My Most Difficult Challenge In Music
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
- In this video I discuss how I have coped with my learning disability. I have always had tremendous difficulty with reading comprehension. This video is the story on how my Mom, Sports and Music were instrumental in helping me overcome it and go from being a D- student to becoming a college professor.
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I remember telling Rick - “just tell Mom and Dad your test scores were out of a possible 50 points”.
Haha!!
Sounds like all of you have a strong, loving family, and your mom was a key element in that.
Hahahahaaa, nice one.
@@joe-e-geo very true. It's where the system "see one, do one, teach one" is derived. When you can teach something, you have to understand it explicitly not just intuitively.
@@RickBeato Hi rick, have you thought about doing a 'What makes this album great' ?
Rick’s story telling ability 11 out of 10.
Agreed he is a beast storyteller. AND teacher.
I'll second that.
This video is really special and caught me by surprise.
@Ellis Ray Because this comment belongs in a video about a great person's real struggle with life. Whatevs...
I'm a retired Engineer and I'm in awe of Rick's understanding of music and ability to teach it to others. I have arthritis now and bought a guitar, which I never had but wanted. So now I'm learning from Rick, and trying to keep my hands nimble.
:)
"They don't know how to teach you" - from today's perspective, Mrs Beato not only stood up for her child, she actually had some insight into how the mind works.
This applies for jobs as well, I used to overthink when getting rejected on job interviews, now I think those companies are not good for me. They don’t know the value and impact one has.
This reminds me of Gary v saying: 'I didn't fail at school. School failed me'
Just to clarify for those reading, Christian means follower of Christ, who forgave his enemies even as they were killing him . . .
@@NickNicometi I am in no position to diagnose anyone, not to mention diagnose texts written online, but my humble guess would be the real reason for the fire and no elaboration on the spot might have been some anger issues on your part.
@@NickNicometi You sound rather stuckup, judgemental, egocentric and even aggressive in that post.
Hi. I’m a teacher. Something that really struck me about what you said was “I was a bad student.” When you said that it hurt my heart. It bothers me that to this day you have internalized that. When I was in elementary and high school, NO ONE would have imagined that I would become a teacher because I really was a difficult student, I was constantly fighting - like physical fistfights and I’m female 😂. When I went to teachers college, about 99 percent of the other students were “good kids.” And I think one of the reasons teachers don’t know how to teach students with different learning needs is that they lack empathy. They never were the “bad student” or the “bad kid.” And these teachers who lack empathy, some of them become professors at teacher’s colleges, and they perpetuate the way teachers treat students with different learning needs. And I don’t think these people want to lack empathy, I think they just never had the experience so they don’t even realize they are missing it. The way we train teachers needs to change. In my opinion this is one of the roots of the problem. Regardless of my personal feelings about a student, I NEVER want that student to think he is “bad,” or “stupid,” or incapable. Because when we fail to create opportunities for success for our students, our students internalize this idea that they “can’t” and that’s why many adults “don’t,” because the idea of being limited was artificially imposed on them.
Some people become teachers at something because they were "good" at "doing" that thing, not that they were "good" at "LEARNING" that thing. So. And here is my empathy for the teacher. Some of these teachers really don't know how to show someone else who "does not get it" how to work into it. I remember trying to teach someone the (2 + x) x (3 + y) = equations, and thought I would be good at helping them because I LOVED those equations in school. But they just did not get it. I have often thought. Now. Years later. How I did not spend enough time to figure out what part of the path was missing for them and how to guide them along that path, or figure out how to get them to look at that path from another viewpoint so they could travel down it themselves. I was a . Bad teacher. In that moment. For that friend.
Beautifully said - and the way we prepare teachers *does* need to change, and I pray that it will, for the sake of ALL learners! 🙏🙏
I've struggled with a learning disability my entire life. A lot of the reason I still struggle and think badly of myself is that when I was having the most difficult times with passing classes and feeling the worst about myself I had teachers I looked up to become frustrated and give up on me. It was so demoralizing that to this day as soon as I begin to struggle I give up. It's only since 2013 when I met my best friend I've begun to do better at certain things such as learning how to be better at writing. He's got a 149 IQ and is amazingly smart but he also has patience and constantly encourages me by going slow and helping me take things step by step.
I just wish when I was a kid I hadn't been labeled as slow. It's had a hugely detrimental effect on my self-esteem. I've spent my entire life with low self-esteem and a lot of it was caused by teachers. Not all of them were like that but enough were that it's led to me not loving myself as much as I maybe would have had I had more teachers like you.
Excuse the cheesy comparison but Karate Kid. No such thing a as a bad student, only a bad teacher. I remember playing Mario Kart with my daughter. My wife was a bit concerned at first because I did not go easy on her. But when she did win, I didn't take it easy on her, she beat me.
"Don't tell your dad how much it costs!" I laughed but this also got to me... A Mothers sacrifice for her children can never be appreciated enough.
for me its the opposite lol
Deemed a bit dull until my mum complained and made the school test me. Turns out I’m dyslexic, alter the way I’m taught and no looking back. Thanks for sharing Rick, important message to get out there.
Love your Chanel, keep it up.
@@anniedarkhorse6791 my (single) mom bought me a guitar when i was 8..your comment is poignant!!
@@Tinbop I have a similar story - 3rd grade teacher told my mom she thought I might be "retarded". Mom said "he can't be, he takes things apart and puts them back together". Led to testing; resulted in placement in a higher grade and tutoring in what is now called STEM. That was back in 1966.
My mom watched (and loved it!) Beavis and Butthead with me, much to the chagrin of my dad. We always had to go watch on the little upstairs TV and just the thought of it would still annoy him. :-)
This video is actually a beautiful homage to your beloved mom, and to all other hero moms in history who relentlessly supported and encouraged their children. The future of mankind starts with the mothers.
Good word Andre For sure Fer Sha
It’s so much better when a parent supports you...not all have that luck.
Luckily, I have a similar "mom" story, beginning with "The Presidents of the United States" published by the John Hancock Life Insurance Company in 1962. Mine forced me to memorize the presidents in order. And she forced me to take guitar lessons that same year. Still can't thank her (✝ 2008) enough.
Starts with the good mothers indeed... which we could use more of.
And fathers! There are many opposite situations. Stereotypes are dangerous
I showed this video to my daughter, who is diagnosed with dyslexia and ADHD; we both loved it. Thank you for sharing.
Wonderful anecdote, my wife and daughter have dyslexia. I always tied my identity to smarts, until they taught me I was a little more dumb than I thought.
My son, who has autism and learning to play drums, is watching it right now. There's a lot of good stuff here that I know he can relate to, as well.
@@christian_esquivel You're absolutely not dumb because you have dyslexia. Also, you write perfectly for a dyslexical man.
My son has ADHD, dyslexia and a auditory processing delay. He is getting ready to head to a university for an Art major at 25! Don't let your learning difficulties define you!
Rick, your story touched me deeply. I spent a lot of my childhood and adulthood "behind"! I don't know what I had or have but it forced me to work harder than others to be at some "acceptable" level. I'm 68 and still looking for that thing that I'm good at. Maybe I'm just looking for the validation I never gave myself. Thank you for restoring my faith in myself. God bless you man!
Rick's mom always sounds like the biggest badass
Yeah, Rick's dad married well!
Because she was.
Moms can be that way!
🤣 RICKIE’s Mom...
Damnit that was awesome. You are rad and you are a great teacher.
This man is a national, no, an international treasure. It's really great to hear someone talk about difficulties of life with such empathy. Todays world - especially internet culture - many times seems tough and unforgiving, cold even. It's nice to hear and see Rick Beato talking about the things in life that actually are meaningful and not just fickle and cosmetic. Bravo.
Very well said, brother, and oh so true..
So true. International treasure!
Nailed it with this comment.
Absolutely
Perfectly stated. I relate to his experience. I had many of the same difficulties and found my passion in music and eventually psychology. Rick is authentic and a great human being.
Shoutout to Mama Beato. She raised a jewel of a teacher/artist/human 🙌
Indeed.
Amen to that. :)
What a great mom. I'm happy you chose her for your mom, when you were but a spirit hovering over the land. Well, that's not how it works, but who knows?
This really strikes a chord with me. I have had ADHD since I can remember and thought I "grew out of it". Albert Einstein wrote, “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” The question I have for you at this point of our journey together is, “What is YOUR genius?”
Thank you, as an asperger and heavily ADHD dude, I appreciate this comment because I can relate to it.
Always remember, those "illnesses" are only viewed and treated as such, because our society wants it's people to develop on a very slim path.
ADHD, or forms of autism, like Asperger's are just character sets which are not based on that slim path.
