Best of 2021: What to Do When You're Not Okay - Debra Fileta
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- Опубликовано: 30 сен 2024
- Life can be pretty stressful. Between work, relationships, and other obligations, the pressure builds, and we lose sight of who we are.
On this Focus on the Family broadcast, counselor Debra Fileta helps you better understand your emotions, assess your mental, physical, and spiritual health, and intentionally pursue a path to wellbeing. In dealing with anxiety, depression, and panic attacks, Debra understands the importance of self-examination as well as the benefits of seeking professional help. She offers biblically-based advice, tools, and encouragement to help you get on a path toward healing and wholeness.
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“ We heal in layers”
Wow! Such an eye opener! Thank you very much !!!
It wasn’t until I began taking lithium for bipolar that my mind stabilized enough for me to understand who I am in Christ, which propelled me into healing over the next 18 years, and still going on.🙏✝️🕊️🙋♀️❤️‼️
Just because we are born again doesn't mean we don't need professional help to process our emotions.
We need to seek help us to stay focus & become mentally heathy. And it ok . I believe in Counseling !!!
I agree 💯
I may need professional counseling but do not have money to pay for it. Tough navigating life alone.
Absolutely
@@keilana6 seek out a sliding scale counseling service like family services or something like that. Best wishes to you for success in healing
Love her explanations. I have been facing unsurmountable pain and trauma due to a neglectful husband. I know it's not just me or my emotional response, and it's symptomatic that something very wrong is going on here and he refuses to address it. Prayers appreciated because this has to change.
I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Prayers for you. 💕 I need them too please.
@@bygraceonly182 thank you 💕🙏🏽
Will pray for you as well.
Praying for you. Sorry to hear this ❤️🙏🏾
Not to be insensitive but be thankful that he is not mistreating you. Far too many ladies have been physically and emotionally abused. Take care.
@@dianedizayee5211 Well there is emotional abuse and neglect and abandonment are abuse too. They are different experiences and they still damage a woman very deeply.
Trauma and Grief survivor. I'm glad I saw this video. I need it
Thank you so much for this. I've been suffering from reoccurring postpartum depression. I seeked helped today after dealing for it with weeks. I've been told by peers that it was a faith issue... and I felt like a bad Christian. Thank you for this messaged. This was a blessing for me tonight.
Thanks for sharing, Whitnie. We are pleased that you were able to relate so personally to the content of our broadcast "What to Do When You're Not Okay." May the Lord continue to bless, guide and encourage you as you seek Him day by day. Should you ever need a listening ear, please don’t hesitate to give our counselors a call. Here’s the contact info: bit.ly/3eguwRY. Grace and peace to you!
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Blessings and healing for you in Jesus’ Name!
I had a therapist who told me a very profound truth about faith and depression. I had repeated the falsehood that “if you have enough faith, you will be healed of your depression”. She simply responded, “Janice, people who carry the cross of depression are some of the most faithful people in the world. They carry on without light, joy and peace of mind.”
I’ve thought of this idea often since then. I’ve come to understand that sometimes He calms the sea and other times He calms the sailor.
It’s been nearly 21 years since I was smacked with post partum depression. It got easier to think clearly and enjoy life. I still have struggles that take all my faith and skills to get through. Learning coping strategies really helped. When I’m in the darkness I reach out for His hand and He guides me through.
🎉🎉🎉 AMEN ! CONGRATULATIONS MOM ! Do NOT let the turkeys pull ya down to their INsecurities & super - stitions ... 🦉
Too many traumatic events, chronic Illness, and then husband had several affairs. Im trying to get healthy now. It's hard. But I know it's possible
Prayers!
