I have that as well. I have it where I find it hard to speak to people in public especially once they mention me. I also have normal anxiety which causes some panic attacks. I feel for you!
Thank you soo freakin' much for being so open! I suffer with panics attacks. Anxiety of all types. From lighting changes, temperature changes ect. I thought I was going crazy! You have no idea how much this means to us, that you are so open and REAL! You both are truly amazing! I binge watch your old videos when I'm having a bad day, because depression is real and takes over so quickly at times, you have to know that you all really pull me out of that bad state and help me to keep going and put a smile on my face and make me laugh! You are both are truly amazing human beings! I love you! And cute little dude, Koazy, has the best parents!! He's going to have the best childhood and the most love from both of you. I'm excited to see more of your life journey. Thanks for sharing with us! 🤗❤ I wish I could give $50 I just don't have enough right now. But THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO!! Love from Australia! 🇦🇺❤🇦🇺
Liana mastered those conversations. Whenever someone says to me "hey how are you today?" I get really flustered and most of the time just say "yes" 🤦♀️ It's way harder to have a conversation with people than others think. I have some serious respect for you for doing that.
Please be honest! So many people say; I’m doing wonderful……when they are having a shitty day! You can just say; I’m having a hard day today! But also the other way around, we say; how are you doing today? I say now; hi, I hope you are having a nice day today! It has already been a conversation starter many times 😊🥰
Bite size tasks ❤I have to do the same I took my first job because I hate people and phone calls to become more confident (receptionist) I now work as a service desk technician it helped I hate people still lol but it definitely helped. Sending Hugs don’t push your self too hard too fast xx
You don't know how much you being open and honest about your Anxiety means for those who struggle with it. I, myself, struggle with it and watching someone like you, with a platform showing your true self really makes me feel like I'm not alone. Edit: Also, Koazy is the cutest!!!! You guys made a cute baby 🤗
I’m so proud of you Liana and I can completely understand how you feel. You certainly don’t sound pathetic. This was a very inspirational video giving that I also suffer from social anxiety and it’s pushed me that extra bit to go out to compliment and talk to others. Also I just want to add an extra thing for others who have maybe spoken to people with anxiety. We are always very quiet and we don’t like making small talk a lot of the time. I’ve had people call me rude and unfriendly behind my back before and it brings on the panic mode. I just want to make it clear to anyone who has encountered this type of behaviour that it a lot of the time has a perfectly reasonable explanation so don’t be too quick to judge. Thanks again for this video it’s definitely a favourite! ❤🥰😘
OMG I’m so glad you mentioned phone calls!!! I work in HR so it’s not useful to be so anxious around calls. I cried to my dad and begged him to call my insurance company to cancel my policy, I’ve ignored so many calls for important things or even simply from family. I’m able to act confident but on the inside it’s another story. I’m getting gradually better but it’s still an issue and I felt so silly for a long time but i’m fortunate my work has validated my anxiety about calls, they push me to take calls by putting my number as the first to receive a call but assure me at any time I feel anxious or stressed or don’t know the answer I can put someone on hold or transfer the call. I’m thankful for Liana for talking about it to, it definitely helps me feel less silly.
Liana asking Connor if the Starbucks door is a push or pull had me. I am the EXACT same. I want to make sure that I don’t make any mistakes because I am not going to handle that well when I’m already shitting myself with anxiety 🥲 well done Liana 🧡
You’re being so brave Liana, anyone who puts you down or is negative about this just has never been there and should be feeling grateful for that and less judgemental. I used to be super confident, as a part of my job I dealt with the media every day, I dealt with film crews, interviews, Royal visits. I often had to speak to a lecture theatre full of Drs and Consultants, the largest room held 300 & we had almost 2000 Drs so I did this twice a day for about a week until they’d all been updated on new procedures that were so important that they could literally lose their Medical Licence if They failed to complete these procedures. But my boss retired and his replacement was 100% c u next tuesday. This new guy literally drove me to a nervous breakdown and I had some very dark & dangerous thoughts of not being around anymore. I once even sat with all that I needed to depart right there in front of me... yes, I got THAT close to acting on those thoughts. In the end my husband said we will find a way to cope with the financial crap, but you need to quit. He said I’d rather be on the streets with you, than in this house without you! I have never fully recovered, I have PTSD and often have nightmares that we would go somewhere tomorrow and that 💩 head would be there. I was terrified of Joni interviews because I was sure he would be working there, I’d walk in and there he’d be. Absolutely irrational, but people without anxiety need to realise that anxiety is NOT rational, you can’t just say “don’t be daft” and feel everything is good again. I’m now off the antidepressants I was on... I literally ended those right before the first lockdown... I actually managed to joke to my husband that my timing sucked! I still have days where I cannot leave the house, I also have days where I cannot even face going downstairs. People who have known me for years can be just as hard to see as total strangers are, so I isolated myself for a long time... but I’m beginning to slowly crawl out of my hole, it’s baby steps, and sometimes it all goes backwards, but I just have to shake it off, get a grip and get back out there. It is important for you to tackle this now, while Koazy is still a lil bab, you don’t want to put your anxiety into him as he grows. He needs to see his mummy being beautiful, strong & confident, so that he can be the same... It’s all long process and can’t be rushed, but you got this! Sending you loads of love n hugs from Yorkshire 💜
Hiii Liana, I have (social) anxiety for so long know. 2,5 years ago I quitted working because I was so burned out. I just couldn't leave the house alone for 3 moths after that. I had lots of therapie and they have explained about anxiety so much. It helped me a lot to understand what was going one inside my head. For me it really helps to know that anxiety/fear is something that builds up. And that is also goes away when you just let it be. Of course easier sad then done! It's called 'anxiety curve'. My therapist and I did exercises together, so I could also feel this myself. If I feel overwhelmed now, I can tell myself (in a loving, healthy way) that this feeling will pass, that it is okay to feel this way and that I'm doing a great job. I almost don't have any panic attacks anymore. So, eventually, this will get better! I hope this is some use for you and keep having faith! 😘
Totally understand how you feel. Even just booking an appointment at the GP or dentist and I start rehearsing the phone call in my mind a few times before I actually ring them!
I sit there staring at the phone for ages, almost pressing the call button, changing my mind, almost pressing it again, changing my mind again 😅 this continues for a while before I either make the call or put it off for another day
As someone who has dealt with many forms of anxiety along with panic attacks as well my whole life this video really made me happy. I love all of you guys videos but this one really hit home for me. ❤❤❤
This is such a perfect example of you never know what someone deals with everyday and to always be kind, cause at first glance you’re so articulate, well spoken and seem like you deal with everything very well. As a stranger you would never know you have really bad anxiety. but it’s nice to know we all aren’t alone with that feeling and that it’s common💜
I just wanna say you're really not alone with having anxiety! Dealt with anxiety basically my whole life and i'm now 22. I really think it's so cool and brave to face the anxiety head on like that and in some cases it does work very well, just don't push yourself too hard ofc! Tho personally it hasn't worked fully for me, but i do also have a lot of other diagnosis stuff on top that complicates it. I did learn to deal way better with talking to strangers and doing phone calls over the past 7 years or so, and can actually most of the time do it without being a panicking mess so in that regard doing it and realising it's fine really has helped a lot, so i really hope that it does for you too Liana, or whoever ends up reading this that might also struggle with it❤
Liana, Conner is totally correct. You are not the only one dealing with this. I am 47 years old and I had crippling social anxiety for many years. When I had my children in my twenties, I really tried to push myself in the same way you are. I still have social anxiety, but it is not as crippling as it was in the past. I know how mentally and emotionally exhausting it can be to be in social situations. You should be very proud of yourself for challenging yourself and remember, baby steps are ok!
