So nice to see a man who is single, sitting with others who are married on a table and talking about marriage. His point of not getting married is a good choice, nowadays do people come and go and if you felt in love with someone and you thought the person loves you back, turn often into they don't love you as much as you loved them. Or if you have friends you liked and they go forever out of your life, it hurts as well
Well said I feel this way too I did once want to get married but then though about it for along time and decided I don't ever want too marriage isn't for everyone I'm glad that Namjoom spoke about this was many feel this way too if he doesn't want to ever marry thats perfectly fine. It's his choice .
His full answer is interesting, he used to want to get married but nowadays he doesn't know if he can be in love all his life. Also he is afraid of having kids who misbehave like he did as a kid XDDD
As a 90s born person I so relate with Namjoon, I know as a woman marriage and kids are expected of me in this society especially in Asian society but these things never appealed to me, the thought of being trapped in a marriage scares me to death, I rather stay single forever and focus on my job and family and my life goals than getting married🤷♀️
I used to think the way that Namu did, that it was an inevitable event but as time passed and I experienced abusive relationships I started to fear that getting married was going to trap me in a situation that I couldn’t escape from. And my father passing makes me doubt further that marriage is destined for me as the parts that make the ceremony special like my partner having asked my father for my hand in marriage and being walked down the aisle and being given into my husband’s hands are no longer possible. I may yet find myself married, I just don’t expect it anymore. 🤷🏼♀️
@@CrInqs52000 You are right I also agree with joonie. I saw my relatives and friends marriage being failed and treating their wife as a toy. I am scared of marriage now. I want to live single.
@@Taetaeland1342 It’s sad that it’s that way now honestly. A woman saying no to anything is just assumed to be playing hard to get and their no is disregarded. I’ve seen too many videos uploaded by ladies who are just minding their own business and who are then approached but when they repeatedly state that they’re not interested have even had their property damaged like this one video where a lady was going to her vehicle after shopping and some guy ran his shopping cart into her car damaging it after she told him no multiple times, that she was good and didn’t need help loading her groceries. To me that’s assault because if she hadn’t purposely put her vehicle between them he could’ve seriously hurt her personally and that shit needs to stop like yesterday.
I agree with Namjoon and anyone who has no issue of being single until they are 100% sure of their love for someone and vice versa. People who RUSH marriage or STUCK in arranged marriages that end up being DV or controlling etc have no way of getting out of it same with young couple relationships if their still mentally growing themselves and don’t know what theyre getting into when it comes to committing to someone thinking it will be forever or until they get tired of each other and start acting out those types are worthless. *When individuals are destined to be together then GOD will let you know if it’s right or not, don’t always go by flesh feelings of deceived LOVE going head first into an unpredictable relationship.*
Why can't I find a boyfriend like Namjoon, he'd be the best boyfriend and husband for sure. He's very talented and awesome human being and he's very humble and genuine too. He doesn't want to be seen as artist but as another common person of society and that's one of the things I find more appealing about him. I really love everything about him already,he is very unique and special in every way and at everything he does.
honest and intelligible - Namjoon He has blended himself into this professors like group and he matched so well ... thats impressive for an idol ... jezzzz
There's nothing wrong with tradition, traditional life. or the traditional nuclear family. People need to stop acting like those things are cancer - they're not
@@VintageCardinal Nobody said that creating a family is cancer. It's just good that he feels okay if he ends up not marrying someone. Your happiness shouldn't depend on someone else.
@VintageCardinal his view on marriage is very mature. He questions it, there so many women that "settle" or even expected to settle just to have children, while men use and see marriage as an accomplishment of a task on a to do list (ie marriage after job). Nothing wrong w traditional thinking, but blindly following it and not question if you yourself has what it takes to be that husband or that wife.
That's why friendship within love & marriage is so important. Marry your best friend. Someone who makes you smile, laugh and most importantly feel safe. Love might fade over the years but the friendship will last.
When i met the man i eventually married, i was astounded by the lack of posturing both of us experienced. I didn't feel i had to walk on eggshells to please him. We talked about our histories without judgment. We accepted each other's "idiosyncracies" with humor or negotiation. We wamted to make the marriage work. We gave permission for loving criticism. We didn't expect perfection, particularly in a dog-eat-dog environment of cruel capitalism and age-ist society. But we were happy until he passed prematurely.
Thank you for sharing this. I think most of us are scared of marriage because we only get the failure stories or the complaints from married people, while the happily married ones just lead their normal lives. It seems the normal needs to be told because, many of us don’t know it exists. My condolences to you dear, I hope you smile when you remember him, and your heart finds peace in this life 💜
As someone who has been married over 20 years, I must say I agree with you. Relationships are never easy, but it is totally worth it in the long run, provided love and respect goes both ways. I once read that if both people in a relationships feels they are giving approx. 70 percent and recieving 30%, that relationship will be close to perfectly balanced, and I believe that to be true too. It all evens out with time anyway.
I very much relate to Namjoon in this. I'm not interested in marriage, and I'm well past the age when it would be normal to think about it. I like the idea of having really close important friends moreso than romance. Maybe with one or more of them I would find a different kind of love over time, and naturally form something like a 'life partnership', or maybe not... but I don't see it as a goal to marry and have a traditional life. I have too many other dreams and interests, and I'm happy by myself. I need far too much personal space to enjoy a traditional marriage! [Edit:] I'm glad this made sense to some people! Just to expand on my thoughts a bit, I don't think there's anything wrong with romance or marriage for people who want it. I know some people who have always longed for a partner, and I know some couples who are genuinely happy together. But... we're not all the same right? We don't all need to walk on the same path. I just want to take my own route and have an open mind with no particular expectations. Maybe someday someone will appear who inspires me to change my mind, but I'm not really wishing for that. I've seen various friends find partners and I haven't felt envious of them even if they seemed happy. I just don't feel driven to find one person to fulfil all my needs and permanently join as a 2-in-1 unit. I would prefer to have a variety of different kinds of connection with people, be part of a community, and organically develop a few close friendships which become something like 'family' over time. That would be my ideal. And for myself I just want to focus on doing interesting things and hopefully making a positive impact on the world, rather than structuring my life according to some set plan!
🤗 Wise people, things are changing so rapidly and what we thought was supposed to be good is an illusion that most people can’t survive. I love being with myself! To each their own way is best DO YOU !!! 🌟✨🤗
@@cecileroy557 I'm really sorry for your loss. I'm sure even the best marriage is a complicated thing, but I'm glad you had some good times together 💜
Same! I am almost 23 but is is normal in my culture to already get married at this age and all but like I am scared if I do get married and he marriage isn’t going to be like what I expect!
@@elmasg9845 marriage is generally not good, only a small percent of couples enjoy it in all of history the rest just put on an act around other people and only stay together for financial reasons or having kids together
@@spring7643Nah, I wouldn't say that marriage is generally not good. It just sounds like y'all either haven't healed from past trauma and are projecting or you are going off of the bad marriages you see, ppl often only focus on the negative and not the positive
@@גקדןרקno sociologist just proved that marriage is not a thing we’re good at. We’re not supposed to be married and have girlfriend and boyfriend. The only we are good at is reproduction.
You're definitely the sweet, cheerful, positive,smart and inspiring guy that a smart woman with good taste would love to marry because you're really the whole packet
@@jindipity4772 yeah, everyone I know who said they were 'twin flames' and 'soulmates' broke up, and it was usually really messy 😅 I think it's better to look at people in a realistic way, know they are just a flawed human being and you're just a flawed human being, but you have good reasons you want to be together, like shared values, shared interests, chemistry etc.
It is because some people don't understand what a relationship is about and what it means. They are just after superficial and a fairy tale. A relationship takes two people to work together and understand each other and to be there for one another and their family and friends. It honestly isn't that hard. Look for a good soul - a person with good principals that they follow and are willing to grow as time goes on. Mr Namjoon, you will be fine when you find a person whose principals align with yours. You will just know that this person is the one. So don't stress. 😊
Yes but time passes by so fast and I hope he'll find the right person and be happy with her. He deserves a special person who truly loves him and stands by him in good and bad times
Namjoonie is such a well spoken person, he's always respectful and open to other people when he shares his insight and opinion. I missed him so much today. Also if you read this far, go listen to any song of his that you love right now haha
I am a 90s woman and I used to feel exactly like Namjoon but God had other plans for me, I have been married for 3 years now with 2 kids and I must say, this is the happiest I have ever been. Marriage TO ME came with such freedom and responsibilities that helped me really articulate who I am and my purpose in life. I'm happy and content and it has made me feel like I should have done it a long time ago, maybe certain things in my life that I had never prioritized would have been a success. But overall I'm happy in this street of marriage and I believe it's easy to contemplate on marriage when you haven't found the one and are still working on your self.