This really touched home to me. I lost triplet babies late in my pregnancy. Since then I have had 2 boys, a divorce and a single mom. I have since been in survival mode and just never processed all that I have gone through and really struggling
We’re very sorry to hear about your losses and struggles, Penny. Our hearts go out to you. Please know that we’ll be praying for you, asking the Lord to surround you with His loving presence, comfort you, and heal you whenever you hurt. Did you know we have a staff of Christian counselors here at Focus? One of them would be happy to have the chance to talk with you about all that you’re facing. Here’s the contact info: bit.ly/2ItKdoE. Grace and peace to you.
Please tell a doctor that you want assistance ... support group like co- dependents anonymous ❤
Penny, your story brings tears to my eyes. I have also been a single mom w a 2 year old & a newborn. Any chance you live in TN? Thinking you need Godly people to help you navigate this difficult journey, it’s so hard when you’re alone. Sending grace & love from middle Tennessee❤️
I have been through some severe trauma and I’ve done a lot of work over a 30 year period. Everything she is saying I have experienced. I’m looking forward to reading her book.
. . . S U R V I V O R !!! 🏆
YOU HAVE BEEN A BLESSING, YOUR EXPRESSIONS, VOCABULARY, HONESTY, EXPERIENCES, HUMILITY, KNOWLEDGE, AND ATTITUDE IS SO DELIBERATE AND HELPFUL ALL AT ONCE!!!🥰😇😍
Ditto that! So easy to listen to Debra!
My INTIMACY with The Father gets Better and Better! This is my Barometer for my Spiritual Health!🤗🙋🏽♀️💜🕊🕊🕊💯
Thankfully, my situation was not mentally. It was a diagnosis of PFO a congenital heart disease. It was confirmed that stress from my ex spouse brought on attacks. Now that he is out of my life, I have not experienced those panic attacks. I was healed as soon as he left me. I still have pfo. Him leaving me saved my life. No more 911.
👪 Family members ❤ do 🇺🇸 need spiritual 🙏 support!
Response to scenario..
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WATCH PASTORS PERSPECTIVE FEBRUARY 23, 2021 YOU Will SMILE 😀❤️
This is beautiful.
After I resigned from my job (loved working for this organisation but January 2021 came with very unpleasant changes). The day after I resigned I started experiencing serious anxiety. I am healing but this takes time I am learning
... rough year for me also , Bless your ❤
This conversation is very needed in the Christian community.
Hallelujah ! Yes !
Yes transference is a real thing and I took it out on those around me for years until I realized I was only hurting myself. I had to forgive them in order to find the peace I so badly needed.
Thank you to our Lord for this channel.
I love this book. I listened to the audiobook and I feel like I need the hard copy to be able underline and go through the processes in this book.
How did you know I needed to hear this? This interview has brought so much healing to my soul.
I'm going through a rough time due to injury from accident 2 years ago. Please pray for me and my family. This video was very helpful.
I really enjoyed this message. I often just say 'I'm doing well', but am I really? How many things am I holding inside that will come out in my behavior somehow? Praise the Lord for his Holy Spirit who walks with us through a lifetime of sanctification.
We need connection in a safe community, for our brains to function at full capacity. Could it be the church?
It should be!
But not always possible.
Christians can be just as worldly, critical, unhelpful, cold, and cruel.
That's why I am not going there for months now.
When you are already an emotionally crippled soul, you want some kindness, some niceness, some understanding, and a little grace from fellow Jesus followers...
🙏🏻 🧡 😊 🇨🇦
It's parents raising children and not pushing the responsibility on schools.
@@margosood1959 I just read your response. Sadly I understand what you are saying. I too am taking a break from church. Pray we both find a place to fellowship-a place where folks are open and supportive to life’s trials and struggles. Gods peace be with you as you seek rest in His truth. 🙏❤️🤗
I am taking a forced break from church due to transportation issues but before that it was a struggle finding healing in church.
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The Father shows me His Power in my Supreme Weakness!🙋🏽♀️💜🕊💯
Debra your explanations and vulnerability are so spot on, I know exactly what you went through and how unbelievably lost one can feel. We forget that instead of telling people what to do in times of crisis we need to be there and help carry their burdens. We are to be 'church' for them, it would help more just to be there than to preach prayer or medication. Thanks again for being vulnerable and open so that others can learn. God bless Jim and company may His grace envelope you daily.
