Makes sense I thought I was going insane when I was with my ex but it was only because he didn’t know what he wanted and played soo many mind games with me ! :( they have no idea how much damage they can do to people when they are like that only when he has the exact same thing happen to him will he realise how much he fucked me up !
What's sad is that a lot of us hang around because some men innocently use you. They are good guys and they don't mean to, but because they don't know what they want or they can't make up their mind, they will lead you on.
He is not confused. He thinks he "can get better." He wants you now, but knows he can string you along as he looks for "better." You cannot be a soul mate w / a demon.
Leyah McMillan Girrrl I checked my blocked messages and noticed he has been reached out numerous times, lol. I feel in control of the situation. It's not easy but I know what I deserve 👌🏾💪🏾 blessings to you 🙏🏾
@leslie aluoch ...so do I...keep him blocked. It's best if use a block service that does not allow u to see if he has tried to contact u. If u r checking, u r not serious about ending things. This is how I heal my heart after breaking things off and I still have feelings. As long as he has access to u, u will expect to hear from him..having hope, holding on...no, that's self-destruction!! Blocking his access eliminates that hope and u will soon forget about him. Do not look for a replacement, u have to be strong...there r so many things about yourself to u put that energy into...your health, education...find something to occupy your mind and time that makes u happy..trust me it works!! When u meet someone new, do not let him be a distraction from what u found that makes u happy...always keep it a priority!! Take care😊
A confused man is a man full of unrealistic self entitlement. He has over the top expectations that he himself hasn't achieved. He's inconsistent with love/affection & constantly changes what he says he's looking for. When confronted he's full of half ass excuses & rebutals. He'll criticize everything about you & have you feeling insecure & never good enough.
Omg I called my X out on being a spoiled little brat he went absolutely off at me cause I think he low key knew it was true he would always want everything his way he was one of these confused little boys with major mummy issues that completely stole my heart and wasted my god damn time !
Kapresha Davis I honestly don't think Derrick Jaxn has a woman. By choice of course. I say this to say, 95% or more of the women who watch or comment on his videos are either lost, broken, damaged, or CONFUSED. The other 4% don't watch or comment, and the 1%, well, they're the 1%. The very small percentage of women who are truly in loving, healthy relationships. So where does that leave Mr. Derrick Jaxn huh? With approximately 99% of women who don't match his swag. On the flip side, don't so easily accept everything you hear from him and look at him like he's some messiah from GOD or something. EVERY MAN has his flaws. DJ is undeniably a great "talker" but where he excels in one area makes him imperfect in another.
He has a one year old so he was in some type of relationship. After people went in after that birth announcement I wouldn’t mention anything about my personal life if I was him
Missy The Fabulous just KEEP watching his videos...😊🙏😊..they'll make YOU🙇♀️😊🙇♀️...Stronger and Stronger🙏🙇♀️🙏...Prayers🙏🙏🙏 UP🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️..for YOU🙏🙇♀️🙏...Sis🙏🙇♀️🙏🙇♀️
It's like they have a spirit of confusion on them and if you mess with them you end up confused too that spirit gets on you.. Stay clear of the confused type.
They are still confused even when they claim to know what they want smh.. They get the woman they claim to want, but still mess it up. So I don't think they will ever know what they want.
He is not confused, he is not CONFIDENT. That's a Narcissist btw. They never change. The confusion comes from not believing in himself. He will leave when the feeling is gone because he believes you lost it too. He also has no object consistency, he can't love you if he feels any negative emotions towards you. He doesn't know what he feels, so when he feels anything bad, it's YOU that's the problem. Dead end relationship.
Hi im going Through the same the he said wht u mentioned here im waiting that he will come back to me as he went to his home and after going through the family issues now he feel he is in mess and he wants me not to expect anything from stay like a frnd but when he was at hstl he was damn nice to me now he brokeup with me ,he said he is not interested in me nor any other girl he just wanna comeout of realtionship kinda stuff wht should i do whethee i should expect he will come back to me r not
Be strong and know your worth, it may hurt to stop the relationship, go out with dignity and find someone who wants the same thing you do. Drop casual men they will waste your precious time.
I just can recall my ex, he said to me that he was confused about his feelings towards me. It hurts a lot because someone you deeply in love isn't giving you same amount of affection. I let him go and that was the best decision I've made in my life and that was the worst decison of his life because now he regrets losing me.
@@amberlittles6395 he regrets losing her and he would have regreted staying with her, because he wants his cake and eat it too..and then 'a bite of another cake' confused man=unrealistic man. .childish man.
Watch out for "CASUAL MEN"..They dont want any commitment..run for ya damn life..hold ya head up and Stop playing the "Wifey"Role without a RING..for years on end
God is not the author of confusion. We should surround ourselves with people who are disciplined and focus. Your mate should possess qualities you want to possess. Your mate should be progressing, constantly moving forward, growing. You will be distracted from your destiny if your time, attention, and resources are focused on someone who is confused. If your love interest is confused about you, they are more than likely confused about other parts of his/her life. Is that what you want?
I was broken up with today. He told me “he just doesn’t know.” He’s trying to figure out his life work and school wise. Sucks because whenever he would become distant, I would always have to be the one to address it and then he’d start again with his “I don’t know anymore”. I feel like I went through so much crying and anxiety in the relationship that I didn’t cry in front of him. I cried a little on my way home but I’m hoping for the best because I know I went above and beyond for him yet he didn’t do the same for me so it’s time to move on.
