@@Random-ky1wh oh bro Ik how you feel when it first starts it’s so bad I thought everything was over for me I thought I was loosing my mind just let it have no value to you the best way to get rid of is is just flow with it like start being okay with it like realize it’s not forever the quicker you do the quicker it will go away it’s not permanent because your brain will tell you that it’s is but it’s not I had it horrible to and then I just started going out more hanging with friends I went to school just take your mind off it and if you do it long enough it just goes away like your brain is wiped dry of it give it no value it will go away 100 present if you ever need to talk about it just reply to this comment I’ll answer
@@dumsterfishandgarbageshark2016 thanks so much it means alot to have someone to talk to about it, it means alot your comments has inspired me. Did you experience loss of appetite and have trouble sleeping?
@@Random-ky1wh oh yeahhh broo like I didn’t wanna eat I couldn’t sleep I would dream about it man I would wake up thinking about it fall asleep thinking about it so my case was extreme bro but like it goes away it really dose you just need to not think about it but don’t try to avoid it just see it as a thought yuh know like don’t try to force your self to not think about it that don’t work just let it go through you just take a deep breathe and remember it’s going to go away it’s not the end just you half to calm down and remember it’s a thought and just watch a really good movie play a video game stay active listen to music and clean or work out and the longer you keep your mind off it the weeker it’s hold gets on you but I would say if you smoke weed or anything dont it’s bad for it and just stay sober for now
Watching this I felt a huge wave of relief-it was like you know me. I have NEVER heard anyone name and describe so lucidly what I'm going through the way you do here. I know I can get better. Thank you very very much.
I just had THAT FEELING last night ... Like, for not just 5 second, but for an hour of just me enjoying myself and being distracted and not thinking about anything that occurs my anxiety, my panic attacks. I just felt ... Peace. But it kind of came back again :(
Try not to think about it at all even if it comes or it will start becoming permanent and will be harder to overcome. The more u think about it, the more it will happen so just chill and relax don’t think about it.Good luck 🙂
@@ramavie3459 I'm feeling better now. I have accepted the fact that this is the way I am. My Anxiety and Panic attacks still haunts me, but everytime they started to make me feel Anxious, I have accepted the fact that this is ME, and there's nothing wrong with these feelings. As times goes on, the feelings started to not haunts me as much as they were before, but they still comes back sometimes.
Same, i didn't feel like i was seeing through some fish bowl for like 30ish or so minutes and then my brain was like, remember having no purpose? and then i'm like great....
when you said “... you just experienced totally recovery” i was like “😦” i’ve commented under your videos before but i came back bc i kept feelings it again for a few mins
Holy shit dude… this video literally made me laugh and almost cry tears of joy. That quote “in those five seconds, you just experienced total recovery” is all I needed, because it’s so true. The last 4 weeks have been really hard, but every week has gotten a little better. This last week was by far the best and I was able to distract myself and not think about it for upwards of like 15-20 minutes at a time, maybe even longer. Today I’ve almost relapsed and started stressing about it more, which just caused more anxiety because I was doing so well, but it feels like all that progress was for nothing because today has really sucked. But that quote literally just raised my spirits. It really makes you realize that, if you don’t focus or think about it, it won’t effect you. And I’ve already experienced that a few times and it’s been slowly happening more and more. Thank you Shaun. I’m not recovered yet and fear It may still take awhile, but this just resparked my hope and I truly believe if I just continue on this path to recovery, I will get rid of it.
So glad it was helpful Ben! 😊 And don't worry, DPDR is temporary and harmless and you can and will recover! www.dpmanual.com/articles/back-to-normal-after-depersonalization/
These 5 seconds are so helpfull and make me happy . Even wenn the dp comes back, its not so scary anymore. Because i see, its going away,when i am not thinking about it. Thanks so much for your Videos and blog. That helped me a lot . Greets from germany
I had a therapist first and he asked me 100 euro per hour for his advice of DP I learned more from you than from him I am almost recovered I really love you man thanks greetings from the Netherlands.
@@Dpmanual man I am so glad people like you are here to support people with this mentally problem. Just like you I had this for 1.5 years but I am recover from this in the last weeks I am feeling me very happy and good. I wish you the best man
@@Dpmanual and I have one last question. If you are feeling happy again and you care about people again and you do not have feelings of depersonalization are you fully recovered than?
@@Dpmanual how should I get rid of these existential thoughts?They are causing more anxiety.Even if I know that they are due to DP and temprorary , even the idea of having them haunts me😫😥
@@hellohello1604 Don't worry, existential thoughts like that are super common with DP and will fade away and stop as you recover 😊 www.dpmanual.com/articles/depersonalization-fears-and-anxious-thoughts/
OMG THX I HAVE BEEN EXPERIENCING THIS ITS LIKE WHEN I DO SOMETHING IT GOES AWAY BUT WHEN I FOCUS ON IT IT COMES BACK AND I IVE HAVE TO JUST SAY THANK YOU FOR ALL THAT YOUR DOING WITH YOUR CONTENT TO HELP PEOPLE CAUSE IDK ABOUT ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU CHANGED MY LIFE COMPLETELY AND I MEAN COMPLETELY SO I JUST WANT TO SAY THX AND JUST KEEP INSPIRING PEOPLE TO BATTLE THIS SO THANK YOU LOVE YA 😊❤️
I've been living since I was a teenager, this year has been the longest, it's been exactly 5 months, I'm still alive, sometimes it increases and sometimes it decreases, as far as I can tell from my experience; 1. Don't go hungry 2.Do not lose sleep 3. Exercise 4. As explained in the video, always be busy with something, but something that will make you happy. 5. In short, do not stress your body Please excuse my English :)
Thanks for the tips! 😊 And don't worry, it doesn't matter what caused it, how long it’s lasted, or whether it’s been 24/7 or episodic, you can always switch DPDR off completely by stopping the anxiety that's causing it 😊 Read this carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/back-to-normal-after-depersonalization/
@@Dpmanual Thank you, I read your other articles on the site. Since I started watching your videos, my perspective on this disorder has changed, it is not so scary anymore.
