There’s men that are ready. You just have to present yourself in a way that lets them know that you’re ready for something serious too. And stay away from men that look good on paper but aren’t worth the time of day. The man you want could be right there but he’s not going to approach you if you don’t look like you’re available.
I don’t think this takes into account that a vast amount of men these days only want casual encounters and hookups. We can look available all day and night but sometimes it’s the current culture. Even on the dating apps, once I filter out the guys who selected “looking for a relationship”, 80% of my matches disappear (and yes I am fully clothed in all my pictures with honest and playful answers). Then there have been several times where I’ve gone on dates with the “relationship crowd” just to be hounded for sex by the end of date 1. I haven’t had a single instance where the guy didn’t expect sex by date 3 (transactional much?) Even offline… nothing but hookup artist after hookup artist. The few normal men there are are 1) HIGHLY undesirable or 2) too afraid to approach so they stare from afar then look away when I make eye contact lol. So my only 4 choices are to entertain hookup artists 👎 Choose any of the men I have very little desire in (poor hygiene, socially awkward, broke/uneducated, no life outside of anime) 👎 Approach the decent men myself and ask them out because they’re too awkward to do so 👎 Be single 😂
@@TheShumakeWay why is it always the woman's fault? No disrespect but I'm tired of people blaming women for being single. We as women can do our part, but men also have to do there part as well. It's not about looking available. Its not enough men who are “ready” that's why modern dating is a problem.
@@breannn My point is this… A lot of women and men want to be in healthy committed relationships. The problem is that as you said hook up culture and a host of other factors are muddying the waters and good men and women get swept up in them. So the best strategy for a good man or woman that wants love is to build themselves up and and date with intentions. Become your best self then get good a judging character and as soon as you sniff out a “no good man” get rid of him quick. Why? Because you don’t want to waste your time and also you don’t want to be tied to the no good man when a good man comes along. Good men are afraid of the same thing you’re afraid of. Getting hurt! So if he comes along and figures out that you’re entertaining this one and that one or you’re hung up on a toxic ex he’s going to fall back.
I’m what’s consider attractive according to them and I stop dating in 2019 cause I just got tired of this begging for 🐱 from day 1-7 and these where the so call educated successful folks I find it very disrespectful and crazy
What messed up the dating lifestyle is premarital sex. When society started making it seem ok to have sex before marriage that opened up the gate for people to feel that they don't have to be in a serious relationship or married to be intimate with a person. That's why a lot of women find themselves in situation-ships or end up becoming a long-term girlfriend instead of a wife.
But not everybody believe in marriage. Not all women do. And marriage isn't the only means of obtaining monogamy and true companion and partnership. And then you gotta look at all the horror going on in actual marriages. Marriage isn't what it's cracked up to be, and precisely why a lot of women don't want to go there. I know that I grew up seeing horrific marriages in my family, neighborhood, and all around me up close. Women going thru nothing but bs with men whether married or not. And why I didn't want that for me when I grow up. Living a life of horror just to fulfill a belief in marriage. Later for that. Marriage is no better than the singles scene and just as dangerous for the wife.
You right. I bet if every woman on the planet told men that we will not have sex before marriage. Then we would all be wives. If God made a man drop dead for committing adultery. Then men would be faithful and the divorce rate would be low.
Some people don't like being alone so they date for company, not because that is the person they truly want to be with. We have to get back to finding ourselves, by ourselves, before we attach ourselves to people. Get to know people and through that get to know yourself and then you get a better idea of what you want out of life
lol I feel you but just remember that you control your reality. God is with us but we each have to make the correct moves in order to have the results we want.
Honestly the way you always talk about how much you admire how smart your wife is, honestly motivates me to do my best to be the best version I can be for a man someday
@@goldenlioness868 yes for myself. However I know I want a family and I want my future husband and children to be proud of me. Obviously not in a boastful way, but to be able to look at me and know that “if mommy did it, so can I” and it’s not just about me. It’s about serving people in the way that Jesus wants us too
I feel as though social media has ruined the concept of dating also. People have this false perception of what they think love is supposed to be and black content creators glamorizing the toxic Jody and evett love. It also made people feel as though they have so many options of people to choose from so they don't care about losing anyone or fighting for their partner.
