George, you just described me. I was married for 34 years, wife left me 1 year ago said she wanted to "find yerself and be happy." I was devastated to say the least. Now divorced for 3 months and trying to redefine myself. Thank you for this video. It's a uphill battle for sure.
Frank I was married to a published model. We men are idealists. We just want to love and be loved. If we are lucky the woman will love the kids. Most of them do not experience love for the man in this way. They are conditioned very early to believe their love for us should match what we provide. Have you ever seen a broke unattractive Disney prince outside of Shrek? Do any women wish to date or marry Shrek lol maybe someone out there (that woman would be a keeper lol). My point is though we have to lower our expectations of what to expect in dating or marriage. The reason I bring up my ex.. We are both 41. If you get in the gym, get on trt.. you will never ever again date a woman the same age. I rarely date anyone over 30. Look at George's physique, his fashion, his grooming, his confidence etc. You want to incorporate all that and have a flat stomach and abs. I don't know why this is so hard to grasp and implement for nice men. I believe it starts with not loving themselves enough to act and keep taking action. I believe they do not daydream about being ripped, taking their shirt off and their woman swooning. They do not believe life can be like that. I have someone in my life I love so much and want the change to occur for them. I will always encourage them but I don't think they will change. They bought all the lies - just be a good person and make money. That is not enough for women. They don't get in bed with men because they are a nice guy with a stable job. They are like us. They want genuine physical attraction. I could talk about this topic all day but this is George's channel and he's the teacher. I will tell you a light bulb moment for me. I made an acquaintance in the fitness community, a friend of a friend. He had a face only a mother could love but he was into bodybuilding and had an edge, a confidence, a danger to him you can't teach. He was very obviously at least on trt. He always had a cheerleader type girl on his arm. He always had women around. I'm typing as i'm listening but George made an Aristotle level observation: "Indifference in outcome dependence is going to save your life". George nailed it. I've been with fat girls, girls my "friend" took me aside and said she's unattractive you could be better and i've been with dancers and models and traditionally beautiful women. I've seen behind the curtain. I believe anyone could be a guy women want to date. It starts with mentality. You have to believe the change can happen. You have to wish it, want it, daydream about it, take steps every day even walking in the beginning is huge. I lost 3 people to self termination. I'm feeling George's pain as he is talking. There is always an answer. "Do something to change the channel.. get yourself into the gym.. that improvement will spill over to other parts of your life."
George, I found your channel back in 2020 when my girlfriend and mother of my child of 6 years left me. I left a comment on a post you made expressing my inability to cope. You said “You will be ok. You will be.” That’s all I really needed to hear at that time. Reassurance. Thank you for uploading these videos and being there for your fellow man. In more ways than one, these videos saved my life. I still have a lot to work on. Looking forward to the next upload! Edit: Be sure to report the bot that replied to my comment. Thanks!
My best friend (that I knew since high school) got a captain’s license and sailed the world in his 20’s. I lost touch with him for many years. One day in early 2012 my phone rings, and it’s my friend. He was living in Maine. I invited him to visit me in Pennsylvania for Memorial Day weekend 2012. He came to visit and stayed in my home from late May 2012 past Labor Day 2012. It was one of the best summers in my life. He was highly educated and he had excellent interpersonal skills. We often stayed up to the wee hours most nights smoking cigars, enjoying random libations, and debating pretty much every topic imaginable. Politics. Medicine. Law. Philosophy. Sports. Interpersonal relationships. Economics. Music. He always dated beautiful women, but he never got married. The sea was his muse. Sailing was his passion. He was a terrific piano and guitar player. Outdoorsman extraordinaire. Excellent mechanical aptitude (boats, cars). He often had an MGB that he was working on. I invited him back to my home with an open door policy in 2013. He stayed with me only a couple of weeks in the fall of 2013. I could tell something was wrong, but I couldn’t put my finger on it. A few months later his sister called me to tell me he took his own life. I didn’t see it coming.
Many times they give no clue before they're through. You see them smile from ear to ear, then they're cutting their throat the same distance. As domestic relations attorneys we've seen the whole spectrum of emotions, all colors of crazy, all modes of misery. That's why Scotch exists...for us and the clients.
Some people have hard family histories, and certain genes are wiped out of the future generations gene pool, like talking. If talkers were killed, then you’re the offspring of a non talker. Much of my family was lynched in jail cells by the law or ambushed by them because we would always win in court against them for trying to disarm us. Needless to say they didn’t kill the writers.
I've seen behind enough veils to know no one escapes the trails and tribulations of life. No amount of money, no amount of woman, and no amount of trophies can save us from our own thoughts. None of us are alone because we all are going through the same thing. I thank God for teaching me so many things. But by far the best thing was knowing that I'm never alone. Your friend sounds amazing. What a gift to share that summer talking and laughing. More laughs to come when you see him again. 30 years goes by in a blink.
Huge red flag for a man getting ready to actually go through with it: they start giving treasured possessions away. I have been suicidal for 32 of the last 40 years. Constantly seeking external validation, and distraction. Drugs, women, video games, food... I only got deep enough to actually plan things maybe 4-5 times ocer that period. Been working hard on focusing on myself. Trying to get in shape. Trying to eat right. Trying to find the purpose. As of now, i do not hate myself. But i dont fully respect or love myself. We'll get there but its a long road to walk.