I’m questioning marriage and I’m just wondering how did you know your partner was a person you can do this with? Im in a relationship but I’m terrified.
@@deergreentea2847 events that led to us getting married kind of certified everything for me. He was everything that I needed at that time. It was the most difficult time of my life. I had just completed varsity and was greatly battling depression. As you know with depression you isolate yourself, and he was the only person I felt safe and happy while I was with. He was never in my case about anything, he just made himself available to me and was super great with listening to me when I vented or when I was vulnerable. With time I realized he was literally my HOME because I would not experience things like anxiety or pressure to act a certain way with him. My simple advice is, don't look for material things, you can both work on that together. Just look for green flags and establish their importance to you. If the green flags outweign the red ones, go for it. But if it's vice versa, wait a bit, the right one will come eventually.
@@deergreentea2847 I don't know I should say it or not because I was never in a relationship. As a girl , we have so many insecurities. I am 19 and 2of my classmates got married. One of them was my friend though we were not close but she used to share her thoughts with me most bcz we were neighbors. Recently, she moved with her husband and I met her during her visit here. I asked her about marriage and she said at first she find it awkward. She said that they became friends and comfortable with each other and share everything about their insecurities. Then they took steps further.(at first I didn't understand but she explain 😅) But still I am very uncomfortable with these. But I think you should give time to understand each other.If you are insecure about something you should talk with your partner. In a relationship, you both should understand each otherband understand each others emotions.😊 Marriage come with responsibility from both sides. But I don't have any intention of getting married or getting into relationship before 27 bcz I have my own plans. And then I will think about marriage and child 😊.
@@deergreentea2847 you need to feel safe, you need to feel that you both have the same life goals. If you feel terryfied with the vision of marriage with your boyfriend you should sit down and discuss things. He migh not be the one if you do not feel safe. Woman must feel that her man will save her from any danger. Man must feel that his woman will care for him and support him always. That how a healthy relationship works.
He may also feel this way because of military service; he probably figures "why start a relationship when I'm gonna be gone for a year and a half." I've noticed a lot of k-drama actors who are well into their 30's aren't married.
I love Namjoon! I love how he is open and honest. I love that he feels and knows that he doesn’t need to follow the old strict pattern of the society of getting married. Everyone should be free to decide how you want to live life. Marriage is not for everyone. I don’t want to get married and I won’t ! I’m 35.
When he meets the right person, everything will become clearer to him. He's spent the last 10 years working insane schedules and now he's got to serve in the military for almost 2 years. Kpop fans also make enormous unrealistic demands on their idols, which is not conducive to developing normal relationships.
I really do hope they meet their person (if they haven't already). namjoon and the rest of bts deserve to be and settle down with someone especially being in the idol industry for years
It's a personal thing to be answered. I am not sure about marriage. But having a good partner will make life a little more worthwhile. I love to be alone but at the moment I wish there was someone to hear me out....
He speaks what's real and relatable, and articulated all of that wonderfully well for a young person such as himself. Most who are much older than him are rarely seen speaking so wisely. He's so smart❤❤
Finally someone I can relate to on the subject of marriage!!! It's even better cause it's Namjoon🤧 Years ago I used to be so excited to grow up and be in my 20s or 30s and get married but now I'm not even in my 20s yet but I'm already rethinking and I'm very scared of getting married. I have a lot of friends with divorced parents and they seem to cope well with it but that's not the kind of family I want my child to grow up in. I want my kid to grow up in the kind of family I have, caring and loving
I totally understand that. For some people its more liberating to be independent and to have more control over the things in your life (as opposed to sharing that with someone else). And just being with oneself, and understanding oneself. And more and more people are feeling that that's better for themselves, instead of blindly marrying someone because you think they are the one, and because thats what everyone else in society does...
I agree with him on this. My daughter is 25 now and still not wanting to even be in a relationship. Said she thinks she's not someone to be of wife and mother material. She's scared that she might not be even as half as me. I am thinking that maybe because kids nowadays are becoming more successful and free compared to my generation that they prioritize their career advancements these days. Or maybe because of so many split up situations on married couple that they just chose to be single. They are avoiding complications in life. Or maybe they want to enjoy their freedom more.
I think this is something happening globally. It not a Korea thing only. There’s just a lot to consider in marriage and having kids. I wouldn’t mind getting married but I at this point feel like I’m never going to coz I soooo focus on surviving and since I’m in this state I don’t even consider having kids as an option anymore because of the economy, the gap in income and the cost of living, the housing market is ass now that it discourages a lot of younger generations to come because we can’t have all that the previous generations before we’re able to do in their 20’s. Most of us can’t even get a house until are late 30’s to early 40’s now and that’s a huge problem.
He's a very desirable person,he deserves to get married with someone who really loves him and understands him, he's very busy right now with his music projects and military enlistment and sometimes he'll marry when he reaches 32 or more,I really wish he'll be really happy and fulfilled with someone who's worthy because he's a really worthy man and wonderful person and he really deserves to be happy and BTS members too,best wishes. 💜💜🌠
not only born in the 90s but born in the late 80s also think that way may be because times have changed people like me can surely relate to what Namjoonie is saying.
It’s so sad to me that young people are so scared of marriage. When I met my husband i wasn’t thinking about marriage, I was just busy living my life and never dating any one person for too long, but when I met the right person, I just knew. We’ve been together 23 years now, and my relationship with him has undoubtedly been the most amazing part of my life, such fun and comfort and peace, someone who knows everything about me and still loves and supports me as I get such joy in cheering him on in his goals, not always being so self-centered, which doesn’t actually make people happy. Wherever he is feels like home to me, and I’m so grateful every day that I found him. I hope people won’t get in their own heads too much and stay open to finding this kind of partnership, you can really soar with the right person by your side.
How did you know that he's the one from the beginning? I met someone I'm interested in but I don't know how to tell if he's the right one or not.. we are not dating yet, only being friends right now. Whenever I thought someone is "The One", it always turns out the opposite. I've been single for 7 years so I'm not sure how should I feel about him.
@@ataraxia7949 I don’t know that I knew from the very beginning. In fact I was dating someone when I first met him, so we were just acquaintances for a number of months first. We spent time together in groups, hanging out, and eventually being friends, exactly. Over a bit of time and after my (casual) relationship had fully fizzled out, it was clear that our universes swirled around one another more and more and that was mutual and uplifting and made us both better. I hadn’t ever felt that way about even other boyfriends I had had, even the perfectly nice and fun ones. I think the best indications for me were how much respect I had for him (look for INTEGRITY!) as I saw the choices he was making in his life and how he treated people and the reports of old friends of his as I got to know them and how super comfortable and like myself I felt around him versus just the feelings of dating someone fun and good looking and exciting but honestly at arms length emotionally and not truly a best friend like I soon realized he had become. It sounds cliche and vague but he’s my other half and he just gets me. That rapport takes time and thankfully you don’t have to know right away. Do good things for your life, work on your own health and development and just stay open to meeting people and just getting to know them without even artificially bringing in the concept of dating. I had actually become closer to several of his friends first who then invited me to things so that we got to know each other in natural social settings. It just became undeniable and the rest is history! It was never a given to me that I would even get married but I’m so glad I just lived my life without setting a fixed idea like it was a checklist item to force or something to avoid. Best of luck!
This is adorable and I'm happy for you but I disagree that it's sad. Most marriages are bad and don't have the benefits you found. It's way better for most people to be single unless they have your unique ability to find the right one and get lucky by actually finding someone good for them 💜
i would rather be scared of marriage than scared to be alone. marriage can ruin multiple people's lives (partner, family, children). I think its worse when people rush to marriage because they are afraid to be alone.