Find a path where your specific character can shine in, and you see that those things society wants you to feel bad, or weak about, are actually a form of strength, when lived right.
@@philkonestos2837 I totally agree, these illnesses dont actually exist..They are like you said "Character sets" or different states of minds.. Not to say that people dont suffer alot from these but they are not actual diseases. Just made up by mens to try and categorise Characters and behaviors. They are certainly not out of the ordinary and seems to be pretty common in human beings.
@@endoffate5475 indeed. But most suffering comes from situations you're not made for.
I take an example from myself:
Currently I live next to a heavily used road, with a neighboors blasting bassheavy music all day.
All those noises give me a sensory overload, which results in a meltdown every 1-3 days. Screaming, self hitting all that crap.
But when I lived, and soon again will live in a quiet area, those problems are gone. And I can again focus on my strengths, platter detection, learning stuff, making music and so on.
So yes I suffer from things, but only because I am in the wrong environment for my character set, which would fall in the autistic "area of being*
But I do not suffer because of me being who I am.
And I think that is the case for most people.
But psychology tries to make us believe that suffering comes from us, not our environment.
Maybe because some people don't want to change the environment in a way all people can enjoy it and themselves in it. So we "blame" those who suffer by telling them they are defective in some way, while in fact it is society which is defected.
@@OO-np1ll I thought tinnitus was from damaging the inner ear with prolonged exposure to loud noise.
Like using power tools or rock concerts. I’ve learned to ignore the ringing.
I'm a School Psychologist who gigs as a side hustle. After nearly 30 years of diagnosing learning disabilities, I've learned that every student I've worked with is good at something. The problem is our industrial educational system. We have one set of standards that we expect everybody to meet. I wish we could broaden our system so that we could find what people are good at, and teach them what they need to know to pursue that thing. Thanks for your videos!
I was pretty good at school but not really good at any one thing in particular
I'd like to see term limits for Con-gress... never gonna happen. Nor will your excellent suggestions for education.
Maybe we should stop calling them 'learning disabilities'
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@@gastondeveaux3783 Yes! You're right. They're just differences. Unfortunately in our current system, in order to get services to get students support in dealing with the system, a label is required. I'd love to change that too.
To everybody reading this, this video is a great insight into how grades don’t ultimately define you at all. Don’t let bad grades let you down. Find your passion and take it from there, like Rick did with guitar. Don’t feel too stressed about school all the time.
Thanks, Sheev.
But what if you don't have a strong passion for any one thing
This means a lot, especially coming from a sith lord.
@@RickyWilder lol
@@user-wo5tc9ux7u well, I don’t know about that, have you really searched hard for a passion? There’s nothing that entertains you or are interested in? And it’s ok if you don’t have a passion right now, because there’s always a chance you’ll find it further down in life. Also maybe don’t get too caught up in finding a passion, just live life in the moment and maybe you’ll eventually find the passion. Also I don’t claim to be an expert at all so take this with a grain of salt.
This one gets me. My son is dyslexic and I was so hard on him in early elementary because he is super smart but I thought he wasn’t trying. Then he gets diagnosed and I apologize with tears. He’s like, “it’s ok, Dad.” He’s 6th grade now and doing alright. Thanks for this video, Rick.
Ex-girlfriend had undiagnosed Chrones disease for most of her first 25 years. Her family completely marginalized her as lazy and slow. After the doctors finally figured out what was going on on she hasn't spoken to any of them to this day. I'm so happy to hear that you dodged that kind of bullet. Live and learn.
Thanks for this one especially Rick sir....
Scottish 70’s racing driver Jackie Stewart went through school and was classed as stupid before dyslexia was recognised then later in life he was diagnosed as dyslexic. He gave his dyslexic sons a hard time over their school work.
My son is dyslexic and his 1st grade teacher said he should aspire to be an unskilled laborer as he is intellectually challenged. Luckily we sent him to a school for dyslexia in the area. He is a hip hop dancer, he loves to learn about and different cultures and history, and will talk your ear off with great observations and questions. He's just transitioned out of his school and is starting at the Charleston School of the Arts for singing, which also has a great academic curriculum. Luckily we live in a time where more of these issues are understood and treated. Sometimes your weaknesses force you to find other ways to express yourself, often at much higher levels... like Stevie Wonder and music.
I was diagnosed in my sixties as ADD and dyslectic. Everyone in public school thought I was lazy or stupid. My Mom sent me to parochial school (Catholic) to make me work harder. The nuns beat me unmercifully, humiliating me in front of the entire class. I got out of Catholic school and went to public school and started doing better. My Mom had my IQ tested and it was 130. The teachers where just ignorant, the nuns were sadistic. I was good in track, like Rick, and it was just great to find something you are better at than everyone else. It gives you that little bit of confidence that you can build on. People, who are not learning disabled, are incredibly lucky.
I'm 66 and was having a bad day... thankyou... I've had my learning and mental issues and fights my whole life... I am looking at retiring... today you got me to think about what I'm good at... the day has gotten better... take care... I will
As a guitar teacher I always looked for the struggling student and tried to find out “how does he learn?” I had one student that could finger the chords but couldn’t understand how to strum. He decided he was going to quit guitar. After talking with him I learned he loved dancing. I told him,
“ dance with your guitar.” In that lesson he learned the song . He left that lesson smiling and in love with playing guitar.
Good job Rod
What a great insight, my hat's off to you. I may wind up using that tip with a student some day.
My mother didn't say 'you are smarter than the teachers.' She asked me why I wasn't trying. I love my mother more than anyone it the world and honestly she didn't know what a learning disability was. However, I grew up dysgraphic and mildly dyslexic. Aptitude and IQ tests I took I scored very highly. My verbal score was at genius level in the top 1% and I scored very highly in spatial recognition as well but no one told me until I was an adult. That game you play with the half red and white cubes was easy for me and I loved the puzzles.
So, when I performed poorly in school my mother didn't understand. When she remarried a stern attorney he didn't understand, either. I am maybe 10 year younger than Rick but I still remember that time as a living hell. I remember being given writing assignments and having entire paragraphs in my head. However, when I went to write them my pencil was frozon on the page with me not being able to figure out what letter to write first. Like, I was seeing the entire paragraph or series of them not the sequence of letters that made them up.
Watching this I found myself wondering how different things might have been if instead I had been told I was smarter than the teachers and that they didn't know how to teach me. It isn't a 'woe is me' thing. Just admitting I am curious.
Eventually, I attended a middle school for learning disabled children and apparently learned enough to limp my way through high school. I didn't finish college and if I am being honest I still haven't found my place in life. Just do enough to make it to the next day.
I feel self-conscious banging this out but the vid inspired me to do so. It isn't just about me. I wonder how many others fell by the wayside because they didn't have someone curious enough to figure out how they best learn.
Thanks for this video, Rick.
God bless you, I hope a lot of parents, as well as teachers, will read this & learn how damaging their attitudes can be to a child. Children cannot explain what they are feeling, much less what they need from the adults in their life.
You are not alone, my friend. Peace and God's blessings be with you.
"I still haven't found my place in life. Just do enough to make it to the next day." This speaks to me, not about any learning disabilities but just how my life is in general.
I suggest you go see a doctor, it sounds like you might have ADHD. I don’t want to diagnosis you right here and now but it’s worth seeing someone about it. They might be able to get you help and turn your life around.
Tristram, focus on your strengths and be aware of the tricks you've developed to get around your challenges. Those should help you find your path.
I’m a special education teacher for an intensive autism class. I’ve heard stories very much like yours from a lot of parents and students, and they get me every time. Your story is an inspiration, Rick. You do more good than you realize by sharing it.
"They don't know how to teach you." Such wise words from your mom.
Too often kids that "fail" are the ones teachers can't (or refuse to) reach out to. It's easier to call them "bad" and give them an F and move on.
Thanks for being the teacher you are - you actually taught me real music and music theory.
I had hardcore ADHD, so bad I couldn't read or write properly by the time I got to 3rd grade. I was a curious and investigative boy. But school didn't teach me a damn thing. If it wasn't for my mom who studied WITH ME for my final exams i would never have been accepted to university. I graduated with a master's in philosophy, magna cum laude, and am now the CEO of a startup that offers students a platform for reading and understanding complicated texts. I feel you Rick!
I only learned I had ADD at 50 Years old. It explains so much.
I recall writing notebooks and notebooks trying to memorize multiplication tables, I still don't know them. But I can work them out pretty damn fast! Fractions, percentages etc. Anything that doesn't take long I'm good with, anything that takes more than a few seconds I'm done, brain goes elsewhere.
