I lost my beautiful 18 year old grandson 3 years ago to a coward with a gun four days before his high school graduation. He knocked on the wrong door, he was lost and needed help. The milestones of his friends are hardest on his mom, my daughter. It is hard for me to see my younger grandson play and act like any boy does, sometimes I watch him and cry on the inside. We will never know who they would have grown up to be, but keeping their memory and sprite with us, keeps us from the depression that can be all comsuming. Thank you for sharing your story, Bubba sounds like my grandson, Todd, so full of energy and bravery with the “go for it” sprite.
I made the same mistake and was followed around for an hour by some lunatic trying to make me pull over. We're living in a world overrun with really sick, stressed, broken people. Don't assume the person confronting you is normal. Assume they may not be. You're a beautiful family.
The beauty of Asa sharing his corny jokes at the end and the fact no words were dedicated to the shooter. Thank you for carrying this story with such grace and integrity. If Bubba was All In it is clear his friends and family wanted this documentary to be ALL IN on his behalf.
What an amazing tribute to an amazing and gorgeous young man. I have a friend who lost her 13 year old grandson from a stabbing and know the ripple effect that follows a senseless attack like this amazing boy, mother and the strongest little brother had to endure. My heart goes out to the whole family. I’m in Tasmania Australia and just want to let you know if you ever venture to this part of the world I would be more than happy to be your host. And to Asa, young man you are amazing and funny too. I know your big brother is very proud of you and you will make him proud your whole life - YOU ROCK MATE .
How lucky was Bubba to be born into such an amazing family who gave him so much love and a good life for his short time here. What a strong beautiful family who have honored their amazing son and continue to fight for their family and to keep saving others with their foundation. So much respect
As a mother... I can't even fathom what you all have went through. Sending love and well wishes from Ireland 🇮🇪 💚 always remember that just because you can no longer see your beautiful little guy.. doesn't mean he's not there... he's with u always...❤
i’m thankful for every moment i got to spend with vaughn and this amazing family. their perseverance is something i’ve admired for a long time and still inspires me to this day
A very moving tribute of Vaughn Jr and the Bigelow family. Beautifully done. A reminder that we never know what each day has in store for us and to tell your loved ones how much they mean to you every single day. 💙
Just finished watching this while snuggling my 15 month old son... Tears streaming. As the last words of the poem were spoken and the screen darkened my quiet baby suddenly uttered the word Bubba. 💔
I had a scary incident a few days ago while driving my 10 year old son home from school. The truck followed me all the way home. I kept driving around the neighborhood until he left. All because I didn’t run a red light. Thanks for sharing your family’s story and your beautiful son with us.
Damn. Thank you for making me appreciate everything. The air that I breathe, a phone call with my sister, getting up and going to work at age 67. I am more grateful for everything for having seen this documentary. I'm sending you all strength, courage, and big hugs, from Tulsa.💪⚔️🫂. 👍💖😘😘😘
I cannot wrap my head around this. Such a completely senseless loss of someone so full of life. So sorry for your loss. I hate even saying those words because I know they don’t help. If nothing else comes of this, we all have GOT to start realizing what is actually important in life. ❤
Every life lost to gun violence deserves this treatment but so many are forgotten about. I feel so grateful to have this chance to get to know someone who was lost. He seemed like a special little boy. Much love to the family.
Big tears flowing. Such a tragic, tragic story. Bubba/Vaughn was surely a light that shined brightly then was gone. But the kind of spirit this young had will never die, but live on. The Kingdom of Heaven belongs to such as he was and is. He shines on. For him it will seem like a moment has passed since he was last with you, the people he loved and cherished. For time is different in heaven. But for those who knew him, gave birth and life to him, raised him up with so much love, patience and courage, everyday, every hour, every moment without him, must seem like too long. Thank you for sharing his story. Although it broke my heart. I pray that my comment will bless you or someone, whose light, love and heart was taken to heaven before them. "We are fearfully and wonderfully made" we live on.
Even not in the wrong, always back down & apologize. Do not stop. Call the police. Never escalate by filming, taking pictures or threatening anything. I saw a special on how to not esculate a road rage situation. I had gone in front of someone in aconstruction area & another driver did not take it well, I put my arms up & said sorry. He was still angry & driving very slow in front of me. I tried to pass, but he trapped me. So, I got my phone, ready to call police & I kept signaling my apology. Then, he finally drove off & left me alone. This poor family. A tragedy. You just never know who you're dealing with.
You have to be so evil and so saturated with anger that in your mind you made up an excuse to harm people because you think you were being wronged? What a tragedy, what a painful loss. But what a blessing to be blessed with such a wonderful child who touched many lives.
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I don’t know what happens to some people behind a wheel, the rage they have is utterly disproportionate. I was in a queue at some lights recently and for a split second I thought about turning right, so indicated, but changed my mind, (bearing in mind we were all stationary and I hadn’t moved yet). The man behind me started waving his arms, as if to say “make your mind up you stupid cow”, he carried on for quite some time with such anger, intolerance and hate in his face and gesticulations. Why on earth would it make him so angry, have we not all changed our minds at some point?
What a beautiful boy ❤ You have a wonderfully strong and gracious family. To be able to turn your tragedy into a purpose that serves the safety of others is true class. I’m so sorry for what you’ve endured. The mother’s poem is so true and touching.
