I went through same situation many years ago. But we decided to stay put in Canada and today both my sons are reaping the rewards of our sacrifices. Both are brilliant academically and are professionally qualified. My older son had the luxury of starting his own software company which would have been difficult for him had he come alone here from India for higher studies and younger one also is an engineer with a really fantastic job . Now my husband and I travel extensively and we both now have no relatives in India. We chose not to return to India at that time and my children thank me all the time for all the fantastic options and opportunities they have before them. We keep ourselves busy going to the gym regularly, libraries and of course travelling. We also had a very good life in India and had constructed our own bungalow and we made the decision to leave all that and start a new life with two little kids here. Think hard before taking any action. Hard to advice as each one has to do what they feel is right. I was always working full time but now though not that old have chosen to not work. Maybe little later I might do something.
I feel you have made the right decision for your mental health ✅ . Bahar bina househelp k kaam karna bahut difficult hai aur chota baccha bhi manage karna 🙏
The winter season is so gloomy and dark in these countries, that it causes a lot of depression. No sunlight and very cold weather, we Asians are not used to such a climate
Please don't cry, i can relate to you how you are feeling right now.I am in Canada with my husband and 8 yrs old son.Sometimes i also feel really depressed and lonely,wants to go back to my country right away.But then i control my emotions,watch movie ,listen to song ,make yummy food dance do whatever makes you happy. I am happy you did a good dicision to move back to india ,your daughter is too small ,she can adjust there quickly. This is the right time to go back.Nothing is in abroad,people only running after money here. I think we need to live there where we feels happy. We are also planning to leave Canada forever but due to my son he doesn't want to go we stuck here.
I am in Canada since 24 years. Let me tell you one thing. You need to find a way to deal with loneliness . Find a hobby, go to the temple, church whatever your religion is. Make friends. Learn something new. If you want to then you can overcome anything.
It could be because of weather also. If this is the only issue then you could have consulted a doctor Before deciding to leave. This is just a phase. Could be anxiety or hormonal changes. Counselling could have helped her. People generally go there for the betterment of kids life. At the end it's your decision . And india is our home country. Hope you have better life.
Bahut der se samaj aaya apko...ye first day se hota h...bt for money we accept all the things now you have earned enough so frustration, depression are common problem... housewives generally feel the same..my husband rejected his visa extension just because of this because i was feeling the same...now we are not thinking about money...kam kha lenge bt Khush rhenge...rone se kuch n hota either money or happiness you should have choose one
homesickness, depressed winter in western countries all these factors can lead to this but still there can be a way out not sure everybody knows their situation better
I think dish washing you can take dishwasher For depression you have to find out the way, you have to go for walk, you have to make friends so that you can chill out
I understand your situation. Winter, loneliness, having a toddler to manage all by yourself along with the house chores and lack of social support can be extremely hard. I was in your situation many years back and choose to go back to India. We had good jobs and had our green card at that time, but overwhelming demands of life made us take that decision at that time. Also we settled extremely well when we returned back to India. However after 7 years we to choose to return back to USA mostly because of career challenges. I am extremely glad that we moved back to USA about 9 years back and we have settled back again with daughter pursuing college. We were sheer lucky that everything fell in place eventually but on a hind sight I think it would have been better not to go through all this back and forth. Please evaluate all aspects before you return back. Do you have close friends who can provide support and help with Adya. Do you work outside home? Maybe you can volunteer somewhere which will help you have more social interactions? Also if possible try to defer your decision till summer, seasonal depression is real. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
Don’t cry. Wear winter clothes and go out. Try meeting people. You will feel better. How others survive? Think like that. And pray. How do Indians survive there I wonder? You need to get a part time job. Not for the money. Just to meet people.
