That's my husband right now.... His mum controls him and he's taken us to live with his mum. I'm in serious debt because of him taking care of my children and I'm so done right now. I just need a little money to move out with my children. At a time this year in May he's told me he was leaving me and the children to go be with his mistress. Right now, I care not.
I'm presently on sick bed since yesterday due to malaria, typhoid and ulcer (he's been starving me with hunger) the doctor will be coming to administer treatment till Wednesday.
I wouldn't be surprised if the due date haunts them in some way since they became pariah for their actions. This is the day that led to their down fall, David(or whatever his real name is since someone pointed out this is something from Japan) to eventually lose his job/money(along the person he considered a slave) along with his & his parents' reputations going down hill.(Especially with how they kept responding which made things worse)
@@alipeacock3685 if my parents heard about this happening to one of my friends not even me (for example) she would have been in her car with a baseball bat within 5 minutes of hearing the story 100%
Years ago my husband made the mistake of saying “my mom does it like this”. I said well my name is Alice and I’m not Merlene. It didn’t happen again 😂😂
Goes both ways. When my wife suggested dinner should be prepared in another way, my "what you suggest is how my mom does it" instantly made her drop that thought. oO
After 35 years of marrige 3children he never helped out either i swear the drinkers suck Know My Give a Dams Busted iam never going to lay down for any man.Why do u have to drink so much any way?????Can you say Narrasist.😢
Thirty years here. I can't put into words how wonderful he is to me. We value each other. We weather the crummy times, we treasure the good ones. I wouldn't trade him for anything or anyone.
I worked 16 hour shift when I was pregnant. Being pregnant is not a luxury, if u can't keep up with housework and working then you really need to get your priorities straight.
@@brittanyglodowski2477 in which barbaric country do you live? Here in Germany nightwork and working longer that 8 hours are outlawed for pregnant people. You are also not allowed to work for 6 weeks before and 8 weeks after birth. Pregnancy is no joke.
imagine being a jerk and demanding an apology and treating your wife like a slave imagine trying to cover up the entire thing in order to perserve your sense of *Frail Ego*
Op's friends leap to defend their friend the very moment she finally accepted that she needed to leave this relationship. They knew that they could not force her to leave her husband, but they patiently wait to be by her side when she was ready to leave.
I would have divorced him so fast his head would turn. I’m breaking up with my boyfriend now because he has threatened me and he always compares me to his ex wife.
@@SuryaSea I’m okay I just stay as far away from him as I can. I live beside my mom and my daughter and my son in law are moving two houses down so I’m just fine. Plus I have my puppies that let me know if anything is outside. Thanks for your concern. 🙂
Never (IMHO) stay in a relationship with abuse. And you are carrying a kid!? Please understand that your kid will be his next victim. I was that next victim age 3 to 15. Running away is the only reason I could graduate high school
@@GummyBearWAmy mom lived this way. Even my grandma asked my dad why he beat her if he didn’t love her he should just leave her for my grandma to take care of. My mom married young & my dad talked a big game of how he was gonna take care of her love her blah blah blah, but he ended up being drunk, out with his buddies many nights & abusive when he came home. So irl my mom’s situation seems way worse than this story.😢
This story is from Japan. In Japan you can actually get divorced by mutually signed divorce papers; the trick is to get the reluctant party to sign them. Thats where the lawyer comes in. He was provided by the family friend and his job is to point out to the husband all the consequences of not signing, which means going to court and all the costs that would incur. Husband would have to get a lawyer, can he afford one? in a case that he's guaranteed to lose. OP has the upper hand especially because her husband is a fool and OP has powerful social connections. In Japan custody automatically goes to the mother, and she gets to decide whether and if the father or his family get to see the child. The scene outside the hospital were the inlaws trying to get around this and kidnap the child and his mother to get physical possession of both because neither the police or the courts will interfere in what goes on in a home. That why OPs friend hired private security for her. Also the fact that ex husband was demoted and basically forced to resign is how the Japanese deal with people who offend the boss for whatever reason. This story actually gives you a pretty good cautionary snapshot of modern Japan and tells you be careful whom you marry, because in real life there is no rescuer like Sarah to save you from a bad marraige.
@@Cheshyre. I have said this many times- use Japanese names for the characters and Japanese names for the locations. It automatically makes everything make much more sense when we know it is Japan (if you have any understanding of Japanese culture). There has only been one story so far that uses Japanese names, and I have read hundreds of these stories.
I'm so glad she divorced this man, all I can say is what a jerk, he and his family so deserved everything they got and get, they should of raised him to be more kind caring and understanding
Sarah is an incredible person I’m so happy she was such a good friend and was there for this lady she really needed such a kind person in her corner then
He didn't love her.Sounds like she was just a maid and cook for him.If he had loved her and the baby he wouldn't have left. She is much better off without him!!
@@michelletaylor8186 y’all keep saying he didn’t love her like love is even an option. Men cannot love. That’s like saying someone’s skin isn’t green as a lament as though green was ever possible.
