@@kaj7135where?! Lol I guess for SOME women but no woman I know of so far 😂 even when I'm told I'm beautiful by my ex bf I was literally the one working and providing for everything and the relationship ended when he said he wouldn't love me anymore if I didn't get a flight back after staying with my family for a few days. Women, like me fall into man babies/children but hey we learn from our mistakes
We’ve had DECADES of “don’t creep people out” and “don’t do microtransgressions” and “don’t comment on physical appearance”. Movies don’t show men being appealing or charismatic anymore. We have two generations of men with no idea how TO behave, just a daunting list of behaviors to AVOID.
And the moment someone is compassionate enough to write a book to help those young men, he's vilified by the side that's supposed to be all about compassion and treating others with respect.
Dont forget overweight women being told they're just as beautiful as a super model and that they DESERVE a Ryan Gosling, and should settle for nothing less.
Exactly. Society just ingrains all these behaviors to avoid into your head & then you begin to realize that a lot of these things are subjective. Like, saying “hi” to a woman could be misconstrued as creepy and then you’re an asshole. It eventually gets to the point where men just say fuck it and hide from everyone so as to avoid being the “bad guy”
My son is 21, and has never had a girlfriend. He told me girls are too mean, and it’s easier to be alone, than to be hurt. When me, and his mother are gone, he’ll have no one left to live him, and that breaks my heart.
@@rebelscum9783I dont mean to make it a contest, but your son is lucky I'm 24 and I grew up with a mother that didnt want me and a stepdad that wanted me dead, plus extended family that also hated me Just remind him that someone does love him, he could be in my shoes where no one cared if he died nor would it be noticed He has a silver lining at least, he has hope....idk what he can do with that hope but he has it
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone. Robin Williams
@@will-vi9pkyou just contradicted yourself saying communism and the evil of greed lmao, the evil of greed literally comes from rampant capitalism. Which is the system we’re in, communism doesn’t exist here so how is that causing the current problems?
@@chrisb15679yes, she just demonstrated her real personality, you dodged a bullet. Unfortunately to learn not deal her kind takes self growth and giving value to your own well being. Lonelinessis better than company that ruins your life.
really though? I mean, you said you had a real connection. Relationships mean some compromise and knowing when to pick your battles. All of these people saying "oh shes a horrible human being"- like everyone who shares your politics is going to be a great person? If you had a connection, was it really worth throwing that away over something so trivial? A part of the phenomenon described in the video is in the past, people realized they had to learn to accomodate minor differences. Real relationships are a give and take. It depends how it went down of course, if you asked politely not be to be referred to as a cis man, and pointed out that everyone should have the right to define how they want their gender to be referred to, and she just ghosted you, then yeah, that wasnt gonna work. But if you "told her" in a hostile way, she's right to break it off, because the fact you're getting hostile over something so small so early in the relationship is a red flag. It really depends how it went down, and the reality is, if you have a good connection, its ok if you dont agree on every single thing.
There are many people sharing your situation. Great way to meet and engage with others ( if you want ) is to find a hobby you enjoy and look at clubs near you that do it. Hobbies shared by men are often the most welcoming and non-judgemental group of people you will ever meet. Be your interest in table-top games, outdoors such as hiking or photography, learning trades and skills....there will be a group that will welcome you.
At 52 and never diagnosed as anything I too feel very awkward meeting new people and even in groups of like minded individuals I still feel like an outsider. So I feel you man.
Take care man and don't give up. I am not autistic, but I know some people who are and I understand that it's hard. When I was your age I felt like a failure and was lonely. No relationship and no stable job. My life changed for the better when I was 27. I had my first real relationship and on the job front stuff improved a lot. My advise to men looking for a relationship would be is try to be honest without sounding weak. Look at Michael Burry. He has Aspergers syndrome. He ones spoke about how he found his wife. In his bio he wrote about his glass eye, the Aspergers syndrome and his student debt. His current wife replied: "Finally someone honest."
As a woman I am so damn tired of seeing men treated like shit from other women!! It's absolutely horrible seeing those comments on Twitter of people mocking their misery.
@@rachelforshee6014 dear rachel you are right something is going around a lack of respect and honesty and a lot of woman playing games with man because the law is on the side of the woman i want a relationship but i wil take things slow and if it is the wrong person i am out
This topic made my heart hurt. I am the mother of two grown sons, one of whom is in a long-term, seemingly stable relationship that seems to be headed towards marriage. My eldest, though, met a girl online, and as soon as he graduated high school, he moved across the country to be with her. He married her, they had a baby, and she immediately left him to be with another guy. My son came home and now lives with me and my husband. He continues to send money for his child, but he has zero contact with his son. I have never even met my grandson. The only photos I have are of him are the ones taken at the hospital on the day he was born. My son is deeply sad, he admits that he is depressed, and I want nothing more than for him to meet a nice, wholesome girl who will love him and care for him the way I do. He seems so very lonely. I try very hard to reach out in a non-intrusive way, asking him about his day and making sure that he knows how much he is loved and valued, but I'm his mother... that's expected. I want him to experience this with someone who is not his parent. I'm not in the greatest of health, and I am terrified that he will be alone once I am gone. I pray for him, but I still worry constantly, and this video just brought home the stark reality of what young males are going through in this society. God help us all.
this is part of the problem, ladies like your son's ex have realized they can just abuse the court systems to not only get custody when they were 100% at fault for the divorce but get child support that they'll more than likely misuse to fund an unfaithful lifestyle that will likely be ingrained as normal in your grandson's life.
@@DGregster same dude ,like we need something simple in this life ,is hard to understand what the love meens to us ? not many woman apreciate and tell us we need love ,only your mother say that maybe
I’ve just opted out of dating for awhile at only 27. Nobody seems to want to build a meaningful and genuine relationship and build towards marriage and family. The idea of compromise to sustain a relationship is gone, it’s now called “settling” and younger women “refuse to settle.” You have to be exactly what they want and if they find better they move on or if you slip up in any way they leave, or if they suddenly decide they want different qualities because friends or social media told them they should they’re gone.
I'm so sorry for your son..internet is the devils creation and I hope we can somehow get rid of it and make America social again masa ...wait that don't sound right as a black man..lol jk that was a joke ..but for real seriously
I’m a guy, 34 years old and dealing with my anxiety. What I’m going to say is something that a lot of men will understand. I recently met up with a friend who I haven’t seen for a while and he hugged me. Before that, it was the late 2000’s when I had that kind of physical contact from someone I’m not related to. I last had a compliment from someone in 2018. I have ONE friend I trust implicitly. That’s my life.
When I was growing up, I would always make an effort to make friends with the quieter, secluded kids and include them in group activities. They always stood out to me the most and I was popular among them. I was their bridge to more social interactions between them, even to themselves, as in, the group of them introverts. Hopefully I did a little bit to give them the tools they need. Now, *I’m* the introverted one, riddled with anxiety, depression and loneliness. Borderline becoming a nihilist. I have a pretty good guess as to what went wrong with me… and it involves girls. Even the female teachers. No one deserves to be alone, especially kids who don't know what going on, yet.
Why would I, a white 33 year old male, want to interact with the world outside when all I get bombarded with is how horrible men are, how men get all the privileges, treated like I'm a total creep for simply talking to a woman (and possibly being recorded and shamed all over social media), and if we show any weakness we're told simply "Man Up". Nope, don't see any reasons why I'd be lonely and depressed.
watching porn all day long or gaming all day long wont do any better (if you do so). It will just enhance your depression. Do any physical exercise you like, it will make your life better. Even if a little, but it will.
@@TheMicnparkbro, he's talking about the two options that clear and obvious. You can interact with a society that will possibly swallow you whole and spit you out or live for yourself since at least you will have a life to live compared to the former option. Both. Options suck but one let's you live.
@@TheMicnpark Gaming is great. Everybody has an F-ing opinion on gaming. Usually its people who don't game always has this negative psycho analysis diagnosis on gaming.
@@thegamerfrominside Why does the second option suck? I'm 31 and I've never been in a relationship my entire life, I had a tough time when I was younger but living for myself has been the most liberating thing I've ever done, I can honestly say I've been happy with life ever since I had the revelation that none of that stuff matters.
beieve it or not thats not everyone. There are definitely people, including many women, do dont like the whole woke thing. Even if that is a minority, it's still out there, and its still a lot of people. There are a lot of women who dont really like modern woke feminism but dont make a big thing out of it because they will be ostracized as well. Its much more ubiquitous online. In my expereince, if you go out to many bars and clubs you dont experience many women with "man hating" views because they just dont go out to those places. It's also different regionally. It's much more commin in big cities then other places. Maybe try taking a trip out of your area to some where less with that culture and feel how the vibe is
I was suicidal one night and was taken in an ambulance to the hospital. During the ride, I was talking to the male medic sitting next to me about male issues (I don't get to see my daughter, that should be equal right? etc) and the female medic was driving. She demonstrated that she didn't care about my feelings or didn't even want to help me any more. She slammed the door in my face while walking off in front of the male medic and my suicidal self. One year on and this has had a massive impact on my mental health as I am constantly reminded that a woman, whose job it was to help save lives, when I needed help, didn't think I even deserve to live for talking about men's issues. God forbid I'm even at least allowed to vent about it... If I am not even able to talk about my issues to women, how on earth are we going to achieve meaningful change for either of us?
I’m shocked that anyone would be that insensitive, heck, I’m going to call it abusive. She was taking her issues out on the most vulnerable person you could do that to. I want to point out that you are placing this woman in a position of judgment, and you shouldn’t. She is clearly messed up and her opinion has no place in your head. She doesn’t represent anyone’s opinion but her own broken way of looking at relating to other people. I hope you are doing better and you know that you are incredibly valuable and very much needed. I believe we are all connected, even if we don’t realize it.
Have you watched any videos by women who've actually researched, understood and come to develop compassion and empathy for men's issues? Norah Vincent was one, and there's a roughly 20-minute documentary about her undercover adventures as a "self-made man". Cassie Jaye is another, and describes her experiences in the film The Red Pill and in at least one TedTalk. I think it might help you to realize that not all women lack empathy for men, and that it's just that many of them have been taught a lot of false things about men, and to think in a certain way or risk being alienated by the sisterhood. I'm sorry you had to go through that. No one deserves to be treated that way for expressing their pain.
@@erindeerhart5538 I think you should co.e to realize not all women is something like one out of every million. They're so very few that they practically don't exist. Heck most women wouldn't raise a finger to make daddy a sandwich.
average tinder profile "age 24: 'lol mommy of 3 and i don't want any more. looking for a man to provide for me and my kids but my kids will always be first. also i want princess treatment only and i don't date men under 6' (her height is 5'4")
My whole life women abused me, lied, cheated, growing up I kind of learned that it's not worth it anymore. I just go to work and play my games and watch my shows. I don't have time to be hurt like I used to be. Not anymore.
Similar experiences, but I came to a different conclusion. I don't want to just work or play video games. A man who wants to die is a dangerous one indeed.
Save your money and get a passport. Not all countries have the toxic woke women America has. In asian cultures the women build up their men as long as the man is worth building up. It completely opposite to modern western society.
As a 5' 6" guy who weighs 115lbs I don't even bother dating anymore. Women usually just want guys like me to pay their bills while they low key look for the guy they actually want.
Meanwhile they laugh at and ridicule you for not being the type of man they would date and have sex with, the type of men they say is wrong with the world... but who gets the blame for those mens actions? *You do!*
As a 52 year old man who owns bars in NYC, I have over 30 years of experience observing young people's social interactions and mating rituals. It has never been in a more dysfunctional state. Women in their 20's and 30's are entitled, insufferable mean girls and men of the same age are low confidence, low testosterone, saddening and have zero game.Toxic Feminism is neutering nearly 2 generations. 😢
@@AlpineAlien pushed around? Maybe take a look around at the infrastructure you and all women depend upon. It's all built, paid for and maintained by men. Women like you deserve to reap what you sow, when it all comes crashing down!
From my take on this video is the right is becoming men strong. But historically over the last 100 years, they don't do anything that isn't specifically for the party leaders and their sponsors. So nothing will be fixed for the better, it will likely be turned down until everything is worse equally. An anti solution I suppose. So the right will "fix" men's issues by reintroduction of women's issues. Effectively just turning back the political clock by 150 to 200 years.
I mean Norah Vincent tried to understand once, and it left her so horrifically demoralized that it took her own life, before that, she wrote a book called “self made man”
@@Randomlad56 It was inevitable. We were born in the shadows, and have learned how to deal with it. She was merely a visitor. This ignores the biological differences.
Yeah fix women first and make them worthy again. The gender split is insane. Men tend to not change, they haven't really. They've just gotten weaker due to lack of guidance from fatherlessness. Make Father's Great Again. Women tend to be malleable. It's why they've become such a tool for wickedness.
I grew up being gay in the 90s and it was different than today. I had to hide it to keep people from treating me different. Today, even being gay, I look and sound straight and my husband and I don't wear rings because we aren't traditional and hate jewelry but now I have to deal with the prejudice of just being a man. I have to be very obvious about being gay to feel like I'm not a target.
Women; "Men can fix their own problems" Also women; "Men need to care more about women issues!". Also never EVER show vulnerability in front of a woman, specially not one you are interested in as she will lose all respect and interest in you as a partner if you do.
I disagree with the vulnerability part. I believe men and women both are different and thus show their vulnerability in a different way but wanting to be in a relationship with this person would mean you're willing to go through hardships with this person and that's when you completely show your vulnerability whether you're a man or a woman but loving this person would mean you would go through that hardship and help them in their vulnerability
@@owretched6854 in a healthy relationship this is completely true. But how many people across all age groups understand how 1) find one, 2) handle one, and foster it without ruining it one way or another. Anything meaningful takes time but everyone is quick to dismiss potential partners for icks, different views, the list goes on and on and I don’t want to find RUclips’s character limit first) **Tangent** from a male’s perspective, rejection hurts and people say “don’t take it personally” but my view is that it’s only personal. Like I wasn’t looking for a business deal or anything. I am almost always looking for love and I am not what they are looking for themselves. After so many times of not being enough for those you pursue, the pain can very easily reach a tipping point. **Tangent Over** you get use to keeping a lot of feelings to yourself because sharing can very easily come off as dumping your feelings on the one you are talking too. It’s difficult to even find someone ready to accept you enough to want to learn about you.
@@owretched6854 That's some grade A bullshit. I remember vividly talking to my best friend (girl) about some things I was dealing with and showed emotion and cried. A girl who was interested in me saw that, and lost interest. Men are told that the "Men don't cry" is toxic. Yet, every time we show them, we are humiliated by both men and women. We're told that we are supposed to make the first move, but unless we match all the woman's personal preferences (6 ft, 6 inches, 6 figure income), we're creepy stalkers. We have to be the ones to support women, but if a woman feels like she just doesn't want to be married anymore, they get half our stuff. There's no incentive to even engage with women these days. Damned if we do. Damned if we don't. Hell, even men who are going East to find a partner are being shamed. Passport bros are the new enemy of feminism, as if the women screaming about Patriarchy are such a wonderful prize.
What hurts worse than being alone is being with people who make you feel alone. Im a disabled and my injuries leave me home bound so for me, loneliness is compounded. If i am not useful im ignored.
This happened to me in my marriage years ago. I was so lonely in marriage. My wife was a vicious she-devil. The day I walked away was the happiest day of my life. I could breathe again.
being disabled is very difficult. It can be tough, but your best bet is to find groups of other people who also experience disabiltiies who can be your compatritors. You may even find a partner who is disabloed and can relate to your experinces and love you
"One in five single men say they have no close friendships." Spot on right there. It is what it is unfortunately when your a guy. One thing I've learned is people who you thought were your friends will have no problem dropping you at a moment's notice despite everything you've been through together. Makes you realize as a man, you really are on your own and can only depend on yourself. No one is going to care about your problems, not your fellow men, and especially not women. I believe this realization might explain why we have so many mass shooters in the US now as well. Young boys are being vilified and ignored, and with no one to turn to for help they're left alone with their inner demons until they finally snap.
No shit. I live in New Zealand and my best friends live in different countries. I bought a small Caravan to live in and get some happiness from my outdoor kitchen and gardening. I don't go out for drinks in the city while I live in the countryside.
As a straight single white male living in California, I just want to say thank you for broaching this topic. As a suicide survivor, I really wish more people reached out to let guys know it's okay to be a guy and to be straight. I really wish more people were spreading the message that you're not evil just because you're born a specific race or gender.
"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" used to be a thing... I guess it's not any longer. Another year or two and people will forget "Treat others the way you wish to be treated".
Silence is violence and compliance bigot. But also sit down and shut up bigot. Marginalized victims need a voice and to be heard! But also no one listens to us, so use your silly white woman tears and sexuality to let our problems be heard by the white male patriarchy. And lastly, power structures like the white male patriarchy need to be torn down because women have no power in society at all. I could go on forever it seems.
It has never actually been a thing. It's just a thing people say, but nobody has ever really lived by it... Everybody says fucked up shit from time to time. A healthy amount of bullying and criticism is a good thing.
I'm not gonna lie, im guilty of straight up not talking to some of my colleagues on the casual level because of how ive seen spiteful women who were broken up with decide they should attack someone's life
I fear women deeply. I had I mean girls situation where I almost killed myself when they came after me. I didn't deserve it and many of their accusations were lies and many of them were General and vague enough that they implied worse things than were true that everything was taken out of context. If you think people are conspiring against you, you might not be just paranoid. You might be about to die. I fear men because most of my friends are women and I know how much men have hurt them. I know that most white men are right wing and have terrifying politics. I fear women because they will abuse their place in the hierarchy to harm others in what they consider self-defense. White women are the most terrifying. Think about Boo Radley. As America becomes fascist, everyone becomes more fascist, including the left. You got women being very comfortable bullying and being outright bigoted men they've never encountered and know nothing about. You've got powerful systems and institutions being abused to harm defenseless people. I think a lot about that dog in Central Park from May 2020.
Shoe0nhead sounds like a sehr sehr nett fräulein. It would make, probably My life if God is willing to let Me meet Her. And as a Man, not even fully adult yet, am afraid of everything bad that can happen with Women. #Gettingstartedyoung
I am definitely a hikikomori. I leave my house to go to work and that’s it. I come home and don’t leave my room until I have to work again. I’ve given up entirely on social interaction, and relationships in general. The only social interactions I have are with co workers or my mother when I visit her a few times a month to help her around the house. People have tried to get me out and to have “Fun” but it’s not fun going out and sitting there, talking to no one, being the third, fourth, fifth wheel to any group. I just don’t have the energy anymore. I’m tired.
don't you think that you might be depressed and in need of a therapist? I've been excluding myself from society for the past 16 years because of social anxiety, and it made me extremely socially awkward, close-minded, and impatient with others. All of my formative years in adolescence and young adulthood, when people learn to form meaningful social and professional relationships, were wasted. Humans are social beings and no matter how hard it is to interact with others we still crave it. I only recently realized how depressed seclusion is making me. It's not a healthy way to live a life.
@@reginaberger8406 I genuinely despise human interaction. Ive never liked people, which is ironic because im rather charismatic, but i feel thats more a defense mechanism for when forced to interact with others. Nothing good in my life has come from interacting with others. Maybe that makes me a psychopath, I dont know. Its not like a disdain for human life just would be happy to never have to talk to another human being again.
As a french 23 year old guy, i wanna say thank you, for giving your time to discuss about such issues that also hit us in Europe, and we have NO ONE to talk about it, because everyone is afraid by our extreme left. I'm just hoping it changes with time
hello, European like you, but I'm 20 years older than you: I don't want to scare you but just warn you: nobody will help you. go to the gym, work or study. because, frankly, if you don't save yourself, no one will save you
@@DemonicYami7449 The problem is that it's not a new problem. Men have always been disposable. You know about 2 mother for one father ratio about our ancestors? If not, when you go back enough in time, you have a ratio of two women for one man amongst your ancestors. Why? Because half of men don't have access to sex (because of war, doing dangerous works, etc.). You, as a man, don't have value. Women and chidlren first. So you better get used to it. Trust me. If you don't you'll be the pathetic guy who gets a few "ooh... you poor you..." and ends up alone.
