Answering questions my straight friend has for me about being gay

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  • @jlust6660
    @jlust6660 3 года назад +2399

    It would be easier to be straight, but I'm not throwing away all those years of learning to accept myself. I'm too proud of achieving that.

    • @roncaron8939
      @roncaron8939 3 года назад +59

      I totally agree with you. Think about it, if you could have "chosen" straight. You might have been married 3 times by now and paying big alimony. haha
      I always accepted myself, but it took me years to realize, that messing around with boys/guys was something i wasn't going to grow out of. haha

    • @abmindprof
      @abmindprof 3 года назад +19

      Exactly!

    • @Matty__Matt
      @Matty__Matt 3 года назад +18

      @Jakob Lust
      I was gonna comment something similar to this but you really hit the hammer on the nail with this one! 🔨I'm one of those people that like to go with the flow. And I don't feel there should be a reason for me to feel the desire to change something about myself that doesn't really affect anyone else except me. Especially when it comes to self-acceptance! 🌈🏳️‍🌈

    • @PatrickArgentina
      @PatrickArgentina 3 года назад +4

      well said !!!

    • @heat_wave5774
      @heat_wave5774 3 года назад +5

      Omg same 1000% Ive been through a lot of bull💩 being for being gay, but even when i get rejected by guys it's alright ofc it is disappointing but not annoying as Chris said, that's my opinion at least!

  • @johnny45042
    @johnny45042 3 года назад +2260

    I'm so happy to see it's easier to talk about being gay. When I came out (1980), it was very hard! Lost friends and family!

    • @JuanHernandez0o0
      @JuanHernandez0o0 3 года назад +182

      Ur a strong KINGGGGGGG 👑

    • @fairytail6152
      @fairytail6152 3 года назад +103

      Congratulations on overcoming! I’m still not out 😬

    • @johnny45042
      @johnny45042 3 года назад +29

      @@fairytail6152 how old are you?

    • @ceiling_pancake
      @ceiling_pancake 3 года назад +56

      John Neeley you’re very brave, it took so much courage for me to come out, even though I came out this year. I can’t imagine what it must’ve been like coming out 40 years ago.

    • @rogelcagas7189
      @rogelcagas7189 3 года назад +21

      Dont worry we love you❤️

  • @happyninja42
    @happyninja42 3 года назад +500

    As a straight guy, it never bothered me when gay guys that I knew from work or school hit on me or asked me out. For me, it was no different than a woman I didn't find attractive doing the same thing. My response was always just "no thanks, I'm not gay." And that was really it.

    • @gulpboys3970
      @gulpboys3970 3 года назад +1

      ruclips.net/video/wtbcaWnybzs/видео.html

    • @thomthom6268
      @thomthom6268 3 года назад +21

      I can't tell you how many times I've been at happy hour at non gay bars and I'm read as the straight one. A couple of times I just grabbed their bicep and said "sorry, it's me".

    • @happyninja42
      @happyninja42 3 года назад +3

      @@thomthom6268 lol

    • @juanestrada8597
      @juanestrada8597 3 года назад +35

      We need more straight men like you 🥺🥰 you are a real man... not like those being homophobic

    • @happyninja42
      @happyninja42 3 года назад +4

      @@juanestrada8597 Well thank you :) I try.

  • @warmbro2230
    @warmbro2230 3 года назад +845

    I would absolutely never "change" my sexuality if that were possible. Years of suffering at the hands of ignorant people have made me into a strong, indomitable person. Who is married to a loving, wonderful man and has an amazing life.

    • @stumack9755
      @stumack9755 3 года назад +15

      u go boy!

    • @johnny45042
      @johnny45042 3 года назад +14

      You are so right and I'm extremely happy for you!

    • @javiervalverde2374
      @javiervalverde2374 3 года назад +3

      Amen

    • @lefishe3721
      @lefishe3721 3 года назад +3

      I'm happy for u !

    • @jaguar_8344
      @jaguar_8344 3 года назад

      Rachel Voss Vilaça lol this hot is everywhere. Don’t pay attention to it, most of the shit it’s spouts is fake. And, @Purple Tri, if whoever set up this bot reads this, correct your shit. Half the names on these lists are wrong, plus neither of those celebs work for Mossad..

  • @Abdelsalamq1
    @Abdelsalamq1 3 года назад +141

    I love his straight friend, he's one of the most mature and chill person I have seen around a gay guy and treats him like a person

    • @2004cyrus
      @2004cyrus 3 года назад +1

      Maybe they’ve experimented

    • @kevinseasidenj_4
      @kevinseasidenj_4 2 года назад +1

      So true

    • @2004cyrus
      @2004cyrus 2 года назад +1

      @ I bet they have. All of my straight friends have wanted to try cuddled or back rubs and then more later.

  • @boowah3159
    @boowah3159 3 года назад +281

    Before I came out I would have chosen to be straight. However, fast forward 30 years, there’s no way in hell I would choose to be straight!

    • @goldenbowl1046
      @goldenbowl1046 3 года назад +1

      I’m in my 30s now and when I was in my 20s I loved being gay and wouldn’t change it...now in my 30s I would change it if I could...we have a switched way of looking at it lol...❤️

    • @zachariahsmith1324
      @zachariahsmith1324 3 года назад

      @Ares There's sort of a saying that gay people kind of don't age well in terms of the community, like there's sort of the underlying perception that twinks have a cut off point of like 25 years old.
      So in conclusion I think being in the gay community is tons of fun whilst you're young, but not so much when you get older. and you'll find younger people can be quite rude about it. Straight people don't have the problem to as much of a large degree as the gays but they do have issues with it sometimes too.

