The real reason today’s ladies don’t stay through thick and thin is not independence. I believe it is about understanding mental health. Our Grandmothers were put through an enormous amount of trauma. They were taught to stay even if they are getting their skull cracked. We have embraced the importance of mental health.
Great comment and it is so much the truth. Those marriages mostly were based on survival and women depending on men for their basic needs. That is not the makings of a real relationship. Of course men took advantage and there was abuse, men having whike families doen the street, and overall disrespect. Can't blame a woman for wanting to be sure she is not in a position to be abused like that.
Some of us have also embraced self-love and self-respect. When you truly love yourself and respect yourself, you won't allow a man or anyone to disrespect your life.
That is why I have left past relationships. I refuse to be mentally, emotionally, verbally or physically abused by a man or anyone else, even family members.
Just watched this episode and wanted to comment on the “independent woman”. Most women today would rather have a good man that they can feel safe with and depend on however, when we experience heartbreak, disappointment and various unpleasant situations within our relationships consistently, it makes us decide that we can do better by ourselves. No one wants to be alone but sometimes it’s easier being single. I really enjoyed this episode…
I loved the episode, best episode hands down!!!! He is exactly the kind of husband I hope for🙂 his spirit and character and outlook on marriage suits my preferred future. I cried uncontrollably when he mentioned when his comedy took off and in that moment he set his ego aside by not taking the self satisfying opportunity with those other women and realized that only the girl( his wife) could understand the magnitude of that moment. That was beautiful Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽
Yes, back in the day women tolerated many things because they were so financially dependent on their husbands. Also, people never mention how miserable those women were. And many independent women would love a man to take lead and be there. But why no one addresses the issue of the lack of men in the black community that have no desire to be married or committed to one woman or the men removed from the community due to prison or drugs. Leaving many women to raise children alone or to build alone. We are independent by necessity. When I look at my non black sisters very few are left without a man to protect or help them…a father, a husband or a brother. You wouldn’t believe the number of independent women who are TIRED but keep pushing because they have to.
A woman always needs to be independent. If you find a good man.. most certainly go for it! 100% but I didn’t like the fact that they talked about the men having families down the street.. and the women stayed.. is that what is wanted? Hell to the no
I get it..but I'm going to play devil's advocate just for a second. The cookie can't be enjoyed unless a woman gives it away/shares it. I think the conversation should also include men who don't want to commit because so many women are so easy, so in his mind he's thinking "why do I need a committed relationship when women are throwing it at me left and right". Then if you look further into this you get people like Future, the rapper (multiple children, different women). At some point women have to have discernment.
I agree; a part 2 is needed. The fact that they have a marriage where if they are upset with one another; they are still there for one another. Granted, because they have been married for a long time, they had to grow into this way of communication. I love it and I am here for it. It’s good to hear a males perspective on marriage and what women can do better to become available for a man and let a man know that we need them.
I make it a point to teach my son , chase your dreams now , live by yourself, build your credit, save your money. Do not seek out a wife until you can fully take care of yourself, so you don’t need a woman to feed you and have to feel less of a man or you feel disrespected by her. You have one mother I will help guide you so your wife won’t have the burden that’s my responsibility.
Speak Sista, I've taught my son the same thing. I've preached to him as a child to b independent and to b good to and for someone's daughter. I taught him to cook and clean. I told him he may not get married for awhile so he's going to need to know how to take care of himself or when he does get married he can b a help mate to his wife around the house. He doesn't have to depend on no woman to take care of him, he can take care of her. I told him when he gets married, don't have kids rite off the rip. Njoy ur wife, travel and make alot of memories, have ur finances n order and have ur own place and car. He's shown me that he listened. He'll b 32n Feb. Graduated w/his Batchelors (working towards his masters), has a good job n his career field making 6digits, has his own place and car and no kids @ this point. I'm so grateful. I spent Christmas @ his place, he cooked Christmas dinner. I spent the nite, it was a really special feeling... I'm so grateful to God that he got it. He beat the odds and is a successful, independent young man w/goals and determination. I feel so blessed. Wishing U and ur son all the best.
Listen to me... I have watched this interview at least 7 times in the past week.... get him back on here with wifey... there is such an anointing on his testimony, the realness, transparency & authenticy of his perspective of marriage is such an inspiration. Plz get him back on here asap. 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
He didn't ask his wife what she brings to the table, he said he is the table 🎤drop They accept each other as their genuine self and no expectation of what the world says, and wisdom taken from his parents and grandparents.
I couldn't stop crying laughing he has to come back with his wife. Hilarious! He dropped a few gems for all of us that those who want to get married can cherish. Great job ! Laterras!!!!!
This is my best podcast here. I have watched this episode on repeat. He is so full of wisdom and talent. Every man, woman and couple in this world should watch this.
I don’t appreciate this man putting me and my husband of 10 years business out there, lol….swear he hit every point in my relationship….I’m sending this to every couple I know…you all stay blessed…bout to try and binge watch every episode…thanks for your podcast
He got me with the fixing + cooking part! 😄😄 I'm a cooker but I rarely feel like doing it so I do a lot of fixing!! Fixing smoothies, tacos, sushi, cereal, salad, potato salad, pasta etc. It works. No skinny people in my house! 😆 😆 😆
I took a lot of notes for my Future Husband but also in-laws. That was a hidden gem when he said his mother in-law and sister in-law would call to say they were praying with no judgment or force her on him. 🙏🏾
Hello Kings!! WOW!! This discussion is sooo good!! My husband and I are going on year seven. We are definitely still evolving and growing together. We are not the same people we were six years ago. We are actually better despite our differences. We embrace what we do have in common and love each other no matter what. May God continue to lead and guide you Laterras! I hope that my hubby and I can go on your show and share our story in the future. We do plan to save some money to attend one of your retreats in the near future. 🙏🏽💯🙌🏽❤️
I laughed until my stomach hurt - I smiled at his truth & love for his woman - how awesome God spoke & he didn’t hesitate to act - got this one on save - thank you for more life lessons
Marriage is not for the selfish, it's for the selfless. Alot of give and take. Time/God changes people it can't be rushed. It takes obedience from God to make it work. We separated also and got back together. As I look back I'm so glad I was obedient. Excellent podcast. We can only change ourselves then watch God work the difficulties out.
