Visiting My Birth Mother in Russia - A Special Weekend With Her
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Hello Everyone! This video is going a bit wild and I can’t thank you all so much for the support and for following my journey. I have removed a few comments from those people who really don’t know my full story and that’s fine and I respect everyone’s opinion. I have full support from my family, as mentioned in this video.
They supported me with doing this and seeing my birth mother. I’m not trying to push the ‘Good son’ look. I’m trying to connect with her more and the way I do it, is my choice. I am not offending my own family by seeing my birth mother. You need to know the full story of course before questioning that. My family always and often talks about Tatiana. As I said in this video, she is my birth mother and not my Mum. The mother who raised me is my Mum in New Zealand and Tatiana understands this. She sees me (Tatiana) as that son who will visit from time to time. So please let’s show some respect here. Also with filming this, we filmed Tatiana for a very short part. The restaurant was a long night and we only videoed about a joke and also with me showing her some photos. In her cafe we also sat down with her for hours around all of this.
Many of you have asked too how we can help. Of course I don’t want to push that I can help her with everything and that would probably be a bit hard on her. As her life has been hard, I want to, when I see her from time to time. To show her that I’m there to connect with her. Her life has been back on track. She is an adult as some of you have said. But she was not raised in a family. She did not have a family to look after her. She is an adult but she still struggles. You need to put yourselves in her shoes for a day before judging that. She is a beautiful person, but she just never had that love given to her. Before I left I told her, I love you and she got quite emotional.
She may seem shy and she is. But she is my birth mother. Thank you so much for understanding and for all your support. Please know my full story, my relationship with my own family and the contact with my birth family first :) Russia is my blood but New Zealand is always my home. Thank you! 🙏
Alex, You spoke that so well. I understand everything you are doing from an adoptee's perspective. There are some things that only other adoptees can fully comprehend. Seems like your parents understand as well. The birth parents are No threat to the tight bond between you and your parents (true & active parents). No amount of growing relationships with your birth parents could ever diminish the life, love and bonds built throughout your childhood to present days you have with your Mom & Dad! You do not need to justify your self, defend your decisions, steps or have to reiterate the fact that you are in no way dishonoring your Mom & Dad back home! This is ALL YOUR Journey!
Btw, I am not just an adoptee but also a birthmother too. 😉 Broad range perspectives in life.🙃 You are doing great Alex✌️❤️
You said it beautifully. The more people that loves your child, the more blessed that child is...that is 100% true!!! You are blessed. Tatiana does not know this kind of love....she didn't grow up with it...she only had her partner's love and that was one person's love at a time. She is blessed now by receiving your unconditional love and she has your NZ's parents love and there are many people who follows you that loves her too. She can not be judged by her past. Her past is in her past and she should be admired for putting you up for adoption. Where would you have been today if you were brought up in those conditions? Alex, if people want to help Tatiana, let them. Open an account for Tatiana and deposit money in that account because Tatiana doesn't have a retirement fund and she won't be able to work until she is 80 years old. Just keep an eye on the account so that friends of her does not take advantage of her.
Send my love to Tatiana. Let her know that most of your followers loves her. We off cause love your birth farther and parents too.
Thank *YOU* so much for sharing. Very brave, inspiring and wholsome from your part. Understanding these very real circumstances is the least we can do.
Hi, alex your story inspires me a lot ❤️❤️❤️ be safe always... Your such a kind and genuine person. ❤️❤️❤️
Your birth mother is a treasure! I feel so sorry for her, her life has been so difficult. Bad things can happen to good people. I wish her so much joy and hope the next half of her life is more joyous.
I totally understand your biological fathers feelings of thankfullness to your parents. They raised such a gentleman.
Thank you! I truly appreciate that!
Yes, they are angels
Agree.. 😀
@@suzipam1234 both of Alex's biological parents are lovely in their own rite, especially in their circumstances. Alex would be outstanding regardless. The love & commitment of both sides is substantial & real.💗💞
Indeed such an inspiration
First of all....people must stop criticizing Tatiana. She didn't have an abortion.. she gave you up for adoption by placing you in the orphanage. She didn't place you in a box in a park or under a bridge for adoption. She did the right thing. May God always protect her and keep her safe. Once she realised you are back in her life, she also did the right thing by telling you who your biological father is. I have much respect for her. Your parents brought you up to be a gentleman. Hat's off to them too.
