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My Fiancée CHEATED at her Bachelorette party with 2 Guys - r/Relationship_Advice Reddit Podcast
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Shout out to the best friend and the Ex Fiancés dad.
Just because you lose the Queen that doesn't mean to lose the king
@@thesacandeyt9361 princess bud the queen is the mother
Aaaaaaeeyyy!
Shoutout
shoul out to the dancing bear too
Imagine a situation at a wedding reception where the bride and groom are getting ready to feed each other the wedding cake in front of the entire crowd, and the bride stops, walks away from the groom and up to a random guy in the crowd, lets him take a bite of the cake, then goes back to the groom so he can finish that bite. That’s basically what happened here.
Yup, your comment sums up what happened pretty well. Just minus the bride confused why the husband left, and later saying she needed to share her cake one last time with another man to let out all her pent-up sweet addictions' haha.
wow, that is a good analogy. like she feeds a male guest for every man she slept with during the engagement period.
It’s an analogy, but what actually happened was so, SO much worse.
Brilliant analogy.
Bachelor and bachelorette parties do not count. Cheating on a girlfriend or boyfriend is literally expected only betas don’t do it but once you have a wife/husband no more cheating.
"don't cry because single women don't need to worry about these things, I hope you find mr right" this is so fucking brutal and the timing made it so much more savage
a savage. Yup women can just go out and get the attention of men. But us men need to work in order to have women even take a slight interest in us. Single women dont have to worry cause there will always be a guy waiting for her no matter how low she's at.
What does Mr right mean?
@@dariuswong8279 the right person for her
@@jisooyah8440 you mean a victim
thats not even turning the knife in the wound, he straight up attached a steak knife to a drill
The fact she went home, slept, kissed him and pretended like everything was normal was proof that she's cold
With D on her tongue.
Bro, that's all women.
Yuck, he kissed a mouth that gave another man a .....
Saying “That’s all women” has the same energy as “That’s all men”
Regardless, the message about cheating still stands
I wonder if she gargled before kissing him.
That dad is a real G just cuz you lose your queen dosen't mean you have to give up your king
i agree, both families are real ones just the ex fiance's close friends and sister are bad in this story
still feels bad man
Wait only OP parents best friend boss mutual friars and the exs dad are good the rest like the ex the exs sister and friends and the exs mother are the bad ones
lol gives me chess vibes
What does that make you tho? A prince.... shit, if ya lost your queen I'd hope you were the king. My father inlaw is my father inlaw, not my king lol
Fr though that dad is legendary.
I'm sorry but the best friend is what a real fucking homie looks like
I wish I had these types of homies
@@endo-subject1698 I hope you will get one maet
Don't be sorry. The man came in so clutch that he deserves a billion dollars. I want to be that homie someday.
EXACTLY. True friends like that are so hard to find that only a handful of people ever do... Dude needs to just marry his friend and live together as bros that just smash NSA chicks all they want to fulfill the sexual needs 😂. That actually sounds like a good life lol...
I thought you meant her best friend
Found out after 8 years of marriage that my wife had cheated on me multiple times. Confronted her about it. Got told not to take it personally. When I asked "how can I not? It is specifically ME it affects!" she said "no no no, not like that. I mean the cheating.. I've cheated on 7 different guys I've been with before you, and no one lasted 10 years, or bought a house with me or had 2 kids with me! You're the one who worked out good the longest!" like I should be proud.
What I've learned after 2 years of depression and finally 1 year of happy normal life, is don't be a simp. Dump her ass. Once a hoe, always a hoe. They're just different. They lack the empathy. Also, even if you DID give her another chance, and she NEVER did it again, you'd never be 100% sure, and it'd drive you insane before you finally realize that it doesn't matter, because her word doesn't matter, because she's a liar. So just save yourself the agony and waste of time, and just dump her and get on with it. She's not worth you loosing your hair over.
I promise you, there is NO way this relationship has a positive outcome for either of you. God forbid you bring a child into this tension-filled house. It'll seriously never go away. Find someone else.
Are you divorced now or still with her ?
Personally i suggest you to leave her .
@@sidy6526 He implied he's divorced with the 1 year of happy normal life line
I was one of them and she takes it like a trooper and loves the taste of man fat
wish i received this advice 10 years ago
Oh no, even if you did give her another chance, she would definitely do it again.
In child psychology, you typically don't want to call out your kid for doing something wrong that you know they likely either won't quit or that isn't necessarily bad enough that needs fixing, because if you do your kid will just get wiser about how to hide it, and you'll lose the ability to know, at the very least, if ever they take that behavior somewhere dangerous. For example, smoking weed. If your kid already smokes in secret and thinks you have no idea, but you know and confront them, they'll still smoke weed with their friends and everywhere else. At least you know they're into drugs, and you can give them a passive talk about heavy drugs without indicating you know about the weed, to hope they don't take the habit a step further. Plus you'll know when they've smoked, if they've potentially quit, etc.
People who cheat are no different. If you catch a cheater, they'll just get wiser about how to do it without getting caught. They were already the kind of person who could cheat with no remorse and "all's well so long as you don't find out." Staying with someone like that is a life sentence to constant mistrust towards them and the inevitable times they cheat again - if you ever find out at all.
I always think in situations like this that she's sorry she got caught, not sorry she cheated...
I think that's probably how it is a majority of the time in relationships where people cheat.
She may very well be sorry that she cheated. That was the moment in which she truly realized the consequences of her *actions. It doesn’t take back what she did. The dude was extremely smart in how he handled the situation. Mainly that he suggested she should come clean with everyone and that his ultimate decision was that she was for the streets.
these sociopaths are never sorry about anything. they just want access to people to betray and nonstop resources
@@VictoryAviation she was LITERALLY BRAGGING about her degenerate sex acts then purposely added her ap to her facebook because she was planning on still seeing him and probably bringing him around OP as a ritualistic form of humilation
Yep.
