How Jealousy DESTROYED my Relationship
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- Опубликовано: 24 авг 2024
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CAN U SHARE UR STORY HOW DID U MOVE ON WHEN U FIRST LOVED SOMEONE
DAMMM I AM FAMOUS😂
Moving on is a grieving process. It’s someone in your life who was such a big part of it and now you may never see them again and if you do it’ll be awkward. You lost someone close enough for you to love. The best thing to do is to wait. Fill the time you used to spend with them hanging out with other people or doing other stuff you love.
Losing an important relationship like that is like quitting a drug cold turkey. You miss their touch, their laugh, their kisses and you may have physical and emotional withdrawals. Maybe you need a fling/hookup to act as your nicotine patch. To feel a bit of what you felt before so it’s more bearable until you don’t need it anymore.
I think time is the most important thing to help you move on tho. It turns a current event into a memory. If you’re hurting you’ll have to hurt. There’s no scheme to get over things faster. Heartbreak is inevitable but it can be healed if you give it time and a healthy surrounding(ex: don’t stalk your ex and talk to supportive friends). Like a cast for a broken leg. Just let time pass and it’ll get easier.
(Note: I’m like on the verge of passing out(sleep) so if I wasn’t clear in saying anything that’s my explanation)
@Ifyoucan’ttakeajokegetofftheinternet❤️ yeah u right but sometimes it dont…
@Ifyoucan’ttakeajokegetofftheinternet❤️ damm u really motivated me to move the f on.
@Ifyoucan’ttakeajokegetofftheinternet❤️ bruh no 😂
Heartbreak is something everyone can relate to.
It's great that you can admit when you've done something wrong or toxic, that's how we learn and grow as people
As an older lady, I really enjoy your honesty and maturity!
Of course, all the easier to take advantage of
16 years old is so young, people make mistakes but you’re really mature in your mindset for learning from this experience! Not everyone does, so good for you!
I love the idea you have come up with here. Showing how to cook something while talking about a subject that relates to everyone. *This is a winning formula, you should do this more often, life advice with video of you cooking* 😮📚🙌
I’d also recommend the Vegan Korean as well
Also recommend Doobydobap👍🏽
@@acastillo555 I just found this channel randomly like five days ago. It’s great! It seems you and I have similar taste, what else do you watch? On my end, I like to watch Business Insider, Closer to Truth, BigThink etc.
@@acastillo555 omg I love her!!
@@djvelocity korean Vegan is highly recommended, i love herrr ❤️
me rewatching this a million times just to heard the “hmmmm🎶” again
THIS! I feel so much pressure now as a 20 something that has never been in a relationship, and that comes with it's won set of insecurities. BUT I think seeing them all around me gave e the privilege to learn from other's mistakes too.
That really hit deep. How did you learn to move on and forgive yourself after the relationship ended? It’s something I still struggle with sometimes
To everyone who feel the same way, remember that they're EXES for a reason 🤣
I LOVE this message and am so appreciative of you passing it on! I hope this reaches a lot of people who need it. Honest, vulnerable, and accepting of your own behaviors and role in the eventual breakup. Great video!
It's interesting to hear it from your perspective, it feels like I can understand now lol
I think it’s very mature of you to realize and acknowledge your mistakes and growing from them, for me, that is a true sign of a good person
Definitely look into anxious attachment style! Attached by Amir Levine is the best book- it breaks down the different attachment styles and explains how they arise + reassures you that it’s not your fault if you have an anxious attachment style
Self awareness is such a priceless life lesson!!!!
If you’re not like their ex, that’s a good thing.
The key is to just be transparent is what I’ve come to find out. Bring everything into the relationship, communicate and unpack it all together. 😊
I have never imagined you’re the jealous type considering how nice you are . Well you learned your lesson that’s a fact but jealous creates a lot of damage from the heart especially when you’re in a full on relationship. I get jealous too from someone I had feeling for a long time ago and eventually he got married 2 years later . Hahaha what a twist 😅
Well you only see 1 minute videos, not his day-to-day life or personal habits, it's different.
@@JamInPie frrr ppl act as if we k ppl from 1 minute shorts 😅
@@nonameforprivacyreasons5158 ikr,it's pretty crazy.
This is exactly my story last year 😭 overthinking completely killed it but I learned from it so I’m happy it happened because it made me a way better person and I know a lot more now
I was toxic like this in my past relationship and in the relationship now. Got huge problems with jealousy and it’s so unnecessary so I now try to treat it like intrusive thoughts
Him: eating*
Also him: magically starts singing singing
I went through that too. I was SUPER toxic. And the relationship after that, I was the best boyfriend I could be and I was proud of myself… and she cheated on me. I’ve since decided that I’m just not lovable. I’m likable, I can make friends, but I always keep people distant because vulnerability has never made things better for me. I used to wear my heart on my sleeve and be so vibrant and have such a big personality, and I do miss that, but I’ve been hurt so much. I’m autistic and queer and was raised in a cult so I feel like all those things are too much for a person to handle so I just don’t date, I don’t hang out with people, just stick to myself and spend my time alone. Damn, I’m tired of living like this, but I won’t allow myself to break out of my shell. Someone has to be perfect in order to make it into my world.