The way the left has treated Ana Kasperian for simply humanizing the other side and being open to debate ideas respectfully and civilly tells you all you need to know about leftist ideology
Almost like we were correct along along and the left are the evil fascists they claim to hate so much. The left is evil?!?! In other SUPER SURPRISING news water is wet.
She debated Ben Shapiro and questioned the long term side effects of puberty blockers, among other things. Anyone who so much as ENTERTAINS conservatives and conservative ideas is an enemy to the far left.
As a left-leaning person I seriously do not understand the backlash to Ana. I think most sane people agree with her but unfortunately the far left has a stranglehold over online political discourse (despite being a fringe minority of the left generally.)
40 year old male here, I have given up completely of ever finding love, when I finally realized the fact that it will never happen, I stopped being lonely I was sad for a while then I was mad, now... I'm just Indifferent. I mean it literally doesn't matter, I am over half way through my life I don't even have to off my self at this point, average life expectancy of men is 77 ish, most men in my family haven't made it past 75, so I got 35 to 37 years left max 40 so all this will be over for me so enough. So at this point I am just sitting here waiting to watch the world burn, because I have nothing better to do.
exercise for 6 months, dare, read the book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: Mark Manson, after you do that, travel to Latin America or the Pacific, pay a cameraman to work with a man, to take good photos of you, Pay for a premium tinder, for the address in a country you want to visit in Latin America or the Pacific, for a range of 30 to 40 years, date any woman, only offer commitment to the one you consider after a while that she does love you, yes. You think it doesn't work, remember that you didn't have a life goal, if your ideas haven't worked for you, why not try for a year, of your life, this idea that I'm giving you that worked wonderfully, it's your life bro, no one will live it For you, that's why do what you want with her, don't give a damn about life, believe me, it'll go well for you, God bless you.
@@akiltircuit7515 the world? you mean just the US. I don't think other countries are having this problem. You might think japan is having this problem, but they don't
Ya...but they're actually doing it to themselves by subscribing to woke culture, men have even less value now than ever before because of this same woke culture doing everything in its power to cancel masculinity, and we've had no value since birth, so we're less than nothing in this society...and people wonder why the suicide rates are so high for men...whilst dismissing every struggle that we face in this world...I hope that when my son starts thinking about women in a few years that this woke shit is being eradicated from society so that he can maybe have a decent girl in his life, I've never had one that was decent, they all play the victim when they get caught cheating and get dumped, and they tell everyone that you were an abusive monster, and everyone symps for them whilst demonizing you, the man...#believenowomen better become a reality in the next decade or this entire society is fucked period
45% will be single by 2030, according to Morgan Stanley. 😂 I hope it is 90%. In my opinion women are vile, and men are better off without them. We need women only communities where the men would only be daytime workers so it doesn’t fall appart. 😂
@@taliesinhallidayWomen want relationships now and are finding that hard to find, men are just mostly doing hook ups. Add a generation of men not trusting or even liking women and a real relationship is going to be real real hard to find. Heck most of the men are openly admitting that we don’t actually like the choices of women now.🤷🏾♂️
The vast majority of Women just see men as money bags that they want to take advantage of to cash in on. Women don't want companionship, they just want money and nothing more. They will immediately divorce you for another man who makes more money then you.
Right. That's why I don't talk shit about a whole genre, that's wrong and plain stupid, and you include your dear ones, be careful with words because they can be psychological weapons.
That "creepiness" factor IS a thing! Men these days have been conditioned to NOT approach females for fear of HR calling you to have a "talk", or being cancelled on-line. I try to be open, and friendly to EVERYONE I encounter, but I worry when interacting with females, for fear that they think I`m "intruding" on their space.
When I walk by a man who has to hide his face to avoid making me feel uncomfortable I feel bad, when I sit next to a man on a flight and I can tell he's afraid I'll turn into Twitter if he looks my way, I feel bad. I'm a really shy person with social anxiety, so starting conversations and expressing myself is hard for me, but when I get better I'd really like to strike up a friendly conversation with a lot of these guys.
And then when you do get a girl all the jealous other guys snicker amongst themselves. The only dudes that win are guys who are physically intimidating enough so that no one says anything, which as you can imagine is very healthy for our society (joke)
Or have they?🤔 What if the creep factor is on women because men think they'll end up with someone like Shoe0nhead? Need I remind you that she's a massive degenerate?
if you approach a woman for any reason other than a work related reason at work, then it IS intrusive (creepy) unless you're already friends with them. Don't force friendships. They just happen and when they don't, they won't happen if you force it. This is basic social skills.
I am a middle aged male (48), and even though i do not struggle to meet women, I struggle mightily putting up with their insanity. Modern women are so directionless, yet they are ao cofident in it. Everyone in life tells them how amazing they are even when they mess up, and so they can never accept when they are wrong, or put anyone else, including children, above their own needs. You cannot have a successful family, or raise your children correctly aa long as women are this crazy and full of themselves.
I checked out about age 53, and I've never been happier. I have a small group of friends and I do whatever the fuck I want whenever I want. Traveling is so much more enjoyable now.
@@petahpunk The thing with young guys is that they need to learn how to be comfortable with their own company and control their sexual urges. If they can learn to love themselves, find purpose and fulfillment in even the little things, then, hopefully they can be at peace with themselves and never really be lonely. At least... To not be depressed.
Amala, it's nice to see your passion on this topic. These twisted souls don't understand a core truth. Hate breeds hate. Misandry will breed misogyny. These aren't separate issues. Men have recognized how much feminists hate them. The reaction is inevitable unless society changes. This isn't healthy, it's dangerous. Hate will destroy us all.
The problem is that misogyny already created misandry. And that may well flip. The pendulum always swings too far when trying to over correct a problem. Just as trying to over-correct racism against people of color has swung to hating white people
And what's the solution? Embrace the radical feminists, hateful leftists and their rhetoric? Nah. Live your own life, move off the grid, let society crumble.
Right around the 24 min. mark is when I started tuning out. Please don't utilize me as a threat.I am a lonely man, and I have been extremely lonely since returning to the US. In another place, I was valued as a member of a community, and I helped build hospitals and schools. Back here in the US, I'm just a single man. (And I am, therefore, dangerous?) I'm not going to turn violent. I'm not going to harm children or women or animals. I'm just going to go to my nothing job for my nothing pay; pay my rent; buy food; cook food; recycle; and slowly but surely wither away. I'm not going to hurt anyone. I'm just going to curl up in my ball in the hopes no one gets offended.
This is what every single female content creator intentionally misses. It is not that men have a loneliness epidemic, the culture has turned absolutely hostile to all men. There is literaly nothing in this society for us to feel proud about, and this Is coming from someone who is in construction right now. No pride in work, no women who like us, a police state actively looking to throw us in jail for the slightest infraction, why work for anything other than basic survival at this point.
I m a woman and these were my exactly thoughts. And as a woman i also though: do you want us to help men because they gonna get violent? So, you want us to be around potentialy violent men? Like, this argument defeats the purpose, isn't it?
@@AminaAmenasa No they're saying we as a society help men before then. Most men will not be violent but a small few who were really worse off may become violent. You don't need to be around men to support men & men's rights
what shes saying is people who are pushed againt a wall can be radicalized not that your going to become violent all of a sudden but thats potenial future stuff no one wants to talk about including men.
The reason cats and dogs are men‘s whole worlds is because they’re loyal to them, won’t treat them like shit and respect them, and won’t leave when times get hard. My cat loves me more than anyone in my entire life.
@@janebaker5618 yea so does that automatically invalidate my feelings of pain and sadness and feelings of isolation and disdain for society and everyone in it due to the fact I have no one in my life and no one wants anything to do with me? Thanks Jane try being a single, ugly dude, lol. Even ugly girls get laid and find love and have friends.
@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816 Some of us have neither. When my parents died is when I became truly alone. It’s hard but thankfully I have a job and a couple of hobbies that keep my mind occupied.
Its sad. As a mid-aged white male, the loneliness factor is a real issue. The older you get, the harder it is to forge new male relationships. We are expected to provide, protect and please. When you are married, so much of your energy as a man is focused towards your wife, children and job. Your needs, wants & desires are put on the backburner and for most of us, we were raised on this message. It took me years to figure this out.
What annoys me most, as a middle age man soon to retire, is mentoring women oven men; Men miss out on getting what I know as they require less attention. I want everyone to do well but the time spent is telling of dysfunction.
Why bring race into it though? I’ll never understand why race is brought up constantly especially when it had no effect on the comment they make. It’s not like different racial groups suffer loneliness more or less than the other
@@brianmeen2158they are effected differently by culture. Regardless of your white washed views racial minorities feel excluded from a United States. Their culture, neighborhoods, and "value" are still segregated from others in the year 2024CE
14:44 - if you are not giga-Chad with the three sixes, you can be tossed in jail for saying hi to a woman. In Australia and in Scotland, there are laws where if a man talks to a woman, and he does not know, i.e. does not read her mind, that she does want him to say hi, he can be incarcerated. No, this is not men’s fault. This is the world women wanted. Ladies, enjoy.
You are being hysterical. In history please tell me how many guys have been arrested and tossed in jail for saying hi to a woman? Maybe 1 or 2? You guys are going out of your way to justify not even trying and it’s so strange.. stop watching this doomer content and exercise and start going out More
Been single since 2012... only been in situationships since then, since women only really used me as an emotional tampon, or a quick fix. 2020, after a really cute girl hit me up and we had sex and we started dating... not even 2 weeks later she just up and ghosts me. Ever since then, I have completely given up on dating. I have been much happier and saved much more money since then. If I would have given up dating years ago, I would probably have a house by now 😂. I wasn't even being needy, I literally was just asking how her day was from time to time.
Society is basically fucked. I saw a video on 2 ppl wanting to schedule a 2nd date. Both seemed happy. Then the guy took out his phone, it was an Android, and the girl went totally insane and said: "I cant do it after all" and cancels the date. She rejected a guy, because of a brand of phone!! We are living in a world, that teaches all the wrong values! And the results are showing now. Of course this wont be the end of it, it will get way worse.
Im a female with an android phone and I have been ghosted and treated like an option so if a guy doesn't like that I don't have an iphone .. Can go kick rocks cause that s crazy. And if a female ghost a guy cause he has an android can go kick rocks too. I personally am not going to own a object I can't afford. I would love to get a coffee with a guy but some of these men only want to go for alcoholic drinks. Society is screwed up.
I'll never forget the time I was just chilling in the living room when my gf, out of nowhere, brought me some ice water... I was floored lol I was like "thank you so much, what did I do to deserve this" lmao. I'm telling you ladies, men are incredibly simple. It's nothing to do with having someone to have sex with, it's just the feeling that you know someone out there is thinking of you
I feel like we want to be admired for our work and initiatives. I'm not saying women don't want the same but I do believe they are way more social than we are and thus they kinda more constant admiration than we do. Or, in the very least, a sense of belonging. If you're a guy who doesn't like soccer or politics, you're pretty much left with no social groups from which to gain some validation. Makes sense?
Indeed, and the colder women become the colder men become as women use to bring love compassion comfort and care to a man's hard life making it not so hard. Today they simply make a hard life harder. A man that grows cold having no love in his life makes for an easy tool of wer. Cold hearts looking for a way to cure their loneliness. Both sides are being played by those who control the media and education system.
I had a similar response from my bf in the early days together. He was so grateful that I made sure he was comfortable and took the time to adjust his pillow, lol.
Every time I ask a woman out, I’m creepy I guess. Every time I treat a woman with respect, she leaves me for a dickhead. ik I have my flaws, but at age 26, I’ve just given up. On women, on other male friends that aren’t complete idiots, everything except working out and going to work. Thank Christ for motorcycles and camping. Otherwise I would have blown my brains out honestly
It seems that women of today don't know how to react to a guy asking them out. As u said, they follow this preassumed imagination about a guy that's bold enough to approach them. Continue to let 'em go if they want a dirt bag of a guy. They will never appreciate u as a gentleman while chasing a liar, cheater, brute, or even a thug.
I haven't had a hug in over 10 years. I'm starting to believe people only like what I can do for them, like in my job, but not care about me as a human. It hasn't made me aggressive; it is turning me numb. If I allow it to bother me emotionally, it will hurt very badly to never have any physical contact with other humans, so I just turn off my heart since nobody wants to be a part of it and just numb myself. I tell myself, contact love is not mine to experience so don't allow yourself to need it. That is my suggestion to you as well. Just turn the need off. Nobody cares anyways, why should I?
The only solace you can find is knowing you are not alone in this. I'm going to the gym cause I know a lot of dudes going there are fighting this loneliness too. It's a good place to find pals
@@chokichocat3083find a pal or two and a six-pack on the way😂 I would recommend ball-room dancing and dancersize classes after you get the six-pack😊Have fun on the way.
As I woman I care for these problems for men and there are a lot of women that do but unfortunately, it's the toxic women that are having the louder voice
Why? Men dont commit suicide because what ever we feel now we have had worse. I am a preferred loner now for 8 months a year and like it. 4 months a year around people is by far enough. But I do turn on my phone once a week to answere my friends
ive had a few encounters with people who at the end of the day used me for sex. claimed to be in a relationship with me, while also telling me to shut the fuck up when I speak, telling me "I dont want to tell people you're my boyfriend today" ect, all to end up pulling an Irish goodbye. no break up, nothing. this happened with 2 different people back in 2015 and 2018 and other than that ive never really been on a true date, nor had a genuine connection. im 27 now, so its a bit worrying for me given I want a family, but at the same time Im spooked to dip. myself back out there. its hard to just ask someone out on a date traditionally now adays
31 year old man here: Who here has pushed everyone away because you felt to be a burden on everyone? Who else has thought of social isolation in hopes of having personal growth and returning to your social space a better person? Depression is something we face in this mental state and its so easy to fall into it.
Im 28, i try not to open up about my problems too much heck i don't open to my own mom because she like my dad were a problem growing up. One person i am usually opening to is my older sister's husband.
If depression is an issue I'd suspect social media usage to be it's cause. Any male with large social media usage will in turn isolate themselves because the social media realm is actually more set to keep women addicted and not men. When you are exposed to social changes, the male will be targeted, you self isolate because of the material you are exposed to, which is heard against the male, virtually to tear you down. Men sit inside the circle jerking bubble and lose themselves in it. Men are meant to be outside virtually all the time. Any male inside on electronic devices is losing efficiency in their manhood. You have choices in moving towards happiness, it's not owed to anyone.
Honestly, when I used social media I was depressed without even knowing it, it never shown itself until I deleted it. When deleted I noticed a need for negative projection onto others, that was the taint social media put on me, this vicious projection because I was exposed to things that made me depressed. Took about two weeks to switch the mind over, then I became bored, when I got bored I chased more life, like everyday. Wake up leave my phone at home and go chase some life experience. Depression honestly disappeared, like evaporated. Now I can't be around people who use lots of social media, because they are the negative projectors I once was. There's many cultures where they don't even understand the word 'depression' it's not even in their language. So it's uniquely western in my opinion, and big pharma makes a lot of money off it. You always have options for better. Just have to want it enough.
A question I put to you. Do you feel men get positive mentions on social media, or anti male mentions? When saturated with negative male projection, guess what the male will go and do.......will go and feel bad about themselves on their own, they will think it's them.......when the negative projection is mostly coming from women with very poor male relationships. But that stuff is the most viewed. Next a large percentage of anything you watch online should be making you feel bad. Pretty much exactly how you described it. It all disappears when deleted.
I am an older (69y/o), divorced man with two teenaged boys. A few years back I was injured in a MVA - rear ended by a 50mph car while I was stopped in traffic. I had to medically retire after a 42 year career as an RN. I am a chronic pain patient and my wife lost interest in me after my injuries. So much for “in sickness and in health”. Now divorced, I feel kicked to the curb, but don’t want or need sympathy. I also am feeling incredible relief I am no longer bound to a misandrist woman who clearly only “loved” me super conditionally. I am lonely (she poisoned the well for all our mutual fiends), but have zero interest in pursuing a relationship. There are no women in my life and it feels great. I am done with romance in all its myriad forms. Miraculously no one calls me a narcissist or misogynist anymore, how odd?
I was raised to treat women with respect, and I've always done as such... I'm 40, single and now terrified of women I've only been abused, used and thrown away time and time again. I'm not bad looking some would say, i suppose i have good traits too though I'm even afraid to admit that, but even still after how I've been treated I'm scared of reaching out now and it has almost lead to me ending my own life multiple times. So yeah, people need to really treat people better without emotional invalidation at every step.
When people tell that you need treat people with respect, they meant ladies and gentlemen. Modern women aren't part of it Why people in west so weird, that to not disrespect someone - you need to show him respect. Ending up running a respect charity left and right, getting drained and upset later... Why buy milk for a 1$, when you can show how good you are and buy same one for 10$? Sounds right
If you as a girl got this info: "Only 5% of you will get attention from 90% of boys and you need to win in an everlasting harsh competition to have material success". And if you express any form of frustration about this, you will be judged, called an incel and told to "grow some balls". Then maybe, just freakin maybe a nanogram of compassion towards why you give up and hide on the internet is a little understandable...?
The worst part. Is I'm watching this, alone at home, as all of my plans got canceled by my friends and family for the weekend. The first time in legitimately months that I was going to have any social interaction outside of work, and now I'll just hangout at home with my dogs instead. Funny the way the world works, huh?
There’s literally a whole bunch of people online responding that they are lonely. Use it: “Hi, I live in xxx. Anyone in the mood to go to the movies/ the park playing baseball/ play risk at bar X” Or whatever it is you like?
I hate when people say that....He IS LITERALLY ALONE. Theres many people with the same issue...but that doesnt mean hes not alone. He is me.@@nevatoolate
Funny thing is, once you give up on women and dating you feel more confident and happy, which absurdly makes you more attractive to women. You can get a small ego boost seeing women stare at you and whisper to each other from time to time. Of course, going after any of them is the kiss if doom, so don't do that
Being so embittered won't lead to happiness. Just like the fact tall men are NOT 'creepy'--all women aren't mean gold-diggers. So much rage and women-hatred is expressed these days, it's really alienating--how do break through that brrick wall?
Ive completly disconnected from the world. I work and go online. Play games with a select few friends but thats it. I was in a 7 year relationship. Lost it, got cheated on. Became a mess. Got lonely. Had to grow up. Im almost 40. No one wants me anymore. Starting to take care of my aging parents and grandparents. Now Im beyond sad. If I let my self feel for even a moment I cry. I dont know what to do anymore.
There is something more than the tribulations this world puts us through. If you can believe that it does not end here, new hope will emerge. He is the way the, the truth and the life. No one comes to the father, but by him. Find him and you will have what you seek.
What can you do to make others around you happy? Their happiness will come back to you. I mean in the context of helping those who need something, not giving unreciprocated attention
This IS the loneliest decade. Woman that are also mad lonely unless they wanna give every 10/10 chad their body. Woman have not only hurt men but themselves. Feminism is self destruction.
Feminism was not the problem at it the route, it was supposed to be about equality, which is fine. I think we ended up in a situation where unrealistic expectations have hit both groups at the same time.
