In my case my sister and mother are asking me to unblock my grandma but I know that’s a domino effect once I let one back in then I just open a window to feed this smear campaign against me
You don't have to forgive your parents.Forgiveness means pretend it didn't happen.Just don't be consumed by hatred and revenge.You just have to forgive yourself and move on but never be in denial about what happened.That's how I dealt with my toxic dad,who I could not love and forgive but nonetheless,I learnt to move on.
My dad was a toxic person; neglectful and verbally abusive.Because of this growing up I had no emotional connection with him.I did not and could not love him but I had respect for him.Forgiveness is not absolute.I learnt to move on with my life without anger and hatred.Blood is not thicker than water.For me this is about being realistic and practical ,not being idealistic and politically-correct.
What helped me in these smear campaigns is to go the distance. To not engage and to not ask what the toxic people are saying about me. The hardest part for me to accept is that people I really liked seem to be more willing to believe the gossip about me instead of asking me my story. I even one time had a ‘friend’ telling me that my latest toxic partner said I was the abuser, while he knew I was the one who was abused. He knew about it but was not willing to believe it. When I asked why he never came to me to ask about what I was accused of he simply could not reply to my question. That to me was the hardest part. To really look at what friendship means to me and then to follow through and cut people out of my life. Lovingly
I often find time takes its toll on these toxic psychic vampires. When they start spreading rumors people seem to jump on board at first and then later over time others fall foul of their tongue and the people begin to notice they’re just BS artists. They create the rot beneath their feet and their lies become so heavy their foundation collapses and they fall into an abyss and the only way out is through the mirror and to begin their own healing of self acceptance. Subscribed, you have an interesting channel.
My mother is on a smear campaign at the moment. Beyond infuriating but I'm living by my no response is a response mindset.
Great video. All those "forgiveness pushers" really are exhausting.
Agreed
In my case my sister and mother are asking me to unblock my grandma but I know that’s a domino effect once I let one back in then I just open a window to feed this smear campaign against me
I'm just witnessing this with a family member and her very toxic mother, it's heartbreaking
I feel if I forgive my parents, I’m betraying myself….🤷🏼♀️
You don't have to forgive your parents.Forgiveness means pretend it didn't happen.Just don't be consumed by hatred and revenge.You just have to forgive yourself and move on but never be in denial about what happened.That's how I dealt with my toxic dad,who I could not love and forgive but nonetheless,I learnt to move on.
My dad was a toxic person; neglectful and verbally abusive.Because of this growing up I had no emotional connection with him.I did not and could not love him but I had respect for him.Forgiveness is not absolute.I learnt to move on with my life without anger and hatred.Blood is not thicker than water.For me this is about being realistic and practical ,not being idealistic and politically-correct.
What helped me in these smear campaigns is to go the distance. To not engage and to not ask what the toxic people are saying about me. The hardest part for me to accept is that people I really liked seem to be more willing to believe the gossip about me instead of asking me my story. I even one time had a ‘friend’ telling me that my latest toxic partner said I was the abuser, while he knew I was the one who was abused. He knew about it but was not willing to believe it. When I asked why he never came to me to ask about what I was accused of he simply could not reply to my question. That to me was the hardest part. To really look at what friendship means to me and then to follow through and cut people out of my life. Lovingly
Yea I hear you on this 100%
I often find time takes its toll on these toxic psychic vampires. When they start spreading rumors people seem to jump on board at first and then later over time others fall foul of their tongue and the people begin to notice they’re just BS artists.
They create the rot beneath their feet and their lies become so heavy their foundation collapses and they fall into an abyss and the only way out is through the mirror and to begin their own healing of self acceptance.
Subscribed, you have an interesting channel.
Yea you’re so right…. People figure them out in the end!
I love your second paragraph! Such a perfect description.
Some things are not forgivable. Divine justice, Compassionate listening
Forgiveness just means you have given up thoughts of revenge. That’s the only thing you give up.