Girl I feel this on a physical level. Getting healthier and stronger does tend to cause a spike in body image issues. Stick with it - it will get better and you will adjust to it. It’s so much better to be healthy ❤
i went through the same thing when i was recovering :( i’m in a place where i no longer look in the mirror but hopefully i’ll be able to do it soon without negative feelings
I hear you I do Go slightly lightly within You are so so courageous to share Your voice is heard May your mind soul and heart heal in all ways You are beautiful
Thank you for explaining this in your video. This is how it's been for me, and this helps. Genuinely thanks, and I hope just as I am healing, I hope that you are too. Life could be tough, but we are tougher❤
Its crazy when you have thoughts... And find a video that is verbalizing your thoughts. ❤. Keep pushing. You're awesome..... And whoever reads this.... You're awesome too 😊
I think you are the coolest person! I really enjoy your videos! Thank you so much for bringing me along on your journey through things we all feel but are scared to discuss!
I totally understand! You look good, and when you feel that way try positive notes on the mirror! Thank you for being honest! Not a lot of people would be honest about that and just cut it out of the video. It is good to see honesty!
Dude hard same, finally at a weight I'm happy with from being underweight. As much as I love this and this was the goal I can't help the societal spiral that starts around my body finally being healthy
Aaaaaaaand I’m subscribed. Thank you for the brutal honesty. How many times have I said to myself, “if anyone said to me what I say to me, I’d smack the shit out of them”? I appreciate your sharing your message. May the depresso pass, as with all emotions, whilst the shitstorm is painful…may it pass. Just got out of a funk myself and I feel this.
I have a rare autoimmune disease. When I was at my sickest, I coincidentally was at my thinnest. I’ve gained 30 ish pounds since and am stable and healthy. But often wish I was that thin again- even though that was one of the clear indicators to doctors I was not well. I feel ya on this one dude
i hope you don’t mind me sharing my story under yours, i find myself comparing myself to who i was at 19 as a 21 year old. only two years ago, but i was skinny and thought i was super pretty. but i was malnourished. i should not be comparing my 20 year old body to a teenagers body that was also malnourished. they weren’t joking when they said you get “second puberty” at 20 years old lol
This hit so hard for me thank you for sharing that it was vey powerful . I have body dysmorphia and a ed it’s nice to know I’m not alone with the way I think about my body and myself .
Girl I just love your honesty! I appreciate so much that you are able to share these kinds of things. Thank you. We're all experts at hating ourselves but don't say it outloud enough for others to step in or open conversation to an already uncomfortable topic. Get it girl!
I feel this so much! All women feel this. We put on a brave face when other ppl talk about our weight. But then we just let our self abuse our self when looking in the mirror. We are so ingrained to see the negative, that we feel the positives are just a lie. We hurt our selves more than any other bully could. And then we see the imperfections that no one else notices. Being healthy is a great desire. And the body will change to adjust. Don’t judge your health by how your clothes fit. Judge it by your lab results.
Heya! You posted this on my birthday, and you said some things that are string and true and also sad (why tf do we do this to ourselves??? And doing it is another thing to beat ourselves up about??!!!) From a newly mid-50s kick-ass chick... You ROCK! Seriously, you're amazing. And so much braver (showing your inside on your outside) than I was at your age. I look forward to seeing the fierce and self-loving being you are growing into. ❤
That’s actually how I healed my negative self talk. I still have days where I feel disappointed with my appearance and I express that in a better way now: “I want to do better, I don’t like how I feel right now.” But as far as being mean to myself, I realized that I don’t keep company with anyone who talks to anyone I love like that. I would THROW HANDS if someone talked to my sister like that for gaining weight, so why should I tolerate that for myself even from myself???
