It’s crazy how right Tony is about men. I feel like I’ve been given new sight to everything that happens now. I see it differently and I KNOW that men KNOW exactly what they do. Don’t let them underestimate you!
I stress this sooo much, a person will like you and want you but don’t like your child or want them around. Some men will even be jealous of the way you love your child. If he displays selfish behavior please leave him where he stands. And this goes for dads too because I have heard horror stories about gf/stepmoms
Yes I can agree but sometimes it’s not always jealousy but more so selfishness in my case I didn’t realize how selfish I was when I dated a man with 5 kids not taking into account he had 5 kids to tend too once I realized that I was not comfortable with dealing with him having to put his kids first I left him alone because either I dealt with it or move on I was not being realistic and now I take in to account how many kids a man has by how many and the ages
You were right to give a warning about single mothers using discernment. I remember when I was between the ages of 11-14 and my mom and I moved in with her boyfriend and this man showed his disdain for me from day 1. The verbal and physical abuse was insane and when I turned 13-14 he began making sexual remarks. I'm convinced to this day if my mom hadn't left when she did, he would have began grooming me. Any single mother reading this: If your child tells you they don't feel comfortable around this person, PLEASE listen. It is not a game out here. Side Note: Had to come back and edit: Tony is ON POINT about how a lot of men don't have patience out here when it comes to kids. As someone who works in customer service I see a lot. The other day I was ringing up a customer. A man and his 6 or year old son and this man was yelling at his son for not being able to lift heavy groceries. I was thinking in my head like dude this boy is at the most probably 6 years old and you expect him to be able to lift as much as you. Huh?
When you become a parent Your life is not your own. You chose to put that kid first. I have a girl and i know what i went through being a woman. I WILL ACT A FOO'ABOUT MINES🤨🤨 If she dont like you thats it for you. I will be single until the Lord sends him my way
Tony!!!!!! I don’t understand why people don’t wanna be protective over their own life and their kids. Accept the reality that your in, it may seem unfair or you might not won’t to but our choices got us here. My relationship with god and my kids are my assignment first. Even if your single your relationship with god and your safety is first!!!
Man my old friend her daughter were raped by who was suppose to be a close friend. They got him arrested, but she still struggled with having to be with a man and would date randoms, she did has done this before and since she had her kids and before the dude that raped her kids she had another incident with her youngest daughter with one of her partners. I hate selfish women. I think because my mother was in a relationship with an abusive man who was verbally and emotionally and sexually abusive to me and she didn’t leave him up until she found out about the sexual abuse when I was 15, but the verbal and emotional wasn’t enough. I refuse to be that mom
@@Lacilove1991 First off, I’m am sorry that is something you went though. Thankfully you can show up for young girls and your own children and be better. It’s so scary 😢 we have to protect these babies if we want healthier humans in the future (at least give it our best shot). In order to protect them we must protect and love us because they are an extension of us.
@@kimberlyambeau6314 it’s a sick world these days. RC Blake’s he too drilled it into my head about broken consciousness and learning how to date correctly
I'm always mind blown when "women" allow men to move in with her and her kids in a very short amount of time. I gotta give them a serious side eye. They dont know that man from a can of paint. Aint enough "love" in the World. I be more mad at the woman than anything because she should know better smh. We got to do better for the children.
He shouldn't be moving in with her and kids PERIOD!!! Any man that will settle in with a woman and her kids is just looking for a place to lay his head.
Yes I agree if you’re kids are not able to fully talk you definitely should not be moving in with a man at least 10 and up but I haven’t lived with another man since my children’s father and I have 3 girls my mother lived alone for years with us and I know if my mom could do it so can I!! And unfortunately based on this generation and the men I run into I’m okay with living with my kids alone until they are out of my house my children are 13,12,9,9 8 more years won’t hurt me!! That’s the sacrifice we make when we have kids and the relationship doesn’t work out people need to learn how to have a dating life without there kids around
I had to do that once because the abusive ex (reason for being single) destroyed my credit while I was in the hospital due to preterm birth. It's not that everyone is dumb. I legitimately had no other options. You don't have to write "women" like that.