I'm glad OP went into labor before she went on that trip. Being forced to go on a "trip" right before birth is sus. Something tells me they wanted the baby and to find a way to get rid of her after. Thank god nature kicked in, who knows what could have happened. Wishing her a happier life without him!
This man is not right at all and is not doing what the most high God tells a man to do, see what God tells a man, a man will leave his father and mother and he will stick to his wife and they will become one meaning that they stand as one of their decisions because God hates a divorce, Malachi 2:16., a man is to love his wife as his own body, Ephesians.5:25-33, your husband is a very weak and evil man because he is depending on his parents and should be sticking to you in everything can you see he do not love you and his baby, this man parents are evil people as well.
@@maryhudson8643 I think men can do what thrh want bc there isn’t actually any god. I still can’t believe how much women fell for it. “Have faith”. What if it was all a lie? How can you be sure it’s not?
Im pregnant and would never want to give birth alone. Thankfully ny grandma is going to be with ne since the dad is a deadbeat. Glad she is leaving that abuser.
What gets me about these comments is how few people take cultural context into account. I can imagine that in Japan it might be much more difficult socially to be a divorced woman than in the USA, for example. Especially if your friends & family disapprove. But having witnesses & evidence of the husband's abuse turned this around & against him instead. The OP comments that this disapproval would be harder for the in laws than any legal consequences, for example. Thanks to those who explained Japanese divorce.
Well as i know lots of people in japan leave lonely because they dont want to be in the family system frames , or they want career not sitting home with children . But their upbringing and social norms pressure is high still unfortunately
I lived this. Got triggers listening to story. Even the rudeness with each of my pregnancies. 31 and a 1/2 years of marriage endured. 10 years divorced. After grieving awhile from the loss of what could have been a decent marriage but wasnt, i finally could start to be thankful i was released from the oppression.
My ex was a narcissistic A**h****! He almost chose to go fishing over taking me to the hospital. If it weren't for his mother and her boyfriend, he would have left me. I ended up getting a helicopter ride to another hospital because my baby was 5 weeks early. I ended up staying married 9 more years. It was a very rocky marriage. My daughter is an amazing awesome person! ❤
so in other words when your in you dont even know untill you its either pointed OUT TO YOU or you are able to to step away and examine the behavioral patterns of the said partner and not everyone is gonna know how to spot a narcisist i wasn't *"in a relationship"* but rather i was close friends with one
for over a year i had no idea i was tricked by the narcisistic (close friend) i had she was using me as a punching bag and her *"healing tree"* the entire time because of my special gift of being able to heal others long story short i cut ties with her 1 and a half years later its been 2 years and she STILL wants me back
Sounds like what I went through except giving birth alone to my son. My mother was watching my daughter and I was left at the hospital by my son's father.
The husband is a cheating, alcoholic narcissist. The wife is a victim of his abuse, and it will take her years to recover from that. She’s fortunate to have parents and good friends to help.
But why did he call in a panic and say, "help me"? It sounds like he started blowing up her phone soon after OP got to the hospital, just after her parents arrived, too soon for Lisa to have even called her husband, much less for Lisa's husband to have called OP's husband while traveling and fired him.
It never stated when exactly Sarah posted. So it wouldn't be surprising if she posted the same day they got her to the hospital. While Lisa talked to her husband about OP's husband's job prospects at the company.
I have to admit a similar thought occurred to me! If nothing else getting the s**t kicked out of him! Or, having him arrested. That would have been good!
"Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you get special treatment." I agree... but the husband does not treat his wife with respect or love... she deserve much better.
I am so sorry for her - but I know the feeling I have been there myself - it hurts to do what needs to be done but in the end you find a strengh you never thought you can have
I don’t think it’s okay to call OP weak. It’s obviously a different culture and I think she might have learned from a young age a wife is supposed to be agreeable towards her husband. She just tried to be a good wife despite her husband being an Ahole.
Actually some abusers don't go after weak people they go after strong willed people they see them as a challenge to break them and make them weak. Op might not have always been that way. So yes she became weak but it probably took years of dealing with his bs to break her down. Thankfully OP had so many friends with high social statuses she was planning her escape without even realizing it. 😅
She was officily married to her husband but practically she married her inlaws. Who are blaming everyone else but themself, problebly by trauma from growing up. Its so sad, its a way of surviving. Unless they choose to change, nothing can help them...
Not necessarily. This happens in a lot of wet behind the ears men, who never cut the umbilical cord, as it were. They often have VERY close ties to their mother. It's sickening. This happens SO often, there's even a name for it. It's called "emotional incest". Pretty grose, huh?
