Without being a weirdo, I’ve been watching you since you were pregnant with Laela and I’ve always caught up with your videos ever since. I genuinely feel so proud of you for building/looking after such a beautiful family. I’m 26 from Scotland but have always felt a sisterly bond to you. You’re the best mamma, please don’t ever forget that❤
Run ! Run! Run! Away from this mess of a man don’t even pick up the phone or give him the time of day. He has never been a good father. He’s a waste of time you’re only hurting yourself and getting sucked into whatever lies he’s telling you. I speak from experience this is not a healthy person for you and your daughter Disconnect.
I think you have a great head on your shoulders and you clearly know what’s best for your kids! My two cents is Never let guilt or a fantasy get in the way of protecting your kids.
if he only cares about “dating” you especially this soon then definitely keep him at a distance that’s such a read flag 😓 i hope he really does want to be better for laela
@@bellas_adventure_sgirl of course he has messed up qnd yasmyn deserves better, but he has been there for the GIRLS and appears to be a good father for the 3, something this other one never bothered to be
@@bellas_adventure_speople make mistakes. He is still the child’s only father she has ever known. Why punish them because you don’t like what he did? It’s called forgiveness
Don’t let him use and abuse you. Logon will always be a dad to her. And your an amazing mum and you should be proud of yourself and your daughter will see your hard efforts and work as she gets older and understand more. And I have feeling she will always see Logan as her father. Things may not worked out with both of you. But the fact your both still there for the kids and he still there not just for the other two kids but also Layla means that he will always be her dad well I have a good feeling he will. Your an amazing mum so proud you. Keeping shining bright and being an amazing mum.❤❤
Girl, Keep moving on w your life. Dont allow this man to be apart of y’all’s life until his actions change! I’ve followed you since you had Layla & enjoy watching you grow & mature! Remember to always take care of yourself. What is meant to be Will be!
Definitely stick with making sure his improvements are long term. I worry he’s using laela as a way to get to you. I would maybe wait until Laela is a bit older (8-10?). At that age, he will have had multiple years to stick to his improvements as well as understand that he does not have access to you whenever he wants. If he wants you just because you seem “convenient” to him, making him work for it for multiple years will deter him. Plus, waiting for an age when you can have a more candid conversation w laela on you being worried about him being weird or creepy or just not good overall could help her make peace with whatever outcome happens because at that age she will have an easier time understanding. She’s so smart and empathetic now and I think by that age it might make more sense to her why you’ve waited. Regardless, it’s your decision! You know you and your family best. What is meant to be will be. You got this
You should really be so proud of yourself. You are such a good mom and big sister. Having all those girls with you as their role model means so much, especially with all you have been through! Pat yourself on the back. You deserve it!!
As someone who has a brother who never had much of a relationship with his bio father, but was raised by our dad, it’s really not upsetting to not know them. But it is upsetting when they do know them and they enter and leave their lives with little care or respect. My older brother went through that with his bio father. It was like emotional warfare on him. They both had bio sperm donors who were addicts and in and out of prison. Both of them died before their “son” turned 18. My older brother is a high school drop out, addict, and in prison. My younger brother excels in school and has no behavioral issues. He’s a normal teenage little brother. Sometimes it’s better not to have a relationship. None of these things have been secrets to my brothers, but it does seem having very little contact was a better choice. Trust your gut! ❤
My dad didn’t know who his biological father was until he was 16, I think that was for the better in his case too, and he will tell you the same. Sometimes family is more about who steps up and is willing to be there and do whatever it takes and less about who is biologically related to you.
saying that he is in jail because he was avoiding something to see laela in delaware is such a lame excuse. he didnt see her her whole life, now that he has a problem with illegal stuff laela has something to do with it? makes no sense. also, for years he doesnt look for her, he does when hes in jail, in a bad position in his life, and at the same time wants to get back together with you… he is clearly mentally unstable, because when he was ok, he wanted nothing to do with you and her. probably saw an oportunity now that you are single and cares a bit about laela at the most. i really wish for the best for your family! you have been through so much and remain resilient and loving, hope you continue that way. draw every line you need to protect yourself, you dont owe anyone anything!
He might just want to date you to have a stable place to stay. Its definitely weird he asked if you were single and about Laela. He should only be concerned about Laela I hope he comes around and acts better.
