People are saying that Bo didn’t experience a panic attack when he finished a show. Panic attacks aren’t always shaking or crying uncontrollably. Some people freeze up, go silent and turn practically catatonic. Some people bury the attack until it comes rolling back later but worse. Some people have good days and bad days, but they still have it. People deal with it in different ways, it doesn’t make their feelings any less legitimate.
I literally have the same type of panic attacks he does. You feel like of weird and then all of a sudden you feel like you're sucked out of your own head watching everything from afar. The out of body experience is fucking terrifying. I can't talk, can't move, can barely breathe. Just awful.
JosieCat people that say that isn’t a panic attack or that isn’t one either, haven’t actually experienced a panic attack. Panic attacks come in different forms shape and sizes.
@@horimiya7290 omg...you nailed this for me! I didnt know how to describe it. I had no idea how to ask questions about this particular, unusual episode I experienced. When the only word i could find to describe an experience is feeling "detached from the senses of reality"... In short, I felt crazy. Its every humans worst fear... How do we know when we have lost it? I had never experienced ANYTHING like this, and nothing like it since then. Very surreal, cloudy, dream- like sense of being out of body, and my senses were dull, even touching my own skin didnt feel familiar. It did not last more than a half hour, if i had to guess, but unpacking the anxiety that came with it and the thoughts afterwards lasted a few days. I never talked about it, mainly because I didnt even know how to describe what happened.
@@GypsyEncounters I'm glad you got through that and please know you're not the only one,There are others who have similar experiences -and sadly- quite a few people with anxiety (short-term or not) because of derealisation
My first panic attack was the worst. I screamed and cried and I kept falling to the floor and sobbing “IM GONNA DIE”. To my parents Edit(sounds dramatic but I have a very large fear of death and I thought I was having a heart attack) My panic attacks are now usually me pacing up and down, shaking and twitching and hyperventilating but I’ve definitely had those inner panic attacks in public.
I get panic attacks, and a lot of the time, people around me have no clue unless I verbally tell them. Given the choice I will usually curl up in a ball and hide, but it’s not uncommon at all for me to carry on a perfectly normal, calm conversation during a mild attack without even acknowledging it if I don’t trust that person enough to tell them.
@@thadboy3267 Really sad to hear that, I hope they're not too severe. Do you think facing the fact you are having a panic attack and saying it out loud to a person you are with helps at all? Obviously this is not an option a lot of the time as you said but when it is possible.
Jake Stewart no. It’s like having a football coach that plays football. I have depression and I want to be a therapist because of how much my therapist helped me. You obviously don’t know anything about therapy.
@@humptydumpty357 "It’s like having a football coach that plays football" No. it's more like having a football coach that doesnt know how to play football. If they're shit at football, how are they gonna teach you it? you say that you have depression. not had. have. so therapy isnt the cure according to you.
@@LaLogic2 typically men aren’t this open with discussing anxiety and other mental issues because of gender norms and feeling like they’re not allowed to. A lot of men experience it and it’s nice to see two guys having a real conversation about it
I get anxiety from work because i have to prepare for the 8 hr war with karens and anti maskers, didnt realize i had anxiety until i realized that for the last 2 months I'd show up to work 10 minutes early, sit in my car and take a breather and mentally prepare myself for all the confrontations Im about to get into. It was this stomach wrenching gut feel, it made work unbearable. Its going away a bit now but man almost made me quit, i hate having 25 confrontations per shift. I just want to do my job and leave in peace.
"How is a story about a guy alone on Mars, locked in a... It felt so true to me" and now "Inside" is nothing but a guy alone locked in a room because that was our lives for a year.
I think he portrayed that in his film "Inside" because he was finally in the head space to understand the movie Martian. Finally had words instead of feelings of anger and translated that into his songs on the film.
Micoola I agree! my guess is: people who have an overall more sensitive approach to life (and consequently experience some sort of mental health issue) use art as a coping mechanism and form of self expression. Most creative people tend to be overthinkers and over analyse experiences/people/themselves. As a way to cope with the huge amount of emotions and thoughts they have to process, they create - either as a form of communication or, in some cases, as an instrument to deal with the struggles of (hyper)sensitivity. In my experience I realised my senses are spread wider than most people I know, and life has an excessively strong and more profound impact on myself in many cases. Whether it's to express things I can't name or to just take my mind somewhere else, art puts everything into place :)
Kiki Kowalsky well said! I feel like I see through to the truths of the world and sometimes that makes things seem pretty dark. I’m absolutely crippled with anxiety with some of the videos I post, but I just have to keep growing and feeling uncomfortable. If I didn’t have a creative outlet such as RUclips I’d imagine I’d be depressed most of the time. Anxiety sucks, but art is cool. It’s such a love hate relationship
Finding the creative outlet really is the key. This is what I did and it helped me. ruclips.net/video/SUJPN5z_7Tg/видео.html It all came to me one night in the midst of one of my worst panic attack
Loved what Bo said about riding a bull while everyone else is an equestrian. That's a perfect way to describe adhd as well. Like you have to try 10 times harder not to fuck something up that most people can do without even trying. Really frustrating and I've felt that way since childhood. And it creates SO much anxiety.
I have ADHD and it fuckin sucks like it would probably be better if I took my medicine but no one understands what the medicine does to a person. Like it makes u not be urself which sucks and then like u said I have to try soooo hard not to make everything suck while other ppl are just like yea that's easy not to mess up
@@chasehamilton702 I have ADHD to and I can't even afford the medicine, it's weird because because I can't afford the medicine I feel like I'm turning into a different person myself, don't get it wrong I still go through a lot of normal stuff that ADHD people go through but I'm stressing out like you because I can't even get access
I actually think I have A. D. D, though I'm extremely mild Mannered so my parents have never questioned that possibility. And yeah, I have to try like crazy to get shit done and focus. Which sucks because all my hobbies require concentration. Lmao I hate being an artist.
hearing bo talk about his stomach problems with anxiety really spoke to me. since freshman year, i’ve had that. i’m starting college this month and every single day i have stomach aches, nausea and anxiety over the idea of getting sick, throwing up, getting any sort of disease, etc. it felt good to hear someone i look up to, like bo, mention something i also go through.
omg. i came across this comment kinda late but i relate SO MUCH. just around when the pandemic started, i would have anxiety attacks every day and would get nauseous and then get even MORE anxiety because i was scared of throwing up or getting sick. when i got covid (bc of my irresponsible brother) i was filled with anxiety and was so worried i would throw up or something
@@cyb3rd1v4 it's irritable bowel for me, since pre teen years i started having stomach aches going to school and having to rush to the bathroom, later on at 18 was my first panic attack and whenever i'm nervous i get those stomach cramps
Burnam is right. Speaking about it or admitting that you are having a panic attack does change the situation. Really glad they are talking about this openly and honestly
I feel like saying you have anxiety to most people makes the situation more awkward. Cause they will say this or that, and it can give them anxiety knowing you have anxiety. Instead, like the other guy says he hates. I think it is better to just suck it up. As in, try your best to get your mind in the right place and push forward with that. It’s not always the best option in a given situation, but many times that’s what you need to do if you need success in the moment as quick as possible. IF you are willing to relax. It’s so easy to make enemies this way on the internet. This is just my advice to myself in my own life. If it doesn’t apply to you-feel free to share your view. No reason to hate on my view instead of sharing your own. Cheers
@@TheSteve1126 Seriously!! My family is so fucking traditional, and by that I mean they have (misogynistic and homophobic beliefs) And they literally couldn't give two shits about mental health, so fucking tired.
@@TitaniumTronic Man. I have people who support me around me, and I still feel so fucking tired. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Stay strong, you can and will get through it, then find your tribe.
_"have you ever raised your voice at a guy in the grocery line and then your heart is pounding for fourty minutes afterwards?"_ that's so on point. I'd love to confront difficult people more often but it's just not worth the stress on my heart afterwards.
Sounds like Bo experienced symptoms of dissociation during his panic attacks. As someone that deals with both so heavily, it's nice to hear Bo and Ethan talk about it!
I understand that sort of dissociation Bo mentioned with his anxiety, especially when he talked about like "tunnel vision". I also think it's nice to hear people talk about it since most people just think of anxiety/panic attacks as just feeling intensely scared when in reality it's more of an "off" feeling that can vary in intensity from person to person. Also i feel like it's important to mention that one person's anxiety is NOT the same as another person's, so for some it could feel like they are intensely scared. I guess i could also describe my anxiety like i'm there, but it's like i'm watching everything from a slightly blurry window thats darker around the edges and muffles the sound.......if that makes any sense.
Just came here after watching Bo’s special “Inside” and needed more commentary from him. Ive struggled with generalized anxiety since I was 12 and it’s put my life on hold a few times. I love that he brought up the wish for it to be singular to you, but the relief that also came with that. The riding the bull and the bystanders metaphor is exactly how I’ve felt for as long as I can remember. It’s both comforting and somewhat sad finding out that no, you’re not special, and you’re fixable, and not even as fucked up as you think you are. Thanks for making that Netflix special, Bo, it really helped me through the dark.
I think one of the greatest things about music and art in the abundance of RUclips is that you realize you're not alone. That's one of the most damned feelings is sitting there in your own head thinking "why am I like this" and feeling like nobody could understand. But you're not alone, and that doesn't negate what you're going through. Everyone goes through it differently, and deals with it differently. But knowing your not alone makes it so much easier to live in your own head, to try to find help.
I absolutely understand the whole "i didn't know it was anxiety even though it was happening every day." When it's happening to you for as long as you can remember, and it's every day, and everyone is talking about how "nervous" they are at school anyway, why wouldn't you just assume that this is how it is? Everyone has debilitating stomach cramps every day, right? Everyone is having constant digestion problems, everyone is getting tunnel vision, right?? The thing is, you can't even check, because you assume (or maybe even just learn from experience) that if you talk about your literal pain, everyone will assume you're being overdramatic. So you just learn to keep shut, and hope eventually you'll just get...i don't know, better? Better at dealing with it? Cause clearly you're doing it wrong, right? Took until I was through college, talking to a co-worker at my day job about the daily pain, and he said "yeah, i used to get physical chronic pain. Then I took medication and it helped." Holy shit, right? The point is, fucking talk to people, talk about your pain and be honest, and let them be honest about their own. Won't solve everything, but it'll certainly help. Also, fuck the school system.