First, hilarious episode😂😂😂. Second Marcus said the more independent a woman, the more harder for her to get married. This is exactly why I be calling my dad with my many requests. Trust and believe, I can do almost everything on my own. However, I’m not trying to be or appear independent. I’m not going to be faking it like I don’t require a man because I do.
This is the thing....We have been pushed to be independent....after disappointments and going without....and trauma....we aint taking no chances....However, we will follow and be "submissive" to the right one. Independent women can find balance for the right one as well......
This was a fantastic interview. It’s so refreshing to hear a man speak of marriage from a positive perspective. As a newly divorcee, he definitely makes me hopeful of the future.
I'm rolling over here 🤣🤣🤣 the combination jokes and knowledge he dropped on us was inevitable. As a single woman he gave me a different perspective on a lot of things 1❤️
Wow! I am in tears from revelation, confirmation, and laughter. I just love Marcus! Houston‘s finest. This episode really spoke to me. It reminded me not to get weary while waiting. There are some good godly men out here who want to be married. And who love the covenant of marriage. I was just telling my girlfriend on last night that I am praying for a younger man, because at 53……… LORD KEEP ME!! 🤗 I love how he said that Erica knows him. That analogy was so personal for me. Last night I was at Pappadeaux’s‘s eating at the bar by myself and I remember mumbling to the Lord that I can’t wait to sit here with my husband. I can’t wait to know my husband. I just cannot explain how this episode has affected me. Thank you Marcus and Laterras!😭😭😭😭😭
I had never watched this podcast until this episode. It’s so refreshing to see two amazing men share such insightful and inspirational messages for those that are single, married or even divorced. Powerful! I loved it! 👍🏽🙏🏽🔥
H-I-L-A-R-I-O-U-S!!! He kept it LIT! Marriage definitely puts an anointing over your lives. Once both parties learn to appreciate the the other’s difference, the marriage “should “thrive. It may not be easy, but in the end you know that he is working all things out for your good.
I've been married 37 years. Even though there were lots of laughs and jokes, there was so much wisdom and truth. I really enjoyed this episode. My husband and I even saw him in person at our church. What a blessing. I love the part about being free and reading the Bible for oneself. Depending on what church a person attends, there can be total bondage. Thank God for the spiritual leaders who are really preaching God's word and showing compassion just like Jesus.
You knocked it out the park Sir. The fact that you can be married and STILL grow in your differences is everything. I love it! This is one of the most transparent episodes I’ve seen. ❤️❤️❤️
I really enjoyed this interview! He is funny and real! People need to hear the "real' of marriage. This podcast never disappoints! Keep up the good work Laterras!
Had a conversation several times about how as a woman the sex drive increases as you get older. I notice that when I turned 40 them 45 and now as I’m closer to 60 it increased even more so. The hardest thing about that is when you’re single single and waiting for marriage.
@@IAmMonicaDenise I feel you on that as I know singleness is not me. God is preparing our husband for us as us for him, we must be ready when he present him.
I think things have shifted also because more women know their worth. You can’t want to feel needed by one woman but then due to infidelity you are needed all down the street. So then the woman who decides to exit a relationship in which there was a breach is seen as being too independent as if she wanted that. A lot of women’s independence is due to necessity not a desire to be dismissive of men and their contribution to a relationship. Great episode.
I think your letter idea is so beautiful! It rejuvenated my hope that there is a sentimental, nerdy, reading and writing black man out there somewhere for me.
Absolutely loved this podcast. So glad to see them hit 25 years! I’m still looking forward to that many! He is coming. “ a whisper “ I’m 55 and want to release this beast” sadly and I’m literally meaning sadly been abstinent almost 10 years. BABIIIIIIIIIIIIII, the withdrawal is a terrible thing! I thought for a while I was gonna go to prison for scrape. While praying the Lord remove that desire from me while I’m waiting it got super hard to tears many times! But God pulled me through! DEAR FUTURE LOVER MAN- take all your vitamins cause she coming for ya! Be blessed family. Love you LaTerras
Sis I understand your pain. I’ve never ask God to remove the desire but just to calm it. I’ve been abstinent 25 yrs 😡🤦🏾♀️😢. I ask to please take me off the waiting list and send my future hubby on. Yes he’s going to need vitamins for this 64 yr young Queen for real. LORD send out husbands please
@@roslyngraham5883 On one accord! I’m asking now Lord if you know I’m ready to please take me off the “waiting list” and come on with my honey boo man. Thanks sis I never asked. I just kept saying I’m waiting patiently.
“When you find someone that’s into you like that…” wow…to hear a man who knows his wife is into him AND appreciates and LOVES it…🙌🏾😭🙌🏾Okay, still watching…
This is the first Podcast I’ve ever wanted to watch. There are no words that can express how rejuvenating and inspiring the content is for today’s kingdom minded singles. I will be watching from now on.