Its okay to have feelings and anxiety even after having a minimal response to start with. I hope her dad will make some better decisions in the future. Much love from us❤
As a former addict, please, no matter what you choose to do (because it is your choice), keep him at a distance. Addicts relapse & getting used to life sober is very hard in itself. The fact he’s trying to preemptively seemingly have a family ready for him when he gets out is going to end in distaster, more than likely, because he’s already going to have to learn how to do LIFE as a normal person, adding children to that mix surely does not make that easier and I just worry for you and the girls. Can addicts change? Absolutely, but I think any addict would agree that they don’t always do it for the better. If he wanted this and had been out in the real world, actively learning and trying to do better for a while and staying sober in the process & being around other women and still chose you, I think that would be worth exploring if you wanted to, but he is going to need a lot of time before you even know if he’s trustworthy. Itll also be worse for Laela knowing him now just to have him ripped away again if he screws up. Proceed with caution. 💓 always hoping the best for you and the girls
Run don’t walk away from your first baby daddy. Red flags all the way with that one. Your oldest daughter can have a normal, healthy life without ever knowing her real dad. It’s sad but sometimes for the best. Listen to your gut, it’s usually always right and you need to protect your family from people who make poor life choices. I think as women we tend to want to hope people change but after so many years you find that people don’t really change their behavior. Do what’s best for you and your girls. Take good care. The girls are so sweet!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I grew up in a very similar situation to you not far away from you in MD and had a daughter at 17. My advice from my mother being an addict and my dad shielding me from her for a lot of my life and by the time I was 11-12 (pretty mature for my age)he gave me the choice to contact and know her and I think that’s the fair way to go here. Don’t let him let her down before she has a chance to form real opinions on men and relationships with them!
Hey Yasmyn, I love seeing your videos all the time!!! I can't wait to see more videos every time you post. You definitely need to see approval from your one daughter's dad if he is in jail. I know that Logan is a better dad to all 3 of your girls!
He didn’t stay around for his own child, he certainly won’t stay around for 3. He’s underestimating what it takes to be a father. A lot of men are perfectly capable of dating a women who has children but it sounds like he is stepping up for the wrong reasons? Not trying to be rude at all. I do agree that it’d be great for Layla to get to know her dad… he needs to show consistency for a few years though. You’ve had a lot of change these past few years but change isn’t bad. Just stay true to you and what you love and you won’t ever get lost 🥺
Also, as a single mom, I know how hard it is to refrain from falling into someone’s arms because it’s lonely and scary taking care of a human on your own. But given that while being a mom you’ve also made a huge RUclips channel and are working for yourself, I think you are more than capable of doing anything you believe in. If it’s a blue bungalow in Hawai’i with your best friends writing music then reach for that! Life has only just begun! 💙
It would be super irresponsible and even damaging to your custody to even let him near her. He needs to have years of improvement and not even just per his word but per healed people and people trustworthy saying he’s been on a good track for years. It always stinks when children are from a broken home, but you are doing your best and you are protecting them the way you should as their mom. So keep it up
From what you’ve shared previously about him, he will not be a good father or partner. My dad lived with us, but was an absent father and an alcoholic. I think I would’ve been better of without him in my life. Of course there are days when I wish I had a real dad, but he will never be that.
you heal my soul, i rember the first time you brought layla to HS but dont let bd real you in remember hes in the past for a reason. if it was for layla he wouldnt care about anything but seeing her
Please be very careful. I don’t know him at all and yes sometimes people do change, BUT be VERY careful. Most of the times they just do it they same s*it all over again, or even worse!
IMO absolutely stay away from him. If he wants to see Layla that may be difficult and confusing for her. He may be in then out . She is young so use caution before proceeding. Where has he been the last 5 years ? Dont fall for him. Do not provide a home or get emotionally involved. Heed warning . You have come so far and done a great job with the girls. Stay focused on them and yourself.
I totally agree with one of the comments here. A dad that's unreliable and in and out of a child's life, whilst also having his own problems that affect who he is, more damaging than no dad at all...
Yasmyn my opinion is F him don’t let him gaslight you and manipulate you. I know what it’s like without both parents bc my dad left when I was 10 months and my mother got her right completely taken away that year ago. I’m now 23 and still got zero contact with him. My opinion Layla deserves to meet her “biological dad” but Logan will always be with father he raised her. I would ask Logan tho but that’s up to you ❤
Just because he helped create Layla doesn't make him a Dad. Logan has been by her side from just about day one. That low life doesn't deserve anything. Thank God some one like Logan stepped up to the plate and loved her like his own.
Keep your girl safe!! It’s not healthy for a parent to be coming in and out of a child’s life. I’d tell him, call for updates every week for a year and then I’ll let you see her. Or something like that. See if he commits.
maybe if he visits Layla, make him have to do it while Logan supervises. That way him getting to know her is all about being a dad and not a way to manipulate you into spending time with him.
Remember yasmyn , just bc he’s her BIOLOGICAL dad doesn’t mean he HAS to be apart of her life.. My son is Also 6 and I have Been in contact with his dad this whole time BUT he also has only really been interested in having a relationship with me (which I find weird)… he’ll buy him things if I ask and he gives me money regularly but my son doesn’t know him AT ALL.. The point is Laela has a dad figure in her life so she doesn’t have to have this dude. I feel like my son is too old to try to introduce another random man into his life as his dad when he already has a dad figure as well since he was born (I’m married to someone else and we been dating since I was pregnant.)
