My boyfriend asked for space and 12 days later came back to me. We’re now back together and things are better. Just wanted to share my story for the other ladies ❤ this video helped me cope. The space was hard but he needed that. I worked on myself during that space and learned to love myself.
i give him space and time almost two weeks since we're not talking. The last time i sent him a paragraph "if youre needing some time for yourself then thats okay not to replying those messages." i tried to text him "Hi its been a week. how are you feeling?" but he hasnt replied yet till now. So i think he might really needed some more alone time
@@yumnanasywa7341 I am currently going through this...I'm on day 11, we're long distance, and I made a mistake by taking a joke too far in a group chat and that caused him to get angry with me, and hasn't talked to me since. I have bad anxiety and OCD so these have been the longest 11 days of my life.
Usually one spouse is smothering the other. No hobbies, no friends of their own, and etc. Every second of the day they want to be underneath you, and if you ask for space they will manipulate you into thinking you’re asking for something bad. Most people get into relationships and lose their sense of self. Give your partner time to miss you while you’re doing self care activities without them.
I need space buy still want contact, my space is letting me enjoy my own apartment to myself and you go to your mom house for a few days or this weekend I'm off I Want to be alone or spend this weekend with family or friends. My space isn't nothing more nothing less just I need my personal me time for a little bit
These people who ask for time and space just don't know what they want.. so stop dating people who are looking for entertainment from a relationship. Only date people who are looking to start a life long journey together.. Time and space is BS.
Give them all the space they want. Don’t wait. They will come back after time and space. Usually means they just want to use you. Don’t give them the chance. Screw their six month rotation. Grown adults should know what they want. Time and space is manipulative IMO. I refuse to be stonewalled.
Agreed. There are legitimate times when someone needs space. But the time apart has been decided upon in the beginning. And normally, both parties are willing to try a temporary separation only for the reason to come back together stronger
Yep, saw it coming a mile away in my situation. Cancelled dates at last minute and she was becoming more emotionally distant. My gut instinct was right.
You are 1000% correct! The guys that have said this to me in the past-I absolutely gave it to them and did exactly what you said to do-released all of my energy. They came back and yep, I was angry! So manipulative on their part. Ladies, RUNNNNNNNNNNNN! Thank you Susan! Btw, you are divine! Looking just beautiful! ☺️
When people need space they might not have the strength or desire to put some real work into the relationship. Abuse aside, people want easy happy lives.
I'm the one who requested space. I love him deeply. It's not a precursor to a breakup, it's to think about some external factors that have nothing to do with him specifically, but more his life situation, relatives. A request for space should not be seen as a threat. Someone who respects that will most likely be welcomed back with more love and more understanding. I need space to process things, not look elsewhere. Space can make a relationship stronger. If the other party blows your phone off and act irrationally, it's easy to pull away for good. Space is healthy. The way then other party handles a request for space has a lot to do with the outcome.
You’re a typical woman you’re just looking for an excuse to see if you can get something better but if not then you’ll go back to your old boyfriend you’re not pulling anybody.
"Space" is code for "I want to break up, I just can't get up the nerve." I have learned that if the s-word is mentioned, you might as well immediately break up and move to Pluto and definitely never speak to them again. I don't think there's coming back from space (cowboy). Signed, Person Who Thought Space Was A Legitimate Request Once Upon A Time.
My ex went silent for 10 days. I knew he was having some sort of emotional withdrawal thing going on, so when I eventually messaged him to see if he was okay and wanted to talk, he broke up with me, because I didnt give him the space he DIDNT ask for. Apparently he didnt need the space from his previous ex though.....
From bitter experience. In my POV it's time to walk. Claim back your power. Agree with what your " partner " wants and delete their number . If they want to see you then they can come and see you and discuss what is going on. No one has the right to do that to you.
when a person says they need space many times it means they arent mature enough yet to deal with the complications of a relationship.move on and forward with your life.if that person later says they are ready to begin again u tell them lets just be friends.