This is by far The BEST episode!! Marcus is hilarious and very transparent about marriage. Laterras we need a part 2 with him and his wife ASAP! Great Job thanks for sharing 😍
This was ABSOLUTELY HILARIOUS 😂. I started listening to at my office and I was in tears of laughter. My husband and I just finished watching together and he was GLUED to the screen. The kids ran around and we had a GREAT unexpected date night of laughter. We loved the TRUE Transparency of this episode. A LOT of things are NOT spoken of and sadly not many long-term authentic examples are seen. Thank you ❤️. We enjoyed this episode 😊
My favorite part was when he broke. down the wedding vows. Truth received. I never thought of them along those lines. I love when my mind is challenged and makes me ponder. Good job👍🏼
Hi there this is my first time listening in and I just want to add that some women would love to not feel the need to be completely independent in today’s society but at the same time would like to have a man that can be trusted, that respects himself, his family and is God fearing… it’s just not that easy all the time! It’s not a cut and dry situation! Great show by the way!
BY FAR, THE FUNNIEST, REALEST, MOST LIT, PHENOMENALLY AND HYSTERICALLY UNIQUE, TRANSPARENT, LIVEST, SELF CHECKING EPISODE ON THE WHOLE INNANET!!! OMG!! I laughed, I cried, I watched it again and again and again! Thank you Laterras for having Marcus on the show!! He blessed my entire soul. I don't even know what I'm gone have the choir sing at my funeral, but Baby, I done put Marcus name down to do my notices and announcements, I don't need no Eulogy after this, get your life and laugh while you doing it!!!
When he explained richer or poorer maaaaan 2 marriages later I finally hear it!!!! Loved he had his grandad and dad’s teachings and they stuck in his mind.
It’s Nov 2024, I’m just catching up on all the episodes and this one is one of my favs! Marcus is so real & raw and his love story with his wife is so beautiful and powerful! I love hearing how they were willing to look past each other’s faults with humility and pursue re-establishing their union. Their marriage sounds extremely purposeful and their need for one another is a true testament to oneness ❤️🙏🏾 God bless them and their future endeavours. I hope to see them interviewed together on an upcoming episode. Thanks LT for this podcast that continually fills my hope tank.
This man said so many of the realist things, all while making me belly laugh, but real talk 19 yrs married and weve hit a VERY ROUGH patch. Some of the reasons he said he loves marriage were reminders i need today. This man is my person, and between therapy and God, we just have to figure it out and get to know these versions of ourselves and where we are today..
I love Laterres’s laugh, I’ve become addicted to this podcast, he makes people feel comfortable and free to laugh, cry, pray, and sing, I’ve seen it all and it’s edifying to to the soul. I thank God for leading me here 😍🥰
I randomly clicked on this video, 1st time coming across this channel. I wanted to listen to something with substance as I cook dinner for my family…goodness gracious, I was crying laughing and agreeing to all the truths Marcus shared. Enjoyed this tremendously!
"But since I'm here, listen to me." 🤣🤣🤣 And the way he was pronouncing coconuts. Hilarious. This podcast is amazing. Men need to shift if they want to be needed or wanted, women did for protection from controlling/abusive/lazy spouses, for choices, for an education and ultimately out of necessity. There is nothing wrong with being wanted, because need sounds exhausting to me. I do not want to marriages or dynamics in the relationships my parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts had/have. Things have shifted, and men will be hard pressed to find women that need them unless they are much young or literally off the street.
I loved this episode!! Mr. Wiley kept it all the way real! He gave me something to think about while preparing for my Future Husband meaning when he talked about the Bible preparing you for marriage and his testimony. I took so many notes! What also rang true to me is that Mr. Wiley pressed that I have to do the work. I have watched this one three times now! STILL! I want my future husband to say that beautiful four letter word, STILL.
You had me in tears and I loved it all. Most importantly, I respect that you informed your wife of your dreams and gave her the OPTION to stand by you. That’s honorable. You respected her enough to do that. Oppose to feeling she was required to do so. Bravo👏🏽👏🏽
Laterras was dying on that chair… lol sliding off and everything. This is one of the best episodes I’ve watched… lots of gems 💎 and so great to watch… I enjoyed it! I can totally relate… being married (12 years) and now divorced (4)…
When Marcus (and he was Hilarious on this) said his friend's wife packed up and he didn't see it coming...He knew, he just ignored her warning shots. I know because I served my Ex twice with divorce papers, still in the home, and he ignored them, and when I was leaving, he showed up at home early and he couldn't believe it. I even started talking months out from then and letting him know I was done and it was over. He looked devastated and had ugly words for me once my movers had me all loaded up. And I rolled out and the divorce was final two months later, uncontested. He knew, but didn't believe I would pull that trigger. And to speak to the Bishop's message, most women become that way because we have had men that didn't carry the load with her as a partner and are tired, as I was, of carrying more than she should have, but not once will he grow and/or step up when she is needing him to, that gets Real old. IT'S a easier load without dead weight that don't want to do RIGHT,then she has to do it to survive beause thats what it is! Great interview Laterras! Keep doing this and blessing people's lives.💕✌🏾
This interview would have been so much better with Marcus wife on. I think having both perspectives would have made this complete. For an example , the incident when he said she got upset and hung up on her. She could have had a rough day with the kids, or business partners, promoters, etc. She basically holds down the fort while he's off traveling the world. Black love doesn't need to be struggle or tough love. I think we need to heal and give each other some grace. We should all be on the same side, which is love. Marcus is funny and I enjoyed that part of the interview.
Just when I think I done watched the best episode I come across another (even better) one. Don't matter what year it was created bcz God creates the time-line.(I know, that wasn't grammatically correct but I wrote it the way I woulda said it around Fam and Friends). I was crackin' up and gainin' knowledge at the same time! Thank you Mr. Whitfield. Keep on Doin' yo thang!
Laterras, your letters to your future wifey are always heart-felt, and so thoughtful (and beautiful). I always look forward to that portion of the episode. I listened to the letter in this episode twice. You constantly echo what I am hoping to find in my future hubby as well. I thank God, because you always write many of the things I hope to experience with my future hubby. Thank you, for sharing your heart with us. We appreciate you (and your team) so much!
