Why Girls Should Ask Guys Out
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A girl asked me out once. I married her.
@Ben Rosen someone's miserable
Stop making me think that I can ask him out 😫☹️🙏
wiktoria kohman
GURL YOU ARE BETTER THEN THAT! Know you’re worth more then that! ❤️ You deserve happiness and a chance just as much as anyone else in the world! Go ask him!!! 👏💞💖💕💝💗 The worst is rejection, and if that happens I’ll invite you to a youtube chat and I’ll be your new therapist 💗💖😜
@@magicallydelicious1673 I might need therapy too
@@wiktoriakohman2200 you can. What holds you back?
A girl asked me out once, then I woke up
NANGSTAGRAM TV i was asked out by 2 girls at the same time im not even kidding you
'Guys love the chase' ... I don't even chase my liquor. 🥂
I had a hot girl asked me out once, I brutally rejected her in front of her friends. Honestly I thought it was some kind of setup, and she was going to make fun of me. To be fair I was 17. Needless to say she never asked me out again, or spoke to me again, or was willingly in the same room with me again.
2 girls asked me out. 1 of them I didn't even know who she was and she asked if I wanted to go out upfront. The other girl was not good looking at all
thas tuff
"I can't handle that kind of rejection" WE HAVE TO FACE THAT EVERY TIME Dx
I had to laugh when I heard it like: and we‘re supposed to handle it or what?!
I know, right!?
Coded Sky best way to play it off is to say; hey it's all right, take it as a compliment and have an awesome day! Or when they hit you with the boyfriend line, since you wanna play it cool whether she lied or told the truth just say; Oh sorry, well he's a lucky guy that's for sure, i wish you guys the best, have a great day! By playing it so cool and relaxed they're kept wondering if perhaps they should've said yes like; that guy handled it like a pro, he was really nice about it too...maybe he's cooler than i thought at first? Just think to yourself: As soon as you say "hi" you won. Whether she says yes or no. If she says yes then getting her number is just a BONUS to your approach. Going on dates and so forth is just a BONUS to you approaching her. Don't misinterpret this btw, it's just a way to completely take away any fear of rejection by having this mentality before approaching. You're thinking you win by saying hi, so walking over and doing so already makes you a winner. She said no? You still won. She said yes? Well that's a bonus to you already winning.
@@T-Bone99 What did you win?
My condolences brotha, times are changing tho!
As a shy guy, I approve of this message 👍
Me too. It's so hard to ask someone out if you're shy..
@@benrelsdale4530 It's always hard
Yep me too👍
Ezequiel Renovato being good looking and shy is a curse
I'm shy too and I've been asked out twice and said yes to both. And I'm like a 4-5 on a 1-10 scale of looks. The confidence of the woman asking me was a turn on that made me want to give them a shot.
If a woman asked me on a date I would say yes to her just because I'd be impressed by her courage. A real woman gets what she wants!
+Tomáš Jeziorský This person knows.
+Tomáš Jeziorský Even if she's fat and wears those tumblr feminist glasses? I doubt it.
+Tomáš Jeziorský You're a bitch
***** If every women thought like that about guys asking them out, we wouldn't exist as a species.
***** This is 2016 tho, where the population is already too big as it is and relationships not based around reproduction are at an all time high.
When the coding becomes obsolete, it gets dumped or rewritten.
Girl: *stares at me for 0.00362 seconds longer than a regular look* “well i gave him a chance..”
Me: excuse me???
Im Thrillz
A female friend of me told me how she got the tongue of of stranger put in her mouth without any talking because “she gave him a look”. She was just looking around the club, looking anyone in the eyes. Maybe those two should meet
Basically.
thats literally what happens a lot of the time too
Yip totally or the girl gets mad and found out later cos she wanted to go out. I would never be rude to a girl asking me. Would be really nice actually.
Girls expect guys to have a masters degree in telepathy from Xavier’s School for Gifted Youngsters.
I tell my female friend to ask guys out and they say "the guy is suppose to ask".
Usually I reply with a joke like "So you basically you want the power to reject people." or "And that's why your alone".
Solid response!
Yep!! Hate that all the guys are supposed to do it. Girls always have such bad responses as why the guy should do it.
Heleen X5452
Seriously. As a guy, I think it should go both ways. Some girls and even some "gentlemanly" guys act as if we're still operating in the animal kingdom.
I argree!! girls should ask guys out too
THANK YOU finally someone said it
No man enjoys “the chase.” We hate when women play games or try to send vague signals instead of just being clear about their interest.
Speak for yourself, bro.
Me too
@@MatthewCoast he isn’t just speaking for him though lmao, most people said the same thing in the comments.
@@MatthewCoast You must not be sane nor sound.
Men are simple creatures. Why make things difficult for them with games?
we need more women like you.
+Mr. FunTuber pls
Woah jae didn't expect to see you here👍
yep
yeah
True
"Guys love the chase" No, we don't.
Sincerely - a guy.
I hate the chase so, so much
@@tonychapman5753 Same here! I don't chase women either, especially when you find out she's leading you on or just using you. It would be much simpler if women would be more open about thier interest in a guy and ask him out. These females love to talk about 'liberation' and their dislike of 'traditional gender roles' but they still want men to perform thier 'traditional gender role' and do the asking-- and paying-- for dates. The want 'equal treatment' but not equal responsibilty.
EDIT: Sincerely-EVERY GUY
@@SchuylerT.Colfax When someone says, 'guys love the chase,' I hear, 'I only date men who are so attractive they think women are a game.'
Who thinks that honestly? Hell if we're going by stereotypes if anything its women who love the chase.
If a girl asked me out I would be honored because it takes courage, but if I didn't see her as my type I would let her off easy as to not hurt her feelings and vice versa.
WHat'S ThE WORST that CAN hAPpen!?
for someone who's terrified of commitment, I'm terrified they'll say yes.
Well, if you are scared of commitment, if you get a yes, then dive right into it. Learn as you go. You'll never get over your fear of commitment unless you face it head on.
Cant tell
one of the best comment
It’s a date, not a wedding proposal. You can ask em out, & then tell em u want to take things slow. Casual with no commitment or expectations until the next discussion.
Further, u don’t ever have to commit. Poly and/or open aren’t my thing, but people do make those choices. Idgi, but if ur afraid of commitment you could always try it.
Yeah, afraid of commitment (not being good enough for it) & if she says no.
So either outcome is terrifying, yes & no.
Finally i found my people. I asked almost every single one of my crushes out but got rejected every time. 😅 Despite that, my hope still stands strong and im not giving up.