Recently a guy I was speaking to sent me a video on WhatsApp of a little girl being raped by her stepdad while her mum was at work. I told him what kind of human being is he to share such a video! I blocked him straightaway and told him if someone does that to my child I will kill him before the police come. I am a mother of 4 and this man thought it was funny to send me such a video. He’s a father of 3 himself, but he didn’t care because it was somebody else’s child on the video. This is how heartless these men are. They don’t care as long as it’s not their child. Don’t be fooled by the fact that he’s a single dad too. All I saw in this man was red flags everywhere. He would ask me for money, small money. I was like and you’re the one who’s gonna be the head of the house?🙄 blocked! I am a single mother, but I am not desperate. I know my worth and I don’t need a deadbeat boyfriend in my life to know my value. I work hard to feed my children and my first daughter is training to be a doctor. Ladies, listen to Tony, everything he says is true. I was talking to another guy who was obsessed about my first child (daughter) who’s 18 year old. He would send me money and for my kids. Sometimes for my daughter only. He never met them, but every time he will call me via video call so he can see what my daughter looks like 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 blocked! He thought he can trick me with money. One thing he didn’t know i am from Tony Gaskins Academy, no man can trick me anymore. This man was sleeping with a 17 year old girl when he was 35. They had two children together and the girl left him. This was a red flag for me plus his obsession for my daughter. Thanks to Tony for this knowledge. I even asked my daughter why this man was so obsessed about her. My daughter and I are like best friends. We talk about everything. One day I took my other kids out and the oldest didn’t go with us due to tummy cramps. This guy called me and I told him my daughter didn’t come with us because of tummy cramps. He was like “ she had her period?, is she already having her period?” I told him I can’t talk about that with him because it doesn’t concern him. His response“ you too sensitive, that’s my daughter, I can’t do anything, you’re overthinking“. Exactly how Tony described these men in one of his videos, he was trying to talk me out of my common sense. At the end I blocked him and he never saw my daughter’s face. Sorry for my English, I speak French and I don’t live in America. Beware ladies!
After my divorce 18 years ago, I decided that I would raise my kids alone until they were grown. I grew up watching my mom being abused over and over again. I promised myself I would not subject my kids to such trauma. The only man that have been to my house and around my kids are their dad. I have dated. They don’t know where I live. It is not that deep for me. I kept myself occupied with school, work, and kids. I am too tired to entertain a man full time after finishing up four degrees🤦🏽♀️
You are so right Men ain’t all that. They bring nothing but headaches. It’s funny you said that because that’s how I feel. The smallest things they do irritate me like SNORING. They cool and all but for me love just don’t be that serious to just go out sad like some women do. That story broke my heart so bad because as a mother who takes pride in my role as a mom, I just don’t understand how you can be so mean to kids that you carried & went through the hell of hours of labor for. I could NEVER let a man come in me & my kids life and just destroy it. I’m a savage about mine! Ladies love yourself and children more than these men! Men come a dime a dozen, your babies are there forever!
In my opinion, I feel a single mother should wait until her child/children are grown and out of her house before she date again. Any form of abuse to a child could affect them for the rest of their lives. Both mentally and socially.
It's ok to date but one doesnt have to bring the man in your house or around your kids until God has shown that he is your husband-to-be and suitable for your kids.
I think this why I don’t allow people around my kids. I have a huge problem with trust and my kids can’t defend themselves. I don’t know why some female are in a rush to move a man in without knowing his full intention
As soon as I heard about the video I thought about the warning you gave us. It’s so sad. I literally almost threw up when I read the story. So glad God is protecting me and my girls.
Great video! I like what you said about zero desperation. It's pathetic what women justify and ignore to stay in a relationship and pretend it's quality. Thank God I'm not that type of women anymore!
That’s why I don’t date I love my son too much for anything to happen to him. People need to be a whole person before they get into a relationship. They need to have their relationship with God right and be their best self before they go out dating
You can still date (going out only) without bringing men into your home or even meeting your son..Speaking from experience...it's ok to have a balance💖
@@KDStyle1 that is true. I mean going on dinner dates and things, but idk lately I have been turned off to even entertain a man. I have been extra cautious due to situations that happen with that boy being killed.
@@Lacilove1991 ok...so everything you said you were doing ( best self, relationship w God) now gets "put to work". You still have to "relate" to be in a relationship. It's definitely not going to be the 1st guy you meet. Wise dating can help build on those things, and can also cut down on your "disdain" for men, and awkward M-F adult communcation, etc. Being a wise dater, being selective with whom you converse and how long, using the phone for red flags BEFORE in person dating, etc. Just trying to be helpful, and providing a little more perspective...my son is 21, was a single parent, made mistakes in that area and finally worked it out to marriage...
@@KDStyle1 amen that’s great and I know it’s about dating wise. I’m getting there just it’s traumatizing hearing stories of these poor kids being abused or killed in the hands of someone a parent was dating and didn’t discern before bringing them around their kids. But your right you have to go out and meet people just be cautious
Exactly! Occupy the mind. I'm so content with singleness now. The apostle Paul said if you can make room for it, then do it. It is a gift! I'm focused on becoming a better woman. The RIGHT man has to be special to take this peace I have from me.
