Best advice I was given at 18 was.....Do not get married. Watched the majority of my friends get divorce raped. Peace, quiet, and freedom for this forever bachelor. 😊
I'm with ya! I've watched friends get crushed financially/emotionally from divorce court. I'd rather just be a bachelor these days. Dating is a bit of a circus compared to what it used to be like.
Getting married was the single handed worst thing I’ve ever done, lessened learned but I’ll never fully recover financially. There’s not a young man that crosses my path that I don’t spread awareness of the dangers and how one decision bad can turn your life upside down.
I see you are a Texas fan, they played great yesterday! Finally got to see Archie get in a game. I look forward to seeing him develop as a QB over the next few years.
As a 56 year old female I can say our sexual drive goes down too. I love being alone! I work around people all day, so on my time off, I love it being me and my two pups. The thought of meeting a stranger on an app and then having to meet up and strike up conversation isn’t appealing to me at all. I know people who always have to be with another person to be ok…don’t get it. Being single is perfect!
I had to tame that beast when my husband got cancer at 62 and it didn’t work anymore. He passed away. With relationships I’m done, except for hanging out with kids, grandkids. I love my own company.
This is so absolutely relatable. Im the same way, nomadic since 2003, bounced around, rvlife, vanlife, trucker. Now im getting into overlanding. We dont have kids, Brian. We got furkids. Im 44 single and just like you, enjoy the simplicity of life. Enjoy your day, give Meadow a hug from us
Right on, cheers to living life on your terms! I'm really happy with the choices I've made, the freedom I experience compared to some of my friends is invaluable to me. I just bounce around the country in my 4x4 truck while home basing out of Northern AZ. Absolutely love the way life has played out. Enjoy the good life brother!
Thanks for making this video. I prefer to be single and i feel the same way about getting married. Lots of my friends are married and have slowly dissappeared from taking the adventures or being with my friends like we used to. If you do get married its smart and wise to get a prenup. I dont see myself ever getting married though or having kids. Im 30 and i dont feel that desire. Glad theres someone representing our side because it seems everyone is on that marriage/kids train haha
Yeah, I've kinda always been comfortable operating solo. I've dated off and on throughout my life but lately it just doesn't interest me. I'd rather spend my time out here in the backcountry running around.
@@OffGridBackcountryAdventures Sounds like you &I are of the same accord Brian.This world has gone nuts.I love being single as well, no arguing, if I want to pick up &go somewhere, I just go,without causing bad feelings. I am so incredibly thankful, that my children are grown and on their own.
It was bad during the Great Depression too. People from prior generations I would imagine thought “wow, this is the worst it’s ever been!” Just like we think now. Yet they still had kids bc it’s really a noble duty. Just sayin!
I totally agree about the apps. I know people that have gotten married after meeting online, but for me, I need that spark you feel when you meet someone in person and your energies mesh.
Foresty and Louie are friends. If they click and become a couple, great. If they simply stay friends, great. I'll continue watching both of them because they're genuinely great people, just like you. Thanks for another great discussion Brian. Sierra looks so content ❤
Yeah, I just started following Louie so I need to watch more of her videos. That's cool they are traveling together, who knows maybe it will develop into something more. Hope you had a nice Thanksgiving!
@@OffGridBackcountryAdventures they were traveling together for a couple weeks or so from what their latest videos showed. They said they hoped to meet up again down south...looks like a lot of us northern nomad types appreciate warm climates in winter 👋🇨🇦 happy Thanksgiving to you too 🦃
I'll be 44 in December, and the older I'm getting the more of what you said about kids and marriage makes sense to me. If I meet someone, I'm totally fine with NOT getting married. If it ain't broke, why fix it type deals. The date or good book toss up comment had me chuckling, cuz I get it lol. Totally resonated with me
I agree with you, i live a similar life off grid Solo. being alone allowed me to learn things about myself, i used to be a social drinker pot smoker, now that I'm almost 60 I don't spend as much time with fake friends and more time alone and actually enjoy it.
I'm divorced with five kids, was married 16 years. I will never marry again. Marriage is domestication. No thank you, I'd rather be free. You are right about everything you said in this video. Although I am very happy I have my kids, I love them. But single for life now, love the freedom!
You have a great outlook on life. Like you, I decided not to get married and have kids when I was in my mid twenties because of what my friends were going through. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy kids but I knew it wasn’t in my heart to have them. And like you I had high standards if I was going to date/marry. At 38 I married my wife and we enjoyed the advice you gave in this video. I never thought I would find a financially stable person who felt the same way I do. And like you said, you find yourself becoming more and more attracted to someone that you may have overlooked at first.
Yeah, I've experienced that as well. I actually had a girl ask me "what's wrong with you, why aren't you married?" Such a narrow minded comment/question.
Omg! I get the same thing!! I am 48 and I work at a hospital in Northern Colorado and everybody (especially old people)wants to hook me up or know why I’m single and do I want to grow old alone. I’ve been there done that and I think ur right about hormones. I’m really content where I am in life and I have no desire to date. I do have a 9 yr old (& I’m scared to death that she’s in public schools in liberal Colorado) and her dad and I do 50/50 and we were never married. Fyi…I pay him child support bcuz I make more so maybe courts are different now. But like I said, I’ve got all I want in life and more and I don’t need help from anybody. I’m excited to live in a beautiful place to explore. I move here from Nebraska a few yrs ago. And here’s what I tell people that can’t believe I’m perfectly content being alone, I actually have the perfect man, a 5 yr old Chocolate lab!! He’s the best boy ever!! ❤
Hey Celi! Yeah, I totally agree with you. Being content in life is such a great spot to be in. Sure, I'd love to have an awesome gal by my side but I never sit around thinking about it or feel as though I'm missing out. I chose to spend my time focusing on how to make my life/situation better and love all the satisfaction gained from these efforts. I think the dating landscape has changed so much over the past 10 years that I'm literally a fish out of water when it comes to online apps. Never once have I met a gal from an online site/app...however in person I'm golden. And dogs are the PERFECT companions for literally everyone. I think if everyone in the world owned a dog then this planet would be a much kinder place.
