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How should you handle a marriage without physical intimacy?
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- Опубликовано: 9 дек 2019
- If you’re in a marriage where you’re not practicing physical, marital intimacy with your partner on a regular basis, what does that mean for the marriage and the relationship?
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She doesn’t want any intimacy, no holding, no touching, no sex. She always has some excuse. I’ve never cheated on her. I feel so disrespected and rejected. I’m at the point of giving up on my 25 year marriage. God help me!
Depriving one's spouse of sex is a form of infidelity. It is a renunciation of the marriage vows. It is outrageous that the spouse withholding sex still expects and requires the other to fulfill all the duties and obligations of marriage and still denies them intimacy.
A marriage without physical intimacy needs to be met with divorce! They signed up for a spouse, not a roommate!
Does this sound familiar? We have been married 14 years, married later in life, her first, I lost a spouse to cancer. We were married in the church complete with pre-marital counseling. Filled out a bunch of quizzes and it seemed we were very compatible in every way. I am physically fit and active. She is overweight and sedentary. Sex was ok at first but quickly dwindled into me initiating and getting turned down a very high percentage of the time. She has never once initiated sex with me and even avoids touching of any kind for fear it may escalate, I suppose. Our relations eventually went to zero because I needed to avoid the constant rejection. Even with the missing element we function fairly well as roommates and I am not interested in trying to start over. It is however a very lonely place.
I can relate. I give up asking. Just to get an eye roll and here we go again. Then she walks away. Seems like these type of women are sexless and enjoy watching us squirm for them. We do all the guy's part even clean, and do the laundry. They eat ,sleep and don't want any intimacy. But they don't want you to cheat on them. Why not I asked? Your my husband and that would be wrong. So I say what am I to do? They don't answer that 1.
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But she's disrespecting you way too much. Get rid of her.
You are no longer living as a married couple. Time to go your separate ways.
15 years? My marriage has had no intimacy for 22 years. I’ve given up. We remain room mates. Marriage is now over.
Roommates make for better lovers❤
Diddo. Same here. Same amount of years. I am in the Word daily, pray, love God, got to Church. God hates divorce so do I. She refuses to talk about it. I'm the house cleaner, laundry, yard guy on and on. I'm sad thinking of leaving and hurting a person but I'm not a unic. So what's left
@@TP-vu3tc not with mine though
@@stevemargolis5514leave her 🫡🇺🇸🦅
Kick out the bich.
At least my wife told me after marriage that she's not into me and just wanted a Baby and be Married. Cold Blooded Honesty is better then faking it a couple of years...
AFTER MARRIAGE. Brother, you still got finessed. I’m praying for your soul.
This was an appalling act of deception. She was obligated to tell you that BEFORE you married! This is such an act of betrayal that it warrants a divorce on grounds of fraud.
Take the baby and leave her.
That's a selfish evil bitch thing to do. Time to go your separate ways.
19 years this year. Zero intimacy
You got to be lying
Get out while you still can.
Man leave these women alone and it's better to be single. She's probably giving it to someone else at this point
Divorce that woman! She has defrauded you of a marriage.
Did you divorce her yet? 🫡🇺🇸🦅
Ten years in September. Told me that the skin I have after a multiple pregnancy is an issue. He is unforgiving, gaslights and angry. He ignores us claims he is depressed seeks no help and blames me for his walking away from our marriage. I have tried and prayed asked if there was abuse and have no response but why didn't I get surgery. He doesn't touch me, gives no kinds word and he has abandoned his leadership role. I have had to pick up, I go to church alone and fight daily to keep peace in my home.
I am now counting down the days where I am able to leave. And I am broken. It effects our kids and I spend my days trying to show them what they need to learn from the mistakes made. Went to my church for help was told if not physical abuse. What about emotional and mental?
