The First 72 Hours With Our Baby - Baby Steps Ep. 9
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- Опубликовано: 29 сен 2024
- This week we talk about Wes in the NICU, getting him home, and preparing for another newborn.
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BABY STEPS
In this irreverent weekly parenting podcast, RUclips stars Ned & Ariel Fulmer reveal the dirty, messy truths behind raising a blissfully instagram-ready family. Follow Ariel’s pregnancy journey week-by-week with a dash of not-so-expert advice, trending product reviews, and poop-in-your-big-boy-pants raw sincerity from a couple experiencing the extreme life-upheaval we call “the miracle of life” in real-time.
NED & ARIEL
Ned and Ariel Fulmer are the internet’s mom and dad. Part of The Try Guys collective, they have 7.3 Million subscribers and over 2 Billion life-time views. Ned is a comedian whose first book The Hidden Power Of F*cking Up was a #1 New York Times Bestseller, and Ariel is a successful Los Angeles-based interior designer who weilds a circular saw in one hand and a glass of chardonnay in the other. They have hosted RUclips shows doing celebrity DIY makeovers, home-cooking competitions versus professional chefs, and adorable family vlogs. Pregnant and chasing a toddler during a pandemic, they are embracing the chaos of parenting with their irreverently funny new podcast "Baby Steps."
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Omygosh i was shocked! That title! i thought Ariel gave birth already 😳❤❤❤
Me too! XD
SAME
Same 🤣
aren't we all? lol i choked and i'm not even drinking 🤣
I legit started screaming in excitement
hi, uh... i help my mom babysit a little boy, liam and my sister and i know how to swaddle.
lay out a blanket, place the baby onto the blanket with his/her head NOT on the blanket. (diamond shape)
fold one of the diamond edges onto the baby, holding his/her hand down.
repeat to the other side. (make sure to make it as FAR as you can go)
take the bottom part and *this is where i get confused, sorry if i'm wrong* fold it onto the baby's stomach and take the edges of that sticking out and fold them underneath the baby.
and there's a swaddle!! xx
Thanks Zoe! I don't even have kids yet and I'm nodding along with your comment, imagining me swaddling a baby :=)
This is actually so sweet,but you could probably stop giving away your age information since you are not an adult, for safety reasons of course.
@@the_martian_fairy3709 oh, thank you!! :)
@@romulusthemainecoon3047 youre welcome :D
@Tanisha Goveas
My mom would probably tell this better than me but here is my NICU story: I was born at 31 weeks (9 weeks premature) in November 1998. My parents went to the hospital because my mother thought she was going into labor, and once they got there the doctors found out she had a uterine infection, so it was no longer safe for me to be in the womb, and her body was trying to get me out as fast as possible. She was also running a fever so she couldn’t get an epidural! God love her. I weighed 4 lbs 2 oz when I was born and my lungs weren’t fully developed, so I went to the NICU. Apparently I was very stubborn and ripped out my feeding tubes. I was too small to breastfeed and had to learn how to suck and swallow and breathe on my own. I also had jaundice and had to be treated under the UV lights. I was in the NICU for about a month, but my mom was there every single day and my dad was there when he wasn’t working. I came home in December and had to be on a heart monitor for a few months. I’ve asked my mom about this a few times because I think this is a terrifying first-time parent experience, but she says there was never a doubt in her mind that I would be okay. I’m about to turn 22 and aside from some mild asthma from my lungs being underdeveloped I’m completely fine! I’m wishing you guys well and keeping my fingers crossed that this baby comes as close to full term as possible. Good luck and I hope everything goes well!
I am not even close to have kids but I love this pod!
Does anyone find it ironic that Ariel is one of 2 girls and Ned has a sister and they’re going to have 2 boys
@@j.arturo2602 yeah I thought the baby would be a girl since ned and Ariel have sisters haha
Same
My baby brother (ten years old now) was a micro preemie, he was one pound and an ounce or two. He was in the NICU for months and months, and the doctors told us at least twice a week that "tonight could be his last night so please be prepared for that". Miraculously, he lived! He had a brain shunt and a heart monitor and stuff, and was hooked up to a ton of wires and machines for about a year. He has about 25 surgeries before the age of 2. He has cerebral palsy and underdeveloped vocal chords, so his little voice is very raspy. But hes doing great nowadays! He is special needs and will always walk and talk funny because of his cerebral palsy, but hes alive and VERY rambunctious. The NICU is a very scary place, but it's also wonderful.