0:26 I started watching your documentary in the belief that it was to do about safety around water. The fact that it was about your son 'Bubba' being the victim of a shooting I was shocked. I have three kids two girls and one boy. Kate 17 and Aoife 12 are active in rowing and soccer as well as scouting. Kate was a All champion Ireland rower.Both of them have great friends in and out of school. Tom 16 now is a carbon copy of Bubba. He's a superb athletes active in soccer, GAA (Irish sports) swimming, water polo and running. Watching your beautiful son taking part in so many activities is exactly how Tom was growing up. The fact that Bubba was a water polo player really brought it home to me. I have both played and coached for over thirty years. Watching the photos of just how strong he was in the water I'm not surprised he was selected for the Olympic team. Your dedication to encouraging your sons to take part in sports and support them especially Bubba achieve the success he did is a testament of your parenting. But the fact that he died the way he did is just something shocking! The fact that someone would have a gun in his car and resolve to kill you Meghan, Asop and unfortunately take Bubba's life. From a parents prospective it's a nightmare to loose a child in such a violent way. The fact that it was a gun that caused such a tragedy is alien to me. Here in Ireland, there's very strict gun control. The use of guns in murders is very low. Even though there was an armed conflict in Nothern Ireland for thirty years there was very little in the way of gun crime here in the Republic of Ireland. The difficulty I have in watching your very emotional and tragic story is that there still the acceptance of needing gun ownership? I find it very difficult watching the use of gun locks and unloading hand guns as normal! Why is there a need for guns especially outside of law enforcement. The tragic consequences of gun ownership is all to often seen in the US. There is no threat of being killed by a gun here in Ireland because the laws are very strict. In fact only a small number of our Police Force carry weapons and that's for emergency or counter terrorism. I would love for you to come to my city of Galway in the west of Ireland. I would be able to introduce you to our Water Polo team as well. Bubba would be looking down I'm sure with a big smile to know that his spirit lives on around the world❤
I’ve lost a son and a Grandson, so I think these lovely parents and friends and family are very brave. Excellent testimony 😊 God bless you all. And thank you 🙏 for sharing.
What a talented little guy and with beautiful spirit. I think he's still around really, his spirit is in all that's good and vital and we're all connected up with that.
A beautiful tribute to this amazing family and to Bubba. We all miss him and to this day I would not be surprised if he walked in my front door. I would give him a big hug and send him in to play cars or ride scooters with the kids. Thank you for sharing this story. Sending love to you all. ❤️
We love and admire you Bigelow's family. Thank you for sharing and keep walking loud. This is an amazing way to honor Vaughn and to call into a deep conscience about gun control and responsibility. Always in our prayers, God is faithful.
Your description of Vaughan jnr , is exactly how I’d describe my son Jake. ❤ Sending all our love, light and strength to your beautiful family from my family - NT Australia. Xx
Thanks for sharing Bubba with us, what a remarkable young man. My mama heart is aching for his family. Thankful for all the good people who stepped up to help.
My heart absolutely breaks for this beautiful family. I couldn't help but cry. God please continue to watch over this beautiful family & give them the strength, comfort & peace that they need. Bubba was such a handsome young boy & so strong willed. I know he's watching over each one of you. I just want you to know I am so very sorry for the devastating loss of such a precious young man. You all are in my thoughts, prayers & in my heart ❤️. Bubba will never be forgotten ❤️🙏🏻😢🕊️
As a UK resident gun violence has and always will be a total anomaly to me. This is just the most horrendous thing to happen to your precious family while they are simply just on a visit to the dentist. There is just no way I can begin to fathom the depth of rage felt by this man who to all intents and purposes attempted to murder your entire family for the most senseless , pointless of reasons and the shadows of that day will forever cast their darkness upon your beautiful family. To all of Vaughan Jnr's family please accept my condolences- he was a very special young man, that much is clear Xxx ❤❤
Bubba, Asa, and their beautiful Mom may have been the ones that endured the gunshots but their entire family took a bullet. Vaugh was so handsome and so passionate about his water polo…. It is an unfathomable loss for not only his beautiful family, but the community and everyone impacted by the tragedy. The moving words of the poem at the end don’t call me strong. I don’t have a choice. I’m a wife and a mother is so powerful. I almost lost my son three days ago. Severe complications that developed a day after he had his tonsils out I remember thinking this can’t be happening. I can’t lose him. I can’t imagine the daily pain Bubba’s parents feel. I will always remember this documentary. It was beautifully done. I’m so very sorry, such a preventable tragedy. I hope the young man who made that horrible decision to actually kill someone over being cut off in traffic never gets out of prison. 💔💔💔💔💔
Vaughan lived his life to the fullest. It may not have been as long as we all expect a life to be but it was his FULL life filled with joy and love and the freedom to express himself and his passions to their fullest...thanks to his amazing family. His life was lived perfectly till the end that was his destiny. We all expect to have a certain amount of yrs here but why? Let us celebrate the yrs we each are gifted...regardless of the number let us make them count. The pain and grief of losing a child is beyond words so only comfort is knowing they were loved, happy and that as parents you did your very best and loved them till their/your final breath. ❤❤❤ I say all this yet I cried as I watched this, me a stranger...I can't imagine what his family are still feeling.
