How to Create the Life You Want (And Find Your North Star)
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- Опубликовано: 28 сен 2024
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When you feel contentment with a rut, you start to stagnate. Being a forever student is really the way towards fulfilment.
*To live is to wonder and grow*
@Kristof Alexy Amen brother. Just don't forget to enjoy the current life as much as you can. Enjoying the small things fills up the gas tank to keep pushing.
Perfect explanation!
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I kinda feel this way, I'm stuck and I have no idea how to get out and idk it's so frustrating cuz seriously it just gets worse and worse idk what to do
"The things that I want to accomplish today, might not be possible. But if I plant the seeds to day they might be possible tomorrow."
- Nathaniel Drew
I have so many quotes from Nathaniel in my journal you have no idea xD
=) moving line
👏👏👏👌
I was so surprised to realize you’re 22. So much wisdom beyond your years, my friend. I feel like we’d be great friends if we ever met :)
Sarah McDowell he looks like a 26 year-old boy..
damn, he has so much wisdom for a 22-year old!! while I'm 22 and is as lost as ever ;;
@@Seolhwaneul yah, I can relate 😅😁
wow, crazy!
He said he skipped college, so that's probably one reason. To me it means he has had time to reflect and figure out what he wanted out of life. Time spent alone enables people to grow. I have seen this in myself. Whenever I spend time reflecting and reducing input, I become more mature.
If only I was as self aware as you when I was 22! Your maturity is beautiful!
I was thinking the same! At 22 I was deep thinking g but way too insecure to put it all into such articulate words like he does.
Agreed. This guy is wise beyond his years
It's never too late for anything.. Today matters..
" Yesterday is History,
Tomorrow is a Mystery,
But Today is a Gift, That's why it is Called 'Present'.. " - Kung Fu Panda
majR like for the kung fu panda my favourite animated movie growing up quote😁
Have you met his Mother? Their relationship was key, as most parent, child relationships are.
Designing our lives doesn't cross our minds until we realize we are not happy in the present moment.
Its not necessary that things will work out the way it is supposed to
This is very much true.
Yes, but the opposite is also true. if we're happy, let's stop designing our lives
Completely disagree, based on my own experience that is.
I also disagree. I am very happy now but I went to dark times before, so I want to learn a way to cross my own patch so I never loose myself again.
*How to have a North Star*:
- ask “where do I want to be 10 years from now?” in both personal and work dimensions
- have an important support system
- get to know yourself more:
* inputs: listen, read, talk, experiment
* reflection: turn stimulus down and look inwards. Meditation, journaling, time alone. Take time to piece things together. “What did you do as a little kid before you applied pressure/expectations” “what can I NOT live without?”
- honour the KID IN YOU
Hope this helps anyone :)
thank you for this actually writing this in my notes.
"Where do I want to be 10 years from now?" - uh in the here and now!? :P for the rest yes.. i listen, read, talk and honor the kid in me :) thank you
This should be taken as screen shot ..thanks💕
Thank you🙏
Thank you, I took a screenshot of this 💖
I'm attracted to your soul. I often feel alienated and even insane when I can't articulate something clearly as if it doesn't exist. Your conviction and vulnerability speak directly to my soul. Your videos are inspiring.
that dark room example is literally the best way to express life
Timestamp ?
Serpent Eve 2:45
“If it isn’t enjoyable, …you’re playing the long game. This is your LIFE!”
I love it! Keep speaking the truth Nathaniel! Thank you for sharing your gift of intuitiveness.🙏🏽💕
"Honor the child that lives in you"
Thank you! Have a good time in Italy ❤
TL DR SUMMARY
-"Design : do or plan something with a specific purpose or action in mind."
We should design our own lifestyle, focusing on what matters to us.
-Lifestyle design is a messy process, our priorities and dreams change constantly. We're learning as we go.
-Ask "where do I want to be in 10 years, personally and professionally?"
Tools to know yourself better :
-Input : learning, opening new doors, experimenting.
-Reflection : Meditation, journalling, connect dots together.
-Ask :"What can I not live without?" (Expressing myself? Traveling?)