John Fuller! I wondered this entire time who you were in this video ! I had no idea you were the voice I’d been hearing for years! Nice to put your face to your voice! This was a very helpful video for myself. Thank you so much!
So much you covered but so needed. So many ways we can witness and help others. This much needed with all our country has been through. Everyone is dealing with something. So thankful for the power of prayer. When we pray for others there is no expiration date. I pray for my children, our countries, the world. So thankful for those who share and pray. It is much needed. ❤️🙏❤️🇺🇸❤️
... alright you sound like a Real PRAYER Warrior ! Amen !!! ... Thank You Dear One .
I have to watch this again! The way she puts things into words is really spot on.
All Houses of PRAYER could 🌼 benefit from this !
Excellent show today and Debra Fileta offered a wealth of information. 👌
What to Do When You're Not Okay...
Go to the Lord. Go to the cross. Begin
to think of others, instead of yourself.
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She is a a stellar phycologist!!! I have related to her immensely!
Wow, this message is so powerful and is speaking to my life at this current time.
I had much of the feelings you have talked of before I was able to forgive & realize it wasn’t my fault 🤦🏼♀️! I think I’ve built walls to protect myself & I’m not ok…
I'm not ok either
Please pray for me 😔
We're praying that God will surround you with His amazing grace and peace, Dawn.
I think my expectations of healing after the loss of my son is unrealistic. I’ve been looking for something to bring understanding & relief. But not sure of what I’m really expecting. I don’t think I’ll ever receive understanding or relief until I’m in the presence of Jesus & am reunited with my son!
I’m praying for you and your healing.
Christ Jesus said when he leave he will send the Comforter . When you pray Our Father who is in heaven if it according to your will bless you with the Comforter, that i who is leaning on my understanding, but i receive the Comforter to understanding in Christ Jesus name amen.
Another factor ive found too is struggling to keep off the Government subsidies.
( the working poor)
Words of Wisdom
God's Blessings upon Your Journey 🙏
This will set many free🙂
I really would love to get your 📚
When chemical imbalance is mentioned as the cause of depression and other emotional distress and not a lack of faith or other reason, where is it backed up by scripture? I can buy that reason coming from a secular point of view, but when it comes from a " Christian" perspective it gives me pause...especially when there is no scriptural basis for it.
Great interview and interesting article and points which is very close to human life, as to us as a Christian! Thank you!🙏
I would be interested in hearing about deliverance versus mental health counseling.
We appreciate your interest in our radio program, Cluna. Thanks for sharing your suggestion with us. Be assured it’s been passed along to our Broadcasting Department. They’re always on the lookout for new ideas on how we can meet the needs of our listeners. May God bless and guide you, friend.
Me too. I cannot afford counseling or pharmaceuticals. Is that the only way to a healthy life of spiritual peace?
Such a great topic
We got to build each other up not say thing's that brings people down or fell less that
Than
Purpose
Many times theses things can be demonic.. Don't forget about this!
Amazing words and insightful
All that I can say is thank you. Thank you for this video.
Go girl she’s fierce and quick!