I'm thirty. When I was in school, "mental health" wasn't a thing, it wasn't on anyone's radar. It was in my mid-twenties that I found out that my experience was not normal and that if I were a kid now, my severe social anxiety would likely be diagnosed and treated properly. Fifteen years makes such a difference and I'm so happy for every child (and adult) who benefits from all this being in our collective conscious now. I know I do.
What I learned about anxiety is you don't realize how bad it is until it stops. When you are in the middle of it you are too busy reacting to the anxiety to ever stop and think on how bad it is.
sometimes when i get really overwhelmed with anxiety that the sound of people talking makes me angry and makes me feel claustrophobic somehow?? it’s hard to explain but it feels like little sounds are trapping me and making me agitated and anxious to the point where I just want to scream.
Same..i went to guitar center and got some disposable ear plugs. Id cut about 25 percent off to make them pretty much invisible unless someone was looking directly in my ear hole. People with deep or high pitched voices are easy to hear it's just the people in between you may struggle with hearing. But the trade off is so worth it! These ear plugs are the eyelids for your hearing.. I recommend you give them a try.
That means you're not smart. If basic words make you feel claustrophobic. But don't feel bad cause cunty assholes lead the same life they just don't have humility.
Same! I suffer from hypersensitivity and sometimes someone talking a little too loudly can set me off into a full on meltdown. (It's called a sensory overload)
Watched Inside last night. What a rollercoaster of emotions. From boarder line tearing up with sadness to immediate laughter. The back and forth of pulling my heart strings was intense. Inside was truly a masterpiece.
I resonated a lot with the "if you give it a name then it's already won" mentality and it sucks to be aware that you're definitely not alone but still you feel alone.
My anxiety isn't always dependent on my environment. Sometimes it's based on fear of health like hypochondriacs and sometimes I get scared period like generalized anxiety. It sucks. Sometimes very real feeling symptoms accompany it that aren't real.
Belicose777 I am exactly the same, a few months back I was at my worst where I was fearing over random health reasons which always ended up being nothing for days and days but just know eventually your mind will get tired of worrying over that stuff and slowly move on
Brian D that's for sure. Pretty sure I'm getting there. I've kind of gotten to where I can carry on doing what needs to be done instead of being incapacitated by fear.
Fucking same y’all. My worst point was a little over a year ago. Was having multiple panic attacks a day for like 3 months, then panic attacks at least every 2-3 days for a while. Now I can talk myself down if I feel one coming on but damn did it suck. I thought I had a brain tumor or blood cancer. I thought I had various heart conditions. It was terrible. Went to like 10 different kinds of specific doctors for various tests and all came back as me being healthy. Anxiety is the worst.
Good god, Bo is so good at articulating feelings around anxiety, it’s so refreshing to feel like there’s someone else out there feeling the exact same way
I'm so glad that he talked about the differences in types of panic attacks. Mine are similar- tunnel vision, ears ringing, heartbeat in my fingertips, sweating, and just fully zoned out, out of body. People think it's only a freak out, hyperventilating episode, and it's not always like that for everyone.
This is actually a thing... Alan Watts has said a lot of us are anxious merely because we realize we are anxious and we then get caught up in a thought loop that’s hard to escape
Thank-you so much for sharing Bo and Ethan 💙 I’ve been dealing with anxiety for the past year and hearing you guys talk so openly about it is incredibly refreshing and puts me a bit more at ease
I think anxiety comes along with intelligence. Being hyper aware of your surroundings is dangerous. A lot of people that don’t experience it are more of live there life kind of people when people with it experience overload on the daily.
i agree that anxiety and intelligence likely go hand in hand, but this is most certainly not because of hyper-awareness. i'd venture to say most people you consider intelligent are not hyper-aware of their surroundings.
When he says "It helped when I heard Barbra Strisand has..." was pretty cool because hearing that people like Bo Burnham and Thomas Sanders have to deal with it too helps me a lot. Just... wow it helps
No exaggeration, my anxiety was so bad in high school, especially in the morning, that I would feel sick to my stomach and throw up almost everyday. I know that's maybe tmi, but it's true and it sucked. While my anxiety now isn't nearly as bad it's still here, and hearing Bo and Ethan being so open about their experiences with it honestly made me feel a lot less lonely in what I feel, I really needed this today, thanks boys ❤
I was great in hs. I had an emotional breakdown years ago and then went into a high pressure sales job. That left me crippled for about 2 years. I recovered totally alone, but I still have social anxiety.
I went years feeling chest pains thinking something was wrong with my heart. I went to the doctor when I was 14 for it. Turns out I had anxiety, I was put on medication. I’ve been anxious for years and it’s been getting worse and worse to the point where I’ve felt like death was better. It’s some dark shit, to feel that way. I dropped the meds and started taking cbd and it’s changed my life. I can’t even express how much it has helped me feel normal for the first time in years.
hadron89 I don’t know how true that is for everyone. I agree and understand what you’re saying, but I used to take daily walks and I couldn’t because of how bad it had gotten. I can also go without the cbd now! I use it mostly for panic attacks. But it’s why I’ve been able to go back outside.
hadron89 that’s great, truthfully! I just think people have different needs and different levels of anxiety. Even though I don’t need cbd every day, I can’t say that people should or shouldn’t take it everyday. I just feel it’s too complex and too vast of a problem to say that because of your experience you feel others should be able to handle it the way you did. But I see what you’re saying, i just don’t think it’s that black and white, imo.
gothicshawty started off on CBD myself too - felt absolutely amazing the first time I took it. How much are you taking a day?? On 30-40mg so far myself.
coming back to watch these after watching inside. this is literally my favorite podcast episode ever. ethan's a great interviewer and bo's so open. both of them seem to get along so well
I love this so much - how raw he is. But it breaks my heart knowing how much Bo suffered and still suffers. Put yourself in his shoes. The pressure he puts on himself for us is almost admirable. We don’t deserve him.
I've been having panic attacks lately and hearing about this from Bro kind of made me understand myself more and what I'm going through. I really hope he's gotten better since. Panic attacks are horrible and I don't wish them on anyone
I've been dealing with super bad social anxiety for the past couple of years. I just got through my freshman year in college and it was absolute hell. I was pushing myself to do things and trying to be normal every day even though deep down all I wanted to do was sit in my dorm room alone and cry. I wasn't always this way, I used to love hanging out with my friends and meeting new people but suddenly during my senior year of high school, this darkness took me over and socially destroyed me. The idea that I wasn't funny enough or smart enough and nobody would want to be friends with me in college. Even though I did end up making some friends the darkness didn't go away, I still viewed myself as socially awkward and wished I was like my friends who just seemed like they were reading a script and said and did everything perfectly. It's an endless cycle of my anxiety and depression causing me to act differently and awkward and affirming my biggest fear that I'm socially inept and just weird. I never told anyone about it until last week when I mustered up the courage to tell my primary care doctor and he referred me to a therapist who I'm supposed to meet next week. I'm hoping she'll put me on medication so I can see that it really is just my anxiety and fear of not being good enough that's causing everything. I'll post an update soon!
I feel you dude. I just finished my freshman year too, and that was one of the worst emotional and mental experiences of my entire life. I had gone into college after essentially somehow conquering high school, and I had all this confidence that I was gonna do great since I went to a college prep school and I felt good about my chances. Then I get to college, which is on the opposite side of the freaking country, and all that confidence goes away. After the first semester flopped, I had gotten a plan put together for how to improve myself for next semester. Then that came along, and it was like reality kicked in, telling me that my hope and confidence in myself was based around one big lie called happiness and success. I began sleeping through my classes. It seemed like everybody was doing a lot better than me in my classes and coursework (which they were ofc) and I isolated myself in my dorm room for the entire day when I wasn't in classes or eating. When I told my parents about my grades they freaking flipped out because I was essentially failing every course, which just added to all the other contributing factors to my stress and got me to the point where I genuinely considered self harm and suicide, asking my roomate for his hecking knife so I could kill myself right then and there. Since then I have suffered a crisis of confidence and I am slowly trying to build myself back up from my immense personal depression. But now I have a sense of ptsd now. I feel like the whole concept of success for me is just gone. Everybody I knew said I would do great. That I would be fine and I didn't have to worry because I would be able to find balance between work and fun, finally. Hah. Now that all seems like the grand lie known as my self worth and personal happiness. I started thinking, "perhaps I was never meant to find success or do well in real life? Maybe everybody just misplaced their faith in someone who couldn't do shit? And now I've let them all down" All that is just a tidbit of what I feel at this moment in time as I am alone with my thoughts. Anyway, that was my essay on what my mental state is right now. Sorry to bore you all (if anyone is even reading this) 😅
Matthew Brodsky damn brother that sucks I’m sorry you’re going through that shit. Im in a super tough spot mentally rn too, the one thing keeping me going is that I know deep down this is going to get better and I’m just going through a rough patch in my life. Just try to keep your head high and keep pushing on, don’t give up on trying to improve it, shit will get better for the both of us soon.
It’s comforting to see two of my favorite people talk about something I struggle with every day. Literally having a manic episode and this video is the only thing that helps
I think people with anxiety, like myself, think to themselves so much that the thoughts get uncontrollable. Like it takes practice shutting off the voice (meditation, social exposure, medication and therapy) in order to decrease the anxiety. Does anyone agree?
Cameo64 Yes. Maybe not always shutting the voice off is the answer, it helps to just battle it with logical thinking if possible. Works for my anxiety sometimes
I've been meditating the past two days, and I think it helps to recognize that thoughts just come and go on their own. You don't need to dwell on them. Meditation makes it easier to brush those thoughts off in your daily life.
I agree, sometimes it only takes one thought and then it’s a never ending cycle in my head that only keeps getting louder, I like how bo and Ethan compared it too how comedians talk to themselves on stage bc that’s exactly what it feels like. It always happens to me without realizing and I start pacing around but ive slowly gotten better at controlling it and trying to quiet down those thoughts and sorting them out calmly but it’s still hard :/
agree with all of it besides medicating it. SSRIs and other anti depressants are hardly better than a placebo in clinical trials, most only do well enough so that they could say the drug was more effective than the placebo (like 52%over 48 etc). For most people, probably the majority, anti depressants do nothing for the root of the issue of their anxiety, and only further fuzz up their experience of life.