I really struggle too! You aren't alone, Covid has caused alot of people who didn't have anxiety to start having social anxiety. So there alot of people out there who feel exactly the same as you. You have got this 💗 Big love x
Thank you so much for sharing this! I really appreciate you being honest about it and talking about it, even though it's hard. I've been ill and had to spend a lot of time at home, and now I'm feeling anxious about having to go out and talk to people, so seeing you tackle and conquer your fears is really encouraging. Thank you ❤️
I can 100% relate to you. I have anxiety and panic attacks plus PTSD from sexual assault. I’m also a serious nerd and have a hard time talking to people. After becoming a mom I had to speak up bc I did most of the doctors appointments, etc. bc of my husband’s job. Now my daughter’s an adult and I find I’m reverting to my former reclusive self. You are SO BRAVE. GO Liana!!!🙌🙌🙌🤩🤩🤩❤️❤️❤️
Don't worry Connor and Liana we are here for you ❤️❤️ Just know that you don't need to be afraid to tell us anything and we will be very supportive ❤️❤️❤️
I love that you are so open about your social anxiety! As someone who also struggles with social anxiety, it’s so nice to know I’m not alone. So many people in my life make me feel dumb and get mad at me when I can’t do things because of my social anxiety. I also really hate phone calls too. I don’t know what it is about them since they can’t even see me. Starting conversations and confronting people is also really hard for me. It was really nice to see you push pass your anxiety and do things that are hard for you since I don’t know if I could do the same. So thanks so much for being so open about your social anxiety and showing how you are working to not let it affect your life anymore. You’re so brave and not pathetic at all. I’m honestly inspired by you 💜
literally liana, social anxiety is horrible ive had it for so long, its not silly whenever i go out my voice shakes, and my mind goes totally blank my head and hands go very warm and i shake and get awkward its so hard. you did so well liana im so proud of you!
You’re doing great Liana and it’s great that you hv support from Connor n Koazy!!! It takes time and a lot of work…I’ve been there and getting better. I hv a lot of unanswered cell calls. 😮 but I’ve gotten thru a lot of other challenges’ ❤
Liana, I am absolutely loving this video! Please please make more of these videos! Make a series out of it! You would be shocked to find out how many people are having some kind of anxiety 😊😇 like the guy/men in Starbucks, maybe he did not “noticed” what you said, maybe he was having a bad day, or he had some sort of social anxiety! But you are making a change now, and not only for yourself!! I was just talking with my mother about this video of you, and also other videos the 2 of you post! The reality! My mother said; this can help her son for the rest of his life, because he can always watch it back?!?! I can talk her for hours……while save that for future videos of you 😊😉
From someone who has suffered with a lot of mental health issues since I was a baby I understand how terrifying it is to make phone calls start conversations or engage in conversations Liana I am very proud of you, your doing an amazing job one step at the time you’ve got this ❤️💕
Thank you so much for sharing your struggles and addressing mental health in this episode. I feel that the more people speak openly about these things can only benefit others that feel like they are alone in their struggles. I am 58 years old an these serious topics weren’t talked about when I was your age. It has only been in the last two years that I have been able to reach out for help with my anxiety, depression and ptsd that I have stuffed away for many years until my body started to pay the price. So thank you. Also, I am a mom of four grown girls and can tell that oh that parenting is so hard yet so rewarding and although we only see a glimpse of how you parent, your doing great.
My social anxiety got so bad at some point that I missed days of school So seeing Liana be so open about it and want to tackle it is really comforting and making me wanna go back to putting myself outside my bubble 😭✨
I find more and more things that I completely relate to with you in every single video (and I’m not even a parent) I have the same phone anxiety. I will make the problem 10x worse by ignoring/avoiding phone calls but it just feels impossible to tackle. Thank you so much for being so honest and open. Your videos always feel like I’m just chatting with a friend and I love that about you. Thank you and keep being amazing 🥹❤️
You're so lucky to have an amazing partner like Connor who builds you up I struggle with the same thing it's nice to know I'm not alone. It's hard as a mother to have social anxiety. I'm a single mom and if I didn't have family to help me with social events I don't know what I would do. Thank you Liana for being so brave and sharing your struggles with us
Iam a silent watcher of your videos mostly, but first of all thank you so much for your content, its the best. I also struggle with social anxiety and because of that Iam very proud of Liana. Its so important to sometimes try to be couraged and put yourself in these situations. Same as also having a person on your side, who doesnt push you to always go over your "limits". I also pushed myself into a job as an occupational therapist, where I have to make many phone calls and am always in contact and conversation with people. After 5 years its still hard, especially after being on a vacation and starting to work again, but it gets better over time. Thank you for sharing 🤗
I just have to say, the blue leggings Liana are wearing look so good! I am very nervous of wearing colourful clothing and always wear dark clothing because I don't want to stand out. I love her leggings tho and the colour suits her ! Also, I used to be the same with social anxiety, but my mom made me do payments alone whenever we went to the store and it really helped and once I became a waitress, it became ten times easier to talk to people as I would talk to random people everyday! Keep going! You are literally doing so well!
Oh my gosh, the complimenting is something I do! I also have social and general anxiety but it fluctuates. Sometimes I get too nervous and hesitate and my husband reminds me that it makes my day when I get a compliment. Sometimes they don’t react at all or give me a strange look but I think it’s because they are wondering if I might be making fun or they’re just not used to it but usually their faces light up and then I feel good too! (I also don’t like to give compliments unless they’re genuine either! And I ALWAYS struggle on the phone.) And you did a WONDERFUL job!
I resonate with this a lot! As someone with a more mild case of social anxiety, it saddens me sometimes when, for example, I really do want to pay someone a complement or just go through the checkout line at a store, and I find myself having a really hard time doing so! It’s nice to see I’m not alone, as I may take some of these ideas and use them as small challenges for myself when I’m out and about. Really lovely video!
The more you put yourself out there the easier it gets! I had the same sort of issues and just started making myself do different things and now at 60 it rarely bothers me. Going into a new restaurant I'd literally push someone who was with me to go in first among many other things. Decided when my daughter was born that I had to, just like you. You CAN do it!
I'm glad you guys are talking about anxiety things, I know it makes a lot of people happy to know they are not alone, including myself as I can relate to pretty much everything in this video. But one thing I have realized is that we are actually the only person who thinks that a certain conversation or something we did was awkward, as other people couldn't care less. Also, from an outside perspective, something someone did just naturally looks normal and we don't think too much about it. So don't worry, Liana, everything you said was perfectly normal and you did a great job stepping out of your comfort zone! You're brave for doing so and I hope you manage to overcome your social anxiety!💗
I love this, because it helps people realize that just because Ur well known on social media, and Ur okay with being Infront of a camera, it doesn't mean that u don't struggle with anxiety or anything else!! so proud of u Liana!
Well done liana . I have had social anxiety since I was a preteen however these days you wouldn’t guess at all . When I was young I would send my younger siblings or my parents on errands for me and if someone asked me to socialise and I said no but they tried pushing me into it I would break down . I remember one party which was quite small I hid in basically a cupboard and for half the time I was crying because I was so scared but I was getting told I was stupid . I wouldn’t make calls and wouldn’t speak to strangers . I got out of this by constantly pushing myself to try things like you are doing here over a period of years ( even now I struggle mildly still with new situations,big groups and certain phone calls) but I talk to strangers all the time with no problem , I compliment people every now and then and I do shopping and phone calls for the whole family . It’s all but gone but it will be a lifelong thing I believe it’s just about getting out your own head because most of the anxiety votes from you talking yourself out of things by thinking things that aren’t true ☺️
My husband has social anxiety. He has been doing some work with a therapist to improve his confidence. The main thing he has learned is his inner critical voice is very loud to the point that it drowns out anything else he achieves. So even when he does things right he feels like he is failing. He also worries too much about looking silly as well as what other people might think of him. These days he is a lot more relaxed. Liana, you are far too hard on yourself! Nobody is perfect. You don't have to be perfect. We all fumble things every day. I push doors that are meant to be pulled all the time and so do other people! Nobody is going to be looking at you or judging you. You fumble? Keep it moving, Sis! A tip that I use for calls: make brief notes for everything you want to say. Like prompts. Part of your anxiety might be about forgetting what you want to say or not getting it right. You can address that by preparing for the call by having reference numbers and account details to hand and by writing down any questions you want to ask. And don't ask for permission to ask the questions. Just say "I have a few questions"!
