wtf, is the husband doing, His has go go to therapy. He's clearly having some problems that he needs help with. Hope the wife/OP has some support and gets through this
Yo this is a looooong response but I agree with most of your just wanted to add to it. I’m not defending his actions at all. Everything leading up to the shit at the end was unacceptable and divorce was the correct course of action. There’s more to this though. Guaranteed this was the first time she’s ever noticed he wasn’t doing well mentally with losing two children. Her whole side of this screamed of emotional neglect toward their relationship. The comment about “the house is mine” definitely had come up before these incidents. She wasn’t in this marriage 100% she was in her career and in her own interests. She’s been through a lot and people have flaws so it’s not a condemnation of her to say that. The minimizing 12 hour work days for him was a big red flag. Claiming to pay all of the bills was a big red flag, it was either dishonest or it says she married a guy who wasn’t grown up enough to carry weight for their relationship. The “we were a happy couple” narrative is always a HUGE red flag for the person telling the story. I see it from dudes on Reddit all the time and when I read the story I go damn this dude really had his head in his ass of course she left. Healthy couples have arguments, then get past them and grow through it. A person in a healthy relationship is not going to bottle up every emotion they have until it boils over and results in domestic violence. Guys naturally do hide negative emotions from people they love but if your partner or teammate is actually a partner or teammate they are going to notice and address it. My wife and I have had many arguments a couple directly resulting from me hiding emotions from her because I didn’t want to worry her. But we talk about what’s bothering us and make the conscious choice not to throw verbal jabs while we do. Love isn’t the only thing required for a healthy marriage. Open communication, genuine empathy and understanding go a LONG way.
Honestly this story is heartbreaking real or not, how dare the SIL think she was entitled to OP’s nursery in OP’s HOME especially after treating her like trash, and that so called husband just allowed his sister to walk all over his wife, didn’t even feel guilty/apologetic for what they both did until they were being thrown out, they should be ashamed of themselves, I’m glad OP dropped that man child coz he clearly never deserved her.
I am so tired of these “I’m the pregnant one “ scenarios. For crying out loud, I worked right up to my due date for three babies plus did housework. What’s wrong with women that they think they should be so ridiculously lazy.
I'm not trying to start a fight and im not on the sister in laws side, this is just pertaining to your comment. I'm pregnant and from 3 weeks I've been vomiting everyday since, i can't keep anything down and I'm in my second semester so not all women can work until their due date especially if they are having difficulty during pregnancy
I will not disagree with what you are saying, Kimelda. I know many women have nausea and morning, sickness, and all the things that go with it. I wasn’t making light of that simply because I didn’t experience it. The irritation I felt over this short was because the pregnant woman wasn’t even capable of picking up after herself. Frankly, I don’t believe she was so sick that she couldn’t do some simple chores and help keep her own space clean. But, thank you for your reply, and for reminding me of the other side of the coin.
Fr, I feel bad for the baby. If she won't even pick up after herself and do her own dishes, then how the heck will she be able to take care of her baby.
Good for her. She gave enough chances to make it right before it exploded and then even gave a last chance to make it right. Sure, the husband tried to get past his trauma by taking his sister child in as his, but he compeltely forgot he had a grieving wife at home. Like, he never even did talk properly about this with her.
Absolutely ntah. That man is unworthy of being a husband and the sil is a hellspawn. Op did absolutely the right thing. The husband should have helped her, put the sil in her place and never tolerated disrespect toward the woman he claimed to love.
yeah no. instant divorce. how cruel. why marry someone if you are just gonna destroy that person? right when he blamed her for the miscarriage, i would probably end up in jail.
What did the husband even do? Like the wife worked, cleaned, and more and from this story the husband actually did nothing and just was angry with the wife and destroyed her things. She should have divorced him quicker because from what we know he did nothing and the sister in law is just an asshole, my mom was pregnant with my little brother when I was younger and she still did everything she used to and sometimes she couldn’t bend down so she would ask me or my older sister and I know pregnancy could be different for some people but that sister in law was just making another pregnant women clean her crap.
I wonder if he was waiting on her like this when she was pregnant, making excuses for her, putting her wants above the needs of others. Based off the treatment he seems to think pregnant people deserve, it doesn't matter if he works 12 hour shifts, the next 4 hours must have all been serving her ...I doubt it 💅
That's the dumbest reason to not believe this story. I constantly want to text someone what just happened to me over even the most banal thing. It's reasonable that she felt the need to tell someone and sounds like she didn't have a particular person in mind.
Honestly made me belive it a bit more. Personally when I get into a fit i wanna write to someone, and I dont have anyone it would be a diary. So making a post doesnt seem to far in my world atleast.
So instead of going to therapy or talking it out over the loss of two of your babies, he projected it onto being over protective of his pregnant sister, and treated you like it’s your fault that the babies died. What an asshole.
@@WillowThe_Gacha Cool, property damage VS aggravated assault, which do you think carries a harsher punishment? Now you say the house wasn't his, cool, but he still lived there. So the ownership of the property is not relevant.
@@nophone9311 yes it is. By law, if only ONE person owns the house, they have the right to kick out anyone, even their own spouses and kids, unless the kid is a minor. So while she DID slap him, HE was the one who came to the house unannounced to provoke her and then in a fit of rage, started DESTROYING the house. Her person belongings, the walls, the property IN the home. Thats 3x times worse the damage, which would make HIS punishment worse, actually
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wtf, is the husband doing, His has go go to therapy. He's clearly having some problems that he needs help with. Hope the wife/OP has some support and gets through this
Yo this is a looooong response but I agree with most of your just wanted to add to it.
I’m not defending his actions at all. Everything leading up to the shit at the end was unacceptable and divorce was the correct course of action.