Same with guitar, but muscle memory is a life saver :)
@@marksvideochannel3592 This is my experience too. Diagnosed at 46 and I still don't know my time tables by rote. I thought I was stupid because all the other students could do it. But if forced me to do all sorts of neat tricks to work around it. Those tricks really honed when I took up playing 501 darts later in life. :)
I also loved the guitar and remember things I've not played sometimes for decades. I learnt the whole Eric Clapton Unplugged album by ear when I was a teenager (that poor tape machine nearly got worn out). I'm also a computer programmer. ADHD/ADD doesn't mean stupid. It means our brains function a little differently to the average. It's good. I mean heck Leonardo Da Vinci was almost certainly ADHD.
The interesting thing for me about reading was I could recall big plots and all sorts of dialogue from books I'm interested in.
Another ADHD’er here, I was a clinical social worker until the end of 2019, now doing audio full time. As many difficult things as ADHD brings, it also brings some wonderful things. Many many artists have adhd, I think it’s a key component in thinking out of the box and being creative.
Much respect for anyone who harnesses it and turns it into something that changes others’ lives in a good way.
Did Rick actually mention ADHD in the video? His story strongly evokes it anyway.
Dyslexia crushed me. I failed out of the 9th grade and went into the army. In the Army my Drill Seargent pulled me into his office and told me I was "Fucked Up" and sent me for tests to see if I had Dyslexia...he was right. He found it in two weeks when all my teachers diagnosed me with being lazy. Through the Army I learned how to learn...My life has been so much better since then. I ended up washing out of the Army, but that doesn't mean it didn't change my life for the better.
@JackSnack00 Wonderful story. Thank God for the DI. We all learn in different ways.
As a teacher myself, I can say that you are a brilliant teacher. I don't even know music or music theory but I watch you nonetheless because of your teaching ability. I wish today's education system would learn the value of teaching people according to their strengths.
I can listen to music theory like your video this week and my eyes glaze over and I have no idea what you just said or drew on the white board but I have to watch every one!
I told my teacher I would rather learn something more relevant to me and she gave us a lecture about why we can’t always do the thing we want
As a speech pathologist who has worked for years with children with different types of learning disabilities and delays, this brought tears to my eyes. You are so right that children can learn if we educators just find the right way to teach them.
Yes, I'm a speech therapist, too, and this rang so true.
@@91dodgespiritrt You obviously have had ZERO experience with children who have been EVALUATED and found to have different levels of learning difficulties. As a speech therapist who worked for over 30 years with such students AND raised three children, two who were identified as "gifted" and one of whom has Down Syndrome, I know what I am talking about.
@@91dodgespiritrt Oh a real tough guy, aren't you.
And I had a speech delay because of Aspergers, I didn’t know how to move my lips right to form words…
@@synthiamcbride7194 this guy definitely has an axe to grind. He has put a number of nasty comments to each sympathetic comment. I agree with your response!
Rick, I have a physical disability. Can't really speak, can't feed myself. Exhausted myself in postgraduate zoology where I topped classes I was initially banned from, had to take hiatus helping instruct care of my parents. All the while then, I was dealing with an abusive partner. Rick, music saved me. I began to set up a tiny computer midi setup once, but got burgled. Years of depression set in. All is ok now. I will go back to academia and volunteer in conservation once my remaining parent goes into care. I can't pick up any musical instruments, but Rick, your videos on music - performances, production and music theory, has really helped balance me through with my other passion of nerdy animal stuff! Thank you!!!!!!
Good luck to you. Best wishes from NZ. :)
@@marksvideochannel3592 hey, funny thing is, I am a NZer too! Cheers to ya Mark.
@@kayneich9573 Ha, what are the chances!!! :)
sometimes life hits you like a ton of bricks. hang in there 🤙
Oh wow, I'm in tears. I have an adopted child with a genetic condition who struggles so much academically that it breaks my heart. She is so kind and caring with people and animals and the most generous human being you could ever meet. Every child has gifts that need to be sought out. Love your channel Rick, your Mum and Aunt will be v proud.
Your amazing
Amen
Now Im crying too....❤
Sadly schools don't help kids zero in on their individual talents because they only have one curriculum
The main thing here: "Know thyself". It takes time and experience to realize that, but once you realize it, nothing and no one can stop you.
Awesome, lovely comment! Thank you :-).
I believe that was written over the Temple of Appolo. It's no cooincedence they no longer teach the Classics. "They" want you to be dumb. Just look around you if you need proof. If you crave sanity, look to Aristotole.
And “everything in moderation”.
@@Richard-1776 it was above the oracle of Delphi. (Sorry to be that annoying guy!!).
Steve Manning I too appreciate that comment!! Beautiful!!
I don't have a learning disability, but had a tumultuous childhood. Music saved me every day. It still does. Tumultuous is an understatement.
Likewise :)
The question must never be "How smart are you??, but instead be "How are you smart??" Great piece Rick !!
Oooh, I love that!
Interesting. I hope to apply that idea.
As a teacher, especially a special ed teacher, I love that . . . "Maybe the students are smarter than me?" So true, when you find out what they are interested in they can talk for hours about things I don't know anything about.
Also building on their strengths . . . you're a good teacher.
@@margaretford3387 , the problem with learning, not just in the USA, but worldwide, is that they always try to teach you to tests, the materials that are used are filled with biases, the materials that are used are filled with legitimate errors, and yet the teachers still think that they can teach you correctly in those teaching materials, and that the teachers are always peddling agendas rather than teaching to the strengths, weaknesses, and uniqueness of each student, which is why distance learning, as well as learning without books, and learning online, are all the true parts of the inevitable wave of the future when it comes to schools and learning in general. Were that not bad enough, then the schools fail to teach students how to properly thrive in social circles, as well as how to prepare oneself for a life that is beyond academia, and it is this essential path to self-destruction, and/or suicide, especially in places like China, Japan, Singapore, the UK, and the USA, especially in literal suicide, and/or mass school murders (though not all of them are committed by students, but the failure of former students is also included here for being also relevant to the post), as, without proper direction and purpose in life, one ensures their own failure in life.
The harsh reality is that these teachers are not actually interested in teaching, especially the ones that are shills for the learning companies, as a vast majority of those companies are not interested in actually teaching things, let alone relating to students on their level, but that they simply want to sell their products with little to no regard to the consequences of their actions, and/or any sort of accountability, and/or responsibility, and/or proof of the students actually learning the right way, let alone anything, out of their teaching materials. You yourself may be an exception to the rule, but the other harsh reality is that schools simply do not understand that their "one size fits all" education system ironically enough DOES NOT fit all, especially in your subset of academia. The logical solution would be to naturally make home schooling the law of the land, but then you run into some problems, namely, some students are in places where they are otherwise too poor to afford to get an education other than through public grants, some students, sadly, are literally homeless, some students are too far away to get proper distance learning, and, perhaps the worst one of all, there are some things that cannot be taught in books, like how to interact with the real world and how to not just survive, but to also thrive, in the real world. Things like this are also why we have economic meltdowns and phenomena like the classic "failure to launch syndrome", as well as super controlling, and super strict, parents, super permissive parents, super indifferent, and/or uncaring, parents, super abusive parents, and willfully absentee parents in the lives of these children, whom, in turn, repeat these cycles or snap and commit suicide, murder, or murder-suicide. Yes, what I said is indeed a grim picture, but it is also a real one.
2 professions I have the utmost respect for is special needs therapist and passionate special needs teachers.
I am a teacher. My son has a learning disability. This video is so inspiring! Mom was right. Not everyone learns in the same way. ( My son is now a teacher.)
I am just an anonymous oik in the UK who doesn't understand musical theory. However, I watch shedloads of your videos and and they are a sheer joy to watch. You ooze humanity, charisma and wisdom. On top of your obvious musical skills, of course.
This is my son.
My wife and I both have Master’s Degrees. My daughters are extremely high achievers. Yet my boy has struggles in school.
Trying my best to help him and make him feel whole.
Thanks Rick. My boy and I will be watching this together.
The edit was to clarify my son’s struggle.
He probably has his own passion that he just hasn't found yet - once he does, he will blossom.
My parents are both teachers and helped me in the same way. I was really smart, but had horrible reading comprehension. Hang in there! Your work will be rewarded when he finds something that "unlocks" his potential!
Thanks for being a good dad.
My problem was during repetition. My mind would wander while the teacher repeated stuff that I understood the first time around. Then they would pick up a new thread and I would miss some stuff. Keep an open mind with your son and try to find some enlightenment for both of you. Find out what he's good at learning and more importantly, HOW he learns about it.
Please be patient with him
How can anyone not love Rick? That’s one genuine dude.
Amen, everybody.
absolutely, a true gent.