Ivonne same thing happened to me. It hurt me so much because unfortunately I let him decide my worth. Now I’m moving forward knowing that I first need to learn what love really is from God and then learn to love myself as well. How are you doing now?
The first time he displayed this behavior and said these words should have been when you walked away (hindsight is always 20/20). But, know this....never let a man tell you more than once he is not that into you. When he said he didn't know what he wanted.....he did know what he wanted....and being in a relationship with you was NOT what he wanted. Never stay where you are not welcomed or valued. This only leads to devastation and brokenness.
A Confused man will break your heart if you continue to allow him to go in & out of your life...because he's confused. This hit home, & you provided excellent advise. Thank you for confirming. 👍
@@godsgift2916 your name is presidence over all just believe that you are a gift from God and lead your life that way... It will be easy to let go of a toxic person once you start Loving yourself
Men who keep saying " I just want someone to love me and love her back" and can't say anything specific are not gonna appreciate a great woman in their life
TheWiLdOne Dana so true...I just broke up with my guy because he is one confused man I swear I can't even drive my daughter around without him throwing some shady ass. Comment my way like I'm the cheater oh hell noooooo I don't play that
I'm still asking myself how did it happened to me. Nothing prepares us for these type of men. As the saying goes you live and learn. We have to go through these experiences to know better! Thanks Derrick, right now am enjoying knowing me.
fabian imbert there is something that prepares us and it's called waiting there's a scripture that God says wait on the Lord and be of good courage and he will strengthen your heart again he says wait on the Lord and one of the things I teaching my groups and while we need to wait cuz it gives you a chance to do a psychological background check on some of these dudes and also a criminal background check and sexual background check Financial background check or moral background check all of these checks will help us to make a decision before we get with the dude because we be so much in a hurry no kind of historical background check has been done and then we end up in the mess that we're in I've been there done that got the gown and the T-shirt we just have to learn from my mistakes and not make those mistakes again
LordHelp TheWorld It sucks when you’re emotionally connected to them. 🤦🏾♀️sometimes I hate being a young woman that dates. I feel so naive. Especially when they presented a front 🙄. I’ll be okay.
These confused men should work on themselves before getting into a relationship. Life is too precious to be wasting time out of nothing. Grow, improve yourselves and know what you want before getting on a relationship.
Man, you are so on point right there. Men know when they have figured out what they want, just like women do. When you get to that point you are wasting folks time dating people who aren't on the same page as you. Talking nonsense about you don't know what you want at 50? Boy, bye.
So true & I thought age would make a difference but once you reach that 40+ mark, YOU'RE NOT CONFUSED ANYMORE. YOU'RE JUST AN OLD MAN SET IN HIS WAYS & WILL ALWAYS BE CHASING A DREAM.... #Sad
Soul Source Tarot cool beans you read tarot as well. On waiting? Oh me oh my been doing that for more than 25yrs. With that being shared lol I'll just continue this joy ride with spirits.
I completely agree with you Derek. I have experienced this before. Ladies when you see these types of men run!! There are grown ass men out there who still don't know what they want and expect you to wait until they know what they want! My time is just as precious!
A “confused” man (or “uncertain/unsure” man OR any other similar label) is incapable of offering anything to a girlfriend. Let him get back to you when he’s sure and demonstrates it.
I really needed to hear this today! I used to think it was me being unreasonable expecting him to open up about his feelings but the reality is it was me dealing with a utterly confused man! I was expected to play the wife role without receiving the husband benefits in return. I'm glad I made the choice to move on and simply enjoy life until the right one finds me.
Tiffany J Sis, we're doing too much! Let us be anxious for nothing but through prayer and supplication make out every requests be made known to HIM with Thanksgiving.
Angela Mahaffy same here. Letting go was hard but once I did I felt like life truly began. Mediocrity is unacceptable to a queen 2 years to learn a very important lesson
Yes ladies I wasted years too. My last two relationships. I wasted time energy everything else. I can never get back my time or years. Team Single until the right one comes###
A “non-answer” from a man about what he’s looking for in a relationship or in a woman could also be that he already knows you’re NOT the woman or you don’t possess the qualities he’s looking for so, discussing them is unnecessary. To reiterate “He’s just not that into you” but is interested in how far he can get you to go while stringing you along UNTIL he meets the lady he wants a relationship with, and possessing the qualities of his desire... I confess this to be how I’ve handled answering the question, even as a lady, when I knew I had no real interest in the person asking.
Same here. Married 21 years on paper but he had mentally checked out 19 years ago. Us, divorcing hurt me & our sons, but at the end of the day, I am better off without him bc he still say today, he doesn't know what he wants. Divorce pending...
Hey Derrick. Great point. But please help women see that a confused man by definition is someone who is emotionally unhealthy, emotionally unstable, and emotionally unavailable. Ladies, don't do it to yourselves. Drop that frustration.
Charlene P Thanks Sis. AGREED. The brothers are not ready for relationship. We don't know anything about their (confused males) backgrounds their childhoods, any existing tramas and late bloomers. We can start anew with just self acceptance! as by OUR maker, self examination, setting boundaries and speaking life.
LaNita Kelley That’s what I encountered in my last situation. It was hard to walk away but I had to love me more. Usually their pretty silent about their upbringing too. You won’t find out anything unless you ask them and even then they make a big deal out of it smh.