This just happened to me. I felt his distance and asked him about it. We met at a restaurant and chatted. He said he is so overwhelmed with work and dont know how to give me the time Our relationship deserves. He said he needed time to figure things out. He didnt specify how long. I told him i would give him that. Then I told him i needed to leave (i cant have a meal or regular chat after that). We hugged goodbye and i said let me know and he said he would. Then i walked out. Now im beginning to winder if he thinks I dumped him because i walked out of the restaurant. I cant stop overthinking. It’s only been a couple of days so far.
Hey Susan I did a session with you once on slow fade. Truth is I ended right back with a “I need some alone time” in a text. That was all it took to see the writing. I gave her alone time and never looked back. She never reach out again and I never contacted her. I found it odd that she would just let it go with no respect. Btw, your hair looks great ;)
Susan, you’re just too magnificent and intelligent. Looooove what you teach the world. Excited for your next live on this topic (and all your lives) and always your videos!
People are what they do, not what they say. If our gut is squirming, and their actions say that they're losing interest. Well, if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck and swims like a duck. Then it probably is a duck!
It’s fairly cruel when people slow fade. They’re not even thinking about you and what you need anymore. Anon you should have asked more questions to her. CommunicTe to her that this isn’t comfortable for you… you’re worried. Her answers would depend on whether you wanna stay or go and if she’s going to come back.
Some people do need time and space, back the i give it to someone who doesnt deserve it aka my stupid ex. Time n space is for him aka wanna breakup. But my current partner is the nicesy person ever..when he said he need time and space i freaking out but turn out he have BPD disorder. He really need time to charge his energy and battery mybe for few days or a week then he can good again to spent time and communicate. I cant be pushy to him ore else things get worse and i dont wnat to lose him.coz he is the kindest person ever..he never cheat unlike my ex. So yeah time and space do apply to the right people
women who ask for time and space are often looking at other options, but they want to keep you hanging on just in case it doesn't work out with the other guy....or they are just not enamoured with you anymore and this is a way to make an exit without being direct about it. In my experience when someone says " I want some time and space.."....well that actually means goodbye for good....and from my point of view when someone says that to me it is goodbye from me, I move on, I have no time for silly manipulative games.
With the guy I'm interested in, I'm not seeing him that often anymore and it feels like the variable reward principle is at play. I'm going to take my power back and find equilibrium again. If he becomes serious about starting a relationship, he knows where to find me.
Hello dear Susan, Great video as usually! I feel sorry for Anon. I truly do! I felt while watching the video that it is a game strategy to end a relationship coming from someone who has no skill set to be in a relationship in the first place. We've got to be aware of this, and we must carefully use the vetting phase to protect our emotional selves from these kinds of endings. For me, it is insane to "discard" someone after having sex and an intimate relationship. Even ghosting someone online is disrespectful. What should we say about the Anon situation? It pisses me off the lack of emotional responsibility towards another human being because it is the case no matter what. Hug, Alexandra
Alexandra, he wrote me. I received this Video Request in September -and it was so good I had to respond to him. He saw the video today and wanted to give us all an update. He went no contact. She has not been in contact. And he has moved on. He knew what to do instinctively but I think he really appreciated hearing it from me and also getting very clear on the strategy and reasons why we need to make those choices for our well-being
After 2 weeks of constant arguing I broke up with her and she asked for space. She wants to make sure we both want this I said no problem. She still calls once every other day to talk. Have no idea what's going to happen. Plus shes having a crap load of family issues. Shout to all the insecure men in the comment section lol
Been with my boyfriend for 10 years , he’s a southside cop in Chicago and his job is ruining his life , he told me he needed a break … i don’t understand, we barely text and we hang maybe twice a week … it hurts so much … Thank you Susan ❤
Not necessarily. They could be going though a spiritual awakening. Some cause breakups yes but many just require them to hermit for several years then the come back. They don’t cheat on you they just meditate all day and transform.