I have to admit I respect the fiance's dad. He was calm and level headed, and understanding.
Best part is he didnt try and force them back together or spam his phone thoughout the day.
He calmly said that he absolutely repects and understands his decision, and that he was sorry for his daughters actions and DIDNT TRY TO IGNORE HER ACTIONS
@@the_dapper_stormtrooper9302 like the mother did a little. “Let’s just move on.”
@@OneRichMofo The fiance, the sister, and the mother, all in cahoots and on the same page.... Mom's probably cheated too, or an aunt....
@@feloniousmonk3049Yup, most people who defend cheating have partaken in it.
He should have called the sister's husband and told him that if she's saying that shit, she probably did the same thing at her bachelorette party before they got married.
Yes
Lol fuck yeah, good one dude.
yea that sister sounded like the type of girl you just really want to punch in the nose.
Damn. True.
Maybe she did it during her younger sister bachelorette's party
Fun fact: bachelorette parties are meant to test if the Bride would cheat if given the chance so no bachelorette parties are not an excuse
That really is a good barometer for commitment and fidelity.
Move on. I accepted my wifes explanation when she cheated on me before marriage. Then once married, she cheated on me again, and we went to counseling. The councilor said it is not my fault, it is her problem because of previous relationships. So, at that meeting with the councilor I told my wife, if it happens again. Just tell me you want a divorce because there wont be no forgiveness. 2 years later she cheated again while visiting her sister, and asked for a divorce. This is 2 years after we had 2 kids. It was bad. You avoid future issues by leaving NOW. Run bro.
I'm sorry for you, stranger. I'm in the same boat. Got a cheater back and made a son with her. Now she uses the leverage to get back at me for daring to discover her dirty secrets. It's like a murder with a witness. I was the witness, now she wants to silence me.
I’m sorry for that but bruh why tf would u take her back? Then she cheated again and u STILL tolerated it? Then u ended up letting HER divorce u instead of it being the other way around? Jesus. Did u not know where women cheat on their man and he tolerates it she loses all respect and arousal for him and will keep cheating then eventually leave u know that right? Ur wife didn’t respect u at all and lost attraction for u sadly man. Also statistically there’s like a 350% ur spouse will cheat again if u forgive the cheating. Hopefully u read this and remember this NEVER tolerate this always respect ur self first. Also ironically I guarantee u that ur wife would’ve left u had this stuff been the other way around sadly my guy. The most powerful trait a man can have is to not be afraid to walk.
I'm guessing she took everything you had because the courts are incredibly misandrist when it comes to divorces.
@@cassius573 Document everything, it may take years but just the fact she was cheating will put her in a bad place in court. Obviously that means you can't afford to return the favor, but from your phrasing it sounds like your son is the primary concern. See what the laws are on audio recording people without their knowledge where you live. My brother was in a similar position he eventually got out without paying alimony and he won the kids. I wont say it was easy or fun but it can be done
Im sorry, but u were not wise in accepting that excuse from her therapist
One thing I can never understand is when a cheater says something like "You can sleep with someone else so we can be even", they don't want to be even, they just want to be faithful and for you to do the same.
cheaters are sociopaths. they aren't capable of connecting sex to emotions so they not only don't feel any guilt but they get a kick out of betraying you and in this case bragging about it. for them to offer a chance for you to cheat is a reflection of how hallow they viewed sex with you and everyone else for that matter...
Facts, honestly it was kind of heart breaking that the wife's solution was simply to betray them as a partner since they did it first. I think this story is picture book definition response 2 wrongs don't make a right, you can't mend a relationship to the same level it was once trust has been broken. What a manipulative hoe
Exactly 💯
Yeah, it’s not like alternating who gets to pick the restaurant to go to 🙄
I WILL sleep with someone else. In my new relationship. That you're not in.
If it is common for things like that to happen at Bachelorette parties, it shouldn't be! Like was stated, it's great he found this out before he got stuck in a life with her. The fact that she, her sister, & her friends kept this from him with no regard shows what kind of character they all have, & its best not to have people like that in your life. He handled it all well & I hope he finds a girl as good as him!
So you mean girls are never loyal in Bachelorette party
@@iixtizzyxiijuniour1014 what did I say that would make you say that? I said 'if it is common for things like that to happen, it shouldn't be!' Implying that I am not sure how Bachelorette parties usually go, but that they shouldn't go like that. I didn't state what I personally believe they are like, but to clarify, I don't think they are usually like that. I would hope they aren't, my sisters was nothing like that, & I believe ones like that are few & far between. But idk for sure bc I haven't really been to many nor have I heard much about them. So idk, but I don't think they are like that, & certainly hope they are not
Right?! Idk what kind of friends this girl has to even let her think this would be ok, if you truly love your future spouse you would never think to cheat on them ever end of story
@@iixtizzyxiijuniour1014 Ok Kathy Newman. Nice leap in logic their.
Old saying: birds of a feather flock together. No blame on him - at all - but did he see what her friends and sister were like while he was in this relationship?? But then, they say love is blind. Also, depending on your core values, maybe sometime it's just one short step to cross the line and have sex with 2 strange men in one night. For other people, they wouldn't even get close to the line, let alone cross it.
My wife's bachorett party consisted of me our son and her having a quiet dinner at a nice restaurant. She didn't want a party. I didn't either.
That actually sounds really nice
@@masterchimichanga117 it really was. Sometimes the simplest things can be the most satisfying.
Did you guys take the after party to the bedroom?
@@bobjoe5937 we talkin all 3 of them? 😏
I agree
The fact that she ‘had a good time’ means there’s no way she loves that guy enough to get married to him. The fact that she also looked up his Facebook and and messaged him afterwards means that she’s most likely after more. The guy did everything right in this situation
Truth!