Yes, agree.
That’s so true. Everyone walks different paths in life. We never truly know what they’re going through and they can only do what they think is best given the circumstances at the time. All we can do is be positive, move forward and have hopes for the future.
first of all they need to stop , you can be sure where NOT in the care system , even in uk it meant abuse , in russia , well we all saw what they left behind after the fall of the soviet union , there was deep deep abuse , it took me till i was 55 before i stopped abusing myself after what i went threw , i can not imagine where life had even less value to begin with what she suffered
and anyway the fact she never had another proves she did not throw him away , she saved him from her demons , knowing she could not look after her , how could she look after him ? that is the deepest love
I agree 💯 percent, Alex.So glad that mama Tatiana has you in her life.I have watched a lot of your travels before I commented.You have a wonderful family and friends ❤️. You light up all of our lives! I hope you have a great time, Alex.
Mama Tatiana May be guarded around her feelings so they aren’t broken again. The hard life you speak of is also in reference to losing her loved ones or being rejected herself. I can not imagine the heartache that goes around giving your child up for adoption. The fact you keep coming back, and giving her gifts and telling her you are there for her means so much. You can tell it’s hard to change her but she is softening. And she wore the jumper you bought her the very next day! That is her way to say she loves you.
I didn't notice she was wearing the jumper. I'll go back and look!
Yes I noticed that as well💖
That’s true! I didn’t noticed that! She did wore it the very next day and she looked so beautiful in it 🥰
How much was gas in Russia?? Just curious.
Yes she did! That morning I said to her, oh wow you look beautiful in this! Great to see you with the new top before I go. She said, of course! :) I didn't know that she would be wearing it the next day!
I'm a 52yo french man and i've discovered your story today. I'm just very happy for you man ! I would have loved to have a son like you ! Love from France.
I love the internet for comments like this ❤️🙏 😘bless you
@@seniorarubia My heart just talked
Theres still time my man. My father was 56yo when I was born. Now I'm 26yo and he is 82yo. He is the person I love the most on this earth and now I do everything in my power for him. Thanks to god he is still very healthy and lucid and Im blessed to have him on my life.
@@arnaldooppitz9107 Ok, you're right. I have no son but 4 daughters ! But you know....well...my wife is 52 yo too ! Thanks for your kindness man and i'm sure your father is proud of you like you're proud of him
@@empty_seat 4 chlidren is enough, many thanks !
* when you are beside your birth mom you look like her! * when you are beside your birth dad you look like him!
So incredibly wonderful!
You are the most beautiful thing in her life! You are the best son she could ever get!
Yay, Alex, your openness & love shattered any wall she may have had.
I don't know if you could imagine being in her shoes but she probably never expected for you to seek her out across the world, let alone, show up on her porch with open arms & true love.
You are a dream come true for a mom who'd suffered such a loss & no reason to hope. Clearly that's a special kind of joy!
Very well said. Such a special son for a biological mother who cares and loves her son. Happy that their relationship is blossoming.
Yes, I agree 💯 percent.
You can tell she has build walls around her to protect herself, her heart. But you can also tell that when she looks at you those walls come down for a brief moment and you can see the love she has for you in her eyes. I’m sure she feels so proud of you. ♥️
No one has the right to judge Tatiana as they haven't walked in her shoes! Alex you have turned out a remarkable young man. Thanks to your adoptive parents.
Alex, you are a light in the darkness to your birth mother. It so honoring and loving what you have chosen to do in having a relationship with her. God's blessing will be on you even more than it already is because of this choice. It is evident that she has known a difficult life, but she did in fact give you life, and her giving you up opened the door to all the blessings you now have. That choice she made, though no doubt devestating at the time, has given way to you blessing her now all these years later. It is such a redemptive relationship Alex, and thank you for sharing it with the world.
you've put that so perfectly, I quite agree!