George, I’m a 52 year old single father of two teenage sons. When I turned 50… my wife of 20 years decided she wanted her old Life back before I had met her. At first- I did think about self deleting… but brother today after almost 2 years - I’m finally getting the peace and quiet I wanted. I’m finally getting the time to work/train/raise my two teenage sons without the insanity of their mother. I have been their baseball and football coach for the past 17-18 years. Yes at first, going through the divorce, I was so confused and devastated… my ex wife and I had our first son die 19 years ago and I do believe that was the original point at which our marriage started to turn for the worst. Anyway- we are doing well and I’m enjoying all this time with my sons. We hit the gym, we hit the golf course, we hit the shooting range, we get the yard work done. Keep up the great work and stay strong.
Many men suffer in silence. There are no signs. A good family friend who was like a brother to my dad committed suicide 2 years ago. Three of us (me, my dad and him) were literally hanging out the day before doing some work in the backyard. Talked about anything and everything. He was smiling and laughing with us, we could never even imagine that he would end himself less than 24 hours after that. Another acquaintance of mine took his own life last summer. He was 24 years old. Good fella, but he was suffering. I advised him to get a job. We had drinks at his house to celebrate his first month and paycheck. Two days later they found him hanging... As I said, there are no signs. Many of these poor guys will contain their despair for years before it eventually breaks them. And the saddest part is that many won't even care. It's a cruel world for us men out there.
Yea I have been on the edge for around a year myself. My family has no idea, but I also would rather them not deal with my crap as they are struggling in life themselves. I understand that when I eventually do end it, it will be a negative thing; but what is worse? Having them worry about it until it happens, or just keeping silent and having them mourn me? Personally I don't believe letting them know is a good or smart thing. Mainly because there is nothing they can do to change my mindset. At the end of the day it has to be me, but at 35 making 35k a year, no wife and a virgin, and just no real reason to stick around... I just don't see how any of them would be capable of helping with such a problem. It is either me or simply die. I am assuming many men who killed themselves were thinking the same.
@@someone-ji2zbBro, deleting yourself is never the answer! I had similar thoughts when I was younger and boy was I wrong! We fall and we get up, that's the beauty of the life.
@@joko9 Yea well not everyone wins in life. I am 35 years old with nothing to show for it, no family despite wanting one, and sometimes there is damage in the mind that simply cannot be fixed. There isn't even sadness anymore, just a feeling of pointlessness.
@@someone-ji2zb That damage you are talking about is just a lie that we are fed with in the Western world and culture. Based on your thinking I guess you are not religious person but I will honestly, and with purest intentions, recommend you to come to Christ. He saved me from the darkest pits where I thought I would finish my life and since the day I asked Lord for the help, I didn't have a single thought about ending myself. And man, YOU ARE ONLY 35! YOU ARE YOUNG! There is a lof of potential inside you that you don't want see. I will pray for you, my brother, and may the God show you the way. Sorry for my broken English and for expressing my religious stance but I truly believe it can help you live the most beautiful life! Love you, bro.
@@joko9 I have come to Christ. What little I do have is thanks to God, and my very survival has depended on Him above all else, but unfortunately I have gotten to a point where the purpose God has given us all has been buried under a mountain of grief and disappointment, and the only thing that has kept me from pulling the trigger these last 17~ years was biblical principle. My failures have led me to a state of being where I am the only one in a large family who is not married (Despite wanting to be), the church itself has failed in mass and I have had little to turn to other than reading the bible (I am not a fan of health and wealth or feminist doctrines) and trying to make sense of things without community. I am not saying this to make a sob story, but I am just numb at this point. My mission is to spread the gospel and glorify God, but whatever my 'gift' is suppose to be has never been discovered by me. On the brink of homelessness there is only so much that can be done other than just pray for God to grant me a swift death.
This is why young men and boys need to be made aware of the reality when it comes to the opposite sex, and life in general. we’re told a set of lies but even more tragically, when the reality happens, and it always happens, we’re told to shut up, Man Up, and try the same methods thinking it’ll actually work next time, those false narratives crush souls… great video. Super important message.
I'am sorry to hear about your friend. I been through my share of rejection and inescapable friend zone. Year after year. I was just recently put in the friend zone by someone who I really like. Afterwords I had emotional brakedown. Thinking about all of those years of rejection and friend zone. It just caught up to me. Yes' But I'am good. I made a appointment with a professional. To discuss and find a solution to my issues. Your videos are very helpful. Thank you.
Nothing gives Satan greater satisfaction than to see you destroy yourself. Whether that be hedonism, slothfulness, or self-deletion, he’s there to drive you towards it and revel in your misery and hatred when you give in. Endeavor to yield good fruit and not give ourselves over to the Enemy.
My brother excellent comment. I am kneeled and pray for Jesus Christ daily twice in the morning and in the evening every day to fight back satan This is the only way to be safe. Jesus Christ blessed you young man.
Losing people you love is just horrible and my heart goes out to you. The worst thing about losing my daughter is the deep regret that I didn't do a better job of comforting her in the final days of her illness. In some ways, I welcome the pain as my daughter led an exceptional life and deserves to be properly and thoroughly grieved.