    • @buffy17mike
      @buffy17mike 3 года назад +6

      I would definitely switch in a second. I know being straight wouldn’t fix all lives problems but it would be one less thing that makes my life more difficult

  • @Scuuurbs
    @Scuuurbs 3 года назад +271

    Thumbnail “What’s a power bottom”
    Also thumbnail *str8 dude pointing at himself*

    • @RichieRK7
      @RichieRK7 3 года назад +10

      His answer to that was all over the place, I dont think he even knows what a power bottom is. 😂

    • @mpolynice30
      @mpolynice30 3 года назад +1

      Get that from bl's lol

  • @roncaron8939
    @roncaron8939 3 года назад +259

    I had a crush on "Straight friend", in our very mixed group! I never made a pass. He made it clear to "Us" that he was straight! Although he was friendly to me, he was also standoffish! Recently, he contacted me & apologized, saying: he"come out" & admitted that he had, had a crush on me! He said, he was scarred that people might think he was gay, because of our association. You never know, what someones sexuality is, unless they are first, honest with themselves & as important, honest with you! Don't make a pass, unless you are sure the interest is reciprocal.

    • @spookeditz3519
      @spookeditz3519 3 года назад +5

      Oop

    • @noelene2349
      @noelene2349 3 года назад +10

      And what happened then ? I mean, you both like each other ...

    • @roncaron8939
      @roncaron8939 3 года назад +29

      @@noelene2349 Hi Noelene, thanks for asking. We're slowly becomeing good friends, not boyfriends. It would have been easy to transition from what we were , but i don't think that would be fair to him. Going from "deep in the closet" right into a relationship, would be good. He needs to deal with his new life first.
      he was worried about being rejected, by our group of friends, because he felt that he had been lying to us. We have a decent size group and very mixed, straight , bi , gay and probably a few more guys and girls in the closet. you never know. He left town for a while, i'm guessing to figure things out. I know that he will be welcomed back with open arms Maybe some day in the future, something will developed between us, but for now, he's got a lot on his plate. Although, he was with his family for a while, prior to him coming back, he hasn't come out to his Midwestern "conservative" family yet. He'll need a lot of support from us!

    • @noelene2349
      @noelene2349 3 года назад +6

      @@roncaron8939 awwhh !! I hope everything goes well with his family. It's quite the journey isn't it, accepting yourself and coming out !? But also, it's a good thing that you're all there for him ! And who knows, maybe someday you will end up dating after all :p i believe that whatever is supposed to happen, will happen ! :-)

    • @javiervalverde2374
      @javiervalverde2374 3 года назад +3

      @RonCaron Wow! Amazing story! That's nice that he came out to you and admitted he had a crush on you. Great that he contacted you and wanted to be friends again. What part of the country do you live at since you said your friend needed to go back to the Midwest to see his family at one point to come out to them

  • @denaroth7296
    @denaroth7296 3 года назад +45

    I notice that there are a lot of comments from older gays, and I love that because I don't see them much on the internet and it's interesting to see their views coming from a time when sexuality was more repressed...

  • @draco4540
    @draco4540 3 года назад +192

    i'm 56 yr. old. the "pitcher and catcher" question was very common when i was a kid. the other question that was very common was " who's the man and who's the woman."

    • @jeepman1244
      @jeepman1244 3 года назад +4

      I must have been sheltered That question was new to me but fingered it out quicking!

    • @juandelossantos4000
      @juandelossantos4000 3 года назад +14

      @@jeepman1244 you mean "figured"?

    • @jeepman1244
      @jeepman1244 3 года назад +7

      @@juandelossantos4000 I frankly don't care one way or the other!

    • @richardwater8738
      @richardwater8738 3 года назад +9

      @@jeepman1244 lmaoo

    • @Joey-bn4jb
      @Joey-bn4jb 3 года назад +6

      Or...king or queen?..my mom asked me that!.....👨🏻‍🤝‍👨🏿

  • @yaboylucas2371
    @yaboylucas2371 3 года назад +99

    If sexuality was a choice years ago I would’ve chosen to be “straight” however I’ve come to accept myself and I wouldn’t have the same experiences if I was “straight”. I am who I am today because of my experiences as a gay guy. I feel free now.

    • @yaboylucas2371
      @yaboylucas2371 3 года назад

      juan Dela Cruz Not Me, that was someone else called Rossini.

    • @joejoseph3078
      @joejoseph3078 2 года назад

      I would have still chosen to be gay because bearded men with hairy chests are God's gift of hyper-sexual beings and they can do things to me that cause a reaction that no woman could ever do. Just saying. On the Kinsey scale I am 6+.

    • @jaquesdonpan6906
      @jaquesdonpan6906 2 года назад

      This is so truee! When I came out to one of my friend(girl), she was like "aaww, it's okay, it's your choice"..... And I was like "hell nooo!".
      I literally don't have thing for girls, and my first crush was a boy from telenovela when I was like 7yrs old 😭

  • @marcosbannick6222
    @marcosbannick6222 3 года назад +397

    Given the choice, I’d pick gay over straight any day.

    • @jeepman1244
      @jeepman1244 3 года назад +8

      i 100% agree!

