helpless, isolated and institutionalized
Boundary crossed definitely
This doesn't cross a boundary in my opinion, I'm disabled and know my carers friends, family, have been to her sister's wedding, and we will drink together. It's someone you spend a huge amount of time with so theres no reason not to form that bond and become friends too. You might like your carers to be staff, but I think that is the difference between carer and PA. PA also helps with social activities, going to the gym, work, travelling etc.
Im a carer, my lady had a stroke 27yr ago, i do pretty much every thing for her. I love her so much. Taking care of julie is the most rewarding thing ive ever done. She is like a mother ive always wanted.
Going thru 50 people in a year tends to make me think it is not the carers…
@Finlay Mackenzie And he got mad at her because she was uncomfortable helping with his catheter when HE forgot to bring gloves. She'd been told NOT to do anything involving bodily fluids without gloves. And then pee splashed on her. I seriously felt bad for the poor girl!
Yea there seems to be a very diverse , incorrect perception of a Carer. Sad for the carers
I mean I got through 3 care agencies within 3 months yet once I moved aross the country to a good care agency I have been with the same one for 8 years so not necessarily however I am typing this at the start of this vid soooo I may change my mind after watching lol
@@tuesdaypatience I was thinking the same thing however, I do want to say that urine itself is sterilized out of the body. There's no harm in it however, you're an option contains other bodily fluid and small amount that can be dangerous or infectious. The cares are often told gloves no matter what it's rather be safe than sorry
I am a disabled man and I have been looking for a escort. I explained my situation but she didn't get back to me. Business must be too good! Oh well. Maybe I need to find a specialist "carer."
Your carer is your emplyee and should not be your friend . Professionalism can be less effective and your life can be put in danger .
But it's good if u can be friends as well u just need boundaries
@@Bebedollie Agreed : good communication and human contact is a must to make everyone feel confortable ( especially in more intimate moments : WC, bath/shower etc. ) but to go out at night and drink with your carer is out of these boundaries
Agreed! Care givers and clients need to be VERY careful with boundaries. They should also be better trained and paid. (Been there, done that.)
Cute funny...get it, josh!
Just like "dating" !?
When I was in the hospital for three months, due to a major stroke that left me paralyzed, one of the daily carers was a young woman around 18 or 19 years old; a nurse trainee. She fed me, dressed me, brushed my teeth, washed my private bits - no complaining, no comments, she was pure gold and we had a laugh :-) My point is, to become a PA to a disabled person, one will need at least basic information concerning the disability the employer has. Nothing should come as a surprise when one seeks employment as a PA.
I hope you're doing much better 💖
@@Rachelllllll2024 Thank you! Still paralyzed in my left side, but getting by with help from my family and services. Unfortunately no longer able to work :(
This!
They really should have focused more on hiring PAs with ACTUAL experience instead of surprising them with such a large task that they are way under qualified for smh
Bit of a damning indictment on that guys "match making" service isn't it? That A) they interviewed woefully unprepared people and B) of the applied, the agent urged the client to pick the pretty woman.
Idk it just all sits wrong with me. The potential for someone to be abused is way too high.
Some of the best PA's have zero to little experience.
That can be true, but they're asking people who have no experience with even getting up early, cooking OR cleaning to completely be the hands & feet for individuals who need them to survive. I'll bet some of these people need medication & that takes specialized training, not "let's not tell these folks that their employers have special needs & see how they get on". In the real world it would be irresponsible & even dangerous
This is entertainment before anything else! Producers knew what they were doing
I think the girl did not have enough training and support for the personal care one days training was not enough for her to be confident it wasn't her fault she had never done very personal care before
I'm flabbergasted that the PA's are not required to take a course in "how to preform personal care", at the very least.
For a greenhorn this is a terrible shock to the system. No wonder there is such a turnaround. To have some knowledge about medical issues etc. would be tremendously helpful too. In the US this is about a six week course if I remember right.
Different countries, different rules I guess.
Here in Australia, technically you don't need a "qualification." However, you must be trained in how to do everything. We have certificates in disability services and community services...
Scarily even those employed by care agencies are not definitely going to have had training. With one of the care agencies I used for a short time one of them actually admitted to me that at her interview for the care agency she had told them she had no experience, no qualifications & no training & they told her they would provide training, several years later they had provided no training! The care agency I use now thankfully have new carers go out with experienced carers for a couple of weeks to learn what to do & to be introduced to the clients & they frequently do training sessions, new carers are actually not allowed to use hoists for example until they have had the relevant training so until then the new carer would not be sent to someone who needs hoisting
I don't think being a carer is easy for a lot of young people. They don't have the life experience to deal with some of these issues. After you have a child or two, there are bodily functions that you just learn to deal with. Toilet humor be damned, lol! Being a young woman, and having to clear a male contemporaries bowels, can be pretty daunting to say the least. They need more training, not to just be thrown in the deep end, and say 'swim'.