Thank u for opening up about this. I myself can vouch for alot of those feelings and battling the same demons. After leaving the military and not having that same sense of brother hood and purpose its really been difficult. I look around now at age 42 back in my hometown and see everyone is married with kids, no real good guy friends anymore and my really good military buddies are all scattered through out the U.S . Trying to connect these days with new people is difficult as everyone lives behind a damm smart phone and trying to meet a woman is like looking for a pot of gold at end of a rainbow. I can see where the isolation of a man and having no tribe to belong to can take its toll on a man. I myself have a old classic muscle car I submerge myself in and work on as i get great satisfaction and keeps my hands and mind busy. It's easy to neglect our mental and physical health so that should be every man's priority. Respect to u George!
Thanks for sharing this story. I’ve lost a few friends the last couple years and currently very worried about my brother and I don’t know how to help him. He won’t listen to anything. He won’t even slightly entertain a very mild message of positivity. I’m really not sure what to do. But thanks again for the story. Has given a lot to think about.
Your grief process, while unpleasant, sounds about as healthy and balanced as it could be. I understand the general idea of being the average of the five people that you spend the most time around. Our friend and family groups are usually much larger than that. When I am around people above me in some way, I try to learn something from them. When around people who struggle with life more than me, I try to involve them in conversation or activities that I think might help them. I've learned to avoid any shame, towards them or me. It sounds like you were as good of a friend to Greg as you could be without making him feel like a charity case. Cheers, and keep up the great work.
George, I found you on youtube after picking up pipe smoking as a hobby. Your videos have been helping me quite a bit as I lost my father at the age of 11 and have never had a positive male role model in my life. As strange as it may seem, you are like the father I never got to experience having in my life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world and making a difference in my life as I am sure you have many others.
Thanks for this video! I was the one person watching this video that related to much of what you said. I've had relationships with women in the past but ended up getting dumped after several years of a long-term relationship. It sucks but it's not anything close to the end of the world. I agree with your comments about outcome indifference. Apathy is what saves me much of the time. Sorry to hear about your friend Craig. He seemed like a great guy. Perhaps if he was in better shape and had more of an edge, women would have been more interested? I often go on walks/bike-rides, and I know how much physical activity improves mood. If Craig were more physically active, he probably would have felt better about himself and would have had a coping mechanism for anxiety/depression.
Great message in this vid. Definitely recommend the gym and good diet for improving mood and becoming outcome indifferent. Theres no doubt you went above and beyond as a friend, you could never have known the full extent of the demons and negative thoughts he had inside his head. Sorry for your loss GB.
On the topic of rejection: Fact is, ANY man who isn't strikingly handsome and/or rich, and is maybe also somewhat deficient in social/"romantic" skills, will experience FAR more rejection than success with women. (So that actually goes for the vast majority of males.) While for women today it's sufficient to not be repulsively ugly and homeless to get at least some mates in their lifetime, a man has to bring much more to the table. That's just how it is -- it's an essential part of being a man. On the other hand, most guys simply don't do all things possible to become, in all fields of life, the best version of themselves they can be. Only if they fulfilled their potential in terms of looks, status/finances, and personality to the max and still get rejected by literally each and every woman they meet, they may rightfully think "it's over". That said, it's indeed imperative for men, whether in high demand or without any chance, to not base their individual happiness on validation by women, or other people in general.
Dear Lord Sultan, this was powerful and familiar, a close friend could very well have been Craig. Listening moved me and I lived it again. My friend Brian left for Florida in 1998, and sadly passed from Cancer December 2020, I'm here now years later and live in Florida. This video honors them both. Rest Well Dear Friends 🙏 Thank You So Much For Sharing! PS:Brian hated Rush & Zeppelin, but I loved them both! 🎸🎸🎸
Very to the core of your soul with this podcast. That's why I have been listening to you for the last 3 to4 or 5 years now. I remember when I first came across you, it was by accident. I told you that when I first responded to your comment section. My best discoveries are by accident. You always gave me that assurance that I was going on the right path. I felt so good that people were talking and thinking on my level. The advice is so psychological and spiritual soothing. I sympathize for your friend. There are times I've been where he's been in the dating/female department. But I try to be sigma male/1997 Stone Cold Steve Austin/ WCW Bill Goldberg to deal with it. It still hurted. I remember the 1987 film Crossroads, when Joe Seneca told Ralph Macchio, the blues is about a good man feeling bad. Thank you so much for your contribution to outreach to us young men. Keep on keeping on.
I had a friend do the same - nice to know I wasn't alone in my though process about it. It was the first time I had experienced it so close to me and I felt those same feelings of surprise vs not surprise, "Where did this come from" "were there signs" etc. Thanks for bringing up this topic.
Maybe you should go to those places you and youre friend went to to get it out of your head. I know you know about psychology and I've learned that doing the things we dont want to do or make us uncomfortable is what we actually need to do. Its part of learning and in this case healing. Go there and order something you know he'd want and if someone asks about him just say whatever comes to your head in that moment no filter. I think its what your needing if it's something you think about and are hesitant doing.
Thank you for sharing. I felt like Craig after my wife passed away 2 years ago. God’s Word and other good men in my life are helping me find my true identity and move forward
The women parroting the red pill commentary is spot on. I always thought they were trying to coach women to understand men better but then I see the comments section and realized their audience is all a bunch of simps.