I didn't recognize it as ADHD until I was an adult but when I was in school, every report card came with a note that would say "very smart but needs to work harder". I rarely had trouble learning things or picking up concepts but actually doing my homework was where I failed. I always loved the classes that weighted the tests higher than the homework because I could do that. My wonderful mom who had homeschooled me for a majority of elementary school was always trying different ways to help me actually do my homework. Thank you for sharing your experiences, Rick.
Yep, same for me finally diagnosed at age 40
So interesting! I'm mildly dyslexic and I always loved applied projects because I could take what I knew and use to it create something new. When it came to tests, I could never remember anything - my memory was total garbage. I was a great writer and student in the sciences but laughably bad at spelling or memory tests, in fact, got sub-par SAT and ACT scores because of it. I'd love to see our education systems grow to accommodate all these different learning styles so EVERYONE can be their best!
Same, I'm in the process of getting a diagnosis as an adult.
Same here. I was diagnosed in 8th grade and put on concerta for a few years. By sophomore year, I would take my medication and it started making me feel euphoric. Soon after I was switched to Ritalin instant release and then adderal instant release, which both had an even greater euphoria. As much as it helped me get things done, I didn’t like that I was constantly getting high from it, so I stopped taking it without telling my parents. Once I got out of high school and started community college I was taking classes I was actually interested in and was way better in school. On top of that there was less busy homework, which I hated, and instead more papers and tests which I excelled at. Looking back, I’m really happy I stopped taking those amphetamines because I know people who’ve been on them for over a decade and have a lot of problems when they try to get off of them. Additionally, I’ve always been a good learner on my own and have a great memory, but really only for things that I’m interested in. A lot of the subjects in public school growing up were monotonous and boring for me.
@@tomseiple3280 Steven Spielberg didn't know he was dyslexic until his 40s.
I watched this and found it both fascinating and heartwarming. Your mother must have been extremely proud of your achievements ...... worth every cent of the $120 she paid for your 12-string guitar.
My brother...you are preaching to the choir. I'm autistic, dyslexic, OCD...you name it. I'm a misfit and I'm ok with it. I appreciate that you are being open and honest, thank you.
I did poorly in school because I was suffering emotionally. Living hell!
If you read these comments I would say you're not a misfit. I'd say you fit right in with many of us. Peace and God's blessings.
@@notbraindead7298 notbraindead, at first glance, i thought your name was, notbranded, and I thought, that's a great name, i suffered horribly in school, but (i don't want to sound religious) GOD dose not allow, or more importantly, doesn't waste anything, especially events in our lives, im 52 old 2 days ago. Thanks for your comment, best wishes.
You are no more a misfit than Albert Einstein, Stanley Kubrick, Michelangelo, Mozart, Nikola Tesla, Sir Isaac Newton, Charles Darwin, and so many more notables who were almost certainly coping with Asperger's. We, those with high functioning autism, are just people with brains optimized for technical tasks.
I'm adhd.
I was 38 before I was tested. Dyslexic and dysgraphic. Yes, I went into music and repair of instruments. Also taught. School destroyed so many lives. Weak home life. Alone most of the time outside school. School was Hell. Thanks Rick. We beat the odds. Many like us are on prison. Peace.
Robert, it sounds like you prevailed through some difficult (painful) circumstances. Good luck and may God bless you.
My sister has a similar story. She was not very good with studies. She barely passed high school. And I was the complete opposite of her, I mean good at studies. But my Father never discriminated among us. He always knew my sister had potential for music since a very young age. My mom says that she started singing even before speaking properly. And today my sister is about to complete her doctorate in Indian Classical Music. I never imagined my sister going past college, but she stuck to what she excelled in. My father cant be more proud.
I didn't learn how to read until I was about 27 when a nice lady traveling in the same fair circuit as I was (I was a traveling clown magician). At age 50, I retired teaching adults and children to read, and teaching teachers how to teach reading. I wouldn't say I was smarter than my teachers, but I was smarter and more inventive than many. I not only had difficulty reading text, I also had trouble sight reading notes, but I had a definite affinity for music. I am almost finished writing a (humorous) book about my struggles called "Confessions of an Illiterate." It was great listening to your story.
Love your story. Keep creating friend!
Dyslexia effected my learning music theory. I went to school in the 90s when no body cared about this type of thing Thank you for this video.
Same here, 80s through 90s, they had no idea, and in fact it was my music teacher who realised I was dyslexic because I skipped bars or entire lines sometimes , but if I took my time I could read slowly and memorise huge arrangements
Hi just FYI affected is the word you're looking for. Effect is a noun, so something is an effect. Affect is a verb, as in affecting is an action.
Not tryna be a butthole grammar nazi just tryna be helpful.
@@NiSE_Rafter Dear Butthole Grammar Nazi: 'Effect' is also a verb, and 'affect' is also a noun. One can "effect change", or "display an affect." So your correction is not even a helpful or accurate one.
@@dkeener13 What country are you from? Maybe our respective origins follow slightly different grammar rules. My English knowledge comes from a former professor and according to what I learned from her, your examples would have been considered wrong.
Edit: professor in the united states*
@@dkeener13 actually depends on whether you’re a Brit or a yank. American and British English vary on these words ps you can display an affectation but not an affect.
Stop it...darn it I'm 64 and I'm crying....so beautiful.....you got to know this is your message right?
Thank you, Rick. As a musician with a learning disability this means more than you can know.
This overly performance-oriented society hurts a lot of good souls
ADHD here trying to stick out an engineering degree at uni. Huge props to you for talking about this stuff - definitely gives me hope that I'm not a complete moron.
I was constantly told by teachers that I was a moron only to discover the statistical probability that any one of them was smarter based on IQ scores was extremely low and that the statistical probability that they were all smarter as they stood in agreement was astronomically low. Most talented engineers, artists, inventors, and technical people are on the autism spectrum.... most. Once you learn that, everything becomes much easier. With his talent level, I would be a bit stunned if Rick wasn't on the spectrum as well and this video is exceptionally strong support for that suspicion. Stick with it and remember that you're no less by any means, your brain is just different and optimized for technical tasks.
Good on you. I know how hard that is. It’s not that we don’t understand things with ADHD, it’s just maintaining the focus at a Tertiary level which is intense.
I had a miserable time this year at uni as well. I started medication after getting a 1.87 my first semester fall 2019. In two semesters after I got it to a 3.7. It was a game changer then, but post pandemic I have dropped several classes. At least I learned I can’t learn online and to not take chem labs that end at 10pm 🤦🏼♂️. I’m a random guy on the internet but if you haven’t, I suggest trying the medication route. You’ll know in a month. I had no idea how much I was held back thinking I was coping well. You’re not a moron man, our brains are like Ferraris with bicycle brakes. Concerta makes unconscious thoughts and mental noise go away and I have stopped fidgeting for the most part. This happens because we get dopamine through movement or mental stimulation, which makes it hard to focus on things that aren’t captivating. Best of luck to you!
If you are hyperactive, you can learn to focus with activities that take you into the body such as meditation, yoga, prayer, melodic music, poetry, singing and also things where you use your body and hands in a rhythmic way such as ballroom dancing, carpentry and gardening. And you need to observe other people closely and tap into their feelings.
@@FalkinerTim Those can absolutely help, but don’t hit the root cause. The ADHD brain has much lower tonic (average) dopamine levels than normal. So only the things that are very stimulating overcome that deficit. It’s all or nothing. Hyper focus or none at all. Hyperactivity is a symptom. We are not attention deficient, we just have a hard time regulating a surplus of attention at all times. You can treat it through exercise, diet, the practices you mentioned, planners and strict routines, but it can only do so much. This is why stimulants are miraculous for most people including me.
Your mum was clearly a legend. She saw in you what we all now benefit from. She must be very proud of you.
the hand that rocks the cradle.....
Finding things that other people are good at is giving unconditional love.
God created us all different for a reason and our purposes are also different. No doubt you were created to create and teach beautiful music. I don't know your faith or beliefs, you may not believe in God at all, but you are teaching someone right now to be a better musician and worship minister for a church, you're instilling confidence and knowledge into young men and women that God will use for decades. Many blessings to you brother... praying for this channel
People who were once labeled “ learning disabled” later in life became the innovators, leaders, and the brilliant artists who we take for granted.
My own story is completely different, exactly the same, and nobody reading this cares about it. I will say that my own mother stood on desks to get me into advanced classes in my own field of interest when traditional educators said I wasn’t smart enough - so Rick and I share having badass moms. I am also finally getting recognition for those aspects of me which are extraordinary - we all have such things, sometimes we don’t even know it until someone else points it out. Like Rick, I find myself looking back at my oddities of youth and understanding these are why I am great at some things today.