-It's not an easy process, so treating things like experiments or games help to reduce the pressure of it.
A question comes to mind, this guy has the answer, thank god he shares it
You made me tear up. I am going to through an existential crisis right now as I try to finish my senior year of college. This came in at the right time.
Man, I am truly, deeply exhausted of living a life I do not want to live.
Same..
same
I feel you...
Maybe you should ask yourself: "Why do I do it? Can I live the life I want and still have the benefits of this otherwise exhausting life I'm leading right now?"
@@rbkbala30 thanks for this comment 🙏🏻
I think your life is exquisite, it looks like you are in an sacred journey to solve the puzzle of your life , that’s actually amazing.
This video. This video... I swear, almost brought me to tears. Thank you for this, Nathaniel. Just amazing.
It did bring me to tears. It's incredible.
I really like how thoughtful and introspective your videos are.
I'm coming back to this video after two years. Two years ago I made notes and since then my goals have changed but I also managed to achieve the main goal I had at that time - to start online work and become a digital nomad. I moved to another country and I travelled a lot which I also wanted to do! I think it's a great success especially when you count pandemic in between.
I really recommend all of you to take notes and come back to them after some time. It really shows you how far you've come.
Since im just 17 living with my familiy in the Philippines currently grade 12 students. The only thing that I can help you is to watch your videos every time you upload. I love your videos. Its really clear and not complicated, very calming.
Love and support from Philippine.
I woke up this morning and i had no plans today, i was a bit worried that i would end up doing nothing. But Thank God for you Nathaniel, this really lifted my brain up & helped my morning Incredibly!
Thank you guy!! I really agree that nobody has it all Figured out.☆ thanks for sharing these videos with us!!^^
But it's evening now, tell me what you did, (It's evening in India, 7.18 pm what time it is there )
@@theawantikamishra oh hi, it is 6:50 am for me! I got up and went for a jog, which usually i don't do. But it really amazed me and kind of opened my eyes to how much i have to be grateful for. And it makes me realize that i have so much, to be able to walk out and hear birds and watch a sunrise is such a great gift to me, and it makes me incredibly happy!!
The past is history, tomorrow is a mystery, but today is a Gift. And that's why it's called the present~ :)
@@plantkid I have been planning for a week to go for walk in morning, may be I will do tomorrow, good day to you :-)
@@theawantikamishra aah right on!! Good for you!! :) good day to you as well!☆
Hi, i saw your comment and i can feel the happiness and that sensation of satisfaction after achieving something, thru your post 😄👍🏾. And yes, we should enjoy and be grateful for what we have and profit as if it was our last moment on this earth.
I don't know if what i wrote makes any sense, but i wanted to share this. Have a wonderful day.
" you cannot learn everything from others. Sometimes that just means experimenting." I can't get over this sentence. Well said !!.
Your videos are THE BEST on RUclips. The subject matter, writing, visuals and music/sound are unmatched. Thank you for your work and for being real. 💜
Recently, I've gravitated toward the belief that our lifes are always changing and gripping dreams too tightly can actually harm us. Sometimes letting go and becoming present in the moment, not only accepting it but also finding happiness😏 will make the greatest difference. Dream are just that...dreams.😊
I'm someone that is addicted to beating myself down, I get to points where I'm happy and feel as if I have everything figured out, thoughts are clear, confident, life feels easier then bam one day everything goes down and then the obsession of beating myself down comes back and it's as if I forgot every tool, like someone training for a fight for months then during the fight completely forget how to defend. Also I'm a really good cheerleader, my priority is all messed up, it's as if I care for others more than myself its affected my negatively.
I paused the video bc I had to read your comment again, bc this is exactly how I feel. I’ll be good for a couple weeks even months sometimes and than one day I’m not.. & it leads me down a dark road bc I feel like the progress I made those weeks or months wasn’t enough bc I’m back to that place and it’s really hard to get out of it again..
I feel like the same way you are and I understand. For me , how I view it is that nothing in life stays in constant. Not even happiness or struggle. But we can atleast be consistent on what were working on.
crimsonv0s that is very true. It was nice talking to you/ Sending positive vibes. 💜
Cinematography in this video is top-notch! Love the content mate.