I’m not a mom. But I’ve sent these videos so many moms I know with crazy dating lives. This advice is golden. Lol every single mom should legally be forced to take a course from Tony about this stuff.
Jesus!!! That made my stomach hurt, hearing what you just said he did to that child. Omgosh! I appreciate you keeping it real. Tony this exactly why I stay to myself and take care of my girls. Lord have mercy. I heard so many different horror stories about dudes harming children. 1 dude who was playing a video game and beat a child to death just because the baby won’t stop crying. This is a crazy/ cold world we live in. I was just about to go to sleep, but decided to listen to your video. This breaks my heart.
I don't even have kids and that offends me. Why is that the very first question? So if I have kids, will I still be beautiful?? And half the time they have *multiple* children with more than one woman 🤦🏾🤦🏾🤦🏾But I guess it doesn't count if you're a man??
Thank you for teaching us and telling us this stuff. It is some very cruel stuff being done. My mom told me that being single is not a bad thing and I believe her.
Tony. Could you bring the “talks with Tony” back ? I think it gave variety for you to choose from . And I loved it when we actually have a real life example . I miss those. Kinda was like my mini show for each week that I could look forward too . Lol just a suggestion . God bless you and your family . Thank you for this video too .
A lot of us aren’t taught about personality disorders, not choosing men when we are vulnerable, stop getting online and telling all of our business and giving ppl the ammunition, etc. Amen, Tony!! Take heed to those warning signs. Don’t try to change them. Take time to get to know ppl. How does he treat his mother and other women close to him. We are seeing too many pregnant women and mothers being killed. My job and IDTV keeps me single these days, too.
As a single mother I stopped dating a long time ago because I got tired of attracting men who were emotionally Damaged by their mothers who would ENVY the loving bond I have with my son. Those types of men are DANGEROUS!! Thankfully I never brought them around my son, their envy would manifest during our dinner dates just by me communicating my love and affirmation for my own child. Right now the Lord is preparing me and my son for a ministry together 😍😍my son is greatly anointed by God and I'm not going to let ANYONE come in the middle of what the Lord is doing in both of our lives. If God sees fit for me to have a husband then so be it, if not I am more than content knowing that I am on the right track for the glory of Jesus Christ and He will continue to KEEP me for as long as I allow Him to keep me. Not everyone has the grace to be single, but thank God I do. I love your videos Tony. God bless you and your family!!!
Thank you... as a women I see why men take advantage. No boundaries; Observe more and seek wisdom. Allow God's grace to guide you. He has to work on you first.
Though that phase of desperation has been long gone for me, I do understand what Tony is saying and he is right! A lot of women feel as though they HAVE to have a man. They want one but the one's they want usually end up being the worst of them. Just sit back and relax, work on yourself and let it be.
Amen Unk"!!! Keep speaking the pure honest truth because it's all truth& FACTSSSSS!! It's up to each and every individual to listen to ABBA YAH messenger!!🙏🏽👑🤝🏾
Sometimes you can observe how a man is with his own children. If he's too aggressive or angry in his manner of disciplining them, don't expect anything different when it comes to your children. On the flip side, if he is SEEMINGLY a great parent to his own children and puts them on the pedestal, you can believe there's no room on that pedestal for your children. It can be tricky out there. Like Tony said, most men "are not that special," so we shouldn't feel like we're missing out on anything.
This is a really important message. It just goes to show how strong our desire for a husband and family is. We were made for relationships, but here we're told it's not that serious. We were raised to believe it was our life's goal; how to rewrite a lifetime of training? It's hard
Oh my...this is probably one of the best videos I've watched. Ladies, it's not that serious to have a man! Let's learn to love and better ourselves first.
Nobody all of that lol… AT ALL…. But in all fairness you have to understand its not purely desperation.. women have been conditioned and taught to believe that she is worth it based off mans opinion..status and on the flip side it’s ridiculous that too many men have such behaviors in them.. both need accountability at the end men should be protective and instead they have no self control. And yes Tony absolutely right women need to use their wisdom
I have a family member who married a man who didn’t wanna help her to raise kids who she had with another man, yet he had a child of his own & she put her kids in foster care just to keep this man. They divorced in the end anyway. Sad case.
My husband and I have been separated for a little over 2 years now. Together 15 years, married 13. He cheated more than multiple times. We have a 7 year old daughter. He doesn't communicate with me at all. He's in another relationship and wants to bring our daughter around this strange woman who I've never met and don't want to meet. I told him never. Am I wrong?
