When Black Women’s Peace of Mind Makes People Uncomfortable 🤷🏿♀️
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- When Black Women’s Peace of Mind Makes People Uncomfortable | Are you embracing more rest and ease in your life and getting unsolicited comments about it? Me too. I think it means you're on the right path. 2022 feels like abundance. Dive in.
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We as Black women need less drama and less stressful relations.
Agreed! This is why some need to be left alone and behind.
You need to say that again @Trina’s World
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We really do!
People get uncomfortable with our ease because they have gained so much from our struggle.
TRUE and so EVIL!
So true.
Yes!! Preach!!!
This!!🎯🎯🎯
Story of my life; until now.
I saw a video of a black woman that had a night nurse to help her with her newborn. The haters came after her so hard and angered me bc much of it I knew was racially motivated…. How dare she not struggle. (Insert eye roll)
I saw that too! People were awful to her. But if she was exhausted and unable to care for her baby she'd be crucified. Like...we can't make everybody happy so might as well focus on us.
😅 " How Dare She...not struggle"
tooo funny😅
Had she been a white woman not a peep would've been made smh...
Just saying...♥️
And thats normal in the Carribbean and Africa to have help. Let hater and low esteemers hate..Maya Angelo....." Still we rise" ....They will change, its alright.
This title alone gets an IMMEDIATE thumbs up. Shoutout to Stephanie and all black women. 🤣🤣
Immediately yes!!
Was thinking the same
Literally 🤣
Facts, I hit like before watching it,lol
😹😭 instant thumbs up here too
Aren't black women tired of having to validate our existence in the world with a cause or noble mission? Let's embrace ease and peace. I don't know about y'all but I am tired."Come here EASE, sit with me. Let's get to know each other."
Absolutely, come on Ease!
Preach 👏🏽💯
Amen and Asè!!!
Word. I just spent six weeks in the Bay Area housesitting for a family member vacationing in Italy for a month. Heaven on her end and mine, too. I do NOT tell people what I’m spending, earning, sacrificing- Nada. I’m a boomer: young sisters stop oversharing, seeking external validation. Trust, we fought that battle for you and won. Keep it moving. I can tell you’re upset Comrade Sister Nomad ( we from the Fulani women!) but you don’t sound harsh to me. So. Carry on . Jump at the sun. I don’t do anything when people feel uncomfortable. Not even an eye roll. Give them my back. Now that’s harsh - possibly. 😉 INTJ: if you know human psychology, you already know.
@ jeanettesdaughter……. I know what you mean…MBTI= INTP here. 😉✌️
As a Black Woman, you have to be very comfortable w/ other people's discomfort.
For real!
This is a lesson I recently learned. I have acquaintances who are white passing and trying to make progressive political strides in the USA. They were very triggered when I told them that this whole “red and blue” thing are two sides of the same coin, and attempted to undermine my point by saying I was reading misinforming “memes” online. Ma’am…I came to that conclusion in a textbook 15 years ago. And I told them as an African Diasporian and Indigenous American person, the genocide never ended for my bloodline. You work on your own generational trauma and I’ll work on mine. Life is too short to stay where I’m not wanted. I’m fulfilling my childhood dreams of getting out of this psychological war zone and living a life of peace, love, comfort, joy, hope, and honesty ❤
@@raynebow5289 the red and blue are both anti woman. They are man made parties that don't serve women cause so it's normal that a woman will see it as two sides of the same coin (the coin is patriachy). Don't let them gaslight you
“People don’t have to like the way you live your life. And you don’t have to care.” These are words I live by.
I love it that we as black women are living and loving our lives.
Evil wicked hateful people hate to see is black women progress and take the road less traveled.
We are shifting the narrative and that is what’s worrying to some. People really should mind the business that pays them. We are all better for it💅
I so agree!! a lot of us Black Women are tired of being put on the back burner and always putting ourselves last! I love that we are indulging in luxury, traveling more, and just putting OURSELVES first!, keep going ladies, let ‘‘em hate🤗🤗🤗
Exactly! Keep Shining⭐️⭐️⭐️
@@denisespencer982 We should have been doing this, but I’m glad that we are now starting to and will never stop. 👏🏽
I have been told I was selfish because I put my needs over what others wanted me to do for them.