This is my absolute favorite episode. This was the first episode I watched that actually put me on to the DFW podcast I've watched many since and recently found this one again. While there are a lot of great interviews, this one is STILL MY FAVORITE. So authentic and unfiltered. Not to mention the comedy mannnnnnnn. This episode has been included in my prayers in a major way!! Thank you, Marcus, for being so transparent and real. Thank you, Laterras, for your level of transparency and for sharing your journey with us! This is a must-see interview for many reasons(pick one 🤷🏾♀️)!!
I sent this to my brother and his girlfriend. I loved every second of this conversation. I laughed so hard. It was funny, honest, thoughtful, respectful and responsible.
I must've watched this 7 times. This morning in traffic and on my 7 mile walk. This is quite possibly THE BEST marriage dialog I've ever heard! I forgot to play it for my husband last night.
As a single woman not ever being married and listening to your moments of appreciating the journey of a relationship made me think of who really knows me enough to say yes I do want to walk that journey of marriage with me and I hope he wants the same.
Great information on marriage and hilarious at the same time. I also like the fact that he stated that he is the table and doesn't worry about what she's bringing.
I LOVE how honest he was about marriage…great job! Let’s have him come back with his better half! I remember him at a comedy show at my church. He was hilarious!🔥🔥🔥
I hope Marcus is able to incorporate this material into his stand up acts,maybe he has already. I was literally in tears from laughing so hard. He was dropping so much wisdom but in such a funny way. As Laterras said, when you open your mouth to laugh the message drops in as well. I choked a few times but it was still FUNNY and TRUE!
I love the way you laugh. I'm laughing at you laughing at him. The way you fall out laughing is so contagious. This episode was funny but so insightful.
From a woman whose been with her husband for 20 years the journey that he is sharing through marital challenges, growth and learning about his partner leading him to a wonderful place with his wife is identical to my husband and my journey. My husband also attributes much of his knowledge of his responsibilities as a man and husband to his own grandfather💪🏽 Excellent show👍🏽.
The real reason today’s ladies don’t stay through thick and thin is not independence. I believe it is about understanding mental health. Our Grandmothers were put through an enormous amount of trauma. They were taught to stay even if they are getting their skull cracked. We have embraced the importance of mental health.
Great comment and it is so much the truth. Those marriages mostly were based on survival and women depending on men for their basic needs. That is not the makings of a real relationship. Of course men took advantage and there was abuse, men having whike families doen the street, and overall disrespect. Can't blame a woman for wanting to be sure she is not in a position to be abused like that.
Exactly!!! Trust me IF THEY COULD'VE left they would've. But they needed the provisions to keep a roof.
Some of us have also embraced self-love and self-respect. When you truly love yourself and respect yourself, you won't allow a man or anyone to disrespect your life.
You’re so right!! Narcissist abuse is soooo serious!!!
That is why I have left past relationships. I refuse to be mentally, emotionally, verbally or physically abused by a man or anyone else, even family members.
When he said “black love is day to day” after being married 25 years… I almost fell off this treadmill😅😂😂😂
Just watched this episode and wanted to comment on the “independent woman”. Most women today would rather have a good man that they can feel safe with and depend on however, when we experience heartbreak, disappointment and various unpleasant situations within our relationships consistently, it makes us decide that we can do better by ourselves. No one wants to be alone but sometimes it’s easier being single. I really enjoyed this episode…
I agree to this!
Agreed!
🎤
Yes indeed
I hope you have him and his wife on your show. This episode was so enlightening, honest, and hilarious. This episode really cheered me up.
I loved the episode, best episode hands down!!!! He is exactly the kind of husband I hope for🙂 his spirit and character and outlook on marriage suits my preferred future. I cried uncontrollably when he mentioned when his comedy took off and in that moment he set his ego aside by not taking the self satisfying opportunity with those other women and realized that only the girl( his wife) could understand the magnitude of that moment. That was beautiful
Thanks for sharing 🙏🏽
Yes, back in the day women tolerated many things because they were so financially dependent on their husbands. Also, people never mention how miserable those women were.
And many independent women would love a man to take lead and be there. But why no one addresses the issue of the lack of men in the black community that have no desire to be married or committed to one woman or the men removed from the community due to prison or drugs. Leaving many women to raise children alone or to build alone. We are independent by necessity. When I look at my non black sisters very few are left without a man to protect or help them…a father, a husband or a brother. You wouldn’t believe the number of independent women who are TIRED but keep pushing because they have to.
A woman always needs to be independent. If you find a good man.. most certainly go for it! 100% but I didn’t like the fact that they talked about the men having families down the street.. and the women stayed.. is that what is wanted? Hell to the no
100% facts!!!!!
Amen!
I couldn’t agree with you more about your thoughts Ms. LC
I get it..but I'm going to play devil's advocate just for a second. The cookie can't be enjoyed unless a woman gives it away/shares it. I think the conversation should also include men who don't want to commit because so many women are so easy, so in his mind he's thinking "why do I need a committed relationship when women are throwing it at me left and right". Then if you look further into this you get people like Future, the rapper (multiple children, different women). At some point women have to have discernment.
This was the best episode ever! I laughed and gained so much. We need a part 2 with his wife. To ask her how does she deal with all of this 😂😂😂😂
Yes please to the part two!!
Agreed!!! This was great, part 2 please!!!!!!
Yes, pt 2 P L E A S E!!!🤣😂😂
I agree; a part 2 is needed. The fact that they have a marriage where if they are upset with one another; they are still there for one another. Granted, because they have been married for a long time, they had to grow into this way of communication. I love it and I am here for it. It’s good to hear a males perspective on marriage and what women can do better to become available for a man and let a man know that we need them.