Time and space? That's what CERN works with. Nothing different. Jokes aside, I would lightspeed-quit. No question asked, nothing to discuss, I'd just run and hide as fast as possible. That's just my opinion.
My guy and I got into a situation where he was triggered by something we were talking about. His past relationship was very controlling and I had said something that triggered him when he was pretty drunk. He started to say things about not wanting to be controlled. I calmly tried to tell him “that’s not what I was doing that I just wanted communication on if our plans changed” and he tends to shut down completely and not talk. So he didn’t talk to me for the next two days. I did go to his place and drop off of his birthday presents because I was leaving for a trip for a couple days. I just needed some kind of communication before I left. He did hug me and kiss me and say “I’m not saying it’s over, I just need time.” And as he kissed me again he said “I just need time” he’s currently watching my house right now while I am on this trip and I’ve heard from him here and there.. idk where we are atm.. and I haven’t been writing him. What are your thoughts/input?
The guy I was seeing stopped communicating and making an effort, so I was the one to offer time and space. He said there are obstacles he needs to take care of before he can have more time for me. Which is fine, but I’m not going to expect him to come back. Love him but I love me more
Short answer...no don't wait and hold up your own life. If they can't define time and space without vagueness and ambiguous language. They are on BS. And more than likely moving on from you. Do yourself a favor. Don't hold space for those that can't hold space for you. Many people are emotional parasites. Don't be a host to someone else's crappy behavior
It’s future faking and dangling the carrot! We have to heal and let go! Time on our side does much healing. I remember hearing from a previous toxic ex “Go on other dates”. See ya!! Bye Felicia!
I had to tell my boyfriend this he really took it well ok honey whatever you need i am feeling stressed overwhelmed smothered need to step out take care of my emotional and physical well being first foremost need time away from you for awhile
Wanting space in a relationship doesnt automatically make the person the villain! arent the most healthy relationships the ones where there is space? Far healthier than being in each others pockets 24/7
Dear Susan, I'll try and give a good scenario of my relationship. I've started dating a girl for a few months. We were making plans about next night off and talking about how people just started to talk about us dating. And immediately she asked for time apart. When we talked about why she mentioned anxious about people talking about us, it being very new, and how she still needs to sort out previous relationship. She is fairly fresh off a 5 year relationship. From her 5 year relationship she has dogs that she still takes care of jointly. I've been as supportive as I can about the dogs and never stand in her way in doing this and still contacting the ex or helping with the dogs no matter what we have planned. I feel like this isnt doomed but is it?
I don't believe in breaks. In the real world you don't get a break. If you take a break from your car payment, your car gets repossessed, don't pay you rent and you get evicted, take a break from your job and you get replaced. Under no circumstances will I sit on the sidelines while a man takes a "break" so he can cheat then return to me.
Hi Susan, I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. At first, he would text me regularly and ask to date 3 times a week. Then over the past week, he has said that because he was newly divorced, he is not ready for a committed relationship but he also doesn't want to get into "fight or flight" so he decided to be stoic. He wants to continue seeing me but wants to stretch out the timeline of the relationship. I feel that he is more closed off which in turn caused me to shut my emotions up too because I feel like I was falling for the authentic self that I was seeing during the first couple of months and it hurts to feel like he has pressed the PAUSE button on his emotions with me. How do I have us resume the emotional connection we had? Thank you.
Time and space also means they want to go cheat on you and don’t wanna feel guilty and if they get caught, they can say they’re on a break which is what most women do when they say that
New relationship and I got no time frame from him. He was annoyed with me for a simple thing and said "I need a moment." That was a week ago. Very little contact from him but his dad is dying. He asked to get together yesterday with no notice after not hearing much for a week...I already had other plans. I'm just releasing him at this point...I like him a lot but I'm not in the space to do mental gymnastics, trying to figure out what he thinks or what kind of time he needs.
I'm also wondering what specific thing you're referring to by the time frame. If someone needs space and they defined the time, when that time is up do they just get back together? Do they start re-introducing communication little by little? Do they check with the each other to see how they are feeling?
