yes but that was a psychatric thing ( burnout) they had a buffet for dinner and breakfast and you could choose from 4 options for lunch it was in fact pretty good but i also had some stuff that i wozuld not feed pigs with ( they woult not eat it )
For a german, it's interesting hearing you talk about "delivery" all the time, instead of birth. Sounds like putting the mother in the role of a delivery boy.
@@holger_p it is used in another context. It means to set someone free from something. Like jemanden von der Schweigepflicht entbinden. Means to Release someone from confidentiality. Overall its mostly a release from a obligation or burden
I'm just blown away from the high mother and baby death rates in the US(the highest in the western world). It just show that good care, public health insurance and maternity leave like you experienced in Germany can save many lives.
Yes. I think in US it is the High amount of Home delivery where it takes longer to get a doctor if anything goes wrong. Of course costs are one of the reasons for taking the decision to do a home delivery.
The thing concerning midwives and doctors is, that midwives are highly training in delivering babies, while a doctor is there to observe in case something really bad happens. Midwives leave the room, and keep checking in, because they have no real reason to stay in the delivery room. Expecting parents are expected to have visited a course about what will happen. (Many expecting mothers also dont want to be observed all the time by some random people even if they are healthcare professionals)
In Dänemark the midwife is the specialist, too. And their education is intense and long. Almost as long as the doctor. The doctor comes at the scene in case of abnormal situation, c-sections etc.
Historically it's more the experienced woman from the village. And they can take more time, cause they are cheaper than a doctor - but more specialized than a nurse.
Ok, i work in german hospitals for the last 20 yrs. so some things towards the food: If you cook food in a german Hospital, you have to heat everything to 100° C to secure, that theres no contermination on the food of any kind. So Pasta is usually overcooked, potatoes are overcooked and so on. Everythings cooks way longer, than you would do at home. Also, the food arives at the ward mostly 30-60 minutes before serving. So anything crunchy will be steamed in its own juices and become soggy. The Omlett with the salted potatoes and the spinach is btw. a typical german meal i grew up with as a kid. Oh, and the sugar is for the tea youre goin to make yourself for lunch ^^
1. Congratulations! I hope your child will bring you lots of joy! 2. Hospitals have around 7-8 Euros per day for the whole food of one patient. Usually they make acceptable lunch. I'm a german physician and during my 8 years in our hospitals I got to eat the same meals as the patients. Mostly thye were good, but there is always some exceptions to the rule. There also is some differences between hospitals. 3. Midwifes in Germany are great! They will not only deliver babies, they care for mother and child months before birth and sometimes do this also for some weeks after birth.
Hey, I‘m a German ObGyn doctor working in obstetrics daily. Feel free to ask me anything in response to this comment. Some input by me: We are generally very welcoming towards epidurals. Sometimes, there are situations where we just know it makes no sense. For example, if you wish to deliver under water. Or when the baby is just about to come. Sorry to hear about the bismal food, which looks like what I saw in hospitals like 10 years ago. Trust me, there are much better ones out there 😬
You have forgotten one important thing - infant mortality in the USA is almost twice as high as in Germany (source: Wikipedia). THAT makes a big different. Not the meal.
When I was at college in the US, I needed a root canal done. As it turned out my mandatory US insurance only covered “accidents”. It was cheaper to fly to Germany and back, and get it done for free. Paying, what, around 30k for a birth? Skin contact afterwards (holding it) an extra fee? That’s just unimaginable to me. 🤯
Its unimaginable because it is greatly exaggerated. No one pays that and most people have insurance that covers nearly all of it. There are poor people in America who have no insurance that are having babies everyday. You honestly think people pay $30000 to have a baby. As for your tooth did you have Dental insurance. If you did it would have covered the cost of your root canal.
@@bengaljam4550 BS, then hundreds of americans I talked to here in the Ramstein do not support your opinion. And every documentation about healthcare in the US tells otherwise. Even Americans with insurance often avoid going to gthe doctor or hospitals, because of the exta cost.
@@andreashorn9638 Oh yes. Ramstein. I was stationed at Sembach Air Base in the early 80's. Would like to go back someday and see how the area has changed. AS far as healthcare in America all I can add is that is not how it has been for me and the people I know here. It's a country of 350 million people. Most people have insurance. I am sure you can find instances of the health care system and its failures. As far as avoiding going to the hospital. I avoid it too. Not because of the costs but because it is a hassle. In America if you go to the hospital everyone wants a piece of the pie. Show up with a broken finger and they will do X-rays and a surgeon will say it needs to be surgically repaired. Then a physical therapist will tell you you need 9 weeks of physical therapy. Then you have to take time off from work. I will go if I truly need it but if I can heal at home I will. All I am saying is most of what I am hearing on these posts is for the most part exaggeration. Not saying it can't happen. All these posts of people trying to compare Germany and America is crazy. You can't compare two countries with complete different set of values and population. America is very diverse with a lot of differing viewpoints. Having a German style healthcare would be nice in America i agree but people would abuse it. Same people would show up everyday with different ailments. Drug abusers and homeless.
Congratulations! I'm an American who had a baby in Germany on Christmas day 2021. I agree with everything you talked about in this video. I ended up having an emergency csection and sadly couldn't get a family room so had to take care of our baby by myself. I do not know German and had to use an app a few times with different midwives but overall most knew English. Also it's been 6 months and I've hadn't had to pay anything for my 4 day hospital stay.
@@karinland8533 I think due to Corona they were letting people leave a little earlier. I had my surgery the 25th and left the 29th. My husband could only visit an hour a day with a negative test as well. They were very strict.
@@kelseypeterson4754 you can be happy they led him in for that hour ... i had a surgery a year earlyer and was in hospital for christmas and new year without anybody ;) that was a real stresstest
@@kelseypeterson4754 they've done that short stay pre covid already, it depends on the well-being of baby and mum. I had a c-section in 2017 late on a Friday night and I was able to leave the hospital on Monday morning 🤗
Hey, German girl here :) The sugar is for the coffee. Most Germans drink coffee after Lunch, that's why hospitals almost always have a shared coffee machine for the patients :)
My wife and I split our Elternzeit after our son was born - so each of us had seven months with him at home, me (obviously) having the later 7. It has been a really great experience I can highly recommend. Being there 24/7 when he started to conquer his world from sitting up over the first steps up to the "Eingewöhnung" at the Kindergarten was quite a voyage :)
As a German, I have to say that it is actually perfectly normal in Germany to have a hot lunch and cold dinner. Have you ever asked where the American "Abendbrot" for cold dinner comes from? That's just German for dinner XD Coincidence? ;) But good hospital food... warm? It's a commercial kitchen.... they cook a lot, but rarely good...
Just an aside regarding food: I stayed in a Swedish hospital for 10 days and I GAINED weight. The food was fantastic. Plus in Sweden, if you are mobile, you join other patients in a dining room, so you have some social contact. We were served breakfast, lunch and dinner plus snacks (pastry or sandwiches) three times a day.
bei meinem letzten Krankenhausaufenthalt, habe ich abgenommen. 11 Tage 3 Implantate in meinem Knie - und ich wog 8 KG weniger. Es gab fast nur "Kinderteller" . . . . 😂😂😂
Believe me. You saved him a lot of problems by dropping the IV. I work in IT and all databases I deal with only have the option to save first and last names when it comes to storing usernames, and sometimes those just have to match their legal names to perform certain operations. Names with IV, however, often cannot be entered into a lot of applications because this is considered an incorrect entry and then he would be stuck.
@@tomb5372 I can't do anything about it, because I have to collect data that is required by German law and I have to send it to an interface of a government webservice. According to their specification they only accept the first and last name and declare characters like IV as invalid. So i have to prevent users from entering them into my website. Also. My users are required by law to enter their data into my website if they want to work in a specific field in Germany. So it's not an optional thing they can do. It's mandatory. Germany simply does not support having a name suffix.
@@tomb5372 While I would agree that our IT is in serious need of improvement, I would argue that naming a child after yourself and adding a number is not a thing( or at least very uncommon) in Germany, and that a change to those IT systems because of that would be waste of tax payers' money.
@@tomb5372 Tja bevor du dich über Software beschwerst - zu Recht oder Unrecht ist hier irrelevant - solltest du dich vielleicht erst mal erkundigen, ob es dafür nicht auch möglicherweise andere Gründe geben kann...was hier übrigens der Fall ist. Namensbeigaben wie der Dritte (dargestellt als III) oder in diesem Fall der Vierte (IV) sind in Deutschland seit Abschaffung der Adelsprivilegien nach dem ersten Weltkrieg nicht mehr erlaubt. iese Art der Namesngebung ist historisch gesehen direkt verknüpft mit dem Adel (übrigens nicht nur in Deutschland, sondern praktisch in ganz Europa). In Deutschland sind nur noch die Namenszusätze "von" und/oder "zu" erlaubt - in Österreich ist nicht einmal das mehr erlaubt. In beiden Ländern geht das zurück auf die Niederlage im Ersten Weltkrieg und die darauf folgende Abschaffung der Monarchie und der Privilegien des Adels in 1919. Also nicht immer alles auf "rückständige IT" oder was dir auch immer sonst so einfällt schieben. Es macht übrigens keinen Sinn, ein IT-System so einzurichten, dass es auch Eingaben zulässt, die aufgrund der Rechtslage (und nicht wegen technischer Gründe) unzulässig sind. Und bevor du nun sagst, dass man das dann doch einfach nachträglich korrigieren könnte, wenn fälschlicherweise doch mal ein unzulässiger Namenszusatz eingetragen worden sein sollte bei einer Software, die so konfiguriert ist, dass diese Eingabe möglich wäre - nein, dass kann man nicht. Wir reden hier von offiziellen Dokumenten; daran einfach Änderungen vorzunehmen erfüllt den Tatbestand der Urkundenfälschung und ist somit eine Straftat.
@@dermitderfalschenantwort2206 Rarely done does not automatically mean unnecessery. Firstly we are talking about a name here. Unless the name is going to forseeably disadvantage the child, like "A55", "Coca-Cola" or "X Æ A-12" There shouldn't be a reason why you can't name it the way you want to. Second, It can seem like a pretty unimportant issue since the number at the end is not something that would come up anywhere else outside of a family meeting, but it can also hold a very important meaning like an heirloom. Simply dismissing it for the sake of "change would mean costs" sends a very bad message. Especially considering that under other circumstances like for nobility it's not really an issue, which arent a big percentage either. Lastly it's a pretty minor change in a program. If this much proves too much of a challange for one of the largest export nations in the world, it's looking pretty grim.
Three things occur to me: Congratulations on the expansion to your family! Sorry about your hospital food experience. The last couple of times I have been in hospital for surgery, the food has been excellent. Of course, the one clinic had a deal with the 5-star hotel next door and got its meals from the hotel‘s restaurant. Perhaps not the norm. :-) The fact that Dumbledore and Gandalf are both called wizards is misleading. Dumbledore is a human with special gifts and actually does magic. Gandalf, however, is a Maia, an eternal being created in the Timeless Halls before the beginning of the world Arda who has taken on a physical human form to perform a mission on behalf of Middle Earth, and he does not do „magic“ like Dumbledore. They are both wonderful characters in their world, but simply cannot be compared. See what happens when you ask a pedant questions like that?
Congrats to your baby! The last two times I was in a german hospital the food was surprisingly good. It really depends on the hospital. In germany everything around pregnancy and birth is paid by the health insurance. Usually you would have a 10€ co-payment for every day staying at hospital. Only when giving birth you don't have to.
You can get the money back, when being poor. I broke my ankle 9 years ago, was in hospital for three weeks, got operated twice, before I came home. I didnt have the 10 Euros per day, so I called my health insurance and they agreed, to pay it directly to the hospital. I paid nothing, except of course for the pastry or icecream at the cafe, that was in the hospital, but private organised. And the food in the hospital was excellent.
As to the legacy name, I worked in a bike shop where we took peoples names and addresses for warranty and recall purposes and one time I sold a new bike to guy who was the 5th in his family to have that legacy name. His pregnant wife was with him and I asked them if they were having a boy and whether not they were going to name him the 6th. The father-to-be said "funny you should ask, last night was my father's birthday and everyone in the family was there for the dinner and cake. My sister asked if we were going to name the boy the 6th. His response was absolutely not." He said there was a hush in the room and his parents didn't talk to him for the rest of the night. Don't be those parents in 30 years if your son decides to break the tradition.
