Weird how all you have to do to get likes is state a quote and mark the writer along with the year to get likes. But I see other people make up the most original and well thought jokes and they aren’t noticed for it. Sooner or later their joke is ultimately stolen and they’re persecuted to being a joke stealer as well. Disagree or agree with me, just acknowledge what I’m saying.
The biggest red flag to me is," we have a policy against discussing wages " Somebody is getting underpaid, and that somebody could be you at any point.
I don't know where you live but in north carolina it's illegal for a company to set rules and regulations against speaking about pay even though many try to do just that.
yup...but it also leads to salty bs...where someone who's been with the company for xx amount of years has started slacking, new heads have picked up the slack...and despite all that still getting paid less, so eventually the new hires overtake the old timer, and the salty sabotage bs begins
@OnionBro it is 100% illegal to stop or attempt to stop people from discussing wages under federal law. If you get fired for it you will win in court by default if you have a single shred of evidence to prove it. If you see a sign or a manager saying not to discuss wages; do it anyway, get fired, get in writing why you got fired, and make bank from it.
I was offered another position at the place i worked for a few months now. Its a better position and i was training to get to that position in a few years, but they offerd it to me this year. Two othe people on the same level as my new postion offered to show me their salary when they started the positions so i can compare the salary to theirs. Which was really nice and is another reason fpr me to work there.
"Family" is how employers say that they're chronically short staffed. It's an immediate warning that theyll be expecting you to work whenever/doing whatever they ask well outside of your job responsibilities for as little pay as possible. Probably the biggest red flag ever! You're so right!
What I don't understand is why these companies don't try restructuring it to sound a bit more modern. I wouldn't say I hate my family, but I definitely don't want to be around them every single day. If a company told me "we treat everyone as a friend here" that'd be a very different story, and I'd probably take that bait.
Yep! My husband worked at his sister's company so literally a family member and she definitely put so much extra responsibility on him that were not his. He was overworked. After 7 or 8 years it broke him physically and mentally. It's been 7 years and he still isn't in contact with his sister.
Not really, my manager said that to new people because we really go out on vacations, gym after work and other activities....not all companies are the same
@DoomSlayerFanboy88 it was really sad. He physically got sick from being overworked, loads of trouble from his back. He was going to the company doctor making a reintegration plan and she just ignored it and forced him in to full time. We live in Europe were employees have protections and she did alot of illegal stuff trying to get him to leave on his own. She didn't want to fire him and pay the unemployment fees. It all ended via lawyers and an agreement to end employment.
My First Job was Like seting with the Devil him Self. My Second Job Was Like I got into a big trap hole from Yu Gi Oh Show. and if it wasn't for some Luck I would have been excuted Financially.
“We’re like a family here.” Yes, and like a family, this business will have no problem pushing things onto you outside of your contract because you would/should be willing to go above and beyond for “family.”
Just play it cool, ask for bonuses and more money all the time because "family should have your back". Also constantly fuck up, be late, skip a few days, but always tell them that "family forgives" and just carry on :)
Yep, can confirm that. The favorites are the lazy ones who often are old enough to be your mama, grandmama, or your extra scummy cousin. Run away run away!
You do realize that is a group of people that you have no choice but to interact with a regular basis and you have to get along with right ? So just thinking of them as a family is just an easier way to make the whole work experience easier
@Joel You do realize that is a group of people that you have no choice but to interact with a regular basis and you have to get along with right ? So just thinking of them as a family is just an easier way to make the whole work experience easier
@@Kanetsugi You do realize that is a group of people that you have no choice but to interact with a regular basis and you have to get along with right ? So just thinking of them as a family is just an easier way to make the whole work experience easier.
@@GooseBooze Or a job is just what you make of it. Maybe the reason that you're angry inside is because that's the attitude you have towards the job. If you act happier you will be
@@khamissalhi3634he issue is the boss and co-workers. Every job I’ve worked at had issues with the boss being an a-hole and co-workers being bullies. A boss is only as good as who they employ.
"We're like a family here" "Oh, great, I was looking for someone to help me watch my daughter while I'm at work, my other family members are always so busy, you mind stopping by? I can't afford a babysitter." "OH, well, we're not 'THAT' type of family!" "Haha, oh, what a coincidence, since I'm not 'that' type of employee, either"
As someone quitting a job where that was said. YES GET OUT SAVE YOURSELF. She made me feel bad for not working. Someone who had an allergy attack at work was blamed for having the attack. She made someone cry and took money out of their paycheck. Those places will suck the life out of you. RUN
Family companies get too comfortable with each other. I had employees crying, fighting yelling at each other in the hallways and our boss basically tell them to “have it out”. I also approached that boss who was part owner of the company and told him that I was concerned about the company culture and style of communication. He told me: “we’re like family here and families sometimes fight”. ohhhhhkay! I ran.
Everytime I hear we are like a family it was true. Like every family, there are favorites, scapegoats, different expectations, boundary issues and most of all, EVERYONE plays by a separate set of rules.
I must be healing before death, because that comment just described my life and all of my jobs! I laughed till I cried! I must not be alone, as if I thought I was! Bless you for brightening my spirit. ❤️
My current boss let the 'we're like a family here' line slip out during the interview, and immediately corrected it with 'well, not really a family, more like a team of people who respect and help each other'. Decided to accept the job anyway and I don't regret it. Everyone truly respects and helps each other.
Ive had one job that truly felt like family. Teamwork, support, compassion, they all had your back. It was all there. Im a nurse and Ive been working since 1974. That is a lot of jobs. Retired now, and still friends with everyone from that one job. I love them. We've been through everything together.
lol and that just means there good at hiding the truth and lying, I bet you if there hidden video you'd be beyond shocked, that's the keep your friends close and enemies closer my mother was good ass hell at that, and I had a ex he was evil as hell and hated beyond hated people we worked together and I past by him talking to a person he would've taken out if he could and you'd think he was bestfriends !
@@dd-em7hh maybe. Or maybe this person really was just that lucky. They seem happy about the friends they have, they could genuinely be good. No need to jump to conclusions
I was looking for a comment like this one! Yes, itcis rare to find a job filled with good and genuine people, but they exist. Honestly, there's too much black and white cynicism out there.
@@dd-em7hh yes, because clearly your limited work experiences are the only real possibilities all 7-8 billion people on this earth could ever hope to see.
I always interviewed and said “we’re a dysfunctional family, so it may feel odd at first but it will be home for a bit until you bail” it was a blast and I kept the same employees for years :) I moved on to other things after several years. Good times
A perfect example of "Honesty is the best policy". People who can be honest about the chaos, and handle things with an appropriate sense of humor, are the best kind.
@@Panda72021 Oh yes! 100% agree. It was for a restaurant at a country club. I always asked what are their financial expectations are. If they were awesome and we couldn't meet their financial needs by discussing this through the interview. I would thank them for their time and offer myself as a referral and some direction to other restaurants that can better meet their needs. No need to have a potential awesome employees' hopes go to into chaos. Its never good for the company or moral of the current staff.
I had 2 jobs that were very much like family. My manager when I was away at college was like a surrogate mom. She invited me for Thanksgiving, always checked to see how I was doing. My last job was a small company and we were always doing after work events. It was great. But neither one actually sold themselves as being like a family. That's the kind of thing you have to let people discover/decide for themselves.
As a store manager, I do everything within my powers to make our staff as happy as possible. I keep snacks and drinks and whenever there’s a holiday we always do little parties. We might be a corporate store, but that doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy each others company while we have to spend so much time together.
Each video feels like a stoner big brother randomly coming into my room to say hey and to drop a few nuggets of wisdom. Makes me wish i would've had a brother growing up
@@ArukiTsukaru man don’t take this bad but I feel bad for people who don’t have siblings. It’s honestly the best cuz ur so close you don’t have to put on a mask around them you can truly be urself, and you understand each other so well and stuff it’s great
I agree! When I was in my interview to work at Walgreens the manager told me that. I was fooled thinking that meant everyone worked in cooperation together... I was left to do everything by myself while the assistant sat on the back talking to a friend while I juggled picking up the phone, cashiering, taking photos, answering questions, cleaning... just everything!! Yet I ended up being yelled at and treated like trash. That was one of the worst jobs I had.
