I think it's insane how society has collectively decided that being nice or kind is a sign of weakness or that it projects a sense of neediness. So strange. I'm nice because I have geniune compassion for people, and not because I seek people's validation.
exactly! it's because we live in a narcissistic/psychopathic society and they see kindness/friendliness as weakness because in their childhoods they were abused whenever they weren't completely unhinged or detached.
I love myself. I have God and my family. Do I need to prove myself to anyone? Nope. They can take me as I am or hit the wall. The last 150 rejections over my life cycle is more than enough to drive the message home that romance is NOT for me!
@@virtualworlds8081 Actually I wanted to say 50 people per week, which includes attractive women. With the latter, I mostly got neutral or pleasant exchanges that ended up not going anywhere. I still have to develop "escalation skills".
You become and you attract what your thoughts are. i know plenty of people who don't seek outside validation from anyone inlcuding myself. And it's one of the most powerful things to exist. Happiness comes from within, not from without. If you are not capable of looking in the mirror and appreciate yourself because i.e. you are lonely, your friends are in relationships, you always compare youself with how others are doing, then the problem lies within you. Study your laws of the universe and/or open your heart for Jesus Christ.
Gotta remember that those who finish first aren’t always happy with what they get. Those that finish last get the most refined product assuming they were working on themselves during that time.
15 seconds in and I at least partially disagree. Being a "nice guy" doesn't necessarily come from "seeking validation from women." Sometimes it comes from being surrounded by horrible people and not wanting to be anything like them. Not that it matters, the end result is the same; nice guys get used and discarded by women.
That’s unhealthy regardless, you’re trying to be “nice” and a people pleaser because you got treated badly :( sucks whoever has to experience that but turning into a nice guy because of it also leads you towards a bad path. There’s a booth you can read called, “No More Mr Nice Guy.”
Nothing wrong with being nice. Just don't become a doormat for people to step on. People pleasing never works, I am a nice person on the whole but I am firm but fair.
@@BritishRail60062 the term "nice guy" is a term used for a guys who's basically a doormat who's a people pleaser, especially for women so he can get laid. If you're firm but fair, you're not a "nice guy."
I think you guys are confusing kind and nice. Kindness is acting out of goodness. Niceness is acting out of want or need with a motive of "seeming like a good person".
Nice guys finish last, but they still finish. Meaning they will end up with someone who loves them for who they are. Just takes longer to find. Hence, "finish last." People make it seem like being nice eliminates you from getting women. This is not true. It simply pushes away the women that aint worth shit. And never will be to you.
Well said, I know for myself I am not a needy guy but at the same time I don't ask women out on an account I feel my financial situation is not relationship approval, if I had the success I desired I would have no trouble asking women out, but at the end of the day many would say that don't matter as some other groups of people would say it does matter.
Women do like nice guys. But those who treat them according to how she treats him. The nice guy women like is a good man who has boundaries, treats his women well and is authentic to people around him. Treating her well if she earned it is completely different than being like a beggar for validation. A good man will shoot his shot, but also be fine with rejection.
Niceness is often a mask that weakness wears and declares itself a virtue. And declaring weakness as a virtue is a worship of nihilism. "If I'm nice, then I deserve love" - "I was so nice, and it didn't pay me back". This sentiment will make you resentful and bitter. If you're someone who identifies as a nice guy - consider that being nice isn't the same as being well rounded. An imbalance of niceness is an obvious compensation for a hideous resentiment - and women can tell. Just as people are creeped out be people that smile too much - because they know it's fake! Be well rounded. Be whole. Have a personality that is complete and complex. Be an individual. Have will. Women like guys filled with desire who know what they want. And it's good to know what you want. It's good to get what you want. It's bad to EXPECT it to be given to you if you're "nice" and "kind".
Being well rounded? In this fallen world? Being well rounded in the spirit is one thing but asking an individual to read the room and use discernment when catering or negotiating intentions will always feel like a transaction. And before you know it, you're navigating through a maze of confusion thinking you're walking a narrow path. Yeah, you get more bang for you buck. But if I just met you and I'm being nice. It means that's all I have to offer YOU. Being nice and patient will reveal people's intentions right away. Sometimes it's just the devil trying to give you what you want so he can pervert it later. That's not just the "shadow". It's all smoke and mirrors. Don't get caught in the smoke. Cheers 🥂 🚬🧐🥃
Yes, i agree with that. I think that the people/person responsible for 'conditioning' you into being a 'nice guy' expect others to to 'recognize your niceness and somehow value it because you do'. Even when you're nice to people because you genuinely feel it benefits them, you just can't help feeling angry with others when your 'effort' isn't rewarded. I'm the fourth of five brothers; all 'nice guys' and complete failures with women. My late mother just couldn't understand why women weren't attracted to us !
@@adrianparker-e9f Absolutely. When someone subconsciously views niceness as a currency, then they will inevitably feel robbed when they feel they didn't get what they paid for. They will justify their anger as just, for thievery is unjust. And then they will leave it there in its warped view, for any self-reflection on this may lead them to discover that niceness as a currency is an inherit contradiction. Niceness viewed as a currency isn't true niceness at all. Improving yourself authentically and becoming more attractive to women is not simply putting on a mask and an act - and that can be a tough pill to swallow. Many don't want to admit that's what they're doing, because that's easy, and genuine improvement is difficult. I genuinely hope you make it, brother.
I am a 49 year old man . I seek validation from no one . I am nice ...but if boundaries are croseed man or women I can throw a switch ,brcome very nasty . I have bern through storms in life that have tested me mentally ,physically . As a older man you have to take your emotions out of it , think out a logical plan to navigate through it .A younger guy might watch your video ,think he is seeking validation by being nice . You don't have this one right !!