Laura Mihalek 😍😍😍😍
Laura Mihalek you guys have it easier any I say you are kinda good looking (looks do matter) and I say try the shy guys or the ones who don't talk much. They may be one of the best people you met . I wish do wish a girl asked me out some time I'm getting sick of being rejected or misunderstood as a creep(once)
You go girl!
Sadly, guys are surprised and suspicious of women asking them out. It's just so uncommon. They figure you could be a psycho. In fact, I know guys who were aggressively pursued by women who turned out to be psychos. It's a shame too, because many guys are unaware of the clues women throw their way to signal interest. Try to find more subtle ways to let a guy know you want to be asked out. Compliments usually work. Such as telling him you like his cologne, his shoes or shirt, his hair style, his facial hair/beard, his eyes etc. I was 16 the first time a women tried to pick me up. She told me i had beautiful blue eyes.
Robert Devoy I don't think so my friends girlfriend asked him out in a normal way just like a guy ideally would it's not a bad thing
I swear to god Anna you are my saviour!! Because of you I finally got the guts to talk to this guy I like and it went so well! Seriously, girls should make the first move more often, you get this complete surge of confidence that feels amazing!!
*Good NOW I KNOW WHY GIRLS KEEP ASKING ME OUT !*
libbsabbs You should... Because we sometimes get nervous
+libbsabbs At a Halloween party, i had a Ninja Costume and asked a girl out to dance, the reason i did it was because my face was hidden if she rejected me, but she agreed. She never saw my face...it felt like a movie, never saw her again, my Cinderella hahaha. It sure does give you confidence to try again.
I’m bout to try it I’m so nervous
libbsabbs Gow's it going? You still with him?
Welp...I just asked my crush to prom, he said yes. Now my class is in shock because they didn't expect a girl to ask a guy out...I hate the fact that we've made it weird or surprising for a girl to ask a guy out. We're all just people + he's pretty shy so I don't think he would've made the first move. Idk why I wanted to share that...k bye
InternetHobo OH GOODIE!
WE HAVE ONE MORE THING GOING TO HELL!
YOU! AND YOUR DUMBASS COMMENT!
SO I-SUPPOSE TWO THINGS!
BeastWing !!! What the hell are you talking about lol?
A girl like you will go far in life
Exactly InternetHobo. You are right.
BeastWing !!! Buzz off
Can confirm, I asked my boyfriend out cos I re🎉ally liked him and I had a suspicion that he liked me too but he's a shy guy so it had been months and he never really made a move, so I asked, he said yes with no hesitation and we've been together since.
Edit: Lmao forgot about this comment but got a random notification to remind me of it 5 years later. We're now engaged and have 2 cats. That man is the light of my life
Emma McLean whoa 😳 I envy you, how did u gather the courage to ask him out??
And is the relationship good, Emma?
@@humanyoda - Would love to hear from Emma McLean on that . . . .
If only that happened more often
Now thats the right move. Most people unfortunatly got NO IDEA how hard it can be for a "shy guy" so to say. To ask a girl out or even go after her at the first place
If a cute girl asked me out I would need a very good reason to say no because that kind of open desire is as hot as it gets.
Even if they stammer and mumble through every word, that would be endearing in its own right because it shows that they are willing to step out of their comfort zone to get me...best compliment ever.
Guys...If a girl asks you out, give her a shot...not a commitment...not a week or a month...just a cup of coffee...get to know her and see how she makes you feel. Worst case, you can both have a good conversation and build up each other's confidence before leaving to find other fish in the sea. Best case...She blows you away with her awesome personality and her choice to ask you out becomes the best thing that ever happened to you.
I literally think the exact same thing. You could not have said this any better.
what if she is crazy
demon fox pends on if her crazy works well with your crazy. If she drives you crazy with desire and a manic determination to be a better man, and figuratively set the world a laze in glorious energy, it's all good. If she drives you to punch holes is walls, snap at each other, and literally set the world on fire...you are not right for each other.
I was twelve and I threw a fit about respecting values.
But what if I am also crazy?
Got rejected from a guy I was in love with and I moved on, got rejected from another one who I wanted to sleep with but who was a drama queen, so I moved on. Asked out a great guy that I had spoken to twice, and he was so enthusiastic about it. Now we have an awesome relationship and planning to stick together and have kids...chase the one you want, if it's a good one then he'll chase you back!
Anni Rundgren How do you get over the pain from the rejection? Sometimes, it hurts so much but I just dont have the solution to stop it. It's no one's fault and people keep telling me that time is what I need to move on. It has been 1 week. My crush is leaving in 3 weeks' time and he wishes to hang out with me once or twice before leaving. How am I gonna move on and meet up with him at this point of time;*(( It hurts so muchh coz it is my first confession and I have never dated before.
Samantha Lee well, go through 100 more rejections and perhaps soon, you will become grounded and strong as an average male.
Samantha Lee in all seriousness though, you'll get over it. There's millions of other guys in the world, many of whom you're capable of having similar or even stronger feelings for. Crying about something and feeling sorry for yourself doesn't solve anything and doesn't make your life better in any way. In the end, work to become a better person. Being too hung up on one person will prevent you from discovering all the other awesome people you could be meeting. And trust me there are awesome people out there, much more so than this guy. You'll realise that in time after you get over him.
@Zucc Masta You are saying that everyone should be fit for not eating enough not for working out and building strength in the bodies. You sound mental. Do you hear yourself?
@Zucc Masta Brainless jock...
A girl asking me out would certainly make everything much easier for me. I'm an Introvert and being social and flirting with girls is very alien to me. Plus, I have to wade through all of the crap dating politics. A lovely lady asking me out would certainly allow me to avoid all of the hateful comments I've had.
Michael Berry go out with me then😀😀
I appreciate the offer.;) x
Michael Berry true man.. all the 'signs' we have to read..
I do my best not to talk to women these days, or people in general. I want to at this time in my life become a hermit on some remote island and never interact with Humanity again. Just sit in the dark and watch all of you continue in your trivialities.
Feel you man. But this kind of thing, finding that significant other for the rest of our lives. it doesn't matter if it's the guy or the girl taking the first initiative. I think It's in Gods hands, put your trust in him and he will put that person in your life at the right moment. God is perfect.
I was chased by a girl once - when I was in 3rd grade at recess.
Lol same and her name was/still is rachel but then she let me know she doesn't want me playing with her anymore at recess so I stopped going near her.
Still more action than I got in years haha lolmao .. *cries in forever alone*
What is up with 3rd graders and chasing each other. My sis is a 3rd grader and she is always talking about chasing boys at school. funny huh.
Yup Year 2 (grade 2) for me, that was the last time ever. I'm 25, laminated v card, alone forever, no self esteem or confidence. Never been on a date or anything in relation to dating
@@akumabazooka9169 sad, wish u luck
A girl asked me out in college once about ten years ago...