Excellent video bro and i totally agree. Keep speaking life on this channel. The world is too dark right now. We gon keep telling the good truth as men having good relationships and loving marriages.
I used to be very fearful of Judgement. Realistically, It took me 5 years to heal from my past relationship from 2015. I have an 8 year old from the relationship. I am so grateful to have had that time to reflect on myself, wrong doings, poor choices, trauma all of that. I can honestly say, I am a completely different person than I was during that course 19-23yrs old. I am Single and focusing on motherhood to my 8yr old and doing my absolute best to maintain my sanity in this challenging world full of people everyday
Welcome Back Shumake, you were missed .I pray that your household have a speedy recovery in Jesus Christ’s name . You’re like my wise brother on RUclips. Infact you’re my favourite RUclips content provider. Nowadays discernment is vital and Real recognise real . Respect and support from a 🇯🇲’n living in London 🇬🇧
I’m so glad you’re back. Great talk today. On a side note-you should get your home checked for black mold, sometimes that is an actual cause of bronchitis bc it’s unusual for you and the entire fam to catch it like that. ❤
discovered your channel recently and you are speaking the truth. As a father and husband , you definately hittin on a lot of facts. There is no one solution to having a healthy relationship. Keep on motivativing and spreading your perspective. Our young brothers need it. also just subscribed
I wish they had religion and home ec in school when i was growing up. You never know which child will have a real interest in the Word regardless of their family background or belief.
All facts!!!! I always say people don’t know who they really are until they become a committed parent or spouse. I appreciate the wisdom the Lord has given Shumake.
Blessings to y’all. But definitely get your home checked out for anything because that’s weird how your entire family ended up with the same exact sickness.🙏🏾
Hello Hi Shumake I need to heal. I married my first husband at 19, we had 2 girls. He got 17 years in the feds, I stayed married to him 9 years. I divorced him and married another man 72 days later. That marriage lasted 9 months, that's also my son dad. I been in relationships after relationship, marriage after marriage. Can you talk about the healing journey because it's so I'm important before moving on.
this video really helped along with a couple of your other ones that have similar meanings. I have had a huge issue in relationships lately but its true what you say, if your relationship with God isn’t all too great then God will teach you a lesson till you finally listen. Till he finally says “are your eyes finally seeing” and that was the hardest pill to swallow for I been trying for years without proper guidance from my father. The new age of social media did do a number on my mind, from overthinking to jealousy, to being a person I don’t want to be. What GOD wants me to be. So thank you for inspiring me to open the good book, I been reading only 2 days but I can’t wait to read more. I deleted instagram and twitter and now when I have urges to fall for the same temptation I once put myself in, I instead will open the book and read to nourish my mind. Thank you for speaking up to the ones who only want to see us fall.
There was this red pill podcaster who told men to stay away from single mother's and stay away from strippers and stay away from women over 27 years old and he was exposed for marrying a 50 year old single mother who was a stripper 😂
I am so scared of dating these days, i came across a couple that scared me straight so i really not looking but at lease i would like a friend, someone to laugh and talk with, i hope you say what you mean and is telling the truth about helping others
I’m 21 and been single since birth. No kiss, boyfriend, cuddles, or handholding. My parents who’ve been married for 20+ years were old school and raised me in a traditional household. I feel like it’s nothing but fucking crazies out here. Like regular folks have just gone extinct. I feel like dating is like playing a video game. Nobody really wants to genuinely meet up for coffee and see if there’s a connection there. It’s all about being a fashion nova model and men want fuck doll maids for free, not a life partner. I’ve been done with dating apps for a year and I feel much better. Also my connection with guys has improved. I don’t have a boyfriend yet but it’s fun hanging out with guys and just having fun in friend groups. Hopefully something beautiful comes out of that :/ But at this point I just wanna get a pet cat and travel. It’s scary out here. People also have unrealistic expectations. They don’t want a real partnership, many people are chasing something that doesn’t exist.
