Great video again steve, I'm 14 days AF and the changes already are overwhelming. Both myself and girlfriend would drink every night, but hold down good jobs. Weekends consisted of 6/7 tins of export lager, followed by 6 or so quadruple Whiskeys, drinking for the high, to get pissed after a hard week at work. Solid boozing over Christmas and having heartburn and an uncomfortable descended stomach was my trigger to stop, I looked at my puffy face, the greyish complexion and red eyes and realised that at 60, I maybe had half a dozen years left and then a slow and painful slide into the grave. I previously did the gym for 10 years, looked after myself, but it eventually caught up with me, the high standards dropped and I was starting to become a shadow of my former self. Today, writing this, im feeling strong and your channel has cemented my motivation and reasons for staying off the poison and to wind the clock back up. Thanks for sharing your stories and experiences, its priceless for me and many others mate 👍
Alcohol held me prisoner from my teens into my early 30's. Spending the prime of my life in a drunken haze and battling mental health issues when the alcohol was masking those issues. Its never too late to stop and turn your life around. 2 years sober in April and its a bloody miracle for me.
Fantastic message…well done on your sobriety… Please subscribe & keep chatting 👍
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@stevencurry215 Thank you this channel has been a godsend for me especially through Christmas. I struggle with certain events like Christmas , birthdays like many people
Thanks Steven for today's powerful message. Today is Sunday and when I was drinking i did nothing on Sundays. Today I'm living sober and Sundays are beautiful days. Love your great channel. You look amazing mate ❤
Brought it all back Steven, you just told my story. The squalid flat, wretching up every, hospitals, police cells. Can't remember 30 year of my life but I can remember the last 18 sober years 😁 Thank you...
Totally agree that alcoholics do tend to be quite kind and caring people, and definitely over think things, and perhaps feel guilt more keenly than most people as well.
When I was drinking I felt guilt and fear and shame. I only occasionally feel shame when I think about the things I did when I was drunk. That was years ago and the people that I harmed probably don't remember. But I do. That is part of the reason I remain sober today.
Yes we are. Seems a lot more patience and empathy for someone around us that is hammered. I always want to help them because I needed help so many times and no one was there to help me 😢
Thanks Steve, i watch every day and it is like my daily therapy. Part of my drink problem was that in my head i felt i had to be the life and soul of the party in all social situations and drink helped with that. Then as i got older i started to rely on a couple of sneeky drinks before going out, so i was already lively and ahead of the crowd. I felt a need to please and entertain everyone else, and drink helped me believe i could do that. I felt i was much better company, more funny, much more talkative. Soon drink takes hold of you and i would be drinking 8/10 cans of cider before even turning up to any social event. 2 - 3 hours into the evening when everyone else has had a few drinks i would be on my 12th or 13th and everyone would just look at me shaking there heads and questioning what had happened to me. i would be past the point of even holding a conversation and be a complete nightmare, falling over, being sick and this would be before the night had really began for most people, i would be a complete mess and make an absolute fool of myself. The paranoia the next day was horrendous. Then i introverted to not going out at all so i didnt make a fool of myself, over time i was hooked and drank 25-35 cans of cider everyday on my own in the house and avoided all social events at any cost. People who did know me well + would run into me time to time would ask whats happened to you, and whats wrong, you have changed. I couldnt bring myself to tell them because then i would have to admit i had a problem to myself. Eventually I spent 2 years in and out of hospital with pancreatitis + and it took that and a strong chat of a friend to eventually stop. Few blips along the way since but on the straight and narrow again now not drinking , and Steve you have helped with this no end.
The way I cracked it is to say to yourself the brutal fact is you can’t have even one sip of alcohol ever again. It’s harsh BUT! you will never ever have any blips ever again that’s for sure. Alcoholics like us can’t control their drinking FACT!!!!! The only way to end it is not have one sip ever again. If you can do that you will never go back down that road of misery ever. I’m 27 years sober by the not having a sip mentality. It worked.