@@viperswhip Yea it was not originally self destruction if it wasn't taken out of context like it is now. Bc not every woman wants to be a wife but now it's a virus
I saw the original video to this reaction, and yes the male loneliness epidemic is real. I was raised in a home where I was told by my grandmother almost daily that I was no good, worthless and pretty much everything terrible you can imagine to have said to a growing boy. My dad was an alcoholic at the time and I was told I'd be just like him and be a failure. I never told my friends much about it but a conversation with the sister of one of my childhood buddies I'll call her Jen for the sake of this comment, I revealed to her what it was like for me and she said she always knew something was very wrong but somehow I was still a gentleman and a charmer with the girls at my school, her words not mine. I went through growing up thinking I was garbage. Jen told me that there were girls that had crushes on me that I never knew about but so many years later it was bittersweet to hear. I struggled with depression for most of my life and still get that feeling of loneliness from time to time. A couple times I had decided to end it all but fate had other plans as the first time I was interdicted by a friend who happened to come across me as I sat on the edge of a bridge over a deep ravine, to this day he probably doesn't know that he in fact saved my life. The second time I realized that I couldn't leave my cat to starve in my apartment, I couldn't do that to a pure little critter so I went home instead of putting the hose on my car's exhaust. To this day I still have that hose and the heat resistant tape, it serves as a reminder that not only neither do I fear death but nor should I fear life. I am not the most attractive man out there at only 5'8" but the past years I've had almost every random girl I cross paths with berate and call me down saying I'm creepy or whatever else insult they can think of. To clarify I decided the same day I put that hose back in my trunk that I will never date a woman again as every attempt at getting a companion ended with my heart being crushed while the girl goes off with some random douche, laughing. We've all heard of women saying that men have no feelings but yes we do, when an real man loves something or someone it is all in and it breaks us up when those we try so hard to make happy turn their backs on us. During my heart to heart with Jen she burst into tears more than once upon hearing that I wanted to die for so many years. She was speechless to hear how women have treated me since we last saw each other. Even now I can't even so much as say "excuse me" or greet a woman without being told how creepy I am. I survived the absolute worst that women could do to me from the time I was a child until now but not all guys can go through that and not let the darkness win. The one ex of mine that I still care for told me she wished she was as strong as me when it comes to what life throws at us, then I told her about nearly deleting myself and that I'm not that strong just lucky in that way as many men have un-alived themselves over similar situations including a dude that was a good friend of mine. Women need to realize that what they say and do to a man sometimes has profound effects, as men we are pre-dispositioned to want to protect and care for those we truly love, even when we get no love back. I feel horrible for the boys growing up now as they have to walk on eggshells around girls, so many are so friggen toxic now but somehow we're the toxic ones since we're males. Since I decided to be alone forever and came to terms with it I have become much happier and content being alone than I could ever be with a woman, still think they can be the most beautiful things to exist but to me it's better to stay away from ever letting one break my heart ever again. There is no such thing as a support system for guys who have been through that kind of hell since society literally coddles women and men don't matter most times. I wish no one ever had to experience what I did but I know deep down many of us guys are dying inside every day, and for that Amala I sincerely thank you and other tubers that have been calling attention to this as it really needs to be put in the spotlight. I fear the damage may be too great however but hope will out as they say
"why are you, as a man, on twitter? go make some money, go blank in a war" (where blank is a word youtube doesnt like so i have to type that or my comment will be deleted) anyways that is a direct quote from shoes twitter
ironically I'm not on twitter, I usually watch a couple videos on youtube before bed after work... aaaaaand I now own my own place, vehicle and toys. I'm good lol@@bradleyamos9519
Appreciate it bro, but I got over it I'll sometimes throw my two cents in like most of us. It's life, it gets hard and we harden too hahaha that could be taken the wrong way@@michaelhodnett431
My story is similar brother. I have completely given up on western women and anything serious with ANY woman. I can be miserable all by myself, why would I want to be miserable because of someone else. I want peace and contentment, not drama and lies.
I've never hated women but some of the awful misandrist shit that comes out in social media comments does make me reconsider that position from time to time. Someone really needs to remind people that hate cannot stop hate. Hate only perpetuates and produces more of itself.
Yup, almost felt myself going down the same way, till I found an account that had a woman with a Sanrio pfp on a black pill page trying to remoralize people, she seemed so innocent, and it made me feel sad and glad, it tasted bittersweet
As a 47 year old divorced single dad I ding the hardest part is that because I have experienced the love and relationship/marriage you really miss the companionship and physical touch, but I have not had that since last decade and have gotten used to the fact that I don’t meet the 666 criteria of being datable. I don’t do hookups and I don’t drink or drug. When my kids are old enough I’m going to get my cave on a mountain with all my animals and be a hermit. In some ways I am looking forward to it.
It worked in "Thus Spoke Zarathustra" a book written by Nietzsche. 10 yrs in a cave alone nothing but living off the land and introspection. Pretty interesting read.
This is honestly extremely sad. This situation is exactly how you get people who go out and shoot or try to self delete. When someone repeatedly gets beat down and told they are worthless the less mentally stable of them will snap. Wether male or female suffering is suffering. Wether you have a pole or a hole is irrelevant. It disgusts me as a human to read some of these "womens" opinions.
1000% They also take out frustration in school shootings too and rape cases too. What drives people to do mass shootings/ think about the suffering people are going through these days.
Being 45 years old, one failed marriage, one other long term relationship that failed as well, and not into hook up culture it's terrible being a man. When I was being raised by my parents they instilled the values of the day on how a man should be on both the friend to other guys and a lover to a woman don't gel with what society is projecting now. I'm not worrying about being left alone now if it's just the reality that the world is so self absorbed that I'd rather be by myself and keep my sanity anymore. The world has become so woke that we've become apathetic to the point of "F your feelings either way.".
28 year old autistic man. Only this year I've been able to make strides in my life. I finally graduated college (10 years later) with two degrees (psychology and French), got a job at a classic car lot, and traded in my old econobox Kia for a more modern Jeep. Yet, I understand that it's not enough. It'll never be enough. I can't be good enough.
Keep pushing day by day Acknowledge the progress you’ve made Don’t compare yourself to others, comparison is the thief of joy Keep gratitude in your heart, it is hard to be depressed and grateful
Many people in this world are bitter that their life is not trouble-free. Fate presents us with a series of challenges, most we can solve, some we cannot. The trick is knowing when to stop trying to solve the unsolvable and move onto something new. Whatever it is that you are not 'good enough' for, abandon it and find another challenge that is within your grasp; if you are not strong enough to climb a mountain, climb a hill instead. Do not be afraid of failure.
The very fact that conversations about men always translate into sex, risk of sbuse, and money making is enough to let you know men are dehumanized in 2023. We don't have subjective experience, we don't have suffering, we don't have worth, and we don't deserve empathy.
Our pubs are getting shut down etc all the while mom's clubs are allowed anywhere , libraries etc Our escapes have been crippled , at home and out and about.
I've heard that and don't think that is universally true. When I met my soon to be husband he was between jobs and a single dad of 4. That didn't matter to me, and at the time, I was financially better off than him. Stuff like that just doesn't matter when you love someone. Yes, there are superficial awful people out there that only want others in their lives based on what they can get out of you. I just think that there are still good people (men & women) that will want to form real connections. It just takes time to find them.
@@Cassiopeia_kammsure but let’s just be honest, men generally are looked at more for what they provide. Well women are looked at (on average, obviously there are exceptions) more for there inherit beauty and therefore don’t on average have to proof that they are worthy of love with action like men do
I’m 42,retired and happy as hell.I have my dog,I’m not actively looking for a gf,and couldn’t care less.I collect and repair watches as a hobby.Everyone needs to find their own happiness,not seek it out from others.
Thank you. I was in a relationship for 12 years. About 5 years ago she passed away tragically. Took over a year but when i finally wanted to see other people, I'm thrown into the most nightmarish dating scene imaginable. In general women's expectations have gone through the roof, while men's expectations are literally just; "please see me as a human". I know there are a few women who care about men, but spending your life trying to find them under rocks feels like a waste of time after a while. Might as well just sit here and write stories or draw pictures. And the one person I did meet just wanted to try and manipulate and use me. It is rough out here.. but I still have hope!
I am truly sorry for your loss. The irrational part of my brain fears that if I ever find my bride, God/Fate/The Universe will take her from me like some cruel joke. I don't know why I think that. It's stupid. But I just do. I am glad that you still have hope, and I wish you the best!
ty, and i used to have those thoughts too, like "what if something happened" how would i handle it." then when it actually did, its pretty much like living in the twilight zone for a while (she loved that show :)), and even still sometimes. but as sad as it is i wouldnt trade the years we had for anything. you just try and bring joy to the world on their behalf whenever you can. Sounds crazy but I think what is even tougher to deal with, is losing a long term relationship because one person never really loved the other and were just using them or whatever and end up leaving them for someone else. and the other person is left feeling used and abused and heartbroken. Those are the most tragic love stories imo. So I guess I would say don't fear it, but dont rush it. @@bros4654
We're pretty close on the timing for making it through dating and marriage. I couldn't imagine having to go back into the dating scene as it exists today. I just couldn't do it. I'd stay single. It was bad enough when we went through it when dating apps and smartphones were just starting to catch on, but it's saturated now. You've got it rough and you're brave for sticking with it. There is maybe some hope in that there's a collective awareness now that we can't keep doing it. Practically everyone agrees that the dating game is horrible now, and while there are big disagreements over the how and why, I think people are finally ready to fight against it. Maybe in a few years, there will be some bigger spaces to find people that are willing to treat others as human beings.
damn, I'm worried now about my daughter now. She's still a kid but I don't want to imagine how the dating world will be when she is in the age slot. "Fortunately" she's a girl because I know that for boys is far worse currently. But still I don't think women are happy either with this
as a white male who grew up in a black area I can tell you every day is a struggle with x'ing myself. These videos are great ty they make me feel less crazy. My whole life has been people telling me to feel bad for what I am. dude it sucks. ty like you have no idea watching this at 4am is just like a light. thanks.
Loneliness is real not because I’m a man but I’ve felt this my entire life. I’ve made friends, have a wife, kids. I love them all but there are moments I feel so alone because when I try to talk about my feelings or how I see the world it’s like I’m an alien speaking a different language. It’s hard for me to find people that fully understand me and where I’m coming from. Very few do.
Leftist ideologies are convincing people that everything is wrong until everything is fixed. You're supposed to hate the space you're in until "they" solve it all. Trying to point out where things are good and what others can do to get themselves there is now taught as extremism.
Swap out the word 'lonely' for 'stoicism' because you literally just described it as a man, but your layout of loneliness sounds very feminine. Men should speak from stoicism, women should speak from loneliness. All that stuff that you love about your family but sometimes still feel like the only man in the world, because you are totally meant to feel like that bro. Basic instinctive stuff that we have been manipulated into thinking we are not. We are basic animals, not sophisticated humans.
I used to think this way but I found my people through an online community that I eventually meet up in real life. I hope you don’t give up to find your people.
Loneliness is real. Stop shaming him for having feelings. Dude, find some veterans to talk to. Hang with them. At some point, you'll be camping, staring at a fire, and it will happen. See, vets have NOTHING to prove.
U are alone. We all are. It's like I tell my boys "there ain't nobody coming". U are it. There isn't nobody else coming to save u. This society keeps its foot on mens neck until they see checking out as a reasonable conclusion to the problem. Not as mental health issues. We are here to work and that is all. They will extract every resource out of u until the day u die. Yes my friend u are alone standing in a crowd. Believe it.
Glad I was a young man in the 80s. Huge night life scene in my location, the guys were after the girls and the girls were into it, fitness was in, economic status wasn't too important, and we partied like rock stars!. I knew we had it good, but looking back, I realize we had it really really good. Had a ridiculous amount of fun in the 80s and 90s.
I just worked thorough my 20s (I gave up on dating at 23, once I realized that I prefer being alone and at peace, rather than being constantly stressed out by my promiscuous exes)... Almost 30 now, saved around 13 months of my current salary, (which is around 3x of a national's average) - yet it still is far from what I'd need to be homeowner and I'd have to be insane to get a mortgage in these times. So I just work, sit on my money, enjoy the online entertainment and avoid most human interactions outside the work. I think I might have turned into a schizoid. At least I have no worries / depression, even though from an outside perspective I am just "surviving - not living".
Sometimes I wish I had. I had so many chances back then but even at the time I didn't trust women. Some girl would come on to me (which had to really obvious or I wouldn't notice) and I'd immediately go into defensive mode. It seemed like all they were looking for was to get a little meal ticket put in their womb - all of my friends either fell prey to this or barely dodged the bullet. Even in the early 90's most chicks were going to end up single welfare moms, and from what I saw, half of them did it *on purpose*. I subconsciously stopped caring about having anything to do with them. Looking back I can't help but wonder what I missed, but at the same time, you can't really miss what you never had, right?
I think genZ doesn't understand why millennials hate boomers with a passion. genZ have only HEARD of how good the boomers had it across everything, but us millennials SAW how good it was when we were kids, but the ladder kept on getting pulled while we were in the workforce and still is happening. That includes how good it was with the dating scene with no dam phones or internet crap. It is what it is but the real reason we hate the boomers is, because they keep gaslighting us how it's all our fault for our current situation as people like OP who are self aware about how good they have it, are a very rare breed among boomers. @@themaxterz0169
I’m lonely. I don’t have friends, my own brother doesn’t spend time with me, women don’t want me because I only make enough money to pay my bills and get groceries. I haven’t walked away, life has just kind of made the decision for me. It hurts but I have to live with it
@@davidcoleman730 Well, it does get better for us men. Hell, if you wanna know an example. Back then There was this woman hanging around me all the time. Even daily, all day. This had went on for about a year or so. Then, one night, about 9 PM. She was visiting me and my mom. Oh ya, I forgot to mention this took place at my mother's house, not mine. Me and this woman, Rose, were sitting at the dining room table just talking about whatever in general. Mom decided to take a nap on the sofa. The sofa is only about 20 feet from us. The lights were off, and the only light we were using was the light from the porch lamp outside that shone in through the kitchen window. (I often sit alone in the dark. I'm kind of a stealth person that likes to think a lot) Meanwhile, back at the ranch, This woman Rose, got up. walked around the table, without a word said. NOOOOOOO WARNINGS AT ALL! She just undid me & took out my stuff, got snoopy's attention, And dropped the box on him. That was 56 years ago, back in 1994. Been together ever since and now we have got a 13 year old daughter too. When I was in my late teens, early 20's, I got jumped by a few other women too. they were older women, The first was 43, the second was 39, the third was a dam hot looking 52. EVERYONE of them snuck up on me and coaxed me into their houses. ALONE! By the time I realized what time of day it was, those women had done had their way with me and had their fun. That went on for about 5-7 years non-stop, day in, and day out, and they even rode the pony half the dam night too. After all that in my life, I had thought it was finally over and it was safe for me to roam about again. WRONG! AGAIN! That's when Rose happened. So, ya see. Life does get better. No whips. No chains. None of the wild & crazy toys & stuff some of those women did and liked to do. Just a NORMAL, EVERYDAY, PLAIN, SIMPLE, woman. You'll see. Hang in there.
I cannot tell you how many times my exes got pissed off at me because I didn't want to go out so I could save money literally to get a working car so I can keep my job. It's all about what they get and none of what you actually need.
My great grandfather told me once, and he only told things once because there was no need for the second time: When you see a bunch of people doing stupid stuff, leave them. They will end it themselves fast. If you go and tell them they are wrong, you will just spark a flame of rebellion which will last for a long time. Now, they have an enemy to defeat. Nature will always balance itself from time to time, and no matter how hard we try (humans) we are a part of nature and are subject to its laws... For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction- sir Isaac Newton...
Natural selection! LOL.............. It doesn't work fast enough though...........................stupid people have kids way to fast........................and they don't even need to pay for them..................they get the hardworking taxpayer to pay for them..................
I'm 25 and already lost hope, I'm trying to look, but everywhere I look I only see fool's gold and no real gold. There are real problems in today's society we need to fix fast, and I really hope to see us turn this train to hell around before I die.
Apart from the pendulum swinging back on the leftists in a retaliatory way, do the liberals think that the dating pool is infinite? If men check out of the dating scene and the will to build relationships which lead to family creation, heterosexual woman's options/opportunities will greatly diminish leaving woman equally lonely. And even those men that don't retreat from dating will want nothing to do with woman who hate men as ardently as leftist woman. It's basically a blueprint for opting into spinsterhood. It'll turn from "woman don't need men to please themselves" to "I can't get a man to please me so I have no choice but please myself" especially as they get older because the loudest voices against men are the new, radical generation that think theyll be young forever. It's already happening.
Oh Lord. All hear is men blaming women and women blaming men. And they all talk like 14 year old despite being grown adults. No doubt parent(s) are to blame, but for a generation or two we're going to see a big chunk of the population go extinct. I can't see that this is a bad thing. Most of them appear to be incurable. They prefer to listen to influencers on the Internet that are the same as they are, rather than grown men that have lived a life and raised a family.
Statistically single childless women are happiest and married men. There is clearly benefit for woman to not settle and stay lonely or get the best man possible.
That's why something like 45% of 30 year old woman are going be single by 2035 or whatever the stats were. They have their "fun" with men that only want to get in their holes in their 20s and then in their 30s no one wants them. But it's all average men's fault if you ask soyboys like PGHEngineer.
@whatever_111 And yet there are huge number of women complaining "where have all the good men gone?". It's almost as if self-reported claims of relative happiness are meaningless. When people can have a blood test that measures exactly how happy someone is, maybe it will be relevant.
As a middle aged white male, rather than un-aliving myself... I opted to buy a cabin in the mountains get some animals and haven't had human to human contact in 3 years. It's not really a very satisfying existence, but at least I was able to achieve a negative carbon footprint without offing myself.
Dude you have now made me realize that since your experience wasn't satisfying, it probably won't be for me, so I will pass on the isolate from society off grid phase. And I'll be real with you, not to crush your positive thoughts, but there like 500 rich people who are gonna rev their supercars and private jets and which will turn negative carbon footprint of yours into nothing. I do want to know what you do in order to pay for that type of lifestyle, because I don't know what long term job I want but if it cant do something like that without the struggle of interacting with people, then I gotta know. Much Love Brother, God Bless.
@@AnEnjoyerofRUclips I am aware that my negative carbon footprint is basically 1 less cow fart than would otherwise be. But, I'm not hurting anyone while still existing was more the point. Anyway, as far as income is concerned, I mostly am a maker. Woodworking, metal work, I make anything from furniture to metal or wooden sculptures. I have a dump truck so sometime I haul gravel or mulch for people. I also have a sawmill so I collect tree's that fall in storms or just die for whatever reason and I turn them into live edge planks which is actually really good money. I also am a photographer so I sell images online as stock photography. I do printing too I have a 12 color pro-graph printer and I also have cnc lasers, and routers .. I mean, if it's a skill i have and there's a way to monetize it, that's what I do through my LLC. You'd be amazed at how many things you get good at when you don't have anyone to distract you.
The number of single men among my friends is going through the roof…they dropped all interest in dating and decided they’re happier without a woman in their life’s, and I started to agree… They’re cooking their own food, clean by themselves and consider sex not worth inviting the back drama and dismissals back into their life’s.
what's weird though is unless a specific percentage of have MULTIPLE full time girlfriends, then the amount of single people must even out.. because our society is divided like 50/50 by gender. When you take all the single females into account, the whole 'male loneliness' thing stops making sense because it must affect both genders equally.. unless there are thousands upon thousands of lesbians? Something just doesn't add up.
@@VexaraxThe amount of single people of both sexes at any given moment is equal. However, there is a very clear disparity of how the sexes experience this loneliness. To a man being lonely means that you can't get a date, period. To a woman, it means that all of your dates pump-and-dump you, which lots of people may not even register as a problem. Women can always rationalize it as "finding herself" or "having fun".
@@Nethan2000 when you say “to a woman” you’re only referring to promiscuous women with low standards, which also applies to all the single men who are promiscuous and have low standards - which again both equal out as they all always seem to find each other. Speaking as a female who has been single and celibate since 2011 now due to total lack of potential partners and being very introverted (and admittedly I have a general lack of interest in relationships). And yes a woman could easily get some drunk old guy at the pub to sleep with her, but a guy could also get some drunk old lady at the pub to sleep with him. For the most part, neither gender wants that as it’s not actually satisfying. Yet men always act like it’s only women who can easily hook up with low quality people (“pump and dump” as you called it.. not taking into account that there still has to be a man _doing_ the pump and dump, who was able to get a date or at least a one night stand with said woman. She couldn’t pump and dump herself)
@@Red_Leviathan so same type of men, not all, that women run around trying to get commitment from (and end up becoming a side chick or a sex toy to them).... to end up saying things like ''where did all the good men go??''