She kept trying to manipulate the situation had her sister and friend there to talk her through the conversation so she can Manipulate the situation and then finally he sends the other screenshots and doesn’t get a call back right away but gets a call 30 minutes later basically shows they 3 girls working on what they should say, you are never forced by your friends to do stuff like that and if that’s how the sister and friends work then you know for sure this will happen again. I just hate how much she “cared” about him after he leaves but not when she did things with 2 guys in one night, and it was smart to make her tell everyone what happened because now there is nothing to hide behind and when she turns her sadness into anger she can’t use those same people to ruin his life
she lie about he being in the wrong and he didnt read the whole conversation and when he point out she is lying, she blame it on friends and sister. She also say that the sister is gonna suicide but a few mins later the sister is still begging, noone gonna un-alive cuz their sister break up
@@TheRedLegoBrick I think what was meant is the sister in law said his ex fiance was going to un-alive herself.... she took the phone from his ex fiance.... not justifying anything..... just clearing up a misunderstanding from the story.....
Women are never accountable for their actions. That's why when they have 1 night stands they say sex "just happened".
If that is common in both Bachelor and Bachelorette parties then those tradition should end.
I've only heard of it happening once that wasn't on the Internet.
the tradition is fine but what is to stop them from being faithful afterwards, all the people out there who wants to tie the knot only asks for loyalty and if they can't handle it or try to blame it on the tradition as a way to negate on what they've done then it just goes to show that those people don't deserve the other
It unfortunately won’t stop
@@WarChaserz what?
Degeneracy is a tradition now days, it's encouraged and celebrated. You'd have to be an idiot to get married.
Guy who went through this is a good egg. He stuck to his guns and steeled himself to leave her behind and move on. Mad respect.
"needed to get energy out before stepping into a marriage for life" If the idea of being with 1 person for the rest of your life sounds like a drain rather than a good thing, then you're already with the wrong mind set for a relationship
Exactly. Already going in with the worst attitude about it. Will never end well
I guess you've never heard of polyamory? The concept of sexual exclusivity is newer than you think, and often overrated. Sometimes you need to acknowledge that you can't be absolutely everything a person needs for the rest of their life. That might work for some people, but not for everyone.
@@joshklaver47 That's a topic to be discussed before a relationship is established, not after cheating. Most men do not want to share their woman, and they don't have to put up with it.
@@joshklaver47 I think sharing a woman is weird,idc how long humanity has been doing it.
@@The_Horned_King Big facts,I don't believe in sharing.
Sure she seemed sorry, but the fact that she tried to pass it off as all just a misunderstanding at first would've been an absolute deal breaker for me. The fact that she was still going to try and weasel her way out of her mess up by passing it off as a misunderstanding and then stating, after she found out her husband had proof of everything, that her sister and friends forced her to cheat. What a despicable woman. She was claiming to take full responsibility of the situation but she was still trying to disassociate herself with what she did. Nobody forced her head down into that guy's lap, and nobody forced her to go home with the other guy. She did that on her own accord and had fun doing it, otherwise she wouldn't have been so adamant about having a conversation about it afterwards. This crap is why I don't get involved with people. I'll wait until I get older and find someone more mature. This crap is despicable.
she tried and was going to lie until the very end. I would have entertained it and tried to get her to keep explaining until she realized that I knew everything. But yea she kept lying and that was it.
Yeah bro, it was a big misunderstanding while Chad was fucking her brains out. But your right, it is despicable.
Ok but WTF is that name 😂 Love it
You don't have to be older to date someone older than you. Unless you're a minor lmao
Imagin if the OP said to her "if you were forced to do it, then you've been r@ped". Would be pretty cruel revenge to make her sister go in jail for that or at least have some problems from that. However that would show how desperate she would be to stay with her bf
at least he was willing to talk to her. i would have just 100% ghosted if my wife had done that a few weeks before our wedding. her and her family would have never heard from me again
i would have told everyone including the partners of all those garden tools in the chat bragging about all the degenerate sex acts that you just know they at least partially partook in
I'd have definitely told the family and friends, but I never would've spoken to the wife again. Silence is the worst insult you can give.
In my late 20s/early 30s, I was - on average - in three weddings a summer. You do the math. Not once ever did the bride have any sexual, romantic or even flirtatious interaction with any man or woman - and we were highly intoxicated at all of these bachelorette parties. This woman made a choice with full awareness, knowledge and willingness to have not one but two sexual encounters. It’s not normal and not common among future brides. It’s common among cheaters and narcissists.
this is why many men ask new loveinterests how many lover the have before. if the number is high the chance is high you have a narcissists and cheater. (this counts for both sides. men who have many sexual options have a inflatet ego too and most like be a narcissis too.)
@@Barlmoro Sure, your conclusions are right. While a man cheater is objectively a bad thing, it doesn't carry the same weight. A woman, for example, could never be insecure of her maternity even if her partner is the worst womanizer to walk this earth. Also, since men are supposed to be dominant, and that's the role society expects us to play, being cheated AND accepting the spouse back carries a bigger stigma. One of a man who doesn't respect himself enough to fill the shoes OF A MAN...
It's getting to be more common now days!
@@norbertschultz6233Yeah I've come across a lot of similar stories from men who had to divorce their wives after their behaviour was discovered at a bachelorette party -- the scary thing is that they're always found out, they are never honest about it. So it could be a lot more common than we know, just like in OP's story, he only discovered it because his Spidey-senses ate at him.
It’s crazy knowing damn well that if the shoe were on the other foot, they would lose their minds if their men cheated at a bachelor party.
Kind of like he did? I mean...we are hearing one side of the story. It sounds corny as F to begin with, but if true, I'm pretty sure his friends lost their minds, too, but if he'd cheated, they'd think their friend was a good guy who deserved a 2nd chance.
I am a woman and JUST. FUCKING. YES.