As someone with a long parental illness and hospital history I've seen quite a lot different hospital meals in different hospitals in germany. And they mostly are... not good. The hospitol food is a running gag in germany. But in fact it depends heavily on the hospital. The most have quite cheap food, coming from a central distributer and then warmed in the hospital kitchen. But some hospitals (like the wone my wife gave birth luckily) have an own kitchen providing quite good meals. Oh, and the Elterngeld paperwork is equally confusing for germans. Like every german paperwork.
As someone working at a german hospital and sometimes eating the same lunch as the patients, the food can be quite hit and miss. Some dishes can be quite good, some are damn bland. But it might be that the quality in our hospital isn't too bad.
I'm a German and my wife (a Filipina) had our 3 kids in a German hospital. - about doctors involvement - yes, midwifes run the show in the delivery room, but the doctor is superior. If problems arise during birth, both the midwife and the doctor switch roles. This means the doctor or his team take over while the midwife supports it. Usually difficulties can be discovered prior to delivery, thus certain preparitions are made. This includes pediatricians and necessary NICU units - if that may be necessary. Thus - the way it goes - is usually decided upon normal delivery or problems being suspected. BTW midwifes are considered coaches for anything concerning late stage pregnancy and first period at home. If a lady has no experienced female support, midwives offer such support. But those midwifes are not bound to a hospital. Rather they are bound to the area they are serving. (Which makes it a different set of midwifes.) - about procing - usually being in a hospital (normal rooms up to 3 people) will be paid for by our health insurance. But we have to pay a prescription fee of about 10 Euro. I don't recall that for the delivery. Child birth is something very special - even for insurance - thus it could be that the prescription fee is not requested in this case. - family room - We didn't have that. In fact I was excluded from the waiting area in the maternity ward. I was only allowed to join my wife in the delivery room when delivery was closing in. This was done in order not to upset the other ladies in preparation of their birthing. Just after birth the newborn is taken away for a few hours in order to give the exhausted lady some really needed rest. (My experience is 30 years ago. There might have been some changes.) - food - yes, it is not the best. But you should remember that many people have diatary requirements. A cantina cannot fullfill such requirements. Thus you use the lowest common ground. The food you get should not cause any health problems. The sugar, I don't understand. Usually that is added for the tea - no more. Mineral water and tea should have been available in abundance - without extra fee. Often relatives bring along fruits or small bakery stuff to supplement the food. Usually you know by then which food you can eat without causing a problem for mother and / or child. - prisoner - If you want to stay and especially for the ladies after a long delivery, resting is paramount. But for everyone going to a hospital I would suggest, bringing along an e-reader, a tablet or a laptop (tethering to your cellphone should be possible where an internet connection is NOT provided). BTW the TV is there for a reason. Usually there is a spot in the hospital wher you can buy snacks and magazines (not a full spread, but at least something). Especially if you are a busy person, get something along to keep yourself busy. - naming rules - They really exist to prevent names that may cause harassment in the kid's later life. But usually foreigners are not fully subjected to German laws. Often the city office is NOT fully schooled in the options. (The office doing it is the "Standesamt" where you declare birth, marry or get a death certificate.) Each state in Germany has a main office for this at the state capital - where the other offices ask for help (usually). If the office refuses your wishes, you can ask for a later change by court. In your case military US offices might help those local German offices to see the light. As you seem not to stay in Germany for the rest of your life, they should have been more lenient toeards the customs of your own country. - citizenship - Yes, you are right about your kid. And NO you are wrong about dual citizenship. According to German law kids can have the citizenship of their parents if all laws (German and foreign country) allow it. I have already mentioned that my kids had a German father and a Phillipine mother. Thus my kids inherited the German AND the Filipino citizenship. France allows the same. Dual citizenship is not common, but it is not impossible. As you mentioned German law recognizes citizenship according ancestry. - government benefits - this "parental holiday" (my naming) is currently up to 3 years. But you don't know additional benefits. I'm an insurance guy and thus I will fill you in for those. In the old age pension insurance the mother will currently get 3 years of paid old age pension insurance. This is given to every mother even if she does NOT take the holiday. An additional 10 years are given for education and increasing the pension. That is not improving that much, but it is added because mostly ladies have to restrict themselves in their jobs for about 10 years if they care for their children. Working half a day is such a restriction. This benefit is thought as some exchange for this care that you provide. This rules were inacted retrospectively. Thus my mom (currently 92 years old - kids from 1956 to 1962) gained a higher pension as well. Birthing children is not easy and giving care is not easy either. Usually this information is automatically passed via the city office to the old age pension office - thus you don't even know that it is done (but I'm an insurance guy and thus I knew. I prepared the pension applications for my parents as well.) - children care or Kindergarten - usually kids are placed in such care with age 3. If you need somebody before that you organize privately something called Tagesmütter. Something like a professional grandmum but with papers allowing her to do it. Most states have declared that having a place for your kid is a fundamental right which you can claim. But it is best to walk to such a place as soon as possible and explain: "Hey I live there and I want my kid to be with you in xx months." Thus you will be on the list. Should be NO problem. My 3 kids were treated that way. School is something that the local town invites you and the kids for. Remember you are a registered citizen in your town and thus is your kid. - stroller - we have some where the baby seat of the car could be used instead of a full bed. For your purpose that seemed to have been a better solution. On the other hand the version you have shown, the bed can be replaced by a seat. I have been to the Philippines often and my kids were at least 18 months when we did that. I have experienced younger kids on planes, they were just crying and refused to be calmed down. They simply cannot stand the environment. That may be no problem if your kid is used to noise and sleeps easily. Older kids can be made busy with lot of things, but being 2 parents helped a lot. As we have been flying with Asian airlines mostly, the support via the female staff was extraordinary. They just LOVE kids. I'll post this now and will add some more details as I continue to watch your video. I try to be most accurate, but remember my memories are from 20 to 30 years ago. Medicine and procedings may have changed. I will add if I see any changes that are important. - I did not see big changes and I added my experience and knowledge.
Wrong. In Germany the doctor is NOT superior during birth. It is the midwife who is in control. For instance she determines whether a caesarian birth is necessary. My daughter is a midwife and delivered more than 1000 babies. And during the normal birth a doctor was never in control.
@@templer1307 That is not how I experienced it. The doctor is not the only specialist in the room and he takes over as soon as problems arise. He may not run the show in normal situations but he was always in the room. He has the superior education. He can do more than a midwife. And nobody told me differently. My wife was always treated by a team of which midwife AND a doctor were members. I was there everytime as well.
Congratulations! A sweet baby boy!😍 Reg. the hospital food: It's super different depending on the hospital. In the birth clinic where I was having my baby, for example, breakfast was a buffet and you could get rolls, cereals and fruit basically all morning until lunch was served. I've noticed one thing about the lunch though: The day before I gave birth I had the regular meal, which was decent, but afterwards they changed it to the "breast feeding mom" menue (you know, without onions, garlic etc.) and that was just awful. Our midwife literally saved me from developing a postpartum depression. My son had a newborn sepsis and was moved to the IC unit for babies on the second day, while I had to stay in my room for the postpartum care. (My husband got to stay with our son.) I moved in with my son two days later in a normal room in the childrens clinic (he was still given antibiotics), but I felt somehow disconnected to him, as if he was not my baby. My midwife came to see us in the clinic and, of course, when we we're at home later. She saw the signs that neither me, my husband or my mom realized at the time, and she helped us so much.
Actually, the sugar is for the tea that is served with the meal or afterwards. Usually you can have tea with every hospital meal. Which for the most part is as bad as the food.
I think we have different understandings of how Leacy Names work and that's why our authorities are struggling with that. You often have an inherited name here - especially with old farming families. Since 1615, for example, the first son has been named Xaver, because the first free farmer in the family was called Xavier. But at any given point in history you have a maximum of four Xaviers on the farm and for that the first of the four has to get really old. People can easily tell these four people apart, not only because of age but also because a different middle name is often given or because and in many areas it is also common to use the farm name as the name for the actual farm owner in the family. So it may be that your name is Xaver Clemens Maria Oberhuber on paper, and you were called Clemens as a child, everyone in the village addresses you as Hollerer because your farm is Hof Holler. ... and if you then also have a striking physical feature - like red hair - and a special knack for horses, people will call you Hollerer Ross Fuchs and not as Xaver Oberhuber XVI. ... and when your mother calls for you with your full official name, you know your in trouble.
True, my great-grandfather, my grandfather, the oldest of my uncles and his oldest son all have the same first name, but different middle names. I never new, that you would number them. I always thought that senior and junior in articles was just an extra that was written to make it clearer, but not something that was in official documents. Like whoever was the eldest would be named senior and when senior died there would be another senior.
How does this work in the US? The first person in a family with a given name is automatically called "senior", in case his son will also get the same name? Or do you add the "senior" when the son is born?
About the whole legacy name thing: You can only give your child a second name, which would be between your first and last name. But even then, "III" would (obviously) not be a valid name. It's different when you're born somewhere else and immigrate - you already have your names which may not conform to German naming policies. But nonetheless, they have to be entered into your German passport as they are.
As a German that is used to the fact that the most important and basic things get covered by our insurance I would be really interested what you have to pay in the US.
Back in 1984 , I was a military wife. Our baby was born in a german hospital due to him being a premie. Let me tell you that was a trip!! At that time my son was granted dual citizenship. I could write a book on that experience. LOL!
Australian here. Both babies delivered by my partner - with midwife helping. No doctor present as they weren't needed. My pre-natal care was provided by the midwives at the hospital so we knew them. Public hospital - has a queen sized bed, ensuite with a birthing pool. No epidural or medicalised procedures. The whole process occurred in the same room and I stayed for 4 days with the first bub, 1 with the second. I could have had interventions had I wanted to, but I didn't want to. Didn't pay a cent. Beautiful experience.
8:30 No, you can't say that in general. Hospital food is different in every hospital and in some it is bad and in some good. Then you have to remember that in a hospital they have to cook for many clients and most of them have to follow diets that don't allow the use of spices. For example most people with cardiac and circulatory illnesses are not allowed much salt. That is why I always have a travel set of spices with me when I'm in hospital. It has the diameter of a soda can and half the height and has 6 compartments with different common spices like salt, pepper, paprika,.... And btw - for the money they want in an American hospital it should a high class menu like from a restaurant with Guide Michelin stars.
I'm pregnant myself at the moment (5th month) and I'm really excited about what the experience will be like. I'm 23, my partner is younger than me and it's my first baby. But we're both looking forward to receiving our sweet little human and I can only imagine how it will feel holding him or her in my arms for the first time, realising 'This is my baby and I'm his mom' 😍♥️
Congratulations! I had a severe heart attack 3 months ago, stayed 5 days in intensive care and another 2 normal. The food was actually way better than I expected, the whole week through. Btw. the Schnitzel you mentioned was actually a chicken escalope ("Hähnchenschnitzel"). No wonder it wasn't at all like a typical Schnitzel.
Congratulations to all three of you. Heart attack here too, almost same time. But only 4 days ICU. How good was your rehab? The food in hospital was crap. They centralized the preparing of food for all hospitals in my region (~1 Mio pop.) and it was quite annoying. Very dry bread, cheap toppings. The highlight of the day was the coffee and cake each afternoon. The coffee in general was quite good. For the delivery: my son is 21 now but I can remember the day of his birth very well. My wife was very much afraid of that day, she had her first son born in GDR with rude doctors and ruder midwifes. All in all it was a pleasant experience for both of us, but she bit me in the ellbows bend at one of the last contractions so the doctor had to look over me, too ;-) Both had to stay more than a week, because my son developed a jaundice, so the doctors decided to take care a little bit longer. Sad to say I had no chance to stay with her, startet on a new job a few weeks before the birth and had only a single day off.
to my understanding the only things we paid for in terms of our third baby's birth in germany was the family room. (72€ a night for 3 nights). That was it. TOTALLY worth it.
