@@MegF142857 That's not true at all... Lots of old couples bicker because they know how far they can push the other other one with their banter. Typically to an outsider it seems rude or like one is being mean but within the couple, a lot of times they are so used to each other's sass that they can give it and take it.
Actually, that statement is not really true. I love Jesse but just like everyone else he has personal struggles and he should get tested for ADHD and have tools to make his life better.
@@kathleenchild I fully agree with that. If Jesse has a chance to find out, he gets a chance to learn why things are how they are. He does not need to change in any way, but he may understand things better. Which might lead to an even better life for him. And if Matt accompanies him along the way, that may lead to an even deeper and richer relationship.
There is nothing wrong with Jesse... Why does he have to have adhd, a label,, for being a sensitive, loving, caring human being, who is in touch with his true self. and says it like it is? Jesse is so refreshingingly real in this world of fakeness, still a young man finding his way, which by the way, is doing a brilliant job from where I'm sitting! So please, we could all learn alot from Jesse, Let's embrace his charm and wonderful character as he is without assuming he needs fixing, testing, or having a label put on him. (This is no way disrespectful to anyone who does have Adhd or similar,, I just feel Jesse doesn't fit into that category!) Keep being you Jesse, I think you are brilliant!! You too Matt! 😊
Just to make myself absolutely clear, I would NEVER say that someone with ADHD has something wrong with them. Taking steps to help himself understand things better isn’t going to change him and make him less Jesse.
Both of you need to remember that Jesse has to translate from his head to his mouth every time he speaks English. Watch Jesse in Dutch speaking videos, you will see the difference.
Jesse has the ability to make people fall in love with his cuteness and kind nature. Combined with his angelic appearance, this makes for an incredible combo. I'm a relatively new subscriber and this guy immediately caught my attention))))
No! Don’t do an intro song! Keep it this exact way! Same background just sit down & talk & answer questions. With horses & stables in the background. We love it!
Matt and Jesse........ Watching the two of you guys is amazing. The way you interact with one another. Comical, funny, and also just so caring. You compliment one another. Soulmates.
Jesse is so cute when he struggles to get his point across on something and Matt the looks on ur face as he goes through it is so sweet. You can tell that you guys care very deeply for each other....
21:28 it’s out Matt, there’s no taking it back, thanks Jesse, and it’s only going to get you more followers and admirers. Lots of us have been following you from the beginning because we knew that.
ADHD or not, Jesse we love you exactly as you are. Your personality is perfect for the job you do. People with ADHD are usually very intelligent and focus on many things at once and are able to go into a lot of detail. You are inspirational. Don't try to change! Matt, don't write cats off too quickly. I was always a dog person until a stray cat moved in with me. I am deaf and I don't hear my alarm clock in the morning, but my 🐈⬛ does and then he wakes me up. He is very loyal and sensitive and has been an excellent companion.
@@Belle-s7c I'd like to hear his reasoning, because if you want to restrict them for a while to just inside or just outside, you can. It is kind of mystifying.
Things I love about Matt & Jesse (JMHO) ❤ - that Matt the big picture thinker is striving to build a life that makes both their hearts happy - that when Jesse used to do competitions he left before medals were announced because he didn’t care where he & his horse ranked, just that they had fun together (they would have to phone him to tell him he won a medal 😅) - that Matt has an amazing eye & can build them a beautiful home & grounds - that Jesse was so worried about his pups losing their “childhood home” 🥹 - that Jesse helps loosen up Matt and get him smiling & Matt helps Jesse by creating a beautiful & organised home that I feel may help Jesse navigate life with less stress - that both of them are just allround lovely human beings
Jessie is right about letting the horse decide if it wants to be inside or out. You could accommodate stallions by providing them with large individual pastures adjacent to their stable. Horses are meant to move and are much happier and healthier if they are free to do so. Love your Unstable series!
I have ADHD too and having a different thinking mind can truly be a gift! Neurodivergent people are super creative and emphatic, they have a big heart and find joy in the smallest things, have unique thinking patterns or solution strategies ❤
I wish I could see the positives more often. Thank you for reminding me. As someone working in tech, having adhd feels like an uphill battle most of the time haha
Yes, everything you said sans ADHD: yet another label for what is unique and quirky...which schooling tries to diminish if not completely eradicate, hence only 20 minute lunch break and 20 minute break for recess in American public elementary schools, very limited arts/crafts, dance, and theater. This agenda of suppression is going to be history soon.
I have been following since Matt started thinking of his big move. The more I watch them the more I enjoy their relationship; Jesse has blossomed in front of the camera and Matt is even more relatable. A really adorable couple of guys. 😊
Again, I know nothing about horses and won’t ever have a horse, but here I am subscribed. I learn so much about this industry and lifestyle/niche business from Matt and Jesse. Like many subscribed to this channel, I’m really and always impressed by Matt and Jesse. Each of you are so talented in your own right. As a parent, I’d be so proud and happy about your accomplishments, hard work and how kind and ethical you both are. Beautiful on the outside and beautiful on the inside.
I liked Jesse’s stable, I just love the LAND and pastures much more than the barn. I also like stalls with attached runs so the horses have more space to move around and go in and outside.
Aunt Johnny here: This channel is one of my very favorites! I discovered it when Matt was moving his horse and himself to the Netherlands. I really liked how he showed the whole trip. Then the life you guys have built in these last years is so encouraging. The things you have accomplished (even when the world lost its mind) is just phenomenal! Being a horse owner myself I know full well how responsible you have to be with them. I would not ever change the decision to have horses. Even on the Winter snowy mornings when it is cold, icy and slippery. I always look forward to your videos. The best to you both and Happy Easter.
Matt's storytelling is very precise. Like looking at a high-quality photograph. Jesse's storytelling is like looking at a beautiful painting. You see it in your mind but also feel it in your heart.
This particular Unstable podcast is pure comedy gold. I have laughed myself silly at the two of you. I just know in the future when you guys have your own property, Jesse is going to have a bunch of barn cats lol. Who wants to bet that Matt will end up liking them, fly-away hair and all?