I feel like that’s what messed me up, can’t expect others to understand cus they won’t. I felt like I was going crazy because this isn’t love ppl are taken advantage of ppl it’s sad and irritating
@@VettaBoop Then I have really bad luck.. Because I go for all different kinds of women.. One was Canadian, one Turkish, one from Venezuela, one local, and one 100 miles away.. All having very similar outcomes.. I'm beginning to think I'm the problem.. but then I have female friends and they are like nope.. just horrible luck, "you havent done much wrong. Sure you arent perfect but not to the extent onto which you are treated such as" I would even be open to knowing you. Doesnt matter where I met someone, maybe it is just HORRIBLE luck. or.. it could be our society in general that is more about what I can take than what I can give?.
@@xFersureMatt I'm sorry to hear that, Matt. Unfortunately, we're at a point in history where women are becoming worse than men in some areas. It's really bizarre to see in real time. It's like they're trying to get you guys back or something. I hope you find someone worth your time. 💜
@@VettaBoop Thank you for having empathy. Yeah.. its really sad... and theres nothing I can do but keep trying, which if the past is anything like the future.. continue to keep being cheated on, abandoned, and replaced. It really destroy's my confidence and self worth after each attempt. Which.. in turn makes me come across as even less attractive to the next women. it is what it is i guess.
@@xFersureMatt I was in the same cycle as you were until about October. I just decided to leave him and love myself first. The problem is that I don't fully love myself, I've never known how, I just know how to love others. I think people like us have something that others can see and, unfortunately, some of them take advantage of it. I'm just at a point where I don't have anything else to give. But yes, as you've stated, it is what it is. Life sucks sometimes 🥺
I have some more issues about soul ties about a woman. It’s a very a struggle the date pool and I don’t know whether to do but I went to a therapist yesterday and I was feeling a little bit. Alone but I’m not alone I feel single. And I will stay single.
I’m a Christian and I’m not ready to date but when I am ready to date how do I find and date other Christian men who are also celibate and how would I go about dating as a Christian?
I would say go where the Christian men are. Church for one and there’s also different types of Christian events around the country. Also when you are ready, as a matter of fact even before you’re ready just stay in prayer, use discernment, and stay out of sin. Other than that I would say that it’s going to be very important that you make the most out of your single season. Invest in yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. You want to be whole before you meet Mr. Right. I hope this helps.
What we fail to understand is that saying: United we stand, divided we fall. Our community doesn’t understand that they (society) are keeping black folks apart. people dont realize by arguing in you tube, nothing is getting accomplished in our commuties
We need to ruuunnnn to the Lord Almighty. We need to surrender and repent to the Lord and turn from our wicked ways and then He will heal our land, our lives our minds and our hearts.
People change!! Exactlyyyy..hence why you hear..we just grew apart!! One person might be elevating while the other stays at the same level and isn't looking to elevate,cause they think they are fine where they are at!! So many reasons ppl split up..that choose better has no depth..it just sounds like something to say
The problem with dating is males have abandoned their roles as fathers for so long, that the new generations of males are underdeveloped in large numbers. From lack of personality, hygiene, common courtesy, self awareness or just plain effeminate. Their underdevelopment puts sensible women in a "teachers" position, that's not worth the headache and betrayal she'll receive if she helps him develop.
Keep in mind how many bm are comfortable living off women (grandma, mom, sister, gf, etc) and lack the basics responsibilities. How many are not even in the work force? How many don't have a code of conduct? How many are proud of not having good character and promote using women(online, music,tv,etc)?
I always said this and I believe this Society have us all screwed up that's why the dating and everything is so messed up I don't even know about ever date I don't think it's worth it anymore not the way things are
The first committed relationship people should have is with God and Self. If they do not have those foundations, the rest is destined to fail. Too many submitted to society’s standards and the validation of others. It’s definitely a challenge but it’s worth it to experience and actually LIVE the true value of life. Not just Survive. Many will have to shake off the toxic residue of the past and not be afraid to have those seasons alone. I truly enjoy being in my own company. The outside world is chaotic enough.