Don't worry Jessie, it doesn't matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch DPDR off completely by stopping the anxiety that's causing it 😊 Read this carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/how-long-does-depersonalization-last/
if i distract myself and dpdr is not there when it gets back i think of when i was distracted and say "i wasn't present, that wasn't me because dpdr wasn't there and i wasn't alert and aware of my thought process" sometimes it's almost like my brain doesn't want to get out of this state
ᅳみっく Often most of us if not all of us don’t think about our breathing. Yet we keep breathing. Constantly. I wonder if it might be something like that. Not thinking of breathing doesn’t prevent you from breathing or from being who you are. You can be totally yourself, and not study the intricacies of your deeper mental processes all of the time.
I use Arithmetic as A distraction...when I get that funny Sensation I start a sum in my head easy ones at first 50-25+10+5 etc. As you Improve make them more difficult 🏴🤪
Help!.. I have changed my life completely and thought I was doing ok but tonight I am at a total loss..I a m afraid and need s9me input.. will this never end..once again I am thinking I must have Altzheimers
Hmm I hear what your saying here & I have done this before and yes your correct it works in the moment of distraction but however the moment I’m not distracted by something it kicks back in and I feel like I’m back to where I was before....feel almost like you constantly have to run away from it if you use this method....I’ve noticed once I’m alone or not working on something to distract myself it comes back full force...what are your thoughts on this ? Thanks !
Hey, thanks for your comment! So the 5-Second rules isn't really a 'method', it's more of a quick illustration to show that DP isn't permanent, it's always variable and depends on whether you focus on it or not. The methods to actually recover are more thorough and outlined in my book. Check out more info at dpmanual.com
This was med induced for me I’m unable to connect at all to real life and it’s concepts Started in 2021, relaxed talking to a friend and all of a sudden I’d not”understand” a simple word or concept, like I knew it was easy to understand and just came on no reason, I’d flip out and go into full panic So I medicated more before I interacted to but experience it. Before meds I was sooo intrigued by all things metaphysical and existential I worked with the dying I could connect to anyone regardless if we had anything in common or not So I isolated more Been completely alone 2 and half years Of course list all friends and family, they think I’m nuts and just don’t care about anyone Literally a text messaging from someone saying something normal flips my brain out The trees, the sky, the universe, everything I identified with and was in awe and intrigue over , all upside down world Can’t even watch tv for same reason, “normal” life even in RV freaks me the fuck out It’s so bad so so bad And of course panic attacks if I leave the house now It feels like complete brain damage All my gifts gone I’ve only just started showering in the daylight because if it and farrrk Meds all made it so much worse now off them and so hopeless Please help 50yo I had a good life, great career and friends family, huge heart. Gone Do you think anhedonia is like a coping mechanism for dpdr I’ve not heard anyone this debilitated by it. I can’t seem to fake normal even in a text without wanting to die
Hi there, Thanks for your comment and I'm sorry to hear you've been having a difficult time. Firstly, if you are experiencing any thoughts of self-harm, please do speak to a medical professional as soon as possible. Secondly, I know DPDR can be scary but just remember that it’s a natural reaction to stress and anxiety, and people experience it all the time. The National Institute on Mental Illness estimates that up to 75% of people experience at least one depersonalization / derealization episode in their lives. It's part of your brain's natural defence mechanism and usually it only lasts a few seconds or minutes at a time. It's only when it's focused on as a separate problem (feeling like you're going crazy / in a dream etc) that it can turn into a feedback loop with the anxiety that caused it in the first place. But no matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch it off completely by stopping that anxious feedback loop. Make sure to carefully read through all the articles and info on my website at www.dpmanual.com and my book The Depersonalization Manual. And if you would like to speak to a medical professional please don't hesitate to do so. I would recommend finding an anxiety specialist if possible as they will likely be more familiar with DPDR 👍
Ive been completely ruining my brain for 4 years...i do it all the time when I'm not thinking about it then i think about it...i still am. I don't know how to keep at it. I'm trying to find work to distract me.
Don't worry, it doesn't matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch DP off completely by stopping the anxiety that's causing it 😊 Make sure to carefully read through all the articles and info on my website at www.dpmanual.com
Hi i have had depersonalisation before which lasted for about 5-6 months last year which naturally disappeared as I was busy with exams and tried my best to ignore it. I recently just got it again and I was wondering if anyone experiences this it’s hard to explain but when I think about it deeply and close my eyes I get this outer body experience where I literally don’t feel like me and I can’t recognise who I am at all, this last for about 20 seconds and I panic. I haven’t seen anyone speak about this and I was wondering if it was normal. Usually throughout the day I will have this detached feeling and I do my best to get through the day but every time I sit and think about it, it intensify’s to this crazy feeling which I explained above. Please let me know if this is normal to experience and whoever is reading this we all got this keep a strong mindset it will take time but it will go. Be strong ❤
I have extreme anxiety and panic from combat , but I honestly thing my first panic attack is what has caused me several years of depersonalization . Medicine make me feel even worse. The other day a friend came over and made me get up and do things all day and guess what? No anxiety all day long. Oh, my anxiety usually stems from me overthinking things like covid 19, the. I have a symptom like stuffy nose and immediately all my thought go to having covid which I never have. I’ve been tested like 30 times . How can I stop this cycle?
I have social anxiety and I suddenly developed gad from ruminating about my anxiety, I have started nofap last month since porn used to be my way of coping and I am constantly get dpdr episodes. Usually, when I distract myself at home, I feel more at ease. However ever since school started, It's gotten so bad where I would constantly get panic attacks.
Hey, thanks for your comment! Don't worry, that sounds like a pretty typical case of anxiety-induced DPDR to me. I know it can feel frightening but just remember that it's your body's natural response to stress. It can't hurt you and it's not permanent. 😊 Make sure to check out more info and articles on my site at www.dpmanual.com/articles/
Can depersonalization derealization cause agoraphobia and how do you combat the agoraphobia along with the dpdr symptoms I’ve dealt with a recovered from it before but that was when I was younger and had school and other stuff to take my mind off of it now I don’t exactly have stuff like that to take my mind off of it
Listen I have had derealization for 7 years straight TRUST me this NEVER happens to me, I literally cannot grasp what feeling reality feels like I am not overreacting I do not know what it feels like and I definitely do not go through a second of my day not feeling derealised. Sometimes I feel like what it would feel like to be aware and in like oh shit but it's just a feeling of what I SHOULD feel
We don't know what reality feels like but there are tiny little moments where our brains trick us into forgetting about it, even if we are not fully aware of this because we obsess so much. It really is fear and obsession that fuel the unreality feelings. If this guy genuinely believed he was in Hell or was dead, as some DP/DR sufferers do, but still had the occasional 5 seconds of forgetting about it, it means anyone can enter a state of non-DP/DR through distraction. It's easier said than done and seems impossible because we are too aware of our disconnection. I've entered a state of what I call "beyond DP" and it's renderers me dysfunctional, but even I have a tiny few seconds here and there where my mind is distracted.