    • @aussiekendoll
      @aussiekendoll 3 года назад +7

      same

    • @luigiiodice3517
      @luigiiodice3517 3 года назад +4

      Sameeeee

    • @RainbowQuartz2.0
      @RainbowQuartz2.0 3 года назад +4

      Marcos Bannick If I could choose I would want to be bi or pan, but I still like being gay.

    • @user-sc3oh1bw4z
      @user-sc3oh1bw4z 3 года назад

      Im gay.. if i were born as bi.. i ll choose guy over girl.. lol

  • @harleygould7255
    @harleygould7255 3 года назад +34

    Chris. what's even more annoying than finding out someone you fancy is straight, is finding out that they ARE gay,...BUT...You're not their type....

  • @derekwebster8442
    @derekwebster8442 3 года назад +80

    Your buddy Calvin is very handsome & chill. You're lucky to have such a understanding straight guy as a friend. Love seeing him in your videos and hearing his perspective on things. You can tell that he really cares about you, It's so sweet.💖 Have him in more videos. Maybe y'all can do challenges together??? He seems like he would be up for it.

  • @ryanblack2986
    @ryanblack2986 2 года назад +16

    It didn't really used to bother me being known as "the gay guy" to everyone when they referred to me but it does now. Sexuality is such a small part of someone's overall personality but yet that's all a lot of ppl see when your gay. The way you walk, how you talk, the clothes you wear, the music you listen to, your career choice then all get judged as being gay.

  • @sebastianp.4467
    @sebastianp.4467 3 года назад +205

    Hey Chris, Congratulations on today's two-year anniversary on RUclips 🎉😎👍🏻

  • @jerryb9207
    @jerryb9207 3 года назад +36

    Good honest questions. Real truthful answer about what str8 guys will never(can't )understand about gay guys. I'm always impressed with your generation's acceptance of each other. Outstanding !

  • @markjones1184
    @markjones1184 3 года назад +17

    You're very well spoken. Calvin seems like a good friend

  • @johnathonf1
    @johnathonf1 3 года назад +21

    I love that you can get through this as friends. Good selection questions. As a young man, I hated myself from what the world told me. At 52, I am proud to be who I am and will gladly voice myself and do my best to protect all that they think they are not "normal"! Love your posts

  • @mannyortiz4814
    @mannyortiz4814 3 года назад +24

    I’m 73yrs old. It’s wonderful to see you two having this conversation. In my day we would have been chastised for even thinking about the subject gay.🙏🙏❤️❤️😇😇👍👍🕊🕊💋💋

    • @williamtaylor8221
      @williamtaylor8221 2 года назад +3

      I agree...I'm 69 and if you so much as mentioned the word gay....you were doomed

    • @GeneralZap
      @GeneralZap 2 года назад

      Bullshit

  • @gagelawson9667
    @gagelawson9667 3 года назад +24

    Ok but why was the seat reclined that much? 😂

  • @lincmad
    @lincmad 3 года назад +15

    “Power bottom” = endurance, go at it for literally hours at a time
    “Pushy bottom” = bottom who’s dominant
    … and yes, “both/and” is very much possible

    • @shaneclark6993
      @shaneclark6993 Год назад

      Ya power bottom is someone that can just take it and likes it rough and hard. Not sure where he got the whole dominate thing. The way he describes it, he's describing a Dominant Btm

  • @allegro1203
    @allegro1203 3 года назад +49

    I love this generation and frank conversation.

  • @roncaron8939
    @roncaron8939 3 года назад +96

    When a Straight friend asks you:, "have you ever been interested in me?" lots of ways to answer!
    #1 "Why do you ask, are you interested in me?
    #2 "just because you have a dick, doesn't mean that all gay guys are interested in you!
    #3. ""I'm realistic! I don't fantasize about anyone, unless they give off the vibe that they are interested!
    #4 "There are so many hot & interesting Gay Guys around for me to waste my time, fantasizing about anyone, straight or gay, pretends, not to interested or available!
    #5 "If you were gay, would you be interested in me?
    #6 if i was a girl, would you be interested in me?
    #7 "I'm damned if I say I have and interest i & Damned if i say I don't! Next question Please?

    • @BTURNER1961
      @BTURNER1961 3 года назад +2

      It really depends if you want people to feel comfortable asking these kinds of questions, or if you don't. I come from a generation, where the more we educated straights and dispelled these myths the better for everyone! There was no internet for Straights to go to, and a lot of them had nobody to ask that I wanted to be their source. It was me, or some fool idiot. I just smile and say, "no." I am not looking to be clever or make them uncomfortable , and I cannot afford to worry about being offended about stereotypes if I wanted to replace them with a multi-dimensional view of homosexuality. Now there are a lot more options so gays don't have to do all this work ourselves.