I have the same thing but my daughter is now 34. I learned a long time ago. You cant believe a thing he says. He will never change. I got tired of being on his roller coaster ride and i decided no. You are gone. She could hate me if she wanted but i wasnt going to rip her up anymore with his promises he never kept and never had any ability to keep. Hes been in prison again for 18 yrs now. She understands that hes not capable of being a good person. Sexual abuse of his stepdaughter from 14 to 15 before she finally told someone. He'll be on the registry for a very long time. Hes 60 now and she wants nothing to do with him. She is thankful i cut him out abd yes at times shhes looked around and saw otger girls with dads at their daughters sporting events in her teens but she also knows that it would have been much harder for her if he had been in her life emotionally. Ya just have to say enough sometimes. Hes a loser and will always be a loser. Dont subject her to him. Cut him loose. You owe him nothing. He loves manipulating you and will continue as long as you let him. Dont fall for it.
Protect your daughter I'm living a hellish rough life bcuz of something kinda similar to this do right by your daughter and yourself protect her first and you second they change and once you get them after jail it can b complete hell or super dangerous not cool I'm a mother of four so please please don't
Yasmyn, my dad had been in Jail since I was born untill I was 19, he made a lot of mistake because he was 17 when i was born. In the middle of his sentence he realizes he has to be a good father and started to look for me, now i am 26 and he is almost 43, he’s out of hail and he’s the most present father he could be. Don’t stick to what we saw when they were 17-18-19 years old, they were kids. If he’s trying to change be gratefull for that, there’s nothing more good for Laela thank knowing his real dad, bc if she doesn’t, along with the years she will ask…
Of course a call from him would be upsetting your feelings are valid. Actions speak louder than words. You know with your mom these people don’t ever change. They can do better but they usually fall back to their old ways. You want Laela to have both dads which is understandable but thank god she has Logan. Don’t get your hopes up with this dude.
RUclips’s don’t try when they are sponsored by something. You can clearly tell these are the first two you’ve taken out of the package cause it’s magically just ripped open and then you claim they are your favorite
I would keep those distance boundaries with this man. Because already the intention doesn't seem focused on his daughter dating you and seeing you do well and gaining from that without offering much. You don't need that. Keep your dignity and boundaries by allowing him to show interest in his daughter but until he is healed and growing you do not want your life being brought down again. It sounds harsh but most people fall into this trap and regret it. You don't have to date someone or be in their life in close proximity to help them. In fact the most loving thing you can do is allow them to develop their independence whilst also praising them for good action. BUt do not fall into the trap of allowing someone to take up your emotional time and space. He is a grown individual who needs to develop his independence and source of self love and confidence so if anything gets hard in the future he knows he is capable and self sufficient and doesn't need babying or mothering. Partners and parents are an equal team. Sending videos and pictures and maybe facetimes once each week is the best way for all of your emotional wellbeing. Drawing pictures and sending them etc.
Girl these boys in jail will say anything and do anything to guilt trip people on the outside. Don’t believe a word. This is prime example of exactly what 99% of inmates do.
Yeah it would be a damn wonderful miracle if he became decent, strong & tried for his daughter. Never give up on the hope or the trying if he proves his RIGHT intentions in the future. I would say he is still young(ER) I'm assuming since you are age wise (but definitely not mentally as you are such a positive role Mama for your girls especially at 21, be so very proud lady!!❤) so with that his asking about your relationship status and his "liking" you still would be a buzz kill & such a young minded action after his calm to wanting to be a Dad etc. Just shows you he isnt there just yet and did you think of telling him so in a letter while he sits in there with all this time? Never hurts to try and get through his young boy's ways of thinking with written words. Couldn't hurt, js. Anywho, you have this awesome Aura and are such a beautiful person & Mama the girls are so lucky for you as you are for them. 💜 🩷
I grew up without my dad but my dad wants to be in my life but it's too late now I don't have feelings for my dad at all he was never there for me growing up
Girl. You are an amazing person, amazing Mom, sister and GrandDaughter!!!❤ I am so fricking proud of you with all of my being! I'm older than you and don't think I could do what you accomplish in a day😂❤ My biggest life lesson for everything is so simple it's stupid😂.. what's meant to be.. will.. and what's not...won't! 🤷♀️ Maybe this can help someone❤ Sure minimizes overthinking for me, because I am great at that! 😂
Was trying to find a video to watch while I cook my eggs and she’s literally cooking eggs 🤣😭 I was going to crack mine right when she showed her cracking hers
You have more children to worry about than just Leila. It may be her dad but it's not the other children's dad. There is 0 responsibility on your end to do anything for him or with him. 100 percent he can take you to court if he wants anything to do with your shared daughter but until then definitely stupid if you decide to take him up on anything. Why on Earth any entertainment of being with someone who is calling you from jail especially after your past with your mother would be just taking you back to what you grew up with and doing it to your own children. You should know first hands that addicts are addicts for life no matter how long they have been clean and you have to many things going on with your life and your children to take a risk like that. The potential of having a life partner that isn't stable vs. A stable environment for your children is basicly what you are weighing. There ar plenty of men who aren't trash out there or who aren't going to take you on a chaotic roller coaster. Find one of them and stop letting potential rule you actual life.
