The real reason you aren't happier.

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  • Опубликовано: 30 янв 2025

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  • @gagopoliglota
    @gagopoliglota 3 года назад +1065

    The goats were like: "Excuse me Sir, this is the water we drink. Could you please get your 4ss out of there?"

  • @DerekBearzi
    @DerekBearzi 3 года назад +461

    I love your dad's perspective on life. He's so laid back, but at the same time very optimistic when things don't work out. Such a great way to live life to the fullest.

  • @MishaElRusito
    @MishaElRusito 3 года назад +834

    I have to say I envy you in a very good way. I've never had such a relationship with my father, even when I moved to another country I was happy now I am far away from him. Never had that kind of mentor in my life but I am gonna make sure my future kids don't go through the same. Great video, Nathaniel. Love seeing you with your dad. Saludos desde Mexico hermanito.

    • @michellemesri2903
      @michellemesri2903 3 года назад +6

      Lamento escuchar eso, también aprendemos de nuestros padres a no repetir sus acciones. Proba usar te admiro en vez de te envidio, yo cambie eso y lo veo de una forma mucho mas positiva! Saludos

    • @JaneG
      @JaneG 3 года назад +21

      I would say the same about my mum or my dad. I've never had such a close relationship with them or having them as my mentors or a good example to follow. I would definitely say that it has to do with their mentality, how our parents grow up and in which conditions (I assume you were born in Russia, I was born in Russia, too, and lived in Ukraine for 11 years).
      URSS's countries mentality is pretty rough and tough and everything seems to be a struggle and life is hard, there's no time to think about happiness but about survival and a better life (at least, according to my parents). That's why I'm so different from them, I don't expect them to understand me or to be my mentors since we're just so different that it's just impossible to understand each other on a deeper level.
      Saludos desde Suecia!

    • @maxb5640
      @maxb5640 3 года назад +14

      Same thing happened to me. And I must say that my life became much better when I accepted my father
      When I took all negative things and memories I had in me about him and turned them into positive experience
      We have a lot of things in life we can't control. But we can control our attitude to it.

    • @JaneG
      @JaneG 3 года назад

      @@maxb5640 that’s for sure!

    • @fasahatrizwi8907
      @fasahatrizwi8907 3 года назад +4

      So true, going to university in a different city was what helped me really become myself, and I hope to try and be a great father for any kids I have!

  • @adrianursacki7272
    @adrianursacki7272 3 года назад +409

    "Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way " - gold Idea . Thank you so much , Nathaniel .

  • @gonewiththewynns
    @gonewiththewynns 3 года назад +294

    Expectations are a joy killer for sure. Great lessons and loved seeing you with your dad.

    • @MonsieurLeBoucher
      @MonsieurLeBoucher 3 года назад

      @Nathaniel have you ever tried Vipassana Meditation? it fits so well with what you videos are lately, i think you should definitely try!

  • @ZoeMikelStites
    @ZoeMikelStites 3 года назад +408

    A therapist told me that happiness is an emotional like any other, and because of that if you make just happiness a goal you'll never truly succeed. But things like mindfulness, staying present, working and living in alignment with your values, things like that will help you build a life that can bring you happiness

  • @rootedro
    @rootedro 3 года назад +454

    Happiness is just another state of being. As humans, we have to accept the fact that we are multi emotional beings. The clinging to one state of being is what causes suffering.

    • @ogmoiz
      @ogmoiz 3 года назад +13

      Bhuddism 101

    • @rootedro
      @rootedro 3 года назад +1

      @@ogmoiz exactly 👏🏼😊

    • @AaronArao
      @AaronArao 3 года назад +5

      perfectly put into word! Everything is temporary, enjoy the ride.

    • @poetryjones7946
      @poetryjones7946 3 года назад +6

      Once I realized this, such a sense of freedom, as if I’d just learned the secret to human flight! 🙏🏼🌹

    • @sleverlight
      @sleverlight 3 года назад +6

      I prefer being peaceful with myself rather than happiness. I still feel my heart is in chaos but Im slowly finding peace within myself. Meditation really helps

  • @shivaninaidoo2483
    @shivaninaidoo2483 3 года назад +55

    "Maybe happiness is this: not feeling like you should be elsewhere, doing something else, being someone else." - Isaac Asimov.