So here’s the lesson - those kids with “learning disabilities”, ADHD, even Asperger’s syndrome or mild autism - make damned sure they know **it’s a feature, not a stay
Thanks for the videos, Rick, come for the musical genius, stay for wisdom.
Well said 👍
Rick, I have survived with a very debilitating learning disability. I had no idea you suffered from a learning disability. I had the same experience. I would study all night and fail a test and be called lazy...it was rough.
I was horrible studying too. And like Rick I would read paragraphs and not know what I'd just read. I had a wandering imagination would often think about other things while I was reading. Finally Dad explained to me the concept of "concentration" and that it took active work to pay attention to the words I was reading... and if I didn't understand one to stop and look it up.
You studied all night? I couldn’t do any studying or homework unless it was at gunpoint. Fiction was the worst. I was like Rick. I could read a novel and have no idea what I read. My mind wasn’t paying attention...
@@2204JCM you pretty much just described me. I'm 39 now and I'm still the same, ironically worse with fiction too. I can never remember the characters names or get them mixed up with each other. My mind wanders too. I've never really worked out what the deal is. I wish I could just 'concentrate' more
@@shanewilliams247 I’ve improved a lot once I became an adult. But even lyrics generally don’t resonate with me. I think because I can’t relate to them.
I could go on and on. I was told I had no imagination.
When I was in middle school my algebra teacher told my mother not to expect much from me. I graduated high school with honors, graduated college with honors went to medical school. I have been an anesthesiologist for 20 years and still remember that teacher’s words. I proved her wrong.
I have more appreciation for your user name after reading this. (But seriously? Good for you.)
Me too
Found out I have ADHD and Autism recently. I'm a teacher. A music teacher. I'm teaching elementary right now, and I try really hard to accommodate my students, but when you have 22 in one room it can be difficult to do that with the alloted time.
I only have so much time and so much energy, but I do try to take steps to help all my students, especially because of how I struggled in school.
Thanks for sharing Rick, us nuerodiverse folks really have a lot going for us. We aren't worse off than others, just a little different. We have our own strengths.
Just finished struggling with homework with my 16 year old son who's failing in his classes. This video is very reassuring. People learn differently. It takes patience to find out what someone's learning pathway is. At the end of a frustrating session with my kid, this episode was sorely welcome. Thanks Rick.
Your son is brilliant at something- doesn’t necessarily mean academically and that’s ok, support him whatever his achievements are, this will give him confidence to progress in whatever he chooses in life. Good luck !
My story is similar to yours, bad reports etc, turned out I was dyslexic too. Like you, my Mum was a Champ and she said the same thing, "they just don't know how to teach you", and being a former school teacher, she found a way to help me learn. My parents would be told that I would never learn to read etc, my Dad, an Engineer, would get frustrated with me and say "why are you so stupid?!" After Mum's help I did fine, I'm 58 and have been a Magazine Editor, a writer, a Marketing VP for a Multinational Corporation, and have had a great life and done a load of stuff. I've also got an MBA in International Business and I'm a Pilot as well.. Not bad for an idiot. Bless Mum's like yours and mine Rick. They're Saints.
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Wow! Great Mum, too!
As a parent of a son who is incredibly smart yet failing in school, this message is super comforting. Thanks for these personal stories, and clearly you have a gift which came from your family and is being passed down to so many.
It's tricky to work the school system, as it's fairly rigid and aimed at a certain average. When I was young, I got IQ tested in elementary school and the results were such (158) that the teacher didn't want to tell my parents, out of fear they'd treat me differently. They already knew I was bright and they're down to earth enough to not let it affect anything. But the problem I got was that I never really had to do anything to get decent grades until I got to university. All of a sudden I had to do this thing called "work", which I never had to do for school. It was always so easy, I never learned to actually put in a lot of effort. To this day, I can notice the effects. I'm quite successful in the career I have and all that, but I think my development was a bit skewed.
So I see 3 criteria for success in a school setting:
1. talent/IQ/wits/smarts/genes, the basic existing ability.
2. effort/discipline.
3. the ability to conform to the school's demands or "form" of education.
Your son clearly has 1 in abundance, so to avoid the issues I had, I'd make sure that you find ways to challenge him at his level that require him to "work", so number 2 is ticked off as well. For 3, I don't know. Fortunately, I was able to do OK in school, but if the way school works doesn't work for your kid, it can be a nightmare. Perhaps it's partly something to learn, like I had with the effort/discipline stuff, or even adjust to. In a way it's a bit of a growing up thing as well, as he'll have to function in the world as an adult at some point. That world will not always play by what works best for us. Not an easy thing.
Dang, I wanted to write a 2 or 3 line response. Anyway, I hope my ramblings might help. There are more folks that have similar issues, you might even find some people in your local area that can help. I think I'd recommend staying away from places like Mensa. In any case, I wish you nothing but the best in your quest to find something for your kid. Good luck!
You may want to watch the TED talk video labeled "Temple Grandin: The world needs all kinds of minds", which you can find here on RUclips. I was a very poor student even though I taught myself multiple programming languages and electronics engineering before most teachers had ever touched a computer, and this before I was a teenager. In school I was treated as a dunce by the incapable teachers yet when tested, most of my scores came out multiple grades ahead of my classmates and my worst subject by far which was spelling scored me exactly at my actual year and month in school. You can buy my engineering world wide but I was told by my 6th grade teacher that I would work in a gas station. Teachers are often the greatest impediment to success. Your son may be on the autism spectrum, along with most highly respected and capable engineers, mathematicians, inventors, thinkers, technicians, musicians, and artists. The names carries a lot of baggage, but the list of known and suspected people with Asperger's Syndrome is very enlightening!
If you can, talk to a doctor about getting your son tested for ADHD, it’s a common occurrence in people and getting him tested now could save him a lot of time.
@@hillie47 Very kind of you to respond so completely. You hit the nail on the head with your 3 points. For my son #1 is off the charts, but #2 and #3 are in the basement. He's 2E, high IQ, has a central processing disorder and ADD. If not challenged or interested, forget it, there's little hope of reaching him. Even when interested it's tough. There's no simple answer, but we're attempting to help him learn how to learn and survive. I think he will get there, and we just need to support and be patient. It's hard, but he's well supported.
@@wildshrimp4819 Yes, he is ADD(no Hyperactivity) as well as has a Central Processing Disorder which basically means his filing and organizing system is in shambles. We've spent years and thousands testing, counseling, and working, and will continue. Stories like Ricks help me see there's only so much we as parents can do besides love and support. Not much control over it, but damn Rick (and my son) have super talents and Rick's story here gives me some hope.
Lovely to hear such a personal story. My daughter also turned to music when she had a knee injury. She was also a superstar at athletics, netball and tennis, but developed an overuse injury when she was 11 which meant she couldnt do any weight bearing exercise at all until it healed (3 years). So she picked up a guitar. She is now studying to be a music therapist.
First I cried for your Aunt, now I cried for your mom. I'm lucky to have people in my life like that too. I wish everyone could.
Rick, the best thing that happen was you were not diagnosed with anything. You found something that you were good at and away you went. Congratulations!
Amen ! Exactly :-)
Im from a place in India where not much was known about guitars other than that they impede studies and are a hindrance, so naturally I had to beg my parents for it, but they loved me every step of the way, they supported me when people would say music doesn't help you earn, its India, become an engineer or a doctor, your son will turn out useless and not earn enough, well 10 years later Im a law student at India's top law school, and can play the guitar, sitar and harmonium and am classically trained in Indian vocals having a bachelors degree in vocals and sitar, and those who said music isnt good for me, come to our place and ask me to sing and play for them because music is "soothing and gives peace". Im going to hug my old folks goodnight now. Thank you Rick. You and Marty are real gems. God belss you and your late mother.
Indian ''traditional'' singing is amazing, sooooo much microtones and slides and effects.
I am home-schooling my son who was diagnosed with ASD and was truly struggling at mainstream school. I now have my inspiration when things get tough. Thank you Rick!!!
Rick, so sorry to hear that your mom never got to see your channel. She would be so proud!
I was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome 6 years ago when i was 51. I've always known i was different but didn't know why until then. It made sense of a lifetime of not fitting in. If we all measured intelligence of animals by their ability to climb trees, then the elephant, giraffe and fish would come out pretty bad. Everyone has a superpower and schools should be there to nurture it and not beat everyone down to fit some arbitrary notion of what is deemed to be "normal".
Great story, thanks Rick.