As a woman we are living in India and as a working professional we are handling both our job and household work, how come your wife not able to manage only household work even she is a homemaker
How very compassionate ho rahi ho!! Not!!!...Try and understand what she is saying...Sach mein there is a difference being literate and educated. Tum mat hi socho kuchch
Option toh foreign country mein jyada hai har kaam k liye machine hai kounsa haath se karna hai India mein maid logon k tantrum jhelne padengey tab Dublin yaad aayega traffic mehengayi etc waha government dyaan rakhti hai v citizen ka yaha sab apna karna padta hai rather try to adjust there slowly you will like it India mein bohot pahchtaogey
Lots of blessings for you hope you feel better, after listening to you I feel you have made the right decision as your mental health should be your priority 🙏🙏🙏
Don't worry Shashi, we all are with you, you made a right decision, jahan man lage wahin rehna chahiye. Agar man na kare jahan rehne ka wahin nahin rehna chahiye, abroad wagera zyada din maza nahin aaata. apna desh apna hi hota hai, aap aate hi theek ho jaoage, enjoy karoge. aap strong raho bus..please don't cry...you are a strong woman, we can understand your pain and situation!! Ladies ke liye bahut kaam hota hai ghar ka, humein yahan maid mil jaati hai India mein, bahut support hota hai unka...I can understand..and Happy Birthday to your hubby in advance!! :) Thode hi din reh gaye aapke India aane mein, then everything will get better...
Per Bahut sare ways hain man laga ne ke, I agree ki gloomy weather hai per Bahut Sara advantages hai wahan ka. Bahar nikaliye, logon se milo. Indian communities walon se miliye koi group bana lo, ghar per bulaiye Indian ladies ko. Aplog itne time se hain to I m sure Bahut sare friends ho Gaye honge
Mai mere dost ke sath hi rahta tha jb se uska job lga tb se mai ghar pr hi rahta hu mai v bhot depressed rahne lga tha... Doctor uncle se salah liya unhone bola morning walk pr jao yoga karo meditation karo... Aur mai ab thik hu ye kar ke dekho aap🙂
Aap ke husband kitne supportive h yaar .household work kuch kaam nhi hota 3 people ho fir bi kaam kaam.main bi USA me hu job bi krti hu .1 beta bi h mera uska education sab main hi dekhti hu .reason mere husband ka kaam jyada pressure wala h.so please kaam ko leker nhi but akelapan bhut jyada h or apnapan kam h videsh me.please presaan mat ho aap
Apna desh apna hi hota hai,mei toh gaav chaley jaaneka sochta hu,aur baat hai pollution ki toh kya videsh mei koi bimaar nai padta...apney desh mei hi raho bus..
Yei log lazy log hai itna rona dhona.They want maid to take care of family baccha cook food.yei sab chochle abroad mei bahut expensive hote hai.Tho depression maa ko yaad maid ki yaad sab yaad ayegi😂.
Don’t say like this ,every person is different ,she is saying she doesn’t have even taste in food ,how her emotional health is deteriorate u can’t imagine
Tumko pata hai abroad mein kya milta hai aur kya nahi kisi ka bhi majak banaoe. ever u gone through mental stress and anxiety or depression. The lady is sitting inside home from month no social life no family and on the top of that bad weather .She is going through mental stress which can lead to detoriate her physical health as well.
Bura mat man na Aap job bhi karte ho aur ghar ka kaam bhi? Esa thodi hota he yaar... Agar aapki wife bhi job karti to sahi baat he lekin wo homemaker ke. Baki jesi jiski soch
@marvic76 ha, 3 logo ka kaam kuch jyada nahi hota.agar aap housewife he to ye aapki responsibility he ki ghar ka kaam kare ye nahi ki pati bichara bahar ka kaam bhi kare aur ghar ka bhi.
@@sainan4544 . Jab aadmi office jaata hai , kya use koi kaam main help nahin karta? Aur ghar ka kaam kabhi khatam nahin hota. Aur agar office main help mil sakti hai toh ghar main kyon nahin ? Aur aurat naukrani nahin hai.she is his better half . There is no such thing ki aurat ghar pe hai so she does not need help.