Your intuition never lies. You don't know that woman from a can of paint. He wants to use your daughter to manipulate your feelings. YOU ARE NOT WRONG! You're doing great sister!MAY OUR HEAVENLY FATHER Keep Safe Under His Wings and Protect You and Your Daughter IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!! AMEN!!!!
He's need to communicate with you so he can see his daughter but yes you should be open to meeting her but his communication will have to change with you because you are her primary caregiver.
You need to be cautious yes but you still need to be informed. Communication is always key. It doesn't sound like yall ended well with the "I don't want to meet her". But for the sake of visits with the dad you NEED to know as much as you can. Protect the princess at all costs even over our feelings. Keep talking to her about following her intuition as well. Good luck Mama🙏💯
a lot of women and men got stuck without having a husband or a wife... a boyfriend or girlfriend who was living together before this pandemic surfaced. ... remember we all had to social distance....so that made people super lonely and desperate...you see the married people are lucky,,they have a mate in the house with them..and they dont have to gamble with their life trying to pic person they think is COVID FREE..This is a factor too tony.
How is it gambling with their life? You watch too much TV mate I worked in health care up until recently and I'll tell you the only thing you'll gamble your life with is that jab
@@monicawillis7379 @Helen .e covid actually forced married couples' true character about each other to be revealed since they were forced to be around each other. Divorce attorneys said that this was the most business they ever got.. divorce rates reached HISTORICAL numbers.. so did d*mestic a*use. Single people were fortunate enough to not go through this.
I don't trust my own father alone with my baby girl. Even if it's just a visual thing I don't want some perv staring at my child while I'm changing her. Only man I trust with her is her daddy even though he makes me sick I know he would never do anything to intentionally hurt her
This Girl I went to community college with that I was close with she has I think five kids and she got back with one of her kids father they got engaged and then because I saw it on Facebook and then a couple of months later she I guess broke up with that guy and got with one of her other baby daddies and now they’re planning a wedding I’m like what the fuck and the crazy part is she such a gorgeous girl and this was the man that put her through hell made her go to therapy, convinced her to have threesomes etc.
It's hard for me to watch these videos because the stories make my blood boil so much I feel like load'n up Mr. Do right 🔫 and advocating these poor children who are victims of their mother's POOR JUDGE OF CHARACTER in men. Jesus helps us ALL!!
I know nobody wants to hear this. But if I was a single mother with children and entering marriage, I would send my children to boarding school and make sure I never missed a weekend visit or call. But hey, as women we rather live on hope that facts!! Ps: majority of boardong schools have scholarships/bursaries for single parents.
Singleness is a blessing just as much as being in a Godly relationship.
Amen!
It’s crazy how right Tony is about men. I feel like I’ve been given new sight to everything that happens now. I see it differently and I KNOW that men KNOW exactly what they do. Don’t let them underestimate you!
Agreed! I think we underestimate them often.
Yes!!! He is un-doing all the ways men gas light us.
I stress this sooo much, a person will like you and want you but don’t like your child or want them around. Some men will even be jealous of the way you love your child. If he displays selfish behavior please leave him where he stands. And this goes for dads too because I have heard horror stories about gf/stepmoms
Yess if they don’t love your kids than they don’t truly love you
@@julianacheriza1575 Exactly!
Yes I can agree but sometimes it’s not always jealousy but more so selfishness in my case I didn’t realize how selfish I was when I dated a man with 5 kids not taking into account he had 5 kids to tend too once I realized that I was not comfortable with dealing with him having to put his kids first I left him alone because either I dealt with it or move on I was not being realistic and now I take in to account how many kids a man has by how many and the ages
You were right to give a warning about single mothers using discernment. I remember when I was between the ages of 11-14 and my mom and I moved in with her boyfriend and this man showed his disdain for me from day 1. The verbal and physical abuse was insane and when I turned 13-14 he began making sexual remarks. I'm convinced to this day if my mom hadn't left when she did, he would have began grooming me. Any single mother reading this: If your child tells you they don't feel comfortable around this person, PLEASE listen. It is not a game out here.
Side Note: Had to come back and edit: Tony is ON POINT about how a lot of men don't have patience out here when it comes to kids. As someone who works in customer service I see a lot. The other day I was ringing up a customer. A man and his 6 or year old son and this man was yelling at his son for not being able to lift heavy groceries. I was thinking in my head like dude this boy is at the most probably 6 years old and you expect him to be able to lift as much as you. Huh?
When you become a parent Your life is not your own. You chose to put that kid first. I have a girl and i know what i went through being a woman. I WILL ACT A FOO'ABOUT MINES🤨🤨 If she dont like you thats it for you. I will be single until the Lord sends him my way
Ok!! That’s my why…I will burn a joker up about my kids.
