I've always found the way you talk about potentially having children really refreshing. I have gone back and forth about it a lot for a lot of reasons and I've not really come across people before you vocally speaking about not feeling particularly strongly in either way. Thank you for not shying away from topics like this where you do feel comfortable to share
Your honestly and openness about the child(human) topic is so refreshing. We are in the exact same boat about it but maybe a little farther behind in the decision and still very confused. I’m surrounded by people having babies and it’s exciting for them but it still doesn’t help me in the decision process 🥺 thank you for talking about it Katie!
I think your approach to deciding whether or not you want children is really mature and makes a lot of sense. It's one of the biggest decisions in life and will hugely shape the rest of your life. I have a 5 year old and a two year old, so I am still very much in the young children part of parenthood. There's a reason people call it the hardest job in the world. It's all consuming, there's no days off, and it can be so emotionally challenging. Having said that, it's the most rewarding thing I have ever done. There is so much joy in the little things. Watching them grow and learn, develop their own little personality, tastes and interests. The little conversations, watching them loving life doing things they enjoy and having them tell you they love you. Every hard day is worth it for those moments. The love you have for your children is huge! Having a child is a huge commitment and there's no going back once you've done it. Having a good support network and a partner who is willing to share the load and on the same page is also massively helpful as having kids will test you! I'm sure whatever decision you make will be the right one for you and well done for taking the time to consider everything ❤️
Katie! If you’re doing NY in October: There aren’t a ton of Halloween decorations because most people live in apartment buildings. (Decorations are bigger in family-oriented suburban neighborhoods.) However if you go, you have to check out Lillie’s Victorian Establishment, a bar by union square that goes ALL OUT on decorations. There will be a lot of bars with halloween-themed cocktails too. It’s also hard to see leaves in the city (even in central park). I’d recommend a couple hour “leaf peeping” boatride along the Hudson River. You can easily get tickets for a boat leaving from Chelsea Piers.
I went for a walk with my then fiancée - by a river in the countryside - sunny day, feeling great. We came across a massive family having a picnic and they asked us to take a photo of them. We happily did so. Something just clicked in my heart in that particular moment. Something about seeing multiple generations sitting there together that day. Honestly it was like a switch. Fell pregnant soon after, now married with 2 boys having our own adventures. No regrets but I do sometimes think about my alternate universe self and what she might be doing!
My mom had a huge influence in my decision about having a ‘human’ (love that). She passed away when I was 25 and it was one of her last life lessons that she shared with me. How much joy and fulfillment raising us had brought to her life and how much she wished for me to enjoy the same richness in life. Another one: how do you celebrate Christmas now and envision it for the future? I love having dinner with my dad, brothers and their partners and I love the idea of having that thirty years from now with my own children all grown up
I have always left the ads on too. Now I have started my RUclips channel. Much more aware. And definitely I have so much admiration fir RUclipsrs, it is timely, hardwork but incredibly satisfying❤ Thanks Katie❤
I have the same thing with my moods before periods! How many days before your period do you notice it starts? I feel like mine is 7 days. Thanks for sharing :)
Hey Katie ! I love following you ! 🤗 I am romanian (living in France) and the fact that you brought up Romania filled my heart with joy ! ❤ If you go again, I recommend Timisoara (my hometown). It’s a very nice city to visit ! Also Oradea is beautiful. Hugs !