For someone to commit suicide, three things need to happen 1. They are dealing with some sort of pain that is more than they can cope with. 2. They don't think it is going to get better 3. The pain of death is less than the pain of living. Coming to terms with one's own mortality and that we all go sometime and it may as well be now. It sounds bad, but you need to accept that your friend made his own decision and move on. People that want to be rescued reach out for help. People that don't want rescue just do it. PS, as someone who has struggled with ideation for over 30 years, once you really entertain these thoughts they don't go away. They lie dormant, like an alcohol addiction or something ready to pounce on you again.
Hello my friend I’m sorry for the pain in your heart lost of a dear brother. I hope you find joy again. In one way it’s different I lost a close brother myself because of his choices myself.
I don't know if you noticed it. Women give him nicknames, but you called him your buddy. "Buddy" to me seems like a directional term of endearment. Something your boss would call you or something you might say to the at the car valet.
I am like craig but opposite, women just find me terrifying, both in looks and vibe, and when I try to step out of that and be funny or say something that doesn’t ‘fit’ me, I lose mad respect. On the other hand, they love it when I’m staring at them, but anything further gives them major complex. But atst if I speak in hypotheticals, they can’t keep the convo going, but atst my skills in quick wit aren’t that sharp either. I do contemplate, but just let it roll off my back, because something’s gotta give here and it won’t be me. Anyways I find your talks deeply inspiring. Thanks Mr. Bruno.
I feel men like us were made to not give a shit about women and rather build the true fortress in ourselves. It feels like some men were made for women while others were made for ourselves, and if women need to happen, only for reproduction.
I didn't get friend zoned I got boyfriend zoned lol I should've known better because no girl has ever approached me bcoz they saw me as friend material
I am over here, pausing and searching up rush, and Led Zeppelin to my playlist. Lol. Would’ve been a cool of you play them in the background as soon as you mentioned them lol great music nonetheless
I think men ought to consider and tap into some of the motivation that impels some men into monasticism, whether Christian, Buddhist, or whatever. If marriage were really essential for happiness, a human institution like monasticism wouldn't have arisen in virtually every major religion and culture across time and space.
George you are terrific. Much to digest here, but good on you for taking care of yourself. I don't think I've ever seen your dog/cat/pet. Would you consider doing a video with him/her accompanying you?
I believe he was gay and tried to pretend otherwise. He couldn't accept it. He tried being with women but women have this intuition about men and this is most likely why they couldn't be with him. This has happened to me a few times where I could tell when a man was gay. Some years would pass and I'd find out that I was right. I had an uncle who went through the same. He never liked me eventhough I was only a little girl. He could tell I was trying to figure him out and so he never made eye contact with me and was cold towards me. He eventually drunk himself to death because he hated being gay. He even married once but of course it didn't work out. I also have a cousin who's gay but he's decided to remain single and a virgin. Strange thing is, he loves K Samuel's and he gets really into how women should be and how it's women's fault, etc. That's pretty twisted.
Attraction is pre determined but height security and status play a big part. But I think you can afford to have your views cause somethings came easy for you. Your friend did not.
Men can’t face the truth. It seems they are upset because thing are not going their way
Men, whatcha think of this ignorant chick?⬆️
@@ListenMySonnot much!
You sound like my soon to be Ex wife.
George, you just described me. I was married for 34 years, wife left me 1 year ago said she wanted to "find yerself and be happy." I was devastated to say the least. Now divorced for 3 months and trying to redefine myself. Thank you for this video. It's a uphill battle for sure.
Sorry brother hang in there!!
Sorry to hear about that dude. Keep your head up, things do get better
Frank I was married to a published model. We men are idealists. We just want to love and be loved. If we are lucky the woman will love the kids. Most of them do not experience love for the man in this way. They are conditioned very early to believe their love for us should match what we provide. Have you ever seen a broke unattractive Disney prince outside of Shrek? Do any women wish to date or marry Shrek lol maybe someone out there (that woman would be a keeper lol). My point is though we have to lower our expectations of what to expect in dating or marriage.
The reason I bring up my ex.. We are both 41. If you get in the gym, get on trt.. you will never ever again date a woman the same age. I rarely date anyone over 30. Look at George's physique, his fashion, his grooming, his confidence etc. You want to incorporate all that and have a flat stomach and abs. I don't know why this is so hard to grasp and implement for nice men.
I believe it starts with not loving themselves enough to act and keep taking action. I believe they do not daydream about being ripped, taking their shirt off and their woman swooning. They do not believe life can be like that. I have someone in my life I love so much and want the change to occur for them. I will always encourage them but I don't think they will change. They bought all the lies - just be a good person and make money. That is not enough for women. They don't get in bed with men because they are a nice guy with a stable job. They are like us. They want genuine physical attraction. I could talk about this topic all day but this is George's channel and he's the teacher. I will tell you a light bulb moment for me. I made an acquaintance in the fitness community, a friend of a friend. He had a face only a mother could love but he was into bodybuilding and had an edge, a confidence, a danger to him you can't teach. He was very obviously at least on trt. He always had a cheerleader type girl on his arm. He always had women around.
I'm typing as i'm listening but George made an Aristotle level observation: "Indifference in outcome dependence is going to save your life". George nailed it.