you've cracked a code there, thank you! much support from me on that "Im not gaining weight, my clothes are fitting better" (sorry if it's not exact, I got the spirit not the scripture)❤❤❤❤❤
Wisdom!!! I also have trouble keeping weight on. I'm 4 kgs under what my optimal is, and I find it so hard to continue gaining. I hit that mental block
Currently in the depresso phase / weight loss issue myself, and this moved me so much. I recently started watching your videos and they are so fun and relatable and inspiring, this made me cry so hard because it's a very real issue to deal with and it made me feel not as alone. Thank you for talking about it, and sharing your feelings. I wish you the best in everything, you deserve it ❤️
All the time. With me it's mostly not the physical things but what a did (more of: what I did not do) for my career and my mental health. A lovely spiral of being mean to myself for being mean to myself. Chef's kiss. I am in therapy, it's getting better. Oh my god it is difficult.
In general, I ALWAYS get upset that I’m upset. It’s like I just want to fix it right away and I often forget to let myself feel things. Of course, it’s not impossible or anything, it just takes me a bit to remind myself I don’t have to “fix” my feelings. And thank you so much for sharing, I know so so many of us struggle with the idea that “gaining weight = bad = I can be mean to myself.” There’s so many things at play there
Girl I totally get it, like even if you’re at your best you feel like something is wrong and that ur not doing good. But you’re stunning the way you are u need to know that ok? Love you and take care Lylli😘❤
I got to be honest. I don't subscribe to you but everytime a get blessed to have you pop up in my shorts it's always a joy to hear from you. You're a cool person.
I’m my own worst critic as well. You are very wise to recognize what you are doing. You can’t fix a problem until you understand that it is one. Don’t forget to say kind things to yourself. No one, not even yourself, can expect more from you, than that you do the best that you can, with what you know at the time, and from the place that you are in. Personally, I think your great, and the smiles you have given me are such wonderful gifts.
I am going through the opposite thing right now. I was 90 pounds about 2 years ago. I got up to 125lbs in the last year. I was lifting weights, doing yoga everyday, running..etc. My hip started hurting really bad, and I found out I tore my labrum and needed surgery. I am a month post op and very depressed. I am not able to do any weight bearing exercises and now I am losing weight from lack of exercise and not eating enough. I was so happy in my clothes and how I looked in my skin. 😢 I know it's not forever, but it's tough looking in the mirror right now. Btw: You are beautiful and strong. You make me laugh everytime I watch one of your shorts. Thank you for that. ❤😊
The fact that you realize it, is awesome. Keep reminders on your mirrors to remember to love your self and to ignore your critic self. You're so pretty and amazing from what I see and I would like to be like you. ❤ be easy on you
Im incredibly hard on myself about things that other people don’t even notice. Just know you are beautiful inside and outside no matter what weight you are. Love your videos ❤
It’s the forever struggle. The only way that helped me was giving genuine compliments to strangers or friends. The way you talk to other people is the way you talk to yourself and vice versa. It helped me so much
It literally is a breath of fresh air when creators talk about their insecurities, like I have the same problem and issue with the my weight and it’s so refreshing to hear someone that I watch all the time say they “don’t feel pretty” but healthy, and the fact you can admit to being in a stable mindset so accept that makes me feel sane 😅
Dealing with the exact same thing right now. Exact. Same. Thing. I don't know how to get out of the cycle and there are days where it's all just a little too much, but then I come on YT to laugh and find your videos and find out you know exactly how I'm feeling. ❤❤❤
Absolutely 100% understand. You're already headed the game because you see the problem and you know the cycle. You're more aware than most and you're doing wonderful sweetie. I enjoy seeing all the good stuff you're putting out in the world.
Being empathy, i don't remember looking at myself and putting myself down. I understand now, i absorb other people's energy whom put themselves down. I hear other people's telling nasty stuff based on negative experiences with these people. I take it to heart. I just looked in mirror wishing i was in a safer place and nicer people. I done that all my life since being born. Looking for safety,peace, and positive. I got it at age 40, after years of suffering physically, mentally, cutting people out of my life, universe making me sick to isolate from the long life of chaos from suppressed, and doing affirmations and subliminals during sleep. Best is being with my soul mate for 16 years, and cats( my girls rip in peace) . All taught me so much . Even my enemies ( my species) has taught me so much. 😊 I did put everything and everyone before me and neglected my self. That's wasn't not good. Religions teaching us that.