The subject of having kids, when I was in my 20s I wanted to get married and start a family like a lot of people, now that I'm 58 I'm glad I never did neither one, poor kids have to grow up in this world and struggle through this life, get old and die. I think this world has enough people on it. In my life I've seen the population double from what it was 60s and 70s, it's getting too crowded here in So California. I worked for a guy in 86 as a painter. He said to me one day 'Steve don't ever get married or have kids, I must have taken his advice.😊
Well I recently took the plunge after 13 years being single. That being said, I’ve known her for 20 years and that helps. If I had to do the actual dating thing again I’d stay single. Also I’ve been divorce raped three times. The state just needs to stay out of it completely
As a mom who has a 21yr old and a 19yr old I would LOVE this😅 lifestyle over the way my kids were raised. Stationary but devices mandatory for school and at school. I didn't know what RUclips was until my kid was in like grade 2 and like "today we watched RUclips videos at school". School supplies are like "an iPad you can't afford". I agree though with the being "alone" thing. I think it's sad how few ppl are able to be alone. We saw this in 2020 with ppl panicking after a week of lockdown and I was like "yes books!" It's a bit weird BC I'm on disability for PTSD. Ive never been in a long term real life relationship since and it's been nearly 20 years BC of the trauma I endured. I'll admit, I find you attractive but it's BC you're a MAN. Real men (no offense to any on here) are hard to find. Most are stuck to gaming systems and/or have no clue how to work some basic tools. Your "manliness" (made myself laugh 😂) is BC your not afraid of hard work, the everyday mundane and seeing the beauty in it all. I was a teen Mom in an incredibly religious and abusive relationship, so perhaps that's why I don't think it would be as difficult to raise a child the way you live. That said, my grandpa had a grade 3 education and was one of the smartest people I ever knew. He did all the math, run his own business, and was covered in grease and dirt that's probably still part of him. We put too much into the ratings of things and the busyness of life instead of into the quality time that love gives. When I was pregnant with my first, a week after I found out 9/11 happened. I considered aborting. Now that I look back though, my grandma was born in war times and they immigrated when he was 3. There have been depressions and recessions in pretty much every era. If we waited on world peace to procreate, the human race would've been gone a very long time ago. I'm not saying you're wrong for having your feelings. I'm going enough I could still have a few babies and yet I don't think I want to (if it happened I would keep it) simply BC I am almost 40. I don't want to be 60 when my kid is becoming a legal adult. I don't want to be 70 or 80 when they decide to get married or have their own child. My brother is a few years younger than me and he doesn't want to marry or have kids and while it makes me sad that there are no nieces or nephews for me his views are similar to yours, the cost and the state of the world etc. To me the saddest part of it all is that when I was a child the "it takes a village" mentality was alive and well and now ppl live in their own bubbles, with fences, and never even learning their neighbors names never mind being a part of the "village" in raising each other up. I feel like the lifestyle you're living has that mentality more than anyone else. Stay true to yourself and if/when the universe decides you need a partner you'll find the perfect one, by accident! I'm happily single and the dating field is sparse, so I just always have a solid companion in my dog lol 🤣
When I was 18 all the older men (30-40s) at my work kept telling me I needed to marry my girlfriend quick. My old boss man (55) pulled me to the side and said the reason they keep giving you hell is because why should you be happy and free when they can’t
I'm a 60 y/o female still single and I agree with you. I do have a full time job but I'm trying to get into van life because rent is not worth it anymore. I too would like to have a small homestead and , I wholeheartedly agree with you. Thank you for the great content.
I have heard it asked, "Why get married and destroy a perfectly good relationship?" Though I am NOW happily married, it hasn't been happy though out our 43 year long marriage. We have discovered that my times away for camping are a good vacation for both of us. She prefers to stay home and read books, and I prefer to meditate on my navel in some part of back woods/desert of Oregon, preferably at a hot spring. It works for us......
Just because you live with her it doesn't mean , you won't get punished by judicial divorce system. Most states have a common law marriage law, that works just as if you were married ! Tread with care !
I am 70 years old and never been married never had the desire to be married or to be in any relationship. I have no regrets I can live my life the way I want.
Hi Brian and Sierra!! It is awesome to see you two kicking back in the tent again (I also really love how you've got your main camp developed!). This is an awesome video! Ha...not what I usually come to your channel, or anybody else's, for that matter, but it is a great topic! Kids- I wasn't set on having them. Once I did it, I'd never want it any other way. And...I am lucky as I have 2 great kids that are in their mid 20s now.....and neither of them are living in the basement hehehehe. Dating/marriage- Yes...I do like having a mate. And, my wife and I have been married for 34 years. I kind of only do what you do for basically a couple of days per month; and I am solo with my dog during those times typically. If I became single, I'd probably wrap up my work career and head out such as you do more permanently. You are not kidding! It is really daunting to think of having kids these days. There are so many things that put this world on a ledge. I am pretty well traveled around the world due to my time in the military. I've learned that people from the different areas really mostly want the same things-- love, roof, food, security, good life, healthy kids, etc. It is only when our governments get involved, as well as some learned prejudices, that things really get off script and degrade. Ha...I was laying in my sniper position in Iraq, in a city. We had been watching a couple of merchants for activity. I remember, vividly, a couple pulled up to one of the stores. The store was open front, so they could both get out of the car and talk to the merchant; and they had 2 kids that stayed in the back seat of the car which were in clear view of the parents. The brother and sister were probably like 5 years old. And they were doing almost exactly what 2 kids in america would do; they were fighting over the other being on their side of the seat. Anyways...yes, I wish the world would simmer down and we all could pursue life as we chose. Safe travels!
brian you have your kiddie already, ms sierra. believe me, its not all what you think. Ive been married , seperated for 13 years, now widow. and we think exactly the same. i was just saying this to my mom, i rather just be with a good dude, no marriage, just commitment part, WITHOUT the contract, to just date, candle light, the old school thing ect ect. ( ive always been called the young lady with an old soul lol).