Same. Have been listening to the audio book and this part bothered me. 90% of the day I'm not thinking about derealization. I'm still very much dissociated that whole time. Definitely not full recovery or anything close.
I read somewhere that it caused by reoccurring trauma typically throughout childhood that got triggered by a stressful event and that when you resolve that trauma it will clear up. If I’ve distracted myself enough to stop worrying about it will i ever truly feel real again if I haven’t processed those past traumas properly? Is dp a result of anxiety or trauma?
Hey, thanks for the comment. No, recurring trauma in the past doesn't need to have happened. DP can be triggered by any number of stressful events, but it's not necessarily linked to any events in your childhood etc. You can have had a perfectly happy upbringing with no traumatic incidents and still develop Depersonalization. Read this article for more info: www.dpmanual.com/about/depersonalization-definition-what-is-it/
Depersonalization Manual Hi, does that mean that past trauma or sub conscious thoughts don’t need to be looked into before trying to move past it/ignore it?
I feel like my ocd keeps fueling the dpdr. I always get intrusive thoughts surrounding dpdr. I try not to react to them fearfully. I felt a little better but recently I feel like how I did in the beginning because of my bf moving away. I’m too scared to even get out of bed now. The dpdr feels so strong
Good evening. I suffer from doc, depersonalization and social phobia. Does the manual on depersonalization give concrete indications on how to get out of it or simply indicate which psychotherapeutic / pharmacological treatments to follow? What kind of psychotherapy orientation does the manual follow? Thank you
I know DP can be frightening but remember that it's just your body and brain's natural response to stress and anxiety. It's not permanent and it can't hurt you 😊 You can and will recover! Make sure to read through all the info and articles on my website at www.dpmanual.com/articles
Hi Raj, thanks for your comment. When you consistently develop the habit of staying distracted, you overwrite the thought habits of DP. And they stop and reality starts to feel real again, it's all part of the recovery process. The 5-Second rule illustrates this, even though it's very brief at first! You can find more info on the recovery process here: www.dpmanual.com/articles/what-does-depersonalization-recovery-feel-like/
@@luminous6084 That's exactly right. There's a great phrase in CBT: 'Anxiety is caused by the fear of anxiety'. And the same goes for DP. If you can remove the fear of it, you can stop thinking about it and it fades away as if it had never been there. You can find more info in this article: www.dpmanual.com/articles/depersonalization-recovery/
Depersonalization Manual lol thank you for the comment but I’m already recovered, I just didn’t find it scary after I began thinking of it as a tired mind
when you recover, do you recover completely? and don’t worry about this feeling as much as i do right now? i had really bad anxiety and took really big hits when we smoked a blunt at a nice view called the rocks, after that i still feel messed up. i don’t feel completely high, i just feel fatigued and like a little slow. but I’ll have moments where i jus go back to normal like nothing happened for a good 5-30 mins. i’m 15 i just want it to go away man. I’ve been dealing with it since sunday. there’s times where i forget for hours on end when I’m playing basketball at the public park. then it hits me after.
Hey, thanks for your comment. Firstly, please make sure that you’re speaking to your parents about what’s happening. It’s very important that they know what’s going on. Secondly, I know DP can be frightening but remember that it's just your body and brain's natural response to stress and anxiety. It's not permanent and it can't hurt you. You can and will recover. And to answer your question, read this carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/back-to-normal-after-depersonalization/
@@Dpmanual thank you for reassuring me. and I’m curious if it’s cause i smoked 4 times in the span of 2 days, and it was my first 4 times I’ve ever smoked. it was for my birthday i haven’t touched it since i realized it wasn’t going away. i took really really big hits. there’s moments where I’ll feel completely normal again then it’ll go back to feeling fatigued and off.
I have been DP for 20 years. It seems to me that I never had dispersion, even for 5 seconds. I deal with my life and work. Do you know what it results from?
DP, like all anxiety-based conditions persist primarily because of the constant habit of checking in to see if you feel anxious 😊 One of the most important parts of recovery is getting out of that habit. So if you do that, deliberately or accidentally, for even just a few minutes at a time, you've experienced what recovery feels like 😊 Make sure to read through all the articles and info on my website at www.dpmanual.com
@@thc7865 still the Same I think, It really is better not to worry about it all the time and go on with your life. Btw your username is what got me in that mess
I hate it because I almost always have an episode in the shower from trama and I’ll think for a split second wow I’m doing really good I’m not anxious or going into it cause I’m excited but then it sends me I to it immediately😭
Don't worry, it doesn't matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch DPDR off completely by stopping the anxiety that's causing it 😊 Read this carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/how-long-does-depersonalization-last/ And if you would like to speak to a medical professional please don't hesitate to do so. I would recommend finding an anxiety specialist if possible as they will likely be more familiar with DPDR.
Hey Larry, thanks for your comment. So this is only meant to illustrate that DP is not a constant standalone feeling. Its intensity depends on your thoughts, habits and behaviours and as such, you can reduce and stop it completely. Check out this article for more info: www.dpmanual.com/articles/is-depersonalization-permanent/
Depersonalization Manual thank you!! And also there’s this guy on RUclips who says he has depersonalization disorder but he dosent have anxiety or stressors... I was kinda shocked when he said this cause depersonalization shouldn’t exist if you don’t have anxiety or stress... is this true? Is there any other things that can drive this condition besides stress and anxiety?
I got dp from a really bad experience with edibles, I had a really huge panic attack and I thought that was it for me and I accepted it a little, but it's been three months dealing with this. Sometimes there's relief and I feel so happy and I don't even think about it, then the next im constantly worrying, crying and can't sleep. I just need this to all go away honestly..