She's been getting this butt ever since!
Good boy, that's the way it should be.
Christopher Hopkins, thank you for sharing.
ROFL
You're all about the rim-schjabs
@@1810verdeXVIII see my mind went to pegging but sure, that too XD hey, don't knock it till you try it right?
A girl that has the courage to initiate conversations is already very valuable :)
A tip:
*You can praise someone without insulting other women*
Taehoe better?
Taehoe wtf do you mean
Claudiu Lucian yep
Right on!
I asked him out 5 years ago and now we are engaged 😉
my condolences to you're husband
Kyle Reese 😅😆 +1
When's the weeding more importantly when is the divorce
Gina From Korea game over
Kyle Reese *your
Damn I feel so badass rn because I just asked my guy friend out yesterday and we gonna see each other tomorrow!!! He likes me back btw
Update.
updaaate!
update???
Update?!
@Catholic Faith Dan She has left us on such a cliffhanger.
I realized every person I've ever been with I've asked them all out and it makes me feel like a powerful girl! 💁🏽
Everybody should be a leader and they should only genuinely and honestly lead themselves. Enjoy !
That's not much of an accomplishment
I realize that the best relationships I've had were with women who actually stalked me online before eventually asking me out.
Yes it is creepy but if I like her then it isn't... Ring a bell? ;)
ʜᴏᴘᴇ TM I loved being asked out. Made me feel really good.
@sobreaver As Inigo says, I don't think that word mean what you think it means.
Nop, we don't love "the chase" at least not me
Same here..I always get the feeling she's not interested in me and back off if I feel like there's a "chase" involved.
"The chase" can also be unattractive to some. Makes you look desperate or clingy. When it comes to women, every move must be surgically precise, one wrong move and you are fucked.
+Matt Jones I cannot say i know of anyone that enjoys the chase especially when they get rejected often. it's not that we like it, it is that we have to. big difference
+Philly S We don't have to. You choose to do it. If a girl begins wasting my time I stop playing her game immediately. I understand a little give and take, but don't be a puzzle. It doesn't make you look mysterious or sexy, just annoying.
KingBowserVlog
I meant it more like we have to do the approach in the first place, not what you are saying in this post. however i do totally agree with what you said
I completely agree
-ridiculously shy male
what does the NC stand for in ur name?
Cry.
\( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)/ I'm not the only one
Hey, asking out should go both ways
Speaking as a guy, yes. If a girl asks me out...I’m almost certainly going to say yes. I’ve been on the other side. I know how hard and vulnerable you are to do that. What happens after that date, only God knows, but I’m always gonna say yes to the initial ask.
That’s really sweet of you 😊
I think most guys don't like the chase, if a girl plays too many games we are more likely to find someone else.
+Francisco Ramirez I agree. "The chase" is not fun, it's annoying.
+Francisco Ramirez pathetic loser
+Francisco Ramirez Not to mention that this kind of games is typically futile (for a man). If a woman plays those, more often than not she just loves mens attention and would do it pretty much with everyone. Of course, it typically goes nowhere or ends with a 1 night stand at very best.
If a woman likes a man, she normally makes it clear one way or another. Even if she's shy - it just will be done in a different manner, but still pretty openly.
im not playing mind games. saying boys like a chase is ridiculous. im not gonna chase some girl who doesnt make effort
thank you, I absolutely hate having to ask girls out first, and sometimes they're really mean about it, which is so discouraging.
+John Harrison I'm sorry, if they're mean they weren't girlfriend material anyway though :)
+xxxSoraya ^
Honestly, if they were mean to you; I say you avoided a bullet. Either that or you came at them terribly wrong.
Let me tell you a trick, well sort of.... I rarely get rejected. Why? Because I watch girls 1st, talk to them 1st(small talk)... Look for any "Bitch qualities"... See if they show any interest. If not I dont ask them. If they do I then I'll take my chances and ask them out. Works like 90% of the time
+John Harrison I asked a girl out a few years ago and she said she would go. That night I got 3 or 4 long hate texts. Saying things that were way out in left field and not true at all. After that, I have never had the guts to ask another person out. I asked her out after a class too. Every time I saw her in the hall and or in class it was extremely awkward.
People expect the man to ask the woman out or to propose if the girl does that ita wierd. I would love a girl to ask me out. Do u know how stressfull it is to ask out a girl its like defusing a bomb u do something and u dont know how the bomb will react if the bomb doesnt like u or thinks ur wierd ur self esteem explodes.
oh yeah yeah
@@vnsteuben was gonna say the same lol
Do I cut the red wire or do I cut the blue wire? I've got 10 seconds left before she thinks I'm a creep!
Meghal Biswas everyone figured women out...
Mans I know it’s like you if you say one thing wrong it would be 9/11 all over again.
I was teaching at a girls high school (so many stories). Every year there was a “Sadie Hawkins” Dance. That was when the girls had to ask the guy to be their date. The ladies already in a relationship found it fairly easy to ask their SO. The other girls not so much.
Every year I was teaching there it was mildly amusing to watch the girls strategize and then try to work up the courage to ask a guy out. On several occasions they would ask a classmate if it would be ok to ask her brother, if all other attempts failed.
I would use this as a Social Studies teaching moment. I would note how difficult it was to challenge established mores. This was in the late ‘70’s (I taught for 35 years) In a similar vein I overheard young women tell stories, that their Moms told them a good girl would never just call a boy...without him having called first!
A N - Maybe YOU are one to help dismantle some of these double standards.
my mom always seemed disappointed i was never asked to a sadie hawkins dance....i wasn’t surprised the slightest, i was and still am an unwanted and undesirable guy
@@gwf82 Your reply reminded me of a phase in my life.
Being unwanted and undesirable... I've been there dear... I totally get you!
I never had the courage to ask any guy out, and a guy asking me out was out of the question, since I was one of the most unattractive girls out there. I could never expect anything other than Platonic friendship with guys...
But after I got out of High school, literally every guy started finding me attractive. It has increased so much now, I have no idea what exactly happened. Like, literally whenever I say that I've always been single, people think I'm lying and that it's just not possible... But I don't want to be with anyone who's solely into my looks and not into who I am as a person. I always start wondering, 'Would this person have even spared me a glance had I still been the way I was back at school?"
I totally get you... Just believe in yourself and be confident with who you are, as a person. That'll help u love yourself better, and feel whole in yourself without having to want another person's presence to feel whole in yourself. ^_^
Divya Anj. sadly things never changed for me, i’m soon to be 38 and still a low value guy that women don’t give me a second thought...but i’ll soon be doing something that will end all my problems
@@gwf82 You still there?