Carers are such very special people, I wish I had it in me to do this but I just don't. Shame on Francesca for asking Josh's father how much toilet care he would need, why not ask Josh?
Francisca is so entitled. She’s supposed to help but she’s worried about her bedtime rather than helping josh.
The important thing is for them to be honest & trustworthy. I have had so much stolen from me. Including irreplacable things that were not worth money but were just taken in order to hurt me. I have also been intentionally poisoned. There seriously needs to be a process to eliminate care workers who have Narcisissistic Personality Disorder. There certainly needs to be a register including anyone working in someone elses home, particularly if the person is vulnerable. There are care-workers who have Narcisissistic Personality Disorder, who work mainly with elderly people because they can get away with murder literally. Even if elderly people die suddenly, there is often no autopsy.
I m sorry you encountered such evil people:(
@@lisadempsey9259 Thankyou it has all harmed my health.
I wish they had something like that in the US where you can match a disabled person with a personal care assistant.
Yeah i was thinking that for Australia too
What like, free health care for the physically or mentally unwell?
Haha, they're so stupid they call it socalisim/communism and leave war veterans to die of starvation with no legs on the streets.
@@DeathCrunch-pl7mq Be wary. Our country is heading the same way with the current staff shortages of everyone being booted back to europe (thanks brexit). Itll be virgin care in the uk by 2030.
Disabled people are extremely picky and run through carers by being petty tyrants
@@maryshaffer8474 well I am disabled (was born disabled) and am not picky and I'm actually very kind sometimes too nice for my own good. But I will say after living and and being around people with different types of disabilities what you said can be true for some people.
Will you, Only Human, pretty please, upload part 2? Thank you🙂
I second this ! I want to watch part 2 but can’t find it anywhere 🥺
@@lucyii part 2 has been uploaded.
I can’t find part 2? Please can someone post the link please? Thank you 🙏🏼
It's a disgrace she was not properly trained the fact she couldn't do toiletry must be very upsetting for him and breaking down and crying about it shows the lack of training she had. It is very dangerous and a disgrace that caring in England have so little training.
This humbles me. Thank you for sharing.
He was thinking with wrong head 😂😂
You need to feel comfortable with your carer and have a laugh but also they must get to know you as a person and be professional at the same time you depend on them it’s nice when you look forward to them coming if you feel comfortable with them it makes things a lot easier am lucky my carer is wonderful I had her for many years she went over her duties to look after me she is a angel 😇
I don't think anything would be good enough for Rupee. I used to be a home help, I supported a man just like this total nightmare. Now i am disabled myself and go out of my way to be the opposite, of entitled and awkward and I am in chronic pain, it us not the other person's fault that life has kicked us on the teeth.
These people that live with there disabilities I applaud them, to be that strong, I live with chronic migraines and I can’t imagine what you must go through
50 assistants in a 1 1/2.... I don’t think they’re the problem
It's good to see Josh has a sense of humour
I have autism and now trying to find the right carer. Since 2014 I've had 25 carers and only about 5 have been really good. The company unfortunately isn't good to their employees so these carers have now left. The carer I have now is just mediocre.
Sorry to hear about your situation . Your communicative skills are brillant reading this comment and communication is a key between you and your employee.
@@joannasliwa8147 Thank you. I have 'normal' intelligence but really struggle socially. The only friends I have are online as typing is a lot easier than talking. I also still live with my dad. I'm 30 years old.
I have a friend that never finds the right carers too.
@@Kinky_Oreo well if you’re up for any more friends I would to be your friend as well, im a 22 yo female from South Carolina, I’ll be more then happy to give you my sc you can never have enough people to talk to
@@Kinky_Oreo I’m not autistic but I do struggle to find friends online and in person probably not the same struggle as you but I would still like to be your friend
Only Human,I am very empress with these videos.Please make some more episodes.
this is why you don't hire just anyone as a carer
Jasmine has a muscular disorder and can do a beautiful winged liner... I'm completely able bodied and can't even do that.
Please upload part 2! Please! Please! Please!
cant wait for the next episode x
Finally some new docs
Josh is my hero, he’s funny.
I learned a lot by watching this. Great Story
Am a T4 complete residing in South Africa......fully comprehend the innumerable challenges..unfortunately the Government does not offer a caregiver or financial assistance of any sort...