The nice guys she's talking about are needy and people pleasers, they automatically agree with any opinion a woman has to try to curry her favor. They think you can "nice guy" your way into a woman's pants. You can't. And if you did they would just be sleeping with you to get more money and favors out of you.
Today I have completed 90 days of celibacy and I feel a lot of energy. Every morning I get a lot of energy and I use it in my work. I always get success and recognition. Now I always get respect and fame.
In 2001 i remember talking to a woman at the bus stop, she was about 60 and i asked her if she was married and how she met her husband. ( i had just started getting into talking to strangers and also wanted to find out different views of life etc.) She said she had met her husband at church, but unexpectedly, even she said that i might be better off not marrying and just staying single. I think that also my parents didn't like the way modern society was, and that modern lifestyles of people wasn't up to their standards, so i felt they 'cut themselves off' from it. But we live in the times that we live in, and we have to live with it, whether we like things about it or not.
I am a kind man with boundaries. I enforce those boundaries rigorously via communication and cutting people off. You wouldn't know how many women immediately tried to use me to their advantage once I did something kind for them. Men on the other hand usually do not do this. They are grateful for being helped out. I had to cut out so many women in my life because of this behavior, even after telling them that I specifically dislike this from them. Needless to say that I have many more guy than girl friends. That being said I do not resent women. I just think of them as less self-aware in those aspects. I won't let people ruin me being a good person because being a good person is the objectively right thing to do. It takes strength to resist being jaded and hating people.
Guys like I said before stay cold 🥶 doesn't matter if your nice guy or not at the end of the day it's not worth it. they are a waste of time taking everything from you.. No matter what you do for them or say it's never enough We are cooked 🍲 so focus of you!
respect for the exception. There was a situation where practical skills were really needed: everyone went bankrupt....like a lost dog, they came for help, women and men...ridiculous...usually so far there is only great self-confidence...
Don't let yourself be gaslit by the psychopaths and narcissists out there Maya. Actually being nice > being a selfish asshole. A lot of assholes hate on actually nice people because they can't be them or don't want to be. Fake nice guys are just assholes in disguise. Real nice guys are where it's at. And I agree you should still be assertive and state your genuine thoughts and opinions.
Dont get discouraged Maya numbers are going to fluctuate meaning views what's good about your videos is that your information is solid but people either don't understand what your message is or they're put off by how intense you are imagine if you were male saying these things you wouldn't even have a channel I say this not as an insult but to show that people today are too sensitive when receiving the truth i remember a while back i asked what happened to the old maya and you said content changes i think in the beginning you wanted to get everyone to like you so you were more friendly more bubbly but as time went on how you really talk how you really are concerning these subjects had to take the driver's seat to sum it up you knew how intense your personality is and how people view you so you watered it down for a while I've tried this but it doesn't work in the long run to be honest i like both sides but i will say this its refreshing to hear someone talk the way you do because if your personality is as you display then you're a solutions type of person not somebody that sits and complains not saying that doesn't happen you're human but overall well here's an example say you and you planned a trip and everything went wrong instead of complaining about everything and throwing your hands in the air you'd make the best of it and try to get things back on track but there's a downside to this type of personality people get turned off at the lack of feelings that they think should be displayed instead of being grateful of the way you are meaning you don't breakdown over every small thing oh and because you're female this does conflict with your born nature which is to be more emotional than logical so you're in a state of constant emotional ups and downs which is understandable but anyways don't give up and you have a good night
If myself and my four brothers had the same number of children at the same ages as our mother and father, our parents would now have 25 grand children and 75 great grand children. They have 1 (one !)
Take a girl with low self esteem, be a “nice guy”, good man, treat her well, and it won’t compute in her brain. It will be out of alignment with what she thinks she deserves. She’ll ditch you and go find a “bad boy”. Then the treatment she gets will align with how she expects to be treated. The “bad boy” mystic and key to “success” is solved.
Yes, i think i could agree with that. In no way would i say my dad was neglectful though. He was a great father, kind and responsible. He was a 'rough/tough type of man, born 1929, left school at 14, worked in construction, had a loud voice, swore, strong, bold, did boxing, was in the army, looked like a tough guy but yet his five sons didn't acquire these 'traditional masculine' type traits. We are all of the 'weedy, glasses wearing, book reading, timid, quiet, meek, well mannered, caring type etc. and all rejected by women. I understand that my dad's mother died when he was young, so maybe he wanted my mother to be there for us more ? Also, my mother was a child during the war, here in England, and i think disliked such traits as fighting/arguing/aggression/etc.and other things often associated with men, and maybe wanted to help create a peaceful world ? ( of course, it's always possible that she wanted daughters instead ?! or maybe it was because her two siblings were sisters, so was influenced by being in a 'female' household ?
I'm a nice guy because I am a good man, and who I am is projected as kindness, politeness, and decency. As a result, I am not successful with women. And at this point, I don't care. If a woman, any woman, can't appreciate me for who I am, it's their loss. Maybe you should be teaching women to appreciate good men who are nice.
Imagine... imagine the horror...! Imagine that when a person questions whether his or or her words and actions are beneficial or detrimental to those that he or she cares about! Imagine that the person you love most isn`t a self absorbed worshipper of the creation of God, rather than someone who worships the creator, God!