I am single, but if i EVER have a bachelorette party, it is only going to be my friends, just to avoid this shit.
Yup, the sister even said it that "WOMEN are allowed to go all out on bachelor before marrying" meaning that it's ok for them to cheat and be a 304 but if we do it we are cheaters, scumbag, ahole,etc. 🤦♂️
honestly cheating before your gonna get married?? At the bachelorette to?? don't even bother getting back together.
Imagine if they stayed together and had a fight later on down the road. Would the wife listen to her sister and friends telling her to let some steam loose and bang a stranger at a bar? Yeah a bit over the top, but from what was said she is very susceptible to pier pressure, and you can't trust that she will make good decisions in the future.
It because cheaters think a bachelor/bachelorette parties means "Last Day of Being Single" which isn't true, a bachelor/bachelorette party means "Celebrating your Engagement"
Never listen to her friends, they will encourage you to take her back when she wants you but when she wants to leave they will encourage her to. They don’t care about you, they care about her happiness.
Ceeboy - there is also the type of female who enjoys drama - in other people's lives. She doesn't feel the pain caused by this crap; to her it's like rubber-necking at a bad accident alongside the freeway. People like that used to enjoy watching lions vs. Christians in the colliseum. Yecchh.
@@rickraber1249 like the saying goes, everybody’s loves a train wreck, just don’t get involved.
@@Ceeboyforlife A lot of women thrive on the drama of other women. Back in the seventies there was a book called "Games People Play". If I remember correctly, one of them was called "let's you and him fight". I guess everyone loves a blood sport. Yecchh.
@@rickraber1249 that's facts
i wittnes often at work that miserable single woman try to convince wifes to break up or cheat , cose single life is so much better...
Never understood bachelorette and bachelor parties needing to do things like this. I've been to some of my friends' bachelor parties and there were no women involved, just a few drinks and LOTS of talking: teasing them about settling down, reminiscing about the past, joking about how their marriage is gonna be like, etc. I mean, if you feel the need to have a striptease before getting married, you probably shouldn't be getting married at all. This should be days/weeks before marriage, when love for your partner is at an all time high. If you crack here, you don't stand a chance with married life. OP definitely dodged a bullet, not only with his ex-fiance, but also with her friends, mother and sister. Imagine having them around your WIFE instead, damn.
It's a little strange, for sure, to watch other hot people get naked/nearly naked right before you commit to someone else for life.
I always thought it was dumb for bachelor/bachelorette parties being anything like that. Like if you're getting married why would you want to go to a strip club, or anywhere like that? I know when I do get married, if my friends want to throw a bachelorette party for me im setting boundaries. No clubs of any sorts. I'd rather go for a nice dinner, then maybe go home and have a sleep over and watch movies with the girls.
Yes, sister and mother were horrible! Dad was great though!
I had a woman do that to me where she cheated and a group of her friends knew, and then when one of them told me months later suddenly it was this big breakdown and she'd do anything for me not to leave blah blah. You can check my phone any time, you can have a side chick, all the same stuff. Remember that person didn't feel guilt the entire time until that point, so it isn't guilt now either. Sucks to say about someone you used to love but you need to understand, these people are narcissists. They just don't want your friends and family to know they fucked you over, so if they convince you to stick around then the eventual breakup will appear to have been for some other reason (they will try to find or build a narrative that makes it your fault), and they don't want to be seen as undesirable and alone so they want to keep you around while they're actively searching for the person they want to dump you for good over.
Shit just happened to me over the last 6 months I didn’t know until after she broke up with me last month. But afterwards I realized what actually happened and you nailed it.
Had the exact same thing happen as well.
Nailed it dude.
I hate it when people get back together with cheaters, how spineless do you have to be to forgive someone who clearly has no respect for you?
It's called being the better person
@@joemcnulty6814 no, thats called being a simp. Being the better person would involve you moving on with your life at that point.
@@joemcnulty6814 being the better person would be not cheating. Being the better person would be to respect your lover and not fucking cheat. But don't live in a world like that.
@@joemcnulty6814 nah mate, it's called being insecure about yourself to an extent that you let a person who clearly has no regards for your feelings destroy your mental well-being while you sit and watch. Sometimes the best answer is a little "no, piss off"
Gotta respect yourself 1st.
Wow. It’s sucks what happened, but he ultimately made the best & wisest choice to leave her. Because sometime down the road she would’ve done it again
This is so sad imagine you are na the place of that girl you drunk and you done that because of your stpd friend and sister
@@BestPlayTips
It doesn't matter if you have done that after drinking or not .
You are the one who is going to face the repercussions of it 🤷
@@BestPlayTips if she was not into it, she would have told him the next day and make police report against the friends and sister.
Exactly 💯
The part about her needing to let go of her energy is messed up. She is going to get married to the love of her life I imagine. Not sentenced to life in prison.
Sounds like a Will and Jada situation lol
they give everything to those who don't care and purposely give the worst version of themselves to their partner because that's what they truly believe that person deserves
happened to me, too. i got cheated on then i found out. broke up but took the girl back. dynamic was totally different after she cheated. i felt like i own my gf instead, it was just her trying to make up for her mistake the entire time, it was pure guilt that made her stay. i was never at ease and she was always frantically trying to make up for it. it wasnt a partnership anymore it was a chase. felt like shit. good thing he didnt take her back.
so what happened to you? kinda in that situation. twas years ago now but haven't gotten any connections with anyone at all since and lately idk who I am. feels like ownership/chase as you said other times feels love. sadly most times just feels like roommate with benefits
if she feels guilty she will make anything you ask right? even call one of her friends to participate or something like that... or do some stuff that she usually wouldnt do... it a oportunity, enjoy it a little and then go away...
@@carlosmagnomacieira8210 😂
damn... that's tough for the both of you! My advice is to call it quits because you won't be moving on from that together!