I can’t imagine the guilt and sense of inadequacy she might’ve lived with all these years. Those feelings can often build an impenetrable wall, but his love broke down any wall that might’ve been there. Gave her permission to feel happiness, she deserves it. Alex really lives “honor thy parent” even when so many people might not have in this scenario.
@@this-is-not-just-a-pr-fail3263 I so agree. My heart was so deeply moved by his loving of his birth mother, I can hardly express it adequately. The power of love is really demonstrated here in a unique way.
This is so beautiful and true ❤️😭🌹
Yes, I agree 💯 percent.Also, I like Vera too,so glad you are traveling together!
Tatiana had the fright/scare of her life when you called her the 1st time and told her that you are her son. She never expected her son to pop up one day. She denied it at first but now she embraces you as one of her few diamonds in her crown. Maybe her only diamond in her crown. She is SOOOOOOO proud of you, Alex!!!! She had a very hard life...and I think her life is still very hard/tough. I don't think she has money laying around or in a savings account. I think she is very poor.
She is very conscious about her smile and teeth and that's why she cover up her mouth every time she smiles. She needs a makeover. You will give her a makeover in New Zealand.... I know you will. She needs to be pampered a little. I just love her. She gave you life. Xxx. WHEN YOU TWO MET FOR THE FIRST TIME...
She knew she is a poor person and from the "wrong side of the train tracks" and then she met you...a smart, educated young man from the upper class and you wanted to hug her and embrace her but.... for a very poor person to be hugged by a "rich" man....it is unheard of in her social groups. That is why she couldn't do it in the beginning. She is warming up every day from that day on. She was scared that you would come to see her....see she is from a lower class than you are...and then you would run and never come back. You have proven to her that you accepts her just like she is and that you are here to stay in her life even from abroad.
(Yes, I know I have an opinion about everything but I grew up on the wrong side of the train tracks....my own mom had no teeth at all and no dentures either because my mom walked the dirt roads of life to bring up 6 kids by her self. Twice, our family dog brought home stolen chickens that my mom could slaughter to feed us. She bought the scraps at the fish and chips shop....the batter and the very small pieces of chips that fell through the basket, to feed us. The shop sold it to her for a few cents. I know the dirt roads of life. I am not living on the "wrong side of the train tracks" anymore and today I have 6 children of my own of whom 3 are biological. My husband and I are busy adopting my 3rd and last child at the age of 55. She is nr 6. My own parents are deceased. )
Ps. Excuse my broken English, it is my 2nd language. The train track eufonism is from my country...maybe in your country it is not called the same. Lots of love from South Africa.
Thank you for writing this, you are beautiful person. Love from Croatia.
This is a powerful message Estelle, thank you for sharing it. Respect from someone from Bulgaria.
It is about forgiveness, empathy , mercy ... redemption. you have a lot of class boy! You have my respect. Is not easy to Tatiana face you and think how it could be different, she was only 17 .
I felt so emotional watching this. As a mother myself, I feel so happy for Tatiana for have giving birth to such a good kind hearted man. I’m sure she feels so proud of you and so happy that you forgive her and decided to have a good relationship with her. You can see the happiness in her face every time she looks at you 🥰
Alex, you're being raised well,thanks to your New Zealand parents.They did a great job :)
yes of course, but this is about his blood-mother.
Euronewzeland parents *
Again in my hometown! I can understand Tatiana, she probably feels confused about this situation. Especially because she can’t afford to buy enough of food and give gifts 😢 I admire you Alex! You are gorgeous guy! For me it could have been impossible, all what you do here... I would probably learned the culture and language , but couldn’t meet the woman who left me, even despite of her circumstances in the past. I was grown in 90s in Rybinsk, on certain days we didn’t have money for food, I was able to see my mother fighting for any chance to give us something. So many people around us have ended up in alcohol as a result of hard life, and I don’t judge them - some of us are strong enough , some are not. 90s definitely were challenging for many young people in Rybinsk at their 20s. Could you imagine a town with only one cafe which was closed because nobody had money? But my school was perfect despite of the situation in general. Hungry teachers were giving us everything and even tried to change their dresses 5 days a week in order to look decent before us.