Love this! ❤️
Hey Aspie ''brother'', I'm a musician and composer who's around 30 and my sister (who's a psychiatrist) told me that I'm the definition of a person having asperger syndrome to the tee. Now, I want to get a confirmation of that... How complicated is it to get diagnosed later in life (because austism specialists often work with younger people)?
delving deeper and deeper into the health science aspects of things - it seems clear that for someone like me - that is creative and has some mild Asperger or autistic qualities for most of my life .. u need .. everyone needs some aspect of accomplishment to not feel like you are drowning. glad you had folks that saw the good stuff in you. regular schools are often generic boxes. literally and figuratively. sooo boring. but school isn’t about boxes. it should be about leveraging strengths, and isolating weaknesses in a classroom so that everyone as a group .. can see that ‘ ohh steve also doesn’t get that .. okay .. it’s not just me [only] that doesn’t get this stuff. I’m not a total freak / loser / outcast ‘ .. and as the days go on .. hopefully the positive stuff shows + the low points .. & everyone grows together. all at once. when the teachers actually teach. not just yammer facts at u. the teacher needs to address all these things seamlessly, to raise the tent pole gradually, + not leave anything behind.
being an artist from a square technical family. into health, but following bad guidelines .. made me question everyone. everything. always. why were things this way.
this is one aspect that sets Rick apart. he is never afraid to take things on, rip them apart, and suss it all out.
if things were always simple. you would have probably turned out to be a square, and dismissed most of the obscure things that are really that coolest parts of life.
I have studied health for 31 years seriously .. when my health conscious father fell apart. looked like it was going to be curtains for him. doctors said he needed a multi bi-pass or would only have six months to live.
frick. that was 1990.
(30 years later it is clear .. all grains are inflammatory .. so scale them back in your life).
I was across the country.
just graduated from art school.
top of my game.
doing art and coding the most sophisticated graphics program in the world. and my healthy dad is gonna kick it at 60?!
no. I cannot let that happen.
so I seek out options. online. he is a luddite. paper only.
I send him to SoCal .. basically a healthy keto type place.
fixes up both my mom (who needed dual hip replacements) + very overweight and my dad. in a two week session. and it worked so well they stayed for a second two weeks.
felt way better.
both lost a lot of weight.
just adding sleep.
sunshine.
walking.
+ skipping one meal. (breakfast or dinner .. just pick your fav of flip flop each day).
make everything fresh.
and my mom threw her crutches away after returning to Alberta, and never got hip replacements. cartilage grew back. with the proper nutrition. over doing healthy grains ruined their health. go figure.
they both lived for another 30 years.
friends that didn’t .. they continued to die at 65, 70, 75, 80, 85 ... so. if my stubborn old parents could change .. wow, what a progressive jazz player could do .. with a bit of theory.
‘ because they were open to change. ‘
and I wanted to. + could help. w/my skills as a creative technical problem solver. coder. artist.
but .. life has been rough for an artist.
no one wants to pay. for anything.
but many of these vids are priceless.
so .. well .. here we all are. learning. getting smarter.
better than not. (getting smarter).
.. Rick. most of these learning issues are from teachers that can’t teach. + students that are often deficient .. in many aspects. mentally. physically. emotionally. nutritionally. and the best way to resolve almost all of those (+ all at the same time .. five birds with one stone kinda thing), is to invest in yourself. by investing in the building blocks of your cels. this is what really makes you you. your cels. and .. I can see from these old photos and your white hair .. glasses .. is - the lineage of your cels, are tied together in an arc of connected points.
the color is lacking .. because the nutrients are lacking to make the color. like your proverbial crayon box is empty, and .. that is a sign u need to fill the tank back up.
your mind is chock full of theory. but your nutrient tank is dry. this is very often tied into three key nutrients* that are missing. as well as too much of the anti nutrients .. are blocking zinc absorption / because u are over doing grains in your diet .. and .. you need some more organic healthy fats to balance everything out. may I suggest organic avocados to start. I’m sure you will probably have noticeable improvements in a few key areas to link with this video.
cognition, eyesight, weight, sleep .. and hair colors will improve.
*foods that naturally contain :: copper, chromium, selenium, zinc go a long way to restoring color.
cognitive health needs healthy fats and healthier salts, so wild salmon .. is a great thing to add to your rotation.
I’m sure glad u had the guts to make this one. + turned a difficult time in life .. into a wonderful opportunity to share gifts. if we always keep our eyes open .. new options unfold.
one day YT will help us all monetize what our real strengths are .. no matter how obscure, vs society is trying to push us to be good @ what we suck at. we are at the infancy of this crossroads. be patient @ the old school draconian tune blocking media types. they will see. this is the way to better us all. and if they don’t. the old guard. slowly dies off.
imagine.
if u had this channel.
back in 1975.
how + where the musical landscape of players
would be by now.
who knows.
info is just data .. unless it informs.
u have a gift. for translating obscure stuff into tangible bites that are changing minds. everyday. so thx.
no struggle is for not
if it lets you learn a lesson.
alignment?"
Asperger's Syndrome is when no one likes you it is all revealed in the Horoscope, thus if the ruler of the sign on the Ascendant at yr birth turns up in the signs of its detriment or fall which are inimical to its true nature, you will be treated as an unwelcome guest all yr life. Ppl just will not want to know you or be close to you at any time .. the Aspers are perfectly nice ppl but they can't make friends or "fit in" with mainstream society, now you know why. Essential Dignities in Astrology.
@@TheDillinger22 I just now got invited to a party, as an asperger man. A lot of people really like me, I just have difficulties connecting with them. GTFO.
This has to be one of the most moving and emotionally inspiring RUclips videos you could ever hope to watch. It just makes you want to go out and climb a mountain, because that's what mountains are for. Rick Beato's musical genius, and skills as a brilliant educator, are only eclipsed by the humanity which shines through in ways that just makes you want to shake his hand and give him a bear hug.
What musicians need today more than anything, is not only the best tools possible for self-directed study, but also the inspiration to become more instrumentally proficient and less superficial. And also, the inspiration to become better human beings and less superficial in that department as well.
40 years ago, I had a guitar lesson with Tommy Emmanuel and it changed my outlook on music, guitar playing and life. And there are a few other people who have had that influence on me over the years.
And for similar reasons, I can say that people striving to become better musicians will benefit from this RUclips channel. Rick Beato, I salute you.
You had a music lesson with Tommy!! 😲 I am so jealous! I met him in Darwin Australia, walking down the street and got his autograph. But a music lesson…
@@jodie672 It was about 1980. He was in his early 20s and had just moved to Sydney. He was doing his duet gig with his brother Phil. Basically just pub gigs back then. And during the middle bracket, he would do his solo fingerstyle act. There's actually a RUclips video of one of their entire shows from back then.
Anyway, I chatted to him at the end of one of his shows. I told him I was a Chet Atkins fan struggling to transcribe some of his tunes. And I asked Tommy if he could give me a lesson sometime and he said come back to my place on the weekend and I'll give you a lesson.
And it's sort of sparked off a minor friendship after that. When I'd go to see him at gigs, I'd always say hello. In 2010, I went to a workshop he did in Nashville, and he dedicated a song to me saying that I had been to more if his gigs than he had. Even after he became an international artist, he never lost his friendliness and humility.
This world needs you. A lot of people need to hear your story. Thank you.
@@91dodgespiritrt stfu
I'm 56 and just learned three years ago that I am autistic. Now I know how I can learn an entire album of material in 24 hours and be stage-ready.
It took me until age 49 to learn I have what was until recently known as Asperger's. Seeing brain scans of the neurons in an Asperger's brain vs. a neurotypical brain explains more than I can express in words.
@@Peter_S_ my precise diagnosis was High-Functioning Autism. Were it a handful of years earlier, it would have been called Asperger's.
It's weird finding out at an older age. Sometimes feels like a life wasted.
@@DrumWild Yes, it really is weird, but you can't go backward. I hope it explains as many things for you as it did for me and can find relief in the understanding of how the puzzle fits together. Since finding out, I've also found out that the bulk of exceptionally talented people are somewhere on the spectrum and that brings a lot of ease. I've got to thank Gary Numan for opening my eyes to what high functioning autism really means.
@@DrumWild I felt that way after my ADHD diagnosis, the "If only I'd known sooner". The other thing that hit me was the diagnosis didn't really change anything. I have new knowledge but there are few new ways of coping beyond what I had already figured out for myself. Too much advice for ADHD is given by neurotypical "experts" who actually have no idea what it's like. I'm sure it's the same for autism.
I'm 58 and was diagnosed with ASD level 2 at 55 and had a similar experience when i was young.
I could hardly finish a book due to adhd. Then I realised if I should go with that flow so I will I listen to an audio book while learning piano fingerings and writing Spanish homework at the same time. Adhd is a gift.
I learned to channel my constant need to fidget or move to practice my fingerpicking patterns along the seam of my pants lol
I can hardly finish a book AND still cannot do two things at once, even just one is hard enough :(
It has some real disadvantages, however it really shouldn’t be so bad as far handling tasks, as it made to be.