The algorithm brought me here, and I’m grateful it did. Bubba was a special kid, obviously. As a swim teacher for 25 years, the thought I had watching him was, “his form looks good!” Really a loss I can’t begin to comprehend…what a full life, and loving family. This really is the definition of a tragedy. I am so sorry🙏This documentary really spotlights what a bright light he will always be💕
What a lovely tribute to your beautiful son, Bubba. Such a tragic ending for this special soul. My heart goes out to your family. May you all find peace to heal. ❤
Sigh I should have paused as I began writing right at the end ..it went to the next video and erased what I was saying here 😢I thought of just not bothering but couldn't move on yet . Thank you for your courage and support to put together this documentary of your story ... My story of the loss of my son last year is a VERY VERY different story ...and yet every single story I am drawn to hear and witness there is the "piont " and our common bond ...that we all have lost a child that we treasured beyond measure . Thank all of you Thank the writers and the creators of this ....I am adding it to my list to share one day ,when I find the person ment to help me help my loved ones tell our story .... To all of your friends and family and doctors and first responders...LOVE ..AND BLESSINGS FULL OF LIGHT AND FOR A GOOD LIFE . I am moved to tell you that with an open and at times desperate heart ...my son without doubt comes threw in many different ways to let me know he absolutely is with me at any time I need him and when he needs me ...and it happens at times in the smallest of things ...and then there are some seriously...well there are no words ..because we were never tought to believe in our higher scence and abilities to communicate across dimensions ...it is real and it is REAL 🥹🙏🕊😘🌬🫴🧡✨️🪽
💔 Burst into tears at the end of this documentary as I was listening to Megan reciting her poem about being a mother and a wife. I’m so sorry for your loss and wish all the strength in the world to your beautiful family ❤ Bubba will always live on through all the good that he did, and all that you are now doing on his memory 🙏 Lots of love from Estonia
My God… my heart is breaking for this family… this is why my husband and I have put medical emergency kits in both our vehicles… chest seals, bandages, tourniquets, masks, scissors, mouth piece in case CPR is needed, etc…. Everyone should carry one in their vehicle with todays world… it can be expensive but you can buy stuff a little at a time and put in a duffle bag or medical bag and throw in your vehicle… it could save a life or many.
My greatest fear as a child was constant fear that my grandparents who raised me would die and once I became a mom and now a grandmother that fear in the back of my mind is always there almost robbing our time with the people we love and having to wonder if they knew how much I love them and did I tell them as often as I couldve and did I show them my love as much as I could have. When I watch this and listen to your family and friends, the biggest thing stands out and that is a young, beautiful and happy boy who was loved by so many in his life and especially by his mom and dad and brothers, he most certainly knew he was loved and will always be loved. I pray that God will comfort your family.
This made my heart break, as well as sent me into a bad memory of a road rage many years ago when I accidentally cut someone off while making a turn into a parking lot. I misjudged and thought they were going faster. This van followed me into the lot and as I parked, came banging on my car window with a gun. I thought for sure he was going to shoot me through the window, so I ducked down and called 9-11. The guy was screaming that I could have killed his family. He was beyond angry, he was raging hard and dark red in the face. Thankfully I had all my doors locked and windows up. I just stayed down until he left. I wish Mrs Bigelow stayed in her car, but of course hindsight is 20-20, and there’s no going back. What a total tragedy. Vaughn Jr lived more years than most in his short life. He’s an angel now. Be safe people.
You’re so correct when you say that you didn’t appreciate the remarkable abilities that your child had until they’re no longer with us. It’s like you love them so much that you hold back on certain things because you know that if you actually focus on the possibility of losing your child, you can’t live with that thought and it’s too painful to even try to imagine what life would be like without them. However, if you can relate to this truth, you can drive yourself mad by thinking about the little details or compliments that you could’ve said. You have to step back and acknowledge that they knew how much they meant and they know still. Anyone viewing your personal and intimate moments can tell that your son was so loved, so privileged and lucky to have all of you as his family. We have two sons who wouldn’t have been a thought if our oldest didn’t pass. I was in my late 30’s and 40 was sneaking up. One year to the day of our loss, I discovered that I was pregnant. The sheer joy was overshadowed by having to possibly go through another loss. I personally felt responsible for things I couldn’t control, only God can control. I have learned that this is the reality of life. I don’t go one day without telling my boys how much I love them and to please be careful. I don’t care what others think of my parenting style because we spoil them beyond reason and accommodate any request because unless you belong to this club, you can’t comprehend the days, months and years that you must endure. Not to mention that people think it’s contagious and friends start falling away. I understand though…it’s too difficult to observe because they have their child and they feel guilt and shame because you don’t. It’s normal but for the ones who stick around…they’re irreplaceable. Thank you for sharing your story and for reminding us that we live in a society and country of instability. People are at a boiling point and it doesn’t take much for someone to snap. It’s not worth the risk because you can count on a dangerous society.
What a beautiful boy, all the boys! Beautiful family! So tragic!! Thank God their community and friends were so amazing! Bubba will always be remembered as he left his mark here on earth and will be waiting for you in heaven. So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful boy!!
This hits way to close to home… We knew a family that this happened to, their little girl didn’t live after a road rage. What I can’t understand is why the other person that shot this family could not just express anger, but rage, and blinded by their targets. A family on the way to a dentist appt.. Unbelievable…. God Bless Your family.
How do you put into words the pain I felt watching your story.. Totally felt everything you were going threw. May god watch over you and your family.. Words are so difficult..😢😢 thank you for sharing your story. I feel honoured that I got the chance to know so much about your son .what an incredible human being .. such a brave family.❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏😢😊
That’s insane! Shoot a mother and her young children over being cut off. This punk had more than enough time to calm down after the initial incident too. Scary that we have to live amongst freaks like this.