Yes dude I do it too thank you for being honest about it. I totally agree sometimes I am flabbergasted by the things I casually say to myself and I reenact that scenario with me saying it to someone else and I’m like…wow, that’s really mean. That perspective has really helped me change. I don’t want to be mean.
Just because the establishment puts so much value on appearance, doesnt mean we have to. You have a fabulous sense of humor. That is beautiful and sexy, and sooo comforting. Be healthy. Thats all you need to worry about. You got this.
honestly, I've found, that just stating exactly how you feel, and what's going on, out loud, to yourself, like you did in this video, is really helpful just on it's own
You are incredible, you are beautiful, you are lovely. This hits so hard and I’m sorry you’re struggling, one amazing thing (I learned in therapy ❤) that can take the edge off of negative self talk is find one thing, just one thing, no matter how tiny that you love and compliment yourself on that. Focus on just that. For a little bit each day, and try and allow yourself to let the rest go. Hopefully that one little thing becomes 2 little things, or a bigger thing, or maybe even your whole self over time. Just a little thing each day to love, I’ll practice it and pull for you too
I am in the exact same boat right now. Gaining strength and muscle, and “knowing” that’s what it is, but still feeling crappy about the weight I’m gaining. I try not to look at the scale, but feeling differences in my clothes makes me go into negative self-talk mode too!
The societal weight of skinny=good is something that won’t go away until they stop spreading it. It might never go away for us that were raised on it, but thank you sincerely for sharing your journey with it. All of us that were raised with this BS are in it together. All we can do is give our bodies what they want and try to teach our brains that it genuinely is the best for us.
Keep in mind that while you may be gaining weight, its most likely muscle weight; Muscle is more condensed than Fat, so a small amount of muscle would weigh the same as a large quantity of fat (just for comparison) You're gaining muscle mass, and that's a good thing.
Oh my goodness. Yes. I went thru this in my 30s!!!!!! And now starting my 40s I regret sooooo much all the things I would say to myself not realizing at the moment how great I really was. Physically AND emotionally. Beating myself up because I didn't look like anyone around me not knowing I wasn't supposed to look like them anyways!!!!! Ugh. So much emotional abuse I put myself thru!!!
I’ve had an eating disorder for as long as I can remember, I really can’t think of a time that I’ve not hated how I looked or been able to eat a meal and keep it down. That’s had to change because I found out I’m pregnant a month n a half ago and it is so hard to not feel guilty for eating or hate the way i look even though i know im growing a human that i already love more than anything in this world.
I feel that. I gained weight in rehab a couple years ago, because I was eating normally & getting healthy again. And it was REALLY hard to not go nuts and let it trigger my ED. Especially because a coworker had been telling me for MONTHS how great I looked & asking how I’d lost weight. I told her, truthfully, I hadn’t been trying. Couldn’t tell her my secret diet trick though: stop buying food & only spend your money on dope😭 I looked sick back then, honestly. I looked like a ghost. But sometimes it still feels like, by getting normal & healthy again, I kinda dropped the ball. Total trash, but it still sneaks into my head some days :/
I feel a similar way. I started going to the gym and I gained muscle which means I also gained weight as a result. I see the number on the scale getting closer to 160 and in my screwed up mind I feel so guilty for weighing so much and outgrowing my clothes. It doesn’t matter that me outgrowing clothes is because I’m getting bigger because of muscle it’s just that I can’t fit those clothes anymore so it’s a bad thing in my mind. This is the best I’ve felt physically (excluding chronic illnesses) I am the strongest I’ve ever been and I feel good about that. I feel terrible that me feeling stronger isn’t enough to push the negative thoughts out of my head when I see the number on the scale or realize I’m outgrowing yet another size of pants. In about three years I’ve gone from a size 3 pair of jeans being loose to a size 6 being tight (from the same company, style, cut, everything the same other than size). I feel so conflicted about my own body and the way I think about myself and me gaining weight is stuff I would never say to anyone else and I wouldn’t take that abuse from anybody. Except myself. And I don’t know why those two facts are not reason enough for me to stop thinking this way about myself
It's gonna get better! You just gotta think about how you wouldn't let someone say it to you. And have that kinda mindset. (I have no clue if that made sense) You could also try journaling? 😊
Literally same. Something that i realized. our inner voices are trained by whats around us. your inner voice was probably trained by a lot of misunderstanding, hurtful voices, not to mention the world we live in being on fire. I hope all of us can teach our inner voices some manners.