Regarding ADHD, I see a lot of comments saying “no nothing is wrong.” I think that’s a bit negative because there’s nothing “wrong” with being neurodivergent if Jesse is. At the very least he can get evaluated if he feels the need to. And if he were to be diagnosed with ADHD or any other neurodivergent thing, it’s perfectly fine. Please do not diminish people who are neurodivergent! Someone’s mind working differently than what’s considered “typical” is not a negative thing. Their mind just works differently. Please be more open minded!
What a great comment, neuro diversity is not a ‘problem’ it is just a unique individual way of thought process that neuro typical do not understand - I teach many children and adults that are neurodiverse - dyslexia, dyspraxia, autism - these individuals are unique and certainly not at a disadvantage when it comes to training and riding horses 🐴🌅
These chatty Podcasts of you are my favourite thing on RUclips at the moment. Love the mix of horse-related, personal and random questions! Thank you for sharing a more private look into your relationship, I feel like we get to know you a lot better through these videos. Looking forward to the next one, hope your April will be wonderful. And @jesse go on a holiday, you deserve it!
Matt!!!! You treat a cat like a dog and reap the rewards of a loving, loyal animal as a result. I love cats. Mine come when called and are just as loving as a dog would be. As for the hair - make your cat a barn cat - and they will kill the mice for you. Also cats are generally very good with horses and horses like their quiet ways.
The ending was the best 🤣 pronunciation is everything. Each time we learn a little more about you both and how two very different people make it work. Good Job!!
I can watch Jesse tease Matte all day. I would be a quiet friend behind the scenes helping out just to watch Matte freak out every time Jesse teases him. 😂😅
You guys really dont have to change anything... You both lighten my evening, I swear Jesse just loves winding you up Matt, and the way you respond back is hilarious and sweet, Keep it simple, real, and exactly how it is...❤
@matt_harnacke questions for the next one: *How are Jesse's grandparents doing? Weren't they sick recently? *Who is most likely to snore: Jesse, Matt, Penny, or Maisy? *The Land Rover is Matt's dream car. Does Jesse have a dream car? *Matt, you clearly love the English stately home/country house style. Which one is your favorite and have you been able to visit it? *Pretend Steve or one of Jesse's siblings has a kid. Who's going to be the favorite uncle? Uncle Matt or uncle Jesse? *What shows are in your Netflix queue? What shows are you not allowed to watch unless you're together? *What are some ways to be involved in the horse world if you don't/can't have a horse at the moment? *Do either of you have any tattoos other than the sun and moon? Do you want more? What would you get? *Have you considered merch that isn't just for horses for those of us who love your channels and want to support you both, but don't have horses? Stuff like mugs, water bottles, shirts, calendars, etc etc?
@Joyfullscroll Nalanta is his web site. I would like to buy a mug with a picture of his horses on it so I can drink ginger tea with them during the "Unstable" podcast.
Nice to see you guys back in the stables again! Jesse, if I didn't already respect and admire you (which I do), your comments about cats would have earned my respect and admiration! You've made me so proud to be a member of your followers! "Why have a cat (if it doesn't do anything)?" "To give it a better life." Perfect answer! Matt - I've used honey and honey-based ointments/salves/creams before. It's not pus - it's the body reacting (healing) to the medication. A good idea, if you haven't already, would be to have your doctor take a look at it, just to make sure the wound is healing properly. (An aside: after seeing how much your horses shed, you're complaining about *cat* hair?!!? Seriously???) I'm jealous of your Paris trip! Enjoy!
Fair point on the horse hair. He forgets dogs shed too. There Are various ways to gather the shedding. (Besides vacuuming. Get a Roomba type to keep on top of the shedding time.)
I wanted to say that I love these one on one videos. Your chemistry is so delightful. It's good to have fun things to share together, but also feel free to do your own thing apart. That makes for a true relationship. Wishing you all the best on this Easter Day from the US.
I wasn’t a cat person, for the same reasons as Matt, until we rescued a cat. We had a 6 yr old rescued dog at that time and they figured out how to get along. Our life was enriched because of her so keep an open mind. If you have pus coming from your open sore, I suggest you see a doctor for antibiotics because it sounds like your cut is infected.
Not unless it's getting worse. The body knows how to heal. The reason we have so many antibiotic resistant bacteria and diseases is precisely because doctors gave antibiotics for things like that.
@cattymajiv if there's pus coming from an open wound you should definitely see a doctor. They can decide whether you can have local antiseptic treatment or if you need antibiotics. Yes, it's true we need to limit antibiotic use where possible, but if you have a nasty infection you will need them - sepsis kills.
I feel like a desert, and it is raining. Just absorbing all of what you have to share. Both of you make me smile and focus. Thank you for sharing your lives.
Everyone's minds process thoughs differently. Just because your mind jumps around doesn't mean there is anything wrong. You learn how to control your gifted imagination to solve problems in your way which is the correct way for you.
"The drawer opens and the cookies come out!" As a fellow after-dinner grazer, I've never laughed so hard at something I felt so personally attacked by...
It is always hard to be in front of a camera....don't sweat the small stuff...just be yourself...Jesse....don't change....Love your videos..Happy Easter
Questions for next episode: Would you ever get another tattoo? Favorite vacation ever? Do you Matt, ever introduce yourself with Mattia? Any special plans for the summer? What are your top priorities when it comes to horse welfare and training, and how do you integrate these priorities into your daily routines?
Couples sharing a sense of humor is inspirational. And being truly authentic with each other while still being caring for each other is indeed a beautiful thing to see.