I have anxiety but not the social kind. I used to smoke pot a lot back in high school until I had my first panic attack and thought I was having a heart attack. Started experiencing sivere anxiety ever since. Definitely became a hypochondriac. Would check my heart rate a lot fearing I would die. I'd have constant panic attacks, I couldn't go outside my room without dreading it(only place I felt safe).This went on for months, went to the emergency room a lot. It was rough, I didn't think I was ever going to get better. As bad as I got, I never took any pills or seeked professional help(not implying others shouldn't).The good news was I was healthy as a horse, besides the extreme and constant anxiety of course. Anyone reading this stuck in a similar situation, heres how I got it under control somewhat. I started exercising, getting enough sleep and eating right. I also stopped checking for any symptoms(heart rate) associated with my anxiety. Critical: tried exposure therapy. I increased my heart rate in a safe environment with people I trust and faced my fear. Over all, I recommend sharing and educating your friends and family about your anxiety. Slowly expose yourself to the fear and know that what you're feeling is very uncomfortable but not dangerous. Hope this helps.
I have health anxiety too and honestly the best advice I can give is to anyone else reading this is seek help (CBT was best for me) and stop checking! I used to get bad stomach pains (was actually due to digestive issues but that's not always the case so don't panic) and I used to press on my stomach obsessively seeing if I could feel a lump or if it became worse when I added pressure I ended up bruising myself (which isn't serious) and then convincing myself that my appendix was about to burst. I went up to A&E at least once every week. Whether that was for my stomach pain or chest pain. I once ended up having a chest x-ray and ECG just because of my overthinking.
Same thing for me bro, I had the exact same experience. Learning to face my fears has definitely helped. With the knowledge that a panic attack can't kill you and the fact that they will eventually pass, my fears are lessened greatly. Awareness of this issue is great and I think its wonderful to hear many people have experienced the same issues as me. I used to think I was alone!!!
Richard Ojeda this sounds exactly how I was at age 13. I experienced this at a young age as well, and learned to combat this awful feeling using the same tactics as you. It worked for me.
This is so spot on to my experience. I have it under control for the most part, but I went to a concert yesterday and checked my heart rate over and over again out of the fear of a heart attack, it's a struggle.
Anxiety and panic attacks are no joke. I went to the doctor a lot when I was a kid because I couldn't swallow food without choking, turns out it was anxiety. Fast forward to highschool I puked every single morning before school or during first period. Now I'm 23 and I can't leave the house without having severe dissociative panic attacks.
i haven't performed in three years because of anxiety. bo is the reason i'm trying to get back on my feet. without him and my music teacher i would never even think of performing again
DO IT! (When Covid permits) -- I have the mildest little anxiety, but I do hate brief moments when I'm alone on stage until at least one other band mate comes up. Then I feel like I can breathe again. Without them I feel like an imposter, like I'm not supposed to be there, like I snuck on stage and security is going to remove me. I know it's nowhere near what you experience, but I also know people in the crowd *deserve* to have us trying our best (or the best we can muster that day), so even if I can't play guitar at all that day I try to think of how the people that came out are just having a good time whether I'm bad or great, and that they won't really care either way, lol. It's been 8 months since you posted that so I hope you've made some good progress. If not, keep pushing!
Winston Chirpsehill Filip Micevski dude like its sooo annoying to me especially because I suffered from Both. Thinking I was different because of my anxiety only to realize that it's just life and I had to do things like work out or meditate and boom problem solved. And I used to have to wipe for everrrr and then I started taking Meta mucil and I barely need to even wipe my ass. I was literally freaking out when Delia told Ethan about Meta Mucil(I've been tweeting him and buying chats to tell him about it lmao). Then next episode Ethan says it made his shot amazing, but he feels like it is weird and basically would rather have a shitty, swamp asshole then just do simple things to fix his issues he constantly brings up
5:22 a phrase that I love and learned from therapy is “you name it, you tame it”. Noticing that something is going on and being able to name it makes it easier to tackle going forward.
I know I'm late to the party but I've been an ICU nurse for 4.5 years. Beta-blockers are commonly used to control high blood pressure but they also lower your heart rate. People often use them during times of anxiety to keep their blood pressure and pulse down, which can actually prevent you from getting that "worked up" feeling during a panic attack. Many stage performers use beta blockers, and in my experience they help tremendously.
beta blockers totally mess up metabolism, though. my younger brother has a larger aortic valve, and when he was put on beta blockers he went from 110 pounds to 140 in a month while playing sports and eating normally.
@@OhBlazing that might just be something specific to him. I’ve been on beta blockers for the past 2 years and I was still able to lose 30 lbs without issue
i watched this before my english presentation and it helped so much. the fact that people i look up to deal with the same stuff i deal with is so comforting
he describes it really well. i had a panic attack on stage as a dancer yesterday. i perform a lot and i don’t normally have panic attacks for shows. yesterday i missed my que and i started hyperventilating but i needed to go on because the formation would look bad. so i just freestyled on stage and tried to forget about it and it sort of was an out of body experience. like everything was on the inhale for sure. i only realised i was still shaking when i had to stay still for 3 seconds and hold a pose. ive been told i pulled it off well but my god it was hard. then i remember running off stage after and finishing my panic attack in a corner. the teacher came to help and some friends but yeah it really sucks and i definitely sympathise with bo.
No idea who these people are, but what an intriguing interview. This subject matter is no joke and I am so glad to hear others discuss this and how to overcome.
Damn anxiety sucks, i didn't even know i had anxiety until i had a panic attack during a class in college, i felt like i couldn't breathe , my heart felt like was pounding 400 bpm i thought i was just going to die there
I remember having my first panic attack in a college class, too. The topic of the day was anxiety and panic attacks and we were watching a video of someone have a panic attack lol. I wish I was making this up, but I legit almost left the room since I was sitting towards an exit.
I knowwww. I’ve been a fan for a long time he hates Trump so much and isn’t shy about ranting about him. I’m surprised he didn’t take that as a chance to tbh.
As an long-time anxiety sufferer, this puts anxiety into a clear, vivid, and profound context. Bo does an awesome job of describing things and making you feel his experience.
I lived with a near crippling fear of the world ending for 2 years and nobody knew about it, telling others about my anxiety literally helped so much. For awhile during quarantine I was anxiety free, but as I came out of my hyper fixation bit, all of my hypochondria and anxiety came back to the point I couldn't enjoy fucking *anything* and it was horrifying. Getting help is probably one of the best things you can do. Also just knowing that whatever it is your afraid of you'll be able to handle, even in death, lessens the anxiety for me.
I love seeing these interviews after Inside. And I love that I keep seeing the same group of people in the comments of old Bo interviews (I guess we are all going through it). I keep going back and forth on if I really want more behind the scenes interviews about Inside or if it just needs to stand on its own.
i had my mom watch Eighth Grade so she can maybe try and see what living with social anxiety is like (ive lived with it my whole life), and she just didn't give a shit and hardly watched it and still gets mad at me for being anxious. so thanks bo for understanding and creating something that has made so many people feel seen and understood. Eighth Grade is so brilliant.
Frosty1979 yeah and in classes when teachers tell me to take it out while im stressed it just pisses me off, but it makes it much harder to hyperventilate and feel faint so it keeps me much more grounded
I can explain this one! Chewing gum makes your brain think you are eating which also makes it go "we can't be in danger because if we were in danger we would not be eating". So you calm down because your brain is hard set to "we don't eat while in danger". So yes it's actually recommend that you chew gum in especially high stress situations because it basically loopholes anxiety. (Sorry I just actually knew something for once and I know sometimes knowing the reason something happens is nice)
kylie boydston woah that’s so cool. i think that teachers should allow gum and respect that it does help people, even if others just want to chew it for the taste. i’ve told teachers i need it for anxiety and gotten detentions for it and i think they need to be taught everything you said
@@chloe-dr4rk they really definitely should. The need to lower anxiety levels in young adults should far outweigh "we don't want to scrape gum off desks and floors" but you know how well that goes. There's actual science saying it helps and that should be--but isn't--enough.
kylie boydston yeah, and to be honest the kids leaving it under desks are just as much part of the problem as the teachers. literally just throw it away but instead they stop people with anxiety having a coping method
Yeah, having intense anxiety while trying to fall asleep, my mind drifting through strange thoughts and having anxiety definitely feels psychotic. So I can relate Ethan lol
i remember finding bo's funny music videos when i was in middle school and they used to help me feel more normal and lessen my anxiety. grew up overweight and got bullied but loved to cope with humor as the funny fat kid so seeing bo's evolution through the years and hearing his own personal takes on anxiety is amazing to me.
He has deeper voice than I expected. This is gold, very useful because I´ve fibromyalgia comes with anxiety, the pain makes panic attacks. Not a day wasted, learned something new.
Love the “speaking it” portion - hits so close and sound to my truth and past demons. Lil blonde rich girl who was prescribed Vicodin for period cramps as a sophomore in college in 2 yrs later driving my daddy paid for Acura to the East side of STL with the goal of putting a needle in arm for the 1st time - if I didn’t say to myself or to anyone that I was addicted to opiates it wasn’t happening, it wasn’t my truth. But finally calling my mom and saying “Mom, don’t be mad, I need help” before nodding out and dropping the phone. My family and friends supported me through it all and I felt so dumb for thinking they’d disown me
I'm battling anxiety now for a year. I wasn't diagnosed with it though because I can't get over it to talk to someone about exactly because of what Ethan said about your parents. I'm feeling much better already but I'm still uncomfortable with wanting to go outside or something. But I'm better now than at my worst time 6 months ago when even lying in my bed was difficult. It's just your mind fucks with you on so many levels and you have to battle it inside your head. There was a time I couldn't even watch horror/drama or action movies because it would make me so fucking nervous. I could ONLY watch comedy stuff to cheer me up. I remember watching Wonderwoman and I got so nervous and felt sick... it was horrible... But the thing that makes me most angry about this anxiety is that I didn't have it before. I was just shy and that was it. I could go out etc. and for example visit a club but then after I finished working at the company I worked back then it started out of nowhere. I just got sick with like 39 C degrees. And somehow anxiety just came with it and since then I have it... There were times where I even couldn't really eat something and had to FIGHT in my head and eat as slowly as possible so I don't get anxiety. I guess I have anxiety nausea because I always got the sick feeling.. but as I said it's getting better and I hope I don't have to visit a Dr or something and can battle it myself... I really appreciate videos like this that shows yourself that you're not the only one and it's generally something you shouldn't be anxious about because everyone can have internal problems and it's nothing bad.. it just happens. But still. I'd just wish I'd never got it in the first place.