I was a nurse and was interviewing for a part time job at a doctor's office with the doctor. The hours I was applying for was 5pm - 10pm for 3 nights a week. And, the doctor's main concern was not my qualifications, he was worried about who was going to cook dinner for my husband. I was wearing my wedding rings, I always do. I was floored the second time he said it and just said, "Thank you for your time, but I'm finished with the interview" and I stood up to leave. He looked at me confused and asked me what? Why?. I said "you've just spent 20 minutes worried about who's going to cook dinner for my husband, you asked nothing about my qualifications, so I consider this interview over, oh, and please discard my resume" and I left!! I couldn't believe his nerve. I never answered him because its none of his business, but my husband worked nights!! His loss and I'm sure I saved myself a lot of aggravation!!
When I interviewed with a research doctor, he asked if I was planning to have kids. I wasn't, but after I started working for him, I told him to NEVER ask that again unless he wanted to get sued. 😂
Yesss so glad you decided to stand up for yourself, god only knows what other weird shit he would pull in the future. Honestly this is super insporational ☺️
@@doggytheanarchist7876 Bruh I’m not even 30 and I’ve been asked by every employer what my plans are regarding work for when I have kids as like, one of the first things. It’s wild. Their questioning really is generally sexist with women.
Agreed. My boss litterly say put your family first before the job. You're family is not gonna remember you working OT but they will remember you being there for them when they need you. So 16 years later and he's never let me down when I need to be there for my family.
Had a coworker call me once asking if i can cover his shift, he allways did that, then asked if i could "spot him" on money, last time he was following me around complaining how hes soooo broke and didnt have a lunch, i handed him one french fry and in a happy voice said "suffer"
When they ask you if you have any questions, ask "The person I'm replacing, why did they leave?" Like try to find out if they get a better paid job elsewhere, was it too stressful, did they not get enough training or something.
I feel the idea of "companies are a family" once meant something. My dad ran his business and always made sure to buy his workers lunch and their kids too if they came to play with me. If the person's family needed financial help, he gave the help. If they had events for families or vacation, he respected it and even gave support. If the employee had a family member that needed work, he just gave them a job, no interview required. If their car broke down, he lent them a car and when one of them was homeless, he let them crash with us.... THAT was what I thought being a "family" meant...... Learn that's not how other businesses are.... And many older people I knew that worked for smaller businesses commented how the people of the company actually looked out for each other and the boss actually cared. Hell, even the original McDonalds used to be like that. Many companies want that loyalty but don't want to give that kind of care and effort...
Left my toxic AF corporate job that claimed were "family". This job made me gain weight, break out, give me mental health problems and I had to see a therapist oh, and I had to take time off of work many times and I used my PTO just to do that because I wanted to sleep in because of all that toxicity. So happy I did now I'm a nanny to an adorable baby girl I get paid BANK and I have great health care through the family and I'm happier than ever. It was scary at 1st but I promise you it is so worth it this is your sign to leave that toxic shit hole.
Everytime I took a job that made a statement of being like a family it turned into a horrible toxic work environment where I ended up a scapegoat & only a select few got the promotions & praise. Never again.
This is truth. I fell into that lie working at a daycare. The manager turned a blind eye to a teacher who was known for hitting kids. I was the only one who called CPS. My boss confronted me in a classroom of 4 year olds, who heard everything. I put in my two weeks notice and two of the long term teachers walked out the door with me. Be a good worker, but don't fool yourself for a second into thinking you are family.
"most of our employees don't feel the need to use up all their vacation time" was a real thing a recruiter said to me, in a country where not using up all the vacation is literally illegal
A common trend that all my best bosses had was that they never said "we're a family." They showed that they cared through their actions, not their words.
they are partially telling the truth. in most family owned businesses, they are saying we the family run the show. or in a large company its the tagline that the upper management run the show.
@@jankoleon3785 Have you ever seen the show undercover boss? People who make millions of dollars to sit on their ass and steal from working class people will regularly say they can’t do the job their employees do, they’re comically shit at the skills of the labourers who make them all their money
Yeah, when i hear that, it's often reflected that the workplace gets overworked, people are quitting more, payment gets messed up, and a lack of countable, etc.
When they want to put you on the schedule in the next 24 hours. Be warned, they just need bodies to throw at a problem, it has nothing to do with your qualifications.
My first job hired me on the spot starting the next day. They said we were like a family here. All the flags. I stayed 13 years and got my best friends and sisters hired because it was truely the best environment I have ever worked in. And it was so so hard to leave when I had to find a higher paying job because I truely loved it.
lol the company that acquired the company I worked at uses the term “family.” This was after they laid off 80% of our company but before they laid off the rest of us and started shutting down everything we built RIGHT BEFORE THE HOLIDAYS. The only time I want to call my coworkers “family” is if we somehow do a workplace retreat at the Carnival of Souls.
Some bosses have an inner circle they consider family but you have to be there for a decade to get that kind of special treatment and by that time they will be really nosy with you and looking for ways to lay you off if they don't feel like you fit in. In order to avoid this its always good to have a back up plan for your next job and after the 2-3 year mark slowly look for a replacement and wait till they feel like there getting the last laugh and then bail a week or two before they try to get you fired. This works really well for introverts because even though there very hard workers when it comes to projects they really don't like to keep them around because you can't really get close to them and it makes it harder to read them. Also if your in a relationship or if your married or have kids never tell them who your with because they will play on that too. Always have a sitter and make sure your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend isn't the type to check on you every couple hours
Well you know that they do it before holidays not because it is some evil plan but because holiudays are literally at the end of the month of the last month of the year right? So they must close shop before new year and start of new fiscal year for majority of companies.
As a man who lost his home suffered depression and openly shed tears at work i can confirm that the work enviorment will openly laugh at you and leave you for dead.
"After this interview, I was going to get more familiar with that new program we're using. If you're fine with working for us, you can start right now and join me." I'm not even making this up. This literally happened to me.
@@Di_yay I don't know. It was the first contact I ever had with them. Maybe I have a different mentality but if a company expect me to make a decision about the future of my career within a few minutes, then it feels extremely sketchy. And even if not, I'm not sure I really want to work for such a company.
As a manager I made sure to never say those words 😂 I said “we try to maintain good vibes here, and we all share some kind of hobby or interest” and THATS IT
The only time I heard something like “we’re like a family” was said in passing by my manager *after* I got hired and worked there for a bit. And he was right. The environment is really nice and supportive, everyone there including the manager is super chill.. I love working there and I’ll hate it when I’ll eventually have to leave.
That reminds me of when I quit one of my jobs, at my exit interview they asked, "would you ever come back and work for us again?" and my answer was literally, "if I have to"...I'm working there again 🙃
@@bafoonerysamurai6911 if you're respectful enough to give a two weeks notice and not just walk out, yeah. They just ask questions about why you're leaving and stuff
"we're like a family here"... Unless I don't need you anymore, then it's business and you're fired! Know it, happened to me. Gladly I never took that BS seriously.
We are like family, is what my boss told me at my interview. Now im working in the same company for years, this is the best job and people to work with i could ask for. You Americans are just a different kind of species 😂🤦
I used to work for K*C and because of those very same words I had a miscarriage of my four babies, a mental break down after working a morning shift and right after the night shift by myself with a supervisor while training because I felt accountable for those very words spoken to me thank you for telling the world how toxic positive words can be❤❤❤❤❤
It's not even a lie. They only forget to mention that it's more like a family where the parents are abusive alcoholics and the children are always malnourished and cowered in bruises.