Hi liana! I’ve got GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) and I have found therapy to be IMMENSELY helpful. It is scary to talk to someone, but I’ve been seeing my therapist for a while and I’ve gotten to know her a lot better. You absolutely deserve to go on this journey with someone who knows what they’re doing. Although I’m super proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone, just pushing through is not going to help you on your hard days. Professionals have awesome tools to help you out!
This is me too! I Like you said I couldn't go and pay for anything at a till or go into the changing rooms to try clothes on. I hated phone calls, standing up for presentations at school, crowds of people would send me panicking and if there wasn't a clear way out I would feel my heart beating too fast and feel like I could faint any moment! I did improve as I got older but that was until 5 years ago when I became a mum. Now it's worse than ever as my daughter has just started school. I look at all the other parents and inside I'm screaming to myself just talk to them. I wonder what other people talk about and then overthink to the point where i just freeze and can't do it. I know they must think oh she's rude or a bit strange, I just wish they knew how much I actually do want to talk to them! My daughter had a school disco last week and she was so excited and then there's me absolutely petrified of taking her because the DJ might make me join in or parents wanting to talk. Argh it''s so hard because I know I need to be a good role model for daughter and my son but it really isn't easy. Doesn't help when you have people in your family that just don't understand it. Anyway just thought I'd let you know you aren't alone and watching someone else experience the struggles I have is very comforting ❤️
Watching this has shown me that I'm not alone with my anxiety I do not know which one I have but I definitely have social and any other ones to do with rides and stress...love your vids your so inspiring ..x
The amount of second hand anxiety I had just watching you was incredible! You did wonderfully well Liana!! Don't get down on yourself, there are so many of us that struggle with social anxiety as well. Connor, you are such a supportive partner! The empathy and patience you have as well as being her cheerleader or hero if needed is so wholesome and exactly the content so many of us 'nervous Nellie's' needed today!
I had my first panic attack at the age of 21 as well, but mine showed up as a possible heart attack. It wasn’t thank goodness, but I had all the symptoms to the point they sent me to the hospital for a echocardiogram & I was fortunate that the person doing the ECG & she told me I was ok. I had several more that year & my doctor finally told me what was happening & I eventually went for massages & a psychologist, these helped, but years later it got worse & I had to go on Selexa to help & it did. My anxiety isn’t gone, but I can generally get through most things including social situations. Best wishes Liana❤️
Liana! I honestly feel your pain. I get SO much social anxiety! Especially when we get invited over by new friends to meet or like group settings, I go over and over conversations and scenarios in my head before going and talk myself out of going completely and then cry and have a panic attack. I feel you about phone calls also. It's hard! But I'm so happy for you that you're trying to get through it! ❤️
I relate so much to this! I have similar experiences with my social anxiety as well ❤ This video made me so happy and reading the comments has given me a massive confidence boost knowing I’m not alone ☺️☺️ I know how hard it is to open up so a massive well done Liana 🥳❤️
Just know there are more people with anxiety then without 😊 and it can change during your life, sometimes it are big things and sometimes small things. Don’t be to hard on yourself ❤️ you got this 🥰
thank you for this video. I always struggle with managing an important conversation that in I need to make sure the other person got it right for me. I don’t like that feeling when I’m the one to choose and I can’t ask anyone else about their opinion. I get very nervous that I’m annoying somehow. I watched a lot of videos to try to understand what I can do about it so I wouldn’t overthink stuff like this, but I couldn’t really realate to any of them, until I watched this and realised that there is many people who have the same problem. what Connor said about the phone calls especially. the people who answer the phone aren’t there to judge you or tell you that they don’t want to help you. they’re there to literally hear you out
you guys are so strong! lianna you are so amazing and you are not alone because I also have social anxiety and normal anxiety. you can do this love I belive in you. i was also so anxious some times I couldn't talk to staff and I hade to get my friends too. i have known the staff for 5 years now. i love you guys!!
I was in a store earlier today and there were a couple of people in front of me and a few people behind me. I literally broke out into sweats before making it out of the store 🙄 Social anxiety is such a real thing. I also have to prepare myself making any kind of phone calls, they make me so nervous.
You done amazing Liana! I actually felt so anxious watching this I could have cried for you when you walked out of Starbucks! That feeling of relief when you leave a situation like that is all to familiar to me! As a mummy to 3 kids it’s hard trying to explain to people why I can’t do stay and play play dates or toddler groups… you guys are honestly the sweetest couple and Connor reminds me so much of my husband in the way he loves and supports you! Love to you all from Scotland ❣️
hi! i just want to say i struggle with anxiety and have panic attacks all off the time - usually about going to school. your a HUGE insperation to me and you nailed this thankyou for being an awsome role model XX
I feel the same about work, well done to us on the days when we manage to get up from bed and leave the house to go to the place 👍🙂 You've got this, random internet friend! Xxx
Liana….. just know you are definitely not alone. I have always had major social anxiety. It never helped that I’m also an empath and literally feel everything that people are feeling around me. And in all honesty the empath side of things has gotten worse as I get older. But I will say that I definitely got over a large portion of my anxiety in my mid to late 20’s when I worked full time and was complete with school. You have no choice but to be social while working. And it was then I learned that if you always allow people to see your fear of confrontation and general socialization that you get taken advantage of. It was then I realized how much it sucked feeling like that and started making changes. And I can tell you the first time I picked up the phone and complained to someone like there was no tomorrow. Short story is a repair man, that I took the day off of work from, said they rang the doorbell and no one answered, this was after I sat in the window watching all day and nobody came. Well that’s when I had enough. And you know what, it felt good being assertive. Then of course after having my son was all new social anxiety. But you eventually have to tell yourself, mommy baby groups are beneficial for baby, so you put your big girl pants on and do it. I promise it will get easier. And you will feel so much better, empowered almost. Give it time. 💜
I'm still camera shy to do the videos like you both do. But I'm proud of you for pushing yourself through that and for being open to make that change. I love you all.
I'm so proud of you Liana! I suffer from some social anxiety etc. too and it's great to be able to know that I can relate to this and I'm not on my own! 💗
OMG Liana, I could swear I was one of the very few that has that phone call nervousness, I can never explain it but I always get so very nervous, instant cold sweat all over and my feet are freezing just because I have to have a phone call, it's so annoying and like you said, 95% of the time, after the call I'm like "why did I paniced, this was so easy..." but next time around, I'm all the same 😅 Thank you so much for sharing your story, I'm sorry you struggle with anxiety, but I am happy that you opened up about it, becomes it raises awareness and it helps people with similar struggles to feel normal in a sense (or at least that's the effect for me). All the best to you guys!❤
dear Liana, i have a similar problem with calling people, i dont know if this will help you, but making important calls or even calls with other people than friends and family myself has helped me feel more confident about it. At the beginning it was far away from easy, but i work as nurse, i have to call patients relatives, so i basicly had no chance, but its definitely much easier now. Working as a nurse, especially the fact that I work on people, helped me a lot to be more open with other people more quickly. I hope you find yourself a way to feel better around people. I did it, i know you can do it, too.
You did soooooo well!! I've social anxiety and I can force myself to do things like go order a coffee (I also panic beforehand if a door is push or pull before I go lol) but the way you tried making a conversation and complimenting people was amazing....I don't think I'd ever pluck up the courage to do that. Keep it up!