People will get used to it. 💗
Stay selfish!!!
I needed this video!!!!!!! You literally are speaking to me. It’s so frustrating when black women get bashed for what THEY want to do.
Kiki, and I feel like there's a concentrated effort to try to keep us where we are, but we're making MOVES. No turning back!
@@StephaniePerry
I agree. There is an evil wicked force that want black women to remain poor in mind and finance. There is an evil wicked hateful force to want to see us and keep us in a low state. They either want us to die alone or be with other women or with low status black men this keeping us in low social class. But why?
@@madamelogicbombdropperblac7799 Because they do not have the courage to seek their peace, drop the ego, and let go of the ACTUAL American historical ideal of success for men, which includes owning BW, and women's success in being allied to such men. But, that's THEIR problem.
I love this video. I don't ask for no one opinion about my choices on how I want to live . I live in village in Zanzibar with a compost toilet in my house and I love my life. Keep living your life on your terms.
Exactly! I quit a government job and people were so shocked. People want us to be so miserable! It took me some years to really put myself first!
I’ve been making folks uncomfortable for at least 30 years! It’s ok if you discuss your aspirations, and struggle in the pursuit. But, if you doing your thing, succeeding on your own, without a man, and without the responsibility of children, you make women examine their own lives. They often feel that you are criticizing them, and feel the pangs of regret. That’s just mirror they’re holding up on their own. They shouldn’t have regrets, but to make new plans. Take small steps to make themselves a priority, and not just their underaged children.
A WORD Nubianette! 💗 We all have to keep moving forward.
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Yeah, you SAID that! Props to you, Sis!
You said it! ❣️
“I don’t think it’s my job to educate other people on how to be good humans” Pressed subscribe!
Welcome. 💗
My husband will be retiring this year from the Post Office at 53 1/2 yrs old. I think we messed up by telling folks our plans to travel 30days at a time twice a year. You wouldn't believe the hater-aid people are drinking. Family can be the absolute worst, one aunt accused me of bragging...smdh.
Congratulations to you and your hubby! Enjoy to the max, the sweet life. ☺️
Yes..Waiting for my husband to retire. I've been watching Panama and that is the exit place. ♥️
They're jealous. Tell them "Envy Green" isn't a good color on them, and keep it moving. 😃😁😄
Yes. Moving in silence is most times the best policy. 53 1/2 is great to retire. I did it at 58. I kept things on the down low but travelled a great deal pre pandemic. Now though its Get ready. Set. Go!!!
Enjoy yourselves. You EARNED it!!!
Congrats 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉 my husband and I got the the same cold 🥶 response when we retired in our 30s. We worked hard for 10 years, maxed our earrings, invested aggressively and only bought the essentials. They criticized our extreme frugality and now they criticize us living well and free. Haters will hate.
I swear BW can be so frustrating to deal with 🙄. Gosh some just refuse to stay on code. Some of us love to live the struggle life. Stephanie, you gave me the permission I didn’t even know I needed to do less and embrace ease. I just retired under 40yrs old after a 20yr career and I’m happy to be part of the do less crew. Pay them dust and keep doing what you want my sister 🛩🏝🧉💅🏾
And we MOVE Kemi! Congratulations on your retirement!! 👏🏿👏🏿 👏🏿
They can be. It's so annoying.
Congrats 👏🎉.
@@StephaniePerry Yessss!!! Keep moving forward 👏🏿. Thank you.
@@questionresearch8721 totally annoying. That’s why we’re often times not taken seriously because we don’t stand united and don’t stand for anything. It’s become second embarrassment being associated with other BW. Thanks for the congratulations 🙌🏾.
This is very true! When I'm out in public enjoying myself I am rarely with other people. I normally spend time alone. I have noticed that people who are not at peace will try to approach me, ask unnecessary questions, become combative, etc. There is something about a free black woman that infuriates & intimidates people. Let them be mad. Big mad 🤷
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BIG MAD!😀
This reminds of when I went to the theater by myself. This guy asked me if I were alone. When I said yes. He looked disturbed. He was there with his wife and kids. What was it to him that I was there by myself?