Brilliant 🤩 highlighting the importance of the personal assistant/ support worker having similar interests and hobbies ! Outstanding holistic care … promoting empowerment 💯🙌 ! Well done on showing dignity and respect throughout 👌💯 ! We are all unique individuals x 👏👏👏look forward to part 2
I am disabled, and have used Direct Payments for care. There are some videos on my channel about that experience. These days I just bump along using PIP for my needs, because of being a disabled PARENT the Council just kept assessing my parenting ability and giving me grief, so I came pretty near to having my child removed into care - even though that is why I went to GET THE CARE, so I would be the best parent possible and be able to do that without exhausting myself. So this type of situation is just beyond a dream for me. That said, I employed cleaners for a long time, and they were dreadful. I fired so so many. There were some who assumed I wanted them mainly for friendship and they would talk to me, which was embarrassing because I just wanted them to cleaning the effing house. Others stole from me. Others I caught on CCTV rifling through my paperwork. They made assumptions if they saw me walking (I use a scooter most of the time, but I can walk a bit). They didn't understand autoimmune illness at all. A massive joke really.
You have reminded me of an elderly lady.
She had care workers from Social Services.
We met in the park when we both had dogs and kept in touch.
I used to get so angry.
They listened to our conversations and hardly did a thing.
This lady was almost housebound and one told her to get a dog.
I said how can she take a dog out 3 times a day in all weathers, 365 days a year.
She said it would be company. Idiot!
It was her GP who told me he wasn't happy and was going to complain.
She thought it was me and I never told her that I had met her GP in the street. Maybe I should have but I cut off contact.
Words cannot be taken back.
Josh is awesome !
Shannon S points out that they are looking for the wrong kind of person. I can't disagree, there are loads of carers in the UK, so these "disabled" need to be honest with themselves that they don't need a soulmate or a lover, they need a carer and there is no way of putting it that doesn't sound harsh, Get a grip, you are looking for eye candy instead of someone to assist you. Grrrrrrrrrrrr!
Locked 🔐 in to one of my favorite documentaries wishing them all the best sending love from sweet 🌞 saint lucia 🇱🇨 hope everyone has a blessed day
This was a very very interesting programme
This is an amazing concept. Here in the US, I have worked for an agency providing services to people with handicaps, but it is not anything as immersive as this. I would love to work in such a setting!
Disabilities not handicaps.
I would love to be a carer but my back couldn't do the lifting and bending
Hi y'all my name is tenny,live in Kenya and I would love to help I truly have a great passion for helping and making the disabled appreciated and enjoy life
This program was made in 2015.
Very interesting
Pls show us a update on how they are now with their carers
Josh's carer is only about 20 years old she seems like someone who's about 47 years old. There are good things about that. She seems mature and responsible and competent.
I would been hellish at this lol so good to watch I've done 8 years in challenging behaviour unit and nearly 2 years in mental health unit but this would be amazing just working with 1 person x
”More brain damage”😂
PAs are there to provide care, not help you get laid. One day I'll need one. It's not fair to impose bar hopping or other non related demands. It blurs the lines too much.
Michael is a catch, hes handsome, kind, successful, and has a great personality. 💚
...you wouldn't date him if he asked you out, so zip your virtue signaling.
@@JuliusCaesar888 I would, 100%. He's really hardworking and good looking!
So where is part 2
Notice they picked all the birds for the jobs 😂
women are better carers
@@Myview246 not these women.
That's because these morons think the girls are gonna fap them off out of sympathy or maybe even consider it a part of the health care.
I would like to see more of these people, please!!! How does is work with Jasmine and Emily now and did. the two young men find a PA that matches?
Michaels carer should have had someone there to help make sure everything was ok for first session or couple of to keep everyone safe
These people should be great full that they have access to care givers so many countries your left to your own devices
The pa should have basic carer training and also first aid training. They should have emergency evacuation training if the need arises like and basic fire fighting training. These courses should be the basics imo.
I used to look after a boy that can't walk or talk and he would smile when he saw me
It's not the age of the carer that's counts it's how good they are to you and have a sense of humour. Also rule one your personal life is your own. Of course a carer will chat about their family and sometimes a carer will maybe bring the Client on a day out with their family but that is the carer choice and depending who's employing the carer they may need their permission eg NHS
Where's part 2
This vas completely TERRIBLE 😢 shocking, unfortunate, unpleasant to watch, asking a PA to do things without proper training.
So inadequate to ask “to be introduced to your friends and drink with them…” or not having gloves to intimate help.. Look like they want “a very close friendship or personal or sexual relationship”. So uncomfortable situations, like, drinking til you can’t walk! 😣
I live in Ireland and to be a carer in Ireland you have to do a one year collage course.