Regarding meals: my daughter gave birth in Karlsruhe 7 months ago and she could choose from 2 alternatives for each meal, but due to Covid restrictions, the restaurant was closed and family rooms were not available
From the comments I thought you’d tried to name your baby Dumbledore or IV (first name)! Glad I watched the whole video 😂 The legacy name thing isn’t really a thing in the UK either. It’s not unusual for you to be called James McDonald (for example) and your father, grandfather, great grandfather etc etc to have been called the same, but we don’t number it. I’m not sure if numbered titles even get registered on the birth certificate as a title is often what you inherit rather than born with. I can understand the confusion from the German authorities (a bit annoying that it’s clearly possible on the system though considering your own driving license has it!). Congratulations to you both!
Actually I am very surprised that the "III" appears on German legal documents at all. It is just not a thing here, since democracy abolished nobility in the 1920's.
If you think German hospital food is bad, don't go to the Czech Republic. It's been a few years but I was in hospital in Prague for a week and friends brought me food AND I had to bring my own toilet paper!! The best part, however, was that so many people spoke English. That was amazing!
We were in Germany with the Air Force. I had my kids quickly so was sent to a German hospital closer to us. It was a Catholic hospital that was also where the Nuns retired. We had a 2 yo and 3yo at home. My doctor told me ahead of time I would be staying a full week after birth because "if I let you go home sooner you will not be resting!" This was my best birth ever. I was the only one there and the Nuns spoiled me.
First: Gandalf. Second: No, I was only in hospital as a child and I was never a picky eater, but... no taste, bland bread and the weirdest pudding I have ever tried. Third: A question: Did you take baby classes and was Donnie also there? I heard it is something like a crash course on diaper changing and breathing. And finally. Congratulations
Our Hebamme came to our house and practiced breathing and such and yes, I was there for those classes along with Aubrey. 😊 However, in terms of diaper changing and such, we both have been around so many babies in our family that we were pretty good to go for most of those types of things 😊
Congratulations on your little one! I’m a Canadian who had a baby in Germany back in 2019 and can also confirm that the hospital food was underwhelming. Right after giving birth, I was starving after 24 hours of labour and they brought me a couple slices of bread and cheese. As far as the KITA goes for us, our child will just be going now in September. We were in the process of moving to Dresden this spring and I only applied a couple of months ago. Of my 3 choices, only 1 contacted me back with an open spot, so we did get lucky, but I wouldn’t worry about it too much. All the best to your new little family!
After our kid was born, we also chose the whole 14 months Elternzeit, but with my wife going for 12 and me taking my two on the first two months already, so we could both be at home. A colleague of mine and his wife split theirs into 7/7. All pretty flexible and not that complicated. For every month of taken Elternzeit, the respective parent will receive ~67% of their after tax wage, based on the average of the last 12 months before applying. But there is also a minimum you will definitely get if the average would fall below - in case you were unemployed or simply housewife/-man without a job.
As I gave birth to my two sons, 1979 and 1981, I stayed in the hospital for 10 days. For a cesarean birth it was up to 14 days. So nowadays it is much shorter. What they told me was it takes time to recuperate and if I went home I wouldn't get the rest I needed for recuperating completely, as I would start doing chores, etc. I must confess I really loved the time of my second birth, as I had my mom and my mother in law taking care of my oldest child. Just imagine, 10 days resting, reading and listening to music in my old cassette recorder. Lovely!!!!
Congratulations for your Baby! 🥰 Most of German hospitals have a budget between 2,50 - 4 € per day and patient to serve breakfast, lunch AND dinner, because most of the money they get from the health insurances is invested in medical equipment and staff. If you compare it with american hospitals where you have to pay thousands of Dollars for ambulance, hospitals or seeing a doctor, the meal should be the least thing to critizise. They are hospitals, no hotels, financed by welfare.
Ganz genau 👍👏👏👏👏in der USA können sich viele garnicht leisten ins Krankenhaus zu gehen,und wenn sie es tun dann sind sie hochverschuldet und können noch nicht mal ihre Familie mehr ernähren und teilweise landen sie auf der Straße weil sie auch ihre Wohnung nicht mehr bezahlen können 🤔 Traurig was diese Menschen durch machen müssen,die wären froh wenn sie in Deutschland leben würden und einfach jeder zeit wenn sie krank werden oder ein Kind bekommen sich keine sogen machen zu müssen,da wäre das essen eine Nebensache. Das ist nicht böse gemeint,aber ich habe dafür kein Verständnis Deutschland ist großartig 👍👏 was man da für Vorteile hat und vor allem Hilfe ✌️
My son and his wife live in France. They had twins and one had to be transferred to a specialist intensive care because he was poorly. It was a 24/7 intensive care and as my son does not speak very good French the hospital provided a translator. Cost - nothing! Quality - world class! Baby - now 3 and doing brilliantly!
I work in a hospital and we usually get the same food as the patient and it is pretty good. There is also frontcooking. It really depends on the hospital and I have no idea why they gave you a package of sugar for lunch 😂 Btw our midwifes are highly qualified. They know what they are doing and I know there are horrible birth stories, but I never heard one among my friends. Midwifes and hospital staff really make an effort to make sure parents (especially mothers) have good experiences. Okay, regarding the name. It is meant to protect children. Some names are associated with negative things and to prevent bullying, but I don't get why you can't, but I don't get how IV would harm your child. It isn't true you need "German blood" to get German citizenship even if you're born here. I have a friend, whose parents are from Vietnam. She and her brother were born in Germany and the parents could choose whether they got German citizenship or not. They chose German citizenship and my friend is German. Who cares where her parents come from? But she was born in 1989. Maybe it is different now. Anyways, congratulations! Looks like mother and baby boy do well ❤️ You seem to be so happy!
Also work in a hospital and we can get the same food in the canteen. Mostly good but small portion sizes. I'm always wondering if patients there are always hungry or if they are just less hungry than a working person.
When it comes to baby items, the one thing I can't recommend enough is a "Stillkissen" (nursing pillow?) Its a long pillow filled with tiny styrofoam balls. It makes holding the baby during nursing a lot easier and you can make a little nest for your baby to lie in so it can not roll away from where you put it. this is especially good if you are really tired but want to cuddle with your baby. Every parent falls at least once asleep while the little one is not in a very safe position. Putting your child in a little nest cuddle up to the nest and then falling asleep is a lot safer than holding your child on your arm and falling asleep. By the way I removed the tiny syrofoam balls from our pillow and replaced it with extra tiny balls, wich makes the pillow softer and quieter. And finally: Gandalf all the way.
You can manage without one of these. You have enough washing without this as well. The beauty of breast-feeding is that you can just hitch your jumper or shirt up and feed the baby without any accessories at all. Maybe a chair, but I've even done it standing up.
Legacy names are just not a thing anymore in Germany. A few decades ago it was still common to name your firstborn son the same as the father (and probably the grandfather), but even in those cases there were never any numerals involved. And nowadays that tradition is pretty much dead.
I think in Germany the birth of the baby is more a personal thing so that's why the lack of staff,or lack of involvement. I think a lot of women give birth at home and just have an overall better understanding of birth.. I feel like in the US people perceive it as some kind of service they need to receive,so they want as much service as possible,as if it's not something what you need to be doing on your own(since it is clearly a child emerging out from your insides) My birthing experience in Germany was not nice at all,but my first baby I delivered at home in the Netherlands and that one went much better,it was very calm and just perfect. In Germany I found myself in a hospital where only one person spoke english and it was a male nurse,and sadly at the time i was new in the country so i spoke 0 german and i also requested no male attendees because of my other health conditions..I suffered complications so there was a bunch of people in the DR and also it a was a teaching hospital so they tried to usher some 12 students into the room which was denied by me and that somehow didnt help me since they were upset that they couldn't teach their class as I was struggling to deliver my baby... so it really sucked,but it was still much better than what I would be receiving for care in my home country.
With the legacy name: It is really uncommon in Germany for a father to give his son his name. Actually, nobody really does that, except for really conservative or rightwing people, at least since WWII. (And I personally am so glad!)
Keep in mind: Giving birth is a very normal, natural process. For hundred thousand of years babies were born without anyone overseeing the process or maybe just relatives or the village eldest. Of course there are risks but unless there is an emergency situation, that's less than one out of hundred cases, I fail to see the requirement for having a doctor being actively involved in that process; it's actually not a medical process.
LOL, dying is a very normal, natural process. Midwives are also mentioned in the old testament of the bible, therefore must have been existent since at least 6th-5th century BC, so for at least 7-8K years.Maternity dying rates have dropped in industrial countries since the beginning of the 20th century from 300 per 100,000 to 8-12 nowadays. That means .3 percent of all Births ended in death without medical attendance. That does not include mothers being badly injured or handicapped after birth. BTW in 2017 the mother mortality rate was 308 in Ghana. IDK, what your emergenxy situation statistic comes from. But less than 1 per 100 cases is actually a lot, considering women are giving birth more than twice in their life time, on average.That is saying every 50th woman is disposable. And getting in a car accident is a natural process, too. Would you rather have it in the countryside or as close to medical care as possible?
@@anka2978 If the death-to-birth rate would have been one or less, mankind would have died out, so apparently this has never been the case, not even 50.000 years ago. And 0.3% is less than 1 out of 100, correct? Well, that's what I said. Further keep in mind that the world has never been equally developed and while in some parts people knew that the world is a globe and where able to calculate its diameter, in other parts people didn't even have developed handwriting yet, so what you just did is to generalize from a very tiny part of the world onto the entire rest.
@@xcoder1122 I think you are confusing the maths here. Death to birth rat is death/birth. If 3 out of 1000 people die during birth it is (3/1000 = 0.3) and that is smaller than 1. If there are two deaths per birth it is (2/1 = 2 ) >1. I also wasn't arguing against your number, I was trying to make you see, that 1% is a lot. 0.6 from my numbers (0.3 death rate x 2), would still be enough to justify medical attendance during the birthing process. And I fail to see, where I was generalizing out of context. My point was with proper medical attendance, the death to birth rate decreased significantly. I simply compared numbers from former just midwife attendance, to scarce medical attendance, to good medical attendance.
@@anka2978 I said less than 1 out of 100 cases will have any complications and you say 3 out of 1000 will die, which perfectly matches my number, as 3 out of 1000 is below 1 out of 100 and note that I said complications, not death. Not all complications lead to death.
Sorry to hear about the food. All my experiences in Swiss hospitals, along with those of my wife and our daughter (who's a doctor) have been, that the food quality was between good and very good. Emminently edible. I even missed the ordering time for my first breakfast and lunch as I was delivered to the hospital at 3 am and was in Angioplasty until around 5 am. So they asked me what I wanted which for breakfast a good hour later than normal was more than I could eat after a heart attack. Lunch, then I ordered on-the-fly on the light side. Dinner then was "normal" and was light because ... in Switzerland the main meal is at lunch. BTW - pricing: My total bill for 5 days in the hospital, 2 of those were in intensive care was CHF 16,600. The insurance paid for EVERYTHING except for the deductible for that year. Since I'd had quite a few appointments and such during the year, this was low. Plus there was a CHF 15.-/day "solidarity charge" to help defray the costs of the rare patients who do not have insurance - mostly foreign tourists. (No one is refused care for not having insurance) So my out of pocket costs were a grand total of CHF 149.- Language: No problems. My German is fluent, but many doctors seemed to want to practice English. So I complied. In fact, I even had to say that they could speak Swiss dialect, inasmuch as I understand that too, but it's kind of a natural reaction, that if a Swiss person hears someone speaking High German, the reply in Swiss High German.
Congrats you two. So glad everything went well. Wish you all the best with your little one. Especially man many wonderful memories 😊 P. S. You used "Passierscheine A38" for the burocracy part, love the origin of it, so many childhood memories. Also interesting fact: there was a period of time, where we were able to have dual citizenship. I don't remember why they went back on it, but at least for me, born in '86, I have dual citizenship as a Austrian-German.
You can still have dual citizenship if you have multinational parents. So if at the time of your birth parent A is Austrian and parent B German, you're not required to give up Austrian citizenship to keep the German one. If parent B only acquired German citizenship after you were born, though, you have to pick one.