@@DrTLEvans damn skippy😄
Tony!!!!!! I don’t understand why people don’t wanna be protective over their own life and their kids. Accept the reality that your in, it may seem unfair or you might not won’t to but our choices got us here. My relationship with god and my kids are my assignment first. Even if your single your relationship with god and your safety is first!!!
🎯 Yes
Man my old friend her daughter were raped by who was suppose to be a close friend. They got him arrested, but she still struggled with having to be with a man and would date randoms, she did has done this before and since she had her kids and before the dude that raped her kids she had another incident with her youngest daughter with one of her partners. I hate selfish women. I think because my mother was in a relationship with an abusive man who was verbally and emotionally and sexually abusive to me and she didn’t leave him up until she found out about the sexual abuse when I was 15, but the verbal and emotional wasn’t enough. I refuse to be that mom
@@Lacilove1991 First off, I’m am sorry that is something you went though. Thankfully you can show up for young girls and your own children and be better. It’s so scary 😢 we have to protect these babies if we want healthier humans in the future (at least give it our best shot). In order to protect them we must protect and love us because they are an extension of us.
@@kimberlyambeau6314 it’s a sick world these days. RC Blake’s he too drilled it into my head about broken consciousness and learning how to date correctly
@@Lacilove1991 o yes, love hearing his wisdom also!
I'm always mind blown when "women" allow men to move in with her and her kids in a very short amount of time. I gotta give them a serious side eye. They dont know that man from a can of paint. Aint enough "love" in the World. I be more mad at the woman than anything because she should know better smh. We got to do better for the children.
I was that woman. Blind, broken and hopefully naive. Thank God He gave me grace and opened my eyes through Tony. Never again!
@@ENNARELL Amen. We're here to live, learn, and grow. We can all, always use new knowledge.
He shouldn't be moving in with her and kids PERIOD!!! Any man that will settle in with a woman and her kids is just looking for a place to lay his head.
Yes I agree if you’re kids are not able to fully talk you definitely should not be moving in with a man at least 10 and up but I haven’t lived with another man since my children’s father and I have 3 girls my mother lived alone for years with us and I know if my mom could do it so can I!! And unfortunately based on this generation and the men I run into I’m okay with living with my kids alone until they are out of my house my children are 13,12,9,9 8 more years won’t hurt me!! That’s the sacrifice we make when we have kids and the relationship doesn’t work out people need to learn how to have a dating life without there kids around
I had to do that once because the abusive ex (reason for being single) destroyed my credit while I was in the hospital due to preterm birth. It's not that everyone is dumb. I legitimately had no other options. You don't have to write "women" like that.
Praying for Wisdom, Knowledge, Understanding, and Discretion
It’s funny how when tony said what is most men bringing to a women and in my head I said headache and he said headache😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Recently a guy I was speaking to sent me a video on WhatsApp of a little girl being raped by her stepdad while her mum was at work. I told him what kind of human being is he to share such a video! I blocked him straightaway and told him if someone does that to my child I will kill him before the police come. I am a mother of 4 and this man thought it was funny to send me such a video. He’s a father of 3 himself, but he didn’t care because it was somebody else’s child on the video. This is how heartless these men are. They don’t care as long as it’s not their child. Don’t be fooled by the fact that he’s a single dad too.
All I saw in this man was red flags everywhere. He would ask me for money, small money. I was like and you’re the one who’s gonna be the head of the house?🙄 blocked!
I am a single mother, but I am not desperate. I know my worth and I don’t need a deadbeat boyfriend in my life to know my value. I work hard to feed my children and my first daughter is training to be a doctor.
Ladies, listen to Tony, everything he says is true. I was talking to another guy who was obsessed about my first child (daughter) who’s 18 year old. He would send me money and for my kids. Sometimes for my daughter only. He never met them, but every time he will call me via video call so he can see what my daughter looks like 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 blocked! He thought he can trick me with money. One thing he didn’t know i am from Tony Gaskins Academy, no man can trick me anymore.
This man was sleeping with a 17 year old girl when he was 35. They had two children together and the girl left him. This was a red flag for me plus his obsession for my daughter.
Thanks to Tony for this knowledge. I even asked my daughter why this man was so obsessed about her. My daughter and I are like best friends. We talk about everything. One day I took my other kids out and the oldest didn’t go with us due to tummy cramps. This guy called me and I told him my daughter didn’t come with us because of tummy cramps. He was like “ she had her period?, is she already having her period?” I told him I can’t talk about that with him because it doesn’t concern him. His response“ you too sensitive, that’s my daughter, I can’t do anything, you’re overthinking“. Exactly how Tony described these men in one of his videos, he was trying to talk me out of my common sense. At the end I blocked him and he never saw my daughter’s face. Sorry for my English, I speak French and I don’t live in America.