When I feel lost , I browse your content and watch something! I came back to this video for the third time and it instantly gives me positivity
This has been on my mind lately and I agree with the point you made about it not being possible to learn everything from others. Experimenting is soo crucial and will get anyone far in their journey. When I’m in doubt with where I wanna go, that’s one thing I constantly remind myself of. To just keep experimenting and see what feels right, and I definitely have come a long way in terms of knowing what I want and where I want to be. Awesome video as always!
the '' treating the things you do like little games'' advise is so good. I found myself putting unnesessary presure on thing just because in my head i was like "maybe this is my passion and i should be good at it" and now since i started having that playful mindset i tend to enjoy my hobbies a lot more. The truth is that our inner child is always influencing us in some way and i think by putting preasureon things makes that inner child quiet o repressed. Thank you nathaniel for being such a positive force.
I just wanted to say thanks. Thank you so much, i am also making ~20¢ a day in my youtube channel. I put so much effort and sometimes i feel like going nowhere but now after seeing your video it motivated me and also gained some mental clarity. Its a long road and it WILL pay offf. Thank you and great video :)
Thanks for sharing this advice Nathaniel. These are incredibly well made. All the best.
this is the most attracted to someone online i've ever been
Lol I feel your pain
omg same, the way his eyes literally sparkle
the letters of his name can be rearranged in the following manner:
Nathaniel Drew -> White Anal Nerd
Note: This is simply a fact, not an opinion (and therefore not an insult).
Omg I wish I find someone like him
@@ofvictimsandvillains SHDHJKSFSJ
I just gotta say...I came back to this video today and I can`t put it into words, how inspired I feel rn. It reminded me of last year, and the first time that I watched it. I`ve been in kind of a rut lately, a major one actually. Not really taking care of myself and falling back w my work. But myyy god did this help
When we contemplative, meaning-seeking thinkers say things like “To deepen my experiences as a human being”, we get a little shy about it because a lot of the times, people don’t get it. I get you completely. And I think this video is beautiful
I really feel like we're the same person in different bodies. Would love to meet people like you!
There are a lot of skilled filmmakers on RUclips who try to showcase their skill, but when they try to add a verbal narrative they don't take advantage of the full potential that is there to have a really beautiful visual AND a meaningful audio accent. I click off so quickly when I realize I am accidentally watching just another general video with beautiful drone shots and reused clips but is discussing a broad topic in very simple and expected language, and doesn't add any new information or analyses for me to brew on. I feel like your viewers get to know who YOU are a little more in each video as you share personal and specific anecdotes and observations. I really enjoy your analyses and ideas, thank you for sharing so genuinely!
I've been really getting into photography and filmmaking lately, got a camera last February, am following a course now and i've found that not a day has passed where i've been bored with it. I always thought it was a bit of a futureless hobby but over time I found out nothing is worth your time if you're not enjoying the process, like you said. I'm still not sure how I wanna move my way around it, but I love "open" storytelling: making art of any form that gives a lot of space to the consumer to fill it in with their own meaning, however with some form of guidance. It also sounds very abstract, I know. But the only way to find out is by action, and it's very nice and somewhat comforting to see someone in a similar position in life. You've definitely given me inspiration to think about :)
Playing the long isn’t easy during hard times. Honoring the child in me is my ultimate goal.
I stumbled across your channel by accident today when I was looking up videos about learning a new language. I am hooked! I've watched a few of your videos and I love them all. They're so well made. Your videos are so deep and thought-provoking.
Yes! How to find the right people is key!
Do a video on that
I agree with Marcela, networking and finding the person who can fit is essential.
This hits 🏠I am definitely a slow traveler. I also was changed by Spain. Studied abroad there in 2010 during Spain's first-ever world cup. Time just slowed down in a way that felt like it was finally at the same pace as I was. Great video, as always!