Happened to me. Made the mistake to take her back and impregnate her. Worst mistake of my life. All this guilt flips so quickly when she notices she has a leverage on you, she will start punishing you for daring to know her dirty secrets and lacking self-respect to take her back. Understand you were at risk, exposed women are under a lot of emotional distress, they feel like it's an impending death sentence and will do stupid things to flip their situation around. Imagine if she decides to get pregnant from you? Sure you can leave her, but now she will have the power to drag your life to the mud and she will take it... For all men out there, learn with my mistakes. Never forgive a woman cheater, never take her back, don't do anything stupid, just leave.
When the sister said she might un alive herself I would have said take her to another bachelorette party she seemed happy at those
That was 100000000% a manipulation tactic, I think. So glad that the OP wasn’t upset with himself, as someone’s who’s been the target of someone threatening to UN alive themselves to manipulate you.
Damn that was good 👍
i would have say something like: he if you can influence her to cheat, you can prevent her from this too and it is your job cose if she really did it it is YOUR fault.
God I laughed so loudly at that 😂
Lol savage
The idea that she 'needs to let out all of the energy' before tying the knot is crazy. Does future hubby now get a used-up woman with no energy left for him? More likely he gets a woman with a new-found appetite for other men.
Oof
That one in particular bothered me. If that kind of thing is said then she shouldn't be getting married. Almost made it seem like a burden. Like she was about to go to prison for life.
@@FakeAssHandsomeMcGee_ she's the type that would refuse to give head or do anything else once married and cheat with others and give them everything
The last part was so true. One of my older gfs cheated on me multiple times, and I never confronted her on cheating. She cheated on me a few months before we broke up, so basically she found out that appetite and started going out, partying, drinking, etc which was something me and her never did. I was quite young, maybe 18-19 and she was the same age, so she basically started discovering this new life. What's most ironic is that she cheated on me, and hung out with multiple guys but ended up marrying one of them lmao
@@pedrosilvaproductions what happened with that guy?? Did you tell him....you should. She could force him to raise kids that aren't his
People like to draw the line with having strippers when what should be the norm is to not have any at all. You don't create a party with some sexual atmosphere without expecting the worst things to happen. It should never be the norm. People should not play with fire and expect not to get burned. Have some dignity and respect. The problem with some cultures these days is that they do not heed old wisdom while they desensitise themselves to fornication and yet they are surprised when shit hits the fan.
100% agreed. Those parties should not even exist. Or at the very least, just be fun get togethers with friends and not have anything wild like that included. It's just asking for trouble.
Degeneracy is encouraged and celebrated. You'd have to be a complete idiot to get married these days.
Couldn't have said this any better!
@@JordanRA this. i would tell my girl that i am only OK with fancy diners or fun activities like lasertag , escaperoom etc with her friends. But NO strippers etc. for me the same rule.
@@JordanRA I have been saying that for years. I would feel dirty and depressed going to a strip club as a single guy, much less about to get married.
Got married. Moved to a new state closer to her family. Found out through her best friend 2 years later she was sleeping with her ex damn near the whole time. She tried denying than told me i wouldnt do shit about it because i was states away from home and had nobody. By the time she got home from work i had packed my truck and was gone and had her blocked on everything
"She tried denying than told me i wouldnt do shit about it because i was states away from home and had nobody" wtf??? that's vile .. who says that to their significant other ?? some people are just heartless
@@leonbelmont4028 its my mistake. I got married at 18
@@alfedosucksatgames5008 I'm 35 and I cant imagine being married now let alone at 18, Jesus. Talk about a setup for failure! But all failures are lessons learned! You are now that much smarter than you were before all of this!
@@alfedosucksatgames5008 i know some how make it. but the know each other from childhood like the mothers where at the same todler groups and the grow up together.
@@Barlmoro Yep, warm approaches leads to the most stable marriages.
Normal for a bachelorette party is a stripper not cheating. The thing with "last night free" is just wrong. You stopped having the freedom to go to bed with every guy as soon as you entered the relationship. A strip tease or smth is okay with some partners but cheating is never okay.
The last night of freedoms thing should be about being able to be irresponsible with like drinking and stuff not cheating on the person you’re about to commit to spending the next 60 years with.
@@lornetc exactly. Like at my bachelor party I went to the casinos with some the groomsmen and got completely hammered. No strip clubs, no cheating. But just good fun. Wife had a tame Bachelorette party and did painting with a twist and dinner. She's not the wild type and didn't feel a need for some big night out. Thats why I was never worried and she trusted me bc she knew I wasn't into the whole stripper crap
Man fuck that my bitch better not do none of that weird Shìt Kuz i ain’t
The whole "bachelorette" thing is a fucking joke... If you are a whore, you remain a whore, if you're a "good girl" you don't need a bachelorette party...
@@lornetc Well said
Play stupid games win stupid prizes. She lost out on the best thing in her life to ' get it out of her system' one last time. #Dummy.
The part that i disagree with is that its ok to have strippers because its a bachelorette party. No, thats not ok either. The time you have to be faithful is as soon as you start seriously dating, not just once married.
Agreed 100%.
Thing is, when dudes get strippers for a bachelor party....strippers make a lot of fuckin money stripping. There's almost no chance you can pay her for sex. I know a good number of girls who are strippers and they get paid thousands to be looked at for a few minutes. I know for a fact they wouldn't fuck clients for any less than 20 grand.
Edit, point of all that is, lap dances don't mean shit
im not having sex with the strippers tho
Exactly 💯
The whole strippers and sleeping with other people in these parties is a perverted version of what it's suppose to be,you have to wonder how future paries will look like,straight up orgies?
Man, look how easily she was convinced to have another mans, man ting in her mouth. Then went home with another dude? Why is she blaming everyone else. It would been a false marriage.