Agreed 👍🏾
I make it a point to teach my son , chase your dreams now , live by yourself, build your credit, save your money. Do not seek out a wife until you can fully take care of yourself, so you don’t need a woman to feed you and have to feel less of a man or you feel disrespected by her. You have one mother I will help guide you so your wife won’t have the burden that’s my responsibility.
Thats a wonderful sentiment!
Speak Sista, I've taught my son the same thing. I've preached to him as a child to b independent and to b good to and for someone's daughter.
I taught him to cook and clean. I told him he may not get married for awhile so he's going to need to know how to take care of himself or when he does get married he can b a help mate to his wife around the house. He doesn't have to depend on no woman to take care of him, he can take care of her. I told him when he gets married, don't have kids rite off the rip. Njoy ur wife, travel and make alot of memories, have ur finances n order and have ur own place and car.
He's shown me that he listened. He'll b 32n Feb. Graduated w/his Batchelors (working towards his masters), has a good job n his career field making 6digits, has his own place and car and no kids @ this point. I'm so grateful.
I spent Christmas @ his place, he cooked Christmas dinner. I spent the nite, it was a really special feeling... I'm so grateful to God that he got it. He beat the odds and is a successful, independent young man w/goals and determination. I feel so blessed.
Wishing U and ur son all the best.
Amen.
Amen 🙏🏽
It's mothers like you - Amen!🙏
My husband and I celebrated 26 years of marriage on New Years Day 🎉. Adding this episode to our month long celebration ❤. Bravo guys.
Congrats!! 🥳🥳
Laterras laugh is so contagious! Every time he laugh i laugh 😂
Yes😂😂😂😂😂
Laterras should have stayed on the floor, because he was about there. I for sure would have been.
Same. I was just going to say. That's the type of man I need. One who laughs. Yes Lord
YES!! Me too. Not that type though 🤣🤣
Listen to me... I have watched this interview at least 7 times in the past week.... get him back on here with wifey... there is such an anointing on his testimony, the realness, transparency & authenticy of his perspective of marriage is such an inspiration. Plz get him back on here asap. 🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
Yess I thought the same thing too bring him back with his wife. ❤❤❤
My favorite episode❤
He didn't ask his wife what she brings to the table, he said he is the table 🎤drop
They accept each other as their genuine self and no expectation of what the world says, and wisdom taken from his parents and grandparents.
... He's wonderful! 💜👑
I couldn't stop crying laughing he has to come back with his wife. Hilarious! He dropped a few gems for all of us that those who want to get married can cherish. Great job ! Laterras!!!!!
I 1000% agree...I want he and his wife to come back to DFW!!!
Thank very very much
That would be an explosion of laughter
This is my best podcast here. I have watched this episode on repeat. He is so full of wisdom and talent. Every man, woman and couple in this world should watch this.
I don’t appreciate this man putting me and my husband of 10 years business out there, lol….swear he hit every point in my relationship….I’m sending this to every couple I know…you all stay blessed…bout to try and binge watch every episode…thanks for your podcast
Im rewatching cuz this episode is so good. He said "Black love is day-to-day"🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
In my marriage, that is so real!
FACT
Something is truly wrong with us (certain people)
real talk lol!
Okkaaayyyy 🤣🤣
He got me with the fixing + cooking part! 😄😄 I'm a cooker but I rarely feel like doing it so I do a lot of fixing!! Fixing smoothies, tacos, sushi, cereal, salad, potato salad, pasta etc. It works. No skinny people in my house! 😆 😆 😆
Lol
No skinny people in my family....😂🤣😂😆😆
I took a lot of notes for my Future Husband but also in-laws. That was a hidden gem when he said his mother in-law and sister in-law would call to say they were praying with no judgment or force her on him. 🙏🏾
Hello Kings!! WOW!! This discussion is sooo good!! My husband and I are going on year seven. We are definitely still evolving and growing together. We are not the same people we were six years ago. We are actually better despite our differences. We embrace what we do have in common and love each other no matter what. May God continue to lead and guide you Laterras! I hope that my hubby and I can go on your show and share our story in the future. We do plan to save some money to attend one of your retreats in the near future. 🙏🏽💯🙌🏽❤️
I laughed until my stomach hurt - I smiled at his truth & love for his woman - how awesome God spoke & he didn’t hesitate to act - got this one on save - thank you for more life lessons
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This was HILARIOUS. Although Marcus is funny, he is filled with so much wisdom, knowledge, and experience. I absolutely LOVED this episode.
Great info, hilarious
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Marriage is not for the selfish, it's for the selfless. Alot of give and take. Time/God changes people it can't be rushed. It takes obedience from God to make it work. We separated also and got back together. As I look back I'm so glad I was obedient. Excellent podcast. We can only change ourselves then watch God work the difficulties out.
First, hilarious episode😂😂😂. Second Marcus said the more independent a woman, the more harder for her to get married. This is exactly why I be calling my dad with my many requests. Trust and believe, I can do almost everything on my own. However, I’m not trying to be or appear independent. I’m not going to be faking it like I don’t require a man because I do.
Same.
Yeah he's hilarious. I LOL at the black rhino/gas station pills 💊 ⛽ The left side of his body 🚑 🤣🤣🤣
Agreed 🙌🏾
I agree with you 💯
I was not built to be and do everything. There is no shame in me as I want and need a real man in my life! 🥰
Marcus have my stomach hurting from laughing so hard 😭 🤣 😂 😩 he is hilarious 😂
This is the thing....We have been pushed to be independent....after disappointments and going without....and trauma....we aint taking no chances....However, we will follow and be "submissive" to the right one. Independent women can find balance for the right one as well......
Marcus Wiley had such a great example of what a strong, healthy marriage looks like. His grandparents were married over 70 years.
Beautiful, it's always the family tree. The roots is the foundation of that tree. The branches the leafs and then the fruits.