Don't let him into your daughter's life. He's not stable to be a father. You knew him then but not now, I remeber way back then how happy you were to soldier on with your baby and finish school! You were good with Logan and he was good to you and all three of your children. Rather leave the 1st man out of your lives.
Tbh, not that i have any say in the matter, but he chose to not be a dad, for years and years, honestly i wouldnt have even told laela about her biological father, that doesnt make you a dad. my dad was forced to be my dad and he was horrible, dr*gs were always more important and as an adult ive excluded him from my life. My own daughter has a bio dad who decided he didnt want to be her dad, if he changes his mind later on, sorry but no, he missed out and now she has a dad (he may not be biologically related, but he has been there since she was 3 Months old and he is her dad). he had his chance, you cant pick and choose when to be a parent, and thats all that will continue to occur, they got to pick and choose once so they will do it whenever it suits them, i know this from my own fathers picking and choosing and all that will do is scar laela for life. logan is laelas dad, always has been, and thats how it should be seen as treated. wouldnt even give her bio dad a second thought. People dont change, really, they dont, no offence but look at your own mother for reference. Always put your kids first. protect her from unnecessary pain.
Hi what whether you decide it ok for layla for meet her dad if she wants too it up her and if he want to part of layla life but she is his daughter so and he said to get back with you i dont know about that it up you it your decision it your choice which pact you choose dont let him decide that for you it your life it your daughter too if you her meet her dad it ok so let it bring you down okay just be friends with him if he wants that that ok dont rush for that ok
This man seems like a piece of work 🤔 he probably needs an address or storyline for the parole office and someone with financial stability when he gets out. Dont let him walk into your life and tear down what you've built for your family. If he wants to start fresh and get his daughter back in his life, let him work his arse off to prove and provide for her and rebuild his own life. That doesn't need to involve you.
As a person who has been watching you for a few years and a complete outsider point of view. I know you want Laila to have a relationship with her birth father but at what cost. With everything he has pulled with you. He is a very scary person and likes to take advantage of women and control him. Just pose this question to yourself, what would make you think he would treat her any better when she is in first grade and does not even know him because of the scary choices he has made. Also the fact he asked about your relationship status make it very clear he wants you not her. That sounds awful but it is the truth. As a mom you want your child to have dad that is her biological dad but at what cost. I would say you already have a gut feeling this situation is not good. You need to follow your gut and run! He is scary bad news and sometimes it is on the best interest of your child to try to protect them from that. Anyways do with it what you may it just my observation. No shade or hate just someone who is concerned.
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My sense is, he knows you have made a good living…you could be his meal ticket. “ A leopard doesn’t change its spots” Please don’t go down that road.
Without being a weirdo, I’ve been watching you since you were pregnant with Laela and I’ve always caught up with your videos ever since. I genuinely feel so proud of you for building/looking after such a beautiful family. I’m 26 from Scotland but have always felt a sisterly bond to you. You’re the best mamma, please don’t ever forget that❤
Don't allow him in addicts will use anything to guilt you to doing whatever they want.
She should know that with all her mom issues
sry i m new to this channel.is he in jail? what crime he done?
Run ! Run! Run! Away from this mess of a man don’t even pick up the phone or give him the time of day. He has never been a good father. He’s a waste of time you’re only hurting yourself and getting sucked into whatever lies he’s telling you. I speak from experience this is not a healthy person for you and your daughter
Disconnect.
I think you have a great head on your shoulders and you clearly know what’s best for your kids!
My two cents is Never let guilt or a fantasy get in the way of protecting your kids.
if he only cares about “dating” you especially this soon then definitely keep him at a distance that’s such a read flag 😓 i hope he really does want to be better for laela
It’s so cute to see your little sisters becoming your best friends. I’m sure laela will mainly view Logan as her dad and rightly so.
Girl protect your daughter from that. He can’t just randomly call from jail six years in. Logan’s been so good to her
Logan has been so good to who? He cheated and ruined his family he has not been good at all
@@bellas_adventure_s to laela
@@bellas_adventure_sgirl of course he has messed up qnd yasmyn deserves better, but he has been there for the GIRLS and appears to be a good father for the 3, something this other one never bothered to be
@@bellas_adventure_speople make mistakes. He is still the child’s only father she has ever known. Why punish them because you don’t like what he did? It’s called forgiveness
Logan has been far from good. He cheated on what was good for him and ruined his family
Don’t let him use and abuse you. Logon will always be a dad to her. And your an amazing mum and you should be proud of yourself and your daughter will see your hard efforts and work as she gets older and understand more. And I have feeling she will always see Logan as her father. Things may not worked out with both of you. But the fact your both still there for the kids and he still there not just for the other two kids but also Layla means that he will always be her dad well I have a good feeling he will. Your an amazing mum so proud you. Keeping shining bright and being an amazing mum.❤❤
Girl, Keep moving on w your life. Dont allow this man to be apart of y’all’s life until his actions change! I’ve followed you since you had Layla & enjoy watching you grow & mature! Remember to always take care of yourself. What is meant to be Will be!