My girlfriend, also 8 months, said she wants to see me less. So instead of 5 or 6 days a week to 3 or 4. This feels like a big step back and not good. She's still acting in love when we see each other though
Yes and no. I have a different way of doing it- though I do practice metaphysics. If their energy is pulling away the best approach is to provide ample space by moving forward yourself. This creates space between the two of you. And as long as you are moving forward and away from them they would find the incentive and curiosity to want to know where you are now
My boyfriend asked for space and 12 days later came back to me. We’re now back together and things are better. Just wanted to share my story for the other ladies ❤ this video helped me cope. The space was hard but he needed that. I worked on myself during that space and learned to love myself.
i give him space and time almost two weeks since we're not talking. The last time i sent him a paragraph "if youre needing some time for yourself then thats okay not to replying those messages." i tried to text him "Hi its been a week. how are you feeling?" but he hasnt replied yet till now. So i think he might really needed some more alone time
ur right the space was hard esp when youre in LDR (11.287km) i hope he always doing well
how are you doing now? @@yumnanasywa7341
@@yumnanasywa7341 I am currently going through this...I'm on day 11, we're long distance, and I made a mistake by taking a joke too far in a group chat and that caused him to get angry with me, and hasn't talked to me since. I have bad anxiety and OCD so these have been the longest 11 days of my life.
@@yumnanasywa7341any update?
Give them peace, walk away, and never bother them again. 🤷♀️
I hate dating astronauts
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Oh man this made me laugh out loud 😂
Just the chuckle I needed upon coming to a video like this ☺️ 😊❤
I was so confused at first LOL
Usually one spouse is smothering the other. No hobbies, no friends of their own, and etc. Every second of the day they want to be underneath you, and if you ask for space they will manipulate you into thinking you’re asking for something bad. Most people get into relationships and lose their sense of self. Give your partner time to miss you while you’re doing self care activities without them.
Very well said.. 👏
Or a flaky person.
I need space buy still want contact, my space is letting me enjoy my own apartment to myself and you go to your mom house for a few days or this weekend I'm off I Want to be alone or spend this weekend with family or friends. My space isn't nothing more nothing less just I need my personal me time for a little bit
Yup everyone was right, the time and space is just a way for her to leave without saying goodbye. Time to be a hermit!
These people who ask for time and space just don't know what they want.. so stop dating people who are looking for entertainment from a relationship. Only date people who are looking to start a life long journey together.. Time and space is BS.
I agree
Give them all the space they want. Don’t wait. They will come back after time and space. Usually means they just want to use you. Don’t give them the chance. Screw their six month rotation. Grown adults should know what they want. Time and space is manipulative IMO. I refuse to be stonewalled.
Agreed. There are legitimate times when someone needs space. But the time apart has been decided upon in the beginning. And normally, both parties are willing to try a temporary separation only for the reason to come back together stronger
Hearing the words "I need space" has always indicated a breakup to me
Dear Anon, take it from someone who waited without a definite time needed apart- run!!!!!! It’s not worth it:
A coworker was dating a woman who said she needed some time and space. He told her to take the rest of her life to find it.
What a great answer!! Tell your coworker I really like their style
The words "I need space" has always led to "it's over / we're breaking up" in any scenario I've been in with a woman!
I think that’s just you overthinking because you don’t really understand the difference between a break and a fucking break up
Yep, saw it coming a mile away in my situation. Cancelled dates at last minute and she was becoming more emotionally distant. My gut instinct was right.
You are 1000% correct! The guys that have said this to me in the past-I absolutely gave it to them and did exactly what you said to do-released all of my energy. They came back and yep, I was angry! So manipulative on their part. Ladies, RUNNNNNNNNNNNN!
Thank you Susan! Btw, you are divine! Looking just beautiful! ☺️
Thank you thank you thank you Jess. And I love what you wrote
@@SusanWinter you are most welcome Susan! Please keep doing God’s work. Us subbies need your wisdom!
