The West did go threw it for years ...... America until mid 40s - 50s stop doing multigeneration homes or passing on property to their youth ...... We also don't have the cabin law anymore ( Build a house and be able to live on some land ) .
Thank you for helping us feel less alone in this man. This channel has always been a solace for my heart. Sometimes you just need to see someone say exactly what you feel
38 year old woman here. Just moved back in with parents as my partner of 14 years who I thought I was gonna grow old with up and left like it was nothing. Never felt so down. Everything is also expensive. The cost of living keeps going up up up. Employers are still not paying more to keep up. There is gonna be so many homeless people in the future. I'm afraid its gonna be all of us if things don't change. I think this is a world wide problem.
@@RedEyeification Sounds like you are Judgemental. You don't even know me. Don't put all women in the same boat just because you got turned down by Stacy. Fuck right off.
34 stuck living with my Mom, my father passed in 2018. Mother can't afford to live on her own, I make decent pay but can't afford to support her and live on my own. Trust me I know exactly how you feel but you truly aren't alone
Its not that we dont care, but you will simply get on each others nerves living together. As a 29 year old living with parents around 65 and 70 years old we simply arent very compatible roommates. It only makes sense.
I'm 43 and live with my father. I spent years out of state and even out of the country and then moved back. It's mutually beneficial to both of us. We can both get a lot more done, plus I can help him out around the house. I don't give a damn about some social stigma about living with your parents past a certain age. I do what's best for my family and community. I don't want any regrets about anything when I'm looking back.
Thiss. Speak your truth! Your duty is only to yourself & your family. Never give a damn what others think. It is only a recent phenomenon to separate from your family created by rich oligarchs to tax you more, charge you double where you don't get to share anything with your own family.
I feel ya man I just moved out and my lease ends in March I feel like I’m gonna move back in I’ll be 25 and maybe stay for 2 years to save but I just get embarrassed
Hey man, keep your head up. I’m 32 and in the same situation. It’s tough in many ways as you mentioned, but I’m still grateful to have my folks around and have a place to live. I’m in the US and the culture here unfortunately frowns on people still living with their parents. Honestly I don’t know why, most people here are struggling and share the same struggles. Heck, I’m right there with you. Don’t let it get you down my man. Keep going. You are not alone.
I went through that too. I remember that feeling. It’s all in your head and to do with framing. Women aint as bad as the internet makes out. Keep pushing. Speaking as someone who figured it out, made a lot more money, and moved out. You’ll get there.
I'm glad i saw this. I moved out when i was 19. I ended up moving back with my mom when i was like 25 or 26 because i had a dispute with a roommate. Im 27 now, and i been feeling like shit because im almost 30 and still living with my mom. Im glad to see others in the same position. I learned that living with your parents shouldn't be considered a bad thing.
I'm 50 and i'm forced to live with my shit parents cause they sell the house i should inherited from my grand parents.Everyday is a survival fight.Everyone should stay single ,married or who they like.Today estate crisis is meant to reduce the population not giving them the means to reproduce which are the houses and jobs.We'll be killing each other to survive in our families.
Don't worry. Living with your parents is awesome. You get to spend more time with them. Trust me, you are where you're supposed to be. You're on time chief. Relax and enjoy your life.
I'm 38. If my parents were still alive, I'd probably be living with them. Times are hard right now, everyone I know is struggling. Our society is disconnected and isolated. Other cultures are different. Living with parents is normal in some cultures. Sometimes 3 generations live under the same roof. And honestly, in some ways, that seems better. Grandma in the home, mom and dad, yourself, and eventually your kids. And they all share in the burden of life, helping each other out. Does it infringe on your freedom? Sure, but you'd have family around, and support. Here in the US we kick out our kids at 18 and say "figure it out." I'm not convinced that's the best way.
It took me until 35 to be ABLE financially free from parents, actually buy my own place. Not rent. Not share. Not lease. What I went through I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy
I understand your situation. I am 36 years old and I live in Poland. I worked in a food factory, in a fast food restaurant, in a store and other low-paid jobs. People around me called me a failure, etc. My mother became very ill and required constant care from me for over 2 years. During this worst time, at night, when my mother was asleep, I solved various programming tasks. I won a fairly large programming competition on a national scale, which gave me the job I had previously dreamed of. Even though I earn well and save most of my earnings, I still live at home and take care of my mother. Remember that it is never too late to change and you can still achieve a lot in life even if no one believes in you!
@@isaachahn8171 All the best! I will also add to my story that my care for my mother took place during the lockdown. I had to quit my job because of my mother. I got into credit card debt (which I quickly paid off after I started working as a programmer). I also suffered from PTSD and anhedonia during this time due to the assault on me. It was a very difficult and uncertain time for me, I saw no chance for a better future. The only chance for me was remote work, but without experience it was difficult to get a job, so I had to find an alternative path (programming competition) to get a job.
Bro, I am 28, turning 29 this year. I met one of my friends when I was 15 and he was 20, bro is like 33 still living at home, my neighbor is same deal but a few years older at 35. These people going out there have nothing but FTPR cases on them, failure to pay rent. If they don't its because mommy and daddy helped them, like they did with car and everything else. We are looking at a bigger issue, my generation went to college just to end up doing restaurant work, bartending, landscapers, Uber, Door Dash, and they forgot the college material they learned while still being in debt to it. I see the brokeness on their faces. The only success stories I hear are the plumbing, electrical, HVAC trades, lawyers, doctors, nurses, realtors(sometimes) and obscure financial sector jobs. We will never afford the houses our parents could in this market.
I sympathize. There are many cases where, on top of not having a viable income, one might also have mental struggles, which makes basically all duties associated with having a home for oneself extremely difficult to maintain. How can one expect someone who is, for example, depressed, to take care of their own home if they can't even take care of themselves due to their mental illness? It is just a sad reality that needs to be, well...destigmatized.
As a 22 year old male that also lives with parents. In this day of age u have to basically make around $120,000 to $200,000 yearly income to survive at this point. It's sad how landlords, Trillionairs, billionaires and CEO wanna fill their pockets with money and manipulate the prices of shit is just beyond upsetting 😭😤
Everything is a choice. No one is entitled to a certain type of life. It's possible to live on almost no money but not without great sacrifice. I work as a long haul trucker which is in a horrible nightmare industry but I like to drive and I literally live in the sleeper cab and I average around $1100 a week after taxes no rent almost no bills.
You seem like a well intentioned soul. Keep your head up and dont stop speaking from your heart on these matters. I think you're plainly saying what many others are feeling and people will resonate with that. It's tough times we're in, but hey we're in it together. WIsh you all the best man
Bro I'm 33, I didn't OWN a car at your age, and I was piss broke in an apt working minimum wage, unable to afford college. Consider it a blessing and opportunity to bond with your parents and stack some cheddar. It's all about perspective. I WISH my parents had been more supportive so I could have gotten better qualifications on paper and not have to waste all my savings on rent. Work hard, educate yourself, do BIG things, and you just watch your success unfold and your parents be so goddamn proud of you. Let me tell you something else you've got wrong, or rather, that your pop has WRONG. We are NOT living in the same economy. My pos dad was renting a FULL house, with garage, yard, pool, and affording car payments on 700$ a month in 2000! Dude people rent CLOSETS for more now. The wage to cost of living ratio has almost tripled.
No worries brother; I’m an orphan, and would do anything for that opportunity to live/see my parents one last time… nothing to be ashamed of. Keep your chin up.
😂😂😂😂😂 no. It wasn’t easy as a poor Boomer whose parents gave me nothing! My 40+ year old son moved back home with me. It’s too expensive today to live alone. Glad to keep him from being homeless.
I left home at about 33, got a local authority flat ( I live in the U.K.) I was on the waiting list 4 years and offered two shit holes before I was offered my 3rd and final offer. That was over 20 years ago and things have got a whole lot worse since . All’s well that ends well things finely got good, met my husband,had a baby at 42 and brought our home. Now my 21 year old is living at home and saving to eventually move out, she’s luckier than most as she will have us to help her. I agree things have never been so expensive . Good luck with your pursuit of happiness
Dont be so upset. In my culture, single adults live with parents. Im 42, I pay all bills and groceries, i never will get married, theres no point in living alone. You amerians are so detached from your parents, you have a single life, and time flies
I highly agree with that! They are detached! I knew some sour individuals that shamed people for having any relationship with their parents let alone live with them. I love my parents and yes, they are not perfect but you know what?!? I won’t be that person who grows old with regrets like, “I should have spent for time with them and heard their stories.” I am grateful I spent more time with my grandparents before they passed. No regrets.