Depends heavily on the hospital. It's definitely gotten worse over the last years. More and more hospitals don't prepare their own food anymore to save money. It is delivered by external companies, warmed up and then it's usually awful.
If you think about having another child I can highly recommend a 'Geburtshaus' - it's run entirely by midwifes, the delivery was so much less stressful compared to our first child. And the best part was that our first born went to bed - around midnight we left for the Geburtshaus - when he got up his little brother was at home with us. Obviously we got kinda lucky with a quick delivery but we are convinced the much less stressful situation helped a lot (combined with more experience of course - because it was our second one)
From a foreigner who also gave birth in Germany, check those Elternzeit dates... and I live in a relatively quiet city, and waited too long to look for a Kitta.. when she was 3 months old, and was saved by the government (coz childcare is a right)
Nice haircut! I'm not a wizard expert and can't really comment. I was surprised to hear you state the Germany doesn't allow dual citizenship. I am not sure what the issue is with your baby, but my husband was borne in Germany and became a US citizen about 15 years ago. In the process, he lost his German citizenship because of the current Germany rules and regulations at that time. About 7-8 years later, those rules changed, and he applied with the German authorities to have his Germany citizenship restored. The process was cumbersome (among other things, he had to write "the story of his life" in broad strokes and BY HAND (!) and he had to provide 10 German contacts living in Germany who would vouch for him. The authorizes did actually call a couple of his contacts to check. The whole process took almost three years, but he now has dual German-American citizenships.
@@anonymousgerbil8336 - there wasn't a special problem: the German authorities are just very thorough. He didn't have to do anything extra to regain his citizenship; it's just very tough to get the citizenship back once you've lost it. Germany takes the approach that once you've lost your citizenship, it's gone. We have a friend who lost hers when she became a US citizen (prior to the dual citizen probability). It was more than 10 years ago, and she applied but will not be getting her German citizen back. Germany has a 10 year cut-ogg rule: once you're past your 10-year mark for having given up your citizenship, it is incredibly hard to regain it.
You have to pay for food, that's it. The thing about hospital food is not necessarily true. It varies between hospitals. I was in one, the food was on par with a very good restaurant. Also, unless you are self-employed, your HR will do the paperwork for the Elternzeit for you (normally).
Congrats on your Baby! ❤️ When my son was born, almost 20 years ago (holy sh*t), I was served beansoup for lunch. I couldn’t eat it, because I went into labor. As I came back into the room a few hours later, the soup was still there. Until then, I only didn’t like beansoup, afterwards, i absolutely hated it.
Congratulations! I had good luck, because I had the option to give birth in a "geburtshaus". This is medical house leaded by midwife without any doctors. If there are doctors needed you will be transferred to the next hospital. But this happens rarely because there are strict rules for a geburtshaus to accept births. Eg it must be around the birthdate, if you're much too early or much too late you are not allowed to stay in a geburtshaus. The same is with pregnancy-diabetes or high blood pressure, so the risk of complications is minimized. For me this was a really good experience. I felt assisted, encouraged and very safe. I was afraid, that when I am in hospital and everything is fine with my birthing process, that no one takes care of me, because there is a c-section to do and in the next room declines a woman, or what ever catastrophe happens so no one has time for a "normal and boring" birth. I wished for someone experienced in giving birth stays by my side the whole time so I don't have to be afraid of whatever to come. And my wishs came true. My midwifes name was Antje and she stayed with me, told me I am doing well, everything is fine and so on. And: the food was great!
Congratulations to you three! I didn't even realize that legacy names outside the "nobility" can go beyond "Senior" or "Senior Senior". Is it really that common in the US? Growing up in Germany and Russia, that system reminds me of the patronymic system, e.g. if I had been born in Russia, my patronym could have been "Фаделевич" ("Fadelevitsh") from my father "Fadel". About your wizard question, Gandalf seems more powerful because "Lord of the Rings" seemingly has a less strict magic system than "Harry Potter".
Ya, legacy names can go on for as long as you want them to 😅 I have a cousin whose legacy name line is already onto the VI (sixth). (We're trying to catch up to them 😂) It is very common in the US! For sure, Sr. and Jr. are the most common and not as many go onto the III and farther, but it is very common. Quite often, if you come across someone in the US that goes by, "KJ," "CJ," "AJ," etc. the first letter stands for their first name and the second letter stands for "junior' because they are named after their father. This is also pretty common with me having at least 2 cousins and nephews who do this as well 😅
Legacy names are known with popes and emperors or old people in general. This ran out of fashion a long time ago. If someone would introduce his child to me, "this is Richard III" I would have a good laugh and would not believe it at any rate, then, if you showed me the passport I would shout out loud "Americans!" and shake my head.
Legacy names may still be pretty common in rural areas when it comes to farmers, but I have never heard of the usage of roman numerals in addition to names in the German speaking world.
Gandalf is a Maiar, that is, approximately, an angel, sent to watch over creation by Illuvatar himself. His power level is nowhere even close to comparable to any other of the Fellowship of the Ring and the only reason he had trouble with the Balrog is because the Balrog, too, is a Maiar (corrupted by Melkor). It's *way* over 9000.
@@PassportTwo Legacy names became pretty much of a no-go in Germany after World War I and only the articles von and zu are legal - however the form of legacy name you wanted is illegal in Germany for historic reasons (the connection to the priviliges of nobility and royalty before 1919).
Midwife’s also do the care all the time during pregnancy. I appreciated this a lot, because it is much more human than a doctor taking care of pregnancy.
So, I had my (first) baby 3 months ago in a Munich hospital. It was a C-section, so I had to stay 5 days. The care was amazing and also during the birthing everyone was very nice to me. I had to share the room but I didn't mind (though the first bed neighbor was a bit crazy 😅). The food was ok. It wasn't great but at least edible. I agree with you that it was a very good idea to bring additional snacks. I had been told that before, so... xD
Hi, I am surprised to hear your catering in hospital was terrible. I have been to diffrent hospitals a few times including my child's birth and food was great. I had plenty of different options to choose. I have a standard German healthcare insurance, not private and the "hotel" side of being in a clinic has made a good impression each time.
As you go out walking and maybe hiking a lot, did you consider getting a baby-sling or a special kind of rucksack to carry the child in? It is way more convenient than having to push a stroller or pram through the woods and much easier to travel by bus or train.
Congrats and all the best to the three of you. First Things First: the best Magicuser ist of course Rincewind 😛 About that dual citizenship Thing, and you might have covered this at some time, while Germany generally does not Accept dual citizenship, there are (Lots of) exceptions. For example a friend of mine was born in Texas, while her (german) parents worked there. She lived in Texas for about 2 years and the Family moved back to Germany. She has German as well as US citizenship, as she was born to german parents, but on US soil. So consequently although she lives, works and pays taxes in Germany, she has to fill out a crapload of IRS paperwok every year.
American here: had 2 babies in the states. Vanderbilt in Nashville has midwives and the doctors typically only intervene if assisted delivery is needed (forceps, vacuum, c-section etc). I only had midwives both times :)
That's so interesting! Especially because in my research I found that according to the Scientific American, in 2019, only about 8% of US births involved a midwife 😲 (See here: www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-u-s-needs-more-midwives-for-better-maternity-care/)
@@PassportTwo it's becoming more and more popular to have a Midwife. More and more Americans are choosing to give birth at home and midwives do this not doctors. I'm going to deliver my 3rd at home (my 2nd child is adopted). I have no desire to be in a hospital. Delivering in Switzerland was not a great experience to me. Going home and all the things I got afterwards was cool. I hate hospitals in general. It doesn't matter what country it is.
Speaking of bureaucracy. Since your German is now quite good- listen to Reinhard Mey. He has a song " Einen Antrag zur Erteilung eines Antragsformulars, zur Bestätigung der Nichtigkeit des Durchschriftexemplars" Translation: An application to grant for an application form, to verify the invalidity of the carbon copy 😄 German bureaucracy at its finest
@@PassportTwo I had a midwife with all 4 of my children from 2010-2015, as did all of my friends that gave birth in that time period. Only people I know that had a actual OBGYN were high risk or had some complications.
Congratulations to your new baby boy! Glad to hear that it went well!! Your experiencesoundsike mine here in Sydney, Australia. There is a midwife present at birth here as she was with you. All midwives were amazingly supportive and calm. We also were left alone for stretches of time, but it was clear that she would come in if called. I stayed at hospital between 10 hours and 7 days after giving birth, due to baby needingtobein NICU. Food varied with each child- my husband brought me take away food once a day. Costs at each birth: we had to pay for parking. Unfortunately no midwife visits here, that would have been great! Elternzeit und -geld leider nicht mit Deutschland zu vergleichen. Are your parents visiting soon? They must be keen to meet your little one. BTW: firstborn boys often were given the same first name as their dad in the past in Germany, with a different middle name. Not very common anymore. Dumbledore of course
Congratulations to you both, giving birth system in the UK is same with Germany. Midwife in charge of delivery. Consultant or OB GYN only come if complications or C section needed.
You don't want do leave the hospital in Germany because of the price, but because of the bad food! 100% true! I had a shoulder surgery last October, and I left 24 hours later, because the food was so bad. For the whole experience I had to pay 20 Euros (10 Euro per day).
Hi y'all, congrats! I'm so happy everything went fine. Hospital food - it depends on the hospital you're staying in. I had a c-section 23 years ago in Mannheim Klinikum (I chose this particular hospital bc I had a risk pregnancy with twins and at that time this hospital was the only one in a 25km perimeter around my home where the neonatology was in the same hospital as the maternity ward, so I went there "just in case" sth went not to plan). They had a big buffet in the foyer of the maternity ward (like in a hotel) for breakfast with cereals, rolls, sweet buns, jam, honey, eggs, cold cuts, and cheese. Lunch and dinner were pretty good (excellent for a hospital). Westpfalzklinikum is notorious among my relatives who live not too far away from K-town for having bad food. CU twinmama RQOTW Neither - it's Vilgefortz von Roggeveen, it took a witcher, a sorceress, and a higher vampire to defeat him... (sorry for any spoilers of the novels)
Very similar to the Netherlands. You won’t see a hospital from the inside unless it will be necessary. There’s another building for giving birth. A lot of babies are born at home also.
you can actually choose your food, put breakfast and dinner together as you like it, for lunch you can choose between 2- 3 dishes, actually the sister should ask about it once a day if she forgets to speak to the sister
Swede here, my partner and I had our first child born in week 29+3 last November (2023) with an emergency c-section after my partner developed preeclampsia. We both had to stay at the local Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) for about a month. We later transferred to the Neonatal Care Unit (NCU) for another 2 months, totaling a bit over 3 months in the hospital and away from work. I could not begin to imagine the amount of stress if we had to pay for that stay and not get our income at least almost covered by the national insurance fund. My partner also had what we call pregnancy insurance that gave her additional monetary means above the national insurance fund. Here all healthcare services are free for everyone under the age of 18 and in the end, it cost us nothing out of pocket, however since I earn more than the national insurance fund covers I lost about 15% of my monthly earnings. Since many Americans always default to either "wait time" or "taxes", last year (2023) the sum of ALL taxes ended up at just under $22,000, Remember that is income tax, communal tax, and ALL other tax forms we have here.
I want to give you a short correction on the ius soli: if at least one of the parents lives at least 8 years in germany and has a permanent residence permission, the child will get the german citizenship.
@@holger_p "(3) Durch die Geburt im Inland erwirbt ein Kind ausländischer Eltern die deutsche Staatsangehörigkeit, wenn ein Elternteil 1. seit acht Jahren rechtmäßig seinen gewöhnlichen Aufenthalt im Inland hat und 2. ein unbefristetes Aufenthaltsrecht oder als Staatsangehöriger der Schweiz oder dessen Familienangehöriger eine Aufenthaltserlaubnis auf Grund des Abkommens vom 21. Juni 1999 zwischen der Europäischen Gemeinschaft und ihren Mitgliedstaaten einerseits und der Schweizerischen Eidgenossenschaft andererseits über die Freizügigkeit (BGBl. 2001 II S. 810) besitzt. Der Erwerb der deutschen Staatsangehörigkeit wird in dem Geburtenregister, in dem die Geburt des Kindes beurkundet ist, eingetragen. Das Bundesministerium des Innern, für Bau und Heimat wird ermächtigt, mit Zustimmung des Bundesrates durch Rechtsverordnung Vorschriften über das Verfahren zur Eintragung des Erwerbs der Staatsangehörigkeit nach Satz 1 zu erlassen."