  • @sickasiam5024
    @sickasiam5024 3 года назад +34

    It's so great to see someone have that kind of relationship with his father. Beautiful. Not jealous at all.

  • @AaronArao
    @AaronArao 3 года назад +59

    3:05 - Accepting things for how things are rather than dwelling on how they could be has brought me so much peace. in turn also happiness

  • @bbacalhau
    @bbacalhau 3 года назад +78

    Amazing work as always dude! The vulcano shots 🤯

  • @518mussa8
    @518mussa8 3 года назад +39

    This was so wholesome. Your relationship with you dad makes me genuinely happy

  • @dangalilaa
    @dangalilaa 3 года назад +1

    Your dad is really fun

  • @jessburton7133
    @jessburton7133 3 года назад +45

    Nathaniel I’m not even joking I think this video just 10/10 changed my life. Also I live in Australia and am jealous you are able to travel right now!

    • @elvarwinston
      @elvarwinston 3 года назад +4

      I am genuinely interested in what you are going to do differently now then before watching this video how did this video change your life?

    • @wolfiesasha887
      @wolfiesasha887 3 года назад +1

      Is Australia still in quarantine?

    • @jessburton7133
      @jessburton7133 3 года назад

      @@elvarwinston Hi! That it is important to make memories with my parents while they are still around.

    • @jessburton7133
      @jessburton7133 3 года назад

      @@wolfiesasha887 Hey, yes. Citizens are still not permitted to leave the country without government exemption. Non-citizens are still not allowed to enter the country. (Unless you are a celebrity or athlete)

    • @wolfiesasha887
      @wolfiesasha887 3 года назад +1

      @@jessburton7133 oh😔

  • @AntonPatsi
    @AntonPatsi 3 года назад

    Those volcano shots in the beginning were probably the most beautiful pieces of cinematography I've ever seen on this platform

  • @AnmolKumar22
    @AnmolKumar22 3 года назад +114

    Love the way you combine these travel films with a meaningful message in almost a vlog format??? It is so fresh and unique and amazing to watch. Thank you for always being an inspiration ❤️❤️❤️

    • @JaneG
      @JaneG 3 года назад +1

      I love that too! Always expect his videos!

  • @chiyungwong3774
    @chiyungwong3774 3 года назад +8

    I’m a parent. After watching your dad I now know what kind of dad I want to be! Thanks

  • @annarchi
    @annarchi 3 года назад +8

    Every one of Nathaniel’s videos make me view life a different way. It’s like my mind is stretched each time.

  • @obonyoemmy
    @obonyoemmy 3 года назад +1

    Cool dad man.

  • @Beaut_Beau
    @Beaut_Beau 3 года назад +2

    Your dad is cool!

  • @seranes_silence
    @seranes_silence 3 года назад +1

    I just found myself found in a hole… 2 days before my holiday is over I realise I’m having a hard time enjoying myself, being happy, scared of if it being over, of happiness being over, of becoming older, my youth someday being over, everything being over without having been able to enjoy any of it and then regretting everything
    This
    Really
    Really
    Helped
    Thank you oh god so much.

  • @tamsinholland1297
    @tamsinholland1297 3 года назад +14

    Wow, seeing your dad's face when he was in the hot spring (was that a hot spring?) when he was talking about how heavenly it was, made my own chest expand with emotion. Just watching his joy was lovely; I played it over and over. Thank you for sharing that moment!

  • @netta1383
    @netta1383 3 года назад +11

    When the video started I was like "how did Nethaniel got 20 years older?!"
    You & your dad are EXACTLY the same! The voice, the face, body language, life views.... He is definitely your father....

  • @joanamourato2148
    @joanamourato2148 3 года назад +13

    this really was what I needed to hear. you make it so clear and simple. I would just add that attachment is also related to our comfort zone and if we don't ever leave that comfort zone, we won't feel as alive as we actually can - which is such a waste. I really need to learn from this video and, most of all, apply it.

  • @NicholasGarofola
    @NicholasGarofola 3 года назад +2

    My favorite channel, showing where I get to go in two months!! Amazing video!