@@ЛюдмилаВладимировна-я4й не был там с 2015 года, но смотрел видео про реконструкцию центра. Он хорош. Другой вопрос в том, что в Рыбинске страшная депопуляция. Когда я там жил, в городе было 250 тысяч жителей, кажется, а сейчас меньше 190 тысяч. Очень много суицидов, преждевременных смертей от алкоголя, бытовых убийств опять-таки на фоне алкоголя. Хотя, пожалуй, вся страна сейчас пьёт намного меньше, чем в 90х
You are also a man with good thoughts 👍👍 the life is often hard and bad for too many people in the world receive all my sympathy from France 😊👋
Thank you for providing some background into life in Rybinsk during the 90s. I knew things were difficult but I had no idea that things were that challenging. We are looking at the situation from the present, not knowing the past. Спасибо.
@@ЛюдмилаВладимировна-я4й Ochen’ tyajelo chitat’ vospominania epohi razrushenia Souza. Ne mogu s derjat’ slez...
I notice that your birth mother always leans in closer to you!
Awww 🥰 ty for not crucifying the woman
I love Vera! She's such a good soul, very pretty and great sense of humor!
@@Anca820 I thought he has girlfriend already 🤔
@@gregorysmiley4084 Didn't know that.
She is só funny!
I think we are all secretly wondering........ 🤷🏼♀️
@@tracywild5258 Hi Tracy! Don't worry. No I am single. Vera is a friend of mine but I am talking to a few girls at the moment. Don't worry. No marriage just yet!
Can I just say... WE ALL NEED A VERA IN OUR LIFE! She's such a ball of good vibes!
Edit: Also, when you see Tatyana for the 10th time she will definitely start coming out of her shell a lot more. Each visit is giving her the confidence she so needs :)
Alex, you are absolutely right to do this and not to hold it against her and to let her know that because she was NOT able to take care of you adequately and she knew it was a good orphanage where you would be well cared for! No one should judge anyone harshly for making such a difficult decision when they have lived such a difficult life! You never know what you would do until you have experienced those circumstances!
Alex, your mama Tanya suffered a lot and she is finally happy. She will find strength in you , love for you and use it to heal. For your adopted parents; they are wonderful people and raised great son. Best wishes. 💕
As a mother who raised 2 adoptees and encouraged their own “birth family connections”, I understand and congratulate you, for what you did. You are very correct about the bonds of being raised in a loving and caring family.
Sasha I said almost a year or more ago that Tatiana will go to NZ sometime, just give her space. Wow and you have just confirmed it, so the naysayers was wrong, I was right. Tatiana is an amasing woman, she has my love and respect. Vera is such a wonderful person 🤩
You are a wonderful person and a wonderful son to ALL your parents. Always enjoy watching your videos. Take care
I don't understand people who make judgements about women who have given their child up for adoption. They have given the gift of life when it would be so easy to take an alternative route. I had a friend who tried to commit suicide after giving her child up for adoption. No one knew how hard it had been for her until she ended up in a psychiatric unit. I know that she had made it clear to Social Welfare that if her child wanted to contact her then her details should be made available. They did make contact years later. We lost touch so I don't know if the relationship was ongoing and positive, however, watching you, Alex, I hope that my friend's child has the same loving acceptance. All of your parents must be so proud.
You and Mama T. look very precious together, and although you smile like Mischa, you have her beautiful round Russian face. To the people who say you shouldn't have sought her out, ignore them. You have done such thoughtful, beautiful things for her. This is simply you being an amazing human. PS: Vera is very pretty and you two get along so well!
Yes, Anca. Alex looks like a genuine Russian man in terms of his appearance. He has a big heart too, which he probably inherited genetically from his birth parents but probably even more so from his excellent upbringing. I am glad his birth mom is opening up to him now that she sees that he doesn't hate her for what she did. I think she's struggling with shame and guilt but Alex's attitude is so helpful, she is slowly melting and opening up.
