9 Things Men (over 40) Find Beautiful In A Woman

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  • @JonathonAslay
    @JonathonAslay  2 месяца назад

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  • @staceysyvarth4452
    @staceysyvarth4452 2 месяца назад +32

    Met a great guy who asked me to marry him. He's 51, never been married before( many horrible exes). He spoils me, takes care of me to the max. We've lived together for a year.

    • @kimdyer856
      @kimdyer856 2 месяца назад +18

      "Many horrible exes" = red flag. What was his part in each of these horrible relationships? Why is he shit-talking all of his exes? What's the one common denominator in all of his horrible past relationships? Be careful.

    • @staceysyvarth4452
      @staceysyvarth4452 2 месяца назад +4

      @@kimdyer856 they were all liars. I am not and neither is he.They also took advantage of his giving nature. I too am a giver and appreciate his actions( and tell him so).

    • @walkaminutewithme4787
      @walkaminutewithme4787 2 месяца назад +3

      @@kimdyer856 Yes, BIG red flag. Take off your rose color glasses before he replaces them with shit color glasses. Love yourself 🙏🏼 🤲 ✨️💫❤️🤗

    • @susanblanche9684
      @susanblanche9684 2 месяца назад

      No way would I ask a man to tell me how he feels about me constantly!!! Who wants a person who doesn't say it naturally? No way will he later down the road if ya marry him. Plus any man who says the fuck word is ignorant sounding !!! I have high value and don't like filth

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming 2 месяца назад +2

      @@walkaminutewithme4787
      Well said. This a red alert, when it's ALL exes. 🚩

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад +11

    Jonathan you don’t have to share with us your personal business. Kind of you to be so open but just know it’s not necessary at least for me…bless you. I think you’re amazing and any lady would be blessed to know you personally ! Thanks for your openness and sincerity.

  • @2013december
    @2013december 2 месяца назад

    I like that a lot put a friend on the friend if he’s not ready.

  • @jennywang2429
    @jennywang2429 2 месяца назад +8

    Mainly Sex related - fun, entertainment and romance
    1-capacity of present>actively listening
    2-focus on one
    3-into the body type
    4-flirty/playful/fun/not too serious in life
    5-sexuality
    6-kind generous and appreciative
    7-expressive
    8-in power
    9-giver/purpose of life

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад +6

    4. She’s fun, flirty, playful and positive to
    Be around

    • @marybeeler501
      @marybeeler501 2 месяца назад

      Fun and flirty doesn't last for long once you get to know them

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming 2 месяца назад

      Yes, You've got to be real. Navigate the ups and downs.
      It's not all about fun and banter.

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад +4

    6. She’s kind and generous and appreciative

  • @lololollaughatlife1431
    @lololollaughatlife1431 2 месяца назад +18

    My ex had a joking manner with a dark side. He joked as a tool… when gauging if a women is a candidate he would make jokes that weren’t really even funny but where more based on making something untrue up, watching that person react to the untrue thing- and then saying -- just kidding. Or backsides compliments - posed as being funny. So I watch the humor style closely. Humor used as manipulation or to hide a negative comment -I will not be laughing like my ignorant 20 year old self would have.

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад +13

    8. She’s in her power !! She’s agreeable without being a doormat .

  • @harinidiasbandaranayake
    @harinidiasbandaranayake 2 месяца назад +1

    The Buddha as Prince Siddhartha was married. He left his wife and son in search of nirvana. So probably the wrong person to make an analogy of in terms of relationship/commitment to a woman. LOL. But the 9 traits are spot on. Thank you 🙏

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад +5

    9. She’s a giver to humanity and has purpose in her life

  • @mariamccrea7909
    @mariamccrea7909 2 месяца назад +3

    Loved this video! Your honesty when you answer questions is what we need to hear!!