OMG... I'm only 6 minutes in, and all I can think of is: RUN. Divorce and RUN. This guy is highly toxic toward you and ypur self esteem. This is not a typical man. You can totally find someone who will appreciate you. This is NOT normal. GO... now.
likely this same idiot: *you cant blame me for knocking you out cold and giving you a concussion while i was drunk* Guess what? A jail cell is just a room Yea and the electric chair is just a *"Chair"*
Laziness of mind, attitude and no consideration at all. The tongue is only a small part of the body, but it can boast evil words of hate and anger. It also shouts and swear ugly words so the whole neighbourhood can hear. God bless you Lisa and your little angel🧚 and another guardian angel Sarah being by your side to see you through. May the Lord God also lead guide and direct you and your little one safely through lifes journey❤
As a victim of narcissistic abuse, I can verify that it’s difficult to get over it and you don’t really see it as abuse until looking back because I kept thinking that if only I had been perfect, things would improve. I blamed myself for everything. It was only after some time away and counseling that I could see what was really going on. Unless someone been through it, it’s difficult to understand.
@@xOrionNebula2708 present life is amazing. I live in a better city and home now. I make more money than when i was married. The dude i’ve been seeing treats me like i’m the most precious person in his life after his daughter. He’s so attentive to things i want & say. Example:in passing i texted sloppy joes sound so tasty. I wish the food court sold some. When he picked me up from work, that day, he had bought all the stuff for sloppy joes and had flowers laying on my bed for me. & we cooked the food together cause i love cooking & he’s learning. The ex is miserable at his mom’s house. & when my mini spends time with his dad is all video game/steam time cause i don’t have wifi at home. Only internet is my cell. No netflix or hulu at “real home”(what my mini calls my place). Life is soooo much better in the now. Despite me thinking it was over when my divorce happened.
Please. Tell me. How many languages do you read and speak? Do you write in other languages? I’ve lived in Asia. English is a pretty tough language to learn, since it has rules-and then those rules are broken. I think perhaps this is an ESL poster-so when YOU can post this same content IN ANOTHER LANGUAGE, you can complain. Until then, kindly, STFU.
Seriously…a family trip when she is due any day now??? Seriously…THROWING her out of the car while in LABOR??? Seriously…disowning your own child and refusing child support??? I can’t believe ANY of that so I definitely don’t believe she had sexual relations with that demon ten months ago that resulted in a pregnancy 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Oh, I believe it! He's obviously a narcissist, and narcissists can be VERY charming at first to bag themselves a wife. Once the woman is "trapped" and can't go anywhere, the mask comes right off and they don't bother hiding their inner ugliness anymore, and they are cold and cruel to their wives. That is how she got into this predicament. Once she was baby trapped, he thought he had complete control over her. Oh how wrong he was, lol!
If you say : David goes back to his parents on weekends. The next phrase would be: he has a deep bond with his parents. Not " in- laws". Because David's parents are YOUR in- laws. And YOUR parents are his in laws. But i enjoy the story. Would like for the revenge to be as long as the suffering. To give readers satisfaction, that is😅
@@xOrionNebula2708 not quite animal. I actually think they are less than that. They are more like a virus. And the mixture of that into a human corporeal is the creature.
David's the kind of husband that's very selfish and all he cares about is himself. That's pretty obvious That you're his servant built in maid. I feel very sorry for you to be married to that😢 You're actually better off to get a divorce because obviously he don't care about you as much as you think he does
It's narcissistic abuse. I've lived it too. The abuse starts off slow, and by the time it gets to ridiculous level, you're so ground down from it, daily, that you think nothing of it, and you think it's normal. All you can think about is not to make them angry at you. It messes you up a lot. You can't even think straight and are constantly in a state of confusion, due to the narcissists' abuses. They do it to you deliberately, so you don't have time to think clearly about what is being done to you. Look up the effects narcissistic abuse has on someone. It is truly devastating and causes lifelong damage.
so by the time you are being manipulated you dont even know you are so you arent even able to see any red flags sometimes the manipulation is very slow and insidious and almost IMPOSSIBLE to dectect
I wondered where this was from. I’m in America when rice is sold in one to two pound bags. Then I seen the comment saying it was from Japan. I know they eat more rice than we do so I can see buying it in large bulk. Thank you.
At first he pretended he was everything she needed, when she got pregnant and was actually trapped, he showed his real face because he wanted a mommy with benefits for himself.
The wife should left David the sooner. To be treated his wife as slave during pregnancy is cruel. Worst still to left the wife during the birth is like murdering. Good the wife left him.
Since you are pregnant and this is how your husband and mother in law treating you leave the house and go back to your parents home. Tell him and his mother that you are not their maid.
Bro didn't want a wife, he wanted a maid with benefits. Disgusting.
THIS!
THIS!
It's more insane she stayed all that long.
That's my husband right now.... His mum controls him and he's taken us to live with his mum. I'm in serious debt because of him taking care of my children and I'm so done right now. I just need a little money to move out with my children. At a time this year in May he's told me he was leaving me and the children to go be with his mistress. Right now, I care not.