Ok so I’m just gonna admit this and people can get mad at me or whatever but this is more for me...I listen to this podcast when I want to be self destructive...I have premature ovarian failure because of cancer treatment I had when I was little and I have always felt like I was broken and worthless because I can’t have kids...I want kids more than anything...I want to be able to have a baby. My doctor told me that IVF would be too risky and I have no viable eggs so there is absolutely no possible way I could get pregnant...whenever I feel self destructive I listen to this podcast and cry my eyes out...there I said it.
My twin sister and I were born in the 35th week 1-2 weeks early for twins and i only weighed 4.5 pounds and she was like 4.7 pounds
You guys should do a collaboration with Mama Doctor Jones! She's awesome!
My twin sister and I were in the NICU for four days and then she didn't pass the car seat test (she was only 4lb). But they just gave us a flat bed car seat, which I don't even think they make anymore lol, and so my parents trapped her down to this little bed and we were on our way!
Curious... would ariel have had less tearing partially due to Wes being small still?
Maybe to some degree, since Wes would've been bigger with 4 extra weeks in the womb, but scientifically tearing depends more on things like genetics and if a woman has performed her perineal massage every day for at least 15 minutes, things like that.
Also, I know it's not exactly your question, but there's such a huge variety in babies' sizes that gestational age isn't always a great indicator of how much tearing there'll be. For example, I was born at 41 weeks and was smaller than Wes since I was 5lbs 6oz (it was at a time when episiotomies were performed routinely on every woman, so who knows whether my mom would've torn or not)
Ned’s sweaty ass armpit stain tho 😂😂
"shouldn't have trusted a buzzfeed article" burnnn
the shade lmao!!!
Fun story.
I'm a woman. I was a big baby at birth, well over 3 1/2 kilos. My father was looking at me on the baby room (it was the 80s) and there was this other father showing off his few weeks old son and how big he was already and then got to my father and the conversation went something in the lines of.
Other father: Oh, congratulations. I hope your child is as big and healthy as mine (Uncovers baby on his pram.) Which one is yours?
Dad: Oh, that one. (Points at me, bigger and better looking like the other guy's kid)
Other Father: He's going to be a big guy.
My Dad: She's a girl.
Other Father: (Quickly covers up his son and leaves.)
And that's the story of how I smashed patriarchy aged 7 hours.
I LOVE THIS!!
You go girl!
Ariel: “Wes likes to throw the stroller down the stairs”
Me: *knowing they’re about to put a baby in that stroller, hoping Wes doesn’t throw it down the stairs* 👁👄👁
😂😂
If they have the baby IN the stroller anywhere near the top of stairs, they don't have any business being parents 🤪😳
Lol
@@Margar02 yup
I thought the same thing and had to come on YT to see if anyone commented it🤣
not me listening to this podcast even if i dont have plans on having a baby
same
Same heyyyyyy
Definitely not having kids, but Ariel is so delightful. I gotta listen
not me watching this podcast even though in 15 years old
I'm 13 btw ha
I'm loving how candid and realistic Ariel and Ned are being. I don't think that first time parents are given ENOUGH real information before delivery so after baby is born they're shell shocked. I can't wait to see how much the baby looks like Wes and how he adjusts to being a big brother... Having baby give Wes a present like a book once baby comes home might help him with the transition.
Sounds like they should explain better whats happening with the test, not just take him and say "we are just going to do this quick car seat test". It would be better if they said like "this is the test, if he fails this happens, and you are allowed to do this, this and this"
As a med student, we are actually trained to counsel the patient and explain the procedure to them in depth in layman words.
@@Amelia-ys2qy it's great that they train medstudents that way, but it clearly didnt happen in this situation, so maybe something went wrong with the nurses. No hate on nurses or anything, but it seems they were the ones who didnt explain things.
Mind you they stated they didn’t do the tour to which during it they state most tests and highly suggest to ask all questions. This was a learning experience to ask all the questions. Our personal choice is that baby is never separated from a parent so for all tests that weren’t done bedside my husband was there. Again ask all the questions
My coworker had a micropreemie (like pre 27 weeks, 1lb/500g) and baby was in the NICU for like 6 months. She also had a toddler so she and her husband had to split time. Luckily, she lived near the hospital he was transferred to (very sick babies may have to go to a regional NICU) but there were babies there whose parents COULDN’T be there. They lived several hours away, had other children to care for, or couldn’t afford to not work. Many NICU beds have pictures of siblings on it, not because the baby cared but because moms were terrified of being judged for not being there 24/7. It was their way of being like I do want to be with my baby but have other children who need me.