I disagree with using religion, because religion creates rebellion. A relationship with god is a relationship with yourself that’s why it’s hard for ppl to mediate and heal because nobody wants to take accountability of their actions. They use it as an excuse to do what they wanna do and they need judgment so they can change. I’ve been to a catholic school and it was still bad kids. God has became an excuse for a lack of knowledge and discipline we as the ppl should be teaching common sense not asking “god” or blaming a devil it’s them it’ll always be them until they wanna change. Those who don’t will be left behind atp go where you are welcomed or a space you know you’ll be accepted.
I couldn’t possibly disagree with you more! A relationship with God is not a relationship with yourself. Religion causes rebellion from “the world”. Which is the best thing that could happen to a person, because the world is wicked. The reason people can’t heal is because they’re relying on their own strength and the flesh is weak. But when you live for God and when you learn that Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life, and you submit to the father’s will your life changes because you change. You change on the inside first and then those changes begin to show on the outside. Your decision making skills change, the people you’re comfortable around change, the things that are important to you change. Everything changes! You find peace within. You find purpose. You find self love. You find everything that TRULY matters when you submit to God. The only thing I don’t like about religion and the role it plays in my life is that I didn’t seek God sooner. I hope that you one day get to experience this feeling for yourself. God is real. He loves you and he wants a relationship with you. He wants to make you brand new. I believe that 100%.
Those victims of circumstances your grifting to is the minority of single mothers. What your saying isn't the truth in most cases via men vs women. There are way more of us never married, no kids, having men out here but we get overlooked by majority of modern women because of lack of excitement. From my experience with all modern women I've dated. Women vet their eyebrow technicians better than they do their children's fathers. And good men suffer. I'm sure the victims of circumstance women suffer as well. But the numbers are lop sided when it comes to those women compared to just bad women in general. Less than a quarter of the male black population have all the children. While 75 percent of women decided to have children with 25 percent of black men.
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Hookup culture has ruined dating. I’ve come across single men all the time that aren’t looking for nothing serious.
There’s men that are ready. You just have to present yourself in a way that lets them know that you’re ready for something serious too. And stay away from men that look good on paper but aren’t worth the time of day. The man you want could be right there but he’s not going to approach you if you don’t look like you’re available.
I don’t think this takes into account that a vast amount of men these days only want casual encounters and hookups. We can look available all day and night but sometimes it’s the current culture. Even on the dating apps, once I filter out the guys who selected “looking for a relationship”, 80% of my matches disappear (and yes I am fully clothed in all my pictures with honest and playful answers). Then there have been several times where I’ve gone on dates with the “relationship crowd” just to be hounded for sex by the end of date 1. I haven’t had a single instance where the guy didn’t expect sex by date 3 (transactional much?)
Even offline… nothing but hookup artist after hookup artist. The few normal men there are are 1) HIGHLY undesirable or 2) too afraid to approach so they stare from afar then look away when I make eye contact lol.
So my only 4 choices are to
entertain hookup artists 👎
Choose any of the men I have very little desire in (poor hygiene, socially awkward, broke/uneducated, no life outside of anime) 👎
Approach the decent men myself and ask them out because they’re too awkward to do so 👎
Be single 😂
@@TheShumakeWay why is it always the woman's fault? No disrespect but I'm tired of people blaming women for being single. We as women can do our part, but men also have to do there part as well. It's not about looking available. Its not enough men who are “ready” that's why modern dating is a problem.
@@breannn My point is this… A lot of women and men want to be in healthy committed relationships. The problem is that as you said hook up culture and a host of other factors are muddying the waters and good men and women get swept up in them. So the best strategy for a good man or woman that wants love is to build themselves up and and date with intentions. Become your best self then get good a judging character and as soon as you sniff out a “no good man” get rid of him quick. Why? Because you don’t want to waste your time and also you don’t want to be tied to the no good man when a good man comes along. Good men are afraid of the same thing you’re afraid of. Getting hurt! So if he comes along and figures out that you’re entertaining this one and that one or you’re hung up on a toxic ex he’s going to fall back.