I'm presently on sick bed since yesterday due to malaria, typhoid and ulcer (he's been starving me with hunger) the doctor will be coming to administer treatment till Wednesday.
@@oselinda174 SUE HIM NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DIVORCE HIM NOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This husband & parents knew her due date & did it on purpose. Glad she got rid of those scumbags.
I wouldn't be surprised if the due date haunts them in some way since they became pariah for their actions. This is the day that led to their down fall, David(or whatever his real name is since someone pointed out this is something from Japan) to eventually lose his job/money(along the person he considered a slave) along with his & his parents' reputations going down hill.(Especially with how they kept responding which made things worse)
It's true to my thoughts
Absolutely what awful people
@@alipeacock3685 if my parents heard about this happening to one of my friends not even me (for example) she would have been in her car with a baseball bat within 5 minutes of hearing the story 100%
Years ago my husband made the mistake of saying “my mom does it like this”. I said well my name is Alice and I’m not Merlene. It didn’t happen again 😂😂
I wish the idiot I'm with got this memo.
I'd probably have been Bruder and made some comment about, well then he can go to his mom for intimacy as well...
😅
@@magdad3197 😂😂😂
Goes both ways. When my wife suggested dinner should be prepared in another way, my "what you suggest is how my mom does it" instantly made her drop that thought. oO
It's a no win situation as the partner like this will always find something wrong with every single situation.
He is an example of a classic narcisist!
@@catalinadoinapreda3653 true
Sadly, I experienced that. I’m better off now that I don’t have to put up with that anymore.
I was in a relationship like this. It was and is absolute hell
After 35 years of marrige 3children he never helped out either i swear the drinkers suck Know My Give a Dams Busted iam never going to lay down for any man.Why do u have to drink so much any way?????Can you say Narrasist.😢
My husband spoke to me like that once...God rest his soul 😂
Hahaha same 😂 don't he dare
I love your reply! God rest his soul!!!😂😂😂😂😂
He would be speaking with God
😂😂😂😂😂😂 your garden is so beautiful what kind of fertilizer do you use 😂😂
18 years later and my guy has never raised his voice against me. He obviously knows better! 😅😂
I have been married for 20 years and my husband makes me feel loved every day.
I will be married 26 years March 27th 2024 and we love each other as if its the first day
I'm very jealous, and wish you all the best for the next 20 years ❤. I thought I picked well when I met my kids father, but yet here we are lol
2 days ago, my parents celebrated 40 years.
You are very lucky!
Thirty years here. I can't put into words how wonderful he is to me. We value each other. We weather the crummy times, we treasure the good ones. I wouldn't trade him for anything or anyone.
“Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you get special treatment” Oh, okay, tough guy, you try it then.
You are so wrong. You carry a 8lb baby.
I worked 16 hour shift when I was pregnant. Being pregnant is not a luxury, if u can't keep up with housework and working then you really need to get your priorities straight.
@@brittanyglodowski2477no one said it was. op was quoting the husband and made a funny remark
@@brittanyglodowski2477 Working 16 hours while pregnant is the fault of your chosen partner no man / woman should let their pregnant partner do that.
@@brittanyglodowski2477 in which barbaric country do you live? Here in Germany nightwork and working longer that 8 hours are outlawed for pregnant people. You are also not allowed to work for 6 weeks before and 8 weeks after birth.
Pregnancy is no joke.
Says he want to apologize then proceeds to demand an apology himself...
Well that's how men children act.
imagine being a jerk and demanding an apology and treating your wife like a slave imagine trying to cover up the entire thing in order to perserve your sense of *Frail Ego*
27:41 “let’s be a couple again”
You weren’t a couple. You were her leech.
And completely leaving out the new baby. What a piece of work.
He was the leech
nah hes a *ROACH*
@@JasonPowers-rw8rf Parasite
@@xOrionNebula2708 yea. Leech parasyte roach, all of the above
Op's friends leap to defend their friend the very moment she finally accepted that she needed to leave this relationship. They knew that they could not force her to leave her husband, but they patiently wait to be by her side when she was ready to leave.
I would have divorced him so fast his head would turn. I’m breaking up with my boyfriend now because he has threatened me and he always compares me to his ex wife.
You don’t deserve to be compared to anyone else. And if his ex was so great why aren’t they still together.
so glad you notice this now! please dont be alone with him when you do this
You ok boo? Update us?!
@@SuryaSea I’m okay I just stay as far away from him as I can. I live beside my mom and my daughter and my son in law are moving two houses down so I’m just fine. Plus I have my puppies that let me know if anything is outside. Thanks for your concern. 🙂
It's true to my thoughts
Five minutes in and I want a divorced😅
you want a divorced man or woman ? or just a divorce
Exactly!
@@jyvben1520a divorce from that man 🤣
🎯
It's true to my thoughts
What a true friend Sara was! Thank goodness!❤
Maybe David should move home to his mother, wife is better off without this baby/man.