Awee that’s so sad :(
That’s terrible. 😢 No one should be judging parents who’s babies are in the NICU. They’re already going through so much.
Ariel, having a baby with a toddler around is a whole different ball game. You don’t get to rest or nap when baby is asleep cause you will have Wes and his activities and emotions to manage. You’ll be just running on adrenaline for a while, so it will be even more crucial for Ned to watch out for signs of post partum depression!!
seems helpful
the lowkey buzzfeed shadee thoooooo
My dad was born 3 months early in 1959 and spent 3 months in the hospital. No one though he would survive.
The first weekend he was there, the midwife kept his heart beating with brandy.
Gotta love old school medicine!
If it helps:
Having a toddler and new baby together is hard, but if Wes is excited about being a big brother, for when one parent is sleeping you can try telling Wes about Mommy's or Daddy's do not disturb nap time and how letting whichever parent is sleeping sleep is part of one of his new special Big Brother duties. The other kid(s) often want to help or engage with the new baby, so involving other siblings when you can is great and really sweet to see. :,) Also, having set aside "dates" with the other kid(s) makes the transition to less attention from Mommy and Daddy much easier.
You guys are wonderful, and I love the podcast! :)
this is such a funny episode. I listened to this whilst cooking and I ended up going into a laughing fit and had to stop all because of the BUTTHOLE
I love the sentiment of what Ariel brings up about recommendations/to each their own. BUT recommendations for safe sleep are the way to keep your child safest, from a science-based perspective. It used to be that wearing your seatbelt in a car was only a recommendation. But as it became clear that the benefit was tremendous in case of an accident, it gradually was adopted into law. Safe sleep practices are actually starting to become law, too, slowly (although they're obviously much more difficult to enforce). Recently there was a case in (I believe - I could be mistaken) Michigan where a father had been repeatedly warned by both the mother and by the medical team around them about his unsafe sleep practices. The baby died, and the father was convicted of manslaughter.
Around the world, we all try to do what's safest for the baby. I live in Japan, the ultimate "sleep on the futon in between mom and dad" country, but it's not safe and the hospital says so very strictly to new parents. If you agree to allow social services to come to your home to do a check (yes, you have to agree or decline to this), it's one of the things they check.
There are, however, I'm sure, circumstances in which sleeping right in an adult's arms is important - imagine you live in a place where monkeys come in through the windows and could seriously hurt the baby. The risk of that is higher than the risk of SIDS or asphyxiation... although that child is still at risk for that happening. It's part of the reason why infant mortality around the world differs from place to place, and why we should all continue helping to create the safest possible world for our children in every country and in every circumstance.
I'm due 27th november so excited to see if your second baby looks like Wes
CONGRATSSSSSSSSSSSS
omg good luck
Omg congrats to the baby 😊
yey congratulations and good luck on your delivery! ❤
Things with babies don't just always "work out." About 1 in 1000 babies die from SIDS, even nowadays with better prevention methods than we've ever had. Bedsharing increases that risk by over 400%. So, if we followed what Ariel is saying, 1 in 250 babies would die (well, sort of - those 1 in 1000 stats obviously include parents who bedshare).
I'm so, so disappointed in this episode... it's one thing to say that different parenting techniques or styles are fine (for example, disposable or cloth diapers), it's another to be promoting a habit which would lead to more dead babies. Let that sink in...
They have said in past episodes they didn’t sleep with Wes in the bed because they were too scared. If you’re taking a light nap with a newborn believe me you will feel that baby move even the slightest and wake up. It’s a parenting thing yes some parents let their kids sleep with them but Ned and Ariel are not advocates for that.
I have been waiting all week for this episode! The last episode went by quick, I was just wrapped up in Wes' birthing story. It's awesome that she's willing to share all these private details with the masses. And, Ariel looks great! :)
My son was born in April at 26 weeks. We've been in the NICU for 6 months now. He's a fighter. Leaving him daily is very hard.
Once you get him home time will fly by. You will get though this!! Much love from a former NICU mom.