@@kenpachi465Everyone passes away, it's a fact of life, the point is to be with those that love you, and cherish that time, for me it's my parents and my little sister, they are world to me, the worst is being with fake people, and if the choice is to be alone or be with fake people that the society seems to pump out, then I think the choice is easy, if one gets lucky and finds a true friend or friends, then they pretty much hit the jackpot in today's world, but even then for me it's family and wouldn't trade it for anything, but would definitely still make time for a true friend
@babaduk7679 that's the point. Everyone passes away. You should try to find a true friend and have kids so there would always have someone who truly loves you even in old age.
I’m 41 and I live at home. I know your feelings all too well. I am considered a late bloomer. Society tells us we should know ourselves before we leave school, but most people don’t know themselves until their 40’s. Most people who claim they know themselves in their twenties are now miserable in their 40’s, so don’t beat yourself up. Learn about yourself and what is going to make you happy and fulfill you. The money will flow to you then. As my granny said always, “if there’s a will, there’s a way.” You are at an advantage compared to most, you don’t have all the bills, so you have time to figure things out without the added stress.
I'm 28 and still live with them because I'm chronically sick. Please never take anything for granted and dont compare yourself to society, becuse tht makes you depresive.
Don’t be upset, young people have it differently nowadays, but we will make it through. I’m 25 too and I still live with my parents too. Sometimes I argue with them, but deep down I know they love me and that’s how I get along with staying with my parents despite our arguments. Life is so different now. But I hope you keep trying. Keep praying, go to God and ask Him to help you. You’re going to turn out fine :) And indeed, what can you do? I think the same way. It makes me depressed but at the same time makes me feel free too. But that’s just me. You’re going to be okay :)
Hello, Luke! From a fellow Luke. I too am 25, and living with my parents. Just wanted to say i feel you on a spiritual level my brother. 🤝 nice to meet you. From my perspective, life doesn't get better, it gets worse. You just learn how to deal with it. Happy trails
I feel you bro. I'm 30 and still live with my mom. My dad passed away 5 mo. ago from cancer. Been single for a long time. I went to college for a degree in applied sciences, and couldn't even graduate because I was working from 8am-8pm at a job in my career choice, and I couldn't get the tutoring I needed to pass a stupid general education class because I was working. Whenever a company asks how much I want to make, i say $18-20 and they act like I'm ridiculous. The point is- WITH INFLATION, HOUSING MARKET, GAS PRICES, GROCERY PRICES and all going up, you absolutely NEED $20+ an hour to afford to live these days. It's ridiculous. So, not to wear the "tin-foil" hat here but there's a bigger agenda at play here to cut out the lower class and middle class in the "land of the greed, home of the slaves"
@@a-10warthog90 NC, but even so. $20 isn't what I aim for, but in my current field choice(which I regret dearly for even going to college for), the more experience and knowledge you have, the more money you make. $18-20 is basically my "foot in the door" price. If I were to go any higher, they'd laugh at me and kick me out the door.
Haha, I'm 25 and just got out from my parents. Working two jobs, 7 days a week to make rent, but ngl, living independently has been life-changing for me. My parents never taught me shit, so now I'm learning out of necessity, and I feel like I'm a functioning adult for the first time. Barely functioning, but still functioning. Plus with the peace and quiet, I can finally step back and get my mental health together.
I agree with you shits expensive it’s not like it was back in the 80s or 90s I’m 32 years old and I still live with my mom. I think most people in my opinion should stop shaving other people just cause they live with their parents it doesn’t meanthat they’re lazy or just a bomb or they don’t have anything going for themselves especially when it’s really hard to get a job out here too with little to no experience
Society: Your 20s/30s... you should be moved out and in a relationship with kids with a fence and a dog blah blah blah Also society: Let's raise the price of everything because of "inflation" so that it doubled over the past four years and Millennials and gen Z have to choose between ridicule and selling their soul to the system. Oh and relationships are just a contract for men to lose half of everything. Honestly, the only winning move is not to play this silly game (seems like the set up for the beast in Revelations personally). I'm 31 and live with my parents. Best strategy is be rapture ready... it kind of seems like the rapture is near enough that at least one of the current generations will experience it while still on this rock.
I'm 38 and still live with my parents. I have a 28 year old gf who lives with her dad as well. Although we both work and it would be nice to move in together, we wouldn't be able to afford it. Even if we could, we would have nothing left. I feel like this is a new norm now because times have changed. Gen z and millennials are the first gen that is poorer than their parents. Initially I was getting angry at the world, but I don't feel it that way anymore. I'm just grateful for what I have and still a roof over my head although my parents are providing it for me.
Dude I'm almost 32 and still live with my parents. The idea that young(ish) adults are "supposed to" move out of their parent's house as soon as they possibly can (even if it means living paycheck to paycheck in a crappy apartment without ever having the ability to save any real money) is modernist nonsense that was invented in the 1960's. When your ancestors first came to this country they lived with their parents until they got married. That's still the norm in most parts of the world for good reason. What's the benefit in dramatically increasing your expenses and throwing away your money giving it to a landlord when you aren't financially established? Hell.. even if you ARE financially established why not stay with your parents regardless (if you have the option) and give yourself the ability to save even more money? Who cares what people think. My advice is you should find a side hustle. Almost everyone needs one these days... and in 2024 it's never been easier to find one that actually gives you some enjoyment.
I think the stigma surrounding being over 21 and still living with your folks is just a western thing tbh, I don't know about every country out there but I'm a 24 year old Egyptian guy and still living with my parents. Here in the middle east you don't move out unless you're getting married. I don't understand why it's perceived that badly in the states, if anything it should be stupid to move out unless you really need it.
I’m about to be 32 I’m in my father’s home with my 27 year old brother and 8 year old daughter! Enjoy your life my friend and enjoy your family fuck the world
Definitely agree with the ‘feeling stuck’ part, I’m pretty much the same age still living at home. I pay for all my own stuff and I do earn enough to move out, but for me I feel living by myself would be too isolating and it’s not something I really want to do. Everyone I know has either already moved out or don’t earn enough to move so for me I don’t really have many options besides staying with my parents
Idk, that cigarette trick is pretty sweet! My parents are dead, found my mother on the bathroom floor hours after having a heart attack at 21. I wish I had the folks around still. I think it’s a blessing, the system is broken and corrupt. It’s only going to get worse for the youth. It’s cool you still live with your parents, don’t let the mainstream narrative sway you. Keep on grinding, things will get better. In the end we all die, don’t trip.
26 next month living at home. I graduated when I was 21. I cook at Chick Fil-A. There are way worse positions in life than i have. Hopefully God will bless whoever is reading as is fit 🙏
the fact that my stepdad’s parents (specifically my stepdad’s father left me my own place at age 20 when he died) is insane what a major blessing for myself to have my own kitchen, living room, dining room, & bedroom in the apartment extension they built in the back of their house when i was 15 in 2016 i wish everyone else the best in their living situations
Finding faith during tough times is like mining for coal and striking an abundance of diamonds. Seek Jesus my friend, we will make it together by His Grace Alone! Praying for you brother
I'm an Adult and I live with my Mom. I don't want to live alone. I also was able to take care of my Grandma in her old age which was one of the biggest blessings of my life. We kept her at home when she got dementia instead of putting her in an assisted facility. It's very taboo to live at home as an adult here in America (Especially in White Culture) but not so in other cultures. Multi-Generational housing situations are great as long as everybody helps out. Plus I can save $ instead of wasting it on rent just to fit into societies box that I could care less about. I'm Autistic and do need some support but I see nothing wrong with living at home as an Adult as long as you are helping out. Part of the way my Autism manifests in me is my ability to be an independent thinker. People hate that their brain does not control my limbs and I'm able to completely ignore peer pressure and snotty comments. Oh they hate it! If any woman doesn't like that I live with my Mom then she can go date someone else.
This generation today has it rough compared to when I was 25 in 2007. I was only making 10 bucks an hour, but could afford a 500 dollar a month apt, pay my bills, pay car insurance, groceries, and phone bill. It was tight, but I still managed to make it work and without roommates. Everything's just so expensive now it's beyond ridiculous. Hang in there man. Hopefully things get better for you.