Definitely stick with making sure his improvements are long term. I worry he’s using laela as a way to get to you. I would maybe wait until
Laela is a bit older (8-10?). At that age, he will have had multiple years to stick to his improvements as well as understand that he does not have access to you whenever he wants. If he wants you just because you seem “convenient” to him, making him work for it for multiple years will deter him. Plus, waiting for an age when you can have a more candid conversation w laela on you being worried about him being weird or creepy or just not good overall could help her make peace with whatever outcome happens because at that age she will have an easier time understanding. She’s so smart and empathetic now and I think by that age it might make more sense to her why you’ve waited.
Regardless, it’s your decision! You know you and your family best. What is meant to be will be. You got this
You should really be so proud of yourself. You are such a good mom and big sister. Having all those girls with you as their role model means so much, especially with all you have been through! Pat yourself on the back. You deserve it!!
As someone who has a brother who never had much of a relationship with his bio father, but was raised by our dad, it’s really not upsetting to not know them. But it is upsetting when they do know them and they enter and leave their lives with little care or respect. My older brother went through that with his bio father. It was like emotional warfare on him. They both had bio sperm donors who were addicts and in and out of prison. Both of them died before their “son” turned 18. My older brother is a high school drop out, addict, and in prison. My younger brother excels in school and has no behavioral issues. He’s a normal teenage little brother. Sometimes it’s better not to have a relationship. None of these things have been secrets to my brothers, but it does seem having very little contact was a better choice. Trust your gut! ❤
My dad didn’t know who his biological father was until he was 16, I think that was for the better in his case too, and he will tell you the same. Sometimes family is more about who steps up and is willing to be there and do whatever it takes and less about who is biologically related to you.
Dont let her be alone with her. Not with his addiction. Not a safe idea.
saying that he is in jail because he was avoiding something to see laela in delaware is such a lame excuse. he didnt see her her whole life, now that he has a problem with illegal stuff laela has something to do with it? makes no sense. also, for years he doesnt look for her, he does when hes in jail, in a bad position in his life, and at the same time wants to get back together with you… he is clearly mentally unstable, because when he was ok, he wanted nothing to do with you and her. probably saw an oportunity now that you are single and cares a bit about laela at the most.
i really wish for the best for your family! you have been through so much and remain resilient and loving, hope you continue that way. draw every line you need to protect yourself, you dont owe anyone anything!
I want to give your kudos for continuing to be present in your sister's and siblings lives. Well done
He might just want to date you to have a stable place to stay. Its definitely weird he asked if you were single and about Laela. He should only be concerned about Laela I hope he comes around and acts better.
Its okay to have feelings and anxiety even after having a minimal response to start with. I hope her dad will make some better decisions in the future. Much love from us❤
As a former addict, please, no matter what you choose to do (because it is your choice), keep him at a distance. Addicts relapse & getting used to life sober is very hard in itself. The fact he’s trying to preemptively seemingly have a family ready for him when he gets out is going to end in distaster, more than likely, because he’s already going to have to learn how to do LIFE as a normal person, adding children to that mix surely does not make that easier and I just worry for you and the girls. Can addicts change? Absolutely, but I think any addict would agree that they don’t always do it for the better. If he wanted this and had been out in the real world, actively learning and trying to do better for a while and staying sober in the process & being around other women and still chose you, I think that would be worth exploring if you wanted to, but he is going to need a lot of time before you even know if he’s trustworthy. Itll also be worse for Laela knowing him now just to have him ripped away again if he screws up. Proceed with caution. 💓 always hoping the best for you and the girls
Oh my gosh ALL the kids are getting so big! Your sisters too! God bless your sweet grandma and your family 😊.
Run don’t walk away from your first baby daddy. Red flags all the way with that one. Your oldest daughter can have a normal, healthy life without ever knowing her real dad. It’s sad but sometimes for the best. Listen to your gut, it’s usually always right and you need to protect your family from people who make poor life choices. I think as women we tend to want to hope people change but after so many years you find that people don’t really change their behavior. Do what’s best for you and your girls. Take good care. The girls are so sweet!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
tell him that she will contact him at 18 if she wishes
I grew up in a very similar situation to you not far away from you in MD and had a daughter at 17. My advice from my mother being an addict and my dad shielding me from her for a lot of my life and by the time I was 11-12 (pretty mature for my age)he gave me the choice to contact and know her and I think that’s the fair way to go here. Don’t let him let her down before she has a chance to form real opinions on men and relationships with them!