And now let’s talk about that it’s completely irrelevant what a woman wants. She wants the independent men today, and the nice guy the next day. Best advice for men is to ignore what she wants because, she doesn’t know what she wants. It’s interesting that women have long lists what they want to see in a men. But this list is pure projection. It’s all what they want to achieve themselves but they never know which way they want to go. I always thought it’s BS but it’s true, women and decisions aka. logic is not going to go together. They only listen to their emotions and emotions can fluctuate rapidly. Furthermore is interesting that the majority of women never call for their own responsibility in a relationship, the problems a never caused by their own, often miserable, behavior. If you meet a lucky woman keep her. All the claims we hear, what women want in men, is a deep unfulfilled black hole in themself. Dear women: Living outside in never worked. Did I ever heard a woman asking, how does my BF feel with me… nope its most of the time a pure “you need to make me feel wanted and good” game. And that’s the death recipe for every relationship. The problem is in most cases not the guy, its the unfulfilled life of the girl friend. Thats why woman have long lists which only a phantasy guy can fulfill. Women suffer from not being realistic… thats also the reason why most guys are just doing nearly everything better….The girls failed in their psychological development and now they try to put this fail on men’s again. Find a good therapist and learn to be happy on your own. As a man I am responsible for my own happiness, so does is a woman.🎉
Control even in good way will lead to accusation of control freak and eventually breakup and law supports these behaviour in woman. All these bs about being good by making her feel safe would never happen in society where women want to be equal and laws are too nice to women
I think we should add that those advice are for ATTRACTIVE women. Of course some women prefer nice guys. But most of those ladies do so because they do not belief in their desirability for successful men.
Honestly It's sometimes hard to watch you and focus because I get distracted by your eyes. There's something about them I like. I hope my woman has amazing eyes like you.😊
This game is like the game Getting Over It. Or Trap Adventure. A long string of failures and learning the patterns of the numerous insane trolling traps that is at every step of your life. Those games are actually fun though. Failure can be fun. So can life :P
There’s a difference between the “nice” guy and a man who’s a good man. The nice guy usually is usually only nice to women because he’s trying to get in her underpants. Good masculine men show respect but also have boundaries. Nice guys get walked on, which is why they end up in the friendzone :(
@@28yearsoldd being nice doesn't mean your weak it means your mature. If your nice your stronger, what makes you stronger is turning off your niceness when u need to...u can be nice all u want but at some point u can't be nice anymore, You can Be Nice, doesn't mean you have to Stay Nice. That's What I Mean
the best way to know if she is in to you disagree with her playfully but not really disagreeing if they show no interest in the play you have your answer
@@askohirvonen5066 when she asks me to do anything just say no in a sarcastic way and have her convince me otherwise it is basically another way of knowing if she thinks your funny or not which is the same thing and should be taken equally as serious when received in a ignoring or fed up way however I wouldn't include fed up as a thing to look out for because it isn't necessarily a red flag
You should consider doing a livestream on your channel to get a better understanding on your male subscribers point of view regarding their personal relationship experiences.
“Being nice” means you’re being fake or inauthentic. Women also project fake niceness and fake sweetness, it’s a truth and it’s behaviour I don’t trust.
As I said, Maya, women prefer Sturmbahnfuhrer Amon Goeth over St Joseph the Carpenter It is primeval. Having said that I am writing to Elon Musk if he recruits astronauts for the first mission to Mars. One way. I just want to see the starry sky. Maya, all the best.
I was thinking about this video which is general of course but it made me think as someone said that found me intimidating. Some other maybe a nice guy so I guess it depends on the type of woman and her levels..
Thanks Maya. I'm a nice guy but not a pushover. People that don't like it can pound sand lol. I find the older I get the more I could care less what people think. I think that's why older guys do so well with the women. Keep up the good work!
Being a nice guy is just a fake facade. Learn how to be assertive, you are otherwise losing yourself & so much in life. Do not care what other people think of you if you are not a politician or do not want to become one. 111:0! 01/11/2024. 19:25. 728.
I looked it up but couldn't get a straight answer here's my question is there a limit to a donation to your PayPal account because it's connected to RUclips or can anyone donate whatever amount they want?
@@MagicmayaaOk if things work out for me meaning my plans I'll keep that in mind and if I'm able to throw a little cheddar your way look at it as an apology nothing more
Someone like me, to stop by an see my friend, seeing my woman friend homeless so I bring food buy food. A woman stuck in poverty that I help w, hugging a stranger that u jus had a emotional convo an now she's In my arms thanking that I came into her life at that time. For even just a couple mins or an hour So thats bs u can be a completely nice guy an stepping put of your way to comfort a man or woman stuck in poverty is bad ? No. Be a nice guy, not the soft agreeable nice guy...but be kind, respectful, understanding an gentle an its okay to comfort a woman an nice to men or women when they need it. There is nothing wrong stepping out of your way to help a stranger, aquanteince, friend or family member who's a woman at a specific time. Jts okay to be nice, just don't be a b*tch
There's something missing from what you're trying to say and not sure what it is. Nice/Caring/Genuine/Humble.. Its not clear how to separate those from each other still. Nice to me means empathy towards a woman's feelings/wants/needs/desires, etc. My mom always taught me to be nice, cause looking back she didn't like how my dad was borderline abusive towards her that ended in divorce and didn't want me to grow up that way. But as never married, i don't have a lot of credibility on the matter.