Really like your very powerful, sincere and straight talking messages within your videos. It sounds like you have found or continue to find great meaning from the suffering you had experienced. Great work
Thanks it's a depressing thought but drinkers, especially the younger ones, should hear it. It could break their denial, however I know most won't watch, unfortunately the people here are already deep into it... But we must hear the truth too..
Dont beat yourself up, you cant get them years back. God didnt give us the power to go back in time, but he gave us the power to shape our here and now.
Hi I’m sort of 61 days sober BUT sadly since New Year I have fallen off the wagon twice with a few brandy’s….. bad I know… but I hope I’m doing okish compared to 61 days non stop bottles of wine? You are doing amazing. Well done Steve. 😊
Don't worry Mandy. I was 3 months dry going into New Years and lost my way again. "Just 1 beer to be social" turned into a week of heavy drinking. Almost worse than ever, like a rebound. A few days dry again now. I think we just have to accept these slips and get back on track ASAP. They should happen less and less.
Hi Mamdy Don't best yourself to about a lapse . Learn from it instead. Do you want to go back to your old ways ? I think you've already decided that toy don't. So keep going 1 day at a time . Don't look too far ahead. I started my recovery in Feb and had 2 lapses . But I'm now 193 days sober . It's hard work but keep going and the benefits are amazing . I know it's not for everyone but I went on medication to stop the cravings x I wish you well Mandy ❤
Hey Steve....on good days my partner functions fairly well on bad days he simply can't....I do feel our relationship is sadly suffering due to his alcoholism..he spends more time at home, sometimes due to his cirrhosis too tired to do anything but sleep..I hope you and everyone has had a good weekend...it's been cold but sunny here, you could say perfect Winter days....🙏
That is in the past. Leave it there. You cannot control the past but can control how you feel about it, you can also control what happens in your future. Life can be tough and people use/used alcohol as a coping strategy. You are doing a good thing with your life atm. If you haven't already considered it, would you (or the person reading this) ever consider training to be an addiction counsellor? The best addiction counsellors are recovering from addiction themselves. Opinions are my own.
We make decisions. As alcoholics we understand alcohol hits us different. We should know better but sometimes its so far down the road recovery is very difficult by the time the realizations hit. Hopefully you haven't burned the lifelines of loved ones, employment, housing, health by the time you understand. But never give up. You can get sober.Keep fighting. Good luck to all.
Well said, i wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Yes we are often very kind and caring, i am to a fault and although i have stopped people pleasing, i still love to spoil people and look after them j would always give them more than me but im also not very materialistic and realise you arent even the job you do or how much you acheive, etc it doesn't mean a thing really. So happy you are not in that nightmare anymore Steven
@stevencurry215 hi thank you Steven yes I am going on hols next week to canaries just looking at the hotel and all the reviews talk about is the cocktails and drinks 😱 looking forward to it but on my guard now I will be on the coca cola and thanks to your channel for my inspiration 💖💖💖
Hi Steve I loved the 'hair of the dog' cartoon 😅 Did you say your daughter did it? Would she have time to do one or two more? Laughter is good medicine. Best Lesley
Alcoholics, when there was a free bar, whether it was a wedding, celebration or New Year's Eve, would be the first at the drinks table and the last to leave.
Mate, my Dad is going through something. I can't contact him cos' he drinks and my letters set him off. How can I manage this? Should I write anyway? Appreciate your opinion. Btw, I heard your Geordie accent and my Dad's from Northumberland. Thanks for all your vlogs. Props. to you for sharing. Have a nice day😊.
Hi mate. I think alchol is as dangerous as smoking but unlike smoking is actively encouraged . When i was in tge job I went to many rta s some were fatals , a large amount of them were alchol related
@@stevencurry215 only when i was determined to get drunk but i always felt the decision was in my hands. Except maybe for one phase in Dublin about 2002 when if i went into a bar and started drinking whisky, i couldnt be sure id be able to stop before blackout. i quit for a year and a half that time cause id just bough an apartment and knew i wouldnt cope if i didnt quit. i remember sitting crying in it one night cause i knew i have to quit but i was fine in a week or two.