I say ugly things to myself too, I’m used to seeing my body a certain way. I’ve been going hard in the gym and my body is changing and I’m just not used to it. Our brains are liars. All of us here will tell you that you look strong and healthy, and it would also be okay if you didn’t. ❤️
I am so sorry❤ and I get it. We are so hard on ourselves. But, who said it to you first? And why do you think that narrative fits? It doesn't. Love thy self my friend.❤
I feel this so hard. I started working out again in March and I’ve gained weight… I’ve gained inches, I’ve gained muscle mass, and physically I look pretty good. But then my 6ft husband shows me his scale number and I hate myself because he weighs less than me and I’ve been kicking my own butt so hard and so long with “seemingly” zero results. My clothes don’t fit any better and I’m not back to my pre baby body and it hurts. But I know I’m getting better, I know my body is getting stronger, but getting over that mental hurdle is the worst 😔
“I wouldn’t interact with whoever’s talking to me right now” hits sooooo hard
frr she said that and i thought it to myself like damn wait i dead wouldnt interact with myself either💀💀
literally that hits hard 😭
LITERALLY, I need to be nicer to myself. 😭
“My clothes aren’t getting tighter, they’re just fitting me again” is SUCH a good mindset to have.
I love when people post things talking about something you have been struggling with so you don’t feel alone😊❤❤
I agree it really makes me understand that my emotions are normal
Girl I feel this on a physical level. Getting healthier and stronger does tend to cause a spike in body image issues. Stick with it - it will get better and you will adjust to it. It’s so much better to be healthy ❤
Strong not skinny ❤ one step at a time rebuild that inner voice, you got it!
i went through the same thing when i was recovering :(
i’m in a place where i no longer look in the mirror but hopefully i’ll be able to do it soon without negative feelings
Ugh! Thank you for posting something this vulnerable. I feel this disconnect so much. Take care!
I hear you
I do
Go slightly lightly within
You are so so courageous to share
Your voice is heard
May your mind soul and heart heal in all ways
You are beautiful
Thank you for explaining this in your video. This is how it's been for me, and this helps. Genuinely thanks, and I hope just as I am healing, I hope that you are too. Life could be tough, but we are tougher❤
Its crazy when you have thoughts... And find a video that is verbalizing your thoughts. ❤. Keep pushing. You're awesome..... And whoever reads this.... You're awesome too 😊
I think you are the coolest person! I really enjoy your videos! Thank you so much for bringing me along on your journey through things we all feel but are scared to discuss!
Thank you so much for sharing! Your channel is so comforting and real it’s amazing.❤️❤️
I tend to gain muscle before I start losing fat so I go through this exact same struggle! Thanks for making me feel seen 🥺
You're amazing and even though I know i can't stop it. You don't deserve the self abuse. You are an inspiration.
Be good to yourself. Be kind beautiful..
Is no one gonna talk about the fact she is DROP DEAD GORGEOUS
I am!) Absolutely gorgeous, yeah!)
