I’m a bridesmaid and just volunteered to host my sisters bridal shower. A video on any tips for hosting (maybe having a guest who hosted yours) would be so incredibly helpful! (I know you’ve posted a similar bridesmaid video in the past but I was hoping you could focus on a detailed list for the bridal shower.)
Omg yes!! I found you!! I’m doing a court wedding but a reception in 10/2019. I was just looking at Pinterest then go on RUclips, here you are! Thank you for making all the sense! I have binged on your videos all night
She will probably not do it because she is a coordinator. She has also made a video about why to absolutely need it... which is weird since most people watch her videos because we won't have a coordinator
I recently learned that if you're serving alcohol, you should ideally have wedding insurance with liquor liability. Fun times! Thanks for all your videos! So helpful!
Jamie Wolfer I hope you and your loved ones are safe in California. Can you make a video about how to keep the flow going and entertain guests during the cocktail hour? And possibly mocktail suggestions for a dry wedding?
I love your videos! I've watched several as my husband and I have been planning our 25th Anniversary Vow Renewal. We're having the reception we never got to have. Plus, our son just got engaged so I've shared your channel with him and his fiancé. ❤️
Yay I am so glad you did this video I needed this in my life. My venue is BYOB. I hired a bartender why because I have drinkers in my circle and they will have that gone in hour if it was self serve 🤣. Hope you are having a fantastic week. Can’t wait to see what you have in store for us next week.
Jamie, i absolutely love your videos! I knew nothing about weddings and after getting engaged your channel has been my salvation! Thanks a lot! Can you do a video on videography? My mom really wants us to have one and my fiancé and i are not big fans. Can we get away with just setting up tripods at the ceremony and for speeches? What are the things we need to know?
Paria Karimi I know this is a year ago and hopefully you haven’t just set up a tripod for a wedding! I am very photograph oriented as someone who loves taking photos but I understand how much more amazing a video is. Pictures are with a thousands words but videos will capture the entire moment and help you relive that day. Are you more likely to watch a video or look through a photo album. But obviously don’t do anything you don’t want to! If it’s not for you maybe suggest to your mom she pay for the videographer if it’s important for her that your day be recorded!
@@kayleeleanne8364 haha thanks for responding but we got married July of last year :) we ended up getting a videographer for the ceremony and the speeches and it was perfect!
I especially like your last tip. People keep telling us that we need to get beer - but our guests are 85% family and NONE of them drink beer at all. Same with red wine - 6 guests drink red wine - they all like the same kind, we will get a couple bottles for them but everyone else is a white wine drinker or likes vodka, rum or gin. And we wont be really having any ice because it will be the middle of winter in a drafty castle with only wine and a couple signature cocktails - which will both be hot because people will want to warm up from coming in from the outside when they arrive and hot drinks are cozy for a snowy New England December. (Hopefully snow on the ground from early in the week but no more than flurries on the day).
Ooh warm drinks is a great idea! We're getting married in October in Sweden in an old building, it's bound to get chilly. And I love the sound of a castle in winter, sounds like a fairytale!
@@katjaoksanen944 Thank you! We are hoping so, fairy tale (general not any specific one) is definitely part of our theme. October in Sweden sounds beautiful! Congratulations!
THANK YOU for this video! So helpful! I'm planning a graduation party for about 50 people with a self serve bar and this helped me so much more than Pinterest or other You Tube videos! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻😘
An old friend of mine, she had a backyard wedding, 50people or around that, brought all the soft drink/juice and alcohol that they drink and some wine and beer, if people didn't drink what was provided then it was bring your own. And being 2 days before Xmas it was stinking hot, (LAND DOWN UNDER! Australia), they borrowed a deep freezer a filled it with ice bags and drinks for the event.