  • @renjithr1705
    @renjithr1705 3 года назад +2

    Cool dad and nice flowing video 😇

  • @McFraneth
    @McFraneth 3 года назад +1

    If you can't stand emotional pain, don't ever become close to anyone ever. They'll die or leave or change. Or accept that life is about suffering too. Your parents will grow old and decrepid, your children will disappoint you, your friends will betray you. Etc. Just accept that these things happen. Stop trying to control everything beyond your control. Be grateful to be alive.

  • @stephen-finance
    @stephen-finance 3 года назад +8

    Your dad is really cool! Loved watching your relationship on this trip!

  • @nicholeiby
    @nicholeiby 3 года назад +4

    Your and your dad's perspective is so refreshing. We need more people like you two in our lives!

  • @mariannesonntag2543
    @mariannesonntag2543 Месяц назад

    Nathaniel, your smile is beautiful, your happiness is palpable. What a fun and rewarding trip with Dad! Thanks for sharing your insights with us,...blessings all around.

  • @denisemungor9399
    @denisemungor9399 3 года назад +4

    Watching your videos help stop the negative mental loops. I love how your dad doesn’t force the idea of happiness, but to just “experience everything and roll with the punches.” That’s a lesson I’m still learning. Thanks for always putting out positive, yet realistic, content :)

  • @RoselySS95
    @RoselySS95 3 года назад +14

    You and your dad look like two goofy happy-go-lucky kids living the time of their lives and I love it! Hahah and your excitement seeing a bunch of goats just staring at you two 😂😂 that was definitely the highlight! Great video Nathaniel! 💖

  • @Apollo1999xo
    @Apollo1999xo 3 года назад +13

    MY QUOTE OF THE DAY
    "Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way. Purpose, on the other hand, is about finding meaning making sense of how things are"

  • @MamaAkina
    @MamaAkina 3 года назад

    Your dad seems like a wonderful human! Lots of wisdom too! I am grateful for both of you.

  • @clarisselibene
    @clarisselibene 3 года назад +1

    I love your dad, your amazed eyes, the volcano, the talks, the depth of it all. The beauty of it all. This is so beautiful. Thank you Nathaniel.

  • @monojoy4270
    @monojoy4270 3 года назад +1

    This is one of the best videos I've ever watched.

  • @gerardbannon5403
    @gerardbannon5403 3 года назад

    Having a great relationship with your dad is a good reason to be happy - its also one of the reasons that you are such a nice, vital and well adjusted person (I would say)

  • @zigajelavic1437
    @zigajelavic1437 3 года назад +3

    The fact that expectations make us anxious is one of the best things I could say to myself when feeling down, please my friend keep up with the good work!

  • @pepis-world
    @pepis-world 3 года назад +11

    Accepting reality as it is and not worrying about things that we can't change, plus being grateful for what we have, I think, is a big part of happiness. Btw, Iceland looks like such a magical place!

  • @AmeliaHeldt
    @AmeliaHeldt 3 года назад +10

    This was beautiful! Loved hearing your dad’s wisdom, such great interviews with the locals on their thoughts (very insightful) and amazing title animations too!

  • @jimmymckinney5496
    @jimmymckinney5496 3 года назад +65

    Love your dad's simple words of wisdom. When is he starting his RUclips channel?

    • @waterfirelord
      @waterfirelord 3 года назад +1

      Yes please. the a channel name Bernard Alberton that advice to the young people and wisdom in life.

    • @poetryjones7946
      @poetryjones7946 3 года назад

      👋🏼Second that!

  • @victormarques414
    @victormarques414 3 года назад +5

    I love the way your Dad approaches life, and it is amazing to see it so much reflected on you! Thanks for continuing to inspire us to seek our own history.

  • @isweetyness
    @isweetyness 3 года назад +1

    Wonderful video with thoughtful and helpful words on how to alter our way of thinking and reactions to be more positive and joyful. I worked hard in my younger years to become the positive thinker I am, but still need reminders to alter negative reactions when they pop in. Thank you for this beautiful video! I watched because I met you Dad when we worked on a project together more than 20 years ago. I thought him an amazing man then and am very happy to see he has raised and incredible son in yourself and you can enjoy these memorial hour use together! Very special. I am going to forward this to my 2 adult children. Thanks!