Never (IMHO) stay in a relationship with abuse. And you are carrying a kid!? Please understand that your kid will be his next victim.
I was that next victim age 3 to 15. Running away is the only reason I could graduate high school
Thankfully, these stories are fiction.
@@GummyBearWAthis maybe but many r living this reality. The op just said it was their life story
@@GummyBearWAmy mom lived this way. Even my grandma asked my dad why he beat her if he didn’t love her he should just leave her for my grandma to take care of. My mom married young & my dad talked a big game of how he was gonna take care of her love her blah blah blah, but he ended up being drunk, out with his buddies many nights & abusive when he came home. So irl my mom’s situation seems way worse than this story.😢
‘Maybe he no longer sees me as family’ 9:11
He no longer (if he ever did) sees you as human.
This story is from Japan. In Japan you can actually get divorced by mutually signed divorce papers; the trick is to get the reluctant party to sign them. Thats where the lawyer comes in. He was provided by the family friend and his job is to point out to the husband all the consequences of not signing, which means going to court and all the costs that would incur. Husband would have to get a lawyer, can he afford one? in a case that he's guaranteed to lose. OP has the upper hand especially because her husband is a fool and OP has powerful social connections. In Japan custody automatically goes to the mother, and she gets to decide whether and if the father or his family get to see the child. The scene outside the hospital were the inlaws trying to get around this and kidnap the child and his mother to get physical possession of both because neither the police or the courts will interfere in what goes on in a home. That why OPs friend hired private security for her. Also the fact that ex husband was demoted and basically forced to resign is how the Japanese deal with people who offend the boss for whatever reason. This story actually gives you a pretty good cautionary snapshot of modern Japan and tells you be careful whom you marry, because in real life there is no rescuer like Sarah to save you from a bad marraige.
Thanks for explaining how divorce wthere.
Thank you. These authors need to stop throwing on the whitest bread names they can to make them appear to be Western. It's rude.
Thank you very much for this reply....you explained a lot
@@Cheshyre. I have said this many times- use Japanese names for the characters and Japanese names for the locations. It automatically makes everything make much more sense when we know it is Japan (if you have any understanding of Japanese culture). There has only been one story so far that uses Japanese names, and I have read hundreds of these stories.
Thank you so much for the explanation. It clears up a lot of confusion for me.
I'm so glad she divorced this man, all I can say is what a jerk, he and his family so deserved everything they got and get, they should of raised him to be more kind caring and understanding
Sarah is an incredible person I’m so happy she was such a good friend and was there for this lady she really needed such a kind person in her corner then
He didn't love her.Sounds like she was just a maid and cook for him.If he had loved her and the baby he wouldn't have left. She is much better off without him!!
She needs to love herself and know she doesn’t deserve this treatment.
Yeah, many men and also women settle with kind and soft people because those people are easy to control.
@@michelletaylor8186 y’all keep saying he didn’t love her like love is even an option. Men cannot love. That’s like saying someone’s skin isn’t green as a lament as though green was ever possible.
I'm glad OP went into labor before she went on that trip. Being forced to go on a "trip" right before birth is sus. Something tells me they wanted the baby and to find a way to get rid of her after. Thank god nature kicked in, who knows what could have happened. Wishing her a happier life without him!
It's true to my thoughts
Very good riddens to David FOREVER!!!
“ A Leopard Never
Changes His. Spots !”
Docs and airlines don't like for you to fly in your last trimester
@@Susan-fj8en Lmao 100%
Poor excuse of a husband.
poor excuse? hes the biggest joke i have ever seen
She was better off without that awful man for a husband and his horrible parents.
“Just bc you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you get special treatment.”
Sounds like he doesn’t want her to be treated better than him ?!!
This man is not right at all and is not doing what the most high God tells a man to do, see what God tells a man, a man will leave his father and mother and he will stick to his wife and they will become one meaning that they stand as one of their decisions because God hates a divorce, Malachi 2:16., a man is to love his wife as his own body, Ephesians.5:25-33, your husband is a very weak and evil man because he is depending on his parents and should be sticking to you in everything can you see he do not love you and his baby, this man parents are evil people as well.
@@maryhudson8643 the most high is a concoction. THAT is why most men are engaged in bs. They used it to lie to women.
Thank goodness that I was blessed with a loving human being
❤
@@rosamundcarpenter8718 “human” being. Lol. Sure
@@maryhudson8643 I think men can do what thrh want bc there isn’t actually any god. I still can’t believe how much women fell for it. “Have faith”. What if it was all a lie? How can you be sure it’s not?
If my husband spoke to me like that in the presence of my mother he would be in the hospital my mom would be in mama bear mode
yea same
even if it wasnt me if i told her this happened to my friend she would have had the exact same reaction
Im pregnant and would never want to give birth alone. Thankfully ny grandma is going to be with ne since the dad is a deadbeat. Glad she is leaving that abuser.
😂 why did you decide to have a baby with a deadbeat?! That's crazy
@@BjornAlands Rude much?