Hey Yvette! I'm a bit behind on responding to comments but wanted to be sure to get back to you. I didn't realize you are widowed...I'm so sorry! You're always so positive on here and I am thankful for that. It's been rough over the past year with Sierra's cancer and recent passing but I always smile when I see your kind words. We definitely think alike...my friends think I'm an old soul too. They always make fun of me for going to bed at 9pm at nomad meetups. I tell them I'm practicing my geriatric sleep habits to make sure I'm ready for my Golden Years :) Haha, hope your new Year is off to a great start!
Our life cycle starts at dependence, then moves to independence which is where many people stop, and then opens into interdependence if we choose to elevate.
Your thinking about kids being intense, is totally right. I get it. And your lifestyle is so nice...its cool that you have learned to operate solo. I am envious. I love my daughters, and would never change a thing. They are incredible young women I am so, so proud of. I'm glad I raised them before the world went so bad. But I gotta say, from a long term battered woman with children's perspective, the courts are just plain f'd up. For us and other wives who are DV survivors, courts are totally slated in the batterer's favor. They take kids from the protective mom and give them to the batterer husband who has money for the attorney, and isnt damaged from the man's abuse. Then they dont have to pay to support the kids they made. Its still a man's world for sure.💜 Thanks for making videos and sharing your time with Sierra. Love to escape to your world. ☮️
Don't ever feel bad about not having kids. I've felt more pain by trying to maintain a relationship with them then I ever imagined. I would have never gotten married or had kids hindsight 20/20
Single after two very unfaithful husbands/divorces, I've found that it's better not to have who you want than to not want who you have. At my age I really really do enjoy my own company . I find peace and tranquility in singleness.. If I ever do meet a nice guy its got to be organically. No tinder or on line meet ups for this gal. Peace out~~♡ 🌵
As a guy that has been thru a divorce, you are correct, it's skewed to benefit women. Women are the default better parent in the courts eyes are the better parent. My ex could have run me thru the wringer but she was cool about it. I wish my child was born in a different and better family. I came last in the family.
You don’t need a woman. You can feed yourself and Sierra. It is a choice you have, but children can be a joy. Women are a different thing altogether specially at the present time. Brian you aren’t 50 yet I was thinking about 63.
YUP, THIS WORLD ISNT FOR CHILDREN. THOSE DAYS ARE GONE. I BEEN SINGLE SINCE 1999, NEVER AGAIN. I OWN MY LAND AND DEBT FREE, NO DRAMA, PEACEFUL FREEDOM AND STATE OF MIND. EVEN THOUGH I MISS THE CLOSENESS AND AFFECTION. SOULMATES ARE 1 IN A MILLION.
Yeah, I think I was on the tail end of that as most of my friends followed the same path. I always felt like the odd man out in that regard. I have lots of married friends who love their lives and I'm really glad they've found someone special. I think my special gal is still out there somewhere so hopefully our paths will cross one day. I doubt getting married at this age is in the cards but never say never.
But there’s No guarantee that your kids will turn out to be the adults you raised them to be. I know 1st hand I had 3 boys but raised 10 boys yet none keep in touch bc they moved away have kids (My Grandkids & Great Grandkids) wives (or ex wives) that have come between Family so ya never know what’s going to happen or why.
Wow!!! Excellent content! The content here very much resonates 100% with me. I did not "grow up, I was raised". I love women, ...not all since I am picky. I am 65 years old, don't look or feel 65. I have dated the "old fashioned way" and without the "help" of the Internet. Never married because I always had found women, those I had picked, problematic. I attracted the ones who needed "fixing" unfortunately. Luckily, never married. As you stated, a lady partner would be great to enhance Ones life, but the wrong one could destroy it. Meanwhile, it is good to have been single all my life. I do get lonely, but my hobbies and friends take up the slack and I especially find it important to "pay it forward" most all the time. I have everything a woman could ever want, I have freedom to travel and do whatever I want as I am responsible. I do long for "community" a source of family like the RTR though. Video content = A+
Hey there, Brian. Marriage is not for everyone. My brother is almost 65 and has never been married. Marriage has been good for me. I've been married for almost 45 years. I can't imagine not being hitched. Not to the same woman, but 7 years to the first and 38 years to this one. All that I can say is that my present wife is tougher than number one. I'm thankful that I've got such a good woman. Take care, my friend. Vaughn
If I had my time again I would choose single. I have a lovely wife and get on great but I am selfish and would have done a whole lot of other things that you don't when there's someone else to consider - love your show
I seem to be the minority here, i absolutely love being married! It's never been easy but having someone to share in all the ups & downs of life is amazing. I'm a lot more outdoorsy than him (hey that why i subscribe!) But we compliment each other well. I hope you eventually get to find a partner to share in all your passions together!
Divorce in general is all around a terrible experience, for everyone. (And maybe for some freeing) When my girlfriends had gone through it, I never new how long, difficult and expensive as hell it is just to divorce someone. In other places in the world, you gotta be separated for a year or years for an official divorce. I also think people do civil unions/domestic partnership these days, per my observations. I still hold some things traditional and would like to get married one day. But I also love my singleness , and I sense more people are healing themselves (if I make any sense) however- I'm in no rush. As for me, the millennial , I just want my husband to be amazon primed delivered anyway lol
The odd thing is I used to be such a "people person" but slowly I shifted to spending time solo. I love going on solo adventures with my furry family member and spending time alone. I look at it as a superpower because most people I know can't sit still for hours and just "be". Being comfortable with yourself is important and I'm very thankful for all the lessons this lifestyle has taught me. Have a great Tuesday! ~ Brian & Meadow
Things sure have changed in the last decade in regards to dating. The internet has made it a weird endeavor in trying to meet someone. I much prefer the days prior to the internet where meeting a partner was organic.