Beware ladies!
After my divorce 18 years ago, I decided that I would raise my kids alone until they were grown. I grew up watching my mom being abused over and over again. I promised myself I would not subject my kids to such trauma. The only man that have been to my house and around my kids are their dad. I have dated. They don’t know where I live. It is not that deep for me. I kept myself occupied with school, work, and kids. I am too tired to entertain a man full time after finishing up four degrees🤦🏽♀️
Some will be offended, but it's the truth. Keep speaking the truth!
Knowledge, understanding, insight, and wisdom are keys for life.
Thank you!
You are so right Men ain’t all that. They bring nothing but headaches. It’s funny you said that because that’s how I feel. The smallest things they do irritate me like SNORING. They cool and all but for me love just don’t be that serious to just go out sad like some women do. That story broke my heart so bad because as a mother who takes pride in my role as a mom, I just don’t understand how you can be so mean to kids that you carried & went through the hell of hours of labor for. I could NEVER let a man come in me & my kids life and just destroy it. I’m a savage about mine! Ladies love yourself and children more than these men! Men come a dime a dozen, your babies are there forever!
In my opinion, I feel a single mother should wait until her child/children are grown and out of her house before she date again. Any form of abuse to a child could affect them for the rest of their lives. Both mentally and socially.
I get what you’re saying but nobody should live their life out of fear! You have to pray for discernment and wisdom!
It's ok to date but one doesnt have to bring the man in your house or around your kids until God has shown that he is your husband-to-be and suitable for your kids.
As a rape victim I strongly disagree. A male rapist or coercer is not entitled to dictate the rest of your life.
I think this why I don’t allow people around my kids. I have a huge problem with trust and my kids can’t defend themselves. I don’t know why some female are in a rush to move a man in without knowing his full intention
They want half on bills
As soon as I heard about the video I thought about the warning you gave us. It’s so sad. I literally almost threw up when I read the story. So glad God is protecting me and my girls.
Stop letting a relationship define you. - TG
Great video! I like what you said about zero desperation. It's pathetic what women justify and ignore to stay in a relationship and pretend it's quality. Thank God I'm not that type of women anymore!
That’s why I don’t date I love my son too much for anything to happen to him. People need to be a whole person before they get into a relationship. They need to have their relationship with God right and be their best self before they go out dating
I agree
You can still date (going out only) without bringing men into your home or even meeting your son..Speaking from experience...it's ok to have a balance💖
@@KDStyle1 that is true. I mean going on dinner dates and things, but idk lately I have been turned off to even entertain a man. I have been extra cautious due to situations that happen with that boy being killed.
@@Lacilove1991 ok...so everything you said you were doing ( best self, relationship w God) now gets "put to work". You still have to "relate" to be in a relationship. It's definitely not going to be the 1st guy you meet. Wise dating can help build on those things, and can also cut down on your "disdain" for men, and awkward M-F adult communcation, etc. Being a wise dater, being selective with whom you converse and how long, using the phone for red flags BEFORE in person dating, etc.
Just trying to be helpful, and providing a little more perspective...my son is 21, was a single parent, made mistakes in that area and finally worked it out to marriage...
@@KDStyle1 amen that’s great and I know it’s about dating wise. I’m getting there just it’s traumatizing hearing stories of these poor kids being abused or killed in the hands of someone a parent was dating and didn’t discern before bringing them around their kids. But your right you have to go out and meet people just be cautious
Exactly! Occupy the mind. I'm so content with singleness now. The apostle Paul said if you can make room for it, then do it. It is a gift! I'm focused on becoming a better woman. The RIGHT man has to be special to take this peace I have from me.
I’m not a mom. But I’ve sent these videos so many moms I know with crazy dating lives. This advice is golden. Lol every single mom should legally be forced to take a course from Tony about this stuff.
Please don’t ever stop speaking the truth!! As a soon single mom to be , I really appreciate this type of video 🙏🏿🙏🏿🙏🏿
Jesus!!! That made my stomach hurt, hearing what you just said he did to that child. Omgosh! I appreciate you keeping it real. Tony this exactly why I stay to myself and take care of my girls. Lord have mercy. I heard so many different horror stories about dudes harming children. 1 dude who was playing a video game and beat a child to death just because the baby won’t stop crying. This is a crazy/ cold world we live in. I was just about to go to sleep, but decided to listen to your video. This breaks my heart.