I would say you have wasted your life not the alcohol, the drink did not make you use, its your choice The power of choice. I am glad you are sober now.
I really need your help ste. Ive had to admit and own something that im happy but ashamed of too. Ive been hiding. My dad was a copper in moss side in the 80s. Please contact me
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@stevencurry215 how long have you been sober now ?
Great video again steve, I'm 14 days AF and the changes already are overwhelming. Both myself and girlfriend would drink every night, but hold down good jobs. Weekends consisted of 6/7 tins of export lager, followed by 6 or so quadruple Whiskeys, drinking for the high, to get pissed after a hard week at work. Solid boozing over Christmas and having heartburn and an uncomfortable descended stomach was my trigger to stop, I looked at my puffy face, the greyish complexion and red eyes and realised that at 60, I maybe had half a dozen years left and then a slow and painful slide into the grave. I previously did the gym for 10 years, looked after myself, but it eventually caught up with me, the high standards dropped and I was starting to become a shadow of my former self. Today, writing this, im feeling strong and your channel has cemented my motivation and reasons for staying off the poison and to wind the clock back up. Thanks for sharing your stories and experiences, its priceless for me and many others mate 👍
At the age of 75 I now feel I have a future. Thank you. 🎉
You are very welcome 👍
Alcohol held me prisoner from my teens into my early 30's. Spending the prime of my life in a drunken haze and battling mental health issues when the alcohol was masking those issues. Its never too late to stop and turn your life around. 2 years sober in April and its a bloody miracle for me.
Fantastic message…well done on your sobriety…
Please subscribe & keep chatting 👍
@stevencurry215 Thank you this channel has been a godsend for me especially through Christmas. I struggle with certain events like Christmas , birthdays like many people
Thanks Steven for today's powerful message. Today is Sunday and when I was drinking i did nothing on Sundays. Today I'm living sober and Sundays are beautiful days. Love your great channel. You look amazing mate ❤
Thanks Micky agreed after a Saturday night out Sundays were a write off 😮❤
Brought it all back Steven, you just told my story. The squalid flat, wretching up every, hospitals, police cells. Can't remember 30 year of my life but I can remember the last 18 sober years 😁 Thank you...
Sunday was always hair of the dog for me and would get back on the drink and Monday morning everything hit me guilt shame and disappointed in myself
Totally agree that alcoholics do tend to be quite kind and caring people, and definitely over think things, and perhaps feel guilt more keenly than most people as well.
You are spot on !!!👍♥️
A lot were mis diagnosed and are on the spectrum or have a mood disorder
When I was drinking I felt guilt and fear and shame. I only occasionally feel shame when I think about the things I did when I was drunk. That was years ago and the people that I harmed probably don't remember. But I do. That is part of the reason I remain sober today.
Yes we are. Seems a lot more patience and empathy for someone around us that is hammered. I always want to help them because I needed help so many times and no one was there to help me 😢
@@karenlea8110 Totally agree Karen! Exactly the same as me....
Stopping drinking alcohol is the best thing I ever did.
Thanks Steve, i watch every day and it is like my daily therapy. Part of my drink problem was that in my head i felt i had to be the life and soul of the party in all social situations and drink helped with that. Then as i got older i started to rely on a couple of sneeky drinks before going out, so i was already lively and ahead of the crowd. I felt a need to please and entertain everyone else, and drink helped me believe i could do that. I felt i was much better company, more funny, much more talkative. Soon drink takes hold of you and i would be drinking 8/10 cans of cider before even turning up to any social event. 2 - 3 hours into the evening when everyone else has had a few drinks i would be on my 12th or 13th and everyone would just look at me shaking there heads and questioning what had happened to me.
i would be past the point of even holding a conversation and be a complete nightmare, falling over, being sick and this would be before the night had really began for most people, i would be a complete mess and make an absolute fool of myself. The paranoia the next day was horrendous. Then i introverted to not going out at all so i didnt make a fool of myself, over time i was hooked and drank 25-35 cans of cider everyday on my own in the house and avoided all social events at any cost. People who did know me well + would run into me time to time would ask whats happened to you, and whats wrong, you have changed. I couldnt bring myself to tell them because then i would have to admit i had a problem to myself.