I love this, but we are created in His image. That means we are more spiritual beings that need more of His presence and to me if you have a panic attack that means you have too much on your plate. He doesn't expect us to do it all, but He also wants us to rely solely on Him not pharnekia or man. I do agree counseling is necessary for trauma and ptsd etc. But I also believe that we need to be set free with deliverance from these strongholds like depression, anxiety etc. Some will not understand what I am saying because they have only been fed half the gospel. I used to think I needed to seek counselor until I was actually delivered from demons like anxiety, depression and trauma. It's a process and you have to continue to walk in that deliverance, but please don't exclude deliverance from this healing care.🕊🙏
So true. Listen to Derek Prince. Kenneth Hagin, Nieves Hayes,etc
There are purely natural issues, purely spiritual issues, and a combination of those. We have to pray and ask the Lord which we are dealing with and which method or methods He’d have us employ. The Lord bless you!! 💪🏽🙏🏽✝️
We are BROKEN SHARDS OF POTTERY! THIS is the state of the HUMAN FAMILY! This is the NEED for the BLOOD! THE guarantor! First Cause is the Only person to Heal!🤨🤔🤗🤷🏾♀️💜🕊🕊🕊
I’m so thankful for this series & RUclips channel. Speaking so much light into my different situations, mum life, wide life, understanding myself a little more. Thank u so much for producing this content for us
You guys are so awesome! Thank you so much for sharing! May you continue to be a blessing to the world!
❤ very very educational
My son took his life March of 2017 the effect of this was with me for over a year trauma is horrible
I am so sorry.
@@dianedizayee5211it is rough but I try to help others who has lost children so many have and are going through different cycles of grief
So so sorry.
Love and peace to you Mercia!
Same with Pastor Rick Warren & wife Kay. Maybe find some healing resources.
Great discussion and so much wisdoms and golden nuggets for life
Outstanding, refreshing and helpful. Thankyou
This helped alot
Praise the Lord for this wonderful broadcast. I haven't been well in awhile, this has been a blessing 🙏 thank you
We'll be praying for you, Sandra! God bless you!
( think i was born UN • "well" )
One of the best pieces of advice/wisdom that I was ever given was from a pastor who had lost his adult daughter suddenly to an acute autoimmune storm. He said that the only way forward is to learn how to plod through every single day, every single hour, every single moment. Jesus meets us as we methodically plod through our days in His strength.
Just take the next right step.
I've been listening to this again and again. There are so many helpful tools!!
" N O time • line for grieving a LOSS " >>>>> ...
This is one of the best podcasts I’ve ever heard. Really wonderful.
AGREED !
The BROKENNESS has its absolute Etymolgy in Childhood!🤨🤔🤗🤷🏾♀️💜🕊🕊🕊
This very encouraging , Thankyou
This is exactly what God is showing me these days too. This is soo profound and opens my eyes more! Thank you!!
Debra! You are such an inspiration...i am a counselling psychologist on practicum.
Thank you. Great lesson.
In absolutely love her. Purchasing book now
I really needed this ❤😢
This program has been so very helpful!!! I love Focus on the Family and Debra Fileta has a wonderfully unique way of speaking to the heart and bringing hope to issues we deal with!!
Layers!!!! ❤️ it.
Wonderful honest!!!!!
I feel like a plate on the table edge tipping to falling
Horribly upset. live in my car, 72, out of money,angry. Disconnect.
Thanks for sharing so openly, friend. We’re very sorry to learn about your situation. Know that we are praying for you, asking the Lord to provide for your needs and sustain you with His strength in the days ahead. If you feel it would be helpful to speak to someone about this, we’d like to invite you to call one of our licensed counselors (at no cost to you). You may call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459) weekdays between 6:00 A.M. and 8:00 P.M. (MT). Grace and peace to you.
How are you now?? Checking in. Prayers!
Many living in Vehicles more & more. Hope you are Ok. Come visit in S.D. CA
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This video is much appreciated. 🧡
She has the right answers for everything,, I need therapy, I would like to talk to her
Hello, Ingrid. We appreciate your kind comments. You can get in touch with Debra Fileta directly by clicking on this link - bit.ly/3jxvlwh. Also, if you’d like to discuss your personal situation with one of our counselors (at no cost to you), you may call 1-800-A-FAMILY (232-6459) weekdays between 6:00 a.m. and 8:00 p.m. (MT). They would be pleased to offer encouragement and any helpful information they're able. Grace and peace to you.