Once you are in it, your ability to adjust gears based on what’s coming up is a real asset if you have ADHD. If you were out there with a couple of like minded people doing group Hunt activities, your tendency to notice relevant or out of place details would be an asset. Plus the social aspect of that activity is stimulating. All relying on each other to understand each others movement and sweep around to meet them. A real persistence in getting the goal because everyone else is on the same trail.
The world isn’t set up for people like that though. It’s built to make sure people like that are failing constantly until highschool, when they force you to drop out. Because it isn’t made for helping people do what they enjoy doing. It isn’t their to help people interact with the world in they way that makes sense to them. It’s made to make sure you have the least chance of making the world work for you individually, instead blackballing you before you get out to try real life.
School destroyed me. On purpose. Because I didn’t fit in their ideals. And it took me 2 decades to figure out why I couldn’t make myself care about anything at all in this world. Why my soul level agony was trauma and anxiety, and that I wasn’t just retarded or something. That I was in a cold rictus of agony. That I’d burned down passion so people couldn’t take those things from me until I completed the pointless crap the demanded of me every weekday for 15 years.
And all they really needed to do was give me anything that was worth doing in my mind. And help me through the crap that everyone else just does. Teach me to care about that stuff because it’s useful. Help me find the set of behaviors that allow me to pursue order and stability, in the name of my passions.
And that’s the lesson I suppose. Is you will struggle with crap, but you can by repetition, and good habits, and occasionally medicine set yourself of do live a fantastic and rewarding life, set up to suit you. And do so in a way that is useful for society. Which being in a cubicle probably isn’t at all a good use for your potentially considerable skills.
Sorry that was half for me. I hope it made sense. On the bright side I devoted my mind in those times for rolling over conceptual models, and making maps based on relationships, because I couldn’t have that withheld for “motivation”.
Listening in right or left ear while reading helps. The exact ear is crucial. Sorry, I don’t know which it is.
I agree. Everyone should learn how their brain works and experiment like this, but we often don't because unless we're failing at school there's no motivation to change the way we think.
I have an autistic student who struggles to follow along in any book based activities, but by the end of any class period, can sing back anything we sang in class better than anyone else in class.
The school system doesnt understand people outside their limited realm of appreciation. I also experienced great trouble, but I never quitted the arts, philosophy and my own passions.
Now, I can be grateful of those terrible teachers, they taught me (by counterexample) that everyone has an unique potential, and I can spread that message 👍🏻
Rick, I'm a teacher, and I can tell you that your mother was absolutely right. Most teachers don't know the first thing about teaching. It's not about explaining everything to death. It's by asking leading questions that guide the learner to make discoveries on their own, which has the effect of making the material interesting and instilling confidence. Keep leaping your whole life for all you are worth, man!
I was so bad in school, flunked a bunch of grades, wound up at San Drago Military Academy in Del Mar... my doctor dad thought I just needed discipline... I found out in high school that I had a learning Disability... But the one thing I'm really good at is playing Guitar and I have never stoped... Im 65 and can still play anything I have all my chops and am learning more... Thanks for what you do Rick...Thanks for sharing...
Another episode of "Why school sucks major balls". Yet anyone who’s behind all of it still refuses to learn from these cases.
We are proud of you, man. You’re doing a great service to the world of music. To us. We are proud. And beyond grateful.
Amen to that brother
there are actually teachers who do identify and address learning disabilities, and try to encourage parents to get help. Unfortunately some school systems do prohibit teachers from advising parents to seek special provisions. Many teachers are also pressure to have their students meet testing averages, look up what damage "no child left behind" has done . Many of the educational challenges known now weren't know about when some of us were in school and likely not many teachers have the training and or natural talent to be able to address some of those LD's.
I'll second that.
Just wanna let you know that it’s teachers like you that make a difference in so many lives of the kids that were convinced they just couldn’t make it. I consider myself lucky to have been expelled because it led me to an alternative school that was staffed with nothing, but teachers like you. Thanks, man.
I was a smart kid. I was a bad student. I am currently a teacher. There is a lot of positive stuff that comes out of sharing stories like these. Thanks for sharing it with us all.
Rick, special educator here. Thank you for posting this.
All good special educators have the mindset that if the student isn't learning, you change the curriculum, add more accommodations, bring in relatable content, make it fun, etc. Many students are smarter than their teachers when it comes to learning because most of the time, they know how they learn most efficiently.
Mickey McConnell....I'm so glad to hear of your good work! Fortunately, there is greater knowledge concerning learning differences today than when I was in school in the 1970s.
Moms, am I right? I always get a bit misty eyed when I think of all the sacrifices my mom made for me. She's still with us, bless her little heart.
I can relate. I have poor reading comprehension and my son has high functioning autism. Both of us either excel without effort or struggle because we just learn differently. Your message about teaching is spot on. The best teachers know this. Unfortunately most schools aren’t designed to accommodate different styles of learning. Thx for this one!! 👏
Your story is very similar to mine, only instead of music, it was computers. In 1982 my Dad bought me a computer that hooked up to our TV. I spent hours a day on it. It fascinated me and I wanted to learn more and more. When I got into high school a few years later, I took my first computer class. I got a D. I actually knew more than the teacher and was able to write my programs more efficiently, without using all the commands the teacher told us to use. I went on to have a career in Information Technology. For over 30 years I've been a technology professional. But that teacher taught me a very important lesson with that D. How to do what my customer wants. Not what I want. Not show them how smart I am or what I am able to do...but give them what they want.
I think that's where many music teachers fall short. Why do most people play music? Because they love it. It's fun. So why do music teachers work so hard at making music so boring, complicated, difficult, and basically the polar opposite of the reason so many musicians play music? I have taken lessons from a number of great instructors. Living in Nashville, it's easy to find a world class musician willing to teach you. But I finally managed to find an instructor who "got me". I told him to teach me songs, THEN....and ONLY then....tell me the theory behind it. Don't make my play permutations for hours. Don't make me play scales over and over again. Don't make me listen to the endless drone of a metronome.....teach me to play MUSIC. Then tell me what I just learned. Once I had learned the song, then I had a mental reference for what a particular musical element felt and sounded like. So next time I learned a song, I had that in my toolbox.
It's the same thing I do for people who have asked me to help them learn technology. I don't immediately go into explaining IP networking, 64bit architecture, database typess, bandwidth, multifactor authentication, etc. I show them how to do things with the computer, then explain to them the technology behind what they just did. Ultimately it's all just 1's and 0's...and it's no more complicated than that.
At age 58, I was diagnosed with a non-hyperactive form of ADHD. It certainly explains all the decisions I've made in life, good and bad. Looking back, everything (including learning) has been twice as hard as I think it would have been without the condition. Now that I have the diagnosis, I have been able to learn cognitive skills that help me filter out the downsides to ADHD, and focus on the upsides - curiosity, imagination, sensible risk-taking, etc. It's making me a better musician.
This is exactly me, 1 year ago at 50 diagnosed with ADD. Explains so much. I never knew there was ADD and ADHD. I thought only ADHD so it couldn't have been what was "wrong" with me...
Same as you, just knowing is such a relief and knowing about it gives you a reason adn tools to avoid the downsides and focus on the upsides.
Weirdly, ADD, ADHD is something that a lot of Motocross racers suffer from. Reading about it in a MX forum was what put me on to it, thinking hang on a minute, these people all sound like me. Apparently, adrenalin acts the same as Ritalin etc. in ADD/ADHD people.
@@marksvideochannel3592 Me too. Diagnosed at 50. It was a watershed moment. Ritalin helps wake up my brain as does coffee when I need to self medicate
If you wouldn't mind, could you say a little how that form of ADHD affects you? I've been suspecting for a while that something doesn't work quite right with my brain but I can't figure out what it is! I have some symptoms of ADHD but I am not hyperactive, quite the opposite.
@@TheStarBlack Not everyone with ADD shows outward signs of hyperactivity. Rick at times shows it in his videos you can see him bopping. I would suggest getting a book like Driven to Distraction which explains the different types in detail.
Love this, Rick. There's that prescient metaphor, something along the lines of, "Don't measure a fish's worth by it's ability to climb a tree."
We're individuals. If we aren't fostered according to our individuality, we're being told our natural selves are of no value. "Be like this instead," is not good teaching.
What a loss it is to suppress the beauty of the individual.
Honesty takes Courage; you are courageous and honest, and one hell of a musician. Good man!
I was horrible in Algebra. Still haunts me to this day. I'm 58.
Same here, once they introduced fractions around second grade I was totally lost and never really caught up to everyone else.