I am a super fan and have been watching you both for years and this is the first video I have seen where the word ‘gay’ has even been spoken. I am all for people living their lives as privately or as openly as they wish, however, I also feel that positive queer representation is crucial in destroying stereotypes and stigma and being more open also allows you to control your own narrative. I wish you both the best and always look forward to seeing your content. You are both assets to the equestrian world. ❤
I agree! Jesse may be a bit ADHD but he is lovely and endearing just the way he is. If he feels he struggles in his day-to-day life, then by all means looks for aids that can help but as far as being a people person, Jesse is perfect. I wouldn't change a thing; it is sweet when Jesse gets distracted by beautiful flowers or animals in the field and loses his train of thought or interrupts Matt. It always makes their videos more entertaining, it's an unexpected bonus rather than a negative so I wouldn't want that to change.
I'd like to contribute an idea for your PODCAST: Many of us 498K are outsiders to the Horsing community. We don't even have the basic knowledge and vocabulary around horses. Maybe you can have a PODCAST episode(s) "Horses 101: stables and terminology" where you take us through completely foreign concepts like 'dressage' or 'turn-out', and many other terms and concepts that we hear you say every week, but have no idea what they actually mean. Like what are all the different areas of a stable and outdoor/indoor property called? What are the time tables, are horses moved in and out every day? Do they ever move about on their own? Etc. etc. etc. Literally starting at almost square one for many of us!
@@daviddougherty3687not weird at all. RUclips can enable all sorts of interests and hobbies. Weird that you’d think someone couldn’t develop an interest in something new. Hopefully you don’t apply that type of limited mindset to your life so that you are able to experience new things.
You just haven't seen the right cat we have had her since birth 15 years she gets bathed and nails trimmed doesn't jump on you or counter she is amazing
Jesse, i love how you share your journey with ADHD so openly! It definitely is nothing to be afraid of. I have been diagnosed with ADHD 5 years ago. For me, the ADHD diagnosis has never been a label, but the key to understanding, accepting and loving myself and my diversity, to efficiently work on my weaknesses and even turn some of them into strengths. And to shape my world to fit me instead of the other way around. Never ending process of course 😉 l wish you all the best on your journey!
I am so happy to hear you may resume show training with Emporio. You both did so well in Oct-2022. I think Emporio is really going to enjoy the show circuit where he can strut his stuff and have you focused on him. But I know you have many, many other interests. I love you and Jesse and the way you interact with each other and with your animals.
Matte. Get a pen and look carefully around the wound for redness. Draw a line along the edge of the red. Next morning, check to see if the redness has gone past the line. If it has it means infection is building! Please seek medical help.
Matt and Jesse: Thank you. I love your artwork. I’ve had horses in my life as long as I can remember. There is so much feeling in working with horses that is tactile so exemplified by what Jesse does and subtile and controlled with what Matt does. There’s a passion in your art and uniqueness you manifest and control so artistically that it becomes beautiful.
You two are so perfect as a team, each with qualities that the other can appreciate. Certainly had me laughing while just being yourselves. I was thinking maybe if you had pictures of all the beautiful horse facilities and the individual rooms as in tac rooms, et cetera It would help create a really nice visual for both you and us who aren't able to see in our heads, (just a thought). But surprises are nice too. I believe you two would have been friends at school, but the best is that you are friends and partners now, and that's what counts. Always good to see you, wishing you a Happy Easter, and good times ahead.❤️👍
Love this episode, of course. Would they have been friends in school? Hah! They found each other from half a world away...they would have obviously have come together that much sooner. The Universe was organized to bring them together. M: "I have never really lived alone." J: "Let's keep it that way." That may be my favorite exchange between them.
I just saw Matt's arm at the end of this video. it looks bad. Have you been to the doctor? Should be properly cleaned, possibly need antibiotics if infected, which the pus would indicate has happened. I ignored something like that until it started to be painful and the doctor yelled at me for not coming in sooner, said it could be dangerous. Don't be dismissive, get medical attention.
I love this podcast so much. Your energy is amazing, I love the banter, but also the genuine connection you guys have. I love the mix between personal behind the scenes stories and horse life. The setup is cool, it's honest and just focused on your life. These videos absolutely make my day, thank you for that :)
Have you thought about doing open mic at a local comedy club. The banter between the two of you is hilarious. What I like is that when you are ribbing one another or taking the piss it's done in a very sweet and gentle way. 🥰
Do you both realize how entertaining you are? Both of you have a good relationship and can easily laugh at yourselves in the process. It is good to have your own space to unwind but I think you can do that with your horses. Congratulate yourselves on living in a contained space and still getting along. There are some couples that can't even do that so Kudos to both of you for still getting along. Hope you find a place that you can call your own in the very near future.
I love these two. I guess they want to keep their private life private, but not sure why Matt is afraid to say the word “gay”, like it’s a dirty word. If they are gay, everyone would just love them even more. If they aren’t, they can just say that. Either way, love them and their channel.
I think it’s more that Jesse wasn’t super kind to himself when he said he only had girlfriends at school equals gay, as some sort of stereotype or insult. That’s why Matt was like ah no don’t say that! But yeah, I hope they know that they can be however open they want to be with us, we’d love them anyways and already do the way they are ❤
From what I got, he said "don't say that !" with the intention of meaning "don't call yourself a part of some crazy stereotype". I love how they keep private things private ❤
I think its because of the way Jesse used it. Depending on the context it's a meme saying "GAY" the way he did. Sometimes people use it humorously and sometimes people use it to be derogatory. But really i think it was just jokes between them/Matt not expecting him to be so expressive and saying it like that.🤷🏾♀️😂
21:28 .........Matt, although I could care less about anyone's sexuality, as I believe that is a part of someone but does not define them.....I can understand on a business level why you would say to Jesse "don't say that"....but on a human level, being told not to express yourself is quite a horrible thing to do. Yes, even in 2024 it is still difficult, dangerous and scary to be openly gay in society. However, with that being said, I'd prefer to be openly gay than an [openly] close-minded Christian National....I choose love, peace and good will over hatred, bigotry and intolerance. Whatever your relationship is with each other, isn't my business, I sub to you both because of your abilities as horsemen and businessmen as well as Jesse's humour and your gardening acumen. There are many types of people on this planet, some are overly boisterous, while some are content to live quietly in the 'burbs'....but all of us have a right to live as we please...just as long as we don't hurt others. So finally, I believe that hiding from hate, bigotry and intolerance only promotes that sentiment , and suppresses the good people have.