I've been with fat girls, girls my "friend" took me aside and said she's unattractive you could be better and i've been with dancers and models and traditionally beautiful women. I've seen behind the curtain. I believe anyone could be a guy women want to date. It starts with mentality. You have to believe the change can happen. You have to wish it, want it, daydream about it, take steps every day even walking in the beginning is huge.
I lost 3 people to self termination. I'm feeling George's pain as he is talking. There is always an answer. "Do something to change the channel.. get yourself into the gym.. that improvement will spill over to other parts of your life."
I’m sorry bro
Screw marriage...I am 62 single no kids
George, I found your channel back in 2020 when my girlfriend and mother of my child of 6 years left me. I left a comment on a post you made expressing my inability to cope. You said “You will be ok. You will be.” That’s all I really needed to hear at that time. Reassurance. Thank you for uploading these videos and being there for your fellow man. In more ways than one, these videos saved my life. I still have a lot to work on. Looking forward to the next upload!
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My best friend (that I knew since high school) got a captain’s license and sailed the world in his 20’s. I lost touch with him for many years. One day in early 2012 my phone rings, and it’s my friend. He was living in Maine. I invited him to visit me in Pennsylvania for Memorial Day weekend 2012. He came to visit and stayed in my home from late May 2012 past Labor Day 2012. It was one of the best summers in my life. He was highly educated and he had excellent interpersonal skills. We often stayed up to the wee hours most nights smoking cigars, enjoying random libations, and debating pretty much every topic imaginable. Politics. Medicine. Law. Philosophy. Sports. Interpersonal relationships. Economics. Music. He always dated beautiful women, but he never got married. The sea was his muse. Sailing was his passion. He was a terrific piano and guitar player. Outdoorsman extraordinaire. Excellent mechanical aptitude (boats, cars). He often had an MGB that he was working on.
I invited him back to my home with an open door policy in 2013. He stayed with me only a couple of weeks in the fall of 2013. I could tell something was wrong, but I couldn’t put my finger on it. A few months later his sister called me to tell me he took his own life. I didn’t see it coming.
Many times they give no clue before they're through. You see them smile from ear to ear, then they're cutting their throat the same distance. As domestic relations attorneys we've seen the whole spectrum of emotions, all colors of crazy, all modes of misery. That's why Scotch exists...for us and the clients.
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Some people have hard family histories, and certain genes are wiped out of the future generations gene pool, like talking. If talkers were killed, then you’re the offspring of a non talker. Much of my family was lynched in jail cells by the law or ambushed by them because we would always win in court against them for trying to disarm us. Needless to say they didn’t kill the writers.
I've seen behind enough veils to know no one escapes the trails and tribulations of life. No amount of money, no amount of woman, and no amount of trophies can save us from our own thoughts. None of us are alone because we all are going through the same thing. I thank God for teaching me so many things. But by far the best thing was knowing that I'm never alone.
Your friend sounds amazing. What a gift to share that summer talking and laughing. More laughs to come when you see him again. 30 years goes by in a blink.
Damn, the ending was really unexpected.
Huge red flag for a man getting ready to actually go through with it: they start giving treasured possessions away.
I have been suicidal for 32 of the last 40 years. Constantly seeking external validation, and distraction. Drugs, women, video games, food... I only got deep enough to actually plan things maybe 4-5 times ocer that period.
Been working hard on focusing on myself. Trying to get in shape. Trying to eat right. Trying to find the purpose. As of now, i do not hate myself. But i dont fully respect or love myself. We'll get there but its a long road to walk.
Hang in there, friend. I hope you’re doing well.
George, I’m a 52 year old single father of two teenage sons.
When I turned 50… my wife of 20 years decided she wanted her old
Life back before I had met her.
At first- I did think about self deleting… but brother today after almost 2 years - I’m finally getting the peace and quiet I wanted. I’m finally getting the time to work/train/raise my two teenage sons without the insanity of their mother. I have been their baseball and football coach for the past 17-18 years.
Yes at first, going through the divorce, I was so confused and devastated… my ex wife and I had our first son die 19 years ago and I do believe that was the original point at which our marriage started to turn for the worst.
Anyway- we are doing well and I’m enjoying all this time with my sons. We hit the gym, we hit the golf course, we hit the shooting range, we get the yard work done.
Keep up the great work and stay strong.
Many men suffer in silence. There are no signs. A good family friend who was like a brother to my dad committed suicide 2 years ago. Three of us (me, my dad and him) were literally hanging out the day before doing some work in the backyard. Talked about anything and everything. He was smiling and laughing with us, we could never even imagine that he would end himself less than 24 hours after that.
Another acquaintance of mine took his own life last summer. He was 24 years old. Good fella, but he was suffering. I advised him to get a job. We had drinks at his house to celebrate his first month and paycheck. Two days later they found him hanging...
As I said, there are no signs. Many of these poor guys will contain their despair for years before it eventually breaks them. And the saddest part is that many won't even care. It's a cruel world for us men out there.
Yea I have been on the edge for around a year myself. My family has no idea, but I also would rather them not deal with my crap as they are struggling in life themselves.
