The real reason you aren't happier.
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- Опубликовано: 10 июн 2024
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The goats were like: "Excuse me Sir, this is the water we drink. Could you please get your 4ss out of there?"
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Hahahahaha cool! To think of joy as openness + purpuse + jokes - attachments :3
Those are sheep
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I love your dad's perspective on life. He's so laid back, but at the same time very optimistic when things don't work out. Such a great way to live life to the fullest.
"Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way " - gold Idea . Thank you so much , Nathaniel .
the unwanted x resistance = suffering
@@janecornwell6487 🙌🙌
I have to say I envy you in a very good way. I've never had such a relationship with my father, even when I moved to another country I was happy now I am far away from him. Never had that kind of mentor in my life but I am gonna make sure my future kids don't go through the same. Great video, Nathaniel. Love seeing you with your dad. Saludos desde Mexico hermanito.
Lamento escuchar eso, también aprendemos de nuestros padres a no repetir sus acciones. Proba usar te admiro en vez de te envidio, yo cambie eso y lo veo de una forma mucho mas positiva! Saludos
I would say the same about my mum or my dad. I've never had such a close relationship with them or having them as my mentors or a good example to follow. I would definitely say that it has to do with their mentality, how our parents grow up and in which conditions (I assume you were born in Russia, I was born in Russia, too, and lived in Ukraine for 11 years).
URSS's countries mentality is pretty rough and tough and everything seems to be a struggle and life is hard, there's no time to think about happiness but about survival and a better life (at least, according to my parents). That's why I'm so different from them, I don't expect them to understand me or to be my mentors since we're just so different that it's just impossible to understand each other on a deeper level.
Saludos desde Suecia!
Same thing happened to me. And I must say that my life became much better when I accepted my father
When I took all negative things and memories I had in me about him and turned them into positive experience
We have a lot of things in life we can't control. But we can control our attitude to it.
@@maxb5640 that’s for sure!
So true, going to university in a different city was what helped me really become myself, and I hope to try and be a great father for any kids I have!
A therapist told me that happiness is an emotional like any other, and because of that if you make just happiness a goal you'll never truly succeed. But things like mindfulness, staying present, working and living in alignment with your values, things like that will help you build a life that can bring you happiness
Agree!
And fulfillment
Awesome thought! Thanks :)
Happiness is just another state of being. As humans, we have to accept the fact that we are multi emotional beings. The clinging to one state of being is what causes suffering.
Bhuddism 101
@@ogmoiz exactly 👏🏼😊
perfectly put into word! Everything is temporary, enjoy the ride.
Once I realized this, such a sense of freedom, as if I’d just learned the secret to human flight! 🙏🏼🌹
I prefer being peaceful with myself rather than happiness. I still feel my heart is in chaos but Im slowly finding peace within myself. Meditation really helps
Expectations are a joy killer for sure. Great lessons and loved seeing you with your dad.
@Nathaniel have you ever tried Vipassana Meditation? it fits so well with what you videos are lately, i think you should definitely try!
"Maybe happiness is this: not feeling like you should be elsewhere, doing something else, being someone else." - Isaac Asimov.
"Unhappiness is wishing things were another way", wow I resonate with that, I find that whenever I focus on being grateful for & enjoying the RIGT NOW, I am happier. There are always better jobs to attain, more stuff to chase, and while I think pursuing more experiences & opportunities brings meaning to life, we should not forget to also enjoy & appreciate what we have RIGHT NOW, and how far we have come.
It's so great to see someone have that kind of relationship with his father. Beautiful. Not jealous at all.
3:05 - Accepting things for how things are rather than dwelling on how they could be has brought me so much peace. in turn also happiness
Love the way you combine these travel films with a meaningful message in almost a vlog format??? It is so fresh and unique and amazing to watch. Thank you for always being an inspiration ❤️❤️❤️
I love that too! Always expect his videos!
*5 things to quit right now to be happy:*
*1. Overthinking*
*2. Trying to make everyone happy*
*3. Living in the past*
*4. Worrying*
*5. Doubting yourself…*
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Love from a small channel
Amazing work as always dude! The vulcano shots 🤯
Nathaniel I’m not even joking I think this video just 10/10 changed my life. Also I live in Australia and am jealous you are able to travel right now!
I am genuinely interested in what you are going to do differently now then before watching this video how did this video change your life?
Is Australia still in quarantine?
@@elvarwinston Hi! That it is important to make memories with my parents while they are still around.