You can have pets if you can take care of it.
@@cherilynsarts8845 I’m not great at caring for pets either unfortunately, or else I’d have them already. I wish though, because I love animals more than most people
I love that youre telling your mistakes and the lessons you learned on here. Too many times influencer try to portray themselves as perfect and think vulnerability is a weakness even though its not. This makes me feel like you're actually human and not some planned image made to entertain a mindless audience. Actually relatable.
That's awesome that you figured it out and were real about your faults. Thank you for sharing. Maybe these grown ass men will see your example.
That's so strange. I was on the opposite side of this. I'm not someone that gets jealous easily and I try to show respect for the other person by giving them time to enjoy their hobbies, and occasionally checking in. So being in a relationship with someone that wanted to be chased was very confusing for both parties.
in my opinion changing a personality to a person is not the right way its just not you at the end of the day you will aways aways feel guilty, if you can be yourself around people their the people you should always have to be with no matter what, life has up and downs tho you should always get going.
Yep. They just weren't compatible. Personally I think what he wanted is fine. I'm a girl and I don't like my partner being close with other girls, but I in turn aren't close with other guys. We both have the same boundaries, so it works and isn't toxic.
@@yin-yi5189 fair enough, but in reality, you are just controlling him (as all females do) while you eventually end up getting railed by another dude, or several other dudes.
@@maxhatush5918 Uh, no. As I said, I don't talk to guys. He talks to my female friends yet I scarcely even talk to his male friends, nor do I have any interest in other guys in general.
@@maxhatush5918 Also not to mention, s*x isn't just about pleasure. It's about intimacy. I'm waiting for marriage, thanks.
@@yin-yi5189 true, you maybe asexual as many females are
Just followed u ur soo honest and real i love it
It’s okay we all can be a little petty sometimes
Dayum calling me out like that. I did the same petty shit haha
Sounds like the guy I'm interested in. He returned the favor of me not answering him or giving him my time unknowingly because I was busy with school and stuffs and so was he. I decided to test him and see if he would actually check up on me like we use to but several days past and I heard nothing much. Til this day we've been a bit off on the chatting still love him tho 😐
Everyone is talking ab the story and I’m thinking how good that looks
The fact that you’re so young and so knowledgeable 😢! I’m proud. 😊
i think a lot of us act toxic in our first relationship which burns up in flames…not proud of myself and neither was he, even tho i wasnt his first. still, im growing and im going to try to do things right this tome around
When I (21/22 f) was strung along by this guy (27 m), he played hard to get like that and then had the audacity to call *me* immature for calling him out it
How is no one talking about that AMAZING 🎵mmm🎵 at the beginning/end
ignorance and ego literally destroys relationships.
I heard
"I compared myself to her ex, worried about not being BIG enough..." 😅
That is exactly what happened with my ex fiance. He never felt secure in our relationship so it crashed and burned every time. I tried to reassure him over and over and it never took.
In the early days,I got jealous, was told it was toxic, then found out she was cheating on me with at least nine dudes. Could have been more. She only admitted when I could prove it beyond a reasonable doubt, and I'm no detective, so it probably was more.
Many people don't realize these things you've realized. You'll make someone very happy one day. :)
It's you saying all this that gives me hope that past toxic partners I've had were also just unsure of how you act in a first time relationship. Or not, still won't justify their dumb actions, just hoping they're better to future partners :)
I learn from every mistake and experience.#Manifest I am wise.#Manifest
I do this too… wow I should really learn to change I’m so insecure I want to be perfect around my partner 💔
I haven't been in a relationship because I know that I would be just a waste of time and I'm fully aware that I would be a toxic partner. I'm doing my best to change myself for the better tho.
Yo man, we’ve all been there, first step is acknowledging that you have a toxic trait, second step is hard, changing it. Don’t be afraid of slipping up, as it’s how you react that matters. If you ignore it like it never happened that’s bad
Wow so there is indeed a boy like him . It's amazing that you are sensetive and understood because guys don't really .
Ok I want him the fact that he recognized his mistake and actuaaallyyy learn from it is a 10000 out of 10 for me
It is so hard to habe empathy for someone's insecurities when they are soooo annyoing (talking abt people in my life not him)
It's really amazing that you realised your mistake!