Your dad's got boomer brain. A lot of older people don't want to believe things have gotten harder. It would diminish their own life and work, and that's not acceptable.
Also, outside of modern "western" cultures, it's actually common for families (grand parents, parents, children etc) to live together. Having multiple generations living together doesn't fit in with the consumer mindset forced on us today.
@@Death2Compromise its literally as simple as the worlds grown and people are poorer. Poorer people have more people in their households, independent people move out. America had half its population 50 years ago. Nearly 200 million more people in 50 years, it’s not that shit got harder, there’s just more people on earth, horrific liberal policies, and a lot more lazy people. Life today is EASIER in every single way than it ever was, the people saying shit got harder are weak and prideful.
I'm 23yo in the same boat. I still live with my parents. It's a blessing in many ways, but it can make me feel less of a man at times. I hate when i have to tell people, especially girls, that i live with my parents
grateful my mom is still around and that she lets me live with her. fortunate to have a good relationship with her and able to save money for the future. people who judge are inconsiderate idiots who are warped by the old american way.
Luke, I’m 29 and live an apartment with my mom. She hates me and treats me like her surrogate husband constantly being passive aggressive. I have no friends, no family, no wife, no girlfriend as support. Lost my car about a year ago and can’t keep a job from poor mental health. The conclusion you came to… there’s nothing you can do.. fucking hits home.
@@LukeWeast Not pointing fingers as I literally do not know your family, but have you ever considered that your Father wasn't your Mothers' preferred choice of partner, and that she picked him thinking 'I can grow to love him' but never did? Happens more often than you think
Out of 8 billion people, Father and Mother are the closest people. No one will ever be able to replace them. Parents are the most valuable blessing that God has given you . Not everything is measured by money, self-development, etc.
I Appreciate your honesty. I'm sad that you didn't make it, thought I will be honest with you. In my opinion you are to comfy. Parents are probably a decent considering people, that's why they support you. And that is your pitfall, in my opinion it holds you back. You said that there is no other way, but there is so maaany ways. Not comfortable but risky, getting out starts with your mind .
It's only natural for an adult to instinctively want to leave the den/nest, and have their own autonomy. Private equity companies/shadow banks on Wall Street however (BlackRock, Blackstone, Vanguard, Fidelity etc), all have tens of trillions of dollars at their disposal. We can also blame BlackRock for causing the 2008 GFC with their mortgage-backed securities, and Blackstone buying up all the foreclosed/distressed properties. Wall Street, and the WEF want you to live at home with your parents, or be homeless, forever; and to also own nothing and be happy about it.
I 100% agree. When I was 25, I was still living with my mom and dad, but once I turned 27 I moved out and now currently paying rent/bills single handedly even to this day. As utterly undesirable as it is, the willingness to work 12 hours or even 16 hours is honestly necessary if your doing labor jobs just to be able to make more than you needed to pay off stuff. Only in the USA where this mindset to be ashamed by living with your parents has ever been a thing. Go to the majority of countries, most people live with their parents out of respect for their families and to maintain business and demands. I do believe doing this keeps family closer. In 2021, I know my Dad went to a better place right now for all the things he did for the family, I'd always be grateful and love my dad no matter what. I'll never forget.
please don't be too hard on yourself, I'm 30 living with parent no shame no guilt. as along as we're trying our best things will happen, and eventually we'll have our own place and good life.
Bro, move back home with your folks. it is better to live with your parents than to be in debt. Move back and help them out in their daily activities. Listen to them, watch movies with them, dance with them. What ever we were told about being "independent" is making us more dependent on money which we don't have (credit) on land we don't own (rent).
@@johnnytsunami3558 my salary wasn't enough but I banked on getting a raise, very stupid of me. Now I'm fired because the war broke out in Israel. Can't even afford this basement, embarassing.
I respect your sincerity, and how you reflect on the situation. It is expensive where I live too. Times have changed, no shame in adapting to what is, versus what was.
I worked at a gas station for a few years in my twenties. I remember that feeling of being stuck. One night I was sitting there and it hit me that if I didnt leave right then I never would. I called the manager and left. It's taken 15-20 years but I own my own house now (actually own it, no mortgage) and have options. You really gotta take the dive, come what may. You'd be surpised what you're capable of.
I’m 28 and still live with my parents. Sometimes I think I should just pull the plug, it is what it is. Our lives aren’t very important you and I. It just doesn’t matter.
When you shift your focus to do God’s will, you’ll have a different perspective. Get saved today, by believing the gospel- how that Christ died for your sins according to the scriptures, was buried and rose again in the third day according to scriptures. If you believe that, God will give you the free gift of eternal life. This world will perish, but eternity is forever. “For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” Romans 8:18 KJB There’s no better joy than to have joy in the Lord. May God bless you.
Bro most people 18-30 are still living with their parents, don't even feel bad. Just save up while you're there and try to get rid of bad habits like smoking and drinking. Good luck brother. And don't let the people saying you look old get you down, the unkept beard would make anyone look older.
I know plenty of people 20 to 30 that live with their parents or grandparents. Alot of the time its just smart to save the money for a home while not having a mortgage draining on you. Most people who have a house just rushed out and casually put themselves in debt for life. It's not what you have but what you own.
Same, I'm 24 and I've tried so hard to move out but it's becoming almost impossible to take that leap. I don't even understand how it's mathematically possible that people my age are living alone.
im 19 and I felt that I was stuck in the same pit, the key is to not see yourself as stuck, but as moving very slowly, keep pushing. I had no aspirations or values, but eventually once I saw that there is a force out there trying to destroy the nuclear family I realized that I needed to create a family of my own and protect it (helps if your current family sucks). After I realized that as my main goal, I also had a revelation that I didn't want to die not knowing what my body was capable of, and I certainly didn't want to die BECAUSE I wasn't physically capable enough. Started a Diet, lost a ton of weight, going to the gym soon to instill confidence, slowly getting that back through social interaction, eventually that way you will meet people and find a roommate!. The main thing you have to do is love yourself enough to know you deserve better and absolutely can fight through this worlds BS and become the 1% you always said was impossible. But you cant see yourself as stuck, you have to keep moving and making decisions in regard to your future. I'm 19 years old and this is what's been on my mind the last 8-10 months. I'm going to follow through with it and I know you can too.
Love and Enjoy your parents while you have them ❤Take care of them. They are the only parents you have. Don't sweat the little stuff. 🙏Everyone is on their own time-line. Do not compare yourself to others.
I am 22 and live with my parents, finishing my MBA and looking to get into the workforce. My friends poke fun at me yet they live pay check to paycheck and are constantly stressed with money. Some even resorted to food stamps. Being respectful to the parents is the big thing, and I always try to do chores and extras like making shakes for them on my own without anyone asking. Everyone says to date but until things are in line that just doesn't make good sense to me
I lived with my parents til 30. I saved so much doing it, I now currently own a house instead of getting stuck in renters limbo like so many who move out on their own when younger. Matter of fact, the only debt I have is my home mortgage as my car is paid off and my credit bill gets paid in full every month. I’m very thankful that I lived with my parents for as long as I did, it really taught me how to be disciplined with money
I’m in the same position at 38 years old, man. I work 50-60 hours a week and just can’t afford a place of my own so I still live with my mother. Society needs to stop ridiculing single, working people in this position. It’s tough out here.
this is pretty much the norm at this point. our society is ruined and all the jobs are going overseas and money goes to bankers and politicians. you probably would have accomplished more had it been 30 years ago. some may not want to admit it, but having your life "figured out" has a lot to do with the society you live in. It isn't easy to "figure out" your life when the society is antagonistic to you and unrewarding. Hopefully within the next 5 years things will turn around. But you're still really very young so don't be so hard on yourself.
Being at home is a living hell. You are treated as undesirable to potential girlfriends, it's awkward having people over as friends, you constantly get nagged at, and you're treated as second class by the whole of society. The trope of the guy who is still at home with his mom is probably one of the worst things to live and actualize. It happened to me as a matter of circumstance, I am constantly berated and I'm always depressed. It's not fun whatsoever.