You are undeniably correct! The Billionaires want it this way!!! Since they want for less people world wide, they want for world control. The middle class is being erroded bc the USA has become a service oriented industry. @@OffGridBackcountryAdventures
The constant political circus really gets to me too. It's like they love creating and maintaining enemies instead of creating an atmosphere of peace and understanding.
Being single is great. I haven’t dated in the last four years and I’ve never been happier. I’ve done all my crazy sex stuff in my younger years, it would just be nice to have someone to do things with such as camping and nature stuff and maybe someone just to snuggle with. I enjoy my independence very much. I do what I want, when I want. I have a son who is 29 years old in the love of my life. I’m blessed to have had him. But now it’s time for me. By the way I’m just under 5’2 😉 lol cheers Brian. Good for you my friend.
Glad to hear life is treating you well, Jaqueline! Hope you are having a good weekend, we've been relaxing here. A bit chilly outside so I'm enjoying downtime next to the stove while Sierra naps. :)
When I got divorced a long time ago, I got $96 child support for 2 kids because my husband couldn’t afford more since he had a new truck to pay for. I have always been the main support for my family so I had to buy my house that I paid down payment on and all the payments on back at the divorce. I’m female and decided it’s just easier to be single. No drama. No cheating. If I’m broke now, it’s because I spent all my money on things I want not someone else spending it.
When I was younger I wanted to get married and have kids. I'm 45 and completely happy that I didn't get married and have kids. My little brother has 5 kids and no free time. I date and when it doesn't work out I was happy before her and will be happy when she's gone. No alimony or child support unlike my friends
Hey Jeremy, I completely agree. I truly love my single life, I date when I want and choose to be free of any responsibilities. I love being an uncle to my nephews and nieces. They are awesome. However, it's not my cup of tea to be a Father other than the furry family members in my life. I truly applaud those who are raising America's future and wish them good fortune. Very happy with the freedom in my life, it sounds like we are cut from the same cloth. Wishing you all the best ~ Brian
I've always wanted to live in a camper but my X was totally against the idea. But obviously I experienced a nasty divorce and yes she took half of everything and got custody of my kids. I have four years left until my youngest turns eighteen and the court ordered parenting time ends. And then nothing is going to stop me from moving into a camper. Of course I'll be down sizing with my worldly possessions. And then start off with blm camping.
@@tracybrown9634my particular question was asked bc you said that she took "your" kids as though she didn't have any claims whatsoever to them. So glad to know that their mom got custody and not just a woman that you were married to...
Nothing wrong with being childless by choice or circumstance. I find people with kids try to push their lifestyle on me but I'm not interested in having kids. Then they look at me like there's something wrong with me or maybe misery loves company for them 😅 Anyway, live your life for yourself and not for others, which is what you're doing.
Hello, I don't have a consistent posting schedule but generally do a couple of livestreams per week as well as 2-4 videos. Hope you are having a great start to the week ~ Brian
wasting your life for others...I remember that, there was no life boats for men on the Titanic. Neither does court systems have any life boats for men, when the discontented wife decides to make the move with everything you've have including the rest of your life...well, you will not have a life... You can either understand a woman or you can love a woman. But once you understand a woman, you'll know there is nothing there to love..rock on
Best advice I was given at 18 was.....Do not get married. Watched the majority of my friends get divorce raped. Peace, quiet, and freedom for this forever bachelor. 😊
I'm with ya! I've watched friends get crushed financially/emotionally from divorce court. I'd rather just be a bachelor these days. Dating is a bit of a circus compared to what it used to be like.
Me too!
Getting married was the single handed worst thing I’ve ever done, lessened learned but I’ll never fully recover financially. There’s not a young man that crosses my path that I don’t spread awareness of the dangers and how one decision bad can turn your life upside down.
I was married twice. Now I'm single . I wouldn't have it any other way. My freedom is priceless.
This needs to be a public service announcement. I was a military wife for years. I got used to being alone. I enjoy my own company.
I see you are a Texas fan, they played great yesterday! Finally got to see Archie get in a game. I look forward to seeing him develop as a QB over the next few years.
Sierra is the only fur baby you need 💜
I agree!
The social skills learned in public school aren't all they're cracked up to be
As a 56 year old female I can say our sexual drive goes down too. I love being alone! I work around people all day, so on my time off, I love it being me and my two pups. The thought of meeting a stranger on an app and then having to meet up and strike up conversation isn’t appealing to me at all. I know people who always have to be with another person to be ok…don’t get it. Being single is perfect!
I had to tame that beast when my husband got cancer at 62 and it didn’t work anymore. He passed away. With relationships I’m done, except for hanging out with kids, grandkids. I love my own company.
This is so absolutely relatable. Im the same way, nomadic since 2003, bounced around, rvlife, vanlife, trucker. Now im getting into overlanding. We dont have kids, Brian. We got furkids.
Im 44 single and just like you, enjoy the simplicity of life.
Enjoy your day, give Meadow a hug from us
Right on, cheers to living life on your terms! I'm really happy with the choices I've made, the freedom I experience compared to some of my friends is invaluable to me. I just bounce around the country in my 4x4 truck while home basing out of Northern AZ. Absolutely love the way life has played out. Enjoy the good life brother!
Thanks for making this video. I prefer to be single and i feel the same way about getting married. Lots of my friends are married and have slowly dissappeared from taking the adventures or being with my friends like we used to. If you do get married its smart and wise to get a prenup. I dont see myself ever getting married though or having kids. Im 30 and i dont feel that desire. Glad theres someone representing our side because it seems everyone is on that marriage/kids train haha
Yeah, I've kinda always been comfortable operating solo. I've dated off and on throughout my life but lately it just doesn't interest me. I'd rather spend my time out here in the backcountry running around.