Yeah I've never been called a "nice guy" before and have no issues giving my opinions on women's behaviors has that made me more attractive no not even slightly women in my experience don't appreciate candid opinions take you for example you blocked me because of my opinions and so has everyone else it takes a special kind of woman to like and accept strong opinions from a man so far i haven't found one and may never I'm not gonna change the way i speak but it does get exhausting always running into the same walls over and over again you wouldn't believe how many different types of women hate being given a strong opinion especially if the opinion is accurate which mine usually are i believe the unicorn does exist but I don't think I'll find her before my time is up and no i don't have a standard on looks for women only thing that's a must is physical fitness otherwise I'm extremely flexible in what physical features i find attractive been like that since i was a kid because i didn't like how limited i was in my choices of what i found physically attractive so i broadened my views anyways yeah not giving up tho
I had alot of things to say but I'm no longer interested in playing this game. I feel like this is some Bladerunner sh*t. Algorithms have determined men and women engage in these conversations from time to time. And due to isolation periods in biological cultivation, these doses of "courtful" engagement is supplemental and complimentary in a civil society. I'll pass on the kool aid... I don't want anything. I don't want anyone. Its not for me. 💀🖤🥀
The unfortunate happens here. In the video but mostly in the comments. How the word ‘nice’ is mis-portrayed. Nice Guy is a term given by.. i assume the earlier-days datingguru’s. To exaggerate the dependance on others’ approval. It is not meant to use litterally, it doesn’t mean being kind or nice is a “weakness”. It’s about the belief of the person, like this: “I am nice why don’t they like me?” Chances are you act nice towards certain people because you wish a certain response from them You believe yourself to be nice or kind, to be a Nice Guy. But in total honesty to yourself; are you nice or are you trading in gestures? Giving something (without someone asking for it) and expecting something in return. That’s the behavior which is talked about and given the term ‘nice guy’. Don’t take the words litterally but it’s understandable, it’s confusing. Maybe we’d be better off if we start using the term ‘expectation guy’ or ‘dependance guy’.
Comments suggest lots of concepts maybe got mixed here. And you taking some flack you don't really deserve. I am a nice guy, I am nice when it's the right thing to do, not by expecting anything in return. I think that's the takeaway you were aiming to getting across.
Here's something interesting i came across a small content creator on YT she has written 4 books is a mathmatition and has a very good education because of this I asked her has she ever heard of moon pizza see this is a story i created she said no but was interested in hearing it so i told my story guess what her response was dead silent now I figured she may have not liked my story so she could have been trying to protect my feelings so i told her to be honest on her opinion because she's a writer and I'm not still no response so i called her out on it and explained her behavior was rude for no reason she responded and claimed she never saw my story now by this time I looked up how long she's been on YT and saw she was lying but i couldn't figure out why i left things alone after she blocked me twice she didn't like my assumptions after a little while guess what she posted one of her own stories and then i knew the reason her story was very well written and easy to imagine however it lacked heart it lacked flavor see she was jealous of my story she definitely liked it but because she didn't like that it was better than hers she treated me as if i was beneath her all she had to do was ask how i came up with my story and i would have gladly told her and offered any tips i could think of but instead everything went downhill fast and nothing was resolved and she learned nothing see she has the technical skill all she needed was a little creativity that's it but because of her ego she got nothing but a headache from me
I think it's insane how society has collectively decided that being nice or kind is a sign of weakness or that it projects a sense of neediness. So strange. I'm nice because I have geniune compassion for people, and not because I seek people's validation.
exactly! it's because we live in a narcissistic/psychopathic society and they see kindness/friendliness as weakness because in their childhoods they were abused whenever they weren't completely unhinged or detached.
Big difference being "nice" (fake, calculated, feminine) and "good" (authentic, genuine, masculine).
Society values is backwards in my opinion here. There are genuine people around but not many. Just try and find your tribe buddy.
Absolutely right
It’s all B.S. She wouldn’t be saying that to a HOT nice guy who is good looking. At the end of the day, looks matter. You can’t fake attraction.
*It’s crucial for nice guys to recognize that authentic confidence and self-respect are much more appealing than simply trying to please others.*
Maya, Im nice because Im well raised. I do not seek anyone's approval...
I have a saying 'don't take my kindness for weakness.'
I love myself. I have God and my family. Do I need to prove myself to anyone? Nope. They can take me as I am or hit the wall. The last 150 rejections over my life cycle is more than enough to drive the message home that romance is NOT for me!
At the root of the fear of rejection is the fear of pain and suffering.
That's right.
check king von-how it go
Go talk to 50 women per day.
Give me your feedback.
@@VladislavBabbitt I got an overwhelming earful of idiocy, self-centred vanity and an education in feminist propaganda, what did you get?
@@virtualworlds8081 Actually I wanted to say 50 people per week, which includes attractive women.
With the latter, I mostly got neutral or pleasant exchanges that ended up not going anywhere. I still have to develop "escalation skills".
I don't know anybody who doesn't want validation from some other person.
You become and you attract what your thoughts are. i know plenty of people who don't seek outside validation from anyone inlcuding myself. And it's one of the most powerful things to exist. Happiness comes from within, not from without. If you are not capable of looking in the mirror and appreciate yourself because i.e. you are lonely, your friends are in relationships, you always compare youself with how others are doing, then the problem lies within you. Study your laws of the universe and/or open your heart for Jesus Christ.
Gotta remember that those who finish first aren’t always happy with what they get. Those that finish last get the most refined product assuming they were working on themselves during that time.
1:04 "we all like excitement in relationships". No. Only women like excitement. Men like consistency
Legal system is too nice to women
Ok, but why do men like nice girls?
15 seconds in and I at least partially disagree. Being a "nice guy" doesn't necessarily come from "seeking validation from women." Sometimes it comes from being surrounded by horrible people and not wanting to be anything like them. Not that it matters, the end result is the same; nice guys get used and discarded by women.
That's why relationships are broken easily. You can't be nice anymore. Be an asshole instead. Though you still have broken relationships there.