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This was a fantastic interview. It’s so refreshing to hear a man speak of marriage from a positive perspective. As a newly divorcee, he definitely makes me hopeful of the future.
I could not stop laughing,he is super funny.
Please bring him back again with the wife.I want to hear her side 😂😂😂😂
They have (had) videos on RUclips together some years back...they were soo good. Search his name on RUclips.
Yes! This was so hilarious! And so many gems dropped in there at the same time. Hope his wife comes on. That would be great.
I'm rolling over here 🤣🤣🤣 the combination jokes and knowledge he dropped on us was inevitable. As a single woman he gave me a different perspective on a lot of things 1❤️
Why am I just now seeing this episode. Marcus is so funny. We definitely need part 2 with his wife.
Wow! I am in tears from revelation, confirmation, and laughter. I just love Marcus! Houston‘s finest. This episode really spoke to me. It reminded me not to get weary while waiting. There are some good godly men out here who want to be married. And who love the covenant of marriage. I was just telling my girlfriend on last night that I am praying for a younger man, because at 53……… LORD KEEP ME!! 🤗 I love how he said that Erica knows him. That analogy was so personal for me. Last night I was at Pappadeaux’s‘s eating at the bar by myself and I remember mumbling to the Lord that I can’t wait to sit here with my husband. I can’t wait to know my husband. I just cannot explain how this episode has affected me. Thank you Marcus and Laterras!😭😭😭😭😭
I had never watched this podcast until this episode. It’s so refreshing to see two amazing men share such insightful and inspirational messages for those that are single, married or even divorced. Powerful! I loved it!
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H-I-L-A-R-I-O-U-S!!! He kept it LIT! Marriage definitely puts an anointing over your lives. Once both parties learn to appreciate the the other’s difference, the marriage “should “thrive. It may not be easy, but in the end you know that he is working all things out for your good.
With the RIGHT one of course!
I've been married 37 years. Even though there were lots of laughs and jokes, there was so much wisdom and truth. I really enjoyed this episode. My husband and I even saw him in person at our church. What a blessing.
I love the part about being free and reading the Bible for oneself. Depending on what church a person attends, there can be total bondage. Thank God for the spiritual leaders who are really preaching God's word and showing compassion just like Jesus.
Bring him back with his wife.. he is hilarious 🤣 😆 😂 💀 😄 😭. I got to see them together. My stomach is rolling. I love this episode.
You knocked it out the park Sir. The fact that you can be married and STILL grow in your differences is everything. I love it! This is one of the most transparent episodes I’ve seen. ❤️❤️❤️
Wonderful, informative Podcast! She gave him 5 years and he’s giving her forever❤️Marriage is give/take & keep it moving!
I needed this laugh today. I have been feeling down about my process. To have someone patient enough for you to be great is a blessing
That is GOOD NEWS for the hopeful, patient, and prayerful individual! Amen!
Hi. Great podcast. I’m single and praying without ceasing fr my future husband.
She was being respectful not going to lunch with you anymore, it was the right thing to do… Respect for that woman ❤
Thank you Laterras for stating why women had to be independent, out of necessity. I am happy I’m able to have the balance that you mentioned.
Absolutely!!
I really enjoyed this interview! He is funny and real! People need to hear the "real' of marriage. This podcast never disappoints! Keep up the good work Laterras!
Had a conversation several times about how as a woman the sex drive increases as you get older. I notice that when I turned 40 them 45 and now as I’m closer to 60 it increased even more so. The hardest thing about that is when you’re single single and waiting for marriage.
*then 45 not them 45
Straight torture
Yes, I had no idea my sex drive would get this crazy. I'm married and 45 right now, so I should expect my sex drive to increase even more. Wow! 😳
Listen! I need Jesus to cause me and my husband to meet this year! 😂
@@IAmMonicaDenise I feel you on that as I know singleness is not me.
God is preparing our husband for us as us for him, we must be ready when he present him.
Marcus is my classmate and I know not to watch this while working!!! I have laughed and cried at the same time.. Sheesh
while Speaking Truth!!
He was hilarious
Was he always this silly? Lol
Such an authentic episode ! I laughed so hard & yet received so much wisdom
I'm 37:30 minutes in and said "this man is too funny, he has to be a comedian".. read the description and YUP. I have laughed (and learned) so much.
This was one of the realest, funniest, and most needed dialogues for relationships.
I think things have shifted also because more women know their worth. You can’t want to feel needed by one woman but then due to infidelity you are needed all down the street. So then the woman who decides to exit a relationship in which there was a breach is seen as being too independent as if she wanted that. A lot of women’s independence is due to necessity not a desire to be dismissive of men and their contribution to a relationship.
Great episode.
I needed to hear this at this point in my marriage! 🙏🏽 25 years 🙏🏽
I think your letter idea is so beautiful! It rejuvenated my hope that there is a sentimental, nerdy, reading and writing black man out there somewhere for me.
This dude is so hilarious but also wise! I literally cried laughing! I thoroughly enjoyed every moment of this episode!
Most comedians are wise. Its a true gift on how they perceive things and life.
Absolutely loved this podcast. So glad to see them hit 25 years! I’m still looking forward to that many! He is coming. “ a whisper “ I’m 55 and want to release this beast” sadly and I’m literally meaning sadly been abstinent almost 10 years. BABIIIIIIIIIIIIII, the withdrawal is a terrible thing! I thought for a while I was gonna go to prison for scrape. While praying the Lord remove that desire from me while I’m waiting it got super hard to tears many times! But God pulled me through! DEAR FUTURE LOVER MAN- take all your vitamins cause she coming for ya! Be blessed family. Love you LaTerras
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Sis I understand your pain. I’ve never ask God to remove the desire but just to calm it. I’ve been abstinent 25 yrs 😡🤦🏾♀️😢. I ask to please take me off the waiting list and send my future hubby on. Yes he’s going to need vitamins for this 64 yr young Queen for real. LORD send out husbands please
@@roslyngraham5883 On one accord! I’m asking now Lord if you know I’m ready to please take me off the “waiting list” and come on with my honey boo man. Thanks sis I never asked. I just kept saying I’m waiting patiently.