@@ltiya75islearning82 GM happened to me again yesterday at lunch... Minding my own business and some random man started talking to me about the weather... I wasn't feeling well yesterday but I replied with a dry oh well that's interesting to hear and I closed my lunch container and walked out because I knew if he kept staring at the back of my head my hair might catch fire..I hope people stop being so ridiculously jealous of others success and move on
I agree. Being a happy Black woman make people very uncomfortable.
I vacationed with my mother in the U.S.V.I. and we spent the day on the beach with a local friend. I just happened to look over at the group next to us. If looks could kill! Ms. Perry is not lying when she said, folks hate seeing Black Women resting and relaxing. Folks was indignant that 3 Black folks was doing absolutely nothing. So we doubled-down on doing nothing and ordered whole fried fish, with johnnycakes, and strong drinks solidifying our committment to doing absolutely nothing!
Maybe it was because you were still in the US? It'd probably be different on a non US Caribbean island.
A black woman at peace is dangerous! Let them hate!
People are HATERS! 🥴They especially seem to hate black women with no attachments aka, childfree black women. Keep doing you sis! Much love from Florida. ❤️❤️❤️
Love your message and purpose in life. I too boycott winter by spending 2 months in Jamaica. I get different responses when I tell this to others, but my most recent comment was "weren't you a school teacher?" as though a teacher should not have that kind of money. I just laugh and get on the plane every year. I'll be joining your patreon when I return from vacation. Keep it up! You are empowering us.
😆 "Weren't you a pharmacy tech?" for me. 😆 We'll be glad to have you over on Patreon, Aseeyah. 💗
Hi @aseeyah I’m going in May my first solo out the country trip!!! All about me and loving my dreams …. Where would you suggest I go to see and eat!! outside of resort?
Latrice I would suggest Negril which is the western part of Jamaica. There are lots of places to rent for long term on airbnb. We stay at Judy's Hostel where we have a cottage all to ourselves. Lots of little restaurants also.
Did the same 3 weeks in Jamaica to skipp winter in January
You're right! I'm a 62 year old retiree I traveled solo three times to Tanzania in 2021! On my way to Rwanda in March for four months! I do me nothing like a peace of mine! Live your life!😃😃😃
Im single, child free, debt free, mortgage free and drama free. I have been living a life of ease for a very long time. I think bw also play a part in perpetuating that struggle life as well partly because of their own choices. I've also notice that the more bw distance themselves from certain environments, the more their lives improve but for whatever reason, they won't allow themselves to break away from those toxic environments.
It's always sad when other Black women are jealous and/or hating on someone for putting themselves in a position to have a life of ease. Instead of being bitter, talk to her and ask her how she did it! Make a plan for yourself. No, they are not counting YOUR money! People are really TOO much y'all.
They don't know we want the same ease for them too!
It's called crabs in a barrel. Misery loves company.
Because of you, I am flying to Paris comfort plus and staying at the Crowne Plaza, for two weeks. Rock on, power to the people.
Yes ease! Enjoy Pearl! 💗
That sounds amazing- yes Paris at the Crowne Plaza.
I did enjoy!!
This is wild! Women are giving you grief for $3500 a month??? I love the fact you are enjoying life! You are life goals sis!!!!
My God! What are they gonna do when she is elevated to a couple more zeroes...$350,000 from book sales,etc? Stephanie shares EVERYTHING she's done to get here so why not DO instead of hating?
@@allgoodthingsjamaican Exactly!
@@allgoodthingsjamaican Facts I’m like mind your business.
The problem is people don’t mind their own business. I say do what makes you happy!
Wow the average American spends more money than this every month. Stephanie is being frugal and this is an issue??? Smh
Your money, your life! Enjoy Curacao. I think you're right, people hate when black women aren't struggling and they're living in ease. Continue living your dreams! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
Peach..
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Girl, WHAT?? I can't believe someone came to your channel and fixed their mouth to tell you that you're spending too much of YOUR OWN money. I'm glad you made this video and I'm going to share it with a few people who could use your message and shake off the haters in their lives. Folks already know not to bring that noise to me. 😎 Keep doing YOU.