I think why Matt said "dont say that" in reaction to Jesse saying gay was more because its a bit of a (negative) stereotype to call someone gay simply because he only had girlfriends, and not necessarily because of something else 🙂 people always called me gay (negatively) because i also always only had girlfriends. In the end they were right (in my case at least, not saying thats the case about Jesse!)but like, its always said in a mocking way, you know. When no one should be ashamed of their sexuality 😊
Oh god he didn't say so ! I have a straight male friend who only has female friends and it is so annoying when people assume he is gay when he is not, just because he has female friends. Matt said no to the stereotype ! Also, I really really love how they keep their private lives private as I am so sure they have their own solid reasons for that.
You are such a delight Jesse - ADHD or not. Let’s not forget how attentive you are with the horses and it takes a lot of mental energy when your not speaking in your native tongue. I like Matt’s perfectionism. You’re my inspiration to just keep on working till I get it right. I like hearing about your various projects and inspirations. Would you both talk a bit about what it takes to manage the stable and how you choose the feed for the horses? What did you get right and what experiences inspired change?
I know they won’t as they keep their personal lives very private and that’s their choice but I’d love sometimes to see just a glimpse of them just being themselves together without worrying about keeping every single personal interaction between them hidden from the camera.
My husband and I tested positive for Covid yesterday so I was lying here feeling lousy. I needed a laugh. Thank you for brightening my day. Happy Easter to you both.
@@cattymajiv If you are concerned about other people getting ill, you should stay away from them if you are ill. Period. Doesn't matter if it is Flu, Rhino, RSV or a corona virus.
I work in a hospital. Leave policy is determined by results. My husband is asymptomatic but is a waiter. We don’t want to pass this on to others. And sometimes it’s just nice to know. We have a lot of flu and RSV going around as well.
This whole video is giving old married couple energies and I love it 😂
Me 2 lol
So entertaining!! 🤣
People keep saying that, but real old married couples don't relate that way or they wouldn't have made it to old married couple (imo).
I couldn't stop laughing. This is so lovely.
@@MegF142857 That's not true at all... Lots of old couples bicker because they know how far they can push the other other one with their banter. Typically to an outsider it seems rude or like one is being mean but within the couple, a lot of times they are so used to each other's sass that they can give it and take it.
Jesse is getting cheekier every episode. I love it! 😄
😂😂
His is Secretly Sassy and I love it!! 😆
Keep rocking the sass Jesse.. our boy is no little grey mouse!! ❤️ ❤️
@@paulamckibben1317 NO,NO HE ISN'T!!!
Jesse, there is nothing wrong with you. You are an angel in human form and you make the world a better place by being just the way you are.
Actually, that statement is not really true. I love Jesse but just like everyone else he has personal struggles and he should get tested for ADHD and have tools to make his life better.
@@kathleenchild I fully agree with that. If Jesse has a chance to find out, he gets a chance to learn why things are how they are. He does not need to change in any way, but he may understand things better. Which might lead to an even better life for him. And if Matt accompanies him along the way, that may lead to an even deeper and richer relationship.
if he feels he would like to get tested he should.👍@@SandraOrtmann1976
There is nothing wrong with Jesse...
Why does he have to have adhd, a label,, for being a sensitive, loving, caring human being, who is in touch with his true self. and says it like it is?
Jesse is so refreshingingly real in this world of fakeness, still a young man finding his way, which by the way, is doing a brilliant job from where I'm sitting!
So please, we could all learn alot from Jesse,
Let's embrace his charm and wonderful character as he is without assuming he needs fixing, testing, or having a label put on him.
(This is no way disrespectful to anyone who does have Adhd or similar,, I just feel Jesse doesn't fit into that category!)
Keep being you Jesse, I think you are brilliant!!
You too Matt! 😊
Just to make myself absolutely clear, I would NEVER say that someone with ADHD has something wrong with them. Taking steps to help himself understand things better isn’t going to change him and make him less Jesse.
Both of you need to remember that Jesse has to translate from his head to his mouth every time he speaks English. Watch Jesse in Dutch speaking videos, you will see the difference.
Very true,I noticed this right away when he speaks Dutch.😊
Welcome to speaking another language. 😅
Great observation! ❤
You can’t speak another language fluently if you have to translate your thoughts before speaking.
I'm sure they know this 😂
Jesse, you are totally fine... just be you. The person we all love. So kind and compassionate with your animals!
Jesse has the ability to make people fall in love with his cuteness and kind nature. Combined with his angelic appearance, this makes for an incredible combo. I'm a relatively new subscriber and this guy immediately caught my attention))))
Thank you guys again, cant wait for the next questions/topics😂
I wish I was allowed to get Instagram, you are the first person I’d follow! ❤
Question: Will we ever see a video of you riding Chase?
We love you tremendously ❣️❣️❣️❣️
@@LillyCrash Jesse does ride Chase in the video that he and Matt goes out for a ride together
MUCH LOVE TO YOU JESSE! 💌 from Vegas
I just love how Jesse gets progressively more sassy as these go on 😂
No! Don’t do an intro song! Keep it this exact way! Same background just sit down & talk & answer questions. With horses & stables in the background. We love it!
Agree I just skip intros
Giggly Jesse and Matt is the next level of cuteness 😂
I’m so glad Jesse and Matt seem to have a genuine love for each other and it shows in their talks.
Matt and Jesse........ Watching the two of you guys is amazing. The way you interact with one another. Comical, funny, and also just so caring.
You compliment one another. Soulmates.
Please don’t change anything, I really enjoy this format! You two being a mood for the whole time is everything! 😅
Jesse is so cute when he struggles to get his point across on something and Matt the looks on ur face as he goes through it is so sweet. You can tell that you guys care very deeply for each other....