The idea of getting married when you're young and dumb, as mentioned in the video, suggests that maybe marriage isn't so great, because if you knew the truth of it, you wouldn't want it. Lol
I love Namjoon. He was probably at the bottom of my favorites when i started listening to BTS, but now he is near the top (i'm OT7 though, of course! ;)). Besides his book-smarts (i love a man who's book-smart), he's also really thoughtful, insightful, observant, and self-aware. Always learning and thinking about things. Some of that is a part of just being smart, but i know some pretty smart people who've even gone to Ivy League schools, who i think are dumb as rocks, really. Some people aren''t book-smart, but they are self-aware, insightful, inquisitive, thoughtful and all of that, and that's great. Namjoon is both, and that's just really cool. He also words things really poetically (the poet rapper). Like where he said that now that he's thought that he may never get married, he can't stop thinking it. I just love the way he poetically worded that thought, right in the moment he was answering the question. I always say he's the poet📓of the BTS Rapline (SUGA is the fire🔥and j-hope, the chameleon🦎even though they are each of them, each of the 3 at times -- don't you guys think so??) . I wish Namjoon lots of love and happiness and good art and music in his lifetime.🤍
I couldn't agree more, he's so right. Even I'm scared to marry not because of something else but by visualising my future, it looks terrific and same like others. The life is just not job ▶️ marriage ▶️ childern. You gotta live your life too and in the middle it depends on partner too you never know what they do and their one wrong move can destroy you. No one wants to rely on someone that much. Marriage isn't the only purpose. You gotta be secured too
Just one advice to him "go and explore". One cannot be afraid and have conclusions about love and marriage of they haven't explored the world and know what type of people they will gel up with.
I have the same fear, this morning I discussed w my parents that the only reason I would get married is kids but I don't know if marriage is for me. Cuz I have to be w that person forever. And what if love fades away? I told them that I would adopt children and raise them being unmarried cuz marriage seems scary truly. I can relate
I would say that people that think as much as does... Its very hard to fall in love, he reads a lot, he read about love... So he ponds on everything. But family, society have a big weight, we'll see if he ever does. He also always said he wanted be a father... Dont need to be married for that either, but...
@@LeilaKim1802 Right. But South Koreans aren't the only conservative people. For instance, Africa is the birthplace of humanity. It is a continent. There are many kingdoms, tribes, cultures, languages and ancient bloodlines; etc. Before AND after white colonization. So-called Black people are the most genetically diverse people in the world. And the oldest humans. Many tribes are conservative and follow the Torah. Also, there are virgin women and men as well 😊
@@LeilaKim1802yeah, but isn't there an option to adopt or something? I mean, I understand not everyone would be ok with adoption but still, just asking for a sake, how is adoption seen in the traditional culture of south korea??
@@userpgfkdnndjnnxn adopting a child as an unmarried man.. that will def makes headline in south korea. Blood ties are still very important in Korean culture in order to define who is family, if he was to adopt it must be his nephew or niece, adopting a complete stranger with no blood ties is rare and tabu. Children are adopted out of the country. The only way for rm to start a family is to marry,he can always divorce later in life.
Woooow, so many comments here are just awful. Namjoon allowed himself to be vulnerable for once, and spoke up about his personal life, which he very rarely does. He trusted fans to listen carefully and respect him, even if they don't understand. But what do we have instead? "Nooo he can't really think that!! Ugh he's so immature! He's childish! A typical man, just afraid of commitment! He doesn't really know what he wants! As his fan I know better, he should only live how I want him to live! He WILL get married! He HAS to get married! He's ONLY allowed to have relationships with women don't you dare suggest otherwise!!! He will find his soulmate and then I'll be proven right. She must be beautiful, she must be perfect, she must be virtuous, she must be younger than him, she must be a virgin! He MUST have babies! Oh he's going to have sooo many beautiful babies just like I want him to! He will devote his life to marriage once he finds his perfect beautiful WIFE!!!" I feel like I'm going insane reading all these comments. Who are these condescending, controlling, disrespectful creeps? How do you even consider yourself fans? Do you have no respect for BTS at all? Are they only your fantasy dolls for you to play with and make up stories for? And what are these conservative values? Have you ever listened to BTS' lyrics or Namjoon's solo albums? Have you listened to his speeches or anything he's said in the past? How on earth could you feel so entitled to demand that someone only live the way you want them to live, and then insult them and denigrate them if they have a different perspective, a different lifestyle, different priorities? What happened to "live and let live" or "it takes all types to make a world" or "if you don't have anything respectful to say, don't say anything at all." I'm so disappointed in like 70% of commenters here. I can't even say these are just idiotic kids, because I think a lot of them are older. Really depressing and embarrassing.
RM(of BTS) is releasing his new album "Right Place, Wrong Person" on 24.05.2024, Friday 1PM KST | 9:30 AM IST. The pre-release track will be out on 10.05.2024 1PM KST | 9:30 AM KST
Actually he's right. Marrying someone is very critical. Like promising the person to be with them forever is difficult, up to their expectations! Also, now a days we usually don't trust people as many of them aren't worth it, and it makes it difficult to get one among all. I also do not plan to marry out there. May my plans change, but till now I really do not like it. I think somewhere it bounds you to some limits and you have to follow them. Although a partner is important, it should be made when we attain all we want to.
As a person who doesn’t want to get married and have children, I’m so glad to see more people who also think like this like that this society has made it a "norm" (let's put it that way) that your future has to be yes or yes; get married and have children once you have a job like you can simply have a partner without having to do either of those two things.
If you meet the right person and it clicks, no one should feel trapped. As someone who meet the love of her life, was with him for 23 years and lost him because of a car accident, I can honestly say we’d still be together now if he hadn’t passed. But I’m not getting married again because I feel I’d be judging the man against what I had and that’s not far to them.
I really wish he would be happy with someone who won't lie to him and won't hurt him because if I had a relationship I also wouldn't like someone liar or cheater either you know. Best wishes for him because he's a wonderful person and my bias, talented brilliant artist and lover of arts and nature 🌹🌹💜💜💜💜💜💜
I totally agree with RM, people come and go, and just when I think this is it, I will settle with whoever comes next, and a new set of trouble arrives. It is not as simple as our parents make it sound. Times have changed.
He touched on it. But didn't say enough about it. Being as globally famous as they are, BTS might find themselves in a uniquely difficult situation when it comes to marriage. The desire to find a non idol partner might leave too much of an emotional gap in their relationships because there will always be the fame barrier. And if they were married to anyone who's a fan, the potential for the relationship to go through the idol fantasy filter is just too high. They'd have to be married to other idols because no one else would understand
Umm I guess it's not like that If u love someone truly then u will accept and understand the person completely and if it's like that then there will be no barrier between the tw I it won't matter if he is an idol and the other person is a non idol I am not saying that u are wrong but it's just what I think [No Oppose/Hate]
I just wish who ever bts choose just love them back as much bts gave love to army in return I know bts will love their partner with whole heart just wishing for them best ✨💜
@@raheeldalal6522 you're not wrong 😃 I'm just scared for them because of how famous they are. Celebrities don't normally get to have healthy, loving relationships... at least, the track record isn't good 😅
He could marry someone from a very rich family, used with the luxury life he lives in and who might not necessarily be a fan or very impressed with his money. Marrying a non celebrity doesn't have to mean marrying a some random poor girl with a regular job.
Absolutely agreed with Namjoon as Borned 90'kid era I can relate with Namjoon but somehow destiny played it's role I believe in destiny cause it happened in real life as I was working on being independent as dancer choreographer on social platform n boom then married happened n it's exactly what I didn't wanted at that time n somehow I know it now cause me n my husband both r on different levels of understanding of life, family n career n he is against of my idea to be a dancer on social platform how annoy to think other way when I planned something else Namjoon is right when it comes to choose partner for life it's a big decision hopefully when Namjoon thinks about marriage he will get best partner who loves him back 💜💜💜 he deserves the love n he worth it
@ferximochola7596 Stop telling me how to be so you can be comfortable. I was not placed on earth to serve as your ego keeper. What I think is just that, MY thinking, if it does not please you, then comfort yourself, because I am not obligated to. 🫶
I’m from Sweden and no one cares if someone is married/have children or not. It’s very common to not be married these days, but no one judge or think it’s weird. There are older couples too who live together without marriage or children. No one cares! I hope it will be like that in South Korea too. Not so much social pressure.
