Thank you Joey for sharing your story with us. I love hearing coming out stories and it seems yours was similar to mine, except I only came out to my mother this year, at 32 years old, and she took it really badly being very religious as she is. I don't think she accepts me for who I am, she kind of fought with me when I told her that I was gay and she hasn't brought it up since. Maybe because I'm single; if I had a partner I think she would have to come to terms with it eventually. There were a lot of things I could identify and liked about your talk - how we should just be who we are, how we should come out the way we feel most comfortable with, and how being gay is only a part of who I am - my sexuality - and not my personality. It doesn't define me as a person (I'm still the same guy I've always been, being gay doesn't dictate my life or change how I behave and act like as a person) but it is a huge part of my life and a part that now I am happy and proud of. Thank you for all your wisdom and for being so brave, open and honest with us. It made my day :)
@@marcoferreira0223 I have a long story but i am gonna tell you that sorther i can! When i was 5 i have chrush on girl what make me fell straight and when i was 10 i have go to another school in sity and it was more and more people i have got chrush on girls but then i have stop it and i have get chrush on boys so i have thing i was gay 5y so i have hate it bicause i have know that my parents will not accept me so i have thing i can change it again so i would can only love girs but i have force my self there much and come in depresion for 5y then i have break depresion 1month ago so then i have go acepting i was gay and somethings go wrong and i dont have fell like i am gay so i have go to yt and watch 1000 videos for sexuality and i have find uot that i was bi. I thing my parent maybe can accept me easyer but what ever i dont forse my self and i have accept it and i love to be valid for everyone 😄 Your story is good to but i dont thing i can tell my mother i am bi next 5y i am just 16 💙
Thanks Courtney and Joey I had to take care of my parents many years and I had no time or opportunity for personal life so watching HeartStopper is actually painful I had a boyfriend when I was young but it didn't go well he was alcoholic and always cheating on me Then my parents needed my help and I had to move I'm happy for everyone who gets a good relationship but...
The LGBT Community is such a diverse and beautiful community to be apart of and with me being Bisexual I never would have thought coming out would be easy but it was so easy, loving, and excepting.
Informative video. Everyone has a story and that is what makes us unique. I did like when Joey said being gay is not a personality, it is your sexuality. He was on it with that comment. Joey has indeed been on a journey.
Joey did do an excellent job. Like him, I knew I was gay from a very young age but had no idea what it meant. When I learned there was a label in my mid-teens, I could read about it and understand what I was feeling. Coming out was gradual, but I want to address an important point Joey made about the difference between sexuality and personality. When he said it, I realized that my problem growing up was that the two were so intertwined in my mind. Many of my personality traits were unconventional for a boy where I grew up. I was always a pacifist, shy, didn't like team sports, wasn't interested in or good at a lot of things other boys liked, and all of these personality traits were identified as "queer." I was regarded as a sissy as a kid, called names, and bullied. My parents were also very critical of my personality, and my mother could be quite snide, making insinuations about my sexuality, especially when she was drinking. On some occasions she tried to get me to talk about it and seemed sympathetic, but I didn't trust her. In those days, there were horror stories about conversion therapy, and I was afraid I'd be taken to a psychiatrist. In any case, the confusion of my personality and my sexual orientation made me really afraid to come out for a very long time. I ended up coming out in high school to my closest friends, and there were some repercussions when word got to the adults, but to them I just denied it, claiming they must have misheard, or my friends must have misunderstood. I just refused to be open to adults in my life. Because of Joey's remark, I think now that I had been so mistreated for being myself growing up that I expected to be mistreated if I came out, and I thought that my gayness explained my personality. I've taken to long to get to that because I've been thinking as I write, but I think it is really important to draw the distinction between personality and sexual orientation, to resist stereotypes. People have to be accepted as they are. Once I was away at college and no longer under the same roof with my parents, I was able to come out and tell them what they already knew. I just wish I had been more self-assured, less angry, less afraid through the entire process. Thank you for the video. It is very thought-provoking. Sorry for the length of this!
I think the point of "What's it got to do with me" is really what everyone's reaction should be. Because in fact who you sleep with has nothing to do with anyone but who you sleep with. The prejudice towards differences should not be something you get to hate on. It makes nobody better.