I’m exactly the same I never think of it as a baby, I think of it as do I want to raise a whole human and the teenage stage is something I think about a lot and for me I always come back to no I don’t want it, I enjoy our quiet life and tidy house far too much with our fur babies to give it up ❤️
Me and my partner had the same feelings towards children. Partly because I was told I couldn’t have them. We decided to leave it up to fate… we knew we would be happy either way, but wanted to let the universe decide for us. That way we felt that we couldn’t regret not having children if it never happened for us. I knew in my heart that I wouldn’t feel comfortable making a definite decision either way. It did take 5 years, but we had a baby girl and she is the light of our lives. I’m not going to say its been easy and i definitely miss the freedom, but I wouldn’t change it for the world ❤
I’m due to have my first little one next week and I’ve followed your decision journey at the same time my husband and I went through the same process. Every thing you say Is so relatable and even now days away from our child arriving all of your points still resonate in different ways. The only thing I can share from our choice was we felt we would be happy either way with our lives and there was definitely never a ‘moment’ of clear clarity just that we felt ready to be able to take that step together.. also ironically after going back and forth for a few years on the decision we fell pregnant after our first try so that pretty much removed any further conversation of well it’s taking time is this right for us or maybe not meant to be 😂
Love the way you say human. So right to say. Did not really knew if i wanted kids. But now I have 2 boys in their twenties. They are diagnosed with autisme one of them with epilepsi too. They are high intelligent and I love them so much
Wow, I 100% can relate to your opinion about children, just really 100% to what you said. Thank you for sharing, but I would never ask anyone those kind of questions 😅 In terms of decision-making we were thinking of using some kind of graded system, like not every pro or con has the same weight for us and also for some cons they are temporal etc. This is the best that we came up with so far.. And another thought was that what we will regret more, kind of opposite way of thinking from what will make us happier.
Hi Katie. It’s not as straightforward as a yes or no. My husband and I met when we were 18 always spoke about having kids but decided that we wanted children,but in our early 30s. Unfortunately for us it wasn’t meant to be. 4 failed IVF cycles later,countless tests etc I was told I am unable to have children. We are defeated! .I think if you feel strongly that you dont want them as much as you do want them the decision probably is a no. Good luck with everything though and I hope you come to peace with whatever you decide. ❤
On children, it's a no from me. I know it would make me so miserable but of course there's a few percent of sadness in that. I think really only around Christmas, which makes me think media advertising causes that, but otherwise I'm very comfortable and happy with the decision. With a new partner I'd tell them this on date 1, or even before that, as to not lead them into a false security ❤
Having children is a big risk - what will they grow up to become? What will the world be like for them? No one would have children if they believed the future to be unbearably bad; humans have children not just out of a biological drive to continue the species, but out of the hope of them going on to create an increasingly better world.
I've always found the way you talk about potentially having children really refreshing. I have gone back and forth about it a lot for a lot of reasons and I've not really come across people before you vocally speaking about not feeling particularly strongly in either way. Thank you for not shying away from topics like this where you do feel comfortable to share
Your honestly and openness about the child(human) topic is so refreshing. We are in the exact same boat about it but maybe a little farther behind in the decision and still very confused. I’m surrounded by people having babies and it’s exciting for them but it still doesn’t help me in the decision process 🥺 thank you for talking about it Katie!
I think your approach to deciding whether or not you want children is really mature and makes a lot of sense. It's one of the biggest decisions in life and will hugely shape the rest of your life. I have a 5 year old and a two year old, so I am still very much in the young children part of parenthood. There's a reason people call it the hardest job in the world. It's all consuming, there's no days off, and it can be so emotionally challenging. Having said that, it's the most rewarding thing I have ever done. There is so much joy in the little things. Watching them grow and learn, develop their own little personality, tastes and interests. The little conversations, watching them loving life doing things they enjoy and having them tell you they love you. Every hard day is worth it for those moments. The love you have for your children is huge!
Having a child is a huge commitment and there's no going back once you've done it. Having a good support network and a partner who is willing to share the load and on the same page is also massively helpful as having kids will test you!
I'm sure whatever decision you make will be the right one for you and well done for taking the time to consider everything ❤️
Katie! If you’re doing NY in October: There aren’t a ton of Halloween decorations because most people live in apartment buildings. (Decorations are bigger in family-oriented suburban neighborhoods.) However if you go, you have to check out Lillie’s Victorian Establishment, a bar by union square that goes ALL OUT on decorations. There will be a lot of bars with halloween-themed cocktails too. It’s also hard to see leaves in the city (even in central park). I’d recommend a couple hour “leaf peeping” boatride along the Hudson River. You can easily get tickets for a boat leaving from Chelsea Piers.
Love how honest you are on all the topics,have a lovely day x
Loved this video, would love to see your updated skincare routine and products you recommend 🥰
I went for a walk with my then fiancée - by a river in the countryside - sunny day, feeling great. We came across a massive family having a picnic and they asked us to take a photo of them. We happily did so. Something just clicked in my heart in that particular moment. Something about seeing multiple generations sitting there together that day. Honestly it was like a switch. Fell pregnant soon after, now married with 2 boys having our own adventures. No regrets but I do sometimes think about my alternate universe self and what she might be doing!