From a male's perspective there is nothing better then a women that knows what she wants and won't be afraid to go out there and get'em!
+Puglous Yes very true but i'm not the only one that holds that value.
+Andrew martin You're trying to troll aren't you?
You're awesome~
I've never EVER heard a guy say they enjoy chasing a woman. They enjoy HAVING a woman, not chasing one
Goldusted W I've heard guys say they enjoy the chase, but they're mostly weirdo
Goldusted W 8
Those types are typically not looking for anything permanant.
The chase is when she shows real interest but wants me to fight for her a bit. Thats as far a chase it can get. If she displays no interest (even if she's interested) we leave as playing mind games is not a chase
W
1:13 "Guys love the chase" Haha, I hope no girl seriously has said that.
K N S C N -Unfortunately, they say that A LOT . . . . .
Yeah we also LOVE dieing earlier and committing more suicide.
It's all part of the fun
It's called projection bro
Who are you? I always saw you in the comment box with the same dp
@@HUNKragor hell yeah... lets go take a swim to relax. I'll bring the toaster.
Love thinking about missed opportunities as a self-conscious guy, because it's much nicer to think you ever had an opportunity at all than to confront the reality that you never really did.
well said.
@ U O - Does not work that way.You will hear from someone ,YEARS LATER , that you WERE on the right track with her, but that YOU gave up too easily. You will not even remember it that way at all.
Have you ever asked a guy out? If not, WILL YOU NOW GIRL?! YOU CAN DO IT GIRL. JUST DO IT.
I asked my cat out
+Anna Akana thank you for advices. but still hesitating, anyways
+Anna Akana Ana Katana!!! XD
+Anna Akana i was asked out by a guy once and im a straight male, i was actually flattered, dude was good looking.
I asked out my husband! 7 years later here we are happily married with a baby!
I asked my crush out and he said yes 🙈💕 so happy
you are really clever, strong and self confidence. I male hope sooo strong that you and your great boyfriend stay Love forever, married tiiilllllllll nature death :)
Kuroi XxX Hana aww so cute☺️☺️☺️
Kuroi XxX Hana yessss
I envy u sooooooooo much i cant even imagine what will happen if i ask my crush out... im so introverted....btw congrats.
Wake up man....
Women hate being approached by dudes all the time yet expect all men to make the first move. You rag on men for being upset about being rejected yet none of you ever have the spine to approach a guy. For once I agree with Anna.
+zawarudo Well said.
+zawarudo They expect the leonardo dicaprios to make the first move. That is why I am forever alone.
fml =[
+zawarudo Women hate being approached by *dudes they don't like*. They want men they do like to make the first move. Both are different things.
+zawarudo They expect you to make the first move when they like you, also I'm assuming you're referring to guys randomly approaching girls they don't know which is creepy unless you approach them with an expensive car and model's body.
+ELdASenSei But he never gets an oscar :(
When i was in high school a girl asked me out and then she said “just kidding” ever since then i’ve had trust issues
Oh, wow, that was so mean of her. :'(
that happened to a friend of mine in highschool by this girl that was in our friend group. he and a lot of people thought she was serious, she wasnt, ruined their friendship
be grateful you dodged a bullet with that mean and nasty beaitch
In Japan, it's like a tradition for girls to confess first. Most of the time they would say "I really like you" but not really directly ask that person out. It's up to the person getting confessed to say yes or no and then they go out or not. And it's not like Japanese girls are really straightforward and blunt. It's nice that there is no stigma for girls there to ask the guys first.
+ichigomiruku Wow I've visited there a zillion times but I never knew that. Very fascinating.
+ichigomiruku I didn't know it is a tradition, living and learning xD
+Gabriel dias because it prob isn't. I bet he saw it in an anime once and thinks that's how it is
99Pierogies Probably was that, but, can we at least say that isn't something extraordinary to see a girl confessing in Japan? Or this is also wrong ?
+99Pierogies I'm a girl... I am not into anime... and I lived in Japan for 10 years. In Japan, I have confessed to boys myself and have seen Japanese girls confess first too.
As a man, I really wish that more women were as take-charge and openminded about being able to ask a guy out as you are.
They never will be until more men stop approaching them and they realize just how much their egos had been inflated by getting easy attention from men. They will realize just how much they actually liked the attention, despite outwardly pretending like they don't.
girls arent open minded at all. they want someone straight out of a christmas hallmark movie and anything lower then 10 is automatically labeled creepy. an old lady winds up with cats later in life for that exact reason
The man I'm with now is the first person I've actually asked out. We've been dating for over two years and it was the best decision I've ever made in my life. Being upfront about how much I love him has caused him to completely change his life from being insecure and self hating to healthy and confident. Loving people honestly is the most important thing you can push yourself to do.
Mikky Gibbs That sounds amazing! Im happy for both of you. 😊
Mikky Gibbs that’s so cute
Good women like you are hard to come by. Its a bit of a tear jerker for me hearing the state that your man was in because I was the same (and sadly a lot of guys are).
I asked someone out but they rejected me
I asked someone out but they rejected me 😔
I always ask guys out when I realize they like me back, but every single one that I got together with turned out to have this passive, insecure, low self steem-ridden personality. It's like, they never had the guts to ask me out, so they never have the guts for anything else (being straight forward, asserting boundaries, trusting me, discussing relationship problems in a mature way, etc) makes me wonder if I have a bad taste in men, or if the inability to ask me out is a red flag for future behavior
Absolutely not, it's not about your taste in men. Never compare men and women, we are opposite. Men evolve at a slower pace than women for biological reasons.
@@tshaolin971 well I'm only 22, and this has happened with men older than me, sooo
@@bempoucasombra7098 How much older ?
@@tshaolin971 what does it matter? Its not like theres a set amount of years for men to "achieve the same level of maturity as women" theres no such thing, there are immature cowardly 50 yo women, and trustworthy mature 18 men out there.
@OP ... Actually, I think your point is solid. Which is why I don't quite take this concept as far as Anna does.
I wouldn't recommend that girls ask guys out straight up like that... But I definitely do believe that girls should be deliberate and intentional about sending guys signals that you are open to an approach.
Without signals from the girl, good guys who are genuinely concerned about not disturbing you if you aren't in the mood... Those guys will stay away, or just be platonic with you.
Guys that don't care about you will approach regardless.
So no signals = lots of approaches by dbags.
Signals = more approaches by kind men.
Note: signals are all about differential behavior. E.g. some girls are flirty with everyone... And some girls are shy with everyone.
To successfully send signals, you must have noticeably different interactions with the guy you like than with guys you don't like... And those interactions need to be romantic or physical enough not to be confused with you liking a guy as a friend.