The hospital food depends on the hospital. When I was last in hospital 9 years ago with a broken ankle, I could choose between four different variations of meals.
Both wizards have their strengths... Costs: there was some confusion when my first child was born, so we initially ended up getting the bill, about EUR 5k for an unplanned Kaiserschnitt. Language: our health insurance was offering a free pregnancy/birth guide that they posted in parts throughout the pregnancy, we got that and picked up most of the German we needed. If things get "complicated" a lot of the medical German is either compound nouns (which often explain themselves) or similar to the English but with a funny pronunciation. Food: it's really hit and miss. Our second child has resulted in us spending a lot of time in hospitals with him (we've averaged about a month a year between us), while the breakfast/evening meals tend to be a little bland and similar to your experience, the lunch meals really vary in quality from hospital to hospital.
Congratulations to your new baby! I hope you have a great time settling in. Haha, yeah, the hospital food really isn't that great in Germany, but I think that depends on the region. One of my friends was in hospital in Bavaria and sent me a picture of her food, saying it was quite good. Gandalf of course! :-D
I haven't seen those figures, but you don't pay 13k out of pocket. Insurance covers a lot of the expenses, I just don't know what the out of pocket costs are like the €75 in Germany.
It’s been a few years for me, but my eldest daughter was born in the hospital, with only an assistant present during the delivery. We went there in the afternoon, stayed until the next morning, and went home with a new human being. My youngest daughter was born at home. The midwife (and a GP who was still training) arrived a couple of hours before the delivery and they left an hour or so after the delivery (at 01:30). After both deliveries, the midwife (another one) came the morning after for a couple of hours to help out. She helped us for about a week. Costs for child birth is free where I live btw (Netherlands).
As Bee N. already pointed out in a convoluted way: We DO have legacy names in sense. It is not uncommon to name the first child after the parent. We just don't specify the passed generations in the legal documents.
Of course it's uncommon, how many German people do you know that have to carry their parents first names as theirs? I don't know anybody. Perhaps some snooty rich or "noble people" do that, but not the normal folks.
@@Kahsimiah A friend from school with Polish heritage. His big brother had his father's first name and he himself and his twin brother had their father's name as their second name
I researched my family tree, and on my fathers side I have at least 4 generations of "Ernst". That only ended with my father in the 60s. So, I think it happened (they then had different second names they were actually called by)
Gandalf because I reaaaal, like the actor One of the practical thing about the three days in hospital is, I think, that A) first doctors visits for mom and Baby (U1 and when I remrmber correctly also U2) are there. So you don't have to drive somewherr else and be comfortable B) whrn there are complications in the first days they can immediatily react My daughter i.e. had lung problems vut it just appeared on her second day and so they reacted fast enough and she survived C) you can learn. These first days are perfect for asking last questions about babycare and so on.
firstof all: CONGRATULATION again! second: Good to see you again Aubrey! third: couldn`t you name him Donald the short one? 😂😂😂😂 (Yes i know, german buerocracy is like german hospital food - horror!) btw best wishes to all of you and thousands of beautiful, lövely moments. feel hugged Michael/Hannover
Have you ever had a GOOD hospital meal?? 😂
Never! 😂
Last Time i was in a Hospital i was 3 y o. So my answer ist no
Never been in a hospital, so I haven’t
I heard rumors about good hospital meals - but my experience is mostly limited to Vivantes hospitals, so no.
yes but that was a psychatric thing ( burnout) they had a buffet for dinner and breakfast and you could choose from 4 options for lunch it was in fact pretty good
but i also had some stuff that i wozuld not feed pigs with ( they woult not eat it )
For a german, it's interesting hearing you talk about "delivery" all the time, instead of birth. Sounds like putting the mother in the role of a delivery boy.
It is like taking about "Entbindung" instead of "Geburt". "Der Arzt, der mich entbunden hat". It is an old fashioned, male focussed view on births.
@@ladyalexandra2980 Except Entbindung isn't used for any other context.
@@holger_p it is used in another context. It means to set someone free from something. Like jemanden von der Schweigepflicht entbinden. Means to Release someone from confidentiality. Overall its mostly a release from a obligation or burden
@@abceinhornchen That's a very formal application and not part of daily language.
Sure, the baby is also a burden, you get rid of.
@@holger_p It is. "Jemanden von den Pflichten entbinden" - it just means something totally different.
I'm just blown away from the high mother and baby death rates in the US(the highest in the western world). It just show that good care, public health insurance and maternity leave like you experienced in Germany can save many lives.
Yes. I think in US it is the High amount of Home delivery where it takes longer to get a doctor if anything goes wrong. Of course costs are one of the reasons for taking the decision to do a home delivery.
To be fair USA is the 3rd world country of all first world countries
@@AATproduceryou wish...
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Very interessting! In Germany it's expensive to have a home birth.
The thing concerning midwives and doctors is, that midwives are highly training in delivering babies, while a doctor is there to observe in case something really bad happens.
Midwives leave the room, and keep checking in, because they have no real reason to stay in the delivery room. Expecting parents are expected to have visited a course about what will happen.
(Many expecting mothers also dont want to be observed all the time by some random people even if they are healthcare professionals)
They also want you to have a birthing experience, that is as natural as possible, without much medical intervention.
Same in Sweden. Doctors only if something is going very wrong
Same here in Spain
Same in Italy.
Midwife is common outside the us. They are essentially specialists and expert in one area of medicine.
In Dänemark the midwife is the specialist, too. And their education is intense and long. Almost as long as the doctor.
The doctor comes at the scene in case of abnormal situation, c-sections etc.
Historically it's more the experienced woman from the village. And they can take more time, cause they are cheaper than a doctor - but more specialized than a nurse.
Ok, i work in german hospitals for the last 20 yrs. so some things towards the food:
If you cook food in a german Hospital, you have to heat everything to 100° C to secure, that theres no contermination on the food of any kind. So Pasta is usually overcooked, potatoes are overcooked and so on.
Everythings cooks way longer, than you would do at home.
Also, the food arives at the ward mostly 30-60 minutes before serving. So anything crunchy will be steamed in its own juices and become soggy.
The Omlett with the salted potatoes and the spinach is btw. a typical german meal i grew up with as a kid.
Oh, and the sugar is for the tea youre goin to make yourself for lunch ^^
Herzlichen Glückwunsch! Baby gesund, Mama wohlauf und Papa überglücklich - einfach toll! Genießt die Zeit!
Har har har ... "genießen"? Nachts vom Geschrei aufwachen, Windeln wechseln ... usw. ? Nur Masochisten "genießen" dies.
1. Congratulations! I hope your child will bring you lots of joy!
2. Hospitals have around 7-8 Euros per day for the whole food of one patient. Usually they make acceptable lunch. I'm a german physician and during my 8 years in our hospitals I got to eat the same meals as the patients. Mostly thye were good, but there is always some exceptions to the rule. There also is some differences between hospitals.
3. Midwifes in Germany are great! They will not only deliver babies, they care for mother and child months before birth and sometimes do this also for some weeks after birth.
around 8 bucks per day 😂😂😂 I have heard 5 bucks co pay for medicine or smth. LMAO in the US it is a couple hundred just for the ambulance call.
@@mercuryfalconog ::::::::::: THATS THE DIFFERENCE :::::::::::
Hey, I‘m a German ObGyn doctor working in obstetrics daily. Feel free to ask me anything in response to this comment.
Some input by me:
We are generally very welcoming towards epidurals. Sometimes, there are situations where we just know it makes no sense. For example, if you wish to deliver under water. Or when the baby is just about to come.
Sorry to hear about the bismal food, which looks like what I saw in hospitals like 10 years ago. Trust me, there are much better ones out there 😬
MOIN FINDEST DU DAS ESSEN SCHEIßE WEIL ICH MIT MEINEM ESSEN IM KRANKENHAUS ZUFRIEDEN BIN
@@erik-nw2vs warum caps lock?
@@carstekoch maybe it (rgb pc) is afraid of not being heard?
@@nielsdebakker3283 *they are, not it is ;)
What does a pediatric neonatologist do in Germany?
You have forgotten one important thing - infant mortality in the USA is almost twice as high as in Germany (source: Wikipedia). THAT makes a big different. Not the meal.
Phillippbretzler....could it have something to do with that the USA is 10 times larger than Germany
@@Psalm-31-24 No, read en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Infant_mortality to understand it's not about total numbers but the infant mortality *rate* (IMR).
@@Psalm-31-24 its % not the total amount
@@Psalm-31-24 Now that was an incredibly stupid thing to say...
@@gonace iam glad you are so smart and full of pride
When I was at college in the US, I needed a root canal done. As it turned out my mandatory US insurance only covered “accidents”.
It was cheaper to fly to Germany and back, and get it done for free. Paying, what, around 30k for a birth? Skin contact afterwards (holding it) an extra fee? That’s just unimaginable to me. 🤯
Its unimaginable because it is greatly exaggerated. No one pays that and most people have insurance that covers nearly all of it. There are poor people in America who have no insurance that are having babies everyday. You honestly think people pay $30000 to have a baby. As for your tooth did you have Dental insurance. If you did it would have covered the cost of your root canal.
@@bengaljam4550 No this people without insurance have their babies without proper care in a hospital. It is as simple as that.
@@andreashorn9638 No. They would get the same care as anyone else even if they have no insurance. . You are greatly mistaken.
@@bengaljam4550 BS, then hundreds of americans I talked to here in the Ramstein do not support your opinion. And every documentation about healthcare in the US tells otherwise. Even Americans with insurance often avoid going to gthe doctor or hospitals, because of the exta cost.
@@andreashorn9638 Oh yes. Ramstein. I was stationed at Sembach Air Base in the early 80's. Would like to go back someday and see how the area has changed. AS far as healthcare in America all I can add is that is not how it has been for me and the people I know here. It's a country of 350 million people. Most people have insurance. I am sure you can find instances of the health care system and its failures. As far as avoiding going to the hospital. I avoid it too. Not because of the costs but because it is a hassle. In America if you go to the hospital everyone wants a piece of the pie. Show up with a broken finger and they will do X-rays and a surgeon will say it needs to be surgically repaired. Then a physical therapist will tell you you need 9 weeks of physical therapy. Then you have to take time off from work. I will go if I truly need it but if I can heal at home I will. All I am saying is most of what I am hearing on these posts is for the most part exaggeration. Not saying it can't happen. All these posts of people trying to compare Germany and America is crazy. You can't compare two countries with complete different set of values and population. America is very diverse with a lot of differing viewpoints. Having a German style healthcare would be nice in America i agree but people would abuse it. Same people would show up everyday with different ailments. Drug abusers and homeless.
Congratulations! I'm an American who had a baby in Germany on Christmas day 2021. I agree with everything you talked about in this video. I ended up having an emergency csection and sadly couldn't get a family room so had to take care of our baby by myself. I do not know German and had to use an app a few times with different midwives but overall most knew English. Also it's been 6 months and I've hadn't had to pay anything for my 4 day hospital stay.
Congrats to you as well! 😃🎉 Thanks for sharing your experience and how it compared to ours!
How did you get out of the hospital after a c-section after only 4 days? Usually you will stay a week
@@karinland8533 I think due to Corona they were letting people leave a little earlier. I had my surgery the 25th and left the 29th. My husband could only visit an hour a day with a negative test as well. They were very strict.