Your bautiful, powerful, and amazing 🥰 I love the honesty 😊 makes me feel seen
I totally understand! You look good, and when you feel that way try positive notes on the mirror! Thank you for being honest! Not a lot of people would be honest about that and just cut it out of the video. It is good to see honesty!
Dude hard same, finally at a weight I'm happy with from being underweight. As much as I love this and this was the goal I can't help the societal spiral that starts around my body finally being healthy
I can relate...ON some level! 🤔🥺🥰🤗💖
You’re loved so much ❤❤❤ thank you so much for sharing this very personal information with us ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Thank you so much. You don’t know how much I needed someone to say this, especially today.
Aaaaaaaand I’m subscribed. Thank you for the brutal honesty. How many times have I said to myself, “if anyone said to me what I say to me, I’d smack the shit out of them”?
I appreciate your sharing your message. May the depresso pass, as with all emotions, whilst the shitstorm is painful…may it pass. Just got out of a funk myself and I feel this.
Thank you for this content. This struck a chord with me, on another level. Let's not be mean to ourselves ❤
You’re so real. I’m very grateful I stumbled upon your channel, thanks for sharing your self
I have a rare autoimmune disease. When I was at my sickest, I coincidentally was at my thinnest. I’ve gained 30 ish pounds since and am stable and healthy. But often wish I was that thin again- even though that was one of the clear indicators to doctors I was not well. I feel ya on this one dude
i hope you don’t mind me sharing my story under yours,
i find myself comparing myself to who i was at 19 as a 21 year old. only two years ago, but i was skinny and thought i was super pretty. but i was malnourished. i should not be comparing my 20 year old body to a teenagers body that was also malnourished.
they weren’t joking when they said you get “second puberty” at 20 years old lol
You are not alone, you are beautiful and, YOU ROCK!
i love this woman. shes so awesome! Keep being a queen girl!
That fact that you not only realize all of that, but use it as a teaching opportunity, is lovely. Blessings to you❤
girl I feel this. you’re not alone
You are gorgeous like for real you are perfect just the way you are
This hit so hard for me thank you for sharing that it was vey powerful . I have body dysmorphia and a ed it’s nice to know I’m not alone with the way I think about my body and myself .
Just getting out of my depresso phase too. Thanks for sharing!
Hard relate. Thank you, I needed this. ❤
Girl I just love your honesty! I appreciate so much that you are able to share these kinds of things. Thank you. We're all experts at hating ourselves but don't say it outloud enough for others to step in or open conversation to an already uncomfortable topic. Get it girl!
Girl your biceps are GOALS
Be all you can be. Beauty comes in all different size
Honestly your videos make me smile so much. I hope you end up getting through this❤️
I feel this so much! All women feel this. We put on a brave face when other ppl talk about our weight. But then we just let our self abuse our self when looking in the mirror. We are so ingrained to see the negative, that we feel the positives are just a lie. We hurt our selves more than any other bully could. And then we see the imperfections that no one else notices. Being healthy is a great desire. And the body will change to adjust. Don’t judge your health by how your clothes fit. Judge it by your lab results.
Heya! You posted this on my birthday, and you said some things that are string and true and also sad (why tf do we do this to ourselves??? And doing it is another thing to beat ourselves up about??!!!)
From a newly mid-50s kick-ass chick...
You ROCK!
Seriously, you're amazing. And so much braver (showing your inside on your outside) than I was at your age.
I look forward to seeing the fierce and self-loving being you are growing into. ❤
Ok i needed this callout 😭 literally what i'm going through coming back to my healthy weight that i havent been at for over 2 years
That’s actually how I healed my negative self talk. I still have days where I feel disappointed with my appearance and I express that in a better way now: “I want to do better, I don’t like how I feel right now.” But as far as being mean to myself, I realized that I don’t keep company with anyone who talks to anyone I love like that. I would THROW HANDS if someone talked to my sister like that for gaining weight, so why should I tolerate that for myself even from myself???
you've cracked a code there, thank you! much support from me on that "Im not gaining weight, my clothes are fitting better" (sorry if it's not exact, I got the spirit not the scripture)❤❤❤❤❤
Why is that so true? I talk so badly to myself. I would NEVER talk like that to someone else.