Outstanding message, Sis! 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽
Thanks Sis! 💗
SUBSCRIBED!! 50 years old here, no children, plenty of stamps in my passport and a young boyfriend 😜😜 life is good....I would have saved a mountain of tears in my younger years if I knew how much better it gets. ✊🏽 to you my sister ❤
People are so used to seeing black women struggling and not having anything of value that they get upset when we do have nice things. It doesn't matter if it was given to us or we worked our asses off to get it
And it's sad how they continually ask questions when they can't figure out 🤨🤔 how did you obtain whatever it is that you have as if no one else should have established extravagant things... so honestly that annoys me very much..
RELAX LADIES WE ALL DESERVE IT....
You are so right. People do not like seeing us carefree. They prefer for us to be vulnerable, struggling, desperate, and or just angry. And it doesn’t matter how kind or accommodating you are because the minute you say no to anything they’re angry.
I am for Team Stephanie! Proud of you and appreciate what you are doing for black women. You deserve your dream vacation😀
I think it's sick when other people find black women's contentment disturbing or uncomfortable. I have seen it too many times and I've seen whenever I'm obviously sad the mood changes and everyone is happy. This world is cursed.
Haters can kick rocks and keep it moving , Stephanie. You are my she-ro! You and people like you are showing the rest of us possibilities. Watching you is encouraging as I come to the end (1 more year) of my 27 year, middle school teaching career. Thank you!🙋🏾♀️
Evil wicked racist colorist people hate to see black ladies of a certain hue living and doing well and dating interracial and wearing high end clothes and traveling to exotic places. It kills them.
I travel on own to many countries. People always give me that sad look of pity “loot black women can’t get a man” look. Y’all know what I’m talking about. I talk to the sea when I’m on the beach. I smile at the sunlight and I gaze in wonder at the night sky. Everything I need is already inside of me. Because all of those things I gaze upon were created by the Mothers. And I am a part of them. This connection to all keeps my grounded and at peace.
Kick rocks with no socks is what I say (you had me at your first line!) That you for the hard work you’ve done as a teacher and congratulations on whatever your next chapter is!
You are so right! Everyone should live their dreams. No excuses needed.
Everyone else gets to enjoy, why not us? I think some of these customs are rooted in slavery, racism and even religion. Preach sister. It’s time for all of us to enjoy our lives everyday.
I have a friend who retired after me and had saved, done everything right….and was afraid to enjoy her money. We should no longer embrace self sacrifice and being broke down.
Slavery, racism and religion. You're right about all 3 Deb.
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No explanation required either.
NEVER EVER sell US SHORT. MY SISTERS WE Got THIS!♥️👍🏼👏🏼
Yesss
I remember the day I realized it wasn't my job to make others comfortable! So freeing!
You do you, sister Stephanie. I love your encouragement to us women 🥰
Thank you so much! 💗
Thank you for this video!! In January of this year my daughter and I took a trip to London because she wanted to celebrate her birthday in London. Some close..."people" were very upset and they had so much to say. However, 8 years ago when I almost lost my daughter through Lyme Disease and I needed to be comforted, where were they? But now that God has decided bless us with a little more...we make them feel uncomfortable. I am "applying pressure" thank you! Right now as I am writing this post...I am in Saint Lucia on another vacation with my daughter and my son!
LIVE YOUR BEST LIFE!❤🎯
People, especially family, start to subconsciously hate you when you're actually Living Your Life. They become passive aggressive with their resentment.
I'm team Black Women Ease. I found you, Stephanie at the right time in my life. I was a career "People Pleaser" both at home and on in corporate America. When I Finally thought it was my turn to be pleased; others demonstrated that they thought differently! I realized then it was never going to be My Turn. People were comfortable with me making them comfortable. Those same people were quite uncomfortable with me making myself comfortable. Forget comfortable! Now, I'm going pursuing Ease and Luxury. This is all new for me. So I'm watching you and learning.
FACTS!!! My manager is always giving me a hard time every time I want to use my vacation time and asks passive aggressively “so where are you going THIS time”🙄
She's jealous. Misery loves company.
@@co_7523she? How do you know its a "she"?
"if you're a terrible person, thats somebody elses job"
Love and Light. I love being at ease…i learned from my grandmother. I don’t ever remember seeing her stress. She was famous for saying let me go rest my eyes and she didn’t work outside the home. I started blocking people before there was social media if they got out of line with me and my choices. 🤣
Yes queen. Love to see happy healthy black women living thier best life!