I understand that when I eventually do end it, it will be a negative thing; but what is worse? Having them worry about it until it happens, or just keeping silent and having them mourn me? Personally I don't believe letting them know is a good or smart thing. Mainly because there is nothing they can do to change my mindset. At the end of the day it has to be me, but at 35 making 35k a year, no wife and a virgin, and just no real reason to stick around... I just don't see how any of them would be capable of helping with such a problem. It is either me or simply die. I am assuming many men who killed themselves were thinking the same.
@@someone-ji2zbBro, deleting yourself is never the answer! I had similar thoughts when I was younger and boy was I wrong! We fall and we get up, that's the beauty of the life.
@@joko9 Yea well not everyone wins in life. I am 35 years old with nothing to show for it, no family despite wanting one, and sometimes there is damage in the mind that simply cannot be fixed. There isn't even sadness anymore, just a feeling of pointlessness.
@@someone-ji2zb That damage you are talking about is just a lie that we are fed with in the Western world and culture. Based on your thinking I guess you are not religious person but I will honestly, and with purest intentions, recommend you to come to Christ. He saved me from the darkest pits where I thought I would finish my life and since the day I asked Lord for the help, I didn't have a single thought about ending myself. And man, YOU ARE ONLY 35! YOU ARE YOUNG! There is a lof of potential inside you that you don't want see. I will pray for you, my brother, and may the God show you the way. Sorry for my broken English and for expressing my religious stance but I truly believe it can help you live the most beautiful life! Love you, bro.
@@joko9 I have come to Christ. What little I do have is thanks to God, and my very survival has depended on Him above all else, but unfortunately I have gotten to a point where the purpose God has given us all has been buried under a mountain of grief and disappointment, and the only thing that has kept me from pulling the trigger these last 17~ years was biblical principle.
My failures have led me to a state of being where I am the only one in a large family who is not married (Despite wanting to be), the church itself has failed in mass and I have had little to turn to other than reading the bible (I am not a fan of health and wealth or feminist doctrines) and trying to make sense of things without community.
I am not saying this to make a sob story, but I am just numb at this point. My mission is to spread the gospel and glorify God, but whatever my 'gift' is suppose to be has never been discovered by me. On the brink of homelessness there is only so much that can be done other than just pray for God to grant me a swift death.
This is why young men and boys need to be made aware of the reality when it comes to the opposite sex, and life in general. we’re told a set of lies but even more tragically, when the reality happens, and it always happens, we’re told to shut up, Man Up, and try the same methods thinking it’ll actually work next time, those false narratives crush souls… great video. Super important message.
I'am sorry to hear about your friend. I been through my share of rejection and inescapable friend zone. Year after year. I was just recently put in the friend zone by someone who I really like.
Afterwords I had emotional brakedown. Thinking about all of those years of rejection and friend zone. It just caught up to me. Yes' But I'am good.
I made a appointment with a professional. To discuss and find a solution to my issues.
Your videos are very helpful.
Thank you.
Indifference and outcome independence saved my life a few times already. Thx George.
Nothing gives Satan greater satisfaction than to see you destroy yourself. Whether that be hedonism, slothfulness, or self-deletion, he’s there to drive you towards it and revel in your misery and hatred when you give in. Endeavor to yield good fruit and not give ourselves over to the Enemy.
My brother excellent comment. I am kneeled and pray for Jesus Christ daily twice in the morning and in the evening every day to fight back satan
This is the only way to be safe. Jesus Christ blessed you young man.
Losing people you love is just horrible and my heart goes out to you. The worst thing about losing my daughter is the deep regret that I didn't do a better job of comforting her in the final days of her illness. In some ways, I welcome the pain as my daughter led an exceptional life and deserves to be properly and thoroughly grieved.
Sometimes a video comes along, and it feels like it was made just for you. To me, this is one of them. To you George, my gratitude🙏
Just ordered the 📕 while driving the truck back to base in 🇬🇧, the book has 316 reviews on 🇬🇧 site which is a lucky number for me so even more reason.
Thank u for opening up about this. I myself can vouch for alot of those feelings and battling the same demons. After leaving the military and not having that same sense of brother hood and purpose its really been difficult. I look around now at age 42 back in my hometown and see everyone is married with kids, no real good guy friends anymore and my really good military buddies are all scattered through out the U.S . Trying to connect these days with new people is difficult as everyone lives behind a damm smart phone and trying to meet a woman is like looking for a pot of gold at end of a rainbow. I can see where the isolation of a man and having no tribe to belong to can take its toll on a man. I myself have a old classic muscle car I submerge myself in and work on as i get great satisfaction and keeps my hands and mind busy. It's easy to neglect our mental and physical health so that should be every man's priority. Respect to u George!
Thanks for sharing this story. I’ve lost a few friends the last couple years and currently very worried about my brother and I don’t know how to help him. He won’t listen to anything. He won’t even slightly entertain a very mild message of positivity. I’m really not sure what to do. But thanks again for the story. Has given a lot to think about.
🙏 I understand George. My best friend is currently dying of end stage liver disease. Only 42
Was he an alcoholic?
Your grief process, while unpleasant, sounds about as healthy and balanced as it could be. I understand the general idea of being the average of the five people that you spend the most time around. Our friend and family groups are usually much larger than that. When I am around people above me in some way, I try to learn something from them. When around people who struggle with life more than me, I try to involve them in conversation or activities that I think might help them. I've learned to avoid any shame, towards them or me. It sounds like you were as good of a friend to Greg as you could be without making him feel like a charity case. Cheers, and keep up the great work.