Bless yooouuu!! I thought we had alcohol figured out but this changes things! First - we can't do self serve at dinner anymore, that's becoming obvious. Swedes and Finns tend to like to go bananas at weddings and I can just imagine an aunt/uncle walking around filling up every glass at their table at five minutes intervals going "drink up! It's a wedding! Have fun!" and over serving everyone including some poor 16 year old cousin going "I had my first drink at my sisters wedding when I was 14, it's tradition!" and I'd have to whack them around the head with our guestbook every 15 minutes. And since I've got 16 aunts and uncles it'd become whack-a-relative fairly quickly. Yikes. So the waitors will serve the drink during dinner! The dinner part of Scandinavian weddings tend to run quite long, I'd say at least two hours, I think that'd be enough time and food to ensure that people aren't pissed off their tits (pardon my french) so that they'll be able to handle beers and wine being out in the open when the dancing starts. We might stay away from hard liquor all together to make sure things stay tipsy and not pissed, or maybe a pre-mixed punch style drink that's self severe, but keep everything in the main room so that people will feel observed when they serve themselves 😂 I don't want to make it sound like all Scandinavians are latent alcoholics, but we do have some major issues with drinking culture 🤦
@@chloegilroy8422 I love my relatives but they can get a bit...overexcited at parties 😅 at my godmother/aunt's 40th she managed to sneak drinks to me so that the drunkest people at the party ended up being me, 16, and my gran/her mother, 78. We sat a table just giggling about nothing for hours. When I eventually broke a vase my mum told my aunt that she'd have to suit herself, and that she'd have to take care of me if I'd get sick, and then she carried on dancing 🤷
I have a question, I wasn’t planning on providing alcohol, but was going to tell everyone if they want to bring their own for their group/family they can. What is your opinion on how to handle this? Guest list is going to be around 70 people and different ages of people.
My venue offered bartender services with the option for us to bring our own alcohol. To save in waste and cost we have chosen to offer 2 signature drinks (bourbon based groom drink and gin based bride drink) 1 type of red, 1 type of white, and 2 types of beer via mini keg.
One thing about storing alcohol (from a caterer's perspective): COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CATERER! Ask them how much fridge spave they'll need, if you using the fridge will interrupt their work flow, etc. Alcohol can be stored in coolers-- your 3 tier cake probably can't 😬
Jamie you should also added to make sure you check with your venue on the way an alcohol can be serve cause we found out that while they do provide a full bar service and bartenders and all that stuff they do not allow shots to be poured at the bar. All drinks had to be mixed with something either juice, red bull, soda whatever so that took the fun out of it considering I love taking tequila shots. Nevertheless, our amazing catering company allowed us to create signature drinks so we went with that idea instead.
Please be aware that if you hold an event and people drive drunk afterwards you & venue are liable! So self-serve/ non-professional bartender(s) are a VERY bad idea. Check with the venue- they might not allow a DIY bar, because of liability concerns. Also, remember to pull the plug on alcohol service an hour prior to the end to help people burn off their buzz.
I would probably take all of this info and turn it into a soda bar and make it feel like a real bar. Because even though I’m 21 I don’t drink and have never had a sip of alcohol in my life. Also I feel like it would be great for people who don’t drink (like my family) and who are not of drinking age because it can be really cool for kids to go to a bar and get a soda.
I bar tended for my cousins reception at his property. The hardest thing was what to do for underage guests. I didn't know the laws in the state and most of the wedding party and parents seemed okay with the teens drinking and I didn't want to start carding people in my cousin's barn. The lack of actual instructions on what my cousin's expectations were all made me uncomfortable. So if you're doing your own bar and have under 21s attending, try to think of what your policy on that is.
im doing a 25-30 people anniversary party. Appetizers and drinks only due to budget. I will be super busy with food. I want to service wine, beer, water. Should I set up a drink station for that people can help themselves? or better to put wine bottles on table? Could we pre-pour 25 glasses and leave them at the drink station? This way it limits them a little more. Not sure what to do. If I can budget a bartender for 2 hours, would $100 be enough payment?
What about cups?! This might be a funny question, but if you are DIYing your bar and hire a bartender to come to the venue, do you (typically) have to provide cups, or does the venue usually do that? If so, roughly how many cups do you suggest as they would be disposable and surely people will have several drinks in a night.
It seems so weird to me to have a non professional serving alcohol :S That's such a safety issue. Where I live (Ontario, Canada) you have to have a certification to serve alcohol so you know when to cut people off and make sure people aren't drinking and driving
Same in Australia, I believe. Well definitely if you’re hiring someone they have to have their RSA (responsible service of alcohol) and if you want alcohol at a venue (BYO or they sell it, doesn’t matter) they have to have licences (and then I think if you have over a certain number of people + alcohol you have to hire security...) We can do self serve though, we don’t have to have someone serving.
Yeah since our wedding is on a Thursday and will be over by 8pm we where able to make our very own signature drinks with our catering company and I am way more excited about that then having just mix drinks since our venue didn't allow shots to be poured at the bar.
im in highschool still but me and my bf have been dating a long time and plan on getting married in a few years when we graduate highschool and i finish my associates degree. im planning on a pagan brunch wedding so i hope it works out, but both of our family's are known drunks so we might only supply champagne, wine, and maybe vodka or so
You ran out of the wine because you didn't buy enough. It's rude to determine how much someone should drink. Even if you can pour less, that doesn't mean the person won't come back for more.