@@evelynmater8773 thank you 💙
❤️❤️
That is hard and He is a fighter just like you for making it to 26 weeks and being there for him. Happy 6 months to your son! ❤️🎉👼🏻 I have faith for you
@@Jazlindoll thank you so much 💙
Oh hunny when you feed them too much blue stuff or purple stuff their poop will be green 😂😂 it’s totally normal
Oh yes lol. My toddler son (many years ago lol) had red pee and was thought to have a urinary tract infection. Finally figured out his pee was red from eating beets the previous day. Ohhhh...the things we experience and learn! 😃
I once had an orange and blue bagel and was so confused for the next 2-3 days 😂
You should talk about picking baby names
It’s really interesting listening to these stories and here the things that Ned and Ariel weren’t aware of beforehand like how the due date isn’t set in stone and the car seat test because my mom is an OBGYN so even though I’ve never had kids and am a teenager I know probably too much about the whole process because of my mom😂
Too much knowledge is much better than not enough 😊
@@MG384 very true!
Imagine Wes coming back and watching these in like 10 years. That poor guy😂
Wes if you ever see this: Good luck man, and the world loves you bro👊
As a second time NICU mom(gave birth 24weeks with my first & 36weeks with my second), all I can say is that it never gets easier. I just gave birth on 10/22 and my baby girl is still in the NICU. My first child passed after a week. Hugs to both of you and I pray you go full term!!❤️🙏
I am so sorry for your loss
I’m not the praying type but my well wishes to you and your baby. I really hope she pulls through. Be strong, mama!
OMG when i read the title i legit thowt ariel whent into a 72 hours labor with the 2nd baby
For your next podcast on what to pack in your hospital bag, my biggest recommendation is snacks! I just had my baby in June and with Covid there were no visitors and my husband was not allowed to leave and come back. So you’re stuck with hospital food. The food service group was having a hard time getting supplies so the food was bad even for hospital quality. Snacks will save you!
Uhh 40 years ago babies were put on their bellies and they WERE NOT all fine ... That's why we have the recommendations ... Because some babies died
THANK YOU! Survivors bias does not make it safe. Those who didn’t survive are not here to advocate against unsafe sleep practices.
Your first baby you get so much more sleep. When you have more it’s like being a zombie. The new baby has needs but the toddler does too and meanwhile you’re still bleeding, leaking and having after contractions every time you latch the baby.
They probably commented on your strong letdown from your colostrum. Letdown feels like lightning shooting through your boobs
At first I thought that I was farther along that Ariel, now I realize I am definitely not😂 I'm now 23wks it's really nice to hear another soon to be mom talking, since I'm a first time mom and I can't really do too many classes or anything because of covid
Isn't it awesome? I'm at 27 weeks, and won't get any classes at all (there's a video to watch, and you can ask questions, but it's only in Japanese, so I don't know how much of it I'll really grasp). Anyway, congratulations on your baby!! It's my first, too, and I'm so excited (and a little nervous). We're having a little boy and we're going to name him Lucas/Ruka :)
I listen like clockwork every Sunday!
That sounds like really bad nursing, honestly....They should have explained the test IN DETAIL to you. Like complications, potential dangers. Honestly, they should have offered you to be in the room with Wes so you could watch, or even participate, and be there with him. That "failed test" feels like a false fail and sounds like they put him in unnecessary danger. As a nurse in training, that action by med staff just sounds like negligence on their part. I don't know the specifics of this test so i don't know if being in the room is okay, but still...not get form by them. I'm glad Wes is okay though.
My bestie is due in a month!!! I'm planning my first next year :)
Just what I needed in the middle of the night while my baby isn't sleeping 🤪
Thank you for talking about complications. A lot of people don't know they can happen. I will say though that even things with babies don't always "just work out"- the reason they don't recommend babies sleep on their bellies anymore or cosleep anymore is because of research and data which allows us to have less infant mortality than we did in the 70s. Its not just recommendations for the sake of recommendations.
This! Although I do want to add that you mean bedsharing rather than cosleeping. Cosleeping means that baby is in the same room, and this can either be safe (in a crib away from blankets and such) or not (like bedsharing). But safe cosleeping is recommended, as the little noises that the adults in the room are making help prevent SIDS!
I know they left the company, but it seems recently they had a falling out with BuzzFeed? There wasn't direct shade before. Not complaining, but I am curious
They probably just feel more comfortable talking about buzzfeed now
They might've signed an NDA that's expired now.