Ebony Blackley Singleton never seen these kinda men today wanna be the ones getting attention they have their panties on. Bunch of NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER FOOLS
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt and soundtrack, plus the movie poster. My ex was the most confused man ever. He was telling me that he loved me, making plans with me, etc...., but then he started ghosting, and posting stuff on social media, calling other women sexy, flirting, etc....then on top of that, he started with excuses too. I told him where to go with a quickness, and last I heard he's still running that game that he did with me. I wish him well, but I feel for any woman that gets him, and expects him to settle down and be faithful, because no matter what he says, his actions proved otherwise.
Yes ,just got burned by a confused man ,heartbroken.Hurt so much it's hard to breath ,I ignored the signs thinking oh he will change ,I will change him...nope not at all The man has to want to change .period
I know a woman who fits that description. She was/is a very confused woman. Got married, was happy at first,but when the feeling died down she went off and cheated and got pregnant by the side dude. Left husband, and now is talking about possibly cheating on the guy she left her husband for. So I think this can go both ways, both men and women can be confused.
Jahnae Taylor The confusion happens when one thinks everything about a relationship is reliant on emotion. People who can't "stay the course" are confused about "Life feeling like a fantasy" vs. "These are the ebbs and flows of life and relationships, and I'm not going to throw a temper-tantrum." The situation you describe sounds like selfishness and temper-tantrums and always thinking "the grass may be greener", which is a childish thought within itself.
And this truth is exactly why I am so excited to be on my journey of celibacy!!! To me it's the surest way to prove that you are more interested in what's best for you rather than what your ego will settle for
Daaammmnnn. You are 100%. Thank you. My outlook just changed. And I realize that I also need to become very clear on what I want and leave as soon as I see different from him.
DEADASS. been in a relationship with someone for 4 years now and he still wasn't able to say what we were when i asked him and gave him chance after chance. it just won't work.. i left with my heart broken and my hope somewhat shattered for love but i know it had to come for this for me to truly learn what it is i want &i what i should require for a man that WANTS to date me. period. standards and what you tolerate is a HUGE thing ladies and makes a biiiig impact. don't be wasting your time on confused dudes!!! - a determined woman
You best believe it! Derrick, you put up videos that match exactly what is happening in every season. Stay in the spirit because you are usually on time. God Bless You.
Omg. So true!! I had a guy tell me the EXACT same thing...."I don't know what I want, but when I find it, I'll know" I think, when you know what you want, YOU'LL FIND IT! I always felt like I was trying to convince him of my value and our connection. I was heartbroken when he told me he "simply fell out of love" with me. Now I thank the universe for holding space for the one that knows what he wants.
Perfect timing! Thank you so much! He will not be part of my 2018 and on! We are a perfect match, great soulmates but, if he can't see it, I'm not dealing with his immaturity and confusion anymore. He wants that magical love at first sight, Hollywood movie story... well keep looking for it on Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat within all those "social media 'models'" and "perfect couples." I'm done and moving on.
This was right ON TIME. THANK U Derrick! The stuff we allow smh. "Right in his face and don't know what he has" is perfect for my situation. I almost feel sorry for him cuz when he finally snaps out of it I have a feeling that I will be long gone but sometimes we sleep on gold #StayWoke. Derrick, #BeBlessed and thank you for your invaluable insight... Xoxo faitfhful follower, Elizabeth😉
This video has really blessed me in more ways than one. I’ve just ended a situation like such two hours ago. I couldn’t continue any longer so I pulled back. Doing so is the best decision ever. Thank you once again Derrick!
So powerful outrageously true can't believe that someone even has to say it for my brain to understand it thank you so much for putting the pieces together
I have binged on 10 or more of your videos. Thank you for your realness and upfront honesty. I love hearing it and also...needed to hear it. You're a blessing to all women. The world needs more men like you!!
This is why I believe that standards must be maintained no matter how great someone "seems" especially after the initial phase when the rose colored glasses may still be on.
I just went through a relationship like that and that's exactly what I learned from it and I ended up leaving that confused man behind because he always believes that I'm going to be there because of my love for him but he's wrong. Real women can only take so much before they turn the page or as you would say gets fed up and I'm fed up. I wish good luck to him and his search and I wish him the best with whoever. it's time for me to move on and that's what I've done. I'm a strong woman. there's plenty of fish in the sea and I ain't bad looking so, bon voyage baby...
Derrick I recently got dm'd by a guy and he was asking be provocative questions and I didn't hesitate to ask him the questions regard long term goals an me future plans. I was able to curve this guy's advances. I thank you again for all your help. These videos have been an instrumental tool in helping to get my mind right Nd wait for what I really deserve. A Good Man! 👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👐🏾💖💖💖💖
Also,, when he says he doesn't have romantic feelings for you but keeps acting like he'd want to be your bf..buying gifts, buying food, talking personal stuff.. All of that for casual sex? These men unknowingly waste their own time as well!
Confirmation!💯 Had the exact same conversation with 2 different men. The confused man I knew longer than the real man . The conversation came up recently about dating. It definitely went the same as in the video ...issues with "titles" I chose to build a friendship/dating with a REAL man.He told me before I could even asked what he wanted and his intentions long term. I went with my gut. confused men=fuk boys #Staywoke #TeamJaxn
Who are you. You are the bomb. Almost every time I listen to your videos, I'm in awe. You definitely have a gift from God. Keep it it brother man. You are doing alot of women justice.
Booboo A Amen. I’m soooooo happy he’s talking about this. He’s trying to get us to become new women in 2018 and cut off confused men that aren’t definitive, like Dr. Jaxn said.🙏🏾
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Leave him and his confusion together. A man doesn't realize a good woman until she is gone.