Hey, thanks for your comment 😊 Don’t worry, that all sounds like a very typical case of weed-induced DPDR to me. I know it can be frightening but remember that it's just your body and brain's natural response to stress and anxiety. It's not permanent and it can't hurt you 😊 You can and will recover. Make sure to read through all the info and articles on my website at www.dpmanual.com And if you would like to speak to a medical professional please don't hesitate to do so. I would recommend finding an anxiety specialist if possible as they will likely be more familiar with DPDR.
Hey, thanks for your comment. So know DP can be scary but just remember that it’s a natural reaction to stress and trauma, and people experience it all the time. The National Institute on Mental Illness estimates that up to 75% of people experience at least one depersonalization / derealization episode in their lives. It's part of your brain's natural defence mechanism and usually it only lasts a few seconds or minutes at a time. It's only when it's focused on as a separate problem (feeling like you're going crazy / in a dream etc) that it can turn into a feedback loop with the anxiety that caused it in the first place. But no matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch it off completely by stopping that anxious feedback loop. Read this article carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/how-long-does-depersonalization-last/
@@Dpmanual Hi and thank u so much for your answer. My doctor wants me to try SSRI but im so scared that it Will make everything worse. I also have autism, ocd, borderline and PTSD as diagnoses I Hope i die Some day
@@sulejmanhadzic2401 Medicine helps too i am under medication for me it help there is hope in other ways and telling yourself you are going to be fine even when you are feeling really bad.
@@Dpmanual so forgetting who you are and feeling that your in someone else’s body, and feeling that you can’t control your actions are all natural? Aswell feeling light?
Mike Wurth I gave this book to 100 people who have dp/dr. Not 1people said it was a good book or get help from that book. It's a book for the money for mister Shaun's wallet.
Mike Wurth I have a dp website with over 110 members. I shared the book to all. I don't care what you think. We discussed this book as nonsense. Good luck with the book. I hope it helped you really.
I had this happen like a year ago it goes away with time I’m 100 recovered you guys are fine
I had it for about half a year it was awful my case was bad but I just started doing things that distracted me and it let my mind heal
Thank you for this, this just started for me a few day's ago
@@Random-ky1wh oh bro Ik how you feel when it first starts it’s so bad I thought everything was over for me I thought I was loosing my mind just let it have no value to you the best way to get rid of is is just flow with it like start being okay with it like realize it’s not forever the quicker you do the quicker it will go away it’s not permanent because your brain will tell you that it’s is but it’s not I had it horrible to and then I just started going out more hanging with friends I went to school just take your mind off it and if you do it long enough it just goes away like your brain is wiped dry of it give it no value it will go away 100 present if you ever need to talk about it just reply to this comment I’ll answer
@@dumsterfishandgarbageshark2016 thanks so much it means alot to have someone to talk to about it, it means alot your comments has inspired me. Did you experience loss of appetite and have trouble sleeping?
@@Random-ky1wh oh yeahhh broo like I didn’t wanna eat I couldn’t sleep I would dream about it man I would wake up thinking about it fall asleep thinking about it so my case was extreme bro but like it goes away it really dose you just need to not think about it but don’t try to avoid it just see it as a thought yuh know like don’t try to force your self to not think about it that don’t work just let it go through you just take a deep breathe and remember it’s going to go away it’s not the end just you half to calm down and remember it’s a thought and just watch a really good movie play a video game stay active listen to music and clean or work out and the longer you keep your mind off it the weeker it’s hold gets on you but I would say if you smoke weed or anything dont it’s bad for it and just stay sober for now
all you have to do is stop caring about it! That’s it! LET GO
its very hard to not care
But you can’t do anything else it will drive you crazy
Easier said than done.
@@yyeseniaa same 😭😭😭😭😭
That's one funny guy
Watching this I felt a huge wave of relief-it was like you know me. I have NEVER heard anyone name and describe so lucidly what I'm going through the way you do here. I know I can get better. Thank you very very much.
Thank you, I'm delighted to hear you found the video so useful! 😊 Make sure to check out my other articles on DP on my website at www.dpmanual.com
How are you doing nowadays?
@@seokermom Much better thanks. It's not a problem anymore.
@@nagatom fully recovered 100% ?
@@thc7865 Yes. I no longer ever think of it.
I just had THAT FEELING last night ... Like, for not just 5 second, but for an hour of just me enjoying myself and being distracted and not thinking about anything that occurs my anxiety, my panic attacks.
I just felt ... Peace.
But it kind of came back again :(
Try not to think about it at all even if it comes or it will start becoming permanent and will be harder to overcome. The more u think about it, the more it will happen so just chill and relax don’t think about it.Good luck 🙂
How are you now?
@@ramavie3459 I'm feeling better now.
I have accepted the fact that this is the way I am. My Anxiety and Panic attacks still haunts me, but everytime they started to make me feel Anxious, I have accepted the fact that this is ME, and there's nothing wrong with these feelings. As times goes on, the feelings started to not haunts me as much as they were before, but they still comes back sometimes.
Same, i didn't feel like i was seeing through some fish bowl for like 30ish or so minutes and then my brain was like, remember having no purpose? and then i'm like great....
@@peewee8964 lmao same. I found depersonalization to funny though
when you said “... you just experienced totally recovery” i was like “😦” i’ve commented under your videos before but i came back bc i kept feelings it again for a few mins
Okay but I keep myself constantly distracted but as soon as I try to sleep it all starts up again :(
Me too :(
how u doing today?
Keep doing it think of depersonalization like it’s nothing
Listen to calm music or have a fun movie on while you sleep
This is also similar to how they teach us to rewire our brains to fix our anxiety in psychology 😯 🙂
That's right, it's based on the technique of reframing thoughts in CBT 😊
Holy shit dude… this video literally made me laugh and almost cry tears of joy. That quote “in those five seconds, you just experienced total recovery” is all I needed, because it’s so true. The last 4 weeks have been really hard, but every week has gotten a little better. This last week was by far the best and I was able to distract myself and not think about it for upwards of like 15-20 minutes at a time, maybe even longer. Today I’ve almost relapsed and started stressing about it more, which just caused more anxiety because I was doing so well, but it feels like all that progress was for nothing because today has really sucked. But that quote literally just raised my spirits. It really makes you realize that, if you don’t focus or think about it, it won’t effect you. And I’ve already experienced that a few times and it’s been slowly happening more and more. Thank you Shaun. I’m not recovered yet and fear It may still take awhile, but this just resparked my hope and I truly believe if I just continue on this path to recovery, I will get rid of it.