The single mom video was all facts !💪🏾💪🏾
I feel like you are the older brother I need in this season of my life. You are very funny but real🙏🏽
You don't have to tour Tony. We need you safe and there are too many "grown boys" out here.
Yeah it’s a lost cause at this point
Yes!
Have to be smart and especially these days!! It’s just us as the single mother to also protect your kids.
I just had a guy approach me and say your beautiful do you got kids 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩gone bout ya business
I don't even have kids and that offends me. Why is that the very first question? So if I have kids, will I still be beautiful?? And half the time they have *multiple* children with more than one woman 🤦🏾🤦🏾🤦🏾But I guess it doesn't count if you're a man??
@@PeaceBeStill- it’s the HVM society . The samulites if you know what I mean
🤣🤣🤣🤣 Some things you just have to laugh at and keep it moving..."Thank you for the compliment n insult at the same time, Sir"🤣🤣🤣
Thank you for teaching us and telling us this stuff. It is some very cruel stuff being done. My mom told me that being single is not a bad thing and I believe her.
Yes, one of those happened right here in H-Town. I couldn’t even process that. Very sad. You’re absolutely right - never too safe.
Tony. Could you bring the “talks with Tony” back ? I think it gave variety for you to choose from . And I loved it when we actually have a real life example . I miss those. Kinda was like my mini show for each week that I could look forward too . Lol just a suggestion . God bless you and your family . Thank you for this video too .
A lot of us aren’t taught about personality disorders, not choosing men when we are vulnerable, stop getting online and telling all of our business and giving ppl the ammunition, etc. Amen, Tony!! Take heed to those warning signs. Don’t try to change them. Take time to get to know ppl. How does he treat his mother and other women close to him. We are seeing too many pregnant women and mothers being killed. My job and IDTV keeps me single these days, too.
As a single mother I stopped dating a long time ago because I got tired of attracting men who were emotionally Damaged by their mothers who would ENVY the loving bond I have with my son. Those types of men are DANGEROUS!! Thankfully I never brought them around my son, their envy would manifest during our dinner dates just by me communicating my love and affirmation for my own child. Right now the Lord is preparing me and my son for a ministry together 😍😍my son is greatly anointed by God and I'm not going to let ANYONE come in the middle of what the Lord is doing in both of our lives. If God sees fit for me to have a husband then so be it, if not I am more than content knowing that I am on the right track for the glory of Jesus Christ and He will continue to KEEP me for as long as I allow Him to keep me. Not everyone has the grace to be single, but thank God I do. I love your videos Tony. God bless you and your family!!!
Thank you... as a women I see why men take advantage. No boundaries;
Observe more and seek wisdom. Allow God's grace to guide you. He has to work on you first.
Though that phase of desperation has been long gone for me, I do understand what Tony is saying and he is right! A lot of women feel as though they HAVE to have a man. They want one but the one's they want usually end up being the worst of them. Just sit back and relax, work on yourself and let it be.
Amen Unk"!!! Keep speaking the pure honest truth because it's all truth& FACTSSSSS!! It's up to each and every individual to listen to ABBA YAH messenger!!🙏🏽👑🤝🏾
God bless you and your family Tony. Amen.
When tony was saying there there isn’t a whole lot of women excited about their men saying they farting, they snappy etc I was dying😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Girl 😂😂😂
Ha ha ha 😂😂😂 true
Sometimes you can observe how a man is with his own children. If he's too aggressive or angry in his manner of disciplining them, don't expect anything different when it comes to your children. On the flip side, if he is SEEMINGLY a great parent to his own children and puts them on the pedestal, you can believe there's no room on that pedestal for your children. It can be tricky out there. Like Tony said, most men "are not that special," so we shouldn't feel like we're missing out on anything.
This is a really important message. It just goes to show how strong our desire for a husband and family is. We were made for relationships, but here we're told it's not that serious. We were raised to believe it was our life's goal; how to rewrite a lifetime of training? It's hard
THIS IS TRUE WISDOM THANK YOU SO MUCH I TOTALLY AGREE WITH THIS MESSAGE! 💜
Tony Gaskins thank you so much
Oh my...this is probably one of the best videos I've watched. Ladies, it's not that serious to have a man! Let's learn to love and better ourselves first.
Thankful to see a real example of a good man
Thank you, I love your honesty.
Wow I really needed this reminder. Thank you!
A man can be more problems than he worth period !!!!!!!!
Please protect your children 🙏. Spend more time raising your children and keep the family in prayer.