There are no words for that kind of filth I am absolutely stunned that any human on the planet could choose such a heinous act over something so insanely trivial !! … All I can say is I am so very sorry for the incredible loss this family has faced … My heart goes out to you RIP Vaughn … You were a champion Thank the lord that Asa and Megan survived with such critical injuries… I’m sure the road has been long and arduous What a horrible tragedy🇨🇦
I am so deeply sorry for your loss, this story was both tragic and beautiful. Tragic in loss but beautiful in spirit and the memory of an incredible kid who had packed so much into his short life. Love from Australia ❤
Let me tell you that i am beyond sorry for your tremendous loss. You were the best parents to this dear little boy. I will never know your pain. This is so very tragic that someone had the nerve to take him from you. He would have grown up to be such a great man, just like his father! I wish I could make this go away and you had your baby back. My heart breaks for you both. This video is just absolutely a wonderful tribute to him. One day you will be back with your boy, I know that. I now will never forget your boy. Prayers you may find some happiness in your days ahead. Bubba was beautiful ❤
What a needless tragedy. Why so much rage in the world. My heart goes out to you. Bubba will never be forgotten even by me a complete stranger. I will pray for you all. ❤
You extra ordinary family . To survive such overwhelming grief and tragedy and injuries. To tell your story. To be reminded every day of what impact this had on all of you. Thankyou for the courage and bravery it must have taken to tell this story . You deserved every bit of the love support and ongoing tributes. But it’s still there. It will always be there. Slowly as you know days will look brighter , you will feel less burdened . But it will always be there . Bubba is the inspiration. He is there everywhere . Sending so much love respect and positivity but knowing that everyday must be still so very very hard. Xxxxx
This story broke my heart but also filled my heart, what an amazing tribute to their beautiful gifted son. The gun safe lock is a fantastic idea, I can't believe how amazing & resisiliant the Bigalowe family is.
Thank you for sharing your precious gift with a world that doesn't deserve him. I hope i can come back and watch this one day soon. I could only get 10 minutes in. Its unimaginable and incredibly painful to even THINK about the emmense greif of such a loss, it cant even be put into words.
What an aweome video of an awesome family!!! I lost my 39 year old Son to gun violence on April 12-2024. It's a horrible thing to deal with. Prayers to this family!!! 💕
I feel so blessed to have watched this story. Bubba Bigilow was one very much loved and admired by many young man. My heart breaks for you all, is so unfair and stingingly hard. Your pain is raw, you have been through too much. Big Waves is such a wonderful idea. What a terrific organisation to start. Sending much love from us downunder. Xoxo
My heart goes out to this family. The poem at the end written and read by his mum really got me. Tears flowed for a mum on the other side of the world. Sending love from the UK ♥️
As a mama who also lost her son my heart hurts so deeply for what this beautiful family have and still are enduring. Senseless, pointless, wasteful....horror ,physical pain , rage ,grief ... All the words... None of them adequate. I am sure you have said them all a million times.. This is a warm ,loving and beautiful tribute and I am so very sorry . Rest gently Bubba ❤❤
Thank you so much! Raw, honest and beautifully shared. One cannot help but shed tears for your story, and then smile at your resilience and forward life work against guns. I too am from Australia….Newcastle NSW. I think Vaughan would’ve loved our beaches! Although there are still shocking events of violence all over the world and we are not immune from them, I am so grateful that we have the laws we do, and our country is safer than most. I Pray for a world where guns are not accepted as an everyday tool; a necessity or a right to carry (except of course for controlled and strictly licensed situations), and for a world where a mum can travel with her kids in the car and arrive at their destination without tragedy….gun or otherwise! Bless you and all the best to you all at BigWaves!
This was truly a beautiful documentary in the wake of tragedy for this family. Such a soul will watch over them daily as he did living as they talked about him. Mom's words at the end about broke me but says it all. May his light during his life always continue to give them courage.
I lost my Dad to cancer a couple weeks ago. The pain and sadness has been overwhelming. I can not begin to imagine the horrific raw hurt that you’d feel to have your kid murdered. Some idiot on the road. A complete stranger obliterating your life. Families of victims deserve fat trial-not thes 3-4 year bs trials I really can not imagine how one would collect themselves and try to live on. No one should have to go through that level of heartache.
Such a tragic store. ❤ My heart aches for your family! There is not a stage called closure! My husband passed suddenly at 31. Raised my 9 and 11year old myself! I know heartbreak and grief ! ❤️🙏
I'm so fortunate to have randomly clicked on this video. What an amazing family.
I lost my beautiful 18 year old grandson 3 years ago to a coward with a gun four days before his high school graduation. He knocked on the wrong door, he was lost and needed help. The milestones of his friends are hardest on his mom, my daughter. It is hard for me to see my younger grandson play and act like any boy does, sometimes I watch him and cry on the inside. We will never know who they would have grown up to be, but keeping their memory and sprite with us, keeps us from the depression that can be all comsuming. Thank you for sharing your story, Bubba sounds like my grandson, Todd, so full of energy and bravery with the “go for it” sprite.
I’m so so sorry ❤
I made the same mistake and was followed around for an hour by some lunatic trying to make me pull over. We're living in a world overrun with really sick, stressed, broken people. Don't assume the person confronting you is normal. Assume they may not be.
You're a beautiful family.
The beauty of Asa sharing his corny jokes at the end and the fact no words were dedicated to the shooter. Thank you for carrying this story with such grace and integrity. If Bubba was All In it is clear his friends and family wanted this documentary to be ALL IN on his behalf.
What an amazing tribute to an amazing and gorgeous young man. I have a friend who lost her 13 year old grandson from a stabbing and know the ripple effect that follows a senseless attack like this amazing boy, mother and the strongest little brother had to endure. My heart goes out to the whole family. I’m in Tasmania Australia and just want to let you know if you ever venture to this part of the world I would be more than happy to be your host. And to Asa, young man you are amazing and funny too. I know your big brother is very proud of you and you will make him proud your whole life - YOU ROCK MATE .
An incredibly touching tribute to your beautiful son; may his spirit live on forever.
How lucky was Bubba to be born into such an amazing family who gave him so much love and a good life for his short time here. What a strong beautiful family who have honored their amazing son and continue to fight for their family and to keep saving others with their foundation. So much respect
As a mother... I can't even fathom what you all have went through. Sending love and well wishes from Ireland 🇮🇪 💚 always remember that just because you can no longer see your beautiful little guy.. doesn't mean he's not there... he's with u always...❤
i’m thankful for every moment i got to spend with vaughn and this amazing family. their perseverance is something i’ve admired for a long time and still inspires me to this day
A very moving tribute of Vaughn Jr and the Bigelow family. Beautifully done. A reminder that we never know what each day has in store for us and to tell your loved ones how much they mean to you every single day. 💙
Just finished watching this while snuggling my 15 month old son... Tears streaming. As the last words of the poem were spoken and the screen darkened my quiet baby suddenly uttered the word Bubba.