That’s unhealthy regardless, you’re trying to be “nice” and a people pleaser because you got treated badly :( sucks whoever has to experience that but turning into a nice guy because of it also leads you towards a bad path. There’s a booth you can read called, “No More Mr Nice Guy.”
Nothing wrong with being nice. Just don't become a doormat for people to step on. People pleasing never works, I am a nice person on the whole but I am firm but fair.
@@BritishRail60062 the term "nice guy" is a term used for a guys who's basically a doormat who's a people pleaser, especially for women so he can get laid. If you're firm but fair, you're not a "nice guy."
I think you guys are confusing kind and nice. Kindness is acting out of goodness. Niceness is acting out of want or need with a motive of "seeming like a good person".
Nice guys finish last, but they still finish. Meaning they will end up with someone who loves them for who they are. Just takes longer to find. Hence, "finish last."
People make it seem like being nice eliminates you from getting women. This is not true. It simply pushes away the women that aint worth shit. And never will be to you.
It might attract women who would use you too...
@@riseup902 this is true. Women are unpredictable. That still doesn't mean you have to change who you are for them.
Well said, I know for myself I am not a needy guy but at the same time I don't ask women out on an account I feel my financial situation is not relationship approval, if I had the success I desired I would have no trouble asking women out, but at the end of the day many would say that don't matter as some other groups of people would say it does matter.
Women do like nice guys. But those who treat them according to how she treats him. The nice guy women like is a good man who has boundaries, treats his women well and is authentic to people around him. Treating her well if she earned it is completely different than being like a beggar for validation. A good man will shoot his shot, but also be fine with rejection.
Niceness is often a mask that weakness wears and declares itself a virtue. And declaring weakness as a virtue is a worship of nihilism. "If I'm nice, then I deserve love" - "I was so nice, and it didn't pay me back". This sentiment will make you resentful and bitter. If you're someone who identifies as a nice guy - consider that being nice isn't the same as being well rounded. An imbalance of niceness is an obvious compensation for a hideous resentiment - and women can tell. Just as people are creeped out be people that smile too much - because they know it's fake!
Be well rounded. Be whole. Have a personality that is complete and complex. Be an individual. Have will. Women like guys filled with desire who know what they want. And it's good to know what you want. It's good to get what you want. It's bad to EXPECT it to be given to you if you're "nice" and "kind".
Being well rounded? In this fallen world? Being well rounded in the spirit is one thing but asking an individual to read the room and use discernment when catering or negotiating intentions will always feel like a transaction. And before you know it, you're navigating through a maze of confusion thinking you're walking a narrow path. Yeah, you get more bang for you buck. But if I just met you and I'm being nice. It means that's all I have to offer YOU. Being nice and patient will reveal people's intentions right away. Sometimes it's just the devil trying to give you what you want so he can pervert it later. That's not just the "shadow". It's all smoke and mirrors. Don't get caught in the smoke. Cheers 🥂 🚬🧐🥃
Yes, i agree with that. I think that the people/person responsible for 'conditioning' you into being a 'nice guy' expect others to to 'recognize your niceness and somehow value it because you do'. Even when you're nice to people because you genuinely feel it benefits them, you just can't help feeling angry with others when your 'effort' isn't rewarded. I'm the fourth of five brothers; all 'nice guys' and complete failures with women. My late mother just couldn't understand why women weren't attracted to us !
@@adrianparker-e9f Absolutely. When someone subconsciously views niceness as a currency, then they will inevitably feel robbed when they feel they didn't get what they paid for. They will justify their anger as just, for thievery is unjust. And then they will leave it there in its warped view, for any self-reflection on this may lead them to discover that niceness as a currency is an inherit contradiction. Niceness viewed as a currency isn't true niceness at all.
Improving yourself authentically and becoming more attractive to women is not simply putting on a mask and an act - and that can be a tough pill to swallow. Many don't want to admit that's what they're doing, because that's easy, and genuine improvement is difficult. I genuinely hope you make it, brother.
That’s why I’m staying celibate for the rest of my life, so it doesn’t matter to me anymore.
I haven't been on a date in over 18 months, and probably never will again.
That was some real honest shit. Great stuff.
I used to be a nice guy. Now I'm just I don't care kind of guy. Did it improve my dating chances? Nope, don't care.
I am a 49 year old man . I seek validation from no one . I am nice ...but if boundaries are croseed man or women I can throw a switch ,brcome very nasty . I have bern through storms in life that have tested me mentally ,physically . As a older man you have to take your emotions out of it , think out a logical plan to navigate through it .A younger guy might watch your video ,think he is seeking validation by being nice . You don't have this one right !!
The nice guys she's talking about are needy and people pleasers, they automatically agree with any opinion a woman has to try to curry her favor. They think you can "nice guy" your way into a woman's pants. You can't. And if you did they would just be sleeping with you to get more money and favors out of you.
Impossible to change form nice to bad birds of the same feather flock together deep yet absolute
Today I have completed 90 days of celibacy and I feel a lot of energy. Every morning I get a lot of energy and I use it in my work. I always get success and recognition. Now I always get respect and fame.
I know this damages my chances with ladies, but... I do agree with her.
You can take a seduction course/workshop.
Powerful message! Keep preaching Maya 💎💯
Nowadays, as a man it is better to be single, saves time, money nervs.....,
In 2001 i remember talking to a woman at the bus stop, she was about 60 and i asked her if she was married and how she met her husband. ( i had just started getting into talking to strangers and also wanted to find out different views of life etc.) She said she had met her husband at church, but unexpectedly, even she said that i might be better off not marrying and just staying single. I think that also my parents didn't like the way modern society was, and that modern lifestyles of people wasn't up to their standards, so i felt they 'cut themselves off' from it. But we live in the times that we live in, and we have to live with it, whether we like things about it or not.
