Try your best too tell someone who can help you. I'm still going through this stuff but my parents abd sister know. My sister found out and both her and my parents were amazing.
Oh my goodness, thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm 25 and I feel like you just almost exactly described my teen years. It was just something I discovered one day and gave me temporary relief. I feel like I didn't even know self harm was a thing until well after I'd started doing it. It's so awful that so many young people suffer in silence because they're not taught about depression or other mental health issues (at least I wasnt!) and more often than not they are shamed for having these feelings. Thank you for speaking up on a subject that's obviously difficult, but so important.
Well done on being able to share your story. As someone with a history of self harm, sadly I am not at that place where I can say I'm over it, there are still days where I struggle but to see someone speaking so openly about their experience is so refreshing. When I have the need to s/h it's not a cry for help in my case, I do it where it can be covered. It's a temporary release for me, the only way I feel like I can cope/control the negative things which are happening around me. When anyone sees what I have done (when I am careless and for example. let my sleeves roll up), I am ashamed of what I have done and feel guilty for the worry I put my friends and family through. Sadly not enough people understand the reasons and feelings surrounding self harm and that stigma needs to change. Sending you lots of love and hugs xxxx
Great video. As you say, such a taboo and fearful subject to talk about; great to see you doing so. These are the types of videos that should be made on these sort of subjects, not the types of ones you described at 3:53. I personally haven't had any experiences like this, but certain things you said reminded me of times of difficulty that I couldn't explain/understand when I was younger. So if this can resonate with me, then it will definitely resonate with someone who is perhaps going through something similar. I think it definitely warrants more time on the subject! As always keep up the good work.
Thank you for making this video, it made me feel less alone. I find you really inspiring to be able to talk about your own struggles which I personally struggle to do myself. Love your eye makeup by the way!
im so proud of you!. were all struggling. thank you for being considerate for triggers. some of us are still self harming. thank you for sharing your story. im proud of you, youre strong, youre loved.
I can relate to you so well. I started out by watching videos on RUclips about people's life story and experiences with self harm. I knew of it, but I didn't really know the damage it would cause or that it wasn't a normal thing to do. I somehow got the idea that physical pain will make me feel better, and so I stuck with it. I took any anger and frustration out on myself. I beat myself up (literally ), choked myself, cut, scratched, and bit. I didn't know how to tell people that something was wrong, so I cut my arms. I hid it, and yet I wished someone would see so they could know the pain I was in. I had to change for PE (into shorts and a short sleeve), but I cut my arms and thighs daily. I just wanted them to see the pain trapped inside. That's all. However, there's too much stigma around self harm. People cannot differentiate attention seeking from a cry for help. What I did had some major backlash. My only friend told everyone and bailed, so I was left with the judgments and jokes that kids made. They made a trend of sarcastically saying, "Oops, I cut myself!" anytime scissors had to be used in class. They told me to die and simply said the word "ew," and nothing more. And all I had in the end was a man who groomed me on the internet. Who only valued what could be shown to him through a web cam. In a perfect world... None of that would have happened. We'd be lifting each other up at the hint of distress, rather than tearing everyone's worth to shreds like some wild animal. Whatever happened to caring? Helping? Supporting? When our world is turned to shit and depression consumes us, suddenly nobody wants anything to do with us. We're on our own. We learn to self harm because there's no other way to cope at that point. Man, if only the world cared... Things would turn out so differently.
I’ve had both arms put in casts to my shoulder to stop me self harming. Any idea how long they will leave them on for ? It’s really frustrating as I can’t do much at the moment and miss my scars
it was very brave of you to make this. and it is definitely appreciated! thank you for this. i had a very similar experience to you and hope that one day i am brave enough to share my story. xxx
Ok this is a really urgent question. I've been scratching myself a ton I don't know if it counts as self harm but I make myself bleed, and I started therapy a month ago. In the meantime nothing had changed. I've been scratching the same amount if not more. My parents are starting to say maybe the psychologist isn't helping but I have no idea. I don't know what I think, I don't know what I'm doing, and I don't know if she is a good psychologist. Like I tell her stuff but I'm extremely stressed when with her. I don't know what's normal abd I don't know when things are meant to change. How long should it take for things to be a but better?
Omg this is so fucking triggering. In an amazing way. Like this wakes my brain into saying what I'm doing is not normal. I had to watch this in parts because it made me break down because it is literally a copy paste to what I think I'm doing. This is terrifying in a good way. I couldn't stop watching this Evan though I could feel my self start scratching myself
I went three years self harming and my family didn’t notice until college told them I got a puppy in lockdown which stopped me for two years now I’m back to self harm again but I wouldn’t really call it self harm when you don’t bleed much and it looks pathetic know body knows
Thank you for making this video:)-I'm currently going through a phase of self harming and I feel like I don't know where to turn next-My parents don't really seem to show any concern when I open up to them about it, they've even said that it doesn't classify as self harm because its not enough apparently
@@gabrielgherasim1894 you can say all you want. But doing book promotions on a post about mental illness is disrespectful. End of story. It’s not my problem that you don’t know the proper time and place to be advertising things.
I'm so glad I found your channel, I'm struggling with self harm at the moment and this provided me with an escape x
Same
wow this really got to me. i'm strugling whit this too and i do hope someone notices becouse i cant really get myself tot tell someone 😢
Manon ter Heide specking out is terrifying but believe me when I say get help while u can it’s worth it
Try your best too tell someone who can help you. I'm still going through this stuff but my parents abd sister know. My sister found out and both her and my parents were amazing.