  • @amatullahaa
    @amatullahaa 3 года назад +9

    Several Muslim scholars have said: When you are given be grateful, when you go through trials be patient and when you sin, seek forgiveness and these are the tenets of happiness.

  • @caroline8029
    @caroline8029 3 года назад +1

    I imagine you get more chance than most at moments of happiness. Just being able to afford to travel to some of the most beautiful parts of the planet and take in the awesomeness of those places is a blessing. I have no money, I can’t seem to improve my circumstances and I am stuck in a concrete jungle of a place to live. I have responsibilities, debts and life is a drudge. I long to find enough moments of happiness within each dreary day but it is a challenge

  • @lisaleblanc5324
    @lisaleblanc5324 3 года назад +3

    I love the way you combine travel with meaningful messages in videos!

  • @Aarony422
    @Aarony422 3 года назад +1

    I've been watching your videos for a while now (so I don't know how I missed this), but just realized your videos have spanish captions, which totally makes sense given language learning is one of the many recurring topics on your channel. As someone who's trying to learn spanish, I found this super useful and engaging for learning new vocabulary and expressions in spanish! Definitely something unique to your channel and a great resource for language learners!

  • @Chaseosa
    @Chaseosa 3 года назад +9

    I think it's also important to remember that happiness is a journey, not a destination. And that you can't be happy all the time. You don't really know what it's like to be happy until you know what it's like to be unhappy. And the more mindful you are, the more you can control these sways of emotions. Love the content!

  • @lindafirth1562
    @lindafirth1562 3 года назад +2

    Father is gorgeous!

  • @federkieli
    @federkieli 3 года назад +2

    The relationship between you and your dad is so beautiful to watch, seeing this I realized what I missed out on... You are both incredible people. Keep it up. :)

  • @aaroncurtis9324
    @aaroncurtis9324 2 года назад

    Your dad is soo cool man. I'm jealous, this video made me miss my dad. You're blessed brother.

  • @nojerama788
    @nojerama788 3 года назад

    I adore your father so much, he has so much wisdom and kindness in him. He is a wonderful role model to have

  • @joannajoy5996
    @joannajoy5996 3 года назад +3

    really needed to hear those opening words from your dad 🥺
    also... as always, love the video!

  • @carlinroche
    @carlinroche 3 года назад

    So good man, thanks for getting your old man involved - what a legend!

  • @MsGinSling
    @MsGinSling 3 года назад

    Everyone needs someone like your Dad in their life.

  • @arisia6974
    @arisia6974 3 года назад +1

    this video is gold

  • @musicbrii
    @musicbrii 3 года назад +2

    You and your dad sharing these moments made me so happy ❤️ I love Iceland, this video is amazing

  • @ellenshaw1341
    @ellenshaw1341 3 года назад +7

    Thank you for the beautiful scenery in Iceland, a place that I've always wanted to see. Your thoughts on joy and attachment are astute. Looking forward to your next post.

  • @chaluleaucassandra6557
    @chaluleaucassandra6557 3 года назад

    Mec, j'ai rarement des eye opening moments on RUclips but your definition of unhappiness definitely is one of these moments

  • @samblack8727
    @samblack8727 3 года назад +1

    I think i would say the same thing 'i envy your relationship with your father'.
    It's so good to see that you have a good father figure who can show you the ropes of life, including its pitfalls and beauty in it.
    It's really good to see things like this for real.

  • @NaderNadernejadOfficial
    @NaderNadernejadOfficial 3 года назад

    Words of wisdom, thank you for sharing this experience with your dad.

  • @AsaRowanTyne
    @AsaRowanTyne 3 года назад +1

    "unhappiness is wishing things were another way" ... love that

  • @japhetbelmes7093
    @japhetbelmes7093 3 года назад +2

    This is amazing! Your dad is pretty cool honestly, and thanks to you guys for sharing your thoughts about happiness.

  • @federicogonzaleztatuador6458
    @federicogonzaleztatuador6458 3 года назад +1

    Necesitaba este video boludo! Muchas gracias!