  • @Carr2409
    @Carr2409 2 месяца назад +1

    Yes, Jonathan, you did do the right thing by listening to your gut. This is something that I have learned and my life is so much clearer. Plus it’s working so much better. I understand what you’re saying about control and Mel Robbins podcast on “let them” is fantastic. I have let go and let them be. It has been quite the transformation! It goes along with everything that you have been saying. I am so appreciative of all of you that are out there putting yourselves out there and willing helping so many of us. Thank you so much. You are so appreciated.❤

  • @renette0506
    @renette0506 2 месяца назад +4

    Jonathon, there's something that's changed in your presentations lately. I like it, there's an evolution you're going through that is quite intriguing! Keep up the great work. 🤙🏼

  • @LR-dm8wp
    @LR-dm8wp 2 месяца назад +6

    🤔 I’D RATHER HAVE PIECE OF MIND THEN FALL TO PIECES BY NOT LISTENING TO MY INTUITION. 🍃INTERESTING SUBJECT TODAY JONATHON !

  • @cege8693
    @cege8693 2 месяца назад +2

    Thank you for sharing about your experience with your intuition speaking to you and your analogy of light house, very helpful. This was a wonderful episode. Very helpful to see/hear real life examples so much more relatable. Thank you 🙏🏻 Jonathon 🤗

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад +2

    I find value in all you do. Thanks Jonathan

  • @esterdorweiler9740
    @esterdorweiler9740 2 месяца назад +1

    Commitment requires conversations!!

  • @mahaliahoyte6038
    @mahaliahoyte6038 2 месяца назад +3

    Did yòu quote Budhist, Sir.?
    I can't help noticing that they rely on self,the Creator is never included.

  • @Realtalkwithlin
    @Realtalkwithlin 2 месяца назад +1

    I always heard focus on ourselves not him.

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад +4

    Yes I have absolutely had what I call “ negotiations with my gut “ lol. Trust your instincts !!

  • @JoDenogean
    @JoDenogean 2 месяца назад

    Empowered energy!! 🎉🎉🎉Sovereignty!!! ❤❤❤

  • @MHarmony528
    @MHarmony528 2 месяца назад +1

    Yep, if you want more and he can't Friends it is!

  • @zensvlognotapro
    @zensvlognotapro 2 месяца назад

    I agree on when a person cares for us he/ she wants our happiness and meet our needs. If we are on a relationship meeting our own needs is not too pleasant . If we are single maybe it can be applied.
    I wanna listen that book If Buddha Dated 😊

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming 2 месяца назад

      @@zensvlognotapro When you're single then you do your best to meet your needs. However relationships are to get your needs met.

  • @rosiemac2538
    @rosiemac2538 2 месяца назад +1

    Well done Jonathon!
    You listened to your gut - your Spirit which is Holy.
    Forget Buddha for a while and try Church!
    (You never know what uou might find there )❤