Omg, the ending with your sisters is so so cute!!!
Hey Yasmyn, I love seeing your videos all the time!!! I can't wait to see more videos every time you post. You definitely need to see approval from your one daughter's dad if he is in jail. I know that Logan is a better dad to all 3 of your girls!
He didn’t stay around for his own child, he certainly won’t stay around for 3. He’s underestimating what it takes to be a father. A lot of men are perfectly capable of dating a women who has children but it sounds like he is stepping up for the wrong reasons? Not trying to be rude at all. I do agree that it’d be great for Layla to get to know her dad… he needs to show consistency for a few years though. You’ve had a lot of change these past few years but change isn’t bad. Just stay true to you and what you love and you won’t ever get lost 🥺
Also, as a single mom, I know how hard it is to refrain from falling into someone’s arms because it’s lonely and scary taking care of a human on your own. But given that while being a mom you’ve also made a huge RUclips channel and are working for yourself, I think you are more than capable of doing anything you believe in. If it’s a blue bungalow in Hawai’i with your best friends writing music then reach for that! Life has only just begun! 💙
It would be super irresponsible and even damaging to your custody to even let him near her. He needs to have years of improvement and not even just per his word but per healed people and people trustworthy saying he’s been on a good track for years. It always stinks when children are from a broken home, but you are doing your best and you are protecting them the way you should as their mom. So keep it up
From what you’ve shared previously about him, he will not be a good father or partner. My dad lived with us, but was an absent father and an alcoholic. I think I would’ve been better of without him in my life. Of course there are days when I wish I had a real dad, but he will never be that.
You and Logan broke up, Layla and Logan didn't 🥺
100% this.
you heal my soul, i rember the first time you brought layla to HS but dont let bd real you in remember hes in the past for a reason. if it was for layla he wouldnt care about anything but seeing her
girl, be so fr.. do not go down that path. he just sees you for your money. Promise you
Please be very careful. I don’t know him at all and yes sometimes people do change, BUT be VERY careful. Most of the times they just do it they same s*it all over again, or even worse!
Best momma and sister ever! ♥️
This is actually scary for Laela.
IMO absolutely stay away from him. If he wants to see Layla that may be difficult and confusing for her. He may be in then out . She is young so use caution before proceeding. Where has he been the last 5 years ? Dont fall for him. Do not provide a home or get emotionally involved. Heed warning . You have come so far and done a great job with the girls. Stay focused on them and yourself.
You are incredible mother and a wonderful example to me. Im a mother of 3 little girls as well and hope to raise my girls as you have yours
I totally agree with one of the comments here. A dad that's unreliable and in and out of a child's life, whilst also having his own problems that affect who he is, more damaging than no dad at all...
Ik I’m late but reading a book twice won’t change the ending or how you ideally feel about it. Don’t go there.
Wishing u all the best ❤❤
Yasmyn my opinion is F him don’t let him gaslight you and manipulate you. I know what it’s like without both parents bc my dad left when I was 10 months and my mother got her right completely taken away that year ago. I’m now 23 and still got zero contact with him. My opinion Layla deserves to meet her “biological dad” but Logan will always be with father he raised her. I would ask Logan tho but that’s up to you ❤
Just because he helped create Layla doesn't make him a Dad. Logan has been by her side from just about day one. That low life doesn't deserve anything. Thank God some one like Logan stepped up to the plate and loved her like his own.
He will never be stable ….don’t let him back him. He will hurt you all ❤❤❤
This sounds so hard to face and deal with!! Sending good vibes and hope all goes well❤
The relationship between you, Venice and Ellie is such a vibe 🐦
Keep your girl safe!! It’s not healthy for a parent to be coming in and out of a child’s life. I’d tell him, call for updates every week for a year and then I’ll let you see her. Or something like that. See if he commits.
I needed this advice. Thank you.
Yasmyn ❤ youve got this. Positive Vibes! You can do anything you put your mind to. I know it. ❤😊
Best mom ever.
Yesss monetizing on what will become a deep-seated trauma for your daughter. We love to see it!
maybe if he visits Layla, make him have to do it while Logan supervises. That way him getting to know her is all about being a dad and not a way to manipulate you into spending time with him.
Remember yasmyn , just bc he’s her BIOLOGICAL dad doesn’t mean he HAS to be apart of her life.. My son is Also 6 and I have Been in contact with his dad this whole time BUT he also has only really been interested in having a relationship with me (which I find weird)… he’ll buy him things if I ask and he gives me money regularly but my son doesn’t know him AT ALL.. The point is Laela has a dad figure in her life so she doesn’t have to have this dude. I feel like my son is too old to try to introduce another random man into his life as his dad when he already has a dad figure as well since he was born (I’m married to someone else and we been dating since I was pregnant.)
Girl, do NOT fall for jail talk!!