@@wolfiesasha887 Hey, yes. Citizens are still not permitted to leave the country without government exemption. Non-citizens are still not allowed to enter the country. (Unless you are a celebrity or athlete)
@@jessburton7133 oh😔
This was so wholesome. Your relationship with you dad makes me genuinely happy
Those volcano shots in the beginning were probably the most beautiful pieces of cinematography I've ever seen on this platform
Every one of Nathaniel’s videos make me view life a different way. It’s like my mind is stretched each time.
When the video started I was like "how did Nethaniel got 20 years older?!"
You & your dad are EXACTLY the same! The voice, the face, body language, life views.... He is definitely your father....
I’m a parent. After watching your dad I now know what kind of dad I want to be! Thanks
My favorite channel, showing where I get to go in two months!! Amazing video!
MY QUOTE OF THE DAY
"Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way. Purpose, on the other hand, is about finding meaning making sense of how things are"
Wow, seeing your dad's face when he was in the hot spring (was that a hot spring?) when he was talking about how heavenly it was, made my own chest expand with emotion. Just watching his joy was lovely; I played it over and over. Thank you for sharing that moment!
Love your dad's simple words of wisdom. When is he starting his RUclips channel?
Yes please. the a channel name Bernard Alberton that advice to the young people and wisdom in life.
👋🏼Second that!
You and your dad look like two goofy happy-go-lucky kids living the time of their lives and I love it! Hahah and your excitement seeing a bunch of goats just staring at you two 😂😂 that was definitely the highlight! Great video Nathaniel! 💖
Several Muslim scholars have said: When you are given be grateful, when you go through trials be patient and when you sin, seek forgiveness and these are the tenets of happiness.
this really was what I needed to hear. you make it so clear and simple. I would just add that attachment is also related to our comfort zone and if we don't ever leave that comfort zone, we won't feel as alive as we actually can - which is such a waste. I really need to learn from this video and, most of all, apply it.
Dear lovely person that's reading this, we may not know each other but I wish you all the best in life! ✨
I believe in you! Love - Nat ❤️
I've been watching your videos for a while now (so I don't know how I missed this), but just realized your videos have spanish captions, which totally makes sense given language learning is one of the many recurring topics on your channel. As someone who's trying to learn spanish, I found this super useful and engaging for learning new vocabulary and expressions in spanish! Definitely something unique to your channel and a great resource for language learners!
Accepting reality as it is and not worrying about things that we can't change, plus being grateful for what we have, I think, is a big part of happiness. Btw, Iceland looks like such a magical place!
I remember Iceland having the freshest air EVER. No wonder everyone there is so tall lol
Same. My memory is the same. The air was SOOO clear.
Really? There are no trees in Iceland though. The viking had cut all the trees.
@@JoaoHenrique-vd8vx trees aren’t the only source for oxygen. Most of the oxygen in the world comes from the oceans
@@QuanTheAlchemist I believe the air is fresh there, but, in the past the land was 40% covered by trees, today is just 0.5%. This doesn't sound good to me, principally for a country that's appreciated by its nature. People look at those giant deforestated mountains and they think it's normal, which in some cases could be, but i think it's very irresponsible. The icelandic government should reforest the land, just like Norwegians did. Google about it.
I think it's also important to remember that happiness is a journey, not a destination. And that you can't be happy all the time. You don't really know what it's like to be happy until you know what it's like to be unhappy. And the more mindful you are, the more you can control these sways of emotions. Love the content!
Your dad is really cool! Loved watching your relationship on this trip!
Watching your videos help stop the negative mental loops. I love how your dad doesn’t force the idea of happiness, but to just “experience everything and roll with the punches.” That’s a lesson I’m still learning. Thanks for always putting out positive, yet realistic, content :)
Your and your dad's perspective is so refreshing. We need more people like you two in our lives!
Father is gorgeous!
Papa Drew has got some incredible insights, damn.
The fact that expectations make us anxious is one of the best things I could say to myself when feeling down, please my friend keep up with the good work!
That happiness serie is soo good!! I'm smiling during the entire video everytime 😂😂😂 And his dad has an amazing youthful energy! Such a refreshing video!!
I love how meta the fact that Iceland was misnamed on purpose is. Especially for the topic of this video
I love the way your Dad approaches life, and it is amazing to see it so much reflected on you! Thanks for continuing to inspire us to seek our own history.