Today's mentality is to blame. Generation X guys had plenty of girlfriends and close friends while living with their parents. Gen X also had a habit of getting along with multiple roommates. Today even two people can't get along in a huge house. Today's expectations are just too high. Going back to women, these days even if you own your own home and are attractive, have a good job, you are still treated as average. My father died 2 and a half years ago. I inherited his apartment which is big enough for a family. It sits empty. I still live with my mother. I chose to live with my mother for a few more years for a number of reasons, the 1st one being that I have a nice job that requires me to live in the area where my mother lives. The 2nd is that she spends months at her house in the countryside which means I'm alone in her apartment for long periods of time. The 3rd being that women in our generation treat men like sugar daddy cash machines and I don't like that. I have many more reasons but these are the biggest. So don't be depressed. Times are what they are. What you can do right now is improve your career. Gain professional experience. It might be highly valuable in the future since we're a generation that only wants the easy way in life. Building up professional experience takes a lot of time. So why not do that now while there's nothing else to do?
@@vladivf Yeah I find the mentality to be a lot more demanding on younger people today. But the standards weren't necessarily different for Gen X, it's just that money moved differently then than it does now. You could find a job and still have a little apartment with your girl in the 90's and 2000's and she could be in her underwear as you went to work. Gen X was a little more lax with physical relationships and they were realistic, average looking guys still had cute girlfriends who matched them physically and personality wise. Today things are so skewed from the apps. Today I feel like the checklist is getting added upon and the window of time for life events has been shortened. Jf you haven't had an actual relationship, landed a decent job, visited different parts of the world, have a degree, have money, have a house, have a car, meet a requisite level of physical attractiveness, you're basically left in the dust. I usually spend my freetime painting and drawing. I'd like to be a tattoo artist professionally. I have an apprenticeship, and a full time job, and I'm an Amateur Thai boxer. The income i have now would've been enough to buy a house in 2014. I feel like no matter how much I bust my ass I'm viewed as lesser by my peers who, while don't work at all, have landed the nice cushy yuppie life and girlfriend.
I feel the frustration. Keep your head up. 25 is still young and there is nothing wrong with living at home at that age. Live at home, stack your bread, and have a plan to move out when you are ready.
I’m 33 usaf vet and have several proprieties and my own spot but I still live with my family most of the time cuz I put the down payment and I have all my art and gear here. I spend my weekends in Brooklyn tho. Plus my family is Dominican so they stay cooking. Do you man
Bro I wish I would have stayed with my parents lol. I drive a truck and make really good money and living alone in a 2 bedroom is stupid. I asked my mom if I could move back in just to save money and have someone around. I don't want to buy a house either even though I could. Eventually I did fill my place with other renters, and it's nice to share the space. Go to church, pray to Jesus.
25 is still pretty young. And a lot of cultures men and women live with their folks until they get married. It's nothing to be ashamed of. If you were sitting around playing video games and not working, it would be a different story. Maybe you have some lessons you need to learn first before you move out, but you'll get there. Dont feel so bad, 25 isnt 40. Just try and relax and work on finding some better work but in the meantime, dont be so hard on yourself. Try to be thankful for the good things that are happening dont just focus on the bad stuff.
im 36 and live with my old parents and my mentaly ill sister , i care for them , get there money from bank , clean the house and buy groceries and will take over the house eventualy and keep carin for me sister , i coulnt care less what other people or woman think
I am 25 and still live with my parents and so do all my friends. Some have moved out and moved back in with their parents. rent is unaffordable in my area to live by yourself you have to at least get a roomate.
I am 24 years old and I still live with my mother, I totally understand the whole thing about not wanting to pursue a relationship because you still live at home
I relate extremely heavily to this, living at home isn't ideal but in my country the average house price is upwards of a million dollars now. (Australia) Coming from a poor family I'm just isolated in rural Australia without many opportunities for anything I'm interested in or anybody that is remotely similar to me. Most of my life has just been waiting for something to come along whilst working on myself but nothing ever does come along and it's just this same monotonous downward spiral where not much changed but each year I grow a year older with intensifying feelings of anxiety.
I',m 26, and after my previous girlfriend had nefariously plotted behind my back to get rid of me and leave with me with nothing, I was forced to move back in with my parents. I wasn't okay with my situation at all and worked my hardest to find a new job. I got a new job, found a new relationship while still living with my parents, and we're both getting a place together. Keep your head down to the grind stone brother. It's all it is.
I am from Kazakhstan and the youngest son should stay with parents, thats the tradition. In traditional family there are like 6 people from 3 generations. I genuinely dont understand that separation thing, i mean isnt that cool when you come from work and there are your wife and mother talking with each other, dad chilling outside and all waiting for a brother to start a dinner. Now i live alone in another city and shit is depressing: no friends, just no one, cant wait to return home
Dude I was at home until 27 i didnt know what i was going to do with my life, no work no plans no will to do anything, one day I moved with a friend to UK he left 1 month after i got a job and rented a little room, then a house and now i live with my partner i dont contact any family i ended up getting a girl and having a kid 3 years ago.. never in my life i would think things would change like that. many of my friends was the same. You will figure it out at some point .. Dont worry about what you want just step by step you will get it
In asia its normal. Fuck the western mind set.
The West did go threw it for years ...... America until mid 40s - 50s stop doing multigeneration homes or passing on property to their youth ...... We also don't have the cabin law anymore ( Build a house and be able to live on some land ) .
In Asia is normal cause they're brainwashed.I will not fuck my wife or gf while parents are in the kitchen.
Asia you are also part of communist regimes and live in fear, so yeah, makes sense people can’t become independent there and cling to others
Thank you for helping us feel less alone in this man. This channel has always been a solace for my heart. Sometimes you just need to see someone say exactly what you feel
I shall continue to do so then. Glad I could help:)
38 year old woman here. Just moved back in with parents as my partner of 14 years who I thought I was gonna grow old with up and left like it was nothing. Never felt so down. Everything is also expensive. The cost of living keeps going up up up. Employers are still not paying more to keep up. There is gonna be so many homeless people in the future. I'm afraid its gonna be all of us if things don't change. I think this is a world wide problem.
Heartbreaks are worse than any situation I could find myself in. Hope you're doing okay with that.
Equality
Seems like you're sad cause your ATM left you..
@@RedEyeification Sounds like you are Judgemental. You don't even know me. Don't put all women in the same boat just because you got turned down by Stacy. Fuck right off.
@@observer.b_e_l_l_i_s Nothing wrong with that. :)
34 stuck living with my Mom, my father passed in 2018. Mother can't afford to live on her own, I make decent pay but can't afford to support her and live on my own. Trust me I know exactly how you feel but you truly aren't alone
It’s more efficient to live together, the problem is no one cares about each other
This comment right here
Noble souls still exist I wish you luck ...don't go looking for love at the club or on any of these apps, just a tip
Peace brother
Its not that we dont care, but you will simply get on each others nerves living together. As a 29 year old living with parents around 65 and 70 years old we simply arent very compatible roommates. It only makes sense.
@@gvngbvngiggyur parents had u late that’s the biggest mistake
I'm 43 and live with my father. I spent years out of state and even out of the country and then moved back. It's mutually beneficial to both of us. We can both get a lot more done, plus I can help him out around the house. I don't give a damn about some social stigma about living with your parents past a certain age. I do what's best for my family and community. I don't want any regrets about anything when I'm looking back.
Thiss. Speak your truth! Your duty is only to yourself & your family. Never give a damn what others think. It is only a recent phenomenon to separate from your family created by rich oligarchs to tax you more, charge you double where you don't get to share anything with your own family.
25 and moving back to my parents TODAY.Its a blessing to have great parents that would accept you no matter your age
I feel ya man I just moved out and my lease ends in March I feel like I’m gonna move back in I’ll be 25 and maybe stay for 2 years to save but I just get embarrassed
Hey man, keep your head up. I’m 32 and in the same situation. It’s tough in many ways as you mentioned, but I’m still grateful to have my folks around and have a place to live. I’m in the US and the culture here unfortunately frowns on people still living with their parents. Honestly I don’t know why, most people here are struggling and share the same struggles. Heck, I’m right there with you. Don’t let it get you down my man. Keep going. You are not alone.
You are a true hero in my eyes! Nothing wrong with living the way you do...
Glad you think so :) I believe we're all the same
I went through that too. I remember that feeling. It’s all in your head and to do with framing. Women aint as bad as the internet makes out. Keep pushing.
Speaking as someone who figured it out, made a lot more money, and moved out.
You’ll get there.