Its actual psychology though.. "I only had 3 glasses, let me go for 1 more" is very different when the glasses are actually 1.5 servings each. Try not to be so rude 😒
I’m a bridesmaid and just volunteered to host my sisters bridal shower. A video on any tips for hosting (maybe having a guest who hosted yours) would be so incredibly helpful! (I know you’ve posted a similar bridesmaid video in the past but I was hoping you could focus on a detailed list for the bridal shower.)
People who forget ice.... have no chill.
😂😂😂😂😂
@@JamieWolfer Well if you're going to go to all the trouble to share what you've learned with us, it's the least I can do!
Ba-dum-tss
I'm an event bartender, and I approve this video. Lol. Great job 👌🏽
Not sure how I’d get through wedding planning without you!! 🙈🙈
constancew same!!!
constancew future me is sooo thankful for present me watching these videos and doing research before I’m even engaged!
Omg yes!! I found you!! I’m doing a court wedding but a reception in 10/2019. I was just looking at Pinterest then go on RUclips, here you are! Thank you for making all the sense! I have binged on your videos all night
Id love to see a video for all of the people you have to designate tasks to if you dont have a cooridinator
She will probably not do it because she is a coordinator. She has also made a video about why to absolutely need it... which is weird since most people watch her videos because we won't have a coordinator
Sameee I’d love advice if anyone in the comments has done it or read any good articles ~? 😭
I'd absolutely love a series like this - all the things Pinterest won't tell you about DIYing your wedding!
I recently learned that if you're serving alcohol, you should ideally have wedding insurance with liquor liability. Fun times! Thanks for all your videos! So helpful!
PLEASE do a video on vineyard wedding. Because, am thinking, of having my wedding, at a winery. In early fall.
Jamie Wolfer I hope you and your loved ones are safe in California. Can you make a video about how to keep the flow going and entertain guests during the cocktail hour? And possibly mocktail suggestions for a dry wedding?
We’re having a pirate themed wedding so we’re having a rum bar.
This is the coolest thing!! Please post photos!!!
Tell us everything plz!!
That sounds awesome!
What does that look like?
I love your videos! I've watched several as my husband and I have been planning our 25th Anniversary Vow Renewal. We're having the reception we never got to have. Plus, our son just got engaged so I've shared your channel with him and his fiancé. ❤️
Yay I am so glad you did this video I needed this in my life. My venue is BYOB. I hired a bartender why because I have drinkers in my circle and they will have that gone in hour if it was self serve 🤣. Hope you are having a fantastic week. Can’t wait to see what you have in store for us next week.
Jamie, i absolutely love your videos! I knew nothing about weddings and after getting engaged your channel has been my salvation! Thanks a lot!
Can you do a video on videography? My mom really wants us to have one and my fiancé and i are not big fans. Can we get away with just setting up tripods at the ceremony and for speeches? What are the things we need to know?
Paria Karimi I know this is a year ago and hopefully you haven’t just set up a tripod for a wedding! I am very photograph oriented as someone who loves taking photos but I understand how much more amazing a video is. Pictures are with a thousands words but videos will capture the entire moment and help you relive that day. Are you more likely to watch a video or look through a photo album. But obviously don’t do anything you don’t want to! If it’s not for you maybe suggest to your mom she pay for the videographer if it’s important for her that your day be recorded!
@@kayleeleanne8364 haha thanks for responding but we got married July of last year :) we ended up getting a videographer for the ceremony and the speeches and it was perfect!
I especially like your last tip. People keep telling us that we need to get beer - but our guests are 85% family and NONE of them drink beer at all. Same with red wine - 6 guests drink red wine - they all like the same kind, we will get a couple bottles for them but everyone else is a white wine drinker or likes vodka, rum or gin. And we wont be really having any ice because it will be the middle of winter in a drafty castle with only wine and a couple signature cocktails - which will both be hot because people will want to warm up from coming in from the outside when they arrive and hot drinks are cozy for a snowy New England December. (Hopefully snow on the ground from early in the week but no more than flurries on the day).
Jen D that sounds absolutely beautiful
@@jenniferpalmer2252 Thank you so much!