Has genz who born in 2007 ,like mee too scared of marriage because nowadays murder cases are more like murdering bride for dowry cases are becoming more and I said my mom that im not gonna get married till 27 or 30 ,I just want myself to be happy and successful and nowadays people of my ages are in love and even dating and roaming in pair but has an army I wanna say I don't like clingy couples and hence my parents are strict I don't do such nasty things,even those things need to be held in certain ages ,im just so scared 💜😔
Im the same exact age as namjoon and j hope I’m a 94 baby as well and my birthday is November 14th and it’s hard. For me to find someone especially one I know I can trust with my life and heart and not make me feel insecure at all. And be honest and loyal to me like I would with them but everytime I finally get courage to finally confess my feelings to a guy I like I always get rejected by these guys they say I’m not their type or we can stay friends at least and we don’t even act like friends or text or call like friends or hang out like friends we just see each other at work and say hi and ask how we are lol. I been single over 10 years because of this always getting rejected and even my friends boyfriend tried to find one of his friends to maybe get to know me and date me but alas I got rejected by his guy friends as well I also wonder if it’s because of my weight and I don’t wear make up much I tried and it didn’t work for me but I do like wearing foundation sometimes but it makes me lose confidence and I have a heart of gold and a great personality plus I’m still pure till I get married but no one seems to like girls like me no matter what I do. 😢 and even if they Like girls like me on a rare occasion I always get unlucky and always get rejected no matter what. I even had guys like me but they were all over 40 like ew.. I’m only 29 and namjoon was the first guy I ever liked in BTS I love all 7 members though but it was namjoon originally and he still has a special place in my heart I honestly would love to find a guy like him for myself but I’m not namjoons type sadly. :( and now I got jk as my ultimate bias but again I’m not his type or any of the BTS members type and it saddens me
I think a successful marriage is one where you apply the golden rule of Confucius. Don't do anything to your spouse that you wouldn't want to be done to you. I am more loving, forgiving and supportive when I keep that in mind.
As someone born in the 2000's I agree with Namjoon I feel like marriage is pointless imo. Because people come & go all the time, and so many people divorce faster than they actually stay married. Hell more people cheat than actually last in a relationship as simply BF & GF, BF & BF, GF & GF so it's like why even waste the time of commitment to something that won't even last a week let alone the rest of our life.
That's because a superficial society creates superficial people. We need to value a person's morals and character more over how they look, what they have, or their status in life. It's the same quote that Martin Luther King Jr. believed in, that people should be judged on the content of their character.
As a 90's kid I am also scared to get married. It's like gambling...who knows what will happen. In my case it is arranged marriage too..I am too much afraid to marry 😅 I can feel you Namjoonie.
as not a 90's person but having seen my fams divorce etc, it can make it difficult for people to marry i would say even more so in korea because the social expectation i think is even higher in some regards. but if i can be skpetical i can also understand his as well.
🤗Marriage is way over rated, so glad to see the younger generation questioning the tradition and making better choices for themselves. The dream of happily ever after is a less than 50% outcome. It’s time for human’s to evolve and create better options outside the box of sociable norms, there is a better WAY.!!! PURE LOVE will lead the Way💜🌎✨
As a person born in the 90s myself it's really sad to see women like this be the toys of men who end up getting married to them and end up being mistreating after that today's society is like that now I'm definitely scared of getting married and being used by a man who doesn't give a damn about me or the children in general this gives me severe trust issues now because now I'm seeing my female sibling with failed marriages and broken homes, this is exactly why I'm scared of being in a relationship or even think about getting married in general there is no way I'm gonna let a man use me for his own amusement or treat me like garbage it's bad enough that I've dealt with toxic men in the past there is no darn way I'm letting that happen anymore the sheer amount of anything I've gotten in the past and being lied to as well I'm getting tired of guys who use me and want an actual relationship with me when they use me and abuse me and use me for my money i don't think so I'm putting my foot down on that nonsense I'm not letting a man use me for my money or anything like that I've had it with men using me like I'm a cash cow
It seems normal that someone would prefer to be on his/ her own for awhile. Esp since so much of RMs life to date has been compartmentalized. But if you can find it you will probably be more happy in the long run.
Being married is a choice as much as anything. It's not a magic.. falling in love forever and everything just works out after that. It's work and a commitment on both sides to stay together. That said, being single is an equally valid choice. People should choose what they think is best for themselves, and ignore whoever tries to tell them what they "should" do. Of course Namjoon is smart enough and introspective enough to figure out his own path. Good for him. He is a true role model.
Am now 24 but most of my agemates are getting married or in relationships but am single 😢. My now late mum had me at 20 and unfortunately passed away last year at 44. She was the only best friend i had and would understand that I actually don't want to get married even though I would like have her grandchildren 😢. Am afraid i might get involved with the wrong person
Namjoon is a Virgo and we are often introverted and feel no need to be married. There are more single Virgos than any other sign. Some animals mate for life and some don’t. Not sure where humans fall. Maybe that’s why there are fewer long term marriages than before. People are less interested in following social norms now, and are just doing what feels natural.
Not 90s those who born in 20s become sceptical about marriage most of gen z kids don't think about marriage mostly scared for marriage i don't want early
I really hope you'd marry a smart, wonderful and caring person Someone who loves you the way you are Please don't marry older women,is better to be younger than old but please not too old either. I just would love you to be happy with someone who really loves you and care about you ❤❤❤
Personally, I just can’t imagine not getting married. Life is so long, what would I do for the next 60 years if I don’t get married and have kids? I feel like I would be quite bored. It would be nice to have someone to go through everything with. I could imagine enjoying it at first without the responsibilities of marriage and children but once I got to like my 40s or 50s I think I would feel quite bored and would wish for something completely new. I feel like my life would revolve around work and everyday would just feel the same apart from when I go on holiday occasionally.
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So nice to see a man who is single, sitting with others who are married on a table and talking about marriage. His point of not getting married is a good choice, nowadays do people come and go and if you felt in love with someone and you thought the person loves you back, turn often into they don't love you as much as you loved them. Or if you have friends you liked and they go forever out of your life, it hurts as well
Totally agree
@@jannybunnag9605 Thanks
Well said I feel this way too I did once want to get married but then though about it for along time and decided I don't ever want too marriage isn't for everyone I'm glad that Namjoom spoke about this was many feel this way too if he doesn't want to ever marry thats perfectly fine. It's his choice .
@@OurSunshineLixieexactly!! 💯
His full answer is interesting, he used to want to get married but nowadays he doesn't know if he can be in love all his life. Also he is afraid of having kids who misbehave like he did as a kid XDDD
As a 90s born person I so relate with Namjoon, I know as a woman marriage and kids are expected of me in this society especially in Asian society but these things never appealed to me, the thought of being trapped in a marriage scares me to death, I rather stay single forever and focus on my job and family and my life goals than getting married🤷♀️
I used to think the way that Namu did, that it was an inevitable event but as time passed and I experienced abusive relationships I started to fear that getting married was going to trap me in a situation that I couldn’t escape from.
And my father passing makes me doubt further that marriage is destined for me as the parts that make the ceremony special like my partner having asked my father for my hand in marriage and being walked down the aisle and being given into my husband’s hands are no longer possible.
I may yet find myself married, I just don’t expect it anymore. 🤷🏼♀️
@@CrInqs52000 You are right I also agree with joonie. I saw my relatives and friends marriage being failed and treating their wife as a toy. I am scared of marriage now. I want to live single.
@@Taetaeland1342 It’s sad that it’s that way now honestly.
A woman saying no to anything is just assumed to be playing hard to get and their no is disregarded.
I’ve seen too many videos uploaded by ladies who are just minding their own business and who are then approached but when they repeatedly state that they’re not interested have even had their property damaged like this one video where a lady was going to her vehicle after shopping and some guy ran his shopping cart into her car damaging it after she told him no multiple times, that she was good and didn’t need help loading her groceries.
To me that’s assault because if she hadn’t purposely put her vehicle between them he could’ve seriously hurt her personally and that shit needs to stop like yesterday.
@@CrInqs52000 omg I don't know about this
I agree with Namjoon and anyone who has no issue of being single until they are 100% sure of their love for someone and vice versa. People who RUSH marriage or STUCK in arranged marriages that end up being DV or controlling etc have no way of getting out of it same with young couple relationships if their still mentally growing themselves and don’t know what theyre getting into when it comes to committing to someone thinking it will be forever or until they get tired of each other and start acting out those types are worthless. *When individuals are destined to be together then GOD will let you know if it’s right or not, don’t always go by flesh feelings of deceived LOVE going head first into an unpredictable relationship.*
Why can't I find a boyfriend like Namjoon, he'd be the best boyfriend and husband for sure. He's very talented and awesome human being and he's very humble and genuine too. He doesn't want to be seen as artist but as another common person of society and that's one of the things I find more appealing about him. I really love everything about him already,he is very unique and special in every way and at everything he does.