We don't "Stay in that pit of loneliness" , we are put there. I am an decent looking guy, work out regularly, groom myself, a skilled handyman and make a decent salary in IT. Every girl I've dated cheated on me. What exactly do I have to take responsibility for and become a better person ? Better persons are getting used exactly for being such.
Nope. You are not getting used for being a better person. You were cheated on by women who cheated. However, not all women cheat, if you don’t want to be cheated on, don’t start cheating yourself, but try and find the women who doesn’t cheat. Expressing your views, expectations and own behaviours opening up communication is likely to be more useful for you to weed out the baddies.
@@hamster4618 Yes, I do keep saying that to myself, but at the end of the day if 10 out of 10 girls cheated, we have to acknowledge that statistics is exist for a reason :D
Problem is a lot of this information wasn't available when I was younger. I was sold a crap dream about marriage and family. I got married young. Busted my ass for years. She was a stay at home mom while I worked 50 to 70 hours a week to provide. Found out she had been cheating on me for 5 years out of 10 with the latest being my best friend. Took my 3 kids. Now I owe the woman that traumatized me and tore my life apart 30 percent of my income and she has turned my kids against me. My life is ruined and nobody gives a shit if I can even survive. That was 6 years ago and it doesn't let up or get better. The worst part is what it does to u inside. The old me before is dead. I used to be a people person now I'm an imvert and avoid people in general. Once your in the system it doesn't turn u loose. There is no hope. Good luck out there gentlemen. I hope your story is better than mine
I’m sorry you’re going through this man. Stay strong. Get in the gym. Make your ex regret doing this to you, but do it by elevating yourself. Take care brother. Be strong.
Think about something else you would like to do, somewhere else you would like to be. Set fresh, interesting goals you are able to reach. Turn away from the past and face a better future. If you make yourself happier, your history will not be as painful.
It starts with the mindset. Find a change of pace. Six years is long but not in the grand scheme of life. It will get better. Life is a roller coaster of ups and downs.
It's completely f$cked, I have multiple friends and a few uncles in your exact same situation. I turns good men into indentured servants essentially. The worst part is when you talk to the average woman about it, their response is "well if you didn't want to pay, then you shouldn't have kids". It's like "wtf, at what point does it take 30k+w a year to feed kids and buy them school supplies, plus why is there no auditing system so we can see where the money is spent?". That's when you realize its all a money racket and the government always gets its cut. They don't care how many men die in the process, all that matters is the money keeps flowing to the companies women waste it on and they get to pocket some cash along the way. It's destorying the most productive members of society in order to prop up the economy and maintain easy votes.
@@ohhweeeee I'm sorry but women get specific advantages that men don't. We didn't make it equal, we gave them more so they could succeed. Get your facts straight clown. Also, if you have a problem against men not being okay with women being equal, white men are not your problem, it's mostly brown arab men. The most anti-LGBTQ demographic is also not white men, it's black people. I can go down the list clown.
I thought I found the woman of my life, 4 years ago, she was in the military beautiful, smart, but she had the unfortunate genetic code for schizophrenia. I tried to take care of her for a a subsequent 3 years, in that many years, she cheated, prostituted herself, hit me physical abuse, drug addicted. Now I am going through recovery, and looking at dating at some point in the future and I dont even want to try looking at what the dating world has become. Doesn't help having this "Aww pooor baby men" reaction. I am pre-resigned to just live that life where I live life for nothing. Because I've come out of a half a decade being beaten, gaslit, and emotionally blackmailed, only to be told on the other end of the tunnel that boo hoo? Prepare for the mother of all suicide epidemics, SOON.
Surrender your life to Jesus Christ, I promise you it’s works he took all my pain and suffering away, just turn to Jesus and I promise you everything will change and become more than amazing and always remember that their are some of us out there that love you 🙏
Before dating apps, guys were competing with guys in their own towns. And now it feels like we're competing with every other guy in the world. And I hate to say "competing" because that makes dating sound like a sport, but with how superficial it's become, it essentially has become one. And the whole concept around dating apps is literally judging a book by its cover. You can't possibly tell what a person's like just from their dating profile. So men who weren't blessed by genetics and shine more through their personality and internal beauty don't really have much of a chance.
Ahaha try to live in a country where there are more women than men. Try to look ok, but not 10/10 being constantly threatened by more successfull and beautiful girls) It's not hellish, but aiming for a man for marriage and children... I'll probably end being a single mother(
I personally hate dating apps, it's always been such a weird concept to me to date someone and then try to make a connection, not make the connection and then date them to get to know them better. Instead of using those apps why not try finding low key social things you can do? Like board game nights with a local group of people or some kind of hobby you are interested in that you can do with other people. Then date them because you already like them and want to get to know them better.
The thing is... most normal women (yes we're still out there lol) stay away from social media these days. There isn't any way to meet people though except social functions... which we don't really have anymore. Most dating apps i found were looking for one night's and they were cheating on their mate instead of wanting to have friendship or a true relationship. I don't like drama so quit trying. I know there are lots of lonely women too but it's not apparent for those on the right. Internet may end up being our doom as a society. Find Jesus.
I tried social media after being alone for years but just bad luck. Women wanting money or to hook up or not being the Women in the pic. Being more old school it's hard these days.
The sad thing is that the Good men (Morally good men, decent stable, understanding men) are more likely to be the ones committing suicide from loneliness. That'll probably be me at the rate I'm going. I'd much rather that than turn bitter and violent. I'm not sad, it's a form of despair. It physically hurts. Society expects me to put myself back together again and again. And I'm tired.
As someone who is Japanese, I can confirm the "hikikomori" is 100% true, my male cousin is a part of them, the last time I visited I didn't see him once. He only comes out of his room in the early hours of the morning to get some food, my family conditioned me and my sister to not come out of the room we were staying at until 5:30, because my cousin just does not want any interaction with anybody, it made me very sad since I was looking forward to seeing him after 6 years of not being in Japan.
Probably not helpful but next time ignore her, give the hug and tell him you care about him, and that if he needs or wants help to contact you. That may be enough to make a start on re socializing him.
We need to support each other. Do not let society coerce YOU into not supporting the men that need it because YOU CAN SEE he is ALL BY HIMSELF. The society NOR THE FAMILY will stand up to assist. This is sad but we need to rally together.
Hell yea dude! I hate the fact that I harbor so much resentment towards my mom. But she caused damage to me that is going to be expensive to reverse. I'm single because of issues that she instilled in me as a child. If I never have children the only good thing about it is that she'll die without the grandchildren that she wants so bad. If I do have kids I'm never leaving them alone with her.
I'm 45 years old and with a partner for over 15 years now. I feel sorry for the men growing up and try to approach a woman today. Say hi and get the called out on social media for being a creepy. Then hearing woman "can't find good men"... 😢😢😢
1/2 of your assets that you built when she was home taking care of your children while all you did was bringing a paycheque aka building those assets? Wives don’t leave loving, supportive and faithful husbands. The RP community keeps lying to you.
@@talibahonyebuchi9980 If we produce a child, you won't be able to force me away. 🙂 I'm 66 and was married for 34 years and no children, just raised her 2 children (no, not the same as your own). The break up laws need to change.
@@happilydivorced3235 What? Him working is way more important than you being a girlboss to the kids telling them what a horrible man their father is 24/7. Wives leave good men all the time. Found the misandrist.
The sad part is many of us would rather be lonely than deal with women. Truly it’s few and far between that women bring anything but misery. Avoid them in public and avoid them at all cost at work. No need to be celibate. Just don’t become mentally or financially involved. I don’t buy that men don’t have the confidence to approach a woman. They just know better.
After a few serious girlfriends that I chose not to marry, I sowed my wild oats with many women for about 12 years. I got it out of my system and now I live alone at 68 and need not answer to anyone. No 'Peg' eating Bon Bons sitting on the couch getting fatter and barking orders.
@@TFWS6 I moved to the heart of my city, but that another problem I'm not going into. Yeah, I sometimes wonder how men (and women) manage to live happily ever after together. The ones I know who have done that are rather average and sometimes dull people. Those who want the American dream with 2.5 children and a dog. Some women will get a guy who is a good provider for a family. Then when the kids are out of the house she leaves the man for someone else. But that's just nature.
I got married and had kids as a way to hedge against this problem and at the end of the day, I've never been lonelier. I should've stuck with my friends.
The long tradition of monogamy IS part of the problem. No one feels completely satisfied with their social lives, unless they get to spend some quality time with people who are exceptionally charming. The problem is, there aren't nearly enough of them. And those rare times when you DO encounter them, they are almost ALWAYS already in an exclusive relationship. You can't blame people for wanting to spend most of their social time with their favorites. But I think society would function MUCH better if those exceptionally charming ones would at least spend SOME of their time getting to know the ones who aren't so lucky. At least then, people would feel like they have SOME HOPE of having that kind of satisfying social life. If you keep hearing "Sorry, I can't take the time to get to know you. I'm already with someone." then you feel like you have NO HOPE. I always feel like I'm playing musical chairs. And when the music stops, the only chairs available are the ones that COLLAPSE.😕
About 4-5 years ago I decided to stop trying to find romance or go outside unless it's time for work. Finding a significant other was so demoralizing and ruined my self esteem. I'm lucky I have friends still or I'd have no social interaction at all anymore besides convenience store clerks and customers at work.
Amen brother, I'm the same, I know I can get women but it's just not worth the effort and I've gotten to a point where I'm happy to just stay home except I don't have any friends anymore the only person I have left is my 16 yr old son and he's moving to the other side of the country with his mother because her and her partner have way more money and can give him more stuff and I get looked at like a loser even though for 9 yrs of my life child support took so much money from me and financially crippled me and no one cared that I couldn't afford to live. I've had to rely more on the kindness of strangers than friends and family.
As the mother of a 14 year old white straight boy, this is a worrying trend. It's odd too that if I ever bring it up to other moms they completely disregard it; meanwhile I have known white boys as young as 7 who are anxious, depressed, ashamed, and wondering why it's always "men's fault". I know Amala laughs about not being appropriate for teens, but I play Unapologetic or Jordan Peterson in the car with my son, and we as a family mostly avoid social media. I make sure he understands that the perspective he gets at school (Bay Area public schools), is not the only way to look at the world and that he is not responsible for what anyone who resembled him has ever done in the past.
Feels like you are a good mother. I think parents should know if their children are able to work with alternative world views. I think Mr. Peterson can be hard to understand sometimes, but Amala is great! It also shows your son there are different women than maybe he encounters in the school :-)
The most important thing is for him to learn how to function in society in the current day. I believe I grew up with great values, nuclear family and all that but in trying to create the same life for myself, I did not function well because things have changed.
@@rjframe4410 Tate has done bad things, but has good messages. Not everything he says but some of it. If they shouldn't listen to them, who should a young man listen to that has the knowledge of how the world works in present day.
Sure there is. Guys, you live in America in 2023! I could understand your hopelessness if you are poor or mentally Ill but you cannot say that all men have it bad in America. We are much much luckier and better off to live today as opposed to what our ancestors went Through . I think watching too much doomer content is making you guys more depressed
@@brianmeen2158we are not in america. Its happening in europe too. Our ancestors didnt have to deal with this. Modern men all have to worry about false accusations at work and being called creep all the time. If the woman doesnt find you attractive, you are creepy.
@@brianmeen2158The risk reward ratio is not worth it. Women are screwing over men at a record rate. Divorce is more popular than commitment and men take the hit. Financially it's just a gamble not worth taking, especially after going through it once. Just numb now
Got some news for you Brian.. Lots of people are pretty poor. There is a lot of mental illness. The reasons for this are complex and myriad and you should probably research a little more. Eventually, this will have a societal impact that will effect everybody. Everybody.
I definitely can relate to the loneliness. Dating hard out here. I'm 33, I've been trying to ask girls out for years and after a while I get tired of the rejection and don't even want to put myself out there much anymore. I know I'm a decent looking guy and a strong in my Christian faith and handy at building and fixing things. I stay in shape but my height at 5'4" has always been the main reason I can't get a woman to take me seriously. I have kinda forgot the feeling of what a woman's touch feels like after 9 yrs of nothing.
I've once heard a wise old man say "Dating for men is like a job interview. Dating for women is like shopping at the mall"
It's a job interview, but instead of getting paid you are expected to pay your female boss and you still need a regular job to pay for all that
And a lot of men are taking early retirement.
Shopping at a mall where everything is free for women.
Till times become dangerous and costly then things shift the other way. These things progress in cycles.
@@kaj7135where?! Lol I guess for SOME women but no woman I know of so far 😂 even when I'm told I'm beautiful by my ex bf I was literally the one working and providing for everything and the relationship ended when he said he wouldn't love me anymore if I didn't get a flight back after staying with my family for a few days. Women, like me fall into man babies/children but hey we learn from our mistakes
We’ve had DECADES of “don’t creep people out” and “don’t do microtransgressions” and “don’t comment on physical appearance”. Movies don’t show men being appealing or charismatic anymore. We have two generations of men with no idea how TO behave, just a daunting list of behaviors to AVOID.
And the moment someone is compassionate enough to write a book to help those young men, he's vilified by the side that's supposed to be all about compassion and treating others with respect.
Because women can't teach men how to act. Only men can.
Dont forget overweight women being told they're just as beautiful as a super model and that they DESERVE a Ryan Gosling, and should settle for nothing less.
Exactly. Society just ingrains all these behaviors to avoid into your head & then you begin to realize that a lot of these things are subjective. Like, saying “hi” to a woman could be misconstrued as creepy and then you’re an asshole. It eventually gets to the point where men just say fuck it and hide from everyone so as to avoid being the “bad guy”
@@6lake. Best. Comment. Ever.🤗
My son is 21, and has never had a girlfriend. He told me girls are too mean, and it’s easier to be alone, than to be hurt. When me, and his mother are gone, he’ll have no one left to live him, and that breaks my heart.
@waggingrl me too. He’s actually a good looking guy, he just feels beaten down I guess.
@@rebelscum9783 Regardless if he is, the problem is that for women nothing is good enough unless your the 1%er
@@rebelscum9783I dont mean to make it a contest, but your son is lucky
I'm 24 and I grew up with a mother that didnt want me and a stepdad that wanted me dead, plus extended family that also hated me
Just remind him that someone does love him, he could be in my shoes where no one cared if he died nor would it be noticed
He has a silver lining at least, he has hope....idk what he can do with that hope but he has it
Honestly, sounds like your son has some issues to figure out if all the women he deals with are “mean”.
I used to think that the worst thing in life was to end up alone. It's not. The worst thing in life is to end up with people who make you feel alone.
Robin Williams
How has the "treat everyone with kindness and respect" ideology been so lost and forgotten? It's CRAZY!
Communism and acceptance of evil in the name of greed, the raising of the false good.
It’s the me me me era, all about having everything you want and all the validation and attention you want.
@@will-vi9pkyou just contradicted yourself saying communism and the evil of greed lmao, the evil of greed literally comes from rampant capitalism. Which is the system we’re in, communism doesn’t exist here so how is that causing the current problems?
@@anthonycowan3481 And yet, it has not brought happiness to anyone. So ironic.
@@anthonycowan3481 Not at all everyone must be poor for the state and the state is the inner party. Do you think XI is living in a shack?
I told a woman not to call me a cis man and she ended nearly a week of awesome conversations and a real connection.
She seems like a horrible human.
You did Yourself a favor 👍
@@chrisb15679yes, she just demonstrated her real personality, you dodged a bullet. Unfortunately to learn not deal her kind takes self growth and giving value to your own well being. Lonelinessis better than company that ruins your life.
What a shame. But that's her loss, I guess.
really though? I mean, you said you had a real connection. Relationships mean some compromise and knowing when to pick your battles. All of these people saying "oh shes a horrible human being"- like everyone who shares your politics is going to be a great person?
If you had a connection, was it really worth throwing that away over something so trivial? A part of the phenomenon described in the video is in the past, people realized they had to learn to accomodate minor differences. Real relationships are a give and take. It depends how it went down of course, if you asked politely not be to be referred to as a cis man, and pointed out that everyone should have the right to define how they want their gender to be referred to, and she just ghosted you, then yeah, that wasnt gonna work.
But if you "told her" in a hostile way, she's right to break it off, because the fact you're getting hostile over something so small so early in the relationship is a red flag.
It really depends how it went down, and the reality is, if you have a good connection, its ok if you dont agree on every single thing.
As an Autistic, 25 year-old white dude, I’ve never been more lonely and incapable of forming any meaning bonds/relationships with others in my life.
There are many people sharing your situation. Great way to meet and engage with others ( if you want ) is to find a hobby you enjoy and look at clubs near you that do it.
Hobbies shared by men are often the most welcoming and non-judgemental group of people you will ever meet. Be your interest in table-top games, outdoors such as hiking or photography, learning trades and skills....there will be a group that will welcome you.
At 52 and never diagnosed as anything I too feel very awkward meeting new people and even in groups of like minded individuals I still feel like an outsider.
So I feel you man.
Take care man and don't give up. I am not autistic, but I know some people who are and I understand that it's hard.
When I was your age I felt like a failure and was lonely. No relationship and no stable job.
My life changed for the better when I was 27. I had my first real relationship and on the job front stuff improved a lot.
My advise to men looking for a relationship would be is try to be honest without sounding weak.
Look at Michael Burry. He has Aspergers syndrome. He ones spoke about how he found his wife.
In his bio he wrote about his glass eye, the Aspergers syndrome and his student debt.
His current wife replied: "Finally someone honest."
@GeryonM I'm glad there's someone older than me who feels this way lol
edit: I'm not glad that you feel this way tho, just to be clear.
Hang in there bud.
As a woman I am so damn tired of seeing men treated like shit from other women!! It's absolutely horrible seeing those comments on Twitter of people mocking their misery.
Thanks for caring as a man it means a lot i had the expierence of woman telling me. i look revolting wat a thing to say
I just want to say thank you for your caring attitude towards us men.
it means a lot to hear this from women. Its rare but it feels good to know not everyone hates men
They have daddy issues
@@rachelforshee6014 dear rachel you are right something is going around a lack of respect and honesty and a lot of woman playing games with man because the law is on the side of the woman i want a relationship but i wil take things slow and if it is the wrong person i am out
This topic made my heart hurt. I am the mother of two grown sons, one of whom is in a long-term, seemingly stable relationship that seems to be headed towards marriage. My eldest, though, met a girl online, and as soon as he graduated high school, he moved across the country to be with her. He married her, they had a baby, and she immediately left him to be with another guy. My son came home and now lives with me and my husband. He continues to send money for his child, but he has zero contact with his son. I have never even met my grandson. The only photos I have are of him are the ones taken at the hospital on the day he was born. My son is deeply sad, he admits that he is depressed, and I want nothing more than for him to meet a nice, wholesome girl who will love him and care for him the way I do. He seems so very lonely. I try very hard to reach out in a non-intrusive way, asking him about his day and making sure that he knows how much he is loved and valued, but I'm his mother... that's expected. I want him to experience this with someone who is not his parent. I'm not in the greatest of health, and I am terrified that he will be alone once I am gone. I pray for him, but I still worry constantly, and this video just brought home the stark reality of what young males are going through in this society. God help us all.
this is part of the problem, ladies like your son's ex have realized they can just abuse the court systems to not only get custody when they were 100% at fault for the divorce but get child support that they'll more than likely misuse to fund an unfaithful lifestyle that will likely be ingrained as normal in your grandson's life.
that's so sad. I'm 28 and single too. Dating now is so hard. Everything is so superficial.
@@DGregster same dude ,like we need something simple in this life ,is hard to understand what the love meens to us ?
not many woman apreciate and tell us we need love ,only your mother say that maybe
I’ve just opted out of dating for awhile at only 27. Nobody seems to want to build a meaningful and genuine relationship and build towards marriage and family. The idea of compromise to sustain a relationship is gone, it’s now called “settling” and younger women “refuse to settle.” You have to be exactly what they want and if they find better they move on or if you slip up in any way they leave, or if they suddenly decide they want different qualities because friends or social media told them they should they’re gone.