There’s more to this though.
Guaranteed this was the first time she’s ever noticed he wasn’t doing well mentally with losing two children. Her whole side of this screamed of emotional neglect toward their relationship.
The comment about “the house is mine” definitely had come up before these incidents. She wasn’t in this marriage 100% she was in her career and in her own interests. She’s been through a lot and people have flaws so it’s not a condemnation of her to say that.
The minimizing 12 hour work days for him was a big red flag. Claiming to pay all of the bills was a big red flag, it was either dishonest or it says she married a guy who wasn’t grown up enough to carry weight for their relationship. The “we were a happy couple” narrative is always a HUGE red flag for the person telling the story.
I see it from dudes on Reddit all the time and when I read the story I go damn this dude really had his head in his ass of course she left.
Healthy couples have arguments, then get past them and grow through it. A person in a healthy relationship is not going to bottle up every emotion they have until it boils over and results in domestic violence. Guys naturally do hide negative emotions from people they love but if your partner or teammate is actually a partner or teammate they are going to notice and address it.
My wife and I have had many arguments a couple directly resulting from me hiding emotions from her because I didn’t want to worry her. But we talk about what’s bothering us and make the conscious choice not to throw verbal jabs while we do. Love isn’t the only thing required for a healthy marriage.
Open communication, genuine empathy and understanding go a LONG way.
Honestly this story is heartbreaking real or not, how dare the SIL think she was entitled to OP’s nursery in OP’s HOME especially after treating her like trash, and that so called husband just allowed his sister to walk all over his wife, didn’t even feel guilty/apologetic for what they both did until they were being thrown out, they should be ashamed of themselves, I’m glad OP dropped that man child coz he clearly never deserved her.
I am so tired of these “I’m the pregnant one “ scenarios. For crying out loud, I worked right up to my due date for three babies plus did housework. What’s wrong with women that they think they should be so ridiculously lazy.
The other side of that is the story’s where husbands say that the wives should do everything around the house while pregnant and refuse to do sh!t
I'm not trying to start a fight and im not on the sister in laws side, this is just pertaining to your comment. I'm pregnant and from 3 weeks I've been vomiting everyday since, i can't keep anything down and I'm in my second semester so not all women can work until their due date especially if they are having difficulty during pregnancy
I will not disagree with what you are saying, Kimelda. I know many women have nausea and morning, sickness, and all the things that go with it. I wasn’t making light of that simply because I didn’t experience it. The irritation I felt over this short was because the pregnant woman wasn’t even capable of picking up after herself. Frankly, I don’t believe she was so sick that she couldn’t do some simple chores and help keep her own space clean.
But, thank you for your reply, and for reminding me of the other side of the coin.
Fr, I feel bad for the baby. If she won't even pick up after herself and do her own dishes, then how the heck will she be able to take care of her baby.
@@kimeldagovender9145, Did you listen to the whole story?
Good for her. She gave enough chances to make it right before it exploded and then even gave a last chance to make it right.
Sure, the husband tried to get past his trauma by taking his sister child in as his, but he compeltely forgot he had a grieving wife at home. Like, he never even did talk properly about this with her.
Absolutely ntah. That man is unworthy of being a husband and the sil is a hellspawn. Op did absolutely the right thing. The husband should have helped her, put the sil in her place and never tolerated disrespect toward the woman he claimed to love.
yeah no. instant divorce. how cruel. why marry someone if you are just gonna destroy that person? right when he blamed her for the miscarriage, i would probably end up in jail.
What did the husband even do? Like the wife worked, cleaned, and more and from this story the husband actually did nothing and just was angry with the wife and destroyed her things. She should have divorced him quicker because from what we know he did nothing and the sister in law is just an asshole, my mom was pregnant with my little brother when I was younger and she still did everything she used to and sometimes she couldn’t bend down so she would ask me or my older sister and I know pregnancy could be different for some people but that sister in law was just making another pregnant women clean her crap.
The only thing we know is that he worked 12 hours shifts and defends his sister's actions.
I wonder if he was waiting on her like this when she was pregnant, making excuses for her, putting her wants above the needs of others. Based off the treatment he seems to think pregnant people deserve, it doesn't matter if he works 12 hour shifts, the next 4 hours must have all been serving her
...I doubt it 💅
I believed this right till she said she pushed past everyone while in a fit of rage to run up and immediately type this out for reddit 😯
That's the dumbest reason to not believe this story. I constantly want to text someone what just happened to me over even the most banal thing. It's reasonable that she felt the need to tell someone and sounds like she didn't have a particular person in mind.
Honestly made me belive it a bit more.
Personally when I get into a fit i wanna write to someone, and I dont have anyone it would be a diary.
So making a post doesnt seem to far in my world atleast.
So instead of going to therapy or talking it out over the loss of two of your babies, he projected it onto being over protective of his pregnant sister, and treated you like it’s your fault that the babies died. What an asshole.
I wouldn't sue. You assulted him first.
Yes, but he destroyed the house AND deserved the slap. Plus, he showed up at a house that isn’t his and taunted the owner
@@WillowThe_Gacha Cool, property damage VS aggravated assault, which do you think carries a harsher punishment? Now you say the house wasn't his, cool, but he still lived there. So the ownership of the property is not relevant.
@nophone9311 Ooo, yes, slap VS broken wall.
@@nophone9311 yes it is. By law, if only ONE person owns the house, they have the right to kick out anyone, even their own spouses and kids, unless the kid is a minor. So while she DID slap him, HE was the one who came to the house unannounced to provoke her and then in a fit of rage, started DESTROYING the house. Her person belongings, the walls, the property IN the home. Thats 3x times worse the damage, which would make HIS punishment worse, actually
Wonder how old this is
4 months old story