21:28 it’s out Matt, there’s no taking it back, thanks Jesse, and it’s only going to get you more followers and admirers. Lots of us have been following you from the beginning because we knew that.
ADHD or not, Jesse we love you exactly as you are. Your personality is perfect for the job you do. People with ADHD are usually very intelligent and focus on many things at once and are able to go into a lot of detail. You are inspirational. Don't try to change!
Matt, don't write cats off too quickly. I was always a dog person until a stray cat moved in with me. I am deaf and I don't hear my alarm clock in the morning, but my 🐈⬛ does and then he wakes me up.
He is very loyal and sensitive and has been an excellent companion.
@@MegF142857 Him saying it in the beginning of the video?
@@Belle-s7c It wouldnt work with other horses where they are all free to move in the same space.
@@Belle-s7c I'd like to hear his reasoning, because if you want to restrict them for a while to just inside or just outside, you can. It is kind of mystifying.
One of the best yet. Authentic. Hilarious. Warm. Please keep sharing Matt & Jesse.
Things I love about Matt & Jesse (JMHO) ❤
- that Matt the big picture thinker is striving to build a life that makes both their hearts happy
- that when Jesse used to do competitions he left before medals were announced because he didn’t care where he & his horse ranked, just that they had fun together (they would have to phone him to tell him he won a medal 😅)
- that Matt has an amazing eye & can build them a beautiful home & grounds
- that Jesse was so worried about his pups losing their “childhood home” 🥹
- that Jesse helps loosen up Matt and get him smiling & Matt helps Jesse by creating a beautiful & organised home that I feel may help Jesse navigate life with less stress
- that both of them are just allround lovely human beings
Well said! I agree 100%!
Jessie is right about letting the horse decide if it wants to be inside or out. You could accommodate stallions by providing them with large individual pastures adjacent to their stable. Horses are meant to move and are much happier and healthier if they are free to do so. Love your Unstable series!
I have ADHD too and having a different thinking mind can truly be a gift! Neurodivergent people are super creative and emphatic, they have a big heart and find joy in the smallest things, have unique thinking patterns or solution strategies ❤
I wish I could see the positives more often. Thank you for reminding me. As someone working in tech, having adhd feels like an uphill battle most of the time haha
Hm, I always thought Jesse seemed more autistic. I'm no docter or anything, just was how he came arcoss to me.
Yes, everything you said sans ADHD: yet another label for what is unique and quirky...which schooling tries to diminish if not completely eradicate, hence only 20 minute lunch break and 20 minute break for recess in American public elementary schools, very limited arts/crafts, dance, and theater. This agenda of suppression is going to be history soon.
Yes,Yes They Do!
I have been following since Matt started thinking of his big move. The more I watch them the more I enjoy their relationship; Jesse has blossomed in front of the camera and Matt is even more relatable. A really adorable couple of guys. 😊
Again, I know nothing about horses and won’t ever have a horse, but here I am subscribed. I learn so much about this industry and lifestyle/niche business from Matt and Jesse. Like many subscribed to this channel, I’m really and always impressed by Matt and Jesse. Each of you are so talented in your own right. As a parent, I’d be so proud and happy about your accomplishments, hard work and how kind and ethical you both are. Beautiful on the outside and beautiful on the inside.
I liked Jesse’s stable, I just love the LAND and pastures much more than the barn. I also like stalls with attached runs so the horses have more space to move around and go in and outside.
Exatcly!
Loved the gentle chaos and authenticity of this. It brightened up an otherwise grey UK day!
The best-friends-giving-old-married-couple energy reminds me so much of me and my bestie, and I'm living for it
Aunt Johnny here: This channel is one of my very favorites! I discovered it when Matt was moving his horse and himself to the Netherlands. I really liked how he showed the whole trip. Then the life you guys have built in these last years is so encouraging. The things you have accomplished (even when the world lost its mind) is just phenomenal! Being a horse owner myself I know full well how responsible you have to be with them. I would not ever change the decision to have horses. Even on the Winter snowy mornings when it is cold, icy and slippery. I always look forward to your videos. The best to you both and Happy Easter.
That was a fun chat, Matt has really mellowed and Jesse is more confident, I found myself smiling through the whole thing.
Matt's storytelling is very precise. Like looking at a high-quality photograph.
Jesse's storytelling is like looking at a beautiful painting. You see it in your mind but also feel it in your heart.
This particular Unstable podcast is pure comedy gold. I have laughed myself silly at the two of you. I just know in the future when you guys have your own property, Jesse is going to have a bunch of barn cats lol. Who wants to bet that Matt will end up liking them, fly-away hair and all?
He'll have them in fancy collars and with Ipods to keep track of them outside. Lol Also the tallest fanciest cat trees.
Regarding ADHD, I see a lot of comments saying “no nothing is wrong.” I think that’s a bit negative because there’s nothing “wrong” with being neurodivergent if Jesse is. At the very least he can get evaluated if he feels the need to. And if he were to be diagnosed with ADHD or any other neurodivergent thing, it’s perfectly fine. Please do not diminish people who are neurodivergent! Someone’s mind working differently than what’s considered “typical” is not a negative thing. Their mind just works differently. Please be more open minded!
What a great comment, neuro diversity is not a ‘problem’ it is just a unique individual way of thought process that neuro typical do not understand - I teach many children and adults that are neurodiverse - dyslexia, dyspraxia, autism - these individuals are unique and certainly not at a disadvantage when it comes to training and riding horses 🐴🌅
You two are so wonderful, handsome and excellent horsemen. What a combination! I love how you laugh and joke but keep your minds working.
What wonderful news that you plan on raising foals!
Jesse you are an angel on this earth! You and Matt are blessed to have one another forever.
Well, this is a lovely Easter surprise! 🐰
These chatty Podcasts of you are my favourite thing on RUclips at the moment. Love the mix of horse-related, personal and random questions! Thank you for sharing a more private look into your relationship, I feel like we get to know you a lot better through these videos.
Looking forward to the next one, hope your April will be wonderful.
And @jesse go on a holiday, you deserve it!