You are giving your birth mother life. It's beautiful to watch.
One small step for man, one giant step for Alex🌟
Alex you are a son to be proud of! The love and patience you have with mama Tatiana has slowly broken those thick boundaries she has put between herself and life. I also suspect she's more nervous when the camera is on her, therefore stops her being herself, she feels awkward around all this media attention and it shows. Also who knows what demons she's fighting daily with the life she has been given. Alex you are that light that she thought never existed! Good on you!! This will definately have a great ending in the long run for all of you. xxx
I think it was the bravest thing as a mother she did and speaks volumes she never had another child. Your birth mum is beautiful, please let her know from a little lady loving in Newcastle UK 💚💚💚💚
When you are not used to receiving heartfelt gifts it can be really overwhelming ....
Your mom seems so shy. But she is very beautiful. I think there is something on her that makes her so shy. Specially when she always cover her smile. She is very beautiful. Enjoyed your video so happy for Tatiana. She is so blessed for having such a wonderful son like you Alex. Have a great day!
I was crying the whole time when I watched this.Your such a good youngman. Your mom and dad in NZ raise you well. Keep it loving ur birthmom.
Ohhh that's so sweet that you bought her stuff.
I’ve been following your journey Alex and how lovely for you to be strengthening your bond with Tatiana . Best wishes to both of you .
Bud. From Seattle, I'm watching now, but 20 percent through. I had to stop to say this: you are a beautiful young man in just about every way I can think to measure. Good on you and your marvelous Russian family. How damn fortunate they all are to have just a brilliant son/cousin/and all the rest to bring joy and love.
In all of this? Your parents in Oz. Geeze, man.
They raised a person who is a credit to all of us.
They are very seriously: heroes.
Hugs all the way around.
Tough world.
You've made it a smidgen more beautiful.
Thanks.
Oh, damn! In my excitement being able to share your journey, your so not an Ozzie! Damn. Sorry! Does it matter? Of course, not. You are simply a stunningly beautiful young soul.
Hug.
I'm switching you to a remarkable Kiwi. Fixed?
Agree
Your face lights up when you see her too. It's beautiful.
She seems like such a nice person, I don't know why anyone would criticize her. It shows she really cares for Alex, just seeing the way shee looks at him you know there is that connection. She's such a thankful person as well. Lovely.
I bet the happiest moment of her life was when she first saw you again.
Vera is wonderful! Mama Tatiana looks beautiful in her new yellow sweater!
Oh, I am so,so happy for you and Mama Tatiana! Everything you did, showed your love for her and I can tell she was really happy. Thank you for your friend driving and encouraging you!
Tatiana wanted more for you than she thought she could provide. That is a special thing, she sacrificed loving & knowing you so perhaps your life would be bigger. She must have been terrified not having a family herself to show her what a parent is, She was without that reference. Who was she going to turn to for help and advice? like how to stop a baby from crying. Where she came from babies were probably left to cry until there was time for staff to give care. Her life is nothing to be ashamed of. How many things surround you is not a measure of a good life. I have next to nothing but I have friends and I enjoyed my life. I laughed and had fun, I toured 43 out of 50 states of America. toured England too. Mabe her life was meeting people hearing their stories. Ask her to tell you about them and their stories, about the history of her country and places she lived. I think she is amazing. And she has wisdom to give. I'm glad I stumbled across your story.
Heart of Gold. A young man with a heart and Ministry of Reconciliation. GOD bless.