I'm so sorry for your son..internet is the devils creation and I hope we can somehow get rid of it and make America social again masa ...wait that don't sound right as a black man..lol jk that was a joke ..but for real seriously
I’m a guy, 34 years old and dealing with my anxiety. What I’m going to say is something that a lot of men will understand. I recently met up with a friend who I haven’t seen for a while and he hugged me. Before that, it was the late 2000’s when I had that kind of physical contact from someone I’m not related to. I last had a compliment from someone in 2018. I have ONE friend I trust implicitly. That’s my life.
When I was growing up, I would always make an effort to make friends with the quieter, secluded kids and include them in group activities.
They always stood out to me the most and I was popular among them. I was their bridge to more social interactions between them, even to themselves, as in, the group of them introverts. Hopefully I did a little bit to give them the tools they need.
Now, *I’m* the introverted one, riddled with anxiety, depression and loneliness. Borderline becoming a nihilist.
I have a pretty good guess as to what went wrong with me… and it involves girls. Even the female teachers.
No one deserves to be alone, especially kids who don't know what going on, yet.
It’s better to have on person you trust though than to waste time on those who mean nothing to you.
I’m going to make more of an effort to compliment male strangers. I guess you never know the effect of kind words. Take care
@@ella4502 You never know how much of a good thing that can be. Could just be that little boost they need to make it through the day.
December 2019 was the last physical touch that wasn’t a hug from my kids
Why would I, a white 33 year old male, want to interact with the world outside when all I get bombarded with is how horrible men are, how men get all the privileges, treated like I'm a total creep for simply talking to a woman (and possibly being recorded and shamed all over social media), and if we show any weakness we're told simply "Man Up". Nope, don't see any reasons why I'd be lonely and depressed.
watching porn all day long or gaming all day long wont do any better (if you do so). It will just enhance your depression. Do any physical exercise you like, it will make your life better. Even if a little, but it will.
@@TheMicnparkbro, he's talking about the two options that clear and obvious.
You can interact with a society that will possibly swallow you whole and spit you out or live for yourself since at least you will have a life to live compared to the former option.
Both. Options suck but one let's you live.
@@TheMicnpark Gaming is great. Everybody has an F-ing opinion on gaming. Usually its people who don't game always has this negative psycho analysis diagnosis on gaming.
@@thegamerfrominside
Why does the second option suck? I'm 31 and I've never been in a relationship my entire life, I had a tough time when I was younger but living for myself has been the most liberating thing I've ever done, I can honestly say I've been happy with life ever since I had the revelation that none of that stuff matters.
beieve it or not thats not everyone. There are definitely people, including many women, do dont like the whole woke thing. Even if that is a minority, it's still out there, and its still a lot of people.
There are a lot of women who dont really like modern woke feminism but dont make a big thing out of it because they will be ostracized as well.
Its much more ubiquitous online.
In my expereince, if you go out to many bars and clubs you dont experience many women with "man hating" views because they just dont go out to those places.
It's also different regionally. It's much more commin in big cities then other places. Maybe try taking a trip out of your area to some where less with that culture and feel how the vibe is
I was suicidal one night and was taken in an ambulance to the hospital. During the ride, I was talking to the male medic sitting next to me about male issues (I don't get to see my daughter, that should be equal right? etc) and the female medic was driving. She demonstrated that she didn't care about my feelings or didn't even want to help me any more. She slammed the door in my face while walking off in front of the male medic and my suicidal self.
One year on and this has had a massive impact on my mental health as I am constantly reminded that a woman, whose job it was to help save lives, when I needed help, didn't think I even deserve to live for talking about men's issues. God forbid I'm even at least allowed to vent about it...
If I am not even able to talk about my issues to women, how on earth are we going to achieve meaningful change for either of us?
I’m shocked that anyone would be that insensitive, heck, I’m going to call it abusive. She was taking her issues out on the most vulnerable person you could do that to. I want to point out that you are placing this woman in a position of judgment, and you shouldn’t. She is clearly messed up and her opinion has no place in your head. She doesn’t represent anyone’s opinion but her own broken way of looking at relating to other people. I hope you are doing better and you know that you are incredibly valuable and very much needed. I believe we are all connected, even if we don’t realize it.
Women fucking suck, much as I hate to say it. This makes my blood boil.
Have you watched any videos by women who've actually researched, understood and come to develop compassion and empathy for men's issues?
Norah Vincent was one, and there's a roughly 20-minute documentary about her undercover adventures as a "self-made man". Cassie Jaye is another, and describes her experiences in the film The Red Pill and in at least one TedTalk.
I think it might help you to realize that not all women lack empathy for men, and that it's just that many of them have been taught a lot of false things about men, and to think in a certain way or risk being alienated by the sisterhood.
I'm sorry you had to go through that. No one deserves to be treated that way for expressing their pain.
Most women feel that way. If you’re a problem, you are better off dead.
@@erindeerhart5538 I think you should co.e to realize not all women is something like one out of every million. They're so very few that they practically don't exist. Heck most women wouldn't raise a finger to make daddy a sandwich.
Tinder is the equivalent of trying to find a 100$ bill in a swimming pool full of garbage
Tinder is just a site where wm look fir easy desperate bw
@@okthen5566 its true..a man can fall on desperate times when he finds himself spending too much time alone,feeling disconnected from people
average tinder profile "age 24: 'lol mommy of 3 and i don't want any more. looking for a man to provide for me and my kids but my kids will always be first. also i want princess treatment only and i don't date men under 6' (her height is 5'4")
@@WarbossMorgorTeefsmasha "If you aren't above 6'3, I don't want you! (is 5'1 and looks like jabba the hut)
Tinder is full of Trans..and boy if they don't say it in the bio...your be duped
My whole life women abused me, lied, cheated, growing up I kind of learned that it's not worth it anymore. I just go to work and play my games and watch my shows. I don't have time to be hurt like I used to be. Not anymore.
Same here brother.
Similar experiences, but I came to a different conclusion. I don't want to just work or play video games. A man who wants to die is a dangerous one indeed.
And that mindset is why a male lonlieness epicdemic exists. Please dont give up, you will find someone unless you keep thinking like that.
Save your money and get a passport. Not all countries have the toxic woke women America has. In asian cultures the women build up their men as long as the man is worth building up. It completely opposite to modern western society.
Look, this is the mindset to change your life to something positive. It's never good to let your happiness depend on someone else.
As a 5' 6" guy who weighs 115lbs I don't even bother dating anymore. Women usually just want guys like me to pay their bills while they low key look for the guy they actually want.
Did that happen to you with a woman or is it just the vibe you get? I hope you find someone soon, you deserve one.
Meanwhile they laugh at and ridicule you for not being the type of man they would date and have sex with, the type of men they say is wrong with the world... but who gets the blame for those mens actions? *You do!*
@@erica653it did happen to me
I'm sure you can find a nice 5'1" girl who doesn't care about your heigt because you're taller than her 😉
I’m sorry you haven’t met a girl worthy of your time yet. I assure you, there are real women out there who value, love and respect real honest men.
As a 52 year old man who owns bars in NYC, I have over 30 years of experience observing young people's social interactions and mating rituals. It has never been in a more dysfunctional state. Women in their 20's and 30's are entitled, insufferable mean girls and men of the same age are low confidence, low testosterone, saddening and have zero game.Toxic Feminism is neutering nearly 2 generations. 😢
Thank God. Were tired of being pushed around by you
Always speak for yourself dear. Many of your sisters love getting pushed around and display remarkable stamina. @@AlpineAlien
enjoy 50 single kids with cats we dont need either AI is comeing and men are on it@@AlpineAlien
@@AlpineAlien pushed around? Maybe take a look around at the infrastructure you and all women depend upon. It's all built, paid for and maintained by men. Women like you deserve to reap what you sow, when it all comes crashing down!
@@AlpineAliendid you watch the whole video?
"The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel its warmth." Ignore male loneliness see how that ends.
That quote is gold. o7
the way anything ends with you - drama
facts. the village is the one abusing them.
From my take on this video is the right is becoming men strong. But historically over the last 100 years, they don't do anything that isn't specifically for the party leaders and their sponsors. So nothing will be fixed for the better, it will likely be turned down until everything is worse equally. An anti solution I suppose. So the right will "fix" men's issues by reintroduction of women's issues. Effectively just turning back the political clock by 150 to 200 years.
Destiny….DESTINY? Really any man who is willing to have the name destiny is NOT appealing to men
I love how everytime women talk about this subject they never say what the real problem is.
Feminism
@guitarszen beating around the bush and such
I mean Norah Vincent tried to understand once, and it left her so horrifically demoralized that it took her own life, before that, she wrote a book called “self made man”
... *themselves*
@@Randomlad56 It was inevitable. We were born in the shadows, and have learned how to deal with it. She was merely a visitor. This ignores the biological differences.
She: "Women make less than men for the same job! Smash the patriarchy!"
Also She: "If I make more money than him, then I'm not dating him."
Hahahahaha so true.
Also:
She: "Men dating younger women is creepy and gross."
Also She: "I prefer dating older men."
Exactly they make it impossible for us
all that tells me is that they want each other. let em much enough carpets to put stanley steemer outta business.
Hilarious....western women's behavior makes them their own enemies
"Fixing men" = making sure their time, attention and resources goes to women
Yeah fix women first and make them worthy again. The gender split is insane. Men tend to not change, they haven't really. They've just gotten weaker due to lack of guidance from fatherlessness. Make Father's Great Again.
Women tend to be malleable. It's why they've become such a tool for wickedness.
😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Ain't that the truth
Nah I got games to play and shit to build.
Being a male is like being a black 100 yrs ago your just a monster unfit for civilization
I grew up being gay in the 90s and it was different than today. I had to hide it to keep people from treating me different.
Today, even being gay, I look and sound straight and my husband and I don't wear rings because we aren't traditional and hate jewelry but now I have to deal with the prejudice of just being a man.
I have to be very obvious about being gay to feel like I'm not a target.
Apparently "being gay" has to be acting like Dylan Mulvaney and not someone like, idk, Stephen Fry, Dave Rubin, Douglas Murray, to name a few
Damn, that's nuts man!
Women; "Men can fix their own problems" Also women; "Men need to care more about women issues!".
Also never EVER show vulnerability in front of a woman, specially not one you are interested in as she will lose all respect and interest in you as a partner if you do.
Facts my man
Truth
I disagree with the vulnerability part. I believe men and women both are different and thus show their vulnerability in a different way but wanting to be in a relationship with this person would mean you're willing to go through hardships with this person and that's when you completely show your vulnerability whether you're a man or a woman but loving this person would mean you would go through that hardship and help them in their vulnerability
@@owretched6854 in a healthy relationship this is completely true. But how many people across all age groups understand how 1) find one, 2) handle one, and foster it without ruining it one way or another. Anything meaningful takes time but everyone is quick to dismiss potential partners for icks, different views, the list goes on and on and I don’t want to find RUclips’s character limit first) **Tangent** from a male’s perspective, rejection hurts and people say “don’t take it personally” but my view is that it’s only personal. Like I wasn’t looking for a business deal or anything. I am almost always looking for love and I am not what they are looking for themselves. After so many times of not being enough for those you pursue, the pain can very easily reach a tipping point. **Tangent Over** you get use to keeping a lot of feelings to yourself because sharing can very easily come off as dumping your feelings on the one you are talking too. It’s difficult to even find someone ready to accept you enough to want to learn about you.
@@owretched6854 That's some grade A bullshit. I remember vividly talking to my best friend (girl) about some things I was dealing with and showed emotion and cried. A girl who was interested in me saw that, and lost interest.
Men are told that the "Men don't cry" is toxic. Yet, every time we show them, we are humiliated by both men and women.
We're told that we are supposed to make the first move, but unless we match all the woman's personal preferences (6 ft, 6 inches, 6 figure income), we're creepy stalkers.
We have to be the ones to support women, but if a woman feels like she just doesn't want to be married anymore, they get half our stuff.
There's no incentive to even engage with women these days. Damned if we do. Damned if we don't.
Hell, even men who are going East to find a partner are being shamed. Passport bros are the new enemy of feminism, as if the women screaming about Patriarchy are such a wonderful prize.
I gave up dating 10 years ago. I got tired of being treated like I’m the enemy just because I wanted a companion.
Scott have u dabbled in passport bro?
No
Maybe you’re the problem, stop victimizing your own failures
@@TiphonBafometo you got a lot of time on your hands npc bot person
it's really that simple.
What hurts worse than being alone is being with people who make you feel alone. Im a disabled and my injuries leave me home bound so for me, loneliness is compounded. If i am not useful im ignored.
Sorta like being an unattractive woman.
This happened to me in my marriage years ago. I was so lonely in marriage. My wife was a vicious she-devil. The day I walked away was the happiest day of my life. I could breathe again.
I feel for you. I've heard it said that females are human beings, whereas men are human doings.
You are useful.
being disabled is very difficult. It can be tough, but your best bet is to find groups of other people who also experience disabiltiies who can be your compatritors. You may even find a partner who is disabloed and can relate to your experinces and love you
"One in five single men say they have no close friendships." Spot on right there. It is what it is unfortunately when your a guy. One thing I've learned is people who you thought were your friends will have no problem dropping you at a moment's notice despite everything you've been through together. Makes you realize as a man, you really are on your own and can only depend on yourself. No one is going to care about your problems, not your fellow men, and especially not women. I believe this realization might explain why we have so many mass shooters in the US now as well. Young boys are being vilified and ignored, and with no one to turn to for help they're left alone with their inner demons until they finally snap.
No shit. I live in New Zealand and my best friends live in different countries. I bought a small Caravan to live in and get some happiness from my outdoor kitchen and gardening. I don't go out for drinks in the city while I live in the countryside.
As a straight single white male living in California, I just want to say thank you for broaching this topic. As a suicide survivor, I really wish more people reached out to let guys know it's okay to be a guy and to be straight. I really wish more people were spreading the message that you're not evil just because you're born a specific race or gender.
So you're lonely because you're straight and male?
You, me and millions of others have been intentionally and deliberately _defined_ as racist, sexist, homophobic, etc.
Stay strong brother and fellow Californian
Stay strong. ❤
❤ to you 🤗
"If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" used to be a thing... I guess it's not any longer. Another year or two and people will forget "Treat others the way you wish to be treated".
Silence is violence and compliance bigot. But also sit down and shut up bigot. Marginalized victims need a voice and to be heard! But also no one listens to us, so use your silly white woman tears and sexuality to let our problems be heard by the white male patriarchy. And lastly, power structures like the white male patriarchy need to be torn down because women have no power in society at all.
I could go on forever it seems.
It has never actually been a thing. It's just a thing people say, but nobody has ever really lived by it... Everybody says fucked up shit from time to time. A healthy amount of bullying and criticism is a good thing.
Women have been treating men the way they want men to treat them.
I do believe they already have.
I have always heard the 2nd one when I was a child about how to treat others?
I understand the sentiment of "I fear women" in the sense of assault allegations.
That, alimony, and child support. Damn near guaranteed the latter.
Or having the misfortune of encountering women like Shoe0nhead.
I'm not gonna lie, im guilty of straight up not talking to some of my colleagues on the casual level because of how ive seen spiteful women who were broken up with decide they should attack someone's life
I fear women deeply. I had I mean girls situation where I almost killed myself when they came after me. I didn't deserve it and many of their accusations were lies and many of them were General and vague enough that they implied worse things than were true that everything was taken out of context. If you think people are conspiring against you, you might not be just paranoid. You might be about to die. I fear men because most of my friends are women and I know how much men have hurt them. I know that most white men are right wing and have terrifying politics. I fear women because they will abuse their place in the hierarchy to harm others in what they consider self-defense. White women are the most terrifying. Think about Boo Radley. As America becomes fascist, everyone becomes more fascist, including the left. You got women being very comfortable bullying and being outright bigoted men they've never encountered and know nothing about. You've got powerful systems and institutions being abused to harm defenseless people. I think a lot about that dog in Central Park from May 2020.
Shoe0nhead sounds like a sehr sehr nett fräulein.
It would make, probably My life if God is willing to let Me meet Her.
And as a Man, not even fully adult yet, am afraid of everything bad that can happen with Women.
#Gettingstartedyoung
I am definitely a hikikomori. I leave my house to go to work and that’s it. I come home and don’t leave my room until I have to work again. I’ve given up entirely on social interaction, and relationships in general. The only social interactions I have are with co workers or my mother when I visit her a few times a month to help her around the house. People have tried to get me out and to have “Fun” but it’s not fun going out and sitting there, talking to no one, being the third, fourth, fifth wheel to any group. I just don’t have the energy anymore. I’m tired.
Yeah same im tired and resent everyone i just go to work and then chill at home
don't you think that you might be depressed and in need of a therapist? I've been excluding myself from society for the past 16 years because of social anxiety, and it made me extremely socially awkward, close-minded, and impatient with others. All of my formative years in adolescence and young adulthood, when people learn to form meaningful social and professional relationships, were wasted. Humans are social beings and no matter how hard it is to interact with others we still crave it. I only recently realized how depressed seclusion is making me. It's not a healthy way to live a life.
hikikomori would mean you would not go to work
@@reginaberger8406 I genuinely despise human interaction. Ive never liked people, which is ironic because im rather charismatic, but i feel thats more a defense mechanism for when forced to interact with others. Nothing good in my life has come from interacting with others. Maybe that makes me a psychopath, I dont know. Its not like a disdain for human life just would be happy to never have to talk to another human being again.
Maybe the world really has nothing for you. More trouble than it is worth.
As a french 23 year old guy, i wanna say thank you, for giving your time to discuss about such issues that also hit us in Europe, and we have NO ONE to talk about it, because everyone is afraid by our extreme left. I'm just hoping it changes with time
It won't change, we have to change it.
hello, European like you, but I'm 20 years older than you: I don't want to scare you but just warn you: nobody will help you. go to the gym, work or study. because, frankly, if you don't save yourself, no one will save you
As Gio.Condor said, this won't change. You better get used to it.
@@-Zakhiel- nah i have hope that people won't buy into that stuff
@@DemonicYami7449 The problem is that it's not a new problem. Men have always been disposable.
You know about 2 mother for one father ratio about our ancestors? If not, when you go back enough in time, you have a ratio of two women for one man amongst your ancestors. Why? Because half of men don't have access to sex (because of war, doing dangerous works, etc.).
You, as a man, don't have value. Women and chidlren first. So you better get used to it. Trust me. If you don't you'll be the pathetic guy who gets a few "ooh... you poor you..." and ends up alone.
The way the left has treated Ana Kasperian for simply humanizing the other side and being open to debate ideas respectfully and civilly tells you all you need to know about leftist ideology
Almost like we were correct along along and the left are the evil fascists they claim to hate so much.
The left is evil?!?! In other SUPER SURPRISING news water is wet.
P
I wasn't aware of Ana's bad treatment from the left. Was she trying to be more diverse than the left would allow?
She debated Ben Shapiro and questioned the long term side effects of puberty blockers, among other things. Anyone who so much as ENTERTAINS conservatives and conservative ideas is an enemy to the far left.
As a left-leaning person I seriously do not understand the backlash to Ana. I think most sane people agree with her but unfortunately the far left has a stranglehold over online political discourse (despite being a fringe minority of the left generally.)
Have her on the SHOW.
I don’t think Shoe will be on.
Would be lovely if Shoe accepts.
@@mmoVSmmoI'm sure she would. She has been on other similar shows.
YES! YES! YES!
She’s genius and tougher you’d be pooling genius
I NEED TO SEE HER IN HD QUALITY
40 year old male here, I have given up completely of ever finding love, when I finally realized the fact that it will never happen, I stopped being lonely
I was sad for a while then I was mad, now... I'm just Indifferent.
I mean it literally doesn't matter, I am over half way through my life I don't even have to off my self at this point, average life expectancy of men is 77 ish, most men in my family haven't made it past 75, so I got 35 to 37 years left max 40 so all this will be over for me so enough.