Matt!!!! You treat a cat like a dog and reap the rewards of a loving, loyal animal as a result. I love cats. Mine come when called and are just as loving as a dog would be. As for the hair - make your cat a barn cat - and they will kill the mice for you. Also cats are generally very good with horses and horses like their quiet ways.
My cats have my dog completely under control
Jessie , we love you because you’re so REAL.
So many of us wish we could be like you. It’s pure and perfect!
The ending was the best 🤣 pronunciation is everything. Each time we learn a little more about you both and how two very different people make it work. Good Job!!
I can watch Jesse tease Matte all day. I would be a quiet friend behind the scenes helping out just to watch Matte freak out every time Jesse teases him. 😂😅
You guys really dont have to change anything... You both lighten my evening,
I swear Jesse just loves winding you up Matt, and the way you respond back is hilarious and sweet,
Keep it simple, real, and exactly how it is...❤
@matt_harnacke questions for the next one:
*How are Jesse's grandparents doing? Weren't they sick recently?
*Who is most likely to snore: Jesse, Matt, Penny, or Maisy?
*The Land Rover is Matt's dream car. Does Jesse have a dream car?
*Matt, you clearly love the English stately home/country house style. Which one is your favorite and have you been able to visit it?
*Pretend Steve or one of Jesse's siblings has a kid. Who's going to be the favorite uncle? Uncle Matt or uncle Jesse?
*What shows are in your Netflix queue? What shows are you not allowed to watch unless you're together?
*What are some ways to be involved in the horse world if you don't/can't have a horse at the moment?
*Do either of you have any tattoos other than the sun and moon? Do you want more? What would you get?
*Have you considered merch that isn't just for horses for those of us who love your channels and want to support you both, but don't have horses? Stuff like mugs, water bottles, shirts, calendars, etc etc?
I would love to get a mug!
Oh wow these questions are great. Love how you know and remember little details wohoo
Merch is a great idea!! Xx
On one of Jesse's tours he Does have some types of merchandise. A book, some t-shirts, hoodies and his horse merchandise. All on his web site.
@Joyfullscroll Nalanta is his web site. I would like to buy a mug with a picture of his horses on it so I can drink ginger tea with them during the "Unstable" podcast.
Nice to see you guys back in the stables again! Jesse, if I didn't already respect and admire you (which I do), your comments about cats would have earned my respect and admiration! You've made me so proud to be a member of your followers! "Why have a cat (if it doesn't do anything)?" "To give it a better life." Perfect answer!
Matt - I've used honey and honey-based ointments/salves/creams before. It's not pus - it's the body reacting (healing) to the medication. A good idea, if you haven't already, would be to have your doctor take a look at it, just to make sure the wound is healing properly. (An aside: after seeing how much your horses shed, you're complaining about *cat* hair?!!? Seriously???) I'm jealous of your Paris trip! Enjoy!
Fair point on the horse hair. He forgets dogs shed too. There Are various ways to gather the shedding. (Besides vacuuming. Get a Roomba type to keep on top of the shedding time.)
You 2 are a riot! I enjoyed this "unstable" immensely! More, please. I'm an old lady, nearly 75, but I live vicariously through you. Love you! ❤
I wanted to say that I love these one on one videos. Your chemistry is so delightful. It's good to have fun things to share together, but also feel free to do your own thing apart. That makes for a true relationship. Wishing you all the best on this Easter Day from the US.
Jesse gives me so much life, love this guy 🫶🏾
I love him,also!!!
Matt "We're going to the olympics" Jesse: "that's not really a holiday" Matt: "well it's certainly not HELL" I snorted my coffee😂😂😂
😂😂
I wasn’t a cat person, for the same reasons as Matt, until we rescued a cat. We had a 6 yr old rescued dog at that time and they figured out how to get along. Our life was enriched because of her so keep an open mind. If you have pus coming from your open sore, I suggest you see a doctor for antibiotics because it sounds like your cut is infected.
Not unless it's getting worse. The body knows how to heal. The reason we have so many antibiotic resistant bacteria and diseases is precisely because doctors gave antibiotics for things like that.
@cattymajiv if there's pus coming from an open wound you should definitely see a doctor. They can decide whether you can have local antiseptic treatment or if you need antibiotics. Yes, it's true we need to limit antibiotic use where possible, but if you have a nasty infection you will need them - sepsis kills.
I would like to see Jesse blindfolded and trying to guess the horses. I think it would be a lot of fun, since Matt already did it. 😁
I feel like a desert, and it is raining. Just absorbing all of what you have to share. Both of you make me smile and focus. Thank you for sharing your lives.
Love that ecxample👏😂 thank you!!
Everyone's minds process thoughs differently. Just because your mind jumps around doesn't mean there is anything wrong. You learn how to control your gifted imagination to solve problems in your way which is the correct way for you.
"The drawer opens and the cookies come out!" As a fellow after-dinner grazer, I've never laughed so hard at something I felt so personally attacked by...
It is always hard to be in front of a camera....don't sweat the small stuff...just be yourself...Jesse....don't change....Love your videos..Happy Easter
You guys are just the best!❤ Everybody is always loving Jesse (they are totally right!) But can we talk a Minute how caring and protective Matt is? ❤❤
MATT!! 🤣🤣🤣 your facial expression are so dang FUNNY 🤣🤣🤣🤣 when asking Jesse what his ideal stable would look like 🤣🤣🤣
YES...KEEP IT SIMPLE! It is most charming in this format. Great job, boys. Love from Aunt Cynthia.
Questions for next episode:
Would you ever get another tattoo?
Favorite vacation ever?
Do you Matt, ever introduce yourself with Mattia?
Any special plans for the summer?
What are your top priorities when it comes to horse welfare and training, and how do you integrate these priorities into your daily routines?
You two are wonderful together! ❤
Couples sharing a sense of humor is inspirational. And being truly authentic with each other while still being caring for each other is indeed a beautiful thing to see.
I think you guys are so good for each other. Your always there for each other in good and bad time.