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This is heartbreaking and a beautiful tribute to Bubba. Thank you for sharing with us.
I just happened to stumble across this story…I have no words!
Amazing family. Horrific tragedy. Brilliant filmmaking. No more words needed
Their grief and pain are palpable. I don't know what else to say. May God bless you, Bigelow, family. May Bubba's memory be blessing to you.
I had a scary incident a few days ago while driving my 10 year old son home from school. The truck followed me all the way home. I kept driving around the neighborhood until he left. All because I didn’t run a red light. Thanks for sharing your family’s story and your beautiful son with us.
Calling myself out here…this has reminded me I need to chill the F out when driving and have more patience. Ty. ❤️
With your beautiful, tender narrative, your son has become my son as well.. All the best to your family 🌸
Damn. Thank you for making me appreciate everything. The air that I breathe, a phone call with my sister, getting up and going to work at age 67. I am more grateful for everything for having seen this documentary. I'm sending you all strength, courage, and big hugs, from Tulsa.💪⚔️🫂. 👍💖😘😘😘
I cannot wrap my head around this. Such a completely senseless loss of someone so full of life. So sorry for your loss. I hate even saying those words because I know they don’t help. If nothing else comes of this, we all have GOT to start realizing what is actually important in life. ❤
I’m so very sorry for the loss of your precious son, and for the trauma you have all endured. Sending love from England ❤️
Every life lost to gun violence deserves this treatment but so many are forgotten about. I feel so grateful to have this chance to get to know someone who was lost. He seemed like a special little boy. Much love to the family.
Big tears flowing. Such a tragic, tragic story. Bubba/Vaughn was surely a light that shined brightly then was gone. But the kind of spirit this young had will never die, but live on. The Kingdom of Heaven belongs to such as he was and is. He shines on. For him it will seem like a moment has passed since he was last with you, the people he loved and cherished. For time is different in heaven. But for those who knew him, gave birth and life to him, raised him up with so much love, patience and courage, everyday, every hour, every moment without him, must seem like too long.
Thank you for sharing his story. Although it broke my heart. I pray that my comment will bless you or someone, whose light, love and heart was taken to heaven before them. "We are fearfully and wonderfully made" we live on.
Even not in the wrong, always back down & apologize. Do not stop. Call the police. Never escalate by filming, taking pictures or threatening anything. I saw a special on how to not esculate a road rage situation. I had gone in front of someone in aconstruction area & another driver did not take it well, I put my arms up & said sorry. He was still angry & driving very slow in front of me. I tried to pass, but he trapped me. So, I got my phone, ready to call police & I kept signaling my apology. Then, he finally drove off & left me alone. This poor family. A tragedy. You just never know who you're dealing with.
You have to be so evil and so saturated with anger that in your mind you made up an excuse to harm people because you think you were being wronged?
What a tragedy, what a painful loss. But what a blessing to be blessed with such a wonderful child who touched many lives.
Ty for putting your storie it touch my heart,I keep you in my prayers,may God comfort you and family and children down this long road.
Thank you for your kind words.
I’m so, so sorry for your loss. I don’t know what happens to some people behind a wheel, the rage they have is utterly disproportionate. I was in a queue at some lights recently and for a split second I thought about turning right, so indicated, but changed my mind, (bearing in mind we were all stationary and I hadn’t moved yet). The man behind me started waving his arms, as if to say “make your mind up you stupid cow”, he carried on for quite some time with such anger, intolerance and hate in his face and gesticulations. Why on earth would it make him so angry, have we not all changed our minds at some point?
What a beautiful boy ❤ You have a wonderfully strong and gracious family. To be able to turn your tragedy into a purpose that serves the safety of others is true class. I’m so sorry for what you’ve endured. The mother’s poem is so true and touching.
0:26 I started watching your documentary in the belief that it was to do about safety around water. The fact that it was about your son 'Bubba' being the victim of a shooting I was shocked. I have three kids two girls and one boy. Kate 17 and Aoife 12 are active in rowing and soccer as well as scouting. Kate was a All champion Ireland rower.Both of them have great friends in and out of school. Tom 16 now is a carbon copy of Bubba. He's a superb athletes active in soccer, GAA (Irish sports) swimming, water polo and running. Watching your beautiful son taking part in so many activities is exactly how Tom was growing up. The fact that Bubba was a water polo player really brought it home to me. I have both played and coached for over thirty years. Watching the photos of just how strong he was in the water I'm not surprised he was selected for the Olympic team. Your dedication to encouraging your sons to take part in sports and support them especially Bubba achieve the success he did is a testament of your parenting. But the fact that he died the way he did is just something shocking! The fact that someone would have a gun in his car and resolve to kill you Meghan, Asop and unfortunately take Bubba's life. From a parents prospective it's a nightmare to loose a child in such a violent way. The fact that it was a gun that caused such a tragedy is alien to me. Here in Ireland, there's very strict gun control. The use of guns in murders is very low. Even though there was an armed conflict in Nothern Ireland for thirty years there was very little in the way of gun crime here in the Republic of Ireland. The difficulty I have in watching your very emotional and tragic story is that there still the acceptance of needing gun ownership? I find it very difficult watching the use of gun locks and unloading hand guns as normal! Why is there a need for guns especially outside of law enforcement. The tragic consequences of gun ownership is all to often seen in the US. There is no threat of being killed by a gun here in Ireland because the laws are very strict. In fact only a small number of our Police Force carry weapons and that's for emergency or counter terrorism. I would love for you to come to my city of Galway in the west of Ireland. I would be able to introduce you to our Water Polo team as well. Bubba would be looking down I'm sure with a big smile to know that his spirit lives on around the world❤
This is so heartbreaking and so disgusting of that man to shoot innocent kids over nothing. End gun violence please everyone please..