At no point while going home with a random did she change her mind. It's obvious she wanted to do it and she enjoyed it.
Wife still tried to lie that it was a "misunderstanding". BOOOM other screenshots
the sister probably told her to call it a misunderstanding thinking he only had the one screenshot. not thinking about WHERE he might have gotten it from SMH. matter a fact a lot of her "excuses" sound like they came from the sister and her friends feeding lines in her ear. I feel like if she had just been upfront about it after after he sent the first screenshot to the sister, he MIGHT have given her a second chance instead she just tried to lie and make excuses. she don't deserve him.
Honestly, he dodged a bullet there. Like you said in a video that I can't remember, "once a cheater, always a cheater." She acted like she truly love him, like he is the only thing that mattered to him, begging and stuff, but if she truly love him, why would she go and do that in the first place. Like if it was me, I'm a guy, and my friend just force me to do this as just a joke, but I truly love my wife, I wouldn't even give it a second thought and just leave the party. Like if you want to do it, you have the one you truly love to do it with, why go out of the way to do it with someone else you don't even know, that just proves that you don't entirely love your significant other, and it's just gonna go down from there.
And she went down and didn't want to come back up.
Her fault, her loss.
Are you refering to Friends by any chance? If not Im sorry. 😅
Yes it happened to me it’s been about a year. I feel like cheating is the most painful disgusting vile thing you could do to someone else. Let alone someone who you claim to love. The pain that I have felt from cheating is so profound I often wonder if I will ever truly be able to love and trust someone ever again, which is sad honestly. I’m not exaggerating at all when I say it damages people for life.
Be well all..
Truth, I am one that will never trust another woman!
I LOVE that, "you shouldn't cry, single women are allowed to see other people" DAMN bro
this is the most depressing story i've ever heard
This was a walk in the park. No kids and not married yet. This is a success story for op lol
Then you ain’t seen nothing.
Ive got one about your mum
@@beachboy13600 - 😂🤣😂🤣😂😅 You’ll burn in hell for that one. 😂🤣😂🤣😂😅
I understand she made a mistake but he's 100% completely justified in being stone cold to her ...she deserves the stress she's had to deal with 🤷🏽♂️
She DIDN'T make a mistake!!!, she knew what she was doing, AND she wanted to do it.
She made a CHOICE.
@@kiwia8271 true
@@hothotheat3000 true she knew exactly what she was doing
If by mistake you mean she tripped and fell on the first guy's dick and then by mistake went to the wrong home and accidentally had sex with someone who wasn't her (now ex) fiance, then yeah, sure it's a mistake. She consciously chose to cheat. There is no mistake in that.
That friend is the most raw definition of a friend and a good man.
I went to a bachelor party for a colleague from work. It was a pub crawl where the groom was dressed in a striped prisoner costume with a ball and chain. At the end of the night we ended up back at the host's apartment where we all crashed for the night. The next morning the groom comes out of a girl's apartment across the courtyard. He dives into the pool and swims over, bleating like a goat (this was an inside joke of some kind). I was completely disgusted. He's getting married in a few days, and this is how he behaves? I didn't say a word to his fiancee, but I felt pretty bad for her and couldn't think less of him. What a scumbag.
Well, don't treat your wife that way, you'll think even less of yourself if you do.
She seemed so sorry for what she did, but that still is no excuse and I totally understand why the guy did what he did
Yeah she did but there’s no coming back from that at all. It’s completely unforgivable and fucks everything up
This isn't a situation where sorry cuts it, you can't trust the person who xheated after that and the fact that she has her sister and friends helping her try to lie even more to try to manipulate this guy just shows he dodged a huge bullet with this one
She’s not sorry for what she did, she’s sorry she got caught. There is a difference.
@@Jmn-ru1kj yeah
She's sorry she got caught.
I don't get why people think they'll take them back after cheating... They'll never be able to trust you again!
What's to stop her from doing the same in the future if she was that easily tempted to do it right before the marriage like, yeah you just simply can't trust them after that point
Listen to the interview with a male stripper and his confessions about the percentage of clients that he slept with after the bachelorette party, it's disheartening.
where can i find this interview?
Where's the interview
if my girlfriend say she wannts a bachleorett party i would say: only fancy diner, no stripper etc AND one of MY friends are with you too. if she ask why i show her this videos. if she not understand i would stop the weeding at this moment. and yes i would make it clear my friend would be a safeguard that her friends do not pull such a stund.
@@Barlmoro Actually, I think you should test her. Let her express her desires, let her choose strippers. Even encourage her if you feel the inclination. If you get the confirmation, it's all the proof you need she's for the streets and just like that you dodged a bullet.
@@Barlmoro 😂😂 а babysitter? Would you accept the same conditions for yours
I always thought that bachelorette and bachelor parties were made for the purpose of cheating before getting married and partying and stuff
I never thought it was right; I thought it was weird; however, I just recently learned that this is not what these parties are for so I’m honestly relived about that lol
The wife is trash for that
To be fair Bachelorette parties are still weird. Even if they don't cross the lines of cheating they are still basically designed for the ones having them to tow the line of cheating as close as possible and enjoy other people erotically, if not sexually, other than your long term partner.
Yeah true and trust me I thought it was for cheating too
It is 100% weird! Like... you've been dating for years, you're engaged, and during that time you shouldn't cheat. But RIGHT before you're married, you can hire strippers and walk around with dick/vag paraphernalia and make out with random people for one night? I guess with consent... sure. But yeah you're probably gonna make out with a stranger which imo is cheating.
traditionally bachelor/batchlorrete parties were meant to be instructional so the presumed virgins would be made aware of what to do on their wedding night.
@@davidbrown7589 ahhhh ok
If she is begging this guy for that much uno he has a lot of money 💰
Bingo
he is a businessowner ther the chef can take month long vacation, this means there is definitve Money in the bank.
