OG way of thinking is always wanting to not miss out on their children's labor, to pay them back. Thank you for teaching the other OGs to change their way of thinking.
Finally an OG that is living the American way. Agree with your perspective; you’re happier, your children are happier when each have their own space to make their own choices. Plus, that’s what being a grandparent is all about; you enjoy your grandkids and give them back to their parents when you’re done. Makes for an overall good experience for everyone.
Ua lub neej tsi pom tom ntej. Hnub no koj lub zog khov kho ces koj muab nyiaj coj los nplawm rau sawvdaws saib. It's all about your money. Tos koj laus, kev mob nkeeg los caum cuag. Tej zaum koj yuav txo hwjchim. Peb ua neeg nyob, taws tsau tsi pom tom ntej. Txoj kev hlub thiaj yuav nyob mus li. Yus yeej txhawb yus tej minyuam kom ua neej khov kho. Lawv Tej minyuam los yus yeej pab tu. Thaum yus tseem taus yus yeej nyob yus, but Tej minyuam yeej yuav coj yus thaum yus tsis taus.
I’m totally agree 100 percent what your husband and you are doing and teaching your kids to be independent…we live in a different world and time…we don’t need our kids to care for us anymore…we have to enjoy our lives together and be happy what we have…👍🤠!!!
I am not there yet but for the most part, I believe this is the way of the future. This is the way of being American. The Americans had been here for centuries and they already know and have been and is doing exactly what you are saying. Thanks for sharing your story.
I agree with this 100%. My husband and I talked about this all the time. I also cannot wait for all my kids to grow up and move out. This is why we are okay with only having one son. I just don't think I can live with my kids. I also wanna enjoy my retirement and not babysit al day long. We don't even have my inlaws watch our kids.
Very wise words of wisdom to your children and good morals and teaching. A very American normal family. God bless that you do not enforce the Hmong ways especially the old ways. Great parenting
The advice in this story is good but only to an extent. This advice is coming from someone who has a husband and money. Most single mothers living with this expensive economy, it's hard to live alone without the support or our children.
Honestly I don’t count on our children to care for me too. I try to stay healthy and don’t live too old. I think people who live too old is not good luck but bad karma to live too old to burden our children
All these "inspirational" stories now are just "here's what a good hmong husband does" or "here's what a good hmong wife does" or "here's what good hmong parents do." I prefer listening to the stories about family and friends helping someone get through a tough period in life. Those were really inspirational.
Saving 50% of your income is a lot. Idk how you did,.you can if you make 10k a month. 😅even my in-laws with their ssi is able to save 50% but that's because they live in someone else home 😂
Don’t compare your parent to other stay with your parent save more money if you can’t even buy food for your family how do you effort to pay your rent , but for me i don’t want to fork my kid to stay with me if their refuse to !! Let’s them go so they know how to independent by themself .
Ib hlis no tej zaum neb tseg tau ib puas xwb koj hais tias ib hlis no neb tseg 50% no dag dhaus lawm vim muaj 6 me no kev noj tsis yog tsawg li ntxhe neb noj mij qe xwb.😢😢
I like your story, that’s the way I planned to be when I’m older. Told my child I’m saving so that when I can’t take care of myself. I want to go live in a assistant home or senior home. I don’t want to be a burden to my child.
We all can talk but will never understand old age until we get there. Only those who are there are qualified to give advice. Homecare/nursing home is extremely expensive so save a lot. The best gift you can give your kids is not to be a burden on them financially or otherwise. Prioritize retirement over giving kids cars, college, etc. Otherwise, most of us will end up being burdens on our kids. State nursing homes are horrible. Beware.
Muaj ib co niam pog thiab txiv yawg mas lawv xaiv hlub kiag tus uas txim hlub rau lawv thiab ua zoo rau qee tus Xeeb txwv thiab tej tus tub nyab xwb, thaum yus pom li ntawd mas yus kuj tu siab kawg li hos
Yog lawm peb hmoob yuav tau pauv li no thiab
Yes! This is how we should transition to now. My idea of growing old! ❤❤
Too good to be true... will see.
OG way of thinking is always wanting to not miss out on their children's labor, to pay them back.
Thank you for teaching the other OGs to change their way of thinking.
Agree with this story
My parents are exactly like this. They are my inspiration
Finally an OG that is living the American way. Agree with your perspective; you’re happier, your children are happier when each have their own space to make their own choices. Plus, that’s what being a grandparent is all about; you enjoy your grandkids and give them back to their parents when you’re done. Makes for an overall good experience for everyone.
Ua lub neej tsi pom tom ntej. Hnub no koj lub zog khov kho ces koj muab nyiaj coj los nplawm rau sawvdaws saib. It's all about your money. Tos koj laus, kev mob nkeeg los caum cuag. Tej zaum koj yuav txo hwjchim.
Peb ua neeg nyob, taws tsau tsi pom tom ntej. Txoj kev hlub thiaj yuav nyob mus li. Yus yeej txhawb yus tej minyuam kom ua neej khov kho. Lawv Tej minyuam los yus yeej pab tu. Thaum yus tseem taus yus yeej nyob yus, but Tej minyuam yeej yuav coj yus thaum yus tsis taus.
I love the way u and your husband think. I strive to be the same way too when I'm old.
I’m totally agree 100 percent what your husband and you are doing and teaching your kids to be independent…we live in a different world and time…we don’t need our kids to care for us anymore…we have to enjoy our lives together and be happy what we have…👍🤠!!!