So at this point I am just sitting here waiting to watch the world burn, because I have nothing better to do.
exercise for 6 months, dare, read the book, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: Mark Manson, after you do that, travel to Latin America or the Pacific, pay a cameraman to work with a man, to take good photos of you, Pay for a premium tinder, for the address in a country you want to visit in Latin America or the Pacific, for a range of 30 to 40 years, date any woman, only offer commitment to the one you consider after a while that she does love you, yes. You think it doesn't work, remember that you didn't have a life goal, if your ideas haven't worked for you, why not try for a year, of your life, this idea that I'm giving you that worked wonderfully, it's your life bro, no one will live it For you, that's why do what you want with her, don't give a damn about life, believe me, it'll go well for you, God bless you.
Sounds very relatable
I never heard someone use my logic I've said this before I'm 40......I only have 25 more years left god willing
get a passport brother, there are tons of women overseas that will make you happy
@@oldsaltydawg8688 You creepy trafficker.
Why would men wanna interact with anyone, or date women who despise us?
To bang them and show them who's boss.
What do you think the world is out to get men?
@@akiltircuit7515 these days yeah, the stats speak for themselves.
@@akiltircuit7515 the world? you mean just the US. I don't think other countries are having this problem. You might think japan is having this problem, but they don't
@@Dave_of_Mordor well Australia and in Scotland do have this problem as well
Lonely women is an issue that is waiting to happen as the generation ages
I'm pretty sure all of society will start to care then.
Ya...but they're actually doing it to themselves by subscribing to woke culture, men have even less value now than ever before because of this same woke culture doing everything in its power to cancel masculinity, and we've had no value since birth, so we're less than nothing in this society...and people wonder why the suicide rates are so high for men...whilst dismissing every struggle that we face in this world...I hope that when my son starts thinking about women in a few years that this woke shit is being eradicated from society so that he can maybe have a decent girl in his life, I've never had one that was decent, they all play the victim when they get caught cheating and get dumped, and they tell everyone that you were an abusive monster, and everyone symps for them whilst demonizing you, the man...#believenowomen better become a reality in the next decade or this entire society is fucked period
Women can find partners relatively easy.
45% will be single by 2030, according to Morgan Stanley. 😂 I hope it is 90%. In my opinion women are vile, and men are better off without them. We need women only communities where the men would only be daytime workers so it doesn’t fall appart. 😂
@@taliesinhallidayWomen want relationships now and are finding that hard to find, men are just mostly doing hook ups. Add a generation of men not trusting or even liking women and a real relationship is going to be real real hard to find. Heck most of the men are openly admitting that we don’t actually like the choices of women now.🤷🏾♂️
These are not just boys. They are your son, brother, cousins and father. If my mom said men should disappear, I would cry. We have feelings.
The vast majority of Women just see men as money bags that they want to take advantage of to cash in on.
Women don't want companionship, they just want money and nothing more.
They will immediately divorce you for another man who makes more money then you.
Right. That's why I don't talk shit about a whole genre, that's wrong and plain stupid, and you include your dear ones, be careful with words because they can be psychological weapons.
bruh dont be a mommas boy and get control of your emotions... this is part of becoming a man. dont be a nu-male
Please dissappear
Not the mama! *BAM*
@@AlpineAlien
None of this was an issue till it started affecting women.
That "creepiness" factor IS a thing! Men these days have been conditioned to NOT approach females for fear of HR calling you to have a "talk", or being cancelled on-line. I try to be open, and friendly to EVERYONE I encounter, but I worry when interacting with females, for fear that they think I`m "intruding" on their space.
When I walk by a man who has to hide his face to avoid making me feel uncomfortable I feel bad, when I sit next to a man on a flight and I can tell he's afraid I'll turn into Twitter if he looks my way, I feel bad.
I'm a really shy person with social anxiety, so starting conversations and expressing myself is hard for me, but when I get better I'd really like to strike up a friendly conversation with a lot of these guys.
And then when you do get a girl all the jealous other guys snicker amongst themselves. The only dudes that win are guys who are physically intimidating enough so that no one says anything, which as you can imagine is very healthy for our society (joke)
Or have they?🤔 What if the creep factor is on women because men think they'll end up with someone like Shoe0nhead? Need I remind you that she's a massive degenerate?
I have to defy the belief that I hold that approaching a woman is some sort of invasion of privacy.
if you approach a woman for any reason other than a work related reason at work, then it IS intrusive (creepy) unless you're already friends with them. Don't force friendships. They just happen and when they don't, they won't happen if you force it. This is basic social skills.
I am a middle aged male (48), and even though i do not struggle to meet women, I struggle mightily putting up with their insanity. Modern women are so directionless, yet they are ao cofident in it. Everyone in life tells them how amazing they are even when they mess up, and so they can never accept when they are wrong, or put anyone else, including children, above their own needs. You cannot have a successful family, or raise your children correctly aa long as women are this crazy and full of themselves.
This! I'm not lonely, but I'd Rather have peace than deal with anything you mentioned. 👍
@@chrisb15679 A bunch of the guys in my family have clocked out of the dating scene because it just isn't worth it to them, anymore.
Women these days cannot take any criticism. Even the phrase “women after 30” makes them recoil.
I checked out about age 53, and I've never been happier. I have a small group of friends and I do whatever the fuck I want whenever I want. Traveling is so much more enjoyable now.
@@petahpunk The thing with young guys is that they need to learn how to be comfortable with their own company and control their sexual urges.
If they can learn to love themselves, find purpose and fulfillment in even the little things, then, hopefully they can be at peace with themselves and never really be lonely. At least... To not be depressed.
Amala, it's nice to see your passion on this topic. These twisted souls don't understand a core truth. Hate breeds hate. Misandry will breed misogyny. These aren't separate issues. Men have recognized how much feminists hate them. The reaction is inevitable unless society changes. This isn't healthy, it's dangerous. Hate will destroy us all.
The problem is that misogyny already created misandry. And that may well flip.
The pendulum always swings too far when trying to over correct a problem.
Just as trying to over-correct racism against people of color has swung to hating white people
And what's the solution? Embrace the radical feminists, hateful leftists and their rhetoric? Nah. Live your own life, move off the grid, let society crumble.
Faaaacts
Feminists don't hate men. They hate toxic masculinity. Don't be a toxic male and then you will be more attractive than all toxic males.
Indeed, that’s how feminism got started in the first place: misogyny and inequality.
Right around the 24 min. mark is when I started tuning out. Please don't utilize me as a threat.I am a lonely man, and I have been extremely lonely since returning to the US.
In another place, I was valued as a member of a community, and I helped build hospitals and schools. Back here in the US, I'm just a single man. (And I am, therefore, dangerous?)
I'm not going to turn violent. I'm not going to harm children or women or animals. I'm just going to go to my nothing job for my nothing pay; pay my rent; buy food; cook food; recycle; and slowly but surely wither away.
I'm not going to hurt anyone. I'm just going to curl up in my ball in the hopes no one gets offended.
You might not, doesn't mean others won't.
This is what every single female content creator intentionally misses. It is not that men have a loneliness epidemic, the culture has turned absolutely hostile to all men. There is literaly nothing in this society for us to feel proud about, and this Is coming from someone who is in construction right now.
No pride in work, no women who like us, a police state actively looking to throw us in jail for the slightest infraction, why work for anything other than basic survival at this point.
I m a woman and these were my exactly thoughts. And as a woman i also though: do you want us to help men because they gonna get violent? So, you want us to be around potentialy violent men? Like, this argument defeats the purpose, isn't it?
@@AminaAmenasa No they're saying we as a society help men before then. Most men will not be violent but a small few who were really worse off may become violent.
You don't need to be around men to support men & men's rights
what shes saying is people who are pushed againt a wall can be radicalized not that your going to become violent all of a sudden but thats potenial future stuff no one wants to talk about including men.
The reason cats and dogs are men‘s whole worlds is because they’re loyal to them, won’t treat them like shit and respect them, and won’t leave when times get hard. My cat loves me more than anyone in my entire life.
There are a lot worse things then being alone
@@janebaker5618 yea so does that automatically invalidate my feelings of pain and sadness and feelings of isolation and disdain for society and everyone in it due to the fact I have no one in my life and no one wants anything to do with me? Thanks Jane try being a single, ugly dude, lol. Even ugly girls get laid and find love and have friends.
Where are your parents and siblings?
Preach!
@@dontstalkmedeltoro8816
Some of us have neither. When my parents died is when I became truly alone. It’s hard but thankfully I have a job and a couple of hobbies that keep my mind occupied.
Its sad. As a mid-aged white male, the loneliness factor is a real issue. The older you get, the harder it is to forge new male relationships. We are expected to provide, protect and please. When you are married, so much of your energy as a man is focused towards your wife, children and job. Your needs, wants & desires are put on the backburner and for most of us, we were raised on this message. It took me years to figure this out.
What annoys me most, as a middle age man soon to retire, is mentoring women oven men; Men miss out on getting what I know as they require less attention. I want everyone to do well but the time spent is telling of dysfunction.
Why bring race into it though? I’ll never understand why race is brought up constantly especially when it had no effect on the comment they make. It’s not like different racial groups suffer loneliness more or less than the other
I'm 41yrs old. I've got 9yrs before I'm forced to join a cult or a Moose Lodge to talk to someone else.
@@brianmeen2158they are effected differently by culture. Regardless of your white washed views racial minorities feel excluded from a United States.
Their culture, neighborhoods, and "value" are still segregated from others in the year 2024CE
Just make a gaming pc
14:44 - if you are not giga-Chad with the three sixes, you can be tossed in jail for saying hi to a woman. In Australia and in Scotland, there are laws where if a man talks to a woman, and he does not know, i.e. does not read her mind, that she does want him to say hi, he can be incarcerated. No, this is not men’s fault. This is the world women wanted. Ladies, enjoy.
What’s the law? SOURCE 🤓
If you LOOK at a woman in the UK, it can be considered sexual harassment. Look it up do a Google search if you don’t believe it
You are being hysterical. In history please tell me how many guys have been arrested and tossed in jail for saying hi to a woman? Maybe 1 or 2? You guys are going out of your way to justify not even trying and it’s so strange.. stop watching this doomer content and exercise and start going out
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Yeah definitely calling BS on that.
Please source the law for us Americans. It sounds like a BS law.
Once you accept you are alone and always will be... It gets easier
agree after 8 years of being single i accepted the fact that i will probably die alone , and now im good with this
Been single since 2012... only been in situationships since then, since women only really used me as an emotional tampon, or a quick fix. 2020, after a really cute girl hit me up and we had sex and we started dating... not even 2 weeks later she just up and ghosts me. Ever since then, I have completely given up on dating. I have been much happier and saved much more money since then. If I would have given up dating years ago, I would probably have a house by now 😂. I wasn't even being needy, I literally was just asking how her day was from time to time.
Y'all sad.
Even when married,you are still alone no matter what it all rests on YOU.
Spoken like a true incel. You are a sad individual.
Society is basically fucked. I saw a video on 2 ppl wanting to schedule a 2nd date. Both seemed happy. Then the guy took out his phone, it was an Android, and the girl went totally insane and said: "I cant do it after all" and cancels the date. She rejected a guy, because of a brand of phone!! We are living in a world, that teaches all the wrong values! And the results are showing now. Of course this wont be the end of it, it will get way worse.
I'm glad the sane man dodged a bullet with this one
@@Goldy01 Hell, Samsung should put that in their ads. "Buy our phone, now with built in gold digger repellant!"
@@allamericanslacker2378😂
Im a female with an android phone and I have been ghosted and treated like an option so if a guy doesn't like that I don't have an iphone .. Can go kick rocks cause that s crazy. And if a female ghost a guy cause he has an android can go kick rocks too. I personally am not going to own a object I can't afford. I would love to get a coffee with a guy but some of these men only want to go for alcoholic drinks. Society is screwed up.
I rather go to an amusement park or a walk in the park.
I'll never forget the time I was just chilling in the living room when my gf, out of nowhere, brought me some ice water... I was floored lol I was like "thank you so much, what did I do to deserve this" lmao. I'm telling you ladies, men are incredibly simple. It's nothing to do with having someone to have sex with, it's just the feeling that you know someone out there is thinking of you
So true
This is so true. “I’m not doing all this alone and that’s all I was hoping for.”
I feel like we want to be admired for our work and initiatives. I'm not saying women don't want the same but I do believe they are way more social than we are and thus they kinda more constant admiration than we do. Or, in the very least, a sense of belonging. If you're a guy who doesn't like soccer or politics, you're pretty much left with no social groups from which to gain some validation. Makes sense?
Indeed, and the colder women become the colder men become as women use to bring love compassion comfort and care to a man's hard life making it not so hard. Today they simply make a hard life harder. A man that grows cold having no love in his life makes for an easy tool of wer. Cold hearts looking for a way to cure their loneliness. Both sides are being played by those who control the media and education system.
I had a similar response from my bf in the early days together. He was so grateful that I made sure he was comfortable and took the time to adjust his pillow, lol.
Every time I ask a woman out, I’m creepy I guess. Every time I treat a woman with respect, she leaves me for a dickhead. ik I have my flaws, but at age 26, I’ve just given up. On women, on other male friends that aren’t complete idiots, everything except working out and going to work. Thank Christ for motorcycles and camping. Otherwise I would have blown my brains out honestly
I pray you find a beautiful, honest, and faithful woman to go camping with.
Try carrying out an activity that pulls more compassionate people. You will be more likely to meet decent and sensible women.
Perhaps consider dating older women. We’re out here
@@TheEcstaticearth Would you give your brother that advice?
It seems that women of today don't know how to react to a guy asking them out. As u said, they follow this preassumed imagination about a guy that's bold enough to approach them. Continue to let 'em go if they want a dirt bag of a guy. They will never appreciate u as a gentleman while chasing a liar, cheater, brute, or even a thug.
if I didn't have brothers, I would have no friends.
I haven't had a hug in over 10 years. I'm starting to believe people only like what I can do for them, like in my job, but not care about me as a human. It hasn't made me aggressive; it is turning me numb. If I allow it to bother me emotionally, it will hurt very badly to never have any physical contact with other humans, so I just turn off my heart since nobody wants to be a part of it and just numb myself. I tell myself, contact love is not mine to experience so don't allow yourself to need it. That is my suggestion to you as well. Just turn the need off. Nobody cares anyways, why should I?
That's all correct.
You can always give yourself a hug, tho. In any case, here's an emojii for you! 🤗
The only solace you can find is knowing you are not alone in this. I'm going to the gym cause I know a lot of dudes going there are fighting this loneliness too. It's a good place to find pals
@@JeffCaplan313 Thanks, I appreciate that.
@@chokichocat3083 that's true.
@@chokichocat3083find a pal or two and a six-pack on the way😂 I would recommend ball-room dancing and dancersize classes after you get the six-pack😊Have fun on the way.
As I woman I care for these problems for men and there are a lot of women that do but unfortunately, it's the toxic women that are having the louder voice
100%
That's because nobody's called out these toxic "women" over anything!!!
MGTOW, anyone?
Why? Men dont commit suicide because what ever we feel now we have had worse. I am a preferred loner now for 8 months a year and like it. 4 months a year around people is by far enough. But I do turn on my phone once a week to answere my friends
So...get loud. Men can't solve this problem because we've been forbidden to speak on it.
ive had a few encounters with people who at the end of the day used me for sex. claimed to be in a relationship with me, while also telling me to shut the fuck up when I speak, telling me "I dont want to tell people you're my boyfriend today" ect, all to end up pulling an Irish goodbye. no break up, nothing. this happened with 2 different people back in 2015 and 2018 and other than that ive never really been on a true date, nor had a genuine connection. im 27 now, so its a bit worrying for me given I want a family, but at the same time Im spooked to dip. myself back out there. its hard to just ask someone out on a date traditionally now adays
31 year old man here:
Who here has pushed everyone away because you felt to be a burden on everyone?
Who else has thought of social isolation in hopes of having personal growth and returning to your social space a better person? Depression is something we face in this mental state and its so easy to fall into it.
Im 28, i try not to open up about my problems too much heck i don't open to my own mom because she like my dad were a problem growing up. One person i am usually opening to is my older sister's husband.
If depression is an issue I'd suspect social media usage to be it's cause. Any male with large social media usage will in turn isolate themselves because the social media realm is actually more set to keep women addicted and not men. When you are exposed to social changes, the male will be targeted, you self isolate because of the material you are exposed to, which is heard against the male, virtually to tear you down. Men sit inside the circle jerking bubble and lose themselves in it. Men are meant to be outside virtually all the time. Any male inside on electronic devices is losing efficiency in their manhood. You have choices in moving towards happiness, it's not owed to anyone.
Honestly, when I used social media I was depressed without even knowing it, it never shown itself until I deleted it. When deleted I noticed a need for negative projection onto others, that was the taint social media put on me, this vicious projection because I was exposed to things that made me depressed. Took about two weeks to switch the mind over, then I became bored, when I got bored I chased more life, like everyday. Wake up leave my phone at home and go chase some life experience. Depression honestly disappeared, like evaporated. Now I can't be around people who use lots of social media, because they are the negative projectors I once was. There's many cultures where they don't even understand the word 'depression' it's not even in their language. So it's uniquely western in my opinion, and big pharma makes a lot of money off it.
You always have options for better. Just have to want it enough.
A question I put to you. Do you feel men get positive mentions on social media, or anti male mentions? When saturated with negative male projection, guess what the male will go and do.......will go and feel bad about themselves on their own, they will think it's them.......when the negative projection is mostly coming from women with very poor male relationships. But that stuff is the most viewed. Next a large percentage of anything you watch online should be making you feel bad. Pretty much exactly how you described it. It all disappears when deleted.
I can totally relate to what you're going through, and I'm a woman
I am an older (69y/o), divorced man with two teenaged boys. A few years back I was injured in a MVA - rear ended by a 50mph car while I was stopped in traffic. I had to medically retire after a 42 year career as an RN. I am a chronic pain patient and my wife lost interest in me after my injuries. So much for “in sickness and in health”. Now divorced, I feel kicked to the curb, but don’t want or need sympathy. I also am feeling incredible relief I am no longer bound to a misandrist woman who clearly only “loved” me super conditionally. I am lonely (she poisoned the well for all our mutual fiends), but have zero interest in pursuing a relationship. There are no women in my life and it feels great. I am done with romance in all its myriad forms. Miraculously no one calls me a narcissist or misogynist anymore, how odd?
I was raised to treat women with respect, and I've always done as such... I'm 40, single and now terrified of women I've only been abused, used and thrown away time and time again. I'm not bad looking some would say, i suppose i have good traits too though I'm even afraid to admit that, but even still after how I've been treated I'm scared of reaching out now and it has almost lead to me ending my own life multiple times.
So yeah, people need to really treat people better without emotional invalidation at every step.
That sounds rough man. I hope things get better for you 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
We're the same
@@schustererik83 All introspective men are. Bros before 304s.
respecting is something and simping, which is what seems you've been doing with self involved women is another and is wrong dude, never forget that
When people tell that you need treat people with respect, they meant ladies and gentlemen.
Modern women aren't part of it
Why people in west so weird, that to not disrespect someone - you need to show him respect. Ending up running a respect charity left and right, getting drained and upset later...
Why buy milk for a 1$, when you can show how good you are and buy same one for 10$? Sounds right
If you as a girl got this info:
"Only 5% of you will get attention from 90% of boys and you need to win in an everlasting harsh competition to have material success". And if you express any form of frustration about this, you will be judged, called an incel and told to "grow some balls". Then maybe, just freakin maybe a nanogram of compassion towards why you give up and hide on the internet is a little understandable...?
It went over they head !!
Right on bro.
I laugh at mediocre women in the street. They strut about like their models. 😆😆.
This is a great way of explaining it.
The worst part. Is I'm watching this, alone at home, as all of my plans got canceled by my friends and family for the weekend. The first time in legitimately months that I was going to have any social interaction outside of work, and now I'll just hangout at home with my dogs instead. Funny the way the world works, huh?
Your not alone bro.
There’s literally a whole bunch of people online responding that they are lonely.
Use it: “Hi, I live in xxx. Anyone in the mood to go to the movies/ the park playing baseball/ play risk at bar X”
Or whatever it is you like?