    • @roncaron8939
      @roncaron8939 3 года назад +4

      @@BTURNER1961 I was lucky, i never had to come out. I thought all through middle and high school that i was straight but part of an exclusive club that it was perfectly fine to fool around with boys, in secret. I never thought that what i was doing with boys , was "gay!"
      i had no role models, in person or in movies or TV. Every gay guy i could identify in the media, was depicted as the stereotypical, over the top and deliberately feminized, so it was obvious. those characters were placed in movies and TV as a joke. I never saw a soccer player or jock or pres. of the student counsel, that was even hinted about as being gay. I honestly thought i would eventually marry and have my 'gym buddies" on the side.
      it wasn't until i went to university and dated girls and actually fell in love with my best friend and roommate,! We were inseparable. i really don't remember, if i seduced him or the other way around (drunk and stoned) We kissed and the fireworks went off. That never happened with any girl i'd ever been with! Gradually our friends figured it out and luckily it was no big deal.
      I've found over the years, that when a guy, asks you a question like "are you attracted to me" that they have some kind of secret agenda and aren't being honest with me. Yes, there is also the guys with huge egos, who need the assurance that every man, woman, cat or dog should be in love with them.
      Kids today who are gay, bi, in the closet or just curious, have it much easier then you and i did. Suddenly guy with questions about there sexuality, can see themselves on TV and in the movies. In well educated places on earth, it's parity normal and it's far easier to be a part of a mixed group(gay and straight) of friends! I'm so happy that gay is being normalized and in the main stream, rather then some sad sack kid who's family disowned them or as misfits.
      Best Wishes and Stay Safe. Ron

    • @roncaron8939
      @roncaron8939 3 года назад +1

      @@spacefox1813 Hi Kevin, I hope i put a smile on your face and gave you a series of sarcastic replies to "are you attracted to me!" best wishes and stay safe. Ron

  • @67Endgame
    @67Endgame 3 года назад +34

    No, I would not "change" my sexual identity because then I would truly be living a lie.

  • @Joshua-xp9gw
    @Joshua-xp9gw 3 года назад +75

    The most annoying one I always get asked is why "Why are all the gay guys so hot?" It's gets on my nerves because we also have the chubs too and they get left out and people mostly focus on the skinny ones.

    • @swaverACE
      @swaverACE 3 года назад +8

      Maybe they think the chubs are hot too!

    • @javiervalverde2374
      @javiervalverde2374 3 года назад +1

      Wow that's horrible Josh

    • @rodiculous2300
      @rodiculous2300 3 года назад +1

      THIS!
      In my country if youre hot and gay they’d say its waste that youre gay but when youre not attractive in the eyes of society theyre just like ehh ok youre gay

    • @ronverorillaneda4523
      @ronverorillaneda4523 3 года назад

      .Hi guys who want to become my partner?

    • @frantaztik7235
      @frantaztik7235 3 года назад +1

      Lol I’m sure you get asked allll the time why are gay guys so hot... that aside it’s kinda messed up to say that “chubs” are the ugly gays. Many gay guys of all shapes and sizes like guys of all shapes and sizes. Ugly normally is less about body type and more about how “handsome” you are but that is subjective anyway so yeah.. not everyone is going to find skinny guys attractive. Having a certain body type doesn’t automatically make you hot or not. Just saying.

  • @NERlNERl
    @NERlNERl 2 года назад +4

    Calvin is so chill and wholesome! the girl who sweeps him off his feet's gonna be very lucky

  • @melodyinspace9092
    @melodyinspace9092 3 года назад +28

    How fun? My uncle is gay and I'm bi. I guess we've got gay genes in my family too 😂

  • @bobmathis-friedman6742
    @bobmathis-friedman6742 3 года назад +11

    I would never change to straight if I could; I'm not the problem, they are.

    • @goldenbowl1046
      @goldenbowl1046 3 года назад

      Lol I agree with this and thought just like this too but now in my 30s I’m starting to have a shift in thinking...yes they are the problem but how we responded to them is also a problem...we let them get to us because we weren’t equipped with the tools needed to protect ourselves from them...and now that we’re here we are still damned because gay guys can be a hot mess

  • @sweeperboy
    @sweeperboy 2 года назад +12

    I know there's a lot of progress still to be made, but the idea of there being an open and chill friendship, which is then broadcast to the world, between a straight guy and a gay guy is completely alien to someone of my age. It's wonderful and heart-warming to see.
    Calvin is awesome!

  • @kevindamron3957
    @kevindamron3957 3 года назад +2

    Saw your first collab with Calvin and thought this one was the same one till I saw it. Always love your content! I believe that people need to be honest with themselves when it comes to their orientation because life is too short. Relationships are between two people and not for the worlds view of right/wrong, good/bad or whatever else you want to add here. Hope to see more of these as they are very informative. Love your videos and keep them coming!!

  • @victorjason2558
    @victorjason2558 3 года назад +10

    I haven't read through the comments, but I'm sure someone agreed that the one thing a straight person wouldn't understand is how scary it is before you come out.

  • @emilionavarro2575
    @emilionavarro2575 3 года назад +4

    You really are good friends don’t change that

  • @drewwho4512
    @drewwho4512 3 года назад +15

    Clearly you are great friends and so accepting of each other. Awesome to see!
    Chris, as to your question to us viewers, I came to terms with my sexuality much later than I should have. So rather than wanting to be straight now, I wish I had acted on my same-sex desires at a much younger age. I feel I missed out on a great deal by not being true to myself.
    It sounds crazy but most people knew I was gay before I did. I dated girls but it never felt natural and I was always putting up barriers. My first time with a guy felt natural and it was the first time I felt I could let my guard down and just be me. Don't live in denial. I did so out of fear of a lack of acceptance and feeling I needed to be someone I wasn't to make others happy.
    I was unhappy for so long and now feel much better about myself and live life on my terms regardless of what others think.