George, I found you on youtube after picking up pipe smoking as a hobby. Your videos have been helping me quite a bit as I lost my father at the age of 11 and have never had a positive male role model in my life. As strange as it may seem, you are like the father I never got to experience having in my life. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with the world and making a difference in my life as I am sure you have many others.
Thanks for this video! I was the one person watching this video that related to much of what you said. I've had relationships with women in the past but ended up getting dumped after several years of a long-term relationship. It sucks but it's not anything close to the end of the world. I agree with your comments about outcome indifference. Apathy is what saves me much of the time.
Sorry to hear about your friend Craig. He seemed like a great guy. Perhaps if he was in better shape and had more of an edge, women would have been more interested?
I often go on walks/bike-rides, and I know how much physical activity improves mood. If Craig were more physically active, he probably would have felt better about himself and would have had a coping mechanism for anxiety/depression.
Thank you George, this talk was much appreciated and sorry for your loss.
To every man out there: listen to George. Remember there are men who want you here in this life.
This is one of the best videos created by @George
Great message in this vid. Definitely recommend the gym and good diet for improving mood and becoming outcome indifferent. Theres no doubt you went above and beyond as a friend, you could never have known the full extent of the demons and negative thoughts he had inside his head. Sorry for your loss GB.
New subscriber here. This was very moving and thought provoking. I’m sorry for your loss George. Thank you for sharing.
Excellent discussion George. Thanks!
George- This was excellent! I'm sure this spoke to many men. Thank you sir!
George, just found your channel yesterday. Thank you for your wisdom.
On the topic of rejection: Fact is, ANY man who isn't strikingly handsome and/or rich, and is maybe also somewhat deficient in social/"romantic" skills, will experience FAR more rejection than success with women. (So that actually goes for the vast majority of males.) While for women today it's sufficient to not be repulsively ugly and homeless to get at least some mates in their lifetime, a man has to bring much more to the table. That's just how it is -- it's an essential part of being a man. On the other hand, most guys simply don't do all things possible to become, in all fields of life, the best version of themselves they can be. Only if they fulfilled their potential in terms of looks, status/finances, and personality to the max and still get rejected by literally each and every woman they meet, they may rightfully think "it's over". That said, it's indeed imperative for men, whether in high demand or without any chance, to not base their individual happiness on validation by women, or other people in general.
Dear Lord Sultan, this was powerful and familiar, a close friend could very well have been Craig.
Listening moved me and I lived it again.
My friend Brian left for Florida in 1998, and sadly passed from Cancer December 2020,
I'm here now years later and live in Florida.
This video honors them both.
Rest Well Dear Friends 🙏
Thank You So Much For Sharing!
PS:Brian hated Rush & Zeppelin, but I loved them both!
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Very to the core of your soul with this podcast. That's why I have been listening to you for the last 3 to4 or 5 years now. I remember when I first came across you, it was by accident. I told you that when I first responded to your comment section. My best discoveries are by accident. You always gave me that assurance that I was going on the right path. I felt so good that people were talking and thinking on my level. The advice is so psychological and spiritual soothing. I sympathize for your friend. There are times I've been where he's been in the dating/female department. But I try to be sigma male/1997 Stone Cold Steve Austin/ WCW Bill Goldberg to deal with it. It still hurted. I remember the 1987 film Crossroads, when Joe Seneca told Ralph Macchio, the blues is about a good man feeling bad. Thank you so much for your contribution to outreach to us young men. Keep on keeping on.
Great chat. This video is sure to speak to many who view it. Congratulations on the 7 years....at the molecular level.
I had a friend do the same - nice to know I wasn't alone in my though process about it. It was the first time I had experienced it so close to me and I felt those same feelings of surprise vs not surprise, "Where did this come from" "were there signs" etc. Thanks for bringing up this topic.
George, I feel better. Thank you.
Maybe you should go to those places you and youre friend went to to get it out of your head. I know you know about psychology and I've learned that doing the things we dont want to do or make us uncomfortable is what we actually need to do. Its part of learning and in this case healing. Go there and order something you know he'd want and if someone asks about him just say whatever comes to your head in that moment no filter. I think its what your needing if it's something you think about and are hesitant doing.
Some will.
Some won’t.
So what.
-George Bruno
Words of Wisdom
I really like your channel and words, Sir. Thank you.
Very good message.
What a great man you are ❤
One of your best videos George.
Tough one George. Sharp advice, iv bult up a callous with woman. You spoke to me with this one. Problem is I won't admit this too anyone.
Hey brother I just realize that myself.
I found the same reasoning as well my work and taking care of myself as a man and a brother of yours too
Xactly, appreciate sharing the convo. Looking fwd to next pipe smoke chat.Enjoy your day. Shawn Tulsa, OK
Outstanding advice and video, as always. Ty George.
Thank you for this very personal video.
Indifference and outcome independence, something my best friend has always told me but I just realized how I wasn't actually following either one.
Felt like I was having coffee with a friend that I needed to let vent .
Thank you for sharing.