My sincere condolences to mama Tanya for the passing of her beloved Andrei...😥❤️ I would say that, physically, you, Alex, Sacha, look 50%-50% Tanya and Misha. You're this perfect mix of your birth moma and papa, which probably makes both of them happy when they look at you. How cool you went to spend time with her, it's so heartwarming. She deserves it. She's your birth mom, and also, when you look at it, her placing you at the orphanage led to the brightest possible future you could have had, right? She had made the best possible decision, the best she could in her situation, that's obvious. I hope she will find the strength in her to fight for a better future for herself, better health, to look forward to traveling places with you, both in Russia and in New Zealand. Much love to you guys from Belgrade, Serbia. ❤️👍
Alex, you are a gem. Vera is a wonderful help to you. The meeting with your mother went well. Looking back to your first encounter with your birth other and this one there has been an obvious change in her relationship with you. For what little it's worth here are my thoughts: When Tatiana put you in the orphanage, she probably thought she would never see you again. Your appearance on her doorstep some 20 years later put her in a state of shock having to deal with something she thought she would never have to cope with. Through your persistence in keeping contact with her she has slowly come to accept that you are back in her life and that it is a good thing. Your father didn't know that you existed and was thrilled that you made the effort to find him. He didn't live with the guilt of having put you in an orphanage. That's my armchair psychological appraisal. I hope it just keeps getting better for all of you.
I am so pleased you have made the trip/adventure to see the special person who gave you life. Everyone of your parents are special, you are such a blessed man. I love that you can love her and understand that she did what she knew to do at the time in her situation. Please continue to connect with her, my heart aches for her.
I love this restoration story. A story of reconciliation, making something broken whole again. This is so pure
You're such a good SON,you deserved all the happiness on earth...
Alex, you are quite simply, a beautiful person, so full of love. How blessed are both your adoptive and biological parents, because you are special.
I hope you both enjoy every moment together!❤❤
How kind of you to take us with you on this intimate adventure!
Continue to follow your heart Sasha!!!
Thank you Vera for being so kind and so supportive and so positive!
You do look just like her! She’s looking good! Wonderful video!
Fun fact - name of the Rybinsk town literally means Fish town. In 16-17th century there used to be a settlement for fishermen who were exempt from taxes - Rybnaya sloboda - Fish village. And it stuck so well that this name stood its test of time though it was called different in late 80s.
This is a beautiful video Alex. You're a wonderful son.
I'm so happy for you and Tanya. As a mother I can only imagine how much your growing relationship with her is cherished. You are doing what is in your heart and what is right for you so don't dwell on any negativity directed at your choices. Your life, your rules. As always, best wishes Alex !
His poor Mom is so self-conscious, I think because she may not have any teeth...I wish we could fund raise to help her get some dentures....is that possible?
Yes but it’s about not pushing too much on her - could be something down the line to do of course. I agree :) Completely!
@@alexgilbert Yes, I understand. 💕
@@alexgilbert we could have a fund raiser and call it tats for Tats - love you both.
You do not need to talk about the gift giving. I think that what you are doing about growing closer to your birth parents while respecting and loving your adopting parents is wonderful. Wishing all good things go your way.
Alex, your story is simply amazing. You obviously did the right thing reaching out to your birth parents, one can see clearly they are both so proud of you. But I would love to see a video of your NZ family also. Clearly they are wonderful persons with a big heart having raised such a compassionate and well-mannered young man. Have you considered making them part of your story on this channel? I see your Russian is improving also, good job! Although my native language is Romanian, I have spoken Russian since early childhood being raised in on one of the ex-Soviet republics. My wife is a native Russian speaker as well, so you can probably guess I have a good command of the language. And I do, but I still struggle with verb endings from time to time to this day! It's a super hard language, so don't be discouraged if you're struggling. Praying for you and your entire international family! God bless and best of wishes from Moldova.
I’m crying,your mum so lucky to raise such a good Son like you.I still remember when my mum told me about how so many people want to adopt me and my siblings after my Father passed away.But my mum refused to give up us to them,so she look after us and doing her best to raise us.She doing two job to give us better life and education.Bcoz before my Father passed away he told my mum to not give any of his children’s to anyone even they offer lots of money.My Mother kept her promise and I really proud of her.But everyone living in different situations so we can’t judge them unless we know the real story but still no matter what at the end they still our parents.That person who give birth to us,without them we are not here in this world.I wish all the best to you and your family.
Never stop showing how much you love your parents while they are still with us. And yes, take a lot of photos with them for one day it will be a treasure.