Well done Liana! You should be really proud of yourself! It isn’t easy, anxiety is cruel and can make you feel very isolated. I love seeing how supportive and encouraging Connor is ♥️ Take it one step and a time, one day at a time and when you do have bad days, just look back at how far you’ve come xx
I’ve suffered with panic disorder for about 6 years and I know exactly how you feel, I find I get it worse when I’m in a long queue where it’s difficult to leave it if I have too… like primark. You’re doing great ! Keep pushing yourself I promise it gets better and that exposure is key ! It’s short term pain for long term gain xx
Be nice Conner!!! Support her and be gentle!!!liana you did great!!! I’m glad you’ve started baby steps! You’ll get it! Many people feel the way you do!❤❤❤
I am exactly like you Liana. My husband ends up doing certain things for me cos I spiral. I'm trying to be better as I'm pregnant and want to, like you, be able to advocate for them when they're here. And for myself when I go to give birth. Massive respect for you working on yourself x
Lianna, I am old now and have held down a challenging great job for many years. I think its the changes but I am now super anxious and have no confidence these days! Thank you for being so brave and open, the world is a strange place at the moment, but you have a lovely hubby, a gorgeous little boy and you are doing really really well with everything.. Get driving girlie. Just ten minutes somewhere super quiet once or twice a week, as Conner says, baby steps. Lotsa love. xx
I understand you very well Liana, I also struggle with these things. And phone calls are indeed the worst, talking to someone in person is way easier for me too, I don't know why that is, maybe it has something to do with not being able to see their facial expressions, or I'm afraid I can't hear theem well, cause a lot of people don't speak clearly on the phone. But I'm really proud of you, I also tackle things I'm scared to do one by one, like sending a parcel (very easy once I had done it, but I was nervous before I did it)
I am so incredibly proud of you Liana. As someone who also suffers from anxiety too, I know how hard it can be to tackle. You did amazing! 🥰 By the way, have you ever tried any type of therapy? It can be really helpful. 😊 I love you guys. 💝
Oh my goodness, I can relate to everything you said in the video, Liana! Well done for trying to combat your issues, it’s not easily done. I found that learning to drive really helped me gain confidence. It may sound weird but I always told myself I couldn’t do it and then surprised myself when I passed. Since then, the confidence I have gained is amazing! Good luck on your journey!
Love that you are challenging yourself and being so open about it. I didn't realise my fear of being watched by people was part of social anxiety! Learn something new everyday. This video really made me feel like I wasn't alone.
Liana I hope you know how much this has helped other people with similar anxieties. I wish you the best working through your social anxiety. Thank you 💗💗💗
So proud of you!! I suffer from social anxiety as well and it used to be so hard for me especially grocery shopping but I've been working on it and it's gotten better.
So proud of you Liana. Take baby steps, and be kind to yourself while you’re taking small risks. Slowly but surely you will get more and more comfortable. Also look up tapping/eft for social anxiety. These things helped me overcome the social anxiety I faced for more than two decades. Sending lot of love your way
Good for you, Liana! Like Connor said lots of people have social anxiety/socially awkward but don't do anything with it. Choosing to face your fears, even in seemily small steps, is an amazing thing to do and shows how strong you are. 😄 for me working in retail helped me get over some of my social fears. like I had to talk to people to help them find what they needed and so I was told to ask open ended questions. Some people are easier to have a coversation with than others cause you ask them a question and they will tell you their life story XD It was fun. sometimes overwhelming but it helped me grow as a person.
I kinda wondered why I liked Liana so much.. I really get it now. She's such a genuine, real, sensitive, humble and beautiful girl. I have been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder.. and social phobia.. after getting panic attacks- seemingly out of nowhere, when I was 21. It was so incredibly and indescribably traumatic, damaging, lonely and all consuming. I ended up attending an anxiety clinic where they focused on CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and Gradual Exposure Techniques.. and breathing techniques. It helped me so, so much. I have never had a panic attack since.. although I have struggled with the generalised anxiety and social phobia- and had massive addiction issues ALL my life- and only recently found recovery. I mention the addiction part.. because I truly believe.. severe anxiety and social phobia, can lead, even the strongest people, into the darkest places. If I had continued with ongoing professional treatment- and believed in myself more.. I truly think addiction wouldn't have been my chosen strategy to cope. You are so worth it Liana. You would thrive with the right treatment... and I strongly recommend a group anxiety clinic. SSRI anti anxiety/depression medications- like Prozac, are really helpful too... things like "will the door need to be pushed or pulled?" seem to vanish from your brain.. basically, alot of that 'white noise' that never ends.. allllll those nagging- anxiety based- and inducing questions and fears, either settle or completely disappear... Medication is a very personal and individual choice.. and one you make with your Doctor. On another note.. I know you think that 'everyone notices your anxiety'- but they really don't. No one can read your mind.. and usually, they are too busy focused on themselves.. or their own anxiety. Lastly, we never know the impact we are going to have on another person.. that Starbucks employee- was lovely. It takes so little to be friendly, respectful and kind. And it can be life changing for the other person. I know the barriers to getting help seem so overwhelming.. and maybe even impossible (the phone calls for appointments etc).. but try and focus on the reward, peace and freedom associated with those calls and appointments. I know Connor would help you with all of that.. and there's nothing wrong with that. Lastly, I really hope you eventually meet another beautiful, sweet, young Mum.. just like you.. who you can bond with.. I really feel like you could bring so much joy and comfort to one another's lives. You are such a great Mum.. you really and truly are. All the very best to you on your journey for the peace that you deserve, Liana.. and thank you for being so brave and trusting in sharing your truth with us all. You are incredibly strong... 💞🌹💞
Good job liana, I suffered from alot of the same things you are currently going thru and with therapy and exposure little by little I overcame my anxiety and I know you can as well.just keep telling yourself your doing this to be a better mother and partner and to be a better advocate for your family.i believe in you girl.lots of love to u guys.
I am so glad I am not the only one that deals with social anxiety and find it so brave of Liana to be able to speak so freely about this
Same ! ❤
Bed bugs would cause anyone anxiety! "SHIVER "
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I have that as well. I have it where I find it hard to speak to people in public especially once they mention me. I also have normal anxiety which causes some panic attacks. I feel for you!
Same
Thank you soo freakin' much for being so open! I suffer with panics attacks. Anxiety of all types. From lighting changes, temperature changes ect. I thought I was going crazy!
You have no idea how much this means to us, that you are so open and REAL! You both are truly amazing!
I binge watch your old videos when I'm having a bad day, because depression is real and takes over so quickly at times, you have to know that you all really pull me out of that bad state and help me to keep going and put a smile on my face and make me laugh!
You are both are truly amazing human beings!
I love you! And cute little dude, Koazy, has the best parents!! He's going to have the best childhood and the most love from both of you. I'm excited to see more of your life journey. Thanks for sharing with us! 🤗❤
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Liana mastered those conversations. Whenever someone says to me "hey how are you today?" I get really flustered and most of the time just say "yes" 🤦♀️
It's way harder to have a conversation with people than others think. I have some serious respect for you for doing that.
I said ‘well done’ to a customer instead of have a nice day 👀
Please be honest! So many people say; I’m doing wonderful……when they are having a shitty day! You can just say; I’m having a hard day today! But also the other way around, we say; how are you doing today? I say now; hi, I hope you are having a nice day today! It has already been a conversation starter many times 😊🥰
Bite size tasks ❤I have to do the same I took my first job because I hate people and phone calls to become more confident (receptionist) I now work as a service desk technician it helped I hate people still lol but it definitely helped. Sending Hugs don’t push your self too hard too fast xx
one time someone asked me my name and i went “uH hI”
You don't know how much you being open and honest about your Anxiety means for those who struggle with it.