I’m what’s consider attractive according to them and I stop dating in 2019 cause I just got tired of this begging for 🐱 from day 1-7 and these where the so call educated successful folks I find it very disrespectful and crazy
What messed up the dating lifestyle is premarital sex. When society started making it seem ok to have sex before marriage that opened up the gate for people to feel that they don't have to be in a serious relationship or married to be intimate with a person. That's why a lot of women find themselves in situation-ships or end up becoming a long-term girlfriend instead of a wife.
But not everybody believe in marriage. Not all women do. And marriage isn't the only means of obtaining monogamy and true companion and partnership. And then you gotta look at all the horror going on in actual marriages. Marriage isn't what it's cracked up to be, and precisely why a lot of women don't want to go there. I know that I grew up seeing horrific marriages in my family, neighborhood, and all around me up close. Women going thru nothing but bs with men whether married or not. And why I didn't want that for me when I grow up. Living a life of horror just to fulfill a belief in marriage. Later for that. Marriage is no better than the singles scene and just as dangerous for the wife.
@Bee Happy TV You can say the same thing about boyfriend and girlfriend relationships. If you're that afraid just stay single
@@purplelove010 I already said married or not. Which is saying the same for dating. And if you’re determined to suffer to be married then get married.
Yup. Close your legs, and watch how he switches up
You right. I bet if every woman on the planet told men that we will not have sex before marriage. Then we would all be wives. If God made a man drop dead for committing adultery. Then men would be faithful and the divorce rate would be low.
Some people don't like being alone so they date for company, not because that is the person they truly want to be with. We have to get back to finding ourselves, by ourselves, before we attach ourselves to people. Get to know people and through that get to know yourself and then you get a better idea of what you want out of life
Dating is just terrible now because everything is too easy. It’s no morals no nothing! 🤷🏾♀️ I just want to move to a planet by myself 😂 nobody else.
lol I feel you but just remember that you control your reality. God is with us but we each have to make the correct moves in order to have the results we want.
Relationships are about to be a thing of the past. Signs of the times. 😢
Honestly the way you always talk about how much you admire how smart your wife is, honestly motivates me to do my best to be the best version I can be for a man someday
For a man? Not for yourself?
@@goldenlioness868 yes for myself. However I know I want a family and I want my future husband and children to be proud of me. Obviously not in a boastful way, but to be able to look at me and know that “if mommy did it, so can I” and it’s not just about me. It’s about serving people in the way that Jesus wants us too
Thanks brother…it’s 2023 everybody need to be in therapy…the therapists need to have a therapist…real talk
Feel better my brother, keep exposing the lies!
I feel as though social media has ruined the concept of dating also. People have this false perception of what they think love is supposed to be and black content creators glamorizing the toxic Jody and evett love. It also made people feel as though they have so many options of people to choose from so they don't care about losing anyone or fighting for their partner.
I always appreciate your voice in this space. A healthy, married, black man 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
“Everything that’s separating us is from the devil” AMEN!! We have to unite because division only helps us be destroyed
I pray that your family gets better and better!!! God got you 🙏🙏🙏💯💯💯
Thank you
Excellent video bro and i totally agree. Keep speaking life on this channel. The world is too dark right now. We gon keep telling the good truth as men having good relationships and loving marriages.
I used to be very fearful of Judgement. Realistically, It took me 5 years to heal from my past relationship from 2015. I have an 8 year old from the relationship. I am so grateful to have had that time to reflect on myself, wrong doings, poor choices, trauma all of that. I can honestly say, I am a completely different person than I was during that course 19-23yrs old. I am Single and focusing on motherhood to my 8yr old and doing my absolute best to maintain my sanity in this challenging world full of people everyday
Wish you well … you got this 💕
@@taureanbelle9769 Thank you 🌸
Welcome back, Shumake. Glad your family is feeling better.
Thank you
Hey it's good to see you back, you and you sensibility. I've missed you!
And the world is going crazy, so we need you more than ever.