Yes*
Biggest fact
Real Talk! Blessings!💞🙏🙏🙏🙏🤗😊🙋🙋👣
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You are right
Confused people will only disrupt your peace of mind
Makes sense I thought I was going insane when I was with my ex but it was only because he didn’t know what he wanted and played soo many mind games with me ! :( they have no idea how much damage they can do to people when they are like that only when he has the exact same thing happen to him will he realise how much he fucked me up !
That part
Tanisha Tucker indeed
Yes Lawd “The Devil 👿 is the author of confusion.”
Tanisha Tucker I totally agree
"Confused" means your gonna get USED
Used at the end of the word!!!
What's sad is that a lot of us hang around because some men innocently use you. They are good guys and they don't mean to, but because they don't know what they want or they can't make up their mind, they will lead you on.
That part!
@@misspriss2482 literally the boat I'm in rn
I have a stalker who likes all my comments lmao!
He is not confused. He thinks he "can get better." He wants you now, but knows he can string you along as he looks for "better."
You cannot be a soul mate w / a demon.
FACTS SMH
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Louderrr siss
When I made it to the “demon” part. I DIIIIIEEEEEEED 😭
Tesi Rose 😂😂😂
Most of these men are not confused. They just dont love you
Can't upvote this as much as I want..💯💯💯
love but doesnt know how, was alone long time, like more their freedom, and not confident
Totally agree
Word!
Exactly
Confused men= Time wasted...
Yes
So true
You're very beautiful
I have a confused man BLOCKED right now! Hopefully I stay strong and keep him there 🚫💪🏾
Leslie Aluoch i agree. Im in a similiar situation
Leyah McMillan Girrrl I checked my blocked messages and noticed he has been reached out numerous times, lol. I feel in control of the situation. It's not easy but I know what I deserve 👌🏾💪🏾 blessings to you 🙏🏾
@leslie aluoch ...so do I...keep him blocked. It's best if use a block service that does not allow u to see if he has tried to contact u. If u r checking, u r not serious about ending things. This is how I heal my heart after breaking things off and I still have feelings. As long as he has access to u, u will expect to hear from him..having hope, holding on...no, that's self-destruction!! Blocking his access eliminates that hope and u will soon forget about him. Do not look for a replacement, u have to be strong...there r so many things about yourself to u put that energy into...your health, education...find something to occupy your mind and time that makes u happy..trust me it works!! When u meet someone new, do not let him be a distraction from what u found that makes u happy...always keep it a priority!! Take care😊
good luck I know it's hard
Court Reporter Forum perfectly said 👑
Everytime I watch these videos, I am convinced that a single life with a small dog is the best life for me 😂 dating is too much work.
Alicia Williams same. I keep trying to find a reason to date but I can’t find any.
Lol # asmalldog!
Lol that was funny.
okay sure, the man u want will happen just pick and choose the right one
Lol. Nah it make the real men shine more brightly so they are easier to see 😀. I hear you though . Lol!!!!
Keeping my legs closed to confused men! Point.Blank. Period.
If he leave at first sign of discomfort, he wasn't really that into you!
THIS. IT WAS ALL JUST A LIE.
That ain’t confusion that’s immaturity 😒
Nacholuva Nacholuva
That too !
lol yeppp!
Exactly
Immaturity is thinking that confusion is part of your identity or charm.
Yep 100%
A confused man is a man full of unrealistic self entitlement. He has over the top expectations that he himself hasn't achieved. He's inconsistent with love/affection & constantly changes what he says he's looking for. When confronted he's full of half ass excuses & rebutals. He'll criticize everything about you & have you feeling insecure & never good enough.
Earth Angel sound like a partner of mines Happy New Year my beautiful black queen
I know one of those...X'd nearly two years ago, am glad to say :)
Omg I called my X out on being a spoiled little brat he went absolutely off at me cause I think he low key knew it was true he would always want everything his way he was one of these confused little boys with major mummy issues that completely stole my heart and wasted my god damn time !
This is so true
Do we know the same men? :)
Whoever your lady is..... i know she’s happy! You’re a very smart man!
Kapresha Davis I honestly don't think Derrick Jaxn has a woman. By choice of course. I say this to say, 95% or more of the women who watch or comment on his videos are either lost, broken, damaged, or CONFUSED. The other 4% don't watch or comment, and the 1%, well, they're the 1%. The very small percentage of women who are truly in loving, healthy relationships. So where does that leave Mr. Derrick Jaxn huh? With approximately 99% of women who don't match his swag. On the flip side, don't so easily accept everything you hear from him and look at him like he's some messiah from GOD or something. EVERY MAN has his flaws. DJ is undeniably a great "talker" but where he excels in one area makes him imperfect in another.
TheAlpha Femme-fatale , i was just giving the guy a simple compliment... don’t read into it too much. 🤷🏻♀️👍🏼
Kapresha Davis I'm sure you were honey.
TheAlpha Femme-fatale , i was honey 😁🤷🏻♀️
He has a one year old so he was in some type of relationship. After people went in after that birth announcement I wouldn’t mention anything about my personal life if I was him
The confused ones have the biggest Egos 💯
Real talk
This is FACT!
Don't I know it! Know at least 3 or 4 males, mostly black!
Facts
“The Devil is the author of confusion .”
Amen
True
I am ashamed to say I have allowed too much for too long 😫 Thanks Derrick
Don't be ashamed, be empowered and make a move! Blessings to you, love! I pray for you to have everything that is good for you!