I really love this talk ❤🙏
Grief is the feral emotion that refuses to be tamed. Yup. One foot in front of the other.
Luv your description
Who's really okay?
Not me ...
For me it’s really hard to process emotions. I’ve been in High risk Management public safety for over 24+ years, not married, and no children.
Yep ... you deserve to get some compassion, I think ..
Wow she was amazing!!!!!
I am about to be divorced from a violent, toxic man who has turned his abuse from me to my children. I have a daughter who has repeatedly abused by him. Time and time again I have acquired orders of protection (op's) however, this last time the new caseworkers and investigators have decided that the abuse is not significant enough to press charges or to hold him accountable. What in the world? How is my daughter supposed to heal if she is continually forced to endure the same abuse "because there isn't enough evidence to convict". Note: she has a counselor at a Biblically sound service but, she doesn't force her to talk about her past or even what has happened within the last 6 months.
How is she to heal?
I too, had a choice to make ... I had to leave the home and spare our dear Daughter, 😢 she is wounded but has survived the CRISIS ... Thank Goodness
Elijah was depressed , king David was depressed, Hosea was depressed , , Jeremiah was depressed .
spiritual 'heaviness' = deep depression
Happy to hear you found the truth and the truth set you free praise Jesus
I’m so thankful for this conversation!
Feelings of dread is an actual symptom of an impending heart attack. If you look around and there’s nothing to dread, call your doctor. After you’ve had a heart attack you cry endlessly because your whole body is suppressed (and I believe it is the guttural prayer). No one tells you this after the heart attack so we need to avoid putting that sorrow on someone else, it’s literally your whole body has just been traumatized and it isn’t anyone’s fault….not even yours.
... wow 🎯
I had one mini panic attack once. You can’t breathe or can’t catch your breath, shake, fast heart rate. I had high anxiety and worry, and I was very tired. It was late at night and it hit me. The breathing fast and not being able to catch your breath is horrible. I’m sure people have passed out from them.
Thank you for such wisdom. Is there a resource for listings of Christian counselors?
Thanks, Tracy, for reaching out to us. You can search for counselor referrals on our website (bddy.me/3HuwawI). Alternatively, if you’d like to talk with one of our counselors (at no cost to you), call 855-771-HELP (4357) weekdays between 6 A.M. and 8 P.M. (MT).
Great inspirational message, Thank you for sharing.
I really needed this. ❤️
Hi, Kerry. We're encouraged by your response and are pleased that this program was meaningful to you. Blessings!
Absolutely Blessed by this one 😢 much love from Fiji 🇫🇯
Wow! This brought me such simple clarity! Thank you so much. ❤️
🌼 It is Ok to be Ok! 🌼 Some people choose as an act of their will to be grateful and joyful and that is perfectly fine. Is not a matter of denial, but a matter of an anchored heart. 💟 Blessings to all.
Thanks from New Zealand 🇳🇿 ✝️
Inspirational message, Thank you for sharing.
Thank you for this channel! It has helped me grow spiritually and emotionally. At the end of the podcast, Debra is talking about a sermon from Jon Courson. I would love to listen to it, is there a link?
Healing in layers - life changing concept. Thank you so much!
This was so helpful
Great to hear that, Angie! We appreciate your interest in our broadcast. If you ever need a listening ear, please don’t hesitate to call us at 1‐800‐232‐6459. God’s best to you!
@@focusonthefamily thank you 😊
32:00 when she was talking about when someone is going through cancer to step by their side and encourage them, well I tried that and it completely backfired on me. So now I don’t talk about the Lord around my brother. When I see him we are cordial with one another but I stay in my world he stays in his world.
20:25 is so important
I just wish deliverance was included.
“We’re never walk without a limp.” So well phrased.
Pray for my healing help
We will be praying for you, Mary. If you ever need a listening ear, please don’t hesitate to call us at (800) 232-6459. Grace and peace to you!
Thank you
Great information.. thank you 😎
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