I am laughing so much.... go occupy your mind ladies😅🤣
Tony I see it in that man too it’s so sad a scary
Nobody all of that lol… AT ALL…. But in all fairness you have to understand its not purely desperation.. women have been conditioned and taught to believe that she is worth it based off mans opinion..status and on the flip side it’s ridiculous that too many men have such behaviors in them.. both need accountability at the end men should be protective and instead they have no self control. And yes Tony absolutely right women need to use their wisdom
Tony , may God continue to bless you. Thank you for sharing this message
What are men bringing most women ' a headache'lol amen.... true tony
👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 this needed to be said
Thank you, thank you, thank you, for taking the time to add value to our lives. 🙏🏾💯🙌🏾
You know you’re Team TG when you start finishing his sentences on these videos 😆😆😆
So very sad
So true. When i kicked my ex out the chick moved him in with her and her teen daughter and small toddler. She only knew him for a few months. Horrible
Thank you!
I have a family member who married a man who didn’t wanna help her to raise kids who she had with another man, yet he had a child of his own & she put her kids in foster care just to keep this man. They divorced in the end anyway. Sad case.
My husband and I have been separated for a little over 2 years now. Together 15 years, married 13. He cheated more than multiple times. We have a 7 year old daughter. He doesn't communicate with me at all. He's in another relationship and wants to bring our daughter around this strange woman who I've never met and don't want to meet. I told him never. Am I wrong?
Honey you are doing the right thing. Never second guess your feelings about the situation.
Your intuition never lies. You don't know that woman from a can of paint. He wants to use your daughter to manipulate your feelings. YOU ARE NOT WRONG!
You're doing great sister!MAY OUR HEAVENLY FATHER Keep Safe Under His Wings and Protect You and Your Daughter IN THE MIGHTY NAME OF JESUS CHRIST!!!
AMEN!!!!
Not wrong, you have a right and responsibility to your daughter to at least meet who will be around her. He's trippin
He's need to communicate with you so he can see his daughter but yes you should be open to meeting her but his communication will have to change with you because you are her primary caregiver.
You need to be cautious yes but you still need to be informed. Communication is always key. It doesn't sound like yall ended well with the "I don't want to meet her". But for the sake of visits with the dad you NEED to know as much as you can. Protect the princess at all costs even over our feelings. Keep talking to her about following her intuition as well. Good luck Mama🙏💯
a lot of women and men got stuck without having a husband or a wife... a boyfriend or girlfriend who was living together before this pandemic surfaced. ... remember we all had to social distance....so that made people super lonely and desperate...you see the married people are lucky,,they have a mate in the house with them..and they dont have to gamble with their life trying to pic person they think is COVID FREE..This is a factor too tony.
How is it gambling with their life? You watch too much TV mate I worked in health care up until recently and I'll tell you the only thing you'll gamble your life with is that jab
@@Helenlouisee obviously you didn't understand what i said ..read it again please
@@monicawillis7379 I did and I still agree covid isn't a risk blokes are lol x
@@monicawillis7379 @Helen .e covid actually forced married couples' true character about each other to be revealed since they were forced to be around each other. Divorce attorneys said that this was the most business they ever got.. divorce rates reached HISTORICAL numbers.. so did d*mestic a*use. Single people were fortunate enough to not go through this.
Yippee!
I got lucky my stepdad was wonderful I would be more upset if something happened to him than my own dad
I don't trust my own father alone with my baby girl. Even if it's just a visual thing I don't want some perv staring at my child while I'm changing her. Only man I trust with her is her daddy even though he makes me sick I know he would never do anything to intentionally hurt her
I said headache as the same time as Tony 🤣
And Tony right about alot of women not being thrilled about having a man since all they bringing with them is a pulse basically.
Yes
💯 💯 💯CORRECT!!!!
26 miles marathon!…Amen 🙏
😟 very sad Tony...I agree...
Not one lie told!!!!
This Girl I went to community college with that I was close with she has I think five kids and she got back with one of her kids father they got engaged and then because I saw it on Facebook and then a couple of months later she I guess broke up with that guy and got with one of her other baby daddies and now they’re planning a wedding I’m like what the fuck and the crazy part is she such a gorgeous girl and this was the man that put her through hell made her go to therapy, convinced her to have threesomes etc.
You will not die, if you don’t have a man. Lol Very true.
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It's hard for me to watch these videos because the stories make my blood boil so much I feel like load'n up Mr. Do right 🔫 and advocating these poor children who are victims of their mother's POOR JUDGE OF CHARACTER in men. Jesus helps us ALL!!
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Bruh you wild
The best single mom to date is dont date them at all
1st
I know nobody wants to hear this. But if I was a single mother with children and entering marriage, I would send my children to boarding school and make sure I never missed a weekend visit or call. But hey, as women we rather live on hope that facts!!
Ps: majority of boardong schools have scholarships/bursaries for single parents.