Am i too early even though i don't have kids and not married yet? lol
and had a mini heart attack and super excited because of the title but jokes on us hahaha still love this podcast
Lol they go to the beach I shovel the snow , crazy how different weather can be
Just want to note for all the people out there nervous about parenthood that you can, in fact, feel "ready" to have a baby and prepared for parenthood. Newborns bring unpredictability and unforeseen situations of course, but I was completely comfortable with becoming a mother and had been eagerly anticipating it my entire life.
I was 16& I was completely fine with it. I had ample experience taking care of children (and my mentally handicapped mother) that it didnt bother me at all. To be fair.. it seems like they didn’t prepare at all.... they didn’t have a car seat, they didn’t have a bag packed, they didn’t know half of what I was well aware of within 3 months because your OB will provide reading material if you request it.
@@ReadObituaries To be fair, both Ariel and Ned read quite a lot before Wes arrived as far as what to expect, child care, etc. But books just....can't prepare you for everything. =) Several big life events happened in rapid succession, back to back. After Ariel became pregnant, Ned realized he needed to make the decision to finally have major surgery and PT to repair his knee that he'd been putting off, so he could have that all healed up by the time Wes arrived. And they didn't have the crib ready or the bag packed because they were still in the middle of moving and hadn't had time to fully move in yet before they began building the deck. The plan was to finish the new home before moving out of the old one but they had to scrap those plans because Wes arrived six weeks EARLY.
In the middle of all of this, Ned was still making Try Guys videos, a LOOOOOT of videos, as the Guys had left BuzzFeed and were switching over into creating their own NEW company together amidst all the chaos I just mentioned. Ariel's and Ned's former home was to become the new Try Guys HQ!! Not to mention.....some people just don't know how to naturally take care of newborns. There's absolutely nothing wrong with that. Clearly, Ariel and Ned are doting, caring, loving parents who aren't so unprepared the 2nd time. I think it's incredibly brave of them to call themselves out like that. Not to mention that it's entirely possible they weren't even as terrible as they feared, but from the inside.....it's how they felt.
Oh and don't worry.....I'm not jumpy or offended or anything....even if it might seem that way? I'm merely trying to distill about a year's worth of living into a few explanatory sentences. =)
My nephew was born 3 months early and was just about a pound when he was born. It was such a scary thing to see my brother go through as a first time dad. The poor thing was in the hospital for the first 3 months of his life and when he got home finally he had to have an oxygen tank on at all times because his lungs weren’t fully developed. BUT HES 10 NOW AND HEALTHY AND BEAUTIFUL 🥰
i low-key thought they meant they already had the baby
I'm not listening until later today (it's currently 5:30am in California), and I'd just like to point out that this podcast went up at like 2:30 in the morning??? Wild and admirable for sure
@@mandiealanzo5901 I... wasn't saying it was filmed that day? Sure, it's probably scheduled. I was just saying that 2 : 30 in the morning is wild?
Ariel you need to get perineum gel pads instead of the ice underwear for this time! Bodyice brand is the best!
Full on PTSD sweats listening to Ariel talking about getting stitched up. Ahhhhhh never again. The worst.
Oh god!!!
I feel like this podcast would be so comforting to expecting parents or parents who were blaming themselves unfairly for the outcome of their pregnancy. I love how Ariel & Ned manage to be so vulnerable and yet so hilarious at the same time. Like many listeners, I don't plan on having a baby but I just find this so interesting, charming, and reminds me that humanity is good :)
I wish they Maggie on to explain things from a NICU nurses point of view 😊
I think you both did great, as first time parents and things not going "as it supposed to", you did the best with what you had. And Wes is alive, happy, and healthy and thriving and that is what is important ❤️
I was born 3 months prematurely trhough c-section because I stopped eating (something to do with the placenta) and my mom had to be rushed to the Bergen hospital with a helicopter and had to be at the hospital for a long time cirka 2 months. And during this time my mom left the hospital ONCE to visit my siblings and my dad at home during 17th of May (our constitution day)
the nurses said she had to go be with my siblings and that they would take care of me.
And when she came back to the hospital she couldn't find me for the nurses had moved me.
She found me quickly as I had not left the actual room. Just that incubator to another one,
with a small flag on my on to celebrate my one month anniversary of life.
I was so small that my doctor could hold me with one hand.
And then when I was 12 I fell hard on a lying tree on the ground, while playing in the woods during school so that my hip dislocated.