@marvic76 are aap itni selfish kesi ho sakti he, aapne kabhi jindgi esi job ki bhi jisse ghar chal paye to aap esa nahi bolti... Aapko pata bhi he ki job kitni stressful hoti he..? Aur mene kab kaha ki help nahi kar sakte, jo chiz sirf mard hi kar sakta he jese heavy weight uthana ya biwi ki tabiyat thik na ho tab ghar ka kaam karna lekin, ye to aap torture karne ki baat akr rhi ho pati ko. Sharam aani chaiye aapko
@marvic76 better half ka matlab ye nahi ki pati ka fayada uthao. Agar wo house me help karega to aap bhi fir financial support kare. Aapni soch thik karo. Etna alsi pana aur selfishness thik nahi.
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I went through same situation many years ago. But we decided to stay put in Canada and today both my sons are reaping the rewards of our sacrifices. Both are brilliant academically and are professionally qualified. My older son had the luxury of starting his own software company which would have been difficult for him had he come alone here from India for higher studies and younger one also is an engineer with a really fantastic job . Now my husband and I travel extensively and we both now have no relatives in India. We chose not to return to India at that time and my children thank me all the time for all the fantastic options and opportunities they have before them. We keep ourselves busy going to the gym regularly, libraries and of course travelling. We also had a very good life in India and had constructed our own bungalow and we made the decision to
leave all that and start a new life with two little kids here. Think hard before taking any action. Hard to advice as each one has
to do what they feel is right. I was always working full time but now though not that old have chosen to not work. Maybe little later I might do something.
Do you think she has post natal depression?
I feel you have made the right decision for your mental health ✅ . Bahar bina househelp k kaam karna bahut difficult hai aur chota baccha bhi manage karna 🙏
Sayad aap mujhko samjh payi hai, thank you so much 🙏😊
Shayad mai 45din tk ghar se bhar nhi nikla tha 🫤Apko anxiety huwa hai... Bahar niklo ghumne, meditation karo Yoga karo👍
The winter season is so gloomy and dark in these countries, that it causes a lot of depression.
No sunlight and very cold weather, we Asians are not used to such a climate
Aap k child k future k baare me sochie.he will do much better there.india me bahot hi zyada competition hai in every aspects study,job think twice
its matter of getting used to 2 different lives of different countries
Please don't cry, i can relate to you how you are feeling right now.I am in Canada with my husband and 8 yrs old son.Sometimes i also feel really depressed and lonely,wants to go back to my country right away.But then i control my emotions,watch movie ,listen to song ,make yummy food dance do whatever makes you happy.
I am happy you did a good dicision to move back to india ,your daughter is too small ,she can adjust there quickly. This is the right time to go back.Nothing is in abroad,people only running after money here.
I think we need to live there where we feels happy.
We are also planning to leave Canada forever but due to my son he doesn't want to go we stuck here.
I am in Canada since 24 years. Let me tell you one thing. You need to find a way to deal with loneliness . Find a hobby, go to the temple, church whatever your religion is. Make friends. Learn something new. If you want to then you can overcome anything.
Me , my wife and daughter we returned to India after 10 yrs abroad...18 yrs now in India, it's ok
Great! 👍
It could be because of weather also. If this is the only issue then you could have consulted a doctor
Before deciding to leave. This is just a phase. Could be anxiety or hormonal changes. Counselling could have helped her. People generally go there for the betterment of kids life. At the end it's your decision . And india is our home country. Hope you have better life.