Stephanie, you go girl! My grandma used to say stay out of grown people’s business, in other words do what you want to do.
Paula Sutton is another inspiration. People came for. Like how dare she a Black woman enjoy the countryside and a life of ease. It’s really sad that Black woman are not allowed to follow comfort. But I like what you said about applying pressure.
Thank you for telling us about Paula Sutton! I’d not heard of her, as she was apparently quite the sensation during the lockdowns. I missed my “Great Relaxation” during 2020 because I was working a full time job on top of caring for a very sick spouse. I’m trying to make up for it now, and will be “applying pressure” and pushing back against the expectation that I will continue to carry extra burdens at work and in life. At 52 with no children, and a disabled spouse who is being cared for by professionals because I just could not do it all alone anymore, it’s my turn to have a life.
@@tvdavis 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
OMG I remember that!
Yeah, they would be happy if she was the maid working for a wealthy family in the countryside…😢😢
Some people are filled with envy and confusion. Bottom line: we are all adults and capable of deciding how we want to live our lives. Stephanie - I am so grateful that you choose to share your knowledge and perspective!!! God bless you!!!
Stephanie,
We are conditioned to accept the bare minimum, and this needs to be unlearned. You’ve evolved to the place of “I deserve better”, and the people giving you grief aren’t there yet. They also don’t believe that for themselves. 🥺 It took me years to believe that for me, and I hope a LOT more black women get to this place eventually. I watch all your videos, often times more than once. Your way of being inspires and motivates me. ❤️
So true , we have been conditioned to accept struggle to be worthy. Carry on Stephanie. Thanks for your uplifting video. The nay people r asleep.
Same here! I’ve been on both sides. We deserve to define what success and happiness looks like for us.
Preach. I just learned I deserved better. I’m literally at ☮️ living my best life
Everybody thinks black women should act like their mom.
Wow! Can't believe people actually make it their business to comment on you living your best life. It's bad enough we sometimes feel guilty about living our life on purpose. But you have the correct attitude. Your money. You earned it. Your business. Thumbs up. Kudos. Pat yourself on the back. So proud of you.
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I am so incredibly happy for you and this ability to live ABUNDANTLY. It gives me nothing but absolute inspiration. THANK YOU!
Yeeeeeeeeeees! The title... The content. All of this!!! Thank you so much for talking about this. (Also, in my video about wanting an easier life, I got some upset folks commenting and criticizing. Those comments IMMEDIATELY got deleted. I don't have the energy. Usually I try to reason with folks... But some folks don't want to be reasonable. They are literally like "how dare you?!" Determining how to manage energy is new to me, but you are GOALS. Lol. 💛💛💛)
@Miracle Motivates Hiiiiii! That's so generous of you. Thank you so much!!! 😊💛💛💛
This is wonderful! Thank you for making this video! Black women need to live their best lives. We are tired of being workhorses. We deserve rest, luxury, happiness, and joy. Thank you for living your best life and sharing it with us. Subscribed!
So, SO tired of being workhorses! 👏🏾 After these past few years, all I want to do is have some rest and joy! I finally started pushing back when people tried to force their scarcity mindsets on me, even when I knew they had the best intentions. I make good money and I’m going to enjoy it. No, I’m not selling my house and downsizing. No, I’m not going on vacation and staying in the cheapest room and sharing it to save money. Yes, I’m sending my dog to day care. Yes, I’m getting my massages and any other self-care services I feel I need. Here’s to 2022 and beyond being about us and our best lives!
Hi Stephanie, I am truly glad to have found you. Love your positivity and being a straight arrow.
People commenting on how YOU spend your OWN money? That's crazy!
I'm 47 with 5 children. 3 grown adults, women, and 2 under the age of 13, boys. Left a horrible relationship with a narcissist that took more than half my life away. That song "if I had a time machine" comes to my mind often.
I have 3 older daughters and I told them to subscribe to your channel. I want them be like you. And they are Breaking the generational curses.
Black women place yourself first. I love to see you not struggling in relationships of any kind, not struggling financially, and loving yourselves completely. Love you Black women from infinity to infinity.