I, myself, struggle with it and watching someone like you, with a platform showing your true self really makes me feel like I'm not alone.
Edit: Also, Koazy is the cutest!!!! You guys made a cute baby 🤗
I have anxiety too and I think it is extremely strong of Liana to open up about this
You are doing very well and we know how difficult it can be ❤️
You did very well. And the fact that you have such a supportive man in Connor, means you'll be able to conquer your social anxiety in no time.
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I’m so proud of you Liana and I can completely understand how you feel. You certainly don’t sound pathetic. This was a very inspirational video giving that I also suffer from social anxiety and it’s pushed me that extra bit to go out to compliment and talk to others. Also I just want to add an extra thing for others who have maybe spoken to people with anxiety. We are always very quiet and we don’t like making small talk a lot of the time. I’ve had people call me rude and unfriendly behind my back before and it brings on the panic mode. I just want to make it clear to anyone who has encountered this type of behaviour that it a lot of the time has a perfectly reasonable explanation so don’t be too quick to judge. Thanks again for this video it’s definitely a favourite! ❤🥰😘
OMG I’m so glad you mentioned phone calls!!! I work in HR so it’s not useful to be so anxious around calls. I cried to my dad and begged him to call my insurance company to cancel my policy, I’ve ignored so many calls for important things or even simply from family. I’m able to act confident but on the inside it’s another story. I’m getting gradually better but it’s still an issue and I felt so silly for a long time but i’m fortunate my work has validated my anxiety about calls, they push me to take calls by putting my number as the first to receive a call but assure me at any time I feel anxious or stressed or don’t know the answer I can put someone on hold or transfer the call. I’m thankful for Liana for talking about it to, it definitely helps me feel less silly.
Liana asking Connor if the Starbucks door is a push or pull had me. I am the EXACT same. I want to make sure that I don’t make any mistakes because I am not going to handle that well when I’m already shitting myself with anxiety 🥲 well done Liana 🧡
You’re being so brave Liana, anyone who puts you down or is negative about this just has never been there and should be feeling grateful for that and less judgemental.
I used to be super confident, as a part of my job I dealt with the media every day, I dealt with film crews, interviews, Royal visits. I often had to speak to a lecture theatre full of Drs and Consultants, the largest room held 300 & we had almost 2000 Drs so I did this twice a day for about a week until they’d all been updated on new procedures that were so important that they could literally lose their Medical Licence if They failed to complete these procedures.
But my boss retired and his replacement was 100% c u next tuesday. This new guy literally drove me to a nervous breakdown and I had some very dark & dangerous thoughts of not being around anymore. I once even sat with all that I needed to depart right there in front of me... yes, I got THAT close to acting on those thoughts.
In the end my husband said we will find a way to cope with the financial crap, but you need to quit. He said I’d rather be on the streets with you, than in this house without you!
I have never fully recovered, I have PTSD and often have nightmares that we would go somewhere tomorrow and that 💩 head would be there. I was terrified of Joni interviews because I was sure he would be working there, I’d walk in and there he’d be. Absolutely irrational, but people without anxiety need to realise that anxiety is NOT rational, you can’t just say “don’t be daft” and feel everything is good again.
I’m now off the antidepressants I was on... I literally ended those right before the first lockdown... I actually managed to joke to my husband that my timing sucked!
I still have days where I cannot leave the house, I also have days where I cannot even face going downstairs.
People who have known me for years can be just as hard to see as total strangers are, so I isolated myself for a long time... but I’m beginning to slowly crawl out of my hole, it’s baby steps, and sometimes it all goes backwards, but I just have to shake it off, get a grip and get back out there.
It is important for you to tackle this now, while Koazy is still a lil bab, you don’t want to put your anxiety into him as he grows. He needs to see his mummy being beautiful, strong & confident, so that he can be the same...
It’s all long process and can’t be rushed, but you got this! Sending you loads of love n hugs from Yorkshire 💜
I’m so happy for you Liana. I’m 45 and have social anxiety. I’m scared to push myself out of my comfort zone. I’m so proud of you.
i love how supportive connor is. they are just the most wonderful family. you’re doing amazing liana good job
Spill it all out, you make every anxious person feel normal. Anxiety panic attacks are awful...when it happens you feel all alone.
LOVE YOU LIANNA
Hiii Liana, I have (social) anxiety for so long know.
2,5 years ago I quitted working because I was so burned out. I just couldn't leave the house alone for 3 moths after that. I had lots of therapie and they have explained about anxiety so much. It helped me a lot to understand what was going one inside my head.
For me it really helps to know that anxiety/fear is something that builds up. And that is also goes away when you just let it be. Of course easier sad then done! It's called 'anxiety curve'. My therapist and I did exercises together, so I could also feel this myself.
If I feel overwhelmed now, I can tell myself (in a loving, healthy way) that this feeling will pass, that it is okay to feel this way and that I'm doing a great job.
I almost don't have any panic attacks anymore. So, eventually, this will get better!
I hope this is some use for you and keep having faith! 😘
Totally understand how you feel. Even just booking an appointment at the GP or dentist and I start rehearsing the phone call in my mind a few times before I actually ring them!
Me too even at work x
I legit used to write out what I wanted/needed to say especially for important calls for a period of time, really glad I got out of that hole!
I now only book at places that I can book an appointment online or on a phone app so I don't have to call anyone :P
Me too x
I sit there staring at the phone for ages, almost pressing the call button, changing my mind, almost pressing it again, changing my mind again 😅 this continues for a while before I either make the call or put it off for another day
As someone who has dealt with many forms of anxiety along with panic attacks as well my whole life this video really made me happy. I love all of you guys videos but this one really hit home for me. ❤❤❤
This is such a perfect example of you never know what someone deals with everyday and to always be kind, cause at first glance you’re so articulate, well spoken and seem like you deal with everything very well. As a stranger you would never know you have really bad anxiety. but it’s nice to know we all aren’t alone with that feeling and that it’s common💜
I just wanna say you're really not alone with having anxiety! Dealt with anxiety basically my whole life and i'm now 22. I really think it's so cool and brave to face the anxiety head on like that and in some cases it does work very well, just don't push yourself too hard ofc!
Tho personally it hasn't worked fully for me, but i do also have a lot of other diagnosis stuff on top that complicates it. I did learn to deal way better with talking to strangers and doing phone calls over the past 7 years or so, and can actually most of the time do it without being a panicking mess so in that regard doing it and realising it's fine really has helped a lot, so i really hope that it does for you too Liana, or whoever ends up reading this that might also struggle with it❤
Liana, Conner is totally correct. You are not the only one dealing with this. I am 47 years old and I had crippling social anxiety for many years. When I had my children in my twenties, I really tried to push myself in the same way you are. I still have social anxiety, but it is not as crippling as it was in the past. I know how mentally and emotionally exhausting it can be to be in social situations. You should be very proud of yourself for challenging yourself and remember, baby steps are ok!