    • @goldenbowl1046
      @goldenbowl1046 3 года назад

      My story is similar to yours (as most gay guys)...and this is what’s so hard about the whole gay thing is that we feel so relieved to finally “come out” and accept ourselves ...but then the new challenge is that after we do this our conscious starts to fuck with us in more ways than one about our decision(s)!

    • @drewwho4512
      @drewwho4512 3 года назад +1

      @@goldenbowl1046 Thx for the reply! If life was a do over I would do a number of things differently starting when much younger. With that said life isn't a do over so I can only do things differently now. Time isn't on my side as much as it once was so I best get to it rather than dwelling on the past.

    • @johnjones9017
      @johnjones9017 3 года назад

      You are absolutely right. Trying to live a straight life style with a southern Baptist preacher father... and very religious mother. It was a very confusing life for me. I knew pretty much a whole lot what sexuality attracted me. But one day my mother asked me son are you gay? I said Mom if I was would that change things? She said no son love is unconditional. I love you no matter what. If that's your choice I must accept it and I will be proud to call you my son. From that day on it was hard at times but we Are Who We Are and nothing can change that not even yourself. So if this world would love one another stop the hate all the bad comments except that person who they are they wouldn't be Suicidal Tendencies in anyone. Love to all .... be you no matter what others think. No need in you living a a miserable life just to make others love you.

    • @johnjones9017
      @johnjones9017 3 года назад

      And I have become a very well known businessman. And realtor and I don't plan to stop there. I'd rather love a person for being true didn't have a pocket full of fake friends. Just being honest

    • @drewwho4512
      @drewwho4512 3 года назад

      @@johnjones9017 Much respect to your mom for being so accepting. Wish my parents were more like her. Conditional love is not love. Glad you shared your experience and were appreciated for who you are.

  • @user-jc8dy2sl7k
    @user-jc8dy2sl7k 3 года назад +5

    Understanding is key - Acceptance is a choice.

  • @melferguson657
    @melferguson657 3 года назад +5

    My best friend is gay and i watch your videos to educate myself. Love ya

  • @MalkavDraconic
    @MalkavDraconic 3 года назад +6

    When I read “My straight friend”... my brain says: “Awww he has one”.
    I’ll get back under my bridge.

  • @uknowwutiwant
    @uknowwutiwant 3 года назад +26

    You look like a younger Antoni Porowski

  • @wjpolacz
    @wjpolacz 3 года назад +2

    why is this vibe so chill I love it ✨

  • @danieldonaldson2816
    @danieldonaldson2816 3 года назад +4

    I loved the video and pretty accurate on all the responses to the questions. Part of me wishes I was straight, but then I wouldn’t be who I was today with all the experiences I’ve been through being gay

  • @greggtilghman6349
    @greggtilghman6349 3 года назад +19

    If I were in my 20's I wouldn't change my sexuality but now that I'm 56, my sexuality is "asexual" so yes.

  • @PatrickArgentina
    @PatrickArgentina 3 года назад +17

    Great video guys!!! I'm really enjoying your collabs. I wish I'd had a friendship like yours when I was younger, and I hope yours lasts for many years. I think another thing straight people will never understand is how frustrating it is not to be able to do what the rest of the people do normally, including the most simple things like holding hands. Before coming out, it is imposible, and after coming out, there is always the feeling that people are watching and judging. Also, the feelings of injustice, at least this is how I feel. And regarding the last question... I would NEVER change how I was born :)

  • @paul28177
    @paul28177 3 года назад +3

    Personally...ive always struggled with my sexuality... often felt ashamed... kinda grew up thinking by now i would have a wife, a house, kids - but life didnt turn out that way... so sometimes i do wish they had been straight... but then i see straight people have their own problems.
    I guess it would have been nicer to have grown up in a more supporting environment... i feel i missed out on so much in life because i was forever hiding - i was able to be me, date the people i wanted to, go to prom with a guy, etc...

  • @arif_and_ricky
    @arif_and_ricky 3 года назад +4

    Well, we had to say that we have just bumped into your channel, and we had to subscribe! Thank you so much for this great content and for helping the community! Loads of love from two fellow youtubers from the UK

  • @KH-uh2zb
    @KH-uh2zb 3 года назад +11

    This was in my recommendation and I'm glad it was

  • @michaelz9892
    @michaelz9892 2 года назад +2

    Love seeing you guys are such good friends! This wouldn't have happened 30 years ago.

  • @raymond7718
    @raymond7718 3 года назад +14

    I wouldn't change from gay to str8, I wouldn't be myself. Plus gay is a whole different Vibe

    • @ragemillz4871
      @ragemillz4871 3 года назад +1

      😘😘 thanks for that Raymond you there

    • @ragemillz4871
      @ragemillz4871 3 года назад +2

      So many straight out there leaving a boring life you know

    • @raymond7718
      @raymond7718 3 года назад +1

      @@ragemillz4871 I mean "boring" Life is not only for str8, gay ppl have boring Life as well.

    • @ragemillz4871
      @ragemillz4871 3 года назад +1

      Raymond Raymond well that’s true are you str8?

    • @raymond7718
      @raymond7718 3 года назад

      @@ragemillz4871 lol. I'm gay AF 😂

  • @edwincuida9747
    @edwincuida9747 3 года назад +5

    RLLY POWERFUL

  • @_joss6802
    @_joss6802 3 года назад +4

    i have high respect to straight people who accept their friend (coming out from closet) those are real friends that worth keeping for.
    just like him not to mention his cute dimple 😁
    watching from singapore.