You guys balance each other so well. Jesse, you are super creative and have such gifts...please don't change 💙🙏🥰🕊
You two are the sweetest people. I adore you both and love that you have each other.
I am a super fan and have been watching you both for years and this is the first video I have seen where the word ‘gay’ has even been spoken. I am all for people living their lives as privately or as openly as they wish, however, I also feel that positive queer representation is crucial in destroying stereotypes and stigma and being more open also allows you to control your own narrative. I wish you both the best and always look forward to seeing your content. You are both assets to the equestrian world. ❤
Exactly my relationship with them and I couldn’t have said it better. “Family” follower from 🇿🇦🏳️🌈
Love having the horses stick their heads out to say hi. For instance, Chase was welcoming us today. 🤗♥️🇨🇦🤓
smiled through the whole video :) happy easter
Jesse, embrace who you are, You are truly humble and endearing, never change for anyone!
I agree! Jesse may be a bit ADHD but he is lovely and endearing just the way he is. If he feels he struggles in his day-to-day life, then by all means looks for aids that can help but as far as being a people person, Jesse is perfect. I wouldn't change a thing; it is sweet when Jesse gets distracted by beautiful flowers or animals in the field and loses his train of thought or interrupts Matt. It always makes their videos more entertaining, it's an unexpected bonus rather than a negative so I wouldn't want that to change.
Agree..if you and Matt were closer to same type of personality, sense of humor, neat freaks your relationship might be a train wreck 😅😊!
❤😅❤
@@chasingfences1302 I totally agree! I love that about him.
Jesse you are amazing just how you are. And you deserve a nice holiday of your own choosing. 😉
I'd like to contribute an idea for your PODCAST: Many of us 498K are outsiders to the Horsing community. We don't even have the basic knowledge and vocabulary around horses. Maybe you can have a PODCAST episode(s) "Horses 101: stables and terminology" where you take us through completely foreign concepts like 'dressage' or 'turn-out', and many other terms and concepts that we hear you say every week, but have no idea what they actually mean. Like what are all the different areas of a stable and outdoor/indoor property called? What are the time tables, are horses moved in and out every day? Do they ever move about on their own? Etc. etc. etc. Literally starting at almost square one for many of us!
weird you would start to watch horsemen but cool.
@@daviddougherty3687not weird at all. RUclips can enable all sorts of interests and hobbies. Weird that you’d think someone couldn’t develop an interest in something new. Hopefully you don’t apply that type of limited mindset to your life so that you are able to experience new things.
You just haven't seen the right cat we have had her since birth 15 years she gets bathed and nails trimmed doesn't jump on you or counter she is amazing
That was a great update. You guys were just so natural and love watching you.
Matt is so domineering in conversation, Jesse is so gentle in his manner.
A great combination. Makes these so fun to watch and I don’t think it bothers Jesse. He loves to pick fun at Matt.
You Both are so sweeeet together ❣️ nice to See, that you found each other ✨
The BEST home remedy for wounds comes from NZ - Manuka Honey - also for horses.
Jesse, i love how you share your journey with ADHD so openly! It definitely is nothing to be afraid of. I have been diagnosed with ADHD 5 years ago. For me, the ADHD diagnosis has never been a label, but the key to understanding, accepting and loving myself and my diversity, to efficiently work on my weaknesses and even turn some of them into strengths. And to shape my world to fit me instead of the other way around. Never ending process of course 😉 l wish you all the best on your journey!
"What a life" is my favourite song Jesse! I'm glad you like it too ❤
It's great that you invite us more into your life and relationship! Happy Easter! 🐇🥚🧡
I am so happy to hear you may resume show training with Emporio. You both did so well in Oct-2022. I think Emporio is really going to enjoy the show circuit where he can strut his stuff and have you focused on him. But I know you have many, many other interests. I love you and Jesse and the way you interact with each other and with your animals.
Jesse, we love you just the way you are❤
You two are hilarious. Enjoy the simple format and the balance you provide to each other. So funny.
Matte. Get a pen and look carefully around the wound for redness. Draw a line along the edge of the red.
Next morning, check to see if the redness has gone past the line.
If it has it means infection is building!
Please seek medical help.
... and make sure your anti-tetanus vaccination is up-to-date (especially around horses)!!
He just did an update on insta today and it looks a lot better so it's not a worry
Thanks ... good to know... pretty nasty-looking after nearly two weeks.@@choco3424
@@choco3424thank you for the update.
Jesse was so sassy in this video...I love it💛💛
Matt and Jesse: Thank you. I love your artwork. I’ve had horses in my life as long as I can remember. There is so much feeling in working with horses that is tactile so exemplified by what Jesse does and subtile and controlled with what Matt does. There’s a passion in your art and uniqueness you manifest and control so artistically that it becomes beautiful.
Jesse is one of the most handsome people i've ever seen.
yes, this is true😍
And the kindest as well. 😊
@@annjohnson8437 yes
YES,YES HE IS!!😊😊
But Matt.... is not standing behind! They are both soooooo good looking!
Oh, Matt, the cat will rule the dog!! They will be friends in the end 😊😊 Most barns have both and they are just fine...you crack me up🤣
You two are so perfect as a team, each with qualities that the other can appreciate. Certainly had me laughing while just being yourselves. I was thinking maybe if you had pictures of all the beautiful horse facilities and the individual rooms as in tac rooms, et cetera It would help create a really nice visual for both you and us who aren't able to see in our heads, (just a thought). But surprises are nice too. I believe you two would have been friends at school, but the best is that you are friends and partners now, and that's what counts. Always good to see you, wishing you a Happy Easter, and good times ahead.❤️👍
OMG 😂😂😂. We are already 3 mins and no questions answered and its off the rails……I love it 🤣
this is literally my favourite ep yet!!
Love this episode, of course. Would they have been friends in school? Hah! They found each other from half a world away...they would have obviously have come together that much sooner. The Universe was organized to bring them together. M: "I have never really lived alone." J: "Let's keep it that way." That may be my favorite exchange between them.