This video is therapy Nathaniel! Much like most of your videos. The idea of reaching happiness without forcing it, or imposing expectations seems so logical, yet it’s so incredibly difficult for most of us to just be and find joy in being. It’s lovely to see you approach happiness in a more effortless way. It’s also inspiration for all of us too. Beautiful work! 👏🏽👏🏽
I love your dad, your amazed eyes, the volcano, the talks, the depth of it all. The beauty of it all. This is so beautiful. Thank you Nathaniel.
The young kid nailed it... a sense of purpose... no matter what country you find yourself in... : )
The relationship between you and your dad is so beautiful to watch, seeing this I realized what I missed out on... You are both incredible people. Keep it up. :)
'Unhappiness is wishing things were another way.'
I felt those words - straight to the marrow. Time to reconfigure my thought process...and to accept and flow with it or away.
really needed to hear those opening words from your dad 🥺
also... as always, love the video!
Having a great relationship with your dad is a good reason to be happy - its also one of the reasons that you are such a nice, vital and well adjusted person (I would say)
Wonderful video with thoughtful and helpful words on how to alter our way of thinking and reactions to be more positive and joyful. I worked hard in my younger years to become the positive thinker I am, but still need reminders to alter negative reactions when they pop in. Thank you for this beautiful video! I watched because I met you Dad when we worked on a project together more than 20 years ago. I thought him an amazing man then and am very happy to see he has raised and incredible son in yourself and you can enjoy these memorial hour use together! Very special. I am going to forward this to my 2 adult children. Thanks!
This video really hit me. This is exactly what I have been experiencing recently. Putting expectation on certain things happening in a certain timeframe and being so frustrated with other things poping up and not allowing me to do the things as planned. And the thing is ok I wasn't happy doing the other things but me being so caught onto the ideas of how my time should look like just made me so much more miserable in comparison then if I were to just accept things as they were and still enjoy my time. Being stuck with my idea of how things should look like is definitely something that I need to work on unlearning.
You and your dad sharing these moments made me so happy ❤️ I love Iceland, this video is amazing
I love the way you combine travel with meaningful messages in videos!
"unhappiness is wishing things were another way" ... love that
🤭 Every time I’ve tried to communicate that exact phrase (“ happiness is so overrated”) people look blankly at me, as if I were some weird vegetable from Jupiter. How perfect that you saw these things in Iceland, a place I’ve always wanted to visit. I’ll be watching this video many times, my friend. Thank you 🙏🏼🌹 ps - How lucky you are to have this soul for your DAD! I’m so envious!!
hhahahahahaha "some weird vegetable from Juptier"- thats hilarious
This was beautiful! Loved hearing your dad’s wisdom, such great interviews with the locals on their thoughts (very insightful) and amazing title animations too!
Man, your videos make me feel so good. Just gives me more enthusiasm to travel the world. Saludos desde Argentina!
I find that whenever I am struggling it does indeed have to do with expectations. Thanks for this video, it is beautiful! ❤️
“Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way” simple, but true. Love seeing your relationship with your dad. Expectations around relationships is an area I tend to butt my head against. We’re all so complex 😀. I suppose it comes down to knowing your own needs and setting healthy boundaries. Lovely video!
Your dad seems like a wonderful human! Lots of wisdom too! I am grateful for both of you.
Thank you for the beautiful scenery in Iceland, a place that I've always wanted to see. Your thoughts on joy and attachment are astute. Looking forward to your next post.
I think there is a difference between joy and happiness? Even the look of the words infers a variance - ‘joy’ is solidly anchored on three letters, while ‘happiness’ gleefully runs along 9 letters, repeating some letters with abandon. Happiness is a euphoric state that comes and whips up our emotions, allowing them to soar for a time, but then releases them to some other sensation. Whereas joy is a deep-seated, solid state of being that allows you to dwell in a secure state of substance. Acceptance does produce something more solid in my emotions. I call joy a God-given state is not swept away or challenged by unreliable sensations that can ripple through you day by day, hour by hour, moment by moment - it lingers. I enjoy your videos ... I hope you revisit them when you need them.
Your videos are insightful and a joy to watch!
I went to Iceland in June. You my friend did an amazing job of capturing the beauty. My lawd what an amazing place
Loved this! I was having a conversation about expectations with my brother last night, so it was fun to watch this today.
This is an amazing video, thank you for sharing your dad's words and yours, the beautiful scenery and your experiences. Thank you for this!