Just remember that you are allowed to be at whatever stage of life you are in. There is nothing wrong with you, and you have no reason to feel shame about this. You deserve to be healthy and supported. You deserve nothing less. Talking to someone is something everyone should do because it's an unbiased professional listening to you. Dealing with parents can be hard, but just know you are not alone. They love you, even though they might not understand or think it's real or normal. You are going to be fine. You got this. Papa Bless
I had severe anxiety and panic attacks out of no where for 3 months straight, my panic attacks could last 10+ hours and I could be on high anxiety (body alert, constant adrenaline pumping) without a break for weeks at a time with no break except maybe the first hour I woke up. The things that helped me where: 1, Dr Harry Barry's videos and really understanding the science and biology about panic attacks. 2, A short course of Valium just to make you feel normal for a while and "reset" your amygdala. 3, CB therapy and talk therapy. (where I didn't even get to the bottom of why I was anxious it was just nice to vent) Remember the more you fight your anxiety the worse it will become and the longer it will last, you need to accept that it is not your enemy or trying to kill you it's your body trying to protect you and keep you alive. I know this is much much much easier said than done, but try, next time you have a panic attack just say "bring it on" try to make it worse and you will find that you can't actually make it worse. A year of anxiety is too much and just think how brave and strong you are for being able to put up with that shit for so long, and if you feel like you are losing to it don't beat yourself up over it, IT WILL PASS IT ALWAYS DOES so be kind to yourself.
I'm so glad I watched this.. you think you're so alone with something when other people suffer from the same thing. I have grown so much but still suffer from it. Thank you guys.
This interview is incredible as it hits so many points: for me, I was absolutely mortified and terrified I had a severe mental illness and I could not bring myself to talk to anyone about it. It was so bad I almost had to take a leave of absence from work. Once I began talking about it everything changed - slowly but surely they became less and less and more controllable.
Having been diagnosed with anxiety and depression earlier this year, this video means a lot to me. Of course, I'd never wish either on anybody, but there's a certain comfort that comes from knowing that the people you look up to have problems as well. On a different note, it bothers me when people say "OMG I like totally have anxiety!!" It happens in real life and in the comment section. I find it pretty damn hard to believe that all of these people have anxiety disorder. Sure, they maybe felt overwhelmed a few times, but anxiety disorder is not something to just self-diagnose yourself with. It's kind of insulting, and personally makes me feel bad about myself when I see all these "people with anxiety" around me doing just fine. Anxiety is a serious issue. Anyway, loved the podcast and this clip. I've been watching Bo for years and can't wait to see what he does next in life! And keep up the moves, Ethan.
I know your goal is to provoke a response, so in that sense, congrats. You win! I have no hatred or ill-will toward you. I just think it's unfortunate that some people have nothing better to do than tear others down. These kinds of responses make me sad. Not sad for myself, but for you. Maybe insulting people and being "edgy" makes you feel cool. Maybe it makes you feel funny. Maybe you're just bored. I don't know. Maybe it just makes you feel better. If so, I'm glad my issues could help you out. I hope you get over this problem soon! On a more serious note, I've always been confused by this kind of behavior/response from people. I assume it's either immaturity, psychopathy, or both. No matter the cause, I hope one day you realize what you're doing and make a change. Have a good one, man.
I hear ya, panic disorder is the worst. I lost my brother in September of 2017 while tapering off benzos. Right now I am unable to work right after graduating college because my anxiety and depression is so severe, every day is a nightmare because the depersonalization is chronic and never goes away. Anyway, I feel your pain and hope you get through it bc I know what it’s like, I’m sorry you have to go through it.
I've got ptsd, anxiety, insomnia, agoraphobia and a long list of other annoying things that all seem to stem from the same place and exacerbate each other. I remember finding Bo Burnham just a month after my oldest brother died of suicide and a year before my youngest brother died the same way. And, fuck me, did watching Bo's content help! Thanks Bo! You really helped a girl out and you'll never know but I deeply appreciate it and the way you could take my mind off it and help me laugh without feeling guilt, even for a short minute while being able to catch a breath.
I’ve had anxiety for most of my life. I don’t have the courage to get help yet. It’s kind of embarrassing to me to just actually tell a random person what’s really going on and understand that it’s real and I need “help” with it.
I feel you there. I’m in college rn and anxiety has stopped me from taking advantage of SO many opportunities. Around a month ago I realized that my “nervousness” was caused by GAD, and I sought help from a doctor. He described me an antidepressant, and by God, it’s worked wonders in helping me manage the anxiety. I’d encourage you to do some research (if you haven’t already) and seek out some help, relief is possible!
Joseph, asking for help doesnt make you weak in any way, i dont suffer from anxiery or depression and whenever i see someone asking for help i never think of them as weak. Just wanted to throw that one out there
From someone who has asked for help, I encourage you so much to do it!! Doctors are there to listen and help it doesn’t matter if you cry. Write how you feel etc in your phone notes, go to the doctor and just word vomit read it or if you cant just pass the phone to them to read it, first step is the hardest ♥️
When I was 13 I had the same stomach issues as Bo. IT WAS ANXIETY. When my Dr suggested it, I thought they were accusing me of faking it. But they told me anxiety can have symptoms. Your entire body is under stress. Though the worst of my life, adolescence, was yet to come. BAM! Comorbid borderline personality disorder after that. I relate HEAVILY to this.
People are saying that Bo didn’t experience a panic attack when he finished a show. Panic attacks aren’t always shaking or crying uncontrollably. Some people freeze up, go silent and turn practically catatonic. Some people bury the attack until it comes rolling back later but worse. Some people have good days and bad days, but they still have it. People deal with it in different ways, it doesn’t make their feelings any less legitimate.
I literally have the same type of panic attacks he does. You feel like of weird and then all of a sudden you feel like you're sucked out of your own head watching everything from afar. The out of body experience is fucking terrifying. I can't talk, can't move, can barely breathe. Just awful.
JosieCat people that say that isn’t a panic attack or that isn’t one either, haven’t actually experienced a panic attack. Panic attacks come in different forms shape and sizes.
@@horimiya7290 omg...you nailed this for me! I didnt know how to describe it. I had no idea how to ask questions about this particular, unusual episode I experienced. When the only word i could find to describe an experience is feeling "detached from the senses of reality"... In short, I felt crazy. Its every humans worst fear... How do we know when we have lost it? I had never experienced ANYTHING like this, and nothing like it since then. Very surreal, cloudy, dream- like sense of being out of body, and my senses were dull, even touching my own skin didnt feel familiar. It did not last more than a half hour, if i had to guess, but unpacking the anxiety that came with it and the thoughts afterwards lasted a few days.
I never talked about it, mainly because I didnt even know how to describe what happened.
@@GypsyEncounters I'm glad you got through that and please know you're not the only one,There are others who have similar experiences -and sadly- quite a few people with anxiety (short-term or not) because of derealisation
My first panic attack was the worst. I screamed and cried and I kept falling to the floor and sobbing “IM GONNA DIE”. To my parents
Edit(sounds dramatic but I have a very large fear of death and I thought I was having a heart attack)
My panic attacks are now usually me pacing up and down, shaking and twitching and hyperventilating but I’ve definitely had those inner panic attacks in public.
If Bo can get through a show while having a panic attack then who knows how many people put on a brave face.
samuel barky I work in an ER and frequently get panic attacks. All that can be done is keep focused and keep trucking until the adrenaline wears off.
F'real!
I get panic attacks, and a lot of the time, people around me have no clue unless I verbally tell them. Given the choice I will usually curl up in a ball and hide, but it’s not uncommon at all for me to carry on a perfectly normal, calm conversation during a mild attack without even acknowledging it if I don’t trust that person enough to tell them.
@@thadboy3267 Really sad to hear that, I hope they're not too severe. Do you think facing the fact you are having a panic attack and saying it out loud to a person you are with helps at all? Obviously this is not an option a lot of the time as you said but when it is possible.
People do it every day. It’s hard but we’ve been conditioned to just push through it
"Speaking is the salvation".
YES, BO! As a therapist, I really appreciate you putting that out there.
"Speaking it is the salvation" is what he said
therapists are a joke. its funny how depressed therapists are common. it's like having an illiterate english teacher.
@@jakestewart9798 Generalization is bad bud. Not every therapist sucks
Jake Stewart no. It’s like having a football coach that plays football. I have depression and I want to be a therapist because of how much my therapist helped me. You obviously don’t know anything about therapy.
@@humptydumpty357 "It’s like having a football coach that plays football" No. it's more like having a football coach that doesnt know how to play football. If they're shit at football, how are they gonna teach you it?
you say that you have depression. not had. have. so therapy isnt the cure according to you.
This conversation is so refreshing. It's so rare to hear people talk about anxiety, especially men.
what?
@@LaLogic2 typically men aren’t this open with discussing anxiety and other mental issues because of gender norms and feeling like they’re not allowed to. A lot of men experience it and it’s nice to see two guys having a real conversation about it
@@jkspam this is why theres such a high suicide rate amongst older men.
I get anxiety from work because i have to prepare for the 8 hr war with karens and anti maskers, didnt realize i had anxiety until i realized that for the last 2 months I'd show up to work 10 minutes early, sit in my car and take a breather and mentally prepare myself for all the confrontations Im about to get into. It was this stomach wrenching gut feel, it made work unbearable. Its going away a bit now but man almost made me quit, i hate having 25 confrontations per shift. I just want to do my job and leave in peace.
Yes, thank you. We get stuck living by a social standard. Just like anyone else. To break from it is terrifying, yet freeing.
"How is a story about a guy alone on Mars, locked in a... It felt so true to me" and now "Inside" is nothing but a guy alone locked in a room because that was our lives for a year.
This
I think he portrayed that in his film "Inside" because he was finally in the head space to understand the movie Martian. Finally had words instead of feelings of anger and translated that into his songs on the film.
Watching Bo's face change when Ethan mentions his wife and having her there.. man that was sad. I hope Bo finds all the happiness in the world
I think he’s been in a serious relationship for like five years or something.
Omg yes 👌🏻
It's crazy how much his voice has changed over the years.