  •  3 года назад +2

    I was not done laughing at the cat not my dad joke, and his dad decides to pull an "youtube moment with my glasses" Lmaoooo

  • @CouchPolyglot
    @CouchPolyglot 3 года назад +1

    I find that whenever I am struggling it does indeed have to do with expectations. Thanks for this video, it is beautiful! ❤️

  • @Lena-vm9oo
    @Lena-vm9oo 3 года назад +2

    This video really hit me. This is exactly what I have been experiencing recently. Putting expectation on certain things happening in a certain timeframe and being so frustrated with other things poping up and not allowing me to do the things as planned. And the thing is ok I wasn't happy doing the other things but me being so caught onto the ideas of how my time should look like just made me so much more miserable in comparison then if I were to just accept things as they were and still enjoy my time. Being stuck with my idea of how things should look like is definitely something that I need to work on unlearning.

  • @ChimzDesign
    @ChimzDesign 3 года назад +1

    This video is therapy Nathaniel! Much like most of your videos. The idea of reaching happiness without forcing it, or imposing expectations seems so logical, yet it’s so incredibly difficult for most of us to just be and find joy in being. It’s lovely to see you approach happiness in a more effortless way. It’s also inspiration for all of us too. Beautiful work! 👏🏽👏🏽

  • @elevatewithkarolina
    @elevatewithkarolina 2 года назад +1

    Your dad is so amazing and from watching you two interact you clearly have an amazing relationship. I am so happy for you that you have such an amazing family, I can tell where you get your wisdom and amazingness from x

  • @AvihuShaaltiel
    @AvihuShaaltiel 2 года назад

    I was moved by your video. I appreciate the beautiful moments you and your dad shared, as well as the life lessons that we sometimes tend to forget

  • @catalinagalan
    @catalinagalan 2 года назад +1

    This is one of your best videos, an incredible journey and very profound thoughts on happiness, plus your dad is so funny, you guys seem to be such good friends it’s lovely to see it!

  • @eltaibor
    @eltaibor 3 года назад +5

    Man, your videos make me feel so good. Just gives me more enthusiasm to travel the world. Saludos desde Argentina!

  • @shibiaoyuan3958
    @shibiaoyuan3958 3 года назад +1

    Thanks your video always calms me down

  • @yoanavega560
    @yoanavega560 3 года назад

    i love your dad he has such an adorable personality!

  • @aprilfoxbilligmeier2059
    @aprilfoxbilligmeier2059 3 года назад +3

    The trip of a lifetime!!! Thank you for documenting joy!!! The message of this video is so needed.

  • @leonengel787
    @leonengel787 3 года назад +2

    Nathaniel, thank you for this video! As someone who is currently dealing with health problems and all the unhappiness that brings with it, especially the part of attachment hit right in the feels. In a good kinda way. Thank you for sharing your journey of figuring out life.

  • @alicedegennaro8876
    @alicedegennaro8876 3 года назад +2

    This video has come out at the perfect time for me. I have been doing so much thinking on these themes and also realised that you can never be happy if you are always thinking about what you should or could be doing ! Thank you so much

  • @thelighthouse8295
    @thelighthouse8295 3 года назад +2

    I love your relationship with your dad! It's so heartwarming.❤

  • @wannettamalcolm1630
    @wannettamalcolm1630 3 года назад

    'Unhappiness is wishing things were another way.'
    I felt those words - straight to the marrow. Time to reconfigure my thought process...and to accept and flow with it or away.

  • @CARNALGAS_TANGAS
    @CARNALGAS_TANGAS 3 года назад +1

    Your trip with your dad makes me want to plan one out with mine. It looks like you have deepened your bond with your father even more than it already was. I would like to experience the same with mine.

  • @dagi89online
    @dagi89online 3 года назад

    A wonderful journey and two wonderful people. Well done, Nathaniel.

  • @talkcommonsense
    @talkcommonsense 3 года назад +1

    The young kid nailed it... a sense of purpose... no matter what country you find yourself in... : )

  • @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331
    @taabishkhanself-improvemen7331 3 года назад +32

    *5 things to quit right now to be happy:*
    *1. Overthinking*
    *2. Trying to make everyone happy*
    *3. Living in the past*
    *4. Worrying*
    *5. Doubting yourself…*
    💙
    Love from a small channel

  • @properdesi1986
    @properdesi1986 3 года назад

    You dad is fit af! such a wise man! Lots of love

  • @ivannaperez4121
    @ivannaperez4121 3 года назад +2

    Such a good video I couldn’t stop smiling something about you and your dad have such a so real experience together with happiness and nature. Is nice to watch.

