a week in my life living alone
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- Опубликовано: 8 сен 2024
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here's a little bit of what it's been like for me living alone! it mostly consists of me working at home, occasionally spending time with friends, decorating the apartment, and buying random, little things i don't need (*cough* my vintage little women book) just so i have something to look forward to i'll admit it's pretty chill and almost mundane? but overall, i am still incredibly appreciative and grateful to be able to live the life i have rn. (thx to u guys) also! update: i went to the concert and talked to many people !! granted it was extremely awkward at times, but i still did it soo i count it as a success.
lots of love,
Dustin
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chapters:
0:38 - my weekend: time with friends + flea market
1:53 - late night chat about life updates and social anxiety
6:27 - a word from our sponsor!
8:06 - a productive, work day
9:22 - a lil unboxing
11:08 - working on decorating the apartment
13:16 - getting a new guitar
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music:
Grace Chiang - sleeping on the floor - thmatc.co/?l=8...
liana flores - rises the moon - thmatc.co/?l=1...
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i relate to not being able to socialise with big groups. i get so self-conscious about when to enter the conversation, what to say to make people laugh, etc it's so stressful. one-on-ones are so much easier and less intimidating
I have felt like this for so long and haven’t able to articulate or explain that kind of feeling but you spelled out exactly how I feel
OMG YESSSSS i literally thought about this last night when i went to this event like 200-300 people and i just got so overwhelmed, my mouth zipped : ) you’re not alone pallll
Same here. It frustrates me sometimes but when I do force the socialization I feel kind of foolish afterwards like I either sounded dumb or I didn't act a certain way.
something i find myself doing when i try to make new friends is over share EVERYTHING. and i told my therapist about that and she said that you’re not the only one responsible keeping the conversation. if there is a awkward silence, try letting the other person say something first instead because it’s not only your responsibility to keep the conversation going :) you don’t need to overshare to have a good conversation with with someone
This is so true. I really needed to hear/read this. Thank you for sharing
what he said about socializing in big groups is so relatable i feel like i never know what to do when im with alot of people
I'm in university and I find I have a lot of those moments that feel odd and empty, just like you do; especially so because of online classes making it next to impossible to make friends. But I find watching vlogs like yours helps me fill those odd, empty moments with peace, thank you for that. : )
same lol
At some point, you realize the difference between being alone and being lonely.
so true! it took me months to learn this, but once i did i’ve started to cherish my time alone so much more
This is so true 👏
opening youtube and BOOM dustin had just dropped a video is another type of happiness
I’m a pro over sharer, I get to know someone new and get attached and tell them the most personal things and details, I feel comfortable around those types of people who also feel that way too ❤️ the people who don’t feel that comfortable over sharing or just listening or getting to know someone like me / us, make me feel so much more introverted by the end of the day and it’s like “well I’m never socialising ever again” followed by not talking in social situations and it being a little hard to open up to someone else
I absolutely adore the way you edit, you constantly get better and better. You make my day everytime you post, have a good week Dustin!