When people need space they might not have the strength or desire to put some real work into the relationship. Abuse aside, people want easy happy lives.
You can't loose what you don't have
When my husband told me he wanted more " space" I locked him outside...( always so good to see you!!!)
You’re too funny! That is certainly one way to do it!
hahahahahahaahhahaah good job 👏
Thank you for acknowledging that sometimes asking for space can have nothing at all to do with the other person.
Your bangs are on point. You look fabulous!!!! (And thanks for the info!).
Thank you. Trying something new
I'm the one who requested space. I love him deeply. It's not a precursor to a breakup, it's to think about some external factors that have nothing to do with him specifically, but more his life situation, relatives. A request for space should not be seen as a threat. Someone who respects that will most likely be welcomed back with more love and more understanding. I need space to process things, not look elsewhere. Space can make a relationship stronger. If the other party blows your phone off and act irrationally, it's easy to pull away for good. Space is healthy. The way then other party handles a request for space has a lot to do with the outcome.
You’re a typical woman you’re just looking for an excuse to see if you can get something better but if not then you’ll go back to your old boyfriend you’re not pulling anybody.
Thank you for this, it makes me feel better about my situation
If she leaves you it’s a blessing level up!
"Space" is code for "I want to break up, I just can't get up the nerve." I have learned that if the s-word is mentioned, you might as well immediately break up and move to Pluto and definitely never speak to them again. I don't think there's coming back from space (cowboy).
Signed, Person Who Thought Space Was A Legitimate Request Once Upon A Time.
Jennifer! I absolutely love your commentary. And your sense of humor. Thanks for writing this note to all of us
My ex went silent for 10 days. I knew he was having some sort of emotional withdrawal thing going on, so when I eventually messaged him to see if he was okay and wanted to talk, he broke up with me, because I didnt give him the space he DIDNT ask for. Apparently he didnt need the space from his previous ex though.....
From bitter experience.
In my POV it's time to walk.
Claim back your power.
Agree with what your " partner " wants and delete their number .
If they want to see you then they can come and see you and discuss what is going on.
No one has the right to do that to you.
Love the bangs Susan.
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My girlfriend just asked for time and space, strange because she was the one doing all of the calling and texting daily, and coming over to my home.
when a person says they need space many times it means they arent mature enough yet to deal with the complications of a relationship.move on and forward with your life.if that person later says they are ready to begin again u tell them lets just be friends.
This just happened to me. I felt his distance and asked him about it. We met at a restaurant and chatted. He said he is so overwhelmed with work and dont know how to give me the time Our relationship deserves. He said he needed time to figure things out. He didnt specify how long. I told him i would give him that. Then I told him i needed to leave (i cant have a meal or regular chat after that). We hugged goodbye and i said let me know and he said he would. Then i walked out.
Now im beginning to winder if he thinks I dumped him because i walked out of the restaurant. I cant stop overthinking. It’s only been a couple of days so far.
How did it go ?
Anything over 3-4 days space is a red flag to me.
You look fantastic Susan! Thanks RUclips algorithm for always sending ur video in a perfect situations! Always!!!
Hey, I’m lucky! We have to take the algorithm gods for putting us together
For me it confuses me because it’s like if you need space to figure out if you want me then that’s confusing? Like you should know already…
……then they will say, “It’s not your fault” and that makes you feel worse!
Thank u ! 😂 if u gave them more space and don’t look back. They complain. Or u don’t take them serious.
Is okay to need space. Nothing wrong in that but ur approach about how and when u say it. Also based on how the relationship going on
Looking hawt Susan!! 🔥
The bangs have come into their own & are now perfect!👌
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Hey Susan I did a session with you once on slow fade.
Truth is I ended right back with a “I need some alone time” in a text.
That was all it took to see the writing. I gave her alone time and never looked back. She never reach out again and I never contacted her. I found it odd that she would just let it go with no respect.