I'm glad i saw this. I moved out when i was 19. I ended up moving back with my mom when i was like 25 or 26 because i had a dispute with a roommate. Im 27 now, and i been feeling like shit because im almost 30 and still living with my mom. Im glad to see others in the same position. I learned that living with your parents shouldn't be considered a bad thing.
Its not a bad thing, you just aren’t independent either
I'm 50 and i'm forced to live with my shit parents cause they sell the house i should inherited from my grand parents.Everyday is a survival fight.Everyone should stay single ,married or who they like.Today estate crisis is meant to reduce the population not giving them the means to reproduce which are the houses and jobs.We'll be killing each other to survive in our families.
Don't worry. Living with your parents is awesome. You get to spend more time with them. Trust me, you are where you're supposed to be. You're on time chief. Relax and enjoy your life.
Your assuming your parents are good people that you want to be around.
I'm 38. If my parents were still alive, I'd probably be living with them. Times are hard right now, everyone I know is struggling. Our society is disconnected and isolated. Other cultures are different. Living with parents is normal in some cultures. Sometimes 3 generations live under the same roof. And honestly, in some ways, that seems better. Grandma in the home, mom and dad, yourself, and eventually your kids. And they all share in the burden of life, helping each other out. Does it infringe on your freedom? Sure, but you'd have family around, and support. Here in the US we kick out our kids at 18 and say "figure it out." I'm not convinced that's the best way.
Don't feel bad about it, it's a different world these days.
Be thankful you are living with your parents, they are truly your only friends. You are blessed to still have them around
31 years here. And i'm still living with my parents too. I know how you feel man.
It took me until 35 to be ABLE financially free from parents, actually buy my own place. Not rent. Not share. Not lease. What I went through I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemy
I understand your situation. I am 36 years old and I live in Poland. I worked in a food factory, in a fast food restaurant, in a store and other low-paid jobs. People around me called me a failure, etc. My mother became very ill and required constant care from me for over 2 years. During this worst time, at night, when my mother was asleep, I solved various programming tasks. I won a fairly large programming competition on a national scale, which gave me the job I had previously dreamed of. Even though I earn well and save most of my earnings, I still live at home and take care of my mother. Remember that it is never too late to change and you can still achieve a lot in life even if no one believes in you!
thank you for this comment. no one seems to believe in me anymore
@@isaachahn8171 All the best! I will also add to my story that my care for my mother took place during the lockdown. I had to quit my job because of my mother. I got into credit card debt (which I quickly paid off after I started working as a programmer). I also suffered from PTSD and anhedonia during this time due to the assault on me. It was a very difficult and uncertain time for me, I saw no chance for a better future. The only chance for me was remote work, but without experience it was difficult to get a job, so I had to find an alternative path (programming competition) to get a job.
Bro, I am 28, turning 29 this year. I met one of my friends when I was 15 and he was 20, bro is like 33 still living at home, my neighbor is same deal but a few years older at 35. These people going out there have nothing but FTPR cases on them, failure to pay rent. If they don't its because mommy and daddy helped them, like they did with car and everything else. We are looking at a bigger issue, my generation went to college just to end up doing restaurant work, bartending, landscapers, Uber, Door Dash, and they forgot the college material they learned while still being in debt to it. I see the brokeness on their faces. The only success stories I hear are the plumbing, electrical, HVAC trades, lawyers, doctors, nurses, realtors(sometimes) and obscure financial sector jobs. We will never afford the houses our parents could in this market.
I sympathize. There are many cases where, on top of not having a viable income, one might also have mental struggles, which makes basically all duties associated with having a home for oneself extremely difficult to maintain. How can one expect someone who is, for example, depressed, to take care of their own home if they can't even take care of themselves due to their mental illness? It is just a sad reality that needs to be, well...destigmatized.
As a 22 year old male that also lives with parents. In this day of age u have to basically make around $120,000 to $200,000 yearly income to survive at this point. It's sad how landlords, Trillionairs, billionaires and CEO wanna fill their pockets with money and manipulate the prices of shit is just beyond upsetting 😭😤
Everything is a choice. No one is entitled to a certain type of life. It's possible to live on almost no money but not without great sacrifice. I work as a long haul trucker which is in a horrible nightmare industry but I like to drive and I literally live in the sleeper cab and I average around $1100 a week after taxes no rent almost no bills.
@@bentonja668 It has nothing to do with entitlement, having your own home is a basic humanright.
@@bentonja668 that sounds like a shit life to me
You seem like a well intentioned soul. Keep your head up and dont stop speaking from your heart on these matters. I think you're plainly saying what many others are feeling and people will resonate with that. It's tough times we're in, but hey we're in it together. WIsh you all the best man
Thank you :)
Bro I'm 33, I didn't OWN a car at your age, and I was piss broke in an apt working minimum wage, unable to afford college. Consider it a blessing and opportunity to bond with your parents and stack some cheddar. It's all about perspective. I WISH my parents had been more supportive so I could have gotten better qualifications on paper and not have to waste all my savings on rent. Work hard, educate yourself, do BIG things, and you just watch your success unfold and your parents be so goddamn proud of you.
Let me tell you something else you've got wrong, or rather, that your pop has WRONG. We are NOT living in the same economy. My pos dad was renting a FULL house, with garage, yard, pool, and affording car payments on 700$ a month in 2000! Dude people rent CLOSETS for more now. The wage to cost of living ratio has almost tripled.
No worries brother; I’m an orphan, and would do anything for that opportunity to live/see my parents one last time… nothing to be ashamed of. Keep your chin up.
Inflation makes everything impossible.
Yup
Governments and corporations that create inflation make everything impossible.
When division is the plan, stay with the fam aslong as you can. You are the man. Regardless of the systems scam. ❤
Amen to that! You must spit some heavy bars in your freetime lol
Awwww thank you my man. Sing in 2 bands lol. Nothing massive. Appreciate that bud. Real recognize Real. 👊🏼😉. You tha man.
I think our boomer parents are in denial that it’s different now. They don’t want to admit they had it easier.
I’ve argued with my parents about this stuff multiple times lol. I guess you could say they’re out of touch.
Cry me a river . Seriously . Man up
My step grandma thinks everyone makes 30 $ hr lol
😂😂😂😂😂 no. It wasn’t easy as a poor Boomer whose parents gave me nothing! My 40+ year old son moved back home with me. It’s too expensive today to live alone. Glad to keep him from being homeless.
I left home at about 33, got a local authority flat ( I live in the U.K.) I was on the waiting list 4 years and offered two shit holes before I was offered my 3rd and final offer. That was over 20 years ago and things have got a whole lot worse since . All’s well that ends well things finely got good, met my husband,had a baby at 42 and brought our home. Now my 21 year old is living at home and saving to eventually move out, she’s luckier than most as she will have us to help her. I agree things have never been so expensive . Good luck with your pursuit of happiness
Dont be so upset. In my culture, single adults live with parents. Im 42, I pay all bills and groceries, i never will get married, theres no point in living alone. You amerians are so detached from your parents, you have a single life, and time flies
I highly agree with that! They are detached! I knew some sour individuals that shamed people for having any relationship with their parents let alone live with them. I love my parents and yes, they are not perfect but you know what?!? I won’t be that person who grows old with regrets like, “I should have spent for time with them and heard their stories.” I am grateful I spent more time with my grandparents before they passed. No regrets.
What happens to you when your parents pass away? Wouldn't you be alone then?
@@kenpachi465Everyone passes away, it's a fact of life, the point is to be with those that love you, and cherish that time, for me it's my parents and my little sister, they are world to me, the worst is being with fake people, and if the choice is to be alone or be with fake people that the society seems to pump out, then I think the choice is easy, if one gets lucky and finds a true friend or friends, then they pretty much hit the jackpot in today's world, but even then for me it's family and wouldn't trade it for anything, but would definitely still make time for a true friend
Spoken by a true beta male. No wonder women don't want guys like you.
@babaduk7679 that's the point. Everyone passes away. You should try to find a true friend and have kids so there would always have someone who truly loves you even in old age.
Those cigarettes will make you look 40 real quick
I smoked from 13 to 26 and still got asked for my id at 26. Its 90% genetics.
I'm 29 and people think im under 21 (i quit 5 months ago though!)