I’ve lost a son and a Grandson, so I think these lovely parents and friends and family are very brave. Excellent testimony 😊 God bless you all. And thank you 🙏 for sharing.
So sorry for your loss.
A beautiful documentary about a tragic and completely senseless crime. RIP Vaughn and peace to your family ❤
What a talented little guy and with beautiful spirit. I think he's still around really, his spirit is in all that's good and vital and we're all connected up with that.
So well put.
A beautiful tribute to this amazing family and to Bubba. We all miss him and to this day I would not be surprised if he walked in my front door. I would give him a big hug and send him in to play cars or ride scooters with the kids. Thank you for sharing this story. Sending love to you all. ❤️
We love and admire you Bigelow's family. Thank you for sharing and keep walking loud. This is an amazing way to honor Vaughn and to call into a deep conscience about gun control and responsibility. Always in our prayers, God is faithful.
Your description of Vaughan jnr , is exactly how I’d describe my son Jake. ❤ Sending all our love, light and strength to your beautiful family from my family - NT Australia. Xx
How sad I feel for his Family I lost my Beautiful Grandson at 27 I talk to his photo a lot & it helps so much 💖
They mentioned that another witness was also shot. Praying that individual is healed as well.
Thanks for sharing Bubba with us, what a remarkable young man. My mama heart is aching for his family. Thankful for all the good people who stepped up to help.
My heart absolutely breaks for this beautiful family. I couldn't help but cry. God please continue to watch over this beautiful family & give them the strength, comfort & peace that they need. Bubba was such a handsome young boy & so strong willed. I know he's watching over each one of you. I just want you to know I am so very sorry for the devastating loss of such a precious young man. You all are in my thoughts, prayers & in my heart ❤️. Bubba will never be forgotten ❤️🙏🏻😢🕊️
As a UK resident gun violence has and always will be a total anomaly to me. This is just the most horrendous thing to happen to your precious family while they are simply just on a visit to the dentist. There is just no way I can begin to fathom the depth of rage felt by this man who to all intents and purposes attempted to murder your entire family for the most senseless , pointless of reasons and the shadows of that day will forever cast their darkness upon your beautiful family.
To all of Vaughan Jnr's family please accept my condolences- he was a very special young man, that much is clear Xxx ❤❤
That poor dentist, feeling bad for not checking on the mother. That is a real hero. He was gonna try to save them kids😭
Bubba, Asa, and their beautiful Mom may have been the ones that endured the gunshots but their entire family took a bullet.
Vaugh was so handsome and so passionate about his water polo…. It is an unfathomable loss for not only his beautiful family, but the community and everyone impacted by the tragedy.
The moving words of the poem at the end don’t call me strong. I don’t have a choice. I’m a wife and a mother is so powerful. I almost lost my son three days ago. Severe complications that developed a day after he had his tonsils out
I remember thinking this can’t be happening. I can’t lose him.
I can’t imagine the daily pain Bubba’s parents feel.
I will always remember this documentary. It was beautifully done.
I’m so very sorry, such a preventable tragedy. I hope the young man who made that horrible decision to actually kill someone over being cut off in traffic never gets out of prison.
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Vaughan lived his life to the fullest. It may not have been as long as we all expect a life to be but it was his FULL life filled with joy and love and the freedom to express himself and his passions to their fullest...thanks to his amazing family. His life was lived perfectly till the end that was his destiny. We all expect to have a certain amount of yrs here but why? Let us celebrate the yrs we each are gifted...regardless of the number let us make them count.
The pain and grief of losing a child is beyond words so only comfort is knowing they were loved, happy and that as parents you did your very best and loved them till their/your final breath. ❤❤❤
I say all this yet I cried as I watched this, me a stranger...I can't imagine what his family are still feeling.
The algorithm brought me here, and I’m grateful it did. Bubba was a special kid, obviously. As a swim teacher for 25 years, the thought I had watching him was, “his form looks good!” Really a loss I can’t begin to comprehend…what a full life, and loving family. This really is the definition of a tragedy. I am so sorry🙏This documentary really spotlights what a bright light he will always be💕
What a lovely tribute to your beautiful son, Bubba. Such a tragic ending for this special soul. My heart goes out to your family. May you all find peace to heal. ❤
Beautiful - we all lost an amazing soul it seems ❤
Thank you for your courage and love to share and breath life into his memory xx
A
South Australia
This just breaks my heart. Such a beautiful family. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. God Bless
Sigh I should have paused as I began writing right at the end ..it went to the next video and erased what I was saying here 😢I thought of just not bothering but couldn't move on yet .
Thank you for your courage and support to put together this documentary of your story ...
My story of the loss of my son last year is a VERY VERY different story ...and yet every single story I am drawn to hear and witness there is the
"piont " and our common bond ...that we all have lost a child that we treasured beyond measure .
Thank all of you Thank the writers and the creators of this ....I am adding it to my list to share one day ,when I find the person ment to help me help my loved ones tell our story ....
To all of your friends and family and doctors and first responders...LOVE ..AND BLESSINGS FULL OF LIGHT AND FOR A GOOD LIFE .
