"Conflict is an opportunity for authentic communication and connection" such a beautiful and empowering truth!!! I'm also starting to learn and practice not running away from conflict and reframe it as an opportunity for deepening the love and connection with another human. It's amazing how it can gift you so much more closeness with another's soul's truth!!🙏
I was born in the 60s..i call it the bottom draw era...i was told a man would come along...we would fall in love snd be happy for ever more...ive realised no one is coming to rescue me...
Reflecting on one of the many nourishing lessons with in this conversation, and how when we grow up in a chaotic home our nervous system is hardwired to create chaos when things are calm. And thinking about the children that create chaos in school and are often punished or set back because they are unable to "follow rules". Further setting the child back and disrupting any self esteem that could be cultivated by positive adult figures and just writing them off as "troubled". Sharing this from being one of these children and being kicked out of a variety of schools and often in the principles office, and thinking about how that set a foundation for me to feel terrible. Terrible about myself, like no matter how hard I try no matter how hard I try to push myself to fit a particular mold that I perceived as the child that was praised I was always the one getting in trouble. Why is this not common knowledge when it comes to these educational institutions? If these systems are responsible for shaping and molding the minds of much of our youth you could assume that prioritizing the child's well being would be of the upmost importance. And if this could be recognized then these children that present in this way could be put into special classes where they are taught to regulate their emotions and communicate non violently because their home care givers are clearly not up to the task.
Acknowledging the needs , then communicating is hard as before even doing we speak for our partner at times through our assumption and mind reading. Kudos and a big thank you to this Duo , coz you teach me how to identify my needs and then communicate.
What if your partner used to do what you need and stopped? I feel like that is showing that you know but you just CHOSE not to do it which makes me feel I have the right to be angry and concerned. Also if I say what I need and they say “No” knowing I’m upset and this is what is needed to fix it but they CHOOSE not to, that action speaks loudly and tells me they don’t care. Now that builds anger and resentment and feeling uncared for.
I had many of these expectations in many of my relationships. This video makes me feel different and understand with awareness the real meaning of relationships.
WoW!!!! Just in time for what I need it. Relationship do not complete us… they are an extra😮 that is something mind blowing I need to start working on… I have so high expectations of friends ! I imagine the kind of all in one person best friend for ever image… so has been hard to work in the opposite direction. I have a very platonic view on it… I think about the story of Jesus and he said ´No one had more love that the one who gives his life for his friends’ and that is something only Jesús can fulfill … lots of things to think about
"Conflict is an opportunity for authentic communication and connection" such a beautiful and empowering truth!!! I'm also starting to learn and practice not running away from conflict and reframe it as an opportunity for deepening the love and connection with another human. It's amazing how it can gift you so much more closeness with another's soul's truth!!🙏
I was born in the 60s..i call it the bottom draw era...i was told a man would come along...we would fall in love snd be happy for ever more...ive realised no one is coming to rescue me...
Reflecting on one of the many nourishing lessons with in this conversation, and how when we grow up in a chaotic home our nervous system is hardwired to create chaos when things are calm. And thinking about the children that create chaos in school and are often punished or set back because they are unable to "follow rules". Further setting the child back and disrupting any self esteem that could be cultivated by positive adult figures and just writing them off as "troubled". Sharing this from being one of these children and being kicked out of a variety of schools and often in the principles office, and thinking about how that set a foundation for me to feel terrible. Terrible about myself, like no matter how hard I try no matter how hard I try to push myself to fit a particular mold that I perceived as the child that was praised I was always the one getting in trouble. Why is this not common knowledge when it comes to these educational institutions? If these systems are responsible for shaping and molding the minds of much of our youth you could assume that prioritizing the child's well being would be of the upmost importance. And if this could be recognized then these children that present in this way could be put into special classes where they are taught to regulate their emotions and communicate non violently because their home care givers are clearly not up to the task.
“His Needs, Her Needs” & “Men are from Mars, Woman are From Mars” are excellent books for relational conflict resolution❤
So true! Thanks for the greatest video!
Acknowledging the needs , then communicating is hard as before even doing we speak for our partner at times through our assumption and mind reading. Kudos and a big thank you to this Duo , coz you teach me how to identify my needs and then communicate.
What if your partner used to do what you need and stopped? I feel like that is showing that you know but you just CHOSE not to do it which makes me feel I have the right to be angry and concerned. Also if I say what I need and they say “No” knowing I’m upset and this is what is needed to fix it but they CHOOSE not to, that action speaks loudly and tells me they don’t care. Now that builds anger and resentment and feeling uncared for.
I had many of these expectations in many of my relationships. This video makes me feel different and understand with awareness the real meaning of relationships.
WoW!!!! Just in time for what I need it. Relationship do not complete us… they are an extra😮 that is something mind blowing I need to start working on… I have so high expectations of friends ! I imagine the kind of all in one person best friend for ever image… so has been hard to work in the opposite direction. I have a very platonic view on it… I think about the story of Jesus and he said ´No one had more love that the one who gives his life for his friends’ and that is something only Jesús can fulfill … lots of things to think about
What an A-mazing presentation! Thank you for sharing your own stuff, it makes it so much easier to relate and thus understand.
Amazing talk. Thank you so much.
Mind reading... I am not a fan. staying conscious while upset is truly the difficult challenge, but we have our whole lives to learn how
You two are starting to really look alike.,🙏🏿✌🏿
Great talk..
Please note: The amazon link to your book is not working.
Thank you for your amazing and so much needed work.
i love u two thank u thank u
YOU ROCK!!!!!💞
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