  • @Bradhastime
    @Bradhastime 2 года назад +1

    Chris, I love the fact that Calvin accepts you for being yourself. You guys seem to have a genuine friendship and I hope it lasts a lifetime. I resently found your RUclips and enjoy the videos you post. If you see this and will say, I was wondering if you knew Calvin before coming out? And if so, was he instantly accepting of the news? Maybe the two of you can do a video on the subject.

  • @lexis_leunam
    @lexis_leunam 3 года назад +2

    Ayyyy!!! My two favorite people at it again!!!

  • @Jaxionisnum2
    @Jaxionisnum2 3 года назад +2

    I can relate to that first one on a spiritual level lol it’s even more of a headache when they make it seem they are interested in you and their just toying with your emotions 🙄

  • @whyworld1
    @whyworld1 3 года назад +23

    100% would be straight if I could. I know there are those that love to say otherwise but you can not deny that there is a part of you that just wished you weren’t. Being gay and knowing from an early age you miss out on so much that adolescences has to offer. I also think that’s why it’s so hard for so many gay guys to have a healthy stable relationship. Because so many of us didn’t get that chance to explore and learn and develop and eventually learn what love (not sex) is and how it feels.

    • @jtd5849
      @jtd5849 3 года назад +11

      I can absolutely deny it. I have wished society was different,but never myself. i came out in 1974 when it was very different than today and still wouldn't change a thing. I have never wished that i was anything other than what i am, and know so many other ppl that feel the same way. I'm sorry that you feel that u've missed out on things by being gay.

    • @goldenbowl1046
      @goldenbowl1046 3 года назад +1

      I came out in my 20’s and it felt awesome...now I’m in my 30s and I wish I could be straight...yes gay men live amazing carefree lives but society is always disgusting to us outside of the gay world...and even inside there are a whole slew of issues...as much as I hate saying this and letting the straight people win, I wish I WAS NOT gay...but I don’t wanna be straight either...I wish I could be asexual

    • @VelvetDreams666
      @VelvetDreams666 3 года назад +3

      Nope, I’m 14 and have never wished to be straight.

    • @yaboylucas2371
      @yaboylucas2371 3 года назад +1

      I would say that years ago, but I came to accept myself and I wouldn’t be the person I am today if I didn’t have the same experiences as a gay guy.

    • @laurenc5306
      @laurenc5306 3 года назад +3

      I'm a lesbian and I don't want to be straight at all. If anything I wish society wasn't so homophobic

  • @youngandgood
    @youngandgood 3 года назад +2

    You guys are so cute!!! Tbh I’m happy to see you guys so close I do not have any straight friends that I’m close to like that and it’s exciting to see you guys are open and chill! Would love to chill or do a vid one day !!!

  • @Michael-dt1mv
    @Michael-dt1mv 3 года назад +6

    No way!! I’m still overjoyed that I finally discovered that I’m gay!! Sure, there have been infrequent hassles, but only as a gay man can I truly be my fully authentic self, which is super important in life! (Also sex is WAY better!!) enjoyed the video

  • @philp8987
    @philp8987 3 года назад +86

    gotta ask Calvin if he ever secretly wants a kiss.

  • @MusicWordMusic
    @MusicWordMusic 3 года назад +8

    I found high school and college anguishing, because I had no context for how I was feeling. That was hard, as was coming out to my family, coming out to coworkers, a dating pool that is so tiny (local, gay, single, bottoms), and having to take care of my lover with AIDS and then burying him. The good parts were gay pride parades, a community of understanding and welcoming men and women wherever I travel, a better sense of what being a minority is like, and not feeling as much pressure to have kids.

    • @goldenbowl1046
      @goldenbowl1046 3 года назад

      Very good points but you didn’t answer the last question they had 😀

    • @ryanblack2986
      @ryanblack2986 2 года назад +1

      Sorry about you losing your lover. AIDS was and still is a terrible death if u don't have meds. I thank God everyday for the advancements that have been made in science and medicine.

  • @johnandrick64
    @johnandrick64 3 года назад +2

    The reason that I would not have wanted to be straight is that...if I had been, I would not have fallen in love with the guy who has filled my life with love for the last 52 years. We cemented that love in the late 60’s by hitchhiking across North Africa, then building a cottage, then buying a home, all in the midst of straight and accepting friends. How could I ever wish to have missed that ?

  • @PrinzOtto
    @PrinzOtto 3 года назад +3

    No wouldn’t change I like who I am and being gay is great. Others have the same problems. Would you give up being Chinese, black etc...you get the idea. Also,the “P” grosses me out!! ❤️u man keep up the great work.

  • @richietwoshoes9531
    @richietwoshoes9531 2 года назад +3

    It’s hard to have a friend like that without wanting to hold him and kiss him he is so beautiful 😘❤️

  • @or4g380
    @or4g380 3 года назад +2

    ✨Keep up the good work chris✨

  • @NightOwl_30
    @NightOwl_30 3 года назад

    That last question was really good. There is a lot to expand on. It’s not just as simple as some people are and some people aren’t.