Ooh warm drinks is a great idea! We're getting married in October in Sweden in an old building, it's bound to get chilly. And I love the sound of a castle in winter, sounds like a fairytale!
That sounds absolutely amazing! Congratulations!
@@katjaoksanen944 Thank you! We are hoping so, fairy tale (general not any specific one) is definitely part of our theme. October in Sweden sounds beautiful! Congratulations!
THANK YOU for this video! So helpful! I'm planning a graduation party for about 50 people with a self serve bar and this helped me so much more than Pinterest or other You Tube videos! 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻😘
Where do I find a bartender? Do I go to a bar and ask one?? 😂
I’m watching just because haha. We’re having a dry wedding (brunch and neither of us drink, nor does 3/4 of our guest list).
Please do a video for dry weddings :)
An old friend of mine, she had a backyard wedding, 50people or around that, brought all the soft drink/juice and alcohol that they drink and some wine and beer, if people didn't drink what was provided then it was bring your own. And being 2 days before Xmas it was stinking hot, (LAND DOWN UNDER! Australia), they borrowed a deep freezer a filled it with ice bags and drinks for the event.
Thank you Jamie!!! 💗 i was just talking to FH about the bar...I love you videos, and you just gave me some good questions to ask my venue 🤗🤗🤗
Bless yooouuu!! I thought we had alcohol figured out but this changes things! First - we can't do self serve at dinner anymore, that's becoming obvious. Swedes and Finns tend to like to go bananas at weddings and I can just imagine an aunt/uncle walking around filling up every glass at their table at five minutes intervals going "drink up! It's a wedding! Have fun!" and over serving everyone including some poor 16 year old cousin going "I had my first drink at my sisters wedding when I was 14, it's tradition!" and I'd have to whack them around the head with our guestbook every 15 minutes. And since I've got 16 aunts and uncles it'd become whack-a-relative fairly quickly. Yikes.
So the waitors will serve the drink during dinner! The dinner part of Scandinavian weddings tend to run quite long, I'd say at least two hours, I think that'd be enough time and food to ensure that people aren't pissed off their tits (pardon my french) so that they'll be able to handle beers and wine being out in the open when the dancing starts. We might stay away from hard liquor all together to make sure things stay tipsy and not pissed, or maybe a pre-mixed punch style drink that's self severe, but keep everything in the main room so that people will feel observed when they serve themselves 😂 I don't want to make it sound like all Scandinavians are latent alcoholics, but we do have some major issues with drinking culture 🤦
This made me laugh 😂 sounds like your wedding will be a ball 😊
@@chloegilroy8422 I love my relatives but they can get a bit...overexcited at parties 😅 at my godmother/aunt's 40th she managed to sneak drinks to me so that the drunkest people at the party ended up being me, 16, and my gran/her mother, 78. We sat a table just giggling about nothing for hours. When I eventually broke a vase my mum told my aunt that she'd have to suit herself, and that she'd have to take care of me if I'd get sick, and then she carried on dancing 🤷
@@katjaoksanen944 ooooooh my kind of party. I don't go out much but I do I like to party 😂
That's a great way to remind people to sign the guest book! 😂
@@WouldntULikeToKnow. Haha yeah I guess, two birds with one guestbook 😂
Thanks for the tip of ice 1.5-2 lbs per person depending on season! Also, are kegs better or less favorable to beer jockeys?
I love your videos, thank you for always keeping it real 💯 💯💯
I have a question, I wasn’t planning on providing alcohol, but was going to tell everyone if they want to bring their own for their group/family they can. What is your opinion on how to handle this? Guest list is going to be around 70 people and different ages of people.
I love your videos and personality, thank you for sharing !
i'm going to have a dry wedding but i want a diy mocktail area with visual instructions on shirley temples and "bug" juice lol! and other concoctions!
My venue offered bartender services with the option for us to bring our own alcohol. To save in waste and cost we have chosen to offer 2 signature drinks (bourbon based groom drink and gin based bride drink) 1 type of red, 1 type of white, and 2 types of beer via mini keg.
What do you recommend for only beer and wine at a wedding of 150? Could self serve suffice or do you think a bartender would be more smooth?
One thing about storing alcohol (from a caterer's perspective): COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR CATERER! Ask them how much fridge spave they'll need, if you using the fridge will interrupt their work flow, etc. Alcohol can be stored in coolers-- your 3 tier cake probably can't 😬
You have any storage ideas? If the fridge isn't enough.