Im 27 and people think im 22 or younger
Everything dies
I’m 41 and I live at home. I know your feelings all too well. I am considered a late bloomer. Society tells us we should know ourselves before we leave school, but most people don’t know themselves until their 40’s. Most people who claim they know themselves in their twenties are now miserable in their 40’s, so don’t beat yourself up. Learn about yourself and what is going to make you happy and fulfill you. The money will flow to you then. As my granny said always, “if there’s a will, there’s a way.” You are at an advantage compared to most, you don’t have all the bills, so you have time to figure things out without the added stress.
I'm 28 and still live with them because I'm chronically sick. Please never take anything for granted and dont compare yourself to society, becuse tht makes you depresive.
yeah but your reason is a lot more understandable than most, and no reason to feel shame. so not really the same but hope you get better
It's all fine mate. I'm 29 still living with both parents, lots of culture staying together in family.
Be grateful man our ancestors stuck as a family till death it’s the west way to trick them to separate
I wish I was a Neanderthal throwing rocks and poking things with a stick
I think about this sometimes.
We need to return to the basics
@@LukeWeastshit, you could pass as one 😂 What’s stopping you?
Don’t be upset, young people have it differently nowadays, but we will make it through. I’m 25 too and I still live with my parents too. Sometimes I argue with them, but deep down I know they love me and that’s how I get along with staying with my parents despite our arguments.
Life is so different now. But I hope you keep trying. Keep praying, go to God and ask Him to help you. You’re going to turn out fine :)
And indeed, what can you do? I think the same way. It makes me depressed but at the same time makes me feel free too. But that’s just me. You’re going to be okay :)
Hello, Luke! From a fellow Luke. I too am 25, and living with my parents. Just wanted to say i feel you on a spiritual level my brother. 🤝 nice to meet you. From my perspective, life doesn't get better, it gets worse. You just learn how to deal with it. Happy trails
I feel you bro. I'm 30 and still live with my mom. My dad passed away 5 mo. ago from cancer. Been single for a long time. I went to college for a degree in applied sciences, and couldn't even graduate because I was working from 8am-8pm at a job in my career choice, and I couldn't get the tutoring I needed to pass a stupid general education class because I was working. Whenever a company asks how much I want to make, i say $18-20 and they act like I'm ridiculous. The point is- WITH INFLATION, HOUSING MARKET, GAS PRICES, GROCERY PRICES and all going up, you absolutely NEED $20+ an hour to afford to live these days. It's ridiculous. So, not to wear the "tin-foil" hat here but there's a bigger agenda at play here to cut out the lower class and middle class in the "land of the greed, home of the slaves"
PREACH!!!! This is the only comment that everyone needs to read.
honestly even 20 an hour is purely location based. in south florida? that won't get you far at all. middle of nowhere midwest? maybe you can make it
@@a-10warthog90 NC, but even so. $20 isn't what I aim for, but in my current field choice(which I regret dearly for even going to college for), the more experience and knowledge you have, the more money you make. $18-20 is basically my "foot in the door" price. If I were to go any higher, they'd laugh at me and kick me out the door.
Idk you but really I’m sorry for you’re pops passing bro, he’s still with you spiritually
@@Goku_Kiyosaki Hey, I appreciate that man. I know he is, thank you 🤙
Haha, I'm 25 and just got out from my parents. Working two jobs, 7 days a week to make rent, but ngl, living independently has been life-changing for me. My parents never taught me shit, so now I'm learning out of necessity, and I feel like I'm a functioning adult for the first time. Barely functioning, but still functioning. Plus with the peace and quiet, I can finally step back and get my mental health together.
I agree with you shits expensive it’s not like it was back in the 80s or 90s I’m 32 years old and I still live with my mom. I think most people in my opinion should stop shaving other people just cause they live with their parents it doesn’t meanthat they’re lazy or just a bomb or they don’t have anything going for themselves especially when it’s really hard to get a job out here too with little to no experience
Society: Your 20s/30s... you should be moved out and in a relationship with kids with a fence and a dog blah blah blah
Also society: Let's raise the price of everything because of "inflation" so that it doubled over the past four years and Millennials and gen Z have to choose between ridicule and selling their soul to the system. Oh and relationships are just a contract for men to lose half of everything.
Honestly, the only winning move is not to play this silly game (seems like the set up for the beast in Revelations personally). I'm 31 and live with my parents. Best strategy is be rapture ready... it kind of seems like the rapture is near enough that at least one of the current generations will experience it while still on this rock.
I'm 38 and still live with my parents. I have a 28 year old gf who lives with her dad as well. Although we both work and it would be nice to move in together, we wouldn't be able to afford it. Even if we could, we would have nothing left. I feel like this is a new norm now because times have changed. Gen z and millennials are the first gen that is poorer than their parents. Initially I was getting angry at the world, but I don't feel it that way anymore. I'm just grateful for what I have and still a roof over my head although my parents are providing it for me.
28, and im thinking of moving back in with my parents. There is nothing wrong with it, especially in today's society.
Did you end up moving in?
@auburnrenaissance No im thinking about it. Considering living in my car as well, just waiting for my lease to end.
25 is still young. Keep saving keep applying for higher paid jobs, stop smoking. Life doesn’t happen all at once, you get there one step at a time.
Dude I'm almost 32 and still live with my parents. The idea that young(ish) adults are "supposed to" move out of their parent's house as soon as they possibly can (even if it means living paycheck to paycheck in a crappy apartment without ever having the ability to save any real money) is modernist nonsense that was invented in the 1960's. When your ancestors first came to this country they lived with their parents until they got married. That's still the norm in most parts of the world for good reason. What's the benefit in dramatically increasing your expenses and throwing away your money giving it to a landlord when you aren't financially established? Hell.. even if you ARE financially established why not stay with your parents regardless (if you have the option) and give yourself the ability to save even more money? Who cares what people think.
My advice is you should find a side hustle. Almost everyone needs one these days... and in 2024 it's never been easier to find one that actually gives you some enjoyment.
This is an American thing. This is completely normal outside the USA
not really, people say shit everywhere
I think the stigma surrounding being over 21 and still living with your folks is just a western thing tbh, I don't know about every country out there but I'm a 24 year old Egyptian guy and still living with my parents. Here in the middle east you don't move out unless you're getting married. I don't understand why it's perceived that badly in the states, if anything it should be stupid to move out unless you really need it.
I’m about to be 32 I’m in my father’s home with my 27 year old brother and 8 year old daughter! Enjoy your life my friend and enjoy your family fuck the world
Agree. All those people who pressure their children to rent a place at 18 is the reason why rent goes up so high
@@DailyThingsInLifeit worked out well in the past. But not so much anymore. Cuz people keep multiplying like hamsters
Where does the mother of your daughter live?
Definitely agree with the ‘feeling stuck’ part, I’m pretty much the same age still living at home. I pay for all my own stuff and I do earn enough to move out, but for me I feel living by myself would be too isolating and it’s not something I really want to do. Everyone I know has either already moved out or don’t earn enough to move so for me I don’t really have many options besides staying with my parents
It’s called being independent and being an adult
Idk, that cigarette trick is pretty sweet! My parents are dead, found my mother on the bathroom floor hours after having a heart attack at 21. I wish I had the folks around still. I think it’s a blessing, the system is broken and corrupt. It’s only going to get worse for the youth. It’s cool you still live with your parents, don’t let the mainstream narrative sway you. Keep on grinding, things will get better. In the end we all die, don’t trip.
26 next month living at home. I graduated when I was 21. I cook at Chick Fil-A. There are way worse positions in life than i have. Hopefully God will bless whoever is reading as is fit 🙏
Yup. It could always be worse. That mindset will keep you thankful.
the fact that my stepdad’s parents (specifically my stepdad’s father left me my own place at age 20 when he died) is insane what a major blessing for myself to have my own kitchen, living room, dining room, & bedroom in the apartment extension they built in the back of their house when i was 15 in 2016 i wish everyone else the best in their living situations
Finding faith during tough times is like mining for coal and striking an abundance of diamonds. Seek Jesus my friend, we will make it together by His Grace Alone! Praying for you brother
I'm about to be 35 and I still live with my parents
You aren't lying I had to shack at my friends because a 29k job can't support anything rent-wise... this country is fucked.