You are aimed at communication clearly that this particular guy is "attractive" to you. Nut just funny, or smart, etc.
Good luck!
4. Asking people out is good for self-development! Overcoming fear, and doing that thing that makes you scared, makes you a stronger, better, more grown up person.
so much yes :D
-shy male individual
I can confirm this quote
+blazejecar Same.
+Min Sugaaa ~ k, let's go :D
I sexually identify my self as a Apache helicopter as you can see it makes it very hard to start conversations "shy individual helicopter"
SKULLBOY 013 I identify as a toaster and because we're in 2016, I find this offensive
Summary!
1. What's the worst that could happen?
2. Don't waste time
3. Missed opportunities (you'll regret not taking the chance)
:)
i c - Does not work that way. The profile from this end is that the guy has NO regrets since he dodged a bullet.
2:12: 4. You get to pick anyone you want, not just from among those forward enough to ask, which has an oversupply of 'holes.
The worse thing could happen is damaging your self esteem and questioning your worth. But I agree people should take rejection better.
what if you lose them tho
@@jokertheinsaneclown3136 do the same as guys do which literally everyone should do regardless of your gender, accept their answer,respect their feelings, and move on, but its easier said then done
I'm a teenage boy .... And you encouraged me to ask my crush(girl) out ... I gonna do it now .... I think i can..yesss
How did that go?? I'm curious. I hope that very well 💪💪
Laiaa ikr
HOW IT GO BRUHHH?! DIDJA BANG!?
are you a couple now??!?!
He died from embarrassment
The problem is that I'm very insecure and I would totally ask guys and girls out if I wouldn't think that I'm ugly...
everyone has a preference, just talk to em, if you fail then you learn from whatever mistakes you made for the next time. or maybe they just purely weren't into you and in that case you're doing just fine
P Suede that's true, thanks!
I'm pretty ugly too :'( I've been rejected twice, I just wish it society was created in a way where people know it's okay to ask guys out.
you're welcome Loes, also vermillion, the only way for people to realize that is for there to be a movement. You need to have influence on others and from there you can do so. Or at least i think so
Assuming you're in school (Just cuz a lot of people on RUclips nowadays are still in school), it's best to make friends with your crush first. Most people don't want to go out with a total stranger that never talks to anyone. Like, think about it. If you don't talk to anyone, that means you probably don't have the greatest social skills. If you went on a date with your crush, your social skills will probably not only be bad, but even worse because you'd be nervous around them. Getting to be friends with them first, without hopefully ending up as best friends/friendzoned, shows that they enjoy your company and don't mind being around you. It also shows that, as friends, you can talk to each other fairly easily. If you can't be friends with them, then that either means that they don't want to talk to you, or don't have an interest in you. This also eliminates the point of confessing, because you already know they'd probably reject you if they don't want to talk to you, which means no humiliation. Also, if you're ugly, why don't you do something about it? If it's your body you mean, such as obesity or something, then try to be healthier. If it's just a physical defect that you can't change, then so be it. Oh, and one more thing. Make sure they like you for your personality too. Say you're a pretty funny, or comedic, person and like to make jokes, most people enjoy other people who are fun to be around and can hold a decent conversation. Awkwardness may be inevitable in times, but break that awkwardness by saying something funny or relateable, or with a fun question that'll get them thinking. Sorry for the long essay, but hope this helps just a tiny bit :)
"some guys don't find me attractive"
wait...WHAT?!
ask the cat
JUST SHUT UP AND FEEED MEEE
OK FINE FINE MEAAAAWWWW NOW FEEED MEEEE u_u damn humans
Brownie_Takeshi, ever seen her without makeup?
Jzone hadzone NOT OKAY!
"Guys love the chase"
Are you kidding? The chase is easily the worst part, rejection being the only real contender for worse. Guys only do it because they think girls like to be chased.
True !
Guys do it because they do not have the female privilege of waiting.
@@claytoncourtney1309 I've spoken with a fair number of women on this topic (waiting) and they REALLY don't like it.
How many?? I worked in a busy, inner city hospital from the time I was 23 until I was within a month of turning 70 (thanks to covid19.) LOTS of girls there ...
Hypcrite
Guys do it because the survival of the species depends on it. It is literally in our DNA.
I asked my boyfriend out
This is so inspiring.
I made the first move but... yeah i got rejected (meh) and... finally I don't regret anything I'm even ready for the next step! YEAAAAH! Go for it girls! You don't know what you can miss! It can reaaaally make you grow and also make you strong.
'Cause it's like you're prepared to the next battle!
Congratulations! You have all my admiration and respect, go for him Tigress!
I got rejected by the first guy I asked out, too. I was upset for a while, but now I think I dodged a bullet, lol. We would NOT have made a good couple.
i wish more women were like this.
I'm not shy, I just always default to "she probably doesn't wanna be hit on right now"
That's a harmful excuse
@Ugly Inferior Disgusting Subhuman #5'6 manlet be his wife's boyfriend ;D AHHAHAHAHA
Just send signals and if she responds to them well then you’re good because if I like a guy and they don’t show any interest at all I try and get rid of my feelings especially if they are a friend because I would rather have them as a friend rather than not at all so send good signals because it helps
I just go with "she'll file a sexual harassment charge and ruin my entire life. So nah not worth it."
@@yummyfunnybunny5167 So do you try online game instead ?
I confessed my love . . . . To my cat. He than rejected me and scratched my hand.
same
don't worry you have anime to ease the pain
Drago Flame Lol
Cats are basically real-life tsunderes, only they're a lot more blunt and stoic in their derogatory comments towards you.
And dogs are real-life yanderes. It drives me insane
We need more people like you out there~ I know it's hard for many girls because they're shy, but we can't just sit around and wait to be picked because "that's how it's always worked." It's clearly not. Life's too short to wonder away all the "what ifs" girls, besides, the worst that can happen is they say no. It's rough and hurts like hell to be rejected, but at least then you'll know for sure whether or not you ever had a chance.
***** I'm sure there are many ways you can get creative? Obviously I'm not saying you have to take initiative if you honestly cannot, but I do encourage you to do your best. (:
+RedWinifred Coming from a guy that's 25 and in college, the stare doesn't work. I can't tell if the girl is looking at me because she thinks I'm cute or just funny and different looking. I'm also shy and don't ask many women out. I had a horrible experience a few years ago when I asked a girl out. She said yes during the day then at night she yelled at me via text for no reason and said the date was off. Since then I haven't asked another girl out.
***** All the best to you dear. (:
Thanks for all the kind words. I will keep trying. Someday it will work. I must have faith.
+SamgirlSpeaks I approve of this message.