@@BjornAlands tf you on about
@@BjornAlands stay away from drugs🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡
What gets me about these comments is how few people take cultural context into account. I can imagine that in Japan it might be much more difficult socially to be a divorced woman than in the USA, for example. Especially if your friends & family disapprove. But having witnesses & evidence of the husband's abuse turned this around & against him instead. The OP comments that this disapproval would be harder for the in laws than any legal consequences, for example. Thanks to those who explained Japanese divorce.
She still Ended up divorcing him, but now she's a single mom. It would've been easier in every sense of the word if she'd left him before that
Well as i know lots of people in japan leave lonely because they dont want to be in the family system frames , or they want career not sitting home with children . But their upbringing and social norms pressure is high still unfortunately
The host's voice is so calming; it's perfect for a long drive or relaxing at home.
3 minutes in and I already want to divorce this mf.
I think she ignored the red flags before marriage. So glad she woke up.
I ignored the red flags before marriage and ignored some WTF moments after.
How did he not end up under the patio? This story is from Japan. In Japan you can actually get divorced by mutually signed divorce papers
As soon as the beer conversation happened that was enough for me to leave 😅 let’s listen to the rest 😳
Same. I was done then. I thought......he's found someone else. It's the same thing with many selfish people.
cruelty behavior can't be accepted part of couples life, respect and care is needed specifically.
Who hasn't experienced such callous indifference and disregard from their 'partners'. It seems to be an essential part of their informal education.
A lot of people. This is not normal
I lived this. Got triggers listening to story. Even the rudeness with each of my pregnancies. 31 and a 1/2 years of marriage endured. 10 years divorced. After grieving awhile from the loss of what could have been a decent marriage but wasnt, i finally could start to be thankful i was released from the oppression.
My ex was a narcissistic A**h****!
He almost chose to go fishing over taking me to the hospital. If it weren't for his mother and her boyfriend, he would have left me.
I ended up getting a helicopter ride to another hospital because my baby was 5 weeks early.
I ended up staying married 9 more years. It was a very rocky marriage.
My daughter is an amazing awesome person! ❤
Lol...I would have ditched that narcissist before even getting pregnant...sheez
well yea sure but ever heard of *"Master Manipulators"* yea some are so good at it you cant even NOTICE there narcisistic behavioral patterns
so in other words when your in you dont even know untill you its either pointed OUT TO YOU or you are able to to step away and examine the behavioral patterns of the said partner and not everyone is gonna know how to spot a narcisist i wasn't *"in a relationship"* but rather i was close friends with one
for over a year i had no idea i was tricked by the narcisistic (close friend) i had she was using me as a punching bag and her *"healing tree"* the entire time because of my special gift of being able to heal others long story short i cut ties with her 1 and a half years later its been 2 years and she STILL wants me back
This was a very heartfelt story. I’m glad that the ending was done.
Sounds like what I went through except giving birth alone to my son.
My mother was watching my daughter and I was left at the hospital by my son's father.
How sad, I hope you ended up ok. Did you stay or leave?
😢😢He is a horrible person!!
I would tell him to move there permanently. You don’t need him
The husband is a cheating, alcoholic narcissist. The wife is a victim of his abuse, and it will take her years to recover from that.
She’s fortunate to have parents and good friends to help.
But why did he call in a panic and say, "help me"? It sounds like he started blowing up her phone soon after OP got to the hospital, just after her parents arrived, too soon for Lisa to have even called her husband, much less for Lisa's husband to have called OP's husband while traveling and fired him.
It never stated when exactly Sarah posted. So it wouldn't be surprising if she posted the same day they got her to the hospital. While Lisa talked to her husband about OP's husband's job prospects at the company.
How did he not end up under the patio?
I have to admit a similar thought occurred to me! If nothing else getting the s**t kicked out of him! Or, having him arrested. That would have been good!
@@sondrajohnson2564
Under the porch was too nice for him!
@@sandragilleland724 dont throw him into shark infested waters they wont even want to take him
The background is absolutely beautiful!
"Just because you’re pregnant doesn’t mean you get special treatment."
I agree... but the husband does not treat his wife with respect or love... she deserve much better.
I am so sorry for her - but I know the feeling I have been there myself - it hurts to do what needs to be done but in the end you find a strengh you never thought you can have
I'm so glad I'm not this weak. I could never imagine being treated like this on a daily basis
I don’t think it’s okay to call OP weak. It’s obviously a different culture and I think she might have learned from a young age a wife is supposed to be agreeable towards her husband. She just tried to be a good wife despite her husband being an Ahole.
Also; are you, by extent, saying victims of domestic abuse are weak?