I really struggle too! You aren't alone, Covid has caused alot of people who didn't have anxiety to start having social anxiety. So there alot of people out there who feel exactly the same as you. You have got this 💗 Big love x
Thank you so much for sharing this! I really appreciate you being honest about it and talking about it, even though it's hard. I've been ill and had to spend a lot of time at home, and now I'm feeling anxious about having to go out and talk to people, so seeing you tackle and conquer your fears is really encouraging. Thank you ❤️
I can 100% relate to you. I have anxiety and panic attacks plus PTSD from sexual assault. I’m also a serious nerd and have a hard time talking to people. After becoming a mom I had to speak up bc I did most of the doctors appointments, etc. bc of my husband’s job. Now my daughter’s an adult and I find I’m reverting to my former reclusive self. You are SO BRAVE. GO Liana!!!🙌🙌🙌🤩🤩🤩❤️❤️❤️
Don't worry Connor and Liana we are here for you ❤️❤️
Just know that you don't need to be afraid to tell us anything and we will be very supportive ❤️❤️❤️
I love that you are so open about your social anxiety! As someone who also struggles with social anxiety, it’s so nice to know I’m not alone. So many people in my life make me feel dumb and get mad at me when I can’t do things because of my social anxiety. I also really hate phone calls too. I don’t know what it is about them since they can’t even see me. Starting conversations and confronting people is also really hard for me. It was really nice to see you push pass your anxiety and do things that are hard for you since I don’t know if I could do the same. So thanks so much for being so open about your social anxiety and showing how you are working to not let it affect your life anymore. You’re so brave and not pathetic at all. I’m honestly inspired by you 💜
literally liana, social anxiety is horrible ive had it for so long, its not silly whenever i go out my voice shakes, and my mind goes totally blank my head and hands go very warm and i shake and get awkward its so hard. you did so well liana im so proud of you!
You’re doing great Liana and it’s great that you hv support from Connor n Koazy!!! It takes time and a lot of work…I’ve been there and getting better. I hv a lot of unanswered cell calls. 😮 but I’ve gotten thru a lot of other challenges’ ❤
I’m so proud of you for being open about your anxiety and dealing with. You go girl!!!!!
Liana, I am absolutely loving this video! Please please make more of these videos! Make a series out of it! You would be shocked to find out how many people are having some kind of anxiety 😊😇 like the guy/men in Starbucks, maybe he did not “noticed” what you said, maybe he was having a bad day, or he had some sort of social anxiety! But you are making a change now, and not only for yourself!!
I was just talking with my mother about this video of you, and also other videos the 2 of you post! The reality! My mother said; this can help her son for the rest of his life, because he can always watch it back?!?!
I can talk her for hours……while save that for future videos of you 😊😉
I've always felt so ashamed and unworthy with my social anxiety, i'm very impressed that you kept that conversation going so easily!
From someone who has suffered with a lot of mental health issues since I was a baby I understand how terrifying it is to make phone calls start conversations or engage in conversations Liana I am very proud of you, your doing an amazing job one step at the time you’ve got this ❤️💕
This is a big step Liana and I’m rooting for you!!! It’s gonna be hard sometimes but you totally got this :)
Thank you so much for sharing your struggles and addressing mental health in this episode. I feel that the more people speak openly about these things can only benefit others that feel like they are alone in their struggles. I am 58 years old an these serious topics weren’t talked about when I was your age. It has only been in the last two years that I have been able to reach out for help with my anxiety, depression and ptsd that I have stuffed away for many years until my body started to pay the price. So thank you. Also, I am a mom of four grown girls and can tell that oh that parenting is so hard yet so rewarding and although we only see a glimpse of how you parent, your doing great.
My social anxiety got so bad at some point that I missed days of school
So seeing Liana be so open about it and want to tackle it is really comforting and making me wanna go back to putting myself outside my bubble 😭✨
I find more and more things that I completely relate to with you in every single video (and I’m not even a parent)
I have the same phone anxiety. I will make the problem 10x worse by ignoring/avoiding phone calls but it just feels impossible to tackle. Thank you so much for being so honest and open. Your videos always feel like I’m just chatting with a friend and I love that about you. Thank you and keep being amazing 🥹❤️
You're so lucky to have an amazing partner like Connor who builds you up I struggle with the same thing it's nice to know I'm not alone. It's hard as a mother to have social anxiety. I'm a single mom and if I didn't have family to help me with social events I don't know what I would do. Thank you Liana for being so brave and sharing your struggles with us
Iam a silent watcher of your videos mostly, but first of all thank you so much for your content, its the best. I also struggle with social anxiety and because of that Iam very proud of Liana. Its so important to sometimes try to be couraged and put yourself in these situations. Same as also having a person on your side, who doesnt push you to always go over your "limits". I also pushed myself into a job as an occupational therapist, where I have to make many phone calls and am always in contact and conversation with people. After 5 years its still hard, especially after being on a vacation and starting to work again, but it gets better over time. Thank you for sharing 🤗
I just have to say, the blue leggings Liana are wearing look so good! I am very nervous of wearing colourful clothing and always wear dark clothing because I don't want to stand out. I love her leggings tho and the colour suits her !
Also, I used to be the same with social anxiety, but my mom made me do payments alone whenever we went to the store and it really helped and once I became a waitress, it became ten times easier to talk to people as I would talk to random people everyday! Keep going! You are literally doing so well!
Oh my gosh, the complimenting is something I do! I also have social and general anxiety but it fluctuates. Sometimes I get too nervous and hesitate and my husband reminds me that it makes my day when I get a compliment. Sometimes they don’t react at all or give me a strange look but I think it’s because they are wondering if I might be making fun or they’re just not used to it but usually their faces light up and then I feel good too! (I also don’t like to give compliments unless they’re genuine either! And I ALWAYS struggle on the phone.)
And you did a WONDERFUL job!
Connor is so supportive it’s great xxxx
I’m so proud of you, Liana!! Good job being proactive in dealing with this anxiety.
I have depression and anxiety. I deal with struggles to communicate my feelings sometimes so I understand Liana, your not alone xxx
I resonate with this a lot! As someone with a more mild case of social anxiety, it saddens me sometimes when, for example, I really do want to pay someone a complement or just go through the checkout line at a store, and I find myself having a really hard time doing so! It’s nice to see I’m not alone, as I may take some of these ideas and use them as small challenges for myself when I’m out and about. Really lovely video!
The more you put yourself out there the easier it gets! I had the same sort of issues and just started making myself do different things and now at 60 it rarely bothers me. Going into a new restaurant I'd literally push someone who was with me to go in first among many other things. Decided when my daughter was born that I had to, just like you. You CAN do it!
I'm glad you guys are talking about anxiety things, I know it makes a lot of people happy to know they are not alone, including myself as I can relate to pretty much everything in this video. But one thing I have realized is that we are actually the only person who thinks that a certain conversation or something we did was awkward, as other people couldn't care less. Also, from an outside perspective, something someone did just naturally looks normal and we don't think too much about it. So don't worry, Liana, everything you said was perfectly normal and you did a great job stepping out of your comfort zone! You're brave for doing so and I hope you manage to overcome your social anxiety!💗
I love this, because it helps people realize that just because Ur well known on social media, and Ur okay with being Infront of a camera, it doesn't mean that u don't struggle with anxiety or anything else!! so proud of u Liana!
Don’t telegram them it’s a lie look at the profile it was made hours ago
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@@kayleighdancer7796 ok just making sure!😅
Well done liana . I have had social anxiety since I was a preteen however these days you wouldn’t guess at all . When I was young I would send my younger siblings or my parents on errands for me and if someone asked me to socialise and I said no but they tried pushing me into it I would break down . I remember one party which was quite small I hid in basically a cupboard and for half the time I was crying because I was so scared but I was getting told I was stupid . I wouldn’t make calls and wouldn’t speak to strangers . I got out of this by constantly pushing myself to try things like you are doing here over a period of years ( even now I struggle mildly still with new situations,big groups and certain phone calls) but I talk to strangers all the time with no problem , I compliment people every now and then and I do shopping and phone calls for the whole family . It’s all but gone but it will be a lifelong thing I believe it’s just about getting out your own head because most of the anxiety votes from you talking yourself out of things by thinking things that aren’t true ☺️
“Is the door a push or a pull?” 😂
It’s so relatable. I even rethink on the way out.
My husband has social anxiety. He has been doing some work with a therapist to improve his confidence. The main thing he has learned is his inner critical voice is very loud to the point that it drowns out anything else he achieves. So even when he does things right he feels like he is failing. He also worries too much about looking silly as well as what other people might think of him. These days he is a lot more relaxed.