I feel ya. My algebra teacher told the whole class I was failing while I was in the bathroom.
I absolutely did not like Geometry nor did well with it at all... today I work in Land Surveying which is an awful lot of Geometry, Algebra and Calculus. Go figure. Music is a passion of mine from school and still to this day 31 years after graduation I teach marching band.
Same here, yet I still like learning about physics and quantum theory, all while learning guitar scales and Miles Davis LOL. 😜
why does it haunt you? what do we use algebra for? its only mentioned in school its a useless subject, as long as you know that if something costs $5 and something costs $8 your paying $13 thats all we need to know, at what point do we use algebra?
Thanks for being open and talking about this. One in every 11 Americans has one of the learning disorders. I have been doing psychoeducational examinations as a psychologist for almost two decades, and after every exam, I meet later to provide feedback and recommendations (and encouragement!) to kids, parents, and adults. So, so many people with learning disorders are very successful in their careers.
If one in eleven of us have learning disabilities, maybe it's the schools that are wrong.
@@Bacopa68 _always has been_
@@Bacopa68 yup, hit the nail on the head, 1 on 11 is just too many people, they're not disabled, they're ok, school is the one that's flawed.
A major problem is that schools say children have learning disorders, ADHD, add etc when a lot of times the children are having issues at home that they don't quite understand yet and it in turn will affect their grades and learning and behavior as well. But schools simply slap a label and forget about finding the real issue.
@@Bacopa68 I'd disagree with the premise that the school is responsible for the disability. The school did not cause a student's ADHD, dyslexia, or Aspergers... what schools do poorly at is reaching these students in classroom situations. Schools are set up for the "average student", and if a student is at either end of that bell curve, they're not getting the same benefits of education. Personally I blame the emphasis on success at standardized tests because that success determines funding of a school or district, teacher retention and promotion, etc. Follow the money.
Bless moms everywhere!!
Best piece of advice I ever received when I first started teaching in K-12 over 25 years ago was also from my mom: "Mark, if you can't teach 'em, don't ruin 'em for someone else."
The “bad” student becomes a college professor. You’re one incredible guy! Love you Rick!
Rick, you are the epitome of what a good teacher should be. One who not only teaches but learns as he’s teaching. You’ve brought your own experiences from learning and are able to reach your students. I wish I had a teacher like you during my junior high and high school years.
I have a stutter...It's been severe my entire life. I'm 39 now but I was always thought to be "slow" or not as smart as the other kids. My mom always worked with me on it and gave me confidence.
You are Wired different!
Hence the word Weird!
Me too
Hi Rick - I am a fellow Rochesterian, raised in Irondequoit. Born in 1949 I also had dyslexia (no one knew at that time) and struggled every single school day of my life.
The reason I am commenting is the Rochester history of three music greats and my family. My Dad was buying tropical fish at the home of someone he worked with when he heard some really good electric guitar music playing and asked what album it was so he could buy it (my Dad was musical and loved various music styles) Mr. Cornish replied: "Oh that's not a record, it's my son Gene practicing guitar." Of course, that was Gene Cornish who went on to become the guitar player of the Young Rascals.
One of my older brothers went to Franklin high school with Chuck Mangione and his older brother Gap, we even have home movies of Chuck hanging out at our house.
My other older brother went to Eastridge High school with Steve Gadd (we called him Stevie). And yes, both of them were already amazing musicians at that time! I also remember going on school "field trips'' at the Eastman School of Music and was thrilled with the classical pieces played by the orchestra.
How music and learning to play saxophone and then guitar at 15 helped me cope with a learning disability is another story...
Love your talent and musical choices!
I'm from Rochester, too. I attended Hochstein School of Music and the Eastman Jr. college. I forgot about the great musicians who were from this area until I saw them in your comment. Peace and Blessings to you.
Thank you for this. A lot of us artists have brains that operate differently. ADD is my gift. It can rob me of concentration but also gives the power of free association. I’ve been learning to leverage it, not numb it.
I agree, limitations are gifts.
I’ve struggled with multiple leaning disability’s all my life and the worst part is the feeling of inadequacy. Reasons why I picked up a guitar
Yep , guitar makes sense
@code 1041, the problem with learning, not just in the USA, but worldwide, is that they always try to teach you to tests, the materials that are used are filled with biases, the materials that are used are filled with legitimate errors, and yet the teachers still think that they can teach you correctly in those teaching materials, and that the teachers are always peddling agendas rather than teaching to the strengths, weaknesses, and uniqueness of each student, which is why distance learning, as well as learning without books, and learning online, are all the true parts of the inevitable wave of the future when it comes to schools and learning in general.
@@paxhumana2015 It's not the teachers. It's the people who design the structure that the teachers are required to follow.
As a musician going through the struggles of intellectual disability, this video helped me alot.
Thank you Rick.
Rick, you're an inspiration. School needs to be about finding your strengths and not punishing you for your weaknesses. I've had similar experiences, from a young age I was diagnosed with ADHD, where I was great at certain things the classroom environment did not work for me. Luckily I've had amazing teachers over the years who found my strengths and let me run with them. I really respect my teachers and how they put up with my nonsense but truly took the time to work with me and encourage me to do what I love.
I agree with your whole analysis...! As a retired teacher with 40 yrs... All teachers have your best interest at heart, but with so many students, they can start acting like “sorting” machine to weed out, rather than encouraging ALL students. Just human reaction to an unbearable expectation. Many problems that are solvable, but NOT financed properly!
Don’t blame the school, blame the community that does not properly see and rectify the issues!
You were very lucky for having a loving mother.
That was the secret.
She helped you see what was in you all the time.
Albert Einstein once said:
"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid."
He never said that. Look up fake Einstein quotes, it's really interesting.
Well, that is not a real quote from Einstein but has some truth to it.
@@SheepWaveMeByeBye , does that bye bye in your username mean yourself going into Sheol (Hell)?
Never heard that, I love it :D
@@SheepWaveMeByeBye still a helpful quote that I'll apply to my life
I am going to show this to my girls tonight who both have Dyslexia. Probably one of your best videos.
Bless you Rick. I found out at age 42 that I had Adult Personality Disorder, that had been diagnosed at age 19, just no-one ever told me!
Both of my children have learning difficulties. My eldest has Dyslexia, Dyspraxia and ADHD. My youngest has Autism (Pathological Demand Avoidance and Aspergers) and ADHD.
I think you're magnificent, and your mother .... she's the Rock Star!
My Uncle George had a reading comprehension disability. He could read a chapter, or a page, out loud, and have absolutely no idea what he had just read. When he was an adult, in school to be an auto tech, my Grandmother would read everything to him out of the books, and he could remember all the data. As a father of 2 autistic son's (24 and 10) I understand how hard it can be to get people to understand a child's disability. This is especially true when they don't "look" handicapped. At the same time, everybody has their own talents, and just need to find their outlet for that talent. Thank GOD you found your place in music!
HI Rick , I was one of 6 kids born 1957 in small village in southwest England, mother struggled ended up in hospital, father was unemployed , all us kids ended up in foster homes , Five different homes, up until 9 or 10 years of age , this early upset sent me a little crazy ended up in trouble with cops , ended up in naughty boy homes, I struggled learning and had very little attention span so I was thrown out of school at 15 with very little education, ,your mum was right about Teachers not knowing much on how to be taught, I felt exactly the same.. The only constant in my life was music, and still is.
I'm a father a grandfather, a musician(guitarist), a retired skydive instructor , I have travelled the world, sailed an ocean, and have lived in Spain Portugal and Australia,
My whole point in telling you this is your story resinated in so many ways , according to my teacher in junior school I was to end up sweeping the streets, I remembered his words as I cleaned the pavement out front of my business I created years later. respect brother ...Andy.
Thinking about his mom spending her whole check to buy him a guitar brings a tear to my eye!
Rick, the guitar purchase story shows that your mother was not only a wonderful mom, she was also a brilliant investor!
Rick just wakes up in the morning and thinks about how he is going to tell a story that will make people cry. Seriously, this and the stories about your Aunt are worthy of a book. You not only have a good memory but you obviously internalize what you learn and it sticks with you. That's what I lack. That is a very impressive talent.
rick, thank you! i've suffered thru this phenomenon all my life. the difference is... i'm an only child. i,
have what i would call an unorthodox memory. i love learning and have been literate since the first day i picked up a book. but reading has been a challenge. a challenge in that i have to read a book at least twice in order to fully comprehend and grasp the concept of what's on the pages. there was a time that i developed the ability to write backwards, read backwards and read upside down. i didn't realize that i learned differently than other kids. it wasn't until i was in my 30s that i realized that i was a visual learner, also. thanks, man for sharing your story.