  • @Cv227a
    @Cv227a 3 года назад +2

    You are both awesome guys❤️

  • @tannereustace
    @tannereustace 3 года назад +10

    A couple years ago, I probably would have wanted to become straight, but now I wouldn't change my sexuality. I just graduated high school and came out in my yearbook quote: "I started high school with straight A's...now I'm not even straight! I'm still me, though!" The reactions that I have gotten are really sweet. Plus, my non-straightness allows me to empathize more with other people who are discriminated against/people whom society has prejudice towards, making me a more open-minded person

  • @johnsmith-do2ml
    @johnsmith-do2ml 3 года назад +27

    would i be str8.. yes. because its so painful trying to hide myself everyday knowing that if my parents find out that i like guys... i will be seriously injured and become homeless.

    • @key745
      @key745 3 года назад +3

      I hope that when you do come out everything goes well, it killed me too, but it's the best feeling in the world after you come out, like now I feel so comfortable with myself and loving who I want to love! Coming out is that last hurdle, but I know you can get over it, and even if your family and friends don't take it well, don't feel like you have to change for them or anyone else, be YOU and ONLY YOU! They owe it TO YOU to be accepting and loving and understanding of your decision to come out, btw, we shouldn't even be calling it 'Coming Out' because we are actually LETTING PEOPLE IN when we come out, not the other way around, when we let people in, and you phrase it like that, it gives us the power and control of the situation. It is a tremendous burden, but you can do it!!! Sending good luck! 😘👍🍀✨🌈👬

    • @yaboylucas2371
      @yaboylucas2371 3 года назад +6

      If you feel like your parents might kick your out or injure you then don’t come out for now. For your own safety I would suggest that you start earning and saving money and when you feel like you’re independent then that’s when you come out.

    • @mr.greenjeans8323
      @mr.greenjeans8323 3 года назад +1

      @@yaboylucas2371 great answer..i second that ..its truly sad but in some cases that's what happens..thankfully my parents were accepting but I've known many that weren't ..over the years I've given several a place to stay till they could get on their feet and get things figured out..

  • @mariom6884
    @mariom6884 3 года назад +5

    Chris you’re adorable!!!

  • @mrock828
    @mrock828 3 года назад +1

    I can't recall when I found anyone more attractive :) and your light is perfect!

  • @billywong7775
    @billywong7775 3 года назад +6

    One day in a not so distant future kids don't need to come out anymore

  • @PatrickArgentina
    @PatrickArgentina 3 года назад +2

    Can’t wait !! 🙂

  • @iamlimbert4782
    @iamlimbert4782 3 года назад

    Happy to see friendship like thissss,😘more power to the both of you✨💋

  • @jasonembree8354
    @jasonembree8354 3 года назад

    This is the first video I saw of yours and you are so entertaining to watch

  • @ProximaSun
    @ProximaSun 3 года назад +6

    This is so hilarious ahahha!
    Straight: this is not a sexual one, What is a power bottom?
    Me:
    LMAO

  • @sd90mac61
    @sd90mac61 3 года назад +2

    Thanks for your input-output on this topic, kitties, take care and BE SAFE YA'LL, LOL👍🤠 MORE PLEASE 😁

  • @mayflower551
    @mayflower551 3 года назад +1

    Such a supportive cute friend you have. Great video. Take care

    • @mayflower551
      @mayflower551 3 года назад

      @Cali Saws you're very welcome. Big HUGS

  • @milotxh
    @milotxh 3 года назад +42

    I thought power buttons are the ones tha can bottom for hours, no brakes.

    • @jfairchild8043
      @jfairchild8043 3 года назад +7

      Dead

    • @dan_ta_lion
      @dan_ta_lion 3 года назад +6

      I thought power bottoms are the kind of bottoms who have never tried topping.

    • @burieddead666
      @burieddead666 3 года назад

      You are correct lol

    • @Gemini530
      @Gemini530 3 года назад +7

      Disney Channel ... That’s a “total bottom”. But I thought power bottom is someone who can take it no matter how big

    • @lucasreid5459
      @lucasreid5459 3 года назад +3

      You're wrong power buttons are the ones that used to start your engine. 💀

  • @R1981L
    @R1981L 3 года назад +3

    You two are adorable :)

  • @floydallen627
    @floydallen627 2 года назад

    You are very fortunate to have a friend like Calvin, he's really kool, I'm kinda jealous of you. Damn, you're lucky AF!!

  • @duane_f
    @duane_f Год назад

    Just thought I would say that this is the first StanChris video I watched, when it randomly popped up on the page. I don't know exactly when that was, but I think it wasn't long after it was posted. Back then I wasn't commenting on videos. I then became a big fan, and have enjoyed watching you mature and progress as a content creator. And I love your supportive family. 😃👍

  • @CroutyPooh1218
    @CroutyPooh1218 3 года назад +2

    Love this!!

  • @austins.9171
    @austins.9171 3 года назад +4

    I love yall's content, it makes me happy to see this kind of friendship. I'm bisexual and a lot of people are actually less supportive of that than if I was just gay. Funny enough, the lgbt community has rejected me the most, just because I am masculine and like women too. Lots of internal fighting in the lgbt community sadly...

    • @StanChris
      @StanChris  3 года назад +2

      omg no way, :( well you are welcome here & thanks !

    • @austins.9171
      @austins.9171 3 года назад +1

      @@StanChris Thanks man, I appreciate that. :-)

  • @royrock5900
    @royrock5900 3 года назад +2

    this was really good, I wish more of both sides would watch

  • @kanalu808
    @kanalu808 3 года назад +1

    Enjoyed your video!!