You will find your Namjoon one day💜
@@christinewomack8999aye Haye kya baat kehdi yaar tumne💜 you touched my heart.
Woah!! That was awesomely said...and im sure, u'll get one too🫂💜@@christinewomack8999
me too..I am not gonna date or marry someone unless they are like namjoon
Sweetie, I am sorry to tell you, but we are already married.😂😆
"I admire how Namjoon sees marriage as more than just a bond, but as a partnership of growth".
Namjoon is such a delight. Also appreciate to hear what he has to say.
honest and intelligible - Namjoon
He has blended himself into this professors like group and he matched so well ... thats impressive for an idol ... jezzzz
I’m happy that namjoon doesn’t feel the need to lead a traditional life. I think he is wise beyond his years
I would like to meet him.............One day. He seems like the kind of person I could get along with 🤷♀🤔
There's nothing wrong with tradition, traditional life. or the traditional nuclear family. People need to stop acting like those things are cancer - they're not
@@VintageCardinal Nobody said that creating a family is cancer. It's just good that he feels okay if he ends up not marrying someone. Your happiness shouldn't depend on someone else.
@@VintageCardinaloverreacting much
@VintageCardinal his view on marriage is very mature. He questions it, there so many women that "settle" or even expected to settle just to have children, while men use and see marriage as an accomplishment of a task on a to do list (ie marriage after job). Nothing wrong w traditional thinking, but blindly following it and not question if you yourself has what it takes to be that husband or that wife.
There isn't anything wrong in staying single in your life its your choice
That's why friendship within love & marriage is so important. Marry your best friend. Someone who makes you smile, laugh and most importantly feel safe. Love might fade over the years but the friendship will last.
Rm is coming with his new album " right place,wrong person" on may
When i met the man i eventually married, i was astounded by the lack of posturing both of us experienced. I didn't feel i had to walk on eggshells to please him. We talked about our histories without judgment. We accepted each other's "idiosyncracies" with humor or negotiation. We wamted to make the marriage work. We gave permission for loving criticism. We didn't expect perfection, particularly in a dog-eat-dog environment of cruel capitalism and age-ist society. But we were happy until he passed prematurely.
Thank you for sharing this. I think most of us are scared of marriage because we only get the failure stories or the complaints from married people, while the happily married ones just lead their normal lives. It seems the normal needs to be told because, many of us don’t know it exists. My condolences to you dear, I hope you smile when you remember him, and your heart finds peace in this life 💜
I hope his soul is in a good place. May Lord Jesus bless the 2 of you and your family(ies) ❤.
As someone who has been married over 20 years, I must say I agree with you. Relationships are never easy, but it is totally worth it in the long run, provided love and respect goes both ways. I once read that if both people in a relationships feels they are giving approx. 70 percent and recieving 30%, that relationship will be close to perfectly balanced, and I believe that to be true too. It all evens out with time anyway.
Toutes mes condoléances 🙏🏻
Omg😢. Sorry for your loss. I don't understand why God takes the good people so fast
You deserve someone who have many things in common with you and enjoys to share good times with you ❤
I very much relate to Namjoon in this. I'm not interested in marriage, and I'm well past the age when it would be normal to think about it. I like the idea of having really close important friends moreso than romance. Maybe with one or more of them I would find a different kind of love over time, and naturally form something like a 'life partnership', or maybe not... but I don't see it as a goal to marry and have a traditional life. I have too many other dreams and interests, and I'm happy by myself. I need far too much personal space to enjoy a traditional marriage!
[Edit:] I'm glad this made sense to some people! Just to expand on my thoughts a bit, I don't think there's anything wrong with romance or marriage for people who want it. I know some people who have always longed for a partner, and I know some couples who are genuinely happy together. But... we're not all the same right? We don't all need to walk on the same path. I just want to take my own route and have an open mind with no particular expectations.
Maybe someday someone will appear who inspires me to change my mind, but I'm not really wishing for that. I've seen various friends find partners and I haven't felt envious of them even if they seemed happy. I just don't feel driven to find one person to fulfil all my needs and permanently join as a 2-in-1 unit. I would prefer to have a variety of different kinds of connection with people, be part of a community, and organically develop a few close friendships which become something like 'family' over time. That would be my ideal. And for myself I just want to focus on doing interesting things and hopefully making a positive impact on the world, rather than structuring my life according to some set plan!
Yes. I agree with you. Me and my sister think the same as you are . But we can't express these things as you explain in the right words.
🤗 Wise people, things are changing so rapidly and what we thought was supposed to be good is an illusion that most people can’t survive. I love being with myself! To each their own way is best DO YOU !!! 🌟✨🤗
I was married to my husband, who died awhile ago, since we were both young. We had great times together... but sometimes it totally sucked... 😉
@@cecileroy557 I'm really sorry for your loss. I'm sure even the best marriage is a complicated thing, but I'm glad you had some good times together 💜
hear hear! couldn't agree more.
I can relate to everything that Namjoon said, I am scared of marriage, relationships etc 😅
Same! I am almost 23 but is is normal in my culture to already get married at this age and all but like I am scared if I do get married and he marriage isn’t going to be like what I expect!
@@elmasg9845 marriage is generally not good, only a small percent of couples enjoy it in all of history the rest just put on an act around other people and only stay together for financial reasons or having kids together
@@spring7643Nah, I wouldn't say that marriage is generally not good. It just sounds like y'all either haven't healed from past trauma and are projecting or you are going off of the bad marriages you see, ppl often only focus on the negative and not the positive
@@גקדןרקno sociologist just proved that marriage is not a thing we’re good at. We’re not supposed to be married and have girlfriend and boyfriend. The only we are good at is reproduction.
He is a gem 💎
Namjoonie words of wisdom, don't wanna marry but don't know why😂
RM is so wise. I admire him a lot.
You're definitely the sweet, cheerful, positive,smart and inspiring guy that a smart woman with good taste would love to marry because you're really the whole packet
He's the whole packet and much much more. A truly beautiful human being he is TT
Obviously marrying the right person is key . Like a twin flames someone on spiritual level I believe can make a wonderful marriage
I agree.
But that is very rare
But most of these 'twin flame' couples I see on the internet break up which makes me lose my faith a little in that aspect 😂
@@jindipity4772 yeah, everyone I know who said they were 'twin flames' and 'soulmates' broke up, and it was usually really messy 😅
I think it's better to look at people in a realistic way, know they are just a flawed human being and you're just a flawed human being, but you have good reasons you want to be together, like shared values, shared interests, chemistry etc.
It is because some people don't understand what a relationship is about and what it means. They are just after superficial and a fairy tale. A relationship takes two people to work together and understand each other and to be there for one another and their family and friends. It honestly isn't that hard. Look for a good soul - a person with good principals that they follow and are willing to grow as time goes on.
Mr Namjoon, you will be fine when you find a person whose principals align with yours. You will just know that this person is the one. So don't stress. 😊
Yes but time passes by so fast and I hope he'll find the right person and be happy with her. He deserves a special person who truly loves him and stands by him in good and bad times
I totally agree with Joon. I’m in that same age range and I don’t know if I wanna get married.
It's not if you want to marry or not, it's how you have found the right person or not and getting married
Namjoonie is such a well spoken person, he's always respectful and open to other people when he shares his insight and opinion. I missed him so much today. Also if you read this far, go listen to any song of his that you love right now haha
I am a 90s woman and I used to feel exactly like Namjoon but God had other plans for me, I have been married for 3 years now with 2 kids and I must say, this is the happiest I have ever been. Marriage TO ME came with such freedom and responsibilities that helped me really articulate who I am and my purpose in life. I'm happy and content and it has made me feel like I should have done it a long time ago, maybe certain things in my life that I had never prioritized would have been a success. But overall I'm happy in this street of marriage and I believe it's easy to contemplate on marriage when you haven't found the one and are still working on your self.
I’m questioning marriage and I’m just wondering how did you know your partner was a person you can do this with? Im in a relationship but I’m terrified.