Liana, you are far too hard on yourself! Nobody is perfect. You don't have to be perfect. We all fumble things every day. I push doors that are meant to be pulled all the time and so do other people! Nobody is going to be looking at you or judging you. You fumble? Keep it moving, Sis!
A tip that I use for calls: make brief notes for everything you want to say. Like prompts. Part of your anxiety might be about forgetting what you want to say or not getting it right. You can address that by preparing for the call by having reference numbers and account details to hand and by writing down any questions you want to ask. And don't ask for permission to ask the questions. Just say "I have a few questions"!
Hi liana! I’ve got GAD (generalized anxiety disorder) and I have found therapy to be IMMENSELY helpful. It is scary to talk to someone, but I’ve been seeing my therapist for a while and I’ve gotten to know her a lot better. You absolutely deserve to go on this journey with someone who knows what they’re doing. Although I’m super proud of you for stepping out of your comfort zone, just pushing through is not going to help you on your hard days. Professionals have awesome tools to help you out!
This is me too! I Like you said I couldn't go and pay for anything at a till or go into the changing rooms to try clothes on. I hated phone calls, standing up for presentations at school, crowds of people would send me panicking and if there wasn't a clear way out I would feel my heart beating too fast and feel like I could faint any moment! I did improve as I got older but that was until 5 years ago when I became a mum. Now it's worse than ever as my daughter has just started school. I look at all the other parents and inside I'm screaming to myself just talk to them. I wonder what other people talk about and then overthink to the point where i just freeze and can't do it. I know they must think oh she's rude or a bit strange, I just wish they knew how much I actually do want to talk to them! My daughter had a school disco last week and she was so excited and then there's me absolutely petrified of taking her because the DJ might make me join in or parents wanting to talk. Argh it''s so hard because I know I need to be a good role model for daughter and my son but it really isn't easy. Doesn't help when you have people in your family that just don't understand it. Anyway just thought I'd let you know you aren't alone and watching someone else experience the struggles I have is very comforting ❤️
Watching this has shown me that I'm not alone with my anxiety I do not know which one I have but I definitely have social and any other ones to do with rides and stress...love your vids your so inspiring ..x
The amount of second hand anxiety I had just watching you was incredible! You did wonderfully well Liana!! Don't get down on yourself, there are so many of us that struggle with social anxiety as well.
Connor, you are such a supportive partner! The empathy and patience you have as well as being her cheerleader or hero if needed is so wholesome and exactly the content so many of us 'nervous Nellie's' needed today!
@ConnorLIANA1 STOP PRETENDING TO BE SOMEONE ELSE AND SCAMMING OTHERS. UR A DISGRACE.
Wishing you all the best through this love you guys x
I had my first panic attack at the age of 21 as well, but mine showed up as a possible heart attack. It wasn’t thank goodness, but I had all the symptoms to the point they sent me to the hospital for a echocardiogram & I was fortunate that the person doing the ECG & she told me I was ok. I had several more that year & my doctor finally told me what was happening & I eventually went for massages & a psychologist, these helped, but years later it got worse & I had to go on Selexa to help & it did. My anxiety isn’t gone, but I can generally get through most things including social situations. Best wishes Liana❤️
Liana is like my anxiety twin haha, don’t worry it definitely does get better as ya slowly step out of your comfort zone xx
Liana! I honestly feel your pain. I get SO much social anxiety! Especially when we get invited over by new friends to meet or like group settings, I go over and over conversations and scenarios in my head before going and talk myself out of going completely and then cry and have a panic attack. I feel you about phone calls also. It's hard! But I'm so happy for you that you're trying to get through it! ❤️
I relate so much to this! I have similar experiences with my social anxiety as well ❤ This video made me so happy and reading the comments has given me a massive confidence boost knowing I’m not alone ☺️☺️ I know how hard it is to open up so a massive well done Liana 🥳❤️
Just know there are more people with anxiety then without 😊 and it can change during your life, sometimes it are big things and sometimes small things. Don’t be to hard on yourself ❤️ you got this 🥰
thank you for this video. I always struggle with managing an important conversation that in I need to make sure the other person got it right for me. I don’t like that feeling when I’m the one to choose and I can’t ask anyone else about their opinion. I get very nervous that I’m annoying somehow. I watched a lot of videos to try to understand what I can do about it so I wouldn’t overthink stuff like this, but I couldn’t really realate to any of them, until I watched this and realised that there is many people who have the same problem. what Connor said about the phone calls especially. the people who answer the phone aren’t there to judge you or tell you that they don’t want to help you. they’re there to literally hear you out
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you guys are so strong! lianna you are so amazing and you are not alone because I also have social anxiety and normal anxiety. you can do this love I belive in you. i was also so anxious some times I couldn't talk to staff and I hade to get my friends too. i have known the staff for 5 years now. i love you guys!!
I was in a store earlier today and there were a couple of people in front of me and a few people behind me. I literally broke out into sweats before making it out of the store 🙄 Social anxiety is such a real thing. I also have to prepare myself making any kind of phone calls, they make me so nervous.
I sweat like that too when I have to go somewhere and have to talk to the people.
Koazy is so cute and you are such a great mum❤
Also LOVE your teddys omg❤❤❤
Koazy is such a cuddle bug. What a cutie!
I don't know how to telegram you. Is it in the “more” feature on your vlog/RUclips channel.
Conor always has your back, y'all are so sweet
so proud of liana right now!! 🥹🥹
You done amazing Liana! I actually felt so anxious watching this I could have cried for you when you walked out of Starbucks! That feeling of relief when you leave a situation like that is all to familiar to me! As a mummy to 3 kids it’s hard trying to explain to people why I can’t do stay and play play dates or toddler groups… you guys are honestly the sweetest couple and Connor reminds me so much of my husband in the way he loves and supports you! Love to you all from Scotland ❣️
hi! i just want to say i struggle with anxiety and have panic attacks all off the time - usually about going to school. your a HUGE insperation to me and you nailed this thankyou for being an awsome role model XX
I feel the same about work, well done to us on the days when we manage to get up from bed and leave the house to go to the place 👍🙂 You've got this, random internet friend! Xxx
@@KatieM786 YESSSSSS its so hard to leave the house some days XXXX
Liana….. just know you are definitely not alone. I have always had major social anxiety. It never helped that I’m also an empath and literally feel everything that people are feeling around me. And in all honesty the empath side of things has gotten worse as I get older. But I will say that I definitely got over a large portion of my anxiety in my mid to late 20’s when I worked full time and was complete with school. You have no choice but to be social while working. And it was then I learned that if you always allow people to see your fear of confrontation and general socialization that you get taken advantage of. It was then I realized how much it sucked feeling like that and started making changes. And I can tell you the first time I picked up the phone and complained to someone like there was no tomorrow. Short story is a repair man, that I took the day off of work from, said they rang the doorbell and no one answered, this was after I sat in the window watching all day and nobody came. Well that’s when I had enough. And you know what, it felt good being assertive. Then of course after having my son was all new social anxiety. But you eventually have to tell yourself, mommy baby groups are beneficial for baby, so you put your big girl pants on and do it. I promise it will get easier. And you will feel so much better, empowered almost. Give it time. 💜
I'm still camera shy to do the videos like you both do. But I'm proud of you for pushing yourself through that and for being open to make that change. I love you all.
I’m 16 and have been suffering with hypochondria since I was 14, it’s so difficult but seeing Liana talk about it really helps me
I'm the exact same completely can't talk on the phone or go in places.. Its good to see its not just me because that's usually how I feel.