@@kelseypeterson4754 you can be happy they led him in for that hour ... i had a surgery a year earlyer and was in hospital for christmas and new year without anybody ;) that was a real stresstest
@@kelseypeterson4754 they've done that short stay pre covid already, it depends on the well-being of baby and mum. I had a c-section in 2017 late on a Friday night and I was able to leave the hospital on Monday morning 🤗
Hey, German girl here :)
The sugar is for the coffee. Most Germans drink coffee after Lunch, that's why hospitals almost always have a shared coffee machine for the patients :)
My wife and I split our Elternzeit after our son was born - so each of us had seven months with him at home, me (obviously) having the later 7. It has been a really great experience I can highly recommend. Being there 24/7 when he started to conquer his world from sitting up over the first steps up to the "Eingewöhnung" at the Kindergarten was quite a voyage :)
Really a good idea i will adopt this for myself to whenever it will be 👌
As a German, I have to say that it is actually perfectly normal in Germany to have a hot lunch and cold dinner.
Have you ever asked where the American "Abendbrot" for cold dinner comes from? That's just German for dinner XD
Coincidence? ;)
But good hospital food... warm? It's a commercial kitchen.... they cook a lot, but rarely good...
Just an aside regarding food: I stayed in a Swedish hospital for 10 days and I GAINED weight. The food was fantastic. Plus in Sweden, if you are mobile, you join other patients in a dining room, so you have some social contact. We were served breakfast, lunch and dinner plus snacks (pastry or sandwiches) three times a day.
bei meinem letzten Krankenhausaufenthalt, habe ich abgenommen. 11 Tage 3 Implantate in meinem Knie - und ich wog 8 KG weniger.
Es gab fast nur "Kinderteller" . . . . 😂😂😂
Believe me. You saved him a lot of problems by dropping the IV. I work in IT and all databases I deal with only have the option to save first and last names when it comes to storing usernames, and sometimes those just have to match their legal names to perform certain operations. Names with IV, however, often cannot be entered into a lot of applications because this is considered an incorrect entry and then he would be stuck.
@@tomb5372 I can't do anything about it, because I have to collect data that is required by German law and I have to send it to an interface of a government webservice.
According to their specification they only accept the first and last name and declare characters like IV as invalid. So i have to prevent users from entering them into my website.
Also. My users are required by law to enter their data into my website if they want to work in a specific field in Germany. So it's not an optional thing they can do. It's mandatory.
Germany simply does not support having a name suffix.
@@tomb5372 While I would agree that our IT is in serious need of improvement, I would argue that naming a child after yourself and adding a number is not a thing( or at least very uncommon) in Germany, and that a change to those IT systems because of that would be waste of tax payers' money.
@@tomb5372 Tja bevor du dich über Software beschwerst - zu Recht oder Unrecht ist hier irrelevant - solltest du dich vielleicht erst mal erkundigen, ob es dafür nicht auch möglicherweise andere Gründe geben kann...was hier übrigens der Fall ist.
Namensbeigaben wie der Dritte (dargestellt als III) oder in diesem Fall der Vierte (IV) sind in Deutschland seit Abschaffung der Adelsprivilegien nach dem ersten Weltkrieg nicht mehr erlaubt. iese Art der Namesngebung ist historisch gesehen direkt verknüpft mit dem Adel (übrigens nicht nur in Deutschland, sondern praktisch in ganz Europa). In Deutschland sind nur noch die Namenszusätze "von" und/oder "zu" erlaubt - in Österreich ist nicht einmal das mehr erlaubt.
In beiden Ländern geht das zurück auf die Niederlage im Ersten Weltkrieg und die darauf folgende Abschaffung der Monarchie und der Privilegien des Adels in 1919.
Also nicht immer alles auf "rückständige IT" oder was dir auch immer sonst so einfällt schieben. Es macht übrigens keinen Sinn, ein IT-System so einzurichten, dass es auch Eingaben zulässt, die aufgrund der Rechtslage (und nicht wegen technischer Gründe) unzulässig sind.
Und bevor du nun sagst, dass man das dann doch einfach nachträglich korrigieren könnte, wenn fälschlicherweise doch mal ein unzulässiger Namenszusatz eingetragen worden sein sollte bei einer Software, die so konfiguriert ist, dass diese Eingabe möglich wäre - nein, dass kann man nicht. Wir reden hier von offiziellen Dokumenten; daran einfach Änderungen vorzunehmen erfüllt den Tatbestand der Urkundenfälschung und ist somit eine Straftat.
@@dermitderfalschenantwort2206
Rarely done does not automatically mean unnecessery.
Firstly we are talking about a name here. Unless the name is going to forseeably disadvantage the child, like "A55", "Coca-Cola" or "X Æ A-12" There shouldn't be a reason why you can't name it the way you want to.
Second, It can seem like a pretty unimportant issue since the number at the end is not something that would come up anywhere else outside of a family meeting, but it can also hold a very important meaning like an heirloom. Simply dismissing it for the sake of "change would mean costs" sends a very bad message.
Especially considering that under other circumstances like for nobility it's not really an issue, which arent a big percentage either.
Lastly it's a pretty minor change in a program. If this much proves too much of a challange for one of the largest export nations in the world, it's looking pretty grim.
For my opinion it is awful to number the kid with the same name as father and so one, no Individuum?
Three things occur to me:
Congratulations on the expansion to your family!
Sorry about your hospital food experience. The last couple of times I have been in hospital for surgery, the food has been excellent. Of course, the one clinic had a deal with the 5-star hotel next door and got its meals from the hotel‘s restaurant. Perhaps not the norm. :-)
The fact that Dumbledore and Gandalf are both called wizards is misleading. Dumbledore is a human with special gifts and actually does magic. Gandalf, however, is a Maia, an eternal being created in the Timeless Halls before the beginning of the world Arda who has taken on a physical human form to perform a mission on behalf of Middle Earth, and he does not do „magic“ like Dumbledore. They are both wonderful characters in their world, but simply cannot be compared. See what happens when you ask a pedant questions like that?
The sugger is for Tea. On every floor in Hospitals in germany are tea kitchens where you can get hot water and tea bags or sometimes Coffee. ;)
Congrats to your baby! The last two times I was in a german hospital the food was surprisingly good. It really depends on the hospital. In germany everything around pregnancy and birth is paid by the health insurance. Usually you would have a 10€ co-payment for every day staying at hospital. Only when giving birth you don't have to.
You can get the money back, when being poor. I broke my ankle 9 years ago, was in hospital for three weeks, got operated twice, before I came home. I didnt have the 10 Euros per day, so I called my health insurance and they agreed, to pay it directly to the hospital.
I paid nothing, except of course for the pastry or icecream at the cafe, that was in the hospital, but private organised.
And the food in the hospital was excellent.
As to the legacy name, I worked in a bike shop where we took peoples names and addresses for warranty and recall purposes and one time I sold a new bike to guy who was the 5th in his family to have that legacy name. His pregnant wife was with him and I asked them if they were having a boy and whether not they were going to name him the 6th. The father-to-be said "funny you should ask, last night was my father's birthday and everyone in the family was there for the dinner and cake. My sister asked if we were going to name the boy the 6th. His response was absolutely not." He said there was a hush in the room and his parents didn't talk to him for the rest of the night. Don't be those parents in 30 years if your son decides to break the tradition.
As someone with a long parental illness and hospital history I've seen quite a lot different hospital meals in different hospitals in germany. And they mostly are... not good. The hospitol food is a running gag in germany. But in fact it depends heavily on the hospital. The most have quite cheap food, coming from a central distributer and then warmed in the hospital kitchen. But some hospitals (like the wone my wife gave birth luckily) have an own kitchen providing quite good meals.
Oh, and the Elterngeld paperwork is equally confusing for germans. Like every german paperwork.
I can see the happiness on y’all’s faces. Glad the whole process went well and hopefully you’re enjoying your time with your new family member:)
As someone working at a german hospital and sometimes eating the same lunch as the patients, the food can be quite hit and miss. Some dishes can be quite good, some are damn bland. But it might be that the quality in our hospital isn't too bad.
I'm a German and my wife (a Filipina) had our 3 kids in a German hospital.
- about doctors involvement - yes, midwifes run the show in the delivery room, but the doctor is superior. If problems arise during birth, both the midwife and the doctor switch roles. This means the doctor or his team take over while the midwife supports it. Usually difficulties can be discovered prior to delivery, thus certain preparitions are made. This includes pediatricians and necessary NICU units - if that may be necessary. Thus - the way it goes - is usually decided upon normal delivery or problems being suspected.
BTW midwifes are considered coaches for anything concerning late stage pregnancy and first period at home. If a lady has no experienced female support, midwives offer such support. But those midwifes are not bound to a hospital. Rather they are bound to the area they are serving. (Which makes it a different set of midwifes.)
- about procing - usually being in a hospital (normal rooms up to 3 people) will be paid for by our health insurance. But we have to pay a prescription fee of about 10 Euro. I don't recall that for the delivery. Child birth is something very special - even for insurance - thus it could be that the prescription fee is not requested in this case.
- family room - We didn't have that. In fact I was excluded from the waiting area in the maternity ward. I was only allowed to join my wife in the delivery room when delivery was closing in. This was done in order not to upset the other ladies in preparation of their birthing. Just after birth the newborn is taken away for a few hours in order to give the exhausted lady some really needed rest. (My experience is 30 years ago. There might have been some changes.)
- food - yes, it is not the best. But you should remember that many people have diatary requirements. A cantina cannot fullfill such requirements. Thus you use the lowest common ground. The food you get should not cause any health problems. The sugar, I don't understand. Usually that is added for the tea - no more. Mineral water and tea should have been available in abundance - without extra fee.
Often relatives bring along fruits or small bakery stuff to supplement the food. Usually you know by then which food you can eat without causing a problem for mother and / or child.
- prisoner - If you want to stay and especially for the ladies after a long delivery, resting is paramount. But for everyone going to a hospital I would suggest, bringing along an e-reader, a tablet or a laptop (tethering to your cellphone should be possible where an internet connection is NOT provided). BTW the TV is there for a reason. Usually there is a spot in the hospital wher you can buy snacks and magazines (not a full spread, but at least something). Especially if you are a busy person, get something along to keep yourself busy.
- naming rules - They really exist to prevent names that may cause harassment in the kid's later life. But usually foreigners are not fully subjected to German laws. Often the city office is NOT fully schooled in the options. (The office doing it is the "Standesamt" where you declare birth, marry or get a death certificate.) Each state in Germany has a main office for this at the state capital - where the other offices ask for help (usually). If the office refuses your wishes, you can ask for a later change by court. In your case military US offices might help those local German offices to see the light. As you seem not to stay in Germany for the rest of your life, they should have been more lenient toeards the customs of your own country.
- citizenship - Yes, you are right about your kid. And NO you are wrong about dual citizenship. According to German law kids can have the citizenship of their parents if all laws (German and foreign country) allow it. I have already mentioned that my kids had a German father and a Phillipine mother. Thus my kids inherited the German AND the Filipino citizenship. France allows the same. Dual citizenship is not common, but it is not impossible. As you mentioned German law recognizes citizenship according ancestry.
- government benefits - this "parental holiday" (my naming) is currently up to 3 years. But you don't know additional benefits. I'm an insurance guy and thus I will fill you in for those. In the old age pension insurance the mother will currently get 3 years of paid old age pension insurance. This is given to every mother even if she does NOT take the holiday. An additional 10 years are given for education and increasing the pension. That is not improving that much, but it is added because mostly ladies have to restrict themselves in their jobs for about 10 years if they care for their children. Working half a day is such a restriction. This benefit is thought as some exchange for this care that you provide. This rules were inacted retrospectively. Thus my mom (currently 92 years old - kids from 1956 to 1962) gained a higher pension as well. Birthing children is not easy and giving care is not easy either. Usually this information is automatically passed via the city office to the old age pension office - thus you don't even know that it is done (but I'm an insurance guy and thus I knew. I prepared the pension applications for my parents as well.)
- children care or Kindergarten - usually kids are placed in such care with age 3. If you need somebody before that you organize privately something called Tagesmütter. Something like a professional grandmum but with papers allowing her to do it. Most states have declared that having a place for your kid is a fundamental right which you can claim. But it is best to walk to such a place as soon as possible and explain: "Hey I live there and I want my kid to be with you in xx months." Thus you will be on the list. Should be NO problem. My 3 kids were treated that way. School is something that the local town invites you and the kids for. Remember you are a registered citizen in your town and thus is your kid.