I have the same thing but my daughter is now 34. I learned a long time ago. You cant believe a thing he says. He will never change. I got tired of being on his roller coaster ride and i decided no. You are gone. She could hate me if she wanted but i wasnt going to rip her up anymore with his promises he never kept and never had any ability to keep. Hes been in prison again for 18 yrs now. She understands that hes not capable of being a good person. Sexual abuse of his stepdaughter from 14 to 15 before she finally told someone. He'll be on the registry for a very long time. Hes 60 now and she wants nothing to do with him. She is thankful i cut him out abd yes at times shhes looked around and saw otger girls with dads at their daughters sporting events in her teens but she also knows that it would have been much harder for her if he had been in her life emotionally. Ya just have to say enough sometimes. Hes a loser and will always be a loser. Dont subject her to him. Cut him loose. You owe him nothing. He loves manipulating you and will continue as long as you let him. Dont fall for it.
My teenage sons are addicted to Chomps. Their Italian flavor is really good.
Protect your daughter I'm living a hellish rough life bcuz of something kinda similar to this do right by your daughter and yourself protect her first and you second they change and once you get them after jail it can b complete hell or super dangerous not cool I'm a mother of four so please please don't
I used to love fall season.. i still do.. but it's giving me anxiety too
Yasmyn, my dad had been in Jail since I was born untill I was 19, he made a lot of mistake because he was 17 when i was born. In the middle of his sentence he realizes he has to be a good father and started to look for me, now i am 26 and he is almost 43, he’s out of hail and he’s the most present father he could be. Don’t stick to what we saw when they were 17-18-19 years old, they were kids. If he’s trying to change be gratefull for that, there’s nothing more good for Laela thank knowing his real dad, bc if she doesn’t, along with the years she will ask…
Of course a call from him would be upsetting your feelings are valid. Actions speak louder than words. You know with your mom these people don’t ever change. They can do better but they usually fall back to their old ways. You want Laela to have both dads which is understandable but thank god she has Logan. Don’t get your hopes up with this dude.
RUclips’s don’t try when they are sponsored by something. You can clearly tell these are the first two you’ve taken out of the package cause it’s magically just ripped open and then you claim they are your favorite
This is the reason the anxiety is spinning.
I would keep those distance boundaries with this man. Because already the intention doesn't seem focused on his daughter dating you and seeing you do well and gaining from that without offering much. You don't need that. Keep your dignity and boundaries by allowing him to show interest in his daughter but until he is healed and growing you do not want your life being brought down again. It sounds harsh but most people fall into this trap and regret it. You don't have to date someone or be in their life in close proximity to help them. In fact the most loving thing you can do is allow them to develop their independence whilst also praising them for good action. BUt do not fall into the trap of allowing someone to take up your emotional time and space. He is a grown individual who needs to develop his independence and source of self love and confidence so if anything gets hard in the future he knows he is capable and self sufficient and doesn't need babying or mothering. Partners and parents are an equal team. Sending videos and pictures and maybe facetimes once each week is the best way for all of your emotional wellbeing. Drawing pictures and sending them etc.
Girl these boys in jail will say anything and do anything to guilt trip people on the outside. Don’t believe a word. This is prime example of exactly what 99% of inmates do.
When your sisters were in your car noticed Ella now looks like Venus❤
BRO I thought we were talking abt logan for a second and was so confused wtf
Yeah it would be a damn wonderful miracle if he became decent, strong & tried for his daughter. Never give up on the hope or the trying if he proves his RIGHT intentions in the future. I would say he is still young(ER) I'm assuming since you are age wise (but definitely not mentally as you are such a positive role Mama for your girls especially at 21, be so very proud lady!!❤) so with that his asking about your relationship status and his "liking" you still would be a buzz kill & such a young minded action after his calm to wanting to be a Dad etc. Just shows you he isnt there just yet and did you think of telling him so in a letter while he sits in there with all this time? Never hurts to try and get through his young boy's ways of thinking with written words. Couldn't hurt, js. Anywho, you have this awesome Aura and are such a beautiful person & Mama the girls are so lucky for you as you are for them. 💜 🩷
laela’s bangs!!! so cute!!! did you cut them yourself yasmyn? they look adorable❤
Wait, I’m literally 26 years old and would die for that packed lunch for my office days😂
Am so sorry 😔😐😢 for what you are going through
Ngl I love your channel so much like I've been watching your channel since your older was so tiny and I just found out that I'm pregnant with my 1st
Chomps are delicious but yes! Teriyaki would be amazing
you are such a good mama🤍
I grew up without my dad but my dad wants to be in my life but it's too late now I don't have feelings for my dad at all he was never there for me growing up
Girl. You are an amazing person, amazing Mom, sister and GrandDaughter!!!❤ I am so fricking proud of you with all of my being! I'm older than you and don't think I could do what you accomplish in a day😂❤
My biggest life lesson for everything is so simple it's stupid😂.. what's meant to be.. will.. and what's not...won't! 🤷♀️ Maybe this can help someone❤ Sure minimizes overthinking for me, because I am great at that! 😂
He obviously can see your content online and knows your now available so he is shooting his shot 👀
Does Laela still consider Logan her dad? Or does she consider his bio Dad her dad?