  • @Orientalbackyardgarden
    @Orientalbackyardgarden 2 месяца назад +1

    You have a very nice and intellectual way of coaching ❤❤❤

  • @judicox5559
    @judicox5559 2 месяца назад

    ❤❤❤Thanks!
    I really enjoy watching your podcast. I can relate to much of what you say 90% minimally!
    I wasn't too sure about watching your first video, as I am not actively seeking a man.
    I don't remember what the title was, however, I did watch it and I really enjoyed it! You are intuitive, intelligent, humorous, and a little bit of an ass😂 But aren't we all?
    I think you give sage advice 👍👍 And I'm glad that you lead by a example 🙏
    Because a second date is exactly when you should let it be known that 'I already know we're not the right fit long-term '
    Bravo. I respect your ethics why not having sex with her since you already know, That you're not the best fit. So many men don't care because they know they're planning on moving on anyway eventually.
    I am 2 years out about 11 and 1/2 year relationship. And we did connect on the spiritual, intellectual and emotional levels. The physical stamina dropped off somewhere around year 8. He had failed to tell me when we first became intimate that he was taking Viagra every time we saw each other. That was the first year and a half of the relationship. However, I loved him dearly, I still do. So I chose to stay in affectionate, loving, mutually respectful, but for the most part. Sexless relationship. Occasionally things would work But we probably had sex about once. Maybe twice a year.
    The precipice for this happening was the loss of his son (He was my son too. Just not biologically) He went into the water while he was wade got pulled under by a riptide and that was 7 years ago June 23rd, He was 3 months away from his 20th birthday. 😥
    Going through that experience together, the 39 hours that we looked for with him when he was in the water. That is a pond that no one else will ever have with him. Even Jacob's biological mother could not be there the entire time. Her older son was in the hospital with a bone infection in his leg. Jacob had been at the hospital with his brother two straight weeks prior to his passing. It was after this event that sex and pretty much intimacy in all forms came to a screeching halt. And I understood why He began to withdraw and Drake to excess. A hard liquor not just beer. That's when things really started falling apart. Everything became my fault. He became even more narcissistic than he was before.
    I was bound to determine I was not going to let him push me away and isolate!
    I felt to realize this is something I could not ever fix. There was not enough love in the entire world to take away that bitterness and the anger he had inside.
    After Jacob passed I was not allowed to feel my feelings, much less expressed them. No one around him could be depressed. Their feelings were not valid because his son had died.
    If I told him I had a bad day, he would scream and yell about his bad day, when his son died. What he failed to realize was that I had lost Jacob also. What's more, he didn't care because my loss was not as great as the he one suffered. From then on out whatever mood he was in I had to mimic in order to keep peace in the house, and I did because I love him.
    Well it eventually fell apart, it was like a locomotive going full speed ahead to its eventual derailing.
    We are friends now, although he tries to hide it, there's still an undercurrent of lava just below the cool surface. Not to say that everything was his fault, it wasn't, I played a role in the demise of our relationship.
    Neither one of us have dated since the split because it was not about infidelity, it was not about money, it was about overwhelming, debilitating grief and anger.
    Grief is just love that has no place to go😢
    But I just wanted to say how much you are appreciated, I really enjoy your videos, and I am deeply sorry for the loss of your son❤ And I would be honored to make a donation in his name.

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  2 месяца назад

      WOW, Thank you for your kindness...

  • @katherinegenchi3774
    @katherinegenchi3774 2 месяца назад

    Excellent advice. Love it

  • @GEB64hi
    @GEB64hi 2 месяца назад

    A good talk tonight.

  • @louiseclark7967
    @louiseclark7967 2 месяца назад

    LOL! I had to laugh at the Buddah book, because the Buddha we all know, Prince Siddhartha Gautama, was indeed married, and had a son. He was a terrible husband who abandoned his family to go off and seek enlightenment, and encouraged many other husbands to do the same. I'm dying to know what's in that book of yours!

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад

    Sing it Jonathan !!!

  • @dianehawkins2915
    @dianehawkins2915 2 месяца назад +4

    Too often I find men on dating apps that first conversations are about sex. Not about getting to know one another. I think the first conversations should be getting to know each other. Later it should be about sex. Am I wrong? I get compliments on my looks and called sexy alot. I’m grateful but I want to be liked for me.

    • @deec411
      @deec411 2 месяца назад +8

      If the conversation goes right to sex I block them.

    • @pipertarin68
      @pipertarin68 2 месяца назад +2

      Dating Apps & the term " Friends with Benefits" ruined Relationships or starting a positive one!

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming 2 месяца назад

      @@pipertarin68 Yes. It seems to coincide. And constant testing with questions or comments and pushing or crossing boundaries afterwards.
      It becomes very intolerable.

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад

    7. She expresses her feelings to him

  • @marybeeler501
    @marybeeler501 2 месяца назад +1

    I don't want somebody that acts like a child i want somebody that's grown up sex doesn't me anything to me I'd rather have none and somebody that's grown up that's intelligent and responsible that doesn't go after anyone else or anything like that that's loyal and honest rather than that

  • @junesherlock425
    @junesherlock425 2 месяца назад

    I got 5 commercials in this.

  • @TheCm1546
    @TheCm1546 2 месяца назад

    Put him in the friend zone!

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад

    1. Her capacity to be present

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад

    2. When you focus on them

  • @NatalieG-yi3pn
    @NatalieG-yi3pn 2 месяца назад +1

    Caught the end of your live and you mentioned vetting better for your next partner. What do you mean by that? Be more honest about what you are seeking.

  • @AnnetteLutgring
    @AnnetteLutgring 2 месяца назад +1

    What was the dating site you spoke about?