Btw, your hair looks great ;)
I’m glad u walk away
Thank you!! Hey- so happy to see your message here
Thanks @satrams
Susan, you’re just too magnificent and intelligent. Looooove what you teach the world. Excited for your next live on this topic (and all your lives) and always your videos!
Thank you thank you thank you dear Noelle
Very deep and authentic insight. Absorbing every word of it..by the way, you're beautiful. 😍😊😘
Aww shucks! You’re very kind! I’m glad you enjoyed the video!
People are what they do, not what they say. If our gut is squirming, and their actions say that they're losing interest. Well, if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck and swims like a duck. Then it probably is a duck!
It’s fairly cruel when people slow fade. They’re not even thinking about you and what you need anymore. Anon you should have asked more questions to her. CommunicTe to her that this isn’t comfortable for you… you’re worried. Her answers would depend on whether you wanna stay or go and if she’s going to come back.
Susan you look great ❤️😘
Some people do need time and space, back the i give it to someone who doesnt deserve it aka my stupid ex. Time n space is for him aka wanna breakup. But my current partner is the nicesy person ever..when he said he need time and space i freaking out but turn out he have BPD disorder. He really need time to charge his energy and battery mybe for few days or a week then he can good again to spent time and communicate. I cant be pushy to him ore else things get worse and i dont wnat to lose him.coz he is the kindest person ever..he never cheat unlike my ex. So yeah time and space do apply to the right people
Great video and love the new hair! Bangs look absolutely fabulous on you!!
Thank you, Catherine! I’m starting to like then a bit more everyday!
Love your hair, girl!
Also, I love your wisdom...
Thank you! Many virtual hugs to you!
Bravo 👏 Susan! Great subject, amazing advice. You hit this one out of the park!!
Thank you for this Gem!!
You're welcome Lucy
women who ask for time and space are often looking at other options, but they want to keep you hanging on just in case it doesn't work out with the other guy....or they are just not enamoured with you anymore and this is a way to make an exit without being direct about it. In my experience when someone says " I want some time and space.."....well that actually means goodbye for good....and from my point of view when someone says that to me it is goodbye from me, I move on, I have no time for silly manipulative games.
Too much space often turns into zero when it comes to effort. If there is no mutual engagement, a relationship is doomed.
Hey this came just in time. I love you Susan! Your videos are really helpful.
Excellent. I’m so happy that it helped you and I’m so happy it arrived on time
@@SusanWinter Hi Susan! I hope you are doing well.
thank you!! I would have liked this video a few months ago. it would have been of great help. Anyway, in the end, I’m much better without him.
Happy to hear it!
She wants time and space? Good idea, here’s all the time and space in the world… no maybes … enjoy the carousel
Love it. Yes I agree
With the guy I'm interested in, I'm not seeing him that often anymore and it feels like the variable reward principle is at play. I'm going to take my power back and find equilibrium again. If he becomes serious about starting a relationship, he knows where to find me.
It sounds like you’re on the right path, Ronald!
Love the middle part bangs! 😍😘💥
I love Ms. Winter. You are awesome.
You’re a sweetheart!
If they give you a timeframe it's a good indicator that they really just want a bit of space . For example if they say in a month's time.
This is exactly what I wanted a video about haha 🥰 it's great that you are touching on this. All the best! ❤️
Great! Please let me know if there is a topic that you would like me to cover! ❤️
Loving that hair style. The bangs are so cute on you, Susan. ❤
Hello dear Susan,
Great video as usually!
I feel sorry for Anon. I truly do! I felt while watching the video that it is a game strategy to end a relationship coming from someone who has no skill set to be in a relationship in the first place. We've got to be aware of this, and we must carefully use the vetting phase to protect our emotional selves from these kinds of endings.
For me, it is insane to "discard" someone after having sex and an intimate relationship. Even ghosting someone online is disrespectful. What should we say about the Anon situation? It pisses me off the lack of emotional responsibility towards another human being because it is the case no matter what.