I'm reading that book right now! I find that a lot of the things you enumerated are things that my friends already put in practice. I'm getting there myself and it really helps hearing the confirmation from someone who made their dreams happen
I just discovered this channel and have already binged a few videos and subscribed... I love how honest and interesting his content is! I just graduated from college, kinda wanna travel (but money, stability, and COVID), kinda wanna get a full-time job in a big city, mostly just don't know. I'm a storyteller too, about the same age, and I feel such a strong connection to him. Seems like a lot of others do too. He's definitely doing something right!
Wow, this was just amazing. The audio engineering is out of this world.. It really captivated me and brought me deeper into the story. Very well done, thank you for adding more value into my life.
Your are helping me and so many other people to open our eyes, to see that feeling lost is just part of this journey. To not feel afraid of that feeling. This helps so much. Thank you.
Are you in Milan? 😍
OMG IT'S MY CITY 🇮🇹❤️
I was a hippie in the late 60s/early 70s. You remind me of our quest for what was real...only you are way more disciplined than what we were. I am inspired by your journey...and Italy is my favorite country in the world. Rock on.
I feel very resonate with your video and what you are saying. I studied also in Italy, and is a country that gives me so much joy and I feel so much connection with Italy, is always in my heart where ever I am.
Thank you for being honest and sharing your own journey, plz read "The Alchemist" that book carries something different. 💡🙏
I think that RUclips allows so many people to just create something new, like you. Travel is something so good to the soul, in my opinion, and it is completely possible today to ''monetize'' the stuffs you like!
Ahh I haven’t even watched yet but this looks like a great video! I feel like you always post exactly what I need to see haha
I agree with you Max, it's crazy how they can create a video we need
I want to frame every sentence you say on my wall. Beautifully inspirational
I think when people ask how you do what you do they're asking about how much financial support you were or are given.
I love how you are not "shouting" at me in this video. So many RUclipsrs have this supposedly cool "aggressive" style of storytelling and filming that is just off-putting for me. You present deep ideas with a very calming, almost soothing narration
I remember Speaking to You Nathaniel, I was stuck in a Starbucks in Nashville, watching your video on feeling left behind... We spoke on DM on instagram before you blew up! Its crazy, I was so inspired, and well.... just 3 months later Ive hit over 20,000 views, 100,000 minutes of watchtime and . over 1.3K subs! I hope to see you at the top sometime buddy, if just to say thanks :)
The unsexy side that never goes out in social media: it really doesn't matter, 4 real, I had that (to an extent) and I have repeatedly left it behind, both voluntarily and involuntarily, I whole heartly agreed with Drew on this one, whatever matters in this world is God, your family, your real friends, your purpose/work, everything else is icing on the cake.
im surprised by the editing level on the first 20s.
and i really love that.
Bro, you're channel is straight heat, keep it up! Genuinely glad it's working out for you. Way to stay the course!
I lived in Spain for a while (a total of about two years) and it changed my life and thinking
Thank you so much for sharing your story with us and a big thank you to Kara and Nate for the introduction to you Nathaniel Drew my great story teller with awesome parents!!!
Why is your logo an I've cream cone?
His Adsense states July 2015 - Sept 2019 = $31,000. So for yall that want to become youtube stars and aren't patient. THIS IS WHAT PATIENCE LOOKS LIKE.
Well said friend
Wait, you can see others Adsense?
@@rasmus9311 11:33
Arthur Larin Thanks, I always comment too early
That's about $7000 a year dude
I really like what you said about treating everything as small experiments. There's a lot of pressure to have life figured out. You know, fear can be paralyzing if you let it consume you. I learned to focus on what is in my control in every present moment. Doing my best always and deciding from a place of love, positivity and joy instead of fear. It's truly not a one-time deal. Everything and everyone is continually evolving. I'm with you, in spirit, my friend, in our search of mental clarity.
Almost the same headline like last video by Matt D'Avella, almost the same type of videos, almost the same kind of message and almost the same storytelling.
EDIT: And still valuable content which deserves to be support.
Man! You have my tought..
This life style RUclips business is bullshit.
If these guys are so into filmmaking, why don't they create something actual, rather than these phony videos, which are watchable only because of the camera quality.