So glad it was helpful Ben! 😊 And don't worry, DPDR is temporary and harmless and you can and will recover! www.dpmanual.com/articles/back-to-normal-after-depersonalization/
I love you man. I feel so much better with these videos. Just keep doing what youre doing we are so blessed to have you
So glad they're helpful! 😊👍
These 5 seconds are so helpfull and make me happy . Even wenn the dp comes back, its not so scary anymore. Because i see, its going away,when i am not thinking about it.
Thanks so much for your Videos and blog.
That helped me a lot .
Greets from germany
Glad it helped! 😊😊
I had a therapist first and he asked me 100 euro per hour for his advice of DP I learned more from you than from him I am almost recovered I really love you man thanks greetings from the Netherlands.
Thanks for your comment Samuel and I'm delighted to hear you're doing so well! 😊😊
@@Dpmanual man I am so glad people like you are here to support people with this mentally problem. Just like you I had this for 1.5 years but I am recover from this in the last weeks I am feeling me very happy and good. I wish you the best man
@@Dpmanual and I have one last question. If you are feeling happy again and you care about people again and you do not have feelings of depersonalization are you fully recovered than?
@@samuelantonio6108 i think so yes!! Can you tell us how the recovery was? Like did you do something specific? Hope you are doing well!
I have been dealing DP since past 4 months .Your videos have just saved me .On my way to get 100% recoverd .Thanks alotttt.
So glad to hear it! 😊😊
@@Dpmanual how should I get rid of these existential thoughts?They are causing more anxiety.Even if I know that they are due to DP and temprorary , even the idea of having them haunts me😫😥
@@hellohello1604 Don't worry, existential thoughts like that are super common with DP and will fade away and stop as you recover 😊 www.dpmanual.com/articles/depersonalization-fears-and-anxious-thoughts/
@@Dpmanual Ok and thanks alot .Your videos have been helping alot and giving alot of hopes.
@@hellohello1604 Glad to hear it! 😊
OMG THX I HAVE BEEN EXPERIENCING THIS ITS LIKE WHEN I DO SOMETHING IT GOES AWAY BUT WHEN I FOCUS ON IT IT COMES BACK AND I IVE HAVE TO JUST SAY THANK YOU FOR ALL THAT YOUR DOING WITH YOUR CONTENT TO HELP PEOPLE CAUSE IDK ABOUT ANYONE ELSE BUT YOU CHANGED MY LIFE COMPLETELY AND I MEAN COMPLETELY SO I JUST WANT TO SAY THX AND JUST KEEP INSPIRING PEOPLE TO BATTLE THIS SO THANK YOU LOVE YA 😊❤️
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How are you now?
I never ever think abt the fact that i have depersonalization but i still have it.
You can heal yourself if you want to. It just takes a lot of patience and work
are you recovered now??
You must. Or you wouldn't be here like me.
@@Cynnabuns only here because of the random moments when I realize that it's there and i freak out
@@sugoijade9379 no im not recovered at all it's actually gotten worse
I know I’ll have the feeling again but this helped and I’ll listen to it over and over as much as I need thanks
Glad to hear it was helpful! 😊😊
@@Dpmanual do u have snap man im 16 going throw this ur vids helped me
@@wardym4106 I feel u ong it sucks but trust me bro it aint real
@@calvindahl1720 ik its dumb thoughts where not our thoughts
@@wardym4106 Ik man but like sometimes its too much to handle
I've been living since I was a teenager, this year has been the longest, it's been exactly 5 months, I'm still alive, sometimes it increases and sometimes it decreases, as far as I can tell from my experience;
1. Don't go hungry
2.Do not lose sleep
3. Exercise
4. As explained in the video, always be busy with something, but something that will make you happy.
5. In short, do not stress your body
Please excuse my English :)
Thanks for the tips! 😊 And don't worry, it doesn't matter what caused it, how long it’s lasted, or whether it’s been 24/7 or episodic, you can always switch DPDR off completely by stopping the anxiety that's causing it 😊 Read this carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/back-to-normal-after-depersonalization/
@@Dpmanual
Thank you, I read your other articles on the site. Since I started watching your videos, my perspective on this disorder has changed, it is not so scary anymore.
@@MuratHn1Glad to hear it! 😊
This channel saved my life! I was depersonalized in the pandemics, feeling suicidal. This made me go through!
This guy's channel is a gem 💎
Glad it's been useful! 😊
DUDE IM CRYING WTF THANK YOUUUU
Glad it was helpful! 😊😊
thanks, I love you
Right back at ya! 😊
It’s almost been a year from when mine started. I’ve had some good months . I’ll m hopeful and recovering
Don't worry Jessie, it doesn't matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch DPDR off completely by stopping the anxiety that's causing it 😊 Read this carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/how-long-does-depersonalization-last/
OMG THANK YOU SM!!!!! THIS HELPED ME IMMENSELYYYY
So glad it was helpful! 😊
Wow this just gave me so much hope. Thank you so much
Glad I could help! 😊😊
if i distract myself and dpdr is not there
when it gets back
i think of when i was distracted and say "i wasn't present, that wasn't me because dpdr wasn't there and i wasn't alert and aware of my thought process"
sometimes it's almost like my brain doesn't want to get out of this state
ᅳみっく Often most of us if not all of us don’t think about our breathing. Yet we keep breathing. Constantly. I wonder if it might be something like that. Not thinking of breathing doesn’t prevent you from breathing or from being who you are. You can be totally yourself, and not study the intricacies of your deeper mental processes all of the time.
Robert J Kral wow, this helped me a lot
thank you so much
@@rjkral great 👍
How are you now!?
I use Arithmetic as A distraction...when I get that funny Sensation I start a sum in my head easy ones at first 50-25+10+5 etc.