PowahSlap Entertainmint it’s so deep now
PowahSlap Entertainmint i opened the video and went “what the shit bo”
Ok 1. Why are you in the comment section of EVERY video I watch 2. Yeah I was like "did he finally go through puberty?" 🤣
he sounds like he's more just sick in this video but yeah it's also gotten deeper
#deep
It’s crazy how so many creative people have anxiety but yet they keep pushing forward and putting themselves out there. Art.
Micoola I agree! my guess is: people who have an overall more sensitive approach to life (and consequently experience some sort of mental health issue) use art as a coping mechanism and form of self expression. Most creative people tend to be overthinkers and over analyse experiences/people/themselves. As a way to cope with the huge amount of emotions and thoughts they have to process, they create - either as a form of communication or, in some cases, as an instrument to deal with the struggles of (hyper)sensitivity. In my experience I realised my senses are spread wider than most people I know, and life has an excessively strong and more profound impact on myself in many cases. Whether it's to express things I can't name or to just take my mind somewhere else, art puts everything into place :)
Kiki Kowalsky well said! I feel like I see through to the truths of the world and sometimes that makes things seem pretty dark. I’m absolutely crippled with anxiety with some of the videos I post, but I just have to keep growing and feeling uncomfortable. If I didn’t have a creative outlet such as RUclips I’d imagine I’d be depressed most of the time. Anxiety sucks, but art is cool. It’s such a love hate relationship
A R T
Finding the creative outlet really is the key. This is what I did and it helped me. ruclips.net/video/SUJPN5z_7Tg/видео.html
It all came to me one night in the midst of one of my worst panic attack
ART IS DEAD
His voice has gotten way deeper
Shripplez probably because of the microphone
#Deep
It's a combination of age, microphone, and he isn't using his performance voice. He talks differently on stage than he does off.
@@AshTheZ0mbie It looks like he's been lifting weights. That's most likely the reason.
You realize when he first came out he was like 16 right
When I have no anxiety, waiting for the next anxiety attack gives me anxiety
Totally!
The loooop
yeah irony can be so painful
God fucking dammit now thats all im thinking about
If I'm not worrying I'm worrying that I'm not worrying
I'm glad he quit standup for his own happiness but man I miss him
I do too man, he helped me through alot.
same here
The world needs Bo right now 😪
yes
Well, he was trying out new material in March.
Loved what Bo said about riding a bull while everyone else is an equestrian. That's a perfect way to describe adhd as well. Like you have to try 10 times harder not to fuck something up that most people can do without even trying. Really frustrating and I've felt that way since childhood. And it creates SO much anxiety.
Casey W. it’s so frustrating. i suffer from the same and it’s made my entire life in so many aspects harder.
I have ADHD and it fuckin sucks like it would probably be better if I took my medicine but no one understands what the medicine does to a person. Like it makes u not be urself which sucks and then like u said I have to try soooo hard not to make everything suck while other ppl are just like yea that's easy not to mess up
@@chasehamilton702 I have ADHD to and I can't even afford the medicine, it's weird because because I can't afford the medicine I feel like I'm turning into a different person myself, don't get it wrong I still go through a lot of normal stuff that ADHD people go through but I'm stressing out like you because I can't even get access
I actually think I have A. D. D, though I'm extremely mild Mannered so my parents have never questioned that possibility. And yeah, I have to try like crazy to get shit done and focus. Which sucks because all my hobbies require concentration. Lmao I hate being an artist.
@@strictnine5684 half of that is me
anxiety can give me stomach problems too. the way it can manifest physically is the worst part
Biotic Storm acid reflux with anxiety is the worst
Monica Munchies yeah i get terrible acid reflux too
personally i prefer the puking over the panic inside my head
Yeah constant nausea that I feel is linked to anxiety. It sucks so bad.
The Scranton Strangler you're probably right. So crazy how people with anxiety eat some bad food almost every day of their life
hearing bo talk about his stomach problems with anxiety really spoke to me. since freshman year, i’ve had that. i’m starting college this month and every single day i have stomach aches, nausea and anxiety over the idea of getting sick, throwing up, getting any sort of disease, etc. it felt good to hear someone i look up to, like bo, mention something i also go through.
omg. i came across this comment kinda late but i relate SO MUCH. just around when the pandemic started, i would have anxiety attacks every day and would get nauseous and then get even MORE anxiety because i was scared of throwing up or getting sick. when i got covid (bc of my irresponsible brother) i was filled with anxiety and was so worried i would throw up or something
@@cyb3rd1v4 it's irritable bowel for me, since pre teen years i started having stomach aches going to school and having to rush to the bathroom, later on at 18 was my first panic attack and whenever i'm nervous i get those stomach cramps
@@cyb3rd1v4 omg same
Burnam is right. Speaking about it or admitting that you are having a panic attack does change the situation. Really glad they are talking about this openly and honestly
I will always respect someone open about their mental health more than the jackasses who just say to suck it up.
I feel like saying you have anxiety to most people makes the situation more awkward. Cause they will say this or that, and it can give them anxiety knowing you have anxiety.
Instead, like the other guy says he hates. I think it is better to just suck it up.
As in, try your best to get your mind in the right place and push forward with that.
It’s not always the best option in a given situation, but many times that’s what you need to do if you need success in the moment as quick as possible. IF you are willing to relax.
It’s so easy to make enemies this way on the internet. This is just my advice to myself in my own life. If it doesn’t apply to you-feel free to share your view. No reason to hate on my view instead of sharing your own. Cheers
@@TheSteve1126 Seriously!! My family is so fucking traditional, and by that I mean they have (misogynistic and homophobic beliefs)
And they literally couldn't give two shits about mental health, so fucking tired.
@@TitaniumTronic Man. I have people who support me around me, and I still feel so fucking tired. I can’t imagine what you’re going through. Stay strong, you can and will get through it, then find your tribe.
_"have you ever raised your voice at a guy in the grocery line and then your heart is pounding for fourty minutes afterwards?"_
that's so on point. I'd love to confront difficult people more often but it's just not worth the stress on my heart afterwards.
He is awesome and very genuine.
Nobody's that genuine. It's an act :)
@@Ludifant ??
@@Ludifant no
@@Ludifant can’t wait for your to watch inside
Holy shit it’s the Wayward Winchester I watch your end of supernatural season gag reels!
Sounds like Bo experienced symptoms of dissociation during his panic attacks. As someone that deals with both so heavily, it's nice to hear Bo and Ethan talk about it!
his fuckin brain split in half on stage!
I really feel that
I agree, I've had episodes of depersonalization and derealization related to anxiety and I felt like he was describing my episodes to me.
I understand that sort of dissociation Bo mentioned with his anxiety, especially when he talked about like "tunnel vision". I also think it's nice to hear people talk about it since most people just think of anxiety/panic attacks as just feeling intensely scared when in reality it's more of an "off" feeling that can vary in intensity from person to person. Also i feel like it's important to mention that one person's anxiety is NOT the same as another person's, so for some it could feel like they are intensely scared. I guess i could also describe my anxiety like i'm there, but it's like i'm watching everything from a slightly blurry window thats darker around the edges and muffles the sound.......if that makes any sense.
Yo. You hit the nail on the head with this. He mentions derealisation in his new special.
Just came here after watching Bo’s special “Inside” and needed more commentary from him. Ive struggled with generalized anxiety since I was 12 and it’s put my life on hold a few times. I love that he brought up the wish for it to be singular to you, but the relief that also came with that. The riding the bull and the bystanders metaphor is exactly how I’ve felt for as long as I can remember. It’s both comforting and somewhat sad finding out that no, you’re not special, and you’re fixable, and not even as fucked up as you think you are. Thanks for making that Netflix special, Bo, it really helped me through the dark.
Inside is a brilliant piece of art. I laughed a lot but was powerfully moved.
Exactly why I'm here
I think one of the greatest things about music and art in the abundance of RUclips is that you realize you're not alone. That's one of the most damned feelings is sitting there in your own head thinking "why am I like this" and feeling like nobody could understand. But you're not alone, and that doesn't negate what you're going through. Everyone goes through it differently, and deals with it differently. But knowing your not alone makes it so much easier to live in your own head, to try to find help.
"the drama in life literally plays out very small but personally plays out very big" I got chills at how spot on that is. bo burnhams a wizard.
I absolutely understand the whole "i didn't know it was anxiety even though it was happening every day." When it's happening to you for as long as you can remember, and it's every day, and everyone is talking about how "nervous" they are at school anyway, why wouldn't you just assume that this is how it is? Everyone has debilitating stomach cramps every day, right? Everyone is having constant digestion problems, everyone is getting tunnel vision, right??
The thing is, you can't even check, because you assume (or maybe even just learn from experience) that if you talk about your literal pain, everyone will assume you're being overdramatic. So you just learn to keep shut, and hope eventually you'll just get...i don't know, better? Better at dealing with it? Cause clearly you're doing it wrong, right?
Took until I was through college, talking to a co-worker at my day job about the daily pain, and he said "yeah, i used to get physical chronic pain. Then I took medication and it helped." Holy shit, right? The point is, fucking talk to people, talk about your pain and be honest, and let them be honest about their own. Won't solve everything, but it'll certainly help. Also, fuck the school system.
I'm thirty. When I was in school, "mental health" wasn't a thing, it wasn't on anyone's radar. It was in my mid-twenties that I found out that my experience was not normal and that if I were a kid now, my severe social anxiety would likely be diagnosed and treated properly. Fifteen years makes such a difference and I'm so happy for every child (and adult) who benefits from all this being in our collective conscious now. I know I do.
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What I learned about anxiety is you don't realize how bad it is until it stops. When you are in the middle of it you are too busy reacting to the anxiety to ever stop and think on how bad it is.
Anxiety is the worst. I wouldn't wish that on anybody.
OwlKnight32 I've always said the same thing. I'd rather be punched right in my face than to have an anxiety/panic attack.
OwlKnight32 I can think of a few worse things.
OwlKnight32 it's not the worst. There are many other worse things. Like that illness where you lose little by little your motricity and end dieing
Not even Hitler?
except my ex
sometimes when i get really overwhelmed with anxiety that the sound of people talking makes me angry and makes me feel claustrophobic somehow?? it’s hard to explain but it feels like little sounds are trapping me and making me agitated and anxious to the point where I just want to scream.