I am not there yet but for the most part, I believe this is the way of the future. This is the way of being American. The Americans had been here for centuries and they already know and have been and is doing exactly what you are saying. Thanks for sharing your story.
Hehehe kuj yog ib yam zoo kawg. Tabsis zov me nyuam mas yeej zov kawg.
I agree with this 100%. My husband and I talked about this all the time. I also cannot wait for all my kids to grow up and move out. This is why we are okay with only having one son. I just don't think I can live with my kids. I also wanna enjoy my retirement and not babysit al day long. We don't even have my inlaws watch our kids.
Everything now is about double the price then what it was in the 90s. Just hope we can save enough when 2050 comes around 😊
Very wise words of wisdom to your children and good morals and teaching. A very American normal family. God bless that you do not enforce the Hmong ways especially the old ways. Great parenting
Exactly! My parents are like this too but not so my in-laws :*( It's very frustrating for me to tolerate their traditional mindset.
Beautifully told.
The advice in this story is good but only to an extent. This advice is coming from someone who has a husband and money. Most single mothers living with this expensive economy, it's hard to live alone without the support or our children.
No worries. Many Hmong assisted living facilities and nursing homes for elderly Hmong folks in MN.
Agreed 💯! Love this.
Peb cov hmoob laus yuav tau hloov txais tos li zaj neej neeg no kuv yeej pom zoo thiab.
Wow what a great story!! Learn some wisdom from you. Thank you!❤
Honestly I don’t count on our children to care for me too. I try to stay healthy and don’t live too old. I think people who live too old is not good luck but bad karma to live too old to burden our children
Zoo kawg os ua raug
All these "inspirational" stories now are just "here's what a good hmong husband does" or "here's what a good hmong wife does" or "here's what good hmong parents do." I prefer
listening to the stories about family and friends helping someone get through a tough period in life. Those were really inspirational.
Saving 50% of your income is a lot. Idk how you did,.you can if you make 10k a month. 😅even my in-laws with their ssi is able to save 50% but that's because they live in someone else home 😂
This is what my husband and I talked about. We don't want to burden our kids like his parents did too. I told my kids the same thing.
Don’t compare your parent to other stay with your parent save more money if you can’t even buy food for your family how do you effort to pay your rent , but for me i don’t want to fork my kid to stay with me if their refuse to !! Let’s them go so they know how to independent by themself .
Tua niam pog koj khav koj tus kheej heev. Cov inspired stories yog yus qhuas lwm tus neeg, tsis yog you rov qhuas qhuas yus tus kheej. Raws li koj hais hauv Nov, ntuj los qhuas koj vim ntuj coj tus niam ntxawm thiab kwv tuaj rau koj qhuab qhia. Koj tus txiv cov lus los qhuas koj koj cov lus los qhuas koj, tub nyab los qhuas koj, niam ntxawm thiab kwv los qhuas, ntuj los qhuas koj. Cia lawv mam tuaj hais lawv rau peb hnov mas thiaj yog inspiring story. Koj rov qhuas koj xwb ces tsis yog inspiring story.
Peb cov Hmoob laus tim meskas tuam tshiab no cov coob yeej ua li no lawm, peb tsis khav li koj khav koj xwb.
Ib hlis no tej zaum neb tseg tau ib puas xwb koj hais tias ib hlis no neb tseg 50% no dag dhaus lawm vim muaj 6 me no kev noj tsis yog tsawg li ntxhe neb noj mij qe xwb.😢😢
I'm not there yet, but I'm don't plan to live with my kids. We've told our kids, we're not staying with them, and they're staying with us.
Tus niam tsev kuv los yeej nyiam lub tswv yim li koj tus txiv neb thiab os....kuv tsis muaj tub tab sis kuv yeej tham tias yog kuv lam muaj tub ces thaum lawv muaj nyab lawm kuv yuav coj li neb thiab, kom lawv mus nyob lawv, lawv thiaj li paub pib lawv lub neej npaj txhua yam li lawv xav npaj thiaj yog ib qho zoo, tsis muaj kev sib dub muag thiaj xav sib hlub mus ntev2.
I told my kids that as long as they check on me and my old man when we get to the diaper stage to make sure our diapers get changed, I would be happy.
I like your story, that’s the way I planned to be when I’m older. Told my child I’m saving so that when I can’t take care of myself. I want to go live in a assistant home or senior home. I don’t want to be a burden to my child.
Nej los lus me kas tias rhawm kim yg dab g qhia thiab seb peb cov g paub lus me kas no g paub li os 😅😅😅😅
This is exactly how I feel when I get old. I don't want my kids taking care of me. I don't want to burden my kids.
That’s your family culture. Not every family prefer that that’s all.
We all can talk but will never understand old age until we get there. Only those who are there are qualified to give advice. Homecare/nursing home is extremely expensive so save a lot. The best gift you can give your kids is not to be a burden on them financially or otherwise. Prioritize retirement over giving kids cars, college, etc. Otherwise, most of us will end up being burdens on our kids. State nursing homes are horrible. Beware.
Muaj ib co niam pog thiab txiv yawg mas lawv xaiv hlub kiag tus uas txim hlub rau lawv thiab ua zoo rau qee tus Xeeb txwv thiab tej tus tub nyab xwb, thaum yus pom li ntawd mas yus kuj tu siab kawg li hos
Sister, you have a well thought domesticated man. You're Americanized. Not the Hmong culture ways.
Why do you run two channels if you’re behind with the stories, I dont get it!! 🤦♀️🤦♀️🤦♀️
I ran 2 different channel because of different topics.