I just saw Matt's arm at the end of this video. it looks bad. Have you been to the doctor? Should be properly cleaned, possibly need antibiotics if infected, which the pus would indicate has happened. I ignored something like that until it started to be painful and the doctor yelled at me for not coming in sooner, said it could be dangerous. Don't be dismissive, get medical attention.
@@paxriv He updated us on insta a few days ago and it looked a lot better!!
I love this podcast so much. Your energy is amazing, I love the banter, but also the genuine connection you guys have. I love the mix between personal behind the scenes stories and horse life. The setup is cool, it's honest and just focused on your life. These videos absolutely make my day, thank you for that :)
Have you thought about doing open mic at a local comedy club. The banter between the two of you is hilarious. What I like is that when you are ribbing one another or taking the piss it's done in a very sweet and gentle way. 🥰
Do you both realize how entertaining you are? Both of you have a good relationship and can easily laugh at yourselves in the process. It is good to have your own space to unwind but I think you can do that with your horses. Congratulate yourselves on living in a contained space and still getting along. There are some couples that can't even do that so Kudos to both of you for still getting along. Hope you find a place that you can call your own in the very near future.
I love these two. I guess they want to keep their private life private, but not sure why Matt is afraid to say the word “gay”, like it’s a dirty word. If they are gay, everyone would just love them even more. If they aren’t, they can just say that. Either way, love them and their channel.
Matt has indeed said he wants to keep his love life private - that interview was years ago tho
I think it’s more that Jesse wasn’t super kind to himself when he said he only had girlfriends at school equals gay, as some sort of stereotype or insult. That’s why Matt was like ah no don’t say that! But yeah, I hope they know that they can be however open they want to be with us, we’d love them anyways and already do the way they are ❤
From what I got, he said "don't say that !" with the intention of meaning "don't call yourself a part of some crazy stereotype". I love how they keep private things private ❤
My interpretation was that he was saying not to say it in that way, like the stereotype, even if Jesse was saying it as a joke
I think its because of the way Jesse used it. Depending on the context it's a meme saying "GAY" the way he did. Sometimes people use it humorously and sometimes people use it to be derogatory. But really i think it was just jokes between them/Matt not expecting him to be so expressive and saying it like that.🤷🏾♀️😂
I love these Q&A episodes and your interaction. You both make me smile 😊❤❤
21:28 .........Matt, although I could care less about anyone's sexuality, as I believe that is a part of someone but does not define them.....I can understand on a business level why you would say to Jesse "don't say that"....but on a human level, being told not to express yourself is quite a horrible thing to do.
Yes, even in 2024 it is still difficult, dangerous and scary to be openly gay in society. However, with that being said, I'd prefer to be openly gay than an [openly] close-minded Christian National....I choose love, peace and good will over hatred, bigotry and intolerance.
Whatever your relationship is with each other, isn't my business, I sub to you both because of your abilities as horsemen and businessmen as well as Jesse's humour and your gardening acumen.
There are many types of people on this planet, some are overly boisterous, while some are content to live quietly in the 'burbs'....but all of us have a right to live as we please...just as long as we don't hurt others.
So finally, I believe that hiding from hate, bigotry and intolerance only promotes that sentiment , and suppresses the good people have.
I think why Matt said "dont say that" in reaction to Jesse saying gay was more because its a bit of a (negative) stereotype to call someone gay simply because he only had girlfriends, and not necessarily because of something else 🙂 people always called me gay (negatively) because i also always only had girlfriends. In the end they were right (in my case at least, not saying thats the case about Jesse!)but like, its always said in a mocking way, you know. When no one should be ashamed of their sexuality 😊
Oh god he didn't say so ! I have a straight male friend who only has female friends and it is so annoying when people assume he is gay when he is not, just because he has female friends. Matt said no to the stereotype ! Also, I really really love how they keep their private lives private as I am so sure they have their own solid reasons for that.
@@Belle-s7cits bc Matt has said many years ago that he would never be public about his relationships- that’s the reason why they avoid the topic
@@Belle-s7c yea but it was two different interviews
@@Belle-s7coh my word you are not their public defender if they have a problem with that statement I'm sure they would be vocal about it
You are such a delight Jesse - ADHD or not. Let’s not forget how attentive you are with the horses and it takes a lot of mental energy when your not speaking in your native tongue. I like Matt’s perfectionism. You’re my inspiration to just keep on working till I get it right. I like hearing about your various projects and inspirations. Would you both talk a bit about what it takes to manage the stable and how you choose the feed for the horses? What did you get right and what experiences inspired change?
I really love this more and more personal vibe with you. Thanks for sharing all this with us 💕
Omy you 2 are so funny 😂 I love these vlogs and I love your relationship ❤
I know they won’t as they keep their personal lives very private and that’s their choice but I’d love sometimes to see just a glimpse of them just being themselves together without worrying about keeping every single personal interaction between them hidden from the camera.
You are so nice. I laughing the whole time. Happy Eastern to you and all the people arround you
Obviously a couple, the way they look at each other, just lovely
My husband and I tested positive for Covid yesterday so I was lying here feeling lousy. I needed a laugh. Thank you for brightening my day. Happy Easter to you both.
Why test? It won't make anything different.
@@lieke9460 Um, so that you can avoid giving it to others, so that vulnerable babies and old people don't die from it! Duh ! ! !
@@cattymajiv If you are concerned about other people getting ill, you should stay away from them if you are ill. Period. Doesn't matter if it is Flu, Rhino, RSV or a corona virus.
I work in a hospital. Leave policy is determined by results. My husband is asymptomatic but is a waiter. We don’t want to pass this on to others. And sometimes it’s just nice to know. We have a lot of flu and RSV going around as well.
@@rlesourd7680 which is fine to pass ofcourse.
You two are so funny together. One if my favourite adventures you had were the trips to Africa.
This was so good, and light, and enjoyable!!! Love all the sass Jesse was giving Matt!!