- stroller - we have some where the baby seat of the car could be used instead of a full bed. For your purpose that seemed to have been a better solution. On the other hand the version you have shown, the bed can be replaced by a seat.
I have been to the Philippines often and my kids were at least 18 months when we did that. I have experienced younger kids on planes, they were just crying and refused to be calmed down. They simply cannot stand the environment. That may be no problem if your kid is used to noise and sleeps easily. Older kids can be made busy with lot of things, but being 2 parents helped a lot. As we have been flying with Asian airlines mostly, the support via the female staff was extraordinary. They just LOVE kids.
I'll post this now and will add some more details as I continue to watch your video. I try to be most accurate, but remember my memories are from 20 to 30 years ago. Medicine and procedings may have changed. I will add if I see any changes that are important. - I did not see big changes and I added my experience and knowledge.
Wrong. In Germany the doctor is NOT superior during birth. It is the midwife who is in control. For instance she determines whether a caesarian birth is necessary.
My daughter is a midwife and delivered more than 1000 babies. And during the normal birth a doctor was never in control.
@@templer1307 That is not how I experienced it. The doctor is not the only specialist in the room and he takes over as soon as problems arise. He may not run the show in normal situations but he was always in the room. He has the superior education. He can do more than a midwife.
And nobody told me differently. My wife was always treated by a team of which midwife AND a doctor were members. I was there everytime as well.
Congratulations! A sweet baby boy!😍
Reg. the hospital food: It's super different depending on the hospital. In the birth clinic where I was having my baby, for example, breakfast was a buffet and you could get rolls, cereals and fruit basically all morning until lunch was served. I've noticed one thing about the lunch though: The day before I gave birth I had the regular meal, which was decent, but afterwards they changed it to the "breast feeding mom" menue (you know, without onions, garlic etc.) and that was just awful.
Our midwife literally saved me from developing a postpartum depression. My son had a newborn sepsis and was moved to the IC unit for babies on the second day, while I had to stay in my room for the postpartum care. (My husband got to stay with our son.) I moved in with my son two days later in a normal room in the childrens clinic (he was still given antibiotics), but I felt somehow disconnected to him, as if he was not my baby. My midwife came to see us in the clinic and, of course, when we we're at home later. She saw the signs that neither me, my husband or my mom realized at the time, and she helped us so much.
Actually, the sugar is for the tea that is served with the meal or afterwards. Usually you can have tea with every hospital meal. Which for the most part is as bad as the food.
I think we have different understandings of how Leacy Names work and that's why our authorities are struggling with that. You often have an inherited name here - especially with old farming families. Since 1615, for example, the first son has been named Xaver, because the first free farmer in the family was called Xavier. But at any given point in history you have a maximum of four Xaviers on the farm and for that the first of the four has to get really old. People can easily tell these four people apart, not only because of age but also because a different middle name is often given or because and in many areas it is also common to use the farm name as the name for the actual farm owner in the family. So it may be that your name is Xaver Clemens Maria Oberhuber on paper, and you were called Clemens as a child, everyone in the village addresses you as Hollerer because your farm is Hof Holler. ... and if you then also have a striking physical feature - like red hair - and a special knack for horses, people will call you Hollerer Ross Fuchs and not as Xaver Oberhuber XVI. ... and when your mother calls for you with your full official name, you know your in trouble.
I think thats just your own experience.
"...when your mother calls for you with your full official name, you know you're in trouble". That must be true in any culture. It was in mine.
True, my great-grandfather, my grandfather, the oldest of my uncles and his oldest son all have the same first name, but different middle names. I never new, that you would number them. I always thought that senior and junior in articles was just an extra that was written to make it clearer, but not something that was in official documents.
Like whoever was the eldest would be named senior and when senior died there would be another senior.
where in the world is that? i was raised in a small german Village we did not have that.
How does this work in the US? The first person in a family with a given name is automatically called "senior", in case his son will also get the same name? Or do you add the "senior" when the son is born?
About the whole legacy name thing:
You can only give your child a second name, which would be between your first and last name. But even then, "III" would (obviously) not be a valid name.
It's different when you're born somewhere else and immigrate - you already have your names which may not conform to German naming policies. But nonetheless, they have to be entered into your German passport as they are.
As a German that is used to the fact that the most important and basic things get covered by our insurance I would be really interested what you have to pay in the US.
In the U.S. it all depends on the type of insurance, about half of births are $0. Some can be a few hundred some can be thousands.
Back in 1984 , I was a military wife. Our baby was born in a german hospital due to him being a premie. Let me tell you that was a trip!! At that time my son was granted dual citizenship. I could write a book on that experience. LOL!
Congrats for the birth of your child. Glad germany has gotten such a good verdict from you.
So we get ready for number 2 !
Australian here. Both babies delivered by my partner - with midwife helping. No doctor present as they weren't needed. My pre-natal care was provided by the midwives at the hospital so we knew them. Public hospital - has a queen sized bed, ensuite with a birthing pool. No epidural or medicalised procedures. The whole process occurred in the same room and I stayed for 4 days with the first bub, 1 with the second. I could have had interventions had I wanted to, but I didn't want to. Didn't pay a cent. Beautiful experience.
8:30 No, you can't say that in general. Hospital food is different in every hospital and in some it is bad and in some good. Then you have to remember that in a hospital they have to cook for many clients and most of them have to follow diets that don't allow the use of spices. For example most people with cardiac and circulatory illnesses are not allowed much salt. That is why I always have a travel set of spices with me when I'm in hospital. It has the diameter of a soda can and half the height and has 6 compartments with different common spices like salt, pepper, paprika,....
And btw - for the money they want in an American hospital it should a high class menu like from a restaurant with Guide Michelin stars.
I'm pregnant myself at the moment (5th month) and I'm really excited about what the experience will be like. I'm 23, my partner is younger than me and it's my first baby. But we're both looking forward to receiving our sweet little human and I can only imagine how it will feel holding him or her in my arms for the first time, realising 'This is my baby and I'm his mom' 😍♥️
Congratulations! I had a severe heart attack 3 months ago, stayed 5 days in intensive care and another 2 normal. The food was actually way better than I expected, the whole week through. Btw. the Schnitzel you mentioned was actually a chicken escalope ("Hähnchenschnitzel"). No wonder it wasn't at all like a typical Schnitzel.
Congratulations to all three of you.
Heart attack here too, almost same time. But only 4 days ICU. How good was your rehab?
The food in hospital was crap. They centralized the preparing of food for all hospitals in my region (~1 Mio pop.) and it was quite annoying. Very dry bread, cheap toppings. The highlight of the day was the coffee and cake each afternoon. The coffee in general was quite good.
For the delivery: my son is 21 now but I can remember the day of his birth very well. My wife was very much afraid of that day, she had her first son born in GDR with rude doctors and ruder midwifes. All in all it was a pleasant experience for both of us, but she bit me in the ellbows bend at one of the last contractions so the doctor had to look over me, too ;-)
Both had to stay more than a week, because my son developed a jaundice, so the doctors decided to take care a little bit longer. Sad to say I had no chance to stay with her, startet on a new job a few weeks before the birth and had only a single day off.
to my understanding the only things we paid for in terms of our third baby's birth in germany was the family room. (72€ a night for 3 nights). That was it. TOTALLY worth it.
Regarding meals: my daughter gave birth in Karlsruhe 7 months ago and she could choose from 2 alternatives for each meal, but due to Covid restrictions, the restaurant was closed and family rooms were not available
But there is no way, like having warm dinner and cold lunch. Or having anyhting warm for breakfast. That's the huge cultural difference to Americans.
From the comments I thought you’d tried to name your baby Dumbledore or IV (first name)! Glad I watched the whole video 😂 The legacy name thing isn’t really a thing in the UK either. It’s not unusual for you to be called James McDonald (for example) and your father, grandfather, great grandfather etc etc to have been called the same, but we don’t number it. I’m not sure if numbered titles even get registered on the birth certificate as a title is often what you inherit rather than born with. I can understand the confusion from the German authorities (a bit annoying that it’s clearly possible on the
system though considering your own driving license has it!).
Congratulations to you both!
Actually I am very surprised that the "III" appears on German legal documents at all. It is just not a thing here, since democracy abolished nobility in the 1920's.
If you think German hospital food is bad, don't go to the Czech Republic. It's been a few years but I was in hospital in Prague for a week and friends brought me food AND I had to bring my own toilet paper!! The best part, however, was that so many people spoke English. That was amazing!
We were in Germany with the Air Force. I had my kids quickly so was sent to a German hospital closer to us. It was a Catholic hospital that was also where the Nuns retired. We had a 2 yo and 3yo at home. My doctor told me ahead of time I would be staying a full week after birth because "if I let you go home sooner you will not be resting!" This was my best birth ever. I was the only one there and the Nuns spoiled me.
First: Gandalf.
Second: No, I was only in hospital as a child and I was never a picky eater, but... no taste, bland bread and the weirdest pudding I have ever tried.
Third: A question: Did you take baby classes and was Donnie also there? I heard it is something like a crash course on diaper changing and breathing.
And finally. Congratulations
Our Hebamme came to our house and practiced breathing and such and yes, I was there for those classes along with Aubrey. 😊 However, in terms of diaper changing and such, we both have been around so many babies in our family that we were pretty good to go for most of those types of things 😊
Congratulations on your little one! I’m a Canadian who had a baby in Germany back in 2019 and can also confirm that the hospital food was underwhelming. Right after giving birth, I was starving after 24 hours of labour and they brought me a couple slices of bread and cheese. As far as the KITA goes for us, our child will just be going now in September. We were in the process of moving to Dresden this spring and I only applied a couple of months ago. Of my 3 choices, only 1 contacted me back with an open spot, so we did get lucky, but I wouldn’t worry about it too much. All the best to your new little family!
After our kid was born, we also chose the whole 14 months Elternzeit, but with my wife going for 12 and me taking my two on the first two months already, so we could both be at home.
A colleague of mine and his wife split theirs into 7/7.
All pretty flexible and not that complicated.
For every month of taken Elternzeit, the respective parent will receive ~67% of their after tax wage, based on the average of the last 12 months before applying.
But there is also a minimum you will definitely get if the average would fall below - in case you were unemployed or simply housewife/-man without a job.
Also, you don't get payed more than 1800 Euros per month (within the 67 percent of income) , even if you have made more during the last 12 months
As I gave birth to my two sons, 1979 and 1981, I stayed in the hospital for 10 days. For a cesarean birth it was up to 14 days. So nowadays it is much shorter. What they told me was it takes time to recuperate and if I went home I wouldn't get the rest I needed for recuperating completely, as I would start doing chores, etc. I must confess I really loved the time of my second birth, as I had my mom and my mother in law taking care of my oldest child. Just imagine, 10 days resting, reading and listening to music in my old cassette recorder. Lovely!!!!
Congratulations for your Baby! 🥰 Most of German hospitals have a budget between 2,50 - 4 € per day and patient to serve breakfast, lunch AND dinner, because most of the money they get from the health insurances is invested in medical equipment and staff. If you compare it with american hospitals where you have to pay thousands of Dollars for ambulance, hospitals or seeing a doctor, the meal should be the least thing to critizise. They are hospitals, no hotels, financed by welfare.
Ganz genau 👍👏👏👏👏in der USA können sich viele garnicht leisten ins Krankenhaus zu gehen,und wenn sie es tun dann sind sie hochverschuldet und können noch nicht mal ihre Familie mehr ernähren und teilweise landen sie auf der Straße weil sie auch ihre Wohnung nicht mehr bezahlen können 🤔
Traurig was diese Menschen durch machen müssen,die wären froh wenn sie in Deutschland leben würden und einfach jeder zeit wenn sie krank werden oder ein Kind bekommen sich keine sogen machen zu müssen,da wäre das essen eine Nebensache.
Das ist nicht böse gemeint,aber ich habe dafür kein Verständnis
Deutschland ist großartig 👍👏 was man da für Vorteile hat und vor allem Hilfe ✌️
My son and his wife live in France. They had twins and one had to be transferred to a specialist intensive care because he was poorly. It was a 24/7 intensive care and as my son does not speak very good French the hospital provided a translator. Cost - nothing! Quality - world class! Baby - now 3 and doing brilliantly!