Eventually I spent 2 years in and out of hospital with pancreatitis + and it took that and a strong chat of a friend to eventually stop.
Few blips along the way since but on the straight and narrow again now not drinking , and Steve you have helped with this no end.
Thank you for sharing this personal story ..it is good for others to read
Your supporting is wonderful..Thank you 👍
The way I cracked it is to say to yourself the brutal fact is you can’t have even one sip of alcohol ever again. It’s harsh BUT! you will never ever have any blips ever again that’s for sure. Alcoholics like us can’t control their drinking FACT!!!!! The only way to end it is not have one sip ever again. If you can do that you will never go back down that road of misery ever. I’m 27 years sober by the not having a sip mentality. It worked.
When you are an alcoholic you are very selfish not for you but for the drink
when you quit you have to put yourself first as you are quite sick.
Very true 👍
Really like your very powerful, sincere and straight talking messages within your videos. It sounds like you have found or continue to find great meaning from the suffering you had experienced. Great work
Thank you for your kind words & support 👍
Thanks it's a depressing thought but drinkers, especially the younger ones, should hear it. It could break their denial, however I know most won't watch, unfortunately the people here are already deep into it... But we must hear the truth too..
Well said ..thank you 👍
Thank you Steven, a huge help
One day sober is worth a hundred years drunk - that’s a deep one. Will remember that. Very true. Wishing everyone a healthy start to the new week 🙏
Dont beat yourself up, you cant get them years back. God didnt give us the power to go back in time, but he gave us the power to shape our here and now.
Hi I’m sort of 61 days sober BUT sadly since New Year I have fallen off the wagon twice with a few brandy’s….. bad I know… but I hope I’m doing okish compared to 61 days non stop bottles of wine? You are doing amazing. Well done Steve. 😊
You can do it! Mandy you’re doing great ..early relapse is part of recovery
Please subscribe & keep chatting 👍
Awww thanks for your reply….. I have subscribed😀. Hope i continue to hear from you.
Don't worry Mandy. I was 3 months dry going into New Years and lost my way again. "Just 1 beer to be social" turned into a week of heavy drinking. Almost worse than ever, like a rebound. A few days dry again now. I think we just have to accept these slips and get back on track ASAP. They should happen less and less.
Hi Mamdy
Don't best yourself to about a lapse . Learn from it instead.
Do you want to go back to your old ways ?
I think you've already decided that toy don't.
So keep going 1 day at a time . Don't look too far ahead.
I started my recovery in Feb and had 2 lapses .
But I'm now 193 days sober .
It's hard work but keep going and the benefits are amazing .
I know it's not for everyone but I went on medication to stop the cravings x
I wish you well Mandy ❤
@@mickypoo Awww thank you that’s put me in a much better mood this morning. 3 months that’s amazing….. 🤩 I’m back on track today.
Hey Steve....on good days my partner functions fairly well on bad days he simply can't....I do feel our relationship is sadly suffering due to his alcoholism..he spends more time at home, sometimes due to his cirrhosis too tired to do anything but sleep..I hope you and everyone has had a good weekend...it's been cold but sunny here, you could say perfect Winter days....🙏
Thank you Nikki..I understand the good & bad days…I wish I could do more for you & him ♥️
Sounds familiar Nikki..we just have to keep the alcoholic in our thoughts and hope tomorrow may be 1 st day of their sobriety
Still thinking of you nikki...God bless xx❤
You are a fine woman. I suspect that many women would have left the relationship by now. I wish you and your partner well.
That is in the past. Leave it there. You cannot control the past but can control how you feel about it, you can also control what happens in your future. Life can be tough and people use/used alcohol as a coping strategy. You are doing a good thing with your life atm. If you haven't already considered it, would you (or the person reading this) ever consider training to be an addiction counsellor? The best addiction counsellors are recovering from addiction themselves. Opinions are my own.