I can't help but imagine if this story was from the girl's perspective, people would've been so angry
I actually ened a relationship for similar reasons. Amoung others. He called me up and wanted to get back together. He didn't seem to think he did anything wrong. So I kindly reminded him and then he understood. I made it clear that I was aware that I also had my flaws and was working on them as he should too.
Jealousy is a killer fs! My ex was extremely jealous and I’m bi so I felt like I had to hyper fixate on how I interacted with EVERYBODY when she was around. It was super suffocating, controlling, and high-key a traumatic relationship for many reasons but the jealousy part was the one of the biggest issues.
Omg this whole time I thought you meant 6 years old- I was listening to the whole story like “omg a 6 year old has this much troubles in a relationship” HELPP 😭
elena nooooo lmao
@@JeffreyChang OMG YOU REPLIED HI
Relatable moment dude
It’s sad but I’m in a relationship rn and I do this all the time and I’m working on it but it’s hard to because I feel like there ex was better then me😭👍
oh wow i need to change myself lol
damn,it's really intresting how I as a female have the same exact thoughts. just goes to show how similar men and women are
Once a toxic always a toxic
I see it a bit diffrent: you were jealous, but were you ever satisfy with the classic explanation of "it is just a boy, she can talk with whom she wants". As a couple, it is so important to make your partner feel safe, so your jealousy could be an indicator of a possible "i shoudnt trust this person that much if my feelings are on the table". Dont think that being jealous is a flaw, is a basic human instrict most of the times.
At first i thought ot was rm 😂
Same... honestly same. I'm glad we have matured.
Blah blah blah blah!! Didn't hear a word you said!!!. That quesadilla looked to bomb took my attention away!!!. Ummm sorry for your loss or whatever!!?. Recipe please!?!?.😋😂🤣🤘🏻👍🏻
ahahahha
Woah... that food looks amazing.... but that story sounds tough 🤔 😕
People don’t get Insecure just because they want to be insecure, I am sure the other person might have done or say something that makes them insecure, but it’s on you to control your thoughts, don’t let your negative thoughts take over you.❤️❤️
Just a little advice for everyone NEVER and when i say never i do mean it compare yourself to there ex they are there ex for a reason
When I realize I'm comparing myself to my partner's ex, I just think abt how there's a reason they're their ex and not their current partner
There's a reason they chose me, and there's a reason their previous relationships ended
Thank you sir will be making this tomorrow 🤤
You shouldn’t compare yourself to an ex because they didn’t work out they didn’t make it
Same bro
Idk what u made but it looks so good🤤
Me being aroace: damn that quesadilla good as hell
The way he cut the lemon bothered me so much I couldn't concentrate on the topic.
Insecurity
That look better then Chipotle
my gf broke up with me just cause I was myself...
but oh well... we are still friends
I love your videos and I think you're gonna be big one day! I just want to suggest that you boost the saturation and contrast a little more when you're editing your videos, because it makes the picture quality look more real and inviting. Right now, your videos are a little washed out. I know it seems small, but little things like that really affect whether the viewer chooses to click another video or not
thx!! ill look into it
Bro you doin all that extra staring and gripping the pepper. Cmon mane just make the dish and stop tryna make me lust over some veggies
lol, Chris, imagine us having a convo around the kitchen table. Dont just stare at me 🤣
I’m gonna be honest I love your stories and I think your very Handsome 🥰 thank you for being you
wait I was listening to your story BUT I wanna know how to make that 🌚
please give recipe 😔🙏
I would very much appreciate it
I feel like that is a lot of people tho
This was a very cute and inspiring video, it really true too
I'm still stuck on y'all needing to provide your own costume
Fact that there are grown men that are still like this (not you) just reinforces why girls arent supposed to have sex before marriage. The men have ✨️issues✨️ and we're supposed to cater to that
Right but why copy the ex like there has to be a reason they’re her EX
sheeesh
Ceramic-my man! 😎
THAT QUESADILLA LOOK LIKE THE BOMB BRO 😩
Hold up this recipe actually looks bomb, and I have everything
Gonna make this happen 😅
Where did you your cooking pan? Looks smooth and non stick
i put it in the description box (+discount code for you) :) it’s from Caraway
@@JeffreyChang oh thank you! Should of looked there 😅
Petition for the recipes post too ✍️
Its hellofresh
That food looks so good
Does he post recipes anywhere?
Just remember that dude is an ex for a reason
All your foods look so good.
I'm sure the story is from Reddit or something but God damn that looks delicious
After this video I made a quesadilla
Ooh casamiento
thought u were gay 🏳️🌈🔥🔥🔥
Ingredients please
Ok so that looks really good and i wanna make it now ;-; ish ima go make it i probably dont have all the ingredients but it looks to good
My lazyness is kicking in ;^;
Is tht a stainless steel or non stick pan?
Bambam is that you?