Absolutely! The place I was yelled at most, made to lie to customers and tried to make me stay when I was so ill that I was shivering and crying my eyes out in a heated office, was a "family"
I hear this all the time in the military and I am physically imcapable of stopping myself from scoffing and rolling my eyes every time. Inevitably the SAME person saying that will two weeks later be throwing someone out of the Army because they had the audacity to ask for help with a substance abuse issue, then they will ask their formation "why don't you guys ever speak up when you need help?" When I was going through my divorce, did my chain of command offer me condolences and support? No, they threatened my career and threatened to kick me out of the army because my spouse was "being difficult and causing problems". This is hands-down the most common lie across any type of work.
Working at Target killed off a part of my soul, but working at a family owned business is the best decision I've ever made. Everyone knows what everyone else's strengths and weaknesses are, so we know who to put on what tasks. I struggle with ADHD and agoraphobia, so my boss makes sure to use colors when describing things so I'll remember them, and my coworkers step in when customers chase me down.
@@jankoleon3785 I was going to make a joke about working retail, but realized it's pointless when I saw you're just leaving pessimistic comments like this one everywhere.
Yes this is so true. The best advice and manager ever gave me as a leader was to keep your employees at an arm's length. Not too far and not too close. You can't help anyone when they're too far and you can't help anyone when they're too close... I think that's the most healthy relationship to have between managers and their employees and it leads to the best work life balance for everybody in the workplace.
Like a family. If it's anything like my family, I will pass. I don't need the drama, trauma, lies and having them look over my shoulder on every task I do, telling me I am doing it wrong.. If I am doing it wrong, do it yourself, because I quit!
True story. I’ve worked at my retail job for seven years. I’ve seen a lot of store managers come and go, but I finally fell in line with a great one and we survived the holidays despite being severely short staff because he cared. It was mostly just three of us running that whole store. Well, he got tired of corporate’s crap and the abuse so of course he got a new job and we encouraged him, but the new lady that never seemed to leave her high school mind set behind, she told us all that we were like family to her. Suffice to say, she’s a two facing witch and 99% of the original workers that were still there after the holidays left not even after two weeks had passed. We explained how much we respected our former boss and how he really was like a family to us. Her exact words were “I view you guys like family too! I appreciate you so much! Thanks for being so welcoming!”
TRUE!! That word is a black flag for me. The last job I had that tried putting the family vibe had a meeting because a lot of people weren't happy.. only to threaten us saying "there's the door" if we didn't walk around being happier. Not looking happier or forcing smiles. We were just expected to be happier. It was insane.
Me too. I worked at a fast food establishment and some poor girl had to bring in her kid, her actual family, during a short notice (a week tops) meeting at the store that could have just been like a group call on Whatsapp or Zoom.
My red flag is when they hire you on the spot when you walk in for an application 😂 Bottom line, they are desperate for a reason and/or management wants to sleep with you.
I was a trainer, I trained new hirers. I was told whatever you show someone always point out something they did wrong, even if what they did was 100% correct. Because it will have people work harder in the future.
Paid interviews ARE a thing, actually. If they want you badly enough, they'll pay travel expenses, moving expenses, and yes, your time. My ex got a job this way. It doesn't happen in entry level jobs though when they can pull any random off the street to do the job.
No truer words have been said. I worked at two businesses that said we were all family. No matter how good you worked, there was always some degree of never being good enough. F that.
If they specifically say "the expectation is that you _____" every time I've heard that phrase it was followed by a statement that involved me ignoring my worker rights
The biggest red flag in a job is when at least all the employees warn you about either the boss, manger, CEO, or another employee and that same one person who is bad is trying become apart of your life. It’s safe to say ✨RUN!✨
My favorite place to work was at a grocery chain called Shop N' Save and we were like a good family. We all got along, we helped each other, we fucked with and pranked each other. When someone lost someone we all got together to pay our respects, we got a co-worker a card with money and food just so they didn't have to worry about anything for a while they could just grieve. That chain of stores went under after a few decades and was bought by Schnucks.
Where I work is genuinely like a family. My parents run a camp for the mentally and physically disabled. We hang out we chill together at the end of the days with campers.
The job I currently work at makes everyone sign a form saying you won't create a union. You can't even say the word "union" without potentially having a talk with a manager. As if that wasn't the biggest red flag of all time 😭
That's such bullshit. I'd be an asshole and take every opportunity to talk about the US Civil War, Union vs. Confederate battles, and which side won what battles. But always word it as "the Union won" or "the Union lost." I hope you find a better job.
Jesus christ this was so spot on. Every. Single. Job. I've had that says that, they are the most dysfunctional, unorganized, and mostly uncaring companies to work for
Also don't take a job when after the interview you get a call before you even get to your car that you got the job. Happened to me twice and the place always turned out to be a very special slice of hell.
Low paying jobs, high turn over or no real skill requirements are usually like that. But not always. Depends on the job. Could be busy season or something to. You could of just had a great interview and background. If you that suspicious I do not even know why you applied. There is so many online stuff today to look up a company.
When I got hired for my current job they said, "Yeah bro, and we're like a family here." They really did mean that. I remember I was having issues with my car, panicking about how I was gonna get to work, and my boss said, "Hey don't worry about it. Take the day, fix your car. I'll give you half of your shifts hours." I have two coworkers that are mechanics, and they helped me out a lot. And I help them out when they need it. Easily the best company I've worked for so far. So it's not always a red flag. Edit: Well this aged like milk. Fuck my old boss. I truly hope he gets fired, and then goes off and gets into legal trouble with all the cocaine he's been doing.
Awe that's nice of them. At my current job, I was having chest pains and went to the hospital. They were very considerate of that and gave me the day off (as intruded my the doctor). I mostly have multiple managers, so some were better than others at giving breaks when needed, especially when the store is busy, but it does feel like family because we do help each other, laugh together, and its basically a good time honestly.
I worked for local businesses and they treated me like shit. Im now working for a much larger company that everyone knows and shit talks and they treat me much better and I get better pay. Local businesses will always under pay because "they're too poor to pay their employees well"
@@untoppled974 sounds like an issue with that specific business. I’m part time here till I finish my real estate pre licensing course but they’ve paid me well and the guys that are here full time get well over 22 an hour. Same way with big companies, some are great, but you run the risk of having a GameStop or an Amazon type where you are just getting dog walked.
WHY THE PK would you hang out ol after work. HUH!!!!! now they have so much ammo to get your ass fired and I will tell you RIGHT now. There friends are the first to get snitched on
💯💯💯 they asked my religion, my ethnicity, and said that family quote. I left on the first DAY. Never came back. I love flowers + little Tokyo, but that ain’t it “fam.”
If they put you on the schedule BEFORE you even talked to a single SOUL in the company, do NOT even show up. Amazon and companies like it can and WILL do this. Biggest bullet I ever dodged.
Amazon works u like a dog, but pay decent enough. I worked for Amazon. I prefer part time with them. No 10 to 12 hour shifts for me. That's full time. Part time is 3 to five hours
Maybe it’s different in the UK but my company literally functions as a big family. Had some time off because my mum had a heart attack and the literal director called me (never mentioned it to him) and said that if I didn’t accept their support, he’d come to my house to see if I was doing okay. HR sent me a letter saying that if my mother was ever ill again, they’d enforce paid leave and wouldn’t allow me to come back until I was 100%. Different worlds in some places I can assure you of that.
Yeah definitely different in the UK. When a job says "We are like a family." In the US, get ready to have your pay be sh*t, over worked, employees that are lazy as f*ck, a sh*tty boss, little chance of a raise, favoritism, not appreciated for your hard work... I can go on with this list but I don't have all day haha.
I’m in the US & my company is like that as well. I was in a training at work when I received the call that someone very close to me passed away. I grabbed my stuff & was out the door without a word. My bosses followed me asking what was wrong, I could barely explain and they said go. No questions asked, just a text later that day to see if I needed anything & take as long as I needed. When I finally went back to work, they told me I would be receiving bereavement pay - per company policy, I was not eligible for it, but received it anyway. The love & support while I was out was amazing, and my co-workers pitched in and figured out how to do my job and kept up with my workload for me. That’s just what we do. It doesn’t matter what the situation is they’re always understanding, even if a pet passes away.
