Can u pls make a video about living in toxic house holds and wanting to get married solely because of that reason. I’m so stuck!! I’m at that age but I don’t like anyone!!
Been there, firstly It’s easy to get caught up with examining and labeling our environment, but the reality is it’s something we can’t really control. Acknowledge it but don’t focus on it. We’re going to have to interact with people who are toxic be it in or outside of our homes, you need to be secure in yourself and stand your ground. Put your energy into building a beautiful space in your mind and live there, practice filtering their words and be firm in your reality and do your best to not absorb everything from your environment. The main thing you can control is what impacts you. Running away from your current environment isn’t the solution, it’s being in that environment and building your relationship with yourself. You don’t know what your future in law are going to be like, you can’t expect to change your environment and solve everything. Plus as Muslims we can’t cut off family. I like to think of the story of the prophet (salalahu alayhi wa salam) and his uncle. He was able to rely on Allah, maintain boundaries, but he didn’t cut off ties. And mind you the uncle did some absolutely ruthless things. He is the gold standard but he is a prophet and it does take a lot of turmoil to get to that level. Everything I’ve said so far is what I’ve engraved into my mind with 3 years of reflecting, making dua, and building my relationship with myself. You can’t expect overnight changes, it takes time but once it clicks you’ll find it so much easier to live in peace regardless of what environment you’re in. As for marriage it will happen when you’re ready, focus on becoming the kind of person you’d like to marry and make dua. You need to be a whole person before you find your other half. May Allah make it easy for you 🫂
@Raabiaax You made some amazing points. I completely agree- girl focus on enjoying your life rn and know that if you don’t enjoy life right now nothing is going to change when you get married. A man is a human at the end of the day he’s also full of flaws, rely on Allah to make your situation easier because a man can’t do anything to make you happy. What has helped me is doing things that make me happy and learning to choose myself, also remember that you have to become the person you’d like to marry- and work hard on developing yourself and when you’re ready, nothing can stop you from getting married. Just don’t depend on a guy to make you happier, Allah knows that’s only so possible and you will never be fulfilled if you can’t find self fulfillment and be grateful with what you’re in right now. Allah says “if you are grateful then I will give you” remember gratitude is what allows Allah to uplift your burden, and girl practice some self love, there’s so much you can do up until marriage- work on your deen memorize the Quran and make Allah the center of your attention and I promise you Allah will never let you down. And may Allah give you the man you wish for! Lots of love and remember to be patient with Allahs timing and make the most of your life- there are countless blessings that are worth enjoying right now that one day will end, enjoy your parents and siblings while they’re still with you, I promise you it’ll be worth it. And give your parents a chance, theyre also human and are going through a lot. “The pleasure of Allah is through the pleasure of the parents”♥️be strong girl
Your videos, your words never cease to amaze me. Mash ﷲ may ﷲ protect you ❤️❤️❤️
Can u pls make a video about living in toxic house holds and wanting to get married solely because of that reason. I’m so stuck!! I’m at that age but I don’t like anyone!!
Been there, firstly It’s easy to get caught up with examining and labeling our environment, but the reality is it’s something we can’t really control. Acknowledge it but don’t focus on it. We’re going to have to interact with people who are toxic be it in or outside of our homes, you need to be secure in yourself and stand your ground. Put your energy into building a beautiful space in your mind and live there, practice filtering their words and be firm in your reality and do your best to not absorb everything from your environment. The main thing you can control is what impacts you.
Running away from your current environment isn’t the solution, it’s being in that environment and building your relationship with yourself. You don’t know what your future in law are going to be like, you can’t expect to change your environment and solve everything. Plus as Muslims we can’t cut off family.
I like to think of the story of the prophet (salalahu alayhi wa salam) and his uncle. He was able to rely on Allah, maintain boundaries, but he didn’t cut off ties. And mind you the uncle did some absolutely ruthless things. He is the gold standard but he is a prophet and it does take a lot of turmoil to get to that level.
Everything I’ve said so far is what I’ve engraved into my mind with 3 years of reflecting, making dua, and building my relationship with myself. You can’t expect overnight changes, it takes time but once it clicks you’ll find it so much easier to live in peace regardless of what environment you’re in. As for marriage it will happen when you’re ready, focus on becoming the kind of person you’d like to marry and make dua. You need to be a whole person before you find your other half. May Allah make it easy for you 🫂
@Raabiaax You made some amazing points. I completely agree- girl focus on enjoying your life rn and know that if you don’t enjoy life right now nothing is going to change when you get married. A man is a human at the end of the day he’s also full of flaws, rely on Allah to make your situation easier because a man can’t do anything to make you happy. What has helped me is doing things that make me happy and learning to choose myself, also remember that you have to become the person you’d like to marry- and work hard on developing yourself and when you’re ready, nothing can stop you from getting married. Just don’t depend on a guy to make you happier, Allah knows that’s only so possible and you will never be fulfilled if you can’t find self fulfillment and be grateful with what you’re in right now. Allah says “if you are grateful then I will give you” remember gratitude is what allows Allah to uplift your burden, and girl practice some self love, there’s so much you can do up until marriage- work on your deen memorize the Quran and make Allah the center of your attention and I promise you Allah will never let you down. And may Allah give you the man you wish for! Lots of love and remember to be patient with Allahs timing and make the most of your life- there are countless blessings that are worth enjoying right now that one day will end, enjoy your parents and siblings while they’re still with you, I promise you it’ll be worth it. And give your parents a chance, theyre also human and are going through a lot. “The pleasure of Allah is through the pleasure of the parents”♥️be strong girl
Perfect timinggggg. I was just thinking about this
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Amazing video Ukhtii 💜
How old are you ? I'm just curious to know.
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Amazing video Ukhtii 💜
How old are you ? I'm just curious to know.