Also does the cleaning crew in the building have gloves? Why couldn’t they find a custodian and ask for some. You cannot ask her to do this without gloves.
Well urine is sterile so it’s not going to hurt you. It’s just a bit gross but you get used to it, especially if you have children. As a nurses aide I’ve had worse than urine on my hands, I assure you. You just wash your hands really well and move on.
Yes that's not fair at all
By the time they realised it was too late to do anything else.
That ad is very misleading, they are not looking for a assistent, they are looking for a carer. A assistent gets you coffee, a carer whipes your but. No wonder this went so poorly if you start out with a lie.
So how much do the government pay these carers per hourly wage? Is it a 24hr 7 days a week pay? Or is it from when the employer wakes up to when they go to bed?
America about 12 an hour and generally only 8 hours per day.
The pay and hours vary greatly depending on the funding provider and the needs of the individuals receiving the care.
Wow John Lennon from the beatles has very let himself go 9:20
Josh is cute. Id date him. Great personality.
Russel needs a haircut he looks like Prince Valent.
i am your 500th like :)
Poor girl....she wants to do it but she's scared she's Gann hurt him
I'm a personal care assistant. I take care of clients with Altimers Dementia. I do respite care for disabled childern so there moms can have a break. How ever I'm not a nurse so it's all non medical care provided.
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Oh hello Tommy I'm after a pa right now I'll hire you 🥰
A carer cannot be a friend and vice versa! It’s impossible.
Omg
Michele is so handsome
They need something like this in America. They have something like it but not really.
i was a perfect fit before my stroke gee i am sorry
Tommy is the one for Josh
A carer with no experience? No thank you
I think sometimes having no experience but being 100% willing to learn and be committed to it can be fantastic too though
@@JoJo-hg7tg It could also lead to harm to the person being cared for.
I was a CNA but some of these things they are asking are things I wasn’t allowed to do with a certification, it required a nurse! This is even more intimate and I couldn’t imagine having to do all this on my first day ever.
I think the issue can also be that many of the men feel the female carers are replacement GFs.
Why isn’t she wearing Gloves?
'😭I cant physically do it😭'
No love, he *literally* can't physically do it. You're just being a crybaby.
However...why aren't there gloves in his offices disabled toilet, knowing the extent of his disabilities?
Starting to think maybe some kind of professional qualification or experience is beneficial here.
Agreed .
It was very selfish of her to do that she put him in a very uncomfortable situation and he was still comforting her, she should have never signed up for something that she couldn’t do.
The fact that she got hired at all is disturbing, like.. the agencies are THAT desperate?
@@lydiaj7492 I agree, these people are desperate for work and they were not aware for what exactly they were interviewed for...you need people with experience of taking care of disabled people, or at least a much more matured person who really doesn't mind doing such personal duties...or else everyone involved will just be unhappy.
francesca is just the worst
Please like girl please… Michael is looking for a partner god bless him too.
I have a feeling that Denny Lee can’t get past the toileting issues because she is attracted to him. He’s just too cute for her and she would probably rather date him. I mean I would so lol
I think she’s just a princess.
I think she's just squeemish.
I think she’s just young. Probably too young to be doing that kind of work. After she’s grown and married with a couple of children she won’t even notice a bit of urine on her hands. And besides urine is sterile so it’s not gonna hurt you. Just wash your hands really well and move on. I don’t think it was a good idea to just throw these young people into the deep end and tell them to sink or swim. Some training should be given.
Hi my name is Jeffery from Blackpool I live in a tent in the back of a van and struggling but I'm still not going to give up as long as my body will this documentary was up sum lifting in 1999 I was crushed in a accident and left paralysed and to lie in bed and say to your legs it's time to go to the toilet and your legs laf at you lookely throo dideminashon I got out of my wheelchair and have learnt lots of things that or rong with the ceres and sum things that are good I'd love to helps people be happy sorry for my spelling iv lernt a lot about life
these people sucked i would have got in there and gave it a real go
Russell's hairstyle isn't doing him any favours. I thought he was a very unattractive woman at first glance
What does that have anything to do with the guy?
@@JoJo-hg7tg nothing. Just an observation. In other words a "comment"
@@antzpantzz8490 don’t worry I thought the same thing. 🤣🤣🤣
Has Jasmine got an instAgram? She’s so pretty
Does Jasmine ever take her eyelashes and face paint off?
No she is born with it on, though those lashes are real👌. Jealous much?
Maybe because she's being filmed and she wants to look her best or she simply enjoys makeup . Personally I need to wear a bit of perfume even to throw a garbage bag down my building .
He shouldn't of been drinking with a disability not good
WHY NOT - that's discrimination
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