As goofy as this world has become ,and all the crime against children now,I wouldn't want to bring children into this mess of a world
I feel the same way. I think it would be extremely difficult to raise children these days.
@@OffGridBackcountryAdventures Sounds like you &I are of the same accord Brian.This world has gone nuts.I love being single as well, no arguing, if I want to pick up &go somewhere, I just go,without causing bad feelings. I am so incredibly thankful, that my children are grown and on their own.
Anyone from any generation could say this.
@@K....D.... that's exactly what I am referring to
It was bad during the Great Depression too. People from prior generations I would imagine thought “wow, this is the worst it’s ever been!” Just like we think now. Yet they still had kids bc it’s really a noble duty. Just sayin!
I totally agree about the apps. I know people that have gotten married after meeting online, but for me, I need that spark you feel when you meet someone in person and your energies mesh.
Foresty and Louie are friends. If they click and become a couple, great. If they simply stay friends, great. I'll continue watching both of them because they're genuinely great people, just like you. Thanks for another great discussion Brian. Sierra looks so content ❤
Yeah, I just started following Louie so I need to watch more of her videos. That's cool they are traveling together, who knows maybe it will develop into something more. Hope you had a nice Thanksgiving!
@@OffGridBackcountryAdventures they were traveling together for a couple weeks or so from what their latest videos showed. They said they hoped to meet up again down south...looks like a lot of us northern nomad types appreciate warm climates in winter 👋🇨🇦 happy Thanksgiving to you too 🦃
Said more truth than anyone. I lived the stuff you said. Happy without the drama, great message.
I'll be 44 in December, and the older I'm getting the more of what you said about kids and marriage makes sense to me. If I meet someone, I'm totally fine with NOT getting married. If it ain't broke, why fix it type deals. The date or good book toss up comment had me chuckling, cuz I get it lol. Totally resonated with me
I was 32 when I met my lovely wife Neither of us wanted kids and had 23 beautiful years together. I miss her immensely.
I agree with you, i live a similar life off grid Solo. being alone allowed me to learn things about myself, i used to be a social drinker pot smoker, now that I'm almost 60 I don't spend as much time with fake friends and more time alone and actually enjoy it.
Your best friend should be your own self
Real talk. Always enjoy your videos man. Vicariously living through you
I'm divorced with five kids, was married 16 years. I will never marry again. Marriage is domestication. No thank you, I'd rather be free. You are right about everything you said in this video. Although I am very happy I have my kids, I love them. But single for life now, love the freedom!
You have a great outlook on life. Like you, I decided not to get married and have kids when I was in my mid twenties because of what my friends were going through. Don’t get me wrong, I enjoy kids but I knew it wasn’t in my heart to have them. And like you I had high standards if I was going to date/marry. At 38 I married my wife and we enjoyed the advice you gave in this video. I never thought I would find a financially stable person who felt the same way I do. And like you said, you find yourself becoming more and more attracted to someone that you may have overlooked at first.
I don't have a problem with being single either, it seems like it bothers other people more than me
Sierra just resting and relaxing and being pretty
Yeah, I've experienced that as well. I actually had a girl ask me "what's wrong with you, why aren't you married?" Such a narrow minded comment/question.
Omg! I get the same thing!! I am 48 and I work at a hospital in Northern Colorado and everybody (especially old people)wants to hook me up or know why I’m single and do I want to grow old alone. I’ve been there done that and I think ur right about hormones. I’m really content where I am in life and I have no desire to date. I do have a 9 yr old (& I’m scared to death that she’s in public schools in liberal Colorado) and her dad and I do 50/50 and we were never married. Fyi…I pay him child support bcuz I make more so maybe courts are different now. But like I said, I’ve got all I want in life and more and I don’t need help from anybody. I’m excited to live in a beautiful place to explore. I move here from Nebraska a few yrs ago. And here’s what I tell people that can’t believe I’m perfectly content being alone, I actually have the perfect man, a 5 yr old Chocolate lab!! He’s the best boy ever!! ❤
Hey Celi! Yeah, I totally agree with you. Being content in life is such a great spot to be in. Sure, I'd love to have an awesome gal by my side but I never sit around thinking about it or feel as though I'm missing out. I chose to spend my time focusing on how to make my life/situation better and love all the satisfaction gained from these efforts. I think the dating landscape has changed so much over the past 10 years that I'm literally a fish out of water when it comes to online apps. Never once have I met a gal from an online site/app...however in person I'm golden. And dogs are the PERFECT companions for literally everyone. I think if everyone in the world owned a dog then this planet would be a much kinder place.
I feel the same as you. I’ve always had and loved animals.
The subject of having kids, when I was in my 20s I wanted to get married and start a family like a lot of people, now that I'm 58 I'm glad I never did neither one, poor kids have to grow up in this world and struggle through this life, get old and die. I think this world has enough people on it. In my life I've seen the population double from what it was 60s and 70s, it's getting too crowded here in So California. I worked for a guy in 86 as a painter. He said to me one day 'Steve don't ever get married or have kids, I must have taken his advice.😊
Well I recently took the plunge after 13 years being single. That being said, I’ve known her for 20 years and that helps. If I had to do the actual dating thing again I’d stay single. Also I’ve been divorce raped three times. The state just needs to stay out of it completely
You two look happy together!