I am moved to tell you that with an open and at times desperate heart ...my son without doubt comes threw in many different ways to let me know he absolutely is with me at any time I need him and when he needs me ...and it happens at times in the smallest of things ...and then there are some seriously...well there are no words ..because we were never tought to believe in our higher scence and abilities to communicate across dimensions ...it is real and it is REAL 🥹🙏🕊😘🌬🫴🧡✨️🪽
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God Bless you all. ✝️🙏💔
💔 Burst into tears at the end of this documentary as I was listening to Megan reciting her poem about being a mother and a wife. I’m so sorry for your loss and wish all the strength in the world to your beautiful family ❤ Bubba will always live on through all the good that he did, and all that you are now doing on his memory 🙏
Lots of love from Estonia
I’m in tears. Incredibly impactful. Thank you so much for sharing your story. Continued prayers to the Bigelow family 🙏🏻❤️
My God… my heart is breaking for this family… this is why my husband and I have put medical emergency kits in both our vehicles… chest seals, bandages, tourniquets, masks, scissors, mouth piece in case CPR is needed, etc…. Everyone should carry one in their vehicle with todays world… it can be expensive but you can buy stuff a little at a time and put in a duffle bag or medical bag and throw in your vehicle… it could save a life or many.
This was beautifully put together. Thank you for such an important message.
My greatest fear as a child was constant fear that my grandparents who raised me would die and once I became a mom and now a grandmother that fear in the back of my mind is always there almost robbing our time with the people we love and having to wonder if they knew how much I love them and did I tell them as often as I couldve and did I show them my love as much as I could have. When I watch this and listen to your family and friends, the biggest thing stands out and that is a young, beautiful and happy boy who was loved by so many in his life and especially by his mom and dad and brothers, he most certainly knew he was loved and will always be loved. I pray that God will comfort your family.
Heartbreaking . Such a beautiful and strong family. You touched my heart, my soul. Blessings from Quebec ⚘️
This made my heart break, as well as sent me into a bad memory of a road rage many years ago when I accidentally cut someone off while making a turn into a parking lot. I misjudged and thought they were going faster. This van followed me into the lot and as I parked, came banging on my car window with a gun. I thought for sure he was going to shoot me through the window, so I ducked down and called 9-11. The guy was screaming that I could have killed his family. He was beyond angry, he was raging hard and dark red in the face. Thankfully I had all my doors locked and windows up. I just stayed down until he left. I wish Mrs Bigelow stayed in her car, but of course hindsight is 20-20, and there’s no going back. What a total tragedy. Vaughn Jr lived more years than most in his short life. He’s an angel now. Be safe people.
Please know Bigelow family, that you are loved and we all send you the biggest condolences and biggest virtual hug❤❤❤❤
You’re so correct when you say that you didn’t appreciate the remarkable abilities that your child had until they’re no longer with us. It’s like you love them so much that you hold back on certain things because you know that if you actually focus on the possibility of losing your child, you can’t live with that thought and it’s too painful to even try to imagine what life would be like without them. However, if you can relate to this truth, you can drive yourself mad by thinking about the little details or compliments that you could’ve said. You have to step back and acknowledge that they knew how much they meant and they know still. Anyone viewing your personal and intimate moments can tell that your son was so loved, so privileged and lucky to have all of you as his family. We have two sons who wouldn’t have been a thought if our oldest didn’t pass. I was in my late 30’s and 40 was sneaking up. One year to the day of our loss, I discovered that I was pregnant. The sheer joy was overshadowed by having to possibly go through another loss. I personally felt responsible for things I couldn’t control, only God can control. I have learned that this is the reality of life. I don’t go one day without telling my boys how much I love them and to please be careful. I don’t care what others think of my parenting style because we spoil them beyond reason and accommodate any request because unless you belong to this club, you can’t comprehend the days, months and years that you must endure. Not to mention that people think it’s contagious and friends start falling away. I understand though…it’s too difficult to observe because they have their child and they feel guilt and shame because you don’t. It’s normal but for the ones who stick around…they’re irreplaceable. Thank you for sharing your story and for reminding us that we live in a society and country of instability. People are at a boiling point and it doesn’t take much for someone to snap. It’s not worth the risk because you can count on a dangerous society.
What a beautiful boy, all the boys! Beautiful family! So tragic!! Thank God their community and friends were so amazing! Bubba will always be remembered as he left his mark here on earth and will be waiting for you in heaven. So sorry for your loss. What a beautiful boy!!
What a beautiful family, what a poignant yet beautiful tribute to Bubba, an exceptional young man.✨️💖✨️
This hits way to close to home… We knew a family that this happened to, their little girl didn’t live after a road rage. What I can’t understand is why the other person that shot this family could not just express anger, but rage, and blinded by their targets. A family on the way to a dentist appt.. Unbelievable…. God Bless Your family.
How do you put into words the pain I felt watching your story..
Totally felt everything you were going threw.
May god watch over you and your family..
Words are so difficult..😢😢 thank you for sharing your story. I feel honoured that I got the chance to know so much about your son .what an incredible human being .. such a brave family.❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏❤🙏😢😊
That’s insane! Shoot a mother and her young children over being cut off. This punk had more than enough time to calm down after the initial incident too. Scary that we have to live amongst freaks like this.