Oh my goodness, thank you so much for sharing your story. I'm not sure how old you are, but I'm 25 and I feel like you just almost exactly described my teen years. It was just something I discovered one day and gave me temporary relief. I feel like I didn't even know self harm was a thing until well after I'd started doing it.
It's so awful that so many young people suffer in silence because they're not taught about depression or other mental health issues (at least I wasnt!) and more often than not they are shamed for having these feelings.
Thank you for speaking up on a subject that's obviously difficult, but so important.
Well done on being able to share your story. As someone with a history of self harm, sadly I am not at that place where I can say I'm over it, there are still days where I struggle but to see someone speaking so openly about their experience is so refreshing. When I have the need to s/h it's not a cry for help in my case, I do it where it can be covered. It's a temporary release for me, the only way I feel like I can cope/control the negative things which are happening around me. When anyone sees what I have done (when I am careless and for example. let my sleeves roll up), I am ashamed of what I have done and feel guilty for the worry I put my friends and family through. Sadly not enough people understand the reasons and feelings surrounding self harm and that stigma needs to change. Sending you lots of love and hugs xxxx
thank you for this video. these types of videos usually trigger me, but this one actually really helped me. i feel so much less alone and alienated. ❤
Deep down we want people to notice so that we can get the help we need to stop
Great video.
As you say, such a taboo and fearful subject to talk about; great to see you doing so.
These are the types of videos that should be made on these sort of subjects, not the types of ones you described at 3:53.
I personally haven't had any experiences like this, but certain things you said reminded me of times of difficulty that I couldn't explain/understand when I was younger. So if this can resonate with me, then it will definitely resonate with someone who is perhaps going through something similar. I think it definitely warrants more time on the subject!
As always keep up the good work.
Thank you for making this video, it made me feel less alone. I find you really inspiring to be able to talk about your own struggles which I personally struggle to do myself. Love your eye makeup by the way!
im so proud of you!. were all struggling. thank you for being considerate for triggers. some of us are still self harming. thank you for sharing your story. im proud of you, youre strong, youre loved.
I can relate to you so well. I started out by watching videos on RUclips about people's life story and experiences with self harm. I knew of it, but I didn't really know the damage it would cause or that it wasn't a normal thing to do. I somehow got the idea that physical pain will make me feel better, and so I stuck with it. I took any anger and frustration out on myself. I beat myself up (literally ), choked myself, cut, scratched, and bit. I didn't know how to tell people that something was wrong, so I cut my arms. I hid it, and yet I wished someone would see so they could know the pain I was in. I had to change for PE (into shorts and a short sleeve), but I cut my arms and thighs daily. I just wanted them to see the pain trapped inside. That's all.
However, there's too much stigma around self harm. People cannot differentiate attention seeking from a cry for help. What I did had some major backlash. My only friend told everyone and bailed, so I was left with the judgments and jokes that kids made. They made a trend of sarcastically saying, "Oops, I cut myself!" anytime scissors had to be used in class. They told me to die and simply said the word "ew," and nothing more. And all I had in the end was a man who groomed me on the internet. Who only valued what could be shown to him through a web cam.
In a perfect world... None of that would have happened. We'd be lifting each other up at the hint of distress, rather than tearing everyone's worth to shreds like some wild animal. Whatever happened to caring? Helping? Supporting? When our world is turned to shit and depression consumes us, suddenly nobody wants anything to do with us. We're on our own. We learn to self harm because there's no other way to cope at that point. Man, if only the world cared... Things would turn out so differently.
Thank you for talking about this and sharing your story. I was never able to put into words how I felt when I went through it♡
This is really relatable sadly
I’ve had both arms put in casts to my shoulder to stop me self harming. Any idea how long they will leave them on for ? It’s really frustrating as I can’t do much at the moment and miss my scars
it was very brave of you to make this. and it is definitely appreciated! thank you for this. i had a very similar experience to you and hope that one day i am brave enough to share my story. xxx
Ok this is a really urgent question. I've been scratching myself a ton I don't know if it counts as self harm but I make myself bleed, and I started therapy a month ago. In the meantime nothing had changed. I've been scratching the same amount if not more. My parents are starting to say maybe the psychologist isn't helping but I have no idea. I don't know what I think, I don't know what I'm doing, and I don't know if she is a good psychologist. Like I tell her stuff but I'm extremely stressed when with her. I don't know what's normal abd I don't know when things are meant to change. How long should it take for things to be a but better?
Omg this is so fucking triggering. In an amazing way. Like this wakes my brain into saying what I'm doing is not normal. I had to watch this in parts because it made me break down because it is literally a copy paste to what I think I'm doing. This is terrifying in a good way. I couldn't stop watching this Evan though I could feel my self start scratching myself
Good for you to tell your story
thank you :)
THANK YOU!!!!! thank you for being honest
I've gone through those cases of wanting to cut or die and I almost cut I just started year 7 and I've stopped wanting to because I hated my life
i’m sorry to hear that. how are you now?
I went three years self harming and my family didn’t notice until college told them I got a puppy in lockdown which stopped me for two years now I’m back to self harm again but I wouldn’t really call it self harm when you don’t bleed much and it looks pathetic know body knows
I 100% Understand
Thank you for making this video:)-I'm currently going through a phase of self harming and I feel like I don't know where to turn next-My parents don't really seem to show any concern when I open up to them about it, they've even said that it doesn't classify as self harm because its not enough apparently
@@gabrielgherasim1894 you’re marketing here too?
@@gabrielgherasim1894 you can say all you want. But doing book promotions on a post about mental illness is disrespectful. End of story. It’s not my problem that you don’t know the proper time and place to be advertising things.
I have started to self harm
Thank you for sharing your story
thank you
Love your accent
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