I've been to a number of bachelor parties that were anything from a night of drinking and cards to the male version of this situation. Trust me, that was extremely awkward as the fiance was also a friend. For my own, I asked that strippers not be involved. I wanted to be able to tell my fiance what went on and know nothing I said would hurt her feelings. She didn't have any at her bachelorette party either. We both had a great time anyway.
We went camping for my friends Bachelorette party and tripped on shrooms and had like deep conversations about life and what the future holds for him. It was beautiful, I guess we all have different meanings for bachelorette parties 😂
"A mess?" Bro, you're BLESSED to have found out prior to marriage. Loyalty is malleable & based on ratio of merit. For your fiancée & their friends to not inform you of their infidelity, says far more than what you should be GAF about.
(edit) Oh, mere seconds later into watching the video, one guy said the same thing I had in mind. lmaooo
This is more so a story about how amazing of a friend this dude has Jesus
if you find this friendship, you both can go to war and know you never have to watch your own back, cose he does it for you.
There's a very thin line between having fun and cheating, op's wife just crossed it.
She really sucks.
Trust. The Korean dmz looks like finger width line in the sand compared to stepping out on a partner.
The line isn't "thin"
What an absolute winner that guy is. Glad to see theres still other men around holding people accountable and making his own life better knowing the pain he had to go through. Good stuff.
You dodged a bullet. Good for you for having the strength to move on. She clearly has zero discipline and would definitely cheat again.
Wow, poor guy. Major props to her dad tho, that's a big call he made.
He was sooo lucky, once a liar always a liar! Damn jezzabell spirit! I hope he gets a good loyal woman!
My ex-MIL told my mom on the night of the wedding after my mom told her that I really loved her daughter "I hope she realizes that"... she didn't
sry for that. her mother should tell you before...
He did the right thing! I have experienced this... I always say that a loyal, faithful couple can get through anything, but this betrayal. If he stayed with her, these actions would just haunt and poison the core of the relationship because essentially there is no trust... There are good women and men that know where to draw the line, and know how much trust means in a relationship, especially in this day and age...
The one thing that stands out to me specifically, because I’ve dealt with it, is attempting to manipulate someone with the threat of self harm/suicide. It’s one of the worst things you can do to someone, especially a romantic partner.
Yeah! but , the reason they try that tactic is because, when she got caught? She knew she had blown it. So they just try different ways to manipulate the guy to come back.
If the women tell her fiancé sister or who ever is setting up the party should ask if the husband is ok with it before going out and doing it and trying to keep it hidden forever
I have been married 3 times. NONE of them involved a bachelorette, or a bachelor, party.
Modern women are not making men walk away from dating, no no. They are making men RUN away from dating, at top speed, evading fire, and taking cover. Every now and then I speak w/teenagers, or young men in their 20's. They seem to have the idea that oh yes, prenuptial agreements stand up in court, they aren't the 50 meter target on the firing range- for women- the target nobody misses. When I was young, I got older guys, and even women, talking- to learn. I knew I was totally ignorant, and needed to learn. The veterans often had great wisdom, and were willing to share it, with someone who listened. The wedding stores in my area have all gone out of business... if that's not an indicator of issues, I don't know what is. Many women seem to be honors graduates with a BSC degree: Bat Sh*t Crazy.
There ARE no soulmates, any more than there is a Santa Claus, or Easter Bunny. There may be compatible ladies, guys, whose minds and hearts aren't totally toxic, but all relationships are imperfect. It's just the way our world is. We live in a world where:
Body count is something to boast about. Milage on a car doesn't matter. Rain does not wet the ground. Fish fly a mile high over the ocean. Fast food is nutritious. Poisoning one's soul with hatred and resentment makes a woman far more attractive to the alpha male she wants. Adorning one's body with toxic cosmetics doesn't poison the liver and kidneys. Pouring out hatred and resentment on men makes them want women. Hallmark movies, Soap operas, romance movies, Disney heroines- are all documentaries of how the world works. Yes, Virginia, there really is a Santa Claus, and 20 years of throwing away your value absolutely gets you Mr. Big, just like it happened in Sex and the City, which is also a documentary.
But let's make a comparison. Let's imagine a rabid Wolverine, so violent that it has to be caged in a cage made of logs. Would you risk your life, to be around such a creature? Maybe not. I don't play with poisonous snakes. When I was young, I was allowed to play with tiger kittens, but even then, I had no idea to be in the same space as adult tigers. Yes, lady, there are creepy people out there, and you are among them.
The Romans used to line the Appian way with the bodies of crucified men, as an object lesson. Divorce courts perform the same function, in our society.
Her sister was probably jealouse of her happiness; thats some terrible decision making by her supposed support system. 🤦🏻♂️. Glad the dude got the hell out of there, blessing in disguise for sure!
It would be much better if the night she came home she told him what she did and not hide or as you say hide it better
Thanks for the 3 likes
I feel like your first point is better than the last. In my opinion, hiding something like this can backlash in the near future after marriage. SImply due to the concept of technological advances, many solutions can be procured to reveal the deceit of another. Relations, gossips, and rumors are also an alternative source of truth or at least a spark of curiosity, which is 1 alternative out of many.
Bachelor and bachelorette parties shouldnt be a thing at all imo cuz it can end badly that night
It always ends in a gangbang
I’ve read some interviews from male strippers before, and based on what they say this kind of thing is not uncommon at bachelorette parties. It just usually stays a secret between the girls forever I guess. I definitely would have left her, I would have remembered it every time I looked at my wife and been pissed every day. Better to move on
Can't trust her at that point, no matter how sorry she is. Maybe she never does cheat again, but you as the other half in the scenario, will always be paranoid about it. Best to move forward
I dont doubt that sex at Bachelorette parties is common. But how often is it actually the bride to be? It doesn't really matter what the rest do. Most women are garden tools anyway.