Good to be back! Thank you
Amen to that. I'm not sure how I ended up on "the Shumake Way". However, I thank God I did.
Welcome Back Shumake, you were missed .I pray that your household have a speedy recovery in Jesus Christ’s name . You’re like my wise brother on RUclips. Infact you’re my favourite RUclips content provider. Nowadays discernment is vital and Real recognise real .
Respect and support from a 🇯🇲’n living in London 🇬🇧
I’m so glad you’re back. Great talk today. On a side note-you should get your home checked for black mold, sometimes that is an actual cause of bronchitis bc it’s unusual for you and the entire fam to catch it like that. ❤
I think it's going around because the guy I'm dating just had it too
That true, have that issue over her in the UK
discovered your channel recently and you are speaking the truth. As a father and husband , you definately hittin on a lot of facts. There is no one solution to having a healthy relationship. Keep on motivativing and spreading your perspective. Our young brothers need it.
also just subscribed
Welcome to the shumake way
Thank you
Thanks for all you do Shumake may God bless and keep you and your family.
Thank you
Since religion was taken out of school the world got worse
😮has the world really gotten worse ? not saying the world is perfect but.....😂😂😂😂😂
People don’t need religion they need to connect with their spiritual being.
I wish they had religion and home ec in school when i was growing up. You never know which child will have a real interest in the Word regardless of their family background or belief.
All facts!!!! I always say people don’t know who they really are until they become a committed parent or spouse. I appreciate the wisdom the Lord has given Shumake.
❤missed you CUZO! HOPE ALL of YOU FEEL BETTER!!
SO REAL& HUMBLE
Thank you
Absolute facts Shumake keep up the truth! God speaks through you!
Blessings to y’all. But definitely get your home checked out for anything because that’s weird how your entire family ended up with the same exact sickness.🙏🏾
Hello Hi Shumake I need to heal. I married my first husband at 19, we had 2 girls. He got 17 years in the feds, I stayed married to him 9 years. I divorced him and married another man 72 days later. That marriage lasted 9 months, that's also my son dad. I been in relationships after relationship, marriage after marriage. Can you talk about the healing journey because it's so I'm important before moving on.
This video is extremely awesome 😊. I hope this message gets through to the masses!
Me too. Thank you
You deserve more subscribers and views man ‼️‼️
Speak on IT!!! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Compassion and love for the greater number is evident by this post!!! So good
Young man do you and be you. You have been honest about the aspects of your private life you are willing to share and you are you
Welcome Back.
Thank you
Gods work! All Praise and Glory is The Most Highs.
Hope you feel better soon!
Glad y’all are feeling better
Just got over the bronchitis myself. Thanks for the content. Stay blessed ❤
This is the realest channel on YT
Amen 🙌🏽 💯 🙌🏽
this video really helped along with a couple of your other ones that have similar meanings. I have had a huge issue in relationships lately but its true what you say, if your relationship with God isn’t all too great then God will teach you a lesson till you finally listen. Till he finally says
“are your eyes finally seeing”
and that was the hardest pill to swallow for I been trying for years without proper guidance from my father. The new age of social media did do a number on my mind, from overthinking to jealousy, to being a person I don’t want to be. What GOD wants me to be. So thank you for inspiring me to open the good book, I been reading only 2 days but I can’t wait to read more. I deleted instagram and twitter and now when I have urges to fall for the same temptation I once put myself in, I instead will open the book and read to nourish my mind. Thank you for speaking up to the ones who only want to see us fall.
What's wrong with it is that it's not real.
I really appreciate you my brother, many have no clue who God is,!! And only God can is the answer. zKeep telling the truth and Don compromise!!
There was this red pill podcaster who told men to stay away from single mother's and stay away from strippers and stay away from women over 27 years old and he was exposed for marrying a 50 year old single mother who was a stripper 😂
I forgot his name but I know exactly who you’re talking about lol
Keep pushing. Your content is on point and in this RUclips world, your viewpoint is needed.