Same..i went to guitar center and got some disposable ear plugs. Id cut about 25 percent off to make them pretty much invisible unless someone was looking directly in my ear hole. People with deep or high pitched voices are easy to hear it's just the people in between you may struggle with hearing. But the trade off is so worth it! These ear plugs are the eyelids for your hearing.. I recommend you give them a try.
yeah i know what that's like... pretty sure it's called sensory overload.
That means you're not smart. If basic words make you feel claustrophobic. But don't feel bad cause cunty assholes lead the same life they just don't have humility.
Same! I suffer from hypersensitivity and sometimes someone talking a little too loudly can set me off into a full on meltdown. (It's called a sensory overload)
that sounds more like autism than an anxiety problem lol js
“Tiny moments feel like life and death” Anyone with severe anxiety knows what this feels like day to day.
Watched Inside last night. What a rollercoaster of emotions. From boarder line tearing up with sadness to immediate laughter. The back and forth of pulling my heart strings was intense. Inside was truly a masterpiece.
I hope Bo knows how important it is that he's so honest.
I resonated a lot with the "if you give it a name then it's already won" mentality and it sucks to be aware that you're definitely not alone but still you feel alone.
My anxiety isn't always dependent on my environment. Sometimes it's based on fear of health like hypochondriacs and sometimes I get scared period like generalized anxiety. It sucks. Sometimes very real feeling symptoms accompany it that aren't real.
Belicose777 I am exactly the same, a few months back I was at my worst where I was fearing over random health reasons which always ended up being nothing for days and days but just know eventually your mind will get tired of worrying over that stuff and slowly move on
Brian D that's for sure. Pretty sure I'm getting there. I've kind of gotten to where I can carry on doing what needs to be done instead of being incapacitated by fear.
Belicose777 That’s great progress then, step by step everything definitely will be easier to do without letting those thoughts take over your mind.
Fucking same y’all. My worst point was a little over a year ago. Was having multiple panic attacks a day for like 3 months, then panic attacks at least every 2-3 days for a while. Now I can talk myself down if I feel one coming on but damn did it suck. I thought I had a brain tumor or blood cancer. I thought I had various heart conditions. It was terrible. Went to like 10 different kinds of specific doctors for various tests and all came back as me being healthy. Anxiety is the worst.
Try a parasite cleanse, look up Dr. Hulda Clark. Parasites are in all our foods, meats, dairy & fruits & vegetables sadly.
Good god, Bo is so good at articulating feelings around anxiety, it’s so refreshing to feel like there’s someone else out there feeling the exact same way
I'm so glad that he talked about the differences in types of panic attacks. Mine are similar- tunnel vision, ears ringing, heartbeat in my fingertips, sweating, and just fully zoned out, out of body. People think it's only a freak out, hyperventilating episode, and it's not always like that for everyone.
Holy shit he made inside with the intent of making what he thought the Martian was going to be about I'm in shock
Anxiety makes me anxious.
Vani Lee You win
Vani Lee shiiit dude
That #deep
"Fuck what if I have a panic attack" *Has panic attack* WHATS CAUSING THIS AM I DYING
This is actually a thing... Alan Watts has said a lot of us are anxious merely because we realize we are anxious and we then get caught up in a thought loop that’s hard to escape
Thank-you so much for sharing Bo and Ethan 💙 I’ve been dealing with anxiety for the past year and hearing you guys talk so openly about it is incredibly refreshing and puts me a bit more at ease
I love that fact that Bo can talk so openly about this. He is truly amazing and encouraging to me.
I think anxiety comes along with intelligence. Being hyper aware of your surroundings is dangerous. A lot of people that don’t experience it are more of live there life kind of people when people with it experience overload on the daily.
amen
Yes
i agree that anxiety and intelligence likely go hand in hand, but this is most certainly not because of hyper-awareness. i'd venture to say most people you consider intelligent are not hyper-aware of their surroundings.
True
When he says "It helped when I heard Barbra Strisand has..." was pretty cool because hearing that people like Bo Burnham and Thomas Sanders have to deal with it too helps me a lot. Just... wow it helps
... I'd have liked to hear him finish what he was saying. The host interrupted Bo's train of thought in order to tell his own story.
No exaggeration, my anxiety was so bad in high school, especially in the morning, that I would feel sick to my stomach and throw up almost everyday. I know that's maybe tmi, but it's true and it sucked.
While my anxiety now isn't nearly as bad it's still here, and hearing Bo and Ethan being so open about their experiences with it honestly made me feel a lot less lonely in what I feel, I really needed this today, thanks boys ❤
makes me feel better that im not the only one that this happens too :)
Same! I’ve never met anyone else who throws up from anxiety. It used to be a daily thing for years.
Same here i have it myself and it sucks
I was great in hs. I had an emotional breakdown years ago and then went into a high pressure sales job. That left me crippled for about 2 years. I recovered totally alone, but I still have social anxiety.
PEARL!!
I went years feeling chest pains thinking something was wrong with my heart. I went to the doctor when I was 14 for it. Turns out I had anxiety, I was put on medication. I’ve been anxious for years and it’s been getting worse and worse to the point where I’ve felt like death was better. It’s some dark shit, to feel that way. I dropped the meds and started taking cbd and it’s changed my life. I can’t even express how much it has helped me feel normal for the first time in years.
hadron89 I don’t know how true that is for everyone. I agree and understand what you’re saying, but I used to take daily walks and I couldn’t because of how bad it had gotten. I can also go without the cbd now! I use it mostly for panic attacks. But it’s why I’ve been able to go back outside.
*got
gothicshawty I believe you.
hadron89 that’s great, truthfully! I just think people have different needs and different levels of anxiety. Even though I don’t need cbd every day, I can’t say that people should or shouldn’t take it everyday. I just feel it’s too complex and too vast of a problem to say that because of your experience you feel others should be able to handle it the way you did. But I see what you’re saying, i just don’t think it’s that black and white, imo.
gothicshawty started off on CBD myself too - felt absolutely amazing the first time I took it. How much are you taking a day?? On 30-40mg so far myself.
coming back to watch these after watching inside. this is literally my favorite podcast episode ever. ethan's a great interviewer and bo's so open. both of them seem to get along so well
except for when he constantly cuts off his viewers lol
Watching "Inside" then remembering this clip makes me appreciate Bo way more than I already did.
I love this so much - how raw he is. But it breaks my heart knowing how much Bo suffered and still suffers. Put yourself in his shoes. The pressure he puts on himself for us is almost admirable. We don’t deserve him.
I've been having panic attacks lately and hearing about this from Bro kind of made me understand myself more and what I'm going through. I really hope he's gotten better since. Panic attacks are horrible and I don't wish them on anyone
I've been dealing with super bad social anxiety for the past couple of years. I just got through my freshman year in college and it was absolute hell. I was pushing myself to do things and trying to be normal every day even though deep down all I wanted to do was sit in my dorm room alone and cry. I wasn't always this way, I used to love hanging out with my friends and meeting new people but suddenly during my senior year of high school, this darkness took me over and socially destroyed me. The idea that I wasn't funny enough or smart enough and nobody would want to be friends with me in college. Even though I did end up making some friends the darkness didn't go away, I still viewed myself as socially awkward and wished I was like my friends who just seemed like they were reading a script and said and did everything perfectly. It's an endless cycle of my anxiety and depression causing me to act differently and awkward and affirming my biggest fear that I'm socially inept and just weird. I never told anyone about it until last week when I mustered up the courage to tell my primary care doctor and he referred me to a therapist who I'm supposed to meet next week. I'm hoping she'll put me on medication so I can see that it really is just my anxiety and fear of not being good enough that's causing everything. I'll post an update soon!
Hope things are starting to get better!
I feel you dude. I just finished my freshman year too, and that was one of the worst emotional and mental experiences of my entire life. I had gone into college after essentially somehow conquering high school, and I had all this confidence that I was gonna do great since I went to a college prep school and I felt good about my chances.
Then I get to college, which is on the opposite side of the freaking country, and all that confidence goes away. After the first semester flopped, I had gotten a plan put together for how to improve myself for next semester. Then that came along, and it was like reality kicked in, telling me that my hope and confidence in myself was based around one big lie called happiness and success. I began sleeping through my classes. It seemed like everybody was doing a lot better than me in my classes and coursework (which they were ofc) and I isolated myself in my dorm room for the entire day when I wasn't in classes or eating.
When I told my parents about my grades they freaking flipped out because I was essentially failing every course, which just added to all the other contributing factors to my stress and got me to the point where I genuinely considered self harm and suicide, asking my roomate for his hecking knife so I could kill myself right then and there.
Since then I have suffered a crisis of confidence and I am slowly trying to build myself back up from my immense personal depression. But now I have a sense of ptsd now. I feel like the whole concept of success for me is just gone. Everybody I knew said I would do great. That I would be fine and I didn't have to worry because I would be able to find balance between work and fun, finally.
Hah.
Now that all seems like the grand lie known as my self worth and personal happiness. I started thinking, "perhaps I was never meant to find success or do well in real life? Maybe everybody just misplaced their faith in someone who couldn't do shit? And now I've let them all down"
All that is just a tidbit of what I feel at this moment in time as I am alone with my thoughts.
Anyway, that was my essay on what my mental state is right now.
Sorry to bore you all (if anyone is even reading this) 😅
Matthew Brodsky damn brother that sucks I’m sorry you’re going through that shit. Im in a super tough spot mentally rn too, the one thing keeping me going is that I know deep down this is going to get better and I’m just going through a rough patch in my life. Just try to keep your head high and keep pushing on, don’t give up on trying to improve it, shit will get better for the both of us soon.
Watching this made me feel so much better. My anxiety is almost constant too and it feels so shitty. You're one of my favorites, Bo.
Bo completely hit the nail on the head for me when he says: "my worry is that if i say it then it's real"
It’s comforting to see two of my favorite people talk about something I struggle with every day. Literally having a manic episode and this video is the only thing that helps
I think people with anxiety, like myself, think to themselves so much that the thoughts get uncontrollable. Like it takes practice shutting off the voice (meditation, social exposure, medication and therapy) in order to decrease the anxiety. Does anyone agree?
Cameo64 Yes. Maybe not always shutting the voice off is the answer, it helps to just battle it with logical thinking if possible. Works for my anxiety sometimes
I've been meditating the past two days, and I think it helps to recognize that thoughts just come and go on their own. You don't need to dwell on them. Meditation makes it easier to brush those thoughts off in your daily life.