I imagined first that when the ex fiance said "she would die if he wouldnt come back" the guy would have responded with "Is that so? Well i suppose you should start saving up. Coffins are pretty pricy at the moment" and hang up the phone
He made the right decision. Its very hard when you are in that position when you plan your whole life with this person. It seems wrong to throw it all away and also to just stay together. Happy for him to make the right decision and being strong through it.
once a cheater, always a cheater
The fact that the Sister and friends were all going to hide it tells you what kind of people they are. She also was going to lie to your face acting like its not what it seems like if you didn't have the solid evidence she was just going to shower you with more lies.
Even if it's sad and depressing for this guy this by far has become my biggest favorite reddit story
That woman is an AWFUL person hope he finds someone great
yeah its still cheating while on bachelorette parties
A important quote for relationships: you never fall in love with the same person twice the second time you fall in love with the memories
Hell no!!! The deal is "one and out" for both parties. No excuses.
So stupid. I’ve never believed in a ‘baccalaureate party’ and never will. Happy that I married a woman that doesn’t see the point of it either. We both got married and had fun with friends and family. No ‘last night’ bullshit to have fun. Makes 0 sense. You will have fun for the rest of your life with your husband or wife, not at some dumb party where the possibility of dumb things happening is there. For my advice to anyone, don’t have a ‘baccalaureate’ or ‘bachelor’ party.
Interesting that you say baccalaureate are you referring to this “celebration” venerating the bacchus ? Me and my wife never gave a shit about a bachelorette party even tho our family was pushing for it
@@5.0-LJ_ yeah man I’m referring to the bullshit parties that married couples tend to have before marriage, so dumb. I trust my wife and would have fully let her go but she wasn’t interested as she doesn’t drink much and she isn’t interested in strippers or any of that other bullshit stuff people tend to do which I have no idea why. I hate the tradition personally and think it’s the dumbest thing invented
That story hit too close for me. I need a cigarette and some Xanax.
Watching this almost makes me cry, I hate heights standing on a chair freaks me out.
No matter if it's a one time thing, or "it's ur last night to be free" (just paraphrasing a comment I saw one time: they said that u'r no longer "free" if u'r already dating and if u consider a marriage a "shackle" the u shouldn't get married at all) once u interacted with a person, a kind of interaction reserved for u'r lover, it's considered cheating.
This excuse is just them trying to shove down the guilt.
Brooooo you're still lucky to have great friends! Seriously I hope you get better soon!
Not taking the Fiancée side but my brothers wife's friends were trying to get her to do stuff like this at her Bachelorette party because "it was her last night", she ending friendships over that night. Like what kind of friend are you where you're trying to talk your friend into cheating? Not sure how common it is but i I've heard quite a few stories like this irl.
Edit: Also not saying the Fiancée's not lying about her friends forcing her just saying that something similar happed to my brother's wife.
I mean, she could've done it like your sister-in-law and told them to bugger off. Having "friends" telling you something like that is one thing, I think these friends should be removed from your life anyway. Consciously choosing to do it is a whole other behemoth. She deserved what she got.
i bet the friends where all single who did this. i wittnes often that coworker try to sabotage the meeriage of ofer woman if the are single and miserable with it.
The best piece of advice I ever got about women and business relationships...you have to be prepared to walk away, completely.
And expect you'll have to
How does he get negative feedback from people? Are there that many people that think cheating is fine?
Im sorry this happened to you man. One thing ive learned throughout my life, (granted ive never been married before, but i do know a thing or two) is that you should always trust your gut instinct. Even before proposal, etc... red flags in your gut regardless of what its for, relationships, work, family etc... those gut instincts are usually correct. Best of luck to you.
Dude handled this situation like a boss. As awful as it is, most people wouldn't have the courage at this stage in the game. Luckily he did and saved himself the rest of his life. A lot of gasliting & emotional hostage situation at the end there. He pulled thru like a legend. Hope he can find trust again at the right time.
This is why if i ever was going to get married, we not having no bachelor/bachelorette party. We can have a party together with all our close friends and if she not ok with that then ain't no wedding happening.
At first I thought the guy might’ve overreacted, but as it played out, definitely not. She lied and lied again, and I agree with the host here that if she and all her crew are acting like this before the wedding even starts, what kind of marriage is that gonna be?
Yeah it would be so sketchy. Like after that, how could you possibly trust that person again and look at them the same way? I agree at first it sounded like an overreaction but then as I heard more and thought about it, it's best to move on
Lol any form of cheating on your partner is unacceptable...dont care what the circumstance or situation is, you have sex with someone else than your partner, your out xD
This is why I've never believed in bachelor party period.
Every man 18 on up needs to spend a day in divorce court, when they have contested cases. This should be a requirement for guys graduating high school. I wish I'd done this when I was 18.
Am I the only one or in my country Bachelor and Bachelorette parties was held JUST to tease the Bride/Groom and TEST him/her loyalty??
Xander - I don't get those types of bach/bach-ette parties. What's the point? Watch some naked person of the opposite sex offer to help you cheat while your friends cheer you on? Is that the only way you know how to A. have fun, and B. celebrate the end of singleness? Gotta be a better way.
Bachelor/bachelortte parties are some scary shit. I been to a few bachelor parties and nothing too extreme ever happened, just the bachelor getting spanked by a stripper with his own Belt and tons of lapdances but some stories I've heard makes this event here sound PG-13.
I hate how everyone was saying “everything can be fixed” or “we can move forward from this” like there’s no moving forward from this cheating messes things up and can’t be fixed after that.
God only knows how many times something like this has happened at a bachelorette party and been kept a secret.
I just love how she calls it a “mistake”. Blowing one guy and actually going home with another. Some mistake.
If she betrayed you once she will do it angain. Specially considering how much the run from the responsability when confronted and them how she proceeded to suicide threads.