Nah not different in the UK. Did that job tell you at hiring "we're like a family here"? There are plenty of workplaces in the US that behave like families, but they never tell you that.
@@kaldo_kaldo oddly, they did say that in the interview stage. It gave me quite the eye roll at the time but when I started and saw how the teams functioned, I had to believe it 🤷🏻♂️ I’m not saying there aren’t issues at my company but at least we know the directors are trying to sort the problems. Plus the pay is extremely competitive so that doesn’t hurt 😂
Dude u aren’t lying! This is true, when they say stuff like that it usually means they are going to work u to death and expect you to go far above and beyond what your duties are. Why? Because “we’re like a family here!” Never again!
Omfggg exactly!!!! Most fking ungrateful mtherfker of a boss I have!!! Absolutely despicable!!!! He is NEVR fking grateful and I'm working my ass off!!!!
“The only family thing about any job is the dysfunction, the judgement, and the lack of accountability” -Jordan 2023
Beautifully said
Weird how all you have to do to get likes is state a quote and mark the writer along with the year to get likes. But I see other people make up the most original and well thought jokes and they aren’t noticed for it. Sooner or later their joke is ultimately stolen and they’re persecuted to being a joke stealer as well. Disagree or agree with me, just acknowledge what I’m saying.
That went right over your head.
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@@somethingwithnoname9127 true tho that is correct.
The biggest red flag to me is," we have a policy against discussing wages " Somebody is getting underpaid, and that somebody could be you at any point.
I don't know where you live but in north carolina it's illegal for a company to set rules and regulations against speaking about pay even though many try to do just that.
yup...but it also leads to salty bs...where someone who's been with the company for xx amount of years has started slacking, new heads have picked up the slack...and despite all that still getting paid less, so eventually the new hires overtake the old timer, and the salty sabotage bs begins
@OnionBro it is 100% illegal to stop or attempt to stop people from discussing wages under federal law. If you get fired for it you will win in court by default if you have a single shred of evidence to prove it. If you see a sign or a manager saying not to discuss wages; do it anyway, get fired, get in writing why you got fired, and make bank from it.
I was offered another position at the place i worked for a few months now. Its a better position and i was training to get to that position in a few years, but they offerd it to me this year. Two othe people on the same level as my new postion offered to show me their salary when they started the positions so i can compare the salary to theirs. Which was really nice and is another reason fpr me to work there.
Where I live, you can get fired for talking about your pay 💀
"We're like a family here!"
"Oh, my mistake, I thought I was interviewing for a JOB. I already have a family."
😂😂😂
😂😂😂😂
"Nah i got enough family time im done with that"
Hahaha
"Family" is how employers say that they're chronically short staffed. It's an immediate warning that theyll be expecting you to work whenever/doing whatever they ask well outside of your job responsibilities for as little pay as possible. Probably the biggest red flag ever! You're so right!
Beauty of that is you don't have to agree to it.
What I don't understand is why these companies don't try restructuring it to sound a bit more modern. I wouldn't say I hate my family, but I definitely don't want to be around them every single day.
If a company told me "we treat everyone as a friend here" that'd be a very different story, and I'd probably take that bait.
Literally everyone hiring is running short staff because they expect more for your tiny ass salary
@@MonkeyWrench1 then they just fire you. There's a reason why they are short staffed in the first place.
Completely agree. "We're a family" means "we want you to feel responsible for things you're not when management is bad/inexistent"
Yep! My husband worked at his sister's company so literally a family member and she definitely put so much extra responsibility on him that were not his. He was overworked. After 7 or 8 years it broke him physically and mentally. It's been 7 years and he still isn't in contact with his sister.
Not really, my manager said that to new people because we really go out on vacations, gym after work and other activities....not all companies are the same
For me it meant, we want you to COVER everyone's position and voice mails when we taking ungodly amounts of vacation because you have ZERO.
Ouch. Too accurate and close to home 😂
@DoomSlayerFanboy88 it was really sad. He physically got sick from being overworked, loads of trouble from his back. He was going to the company doctor making a reintegration plan and she just ignored it and forced him in to full time. We live in Europe were employees have protections and she did alot of illegal stuff trying to get him to leave on his own. She didn't want to fire him and pay the unemployment fees. It all ended via lawyers and an agreement to end employment.
when they hire you immediately and say "welcome to the family" you know you're about to experience multiple human rights violations 💀
Wish i knew this before i accepted my last job
My First Job was Like seting with the Devil him Self.
My Second Job Was Like I got into a big trap hole from Yu Gi Oh Show.
and if it wasn't for some Luck I would have been excuted Financially.
Well in their defense… that does sound a lot like my family😭😭
Or maybe it's actually Mafia lol
@@ainsleerayne are you alright?
“We’re like a family here.” Yes, and like a family, this business will have no problem pushing things onto you outside of your contract because you would/should be willing to go above and beyond for “family.”
Literally
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Im avoiding family. So bloody why in wh@re house am i stepping into another crazy relationship
If going above and beyond is giving your brother a black eye
Just play it cool, ask for bonuses and more money all the time because "family should have your back".
Also constantly fuck up, be late, skip a few days, but always tell them that "family forgives" and just carry on :)
100% + no boundaries and hypocrisy 24/7. Professional distance is how you keep a workplace sane.
When they say “we’re like a family,” it means you’re gonna be the oldest child, doing the most amount of work, for no gratitude and little pay.
That hurt a lot.. (an oldest child)
@@bluegalaxy181 I’m one too, you have my sympathy.
Yep, can confirm that. The favorites are the lazy ones who often are old enough to be your mama, grandmama, or your extra scummy cousin. Run away run away!
@@lovelystarrynight Yep, because seniority is more important than competence.
@gps6422 which is sad, because they stink horribly at their job & only get a slap on the wrist
Biggest red flag, is that the employees at the workplace look miserable. Don't do it.
Don't get a job. Got it.
I get you’re point but there’s always someone who hates they’re job and any work place regardless of if it’s terrible or not.
I mean i like my job but i never look happy cause i aint a morning person and often get a lack of sleep lol
@@Frusie a lot of us don't hate the work we're doing, we just don't like how incompetent most managers, directors, CEOs and owners usually are.
@@_--____--______--___ that too.
When an employer says " we treat you like family", i always counter " and nobody screws you over like family"😊
😂😂😂
im gonna use this from now on lol
Lol you wish you had the balls to say that
FAX No PrInTEr
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This is so incredibly true. They want you to sacrifice like you would for your family, but the moment it helps them, you are out without any support.
“I’m sorry, I’m not looking for another family I already have one and they don’t pay me.”
😭😭😂😂😂😂
You do realize that is a group of people that you have no choice but to interact with a regular basis and you have to get along with right ? So just thinking of them as a family is just an easier way to make the whole work experience easier
@Joel You do realize that is a group of people that you have no choice but to interact with a regular basis and you have to get along with right ? So just thinking of them as a family is just an easier way to make the whole work experience easier
@@Kanetsugi You do realize that is a group of people that you have no choice but to interact with a regular basis and you have to get along with right ? So just thinking of them as a family is just an easier way to make the whole work experience easier.
@@GooseBooze Or a job is just what you make of it. Maybe the reason that you're angry inside is because that's the attitude you have towards the job. If you act happier you will be
We’re a family means no boundaries and manipulation. Boss can do something illegal, the employee complains, the boss responds but we’re family.
the Issue is the BOSS not the Family.
most Bosses are total Bullies.
@ Jon Williams . I e literally NEVER heard a boss say "But we're family"😂
@@R-BURQUENO then you've never worked with/for Vin diesel
So abusive parents lol
@@khamissalhi3634he issue is the boss and co-workers. Every job I’ve worked at had issues with the boss being an a-hole and co-workers being bullies. A boss is only as good as who they employ.