  • @Lori-g9u
    @Lori-g9u 2 месяца назад +1

    Question
    Jonathan,I have a picture in my dating profile of me in a beautiful black gown with a slit up the front.zI think it’s nice but should I take it down?

    • @Lori-g9u
      @Lori-g9u 2 месяца назад +1

      Is it not appropriate to have a picture of myself in a beautiful gown with a slit up the side?I don’t want it to look like I’m tryin too hard

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming 2 месяца назад

      @@Lori-g9u If it's a classy dress then I'm sure it's fine.

  • @letmewatch7058
    @letmewatch7058 2 месяца назад

    Ha Good Rapp'in

  • @lololollaughatlife1431
    @lololollaughatlife1431 2 месяца назад

    Can you define generosity more? Do you feel that generosity differs between the sexes? For example someone dating as a woman…. Can they lack financial abilities to pay? Should they be paying for dates and gifts if they don’t have much money to spare?

  • @Tbn48ibp
    @Tbn48ibp 2 месяца назад

    3. He’s into her body type

  • @1991windsor
    @1991windsor 2 месяца назад +1

    I've followed your channel for a while, and I've never been on a dating app either.

  • @gjaipgfhjapirkg8581
    @gjaipgfhjapirkg8581 2 месяца назад

    If I trusted my intuition, I would never date anyone.

  • @lakeisharhyant2045
    @lakeisharhyant2045 2 месяца назад

    Divorced or widowed

  • @ginam.4990
    @ginam.4990 2 месяца назад

    Jonathon, what happened? I get the trusting your gut.

  • @susanharrie3326
    @susanharrie3326 2 месяца назад

  • @rietterust9874
    @rietterust9874 2 месяца назад

    Fantastic.

  • @brendahart3754
    @brendahart3754 2 месяца назад

    I think dating more than one person at a time, is a young person's thing. As we age, its confusing, and as you say, disrespectful. If i meet a guy and the conversation keeps flowing well even, i pause and focus on him until we meet and see if there is chemistry too. I don't like the contemporary names and slogans attached to women when they are serious or uptight. ie Karen, or resting bitch face. I find it mean and sexist. Ive met plenty of grumpy older men! Who seldom smile, where's the names for them?

  • @deec411
    @deec411 2 месяца назад +1

    I heard one time that you should give it 4 dates if you enjoy their company. Just sayin. 😉

    • @JonathonAslay
      @JonathonAslay  2 месяца назад +1

      As a rule of thumb, I intend to agree. But that's usually if there's very little chemistry.

    • @deec411
      @deec411 2 месяца назад

      @@JonathonAslay when I met my wonderful Ed I had the attitude that I just wanted to get to know him no expectations no checklist just enjoying each other and it grew from there I wish you the same

  • @susanblanche9684
    @susanblanche9684 2 месяца назад

    A married friend 12 yrs younger told Me recently he feels 98 percent of women are great; sweet; attractive and would make good partners but he feels 2 percent are off the chart perfection and very rare!! He told me I was in the 2 percent league!! He told me he couldn't look at me one on one without being excited!! This man is so goofy; nervous; naive; open and devoted to his wife that I'm turned on. But it is wrong to pine over hi.m

    • @SherriFlemming
      @SherriFlemming 2 месяца назад

      @@susanblanche9684 Just saying. Married and attached men are kryptonite.
      It's not wise to be friends or be attracted to them. Could be seen as potential poaching.

  • @JoDenogean
    @JoDenogean 2 месяца назад

    Empowered energy!! 🎉🎉🎉Sovereignty!!! ❤❤❤

  • @lololollaughatlife1431
    @lololollaughatlife1431 2 месяца назад +2

    My ex had a joking manner with a dark side. He joked as a tool… when gauging if a women is a candidate he would make jokes that weren’t really even funny but where more based on making something untrue up, watching that person react to the untrue thing- and then saying -- just kidding. Or backsides compliments - posed as being funny. So I watch the humor style closely. Humor used as manipulation or to hide a negative comment -I will not be laughing like my ignorant 20 year old self would have.