Hug,
Alexandra
Alexandra, he wrote me. I received this Video Request in September -and it was so good I had to respond to him. He saw the video today and wanted to give us all an update. He went no contact. She has not been in contact. And he has moved on. He knew what to do instinctively but I think he really appreciated hearing it from me and also getting very clear on the strategy and reasons why we need to make those choices for our well-being
@@SusanWinter I'm glad he did it! I am so glad! Thanks for letting me know :)
After 2 weeks of constant arguing I broke up with her and she asked for space. She wants to make sure we both want this I said no problem. She still calls once every other day to talk. Have no idea what's going to happen. Plus shes having a crap load of family issues. Shout to all the insecure men in the comment section lol
In a somewhat similar situation. She just detonated a bomb on me after a small argument. I didn't really see it coming. Timewasters...
Thank you Susan. I needed to hear this. Excellent advice always!
You’re very welcome!
Been with my boyfriend for 10 years , he’s a southside cop in Chicago and his job is ruining his life , he told me he needed a break … i don’t understand, we barely text and we hang maybe twice a week … it hurts so much … Thank you Susan ❤
How is everything now? Is it okay between u two?
Hi Susan your bangs look beautiful on you!
Why thank you, Jocelyn!
Not necessarily. They could be going though a spiritual awakening. Some cause breakups yes but many just require them to hermit for several years then the come back. They don’t cheat on you they just meditate all day and transform.
Time and space? That's what CERN works with. Nothing different. Jokes aside, I would lightspeed-quit. No question asked, nothing to discuss, I'd just run and hide as fast as possible. That's just my opinion.
My guy and I got into a situation where he was triggered by something we were talking about. His past relationship was very controlling and I had said something that triggered him when he was pretty drunk. He started to say things about not wanting to be controlled. I calmly tried to tell him “that’s not what I was doing that I just wanted communication on if our plans changed” and he tends to shut down completely and not talk. So he didn’t talk to me for the next two days. I did go to his place and drop off of his birthday presents because I was leaving for a trip for a couple days. I just needed some kind of communication before I left. He did hug me and kiss me and say “I’m not saying it’s over, I just need time.” And as he kissed me again he said “I just need time” he’s currently watching my house right now while I am on this trip and I’ve heard from him here and there.. idk where we are atm.. and I haven’t been writing him. What are your thoughts/input?
I love you Susan❤️
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The time and space request should not be without a set time frame and some jointly set boundaries
The guy I was seeing stopped communicating and making an effort, so I was the one to offer time and space. He said there are obstacles he needs to take care of before he can have more time for me. Which is fine, but I’m not going to expect him to come back. Love him but I love me more
Space? Tell'em Bezos is selling seats to the moon.
That’s quite funny!
When your SO requests "space", chances are very high someone else is filling it! Break -> Time to try out the new guy/girl!
I love you Susan you are the best!
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As always, very enlightening! Thank you!
I’m so happy to hear that you enjoyed it!
I will do that Susan and thank you so much for your advice
It means they’ve found someone else!!!
Give them all the time they want him to hit the road and not come back.
Short answer...no don't wait and hold up your own life. If they can't define time and space without vagueness and ambiguous language. They are on BS. And more than likely moving on from you. Do yourself a favor. Don't hold space for those that can't hold space for you. Many people are emotional parasites. Don't be a host to someone else's crappy behavior
It’s future faking and dangling the carrot! We have to heal and let go! Time on our side does much healing. I remember hearing from a previous toxic ex “Go on other dates”. See ya!! Bye Felicia!
An indefinite wait time is a relationship that’s suspended and in a slump …. time to dump it.😒
It could be the time to do so, yes but a conversation is essential.
Love your advice always and also your hair it's nice and soft. 💕🌹
You’re welcome! And thank you! That’s lovely of you to say!
God bless you susan!
I asked for space because he lied I asked for space because he was communicating with other women.
I had to tell my boyfriend this he really took it well ok honey whatever you need i am feeling stressed overwhelmed smothered need to step out take care of my emotional and physical well being first foremost need time away from you for awhile
Any update?