"We're like a family here"
"Oh, great, I was looking for someone to help me watch my daughter while I'm at work, my other family members are always so busy, you mind stopping by? I can't afford a babysitter."
"OH, well, we're not 'THAT' type of family!"
"Haha, oh, what a coincidence, since I'm not 'that' type of employee, either"
Bruh🤣
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As someone quitting a job where that was said. YES GET OUT SAVE YOURSELF.
She made me feel bad for not working.
Someone who had an allergy attack at work was blamed for having the attack.
She made someone cry and took money out of their paycheck.
Those places will suck the life out of you. RUN
It may be true that the work place is “like a family” but they always seem to leave out “abusive” from it when they tell you
Not to mention that they’ll TELL you “family comes first” but they’re not talking about YOUR family when they say it.
family comes first, just that it only does so whenever it is convenient for them
Why is this not the number one comment?
that's my excuse for taking leave everytime. use their words against them. and by family i mean MY family 😁
@@bjmccann1 aww… thanks! 🙂
Yep. We all know they only mean their family.
I got told the "we are a family" thing at my job and was like hmm
Then I remembered that I was applying for an actual family owned business tho hahaha
I worked at a family owned company and they played favorites 😑😑
@jessicasimmons3957 eh been dating the boss's daughter for like 4 years and get along with him so if anything I get favorite treatment lmao
@@TheMathmath123smart
@@jessicasimmons3957 So... just like real families
Family companies get too comfortable with each other. I had employees crying, fighting yelling at each other in the hallways and our boss basically tell them to “have it out”.
I also approached that boss who was part owner of the company and told him that I was concerned about the company culture and style of communication. He told me: “we’re like family here and families sometimes fight”. ohhhhhkay! I ran.
This man has done every job possible 😂
At 24😂
Lol yeah he be joking 😂
The type of guy with 20 years of experience
Everytime I hear we are like a family it was true. Like every family, there are favorites, scapegoats, different expectations, boundary issues and most of all, EVERYONE plays by a separate set of rules.
Read your bible! (KJV, preferably) ❤️❤🎉
@@abel6298no
totally true at CFA..
@@abel6298Hail Satan 👹
And it's perfect if you like incest
"We're like a family - we'll ignore any reasonable boundaries and expect you to be totally devoted to us even though we suck"
I must be healing before death, because that comment just described my life and all of my jobs! I laughed till I cried! I must not be alone, as if I thought I was! Bless you for brightening my spirit. ❤️
Are we related?
My current boss let the 'we're like a family here' line slip out during the interview, and immediately corrected it with 'well, not really a family, more like a team of people who respect and help each other'. Decided to accept the job anyway and I don't regret it. Everyone truly respects and helps each other.
So far. As long as you don't step out of line or have a bad day. 🤣
@theroaminggnomad7929 😂 I had a handful of bad days so far, got through them with support from the team 😁
@@knockturnall yeah just wait jr! 🤣🤣
@@theroaminggnomad And why do you presume that your gloomy pessimism has more predictive power than @knockturnall's lived experience?
Agreed. The we are like a family is a HUGE RED flag. My experience was terrible with the 'we are like a family'. It was horrible.
“We’re like a family” Is means of guilting you, using you, and is overall a waste of energy and time.
Ive had one job that truly felt like family. Teamwork, support, compassion, they all had your back. It was all there. Im a nurse and Ive been working since 1974. That is a lot of jobs. Retired now, and still friends with everyone from that one job. I love them. We've been through everything together.
lol and that just means there good at hiding the truth and lying, I bet you if there hidden video you'd be beyond shocked, that's the keep your friends close and enemies closer my mother was good ass hell at that, and I had a ex he was evil as hell and hated beyond hated people we worked together and I past by him talking to a person he would've taken out if he could and you'd think he was bestfriends !
I nursed for 20 yrs for the state of Illinois as a Dhors home health/ hospice. It broke me. Now i build she sheds and i build with my bestfriend. 😊
@@dd-em7hh maybe. Or maybe this person really was just that lucky. They seem happy about the friends they have, they could genuinely be good. No need to jump to conclusions
I was looking for a comment like this one! Yes, itcis rare to find a job filled with good and genuine people, but they exist. Honestly, there's too much black and white cynicism out there.
@@dd-em7hh yes, because clearly your limited work experiences are the only real possibilities all 7-8 billion people on this earth could ever hope to see.
I always interviewed and said “we’re a dysfunctional family, so it may feel odd at first but it will be home for a bit until you bail” it was a blast and I kept the same employees for years :) I moved on to other things after several years. Good times
If a potential employer was interviewing me and said those things, I’d probably become a lifer for that company. 😂
A perfect example of "Honesty is the best policy".
People who can be honest about the chaos, and handle things with an appropriate sense of humor, are the best kind.
@@Panda72021 Oh yes! 100% agree. It was for a restaurant at a country club. I always asked what are their financial expectations are. If they were awesome and we couldn't meet their financial needs by discussing this through the interview. I would thank them for their time and offer myself as a referral and some direction to other restaurants that can better meet their needs. No need to have a potential awesome employees' hopes go to into chaos. Its never good for the company or moral of the current staff.
100% agree. When a company says that, they're also probably desperate.
I had 2 jobs that were very much like family. My manager when I was away at college was like a surrogate mom. She invited me for Thanksgiving, always checked to see how I was doing. My last job was a small company and we were always doing after work events. It was great.
But neither one actually sold themselves as being like a family. That's the kind of thing you have to let people discover/decide for themselves.
Thats so kind to hear!
That’s so sweet… I also have a job where my coworkers feel like my family. I couldn’t be more grateful
As a store manager, I do everything within my powers to make our staff as happy as possible. I keep snacks and drinks and whenever there’s a holiday we always do little parties. We might be a corporate store, but that doesn’t mean we can’t enjoy each others company while we have to spend so much time together.
@@Kristenrb1 That’s the kind of thing my manager does too, and let me tell you, it makes a difference and means a lot to the employees who care!
Heavily depends on the field
Each video feels like a stoner big brother randomly coming into my room to say hey and to drop a few nuggets of wisdom. Makes me wish i would've had a brother growing up
Damn I feel the same! Wish I had siblings 😭
@@ArukiTsukaru man don’t take this bad but I feel bad for people who don’t have siblings. It’s honestly the best cuz ur so close you don’t have to put on a mask around them you can truly be urself, and you understand each other so well and stuff it’s great
"We're like a family "
"OH, so I'm not gonna like you either"
Right i agree 😂😂
I HAVE NEVER RELATED TO A COMMENT SO HARDDD 😩
I can’t even explain the amount of laughter that involuntarily exploded from my body. 🤣
my in laws pretty much
Pretty much! 😂😂
I agree! When I was in my interview to work at Walgreens the manager told me that. I was fooled thinking that meant everyone worked in cooperation together... I was left to do everything by myself while the assistant sat on the back talking to a friend while I juggled picking up the phone, cashiering, taking photos, answering questions, cleaning... just everything!! Yet I ended up being yelled at and treated like trash. That was one of the worst jobs I had.
"We're like a family" is code for we petty af and won't hesitate to make your life a living hell once you're here.
So like family
I was a nurse and was interviewing for a part time job at a doctor's office with the doctor. The hours I was applying for was 5pm - 10pm for 3 nights a week. And, the doctor's main concern was not my qualifications, he was worried about who was going to cook dinner for my husband. I was wearing my wedding rings, I always do. I was floored the second time he said it and just said, "Thank you for your time, but I'm finished with the interview" and I stood up to leave. He looked at me confused and asked me what? Why?. I said "you've just spent 20 minutes worried about who's going to cook dinner for my husband, you asked nothing about my qualifications, so I consider this interview over, oh, and please discard my resume" and I left!!
I couldn't believe his nerve. I never answered him because its none of his business, but my husband worked nights!! His loss and I'm sure I saved myself a lot of aggravation!!