I felt like Craig after my wife passed away 2 years ago. God’s Word and other good men in my life are helping me find my true identity and move forward
The women parroting the red pill commentary is spot on. I always thought they were trying to coach women to understand men better but then I see the comments section and realized their audience is all a bunch of simps.
Just give them a simple, “he passed away.” And leave it at that.
Still watching you brother!
For someone to commit suicide, three things need to happen 1. They are dealing with some sort of pain that is more than they can cope with. 2. They don't think it is going to get better 3. The pain of death is less than the pain of living. Coming to terms with one's own mortality and that we all go sometime and it may as well be now. It sounds bad, but you need to accept that your friend made his own decision and move on. People that want to be rescued reach out for help. People that don't want rescue just do it. PS, as someone who has struggled with ideation for over 30 years, once you really entertain these thoughts they don't go away. They lie dormant, like an alcohol addiction or something ready to pounce on you again.
Should we go to a divorce lawyer before getting married?
Great video ..excellent topic
Buddy you scrambled my brain with those chopsticks. Thanks GB!
Hello my friend I’m sorry for the pain in your heart lost of a dear brother.
I hope you find joy again.
In one way it’s different I lost a close brother myself because of his choices myself.
I don't know if you noticed it. Women give him nicknames, but you called him your buddy. "Buddy" to me seems like a directional term of endearment. Something your boss would call you or something you might say to the at the car valet.
Wow, you stir our minds with the disposable chopsticks.
Powerful video today
I am like craig but opposite, women just find me terrifying, both in looks and vibe, and when I try to step out of that and be funny or say something that doesn’t ‘fit’ me, I lose mad respect. On the other hand, they love it when I’m staring at them, but anything further gives them major complex. But atst if I speak in hypotheticals, they can’t keep the convo going, but atst my skills in quick wit aren’t that sharp either. I do contemplate, but just let it roll off my back, because something’s gotta give here and it won’t be me. Anyways I find your talks deeply inspiring. Thanks Mr. Bruno.
I feel men like us were made to not give a shit about women and rather build the true fortress in ourselves.
It feels like some men were made for women while others were made for ourselves, and if women need to happen, only for reproduction.
Friendzoning sometimes works...just ask my ex and her coworker now husband 🙄
On blood work fasts ,which are typically 12 hours , water and black coffee are permissible
Thank you
Lol great intro. Cracked me up
I didn't get friend zoned I got boyfriend zoned lol I should've known better because no girl has ever approached me bcoz they saw me as friend material
Great point. Most sources of emotional pain and detachment comes from our failed female relationships. Not other things in our life.
I'm sorry about your friend ....
It’s a great book. I feel like it’s given me permission to be a happily free single man and encouraging me to go do whatever it is I want.
I am over here, pausing and searching up rush, and Led Zeppelin to my playlist. Lol. Would’ve been a cool of you play them in the background as soon as you mentioned them lol great music nonetheless
Couldn´t find the book title anywhere, can someone please clarify
Grrrreat!
I know this is off-topic but some of us would appreciate it if the picture on the wall would be adjusted such that it was obviously crooked.
I think men ought to consider and tap into some of the motivation that impels some men into monasticism, whether Christian, Buddhist, or whatever. If marriage were really essential for happiness, a human institution like monasticism wouldn't have arisen in virtually every major religion and culture across time and space.
- Spoke to me -
5:17 This is definitely not family friendly 😹
It’s being done on purpose. Once you realize that then you are free to
The one thing a man can control is his physique.
BTW as a curiosity from my side. What's your take on golf?
RUSH - Lucky to saw them at least once. One of the greatest bands in rock history :) Cool chanel btw!
Colored pen is some solid advice
What age do you think The Menu is appropriate to start?
You were raised from the ashes ! There comes wisdom....
George you are terrific. Much to digest here, but good on you for taking care of yourself. I don't think I've ever seen your dog/cat/pet. Would you consider doing a video with him/her accompanying you?
Who is the author of “The Menu”?
Aaron Clarey
@@daviddclaussen He’s on RUclips as well.
20:13
I believe he was gay and tried to pretend otherwise. He couldn't accept it. He tried being with women but women have this intuition about men and this is most likely why they couldn't be with him.
This has happened to me a few times where I could tell when a man was gay. Some years would pass and I'd find out that I was right.
I had an uncle who went through the same. He never liked me eventhough I was only a little girl. He could tell I was trying to figure him out and so he never made eye contact with me and was cold towards me. He eventually drunk himself to death because he hated being gay. He even married once but of course it didn't work out.
I also have a cousin who's gay but he's decided to remain single and a virgin. Strange thing is, he loves K Samuel's and he gets really into how women should be and how it's women's fault, etc. That's pretty twisted.
Praise to Allah, thank God, i found your channel
Attraction is pre determined but height security and status play a big part. But I think you can afford to have your views cause somethings came easy for you. Your friend did not.
Sex was intended to make children and bring intimacy, so if she doesn't want children... DONT!
Hey George, careful with that beanie. It's being appropriated as a symbol for the snowflake crowd. 😂🤣😂🤣
What is wrong by wearing a beannie? I wear in the winter. I am curious
@@josepalacios2819 Nothing wrong. I also wear one out in the cold. Just meant as a joke
@@nomadvehr827 i get it, thanks for the response. Some are stylish and I like them.
I thought that was only the pink ones with the pointy corners on top