Missy The Fabulous Girl, u r not alone w/ that.
You are definitely not alone. We have the future to get it right though!
DON'T be ashamed for recognizing....
Now it's time to DO something!
Missy The Fabulous just KEEP watching his videos...😊🙏😊..they'll make YOU🙇♀️😊🙇♀️...Stronger and Stronger🙏🙇♀️🙏...Prayers🙏🙏🙏 UP🙇♀️🙇♀️🙇♀️..for YOU🙏🙇♀️🙏...Sis🙏🙇♀️🙏🙇♀️
Confused people cause more confusion with anyone they are involved with.
It's like they have a spirit of confusion on them and if you mess with them you end up confused too that spirit gets on you.. Stay clear of the confused type.
+SensuousO That's the exact spirit in operation.
lm W EXACTLY!!!!
Confused men can't identify what they have!!! There to busy looking and lurking around.
Exactly
Ain't that the truth🤦🏽♀️
Misery loves company,so does confusion.
If you have to convince someone to stay In a relationship, it's time to chase them out the door
Or throw them out.....either way ....win /win......
They are still confused even when they claim to know what they want smh.. They get the woman they claim to want, but still mess it up. So I don't think they will ever know what they want.
Melanie S 🐸🍵
LOL true indeed.
Melanie you really think so?
He is not confused, he is not CONFIDENT. That's a Narcissist btw. They never change. The confusion comes from not believing in himself. He will leave when the feeling is gone because he believes you lost it too. He also has no object consistency, he can't love you if he feels any negative emotions towards you. He doesn't know what he feels, so when he feels anything bad, it's YOU that's the problem. Dead end relationship.
So true!--
Hi im going Through the same the he said wht u mentioned here im waiting that he will come back to me as he went to his home and after going through the family issues now he feel he is in mess and he wants me not to expect anything from stay like a frnd but when he was at hstl he was damn nice to me now he brokeup with me ,he said he is not interested in me nor any other girl he just wanna comeout of realtionship kinda stuff wht should i do whethee i should expect he will come back to me r not
Indi Genius
Every word you said is the truth!
Thanks for sharing!
My ex lol
Another BOY meaning "Burden On You"-- I read this on a post and it is sooo true!
If he is confused he is not a man he is still a boy who needs to grow up! A grown man knows what he wants in a woman.
Be strong and know your worth, it may hurt to stop the relationship, go out with dignity and find someone who wants the same thing you do. Drop casual men they will waste your precious time.
I just can recall my ex, he said to me that he was confused about his feelings towards me. It hurts a lot because someone you deeply in love isn't giving you same amount of affection. I let him go and that was the best decision I've made in my life and that was the worst decison of his life because now he regrets losing me.
As he should u go girl u deserve the best of the best
Good for you we’ve all wasted time with these guys
AMEN
He doesn't regret losing you he's saying whatever to get what he thinks is easy. Speaking from experience
@@amberlittles6395 he regrets losing her and he would have regreted staying with her, because he wants his cake and eat it too..and then 'a bite of another cake' confused man=unrealistic man. .childish man.
Watch out for "CASUAL MEN"..They dont want any commitment..run for ya damn life..hold ya head up and Stop playing the "Wifey"Role without a RING..for years on end
Preach Sista!!! Cause those men will put you on fuckin merry go round for years and years!!!
Well said
Empress24 Bryant a TRUTH
Precisely Empress 24
Preach
God is not the author of confusion. We should surround ourselves with people who are disciplined and focus. Your mate should possess qualities you want to possess. Your mate should be progressing, constantly moving forward, growing. You will be distracted from your destiny if your time, attention, and resources are focused on someone who is confused. If your love interest is confused about you, they are more than likely confused about other parts of his/her life. Is that what you want?
Say it louder for the back row!!
Bible prophecy: men (mankind) will become lovers of themselves!
Tonya Yvette 💕💕💕
actual & factual
God is not the author of confusion
Beth Younger.... Amen...!
Straight like that!! 👍💯
Beth Younger powerful and true
Amen😍
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Confused men... I got played. Married and gave him everything on a silver platter and he still walked away. Lesson learned
wow im sorry...
Sorry to hear. I hope you’re doing better
Never open your legs to married men!
Never was married but my bd cheated with men and women. In recently left me for a women.
Wait he was already married or you married him?
I was broken up with today. He told me “he just doesn’t know.” He’s trying to figure out his life work and school wise. Sucks because whenever he would become distant, I would always have to be the one to address it and then he’d start again with his “I don’t know anymore”. I feel like I went through so much crying and anxiety in the relationship that I didn’t cry in front of him. I cried a little on my way home but I’m hoping for the best because I know I went above and beyond for him yet he didn’t do the same for me so it’s time to move on.
Ivonne same thing happened to me. It hurt me so much because unfortunately I let him decide my worth. Now I’m moving forward knowing that I first need to learn what love really is from God and then learn to love myself as well. How are you doing now?
Me too! I shoulda ran first
I’m going thru it now. It hurts like hell. But I have to let go. He lost a really good woman.
Nicole B - how are you doing now?
The first time he displayed this behavior and said these words should have been when you walked away (hindsight is always 20/20). But, know this....never let a man tell you more than once he is not that into you. When he said he didn't know what he wanted.....he did know what he wanted....and being in a relationship with you was NOT what he wanted. Never stay where you are not welcomed or valued. This only leads to devastation and brokenness.