Wanting space in a relationship doesnt automatically make the person the villain! arent the most healthy relationships the ones where there is space? Far healthier than being in each others pockets 24/7
Yeah i cheated so my girl asked for spece
Dear Susan,
I'll try and give a good scenario of my relationship.
I've started dating a girl for a few months. We were making plans about next night off and talking about how people just started to talk about us dating. And immediately she asked for time apart. When we talked about why she mentioned anxious about people talking about us, it being very new, and how she still needs to sort out previous relationship.
She is fairly fresh off a 5 year relationship. From her 5 year relationship she has dogs that she still takes care of jointly. I've been as supportive as I can about the dogs and never stand in her way in doing this and still contacting the ex or helping with the dogs no matter what we have planned.
I feel like this isnt doomed but is it?
Great advise
I’m so glad you think so!
Awesome video, thanks Susan :)
You’re very welcome! Thank you for your love and support!
You want time and space - you got it!
Space = Breaking up
When they say they need time and space, you have been warned 🚩
Thank You so much
I don't believe in breaks. In the real world you don't get a break. If you take a break from your car payment, your car gets repossessed, don't pay you rent and you get evicted, take a break from your job and you get replaced. Under no circumstances will I sit on the sidelines while a man takes a "break" so he can cheat then return to me.
That's pretty good straight forward common sense! 🤠 the space break line means there running with somthing new . But keeping the back burner warm.
Space = Breaking up
Amazing as always !!♥️♥️😘😘
Thank you, doll!
Can you clarify that this person meant their partner asked…to have some space in the relationship? Not to like “take a break”?
Thank you this helped me go through it
As a person who asked for space = it's a nice way to say it's over move on !!!! You did something wrong.
Hi Susan, I have been dating this guy for a couple of months. At first, he would text me regularly and ask to date 3 times a week. Then over the past week, he has said that because he was newly divorced, he is not ready for a committed relationship but he also doesn't want to get into "fight or flight" so he decided to be stoic. He wants to continue seeing me but wants to stretch out the timeline of the relationship. I feel that he is more closed off which in turn caused me to shut my emotions up too because I feel like I was falling for the authentic self that I was seeing during the first couple of months and it hurts to feel like he has pressed the PAUSE button on his emotions with me. How do I have us resume the emotional connection we had? Thank you.
Time and space also means they want to go cheat on you and don’t wanna feel guilty and if they get caught, they can say they’re on a break which is what most women do when they say that
You ask me for space and I'll give you the universe.
New relationship and I got no time frame from him. He was annoyed with me for a simple thing and said "I need a moment." That was a week ago. Very little contact from him but his dad is dying. He asked to get together yesterday with no notice after not hearing much for a week...I already had other plans. I'm just releasing him at this point...I like him a lot but I'm not in the space to do mental gymnastics, trying to figure out what he thinks or what kind of time he needs.
Yeah he wants time and space then I found him on tinder :) I am devastated I will never ever understand how people can be that coward and cruel
I asked for space after an argument, he ghosted me.
I'm also wondering what specific thing you're referring to by the time frame. If someone needs space and they defined the time, when that time is up do they just get back together? Do they start re-introducing communication little by little? Do they check with the each other to see how they are feeling?
Yea I think it’s just a nice way of breaking up.
My girlfriend, also 8 months, said she wants to see me less. So instead of 5 or 6 days a week to 3 or 4. This feels like a big step back and not good. She's still acting in love when we see each other though
Any update?
Dating in the modern world is a dumpster fire
Someone once said 'Incidentally the space required is your height, and width'
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Hello it's works I can't believe am with my love again after so many years of break-up.,.....
Susan do you believe in LOA/ Manifesting them back?
Yes and no. I have a different way of doing it- though I do practice metaphysics. If their energy is pulling away the best approach is to provide ample space by moving forward yourself. This creates space between the two of you. And as long as you are moving forward and away from them they would find the incentive and curiosity to want to know where you are now