It is unclear but her bio dad has barely been in her life. She stays with Logan’s parents sometimes and she calls them grandpa/grandma.
yasmyn said she knows about her bio dad and wants to see him but she can still want her bio dad in her life and see logan as a dad too
Was trying to find a video to watch while I cook my eggs and she’s literally cooking eggs 🤣😭 I was going to crack mine right when she showed her cracking hers
off topic but does anyone know where her striped sweater is from? :)
Yas I love ur videos girl and ur daughter's r so cute
I really think you should journal all of this into music, you'd make a beautiful tape. And I'd love to be a part of it
You scared me I thought he passed away
I love you yasmyn
You have more children to worry about than just Leila. It may be her dad but it's not the other children's dad. There is 0 responsibility on your end to do anything for him or with him. 100 percent he can take you to court if he wants anything to do with your shared daughter but until then definitely stupid if you decide to take him up on anything. Why on Earth any entertainment of being with someone who is calling you from jail especially after your past with your mother would be just taking you back to what you grew up with and doing it to your own children. You should know first hands that addicts are addicts for life no matter how long they have been clean and you have to many things going on with your life and your children to take a risk like that. The potential of having a life partner that isn't stable vs. A stable environment for your children is basicly what you are weighing. There ar plenty of men who aren't trash out there or who aren't going to take you on a chaotic roller coaster. Find one of them and stop letting potential rule you actual life.
Omg I’m watching ur video and ur daughter says yeah when you asked are you
organizing ur play dough & my 7 months says yeah. Her 2nd word
Yasmyn you need put custody in place with her father
Don't let him into your daughter's life. He's not stable to be a father. You knew him then but not now, I remeber way back then how happy you were to soldier on with your baby and finish school! You were good with Logan and he was good to you and all three of your children. Rather leave the 1st man out of your lives.
Logan has been a good dad to leala
Are you ever nervous they’ll see these vids? And for safety I rly recommend you blur their faces
U r amazing ❤❤
your so pretty ❤
Tbh, not that i have any say in the matter, but he chose to not be a dad, for years and years, honestly i wouldnt have even told laela about her biological father, that doesnt make you a dad. my dad was forced to be my dad and he was horrible, dr*gs were always more important and as an adult ive excluded him from my life. My own daughter has a bio dad who decided he didnt want to be her dad, if he changes his mind later on, sorry but no, he missed out and now she has a dad (he may not be biologically related, but he has been there since she was 3
Months old and he is her dad). he had his chance, you cant pick and choose when to be a parent, and thats all that will continue to occur, they got to pick and choose once so they will do it whenever it suits them, i know this from my own fathers picking and choosing and all that will do is scar laela for life. logan is laelas dad, always has been, and thats how it should be seen as treated. wouldnt even give her bio dad a second thought. People dont change, really, they dont, no offence but look at your own mother for reference.
Always put your kids first. protect her from unnecessary pain.
Tell us more about your Dad 😊
Hi what whether you decide it ok for layla for meet her dad if she wants too it up her and if he want to part of layla life but she is his daughter so and he said to get back with you i dont know about that it up you it your decision it your choice which pact you choose dont let him decide that for you it your life it your daughter too if you her meet her dad it ok so let it bring you down okay just be friends with him if he wants that that ok dont rush for that ok
Why does he even have your number
Please link your striped sweater. So pretty! Love your videos
Poor Laela
Does Laila also go with Logan when it's his turn?
This man seems like a piece of work 🤔 he probably needs an address or storyline for the parole office and someone with financial stability when he gets out. Dont let him walk into your life and tear down what you've built for your family. If he wants to start fresh and get his daughter back in his life, let him work his arse off to prove and provide for her and rebuild his own life. That doesn't need to involve you.
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Get back with her dad ‼️‼️‼️‼️ive been praying for this 💜
Stay far away from that man!
As a person who has been watching you for a few years and a complete outsider point of view. I know you want Laila to have a relationship with her birth father but at what cost. With everything he has pulled with you. He is a very scary person and likes to take advantage of women and control him. Just pose this question to yourself, what would make you think he would treat her any better when she is in first grade and does not even know him because of the scary choices he has made. Also the fact he asked about your relationship status make it very clear he wants you not her. That sounds awful but it is the truth. As a mom you want your child to have dad that is her biological dad but at what cost. I would say you already have a gut feeling this situation is not good. You need to follow your gut and run! He is scary bad news and sometimes it is on the best interest of your child to try to protect them from that. Anyways do with it what you may it just my observation. No shade or hate just someone who is concerned.