@lindy what do u mean? thats his path ,all i can assume from ur statement is finding path is should be different from others? if is that what ur rly thought,i think u are wrong.
@@chandraveersaran3752 I think I agree with you. I don't really want to believe that it is true but you are correct about watching for the video quality. I was watching lots of these types of videos but stopped as despite the great quality and editing I felt that they weren't really telling me anything. Since I've stopped watching them (this is the first for about a month) I am much more content with my life and I feel happier. The main reason why I stopped watching was when Matt D'avella admitted that he suffers from anxiety still. I think he did the right thing by admitting that but it sort of felt like he had let me down, if that makes sense?
Thank you for posting your comment. I was beginning to think it was only me that thought this 🙂
@@phill6983 And I was beginning to think I was the only one.
I think if one really wishes to learn something life changing go read books. There are tons of wonderful books out there. But, people won't do that because its tough. They want to fool themselves with these 10 minute videos where they don't have to actually do anything. And I empathize with them, as I did the same thing once.
The quicker you realize improving yourself is tough, the quicker you would start attempting it the right way.
I haven't seen one of your videos for a while, and man, your videos are on a higher level! I mean, they were always great, but now, the transitions, the story, the music, the incredible 4k footage, your dialogue, everything has so much more value. Incredible work Nathan! Very happy for your success now and in the future!
You're one of my fav channels on youtube just for the sheer authenticity of your content and your personality. It is so relaxing to hear you takes on different things, it is like hearing a friend speak. Pure pleasure, kudos!
How Do you read my Mind Every time.
Thanks Nath.
Wow, your such a beautiful and curious person! Your really just going for it and having the most open mind about how to live, there’s not a lot of people like you out there and I’m happy to see people create such a wonderful experience and share it with others.
I wish you all the best in the future.
4:06 That pen thing is amazing!
I'm not surprised one bit that your favorite show is Chef's Table! Easily still one of the best shows I've ever seen and never abandons my mind for too long. Definitely explains your talent for composition, pacing, and introspective outlook which I relate to immensely as well.
The one thing I don’t get from these type of videos is the fact that mediocrity is a ‘bad’ thing. We can’t all be extraordinary. Sometimes it’s okay to be mediocre at one thing and extraordinary at another. Viewing life as mediocre is different than having a mediocre job but still being happy
It takes very little effort to be mediocre, hence the point that somehow we can all improve ourselves and are destined for things we used to dream of if we make that choice. I think it’s something that all human beings should atleast try to do👍
I understand what you're saying, but being mediocre, by definition, is being so regular to the point where it's bad. There's nothing wrong with not being extraordinary, you're totally right. Maybe we should be replacing the word "mediocre" to something else? Maybe the word we're looking for is ordinary.
I think he meant what *you* would individually see as mediocre for your life, not a general statement for all people. For example, me working as an accountant would be a mediocre life compared to what I actually want however, for some people becoming an accountant would be their dream.
SO BASICALLY, make sure you are going after your actual dream rather than someone else's.
r10warrior exactly. I had a convo with someone a while ago and she said she is fine with being comfortable. Her version of that is working a job and not caring about being promoted, fine with not having many friends or going out more than once a month or two. She’s fine with being by herself not talking to anyone 80% of the time. I couldn’t believe anyone / she is ok with being alone and not experiencing anything.
Capitalism and productivity culture kinda make conformism and mediocrity worse than committing genocide
Been meaning to watch this for a year, and I finally got to do it today. I move to LA tomorrow... your videos have helped me a lot. Thank you dude :)
maybe everyone feels this way but holy hell this was relatable. right down to my first school trip to spain that sparked a relationship with traveling and personal growth.
You are wise. I’m grateful to have found your work.
Thank you for this video. You allow yourself to be a vulnerable and that shows a lot of courage. With an vulnerability comes connection and that is what is happening thanks to your channel.You have figured out at your own young age things that I have figured out in the last 5 years and I am 45. I will make sure to show this video to my two teenage boys. I believe you are on the right track to happiness. Bonne chance et bon courage.
thank you so much for this type of video, and please continue to do more of them.