As a mom who has a 21yr old and a 19yr old I would LOVE this😅 lifestyle over the way my kids were raised. Stationary but devices mandatory for school and at school. I didn't know what RUclips was until my kid was in like grade 2 and like "today we watched RUclips videos at school". School supplies are like "an iPad you can't afford". I agree though with the being "alone" thing. I think it's sad how few ppl are able to be alone. We saw this in 2020 with ppl panicking after a week of lockdown and I was like "yes books!" It's a bit weird BC I'm on disability for PTSD. Ive never been in a long term real life relationship since and it's been nearly 20 years BC of the trauma I endured. I'll admit, I find you attractive but it's BC you're a MAN. Real men (no offense to any on here) are hard to find. Most are stuck to gaming systems and/or have no clue how to work some basic tools. Your "manliness" (made myself laugh 😂) is BC your not afraid of hard work, the everyday mundane and seeing the beauty in it all. I was a teen Mom in an incredibly religious and abusive relationship, so perhaps that's why I don't think it would be as difficult to raise a child the way you live. That said, my grandpa had a grade 3 education and was one of the smartest people I ever knew. He did all the math, run his own business, and was covered in grease and dirt that's probably still part of him. We put too much into the ratings of things and the busyness of life instead of into the quality time that love gives.
When I was pregnant with my first, a week after I found out 9/11 happened. I considered aborting. Now that I look back though, my grandma was born in war times and they immigrated when he was 3. There have been depressions and recessions in pretty much every era. If we waited on world peace to procreate, the human race would've been gone a very long time ago. I'm not saying you're wrong for having your feelings. I'm going enough I could still have a few babies and yet I don't think I want to (if it happened I would keep it) simply BC I am almost 40. I don't want to be 60 when my kid is becoming a legal adult. I don't want to be 70 or 80 when they decide to get married or have their own child. My brother is a few years younger than me and he doesn't want to marry or have kids and while it makes me sad that there are no nieces or nephews for me his views are similar to yours, the cost and the state of the world etc.
To me the saddest part of it all is that when I was a child the "it takes a village" mentality was alive and well and now ppl live in their own bubbles, with fences, and never even learning their neighbors names never mind being a part of the "village" in raising each other up. I feel like the lifestyle you're living has that mentality more than anyone else.
Stay true to yourself and if/when the universe decides you need a partner you'll find the perfect one, by accident! I'm happily single and the dating field is sparse, so I just always have a solid companion in my dog lol 🤣
As always, very thoughtful. Enjoy the coming season!
Super happy for you message today. Rings sooo true. And I’m 51
When I was 18 all the older men (30-40s) at my work kept telling me I needed to marry my girlfriend quick. My old boss man (55) pulled me to the side and said the reason they keep giving you hell is because why should you be happy and free when they can’t
I'm a 60 y/o female still single and I agree with you. I do have a full time job but I'm trying to get into van life because rent is not worth it anymore. I too would like to have a small homestead and , I wholeheartedly agree with you.
Thank you for the great content.
Good thinking Brian
I have heard it asked, "Why get married and destroy a perfectly good relationship?" Though I am NOW happily married, it hasn't been happy though out our 43 year long marriage. We have discovered that my times away for camping are a good vacation for both of us. She prefers to stay home and read books, and I prefer to meditate on my navel in some part of back woods/desert of Oregon, preferably at a hot spring. It works for us......
Just because you live with her it doesn't mean , you won't get punished by judicial divorce system. Most states have a common law marriage law, that works just as if you were married ! Tread with care !
The last state to end common law marriage was PA in 2005.
I am 70 years old and never been married never had the desire to be married or to be in any relationship. I have no regrets I can live my life the way I want.
Hi Brian and Sierra!! It is awesome to see you two kicking back in the tent again (I also really love how you've got your main camp developed!).
This is an awesome video! Ha...not what I usually come to your channel, or anybody else's, for that matter, but it is a great topic!
Kids- I wasn't set on having them. Once I did it, I'd never want it any other way. And...I am lucky as I have 2 great kids that are in their mid 20s now.....and neither of them are living in the basement hehehehe.
Dating/marriage- Yes...I do like having a mate. And, my wife and I have been married for 34 years. I kind of only do what you do for basically a couple of days per month; and I am solo with my dog during those times typically. If I became single, I'd probably wrap up my work career and head out such as you do more permanently.
You are not kidding! It is really daunting to think of having kids these days. There are so many things that put this world on a ledge. I am pretty well traveled around the world due to my time in the military. I've learned that people from the different areas really mostly want the same things-- love, roof, food, security, good life, healthy kids, etc. It is only when our governments get involved, as well as some learned prejudices, that things really get off script and degrade. Ha...I was laying in my sniper position in Iraq, in a city. We had been watching a couple of merchants for activity. I remember, vividly, a couple pulled up to one of the stores. The store was open front, so they could both get out of the car and talk to the merchant; and they had 2 kids that stayed in the back seat of the car which were in clear view of the parents. The brother and sister were probably like 5 years old. And they were doing almost exactly what 2 kids in america would do; they were fighting over the other being on their side of the seat. Anyways...yes, I wish the world would simmer down and we all could pursue life as we chose.
Safe travels!
It's so wise that you listened to your heart ... ✌️ sipala
Absolutely crazy world we are living in. I enjoy my own company, as well, not alot of people understand it.
brian you have your kiddie already, ms sierra. believe me, its not all what you think. Ive been married , seperated for 13 years, now widow. and we think exactly the same. i was just saying this to my mom, i rather just be with a good dude, no marriage, just commitment part, WITHOUT the contract, to just date, candle light, the old school thing ect ect. ( ive always been called the young lady with an old soul lol).
Hey Yvette! I'm a bit behind on responding to comments but wanted to be sure to get back to you. I didn't realize you are widowed...I'm so sorry! You're always so positive on here and I am thankful for that. It's been rough over the past year with Sierra's cancer and recent passing but I always smile when I see your kind words. We definitely think alike...my friends think I'm an old soul too. They always make fun of me for going to bed at 9pm at nomad meetups. I tell them I'm practicing my geriatric sleep habits to make sure I'm ready for my Golden Years :) Haha, hope your new Year is off to a great start!