As you Improve make them more difficult 🏴🤪
That's a great suggestion! 😊
i love you so much you’ve just healed me out of it thankyou :’(
Glad to hear it! 😊
What did I do to get rid of it and how much did it take to recover from it 100/100
Help!.. I have changed my life completely and thought I was doing ok but tonight I am at a total loss..I a
m afraid and need s9me input.. will this never end..once again I am thinking I must have Altzheimers
Thanks for your comment Pamela and check out this article, I think you'll find it useful 😊www.dpmanual.com/articles/depersonalization-and-memory-loss/
Hmm I hear what your saying here & I have done this before and yes your correct it works in the moment of distraction but however the moment I’m not distracted by something it kicks back in and I feel like I’m back to where I was before....feel almost like you constantly have to run away from it if you use this method....I’ve noticed once I’m alone or not working on something to distract myself it comes back full force...what are your thoughts on this ? Thanks !
Hey, thanks for your comment! So the 5-Second rules isn't really a 'method', it's more of a quick illustration to show that DP isn't permanent, it's always variable and depends on whether you focus on it or not. The methods to actually recover are more thorough and outlined in my book. Check out more info at dpmanual.com
Depersonalization Manual gotcha does your book apply to derealization as well?
@@Justafayze It does indeed 😊 www.dpmanual.com/articles/depersonalization-and-derealization-whats-the-difference/
Same here
This was med induced for me
I’m unable to connect at all to real life and it’s concepts
Started in 2021, relaxed talking to a friend and all of a sudden I’d not”understand” a simple word or concept, like I knew it was easy to understand and just came on no reason, I’d flip out and go into full panic
So I medicated more before I interacted to but experience it.
Before meds I was sooo intrigued by all things metaphysical and existential
I worked with the dying
I could connect to anyone regardless if we had anything in common or not
So I isolated more
Been completely alone 2 and half years
Of course list all friends and family, they think I’m nuts and just don’t care about anyone
Literally a text messaging from someone saying something normal flips my brain out
The trees, the sky, the universe, everything I identified with and was in awe and intrigue over , all upside down world
Can’t even watch tv for same reason, “normal” life even in RV freaks me the fuck out
It’s so bad so so bad
And of course panic attacks if I leave the house now
It feels like complete brain damage
All my gifts gone
I’ve only just started showering in the daylight because if it and farrrk
Meds all made it so much worse now off them and so hopeless
Please help
50yo I had a good life, great career and friends family, huge heart. Gone
Do you think anhedonia is like a coping mechanism for dpdr
I’ve not heard anyone this debilitated by it. I can’t seem to fake normal even in a text without wanting to die
Hi there,
Thanks for your comment and I'm sorry to hear you've been having a difficult time. Firstly, if you are experiencing any thoughts of self-harm, please do speak to a medical professional as soon as possible. Secondly, I know DPDR can be scary but just remember that it’s a natural reaction to stress and anxiety, and people experience it all the time. The National Institute on Mental Illness estimates that up to 75% of people experience at least one depersonalization / derealization episode in their lives. It's part of your brain's natural defence mechanism and usually it only lasts a few seconds or minutes at a time. It's only when it's focused on as a separate problem (feeling like you're going crazy / in a dream etc) that it can turn into a feedback loop with the anxiety that caused it in the first place. But no matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch it off completely by stopping that anxious feedback loop. Make sure to carefully read through all the articles and info on my website at www.dpmanual.com and my book The Depersonalization Manual.
And if you would like to speak to a medical professional please don't hesitate to do so. I would recommend finding an anxiety specialist if possible as they will likely be more familiar with DPDR 👍
You saved me from losing my mind thank you ❤️
Happy to help! 😊
Ive been completely ruining my brain for 4 years...i do it all the time when I'm not thinking about it then i think about it...i still am. I don't know how to keep at it. I'm trying to find work to distract me.
Don't worry, it doesn't matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch DP off completely by stopping the anxiety that's causing it 😊 Make sure to carefully read through all the articles and info on my website at www.dpmanual.com
@@Dpmanual i sure hope you're right!
@@Cynnabuns Don't worry, you can and will recover 😊 www.dpmanual.com/testimonials/
Hi i have had depersonalisation before which lasted for about 5-6 months last year which naturally disappeared as I was busy with exams and tried my best to ignore it. I recently just got it again and I was wondering if anyone experiences this it’s hard to explain but when I think about it deeply and close my eyes I get this outer body experience where I literally don’t feel like me and I can’t recognise who I am at all, this last for about 20 seconds and I panic. I haven’t seen anyone speak about this and I was wondering if it was normal. Usually throughout the day I will have this detached feeling and I do my best to get through the day but every time I sit and think about it, it intensify’s to this crazy feeling which I explained above. Please let me know if this is normal to experience and whoever is reading this we all got this keep a strong mindset it will take time but it will go. Be strong ❤
I have extreme anxiety and panic from combat , but I honestly thing my first panic attack is what has caused me several years of depersonalization . Medicine make me feel even worse. The other day a friend came over and made me get up and do things all day and guess what? No anxiety all day long. Oh, my anxiety usually stems from me overthinking things like covid 19, the. I have a symptom like stuffy nose and immediately all my thought go to having covid which I never have. I’ve been tested like 30 times . How can I stop this cycle?
I have social anxiety and I suddenly developed gad from ruminating about my anxiety, I have started nofap last month since porn used to be my way of coping and I am constantly get dpdr episodes. Usually, when I distract myself at home, I feel more at ease. However ever since school started, It's gotten so bad where I would constantly get panic attacks.
Hey, thanks for your comment! Don't worry, that sounds like a pretty typical case of anxiety-induced DPDR to me. I know it can feel frightening but just remember that it's your body's natural response to stress. It can't hurt you and it's not permanent. 😊 Make sure to check out more info and articles on my site at www.dpmanual.com/articles/
How are you now?
Alright so my DP is kinda weird I only feel it in OPEN SPACES not at home or at a car only when walking on the road or yea..