He’s a narcissist. Lookup the narcissist spouse subreddit. 🫡🇺🇸🦅
My husband told me that it's best I get my own apartment. He doesn't show me he wants our marriage anymore. And this been and off and on thingvvwith him. Mo matter how hard I try. IT'S just not there in him. It's nothing between us anymore. And we don't live like we married since he told me this January 22 2023
Very sorry to hear that you are in that position. If you believe it is not going to change may be time to move on. You only live once and don’t waste anymore time.
What do you do when you want to fix it but they don't see that there's any problem and you love them and don't want to end the marriage you just want a mutual relationship. I feel trapped.
Replace her and see how fast she will change her tune.
When my wife and I first got together. We didn't get married. We were drinking buddies. A year of drinking, I became a diabetic for thirty eight years now. She was messing around with a lot of other guys. Then she got pregnant with our first daughter. We had three girls and two boys, I'm not sure if their all my children. After almost seven years and five children. I developed E.D. We got married in nineteen ninety-nine She left me sixteen years ago. There was a pastor that did a lot of bad things to my wife daughter mother and other families, men and boys I've been alone for almost sixteen years. The bible says I need to forgive or the Father won't forgive me. I believe the Father YAHUAH & YASUAH Son that was before Constantine and the Catholic church changed the bible. The Sabbath Friday evening half hour before sunset to Saturday evening half hour before sunset and feast days
What about if there are physical and mental issues (from the very beginning of the marriage) that haven't been resolved after 6+ years? Asking for a friend...
I’m in the same places as you.
Problem is that the mother taught that sex is bad and then the daughter is frigid and generates arguments out of nothing, about nothing, to drive a wedge in the relationship. Eventually the other party stops trying because reality is reality whether you want it to be or not.
Add on "no sex before marriage" and one man's life might as well be over.
What was his point?
What if it’s not sexless but at minimum once a week and often twice in a week and your Christian husband still says your marriage is sexless
That just means there's a real difference in sex drives. This is the sort of thing that is supposed to be discussed in pre-marital counseling.
@@selohcin pre marital counseling was a thing most Christian couples who are truly Christian couples do. Doesn’t mean that’s something the couple even knows to talk about if they truly are waiting til marriage to have intercourse. Can’t know things in advance that will affect a sex life and not every couple thinks even counselors have the right to be involved in conversation of. Not every counselor will speak on it either.
@@Star-of-truth It's true that you can't know in advance if you're celibate before marriage, but this should still be talked about in pre-marital counseling just as high school students get health classes that talk about STDs. "You hope you'll never need this class, but you'd better take it anyway" is a very prudential action.
Once a week feels sexless to a man and most women don’t give a damn.
Does he want you to initiate now and then?
It's just as much of a violation of the marriage covenant as infidelity.
It's abandonment. Divorce the person if they won't get help.
Corinthians 1234
If I didn't have sex when my husband wanted, he would have an abusive tantrum. One night in an argument, he kicked me out of the bedroom. He never directly asked me back in. I enjoyed not having that obligation, since he would want sex at inconvenient times for me. Eventually, he cheated and divorced me. Since, he seems so angry at me.
Yeah. Thats your fault. Put out at least twice a week or go be single.
I’m sorry but part of loving your spouse is doing things for them at times that are inconvenient for you. You sound selfish.
We are there but i dont wanna be there.
15 years you say? I can trump that with 34 years!
So solution?
Your not missing out on something you never had
Time to replace my wife. 😂
Old Testament God had a different idea of what a marriage is. I seem to recall Godlly men having multiple wives and even concubines. But that bit is a bit too uncomfortable for the New Testament Christians, who worship a celibate Jesus, who even with approval talked about eunuchs. Matt. 19:12 For there are eunuchs who were born that way from their mother’s womb; and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by people; and there are also eunuchs who made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. The one who is able to accept this, let him accept it.”
Dude God never endorsed that and it almost never works for the women. Someone is usually jealous
Anyone going through this, get out of the relationship. Things won't change and you will be miserable. God does not expect you to live with a mate who has abandoned you.
Leave but you can’t divorce
@@untoldhistory2800yes you can. They've broken the covenant.
What if Satan has already gotten a foothold via her girlfriend who was a military comrade?