There are no words for that kind of filth I am absolutely stunned that any human on the planet could choose such a heinous act over something so insanely trivial !! … All I can say is I am so very sorry for the incredible loss this family has faced … My heart goes out to you RIP Vaughn … You were a champion
Thank the lord that Asa and Megan survived with such critical injuries… I’m sure the road has been long and arduous
What a horrible tragedy🇨🇦
I am so deeply sorry for your loss, this story was both tragic and beautiful. Tragic in loss but beautiful in spirit and the memory of an incredible kid who had packed so much into his short life. Love from Australia ❤
Let me tell you that i am beyond sorry for your tremendous loss. You were the best parents to this dear little boy. I will never know your pain. This is so very tragic that someone had the nerve to take him from you. He would have grown up to be such a great man, just like his father! I wish I could make this go away and you had your baby back. My heart breaks for you both. This video is just absolutely a wonderful tribute to him. One day you will be back with your boy, I know that. I now will never forget your boy. Prayers you may find some happiness in your days ahead. Bubba was beautiful ❤
Thank you for SHARING 🙏 My sons name is Asa, haven’t met many. Our hearts are with you, as strangers even 🫶
What a needless tragedy. Why so much rage in the world. My heart goes out to you. Bubba will never be forgotten even by me a complete stranger. I will pray for you all. ❤
Such a beautiful family and such a heartbreaking story. So sorry for your loss.
You extra ordinary family . To survive such overwhelming grief and tragedy and injuries. To tell your story. To be reminded every day of what impact this had on all of you. Thankyou for the courage and bravery it must have taken to tell this story . You deserved every bit of the love support and ongoing tributes. But it’s still there. It will always be there. Slowly as you know days will look brighter , you will feel less burdened . But it will always be there . Bubba is the inspiration. He is there everywhere . Sending so much love respect and positivity but knowing that everyday must be still so very very hard. Xxxxx
This story broke my heart but also filled my heart, what an amazing tribute to their beautiful gifted son. The gun safe lock is a fantastic idea, I can't believe how amazing & resisiliant the Bigalowe family is.
Thank you for sharing your precious gift with a world that doesn't deserve him. I hope i can come back and watch this one day soon. I could only get 10 minutes in. Its unimaginable and incredibly painful to even THINK about the emmense greif of such a loss, it cant even be put into words.
Beautiful documentary to hold your grief and pain and turn it into something positive. So sorry for this immense loss.
What an aweome video of an awesome family!!! I lost my 39 year old Son to gun violence on April 12-2024. It's a horrible thing to deal with. Prayers to this family!!! 💕
I feel so blessed to have watched this story. Bubba Bigilow was one very much loved and admired by many young man. My heart breaks for you all, is so unfair and stingingly hard. Your pain is raw, you have been through too much. Big Waves is such a wonderful idea. What a terrific organisation to start. Sending much love from us downunder. Xoxo
I'm so,so sorry for the loss of your dear Bubba. What an amazing, vital soul.
Really beautifully done film. Great tribute. So senseless...
I randomly found this video… but now blessed to have learned so much about your beautiful boy 🩵
I am so sorry this happened to your family. A senseless act. Prayers and Love to your family.
My heart goes out to this family.
The poem at the end written and read by his mum really got me. Tears flowed for a mum on the other side of the world.
Sending love from the UK ♥️
Heartbreaking, Sending Bubba's loved ones love and strength xx
Crushingly raw , yet the pure love that is portrayed took my breath away. A thousand thanks for sharing your story ❤🙏
The world was robbed of his wonderful life.
Sending you love.
I'm so sorry....WHAT an AWESOME young man.
Such a senseless act. My heart goes out to your whole family 😢❤
What a strong family you are!!! Vaughn Jr would be so proud how you all have honored him! Praying for you’ll from Texas! 🙏🏼💕🙏🏼
As a mama who also lost her son my heart hurts so deeply for what this beautiful family have and still are enduring.
Senseless, pointless, wasteful....horror ,physical pain , rage ,grief ...
All the words...
None of them adequate.
I am sure you have said them all a million times..
This is a warm ,loving and beautiful tribute and I am so very sorry .
Rest gently Bubba ❤❤
Thank you so much! Raw, honest and beautifully shared. One cannot help but shed tears for your story, and then smile at your resilience and forward life work against guns. I too am from Australia….Newcastle NSW. I think Vaughan would’ve loved our beaches! Although there are still shocking events of violence all over the world and we are not immune from them, I am so grateful that we have the laws we do, and our country is safer than most. I Pray for a world where guns are not accepted as an everyday tool; a necessity or a right to carry (except of course for controlled and strictly licensed situations), and for a world where a mum can travel with her kids in the car and arrive at their destination without tragedy….gun or otherwise! Bless you and all the best to you all at BigWaves!
What a beautiful tribute/documentary.. Vaughn must’ve been an angel!
A very beautiful tribute to a wonderful young man. may this young boy spirit live on forever RIP Vaughn .
We have to stop letting idiots have guns. Prayers 🙏 for Vaughn's loved ones, prayers of healing comfort 🙏🙏🕊️.
This was truly a beautiful documentary in the wake of tragedy for this family. Such a soul will watch over them daily as he did living as they talked about him. Mom's words at the end about broke me but says it all. May his light during his life always continue to give them courage.
Much love to your family. Bubba would be proud of you all. From Australia
Thank you for sharing your son's story 🙏 He is a beautiful soul ❤️
Seeing this story and hearing about your sweet boy has touched my life! I will say a prayer for him and your family!
I lost my Dad to cancer a couple weeks ago. The pain and sadness has been overwhelming. I can not begin to imagine the horrific raw hurt that you’d feel to have your kid murdered. Some idiot on the road. A complete stranger obliterating your life. Families of victims deserve fat trial-not thes 3-4 year bs trials I really can not imagine how one would collect themselves and try to live on. No one should have to go through that level of heartache.
I have the chills. I’m so sorry for your loss. May the love of Christ mend your shattered hearts
Heartbreaking! You are all incredibly strong and beautiful souls. Thank you for sharing this. May your son's memory be for a blessing always!
Stay strong Bigelow family. Your presentation is quite an honor to your son. From Andrew Jones and our entire family!
Such a tragic store. ❤ My heart aches for your family! There is not a stage called closure! My husband passed suddenly at 31. Raised my 9 and 11year old myself! I know heartbreak and grief ! ❤️🙏