Im going to send this to every girl I've got a crush on.
+Michael Lanman Hi5!!! lol
+Michael Lanman gg
Or you could just ask them out???
+Keira Heckman he's to shy, duh!
+Younas K (Question Y) *too
My girlfriend asked me out on our first date. It was a terrible snowstorm so I decided to message her and chat her up a little, and then she point black asked if I wanted to go hiking with her. We're both pretty shy and a little awkward, but somehow we got past that and now we've been dating for almost a year and a half.
My girlfriend won't stop staring at me and eating pizza. What do I do?
You should buy her more pizza so she won't stop staring at you
Send your ferrets to attack and walk away very slowly...
Hahaha, im starting to like you.
Pee on her to show dominance.
+Harraz Haris lmfao! That shit made me laugh hard man! 😂
I've asked all of my boyfriends out and I hope no guy breaks my record!
That's so cool!
What do you mean "I hope no guy breaks my record"?
I'm sorry, I'm not English.
Mr. Moneypants it's just a joke like if a guy asked me out then I can't say that I've asked all of them out anymore
Is that British English or... I'm sorry I'm from South Florida you have to understand lol
will you go out with me (hahahhaha i broke it. im DEFINITELY a guy not a girl at all shhhhh)
Almost every guy I ended up making a move on had the same feelings I did but didn't know how to say it. I think society has been spending so much time telling guys how not to be a creep they don't know how to give a woman her space while also letting her know she's super sexy and you want to go on a date. Girls have to pick up the slack and ask guys out! If a guy thinks you're being too aggressive, he's not worth it.
+Kate B That's what I think too. If a guy rejects a women because her asking him out is "not lady like", he is not going to be a good fit for a women willing to ask a guy out and by asking him out you just save your self the time and effort of dating a guy that exacts you to fit into a classic gender role that you don't really want to fit into. Though, some women do want to fit into the classic gender, and they might be best to not ask a guy out. Just do what feels right for you and not what society says is your gender role. Though that does take some deep thought to why you choose what you choose, it is not always easy to know if you are doing it because you want it or because of social pressures.
+Kate B I'm a guy and every girl I crushed on had a crush on me back, but I never made a move, so feelings just fade away.
+Kate B Nicely written, agreed.
very nice.
+Kate B I would date you just because you have a cat as your avatar.
I once asked a guy if he would be my boyfriend... he’s my boyfriend now and we’re nearing a year of being together ☺️
Good on you! And him!
L R - And you LIVED?
The league of men salutes you
Ennis Whalen I most certainly did. And very happily :)
Arinzé Ononye nice
at 2:35 did anybody else notice her cat licking its butt in the back?
Adriana A. Yeah that’s how Cats clean themselves.
Brady Burns Ik I just thought it was funny and cute
Or maybe you are just jealous that you can't do that
the cat was taking her advice and 'getting that butt' but it happened to be his own butt lol
Cat was turkey leggin it.
I've asked most of my boyfriend's out. I always have and I'm not going stop :D
K Lilly MacDierney good for you
yaaas
Good for you Lilly!
We need more women like you !
a better encouragement is...whoever is asking anyone out is the one choosing who they are going to be dating(basically up to you how many options), the ones being asked out or waiting to be asked out only have limited options of who to date..ever wonder why some guys have girlfriends way out of their league?exactly!
My thoughts exactly. They say females get to choose their partner but then they stick around all passive waiting for someone to hit on them. How does that make sense? If I want a specific man, I ask him out. They haven't said no yet.
Julie P. Precisely!imo, women have less of a chance to get turned down..just cause it is so rare that every man would say yes out right just because its such an ego boost at that moment..if it doesnt work out then you just break up and move on.
Ryan Ferretti that's some compelling evidence you got there!
Ryan Ferretti I need evidence for any claim. I agree with different behavioral characteristics, definitely, but in asking out - granted, this is my circumstantial evidence based on my own experience - women WANT to chase men they like but are discouraged and frowned upon, so they are often dissuaded.
Ryan Ferretti 21. Ad hominem much, age is irrelevant when making a point. 'Life is my evidence' is an invalid argument, do I even have to explain? I just argued that I've had the opposite experience in my life, knowing a lot of women and sharing relationship stories with them. It's always, well, I would ask him out, but HE is supposed to do it so I am not going to. I'm sorry but I'm not responding anymore unless you actually assert something meaningful.
"That's a cute picture of me huh, I was kid yeah, good looker" lmao, this chick is hilarious 🤣
I can fully agree with this video. Just ask them yourself. My current boyfriend was too shy to say much of anything on the subject of romance. We had our moments, but nothing really happened. So after 6 months of being just friends, I messaged him on facebook and just said "I like you.". We had a conversation and long story short, we've now been dating for almost 6 months now. I just knew if I didn't ask him, it would've taken him maybe a few more months just to work up the courage to ask me.
+BLTwitch Aww, that's awesome, go you! Glad it worked out :D
I love it when a girl makes the move
King Jay yup
Yes.
Same
I like it when a girl initiates, If you know what I mean *wink wink*
Agreed, if a girl approaches me that denotes to me that she is self confident and she knows what she wants. Besides Im oblivious to hints because I tend to be friendly with everyone.
I'm just scared that the guy will tell everyone about rejecting me and I cannot stand public humiliation
That happens the other way around too.
4kkjwkaz lol guys don't do that. I never in my life have ever had a friend come up to me and tell me about the girls he rejected
If one of my friends showed off about rejecting a girl, I would lose respect for him and gain respect for her. Most guys get used to rejection early, there is a mutual understanding and empathy shown.
Vyas Sathya you're not a victim for getting rejected. You're not entitled to a girl. She has a right not to be yours
4kkjwkaz what humiliation? You're not entitled to anyone. I don't understand how you'd feel humiliated from people knowing you were assertive and made a move..
So I've also always been the one to ask guys out, I was leaving the notes on their desks since I was a kid (they never did check yes but I never gave up) and while I'm still probably not going to stop making the first move cause the only other option is wasting time waiting around, what I've always gotten (besides rejection) is guys who go out with you just cause you asked and they might as well, but they don't really like you all that much and it doesn't last. In other words, you perpetually get settled for. And it makes logical sense, even as a girl who makes the first move I know men generally aren't expecting it, they're raised to believe they have to make the first move, and so if they /really/ liked me they would have done so. The fact that I had to is almost automatic confirmation that he's at best not quite as into me as I am to him and that's a hard thing to deal with, especially when I don't want to be on the other end either, dating whoever asks me out just cause it's easier.