I am a kind man with boundaries. I enforce those boundaries rigorously via communication and cutting people off. You wouldn't know how many women immediately tried to use me to their advantage once I did something kind for them. Men on the other hand usually do not do this. They are grateful for being helped out. I had to cut out so many women in my life because of this behavior, even after telling them that I specifically dislike this from them. Needless to say that I have many more guy than girl friends. That being said I do not resent women. I just think of them as less self-aware in those aspects. I won't let people ruin me being a good person because being a good person is the objectively right thing to do. It takes strength to resist being jaded and hating people.
Today I celebrate 120 days of SR and I feel incredible!
Guys like I said before stay cold 🥶 doesn't matter if your nice guy or not at the end of the day it's not worth it. they are a waste of time taking everything from you.. No matter what you do for them or say it's never enough We are cooked 🍲 so focus of you!
Cope
Well written and I would direct any detractors to the final conclusion "focus of you"r paper. Wow, since when have comments had spellcheck?
Final conclusion goes without saying, but the rest… well-written cope is still cope.
@@chrislayne3598 Nope not cope, the dude basically said, don`t end up in jail, taking rail.
That's good, genuine people deserve a better life than to end up with crap women.
respect for the exception. There was a situation where practical skills were really needed: everyone went bankrupt....like a lost dog, they came for help, women and men...ridiculous...usually so far there is only great self-confidence...
Don't let yourself be gaslit by the psychopaths and narcissists out there Maya. Actually being nice > being a selfish asshole. A lot of assholes hate on actually nice people because they can't be them or don't want to be. Fake nice guys are just assholes in disguise. Real nice guys are where it's at. And I agree you should still be assertive and state your genuine thoughts and opinions.
Now, that's how you do makeup. I still say you are more beautiful without it, but it's all good. We love you. Thanks for this video.
Being kind has to do with doing what is right. Being nice has to do with looking good before men (people).
I hope more guys will understand what you're saying❤
Dont get discouraged Maya numbers are going to fluctuate meaning views what's good about your videos is that your information is solid but people either don't understand what your message is or they're put off by how intense you are imagine if you were male saying these things you wouldn't even have a channel I say this not as an insult but to show that people today are too sensitive when receiving the truth i remember a while back i asked what happened to the old maya and you said content changes i think in the beginning you wanted to get everyone to like you so you were more friendly more bubbly but as time went on how you really talk how you really are concerning these subjects had to take the driver's seat to sum it up you knew how intense your personality is and how people view you so you watered it down for a while I've tried this but it doesn't work in the long run to be honest i like both sides but i will say this its refreshing to hear someone talk the way you do because if your personality is as you display then you're a solutions type of person not somebody that sits and complains not saying that doesn't happen you're human but overall well here's an example say you and you planned a trip and everything went wrong instead of complaining about everything and throwing your hands in the air you'd make the best of it and try to get things back on track but there's a downside to this type of personality people get turned off at the lack of feelings that they think should be displayed instead of being grateful of the way you are meaning you don't breakdown over every small thing oh and because you're female this does conflict with your born nature which is to be more emotional than logical so you're in a state of constant emotional ups and downs which is understandable but anyways don't give up and you have a good night
If myself and my four brothers had the same number of children at the same ages as our mother and father, our parents would now have 25 grand children and 75 great grand children. They have 1 (one !)
Spot on.
thanks for giving us that female perspective maya
I had the most loving mother, so it doesnt apply for me. What is the fathers role in such a man trying to be nice?
Don't bring your needy needs to the thing that's needed. Also don't be nice 🤔
Take a girl with low self esteem, be a “nice guy”, good man, treat her well, and it won’t compute in her brain. It will be out of alignment with what she thinks she deserves. She’ll ditch you and go find a “bad boy”. Then the treatment she gets will align with how she expects to be treated. The “bad boy” mystic and key to “success” is solved.
And modern women are constantly told they are worthless because they didn't buy this product or that product.
@@mickcrovo5238 Is it true that modern women are actually worthless?
Nice guy syndrome usually happens when there's neglect from the father, and the kid favors, mimics the mother's behaviors
Yes, i think i could agree with that. In no way would i say my dad was neglectful though. He was a great father, kind and responsible. He was a 'rough/tough type of man, born 1929, left school at 14, worked in construction, had a loud voice, swore, strong, bold, did boxing, was in the army, looked like a tough guy but yet his five sons didn't acquire these 'traditional masculine' type traits. We are all of the 'weedy, glasses wearing, book reading, timid, quiet, meek, well mannered, caring type etc. and all rejected by women. I understand that my dad's mother died when he was young, so maybe he wanted my mother to be there for us more ? Also, my mother was a child during the war, here in England, and i think disliked such traits as fighting/arguing/aggression/etc.and other things often associated with men, and maybe wanted to help create a peaceful world ? ( of course, it's always possible that she wanted daughters instead ?! or maybe it was because her two siblings were sisters, so was influenced by being in a 'female' household ?
I think she’s essentially saying: work on your mommy issues
Love your blue eyes, sweetie!
good video yet again, thank you love ❤️
Before watching the video I give a self answer to the video then I compare I was really close..almost word for word . I take this as a good sign😅
I don't chase women no more it's not worth it no more I focus on my on my job and myself and working on my job that comes first. 💯
I'm a nice guy because I am a good man, and who I am is projected as kindness, politeness, and decency. As a result, I am not successful with women. And at this point, I don't care. If a woman, any woman, can't appreciate me for who I am, it's their loss. Maybe you should be teaching women to appreciate good men who are nice.