Jamie you should also added to make sure you check with your venue on the way an alcohol can be serve cause we found out that while they do provide a full bar service and bartenders and all that stuff they do not allow shots to be poured at the bar. All drinks had to be mixed with something either juice, red bull, soda whatever so that took the fun out of it considering I love taking tequila shots. Nevertheless, our amazing catering company allowed us to create signature drinks so we went with that idea instead.
Also helpful what type of food you have available. We had Mexican food and we just had different types of beers and it was perfect.
Please be aware that if you hold an event and people drive drunk afterwards you & venue are liable! So self-serve/ non-professional bartender(s) are a VERY bad idea. Check with the venue- they might not allow a DIY bar, because of liability concerns. Also, remember to pull the plug on alcohol service an hour prior to the end to help people burn off their buzz.
I would probably take all of this info and turn it into a soda bar and make it feel like a real bar. Because even though I’m 21 I don’t drink and have never had a sip of alcohol in my life. Also I feel like it would be great for people who don’t drink (like my family) and who are not of drinking age because it can be really cool for kids to go to a bar and get a soda.
Any suggestions or tips for dry weddings?
We’re doing a dry wedding (brunch) so we’re just doing iced tea, lemonade and water. As well as coffee and tea.
I bar tended for my cousins reception at his property. The hardest thing was what to do for underage guests. I didn't know the laws in the state and most of the wedding party and parents seemed okay with the teens drinking and I didn't want to start carding people in my cousin's barn. The lack of actual instructions on what my cousin's expectations were all made me uncomfortable. So if you're doing your own bar and have under 21s attending, try to think of what your policy on that is.
im doing a 25-30 people anniversary party. Appetizers and drinks only due to budget. I will be super busy with food. I want to service wine, beer, water. Should I set up a drink station for that people can help themselves? or better to put wine bottles on table? Could we pre-pour 25 glasses and leave them at the drink station? This way it limits them a little more. Not sure what to do. If I can budget a bartender for 2 hours, would $100 be enough payment?
Can you do a video on an apps and dessert only wedding?
So helpful!
What about cups?! This might be a funny question, but if you are DIYing your bar and hire a bartender to come to the venue, do you (typically) have to provide cups, or does the venue usually do that? If so, roughly how many cups do you suggest as they would be disposable and surely people will have several drinks in a night.
Hey! I’m planning on having beer, wine and signature cocktails but not sure how much of each to get. I’m having about 90 people
WHERE DID YOU GET YOUR COMFORTER SET??? I LOVE IT 😍
What about kegs for beer instead of bottles?
Love your videos! I have a question. We are having a dry wedding for personal reasons. Is it tacky to do speeches/toasts?
Please please please do a video on diy photo booths
How do you handle drunk people? Can you do a video on whether or not you should have a security guard or how to cut people off at the bar.
I’m from Australia...... we need lots of ice
Could one use dry ice?
You’re so cute! Love your videos!
It seems so weird to me to have a non professional serving alcohol :S That's such a safety issue.
Where I live (Ontario, Canada) you have to have a certification to serve alcohol so you know when to cut people off and make sure people aren't drinking and driving
Same in Australia, I believe. Well definitely if you’re hiring someone they have to have their RSA (responsible service of alcohol) and if you want alcohol at a venue (BYO or they sell it, doesn’t matter) they have to have licences (and then I think if you have over a certain number of people + alcohol you have to hire security...)
We can do self serve though, we don’t have to have someone serving.
You da best
Yeah since our wedding is on a Thursday and will be over by 8pm we where able to make our very own signature drinks with our catering company and I am way more excited about that then having just mix drinks since our venue didn't allow shots to be poured at the bar.
Always choose booze you actually want to drink in case you have extra or just wanna get super drunk 🥴
im in highschool still but me and my bf have been dating a long time and plan on getting married in a few years when we graduate highschool and i finish my associates degree. im planning on a pagan brunch wedding so i hope it works out, but both of our family's are known drunks so we might only supply champagne, wine, and maybe vodka or so
You ran out of the wine because you didn't buy enough. It's rude to determine how much someone should drink. Even if you can pour less, that doesn't mean the person won't come back for more.
Its actual psychology though.. "I only had 3 glasses, let me go for 1 more" is very different when the glasses are actually 1.5 servings each. Try not to be so rude 😒
If it’s rude to determine how much someone should drink then how do you determine how much alcohol to buy for them to drink at the wedding? 🤔
Wow what an idiot