I will. Thank you
You outdid yourself with this video! Thanks new sub
Thank the Lord that y'all are healing and pulling through. 🎉
You may have one already but perhaps a video on your walk/journey with The Most High?
Another banger🔥🔥🔥
I am so scared of dating these days, i came across a couple that scared me straight so i really not looking but at lease i would like a friend, someone to laugh and talk with, i hope you say what you mean and is telling the truth about helping others
So on point! I joined today. 🙏🏾
I’m 21 and been single since birth. No kiss, boyfriend, cuddles, or handholding. My parents who’ve been married for 20+ years were old school and raised me in a traditional household. I feel like it’s nothing but fucking crazies out here. Like regular folks have just gone extinct. I feel like dating is like playing a video game. Nobody really wants to genuinely meet up for coffee and see if there’s a connection there. It’s all about being a fashion nova model and men want fuck doll maids for free, not a life partner. I’ve been done with dating apps for a year and I feel much better. Also my connection with guys has improved. I don’t have a boyfriend yet but it’s fun hanging out with guys and just having fun in friend groups. Hopefully something beautiful comes out of that :/ But at this point I just wanna get a pet cat and travel. It’s scary out here. People also have unrealistic expectations. They don’t want a real partnership, many people are chasing something that doesn’t exist.
I feel like that’s what messed me up, can’t expect others to understand cus they won’t. I felt like I was going crazy because this isn’t love ppl are taken advantage of ppl it’s sad and irritating
Lol you are so cute. I hope you get all you deserve and more 🌸
I dont do hook up culture. But i do get mistreated, taken advantage of financially, and abandoned constantly.. 😞
Those are the women you're going for.
@@VettaBoop Then I have really bad luck.. Because I go for all different kinds of women.. One was Canadian, one Turkish, one from Venezuela, one local, and one 100 miles away.. All having very similar outcomes.. I'm beginning to think I'm the problem.. but then I have female friends and they are like nope.. just horrible luck, "you havent done much wrong. Sure you arent perfect but not to the extent onto which you are treated such as"
I would even be open to knowing you. Doesnt matter where I met someone, maybe it is just HORRIBLE luck. or.. it could be our society in general that is more about what I can take than what I can give?.
@@xFersureMatt I'm sorry to hear that, Matt. Unfortunately, we're at a point in history where women are becoming worse than men in some areas. It's really bizarre to see in real time. It's like they're trying to get you guys back or something. I hope you find someone worth your time. 💜
@@VettaBoop Thank you for having empathy. Yeah.. its really sad... and theres nothing I can do but keep trying, which if the past is anything like the future.. continue to keep being cheated on, abandoned, and replaced. It really destroy's my confidence and self worth after each attempt. Which.. in turn makes me come across as even less attractive to the next women. it is what it is i guess.
@@xFersureMatt I was in the same cycle as you were until about October. I just decided to leave him and love myself first. The problem is that I don't fully love myself, I've never known how, I just know how to love others. I think people like us have something that others can see and, unfortunately, some of them take advantage of it. I'm just at a point where I don't have anything else to give. But yes, as you've stated, it is what it is.
Life sucks sometimes 🥺
I have some more issues about soul ties about a woman. It’s a very a struggle the date pool and I don’t know whether to do but I went to a therapist yesterday and I was feeling a little bit. Alone but I’m not alone I feel single. And I will stay single.
I’m a Christian and I’m not ready to date but when I am ready to date how do I find and date other Christian men who are also celibate and how would I go about dating as a Christian?
I would say go where the Christian men are. Church for one and there’s also different types of Christian events around the country. Also when you are ready, as a matter of fact even before you’re ready just stay in prayer, use discernment, and stay out of sin. Other than that I would say that it’s going to be very important that you make the most out of your single season. Invest in yourself mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. You want to be whole before you meet Mr. Right. I hope this helps.
This was very useful and helpful advice. Thank you and God bless you, your family and your channel !
@@syrettexo4554 thank you
What we fail to understand is that saying: United we stand, divided we fall. Our community doesn’t understand that they (society) are keeping black folks apart. people dont realize by arguing in you tube, nothing is getting accomplished in our commuties
We need to ruuunnnn to the Lord Almighty. We need to surrender and repent to the Lord and turn from our wicked ways and then He will heal our land, our lives our minds and our hearts.