Does anyone even noticed how Nathaniel's video have gotten so much better and thorough in terms of :
a. Overall shots quality (composition, smoothness of movement, overall texture/look/feel)
b. DEM MOTION DESIGN BOYYY!! Sick as hell! On every video I find myself surprised on how complex, cinematic and good your visual effects are. The titles, graphics, glow effects, everything looks just so nice!
Do you do it yourself or do you hire someone else to do it?
Anyhow, great work! Much respect - keep it on Nathaniel! 👍
Yours truly,
Adrien
Your dad is so great! Loved the video
The trip of a lifetime!!! Thank you for documenting joy!!! The message of this video is so needed.
Wow. I love this video and the message soo much!!
And your dad seems very wise and lovely
i love the relationship you and your dad have, it's so pure!
This is amazing! Your dad is pretty cool honestly, and thanks to you guys for sharing your thoughts about happiness.
Your dad is too cool.....the perfect trade buddy! I absolutely love the video. But it also got me wondering....how do you stay 'open' and still follow your purpose without getting attached? How do we achieve our goals if we're not committed or attached to them? would love to hear what you think :))
Commitment and attachment aren’t the same thing 😉
Something that has helped me is to realize the difference between de-tachment and non-attachment. We should care, and work at what we care about, but not have our identity and self-worth caught up in a certain thing being attained or kept. Hold with an open hand, not a closed fist.
One of the best I've watched in your channel. Thanks!!
This is such a wholesome, lovely video! Thank you for the wisdom and for sharing the stunning landscapes of Iceland. You're making me want to take a trip with my dad too, great job Nathaniel.
I love your relationship with your dad! It's so heartwarming.❤
This video has come out at the perfect time for me. I have been doing so much thinking on these themes and also realised that you can never be happy if you are always thinking about what you should or could be doing ! Thank you so much
This is an amazing video, thank you for sharing your dad's take on happiness. Thank you for being an inspiration.
As always, so much wisdom!
Great message, happy living!
I really enjoyed this video. Thank you so much for sharing this and for doing what you do. Looking forward to the next video!
i love your dad he has such an adorable personality!
Everytime I finish watching one your videos I end up feeling great about life. This story is so moving! Thanks for sharing your videos, your thoughts, your relationship with your dad. I'm grateful I'm able to watch this
What a great video! Your dad is super cool and sounds like a deeply spiritual and wise man. Looks like you had a terrific time together. Great message and footage.
I love what you do, Nathaniel. Important topics, comforting to see the different content. Thank you so much.
Wow I loved and needed this reminder about joy/ happiness. I have definitely experienced feeling too attached to an idea of how things should be and then letting it go and feeling relief and/or actually being able to take in a moment and be happy. Thank you for this 🙏🏼
I just learned about this channel. I love it, thanks for your relaxed voice not overwhelmed with radio host emotion.
Such beautiful nature shots !! Wow my eyes needed that 🤩 Thank you for yet another masterpiece of a video Nathaniel ❤️
Enjoyed the video with you and your dad. I especially liked the part you shot in Iceland. Awesome scenery.
This is one of your best videos, an incredible journey and very profound thoughts on happiness, plus your dad is so funny, you guys seem to be such good friends it’s lovely to see it!
So great to hear and see your dad.
You have a very sweet relationship with your father. It's nice to see this come through in how you speak to each other. Beautiful video, felt transported to Iceland :) - thanks for sharing!
Such a good video I couldn’t stop smiling something about you and your dad have such a so real experience together with happiness and nature. Is nice to watch.
Great video as always dude! I needed this. I feel like recently I've let my expectations guide my mood and mentality and it hasn't been good
You dad is fit af! such a wise man! Lots of love
I agreed even with the first words that were said in the video about not forcing situations to be good. I fell into that "trap" before about desiring things to be "better", but later realized that things were actually better for me how they already were!
A wonderful journey and two wonderful people. Well done, Nathaniel.
Hey Nathaniel. I stumbled upon your channel a couple of weeks back, and I have to say I am so drawn to your way of thinking! You share such an incredible insight on many aspects of life that we don't always stop to think about. I love the content! I cannot wait for what is to come.
Nathaniel, thank you for this video! As someone who is currently dealing with health problems and all the unhappiness that brings with it, especially the part of attachment hit right in the feels. In a good kinda way. Thank you for sharing your journey of figuring out life.
Words of wisdom, thank you for sharing this experience with your dad.
This is pure art. THANK YOU NATHANIEL!!