if you need constant company, get a pet! a dog with lovable warmth and attention or a cat with a kinda 'toxic' relationship but is a cutie anyway, it's your choice to pick! i hope this helps, Dustin! ♡
man I've been watching you for a while and seeing you now feels so strange, like I watched you grow up lmao
Omg same
He literally discussed my fear for a very long time. Socializing is really hard in big groups and I'll go to college in a few months. Wish me luck
At this point this topic of feeling social anxiety hit me hard. Not only because it’s true but because I understand you. I hate myself and I hate how I’m always trying to do better for myself but I never accomplish anything. I tell myself that I will improve on talking to others more but I tend to not say anything as if my mind got blocked lol. I don’t like that when I try to talk to people they never put effort into adding more onto the conversation; it always ends being an awkward moment for us. It makes me feel like I’m the one who should lead the conversations but in reality we all have to put our part in them. I shouldn’t be the one to overshare and take over the conversation because the only thing I do is stay silent. I usually have nothing to say which is something I dislike about myself. My life feels so boring to me that I don’t feel like telling people about it. Anyways sorry for the rant lol
DUSTIN you look so good in jeans and an undershirt... like it's so simple but gives such a relaxed VIBE
Is this sentence is not the embodiment of pretty privilege / halo effect I don't know what is lmao
i can definitely relate with enjoying being present. it’s important to just simply enjoy everything and be grateful with what we have 😌
I just bought Japanese Breakfast tickets and I’m thrilled!!! No one else I know (I live in NC) likes her music so I feel so much less alone because you like her too haha
i love the way he edits. it's so calm and aesthetically pleasing 😌✨
I have some tips for the classics! First of all, there is no shame in looking at the wikis! I do that to look at themes in the book, which helps me better understand the meaning the author is trying to convey. Another thing for specifically Jane Austen books is that they’re comedies and often have the same energy as The Office (this applies mostly to Emma)
I can totally relate with you and find it so relieving that you are talking about it. thank you !! Social anxiety drives me mad like real and it is so exhausting for me , i literally go into a corner or talk to 1 person, at leat I try to. In subways I always think everyone is starring at me or get highly intimidated when someone sits right in front of me. Or when I hear other people laughing I keep thinking 'oh they're taking about me' it's a process but with time it can hopefully get easier 🌃🙋♀️✨🌺
dustin you make me insanely happy
Today I finished reading little women 🥺 your book looks so pretty!! I know you will enjoy the story, it’s very beautiful❤️
i definitely relate to what you said about those odd moments where life feels empty, i struggle with being alone a lot and not having other people around to distract me from the thoughts in my own head. but watching your videos somehow makes me view loneliness in a new light and makes it seem comforting even
this channel is my comfort place
I’m about to move out and I’m excited but nervous! Thanks for showing us your living alone journey Dustin 🥰
Best of luck! :)
I can relate so much to not being able to socialize with bigger groups. My strong points are talking to smaller groups of people or just with one person. I always feel like I lose a bit of myself when interacting with bigger groups, cause its hard for me to fully express who i am. I've been thinking about this a lot lately. Thank you for sharing this with us, I really thought it was just me.
best way to start my Sunday!!
i am so obsessed with ur channel ! have been binge watching !!! i just find i can relate to u sooo freaking much !! i literally lost is when u started talking about reading the classic books and not being understand bc same like romeo and juliet i watched it all didnt understand a thing but loved every minute!!! love love love u !!!!!!
I love ur videos dustin !!!
i'm interested in anything you say dustin :~) also the bedtime chat was so relatable
i was having a weird start to my day and this video was so calming and comforting :^) thank you for keeping me company this morning
one of my favorite comfort youtubers
It feels so so good when you hear your fav song (rises the moon) in your fav RUclipsr vlog ^~^
crying in h mart!!!!! love michelle so much, cant wait to read it x
it's my birthday today! i'm spending it alone for the most part, but i like the fact your video showed up when it did, it was like my own little birthday present :)
happy birthday!
@@asi8475 thank you ^^
For me, being one on one with someone is way scarier, because the silences fall more often. Being in a big group means I can be silent and just listen to the conversation that's going on. Then again, being in a group but not participating isn't really socialising i guess..
@@burzynskaadrianna I feel you ! I've switched friends or friendgroups every year in highschool. I've never had friendships that lasted longer than 3 years. I know I do look like I have a lot of friends, but most of them are kind of toxic friendships that don't make me feel good. I think in every age rangr there will be people open to new friendships ! i wish you good luck
@@maurademi3006 It's actually impressive you read my comment because I literally deleted it within a few minutes.. sorry to hear about those not so great friendships, I.m actually wondering in what way you meant it but thanks anyway and wish you all the best too!
@@burzynskaadrianna oh haha. sorry if it made u uncomfortable. I meant that most of my 'friends' show very little to no interest in my life and how i'm doing. I always listen to their problems and everything but never the other way round. I'm like a second choice for them. The person they forget come to when their other friends aren't around.
@@maurademi3006 it is sad to hear and really unfair but yeah I can relate... I actually had a crazy situation the other day at work when i spent my entire 45-minutes lunch break listening to my team mate and she like didnt ask me a single question while i kept asking her about her life and everything and she like totally did not ask me a freaking single question back and never followed it up when I tried to say something about myself. I know I let people be like that but these days I really wish I had someone who cares a bit about me but I also know that it's hard for others to care about me the way I am.