Wisdom!!!
I also have trouble keeping weight on. I'm 4 kgs under what my optimal is, and I find it so hard to continue gaining. I hit that mental block
Currently in the depresso phase / weight loss issue myself, and this moved me so much. I recently started watching your videos and they are so fun and relatable and inspiring, this made me cry so hard because it's a very real issue to deal with and it made me feel not as alone. Thank you for talking about it, and sharing your feelings. I wish you the best in everything, you deserve it ❤️
All the time. With me it's mostly not the physical things but what a did (more of: what I did not do) for my career and my mental health. A lovely spiral of being mean to myself for being mean to myself. Chef's kiss.
I am in therapy, it's getting better. Oh my god it is difficult.
In general, I ALWAYS get upset that I’m upset. It’s like I just want to fix it right away and I often forget to let myself feel things. Of course, it’s not impossible or anything, it just takes me a bit to remind myself I don’t have to “fix” my feelings.
And thank you so much for sharing, I know so so many of us struggle with the idea that “gaining weight = bad = I can be mean to myself.” There’s so many things at play there
I felt every single word - this hit hard ❤
Girl I totally get it, like even if you’re at your best you feel like something is wrong and that ur not doing good. But you’re stunning the way you are u need to know that ok? Love you and take care Lylli😘❤
I got to be honest. I don't subscribe to you but everytime a get blessed to have you pop up in my shorts it's always a joy to hear from you. You're a cool person.
I’m my own worst critic as well. You are very wise to recognize what you are doing. You can’t fix a problem until you understand that it is one. Don’t forget to say kind things to yourself. No one, not even yourself, can expect more from you, than that you do the best that you can, with what you know at the time, and from the place that you are in. Personally, I think your great, and the smiles you have given me are such wonderful gifts.
This is so real 😭 I love your honesty , thank you ❤.
Shortly I just LOVE you the way you are !
I am going through the opposite thing right now. I was 90 pounds about 2 years ago. I got up to 125lbs in the last year. I was lifting weights, doing yoga everyday, running..etc. My hip started hurting really bad, and I found out I tore my labrum and needed surgery. I am a month post op and very depressed. I am not able to do any weight bearing exercises and now I am losing weight from lack of exercise and not eating enough. I was so happy in my clothes and how I looked in my skin. 😢 I know it's not forever, but it's tough looking in the mirror right now.
Btw: You are beautiful and strong. You make me laugh everytime I watch one of your shorts. Thank you for that. ❤😊
I felt that and love you for it ❤ I wish I was as nice to myself concerning my body as I am to others
You’re pretty and have nothing to worry about, it’s just thoughts and not the reality
The fact that you realize it, is awesome. Keep reminders on your mirrors to remember to love your self and to ignore your critic self. You're so pretty and amazing from what I see and I would like to be like you. ❤ be easy on you
Im incredibly hard on myself about things that other people don’t even notice. Just know you are beautiful inside and outside no matter what weight you are. Love your videos ❤
Same l lose weight but when I gain it back l was sad at my self but l Need that weight back and the energy with it ❤😊
It’s the forever struggle. The only way that helped me was giving genuine compliments to strangers or friends. The way you talk to other people is the way you talk to yourself and vice versa. It helped me so much
I've heard this a million times from different influencers but for some reason the way you said it hit me in the way I needed to hear it ❤
You're strong! Glad you're talking about this instead of just letting it take over in your mind.