My step sister and her husband moved from the US to Puerto Rico, living off the grid, and all I hear from my family and hers is that she abandoned her family here and this and that.. I’m like… so no one can ever leave from where their family is?!
Some people have this idea that you should live in the same area as your family, or stay in the same place you grew up. It's very narrow-minded tbh.
Love the attitude - do YOU and bring others along - thank you 🙏🏾
Yes Daisy!
I RESPECT YOU SO MUCH. We have to normalize black women NOT suffering, struggling, getting sick, stressed out, dying too young, supporting violent, destructive, criminal, unemployed husbands/boyfriends/sons and not being appreciated or celebrated. You are classy, centered, wise, calm, peaceful, accomplished. You are a leader and a beacon of light to us black women who absolutely know we deserve more. Never stop what you're doing. THANK YOU.
Bravo Stephanie. Haters gonna hate. Live life.
I feel you should live your life the way you want to. I'm a widow for 4 years. I was very happily married I'm single now. Don't know what the future holds for me. I want to enjoy my life now. Dont let anyone make you feel bad about the way you want to live your life. You do you. Im retired. Feeling good about myself. I love your videos
Paulette, I'm glad you feel good. Peace of mind is the real prize. 💗
Black Women, we are doing the dang on thang!!! Keep on making them “Feel Uncomfortable”🤗🤗🙋🏾♀️🙋🏾♀️
I instantly subscribed just from the title alone!!
Welcome Marissa. 💗
Your money, your time, YOUR business...periodt! Happy for you living your best life! It's inspiring!
This is so true, people don’t like when you decide to take care of yourself and not be the ‘martyr’
Change makes most people uncomfortable and it makes some people downright angry. It's just because you are living the life that they don't have the courage to or the bandwidth to understand.
Misery loves company therefore when "friends and family" see you not struggling like them and carefree they begin to resent you and make you feel bad about it by calling you words like "lazy" or give off passive aggressive energy and comments like “must be nice”. Must I really feel guilty for not being miserable like everyone else?
Thank you for this video! I'm a junior at university working on my Bachelor's in journalism. Throughout the years my goals have changed. Before I used to want to get a 9-5 writing job in an office but now I my goal is to get a good paying remote writing job and live abroad on an island. Your channel and the ladies you bring on here inspire me to want to live a balanced life when I get older. I don't want to be chained to my desk for 8+ hrs a day with asshole bosses like my parents were. So sad people are hating on you😑 They need to do something else. Not everyone wants to struggle. I want balance and to enjoy life.
Good for you to find this!
Yes, Young One! Live a balanced Life. It is possible!
2022 feels like abundance. Apply pressure. Yes! Love it. Keep modelling the way for us Stephanie!💖
People are sometimes taken aback when I say I am not busy. I am not trying to be busy. I do not "grind." I build as much ease into my routines as possible.
You are an inspiration 💕 I'm an Registered Nurse and I need a break!!! You give me hope ❤️
People believe that if all of the conditions aren’t met for others to be happy then there’s no reason for them to be happy. People would always ask me why I’m so happy and I would tell them, “no reason.” Lots of people only believe you should be happy if you have great news to share or have come upon great fortune.
When I was growing up I was such a happy child and kids would tease me for my weight because they think I shouldn’t be a happy person because of it.
But going back to what I was saying, just like how you said you had to stay at a place with no running toilet some people would think that you’re not living right because all the conditions haven’t been met. If you live a life of luxury then they expect you to get the best beach house with everything included, spend as much money as you want with reckless abandon, and to be catered to hand and foot. If only people didn’t realize that the could live a wonderful and stress free life if they didn’t live for the next shiny object or fantastic material experience.
I never knew that about American women, that's so interesting. I thought we're to celebrate our successes together. Black women have worked hard for centuries - we deserve some pampering, rest, relaxation and luxury! Well done please don't stop. 🇬🇧
@Apostle Rosemary you never worked hard for centuries so just stop with the something for nothing.
I don’t like folks counting your coins. You, Shida’s on the loose and picky girl travels the world have motivated me to step out and join the life I love and deserve. I love that you guys March to the beat of your own drums. I celebrate you. Please continue your purpose and continue to share. Live like 👍🏾 you want to 🥰🥳
"There comes a time when you roll up your sleeves and put yourself at the top of your commitment list." ~ Marian Wright Edelman
Why would you not be seen as living your best life. It’s your money! You deserve rest and comfort. I can’t believe this. You are my shero!