When I interviewed with a research doctor, he asked if I was planning to have kids. I wasn't, but after I started working for him, I told him to NEVER ask that again unless he wanted to get sued. 😂
Yesss so glad you decided to stand up for yourself, god only knows what other weird shit he would pull in the future. Honestly this is super insporational ☺️
Was this in the Mad Men?
What a weird dinosaur question.
@@doggytheanarchist7876 Bruh I’m not even 30 and I’ve been asked by every employer what my plans are regarding work for when I have kids as like, one of the first things. It’s wild. Their questioning really is generally sexist with women.
@@leonagahan9539 strange, I'm a woman too but never been asked such an odd question... Glad you stood up for yourself and enacted on the red flag
Them - “We’re like a family.”
Me- “the only family I talk to (from both sides) is my mom.”
aw :(
Damn, dad left for milk huh?
@@ChudMuffin99 Nah, either way he probably sucks @ss.
@@ChudMuffin99 nope, dad left for step mom🤣🤣🤣
@@poppyfan2842
Uff, that hit home.
Agreed. My boss litterly say put your family first before the job. You're family is not gonna remember you working OT but they will remember you being there for them when they need you. So 16 years later and he's never let me down when I need to be there for my family.
"We're like a family here" is usually code for "We're going to guilt you into letting us take advantage of your workload and paycheck."
Had a coworker call me once asking if i can cover his shift, he allways did that, then asked if i could "spot him" on money, last time he was following me around complaining how hes soooo broke and didnt have a lunch, i handed him one french fry and in a happy voice said "suffer"
The “family” didn’t train me for 6 months and repeatedly yelled at me whenever I did something wrong 😂
Yep, sounds about right! 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Where?
yep, family
I'm a manager at McDonald's and this is too true.
First time I got bitched at I exploded lol. Haven’t been since 🤷♂️. I will be getting backstabbed like crazy but I won’t get bitched at
The biggest red flag is if the place is constantly short staffed
Or they need someone ASAP. Yesterday...
I can confirm. Cheap owners/management is the worst
When they ask you if you have any questions, ask "The person I'm replacing, why did they leave?"
Like try to find out if they get a better paid job elsewhere, was it too stressful, did they not get enough training or something.
Sadly all jobs I ever had. Does fully staffed even exist? 🤔 cuz even when they are up to labour budget, it's not enough ppl for the workload..
The south lost. Get over yourself.
I feel the idea of "companies are a family" once meant something.
My dad ran his business and always made sure to buy his workers lunch and their kids too if they came to play with me.
If the person's family needed financial help, he gave the help.
If they had events for families or vacation, he respected it and even gave support.
If the employee had a family member that needed work, he just gave them a job, no interview required.
If their car broke down, he lent them a car and when one of them was homeless, he let them crash with us....
THAT was what I thought being a "family" meant......
Learn that's not how other businesses are....
And many older people I knew that worked for smaller businesses commented how the people of the company actually looked out for each other and the boss actually cared.
Hell, even the original McDonalds used to be like that.
Many companies want that loyalty but don't want to give that kind of care and effort...
He is talking about your dad too, buying someone lunch every now and then doesn't mean shit
Left my toxic AF corporate job that claimed were "family". This job made me gain weight, break out, give me mental health problems and I had to see a therapist oh, and I had to take time off of work many times and I used my PTO just to do that because I wanted to sleep in because of all that toxicity. So happy I did now I'm a nanny to an adorable baby girl I get paid BANK and I have great health care through the family and I'm happier than ever. It was scary at 1st but I promise you it is so worth it this is your sign to leave that toxic shit hole.
Where?
You're getting healthcare for being a nanny? I'm very curious what said infant's family does for work
@Kaiju42 the mom is a professor and dad is a Psychologist:)
@@zahraaalz9621 makes sense
Everytime I took a job that made a statement of being like a family it turned into a horrible toxic work environment where I ended up a scapegoat & only a select few got the promotions & praise. Never again.
This is truth. I fell into that lie working at a daycare. The manager turned a blind eye to a teacher who was known for hitting kids. I was the only one who called CPS. My boss confronted me in a classroom of 4 year olds, who heard everything. I put in my two weeks notice and two of the long term teachers walked out the door with me. Be a good worker, but don't fool yourself for a second into thinking you are family.
This the kind of shit that infuriates me beyond reason
"most of our employees don't feel the need to use up all their vacation time" was a real thing a recruiter said to me, in a country where not using up all the vacation is literally illegal
A common trend that all my best bosses had was that they never said "we're a family." They showed that they cared through their actions, not their words.
"we're like a family!" _proceeds to pay minimum wage_
Minimum wage for minimum amount of skill.
@@jankoleon3785 just like a real family
they are partially telling the truth. in most family owned businesses, they are saying we the family run the show. or in a large company its the tagline that the upper management run the show.
For family you should be working for free ~That Company probably
@@jankoleon3785 Have you ever seen the show undercover boss? People who make millions of dollars to sit on their ass and steal from working class people will regularly say they can’t do the job their employees do, they’re comically shit at the skills of the labourers who make them all their money
When they say they are looking for "Ambitious" people they meant they are looking for people that work like slaves.
Hey, I like working like a slave.
Yeah, when i hear that, it's often reflected that the workplace gets overworked, people are quitting more, payment gets messed up, and a lack of countable, etc.
When they want to put you on the schedule in the next 24 hours. Be warned, they just need bodies to throw at a problem, it has nothing to do with your qualifications.
Having a job is being a body to throw at a problem.
EXACTLY!!!!
Fr bro I just thrown under the bus like they left me to work by myself hardly any training
My first job hired me on the spot starting the next day. They said we were like a family here. All the flags.
I stayed 13 years and got my best friends and sisters hired because it was truely the best environment I have ever worked in. And it was so so hard to leave when I had to find a higher paying job because I truely loved it.
@@austinhenry1363 true to a certain extent for example theres not too many space engineers
my sociology professor warned us, if they say they're like a family, it's a cult lol
lol the company that acquired the company I worked at uses the term “family.”
This was after they laid off 80% of our company but before they laid off the rest of us and started shutting down everything we built RIGHT BEFORE THE HOLIDAYS.
The only time I want to call my coworkers “family” is if we somehow do a workplace retreat at the Carnival of Souls.
Some bosses have an inner circle they consider family but you have to be there for a decade to get that kind of special treatment and by that time they will be really nosy with you and looking for ways to lay you off if they don't feel like you fit in.
In order to avoid this its always good to have a back up plan for your next job and after the 2-3 year mark slowly look for a replacement and wait till they feel like there getting the last laugh and then bail a week or two before they try to get you fired.
This works really well for introverts because even though there very hard workers when it comes to projects they really don't like to keep them around because you can't really get close to them and it makes it harder to read them.
Also if your in a relationship or if your married or have kids never tell them who your with because they will play on that too.
Always have a sitter and make sure your husband/wife or boyfriend/girlfriend isn't the type to check on you every couple hours
@@saturngirl3748 are you.. are you good?
Well you know that they do it before holidays not because it is some evil plan but because holiudays are literally at the end of the month of the last month of the year right? So they must close shop before new year and start of new fiscal year for majority of companies.
Carnival of Souls?
@@sagivaleon7355
Nah, they speak some truth. Sometimes that's more traumatic than lies.
As a man who lost his home suffered depression and openly shed tears at work i can confirm that the work enviorment will openly laugh at you and leave you for dead.
100% right. What is generally meant there is they’re going to employ lots of emotional blackmail to extort you.
"we're like a family" and "you start tomorrow" are absolutely poisonous work environments
Amen to this
"After this interview, I was going to get more familiar with that new program we're using. If you're fine with working for us, you can start right now and join me."
I'm not even making this up. This literally happened to me.
@@Dragoonking17 shoot I would have done it, especially if I was getting paid.
@@Dragoonking17 this doesn’t sound bad, honestly.