Alex, it's absolutely heart warming to watch and listen to you. Your love, sensitivity and respect is obviously a reflection of who you are and a tribute to your parents who raised you. Well done. Your story is beautiful and I just love the way you handle things. Love wins out.
Hello .I am Anandhi from India.watching your videos regularly.Good values you had inculcated from luckily both your parents.Today many old parents are left in old age homes it's nice you tried to connect with your biological parents and see the happiness in their face without making them to feel a sense of guilt.Good young man .May you blessed by good souls who read and feel the love you spread to humanity.🙏🙏🙏🙏
You are an incredibly beautiful soul....so is your birth mum...your wonderful parents and your gorgeous friend vera. Love is priceless.
Alex always remember giving up a child only seperated you physically your mother would have had U in her mind and heart all the time th our child never goes away I know this personally and U make her so very happy congratulations on finding Ur mum
You are such a gift to your Biological Mom and everyone else, Dear Alex 😇🤩🤓
Your Mother saved your life
Hard life in Russia years ago young little help
You are Great Son to honor your Mother loving her for who she is .
❤
Alex! I cannot imagine how hard it was for your mother to give up such a beautiful son. My son is my whole world. Your kindness towards your mother is so touching. I'm practically in tears. You deserve the best!
Alex, while you were smiling, seeing your mum, I was shedding tears...very touching 🙄
Thanks for sharing your weekend with your sweet Mother. .
Do you plan to visit her again on this trip?
Yes! I plan to see her again very soon!
So happy for you Alex. And yes you look so much like your mother but you have your father's personality.
Excellent vlog Alex. Your Mum looks well and pleased to see you. Vera is an absolute darling, really enjoyed her positive supportive attitude. Blessings from New Zealand and keep safe and warm.
I can tell your birth mother is very happy to see you too. You made the right decision connecting with her. You are healing her past and broken heart so your future generations can have a peaceful and harmonious life.
I love the yellow sweater you gave her.
God bless you Alex!
Alex, don't pass up Vera. Bring her home with you! Seems like a nice girl....otherwise ask her if she would like to live in San Diego California ; )
I was thinking about the same thing for Alex. Vera is simply awesome! However, we do not know anything about her marital status. If anything, she makes such a great friend for Alex. Alex has very big heart. My wish for him to meet a right person to value his virtures and support his views on life.
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I know an incredible lady from Russia whose name is also Vera. She is just like your Vera! Her voice, her personality, her English language - she says “Aw Come on” the same exact way. But her life has been more like Tatiana’s and finds warm, close relationships difficult. Still, she is a lovely and interesting person. Best of luck in your journey.
When I heard your mom’s story and saw her picture from her youth, I could tell she had a difficult childhood, but I know you are bringing her so much joy now❤️❤️
You look so much like your birth mom.She is so much more relaxed and happy you found her.🥰🥰🥰🥰
The world needs more people like you
As an adoptee, it's been amazing watching these videos. I am so glad for you, your Birthmother, your BirthFather, and your Adopted parents. What a wonderful journey for you and for your families
She probably never knew real love from her parents and she's desperate for being loved and not judged. Amazing that you Alex have a massive heart like a real Russian. ♥️
I saw your video the first time you met your birth mum and dad and today I see this video , I'm so glad you are helping your birth mum my sister gave her baby up for adoption and cried every night for her baby , your mum gave you away for a reason and no one will ever understand unless they have been through something like this, you should be so proud of yourself for helping your mum god bless you 💕
Your parents really raised you right because you've become a really wonderful man. I totally get connecting with your birth mom and I also get that your parents are very special for being so supportive. God bless you all.
You are a good son. Your adoptive parents I can tell are great and good people. God bless you, and your two families.
Alex, you are a great son to your parents and to your birth parents! Family is so big! It is those who raised us, those who brought us to life. It is all of it! I love watching you connect to your Russian side!
Tatiana seems so much more at ease with you now. Looks like you’ve made a real, lasting and loving connection. I’ll admit that I had a few happy tears watching this.
Greetings from the East Coast of the USA! What a beautiful soul you are. Tatiana is a very lucky woman.