Well said, my thoughts exactly!
I needed to hear this. Sometimes my girlfriend and I feel guilty for not having kids but I'm 40 now and we love to travel.
Single living is great.
Very wise. Good to hear. I totally agree.
I am 64 and not married I love being single, so I understand were your comeing from.
Our life cycle starts at dependence, then moves to independence which is where many people stop, and then opens into interdependence if we choose to elevate.
Your thinking about kids being intense, is totally right. I get it. And your lifestyle is so nice...its cool that you have learned to operate solo. I am envious.
I love my daughters, and would never change a thing. They are incredible young women I am so, so proud of. I'm glad I raised them before the world went so bad.
But I gotta say, from a long term battered woman with children's perspective, the courts are just plain f'd up. For us and other wives who are DV survivors, courts are totally slated in the batterer's favor. They take kids from the protective mom and give them to the batterer husband who has money for the attorney, and isnt damaged from the man's abuse. Then they dont have to pay to support the kids they made. Its still a man's world for sure.💜
Thanks for making videos and sharing your time with Sierra. Love to escape to your world. ☮️
Don't ever feel bad about not having kids. I've felt more pain by trying to maintain a relationship with them then I ever imagined. I would have never gotten married or had kids hindsight 20/20
You are very wise Brian
Rose are red, love is fake, for us western men, weddings are basically a funeral with a cake 🎂
Single after two very unfaithful husbands/divorces, I've found that it's better not to have who you want than to not want who you have.
At my age I really really do enjoy my own company .
I find peace and tranquility in singleness..
If I ever do meet a nice guy its got to be organically.
No tinder or on line meet ups for this gal.
Peace out~~♡ 🌵
Glad you’re doing good man , looks like a sweet setup
As a guy that has been thru a divorce, you are correct, it's skewed to benefit women. Women are the default better parent in the courts eyes are the better parent. My ex could have run me thru the wringer but she was cool about it. I wish my child was born in a different and better family. I came last in the family.
You don’t need a woman. You can feed yourself and Sierra. It is a choice you have, but children can be a joy. Women are a different thing altogether specially at the present time. Brian you aren’t 50 yet I was thinking about 63.
YUP, THIS WORLD ISNT FOR CHILDREN. THOSE DAYS ARE GONE. I BEEN SINGLE SINCE 1999, NEVER AGAIN. I OWN MY LAND AND DEBT FREE, NO DRAMA, PEACEFUL FREEDOM AND STATE OF MIND. EVEN THOUGH I MISS THE CLOSENESS AND AFFECTION. SOULMATES ARE 1 IN A MILLION.
Hell yeah brother. You have it right! People don't understand why I don't want to get married but you just summed it all up!
Great wise commentary.
I grew up in a time when
I never even thought about staying single. You just went to college, got married, and had babies, it's just how things were.
Yeah, I think I was on the tail end of that as most of my friends followed the same path. I always felt like the odd man out in that regard. I have lots of married friends who love their lives and I'm really glad they've found someone special. I think my special gal is still out there somewhere so hopefully our paths will cross one day. I doubt getting married at this age is in the cards but never say never.
But there’s No guarantee that your kids will turn out to be the adults you raised them to be. I know 1st hand I had 3 boys but raised 10 boys yet none keep in touch bc they moved away have kids (My Grandkids & Great Grandkids) wives (or ex wives) that have come between Family so ya never know what’s going to happen or why.
Wow!!! Excellent content! The content here very much resonates 100% with me. I did not "grow up, I was raised". I love women, ...not all since I am picky. I am 65 years old, don't look or feel 65. I have dated the "old fashioned way" and without the "help" of the Internet. Never married because I always had found women, those I had picked, problematic. I attracted the ones who needed "fixing" unfortunately. Luckily, never married. As you stated, a lady partner would be great to enhance Ones life, but the wrong one could destroy it. Meanwhile, it is good to have been single all my life. I do get lonely, but my hobbies and friends take up the slack and I especially find it important to "pay it forward" most all the time. I have everything a woman could ever want, I have freedom to travel and do whatever I want as I am responsible. I do long for "community" a source of family like the RTR though. Video content = A+
Life is what you make it
Sierra looks relax
She's been napping quite a bit here in the hot tent. She just got up from her morning snooze. :)
Hey there, Brian. Marriage is not for everyone. My brother is almost 65 and has never been married. Marriage has been good for me. I've been married for almost 45 years. I can't imagine not being hitched. Not to the same woman, but 7 years to the first and 38 years to this one. All that I can say is that my present wife is tougher than number one. I'm thankful that I've got such a good woman. Take care, my friend. Vaughn
Hello Brian and Sierra 💕 I hope your are having a great time of your tent
Psssh... social skills are learned at home. I homeschooled my daughter as a single mom and she ended up with better manners than her peers!! 😂
You are a fresh viewpoint. So nice to see
If I had my time again I would choose single. I have a lovely wife and get on great but I am selfish and would have done a whole lot of other things that you don't when there's someone else to consider - love your show
I seem to be the minority here, i absolutely love being married! It's never been easy but having someone to share in all the ups & downs of life is amazing. I'm a lot more outdoorsy than him (hey that why i subscribe!) But we compliment each other well. I hope you eventually get to find a partner to share in all your passions together!
Amen Brian!!!!!
What part of Arizona do you live sir😊 I love the minivan life.. I live in Western Washington State I've always loved Arizona🎉🎉🎉
stay single my friends
Divorce in general is all around a terrible experience, for everyone. (And maybe for some freeing) When my girlfriends had gone through it, I never new how long, difficult and expensive as hell it is just to divorce someone. In other places in the world, you gotta be separated for a year or years for an official divorce. I also think people do civil unions/domestic partnership these days, per my observations. I still hold some things traditional and would like to get married one day. But I also love my singleness , and I sense more people are healing themselves (if I make any sense) however- I'm in no rush. As for me, the millennial , I just want my husband to be amazon primed delivered anyway lol
I know what you mean - I love love love being alone and I love my freedom.