Can depersonalization derealization cause agoraphobia and how do you combat the agoraphobia along with the dpdr symptoms I’ve dealt with a recovered from it before but that was when I was younger and had school and other stuff to take my mind off of it now I don’t exactly have stuff like that to take my mind off of it
100 percentage working
Glad to hear it! 😊
Listen I have had derealization for 7 years straight TRUST me this NEVER happens to me, I literally cannot grasp what feeling reality feels like I am not overreacting I do not know what it feels like and I definitely do not go through a second of my day not feeling derealised. Sometimes I feel like what it would feel like to be aware and in like oh shit but it's just a feeling of what I SHOULD feel
We don't know what reality feels like but there are tiny little moments where our brains trick us into forgetting about it, even if we are not fully aware of this because we obsess so much. It really is fear and obsession that fuel the unreality feelings. If this guy genuinely believed he was in Hell or was dead, as some DP/DR sufferers do, but still had the occasional 5 seconds of forgetting about it, it means anyone can enter a state of non-DP/DR through distraction. It's easier said than done and seems impossible because we are too aware of our disconnection. I've entered a state of what I call "beyond DP" and it's renderers me dysfunctional, but even I have a tiny few seconds here and there where my mind is distracted.
Update? How are you now?
Same. Have been listening to the audio book and this part bothered me. 90% of the day I'm not thinking about derealization. I'm still very much dissociated that whole time. Definitely not full recovery or anything close.
I read somewhere that it caused by reoccurring trauma typically throughout childhood that got triggered by a stressful event and that when you resolve that trauma it will clear up. If I’ve distracted myself enough to stop worrying about it will i ever truly feel real again if I haven’t processed those past traumas properly? Is dp a result of anxiety or trauma?
Hey, thanks for the comment. No, recurring trauma in the past doesn't need to have happened. DP can be triggered by any number of stressful events, but it's not necessarily linked to any events in your childhood etc. You can have had a perfectly happy upbringing with no traumatic incidents and still develop Depersonalization. Read this article for more info: www.dpmanual.com/about/depersonalization-definition-what-is-it/
Depersonalization Manual Hi, does that mean that past trauma or sub conscious thoughts don’t need to be looked into before trying to move past it/ignore it?
How are you now?
I feel like my ocd keeps fueling the dpdr. I always get intrusive thoughts surrounding dpdr. I try not to react to them fearfully. I felt a little better but recently I feel like how I did in the beginning because of my bf moving away. I’m too scared to even get out of bed now. The dpdr feels so strong
How are you now ? Having an Ocd flare up 😢 the absolutely worse. On luvox not sure if it’s making it worse.
The only words i can say thank you😊
No worries! 😊😊
you are an Angel . thank you so much.
Happy to help! 😊😊
This works temporarily
Which is the first step.
How are you now?
Good evening. I suffer from doc, depersonalization and social phobia. Does the manual on depersonalization give concrete indications on how to get out of it or simply indicate which psychotherapeutic / pharmacological treatments to follow? What kind of psychotherapy orientation does the manual follow? Thank you
Thank you helped my life
Glad to hear it 😊😊
I'm gonna start training some sort of martial art. Good to get emotions out, the fear and anger, instead of letting it bubble inside you.
I got dispersonalization from a panic attack I was fine before I had one and it’s been over 2 months I hope I get better soon
I know DP can be frightening but remember that it's just your body and brain's natural response to stress and anxiety. It's not permanent and it can't hurt you 😊 You can and will recover! Make sure to read through all the info and articles on my website at www.dpmanual.com/articles
How are you now? I'm in the same situation as you!
What if I am too too fatigued and exhausted (physically and mentally) to engage in any activity, pls help :(
Check out this article, I think you'll find it very useful 😊www.dpmanual.com/articles/depersonalization-exhaustion-and-muscle-pain/
Even with the 5 seconds i am still distracted. What can I do?
Make sure to carefully read through all the articles and info on my website at www.dpmanual.com/articles 😊
Do 1 second if possible
no it doesn't cure you when you're distracted. It just gets your anxious thoughts out of the way. Reality will still feel fake.
Lund Pakora thats because you think that, if you forget DP and everything then it’ll not be there, only when you think of it it’ll come again
Hi Raj, thanks for your comment. When you consistently develop the habit of staying distracted, you overwrite the thought habits of DP. And they stop and reality starts to feel real again, it's all part of the recovery process. The 5-Second rule illustrates this, even though it's very brief at first! You can find more info on the recovery process here:
www.dpmanual.com/articles/what-does-depersonalization-recovery-feel-like/
@@luminous6084 That's exactly right. There's a great phrase in CBT: 'Anxiety is caused by the fear of anxiety'. And the same goes for DP. If you can remove the fear of it, you can stop thinking about it and it fades away as if it had never been there. You can find more info in this article: www.dpmanual.com/articles/depersonalization-recovery/
Depersonalization Manual lol thank you for the comment but I’m already recovered, I just didn’t find it scary after I began thinking of it as a tired mind
@@luminous6084 That's fantastic news Luminous! I'm delighted to hear it :)
when you recover, do you recover completely? and don’t worry about this feeling as much as i do right now? i had really bad anxiety and took really big hits when we smoked a blunt at a nice view called the rocks, after that i still feel messed up. i don’t feel completely high, i just feel fatigued and like a little slow. but I’ll have moments where i jus go back to normal like nothing happened for a good 5-30 mins. i’m 15 i just want it to go away man. I’ve been dealing with it since sunday. there’s times where i forget for hours on end when I’m playing basketball at the public park. then it hits me after.
Hey, thanks for your comment. Firstly, please make sure that you’re speaking to your parents about what’s happening. It’s very important that they know what’s going on. Secondly, I know DP can be frightening but remember that it's just your body and brain's natural response to stress and anxiety. It's not permanent and it can't hurt you. You can and will recover. And to answer your question, read this carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/back-to-normal-after-depersonalization/
@@Dpmanual thank you for reassuring me. and I’m curious if it’s cause i smoked 4 times in the span of 2 days, and it was my first 4 times I’ve ever smoked. it was for my birthday i haven’t touched it since i realized it wasn’t going away. i took really really big hits. there’s moments where I’ll feel completely normal again then it’ll go back to feeling fatigued and off.
it’s been since sunday so 3 and a half days or 4 days give or take
@@bravoboyy Read this, I think you'll find it useful 😊 www.dpmanual.com/articles/what-causes-depersonalization-disorder/
@@Dpmanual how am i positive that i have dp instead of self diagnosing
I love you man
Right back at ya 😊
I have been DP for 20 years. It seems to me that I never had dispersion, even for 5 seconds. I deal with my life and work.