My mom had a huge influence in my decision about having a ‘human’ (love that). She passed away when I was 25 and it was one of her last life lessons that she shared with me. How much joy and fulfillment raising us had brought to her life and how much she wished for me to enjoy the same richness in life.
Another one: how do you celebrate Christmas now and envision it for the future? I love having dinner with my dad, brothers and their partners and I love the idea of having that thirty years from now with my own children all grown up
I have always left the ads on too.
Now I have started my RUclips channel. Much more aware. And definitely I have so much admiration fir RUclipsrs, it is timely, hardwork but incredibly satisfying❤ Thanks Katie❤
I have the same thing with my moods before periods! How many days before your period do you notice it starts?
I feel like mine is 7 days.
Thanks for sharing :)
Hey Katie ! I love following you ! 🤗 I am romanian (living in France) and the fact that you brought up Romania filled my heart with joy ! ❤ If you go again, I recommend Timisoara (my hometown). It’s a very nice city to visit ! Also Oradea is beautiful. Hugs !
I’m exactly the same I never think of it as a baby, I think of it as do I want to raise a whole human and the teenage stage is something I think about a lot and for me I always come back to no I don’t want it, I enjoy our quiet life and tidy house far too much with our fur babies to give it up ❤️
Me and my partner had the same feelings towards children. Partly because I was told I couldn’t have them. We decided to leave it up to fate… we knew we would be happy either way, but wanted to let the universe decide for us. That way we felt that we couldn’t regret not having children if it never happened for us. I knew in my heart that I wouldn’t feel comfortable making a definite decision either way. It did take 5 years, but we had a baby girl and she is the light of our lives. I’m not going to say its been easy and i definitely miss the freedom, but I wouldn’t change it for the world ❤
I’m due to have my first little one next week and I’ve followed your decision journey at the same time my husband and I went through the same process. Every thing you say Is so relatable and even now days away from our child arriving all of your points still resonate in different ways.
The only thing I can share from our choice was we felt we would be happy either way with our lives and there was definitely never a ‘moment’ of clear clarity just that we felt ready to be able to take that step together.. also ironically after going back and forth for a few years on the decision we fell pregnant after our first try so that pretty much removed any further conversation of well it’s taking time is this right for us or maybe not meant to be 😂
Love the way you say human. So right to say. Did not really knew if i wanted kids. But now I have 2 boys in their twenties. They are diagnosed with autisme one of them with epilepsi too. They are high intelligent and I love them so much
Wow, I 100% can relate to your opinion about children, just really 100% to what you said. Thank you for sharing, but I would never ask anyone those kind of questions 😅
In terms of decision-making we were thinking of using some kind of graded system, like not every pro or con has the same weight for us and also for some cons they are temporal etc. This is the best that we came up with so far.. And another thought was that what we will regret more, kind of opposite way of thinking from what will make us happier.
Hi Katie. It’s not as straightforward as a yes or no. My husband and I met when we were 18 always spoke about having kids but decided that we wanted children,but in our early 30s. Unfortunately for us it wasn’t meant to be. 4 failed IVF cycles later,countless tests etc I was told I am unable to have children. We are defeated! .I think if you feel strongly that you dont want them as much as you do want them the decision probably is a no. Good luck with everything though and I hope you come to peace with whatever you decide. ❤
On children, it's a no from me. I know it would make me so miserable but of course there's a few percent of sadness in that. I think really only around Christmas, which makes me think media advertising causes that, but otherwise I'm very comfortable and happy with the decision. With a new partner I'd tell them this on date 1, or even before that, as to not lead them into a false security ❤
Also, can I ask, is Sunday your new upload day?
Katie thinks of all the things you could knit the baby 😅❤
Children are the embodiment of hope for the future.
What does this even mean??
Having children is a big risk - what will they grow up to become? What will the world be like for them? No one would have children if they believed the future to be unbearably bad; humans have children not just out of a biological drive to continue the species, but out of the hope of them going on to create an increasingly better world.