It's not weakness
To answer both comments yes
Actually some abusers don't go after weak people they go after strong willed people they see them as a challenge to break them and make them weak. Op might not have always been that way. So yes she became weak but it probably took years of dealing with his bs to break her down. Thankfully OP had so many friends with high social statuses she was planning her escape without even realizing it. 😅
She was officily married to her husband but practically she married her inlaws. Who are blaming everyone else but themself, problebly by trauma from growing up. Its so sad, its a way of surviving. Unless they choose to change, nothing can help them...
Wierd, he must be cheating... no husband of a pregnant woman, goes awsy every weekend to parents house.
Not necessarily.
This happens in a lot of wet behind the ears men, who never cut the umbilical cord, as it were.
They often have VERY close ties to their mother.
It's sickening.
This happens SO often, there's even a name for it.
It's called "emotional incest".
Pretty grose, huh?
No, David has a deep bond with his PARENTS, not HER parents.
mommy's little boy daddy's little boy
What a monster. Run from this guy. Are you sure he goes to his parents house?? Sounds too suspicious to me he has another
Shocking abandonment. Husband leaves wife alone in labor for a trip with his parents. Unbelievable
my ex forced me to drive to the hospital alone while i was having a miscarriage.....he didnt believe me....
I’m sorry that you went through that.
Wow, I can understand how he is now your EX !
That's awful! I'm glad he's your ex now. You deserve so much better. So deeply sorry for your loss. ❤
He knew you were telling the truth.He was just being mean.
How freaking HEART LESS CAN ONE BE!??
💔💔🖤💔💔🖤💔💔
I can't identify. I'll keep my opinion to myself, but she sure makes being single a highly favored status.
100% true
and a friend i used to know was a bad enough person that it would make you want to STAY AWAY from anywhere she was
Proof reading prior to publishing adds cred to the channel…
He should stay single, hope shes living a happier life
his parents shouldn't have had a kid in the first place look at how this one turned out?
The only thing missing was the knight in shining armor to meet her at the end. Good fantasy
OMG... I'm only 6 minutes in, and all I can think of is: RUN.
Divorce and RUN. This guy is highly toxic toward you and ypur self esteem. This is not a typical man. You can totally find someone who will appreciate you. This is NOT normal. GO... now.
9:43 “Oh, because you were drunk you wanted special treatment?”
likely this same idiot: *you cant blame me for knocking you out cold and giving you a concussion while i was drunk*
Guess what?
A jail cell is just a room
Yea and the electric chair is just a *"Chair"*
Laziness of mind, attitude and no consideration at all. The tongue is only a small part of the body, but it can boast evil words of hate and anger. It also shouts and swear ugly words so the whole neighbourhood can hear. God bless you Lisa and your little angel🧚 and another guardian angel Sarah being by your side to see you through. May the Lord God also lead guide and direct you and your little one safely through lifes journey❤
She needs to grow a backbone and tell her husband and his mother to get lost!!!!!
I don’t know if you listen to the whole thing she’s a victim of abuse by a narcissist and his flying monkey parents it takes years to get over that.
As a victim of narcissistic abuse, I can verify that it’s difficult to get over it and you don’t really see it as abuse until looking back because I kept thinking that if only I had been perfect, things would improve. I blamed myself for everything. It was only after some time away and counseling that I could see what was really going on. Unless someone been through it, it’s difficult to understand.
Divorce divorce divorce divorce divorce divorce divorce~!
This was written exactly like an Asian drama!!!
Ohhh how this gave me flashbacks to being with my ex-husband.
uhh are you okay now that you have moved on from him
@@xOrionNebula2708 present life is amazing. I live in a better city and home now. I make more money than when i was married. The dude i’ve been seeing treats me like i’m the most precious person in his life after his daughter. He’s so attentive to things i want & say.
Example:in passing i texted sloppy joes sound so tasty. I wish the food court sold some. When he picked me up from work, that day, he had bought all the stuff for sloppy joes and had flowers laying on my bed for me. & we cooked the food together cause i love cooking & he’s learning.
The ex is miserable at his mom’s house. & when my mini spends time with his dad is all video game/steam time cause i don’t have wifi at home. Only internet is my cell. No netflix or hulu at “real home”(what my mini calls my place).
Life is soooo much better in the now. Despite me thinking it was over when my divorce happened.
I cannot. She is a doormat. Because, both him and his mother would have gotten the business from me.
She call David’s parents his in-laws but they are not in-laws. They are his parents.
They are HER'S in law!
This is super creepy! It reminds me of the film "Rosemary's Baby", from the 1960's!😢
huh what happened in that story
They are NOT his “in-laws”. They are his parents and her in-laws.
Please. Tell me. How many languages do you read and speak? Do you write in other languages? I’ve lived in Asia. English is a pretty tough language to learn, since it has rules-and then those rules are broken. I think perhaps this is an ESL poster-so when YOU can post this same content IN ANOTHER LANGUAGE, you can complain. Until then, kindly, STFU.
They are not her in laws. They are the parents of her captor
It's a fake story from Japan that's been poorly translated.
Seriously…a family trip when she is due any day now???
Seriously…THROWING her out of the car while in LABOR???