I agree, sometimes it only takes one thought and then it’s a never ending cycle in my head that only keeps getting louder, I like how bo and Ethan compared it too how comedians talk to themselves on stage bc that’s exactly what it feels like. It always happens to me without realizing and I start pacing around but ive slowly gotten better at controlling it and trying to quiet down those thoughts and sorting them out calmly but it’s still hard :/
agree with all of it besides medicating it. SSRIs and other anti depressants are hardly better than a placebo in clinical trials, most only do well enough so that they could say the drug was more effective than the placebo (like 52%over 48 etc). For most people, probably the majority, anti depressants do nothing for the root of the issue of their anxiety, and only further fuzz up their experience of life.
I have generalized anxiety and I slightly disagree, sometimes it just works if you confront your fears, or the thing that makes you anxious.
I have anxiety but not the social kind. I used to smoke pot a lot back in high school until I had my first panic attack and thought I was having a heart attack. Started experiencing sivere anxiety ever since. Definitely became a hypochondriac. Would check my heart rate a lot fearing I would die. I'd have constant panic attacks, I couldn't go outside my room without dreading it(only place I felt safe).This went on for months, went to the emergency room a lot. It was rough, I didn't think I was ever going to get better. As bad as I got, I never took any pills or seeked professional help(not implying others shouldn't).The good news was I was healthy as a horse, besides the extreme and constant anxiety of course. Anyone reading this stuck in a similar situation, heres how I got it under control somewhat. I started exercising, getting enough sleep and eating right. I also stopped checking for any symptoms(heart rate) associated with my anxiety. Critical: tried exposure therapy. I increased my heart rate in a safe environment with people I trust and faced my fear. Over all, I recommend sharing and educating your friends and family about your anxiety. Slowly expose yourself to the fear and know that what you're feeling is very uncomfortable but not dangerous. Hope this helps.
I have health anxiety too and honestly the best advice I can give is to anyone else reading this is seek help (CBT was best for me) and stop checking! I used to get bad stomach pains (was actually due to digestive issues but that's not always the case so don't panic) and I used to press on my stomach obsessively seeing if I could feel a lump or if it became worse when I added pressure I ended up bruising myself (which isn't serious) and then convincing myself that my appendix was about to burst. I went up to A&E at least once every week. Whether that was for my stomach pain or chest pain. I once ended up having a chest x-ray and ECG just because of my overthinking.
Same thing for me bro, I had the exact same experience. Learning to face my fears has definitely helped.
With the knowledge that a panic attack can't kill you and the fact that they will eventually pass, my fears are lessened greatly.
Awareness of this issue is great and I think its wonderful to hear many people have experienced the same issues as me. I used to think I was alone!!!
Richard Ojeda this sounds exactly how I was at age 13. I experienced this at a young age as well, and learned to combat this awful feeling using the same tactics as you. It worked for me.
This is so spot on to my experience. I have it under control for the most part, but I went to a concert yesterday and checked my heart rate over and over again out of the fear of a heart attack, it's a struggle.
I don't fell comfortable anywhere except if I'm very close to my bestest friend it really sucks
This is empowering to know other people like Bo Burnham are open to sharing their anxiety, this is a great podcast right here.
Anyone else here after watching his special on Netflix? I hope he's doing okay. Just wanna hug him. :(
Anxiety and panic attacks are no joke.
I went to the doctor a lot when I was a kid because I couldn't swallow food without choking, turns out it was anxiety.
Fast forward to highschool I puked every single morning before school or during first period.
Now I'm 23 and I can't leave the house without having severe dissociative panic attacks.
I'm not even joking right now, I feel anxious watching this
Same...
:( me three
me two
I thought I was the only one.
same, but mainly cause ive been toking lol
“we’ve got a good president right now” *checks which year this video was made
lol same
@@SshiggyY lol same x2
2018 wtf
airlockengage ya think
@@jacob.loesch yeah he hates Donald trump🥰
My anxiety really hurts and expands more when I'm alone. Being social is what really helps me get over it. Somewhat of a release.
Funny, i'm exactly the oposite
@@ahebird869 same- most of the time I’ve had 3 panic attacks that I’ve been able to label as panic attacks and two of them were in a public area
i haven't performed in three years because of anxiety. bo is the reason i'm trying to get back on my feet. without him and my music teacher i would never even think of performing again
really proud of you, i wish you the best in your journey :")
oh well thank you so much 🥺🥺
DO IT! (When Covid permits) -- I have the mildest little anxiety, but I do hate brief moments when I'm alone on stage until at least one other band mate comes up. Then I feel like I can breathe again. Without them I feel like an imposter, like I'm not supposed to be there, like I snuck on stage and security is going to remove me. I know it's nowhere near what you experience, but I also know people in the crowd *deserve* to have us trying our best (or the best we can muster that day), so even if I can't play guitar at all that day I try to think of how the people that came out are just having a good time whether I'm bad or great, and that they won't really care either way, lol. It's been 8 months since you posted that so I hope you've made some good progress. If not, keep pushing!
Here after his new special. I am as worried as I am blown away by his works.
Anxiety is the worst. The helpless feeling just sucks. Medication can help but the anxiety is still there.
Blade Runner I’m debating whether this is a Bo song reference or not.
not if you take alprazolam or diazepam, that will truly take away any anxieties, that's why they're so commonly abused.
hadron89 yes please, second comment saying is the worst. It's not!
Papa Anxiety
Winston Chirpsehill mmmmm That’s a good Anxiety
Winston Chirpsehill Filip Micevski dude like its sooo annoying to me especially because I suffered from Both. Thinking I was different because of my anxiety only to realize that it's just life and I had to do things like work out or meditate and boom problem solved. And I used to have to wipe for everrrr and then I started taking Meta mucil and I barely need to even wipe my ass. I was literally freaking out when Delia told Ethan about Meta Mucil(I've been tweeting him and buying chats to tell him about it lmao). Then next episode Ethan says it made his shot amazing, but he feels like it is weird and basically would rather have a shitty, swamp asshole then just do simple things to fix his issues he constantly brings up
Patron Saint of the Teens
His new special, "Inside," is the best piece of film I have ever seen. An absolute Rollercoaster and a masterpiece.
For him it must be so hard to deal with hecklers
Being aware that he has such emended anxiety makes me hate hecklers more
5:22 a phrase that I love and learned from therapy is “you name it, you tame it”. Noticing that something is going on and being able to name it makes it easier to tackle going forward.
bo burnham is my love
Mr Munk00 the dude relies on shock humor and thinks he’s deep
very much agree
Yeah ah, Bo doesn't think he's deep. He thinks he's a comedian. Plain and simple.
dealth you sound a bit jealous
lets see you try to do standup comedy
I know I'm late to the party but I've been an ICU nurse for 4.5 years. Beta-blockers are commonly used to control high blood pressure but they also lower your heart rate. People often use them during times of anxiety to keep their blood pressure and pulse down, which can actually prevent you from getting that "worked up" feeling during a panic attack. Many stage performers use beta blockers, and in my experience they help tremendously.
beta blockers totally mess up metabolism, though. my younger brother has a larger aortic valve, and when he was put on beta blockers he went from 110 pounds to 140 in a month while playing sports and eating normally.
@@OhBlazing that might just be something specific to him. I’ve been on beta blockers for the past 2 years and I was still able to lose 30 lbs without issue
when I saw Bo in san diego, I got chills from his finale. It felt so genuine when he said "I can't handle this".
I've never seen this side of him before. He seems so genuine, and relatable.
i watched this before my english presentation and it helped so much. the fact that people i look up to deal with the same stuff i deal with is so comforting
he describes it really well. i had a panic attack on stage as a dancer yesterday. i perform a lot and i don’t normally have panic attacks for shows. yesterday i missed my que and i started hyperventilating but i needed to go on because the formation would look bad. so i just freestyled on stage and tried to forget about it and it sort of was an out of body experience. like everything was on the inhale for sure. i only realised i was still shaking when i had to stay still for 3 seconds and hold a pose. ive been told i pulled it off well but my god it was hard. then i remember running off stage after and finishing my panic attack in a corner. the teacher came to help and some friends but yeah it really sucks and i definitely sympathise with bo.
It makes me feel so much better knowing that I can relate to other people with anxiety. I really appreciate this conversation
No idea who these people are, but what an intriguing interview. This subject matter is no joke and I am so glad to hear others discuss this and how to overcome.
The “saying it makes it real” hits hard for me on many of my problems
Men folk talking about their feelings so beautiful ❤️❤️❤️
Tracy Osimowicz Very true
Gotta appreciate that
Anyone who can properly convey their emotions when they don't want to is beautiful
Damn anxiety sucks, i didn't even know i had anxiety until i had a panic attack during a class in college, i felt like i couldn't breathe , my heart felt like was pounding 400 bpm i thought i was just going to die there
I remember having my first panic attack in a college class, too. The topic of the day was anxiety and panic attacks and we were watching a video of someone have a panic attack lol. I wish I was making this up, but I legit almost left the room since I was sitting towards an exit.
4:23 when Ethan totally missed Bo's sarcasm lmao
I knowwww. I’ve been a fan for a long time he hates Trump so much and isn’t shy about ranting about him. I’m surprised he didn’t take that as a chance to tbh.
his voice sounds so much like the 2 male voices from "we think we know you."
Because that's him
@@ewanbarnardmusic that was the joke
@@Mochaaaauwu oh sorry, my bad :D
Also how the hell did you remember that after 2 years
it's really interesting hearing him how he was annoyed that the martian wasn't about him being stuck inside, years later he'd make Inside
Talking about it helps so much it’s insane, I’ve had a panic attack at my buddy’s house and just talking to him about just killed it immediately
As an long-time anxiety sufferer, this puts anxiety into a clear, vivid, and profound context. Bo does an awesome job of describing things and making you feel his experience.
I lived with a near crippling fear of the world ending for 2 years and nobody knew about it, telling others about my anxiety literally helped so much.
For awhile during quarantine I was anxiety free, but as I came out of my hyper fixation bit, all of my hypochondria and anxiety came back to the point I couldn't enjoy fucking *anything* and it was horrifying. Getting help is probably one of the best things you can do.
Also just knowing that whatever it is your afraid of you'll be able to handle, even in death, lessens the anxiety for me.
The two people who have helped my anxiety out so much talking about anxiety... this is great.