I'm an Adult and I live with my Mom. I don't want to live alone. I also was able to take care of my Grandma in her old age which was one of the biggest blessings of my life. We kept her at home when she got dementia instead of putting her in an assisted facility. It's very taboo to live at home as an adult here in America (Especially in White Culture) but not so in other cultures. Multi-Generational housing situations are great as long as everybody helps out. Plus I can save $ instead of wasting it on rent just to fit into societies box that I could care less about. I'm Autistic and do need some support but I see nothing wrong with living at home as an Adult as long as you are helping out. Part of the way my Autism manifests in me is my ability to be an independent thinker. People hate that their brain does not control my limbs and I'm able to completely ignore peer pressure and snotty comments. Oh they hate it! If any woman doesn't like that I live with my Mom then she can go date someone else.
This generation today has it rough compared to when I was 25 in 2007. I was only making 10 bucks an hour, but could afford a 500 dollar a month apt, pay my bills, pay car insurance, groceries, and phone bill. It was tight, but I still managed to make it work and without roommates. Everything's just so expensive now it's beyond ridiculous. Hang in there man. Hopefully things get better for you.
Your dad's got boomer brain. A lot of older people don't want to believe things have gotten harder. It would diminish their own life and work, and that's not acceptable.
Or the fact that you have to be miserable because that's what they had to do
Also, outside of modern "western" cultures, it's actually common for families (grand parents, parents, children etc) to live together. Having multiple generations living together doesn't fit in with the consumer mindset forced on us today.
@@Death2Compromise its literally as simple as the worlds grown and people are poorer. Poorer people have more people in their households, independent people move out. America had half its population 50 years ago. Nearly 200 million more people in 50 years, it’s not that shit got harder, there’s just more people on earth, horrific liberal policies, and a lot more lazy people. Life today is EASIER in every single way than it ever was, the people saying shit got harder are weak and prideful.
This is very true. They just have their head in the sand as to whats happening to the younger generations.
@@johnbenedetto3096 people are not lazy, its a lot harder to get a job than it used to be
I'm 23yo in the same boat. I still live with my parents. It's a blessing in many ways, but it can make me feel less of a man at times. I hate when i have to tell people, especially girls, that i live with my parents
That's positive in a way... it means that you see yourself as someone who can do better, don't stop yourself, go get it.
I’m 23 at the end of this month I will turn to 24 and I still living with my parents, everyone got their timing.
Yep just hit 24 still live w my mom
Many of them make sure we can’t escape them cuz they’re obsessed with us. They’re energy vampires.
grateful my mom is still around and that she lets me live with her. fortunate to have a good relationship with her and able to save money for the future. people who judge are inconsiderate idiots who are warped by the old american way.
Luke, I’m 29 and live an apartment with my mom. She hates me and treats me like her surrogate husband constantly being passive aggressive. I have no friends, no family, no wife, no girlfriend as support. Lost my car about a year ago and can’t keep a job from poor mental health. The conclusion you came to… there’s nothing you can do.. fucking hits home.
Get a car, thank your mum, then hit the road. Build your body and mind up.
You need to take one step at a time, I’m here if you want to chat or want some advice
nothing bad living with parents if you get along and you help them and they help you. Its's what family is all about.
Life happens, and it treats each of us differently. Relax and don't panic. It's not something to take too seriously.
Becoming the joker
At least theyre still together- and alive. Youre in a strong jumping-off point to get to a new station in life.
Together, alive, and constantly fighting.
@@LukeWeast Yeah.....
@@endofdaysg59 I call it how I see it. I would love to see my parents happy with themselves and love each other.
@@LukeWeast Not pointing fingers as I literally do not know your family, but have you ever considered that your Father wasn't your Mothers' preferred choice of partner, and that she picked him thinking 'I can grow to love him' but never did? Happens more often than you think
Out of 8 billion people, Father and Mother are the closest people. No one will ever be able to replace them. Parents are the most valuable blessing that God has given you . Not everything is measured by money, self-development, etc.
I Appreciate your honesty.
I'm sad that you didn't make it, thought I will be honest with you. In my opinion you are to comfy. Parents are probably a decent considering people, that's why they support you.
And that is your pitfall, in my opinion it holds you back.
You said that there is no other way, but there is so maaany ways. Not comfortable but risky, getting out starts with your mind .
I'm 32. Live at home. Can't stand it, no harm to my parents.
A man needs his own castle.
It's boring
It's only natural for an adult to instinctively want to leave the den/nest, and have their own autonomy. Private equity companies/shadow banks on Wall Street however (BlackRock, Blackstone, Vanguard, Fidelity etc), all have tens of trillions of dollars at their disposal. We can also blame BlackRock for causing the 2008 GFC with their mortgage-backed securities, and Blackstone buying up all the foreclosed/distressed properties.
Wall Street, and the WEF want you to live at home with your parents, or be homeless, forever; and to also own nothing and be happy about it.
@@j-doomer7421this guy knows.
what kind of job do you have?
I 100% agree.
When I was 25, I was still living with my mom and dad, but once I turned 27 I moved out and now currently paying rent/bills single handedly even to this day.
As utterly undesirable as it is, the willingness to work 12 hours or even 16 hours is honestly necessary if your doing labor jobs just to be able to make more than you needed to pay off stuff.
Only in the USA where this mindset to be ashamed by living with your parents has ever been a thing. Go to the majority of countries, most people live with their parents out of respect for their families and to maintain business and demands. I do believe doing this keeps family closer.
In 2021, I know my Dad went to a better place right now for all the things he did for the family, I'd always be grateful and love my dad no matter what. I'll never forget.
please don't be too hard on yourself, I'm 30 living with parent no shame no guilt. as along as we're trying our best things will happen, and eventually we'll have our own place and good life.
Absolutely. As long as we are guided by the spirit of God, we are exactly where we need to be in life.
29 and live with my dad. Good days and bad days. Im trying for a better job and gonna fight hard to make my way out. Never give up.
Everything is expensive now. Current work wage to expenses ratio is too far separate now. It is bs.
Just turned 25, moved out 6 months ago, -7k in the bank since I moved, worst decision I ever made financially.
Bro, move back home with your folks. it is better to live with your parents than to be in debt. Move back and help them out in their daily activities. Listen to them, watch movies with them, dance with them. What ever we were told about being "independent" is making us more dependent on money which we don't have (credit) on land we don't own (rent).
How did that happen ? Missed rent for a few months ?
@@johnnytsunami3558 my salary wasn't enough but I banked on getting a raise, very stupid of me.
Now I'm fired because the war broke out in Israel. Can't even afford this basement, embarassing.
I respect your sincerity, and how you reflect on the situation. It is expensive where I live too. Times have changed, no shame in adapting to what is, versus what was.
I worked at a gas station for a few years in my twenties. I remember that feeling of being stuck. One night I was sitting there and it hit me that if I didnt leave right then I never would. I called the manager and left. It's taken 15-20 years but I own my own house now (actually own it, no mortgage) and have options. You really gotta take the dive, come what may. You'd be surpised what you're capable of.
I completely understand.. I'm going through the same thing right now..
I’m 28 and still live with my parents. Sometimes I think I should just pull the plug, it is what it is. Our lives aren’t very important you and I. It just doesn’t matter.
Be positive. Change is your responsibility
@@salouali6899screw your toxic positivity.
When you shift your focus to do God’s will, you’ll have a different perspective. Get saved today, by believing the gospel- how that Christ died for your sins according to the scriptures, was buried and rose again in the third day according to scriptures. If you believe that, God will give you the free gift of eternal life. This world will perish, but eternity is forever.
“For I reckon that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us.” Romans 8:18 KJB
There’s no better joy than to have joy in the Lord. May God bless you.
Your life is important and it matters.
20 years from now, it will be you giving advice to some 28-year-old kid in a similar situation.
Bro most people 18-30 are still living with their parents, don't even feel bad. Just save up while you're there and try to get rid of bad habits like smoking and drinking. Good luck brother. And don't let the people saying you look old get you down, the unkept beard would make anyone look older.
I know plenty of people 20 to 30 that live with their parents or grandparents. Alot of the time its just smart to save the money for a home while not having a mortgage draining on you. Most people who have a house just rushed out and casually put themselves in debt for life. It's not what you have but what you own.
im 33 and still with parents
Same, I'm 24 and I've tried so hard to move out but it's becoming almost impossible to take that leap. I don't even understand how it's mathematically possible that people my age are living alone.