I hate when people say that....He IS LITERALLY ALONE. Theres many people with the same issue...but that doesnt mean hes not alone. He is me.@@nevatoolate
I'm praying for you! You are loved!
Funny thing is, once you give up on women and dating you feel more confident and happy, which absurdly makes you more attractive to women. You can get a small ego boost seeing women stare at you and whisper to each other from time to time. Of course, going after any of them is the kiss if doom, so don't do that
Being so embittered won't lead to happiness. Just like the fact tall men are NOT 'creepy'--all women aren't mean gold-diggers. So much rage and women-hatred is expressed these days, it's really alienating--how do break through that brrick wall?
Ive completly disconnected from the world. I work and go online. Play games with a select few friends but thats it. I was in a 7 year relationship. Lost it, got cheated on. Became a mess. Got lonely. Had to grow up. Im almost 40. No one wants me anymore. Starting to take care of my aging parents and grandparents. Now Im beyond sad. If I let my self feel for even a moment I cry. I dont know what to do anymore.
There is something more than the tribulations this world puts us through. If you can believe that it does not end here, new hope will emerge. He is the way the, the truth and the life. No one comes to the father, but by him. Find him and you will have what you seek.
Well what do you actually want?
@@AQBPlays I want to be happy. I want others around me to be happy. I want to be loved. I want to not be depressed.
What can you do to make others around you happy? Their happiness will come back to you. I mean in the context of helping those who need something, not giving unreciprocated attention
Haha................MEN are the most guilty of cheating............haha........shit is hilarious......................
This IS the loneliest decade. Woman that are also mad lonely unless they wanna give every 10/10 chad their body. Woman have not only hurt men but themselves. Feminism is self destruction.
Good. Let them rot.
Yeah like you said!
Feminism was not the problem at it the route, it was supposed to be about equality, which is fine. I think we ended up in a situation where unrealistic expectations have hit both groups at the same time.
@@viperswhip Yea it was not originally self destruction if it wasn't taken out of context like it is now. Bc not every woman wants to be a wife but now it's a virus
@@viperswhip what they consider feminism today is not feminism
Even if men practice their “rizz” if they’re ugly, none of it matters. If they’re short, none of it matters. If they’re poor, none of it matters.
If they're rich. Doesn't matter. You're most likely to get cheated on, divorced and stripped of most of your stuff. I don't have a round 2 in me.
If you are rich you just become a living ATM
I saw the original video to this reaction, and yes the male loneliness epidemic is real. I was raised in a home where I was told by my grandmother almost daily that I was no good, worthless and pretty much everything terrible you can imagine to have said to a growing boy. My dad was an alcoholic at the time and I was told I'd be just like him and be a failure. I never told my friends much about it but a conversation with the sister of one of my childhood buddies I'll call her Jen for the sake of this comment, I revealed to her what it was like for me and she said she always knew something was very wrong but somehow I was still a gentleman and a charmer with the girls at my school, her words not mine. I went through growing up thinking I was garbage. Jen told me that there were girls that had crushes on me that I never knew about but so many years later it was bittersweet to hear. I struggled with depression for most of my life and still get that feeling of loneliness from time to time. A couple times I had decided to end it all but fate had other plans as the first time I was interdicted by a friend who happened to come across me as I sat on the edge of a bridge over a deep ravine, to this day he probably doesn't know that he in fact saved my life. The second time I realized that I couldn't leave my cat to starve in my apartment, I couldn't do that to a pure little critter so I went home instead of putting the hose on my car's exhaust. To this day I still have that hose and the heat resistant tape, it serves as a reminder that not only neither do I fear death but nor should I fear life. I am not the most attractive man out there at only 5'8" but the past years I've had almost every random girl I cross paths with berate and call me down saying I'm creepy or whatever else insult they can think of. To clarify I decided the same day I put that hose back in my trunk that I will never date a woman again as every attempt at getting a companion ended with my heart being crushed while the girl goes off with some random douche, laughing.
We've all heard of women saying that men have no feelings but yes we do, when an real man loves something or someone it is all in and it breaks us up when those we try so hard to make happy turn their backs on us. During my heart to heart with Jen she burst into tears more than once upon hearing that I wanted to die for so many years. She was speechless to hear how women have treated me since we last saw each other. Even now I can't even so much as say "excuse me" or greet a woman without being told how creepy I am. I survived the absolute worst that women could do to me from the time I was a child until now but not all guys can go through that and not let the darkness win. The one ex of mine that I still care for told me she wished she was as strong as me when it comes to what life throws at us, then I told her about nearly deleting myself and that I'm not that strong just lucky in that way as many men have un-alived themselves over similar situations including a dude that was a good friend of mine.
Women need to realize that what they say and do to a man sometimes has profound effects, as men we are pre-dispositioned to want to protect and care for those we truly love, even when we get no love back. I feel horrible for the boys growing up now as they have to walk on eggshells around girls, so many are so friggen toxic now but somehow we're the toxic ones since we're males. Since I decided to be alone forever and came to terms with it I have become much happier and content being alone than I could ever be with a woman, still think they can be the most beautiful things to exist but to me it's better to stay away from ever letting one break my heart ever again. There is no such thing as a support system for guys who have been through that kind of hell since society literally coddles women and men don't matter most times. I wish no one ever had to experience what I did but I know deep down many of us guys are dying inside every day, and for that Amala I sincerely thank you and other tubers that have been calling attention to this as it really needs to be put in the spotlight. I fear the damage may be too great however but hope will out as they say
"why are you, as a man, on twitter? go make some money, go blank in a war" (where blank is a word youtube doesnt like so i have to type that or my comment will be deleted) anyways that is a direct quote from shoes twitter
Hope you are doing well, brother. We are here if you need to vent.
ironically I'm not on twitter, I usually watch a couple videos on youtube before bed after work... aaaaaand I now own my own place, vehicle and toys. I'm good lol@@bradleyamos9519
Appreciate it bro, but I got over it I'll sometimes throw my two cents in like most of us. It's life, it gets hard and we harden too hahaha that could be taken the wrong way@@michaelhodnett431
My story is similar brother. I have completely given up on western women and anything serious with ANY woman. I can be miserable all by myself, why would I want to be miserable because of someone else. I want peace and contentment, not drama and lies.
I've never hated women but some of the awful misandrist shit that comes out in social media comments does make me reconsider that position from time to time.
Someone really needs to remind people that hate cannot stop hate. Hate only perpetuates and produces more of itself.
Yup, almost felt myself going down the same way, till I found an account that had a woman with a Sanrio pfp on a black pill page trying to remoralize people, she seemed so innocent, and it made me feel sad and glad, it tasted bittersweet
@@Randomlad56 Yeah, you see those every now and then, women who had fathers. At this point, better to be motherless than fatherless.
Women need to have their rights revoked for a while.
That's exactly why walking away from this dynamic between men and women, is the healthiest option.
@@TheEliminator1992 damn
As a 47 year old divorced single dad I ding the hardest part is that because I have experienced the love and relationship/marriage you really miss the companionship and physical touch, but I have not had that since last decade and have gotten used to the fact that I don’t meet the 666 criteria of being datable. I don’t do hookups and I don’t drink or drug.
When my kids are old enough I’m going to get my cave on a mountain with all my animals and be a hermit. In some ways I am looking forward to it.
It worked in "Thus Spoke Zarathustra" a book written by Nietzsche. 10 yrs in a cave alone nothing but living off the land and introspection. Pretty interesting read.
This is honestly extremely sad. This situation is exactly how you get people who go out and shoot or try to self delete.
When someone repeatedly gets beat down and told they are worthless the less mentally stable of them will snap.
Wether male or female suffering is suffering. Wether you have a pole or a hole is irrelevant. It disgusts me as a human to read some of these "womens" opinions.
1000%
They also take out frustration in school shootings too and rape cases too. What drives people to do mass shootings/ think about the suffering people are going through these days.
The child who is not embraced by the village will burn it down to feel it's warmth. - African proverb.
She has feminist intention. She want to disrepute conservatism. It is not like men get nothing in conservatism.
@@wolfgangfegelein2450 resistance creates friction
What's really sad is that people think Shoe0nhead is being genuine instead of just pulling yet another grift.
Being 45 years old, one failed marriage, one other long term relationship that failed as well, and not into hook up culture it's terrible being a man. When I was being raised by my parents they instilled the values of the day on how a man should be on both the friend to other guys and a lover to a woman don't gel with what society is projecting now. I'm not worrying about being left alone now if it's just the reality that the world is so self absorbed that I'd rather be by myself and keep my sanity anymore.
The world has become so woke that we've become apathetic to the point of "F your feelings either way.".
28 year old autistic man. Only this year I've been able to make strides in my life. I finally graduated college (10 years later) with two degrees (psychology and French), got a job at a classic car lot, and traded in my old econobox Kia for a more modern Jeep. Yet, I understand that it's not enough. It'll never be enough. I can't be good enough.
Keep pushing day by day
Acknowledge the progress you’ve made
Don’t compare yourself to others, comparison is the thief of joy
Keep gratitude in your heart, it is hard to be depressed and grateful
change your thoughts and root beliefs. love yourself so someone else can ❤
Great job with your degrees in college, keep up with the good work, you'll make it in the World no matter what
Many people in this world are bitter that their life is not trouble-free. Fate presents us with a series of challenges, most we can solve, some we cannot. The trick is knowing when to stop trying to solve the unsolvable and move onto something new. Whatever it is that you are not 'good enough' for, abandon it and find another challenge that is within your grasp; if you are not strong enough to climb a mountain, climb a hill instead. Do not be afraid of failure.
But nice job!
The very fact that conversations about men always translate into sex, risk of sbuse, and money making is enough to let you know men are dehumanized in 2023. We don't have subjective experience, we don't have suffering, we don't have worth, and we don't deserve empathy.
Fact. You're objectified too.
Our pubs are getting shut down etc all the while mom's clubs are allowed anywhere , libraries etc
Our escapes have been crippled , at home and out and about.
Women, children and pets are loved unconditionally. Men are loved solely upon what they can provide.
Chris Rock!
I've heard that and don't think that is universally true. When I met my soon to be husband he was between jobs and a single dad of 4. That didn't matter to me, and at the time, I was financially better off than him. Stuff like that just doesn't matter when you love someone.
Yes, there are superficial awful people out there that only want others in their lives based on what they can get out of you. I just think that there are still good people (men & women) that will want to form real connections. It just takes time to find them.
@@Cassiopeia_kammsure but let’s just be honest, men generally are looked at more for what they provide. Well women are looked at (on average, obviously there are exceptions) more for there inherit beauty and therefore don’t on average have to proof that they are worthy of love with action like men do
@@Cassiopeia_kamm I agree. There are still good people. However, their numbers seem to be shrinking! Sorry if I sound so jaded.
mostly true
I’m 42,retired and happy as hell.I have my dog,I’m not actively looking for a gf,and couldn’t care less.I collect and repair watches as a hobby.Everyone needs to find their own happiness,not seek it out from others.
Humans are social animals. Good for you if you don't need social interactions, but saying "Just be happy by yourself" is not helping.
Thank you. I was in a relationship for 12 years. About 5 years ago she passed away tragically. Took over a year but when i finally wanted to see other people, I'm thrown into the most nightmarish dating scene imaginable. In general women's expectations have gone through the roof, while men's expectations are literally just; "please see me as a human". I know there are a few women who care about men, but spending your life trying to find them under rocks feels like a waste of time after a while. Might as well just sit here and write stories or draw pictures. And the one person I did meet just wanted to try and manipulate and use me. It is rough out here.. but I still have hope!
I am truly sorry for your loss.
The irrational part of my brain fears that if I ever find my bride, God/Fate/The Universe will take her from me like some cruel joke.
I don't know why I think that. It's stupid. But I just do.
I am glad that you still have hope, and I wish you the best!
ty, and i used to have those thoughts too, like "what if something happened" how would i handle it." then when it actually did, its pretty much like living in the twilight zone for a while (she loved that show :)), and even still sometimes. but as sad as it is i wouldnt trade the years we had for anything. you just try and bring joy to the world on their behalf whenever you can. Sounds crazy but I think what is even tougher to deal with, is losing a long term relationship because one person never really loved the other and were just using them or whatever and end up leaving them for someone else. and the other person is left feeling used and abused and heartbroken. Those are the most tragic love stories imo. So I guess I would say don't fear it, but dont rush it. @@bros4654
We're pretty close on the timing for making it through dating and marriage. I couldn't imagine having to go back into the dating scene as it exists today. I just couldn't do it. I'd stay single. It was bad enough when we went through it when dating apps and smartphones were just starting to catch on, but it's saturated now. You've got it rough and you're brave for sticking with it. There is maybe some hope in that there's a collective awareness now that we can't keep doing it. Practically everyone agrees that the dating game is horrible now, and while there are big disagreements over the how and why, I think people are finally ready to fight against it. Maybe in a few years, there will be some bigger spaces to find people that are willing to treat others as human beings.
damn, I'm worried now about my daughter now. She's still a kid but I don't want to imagine how the dating world will be when she is in the age slot. "Fortunately" she's a girl because I know that for boys is far worse currently. But still I don't think women are happy either with this
as a white male who grew up in a black area I can tell you every day is a struggle with x'ing myself. These videos are great ty they make me feel less crazy. My whole life has been people telling me to feel bad for what I am. dude it sucks. ty like you have no idea watching this at 4am is just like a light. thanks.
Loneliness is real not because I’m a man but I’ve felt this my entire life. I’ve made friends, have a wife, kids. I love them all but there are moments I feel so alone because when I try to talk about my feelings or how I see the world it’s like I’m an alien speaking a different language. It’s hard for me to find people that fully understand me and where I’m coming from. Very few do.
Leftist ideologies are convincing people that everything is wrong until everything is fixed. You're supposed to hate the space you're in until "they" solve it all. Trying to point out where things are good and what others can do to get themselves there is now taught as extremism.
Swap out the word 'lonely' for 'stoicism' because you literally just described it as a man, but your layout of loneliness sounds very feminine. Men should speak from stoicism, women should speak from loneliness. All that stuff that you love about your family but sometimes still feel like the only man in the world, because you are totally meant to feel like that bro. Basic instinctive stuff that we have been manipulated into thinking we are not. We are basic animals, not sophisticated humans.
I used to think this way but I found my people through an online community that I eventually meet up in real life. I hope you don’t give up to find your people.
Loneliness is real. Stop shaming him for having feelings.
Dude, find some veterans to talk to. Hang with them. At some point, you'll be camping, staring at a fire, and it will happen. See, vets have NOTHING to prove.
U are alone. We all are. It's like I tell my boys "there ain't nobody coming". U are it. There isn't nobody else coming to save u. This society keeps its foot on mens neck until they see checking out as a reasonable conclusion to the problem. Not as mental health issues. We are here to work and that is all. They will extract every resource out of u until the day u die. Yes my friend u are alone standing in a crowd. Believe it.
Glad I was a young man in the 80s. Huge night life scene in my location, the guys were after the girls and the girls were into it, fitness was in, economic status wasn't too important, and we partied like rock stars!. I knew we had it good, but looking back, I realize we had it really really good. Had a ridiculous amount of fun in the 80s and 90s.
I just worked thorough my 20s (I gave up on dating at 23, once I realized that I prefer being alone and at peace, rather than being constantly stressed out by my promiscuous exes)... Almost 30 now, saved around 13 months of my current salary, (which is around 3x of a national's average) - yet it still is far from what I'd need to be homeowner and I'd have to be insane to get a mortgage in these times. So I just work, sit on my money, enjoy the online entertainment and avoid most human interactions outside the work. I think I might have turned into a schizoid. At least I have no worries / depression, even though from an outside perspective I am just "surviving - not living".
Sometimes I wish I had. I had so many chances back then but even at the time I didn't trust women. Some girl would come on to me (which had to really obvious or I wouldn't notice) and I'd immediately go into defensive mode. It seemed like all they were looking for was to get a little meal ticket put in their womb - all of my friends either fell prey to this or barely dodged the bullet. Even in the early 90's most chicks were going to end up single welfare moms, and from what I saw, half of them did it *on purpose*. I subconsciously stopped caring about having anything to do with them. Looking back I can't help but wonder what I missed, but at the same time, you can't really miss what you never had, right?
I know youre not at fault but, i just feel the need to say that as a 21yo right now im fucking fuming
I think genZ doesn't understand why millennials hate boomers with a passion. genZ have only HEARD of how good the boomers had it across everything, but us millennials SAW how good it was when we were kids, but the ladder kept on getting pulled while we were in the workforce and still is happening. That includes how good it was with the dating scene with no dam phones or internet crap. It is what it is but the real reason we hate the boomers is, because they keep gaslighting us how it's all our fault for our current situation as people like OP who are self aware about how good they have it, are a very rare breed among boomers. @@themaxterz0169
@@themaxterz0169 I agree this is very unhelpful lol.
Sometimes life just says no, doesn't matter how hard you try to move forward but life says no.
Life be like, “YOU SHALL NOT PASS!”
Except if you have a passport. Then you shall pass 😊
its over
There's two ways to go...improve on yourself to come up to meet the woman you've been shooting for, or lower your standards to a more realistic bar.
Sometimes God says no
I’m lonely. I don’t have friends, my own brother doesn’t spend time with me, women don’t want me because I only make enough money to pay my bills and get groceries. I haven’t walked away, life has just kind of made the decision for me. It hurts but I have to live with it
I was like that too. Till I was about 25-30 years old.
@@trashcan2088 unfortunately I’m 38. Hopefully it’s not too late
@@davidcoleman730 Well, it does get better for us men. Hell, if you wanna know an example. Back then There was this woman hanging around me all the time. Even daily, all day. This had went on for about a year or so. Then, one night, about 9 PM. She was visiting me and my mom. Oh ya, I forgot to mention this took place at my mother's house, not mine. Me and this woman, Rose, were sitting at the dining room table just talking about whatever in general. Mom decided to take a nap on the sofa. The sofa is only about 20 feet from us. The lights were off, and the only light we were using was the light from the porch lamp outside that shone in through the kitchen window.
(I often sit alone in the dark. I'm kind of a stealth person that likes to think a lot)
Meanwhile, back at the ranch, This woman Rose, got up. walked around the table, without a word said. NOOOOOOO WARNINGS AT ALL! She just undid me & took out my stuff, got snoopy's attention, And dropped the box on him. That was 56 years ago, back in 1994. Been together ever since and now we have got a 13 year old daughter too.
When I was in my late teens, early 20's, I got jumped by a few other women too. they were older women, The first was 43, the second was 39, the third was a dam hot looking 52. EVERYONE of them snuck up on me and coaxed me into their houses. ALONE! By the time I realized what time of day it was, those women had done had their way with me and had their fun. That went on for about 5-7 years non-stop, day in, and day out, and they even rode the pony half the dam night too. After all that in my life, I had thought it was finally over and it was safe for me to roam about again. WRONG! AGAIN! That's when Rose happened.
So, ya see. Life does get better. No whips. No chains. None of the wild & crazy toys & stuff some of those women did and liked to do. Just a NORMAL, EVERYDAY, PLAIN, SIMPLE, woman. You'll see. Hang in there.
If your brother doesn’t want to spend time with you, what are you doing to make that happen?
I cannot tell you how many times my exes got pissed off at me because I didn't want to go out so I could save money literally to get a working car so I can keep my job. It's all about what they get and none of what you actually need.
My great grandfather told me once, and he only told things once because there was no need for the second time:
When you see a bunch of people doing stupid stuff, leave them. They will end it themselves fast.
If you go and tell them they are wrong, you will just spark a flame of rebellion which will last for a long time. Now,
they have an enemy to defeat.
Nature will always balance itself from time to time, and no matter how hard we try (humans) we are a part of nature and are subject to its laws...
For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction- sir Isaac Newton...
Damn that's good. I wish I was close to my papa before he died in 2014 😢
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Natural selection! LOL.............. It doesn't work fast enough though...........................stupid people have kids way to fast........................and they don't even need to pay for them..................they get the hardworking taxpayer to pay for them..................
he was a smart man
I'm 25 and already lost hope, I'm trying to look, but everywhere I look I only see fool's gold and no real gold. There are real problems in today's society we need to fix fast, and I really hope to see us turn this train to hell around before I die.