@@burzynskaadrianna Don't blame 'the way you are' !! I do this often as well, but it's not the way to find real friends (maybe this is why i don't have any real friends- I try to morph myself into their personality so they'll like me). Your experience sounds like it sucked :/ I hope you can find someone that listens too
you are like.. soulmate material
HONESTLY this is the first video of yours that i watched and THE LEVEL of the relatableness is max rn
i cant believe its been three years since i first watched a video made by you omg
i just rewatched one of these old vids and its so amazing to see how much youve changed!
0:20 I'd just like to say that this is SO true with social events organized by college/teen/whatever. Being the first one because you're early or on time kinda sucks and has taught me to be late. But doing this has also made it SO hard for me to practice showing up on time for other things. Example: concerts, business meetings, FUNerals. It's just ruff out here
every time i watch your videos i can't get over your editing style, just *chef's kiss*
loved the edit but also the way you express yourself and your feelings is so interesting to me, like the words you choose are so precise idk if u get this but maybe it's just something that i can't do so i find it amusing...
I seriously get so happy and warm when I watch your videos. I am so glad that you're feeling more present.😌
God these vlogs make me so happy
woke up early to do my maths homework, thank u for accompanying me while i did it
just know that you make my day so much dustin! it's okay to feel alone, gives you time to think for yourself and the things around you.
Oh ma gawd, I was JUST, like JUST finding a video to rewatch, and this literally popped up.
i don't care if people think it's superficial, i will always search for and buy the prettiest edition of a book cover (classic or not) ✨
For Crying in H-Mart, I didn't expect to cry either because I didn't expect to relate super strongly to Michelle (I'm a white woman), but I ended up crying around 3/4 of the way through it. I ended up relating strongly to her fear around losing her mom and her grief--losing my mom while I'm young is one of my biggest fears/worries.
Ive been watching your videos for a pretty long time and i just wanted to say that seeing how much youve changed to the better makes me feel proud and emotional every time idk 😭 you've always been my fav youtuber and will always be, you always inspire me and motivate me to do things i never thought I would
even if you're not happy all the time right now, I'm still proud of you for trying everyday and for building a nice life for yourself Dustin
i didn't cry in crying in h mart until the last few chapters but when i tell u i SOBBED ... hit me out of nowhere too
I feel like classics take some time to get used to. when you jump from a modern book to such an old book it necessitates kind of a culture shift so if you want to read one just go ahead and read it slower. Sometimes it isn't important to understand every single word that comes out of someone's mouth as long as you get the gist of it :) (i remember reading withering heights after a long break of not reading classics and i was so bored and i couldn't understand so much but the emotional parts were still so amazing :) ) they're usually remembered for a reason so keep trying!!
It relates to me=)). I used to get self-conscious when talking in a big group. It was so hard for me to talk with people, even a word. I think the reason is that, I was not confident enough to face that bunch of pp. But now, everything's getting better, I know who am I, what is my weakness and my prominent strenght. I feel free when commumicate with people even strangers....
am i the only one that agrees that Dustin's dancing part was the best
I feel so calm when I watch your videos. Thank you
YOUR LIFE IS LITERALLY A GHIBLI MOVIE , love your aesthetic a lot
100% relate on the big groups thing. in big groups i unintentionally tend to be quiet and not talk and end up just listening to everyone else's convos.
i love your videos and I have nothing else to say jfjs but for real they’ve become such a nice place to chill. I always come here whenever I feel anxious so thank u so much and I hope your life only brings you good things 💞✨
orchids r so cute
I could totally relate to being socially anxious, and over sharing 🙃 I've recently started watching you and I have enjoying it!