@@deergreentea2847 events that led to us getting married kind of certified everything for me. He was everything that I needed at that time. It was the most difficult time of my life. I had just completed varsity and was greatly battling depression. As you know with depression you isolate yourself, and he was the only person I felt safe and happy while I was with. He was never in my case about anything, he just made himself available to me and was super great with listening to me when I vented or when I was vulnerable. With time I realized he was literally my HOME because I would not experience things like anxiety or pressure to act a certain way with him. My simple advice is, don't look for material things, you can both work on that together. Just look for green flags and establish their importance to you. If the green flags outweign the red ones, go for it. But if it's vice versa, wait a bit, the right one will come eventually.
@@deergreentea2847 look at why you feel terrified and find out where the fear comes from
@@deergreentea2847 I don't know I should say it or not because I was never in a relationship. As a girl , we have so many insecurities.
I am 19 and 2of my classmates got married. One of them was my friend though we were not close but she used to share her thoughts with me most bcz we were neighbors.
Recently, she moved with her husband and I met her during her visit here. I asked her about marriage and she said at first she find it awkward. She said that they became friends and comfortable with each other and share everything about their insecurities. Then they took steps further.(at first I didn't understand but she explain 😅)
But still I am very uncomfortable with these. But I think you should give time to understand each other.If you are insecure about something you should talk with your partner. In a relationship, you both should understand each otherband understand each others emotions.😊
Marriage come with responsibility from both sides. But I don't have any intention of getting married or getting into relationship before 27 bcz I have my own plans. And then I will think about marriage and child 😊.
@@deergreentea2847 you need to feel safe, you need to feel that you both have the same life goals. If you feel terryfied with the vision of marriage with your boyfriend you should sit down and discuss things. He migh not be the one if you do not feel safe. Woman must feel that her man will save her from any danger. Man must feel that his woman will care for him and support him always. That how a healthy relationship works.
He may also feel this way because of military service; he probably figures "why start a relationship when I'm gonna be gone for a year and a half." I've noticed a lot of k-drama actors who are well into their 30's aren't married.
I personally believe it's got nothing to do with enlistment Rm properly felt this way long before that.
Rm is so well-spoken and insightful
When he finds the right person he will know . There is nothing wrong with staying single He will know.
I love Namjoon! I love how he is open and honest. I love that he feels and knows that he doesn’t need to follow the old strict pattern of the society of getting married. Everyone should be free to decide how you want to live life. Marriage is not for everyone. I don’t want to get married and I won’t ! I’m 35.
I also born in 90s and i have same thought process about marriage as namjoon hahaha still single
When he meets the right person, everything will become clearer to him. He's spent the last 10 years working insane schedules and now he's got to serve in the military for almost 2 years. Kpop fans also make enormous unrealistic demands on their idols, which is not conducive to developing normal relationships.
Even with right person it becomes boring and tiring after years.
@@litarot1806 and some people are just tired and bored with themselves which has very little to do with their partner.
I really do hope they meet their person (if they haven't already). namjoon and the rest of bts deserve to be and settle down with someone especially being in the idol industry for years
@@gerricamus2718 maybe they just need to do something with themselves then before they'll make other person dried up
@@litarot1806 things becoming boring with right person only happens when you aren't putting efforts in relationship.
It's a personal thing to be answered. I am not sure about marriage. But having a good partner will make life a little more worthwhile. I love to be alone but at the moment I wish there was someone to hear me out....
We many on this table. You are not the only one Namjoon
He speaks what's real and relatable, and articulated all of that wonderfully well for a young person such as himself. Most who are much older than him are rarely seen speaking so wisely. He's so smart❤❤
Finally someone I can relate to on the subject of marriage!!! It's even better cause it's Namjoon🤧 Years ago I used to be so excited to grow up and be in my 20s or 30s and get married but now I'm not even in my 20s yet but I'm already rethinking and I'm very scared of getting married. I have a lot of friends with divorced parents and they seem to cope well with it but that's not the kind of family I want my child to grow up in. I want my kid to grow up in the kind of family I have, caring and loving
It's a good thing about Namjoon, because he understands what life is all about
I totally understand that.
For some people its more liberating to be independent and to have more control over the things in your life (as opposed to sharing that with someone else). And just being with oneself, and understanding oneself. And more and more people are feeling that that's better for themselves, instead of blindly marrying someone because you think they are the one, and because thats what everyone else in society does...
I think he had mentioned that he wanted to be a dad. Awww....he would be the best dad, so loving and kind and patient.
Namjoonssi, ARMYs wish you blessings and happiness in life. May you love and be loved as you rightfully deserve
There is a generation where they see marriage as bringing happiness, because of love (which is hard), more than a necessity in life.
I agree with him on this. My daughter is 25 now and still not wanting to even be in a relationship. Said she thinks she's not someone to be of wife and mother material. She's scared that she might not be even as half as me. I am thinking that maybe because kids nowadays are becoming more successful and free compared to my generation that they prioritize their career advancements these days. Or maybe because of so many split up situations on married couple that they just chose to be single. They are avoiding complications in life. Or maybe they want to enjoy their freedom more.
Very true . The MORE you know about marriage.. the more you internally feel deterred to it frankly.
I always believe that if your confused sbout marriage don't do it because marriage is just not about one person its cost our partner's life too.
I think this is something happening globally. It not a Korea thing only. There’s just a lot to consider in marriage and having kids. I wouldn’t mind getting married but I at this point feel like I’m never going to coz I soooo focus on surviving and since I’m in this state I don’t even consider having kids as an option anymore because of the economy, the gap in income and the cost of living, the housing market is ass now that it discourages a lot of younger generations to come because we can’t have all that the previous generations before we’re able to do in their 20’s. Most of us can’t even get a house until are late 30’s to early 40’s now and that’s a huge problem.
Exactly
He's a very desirable person,he deserves to get married with someone who really loves him and understands him, he's very busy right now with his music projects and military enlistment and sometimes he'll marry when he reaches 32 or more,I really wish he'll be really happy and fulfilled with someone who's worthy because he's a really worthy man and wonderful person and he really deserves to be happy and BTS members too,best wishes. 💜💜🌠
He is saying he doesn't want to get married.
@@LynnHermioneI think he said he is scared becoz he doest know how it feels...maybe someday he'll get married too
I think he's saying he young and want to take his time, don't want to rush into marriage. Very smart young man💜🙌
Cutie - totally understandable - do you Joonie 🙃🙃🙃
Even if he stays single forever its completely ok, marriage is not for everybody🤷♀️
NAM joon The best rapper in the world you are handsome❤
not only born in the 90s but born in the late 80s also think that way may be because times have changed people like me can surely relate to what Namjoonie is saying.
It’s so sad to me that young people are so scared of marriage. When I met my husband i wasn’t thinking about marriage, I was just busy living my life and never dating any one person for too long, but when I met the right person, I just knew. We’ve been together 23 years now, and my relationship with him has undoubtedly been the most amazing part of my life, such fun and comfort and peace, someone who knows everything about me and still loves and supports me as I get such joy in cheering him on in his goals, not always being so self-centered, which doesn’t actually make people happy. Wherever he is feels like home to me, and I’m so grateful every day that I found him. I hope people won’t get in their own heads too much and stay open to finding this kind of partnership, you can really soar with the right person by your side.
How did you know that he's the one from the beginning? I met someone I'm interested in but I don't know how to tell if he's the right one or not.. we are not dating yet, only being friends right now. Whenever I thought someone is "The One", it always turns out the opposite. I've been single for 7 years so I'm not sure how should I feel about him.
@@ataraxia7949 I don’t know that I knew from the very beginning. In fact I was dating someone when I first met him, so we were just acquaintances for a number of months first. We spent time together in groups, hanging out, and eventually being friends, exactly. Over a bit of time and after my (casual) relationship had fully fizzled out, it was clear that our universes swirled around one another more and more and that was mutual and uplifting and made us both better. I hadn’t ever felt that way about even other boyfriends I had had, even the perfectly nice and fun ones. I think the best indications for me were how much respect I had for him (look for INTEGRITY!) as I saw the choices he was making in his life and how he treated people and the reports of old friends of his as I got to know them and how super comfortable and like myself I felt around him versus just the feelings of dating someone fun and good looking and exciting but honestly at arms length emotionally and not truly a best friend like I soon realized he had become. It sounds cliche and vague but he’s my other half and he just gets me. That rapport takes time and thankfully you don’t have to know right away. Do good things for your life, work on your own health and development and just stay open to meeting people and just getting to know them without even artificially bringing in the concept of dating. I had actually become closer to several of his friends first who then invited me to things so that we got to know each other in natural social settings. It just became undeniable and the rest is history! It was never a given to me that I would even get married but I’m so glad I just lived my life without setting a fixed idea like it was a checklist item to force or something to avoid. Best of luck!