Alex - wonderful video once again. You are obviously an old soul to have such a kind, open and mediating spirit with no begrudging your fate. I didn't realize your birth mother lived in Rybinsk. I visited friends there for New Year's many years ago. We spent some time in the city then drove north to what they called a resort near a huge reservoir built by Stalin. There wasn't a lot of daylight at that time of year, so I don't recall much about the town, but I do remember walking along the Volga.
Here is a little piece of advice about your Russian, which I can tell is going to be really wonderful and fluent if you keep working on it. The word for yesterday "вчера" has two syllables only(!) with the stress being on the second syllable. Because the ч follows the в, the в is "assimilated" into an "f" sound. So it is pronounced fche-RAH. The trick to pronouncing the first two consonants is to start to say "f" then change it immediately to "ch." It takes a little practice, but you'll realize it's not really hard. You're getting great practice while you're there. Again, молодец!
If anyone who does not know what FORGIVENESS and LOVE means, just watch this video and listen to him talking in the end.
You were raised well by your parents in New Zealand. God bless them too.
Seeing your journey from first meeting your biological Parents and to see how your bonds with them have strengthened over the years is beautiful. So pleased to see how more happy your mother is now from your first visit its like you have brought light into her life.
Incredible few days with Mama Tatiana. Thank you for sharing. Thank you to Vera for being such a support to you. Mama Tatiana is incredibly lucky to have you in her life and your understanding and kindness and empathy for her and her situation and her life are wonderful from such a young man. I know as you continue to build your relationship with her she will open up more to you and you will end up with a relationship that is rewarding to both of you.
You have an amazing personality, Alex....I can see how pure your love is..for your NZ parents, for half siblings, for birth mother, birth father family....
You are a very special man .Its a grand thing you are doing and your parents must be so proud.
I watched the documentary and then found this video... Whilst you connected immediatly with your father, it was clear your mother was very reserved and almost ashamed. We need to put ourselves in her shoes and I deeply believe, sometimes, giving a child up for adoption can be the greatest sign of love a parent can give. She was barely an adult, lived in an orphanage herself and probably didn't have the means to take care of a baby like they need. It must have hurt her deeply and it probably was the most painful thing to live up with. I'm glad you found her and didn't have any resentments towards her. If I were in her shoes, I would be glad to know I made the "right" decision and allowed my child to have the life he deserved. You're a great person. Your adoptive parents have clearly raised you to be a compassionate man. All the best to you and your family!
I just came across this video. Alex you're incredible person full of love and respect to your biological mother. Yes we must try our best to be good to our mothers. You have pure beautiful heart. Hats off to you.
Mama T has lots of pain in her. Keep giving her love. Life is beautiful. Vera(?) Your friend is a beautiful soul I want to hang out with her
Alex that was so wonderful that u make it ur duty to see ur birth mom . Sometimes we hit with circumstances that we can’t handle and it seems like that is what happen to ur mom, god must continue to bless u for being such a good son
18:17 she’s wearing your gift 🎁 the very next day!!!!!
Your a very special loving son, this was all ment to be. Roads are not always straight in life, no one should judge others when they don't know the situation people have endured. Your special kindness shows through. Xxx
It's clear to see that Tatiana loves you very much and is glad that you have returned to her life. Thank you for sharing your journey with us!
Love the way she has warmed up since first reconnecting. The way she put her head on your shoulder at the last was beautiful 😍
Beautiful pictures already! We are very happy to see both of you together! Hugs and kisses to Tatyana and you! Best regards from Slovenia!
Уже красивые картинки! Мы очень рады видеть вас обоих вместе! Обнимаю и целую Вас и Татьяну! С наилучшими пожеланиями из Словении!
It brings tears to my eyes, Alex , when you and your birth mom bond together. Its so touching. She is gradually opening up to you. And all that you do for her is precious. May be give her some money every month for her food. Greetings from India.
I love you all. The power of love overcomes all obstacles and heals the brokenhearted. It is an honor to hear such a story. Love Vera, too. She reminds me of my Russian friend, Sasha, I knew as a dancer in my younger days. God bless you and this journey of love.