I experienced something similar, im glad you can recover and change your mindset, God bless 😊
It literally is a breath of fresh air when creators talk about their insecurities, like I have the same problem and issue with the my weight and it’s so refreshing to hear someone that I watch all the time say they “don’t feel pretty” but healthy, and the fact you can admit to being in a stable mindset so accept that makes me feel sane 😅
Dealing with the exact same thing right now. Exact. Same. Thing. I don't know how to get out of the cycle and there are days where it's all just a little too much, but then I come on YT to laugh and find your videos and find out you know exactly how I'm feeling. ❤❤❤
Love your self because you’re worth it!
Absolutely 100% understand. You're already headed the game because you see the problem and you know the cycle. You're more aware than most and you're doing wonderful sweetie. I enjoy seeing all the good stuff you're putting out in the world.
Being empathy, i don't remember looking at myself and putting myself down. I understand now, i absorb other people's energy whom put themselves down. I hear other people's telling nasty stuff based on negative experiences with these people. I take it to heart. I just looked in mirror wishing i was in a safer place and nicer people. I done that all my life since being born. Looking for safety,peace, and positive.
I got it at age 40, after years of suffering physically, mentally, cutting people out of my life, universe making me sick to isolate from the long life of chaos from suppressed, and doing affirmations and subliminals during sleep.
Best is being with my soul mate for 16 years, and cats( my girls rip in peace) . All taught me so much . Even my enemies ( my species) has taught me so much. 😊
I did put everything and everyone before me and neglected my self. That's wasn't not good. Religions teaching us that.
I love that you are so open with us
Yes dude I do it too thank you for being honest about it. I totally agree sometimes I am flabbergasted by the things I casually say to myself and I reenact that scenario with me saying it to someone else and I’m like…wow, that’s really mean.
That perspective has really helped me change. I don’t want to be mean.
You feel incredible because you ARE incredible. ❤
I’m going through the same thing rn and all I wanna say is your beautiful
You really know how to put things into words. We best Stop being mean to ourselves !❤
Just because the establishment puts so much value on appearance, doesnt mean we have to. You have a fabulous sense of humor. That is beautiful and sexy, and sooo comforting. Be healthy. Thats all you need to worry about. You got this.
I have worked hard to accept myself and things I can't change about myself. I still don't like some bits but I'm getting there.
You are so amazing and beautiful. You make me so happy. You probably are making many people days.Stay safe❤❤
You got the mind of an artist. Focusing on what is not correct rather than taking pride in what beauty they created
honestly, I've found, that just stating exactly how you feel, and what's going on, out loud, to yourself, like you did in this video, is really helpful just on it's own
You are incredible, you are beautiful, you are lovely. This hits so hard and I’m sorry you’re struggling, one amazing thing (I learned in therapy ❤) that can take the edge off of negative self talk is find one thing, just one thing, no matter how tiny that you love and compliment yourself on that. Focus on just that. For a little bit each day, and try and allow yourself to let the rest go. Hopefully that one little thing becomes 2 little things, or a bigger thing, or maybe even your whole self over time. Just a little thing each day to love, I’ll practice it and pull for you too
I am in the exact same boat right now. Gaining strength and muscle, and “knowing” that’s what it is, but still feeling crappy about the weight I’m gaining. I try not to look at the scale, but feeling differences in my clothes makes me go into negative self-talk mode too!
Never related to something more, thank you 🥺❤️
The societal weight of skinny=good is something that won’t go away until they stop spreading it. It might never go away for us that were raised on it, but thank you sincerely for sharing your journey with it. All of us that were raised with this BS are in it together. All we can do is give our bodies what they want and try to teach our brains that it genuinely is the best for us.
Keep in mind that while you may be gaining weight, its most likely muscle weight; Muscle is more condensed than Fat, so a small amount of muscle would weigh the same as a large quantity of fat (just for comparison) You're gaining muscle mass, and that's a good thing.