Woman will give u the silent treatment when u disagree, woman will disrespect u when u agreeable
Let them!
this silence means something...
Babe wake up new maya just dropped ‼️🗣️
wa do u thin' bout ice cube?
Imagine... imagine the horror...! Imagine that when a person questions whether his or or her words and actions are beneficial or detrimental to those that he or she cares about! Imagine that the person you love most isn`t a self absorbed worshipper of the creation of God, rather than someone who worships the creator, God!
And now let’s talk about that it’s completely irrelevant what a woman wants. She wants the independent men today, and the nice guy the next day. Best advice for men is to ignore what she wants because, she doesn’t know what she wants. It’s interesting that women have long lists what they want to see in a men. But this list is pure projection. It’s all what they want to achieve themselves but they never know which way they want to go. I always thought it’s BS but it’s true, women and decisions aka. logic is not going to go together. They only listen to their emotions and emotions can fluctuate rapidly. Furthermore is interesting that the majority of women never call for their own responsibility in a relationship, the problems a never caused by their own, often miserable, behavior. If you meet a lucky woman keep her. All the claims we hear, what women want in men, is a deep unfulfilled black hole in themself. Dear women: Living outside in never worked. Did I ever heard a woman asking, how does my BF feel with me… nope its most of the time a pure “you need to make me feel wanted and good” game. And that’s the death recipe for every relationship. The problem is in most cases not the guy, its the unfulfilled life of the girl friend. Thats why woman have long lists which only a phantasy guy can fulfill. Women suffer from not being realistic… thats also the reason why most guys are just doing nearly everything better….The girls failed in their psychological development and now they try to put this fail on men’s again.
Find a good therapist and learn to be happy on your own. As a man I am responsible for my own happiness, so does is a woman.🎉
Most girls want 'nice' guys.
She wants a top tier man who knows he is top tier and does not need to be nice.
Her advice only makes sense if you are top tier Mr 1%
Control even in good way will lead to accusation of control freak and eventually breakup and law supports these behaviour in woman.
All these bs about being good by making her feel safe would never happen in society where women want to be equal and laws are too nice to women
I think we should add that those advice are for ATTRACTIVE women. Of course some women prefer nice guys. But most of those ladies do so because they do not belief in their desirability for successful men.
Thank you!
Honestly It's sometimes hard to watch you and focus because I get distracted by your eyes. There's something about them I like. I hope my woman has amazing eyes like you.😊
This game is like the game Getting Over It. Or Trap Adventure. A long string of failures and learning the patterns of the numerous insane trolling traps that is at every step of your life. Those games are actually fun though. Failure can be fun. So can life :P
Being nice is wrong?
yeah, I treat every woman with respect and got nothing. Being nice = being weak = weak is feminine. I dont know what to do.
There’s a difference between the “nice” guy and a man who’s a good man. The nice guy usually is usually only nice to women because he’s trying to get in her underpants. Good masculine men show respect but also have boundaries. Nice guys get walked on, which is why they end up in the friendzone :(
@@28yearsoldd just start being rough
@@28yearsoldd being nice doesn't mean your weak it means your mature. If your nice your stronger, what makes you stronger is turning off your niceness when u need to...u can be nice all u want but at some point u can't be nice anymore, You can Be Nice, doesn't mean you have to Stay Nice. That's What I Mean
being nice is not wrong at all.
the best way to know if she is in to you disagree with her playfully but not really disagreeing if they show no interest in the play you have your answer
how would you do that?
@@askohirvonen5066 when she asks me to do anything just say no in a sarcastic way and have her convince me otherwise it is basically another way of knowing if she thinks your funny or not which is the same thing and should be taken equally as serious when received in a ignoring or fed up way however I wouldn't include fed up as a thing to look out for because it isn't necessarily a red flag
@@Klowcn fookin confusing, mate :)
I am very nice even when they tell 10000x they dont need help
Oh smack. You found out about Opus Umbra. Its where the fire is 🔥
You should consider doing a livestream on your channel to get a better understanding on your male subscribers point of view regarding their personal relationship experiences.
“Being nice” means you’re being fake or inauthentic. Women also project fake niceness and fake sweetness, it’s a truth and it’s behaviour I don’t trust.
Cant lose if you dont play lol
As I said, Maya, women prefer Sturmbahnfuhrer Amon Goeth over St Joseph the Carpenter It is primeval. Having said that I am writing to Elon Musk if he recruits astronauts for the first mission to Mars. One way. I just want to see the starry sky. Maya, all the best.
Women want Dark Triad alpha.
I was thinking about this video which is general of course but it made me think as someone said that found me intimidating. Some other maybe a nice guy so I guess it depends on the type of woman and her levels..
The bright light hurts my eyes.
Thanks Maya. I'm a nice guy but not a pushover. People that don't like it can pound sand lol. I find the older I get the more I could care less what people think. I think that's why older guys do so well with the women. Keep up the good work!
Hi, from Brasil!
Being a nice guy is just a fake facade. Learn how to be assertive, you are otherwise losing yourself & so much in life. Do not care what other people think of you if you are not a politician or do not want to become one. 111:0! 01/11/2024. 19:25. 728.
I looked it up but couldn't get a straight answer here's my question is there a limit to a donation to your PayPal account because it's connected to RUclips or can anyone donate whatever amount they want?
My PayPal donations are open to what the individual would like to donate.