And I didn't go to the doctor for a long time because I hid it from my parents for circa 2 - 5 months.
And you know it got worse and worse, and I stopped playing and watched TV more.
My parents are divorced so they did not see me every day and just did not connect the dots.
I also deliberately lied and did not want them to know, Because I had and still have death anxiety.
I believed that I would die if I went to the doctor. They knew something was wrong, but they thought that it was a sprain, So I borrowed my brothers old crutches and used them at school.
And then I fell at school and couldn't get up again so my mum was called.
Because you know I was stuck at the ground and crying.
She came and picked me up and drove me to the nearest hospital.
I live at a small town with 8000 people and with a small hospital (that no longer is open) could only take a X-ray of me to check what it was.
When they saw that my hip was very much dislocated. Like it was basically dangling at that point.
They told me and my mum that I had get surgery.
Which triggerd the biggest panic attack I have ever had and I was crying and screaming that I did not want a surgery.
I had to get sedated, for the pain as well for the fear.
When we arrived at the bigger hospital which took Cirka an hour to get to.
And my cousin who was just born was at that hospital as well with my aunt
(this hospital is where all the babies are born. Because the first one was soon going to be closed down. And only did a few things)
I was check again and was told that I had to go to another hospital in Bergen (I am norwegian) which funny enough is the same hospital that I was born in. So my family knew the place.
So I had in one day swithed to 3 different hospitals to finally have a surgery with the specialist required.
But had to wait one night (while on painkillers) to have the surgery because a family of 4 or more had been in a car accident and they all had arrived at the same hospital but they sadly didn't make it so my surgery which was not a life and death situation had to wait. I was not told at the time, for my parents didn't want to tell me. I had enough with my self at the time have my dad said.
After the surgery I found out that my sister had gotten engaged a week before and I was very happy.
I think during this time i tried to cling to all the good things.
The doctors could not understand why a healthy short (always been shorter then other my age, still am) and thin kid could have their hip dislocated. But I have been told now that it may be that it was because of me being premature and not fully developed..
So yeah my parents have been on a roller-coaster being my parents 🤣😁👍
40 years ago, babies were put on their bellies to sleep - and instances of SIDS skyrocketed. It was quickly ousted as being one of the worst possible sleeping positions for babies. At the time, it was considered "new and scientific," but was certainly not an age-old tradition like your comment in the video implied. Turns out the studies were bad science and plain wrong, and that's why it was quickly abandoned as a practice.
I never thought of the shifts like that. I think I will use that method when we have a baby.
I discovered Halo velcro swaddle blankets with my second baby. Game changer.
Had such a similar story. 5lb 12oz everything good except the stupid long car seat test.
You guys are literally convincing me to not have kids.
Haha same girl 😂 it’s not for me!
I love this podcast :D
How do you deal with how much it costs to have a baby in the U.S.? Do you just pay off the medical bill over time in installments?
My son was also 5lbs 13oz he was born exactly at 37 weeks ... super tiny and getting him to latch was rough! 😣 I wanted to give up breastfeeding at one point but I made it.now he is one strong 7 going 17 year old 🤭
when I was born at 38 weeks as a twin Wes was still bigger than me
haha I was born at 41 weeks, a singleton, and he was still bigger than me, too! I was 5lbs6oz. My husband was born at 42 weeks and was only 5lbs... he was incredibly tiny
PLEASE don’t justify unsafe sleep practices with survivors bias.
Also, follow the abc’s of safe sleep. Babies should be Alone (no blankets, pillows, stuffed animals... nothing), on their Backs, in a Crib, bassinet or playard. Cosleeping increases the risk of sleep related death by 400+%. There is no way to “do it safely”.
Safety isn’t a parenting choice, the AAP has these recommendations for a reason.
That sounds so scary. When my brother was born, his trachea was connected to his esophagus and his esophaguses wasn’t connected to his stomach. He was in the NICU for weeks with tons of surgeries
love this podcast
Omg I was born in ‘93 also. A twin, born at 33 weeks, my twin brother was 4lb11oz I was 2lbs 12oz, he was able to go home after a couple days, I was in the NICU for like 5-6 Weeks -I was tiiiiiny baby lol he and I were veeerrryyy different people.. in some interesting ways
I gotta say, the birth story terrifies me. Ripping, tearing, stitches, and he was tiny. I understand that it heals eventually, and that it should be worth it. But that entire hospital story sounded like a nightmare to me, even though they told it in a funny way.