The odd thing is I used to be such a "people person" but slowly I shifted to spending time solo. I love going on solo adventures with my furry family member and spending time alone. I look at it as a superpower because most people I know can't sit still for hours and just "be". Being comfortable with yourself is important and I'm very thankful for all the lessons this lifestyle has taught me. Have a great Tuesday! ~ Brian & Meadow
Super powers lol , to be alone “ flexing an arm mustle😅 So much in life to be grateful for although some do not recognize it.
Awesome ❤🎉😊
When it comes to dating, online or irl, I often feel like a complete failure even though the rest of my life is pretty much set.
Things sure have changed in the last decade in regards to dating. The internet has made it a weird endeavor in trying to meet someone. I much prefer the days prior to the internet where meeting a partner was organic.
You are undeniably correct! The Billionaires want it this way!!! Since they want for less people world wide, they want for world control. The middle class is being erroded bc the USA has become a service oriented industry. @@OffGridBackcountryAdventures
You're a very wise man.
The constant political circus really gets to me too. It's like they love creating and maintaining enemies instead of creating an atmosphere of peace and understanding.
Being single is great. I haven’t dated in the last four years and I’ve never been happier. I’ve done all my crazy sex stuff in my younger years, it would just be nice to have someone to do things with such as camping and nature stuff and maybe someone just to snuggle with. I enjoy my independence very much. I do what I want, when I want. I have a son who is 29 years old in the love of my life. I’m blessed to have had him. But now it’s time for me. By the way I’m just under 5’2 😉 lol cheers Brian. Good for you my friend.
Glad to hear life is treating you well, Jaqueline! Hope you are having a good weekend, we've been relaxing here. A bit chilly outside so I'm enjoying downtime next to the stove while Sierra naps. :)
Epic ended years ago. I like freedom and peace. 😊
When I got divorced a long time ago, I got $96 child support for 2 kids because my husband couldn’t afford more since he had a new truck to pay for. I have always been the main support for my family so I had to buy my house that I paid down payment on and all the payments on back at the divorce. I’m female and decided it’s just easier to be single. No drama. No cheating. If I’m broke now, it’s because I spent all my money on things I want not someone else spending it.
When I was younger I wanted to get married and have kids. I'm 45 and completely happy that I didn't get married and have kids. My little brother has 5 kids and no free time. I date and when it doesn't work out I was happy before her and will be happy when she's gone. No alimony or child support unlike my friends
Hey Jeremy, I completely agree. I truly love my single life, I date when I want and choose to be free of any responsibilities. I love being an uncle to my nephews and nieces. They are awesome. However, it's not my cup of tea to be a Father other than the furry family members in my life. I truly applaud those who are raising America's future and wish them good fortune. Very happy with the freedom in my life, it sounds like we are cut from the same cloth. Wishing you all the best ~ Brian
I've always wanted to live in a camper but my X was totally against the idea. But obviously I experienced a nasty divorce and yes she took half of everything and got custody of my kids.
I have four years left until my youngest turns eighteen and the court ordered parenting time ends. And then nothing is going to stop me from moving into a camper. Of course I'll be down sizing with my worldly possessions. And then start off with blm camping.
I wish you the best with your upcoming plans to live in a camper! I love living this way, my camper is awesome and I really dig living in it.
I wish you the best with your upcoming plans to live in a camper! I love living this way, my camper is awesome and I really dig living in it.
Tracy, you said she got custody of "your kids" is she their mom, by chance?...
@@lbrown6859 well duh. My X is the only woman that I had intercource with
@@tracybrown9634my particular question was asked bc you said that she took "your" kids as though she didn't have any claims whatsoever to them. So glad to know that their mom got custody and not just a woman that you were married to...
Hey buddy. Tell Sierra I said HEY ❤️👋🏼
Nothing wrong with being childless by choice or circumstance. I find people with kids try to push their lifestyle on me but I'm not interested in having kids. Then they look at me like there's something wrong with me or maybe misery loves company for them 😅 Anyway, live your life for yourself and not for others, which is what you're doing.
You sound like the male version of me. Totally agree. For me best companion to be the closest to is yourself, fur baby second.
I’m 58, couldn’t have kids and love dogs and cats… marry me 😂😂
Smart!! Especially the part about the short girls.😉
Ditto
No marriage brother. 😀✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼✌🏼
Wisdom
yes..too much...issues with modern women...holy hell.
There are still some good ones out there but I must say they are getting harder and harder to find.
Cool ✌.
Kids grew up better when away from the city. They learn more out in the country. Yeah courts are one sided.
Yup I'm still paying on my loan I had to get for my divorce she made out ok ill NEVER do it again
Dang man, I'm sorry to hear that
You can still bring girls to visit in your ranch , but no marriage or kids just have fun.😅😅😅
When's your next video?
Hello, I don't have a consistent posting schedule but generally do a couple of livestreams per week as well as 2-4 videos. Hope you are having a great start to the week ~ Brian
For a lot of people being coupled is not natural.
My thoughts about marriage and this is just my opinion! It is the last legal form of slavery! xoxo
You could adopt a young kid??
wasting your life for others...I remember that, there was no life boats for men on the Titanic. Neither does court systems have any life boats for men, when the discontented wife decides to make the move with everything you've have including the rest of your life...well, you will not have a life...
You can either understand a woman or you can love a woman. But once you understand a woman, you'll know there is nothing there to love..rock on
LOL, thanks
It better to have a dog as a companion thay don't give you a whole lot of S
Do not talk about kids
Relax.
Amen! I was married for 25 years and been single for almost 10. I love my freedom and solitude! ✨🏜️🐾✨