Bahut der se samaj aaya apko...ye first day se hota h...bt for money we accept all the things now you have earned enough so frustration, depression are common problem... housewives generally feel the same..my husband rejected his visa extension just because of this because i was feeling the same...now we are not thinking about money...kam kha lenge bt Khush rhenge...rone se kuch n hota either money or happiness you should have choose one
homesickness,
depressed winter in western countries
all these factors can lead to this but still there can be a way out
not sure everybody knows their situation better
100 % you are right 👍
I think dish washing you can take dishwasher
For depression you have to find out the way, you have to go for walk, you have to make friends so that you can chill out
Such a supportive family you have
❤️🙏
I understand your situation. Winter, loneliness, having a toddler to manage all by yourself along with the house chores and lack of social support can be extremely hard. I was in your situation many years back and choose to go back to India. We had good jobs and had our green card at that time, but overwhelming demands of life made us take that decision at that time. Also we settled extremely well when we returned back to India. However after 7 years we to choose to return back to USA mostly because of career challenges. I am extremely glad that we moved back to USA about 9 years back and we have settled back again with daughter pursuing college. We were sheer lucky that everything fell in place eventually but on a hind sight I think it would have been better not to go through all this back and forth. Please evaluate all aspects before you return back. Do you have close friends who can provide support and help with Adya. Do you work outside home? Maybe you can volunteer somewhere which will help you have more social interactions? Also if possible try to defer your decision till summer, seasonal depression is real. Good luck with whatever you choose to do.
nowadays its so easy to connect with family back in india with video cals, whatsapp etc husband bhi itna supportive hai 🤔🤔🤔
Don’t cry. Wear winter clothes and go out. Try meeting people. You will feel better. How others survive? Think like that. And pray. How do Indians survive there I wonder? You need to get a part time job. Not for the money. Just to meet people.
Aap aur bachhi phle chale jao , apne ghar ja k thoda rest lo and help from your family
i looked at ur other vlogs u looked happy , so suddenly what happened ??? u should know the world is in turmoil from 2020 think long term 🤔🤔🤔
As a woman we are living in India and as a working professional we are handling both our job and household work, how come your wife not able to manage only household work even she is a homemaker
How very compassionate ho rahi ho!! Not!!!...Try and understand what she is saying...Sach mein there is a difference being literate and educated. Tum mat hi socho kuchch
Every person is different
Yes@@NR-mp6dy
She is able to handle. It’s just because of winter. Sitting in the house this happens .
Option toh foreign country mein jyada hai har kaam k liye machine hai kounsa haath se karna hai India mein maid logon k tantrum jhelne padengey tab Dublin yaad aayega traffic mehengayi etc waha government dyaan rakhti hai v citizen ka yaha sab apna karna padta hai rather try to adjust there slowly you will like it India mein bohot pahchtaogey
Hath se kaam karna bhi pade to konsi badi baat he. Kaamchor pana bhot he aaj kal ki ladkiyon me
Lots of blessings for you hope you feel better, after listening to you I feel you have made the right decision as your mental health should be your priority 🙏🙏🙏
Don't worry Shashi, we all are with you, you made a right decision, jahan man lage wahin rehna chahiye. Agar man na kare jahan rehne ka wahin nahin rehna chahiye, abroad wagera zyada din maza nahin aaata. apna desh apna hi hota hai, aap aate hi theek ho jaoage, enjoy karoge. aap strong raho bus..please don't cry...you are a strong woman, we can understand your pain and situation!! Ladies ke liye bahut kaam hota hai ghar ka, humein yahan maid mil jaati hai India mein, bahut support hota hai unka...I can understand..and Happy Birthday to your hubby in advance!! :) Thode hi din reh gaye aapke India aane mein, then everything will get better...
Per Bahut sare ways hain man laga ne ke, I agree ki gloomy weather hai per Bahut Sara advantages hai wahan ka. Bahar nikaliye, logon se milo. Indian communities walon se miliye koi group bana lo, ghar per bulaiye Indian ladies ko. Aplog itne time se hain to I m sure Bahut sare friends ho Gaye honge
its not only social life but many more things. We hope to have better life in india.