Natalie Martin thank you!! That’s so true!!!
A Confused man will break your heart if you continue to allow him to go in & out of your life...because he's confused. This hit home, & you provided excellent advise. Thank you for confirming. 👍
Dealing with this right now and it's hard letting go...smh
@@godsgift2916 your name is presidence over all just believe that you are a gift from God and lead your life that way... It will be easy to let go of a toxic person once you start Loving yourself
sandra Jackson God has turned this situation around already!
Men who keep saying " I just want someone to love me and love her back" and can't say anything specific are not gonna appreciate a great woman in their life
TheWiLdOne Dana so true...I just broke up with my guy because he is one confused man I swear I can't even drive my daughter around without him throwing some shady ass. Comment my way like I'm the cheater oh hell noooooo I don't play that
Those are the codependent men that want a second mother, not an equal partner.
I'm still asking myself how did it happened to me. Nothing prepares us for these type of men. As the saying goes you live and learn. We have to go through these experiences to know better! Thanks Derrick, right now am enjoying knowing me.
fabian imbert there is something that prepares us and it's called waiting there's a scripture that God says wait on the Lord and be of good courage and he will strengthen your heart again he says wait on the Lord and one of the things I teaching my groups and while we need to wait cuz it gives you a chance to do a psychological background check on some of these dudes and also a criminal background check and sexual background check Financial background check or moral background check all of these checks will help us to make a decision before we get with the dude because we be so much in a hurry no kind of historical background check has been done and then we end up in the mess that we're in I've been there done that got the gown and the T-shirt we just have to learn from my mistakes and not make those mistakes again
Amen, The Most High is not the author of confusion
I don’t think these type of people will ever be happy. How can you ever be happy if you don’t even know where you stand in your own life?
As much as I have learned I still wished it never happened all I have is time on my hands now .
Life lessons , not necessarily yours. You won't fall for it again and neither will I.
He could have it right in his fsce and never know what he has. So damn true.
Yep!
I'm playing this every day at the moment to remind myself to stay away from my confused ex who nearly broke me! Thank you ❤
I've had a confused man. Or as I call it "fickle." They run hot and cold and it's annoying AF!
Twyla Turner that inconsistency is so annoying... This was my first time exercising such a man... Never again. It will drive you insane.
SensuousO Yessssssss!!! They make you question yourself. Hell they make you question EVERYTHING!!!
Exactly and if you’re a sensitive woman, it feels like hell playing their game. Is the point to have us stick around to try and fix them?
Aariyan096 ....hell no...await Peace and Maturity....refrain from being comfortable with such messy, unhealthy behavior
LordHelp TheWorld It sucks when you’re emotionally connected to them. 🤦🏾♀️sometimes I hate being a young woman that dates. I feel so naive. Especially when they presented a front 🙄. I’ll be okay.
God will go out his way to send you a message. This answered my question I had for God today.
Jenece M. Amen
True facts. Dealing with a confused man got me tired and hurt. Never again.
These confused men should work on themselves before getting into a relationship. Life is too precious to be wasting time out of nothing. Grow, improve yourselves and know what you want before getting on a relationship.
Man, you are so on point right there. Men know when they have figured out what they want, just like women do. When you get to that point you are wasting folks time dating people who aren't on the same page as you. Talking nonsense about you don't know what you want at 50? Boy, bye.
So true & I thought age would make a difference but once you reach that 40+ mark, YOU'RE NOT CONFUSED ANYMORE. YOU'RE JUST AN OLD MAN SET IN HIS WAYS & WILL ALWAYS BE CHASING A DREAM.... #Sad
Nope, don't want no confused man...I will hold out...Thank you very much.
Soul Source Tarot truth I'll hold out
Soul Source Tarot cool beans you read tarot as well. On waiting? Oh me oh my been doing that for more than 25yrs. With that being shared lol I'll just continue this joy ride with spirits.
Amen
Hey Lady!!! I love you!!!!
I completely agree with you Derek. I have experienced this before. Ladies when you see these types of men run!! There are grown ass men out there who still don't know what they want and expect you to wait until they know what they want! My time is just as precious!
Spot on. The best thing to do is to leave a confused man alone.
This comment!👏🏽✌🏽
A “confused” man (or “uncertain/unsure” man OR any other similar label) is incapable of offering anything to a girlfriend. Let him get back to you when he’s sure and demonstrates it.
i was dating a confused BOY. so immature.
I really needed to hear this today! I used to think it was me being unreasonable expecting him to open up about his feelings but the reality is it was me dealing with a utterly confused man! I was expected to play the wife role without receiving the husband benefits in return. I'm glad I made the choice to move on and simply enjoy life until the right one finds me.
Tiffany J i needed to read these words thank you!!
Sonia Perez You're very welcome, sis! Just believe in yourself and your value. The right one will find you and not dim your light!
Tiffany J
Sis, we're doing too much!
Let us be anxious for nothing but through prayer and supplication make out every requests be made known to HIM with Thanksgiving.
Same story here.