I'm gay and have always known it and it's nothing to be ashamed of; I believe it is something to be embraced. We are all individuals. Long live the Rainbow Flag! P.S: I love your videos Courtney Jai!! :)
Great video thank you Joey for sharing your experience and thank you jai for sharing and reaching out for different content. I only say this because this is more a discussion video and it’s a bit different than other videos and it’s not bad I really like the more conversational flow. Great bulletpoints are brought up including stereotypes of homosexuality as well as the emergence of gay idols that resonate with all different age groups. Now for the real bit both y’all are cute as hell :3
good discussion. It is important not to put too much emphasis on the immediate or intermediate responses to our news. Its the long term response we should concern ourselves with, because that is where the relationship itself finds it health. This is a time when we are asking for less judgement, so it is important that we mimic what we expect in them and not judge. The coming out 'scene' is just one act in a very long play. We should not force it to turn into the climax or the denouement because we expected them to read the lines we wanted the way we wanted them. Remember they did not get a copy of the script beforehand.
i'm watching because i think i might be bisexual, and the idea of coming out as bisexual isn't nearly as scary as he makes it sound to come out gay, and i think that's because the freind group i'm in i have loads of bisexual and gay freinds (but every single one is a girl) how ever i'm autistic and thinking of telling poeple, and the fear of telling poeple i'm autistic is much more relatable to this, specifically the bit about writhing in my bed crying thinking out about how people will respond, and the bit about thinking my world will shatter
There was so much info between U2, but my experience resembles yours Courtney-Jae. Although I never got to tell my dad I planned on it but he had a heartattack and passed and my mom said something similar to your but it wasn't really good or bad it's just something I knew she would say and still means it to this day. I don't ever plan to utter what she said to anyone but it's also something I plan on remembering forever. Love the video
I totally relate. Neither of my parents had much to say. Later my religious father said I was going to go to hell. I don't speak to him anymore so what he thinks means nothing to me. At the onset no one had much to say. It was awkward but coulda been much worse!
Joey doesn't seem gay...in this vid...but Jai s looking so " Bisexual"... being gayee for me it's little bit difficult..to whom should I watch..to Jai...or Joey... hahaha!!..btw if we can't change the thing that's something " natural" ..so there is nothing to feel ashamed about it.!!.. नमस्ते जय🙏
Interesting. Hmmm. I suppose the problem I see is dads being able to process their son being made love to as opposed to making love. Not love, but you get what I mean. How does bisexuals dodge that, or do they.
Please show your support , I think Joey didn't an excellent job and I'm so proud of him being so open and honest about his journey so far
Thank you Joey for sharing your story with us. I love hearing coming out stories and it seems yours was similar to mine, except I only came out to my mother this year, at 32 years old, and she took it really badly being very religious as she is. I don't think she accepts me for who I am, she kind of fought with me when I told her that I was gay and she hasn't brought it up since. Maybe because I'm single; if I had a partner I think she would have to come to terms with it eventually. There were a lot of things I could identify and liked about your talk - how we should just be who we are, how we should come out the way we feel most comfortable with, and how being gay is only a part of who I am - my sexuality - and not my personality. It doesn't define me as a person (I'm still the same guy I've always been, being gay doesn't dictate my life or change how I behave and act like as a person) but it is a huge part of my life and a part that now I am happy and proud of. Thank you for all your wisdom and for being so brave, open and honest with us. It made my day :)
@@marcoferreira0223
I have a long story but i am gonna tell you that sorther i can!
When i was 5 i have chrush on girl what make me fell straight and when i was 10 i have go to another school in sity and it was more and more people i have got chrush on girls but then i have stop it and i have get chrush on boys so i have thing i was gay 5y so i have hate it bicause i have know that my parents will not accept me so i have thing i can change it again so i would can only love girs but i have force my self there much and come in depresion for 5y then i have break depresion 1month ago so then i have go acepting i was gay and somethings go wrong and i dont have fell like i am gay so i have go to yt and watch 1000 videos for sexuality and i have find uot that i was bi.
I thing my parent maybe can accept me easyer but what ever i dont forse my self and i have accept it and i love to be valid for everyone 😄
Your story is good to but i dont thing i can tell my mother i am bi next 5y i am just 16 💙
Thanks Courtney and Joey I had to take care of my parents many years and I had no time or opportunity for personal life so watching HeartStopper is actually painful I had a boyfriend when I was young but it didn't go well he was alcoholic and always cheating on me Then my parents needed my help and I had to move
I'm happy for everyone who gets a good relationship but...
The LGBT Community is such a diverse and beautiful community to be apart of and with me being Bisexual I never would have thought coming out would be easy but it was so easy, loving, and excepting.
Informative video. Everyone has a story and that is what makes us unique. I did like when Joey said being gay is not a personality, it is your sexuality. He was on it with that comment. Joey has indeed been on a journey.