Mai mere dost ke sath hi rahta tha jb se uska job lga tb se mai ghar pr hi rahta hu mai v bhot depressed rahne lga tha... Doctor uncle se salah liya unhone bola morning walk pr jao yoga karo meditation karo... Aur mai ab thik hu ye kar ke dekho aap🙂
Aap ke husband kitne supportive h yaar .household work kuch kaam nhi hota 3 people ho fir bi kaam kaam.main bi USA me hu job bi krti hu .1 beta bi h mera uska education sab main hi dekhti hu .reason mere husband ka kaam jyada pressure wala h.so please kaam ko leker nhi but akelapan bhut jyada h or apnapan kam h videsh me.please presaan mat ho aap
Kitna over ho rhi he my god
Aap kamchor ho or kuch nhi
Aur ek therapist dekhi ye , mai b apke jaise situation me thi , apko postpartum depression ki symptoms to nai hai
yaha key tej aur chalu logo say milegi to accha lagega.abi india ka system samaj nahi aya hei isliyey .mei toh india mei merna bhi nahi chahti.
Hi..even m missinh my goa...but cnt go cz of kids dy like uk n i like goa😢...i cn understand ur situation
आपके पति बहुत अच्छे है आप बहुत lucky हो जो आपको समझ रहे है. Dhiraj रखो. HaHanuman chalisa का जाप करो सब ठीक हो जाएगी.
So sweet baby
So nice 😮
Nothing only environment different ha
Apna desh apna hi hota hai,mei toh gaav chaley jaaneka sochta hu,aur baat hai pollution ki toh kya videsh mei koi bimaar nai padta...apney desh mei hi raho bus..
Love your blog aa jao India aekdm sahi ynha sab subhidha me delhi me rahti ynha mera char flet GK aor Dwarika me videsh se achha ❤
❤❤❤❤❤
Unko flight me bitha do
So job me nai hai to , India ja k kuch sa may break le lete .. bht se options hai , but ab to jane ki khushi manaiye , bachhe k saamne mat roiye ,
Hmlog bihar se nalanda se❤❤
Yei log lazy log hai itna rona dhona.They want maid to take care of family baccha cook food.yei sab chochle abroad mei bahut expensive hote hai.Tho depression maa ko yaad maid ki yaad sab yaad ayegi😂.
Don’t say like this ,every person is different ,she is saying she doesn’t have even taste in food ,how her emotional health is deteriorate u can’t imagine
Tumko pata hai abroad mein kya milta hai aur kya nahi kisi ka bhi majak banaoe. ever u gone through mental stress and anxiety or depression. The lady is sitting inside home from month no social life no family and on the top of that bad weather .She is going through mental stress which can lead to detoriate her physical health as well.
Bura mat man na Aap job bhi karte ho aur ghar ka kaam bhi? Esa thodi hota he yaar... Agar aapki wife bhi job karti to sahi baat he lekin wo homemaker ke. Baki jesi jiski soch
@@sainan4544 toh agar wife job nahin karti toh husband ne ghar ka kaam nahin karna chahiye.
@marvic76 ha, 3 logo ka kaam kuch jyada nahi hota.agar aap housewife he to ye aapki responsibility he ki ghar ka kaam kare ye nahi ki pati bichara bahar ka kaam bhi kare aur ghar ka bhi.
@@sainan4544 . Jab aadmi office jaata hai , kya use koi kaam main help nahin karta? Aur ghar ka kaam kabhi khatam nahin hota. Aur agar office main help mil sakti hai toh ghar main kyon nahin ? Aur aurat naukrani nahin hai.she is his better half . There is no such thing ki aurat ghar pe hai so she does not need help.
@marvic76 are aap itni selfish kesi ho sakti he, aapne kabhi jindgi esi job ki bhi jisse ghar chal paye to aap esa nahi bolti... Aapko pata bhi he ki job kitni stressful hoti he..? Aur mene kab kaha ki help nahi kar sakte, jo chiz sirf mard hi kar sakta he jese heavy weight uthana ya biwi ki tabiyat thik na ho tab ghar ka kaam karna lekin, ye to aap torture karne ki baat akr rhi ho pati ko. Sharam aani chaiye aapko
@marvic76 better half ka matlab ye nahi ki pati ka fayada uthao. Agar wo house me help karega to aap bhi fir financial support kare. Aapni soch thik karo. Etna alsi pana aur selfishness thik nahi.