Seriously…disowning your own child and refusing child support???
I can’t believe ANY of that so I definitely don’t believe she had sexual relations with that demon ten months ago that resulted in a pregnancy 🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️
Oh, I believe it!
He's obviously a narcissist, and narcissists can be VERY charming at first to bag themselves a wife.
Once the woman is "trapped" and can't go anywhere, the mask comes right off and they don't bother hiding their inner ugliness anymore, and they are cold and cruel to their wives.
That is how she got into this predicament.
Once she was baby trapped, he thought he had complete control over her.
Oh how wrong he was, lol!
Moms, if you baby your son, they will expect their gf/wife will baby them too
Wow divorce an restraining orders immediately if I was her omg
If you say : David goes back to his parents on weekends. The next phrase would be: he has a deep bond with his parents. Not " in- laws". Because David's parents are YOUR in- laws. And YOUR parents are his in laws.
But i enjoy the story.
Would like for the revenge to be as long as the suffering. To give readers satisfaction, that is😅
The story is being poorly translated from Japanese
28.34 - Just wanted to share what a friend of mine said when his Ex said "I can't live without you." and he said "Good!" and hung up the phone.
lol that is the best response ever
Incorrigible is not the word I would have used to describe this villain. Idiotic or insane seem like a better choices.
Creature is the word
@@nothereyetlost **Animal*
@@xOrionNebula2708 not quite animal. I actually think they are less than that. They are more like a virus. And the mixture of that into a human corporeal is the creature.
1:56 so he hasn’t been kind for 3 years and instead of leaving she has his baby??
The story was interesting but the delivery was lacking a bit.
Yeah, but it probably wasn't translated the best, being originally Japanese.
@@TheMurlocKeeper true.
David's the kind of husband that's very selfish and all he cares about is himself. That's pretty obvious That you're his servant built in maid. I feel very sorry for you to be married to that😢 You're actually better off to get a divorce because obviously he don't care about you as much as you think he does
I'm sorry, but this woman was a fool for letting this go on as long as she did.
It's narcissistic abuse.
I've lived it too.
The abuse starts off slow, and by the time it gets to ridiculous level, you're so ground down from it, daily, that you think nothing of it, and you think it's normal.
All you can think about is not to make them angry at you.
It messes you up a lot. You can't even think straight and are constantly in a state of confusion, due to the narcissists' abuses. They do it to you deliberately, so you don't have time to think clearly about what is being done to you.
Look up the effects narcissistic abuse has on someone.
It is truly devastating and causes lifelong damage.
David's mom needs an intervention.
Nice story. I’ve always dreamed of visiting Japan, it was interesting to listen❤
What the F!? That us extremely toxic! How can anyone stay even 5 minutes in such a relationship, pregnant or not, in the 21 st century!? 😮
I wonder how long she’s known him before getting married. Behavior like this cannot be hidden, or maybe she just ignored it.
some people are so manipulative they are like cameleons camoflaging ther abusive behaviors
so by the time you are being manipulated you dont even know you are so you arent even able to see any red flags sometimes the manipulation is very slow and insidious and almost IMPOSSIBLE to dectect
It's called DIVORCE HIS BEHIND ,
David's parents should not be called his "in-laws". They are Lisa's in-laws.
I wondered where this was from. I’m in America when rice is sold in one to two pound bags. Then I seen the comment saying it was from Japan. I know they eat more rice than we do so I can see buying it in large bulk. Thank you.
She doesn’t make sense. Starts off by saying he spends weekends at his parents house bc he’s close to his in laws…ummm what
Why did OP marry a guy like this much less have a kid with him.
Because blokes like him put on an act until they marry you.
🤷🏾♀️ 😮🤦🏽♀️😝🤨🤮🤢🤪
At first he pretended he was everything she needed, when she got pregnant and was actually trapped, he showed his real face because he wanted a mommy with benefits for himself.
David's in-laws would be the wife's family!!😂😅
They meant her in laws
I heard that too lol🤣
'David has a deep bond with his inlaws.' His in-laws are YOUR parents. I give up!
Pretty sure that was a typo.
When english isn't someone's first language, they're going to make mistakes.
Sounds more like a creative writing exercise.
The wife should left David the sooner. To be treated his wife as slave during pregnancy is cruel. Worst still to left the wife during the birth is like murdering. Good the wife left him.
Good Riddens, David!😢😢😮
If David lived in my country... he would live.
well same here well thats if he gets thrown in jail which he 100% would if he was not then my moms going to make him eat the asphalt
Since you are pregnant and this is how your husband and mother in law treating you leave the house and go back to your parents home. Tell him and his mother that you are not their maid.
I would've investigated these people to see why court freaked them out so much. There has to be a reason they'd fold like that.
Divorced all those people. You deserve better .
Better off without him. He has a lot of growing up to do.
Hes cheating
Why didn't she call the police after being thrown out of a car while in labor. WTF.