Most men are programmed to be the hunters.... You just found some classic old school dudes who don't appreciate that trait in a woman... Try instead interacting or showing interest in a safe way to gauge his interest in you... If he doesn't flinch at all don't bother but if he looks back or makes eye contact he is yours
Congratulations, you just did what guys do everyday : D, but in all realness, in general, both genders are shy, I congratulate You that you actually ask the guys out, and yeah you dated old school dudes, tbh, some guys would love a girl if they asked them out, but hey, you can decide who makes the first move(I guess)
Are we all going to ignore that the cat was licking it's ass at the end of the video? Best photobomb (videobomb?) ever.
+saloosh777 - last I checked paws and ass were not the same thing.
+bashscrazy 2:30... last i checked this was not a paw... Thats a cat... licking its ass...
+Pétur Ingi Jónsson - that's not the end of the video, that's the middle.
that's a good point though
+saloosh777 so happy im not the only one completely distracted by that. hundred percent sure Anna kept that take for that purpose only ahahha
Yes finally someone understands me, do you know how many times i've been rejected!
& i am still alive
don't be shy, like us
ask us out ladies
2:43 that cat in background is killing me!! xD
I’m shy as F*** and I nearly pass out when I ask someone out 😂
Then you'll go into a coma if someone asks you out
I've done this plenty of times -- and have also been rejected for superficial reasons, like a guy being "too intimidated" by it, emasculated, or felt uncomfortable with the swapping of traditional gender roles. I think it's safe to say that if we we want this work, there has to be a mutual understanding that is OKAY for girls to do this.
+Lorelei Carlson If a guy gets emasculated by a girl asking him out, should that be the kind of guy a girl who would ask a guy out would not really want to date? So, by asking him out, you would have a better idea if he only wants a women that will fit into classic gender roles. Clearly, you are not that women and should not want to date a man who wants that from a women. It is better to ask him out and find that out up front then to date him and have him try to control you and expect you to be in a "women's place", right? Though rejection always sucks.
Also, if you are getting rejected for being "too intimidated" far more then other women, maybe it is somewhat the way you ask guys out rather then just "guys are intimidated by girls asking them out". Both men and women are likely to reject overly aggressive date requests.
+Lorelei Carlson The guys that turned you down saved you the trouble of finding out if they were worth it. You keep at it until you run across someone who does respect that. It's part of the process, sadly.
Your comment is bullshit. Guys don't have a problem with girls asking them out that's total bullshit.
+Lorelei Carlson This comment obviously has an agenda.
Smooth Buscemi whats the agenda? The only argument is that both sides should be accepting of this.
So i liked this guy and this girl who hated me found out and made up all these nasty rumours about me and told him. Luckily he didn't believe them and about a week later, i went up to him and asked him out, he said yess and the next day he bought me flowers ;) we have been together for almost 4 weeks, i will update on our relationship if you guys want
yes please
Update?
Where's the update?
Gone
Is it still going good?
I used to ask girls out. But eventually I got tired of them laughing in my face
Dan_the_Man it just takes one yes
John Quinn 31 years old and still waiting
@@Montanakid1988 They're not worth it unless you want family. Do what you love instead, chase your dreams. And if you really want a family you can always adopt a child/get a surrogate and raise your child by yourself. Men have their biological need to pass on genes but I think passing on experience is more right. Aside from that I think all men are boys inside, we love fun, we love to do whatever we want and not care about anything else. Good luck man!
@@Tuxcz MGTOW is the only sane choice.
Same man, I'm still pretty young but I'm already tired of trying to approach girls. Guys can never win when it comes to dating & relationships.
Correction "Women love TO BE chased". That's why they end up with the "second choice", the real deal doesn't chase women
@Catholic Faith Dan Become interesting bro
Bull. Sometimes you make the move & sometimes they do. It’s situational & depends on the person. If you meet the one & don’t shoot your shot bc “real deal doesn’t chase women” you have only yourself to blame when you wind up with your dreams own second choice.
I’m all for women asking men out, but there is no reason to make that a requirement either. By your logic shy women would never get it, & clearly they often do. I’ve met some great guys who wound up w/ shy girls.
Get off your gender essentialism toxic masc high horse & get Gus. Bc this is 100 percent bull.
So true.... Happens all the time
This sounds true... sad
They love to be chased thats why so many leftover women nowdays
how can one be so pretty?!
7 genetics obviously
AWMartin no she is pretty wih no makeup as wel
WTF? O.o
Hugh Jass || All they said was that she was pretty.. how is that objectifying women??
Nightshade PegaSIS I think they were being sarcastic man lmao
I love how something that is traditionally masculine is admitting that you want somebody else's love and affection.
... _Wow._
This old comment is hella underrated. That really is a fascinating and legitimately ironic observation. There's a lot to be explored there.
He could refuse - that is the danger of asking a guy out. This girl recently pursued me aggressively. She did it with charm, so I gave her high marks for that. I turned her down, though, because she was substantially overweight. Maybe that was superficial of me. She had her good qualities, and I started to wonder if I had made a mistake. Then I found out that she was very religious, so I decided I had made the right decision. I'm an agnostic. Maybe the consequences of my choosiness is that I will end up alone and bitter. I've always had a bitter streak in me, even since I was young. I've lived alone for so long now that it's hard for me to conceive of life with a partner.
lool...😂😂 she was fat? i bet you are fat too...😂😂
asking a boy out: 99% chance of getting a date
asking a girl out: 12% chance of getting a date
me: I accept everything
Its 50/50
12% ? I only ask when I know
That's too specific. Where did you get those numbers?
most true comment ever. this is exactly why i dont do it
bc u r not a guy@@coasterthrills2061
i remember asking my grandmother about this and she said that looks desperate and quoted the bible on how a man look for wife not the other way around
.....
bullshit. im still going to ask guys i like out
CardcaptorsRULES Your grandma talking of marriage and settling down for life. You were asking her about dating/hooking up. Miscommunication there.
CardcaptorsRULES Go for it 🙈 I've asked my crush too out, now he's my bf. 😂 but well I knew I wouldn't know what to say to confessed so I've kissed him 😅 if you've got guts like this too, good luck!
Nais Sketching aww...
It's in the Bible? XD
I’ve been approached by several women before and even if I’m not attracted to them and reject them I let them know I appreciate them being able to approach me.
Anna: "And the next time you see a cutie..."
Me: Get that booty
Anna: "...hit him up"
Me: Oh, right that's what I meant *laughs awkwardly*
Lmao :D
You're not the only one xD
I read that when she said it 😂😂😂
Lol
did u see the cat in the back round while she said it haha
Are your cat shelves custom made?
+thealpage They're made by Catastrohpic Creations! Tell them I sent youuu :) Mike & Megan are the best
+Anna Akana i dont understand
+Anna Akana Thank you!!!