Joey did do an excellent job. Like him, I knew I was gay from a very young age but had no idea what it meant. When I learned there was a label in my mid-teens, I could read about it and understand what I was feeling. Coming out was gradual, but I want to address an important point Joey made about the difference between sexuality and personality. When he said it, I realized that my problem growing up was that the two were so intertwined in my mind. Many of my personality traits were unconventional for a boy where I grew up. I was always a pacifist, shy, didn't like team sports, wasn't interested in or good at a lot of things other boys liked, and all of these personality traits were identified as "queer." I was regarded as a sissy as a kid, called names, and bullied. My parents were also very critical of my personality, and my mother could be quite snide, making insinuations about my sexuality, especially when she was drinking. On some occasions she tried to get me to talk about it and seemed sympathetic, but I didn't trust her. In those days, there were horror stories about conversion therapy, and I was afraid I'd be taken to a psychiatrist. In any case, the confusion of my personality and my sexual orientation made me really afraid to come out for a very long time. I ended up coming out in high school to my closest friends, and there were some repercussions when word got to the adults, but to them I just denied it, claiming they must have misheard, or my friends must have misunderstood. I just refused to be open to adults in my life. Because of Joey's remark, I think now that I had been so mistreated for being myself growing up that I expected to be mistreated if I came out, and I thought that my gayness explained my personality. I've taken to long to get to that because I've been thinking as I write, but I think it is really important to draw the distinction between personality and sexual orientation, to resist stereotypes. People have to be accepted as they are. Once I was away at college and no longer under the same roof with my parents, I was able to come out and tell them what they already knew. I just wish I had been more self-assured, less angry, less afraid through the entire process. Thank you for the video. It is very thought-provoking. Sorry for the length of this!
I think the point of "What's it got to do with me" is really what everyone's reaction should be. Because in fact who you sleep with has nothing to do with anyone but who you sleep with. The prejudice towards differences should not be something you get to hate on. It makes nobody better.
Joey for the win!
I'm gay and have always known it and it's nothing to be ashamed of; I believe it is something to be embraced. We are all individuals. Long live the Rainbow Flag! P.S: I love your videos Courtney Jai!! :)
Damn straight being the person you are is nothing to be ashamed of and I'm happy your enjoying the content I'm creating
Great video thank you Joey for sharing your experience and thank you jai for sharing and reaching out for different content. I only say this because this is more a discussion video and it’s a bit different than other videos and it’s not bad I really like the more conversational flow. Great bulletpoints are brought up including stereotypes of homosexuality as well as the emergence of gay idols that resonate with all different age groups. Now for the real bit both y’all are cute as hell :3
Well thank you , and I want this channel to be something for everyone what ever that may be
An insightful and intelligent discussion, you guys are great!
I'm happy you enjoyed the video
good discussion. It is important not to put too much emphasis on the immediate or intermediate responses to our news. Its the long term response we should concern ourselves with, because that is where the relationship itself finds it health. This is a time when we are asking for less judgement, so it is important that we mimic what we expect in them and not judge. The coming out 'scene' is just one act in a very long play. We should not force it to turn into the climax or the denouement because we expected them to read the lines we wanted the way we wanted them. Remember they did not get a copy of the script beforehand.
never hit like so fast..gotta say, ur content is growing on me.. loving ur channel! P/S Joey intro is EVERYTHING, hha!
Yeah I thought what he said would resonate with alot of people
i'm watching because i think i might be bisexual, and the idea of coming out as bisexual isn't nearly as scary as he makes it sound to come out gay, and i think that's because the freind group i'm in i have loads of bisexual and gay freinds (but every single one is a girl) how ever i'm autistic and thinking of telling poeple, and the fear of telling poeple i'm autistic is much more relatable to this, specifically the bit about writhing in my bed crying thinking out about how people will respond, and the bit about thinking my world will shatter
Time have changed even in the last few years if you have supportive friends then they will stick by you
can we just take a second to talk about how handsome Courtney-Jai look in this video ?
That's very kind of you 😋
There was so much info between U2, but my experience resembles yours Courtney-Jae. Although I never got to tell my dad I planned on it but he had a heartattack and passed and my mom said something similar to your but it wasn't really good or bad it's just something I knew she would say and still means it to this day. I don't ever plan to utter what she said to anyone but it's also something I plan on remembering forever. Love the video
I think that's why it's important to have different people on the channel allows for people to connect with different stories
Being gay is a sexuality, not a personality...🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌🙌❤️❤️❤️
I totally relate. Neither of my parents had much to say. Later my religious father said I was going to go to hell. I don't speak to him anymore so what he thinks means nothing to me. At the onset no one had much to say. It was awkward but coulda been much worse!
Joey doesn't seem gay...in this vid...but Jai s looking so " Bisexual"... being gayee for me it's little bit difficult..to whom should I watch..to Jai...or Joey... hahaha!!..btw if we can't change the thing that's something " natural" ..so there is nothing to feel ashamed about it.!!.. नमस्ते जय🙏
growing up gay and alone !!!
cute, cute, cute, cute
(and virgin too)
If you want to follow Joey on Instagram there's a link in the bio 😋
This was great, a lot of what Joey said was very interesting.
Glad you like it I think he added some great prospective to the topic
well said
masc for masc type of guys
are u bottom?
Lovee💛💛
That's what it's all about 😋
Interesting. Hmmm. I suppose the problem I see is dads being able to process their son being made love to as opposed to making love. Not love, but you get what I mean. How does bisexuals dodge that, or do they.
You don't really I think it's because when most people come out , alot of people instantly link it to sex but it's about being able to love
I encourage people to say they like guys and not say "gay" as it is a loaded term to most people.
Like gay guys yes.
U know my Frist experience told me who I am an I excepted the fact that I am gay