We DESERVE.
Love this video. Oh my I've even run into it locally. You'll notice having a conversation with people in certain settings..... the conversion will at some point turn to where you live, what kind of house, where your work, what you drive. I was building a house and before we even broke ground my future neighbor was asking me "polite" questions about the house we were going to build, what I did for a living etc. Stuff that can seem innocuous but I was seeing where they were really going. How YOU rolling? And the impression was really are you rolling better than ME? I think we as black people do way too much in the form of explaining ourselves, our actions, our behaviors. The older I get the more I adopt that mind your own damn business mindset. You don't owe any explanations outside of what you want to explain. I'm always wishing you the best, much success, and as I like to say... purpose, not perfection.
Gurl you so right “You do you “! Is not your business what they 🤔 think! 😅❤️
I have three adult children. When I told them that I’m about to start looking for a place abroad they tried to guilt me into staying in US. I told them that they are welcome to follow me but god gave me one life and I’m going to live it!
Great Subject Stephanie!!! Tell them to mind their own business!!! Enjoy Ease💕 P.S. I do😊
They can get like us!
Double down on luxury and ease
Girl! F them! You keep being the rested, well watered and happy black woman that you are!
It’s a classy women who can tell someone off with a smile and a giggle. Unfortunately those people will never stop the negative responses so don’t waste your time. Keep showing us your experiences with ease and that will do the job👊🏽 I’m your biggest cheerleader 📣
I had to comment and say thank you that I ran across this video. Here I am feeling bad or lazy that I decided to take some time off from working. (My previous career gave me the opportunity to) and everyone else around me is working. Made my blessings feel underrated for myself after busting my behind for over 30 years of working tirelessly. This! Video! Encouraging as it makes me feel much better now!
Stephanie I love you and thank you for addressing how to be unapologeticly at ease! We are blessed with one life and we need to live it to our true potential.
Nobody hates a free and peaceful black woman more than a black woman who has not managed to free her own spirit, mind and body. As a free, single, and childless black woman, I have experienced a lot of resentment from other African American women, including relatives, who have bought into the archetype of the long-suffering sister who carries a physical and psychological load that's heavier than a bale of cotton. They applaud each other for carrying on under these crushing, thankless and unfulfilling burdens, and condemn those of us who have charted our own courses towards liberation of the self. Stephanie, please keep on doing what you're doing. You are inspiring so many of your sisters by shining a light onto the wonderful places of the world and showing us how and where we might fit in. Thank you and never forget: You Are Appreciated!
It gets so exhausting when other people (family, other women, etc) are uncomfortable with our happiness. I get it all the time; and I don't have everything I want yet. I've had family members and other people especially black women stop blessings they saw coming my way a man or a good job, etc. It really hurts. Now I don't share anything I do. I don't know who to trust.
That is so sad
Stephanie, enjoy your new ‘Winter’!!!
Wow you are my hero!! Do you always.
I'm about to get some facials and spa works with my house-sitting income; I'm on with this this is what I was searching in the spirit for!
I know this channel is specific to the needs of black women, but I'm a black man who watches you for advice for future digital nomads. I find your candor refreshing, and I think you deserve to live your best life. Thank you for everything you do.
Ms. Stephanie you are great, and living your best life. Most times people may not have the courage to do the same. Keep doing you💜
Bravo, live your life and enjoy!
Girllll I know they not trying to come for you…. It’s self hate that’s what I always say … a degree of it. Keep doing good girl you inspire me .💚
This is how I feel, if the person is not asking me for money, I don't care.
Yes Stephanie live your best life.
Do you Sistah Stephanie! I'm happy for YOU!!!! Shucks, I'm going to Egypt in July for two weeks! Can't wait! I'm married and have a 19 year old college student and a 13 year old home schooled middle schooler.
Nothing but facts sis🎯🎯🎯 … I have someone cleaning the house very two weeks … which has freed up my time to do other things … I even had someone come over to hang up art and pictures in the house because I hate doing that … I love the concept of embracing ease❤️❤️