We make decisions. As alcoholics we understand alcohol hits us different. We should know better but sometimes its so far down the road recovery is very difficult by the time the realizations hit. Hopefully you haven't burned the lifelines of loved ones, employment, housing, health by the time you understand. But never give up. You can get sober.Keep fighting. Good luck to all.
Well said, i wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. Yes we are often very kind and caring, i am to a fault and although i have stopped people pleasing, i still love to spoil people and look after them j would always give them more than me but im also not very materialistic and realise you arent even the job you do or how much you acheive, etc it doesn't mean a thing really. So happy you are not in that nightmare anymore Steven
@@pimlicofox Thank you …I hope you are well 👍
@stevencurry215 hi thank you Steven yes I am going on hols next week to canaries just looking at the hotel and all the reviews talk about is the cocktails and drinks 😱 looking forward to it but on my guard now I will be on the coca cola and thanks to your channel for my inspiration 💖💖💖
@@pimlicofoxhi foxy x..hope you well and happy..god bless❤
Hi Steve
I loved the 'hair of the dog' cartoon 😅
Did you say your daughter did it? Would she have time to do one or two more?
Laughter is good medicine.
Best
Lesley
@@lesleyjoli27000 hi I will ask her ..can you e mail me please
Stevencurry54321@gmail.com
@@lesleyjoli27000 my daughter is happy for you to e mail her katycurry11@gmail.com
Hi Steve
I'm so thick, I can't work out how to email you from this Gmail account 🙄 Duh. ...
I asked about your daughter's artwork.
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I thought her cartoons brought a lovely lighter touch to a very serious issue. 😊
Your vids make me mek a cup of tea with biscuits at 4 in the morning instead of slamming half a bottle of vodka -Geordie Dave (still in Thailand) x
Good lad
Alcoholics, when there was a free bar, whether it was a wedding, celebration or New Year's Eve, would be the first at the drinks table and the last to leave.
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Thank you zz
You’re welcome 😊 thank you for subscribing & for your support 👍
Mate, my Dad is going through something. I can't contact him cos' he drinks and my letters set him off. How can I manage this? Should I write anyway? Appreciate your opinion. Btw, I heard your Geordie accent and my Dad's from Northumberland. Thanks for all your vlogs. Props. to you for sharing. Have a nice day😊.
Hi mate. I think alchol is as dangerous as smoking but unlike smoking is actively encouraged .
When i was in tge job I went to many rta s some were fatals , a large amount of them were alchol related
Agreed Paul we have both seen what Destruction Alcohol can cause
Hope you are well
What exactly is on the wall in the background? Looks like cds
Hi there it’s wallpaper.. thank you for watching the channel
Please subscribe & keep chatting 🙏
you didnt seem to blackout that often Steven , would that be correct to say,
Only when I had the seizures..how about you ?
@@stevencurry215 only when i was determined to get drunk but i always felt the decision was in my hands. Except maybe for one phase in Dublin about 2002 when if i went into a bar and started drinking whisky, i couldnt be sure id be able to stop before blackout. i quit for a year and a half that time cause id just bough an apartment and knew i wouldnt cope if i didnt quit. i remember sitting crying in it one night cause i knew i have to quit but i was fine in a week or two.
I was the first one to fall over when I was younger I would guzzle drink as fast as I could
Those of us who have broken free are so lucky to be here 👍
It's true, but to be fully honest: We also allowed alcohol steal our lives.
Isolation ❤you end up isolating .
So true Mack
HELP
Do you ever drink non alcoholic beers or not bother?
I would say you have wasted your life not the alcohol, the drink did not make you use, its your choice The power of choice. I am glad you are sober now.
I really need your help ste. Ive had to admit and own something that im happy but ashamed of too. Ive been hiding. My dad was a copper in moss side in the 80s. Please contact me
Can you e mail me
Stevenalcoholfreelifestyle@gmail.com