  • @ChrisPBacon-ok7ir
    @ChrisPBacon-ok7ir 3 года назад +40

    What's a power bottom?
    Meeee

    • @roncaron8939
      @roncaron8939 3 года назад +4

      I've always felt, that you can't be a good top, unless you have given being a bottom a try and you can't be a good bottom, unless you have given being a top a try.
      If you are in sync with your partner, you go with the flow.

    • @stumack9755
      @stumack9755 3 года назад +2

      @@roncaron8939 def true bout bj's.

    • @ScribblebytesWorldwide
      @ScribblebytesWorldwide 3 года назад

      I learned that from Its Always Sunny...apparently they generate most of the thrusting power.

    • @ChrisPBacon-ok7ir
      @ChrisPBacon-ok7ir 3 года назад

      @@ScribblebytesWorldwide , When possible, yes and you can't just lay there and you can't stay quiet and you have to be able to take a good pounding for a long time!

    • @ScribblebytesWorldwide
      @ScribblebytesWorldwide 3 года назад

      @@ChrisPBacon-ok7ir 😹😹😹 #pounding

  • @lexis_leunam
    @lexis_leunam 3 года назад +19

    Side note 📝 if ya do videos together ya should definitely make them longer.

    • @roncaron8939
      @roncaron8939 3 года назад

      I could think of dozens of questions for Cali to ask, because in my life, i've been asked dozens of questions by my 'straight" friends.
      Longer yes and original questions, not questions they found on line.

  • @wallacyryan8211
    @wallacyryan8211 3 года назад +1

    "i came up with that in my head... just now" true himbo

  • @ticolindo2010
    @ticolindo2010 2 года назад

    Love ur collabs

  • @teako3943
    @teako3943 3 года назад +5

    Wow I'm a pit EARLY ly chris and cali keep it up❤🖤💜💙💛💚🧡

    • @teako3943
      @teako3943 3 года назад

      Sorry I mean Calvin

  • @rickberning7238
    @rickberning7238 3 года назад +7

    Great video. When i was younger,if given the chance,i may have changed my lifestyle. Now that i'm older and wiser, i'm happy with me. If i would have never met my life partner, we are 25+ years strong.

  • @ittodakimasu4814
    @ittodakimasu4814 2 года назад +1

    im so depressed 17 years old i wasted my teenagers years struggling to find myself and accept myself. i could have improved in so many areas but being gay has slowed me down and formed too many problems i am still fighting tho and won’t give up and finally the day will come when i finally accept who i am.🙂

  • @diaet
    @diaet Год назад

    Chris: no, it's not all of your personality, you're just damn good at it- quite fabulous tbh!

  • @JosephCompnotta
    @JosephCompnotta 3 года назад +3

    A power bottom is someone who can take it for hours! Not Dom. lol

  • @bwill83
    @bwill83 3 года назад +3

    If I had a choice of whether I could choose to be gay or straight I would still choose to be gay; Idk maybe its going to be a generational thing. I feel that younger people today are finding a lot more acceptance than we did coming out 20+ years ago so maybe it would impact their decision not knowing how much fighting we have had to do just to be allowed to be who we were born to be.

  • @lavoshakern
    @lavoshakern 3 года назад +2

    Would I change my sexuality? No. I thought I was straight for a good portion of my life but, after experimenting with my sexuality and realizing that I'm bi, I feel so much more free and open and more myself. I reached a whole new level of understanding myself and my world view expanded x10. I don't want to go back to having blinders on.
    Plus...being hetero is just plain boring.

  • @driverain2
    @driverain2 2 года назад

    If I could add one more point to your conversation, It would be that you are as sincere in how your heart feels as your str8 friend is . Not all has to be met with a sniker. You are a beautiful young man. I salute you.

  • @AngelVazquez-xh1dh
    @AngelVazquez-xh1dh 3 года назад +3

    It must be so difficult to be just friends with that kind of friend

  • @teddythirteen
    @teddythirteen 3 года назад +3

    No this who I was meant to be and we learn and teach as we go that’s how we grow and learn about life🙂❤️👍

  • @bel410la
    @bel410la 3 года назад +1

    It's always better to answer questions, none of these were, but even if they might sound dumb, weird, or rude, because if you don't answer it and say something rude instead, then the person is too afraid to ever ask any question again, so they only know what they know off of rumors, and they never understand and grow as people. In the long run though, no one should listen to anyone who is prejudice about the LGBTQ+ because who you love, what you wear, what you identify as, is no one else's business but yours and who you trust to know that information. It is not up to them what you should or shouldn't be doing, believing or how you act in YOUR life. Everyone is beautiful, be yourself because there is no one else who you should be.

  • @maeratcliffe
    @maeratcliffe 3 года назад +2

    Just wanna say that to whoever out there is struggling to come out and be yourselves, one day everything will be in your favor just keep fighting 💖

  • @b.b.4010
    @b.b.4010 3 года назад +4

    My straight friend that I’ve been hanging out with a lot recently asked me “do you have a sister” and I said yes, he then asked “is she as beautiful as you?” And since then I’ve been feeling pretty emotional when I think about him, like he is so beautiful and I wanted to say that to him in that moment, but I’m scared that me flirting with him would scare him away, because I still want to remain friends with him. Please help What should I do?? 😫

  • @madvexed5644
    @madvexed5644 3 года назад +4

    If given the choice to change my sexuality, I would choose to be bi since I can still like guys, but now ALSO like girls, a win-win for me lol.