@@Di_yay I don't know. It was the first contact I ever had with them. Maybe I have a different mentality but if a company expect me to make a decision about the future of my career within a few minutes, then it feels extremely sketchy. And even if not, I'm not sure I really want to work for such a company.
As a manager I made sure to never say those words 😂 I said “we try to maintain good vibes here, and we all share some kind of hobby or interest” and THATS IT
No thanks. My hobbies include heavy drinking and getting railed face down. I don't think you want pleasure mixed with business.
@@ZebraLuv SCREAMING
@@ZebraLuv
Don Toretto: Family 😩
@@ZebraLuv IM CRYING
The only time I heard something like “we’re like a family” was said in passing by my manager *after* I got hired and worked there for a bit. And he was right. The environment is really nice and supportive, everyone there including the manager is super chill.. I love working there and I’ll hate it when I’ll eventually have to leave.
my biggest red flag is when the interviewer says "why do you need the job." BITCH I NEED TO PAY MY BILLS.
Every job asks why do you want to work here... And the correct answer is always, I want the money.(or some variation)
That reminds me of when I quit one of my jobs, at my exit interview they asked, "would you ever come back and work for us again?" and my answer was literally, "if I have to"...I'm working there again 🙃
Counter ask…” why is the position open?” “What’s the turnover rate for this position?”
@@risuwolfI’m sorry, there’s an interview for when you quit? 💀😭
@@bafoonerysamurai6911 if you're respectful enough to give a two weeks notice and not just walk out, yeah. They just ask questions about why you're leaving and stuff
I completely agree. I wish I knew this when I had my first job. Now, I'm trying to recover with the emotional exhaustion I got from that job.
"We'RE lIkE a FaMiLy!!"
-How to locate a toxic boss 101
Not always true. For me its literally true. We are actually family lol. My Dad did fire my brother though. So family only gets you so far 🤣
He did deserve it tho. He would leave for the day and let everyone else work
Realized that after I quit my job at UPS
"we're like a family here"... Unless I don't need you anymore, then it's business and you're fired! Know it, happened to me. Gladly I never took that BS seriously.
We are like family, is what my boss told me at my interview. Now im working in the same company for years, this is the best job and people to work with i could ask for. You Americans are just a different kind of species 😂🤦
Another red flag is when they ask you if you can "multi-task". What that really means is they expect you to do the work of two or three people.
My work uses that phrase, too. So them saying holidays are for families, just explains why we're working them.
“Holidays are for ‘working harder.’”
Which allow it's doors to be closed on major ones like Thanksgiving and Christmas.
"We're like a family here" is code for "We pay substantially less than the industry standard".
I used to work for K*C and because of those very same words I had a miscarriage of my four babies, a mental break down after working a morning shift and right after the night shift by myself with a supervisor while training because I felt accountable for those very words spoken to me thank you for telling the world how toxic positive words can be❤❤❤❤❤
They're not actually positive, just deceiving you. Sorry to hear you went through this, but glad you're out of that now
I interviewed for a position where they told me "we will see each other more often than our families" which was a subtle yet meaningful distinction
The manager doing hiring said "we're all a bit crazy here, you'll adapt to it" she was not lying, just dissociating the whole shift 😂
At least she was honest
It's not even a lie. They only forget to mention that it's more like a family where the parents are abusive alcoholics and the children are always malnourished and cowered in bruises.
Absolutely! The place I was yelled at most, made to lie to customers and tried to make me stay when I was so ill that I was shivering and crying my eyes out in a heated office, was a "family"
I hear this all the time in the military and I am physically imcapable of stopping myself from scoffing and rolling my eyes every time. Inevitably the SAME person saying that will two weeks later be throwing someone out of the Army because they had the audacity to ask for help with a substance abuse issue, then they will ask their formation "why don't you guys ever speak up when you need help?"
When I was going through my divorce, did my chain of command offer me condolences and support? No, they threatened my career and threatened to kick me out of the army because my spouse was "being difficult and causing problems".
This is hands-down the most common lie across any type of work.
Working at Target killed off a part of my soul, but working at a family owned business is the best decision I've ever made. Everyone knows what everyone else's strengths and weaknesses are, so we know who to put on what tasks. I struggle with ADHD and agoraphobia, so my boss makes sure to use colors when describing things so I'll remember them, and my coworkers step in when customers chase me down.
This is true, it's nice working for small businesses when the owners are understanding/supportive people
I think killing part of your soul is a huge exaggeration
@@jankoleon3785 I was going to make a joke about working retail, but realized it's pointless when I saw you're just leaving pessimistic comments like this one everywhere.
Yes this is so true. The best advice and manager ever gave me as a leader was to keep your employees at an arm's length.
Not too far and not too close. You can't help anyone when they're too far and you can't help anyone when they're too close...
I think that's the most healthy relationship to have between managers and their employees and it leads to the best work life balance for everybody in the workplace.
Like a family. If it's anything like my family, I will pass. I don't need the drama, trauma, lies and having them look over my shoulder on every task I do, telling me I am doing it wrong..
If I am doing it wrong, do it yourself, because I quit!
Exactly thisss!
True story. I’ve worked at my retail job for seven years. I’ve seen a lot of store managers come and go, but I finally fell in line with a great one and we survived the holidays despite being severely short staff because he cared. It was mostly just three of us running that whole store.
Well, he got tired of corporate’s crap and the abuse so of course he got a new job and we encouraged him, but the new lady that never seemed to leave her high school mind set behind, she told us all that we were like family to her.
Suffice to say, she’s a two facing witch and 99% of the original workers that were still there after the holidays left not even after two weeks had passed.
We explained how much we respected our former boss and how he really was like a family to us. Her exact words were “I view you guys like family too! I appreciate you so much! Thanks for being so welcoming!”
As a European, everything that is considered normal in the US is a red flag.
Nope, it's a red flag even here. Though I am a Brit, so I'm not representative
Tbh never realised how weird things are to us and how normal these things are to americans. Cultural shock hhh
I thought the US flag was blue and white.
Our work culture is so bad that the only good things I can say is "now slavery free" and "at least we aren't Japan."
No way like what tho
TRUE!! That word is a black flag for me. The last job I had that tried putting the family vibe had a meeting because a lot of people weren't happy.. only to threaten us saying "there's the door" if we didn't walk around being happier. Not looking happier or forcing smiles. We were just expected to be happier. It was insane.
Me too. I worked at a fast food establishment and some poor girl had to bring in her kid, her actual family, during a short notice (a week tops) meeting at the store that could have just been like a group call on Whatsapp or Zoom.
"Be happy or get out" Yes, because telling people to be happy makes them happy, definitely not mad or annoyed
My red flag is when they hire you on the spot when you walk in for an application 😂 Bottom line, they are desperate for a reason and/or management wants to sleep with you.
That happened for my second job, no questions, just availability😅
Guess the manager of Burger King really wanted to sleep with me.
My manager tried to 🍇 me, then had her friends bully me for being autistic and spreading rumors about me,
was working at a chik fil a and the manager walked up to me one day and said," you know ima fck you right"?
@@skree272 hope you got out of there ok
I was a trainer, I trained new hirers. I was told whatever you show someone always point out something they did wrong, even if what they did was 100% correct. Because it will have people work harder in the future.
Geez, straight from the Machiavelli files, huh? 😅
Yeah that don't work on me. I simply won't work for you or you will soon fire me.
When they don't value your time during an unpaid interview, they'll always undervalue your time as a paid employee.
Paid interviews? Is that a thing?!
Haha I didn't mean interviews are ever paid. I was just iterating in contrast they'll value you less when they ARE paying you.
As if getting paid for an interview IS a thing!
This.
Paid interviews ARE a thing, actually. If they want you badly enough, they'll pay travel expenses, moving expenses, and yes, your time. My ex got a job this way. It doesn't happen in entry level jobs though when they can pull any random off the street to do the job.
100% true. I get along with my co-workers, but I don't socialize with them for the most part. I want to leave the job at the job.