I'm 34 and still living with my parents
Eeeewww
im 19 and I felt that I was stuck in the same pit, the key is to not see yourself as stuck, but as moving very slowly, keep pushing. I had no aspirations or values, but eventually once I saw that there is a force out there trying to destroy the nuclear family I realized that I needed to create a family of my own and protect it (helps if your current family sucks). After I realized that as my main goal, I also had a revelation that I didn't want to die not knowing what my body was capable of, and I certainly didn't want to die BECAUSE I wasn't physically capable enough. Started a Diet, lost a ton of weight, going to the gym soon to instill confidence, slowly getting that back through social interaction, eventually that way you will meet people and find a roommate!. The main thing you have to do is love yourself enough to know you deserve better and absolutely can fight through this worlds BS and become the 1% you always said was impossible. But you cant see yourself as stuck, you have to keep moving and making decisions in regard to your future. I'm 19 years old and this is what's been on my mind the last 8-10 months. I'm going to follow through with it and I know you can too.
Love and Enjoy your parents while you have them ❤Take care of them. They are the only parents you have. Don't sweat the little stuff. 🙏Everyone is on their own time-line. Do not compare yourself to others.
I am 22 and live with my parents, finishing my MBA and looking to get into the workforce. My friends poke fun at me yet they live pay check to paycheck and are constantly stressed with money. Some even resorted to food stamps. Being respectful to the parents is the big thing, and I always try to do chores and extras like making shakes for them on my own without anyone asking. Everyone says to date but until things are in line that just doesn't make good sense to me
I lived with my parents til 30. I saved so much doing it, I now currently own a house instead of getting stuck in renters limbo like so many who move out on their own when younger. Matter of fact, the only debt I have is my home mortgage as my car is paid off and my credit bill gets paid in full every month. I’m very thankful that I lived with my parents for as long as I did, it really taught me how to be disciplined with money
Rest easy and do not feel bad. The world is a mess and the generations need to stick together in order to survive. It's alright. Things have changed.
I’m in the same position at 38 years old, man. I work 50-60 hours a week and just can’t afford a place of my own so I still live with my mother. Society needs to stop ridiculing single, working people in this position. It’s tough out here.
What do u do for work?
this is pretty much the norm at this point. our society is ruined and all the jobs are going overseas and money goes to bankers and politicians. you probably would have accomplished more had it been 30 years ago. some may not want to admit it, but having your life "figured out" has a lot to do with the society you live in. It isn't easy to "figure out" your life when the society is antagonistic to you and unrewarding. Hopefully within the next 5 years things will turn around. But you're still really very young so don't be so hard on yourself.
Being at home is a living hell. You are treated as undesirable to potential girlfriends, it's awkward having people over as friends, you constantly get nagged at, and you're treated as second class by the whole of society.
The trope of the guy who is still at home with his mom is probably one of the worst things to live and actualize. It happened to me as a matter of circumstance, I am constantly berated and I'm always depressed. It's not fun whatsoever.
Today's mentality is to blame. Generation X guys had plenty of girlfriends and close friends while living with their parents. Gen X also had a habit of getting along with multiple roommates. Today even two people can't get along in a huge house. Today's expectations are just too high.
Going back to women, these days even if you own your own home and are attractive, have a good job, you are still treated as average.
My father died 2 and a half years ago. I inherited his apartment which is big enough for a family. It sits empty. I still live with my mother. I chose to live with my mother for a few more years for a number of reasons, the 1st one being that I have a nice job that requires me to live in the area where my mother lives. The 2nd is that she spends months at her house in the countryside which means I'm alone in her apartment for long periods of time. The 3rd being that women in our generation treat men like sugar daddy cash machines and I don't like that. I have many more reasons but these are the biggest.
So don't be depressed. Times are what they are. What you can do right now is improve your career. Gain professional experience. It might be highly valuable in the future since we're a generation that only wants the easy way in life. Building up professional experience takes a lot of time. So why not do that now while there's nothing else to do?
@@vladivf Yeah I find the mentality to be a lot more demanding on younger people today. But the standards weren't necessarily different for Gen X, it's just that money moved differently then than it does now. You could find a job and still have a little apartment with your girl in the 90's and 2000's and she could be in her underwear as you went to work. Gen X was a little more lax with physical relationships and they were realistic, average looking guys still had cute girlfriends who matched them physically and personality wise. Today things are so skewed from the apps.
Today I feel like the checklist is getting added upon and the window of time for life events has been shortened. Jf you haven't had an actual relationship, landed a decent job, visited different parts of the world, have a degree, have money, have a house, have a car, meet a requisite level of physical attractiveness, you're basically left in the dust.
I usually spend my freetime painting and drawing. I'd like to be a tattoo artist professionally. I have an apprenticeship, and a full time job, and I'm an Amateur Thai boxer. The income i have now would've been enough to buy a house in 2014. I feel like no matter how much I bust my ass I'm viewed as lesser by my peers who, while don't work at all, have landed the nice cushy yuppie life and girlfriend.
I feel the frustration.
Keep your head up.
25 is still young and there is nothing wrong with living at home at that age.
Live at home, stack your bread, and have a plan to move out when you are ready.
I’m 30 I make 100k and still live with my parents. I pay half the rent. Enjoy the time with them they’ll be gone as soon as you know it
One day they'll be gone, and a lot of young people don't realize that all the partying with strangers won't matter.
@@oliverallen5324 exactly
God bless you.
I’m 33 usaf vet and have several proprieties and my own spot but I still live with my family most of the time cuz I put the down payment and I have all my art and gear here. I spend my weekends in Brooklyn tho. Plus my family is Dominican so they stay cooking. Do you man
Bro I wish I would have stayed with my parents lol. I drive a truck and make really good money and living alone in a 2 bedroom is stupid. I asked my mom if I could move back in just to save money and have someone around. I don't want to buy a house either even though I could. Eventually I did fill my place with other renters, and it's nice to share the space. Go to church, pray to Jesus.
25 is still pretty young. And a lot of cultures men and women live with their folks until they get married. It's nothing to be ashamed of. If you were sitting around playing video games and not working, it would be a different story. Maybe you have some lessons you need to learn first before you move out, but you'll get there. Dont feel so bad, 25 isnt 40. Just try and relax and work on finding some better work but in the meantime, dont be so hard on yourself. Try to be thankful for the good things that are happening dont just focus on the bad stuff.
im 36 and live with my old parents and my mentaly ill sister , i care for them , get there money from bank , clean the house and buy groceries and will take over the house eventualy and keep carin for me sister , i coulnt care less what other people or woman think
Exactly, do what works for you and yours
I am 25 and still live with my parents and so do all my friends. Some have moved out and moved back in with their parents. rent is unaffordable in my area to live by yourself you have to at least get a roomate.
I feel you buddy. At least we have saved a lot of money and been fortunate enough to have extra time.
I am 24 years old and I still live with my mother, I totally understand the whole thing about not wanting to pursue a relationship because you still live at home
You can try to find a sugar mama and live with her.
I relate extremely heavily to this, living at home isn't ideal but in my country the average house price is upwards of a million dollars now. (Australia) Coming from a poor family I'm just isolated in rural Australia without many opportunities for anything I'm interested in or anybody that is remotely similar to me. Most of my life has just been waiting for something to come along whilst working on myself but nothing ever does come along and it's just this same monotonous downward spiral where not much changed but each year I grow a year older with intensifying feelings of anxiety.
I',m 26, and after my previous girlfriend had nefariously plotted behind my back to get rid of me and leave with me with nothing, I was forced to move back in with my parents. I wasn't okay with my situation at all and worked my hardest to find a new job. I got a new job, found a new relationship while still living with my parents, and we're both getting a place together. Keep your head down to the grind stone brother. It's all it is.
I am from Kazakhstan and the youngest son should stay with parents, thats the tradition. In traditional family there are like 6 people from 3 generations. I genuinely dont understand that separation thing, i mean isnt that cool when you come from work and there are your wife and mother talking with each other, dad chilling outside and all waiting for a brother to start a dinner. Now i live alone in another city and shit is depressing: no friends, just no one, cant wait to return home
Dude I was at home until 27 i didnt know what i was going to do with my life, no work no plans no will to do anything, one day I moved with a friend to UK he left 1 month after i got a job and rented a little room, then a house and now i live with my partner i dont contact any family i ended up getting a girl and having a kid 3 years ago.. never in my life i would think things would change like that. many of my friends was the same. You will figure it out at some point .. Dont worry about what you want just step by step you will get it