If you can see a way for 6 decades of damage be undone in less than 6 decades I am sure plenty of people would like to hear it.
Make money go overseas my friend😊😊
Sadly, this is one reason for the increase in self ending among people....loneliness.
after my parents die its bye bye
Only weak people commit suicide.
Apart from the pendulum swinging back on the leftists in a retaliatory way, do the liberals think that the dating pool is infinite? If men check out of the dating scene and the will to build relationships which lead to family creation, heterosexual woman's options/opportunities will greatly diminish leaving woman equally lonely. And even those men that don't retreat from dating will want nothing to do with woman who hate men as ardently as leftist woman. It's basically a blueprint for opting into spinsterhood. It'll turn from "woman don't need men to please themselves" to "I can't get a man to please me so I have no choice but please myself" especially as they get older because the loudest voices against men are the new, radical generation that think theyll be young forever. It's already happening.
Oh Lord. All hear is men blaming women and women blaming men. And they all talk like 14 year old despite being grown adults.
No doubt parent(s) are to blame, but for a generation or two we're going to see a big chunk of the population go extinct. I can't see that this is a bad thing. Most of them appear to be incurable. They prefer to listen to influencers on the Internet that are the same as they are, rather than grown men that have lived a life and raised a family.
Statistically single childless women are happiest and married men. There is clearly benefit for woman to not settle and stay lonely or get the best man possible.
@@PGHEngineer Men bad. Men BAD! MEN BAD!!
Wow, what an interesting person you are.
That's why something like 45% of 30 year old woman are going be single by 2035 or whatever the stats were. They have their "fun" with men that only want to get in their holes in their 20s and then in their 30s no one wants them. But it's all average men's fault if you ask soyboys like PGHEngineer.
@whatever_111 And yet there are huge number of women complaining "where have all the good men gone?". It's almost as if self-reported claims of relative happiness are meaningless. When people can have a blood test that measures exactly how happy someone is, maybe it will be relevant.
As a middle aged white male, rather than un-aliving myself... I opted to buy a cabin in the mountains get some animals and haven't had human to human contact in 3 years. It's not really a very satisfying existence, but at least I was able to achieve a negative carbon footprint without offing myself.
Dude you have now made me realize that since your experience wasn't satisfying, it probably won't be for me, so I will pass on the isolate from society off grid phase. And I'll be real with you, not to crush your positive thoughts, but there like 500 rich people who are gonna rev their supercars and private jets and which will turn negative carbon footprint of yours into nothing. I do want to know what you do in order to pay for that type of lifestyle, because I don't know what long term job I want but if it cant do something like that without the struggle of interacting with people, then I gotta know. Much Love Brother, God Bless.
@@AnEnjoyerofRUclips I am aware that my negative carbon footprint is basically 1 less cow fart than would otherwise be. But, I'm not hurting anyone while still existing was more the point.
Anyway, as far as income is concerned, I mostly am a maker. Woodworking, metal work, I make anything from furniture to metal or wooden sculptures. I have a dump truck so sometime I haul gravel or mulch for people. I also have a sawmill so I collect tree's that fall in storms or just die for whatever reason and I turn them into live edge planks which is actually really good money. I also am a photographer so I sell images online as stock photography. I do printing too I have a 12 color pro-graph printer and I also have cnc lasers, and routers .. I mean, if it's a skill i have and there's a way to monetize it, that's what I do through my LLC.
You'd be amazed at how many things you get good at when you don't have anyone to distract you.
Is there road access to your cabin? If so, consider a motorcycle.
@@233kosta I have a 1972 Honda Cb 350 that I restored a few winters back.
@@lesscoRyden Noice! Do you ride much?
The number of single men among my friends is going through the roof…they dropped all interest in dating and decided they’re happier without a woman in their life’s, and I started to agree… They’re cooking their own food, clean by themselves and consider sex not worth inviting the back drama and dismissals back into their life’s.
what's weird though is unless a specific percentage of have MULTIPLE full time girlfriends, then the amount of single people must even out.. because our society is divided like 50/50 by gender. When you take all the single females into account, the whole 'male loneliness' thing stops making sense because it must affect both genders equally.. unless there are thousands upon thousands of lesbians? Something just doesn't add up.
@@VexaraxThe amount of single people of both sexes at any given moment is equal. However, there is a very clear disparity of how the sexes experience this loneliness. To a man being lonely means that you can't get a date, period. To a woman, it means that all of your dates pump-and-dump you, which lots of people may not even register as a problem. Women can always rationalize it as "finding herself" or "having fun".
@@Nethan2000 when you say “to a woman” you’re only referring to promiscuous women with low standards, which also applies to all the single men who are promiscuous and have low standards - which again both equal out as they all always seem to find each other.
Speaking as a female who has been single and celibate since 2011 now due to total lack of potential partners and being very introverted (and admittedly I have a general lack of interest in relationships).
And yes a woman could easily get some drunk old guy at the pub to sleep with her, but a guy could also get some drunk old lady at the pub to sleep with him. For the most part, neither gender wants that as it’s not actually satisfying. Yet men always act like it’s only women who can easily hook up with low quality people (“pump and dump” as you called it.. not taking into account that there still has to be a man _doing_ the pump and dump, who was able to get a date or at least a one night stand with said woman. She couldn’t pump and dump herself)
@@Nethan2000 so who is pumping and dumping all these women if men cannot get dates as you claim?
@@Red_Leviathan so same type of men, not all, that women run around trying to get commitment from (and end up becoming a side chick or a sex toy to them).... to end up saying things like ''where did all the good men go??''
We don't "Stay in that pit of loneliness" , we are put there.
I am an decent looking guy, work out regularly, groom myself, a skilled handyman and make a decent salary in IT. Every girl I've dated cheated on me. What exactly do I have to take responsibility for and become a better person ? Better persons are getting used exactly for being such.
Nope. You are not getting used for being a better person. You were cheated on by women who cheated.
However, not all women cheat, if you don’t want to be cheated on, don’t start cheating yourself, but try and find the women who doesn’t cheat. Expressing your views, expectations and own behaviours opening up communication is likely to be more useful for you to weed out the baddies.
@@hamster4618 Yes, I do keep saying that to myself, but at the end of the day if 10 out of 10 girls cheated, we have to acknowledge that statistics is exist for a reason :D
@@Ujaah yes, that statistically you now had all cheating women you could have. So no more.
You only mentioned your physical self. Maybe your a jerk?
Why do you keep choosing women who cheat on you. Maybe you’re subconsciously choosing terrible women.
Problem is a lot of this information wasn't available when I was younger. I was sold a crap dream about marriage and family. I got married young. Busted my ass for years. She was a stay at home mom while I worked 50 to 70 hours a week to provide. Found out she had been cheating on me for 5 years out of 10 with the latest being my best friend. Took my 3 kids. Now I owe the woman that traumatized me and tore my life apart 30 percent of my income and she has turned my kids against me. My life is ruined and nobody gives a shit if I can even survive. That was 6 years ago and it doesn't let up or get better. The worst part is what it does to u inside. The old me before is dead. I used to be a people person now I'm an imvert and avoid people in general. Once your in the system it doesn't turn u loose. There is no hope. Good luck out there gentlemen. I hope your story is better than mine
I’m sorry you’re going through this man. Stay strong. Get in the gym. Make your ex regret doing this to you, but do it by elevating yourself. Take care brother. Be strong.
Think about something else you would like to do, somewhere else you would like to be. Set fresh, interesting goals you are able to reach. Turn away from the past and face a better future. If you make yourself happier, your history will not be as painful.
Man that’s awful. We as a society have failed men
It starts with the mindset. Find a change of pace. Six years is long but not in the grand scheme of life. It will get better. Life is a roller coaster of ups and downs.
It's completely f$cked, I have multiple friends and a few uncles in your exact same situation. I turns good men into indentured servants essentially. The worst part is when you talk to the average woman about it, their response is "well if you didn't want to pay, then you shouldn't have kids". It's like "wtf, at what point does it take 30k+w a year to feed kids and buy them school supplies, plus why is there no auditing system so we can see where the money is spent?". That's when you realize its all a money racket and the government always gets its cut. They don't care how many men die in the process, all that matters is the money keeps flowing to the companies women waste it on and they get to pocket some cash along the way.
It's destorying the most productive members of society in order to prop up the economy and maintain easy votes.
I hate what our society has done to men. And to women for that matter.
Society didn't do this to men; women did.
@@treelinehuggerWomen just leveled the playing field. White men, especially have big problems with people doing that.
Same. That’s why I’m literally annoyed with our society. Woke people🤡
@@ohhweeeee I'm sorry but women get specific advantages that men don't. We didn't make it equal, we gave them more so they could succeed. Get your facts straight clown. Also, if you have a problem against men not being okay with women being equal, white men are not your problem, it's mostly brown arab men. The most anti-LGBTQ demographic is also not white men, it's black people. I can go down the list clown.
And society is comprised of people....men and women. So...??
I thought I found the woman of my life, 4 years ago, she was in the military beautiful, smart, but she had the unfortunate genetic code for schizophrenia. I tried to take care of her for a a subsequent 3 years, in that many years, she cheated, prostituted herself, hit me physical abuse, drug addicted. Now I am going through recovery, and looking at dating at some point in the future and I dont even want to try looking at what the dating world has become. Doesn't help having this "Aww pooor baby men" reaction. I am pre-resigned to just live that life where I live life for nothing. Because I've come out of a half a decade being beaten, gaslit, and emotionally blackmailed, only to be told on the other end of the tunnel that boo hoo? Prepare for the mother of all suicide epidemics, SOON.
Surrender your life to Jesus Christ, I promise you it’s works he took all my pain and suffering away, just turn to Jesus and I promise you everything will change and become more than amazing and always remember that their are some of us out there that love you 🙏
Damn I can't imagine how hard it is, but I wish it get better for you. Stay strong, don't give up. Cheers.
For what it's worth, a little message of support in your hardships, brother and fellow human
Being lonely around most of today's women is like being hungry in a sewer. You could "fix" how you feel....but at a huge cost.
Best analogy I've seen in a long time lmfao, goated
Well played,well played.
Before dating apps, guys were competing with guys in their own towns. And now it feels like we're competing with every other guy in the world. And I hate to say "competing" because that makes dating sound like a sport, but with how superficial it's become, it essentially has become one. And the whole concept around dating apps is literally judging a book by its cover. You can't possibly tell what a person's like just from their dating profile. So men who weren't blessed by genetics and shine more through their personality and internal beauty don't really have much of a chance.
Ahaha try to live in a country where there are more women than men. Try to look ok, but not 10/10 being constantly threatened by more successfull and beautiful girls)
It's not hellish, but aiming for a man for marriage and children... I'll probably end being a single mother(
I personally hate dating apps, it's always been such a weird concept to me to date someone and then try to make a connection, not make the connection and then date them to get to know them better. Instead of using those apps why not try finding low key social things you can do? Like board game nights with a local group of people or some kind of hobby you are interested in that you can do with other people. Then date them because you already like them and want to get to know them better.
@@stillframe5 100% agree
The thing is... most normal women (yes we're still out there lol) stay away from social media these days. There isn't any way to meet people though except social functions... which we don't really have anymore. Most dating apps i found were looking for one night's and they were cheating on their mate instead of wanting to have friendship or a true relationship. I don't like drama so quit trying. I know there are lots of lonely women too but it's not apparent for those on the right. Internet may end up being our doom as a society.
Find Jesus.
you are sooo right!!!thank you for sharing
1000000%! Thanks girl.
I tried social media after being alone for years but just bad luck. Women wanting money or to hook up or not being the Women in the pic. Being more old school it's hard these days.
@@roaminanderson9951 it sure is!
Except the last sentence I would agree pretty much 100%, religion and the idea of divine purpose is the root cause of a lot of these issues.
The sad thing is that the Good men (Morally good men, decent stable, understanding men) are more likely to be the ones committing suicide from loneliness.
That'll probably be me at the rate I'm going. I'd much rather that than turn bitter and violent.
I'm not sad, it's a form of despair. It physically hurts. Society expects me to put myself back together again and again. And I'm tired.
As someone who is Japanese, I can confirm the "hikikomori" is 100% true, my male cousin is a part of them, the last time I visited I didn't see him once. He only comes out of his room in the early hours of the morning to get some food, my family conditioned me and my sister to not come out of the room we were staying at until 5:30, because my cousin just does not want any interaction with anybody, it made me very sad since I was looking forward to seeing him after 6 years of not being in Japan.
Not meeting society's expectations can mess you up quite thoroughly.
@@fietereim8190 Yeah...He doesn't know what to do with his life
Probably not helpful but next time ignore her, give the hug and tell him you care about him, and that if he needs or wants help to contact you.
That may be enough to make a start on re socializing him.
We need to support each other. Do not let society coerce YOU into not supporting the men that need it because YOU CAN SEE he is ALL BY HIMSELF. The society NOR THE FAMILY will stand up to assist. This is sad but we need to rally together.
I loved her take on the sound of freedom. I love how she thinks normally and calls out the main stream media for being ridiculous
We don't have a fatherless problem. We have a single motherhood problem. And this problem ties in well with the topic of this video.
Hell yea dude! I hate the fact that I harbor so much resentment towards my mom. But she caused damage to me that is going to be expensive to reverse. I'm single because of issues that she instilled in me as a child. If I never have children the only good thing about it is that she'll die without the grandchildren that she wants so bad. If I do have kids I'm never leaving them alone with her.
I'm 45 years old and with a partner for over 15 years now.
I feel sorry for the men growing up and try to approach a woman today. Say hi and get the called out on social media for being a creepy. Then hearing woman "can't find good men"... 😢😢😢
The laws need to change, a wife can leave you and take 1/2 of your assets. Women can lie and get you put in jail.
No law forces you to marry. Just date and don't have children if you aren't willing to support them.
1/2 of your assets that you built when she was home taking care of your children while all you did was bringing a paycheque aka building those assets? Wives don’t leave loving, supportive and faithful husbands. The RP community keeps lying to you.
@@talibahonyebuchi9980 If we produce a child, you won't be able to force me away. 🙂 I'm 66 and was married for 34 years and no children, just raised her 2 children (no, not the same as your own). The break up laws need to change.
@@happilydivorced3235 What? Him working is way more important than you being a girlboss to the kids telling them what a horrible man their father is 24/7. Wives leave good men all the time. Found the misandrist.
@@happilydivorced3235 found the cat lady
The sad part is many of us would rather be lonely than deal with women. Truly it’s few and far between that women bring anything but misery. Avoid them in public and avoid them at all cost at work. No need to be celibate. Just don’t become mentally or financially involved. I don’t buy that men don’t have the confidence to approach a woman. They just know better.
After a few serious girlfriends that I chose not to marry, I sowed my wild oats with many women for about 12 years. I got it out of my system and now I live alone at 68 and need not answer to anyone. No 'Peg' eating Bon Bons sitting on the couch getting fatter and barking orders.
@@annode Sounds like you did it right. If I could do it all again I’d move to some remote place and stay there.
@@TFWS6 I moved to the heart of my city, but that another problem I'm not going into. Yeah, I sometimes wonder how men (and women) manage to live happily ever after together. The ones I know who have done that are rather average and sometimes dull people. Those who want the American dream with 2.5 children and a dog. Some women will get a guy who is a good provider for a family. Then when the kids are out of the house she leaves the man for someone else. But that's just nature.
The reason why people act like psychos on the internet more often than in person is there are no consequences online in most cases.
and its often anonymous.
I got married and had kids as a way to hedge against this problem and at the end of the day, I've never been lonelier. I should've stuck with my friends.
The long tradition of monogamy IS part of the problem. No one feels completely satisfied with their social lives, unless they get to spend some quality time with people who are exceptionally charming. The problem is, there aren't nearly enough of them. And those rare times when you DO encounter them, they are almost ALWAYS already in an exclusive relationship. You can't blame people for wanting to spend most of their social time with their favorites. But I think society would function MUCH better if those exceptionally charming ones would at least spend SOME of their time getting to know the ones who aren't so lucky. At least then, people would feel like they have SOME HOPE of having that kind of satisfying social life. If you keep hearing "Sorry, I can't take the time to get to know you. I'm already with someone." then you feel like you have NO HOPE. I always feel like I'm playing musical chairs. And when the music stops, the only chairs available are the ones that COLLAPSE.😕
imagine your kids reading this'
About 4-5 years ago I decided to stop trying to find romance or go outside unless it's time for work. Finding a significant other was so demoralizing and ruined my self esteem. I'm lucky I have friends still or I'd have no social interaction at all anymore besides convenience store clerks and customers at work.
Amen brother, I'm the same, I know I can get women but it's just not worth the effort and I've gotten to a point where I'm happy to just stay home except I don't have any friends anymore the only person I have left is my 16 yr old son and he's moving to the other side of the country with his mother because her and her partner have way more money and can give him more stuff and I get looked at like a loser even though for 9 yrs of my life child support took so much money from me and financially crippled me and no one cared that I couldn't afford to live.
I've had to rely more on the kindness of strangers than friends and family.
Gone through similar...and I find some solice in friendly interactions with people in the service industry.
yeah I have literally zero interactions with anyone outside of work or the grocery store now.
As the mother of a 14 year old white straight boy, this is a worrying trend. It's odd too that if I ever bring it up to other moms they completely disregard it; meanwhile I have known white boys as young as 7 who are anxious, depressed, ashamed, and wondering why it's always "men's fault". I know Amala laughs about not being appropriate for teens, but I play Unapologetic or Jordan Peterson in the car with my son, and we as a family mostly avoid social media. I make sure he understands that the perspective he gets at school (Bay Area public schools), is not the only way to look at the world and that he is not responsible for what anyone who resembled him has ever done in the past.
Feels like you are a good mother. I think parents should know if their children are able to work with alternative world views. I think Mr. Peterson can be hard to understand sometimes, but Amala is great! It also shows your son there are different women than maybe he encounters in the school :-)
You already screwed up by playing Peterson, hes just Andrew Tate with a different coat of paint
The most important thing is for him to learn how to function in society in the current day. I believe I grew up with great values, nuclear family and all that but in trying to create the same life for myself, I did not function well because things have changed.
@@rjframe4410 Tate has done bad things, but has good messages. Not everything he says but some of it. If they shouldn't listen to them, who should a young man listen to that has the knowledge of how the world works in present day.
Yet another poor soul that will be put in Tartarus in 4 more years. In tartarus, hope does not exist.
I’ve been feeling this way for so long I can’t remember what it was like not to. There’s ZERO hope out here for men.
Sure there is. Guys, you live in America in 2023! I could understand your hopelessness if you are poor or mentally Ill but you cannot say that all men have it bad in America. We are much much luckier and better off to live today as opposed to what our ancestors went
Through . I think watching too much doomer content is making you guys more depressed
It's not only America...
@@brianmeen2158we are not in america. Its happening in europe too. Our ancestors didnt have to deal with this. Modern men all have to worry about false accusations at work and being called creep all the time. If the woman doesnt find you attractive, you are creepy.
@@brianmeen2158The risk reward ratio is not worth it. Women are screwing over men at a record rate. Divorce is more popular than commitment and men take the hit. Financially it's just a gamble not worth taking, especially after going through it once. Just numb now
Got some news for you Brian..
Lots of people are pretty poor. There is a lot of mental illness. The reasons for this are complex and myriad and you should probably research a little more. Eventually, this will have a societal impact that will effect everybody. Everybody.
I definitely can relate to the loneliness. Dating hard out here. I'm 33, I've been trying to ask girls out for years and after a while I get tired of the rejection and don't even want to put myself out there much anymore. I know I'm a decent looking guy and a strong in my Christian faith and handy at building and fixing things. I stay in shape but my height at 5'4" has always been the main reason I can't get a woman to take me seriously. I have kinda forgot the feeling of what a woman's touch feels like after 9 yrs of nothing.