I feel that
Same! 😅
Same I loved the people at my old job, and the people at my new job but I don't hang out with them.
No truer words have been said. I worked at two businesses that said we were all family. No matter how good you worked, there was always some degree of never being good enough. F that.
If they specifically say "the expectation is that you _____" every time I've heard that phrase it was followed by a statement that involved me ignoring my worker rights
The shirts I wear at work say “one team, one family” and thankfully it’s actually like that. Best job I’ve ever had hands down.
Glad to hear, keep at it! 👍
The biggest red flag in a job is when at least all the employees warn you about either the boss, manger, CEO, or another employee and that same one person who is bad is trying become apart of your life. It’s safe to say ✨RUN!✨
"were like a family " is the "we were on a break " level of red flags to me
My favorite place to work was at a grocery chain called Shop N' Save and we were like a good family. We all got along, we helped each other, we fucked with and pranked each other. When someone lost someone we all got together to pay our respects, we got a co-worker a card with money and food just so they didn't have to worry about anything for a while they could just grieve. That chain of stores went under after a few decades and was bought by Schnucks.
Where I work is genuinely like a family. My parents run a camp for the mentally and physically disabled. We hang out we chill together at the end of the days with campers.
that's excluded for the red flag.
"We're only a family in that you'll force me to be with you on thanksgiving"
This is the most hilarious comment.
✨😂😂
The job I currently work at makes everyone sign a form saying you won't create a union. You can't even say the word "union" without potentially having a talk with a manager. As if that wasn't the biggest red flag of all time 😭
Um yeah. Pretty sure that’s illegal. I mean, they can make you sign anything, but that doesn’t mean they can ENFORCE it.
Thats a little illegal get that on video.
@@GrumpyOldFart2 that's 1,000,000% illegal. So is alluding to punishment if wages are discussed.
Soooo…are you job hunting right now?
That's such bullshit.
I'd be an asshole and take every opportunity to talk about the US Civil War, Union vs. Confederate battles, and which side won what battles. But always word it as "the Union won" or "the Union lost."
I hope you find a better job.
Jesus christ this was so spot on. Every. Single. Job. I've had that says that, they are the most dysfunctional, unorganized, and mostly uncaring companies to work for
Also don't take a job when after the interview you get a call before you even get to your car that you got the job. Happened to me twice and the place always turned out to be a very special slice of hell.
Low paying jobs, high turn over or no real skill requirements are usually like that. But not always.
Depends on the job. Could be busy season or something to. You could of just had a great interview and background.
If you that suspicious I do not even know why you applied. There is so many online stuff today to look up a company.
REAL. When they hire you too fast there's always something that ain't right.
When I got hired for my current job they said, "Yeah bro, and we're like a family here." They really did mean that. I remember I was having issues with my car, panicking about how I was gonna get to work, and my boss said, "Hey don't worry about it. Take the day, fix your car. I'll give you half of your shifts hours." I have two coworkers that are mechanics, and they helped me out a lot. And I help them out when they need it. Easily the best company I've worked for so far. So it's not always a red flag.
Edit: Well this aged like milk. Fuck my old boss. I truly hope he gets fired, and then goes off and gets into legal trouble with all the cocaine he's been doing.
@Scott-th5nd Yeah. Compared to the last jobs I worked at, this one is by far the best, with no contest.
Glad you happened across that 20,000th job-shopper bonus
Awe that's nice of them. At my current job, I was having chest pains and went to the hospital. They were very considerate of that and gave me the day off (as intruded my the doctor). I mostly have multiple managers, so some were better than others at giving breaks when needed, especially when the store is busy, but it does feel like family because we do help each other, laugh together, and its basically a good time honestly.
That's right sometimes people are genuinely lovely to work with and get to know...but most of the time why Jordan is saying is true
Wow, that's rare
This is why you work for local business if you can. We actually kinda are like a family where I work for the most part. We all hang out after work.
I worked for local businesses and they treated me like shit. Im now working for a much larger company that everyone knows and shit talks and they treat me much better and I get better pay. Local businesses will always under pay because "they're too poor to pay their employees well"
@@untoppled974 sounds like an issue with that specific business. I’m part time here till I finish my real estate pre licensing course but they’ve paid me well and the guys that are here full time get well over 22 an hour. Same way with big companies, some are great, but you run the risk of having a GameStop or an Amazon type where you are just getting dog walked.
Yep. I work for a small local company, and it's the best office culture I've ever experienced. Genuine respect.
WHY THE PK would you hang out ol after work. HUH!!!!! now they have so much ammo to get your ass fired and I will tell you RIGHT now. There friends are the first to get snitched on
Exactly!! My manager and assistant manager are literally mother and son.. u can't get more like a family than that glglblflglvbll
💯💯💯 they asked my religion, my ethnicity, and said that family quote. I left on the first DAY. Never came back. I love flowers + little Tokyo, but that ain’t it “fam.”
If they put you on the schedule BEFORE you even talked to a single SOUL in the company, do NOT even show up. Amazon and companies like it can and WILL do this. Biggest bullet I ever dodged.
Amazon works u like a dog, but pay decent enough. I worked for Amazon. I prefer part time with them. No 10 to 12 hour shifts for me. That's full time. Part time is 3 to five hours
“Never mix business, money, or cars with family or friends”, was the advice my parents told me over and over when I was growing up.
Why cars?
Team is different than family. Work with others and get work done.
Maybe it’s different in the UK but my company literally functions as a big family. Had some time off because my mum had a heart attack and the literal director called me (never mentioned it to him) and said that if I didn’t accept their support, he’d come to my house to see if I was doing okay. HR sent me a letter saying that if my mother was ever ill again, they’d enforce paid leave and wouldn’t allow me to come back until I was 100%. Different worlds in some places I can assure you of that.
Yeah definitely different in the UK. When a job says "We are like a family." In the US, get ready to have your pay be sh*t, over worked, employees that are lazy as f*ck, a sh*tty boss, little chance of a raise, favoritism, not appreciated for your hard work... I can go on with this list but I don't have all day haha.
I’m in the US & my company is like that as well. I was in a training at work when I received the call that someone very close to me passed away. I grabbed my stuff & was out the door without a word. My bosses followed me asking what was wrong, I could barely explain and they said go. No questions asked, just a text later that day to see if I needed anything & take as long as I needed. When I finally went back to work, they told me I would be receiving bereavement pay - per company policy, I was not eligible for it, but received it anyway. The love & support while I was out was amazing, and my co-workers pitched in and figured out how to do my job and kept up with my workload for me. That’s just what we do. It doesn’t matter what the situation is they’re always understanding, even if a pet passes away.
Nah not different in the UK. Did that job tell you at hiring "we're like a family here"? There are plenty of workplaces in the US that behave like families, but they never tell you that.
@@kaldo_kaldo oddly, they did say that in the interview stage. It gave me quite the eye roll at the time but when I started and saw how the teams functioned, I had to believe it 🤷🏻♂️ I’m not saying there aren’t issues at my company but at least we know the directors are trying to sort the problems. Plus the pay is extremely competitive so that doesn’t hurt 😂
That's some "You're gonna accept my love and support (and money) or I'm gonna make you accept it." levels of positivity
Best job i ever had said things like this. They treated all staff exceptionaly well, didbt expect us to work for free and were very generous.
I’m in the U.S. and my current employer said that to me. Honestly, they are better than a family. Best group I’ve worked with.
Dude u aren’t lying! This is true, when they say stuff like that it usually means they are going to work u to death and expect you to go far above and beyond what your duties are. Why? Because “we’re like a family here!” Never again!
Omfggg exactly!!!! Most fking ungrateful mtherfker of a boss I have!!! Absolutely despicable!!!! He is NEVR fking grateful and I'm working my ass off!!!!
“we’re like a family here” is always accurate but never in the way they hope. jobs that sag that always give you the most trauma fr
So true. Especially in NYC