If one more guy ask me to come over his house after the first date I swear I’m switching to the other team
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I said the same thing🤣🤣🤣
Upstanding and wise young man! Love this video! New subscriber! 💯
Thank you
Thank u we support u and ur wonder family great work and advice
People change!! Exactlyyyy..hence why you hear..we just grew apart!! One person might be elevating while the other stays at the same level and isn't looking to elevate,cause they think they are fine where they are at!! So many reasons ppl split up..that choose better has no depth..it just sounds like something to say
In the modern dating world, People are just using each other.
Good job.
Great video
Thank you
The problem with dating is males have abandoned their roles as fathers for so long, that the new generations of males are underdeveloped in large numbers. From lack of personality, hygiene, common courtesy, self awareness or just plain effeminate. Their underdevelopment puts sensible women in a "teachers" position, that's not worth the headache and betrayal she'll receive if she helps him develop.
Keep in mind how many bm are comfortable living off women (grandma, mom, sister, gf, etc) and lack the basics responsibilities. How many are not even in the work force? How many don't have a code of conduct? How many are proud of not having good character and promote using women(online, music,tv,etc)?
Sooooo true !!!😩
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I always said this and I believe this Society have us all screwed up that's why the dating and everything is so messed up I don't even know about ever date I don't think it's worth it anymore not the way things are
I had no idea dating is this bad. How or where are people meeting people to hook up with?
The first committed relationship people should have is with God and Self. If they do not have those foundations, the rest is destined to fail. Too many submitted to society’s standards and the validation of others. It’s definitely a challenge but it’s worth it to experience and actually LIVE the true value of life. Not just Survive. Many will have to shake off the toxic residue of the past and not be afraid to have those seasons alone. I truly enjoy being in my own company. The outside world is chaotic enough.
Did Derrick hack even speak about God? For someone to compare you to him
I disagree with using religion, because religion creates rebellion. A relationship with god is a relationship with yourself that’s why it’s hard for ppl to mediate and heal because nobody wants to take accountability of their actions. They use it as an excuse to do what they wanna do and they need judgment so they can change. I’ve been to a catholic school and it was still bad kids. God has became an excuse for a lack of knowledge and discipline we as the ppl should be teaching common sense not asking “god” or blaming a devil it’s them it’ll always be them until they wanna change. Those who don’t will be left behind atp go where you are welcomed or a space you know you’ll be accepted.
I couldn’t possibly disagree with you more! A relationship with God is not a relationship with yourself. Religion causes rebellion from “the world”. Which is the best thing that could happen to a person, because the world is wicked. The reason people can’t heal is because they’re relying on their own strength and the flesh is weak. But when you live for God and when you learn that Jesus is the way, the truth, and the life, and you submit to the father’s will your life changes because you change. You change on the inside first and then those changes begin to show on the outside. Your decision making skills change, the people you’re comfortable around change, the things that are important to you change. Everything changes! You find peace within. You find purpose. You find self love. You find everything that TRULY matters when you submit to God. The only thing I don’t like about religion and the role it plays in my life is that I didn’t seek God sooner. I hope that you one day get to experience this feeling for yourself. God is real. He loves you and he wants a relationship with you. He wants to make you brand new. I believe that 100%.
I agree. Absolutely 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
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Those victims of circumstances your grifting to is the minority of single mothers. What your saying isn't the truth in most cases via men vs women. There are way more of us never married, no kids, having men out here but we get overlooked by majority of modern women because of lack of excitement. From my experience with all modern women I've dated. Women vet their eyebrow technicians better than they do their children's fathers. And good men suffer. I'm sure the victims of circumstance women suffer as well. But the numbers are lop sided when it comes to those women compared to just bad women in general. Less than a quarter of the male black population have all the children. While 75 percent of women decided to have children with 25 percent of black men.
Welcome Back! I’m glad you and the fam are feeling better ❤️🩹