@@moniquedependable3782 we’re in agreement for our husbands amen hallelujah thank You Jesus for Your glory
“When you find someone that’s into you like that…” wow…to hear a man who knows his wife is into him AND appreciates and LOVES it…🙌🏾😭🙌🏾Okay, still watching…
This is the first Podcast I’ve ever wanted to watch. There are no words that can express how rejuvenating and inspiring the content is for today’s kingdom minded singles. I will be watching from now on.
I love when I can laugh and learn. He got my stomach hurting from rolling 😂😂
Me too😅😂🤣
Laterras' laugh is hilarious too.
@@lb1798 Marcus is hilarious, but Laterras' reaction has me laughing 'til I can't breathe.
This was the BESTTTT poscasttttt I have heard. I was rolling and it was great gems. Thank you for having him!! Blessings! 😊
Amazing comedian. SERIOUSLY FUNNY, EDUCATIONAL, kind MEN! His wife is Blessed.
This is by far The BEST episode!! Marcus is hilarious and very transparent about marriage. Laterras we need a part 2 with him and his wife ASAP! Great Job thanks for sharing 😍
This was ABSOLUTELY HILARIOUS 😂. I started listening to at my office and I was in tears of laughter. My husband and I just finished watching together and he was GLUED to the screen. The kids ran around and we had a GREAT unexpected date night of laughter. We loved the TRUE Transparency of this episode. A LOT of things are NOT spoken of and sadly not many long-term authentic examples are seen. Thank you ❤️. We enjoyed this episode 😊
This is a great interview
My favorite part was when he broke. down the wedding vows. Truth received. I never thought of them along those lines. I love when my mind is challenged and makes me ponder. Good job👍🏼
I'll be the little spoon🥄🤣🤣🤣, laughter does a heart merry... every episode is a different gift and blessing 💜💜💜
I am soooo tickled by this message! Such a beautiful rendition of the safety, security, and sanctity of marriage ❤️❤️
Met Marcus at The Hope Church of Orlando when our Bishop had him there. What you see on the episode is what you get in person. Such a humble guy.
I laugh non stop with this guy. He is a real comedian. "Just hold me, i will be the little spoon"😆😆😆😆🤣🤣🤣🤣😆🤣🤣 i watch this podcast 3 times 🇯🇲
Most couples that are married forget the vows, when things get tough in a marriage... The Truth And Nothing But The Truth 💯🎯
Hi there this is my first time listening in and I just want to add that some women would love to not feel the need to be completely independent in today’s society but at the same time would like to have a man that can be trusted, that respects himself, his family and is God fearing… it’s just not that easy all the time! It’s not a cut and dry situation! Great show by the way!
Can we get a part 2 with Mrs. Wiley!!!?? I need more. This was yet another amazing episode! Thanks for all that you do Laterras!
Yes!
BY FAR, THE FUNNIEST, REALEST, MOST LIT, PHENOMENALLY AND HYSTERICALLY UNIQUE, TRANSPARENT, LIVEST, SELF CHECKING EPISODE ON THE WHOLE INNANET!!! OMG!! I laughed, I cried, I watched it again and again and again! Thank you Laterras for having Marcus on the show!! He blessed my entire soul. I don't even know what I'm gone have the choir sing at my funeral, but Baby, I done put Marcus name down to do my notices and announcements, I don't need no Eulogy after this, get your life and laugh while you doing it!!!
When he explained richer or poorer maaaaan 2 marriages later I finally hear it!!!! Loved he had his grandad and dad’s teachings and they stuck in his mind.
It’s Nov 2024, I’m just catching up on all the episodes and this one is one of my favs! Marcus is so real & raw and his love story with his wife is so beautiful and powerful! I love hearing how they were willing to look past each other’s faults with humility and pursue re-establishing their union. Their marriage sounds extremely purposeful and their need for one another is a true testament to oneness ❤️🙏🏾 God bless them and their future endeavours. I hope to see them interviewed together on an upcoming episode. Thanks LT for this podcast that continually fills my hope tank.
This man said so many of the realist things, all while making me belly laugh, but real talk 19 yrs married and weve hit a VERY ROUGH patch. Some of the reasons he said he loves marriage were reminders i need today. This man is my person, and between therapy and God, we just have to figure it out and get to know these versions of ourselves and where we are today..
THIS is the realest one on one about relationships.
I definitely want to see them talk about their marriage.
What a good story teller. I could listen to him the whole day
Wow, I loved how he explained the meaning of the vows, poor and richer, sickness and health… profound
This man is too funny for his own good. I’m crying 😭😭😭
I love Laterres’s laugh, I’ve become addicted to this podcast, he makes people feel comfortable and free to laugh, cry, pray, and sing, I’ve seen it all and it’s edifying to to the soul. I thank God for leading me here 😍🥰
“Black love is a day to day” wow 😩😭😭 the accuracy here
I randomly clicked on this video, 1st time coming across this channel. I wanted to listen to something with substance as I cook dinner for my family…goodness gracious, I was crying laughing and agreeing to all the truths Marcus shared. Enjoyed this tremendously!
Same exact thing happened to me!!!
"But since I'm here, listen to me." 🤣🤣🤣 And the way he was pronouncing coconuts. Hilarious. This podcast is amazing. Men need to shift if they want to be needed or wanted, women did for protection from controlling/abusive/lazy spouses, for choices, for an education and ultimately out of necessity. There is nothing wrong with being wanted, because need sounds exhausting to me. I do not want to marriages or dynamics in the relationships my parents, grandparents, uncles and aunts had/have. Things have shifted, and men will be hard pressed to find women that need them unless they are much young or literally off the street.