@@MagicmayaaOk if things work out for me meaning my plans I'll keep that in mind and if I'm able to throw a little cheddar your way look at it as an apology nothing more
Actually men finish first, because we skip women's BS.
Someone like me, to stop by an see my friend, seeing my woman friend homeless so I bring food buy food. A woman stuck in poverty that I help w, hugging a stranger that u jus had a emotional convo an now she's In my arms thanking that I came into her life at that time. For even just a couple mins or an hour So thats bs u can be a completely nice guy an stepping put of your way to comfort a man or woman stuck in poverty is bad ? No. Be a nice guy, not the soft agreeable nice guy...but be kind, respectful, understanding an gentle an its okay to comfort a woman an nice to men or women when they need it.
There is nothing wrong stepping out of your way to help a stranger, aquanteince, friend or family member who's a woman at a specific time. Jts okay to be nice, just don't be a b*tch
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There's something missing from what you're trying to say and not sure what it is. Nice/Caring/Genuine/Humble.. Its not clear how to separate those from each other still. Nice to me means empathy towards a woman's feelings/wants/needs/desires, etc. My mom always taught me to be nice, cause looking back she didn't like how my dad was borderline abusive towards her that ended in divorce and didn't want me to grow up that way. But as never married, i don't have a lot of credibility on the matter.
Yeah I've never been called a "nice guy" before and have no issues giving my opinions on women's behaviors has that made me more attractive no not even slightly women in my experience don't appreciate candid opinions take you for example you blocked me because of my opinions and so has everyone else it takes a special kind of woman to like and accept strong opinions from a man so far i haven't found one and may never I'm not gonna change the way i speak but it does get exhausting always running into the same walls over and over again you wouldn't believe how many different types of women hate being given a strong opinion especially if the opinion is accurate which mine usually are i believe the unicorn does exist but I don't think I'll find her before my time is up and no i don't have a standard on looks for women only thing that's a must is physical fitness otherwise I'm extremely flexible in what physical features i find attractive been like that since i was a kid because i didn't like how limited i was in my choices of what i found physically attractive so i broadened my views anyways yeah not giving up tho
I had alot of things to say but I'm no longer interested in playing this game. I feel like this is some Bladerunner sh*t.
Algorithms have determined men and women engage in these conversations from time to time. And due to isolation periods in biological cultivation, these doses of "courtful" engagement is supplemental and complimentary in a civil society.
I'll pass on the kool aid...
I don't want anything.
I don't want anyone.
Its not for me. 💀🖤🥀
Maya, sent you an email for coaching but haven't had an answer. Let me know if you've received it
Nothing is wrong with being "nice".....🙄
“Nice” guys, usually get walked on because they have not set any boundaries. You should read “No More Mr Nice Guy.”
@@467076 I think that it's because a lot of nice guys think that they're not being nice if they set boundaries !
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The unfortunate happens here. In the video but mostly in the comments.
How the word ‘nice’ is mis-portrayed.
Nice Guy is a term given by.. i assume the earlier-days datingguru’s. To exaggerate the dependance on others’ approval.
It is not meant to use litterally, it doesn’t mean being kind or nice is a “weakness”. It’s about the belief of the person, like this:
“I am nice why don’t they like me?”
Chances are you act nice towards certain people because you wish a certain response from them
You believe yourself to be nice or kind, to be a Nice Guy.
But in total honesty to yourself; are you nice or are you trading in gestures?
Giving something (without someone asking for it) and expecting something in return.
That’s the behavior which is talked about and given the term ‘nice guy’.
Don’t take the words litterally but it’s understandable, it’s confusing.
Maybe we’d be better off if we start using the term ‘expectation guy’ or ‘dependance guy’.
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Somewhat don’t agree with you, I am a nice person and have no problem dating.
Im 30 year old nice guy and I'm still a virgin.
Bro, I'm 37 & is still a single virgin....🤦🏼♂️
same
i knewsomeone who was a bad boy and he was virgin till 30yo, then change character to nice guy and started getting girls
@@excusemedarlin8175 Is there some sort of portal to this alternate reality you're living in?
I'm 40 years and still a virgin.
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I appreciate you but its not necessarily something a man does but subconscious programming from growing up.
A lot of men are not trying to be nice guys
Comments suggest lots of concepts maybe got mixed here. And you taking some flack you don't really deserve. I am a nice guy, I am nice when it's the right thing to do, not by expecting anything in return. I think that's the takeaway you were aiming to getting across.
Thank you 🙏
@Magicmayaa you're welcome
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i don't like-Chief keef
Here's something interesting i came across a small content creator on YT she has written 4 books is a mathmatition and has a very good education because of this I asked her has she ever heard of moon pizza see this is a story i created she said no but was interested in hearing it so i told my story guess what her response was dead silent now I figured she may have not liked my story so she could have been trying to protect my feelings so i told her to be honest on her opinion because she's a writer and I'm not still no response so i called her out on it and explained her behavior was rude for no reason she responded and claimed she never saw my story now by this time I looked up how long she's been on YT and saw she was lying but i couldn't figure out why i left things alone after she blocked me twice she didn't like my assumptions after a little while guess what she posted one of her own stories and then i knew the reason her story was very well written and easy to imagine however it lacked heart it lacked flavor see she was jealous of my story she definitely liked it but because she didn't like that it was better than hers she treated me as if i was beneath her all she had to do was ask how i came up with my story and i would have gladly told her and offered any tips i could think of but instead everything went downhill fast and nothing was resolved and she learned nothing see she has the technical skill all she needed was a little creativity that's it but because of her ego she got nothing but a headache from me