  • @THEWELLBELL
    @THEWELLBELL 3 года назад +1

    Super cool .... what camaraderie with your dad!

  • @yeppitaa
    @yeppitaa 3 года назад +5

    Wow I loved and needed this reminder about joy/ happiness. I have definitely experienced feeling too attached to an idea of how things should be and then letting it go and feeling relief and/or actually being able to take in a moment and be happy. Thank you for this 🙏🏼

  • @nahidullah8080
    @nahidullah8080 3 года назад

    This is an amazing video, thank you for sharing your dad's take on happiness. Thank you for being an inspiration.

  • @beyondthebop
    @beyondthebop 3 года назад

    Watching your videos and learning from you - that's one of the many things that make me happy.
    It's so true that attachment keeps us from experiencing so many great things.

  • @Buen-Provecho
    @Buen-Provecho 3 года назад +1

    “Unhappiness is wishing that things were another way” simple, but true. Love seeing your relationship with your dad. Expectations around relationships is an area I tend to butt my head against. We’re all so complex 😀. I suppose it comes down to knowing your own needs and setting healthy boundaries. Lovely video!

  • @lalaj2065
    @lalaj2065 3 года назад

    So great to hear and see your dad.

  • @grasyaaaaa.
    @grasyaaaaa. 3 года назад +4

    I really enjoyed this video. Thank you so much for sharing this and for doing what you do. Looking forward to the next video!

  • @8only._.jordan8
    @8only._.jordan8 3 года назад

    Wow Nathaniel I really resonate with the point about happiness coming from openness. My friend was asking about how to change a negative mindset. I had mentioned that with more openness you’re more inclined to accept thoughts other than the negatives. Nice video man been following your journey forever! 👍🏾

  • @Julie-bq6iz
    @Julie-bq6iz 3 года назад

    Your dad's great! You two seem to be very compatible. Looks like you both had a good time together.

  • @cderzzz
    @cderzzz 3 года назад +2

    I went to Iceland in June. You my friend did an amazing job of capturing the beauty. My lawd what an amazing place

  • @QuanTheAlchemist
    @QuanTheAlchemist 3 года назад +39

    I remember Iceland having the freshest air EVER. No wonder everyone there is so tall lol

    • @wendybird7059
      @wendybird7059 3 года назад +2

      Same. My memory is the same. The air was SOOO clear.

    • @JoaoHenrique-vd8vx
      @JoaoHenrique-vd8vx 3 года назад

      Really? There are no trees in Iceland though. The viking had cut all the trees.

    • @QuanTheAlchemist
      @QuanTheAlchemist 3 года назад +7

      @@JoaoHenrique-vd8vx trees aren’t the only source for oxygen. Most of the oxygen in the world comes from the oceans

    • @JoaoHenrique-vd8vx
      @JoaoHenrique-vd8vx 3 года назад

      ​@@QuanTheAlchemist I believe the air is fresh there, but, in the past the land was 40% covered by trees, today is just 0.5%. This doesn't sound good to me, principally for a country that's appreciated by its nature. People look at those giant deforestated mountains and they think it's normal, which in some cases could be, but i think it's very irresponsible. The icelandic government should reforest the land, just like Norwegians did. Google about it.

  • @catarinaassuncao157
    @catarinaassuncao157 3 года назад

    Glad you had the time to do all of that with your father. Some one us don't have that oportunity anymore. enjoy while you can.

  • @glovefox
    @glovefox 3 года назад +3

    I love you guys!! Nathaniel's messages always uplift my heart and the way I can describe it is like my soul breathing a sigh of content. I hope to one fly away soon and see the world the way that I want to, and the way that you do too.

  • @lightrthief
    @lightrthief 3 года назад

    i love the relationship you and your dad have, it's so pure!

  • @kudzainyika2663
    @kudzainyika2663 3 года назад +1

    your editing is so sick. Never getting tired of your videos