^ I am wondering this too
This is adorable and I'm happy for you but I disagree that it's sad. Most marriages are bad and don't have the benefits you found. It's way better for most people to be single unless they have your unique ability to find the right one and get lucky by actually finding someone good for them 💜
i would rather be scared of marriage than scared to be alone. marriage can ruin multiple people's lives (partner, family, children). I think its worse when people rush to marriage because they are afraid to be alone.
The idea of getting married when you're young and dumb, as mentioned in the video, suggests that maybe marriage isn't so great, because if you knew the truth of it, you wouldn't want it. Lol
Namjoon looking so FINE!!!!
I love Namjoon. He was probably at the bottom of my favorites when i started listening to BTS, but now he is near the top (i'm OT7 though, of course! ;)). Besides his book-smarts (i love a man who's book-smart), he's also really thoughtful, insightful, observant, and self-aware. Always learning and thinking about things. Some of that is a part of just being smart, but i know some pretty smart people who've even gone to Ivy League schools, who i think are dumb as rocks, really. Some people aren''t book-smart, but they are self-aware, insightful, inquisitive, thoughtful and all of that, and that's great. Namjoon is both, and that's just really cool. He also words things really poetically (the poet rapper). Like where he said that now that he's thought that he may never get married, he can't stop thinking it. I just love the way he poetically worded that thought, right in the moment he was answering the question. I always say he's the poet📓of the BTS Rapline (SUGA is the fire🔥and j-hope, the chameleon🦎even though they are each of them, each of the 3 at times -- don't you guys think so??) . I wish Namjoon lots of love and happiness and good art and music in his lifetime.🤍
I couldn't agree more, he's so right. Even I'm scared to marry not because of something else but by visualising my future, it looks terrific and same like others. The life is just not job ▶️ marriage ▶️ childern. You gotta live your life too and in the middle it depends on partner too you never know what they do and their one wrong move can destroy you. No one wants to rely on someone that much. Marriage isn't the only purpose. You gotta be secured too
Its sad that Namjoon has to think this way, despite all this fame. I do believe he would get someone who is alot like him ❤😂
Just one advice to him "go and explore". One cannot be afraid and have conclusions about love and marriage of they haven't explored the world and know what type of people they will gel up with.
I have the same fear, this morning I discussed w my parents that the only reason I would get married is kids but I don't know if marriage is for me. Cuz I have to be w that person forever. And what if love fades away? I told them that I would adopt children and raise them being unmarried cuz marriage seems scary truly. I can relate
I would say that people that think as much as does... Its very hard to fall in love, he reads a lot, he read about love... So he ponds on everything. But family, society have a big weight, we'll see if he ever does. He also always said he wanted be a father... Dont need to be married for that either, but...
south korea is conservative country and you need to be married in order to have a family. children born out of wedlock is still tabu..
@@LeilaKim1802 Right. But South Koreans aren't the only conservative people. For instance, Africa is the birthplace of humanity. It is a continent. There are many kingdoms, tribes, cultures, languages and ancient bloodlines; etc. Before AND after white colonization. So-called Black people are the most genetically diverse people in the world. And the oldest humans. Many tribes are conservative and follow the Torah. Also, there are virgin women and men as well 😊
@@LeilaKim1802yeah, but isn't there an option to adopt or something? I mean, I understand not everyone would be ok with adoption but still, just asking for a sake, how is adoption seen in the traditional culture of south korea??
@@userpgfkdnndjnnxn adopting a child as an unmarried man.. that will def makes headline in south korea. Blood ties are still very important in Korean culture in order to define who is family, if he was to adopt it must be his nephew or niece, adopting a complete stranger with no blood ties is rare and tabu. Children are adopted out of the country. The only way for rm to start a family is to marry,he can always divorce later in life.
Woooow, so many comments here are just awful. Namjoon allowed himself to be vulnerable for once, and spoke up about his personal life, which he very rarely does. He trusted fans to listen carefully and respect him, even if they don't understand. But what do we have instead?
"Nooo he can't really think that!! Ugh he's so immature! He's childish! A typical man, just afraid of commitment! He doesn't really know what he wants! As his fan I know better, he should only live how I want him to live! He WILL get married! He HAS to get married! He's ONLY allowed to have relationships with women don't you dare suggest otherwise!!! He will find his soulmate and then I'll be proven right. She must be beautiful, she must be perfect, she must be virtuous, she must be younger than him, she must be a virgin! He MUST have babies! Oh he's going to have sooo many beautiful babies just like I want him to! He will devote his life to marriage once he finds his perfect beautiful WIFE!!!"
I feel like I'm going insane reading all these comments.
Who are these condescending, controlling, disrespectful creeps? How do you even consider yourself fans? Do you have no respect for BTS at all? Are they only your fantasy dolls for you to play with and make up stories for? And what are these conservative values? Have you ever listened to BTS' lyrics or Namjoon's solo albums? Have you listened to his speeches or anything he's said in the past? How on earth could you feel so entitled to demand that someone only live the way you want them to live, and then insult them and denigrate them if they have a different perspective, a different lifestyle, different priorities?
What happened to "live and let live" or "it takes all types to make a world" or "if you don't have anything respectful to say, don't say anything at all."
I'm so disappointed in like 70% of commenters here. I can't even say these are just idiotic kids, because I think a lot of them are older. Really depressing and embarrassing.
RM(of BTS) is releasing his new album "Right Place, Wrong Person" on 24.05.2024, Friday 1PM KST | 9:30 AM IST. The pre-release track will be out on 10.05.2024 1PM KST | 9:30 AM KST
Actually he's right. Marrying someone is very critical. Like promising the person to be with them forever is difficult, up to their expectations! Also, now a days we usually don't trust people as many of them aren't worth it, and it makes it difficult to get one among all. I also do not plan to marry out there. May my plans change, but till now I really do not like it. I think somewhere it bounds you to some limits and you have to follow them. Although a partner is important, it should be made when we attain all we want to.
As a person who doesn’t want to get married and have children, I’m so glad to see more people who also think like this like that this society has made it a "norm" (let's put it that way) that your future has to be yes or yes; get married and have children once you have a job like you can simply have a partner without having to do either of those two things.
If one of my 7 standards think like this, I will definitely also be single forever, cause I rather be single than get less.
Namjoon is so me lol❤
If you meet the right person and it clicks, no one should feel trapped. As someone who meet the love of her life, was with him for 23 years and lost him because of a car accident, I can honestly say we’d still be together now if he hadn’t passed. But I’m not getting married again because I feel I’d be judging the man against what I had and that’s not far to them.
I really wish he would be happy with someone who won't lie to him and won't hurt him because if I had a relationship I also wouldn't like someone liar or cheater either you know. Best wishes for him because he's a wonderful person and my bias, talented brilliant artist and lover of arts and nature 🌹🌹💜💜💜💜💜💜
I totally agree with RM, people come and go, and just when I think this is it, I will settle with whoever comes next, and a new set of trouble arrives. It is not as simple as our parents make it sound. Times have changed.
He touched on it. But didn't say enough about it. Being as globally famous as they are, BTS might find themselves in a uniquely difficult situation when it comes to marriage. The desire to find a non idol partner might leave too much of an emotional gap in their relationships because there will always be the fame barrier. And if they were married to anyone who's a fan, the potential for the relationship to go through the idol fantasy filter is just too high. They'd have to be married to other idols because no one else would understand
Umm I guess it's not like that
If u love someone truly then u will accept and understand the person completely and if it's like that then there will be no barrier between the tw
I it won't matter if he is an idol and the other person is a non idol
I am not saying that u are wrong but it's just what I think [No Oppose/Hate]
I just wish who ever bts choose just love them back as much bts gave love to army in return I know bts will love their partner with whole heart just wishing for them best ✨💜
@@raheeldalal6522 you're not wrong 😃 I'm just scared for them because of how famous they are. Celebrities don't normally get to have healthy, loving relationships... at least, the track record isn't good 😅
@@vedangi_Sharma7 likewise 🩷
He could marry someone from a very rich family, used with the luxury life he lives in and who might not necessarily be a fan or very impressed with his money. Marrying a non celebrity doesn't have to mean marrying a some random poor girl with a regular job.