I did want children in a few years, but the more I hear about childbirth, the more I feel like I might not want them after all.
I'm a mom of 2. My water broke a little early the first time and I had to get induced. The second time, things were so fast I showed up at the hospital fully dilated and ready to push and did it with no meds. I got a 2nd degree tear. The funny thing is, before you have your first, it's the birth that sounds the scariest. After you have your first, your perspective shifts so much. You realize that as hard as birth is, it's what comes AFTER the birth--taking care of a helpless child--that is WAY scarier. You have no idea how much your life will change: how you can pretty much never get good sleep again, how you can't just walk out the door and go to the store, how you can never have the same social life you did before, how expensive childcare is, how hard it is to see your child sick, etc.
I had my baby at 34 weeks 6 days unexpectedly and had my baby stay in the nicu for 2 weeks at the end of January. They didn’t offer courtesy rooms, and I think it’s pretty common, we had to go the Nicu every day and I would go from 8 am until 6 pm and just love on him, but Texas also does the car seat test if your baby is admitted into the NICU
I blame my job- no working from home during the pandemic while working at a courthouse 😩
What's the email for questions?
Wes being such a sleepy newborn is definitely partly him being a preemie. My baby was born at 35+5 weeks and she was extra sleepy and I was told that was normal for that gestational age. We basically had to torture her to keep her awake long enough to eat every 3 hours so I'm very impressed that Wes was such a good eater!
I don’t want to have babies, while I love listening to this podcast and their experiences, it also just confirms, for me, why I don’t want babies
This is SO real. So refreshing to hear people talk about the reality of creating a person. Keep it up! You are both rockstars.
I remember reading that getting COVID could bring on preterm labour. I wasn't sure about it until a friend of mine's sister got covid while pregnant and her baby was born very very early and unfortunately did not make it. This situation is horrifying for pregnant people and parents, especially essential workers (I know in the states you're starting to get back to normal but where I am it's worse than it's ever been).
That baby checklist...10 toes, 10 fingers, no tail, a butt hole etc...daddy Ned was perturbed by the butt inspection. Very attentive.
I was born at 1 pound, 3 months early so y’know...I’m sure you guys are gonna be fine!
Ariel, when I had my daughter, 15 years ago, I was told not to shower or change my clothes for the first 3 days after baby was born because the baby will know its you by your voice and smell and will be more comforted that way. I don't know if that is true, but when you said you didn't shower for a few days after Wes was born, it made me think about the conversation I had with the Labor and Delivery nurse when I had wanted to take a shower after giving birth.
I hope we get an updated house tour, really want to see the changes they have made to the house.
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Ofcourse to "try" to be safe is natural but....Just cuz u do a 1 time car seat test in a hospital gives no guarantee that when the baby actually gets into the car something won't happen 🤔
I hate pumping. So you pumped enough to feed a newborn from from 2-8am right out of the gates? Impressive
i don’t even want or like kids but do i tune in every podcast as soon as i see it in my feed? fuckyeah i do💅🏻😆
My grandmother was three pounds when she was born and her crib was a dresser drawer. She's 75 now and she has a lot of health problems since she's so small and doctors believe that she didn't develop all the way since she was so premature
The NICU boxes serve as incubators to keep the tiny babies warm. They also have scales in them to weigh the baby each day without removing it from the warm air.
Love how you both communicate! Would enjoy seeing a few select/PG pictures, too.
When I drink blue gatorade my poop turns green🤷♀️😅
When Ariel said “holy fuck” I gasped. Never heard her swear I loved it hahaha
I first got into the Great British Baking Show after my son was born. So much tv time.
I read somewhere that newborn babies cab sometimes sleep upwards of 18 hours.
I didn't get any ice in my hospital underwear 😂😂 wouldn't it melt on you?
Baby better be a scorpio
I’m only a week behind you guys! I’m 31 weeks and 2 days today!
Yessir
Early gang!!
That car seat test sounds brutal! I’m glad we don’t have that here
I wonder what the hospital fees are like for giving birth in the US
I don't think is funny the check list of "10 fingers, 10 toes, un butthole"... If they check is beacause there are babys born without those... ☹️
Like my nieces son.
Babies are safe to sleep in blanket lined drawer
Im 37 weeks, second pregnancy too... Currently bed bound because of spine problems... I can relate to everything and it's so comforting to listen :)