You are so pretty and I love watching your stuff ❤
Those last words with the smile was everything, I feel the same too girly❤😂
what helped me a lot is being nice to myself on purpose, it's cringey at first but it a fake it till you make it type of situation
Just started watching you and I’m loving you already 💜💋
Oh my goodness. Yes. I went thru this in my 30s!!!!!! And now starting my 40s I regret sooooo much all the things I would say to myself not realizing at the moment how great I really was. Physically AND emotionally. Beating myself up because I didn't look like anyone around me not knowing I wasn't supposed to look like them anyways!!!!! Ugh. So much emotional abuse I put myself thru!!!
I’ve had an eating disorder for as long as I can remember, I really can’t think of a time that I’ve not hated how I looked or been able to eat a meal and keep it down. That’s had to change because I found out I’m pregnant a month n a half ago and it is so hard to not feel guilty for eating or hate the way i look even though i know im growing a human that i already love more than anything in this world.
I feel that. I gained weight in rehab a couple years ago, because I was eating normally & getting healthy again. And it was REALLY hard to not go nuts and let it trigger my ED. Especially because a coworker had been telling me for MONTHS how great I looked & asking how I’d lost weight. I told her, truthfully, I hadn’t been trying. Couldn’t tell her my secret diet trick though: stop buying food & only spend your money on dope😭 I looked sick back then, honestly. I looked like a ghost. But sometimes it still feels like, by getting normal & healthy again, I kinda dropped the ball. Total trash, but it still sneaks into my head some days :/
I feel a similar way. I started going to the gym and I gained muscle which means I also gained weight as a result. I see the number on the scale getting closer to 160 and in my screwed up mind I feel so guilty for weighing so much and outgrowing my clothes. It doesn’t matter that me outgrowing clothes is because I’m getting bigger because of muscle it’s just that I can’t fit those clothes anymore so it’s a bad thing in my mind. This is the best I’ve felt physically (excluding chronic illnesses) I am the strongest I’ve ever been and I feel good about that. I feel terrible that me feeling stronger isn’t enough to push the negative thoughts out of my head when I see the number on the scale or realize I’m outgrowing yet another size of pants. In about three years I’ve gone from a size 3 pair of jeans being loose to a size 6 being tight (from the same company, style, cut, everything the same other than size). I feel so conflicted about my own body and the way I think about myself and me gaining weight is stuff I would never say to anyone else and I wouldn’t take that abuse from anybody. Except myself. And I don’t know why those two facts are not reason enough for me to stop thinking this way about myself
It's gonna get better! You just gotta think about how you wouldn't let someone say it to you. And have that kinda mindset. (I have no clue if that made sense) You could also try journaling? 😊
Literally same. Something that i realized. our inner voices are trained by whats around us. your inner voice was probably trained by a lot of misunderstanding, hurtful voices, not to mention the world we live in being on fire. I hope all of us can teach our inner voices some manners.
Literally just posted a short about this the other day so seeing this is just a reinforcement of needing to be kind to myself no matter what.
I say ugly things to myself too, I’m used to seeing my body a certain way. I’ve been going hard in the gym and my body is changing and I’m just not used to it. Our brains are liars. All of us here will tell you that you look strong and healthy, and it would also be okay if you didn’t. ❤️
I am so sorry❤ and I get it. We are so hard on ourselves. But, who said it to you first? And why do you think that narrative fits? It doesn't. Love thy self my friend.❤
Girl your literally so prwtty
Sending a lot of love your way!! ❤🤗
I feel this so hard. I started working out again in March and I’ve gained weight… I’ve gained inches, I’ve gained muscle mass, and physically I look pretty good. But then my 6ft husband shows me his scale number and I hate myself because he weighs less than me and I’ve been kicking my own butt so hard and so long with “seemingly” zero results. My clothes don’t fit any better and I’m not back to my pre baby body and it hurts. But I know I’m getting better, I know my body is getting stronger, but getting over that mental hurdle is the worst 😔