Emotional neglect is absolutely abuse. Wow, I was shocked to hear that the person in this interview doesn’t see it in that way when it is her area of expertise.
She will not use the A word because it's repackaged to reach more families in denial. "CEN" is absolutely emotional abuse. She did slip up and say it's like a gaslighting situation for the child (scapegoat). I guess enough people don't associate it with abuse, yet.
As a person who grew up with emotionally absent parents and one of those individuals who learned to bury her feelings, I have grown to understand that a person cannot give what they don’t have. My own parents demonstrated love in the way that they knew how. There was no motive to deprive me. I am aware and awake now and I have embraced the reality that I received some bad lessons that I have the power to change. This journey has allowed me to have open discussions with my children and people that I love so that they have better insight into how I became me and can support me in my efforts to transform. I want to end the cycle of generational pain❤
Dear dr. You are an amazing lady and im happy that you seen thro your own abuse intelligently. It must of been very hard for you going it alone for all them years. We are so lucky to have you explaining it all to us the way you do because some of us are not as intelligent and cant see our situations for what they really are. We are lucky to have you. I personally thankyou so much and wish you good health x
As a child of emotional neglect and physical abuse who has grown into my middle age, I am trapped in a living arrangement with my abusive father and I feel like I don't fit into any "box" because I'm not in a romantic relationship or marriage with kids so when the police are called (by myself and when my father calls them right after he assaults me, to make a false accusation) they don't respond as they would to other women, so I wonder, are your ebooks designed for women in relationships only?
At 56 yrs old I only just started practicing this technique a year ago; what am I feeling right now? What do I need and want? It was an eye opener. Even though I discovered yoga and meditation over 20 yrs ago, I never learned how to start really being in my own body like that and recognizing what was really going on.
IDK I sort of wish my mom "just" took a swing or ten instead of systemically convincing me I was not worth loving. I can take a punch; most folks don't have what it takes to accept their flaws and work on them, let alone rewire their entire pattern of being.
Kinda like living your life as an “ out of body” experience. Watching , doing, but not feeling anything. It is indeed like living life in technicolor when open up!
can you recommend youtube video about how healthy mind works and what abusive people know about healthy mind so that they are capable of breaking people's healthy minds ? It makes me wonder why abuse works ? Abusers abuse people because they know abuse works on people. How is this possible that abuse works on people ? why people break under the influence of abuse ?
emotionally dangerous to you...thats what I try to avoid, but now now stop after 20 years...they are still smarter and trickier with their words...but by God I am better and happier now that I've left the coop.
And then after when you're twelve, hopefully, you don't have any younger siblings. Because then you get stuck as a living babysitter. And the Mini parent and your parents still aren't around. And you can't do anything extracurricular because your mom's always at work. I mean, it is ridiculous. It's like you're just this extra person. And you basically have to fend for yourself. Because your mom has to work and your mom's cannot just leave work. Willing nearly whenever they want to and then. So a lot of times you don't go to the dentist when you're supposed to go. You don't go to all these doctor's appointments yet? You're supposed to go, you don't get to do anything really? But go to school or day care and come home. And that's it, that's your whole life. I'm I remember begging my mom to play Little league. And to be in the school. Play everything and I basically had to call somebody else's mom. And tell my mom that that that mom is gonna do this. This and that so that I'm able to do the little league in the school play. And that was like and third grade and her favorite saying. I don't know, we'll see and that we meant don't ask again. Every time you ask for anything, you just get just backtalk like you're nobody. It's I don't want nothing and don't need nothing. And take whatever you get and like it or lump it.
Emotional neglect is absolutely abuse. Wow, I was shocked to hear that the person in this interview doesn’t see it in that way when it is her area of expertise.
She will not use the A word because it's repackaged to reach more families in denial. "CEN" is absolutely emotional abuse. She did slip up and say it's like a gaslighting situation for the child (scapegoat). I guess enough people don't associate it with abuse, yet.
I see someone replied but it's gone. Deleted by channel? I'm seeing this comment before watching and that indeed sounds.... shocking
As a person who grew up with emotionally absent parents and one of those individuals who learned to bury her feelings, I have grown to understand that a person cannot give what they don’t have. My own parents demonstrated love in the way that they knew how. There was no motive to deprive me. I am aware and awake now and I have embraced the reality that I received some bad lessons that I have the power to change. This journey has allowed me to have open discussions with my children and people that I love so that they have better insight into how I became me and can support me in my efforts to transform. I want to end the cycle of generational pain❤
Dear dr. You are an amazing lady and im happy that you seen thro your own abuse intelligently. It must of been very hard for you going it alone for all them years.
We are so lucky to have you explaining it all to us the way you do because some of us are not as intelligent and cant see our situations for what they really are.
We are lucky to have you.
I personally thankyou so much and wish you good health x
As a child of emotional neglect and physical abuse who has grown into my middle age, I am trapped in a living arrangement with my abusive father and I feel like I don't fit into any "box" because I'm not in a romantic relationship or marriage with kids so when the police are called (by myself and when my father calls them right after he assaults me, to make a false accusation) they don't respond as they would to other women, so I wonder, are your ebooks designed for women in relationships only?
I read her book. It’s fantastic
At 56 yrs old I only just started practicing this technique a year ago; what am I feeling right now? What do I need and want? It was an eye opener. Even though I discovered yoga and meditation over 20 yrs ago, I never learned how to start really being in my own body like that and recognizing what was really going on.
IDK I sort of wish my mom "just" took a swing or ten instead of systemically convincing me I was not worth loving. I can take a punch; most folks don't have what it takes to accept their flaws and work on them, let alone rewire their entire pattern of being.
I get that, me and my siblings used to say we wished my mom and step dad would just hit us instead of the psychological torture that we went through
Healing ushers in amazing results: "coming alive", "blooming" and colours returning to a world of greys!
Not an original idea as it's the premise of "pleasantville" and many other stories but okay
Kinda like living your life as an “ out of body” experience. Watching , doing, but not feeling anything. It is indeed like living life in technicolor when open up!
Great discussion. Spot on.
Thank you both !
can you recommend youtube video about how healthy mind works and what abusive people know about healthy mind so that they are capable of breaking people's healthy minds ? It makes me wonder why abuse works ? Abusers abuse people because they know abuse works on people. How is this possible that abuse works on people ? why people break under the influence of abuse ?
emotionally dangerous to you...thats what I try to avoid, but now now stop after 20 years...they are still smarter and trickier with their words...but by God I am better and happier now that I've left the coop.
And then after when you're twelve, hopefully, you don't have any younger siblings. Because then you get stuck as a living babysitter. And the Mini parent and your parents still aren't around.
And you can't do anything extracurricular because your mom's always at work. I mean, it is ridiculous. It's like you're just this extra person. And you basically have to fend for yourself. Because your mom has to work and your mom's cannot just leave work. Willing nearly whenever they want to and then. So a lot of times you don't go to the dentist when you're supposed to go. You don't go to all these doctor's appointments yet? You're supposed to go, you don't get to do anything really? But go to school or day care and come home. And that's it, that's your whole life. I'm I remember begging my mom to play Little league. And to be in the school. Play everything and I basically had to call somebody else's mom. And tell my mom that that that mom is gonna do this. This and that so that I'm able to do the little league in the school play. And that was like and third grade and her favorite saying. I don't know, we'll see and that we meant don't ask again. Every time you ask for anything, you just get just backtalk like you're nobody. It's I don't want nothing and don't need nothing. And take whatever you get and like it or lump it.
you're a PhD of what? What degree?
Your videos are waaay too long. Please break it up with some quicker bites.