Not even young
I loved this episode!! Mr. Wiley kept it all the way real! He gave me something to think about while preparing for my Future Husband meaning when he talked about the Bible preparing you for marriage and his testimony. I took so many notes! What also rang true to me is that Mr. Wiley pressed that I have to do the work.
I have watched this one three times now!
STILL! I want my future husband to say that beautiful four letter word, STILL.
You had me in tears and I loved it all. Most importantly, I respect that you informed your wife of your dreams and gave her the OPTION to stand by you. That’s honorable. You respected her enough to do that. Oppose to feeling she was required to do so. Bravo👏🏽👏🏽
Laterras was dying on that chair… lol sliding off and everything. This is one of the best episodes I’ve watched… lots of gems 💎 and so great to watch… I enjoyed it! I can totally relate… being married (12 years) and now divorced (4)…
I had so much fun. Lol
When Marcus (and he was Hilarious on this) said his friend's wife packed up and he didn't see it coming...He knew, he just ignored her warning shots. I know because I served my Ex twice with divorce papers, still in the home, and he ignored them, and when I was leaving, he showed up at home early and he couldn't believe it. I even started talking months out from then and letting him know I was done and it was over. He looked devastated and had ugly words for me once my movers had me all loaded up. And I rolled out and the divorce was final two months later, uncontested. He knew, but didn't believe I would pull that trigger. And to speak to the Bishop's message, most women become that way because we have had men that didn't carry the load with her as a partner and are tired, as I was, of carrying more than she should have, but not once will he grow and/or step up when she is needing him to, that gets Real old. IT'S a easier load without dead weight that don't want to do RIGHT,then she has to do it to survive beause thats what it is! Great interview Laterras! Keep doing this and blessing people's lives.💕✌🏾
This interview would have been so much better with Marcus wife on. I think having both perspectives would have made this complete. For an example , the incident when he said she got upset and hung up on her. She could have had a rough day with the kids, or business partners, promoters, etc. She basically holds down the fort while he's off traveling the world. Black love doesn't need to be struggle or tough love. I think we need to heal and give each other some grace. We should all be on the same side, which is love. Marcus is funny and I enjoyed that part of the interview.
I think that man speak is needed. And , to be fair, him being the breadwinner is as weighty as house-rearing.
Just when I think I done watched the best episode I come across another (even better) one. Don't matter what year it was created bcz God creates the time-line.(I know, that wasn't grammatically correct but I wrote it the way I woulda said it around Fam and Friends). I was crackin' up and gainin' knowledge at the same time! Thank you Mr. Whitfield. Keep on Doin' yo thang!
That was beautiful. Sometimes expectations can trick you out of the best thing that ever happened to you. Acceptance is the key, not expect.
I thoroughly enjoyed this episode. Laughter is good medicine. Laterras' laugh cracks me up every time. Great work!
Laterras, your letters to your future wifey are always heart-felt, and so thoughtful (and beautiful). I always look forward to that portion of the episode. I listened to the letter in this episode twice. You constantly echo what I am hoping to find in my future hubby as well. I thank God, because you always write many of the things I hope to experience with my future hubby. Thank you, for sharing your heart with us. We appreciate you (and your team) so much!
I can't with Marcus D Wiley!!! He said "it seems like I got to let her have a boyfriend"🤣😂
This is my absolute favorite episode. This was the first episode I watched that actually put me on to the DFW podcast I've watched many since and recently found this one again. While there are a lot of great interviews, this one is STILL MY FAVORITE. So authentic and unfiltered. Not to mention the comedy mannnnnnnn. This episode has been included in my prayers in a major way!! Thank you, Marcus, for being so transparent and real. Thank you, Laterras, for your level of transparency and for sharing your journey with us! This is a must-see interview for many reasons(pick one 🤷🏾♀️)!!
Loving this, the realness, the transparency and the fact that it’s you men opening up this conversation 💯😊🙏🏾✔️
I sent this to my brother and his girlfriend. I loved every second of this conversation. I laughed so hard. It was funny, honest, thoughtful, respectful and responsible.
I must've watched this 7 times. This morning in traffic and on my 7 mile walk. This is quite possibly THE BEST marriage dialog I've ever heard! I forgot to play it for my husband last night.
This guy is dropping knowledge in thee most hilarious way ever!!! 🤣 I love it!
As a single woman not ever being married and listening to your moments of appreciating the journey of a relationship made me think of who really knows me enough to say yes I do want to walk that journey of marriage with me and I hope he wants the same.
Great information on marriage and hilarious at the same time. I also like the fact that he stated that he is the table and doesn't worry about what she's bringing.
New subscriber. I wish I found this channel sooner, but I'm happy I found it at all. It came at the right time in my life.
I LOVE how honest he was about marriage…great job! Let’s have him come back with his better half! I remember him at a comedy show at my church. He was hilarious!🔥🔥🔥
I hope Marcus is able to incorporate this material into his stand up acts,maybe he has already. I was literally in tears from laughing so hard. He was dropping so much wisdom but in such a funny way. As Laterras said, when you open your mouth to laugh the message drops in as well. I choked a few times but it was still FUNNY and TRUE!
I love the way you laugh. I'm laughing at you laughing at him. The way you fall out laughing is so contagious. This episode was funny but so insightful.
From a woman whose been with her husband for 20 years the journey that he is sharing through marital challenges, growth and learning about his partner leading him to a wonderful place with his wife is identical to my husband and my journey. My husband also attributes much of his knowledge of his responsibilities as a man and husband to his own grandfather💪🏽 Excellent show👍🏽.