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I ordered from the same people lol
Girls should just ask guys out cause there's a 99% chance we will say yes. As a guy we see it as opportunitiy and not be picky.
@Stan Marsh Simp
@Stan Marsh Bruh i'm joking chill
@Stan Marsh you just sounded kind of simpy but its the same for guys to they dont like rejection so if they want equal rights and all start acting like that because no one likes rejection especially the chase everybody hates it can even make me completely lose interest
Correct !
@@poohwithtimbs7027 How is he being a simp?
Nope... The reason is guys are naturally suspicious of hot girls asking them out. Our first instinct is to think "Holy crap, I hit the jackpot!'. And second is to question 'ok, now what's wrong with her?'
How about, do I have enough spare cash? Lol
You make a valid
Then they're overthinking fools. As a man I've been asked out 3 different times. I didn't think much of it. All you have to do is consider whether you want to go out with this person or not.
La la la well not all of us are Like that
Bell 33 likes in 4 days. Seems like way TOO MANY guys are like that. Tragic. Which is why as a woman I’d NEVER ask a guy out and my only reason is because men are desperate af and will say yes to anything that moves because they hate themselves. *No thanks*
I told my crush that I had a crush on him and he said," Me too."
Yolo
I sent this vid to a friend (im a guy)
And he sent it to the girls from our class i swear to god the next day the cutest girl in school ask me out ( in the biggest nerd in that school)
On the outside i was like o cool wanna get ice cream or something
On the inside i was like yeeees yeeees this is a dream come true girls asking guys out
END3R Wow, good for you, buddy! I'm happy for you!!!!
END3R awesome
Legend
r/thathappened
Lucky
As a shy guy that's FORCED myself to ask girls out in the past only to be completely manipulated & heartbroken, I Definitely approve of this message. I'm tired of approaching girls only to be made a complete fool of by her & all her friends.
Bottom line is, do whatever you want. Who gives a know what about people's opinions. Anyone who thinks you're (female) desperate because you're making the first move doesn't deserve you. And anyone who thinks shy guys should "nut up" and make the first move isn't addressing the problem.
In summary: abandon the notion that men should always make the first move.
Consider me subscribed. ^_^
+Outrageon THIS. :)
I asked a guy out ... And the great thing, he is the one. And everytime we talk about our beginnings as a couple, he just says that he never saw a chance for us two getting together because he thought that I wouldn like his height. (He is just one or two millimetres smalle than me, but we say we are equally tall) ;-)
But then he adds that he is the so glad that I asked him out, and we now live in a healthy relationship.
(That was the first time I asked a guy out)
+Mayu Socke Aww, that's sweet. I'm happy for you both! :D
Step 1: Don't be ugly
^ wouldn't that get you pretty much anywhere?
+ImperialBiscuit Damn it. I already fucked up that one lol
+ImperialBiscuit No
& it works for Men too :D
+ImperialBiscuit Yeah even if u ugly, just by asking, you will get 1/3 women. I bet it's 1/2 if you in to men ;)
+ImperialBiscuit
My best friend is ugly but he always gets a lot of girls cause he is charismatic and really funny guy always know how to crack a good joke. It doesn't matter if you are ugly or not its all about your personality and self confidence.
PREACH IT SISTER 🙌 🙌 I asked my crush out on a date and we both cried from happiness after we became official :') You can't miss the opportunity of love 💕 6 months going on LDR 🥰🤞
I have crippling anxiety oh god I can't my crush is too good for me
Panic! At The Social Anxiety I want to steal your username
Pixelated Titan lmao
Panic! At The Social Anxiety That guy would be lucky to have you!
Assuming you're in school (Just cuz a lot of people on RUclips nowadays are still in school), it's best to make friends with your crush first. Most people don't want to go out with a total stranger that never talks to anyone. Like, think about it. If you don't talk to anyone, that means you probably don't have the greatest social skills. If you went on a date with your crush, your social skills will probably not only be bad, but even worse because you'd be nervous around them. Getting to be friends with them first, without hopefully ending up as best friends/friendzoned, shows that they enjoy your company and don't mind being around you. It also shows that, as friends, you can talk to each other fairly easily. If you can't be friends with them, then that either means that they don't want to talk to you, or don't have an interest in you. This also eliminates the point of confessing, because you already know they'd probably reject you if they don't want to talk to you, which means no humiliation. Also, if you're ugly, why don't you do something about it? If it's your body you mean, such as obesity or something, then try to be healthier. If it's just a physical defect that you can't change, then so be it. Oh, and one more thing. Make sure they like you for your personality too. Say you're a pretty funny, or comedic, person and like to make jokes, most people enjoy other people who are fun to be around and can hold a decent conversation. Awkwardness may be inevitable in times, but break that awkwardness by saying something funny or relateable, or with a fun question that'll get them thinking. Sorry for the long essay, but hope this helps just a tiny bit :)
+Alexis Alexander i doubt that's good advice.... I mean wouldn't you want it to be clear youre not exactly trying to be her "friend"?
I think the hardest part about asking anyone out is if you start out as friends. You can feel so scared because it could ruin a great friendship
theres no such thing as friends
@@ryanciani3324 Maybe I'm ugly but I HAVE had male friends where we were JUST friends. It DOES exist.
you are absolutely right because thats exactly what happened to me. i had a big crush on this girl and i was way 2 shy because of her intimidating beauty and the years passed and year 7 i seen her again for a split second and heard that she thought i was sexy so i tracked her down and we just clicked once we knew that we both had a 7 year crush on eachother. but we both went through hell in them 7 years in bad relationships and coulda been prevented but now we are happy with 2 kids 8 years later. so remember if you passup your crush you may get 7 years bad luck lol
+Dark Light lol Nice love story. Soulmates. :)
+Dark Light wow that like a love story from a movie... did this really happen? (and was she realyl that good looking)
+Roman Navratil yes and yes maybe it should be in a movie is watch it
Love your love story about your love! I have found my soulmate as well. Don't pass up your crush or 7 years bad luck! XD
I'm not the shyest guy in the world, just a bit introverted, and not really the 'progressive' type, etc etc. But Lemme tell you, even if you're not a Tomboy? Women who can take the initiative are 'Sexy'. If a woman can feel comfortable and confident enough to openly ask a guy out or show their interests, it already shows great characteristic in her that a guy will instantly know whether he really likes that or doesn't. If everyone is crying for equality of all things, women have to stop acting like they should rely on men to take the initiative in majority of cases in everything, initiatives will propel you forward much faster in life, at the job, getting hired, being noticed and probably in finding someone you like.
But hey, that's just my two cents.
"I agree." -- sincerely, shy male.