This guy is the life coach I always needed
This is an amazing channel to fall asleep to. The voice is so soothing and visuals are so nicely colour blended together. Just turn on your bluelight filter , put this on and pass straight out.
I am a victim of psychological abuse and didn't really have the opportunity to have my own life until my mid twenties. Even after that I felt so lost because my optimism, creativity and dreams were crushed at such a young age. In my early 30s I finally found parts of myself and although my past still haunts me, I know that i'm somehow going in the direction I want to be.
You are already an amazing storyteller. As you grow and experience life so will the breadth of your stories expand. Your articulation is astounding and so refreshing amid the mire of vapid, vacuous and narcissistic content on the web.
Thank you thank you thank you. That’s all I can think about whenever I watch any of your videos. You’re light.
I like how he mentioned the sacrifices he’s made to get closer to wherever he wanted to go or who he wanted to be I.e doing without things and how he didn’t always make anything on RUclips. People assume he’s always had there money to travel and live the same life everyone else lives at the same time.
The things that I want to accomplish today may not be possible, but if I plant the seeds today they might be possible tomorrow. (10:35)
Damn, that's a great way of looking at things. I've been living like this for a while now, and this wording expresses the essense in the most accurate way. The things you want to accomplish in life may look so distant now, almost impossible. But if you do something, even the smallest effort, on a daily basis, one day all those things will become possible.
I'm living in Milan right now, and I had to pause the video a few times because it looked so much like Milan! Love the video and idea of approaching things like a game.
Thank you for your videos. You're sincere and honest. Also, my dad was an artist; a printmaker. He also did oil on canvas but his main focus was printmaking. His ability as an artist allowed our family to travel to Europe when I was growing up. Thanks again! Anne
I just want money for stay a live for my family, anyone suggest because i cant get job i should,
I cant use my naval architect for short, i cant use my degree because my gpa 2.89
Can we all take the time to appreciate that very first drone shot 👏👏
Just watched the Chef Table episode with Massimo Bottura after your comments. OMG it is incredible! Thanks so much for sharing and love this video.
It's a great one indeed. Another one to recommend from season 1 is Magnus Nilsson.
My childhood was spent working as-in from the age if 8 on, there was no alternative to this, but one of the results is an innability to see myself as a person, my worth is totally wrapped-up in what utility I can provide.
I may come off as captain obvious but Sir you are very good at expressing what you feel, think etc, and why you think or feel this way. Your videos help me isolate and specify what i should do to formulate a personal plan. Thank you Nathaniel!
"...I highly suspect that will forever be the case" TRUTH!!!! 🙌
To be honest it's not easy ! I know it's going to be worth it at the end ! but I am struggling to stay up on my feet , especially because i am doing all by myself ! Thank you and I one day will make all of my dreams come true !
You expand my mind and way of thinking. I'm so grateful I stumbled upon your channel.
One word. Inspiring
To me the path is more important than any goal. It‘s helpful to know what is important to myself. But if I fully design my life from my current perspective I will miss opportunities that could lead me to places so beautiful and unexpected. Life means ongoing becoming which I acknowledge through openness, trust and a friendly ear to my inner voice.
You're younger than me and look at your outlook and success. Bravo sir
I love, love, love this episode. I just finished a one year of slow travel I called a radical sabbatical and I decided to continue. Thanks for this.
You can also figure out who you are by putting you self in situation of choosing, i'm my choices, they are the honest thing in the world that could tell what I like,what I appreciate,how I feel,and what I want.
Like if you like the minimal vibe of this guy. ⚫️⚪️
I just want to tell you that you are so inspiring. Thank you for doing what you do.
I know it’s not the subject of the video but can we appreciate how far we’ve comes with the way we create content? I mean this little video that looks perfectly pro was made by one and only guy when back in the day there were tones and tones of peoples that would have worked on something like that for tv.
Dude, you need an award for such amazing videos.
565 comments - attracting my Mirror no Message for today. You have a new subscriber and I have a positive new addition to my life. I will share this vid in my next Blog Musings. Perfect fit. Thank you for your bravery to script your own life. You are helping us all.