Absolutely agreed with Namjoon as Borned 90'kid era I can relate with Namjoon but somehow destiny played it's role I believe in destiny cause it happened in real life as I was working on being independent as dancer choreographer on social platform n boom then married happened n it's exactly what I didn't wanted at that time n somehow I know it now cause me n my husband both r on different levels of understanding of life, family n career n he is against of my idea to be a dancer on social platform how annoy to think other way when I planned something else Namjoon is right when it comes to choose partner for life it's a big decision hopefully when Namjoon thinks about marriage he will get best partner who loves him back 💜💜💜 he deserves the love n he worth it
I think his future wife would think of him as in attractive men in her love story too.
She will be sooo lucky this girl you gonna get married with an incredible humble and soooo hundsome man like you our best leader ❤
Joon I relate and connect to u so much always
I genuinely believe that Namjoon will find that other half. SHE WILL BE THAT wildflower......all by herself. Perfect, sweet, honest and good.
@ferximochola7596 Stop telling me how to be so you can be comfortable. I was not placed on earth to serve as your ego keeper. What I think is just that, MY thinking, if it does not please you, then comfort yourself, because I am not obligated to. 🫶
I’m from Sweden and no one cares if someone is married/have children or not. It’s very common to not be married these days, but no one judge or think it’s weird. There are older couples too who live together without marriage or children. No one cares! I hope it will be like that in South Korea too. Not so much social pressure.
Why his vibe or personality is so productive like even while it’s all about marriage in this video but I’m feeling like i should study rn haha
Has genz who born in 2007 ,like mee too scared of marriage because nowadays murder cases are more like murdering bride for dowry cases are becoming more and I said my mom that im not gonna get married till 27 or 30 ,I just want myself to be happy and successful and nowadays people of my ages are in love and even dating and roaming in pair but has an army I wanna say I don't like clingy couples and hence my parents are strict I don't do such nasty things,even those things need to be held in certain ages ,im just so scared 💜😔
❤your each and every point are so true....and it's on pin point...
Im the same exact age as namjoon and j hope I’m a 94 baby as well and my birthday is November 14th and it’s hard. For me to find someone especially one I know I can trust with my life and heart and not make me feel insecure at all. And be honest and loyal to me like I would with them but everytime I finally get courage to finally confess my feelings to a guy I like I always get rejected by these guys they say I’m not their type or we can stay friends at least and we don’t even act like friends or text or call like friends or hang out like friends we just see each other at work and say hi and ask how we are lol. I been single over 10 years because of this always getting rejected and even my friends boyfriend tried to find one of his friends to maybe get to know me and date me but alas I got rejected by his guy friends as well I also wonder if it’s because of my weight and I don’t wear make up much I tried and it didn’t work for me but I do like wearing foundation sometimes but it makes me lose confidence and I have a heart of gold and a great personality plus I’m still pure till I get married but no one seems to like girls like me no matter what I do. 😢 and even if they
Like girls like me on a rare occasion I always get unlucky and always get rejected no matter what. I even had guys like me but they were all over 40 like ew.. I’m only 29 and namjoon was the first guy I ever liked in BTS I love all 7 members though but it was namjoon originally and he still has a special place in my heart I honestly would love to find a guy like him for myself but I’m not namjoons type sadly. :( and now I got jk as my ultimate bias but again I’m not his type or any of the BTS members type and it saddens me
I think a successful marriage is one where you apply the golden rule of Confucius. Don't do anything to your spouse that you wouldn't want to be done to you. I am more loving, forgiving and supportive when I keep that in mind.
You're absolutely right 😢. Don't hurt someone the way you wouldn't want to be hurt
As someone born in the 2000's I agree with Namjoon I feel like marriage is pointless imo. Because people come & go all the time, and so many people divorce faster than they actually stay married. Hell more people cheat than actually last in a relationship as simply BF & GF, BF & BF, GF & GF so it's like why even waste the time of commitment to something that won't even last a week let alone the rest of our life.
That's because a superficial society creates superficial people. We need to value a person's morals and character more over how they look, what they have, or their status in life. It's the same quote that Martin Luther King Jr. believed in, that people should be judged on the content of their character.
As i am 90's kids i also feel same
guys, rm 'come back to me' teaser is out now! let's check it :)
As a 90's kid I am also scared to get married. It's like gambling...who knows what will happen. In my case it is arranged marriage too..I am too much afraid to marry 😅 I can feel you Namjoonie.
Upon seeing this, I get a piece of hint for his new song.
Coming back to this after watching RM come back to me music video
I am looking for platonic lifelong relationships
as not a 90's person but having seen my fams divorce etc, it can make it difficult for people to marry i would say even more so in korea because the social expectation i think is even higher in some regards. but if i can be skpetical i can also understand his as well.
Interesting, getting married is the most consequential decision of one's life, for me personally it has made me a better person.
🤗Marriage is way over rated, so glad to see the younger generation questioning the tradition and making better choices for themselves. The dream of happily ever after is a less than 50% outcome.
It’s time for human’s to evolve and create better options outside the box of sociable norms, there is a better WAY.!!!
PURE LOVE will lead the Way💜🌎✨
As a person born in the 90s myself it's really sad to see women like this be the toys of men who end up getting married to them and end up being mistreating after that today's society is like that now I'm definitely scared of getting married and being used by a man who doesn't give a damn about me or the children in general this gives me severe trust issues now because now I'm seeing my female sibling with failed marriages and broken homes, this is exactly why I'm scared of being in a relationship or even think about getting married in general there is no way I'm gonna let a man use me for his own amusement or treat me like garbage it's bad enough that I've dealt with toxic men in the past there is no darn way I'm letting that happen anymore the sheer amount of anything I've gotten in the past and being lied to as well I'm getting tired of guys who use me and want an actual relationship with me when they use me and abuse me and use me for my money i don't think so I'm putting my foot down on that nonsense I'm not letting a man use me for my money or anything like that I've had it with men using me like I'm a cash cow
It seems normal that someone would prefer to be on his/ her own for awhile. Esp since so much of RMs life to date has been compartmentalized. But if you can find it you will probably be more happy in the long run.
Being married is a choice as much as anything. It's not a magic.. falling in love forever and everything just works out after that. It's work and a commitment on both sides to stay together.
That said, being single is an equally valid choice. People should choose what they think is best for themselves, and ignore whoever tries to tell them what they "should" do.
Of course Namjoon is smart enough and introspective enough to figure out his own path. Good for him. He is a true role model.
I very very extremely love namjoon
Just thought I’d let you know
The perfect man!
Am now 24 but most of my agemates are getting married or in relationships but am single 😢. My now late mum had me at 20 and unfortunately passed away last year at 44. She was the only best friend i had and would understand that I actually don't want to get married even though I would like have her grandchildren 😢. Am afraid i might get involved with the wrong person
Namjoonla şöyle oturup konuşsam tüm sorunlarım çözülecekmiş gibi
Love to hear him❤
Namjoon is a Virgo and we are often introverted and feel no need to be married. There are more single Virgos than any other sign. Some animals mate for life and some don’t. Not sure where humans fall. Maybe that’s why there are fewer long term marriages than before. People are less interested in following social norms now, and are just doing what feels natural.
I don't believe in zodiacs but I was born in september and also have the same ideas
Not 90s those who born in 20s become sceptical about marriage most of gen z kids don't think about marriage mostly scared for marriage i don't want early
I really hope you'd marry a smart, wonderful and caring person
Someone who loves you the way you are
Please don't marry older women,is better to be younger than old but please not too old either. I just would love you to be happy with someone who really loves you and care about you ❤❤❤
Love you RM ❤❤
kim namjoon
My best friend forever!
Personally, I just can’t imagine not getting married. Life is so long, what would I do for the next 60 years if I don’t get married and have kids? I feel like I would be quite bored. It would be nice to have someone to go through everything with. I could imagine enjoying it at first without the responsibilities of marriage and children but once I got to like my 40s or 50s I think I would feel quite bored and would wish for something completely new. I feel like my life would revolve around work and everyday would just feel the same apart from when I go on holiday occasionally.
I feel that RM.