I'm experiencing the same thing living by myself for the first time. I hate just sitting in silence, it's like a reminder of how alone I am and how empty the space feels with just me. So I constantly have music or podcasts or TV shows playing so I don't feel as alone, and it actually kinda helps ☆
i do the same! the speed i go thru binge watching shows is scary
@@dustinvuong yes same!! I watch a few episodes every day and finish shows so fast, and then I'm sad that I have nothing else to watch :')
I love watching your videos while I do homework and cleaning. These videos are motivational, relatable and relaxing. thank you so much
OMG YOUR BROWN BAG IS SO PRETTYYYYYYYYYY
Where did u buy it :'' btw love u a lot bestie
This brought me so much comfort and peace - thank you for sharing you beautiful human✨
i love u! all your videos gives me so much comfort and i thank u for that
we need more vids like this dustin this was great
the sheer thought of you putting your camera in the fridge and then taking it back out after you got that shot makes me giggle
your videos just give me good vibes
You’re literally my new favorite RUclipsr❤️❤️❤️
I really love all your videos! They have been giving me endless and indescribable good vibes!
omg the effort and how amazing he edits omg i love his videos and these types are so goooodddd
I listened to the audio of that book and I cried towards the very end
Can I just say that I discovered your channel like a week ago and for some reason at this time of my life I can say this corner of the internet is my new safe place aw
the countertop posture felt so real lmao i thought it was just me up there with a bowl of cereal when i feel sad anw as always dustin coming through with these vlogs
How you edited the flea market haul ✨✨✨👏🏼 (and everything tbh)
So happy rn your i dont know why but u makes me happy
Positive energy sunshine
Regarding the guitar; no guitar plays the same. Even with it being the same type and brand, there may be different. and so, when you try out a guitar in the store and like it; it makes sense that they give you that exact one ; )
Dustin man why are your teeth so prefect???
I hit the Like button so quick once you started jamming while decorating cause that’s a mood ✌️✨
i feel like if you would start a podcast. i would listen and listen and repeat all podcasts. bc you talk so smoothly and talk about such relatable stuff.
Your copy of Little Women is beautiful btw, and, as a book, it's really good (I mean, Timothee being in the movie makes the story like 200000x better obviously) Anyway, I think you'll be able to understand it pretty well. It's one of the easier classics I've read. Definitely the most enjoyable! It's got such a nostalgic tone to it, kinda like your videos. They both make me wanna live a life of purpose aha. I have been seeing those Rowling books on your shelves for years lol, so I knew in a sense that you were a reader, but now, as I'm finishing your older videos and finding my way through your recent ones (which is such a sad process btw, I am mourning your childhood for you, praising your vulnerability throughout it all in a span of days) but I'm finding that you are reading a lot more now. I love how reading can help us cope, and I know on a personal level how truly it does. Reading keeps us from loneliness, from sadness, allows us to feel someone else's, to be in another life, and walk in another's shoes. It is cool to think you're finding that; I hope you enjoy the book and what it can bring you, where it might.
I LOVE YOU
Your editing is so aesthetic Dustin!!! 😍😍✨✨✨
love ya
Getting a pet (if your apartment allows) especially a cat or reptile as they tend to be fairly chill and good for smaller space living but can give you that feeling of company. Or a dog if you feel you’ve got a good space!
i actually have a dog already but sadly my apartment doesn’t allow pets so i couldn’t bring him with me :( but hopefully in my next apartment!
loving your videos more and more every time you upload
i love your videos dustin
you really inspire me so much-- i wish to have a lifestyle like yours when i grow up :D
u and benji are friends???? my fav asian youtubers let's go
Love you Dustin!!!❤️
that little women book though????????????????????ß so pretty :3
A way to make friends is maybe get all your mutuals bring another friend you have never met at a picnic or something. That way everyone gets to meet someone new 🥰
Love and support ❤
You're literally my crush!!
I wish we could be friends, because sometimes I feel the same loneliness, I'd like to help you!:)
I had a similar guitar you bought! But I sold it because the neck was so thick and I couldn't reach the strings properly. But I got myself a new one and now I play it way easier.
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I feel this on so many levels .. anyone wanna be friends 🥺
same on classics, I tried reading Pride and Prejudice and I did not understand yet I read until page 50 so who knows
Facebook marketplace can be exactly how you said. Someone was trying to sell a phone that was 4-5 years old and not supported for 600. A TV for like 500 and it wasn't a big one. Some tables and chairs for like 200
Dang. I feel like for where I live it's the complete opposite. I live in the south so no one's playing with you down here lol
@@maebunny5298 lucky you.
8:40 I love this look, with the hat and all❤️
This is so funny, because you literally described me at minute 10:47, I also want to collect all the classics but I don't understand the dialogues very much, I get very lost in some parts, anyway I will collect them anyway.