Whether he approached u again r not ny saying that he is no more confused ,wanna u back in his life
Exactly. Just gave 2 years to a confused man.. Smh
Angela Mahaffy same here. Letting go was hard but once I did I felt like life truly began. Mediocrity is unacceptable to a queen 2 years to learn a very important lesson
Angela Mahaffy me too smh never again
Yes ladies I wasted years too. My last two relationships. I wasted time energy everything else. I can never get back my time or years. Team Single until the right one comes###
10 years and a whole lotta booty Lol, end up loving my little dogs i got. They dont f@#* you over, lol
Me too
A “non-answer” from a man about what he’s looking for in a relationship or in a woman could also be that he already knows you’re NOT the woman or you don’t possess the qualities he’s looking for so, discussing them is unnecessary. To reiterate “He’s just not that into you” but is interested in how far he can get you to go while stringing you along UNTIL he meets the lady he wants a relationship with, and possessing the qualities of his desire... I confess this to be how I’ve handled answering the question, even as a lady, when I knew I had no real interest in the person asking.
I was left heartbroken and time wasted by a confused man. Married 6 years and he's still confused
same here, pending a divorce from a confused demon
Same here. Married 21 years on paper but he had mentally checked out 19 years ago. Us, divorcing hurt me & our sons, but at the end of the day, I am better off without him bc he still say today, he doesn't know what he wants. Divorce pending...
Hey Derrick. Great point. But please help women see that a confused man by definition is someone who is emotionally unhealthy, emotionally unstable, and emotionally unavailable. Ladies, don't do it to yourselves. Drop that frustration.
Charlene P Can they be emotionally abusive too? I’ve encountered emotionally unhealthy men before.
Charlene P
Thanks Sis. AGREED.
The brothers are not ready for relationship. We don't know anything about their (confused males) backgrounds their childhoods, any existing tramas and late bloomers.
We can start anew with just self acceptance! as by OUR maker, self examination, setting boundaries and speaking life.
LaNita Kelley That’s what I encountered in my last situation. It was hard to walk away but I had to love me more. Usually their pretty silent about their upbringing too. You won’t find out anything unless you ask them and even then they make a big deal out of it smh.
Amen! I agree with that
Charlene P true some are narcissistic
I swear I just talking about this to a friend, you just confirmed it
Ikr perfect timing for me as well.
You are so on point!
Yup.
Word! Leave his "confused" ass right where you found him! #Notimeforit
Confused and cheating to see if things become clear to them.
NO Contact.
That's how I become UNconfused.
Cheers!!
Cheers 🍷
Haha😄👏🏽
Says he wants a relationship..yet he really doesnt just convenience
Just to pass the time until he thinks he fine what he might be looking for!🤔
Amen! That’s a grown man status when he can keep it real and say how it is and then both people won’t waste their time
I stay to myself I don't Enteraining no man because Men are too much to entertaining I learn to understand myself
Ebony Blackley Singleton never seen these kinda men today wanna be the ones getting attention they have their panties on. Bunch of NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER FOOLS
Shanti Reed I totally agree. The men are definitely different out here today. Very few Derrick Jaxn’s out here.
Been there, done that, got the t-shirt and soundtrack, plus the movie poster. My ex was the most confused man ever. He was telling me that he loved me, making plans with me, etc...., but then he started ghosting, and posting stuff on social media, calling other women sexy, flirting, etc....then on top of that, he started with excuses too. I told him where to go with a quickness, and last I heard he's still running that game that he did with me. I wish him well, but I feel for any woman that gets him, and expects him to settle down and be faithful, because no matter what he says, his actions proved otherwise.
I dated a confused man off and on . Thank god I didn’t marry him.🙌🏾
Yes ,just got burned by a confused man ,heartbroken.Hurt so much it's hard to breath ,I ignored the signs thinking oh he will change ,I will change him...nope not at all
The man has to want to change .period
I know a woman who fits that description. She was/is a very confused woman. Got married, was happy at first,but when the feeling died down she went off and cheated and got pregnant by the side dude. Left husband, and now is talking about possibly cheating on the guy she left her husband for. So I think this can go both ways, both men and women can be confused.
Jahnae Taylor The confusion happens when one thinks everything about a relationship is reliant on emotion. People who can't "stay the course" are confused about "Life feeling like a fantasy" vs. "These are the ebbs and flows of life and relationships, and I'm not going to throw a temper-tantrum." The situation you describe sounds like selfishness and temper-tantrums and always thinking "the grass may be greener", which is a childish thought within itself.
They are called narcissistic
+Kimberly Dilaire Yass thats exactly what they are.
Jahnae Taylor some people just wsnt..LUST!!!!
Oh wow,she is damaged to s point off no return
And this truth is exactly why I am so excited to be on my journey of celibacy!!! To me it's the surest way to prove that you are more interested in what's best for you rather than what your ego will settle for
Nikky Lafavor stay strong my beautiful black queen
Thank you king!
I want the card game. How much
Damn! You always speak the truth and set us free. Thank you. You are sowing great seeds! #TeamJaxn forever..
Daaammmnnn. You are 100%. Thank you. My outlook just changed. And I realize that I also need to become very clear on what I want and leave as soon as I see different from him.
🗣and that's why I REFUSE to help them figure it out
DEADASS. been in a relationship with someone for 4 years now and he still wasn't able to say what we were when i asked him and gave him chance after chance. it just won't work.. i left with my heart broken and my hope somewhat shattered for love but i know it had to come for this for me to truly learn what it is i want &i what i should require for a man that WANTS to date me. period. standards and what you tolerate is a HUGE thing ladies and makes a biiiig impact. don't be wasting your time on confused dudes!!! - a determined woman
Omg, yes! On point! Just got rid of a confused man. I don’t have time for that bullshit.
Exfuckingxactly
I needed to hear this today!
IsisAtlantis girl me too as I’m sitting here waiting on a text back 🙄
Right!! I'm so sick of being hurt!!