I love seeing these interviews after Inside. And I love that I keep seeing the same group of people in the comments of old Bo interviews (I guess we are all going through it). I keep going back and forth on if I really want more behind the scenes interviews about Inside or if it just needs to stand on its own.
Thanks for being open Bo, this helps. Truly.
i had my mom watch Eighth Grade so she can maybe try and see what living with social anxiety is like (ive lived with it my whole life), and she just didn't give a shit and hardly watched it and still gets mad at me for being anxious. so thanks bo for understanding and creating something that has made so many people feel seen and understood. Eighth Grade is so brilliant.
Chewing gum helped me whenever I felt anxiety. No kidding. Regulates my breathing and calms me down automatically.
Frosty1979 yeah and in classes when teachers tell me to take it out while im stressed it just pisses me off, but it makes it much harder to hyperventilate and feel faint so it keeps me much more grounded
I can explain this one! Chewing gum makes your brain think you are eating which also makes it go "we can't be in danger because if we were in danger we would not be eating". So you calm down because your brain is hard set to "we don't eat while in danger". So yes it's actually recommend that you chew gum in especially high stress situations because it basically loopholes anxiety.
(Sorry I just actually knew something for once and I know sometimes knowing the reason something happens is nice)
kylie boydston woah that’s so cool. i think that teachers should allow gum and respect that it does help people, even if others just want to chew it for the taste. i’ve told teachers i need it for anxiety and gotten detentions for it and i think they need to be taught everything you said
@@chloe-dr4rk they really definitely should. The need to lower anxiety levels in young adults should far outweigh "we don't want to scrape gum off desks and floors" but you know how well that goes. There's actual science saying it helps and that should be--but isn't--enough.
kylie boydston yeah, and to be honest the kids leaving it under desks are just as much part of the problem as the teachers. literally just throw it away but instead they stop people with anxiety having a coping method
The stomach issues, the delayed panic attacks that sneak up on you...man so real.
After seeing his special and his crying and anger and just the constant emotional tension through it this is nice
Yeah, having intense anxiety while trying to fall asleep, my mind drifting through strange thoughts and having anxiety definitely feels psychotic. So I can relate Ethan lol
this has a whole new meaning after watching inside :(
i remember finding bo's funny music videos when i was in middle school and they used to help me feel more normal and lessen my anxiety. grew up overweight and got bullied but loved to cope with humor as the funny fat kid so seeing bo's evolution through the years and hearing his own personal takes on anxiety is amazing to me.
as someone that struggles with anxiety and panic attacks I’m so glad we’re having a open conversation about it
He has deeper voice than I expected. This is gold, very useful because I´ve fibromyalgia comes with anxiety, the pain makes panic attacks. Not a day wasted, learned something new.
Love the “speaking it” portion - hits so close and sound to my truth and past demons. Lil blonde rich girl who was prescribed Vicodin for period cramps as a sophomore in college in 2 yrs later driving my daddy paid for Acura to the East side of STL with the goal of putting a needle in arm for the 1st time - if I didn’t say to myself or to anyone that I was addicted to opiates it wasn’t happening, it wasn’t my truth. But finally calling my mom and saying “Mom, don’t be mad, I need help” before nodding out and dropping the phone. My family and friends supported me through it all and I felt so dumb for thinking they’d disown me
i can't believe Im just seeing this. I need to go back and watch H3s podcasts w people I love
“We’ve got a good one right now but usually they’re pretty bad” 😂
Trump baby!
I'm battling anxiety now for a year. I wasn't diagnosed with it though because I can't get over it to talk to someone about exactly because of what Ethan said about your parents. I'm feeling much better already but I'm still uncomfortable with wanting to go outside or something. But I'm better now than at my worst time 6 months ago when even lying in my bed was difficult. It's just your mind fucks with you on so many levels and you have to battle it inside your head. There was a time I couldn't even watch horror/drama or action movies because it would make me so fucking nervous. I could ONLY watch comedy stuff to cheer me up. I remember watching Wonderwoman and I got so nervous and felt sick... it was horrible... But the thing that makes me most angry about this anxiety is that I didn't have it before. I was just shy and that was it. I could go out etc. and for example visit a club but then after I finished working at the company I worked back then it started out of nowhere. I just got sick with like 39 C degrees. And somehow anxiety just came with it and since then I have it... There were times where I even couldn't really eat something and had to FIGHT in my head and eat as slowly as possible so I don't get anxiety. I guess I have anxiety nausea because I always got the sick feeling.. but as I said it's getting better and I hope I don't have to visit a Dr or something and can battle it myself... I really appreciate videos like this that shows yourself that you're not the only one and it's generally something you shouldn't be anxious about because everyone can have internal problems and it's nothing bad.. it just happens. But still. I'd just wish I'd never got it in the first place.
Freidenker CH Same.
Freidenker CH tell some one
i mean tell a doctor
Just remember that you are allowed to be at whatever stage of life you are in. There is nothing wrong with you, and you have no reason to feel shame about this. You deserve to be healthy and supported. You deserve nothing less. Talking to someone is something everyone should do because it's an unbiased professional listening to you. Dealing with parents can be hard, but just know you are not alone. They love you, even though they might not understand or think it's real or normal. You are going to be fine. You got this. Papa Bless
I had severe anxiety and panic attacks out of no where for 3 months straight, my panic attacks could last 10+ hours and I could be on high anxiety (body alert, constant adrenaline pumping) without a break for weeks at a time with no break except maybe the first hour I woke up.
The things that helped me where:
1, Dr Harry Barry's videos and really understanding the science and biology about panic attacks.
2, A short course of Valium just to make you feel normal for a while and "reset" your amygdala.
3, CB therapy and talk therapy. (where I didn't even get to the bottom of why I was anxious it was just nice to vent)
Remember the more you fight your anxiety the worse it will become and the longer it will last, you need to accept that it is not your enemy or trying to kill you it's your body trying to protect you and keep you alive.
I know this is much much much easier said than done, but try, next time you have a panic attack just say "bring it on" try to make it worse and you will find that you can't actually make it worse.
A year of anxiety is too much and just think how brave and strong you are for being able to put up with that shit for so long, and if you feel like you are losing to it don't beat yourself up over it, IT WILL PASS IT ALWAYS DOES so be kind to yourself.
I'm so glad I watched this.. you think you're so alone with something when other people suffer from the same thing. I have grown so much but still suffer from it. Thank you guys.
This interview is incredible as it hits so many points: for me, I was absolutely mortified and terrified I had a severe mental illness and I could not bring myself to talk to anyone about it. It was so bad I almost had to take a leave of absence from work. Once I began talking about it everything changed - slowly but surely they became less and less and more controllable.
Having been diagnosed with anxiety and depression earlier this year, this video means a lot to me. Of course, I'd never wish either on anybody, but there's a certain comfort that comes from knowing that the people you look up to have problems as well.
On a different note, it bothers me when people say "OMG I like totally have anxiety!!"
It happens in real life and in the comment section. I find it pretty damn hard to believe that all of these people have anxiety disorder. Sure, they maybe felt overwhelmed a few times, but anxiety disorder is not something to just self-diagnose yourself with. It's kind of insulting, and personally makes me feel bad about myself when I see all these "people with anxiety" around me doing just fine. Anxiety is a serious issue.
Anyway, loved the podcast and this clip. I've been watching Bo for years and can't wait to see what he does next in life!
And keep up the moves, Ethan.
I know your goal is to provoke a response, so in that sense, congrats. You win!
I have no hatred or ill-will toward you. I just think it's unfortunate that some people have nothing better to do than tear others down. These kinds of responses make me sad. Not sad for myself, but for you. Maybe insulting people and being "edgy" makes you feel cool. Maybe it makes you feel funny. Maybe you're just bored. I don't know.
Maybe it just makes you feel better. If so, I'm glad my issues could help you out. I hope you get over this problem soon!
On a more serious note, I've always been confused by this kind of behavior/response from people.
I assume it's either immaturity, psychopathy, or both.
No matter the cause, I hope one day you realize what you're doing and make a change.
Have a good one, man.
@Blade Runner Maybe you should start thinking about ways to piss off and take this seriously?
I hear ya, panic disorder is the worst. I lost my brother in September of 2017 while tapering off benzos. Right now I am unable to work right after graduating college because my anxiety and depression is so severe, every day is a nightmare because the depersonalization is chronic and never goes away. Anyway, I feel your pain and hope you get through it bc I know what it’s like, I’m sorry you have to go through it.
There is a difference between having anxiety and being anxious
I've got ptsd, anxiety, insomnia, agoraphobia and a long list of other annoying things that all seem to stem from the same place and exacerbate each other. I remember finding Bo Burnham just a month after my oldest brother died of suicide and a year before my youngest brother died the same way. And, fuck me, did watching Bo's content help! Thanks Bo! You really helped a girl out and you'll never know but I deeply appreciate it and the way you could take my mind off it and help me laugh without feeling guilt, even for a short minute while being able to catch a breath.
I’ve had anxiety for most of my life. I don’t have the courage to get help yet. It’s kind of embarrassing to me to just actually tell a random person what’s really going on and understand that it’s real and I need “help” with it.
I feel you there. I’m in college rn and anxiety has stopped me from taking advantage of SO many opportunities. Around a month ago I realized that my “nervousness” was caused by GAD, and I sought help from a doctor. He described me an antidepressant, and by God, it’s worked wonders in helping me manage the anxiety. I’d encourage you to do some research (if you haven’t already) and seek out some help, relief is possible!
Joseph, asking for help doesnt make you weak in any way, i dont suffer from anxiery or depression and whenever i see someone asking for help i never think of them as weak. Just wanted to throw that one out there
From someone who has asked for help, I encourage you so much to do it!! Doctors are there to listen and help it doesn’t matter if you cry. Write how you feel etc in your phone notes, go to the doctor and just word vomit read it or if you cant just pass the phone to them to read it, first step is the hardest ♥️
Does it have to be a random person?
Thank you for sharing your vulnerable side. It is very admirable and important. Hopefully more famous people will continue this trend.
When I was 13 I had the same stomach issues as Bo. IT WAS ANXIETY. When my Dr suggested it, I thought they were accusing me of faking it. But they told me anxiety can have symptoms. Your entire body is under stress. Though the worst of my life, adolescence, was yet to come. BAM! Comorbid borderline personality disorder after that. I relate HEAVILY to this.