I'm so proud of you Liana! I suffer from some social anxiety etc. too and it's great to be able to know that I can relate to this and I'm not on my own! 💗
love the little family❤️
@connorLIANA. hi fake
I’ve been watching for 4 years now, and you’ve gotten more popular. when I first saw your videos you didn’t have this many subscribers! x
You guys deserve the world ❤
OMG Liana, I could swear I was one of the very few that has that phone call nervousness, I can never explain it but I always get so very nervous, instant cold sweat all over and my feet are freezing just because I have to have a phone call, it's so annoying and like you said, 95% of the time, after the call I'm like "why did I paniced, this was so easy..." but next time around, I'm all the same 😅 Thank you so much for sharing your story, I'm sorry you struggle with anxiety, but I am happy that you opened up about it, becomes it raises awareness and it helps people with similar struggles to feel normal in a sense (or at least that's the effect for me). All the best to you guys!❤
I’m sooooooo proud of liana for doing that. it’s hard to do things like that when you go in specifically to compliment someone
who agrees👇👇👇👇
dear Liana, i have a similar problem with calling people, i dont know if this will help you, but making important calls or even calls with other people than friends and family myself has helped me feel more confident about it. At the beginning it was far away from easy, but i work as nurse, i have to call patients relatives, so i basicly had no chance, but its definitely much easier now. Working as a nurse, especially the fact that I work on people, helped me a lot to be more open with other people more quickly. I hope you find yourself a way to feel better around people. I did it, i know you can do it, too.
Oh Liana darling
I've always had MASSIVE social anxiety, so I completely relate. It's probably stupid to say, but I'm really proud of you!
You did soooooo well!! I've social anxiety and I can force myself to do things like go order a coffee (I also panic beforehand if a door is push or pull before I go lol) but the way you tried making a conversation and complimenting people was amazing....I don't think I'd ever pluck up the courage to do that. Keep it up!
Well done Liana! You should be really proud of yourself! It isn’t easy, anxiety is cruel and can make you feel very isolated.
I love seeing how supportive and encouraging Connor is ♥️
Take it one step and a time, one day at a time and when you do have bad days, just look back at how far you’ve come xx
I’ve suffered with panic disorder for about 6 years and I know exactly how you feel, I find I get it worse when I’m in a long queue where it’s difficult to leave it if I have too… like primark.
You’re doing great ! Keep pushing yourself I promise it gets better and that exposure is key ! It’s short term pain for long term gain xx
Be nice Conner!!! Support her and be gentle!!!liana you did great!!! I’m glad you’ve started baby steps! You’ll get it! Many people feel the way you do!❤❤❤
I am exactly like you Liana. My husband ends up doing certain things for me cos I spiral. I'm trying to be better as I'm pregnant and want to, like you, be able to advocate for them when they're here. And for myself when I go to give birth. Massive respect for you working on yourself x
Lianna, I am old now and have held down a challenging great job for many years. I think its the changes but I am now super anxious and have no confidence these days! Thank you for being so brave and open, the world is a strange place at the moment, but you have a lovely hubby, a gorgeous little boy and you are doing really really well with everything.. Get driving girlie. Just ten minutes somewhere super quiet once or twice a week, as Conner says, baby steps. Lotsa love. xx
I understand you very well Liana, I also struggle with these things. And phone calls are indeed the worst, talking to someone in person is way easier for me too, I don't know why that is, maybe it has something to do with not being able to see their facial expressions, or I'm afraid I can't hear theem well, cause a lot of people don't speak clearly on the phone. But I'm really proud of you, I also tackle things I'm scared to do one by one, like sending a parcel (very easy once I had done it, but I was nervous before I did it)
I am so incredibly proud of you Liana. As someone who also suffers from anxiety too, I know how hard it can be to tackle. You did amazing! 🥰
By the way, have you ever tried any type of therapy? It can be really helpful. 😊
I love you guys. 💝
You are doing fantastic Liana! You sounded confident and friendly. Proud of you ❤🎉
Hi liana and Connor!! Koazy is so lucky to have amazing parents like you guys!! Your videos always make my day
Oh my goodness, I can relate to everything you said in the video, Liana! Well done for trying to combat your issues, it’s not easily done.
I found that learning to drive really helped me gain confidence. It may sound weird but I always told myself I couldn’t do it and then surprised myself when I passed. Since then, the confidence I have gained is amazing!
Good luck on your journey!
Love that you are challenging yourself and being so open about it. I didn't realise my fear of being watched by people was part of social anxiety! Learn something new everyday. This video really made me feel like I wasn't alone.
I’m so grateful to you Connor and Liana cos you are so funny and always make my day I love how real you two are you are fantastic parents keep it up!!
Liana I hope you know how much this has helped other people with similar anxieties. I wish you the best working through your social anxiety. Thank you 💗💗💗
So proud of you!! I suffer from social anxiety as well and it used to be so hard for me especially grocery shopping but I've been working on it and it's gotten better.
So proud of you Liana. Take baby steps, and be kind to yourself while you’re taking small risks. Slowly but surely you will get more and more comfortable. Also look up tapping/eft for social anxiety. These things helped me overcome the social anxiety I faced for more than two decades. Sending lot of love your way
Good for you, Liana! Like Connor said lots of people have social anxiety/socially awkward but don't do anything with it. Choosing to face your fears, even in seemily small steps, is an amazing thing to do and shows how strong you are. 😄
for me working in retail helped me get over some of my social fears. like I had to talk to people to help them find what they needed and so I was told to ask open ended questions. Some people are easier to have a coversation with than others cause you ask them a question and they will tell you their life story XD
It was fun. sometimes overwhelming but it helped me grow as a person.
I kinda wondered why I liked Liana so much.. I really get it now. She's such a genuine, real, sensitive, humble and beautiful girl. I have been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder.. and social phobia.. after getting panic attacks- seemingly out of nowhere, when I was 21. It was so incredibly and indescribably traumatic, damaging, lonely and all consuming. I ended up attending an anxiety clinic where they focused on CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) and Gradual Exposure Techniques.. and breathing techniques. It helped me so, so much. I have never had a panic attack since.. although I have struggled with the generalised anxiety and social phobia- and had massive addiction issues ALL my life- and only recently found recovery. I mention the addiction part.. because I truly believe.. severe anxiety and social phobia, can lead, even the strongest people, into the darkest places. If I had continued with ongoing professional treatment- and believed in myself more.. I truly think addiction wouldn't have been my chosen strategy to cope. You are so worth it Liana. You would thrive with the right treatment... and I strongly recommend a group anxiety clinic. SSRI anti anxiety/depression medications- like Prozac, are really helpful too... things like "will the door need to be pushed or pulled?" seem to vanish from your brain.. basically, alot of that 'white noise' that never ends.. allllll those nagging- anxiety based- and inducing questions and fears, either settle or completely disappear... Medication is a very personal and individual choice.. and one you make with your Doctor. On another note.. I know you think that 'everyone notices your anxiety'- but they really don't. No one can read your mind.. and usually, they are too busy focused on themselves.. or their own anxiety. Lastly, we never know the impact we are going to have on another person.. that Starbucks employee- was lovely. It takes so little to be friendly, respectful and kind. And it can be life changing for the other person. I know the barriers to getting help seem so overwhelming.. and maybe even impossible (the phone calls for appointments etc).. but try and focus on the reward, peace and freedom associated with those calls and appointments. I know Connor would help you with all of that.. and there's nothing wrong with that. Lastly, I really hope you eventually meet another beautiful, sweet, young Mum.. just like you.. who you can bond with.. I really feel like you could bring so much joy and comfort to one another's lives. You are such a great Mum.. you really and truly are. All the very best to you on your journey for the peace that you deserve, Liana.. and thank you for being so brave and trusting in sharing your truth with us all. You are incredibly strong...
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Good job liana, I suffered from alot of the same things you are currently going thru and with therapy and exposure little by little I overcame my anxiety and I know you can as well.just keep telling yourself your doing this to be a better mother and partner and to be a better advocate for your family.i believe in you girl.lots of love to u guys.
I love that you guys are so supportive of each other