Don’t deal with confused men or men who display confusing behavior 🙅🏾♀️
You best believe it! Derrick, you put up videos that match exactly what is happening in every season. Stay in the spirit because you are usually on time. God Bless You.
LifeisBeautiful TRUTH.
I love this comment!
Omg. So true!! I had a guy tell me the EXACT same thing...."I don't know what I want, but when I find it, I'll know"
I think, when you know what you want, YOU'LL FIND IT! I always felt like I was trying to convince him of my value and our connection. I was heartbroken when he told me he "simply fell out of love" with me. Now I thank the universe for holding space for the one that knows what he wants.
Geesh Derrick you do this every time... It's like you watching me lol. Thank you I appreciate you
OMG I needed to see this. He is very confused and I just can't deal with it. I know what I want. Thank you
Confused men all signed up on Bumble and tinder 😭😭😭😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣
Perfect timing! Thank you so much! He will not be part of my 2018 and on! We are a perfect match, great soulmates but, if he can't see it, I'm not dealing with his immaturity and confusion anymore. He wants that magical love at first sight, Hollywood movie story... well keep looking for it on Instagram, Facebook and Snapchat within all those "social media 'models'" and "perfect couples." I'm done and moving on.
Karla Simental Well said.
Karla Simental yes girl yess 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
Same.here
Yep..yep..yep! This is so true! A stronger attitude for 2018.....
AMEN
markeetawins facts!!!!
You’re right!!! Why does simple things have to be so complicated though
caole88 exactly!!!! why
Robyn spann yes!!
So true!!! I wish I’d spotted this early in my relationship. It would have saved me from a lot of stress, drama, and waisted time. Thank you.
He's right. We deserve better then someone who's not sure if we r enough.
This was right ON TIME. THANK U Derrick! The stuff we allow smh. "Right in his face and don't know what he has" is perfect for my situation. I almost feel sorry for him cuz when he finally snaps out of it I have a feeling that I will be long gone but sometimes we sleep on gold #StayWoke. Derrick, #BeBlessed and thank you for your invaluable insight... Xoxo faitfhful follower, Elizabeth😉
This video has really blessed me in more ways than one. I’ve just ended a situation like such two hours ago. I couldn’t continue any longer so I pulled back. Doing so is the best decision ever. Thank you once again Derrick!
So powerful outrageously true can't believe that someone even has to say it for my brain to understand it thank you so much for putting the pieces together
I have binged on 10 or more of your videos. Thank you for your realness and upfront honesty. I love hearing it and also...needed to hear it. You're a blessing to all women. The world needs more men like you!!
I need to know -- where are these non confused men at ??? 😄💞
This message came right on time for me thank you
This is why I believe that standards must be maintained no matter how great someone "seems" especially after the initial phase when the rose colored glasses may still be on.
You just helped to save me from a confused man. Your advice always set me straight.
Thanks!
I absolutely agree and love the honesty shared on this subject. Real men know exactly what they want.
Yes i just finish a two years relationship because he “didn’t know what he wants” even when i states from the very beginning what i was looking for
I just went through a relationship like that and that's exactly what I learned from it and I ended up leaving that confused man behind because he always believes that I'm going to be there because of my love for him but he's wrong. Real women can only take so much before they turn the page or as you would say gets fed up and I'm fed up. I wish good luck to him and his search and I wish him the best with whoever. it's time for me to move on and that's what I've done. I'm a strong woman. there's plenty of fish in the sea and I ain't bad looking so, bon voyage baby...
missmusicdiva proud of u miss Lady 🙌continue to go rite in ur life and may god blessed you 🙏
Say dat Queen
Derrick I recently got dm'd by a guy and he was asking be provocative questions and I didn't hesitate to ask him the questions regard long term goals an me future plans. I was able to curve this guy's advances. I thank you again for all your help. These videos have been an instrumental tool in helping to get my mind right Nd wait for what I really deserve. A Good Man! 👌🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👐🏾💖💖💖💖
Truth✔💯 I wish I knew this 10 years ago😧😩
Confusion is also when a man says he loves you and acts like he doesn't.
Yes
Also,, when he says he doesn't have romantic feelings for you but keeps acting like he'd want to be your bf..buying gifts, buying food, talking personal stuff.. All of that for casual sex? These men unknowingly waste their own time as well!
@@ST-yc7uj you have a point, haha! Wasting their own time, lol, smh!
I agree.. confusion will have your spouse unable to tell you why they love you.
Confirmation!💯
Had the exact same conversation with 2 different men. The confused man I knew longer than the real man . The conversation came up recently about dating. It definitely went the same as in the video ...issues with "titles" I chose to build a friendship/dating with a REAL man.He told me before I could even asked what he wanted and his intentions long term. I went with my gut.
confused men=fuk boys
#Staywoke
#TeamJaxn
Lady Empress Yes confused men are nothing but Fboys
#StayWoke !!! 😂🙏
Who are you. You are the bomb. Almost every time I listen to your videos, I'm in awe. You definitely have a gift from God. Keep it it brother man. You are doing alot of women justice.
Woww a topic which is so much common but no one talks about it
Booboo A Amen. I’m soooooo happy he’s talking about this. He’s trying to get us to become new women in 2018 and cut off confused men that aren’t definitive, like Dr. Jaxn said.🙏🏾
When he’s confused he could have it right there in his face and not know it! Deep
Yes this is true, this has happened to me. It is always best to pay attention to it the confusion. Be yourself and let go when you see the signs.