Do you know what it results from?
Hi Nicky, thanks for your comment, and read this, I think you'll find it useful 😊 www.dpmanual.com/articles/what-causes-depersonalization-disorder/
Try and focus on something familiar,e.g a table,or cup of tea anything that will bring you back to reality
Thanks for the tip Michelle! 😊
Sound great but how do I know if I actually don’t have it in that time or if I just got used to it?
DP, like all anxiety-based conditions persist primarily because of the constant habit of checking in to see if you feel anxious 😊 One of the most important parts of recovery is getting out of that habit. So if you do that, deliberately or accidentally, for even just a few minutes at a time, you've experienced what recovery feels like 😊 Make sure to read through all the articles and info on my website at www.dpmanual.com
Depersonalization Manual thank you! You’re great!
@@Chris-gg2ef No worries! 😊
How are you now ?
@@thc7865 still the Same I think, It really is better not to worry about it all the time and go on with your life. Btw your username is what got me in that mess
Thank You
You're welcome! 😊👍
What if you never have that?
I hate it because I almost always have an episode in the shower from trama and I’ll think for a split second wow I’m doing really good I’m not anxious or going into it cause I’m excited but then it sends me I to it immediately😭
Bro my db problem not recoverying it’s almost been 1year
Don't worry, it doesn't matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch DPDR off completely by stopping the anxiety that's causing it 😊 Read this carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/how-long-does-depersonalization-last/
And if you would like to speak to a medical professional please don't hesitate to do so. I would recommend finding an anxiety specialist if possible as they will likely be more familiar with DPDR.
It somewhat works but I still feel disconnected from myself distracted or not
Hey Larry, thanks for your comment. So this is only meant to illustrate that DP is not a constant standalone feeling. Its intensity depends on your thoughts, habits and behaviours and as such, you can reduce and stop it completely. Check out this article for more info: www.dpmanual.com/articles/is-depersonalization-permanent/
Depersonalization Manual thank you!! And also there’s this guy on RUclips who says he has depersonalization disorder but he dosent have anxiety or stressors... I was kinda shocked when he said this cause depersonalization shouldn’t exist if you don’t have anxiety or stress... is this true? Is there any other things that can drive this condition besides stress and anxiety?
“You did it before and you can do it again”
I got dp from a really bad experience with edibles, I had a really huge panic attack and I thought that was it for me and I accepted it a little, but it's been three months dealing with this. Sometimes there's relief and I feel so happy and I don't even think about it, then the next im constantly worrying, crying and can't sleep. I just need this to all go away honestly..
Hey, thanks for your comment 😊 Don’t worry, that all sounds like a very typical case of weed-induced DPDR to me. I know it can be frightening but remember that it's just your body and brain's natural response to stress and anxiety. It's not permanent and it can't hurt you 😊 You can and will recover. Make sure to read through all the info and articles on my website at www.dpmanual.com
And if you would like to speak to a medical professional please don't hesitate to do so. I would recommend finding an anxiety specialist if possible as they will likely be more familiar with DPDR.
I have had it for 7 years!!! I cant live like this anymore :-( not sure if i got it after i was raped but probably:-(
Hey, thanks for your comment. So know DP can be scary but just remember that it’s a natural reaction to stress and trauma, and people experience it all the time. The National Institute on Mental Illness estimates that up to 75% of people experience at least one depersonalization / derealization episode in their lives. It's part of your brain's natural defence mechanism and usually it only lasts a few seconds or minutes at a time. It's only when it's focused on as a separate problem (feeling like you're going crazy / in a dream etc) that it can turn into a feedback loop with the anxiety that caused it in the first place. But no matter what caused it or how long you've had it, you can always switch it off completely by stopping that anxious feedback loop. Read this article carefully: www.dpmanual.com/articles/how-long-does-depersonalization-last/
@@Dpmanual
Hi and thank u so much for your answer.
My doctor wants me to try SSRI but im so scared that it Will make everything worse.
I also have autism, ocd, borderline and PTSD as diagnoses
I Hope i die Some day
@@sulejmanhadzic2401 Medicine helps too i am under medication for me it help there is hope in other ways and telling yourself you are going to be fine even when you are feeling really bad.
I recovered after 3 days It was drug enduced u can to
Glad to hear you've recovered! 😊
@@Dpmanual thanks to your videos it did if another traumatic event happend would I experience it again
@@its7teen205 likely yes, after a drug induced episode for me it recurred after i did another drug a few weeks later
Bro it feels like i don’t know who i am anymore, is it part of depersonalization?
Yep, that's a very common symptom of DP 😊 www.dpmanual.com/about/do-i-have-depersonalization-disorder/
@@Dpmanual so forgetting who you are and feeling that your in someone else’s body, and feeling that you can’t control your actions are all natural? Aswell feeling light?
@@RVG_OMAR Take a look through the list of symptoms here and see if they sound familiar: www.dpmanual.com/about/do-i-have-depersonalization-disorder/
@@RVG_OMAR same 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@RVG_OMAR literally dying crying 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
But my feelings dont really come back
Don't worry Alexander, your feelings will come back 100% as your recovery continues 😊 www.dpmanual.com/articles/is-depersonalization-permanent/
Bro I smoked way too fucking much
I cant distract ?
www.dpmanual.com/articles/depersonalization-fears-and-anxious-thoughts/
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Its not true dp dr is way complexer..
Complexer isn't a word.
this video helps noone
It's helped a few people 😊 www.dpmanual.com/testimonials/
Disagree.
This is nonsense.
LW VW why is it nonsense?
Nick Bertoni
This is no cure at all.
I have payed for his ebook.
It's a book for his wallet. Not for help.
this book helped me a lot man. Not nonsense at all
Mike Wurth
I gave this book to 100 people who have dp/dr.
Not 1people said it was a good book or get help from that book.
It's a book for the money for mister Shaun's wallet.
Mike Wurth
I have a dp website with over 110 members. I shared the book to all.
I don't care what you think.
We discussed this book as nonsense.
Good luck with the book.
I hope it helped you really.