I work in a hospital and we usually get the same food as the patient and it is pretty good. There is also frontcooking. It really depends on the hospital and I have no idea why they gave you a package of sugar for lunch 😂 Btw our midwifes are highly qualified. They know what they are doing and I know there are horrible birth stories, but I never heard one among my friends. Midwifes and hospital staff really make an effort to make sure parents (especially mothers) have good experiences. Okay, regarding the name. It is meant to protect children. Some names are associated with negative things and to prevent bullying, but I don't get why you can't, but I don't get how IV would harm your child. It isn't true you need "German blood" to get German citizenship even if you're born here. I have a friend, whose parents are from Vietnam. She and her brother were born in Germany and the parents could choose whether they got German citizenship or not. They chose German citizenship and my friend is German. Who cares where her parents come from? But she was born in 1989. Maybe it is different now. Anyways, congratulations! Looks like mother and baby boy do well ❤️ You seem to be so happy!
Also work in a hospital and we can get the same food in the canteen. Mostly good but small portion sizes. I'm always wondering if patients there are always hungry or if they are just less hungry than a working person.
When it comes to baby items, the one thing I can't recommend enough is a "Stillkissen" (nursing pillow?) Its a long pillow filled with tiny styrofoam balls. It makes holding the baby during nursing a lot easier and you can make a little nest for your baby to lie in so it can not roll away from where you put it. this is especially good if you are really tired but want to cuddle with your baby. Every parent falls at least once asleep while the little one is not in a very safe position. Putting your child in a little nest cuddle up to the nest and then falling asleep is a lot safer than holding your child on your arm and falling asleep.
By the way I removed the tiny syrofoam balls from our pillow and replaced it with extra tiny balls, wich makes the pillow softer and quieter.
And finally: Gandalf all the way.
You can manage without one of these. You have enough washing without this as well. The beauty of breast-feeding is that you can just hitch your jumper or shirt up and feed the baby without any accessories at all. Maybe a chair, but I've even done it standing up.
Legacy names are just not a thing anymore in Germany. A few decades ago it was still common to name your firstborn son the same as the father (and probably the grandfather), but even in those cases there were never any numerals involved. And nowadays that tradition is pretty much dead.
I think in Germany the birth of the baby is more a personal thing so that's why the lack of staff,or lack of involvement. I think a lot of women give birth at home and just have an overall better understanding of birth.. I feel like in the US people perceive it as some kind of service they need to receive,so they want as much service as possible,as if it's not something what you need to be doing on your own(since it is clearly a child emerging out from your insides) My birthing experience in Germany was not nice at all,but my first baby I delivered at home in the Netherlands and that one went much better,it was very calm and just perfect. In Germany I found myself in a hospital where only one person spoke english and it was a male nurse,and sadly at the time i was new in the country so i spoke 0 german and i also requested no male attendees because of my other health conditions..I suffered complications so there was a bunch of people in the DR and also it a was a teaching hospital so they tried to usher some 12 students into the room which was denied by me and that somehow didnt help me since they were upset that they couldn't teach their class as I was struggling to deliver my baby... so it really sucked,but it was still much better than what I would be receiving for care in my home country.
Herzlichen Glückwunsch !! Alles Gute Für Die Zukunft Eurer kleinen Familie !
With the legacy name: It is really uncommon in Germany for a father to give his son his name. Actually, nobody really does that, except for really conservative or rightwing people, at least since WWII. (And I personally am so glad!)
Not true for rural places, there it’s still common. Without the numbering though
Keep in mind: Giving birth is a very normal, natural process. For hundred thousand of years babies were born without anyone overseeing the process or maybe just relatives or the village eldest. Of course there are risks but unless there is an emergency situation, that's less than one out of hundred cases, I fail to see the requirement for having a doctor being actively involved in that process; it's actually not a medical process.
LOL, dying is a very normal, natural process. Midwives are also mentioned in the old testament of the bible, therefore must have been existent since at least 6th-5th century BC, so for at least 7-8K years.Maternity dying rates have dropped in industrial countries since the beginning of the 20th century from 300 per 100,000 to 8-12 nowadays. That means .3 percent of all Births ended in death without medical attendance. That does not include mothers being badly injured or handicapped after birth. BTW in 2017 the mother mortality rate was 308 in Ghana.
IDK, what your emergenxy situation statistic comes from. But less than 1 per 100 cases is actually a lot, considering women are giving birth more than twice in their life time, on average.That is saying every 50th woman is disposable.
And getting in a car accident is a natural process, too. Would you rather have it in the countryside or as close to medical care as possible?
@@anka2978 If the death-to-birth rate would have been one or less, mankind would have died out, so apparently this has never been the case, not even 50.000 years ago. And 0.3% is less than 1 out of 100, correct? Well, that's what I said. Further keep in mind that the world has never been equally developed and while in some parts people knew that the world is a globe and where able to calculate its diameter, in other parts people didn't even have developed handwriting yet, so what you just did is to generalize from a very tiny part of the world onto the entire rest.
@@xcoder1122 I think you are confusing the maths here. Death to birth rat is death/birth. If 3 out of 1000 people die during birth it is (3/1000 = 0.3) and that is smaller than 1. If there are two deaths per birth it is (2/1 = 2 ) >1. I also wasn't arguing against your number, I was trying to make you see, that 1% is a lot. 0.6 from my numbers (0.3 death rate x 2), would still be enough to justify medical attendance during the birthing process.
And I fail to see, where I was generalizing out of context. My point was with proper medical attendance, the death to birth rate decreased significantly. I simply compared numbers from former just midwife attendance, to scarce medical attendance, to good medical attendance.
@@anka2978 I said less than 1 out of 100 cases will have any complications and you say 3 out of 1000 will die, which perfectly matches my number, as 3 out of 1000 is below 1 out of 100 and note that I said complications, not death. Not all complications lead to death.
Congrats to both of you and welcome to this world to your little boy.
Sidenote: that new haircut looks really good on you.
the quality of food is different in different hospitals. there are some hospitals with actually really good food.
Sorry to hear about the food. All my experiences in Swiss hospitals, along with those of my wife and our daughter (who's a doctor) have been, that the food quality was between good and very good. Emminently edible. I even missed the ordering time for my first breakfast and lunch as I was delivered to the hospital at 3 am and was in Angioplasty until around 5 am. So they asked me what I wanted which for breakfast a good hour later than normal was more than I could eat after a heart attack. Lunch, then I ordered on-the-fly on the light side. Dinner then was "normal" and was light because ... in Switzerland the main meal is at lunch.
BTW - pricing: My total bill for 5 days in the hospital, 2 of those were in intensive care was CHF 16,600. The insurance paid for EVERYTHING except for the deductible for that year. Since I'd had quite a few appointments and such during the year, this was low. Plus there was a CHF 15.-/day "solidarity charge" to help defray the costs of the rare patients who do not have insurance - mostly foreign tourists. (No one is refused care for not having insurance) So my out of pocket costs were a grand total of CHF 149.-
Language: No problems. My German is fluent, but many doctors seemed to want to practice English. So I complied. In fact, I even had to say that they could speak Swiss dialect, inasmuch as I understand that too, but it's kind of a natural reaction, that if a Swiss person hears someone speaking High German, the reply in Swiss High German.
Congrats you two. So glad everything went well. Wish you all the best with your little one. Especially man many wonderful memories 😊
P. S. You used "Passierscheine A38" for the burocracy part, love the origin of it, so many childhood memories.
Also interesting fact: there was a period of time, where we were able to have dual citizenship. I don't remember why they went back on it, but at least for me, born in '86, I have dual citizenship as a Austrian-German.
You can still have dual citizenship if you have multinational parents. So if at the time of your birth parent A is Austrian and parent B German, you're not required to give up Austrian citizenship to keep the German one. If parent B only acquired German citizenship after you were born, though, you have to pick one.
16:48 the pictures 😁
Congratulations on the arrival of Donald IV (!) aka Passport Three. 😃
Congrats on the baby!
Well, in my experience hospital food in Germany isn't bad at all. I've been to the hospital twice so far and I loved the food.
Depends heavily on the hospital. It's definitely gotten worse over the last years. More and more hospitals don't prepare their own food anymore to save money. It is delivered by external companies, warmed up and then it's usually awful.
Yeah, it really depends on the hospital. Usually it's okay, but there are high and lows also.
If you think about having another child I can highly recommend a 'Geburtshaus' - it's run entirely by midwifes, the delivery was so much less stressful compared to our first child. And the best part was that our first born went to bed - around midnight we left for the Geburtshaus - when he got up his little brother was at home with us. Obviously we got kinda lucky with a quick delivery but we are convinced the much less stressful situation helped a lot (combined with more experience of course - because it was our second one)
Congratulations, I really hope that all the three of you are happy (and healthy, of course)
We are all very happy and healthy at the moment! Thanks so much 😊
From a foreigner who also gave birth in Germany, check those Elternzeit dates... and I live in a relatively quiet city, and waited too long to look for a Kitta.. when she was 3 months old, and was saved by the government (coz childcare is a right)
Nice haircut! I'm not a wizard expert and can't really comment. I was surprised to hear you state the Germany doesn't allow dual citizenship. I am not sure what the issue is with your baby, but my husband was borne in Germany and became a US citizen about 15 years ago. In the process, he lost his German citizenship because of the current Germany rules and regulations at that time. About 7-8 years later, those rules changed, and he applied with the German authorities to have his Germany citizenship restored. The process was cumbersome (among other things, he had to write "the story of his life" in broad strokes and BY HAND (!) and he had to provide 10 German contacts living in Germany who would vouch for him. The authorizes did actually call a couple of his contacts to check. The whole process took almost three years, but he now has dual German-American citizenships.
Didn't they believe that he was German by birth or what was the problem?
@@anonymousgerbil8336 - there wasn't a special problem: the German authorities are just very thorough. He didn't have to do anything extra to regain his citizenship; it's just very tough to get the citizenship back once you've lost it. Germany takes the approach that once you've lost your citizenship, it's gone. We have a friend who lost hers when she became a US citizen (prior to the dual citizen probability). It was more than 10 years ago, and she applied but will not be getting her German citizen back. Germany has a 10 year cut-ogg rule: once you're past your 10-year mark for having given up your citizenship, it is incredibly hard to regain it.
You have to pay for food, that's it. The thing about hospital food is not necessarily true. It varies between hospitals. I was in one, the food was on par with a very good restaurant. Also, unless you are self-employed, your HR will do the paperwork for the Elternzeit for you (normally).
Congrats on your Baby! ❤️
When my son was born, almost 20 years ago (holy sh*t), I was served beansoup for lunch. I couldn’t eat it, because I went into labor. As I came back into the room a few hours later, the soup was still there. Until then, I only didn’t like beansoup, afterwards, i absolutely hated it.
Congratulations! I had good luck, because I had the option to give birth in a "geburtshaus".
This is medical house leaded by midwife without any doctors. If there are doctors needed you will be transferred to the next hospital. But this happens rarely because there are strict rules for a geburtshaus to accept births. Eg it must be around the birthdate, if you're much too early or much too late you are not allowed to stay in a geburtshaus. The same is with pregnancy-diabetes or high blood pressure, so the risk of complications is minimized.
For me this was a really good experience. I felt assisted, encouraged and very safe. I was afraid, that when I am in hospital and everything is fine with my birthing process, that no one takes care of me, because there is a c-section to do and in the next room declines a woman, or what ever catastrophe happens so no one has time for a "normal and boring" birth. I wished for someone experienced in giving birth stays by my side the whole time so I don't have to be afraid of whatever to come.
And my wishs came true. My midwifes name was Antje and she stayed with me, told me I am doing well, everything is fine and so on.
And: the food was great!
Congratulations to you three!
I didn't even realize that legacy names outside the "nobility" can go beyond "Senior" or "Senior Senior".
Is it really that common in the US?
Growing up in Germany and Russia, that system reminds me of the patronymic system, e.g. if I had been born in Russia, my patronym could have been "Фаделевич" ("Fadelevitsh") from my father "Fadel".
About your wizard question, Gandalf seems more powerful because "Lord of the Rings" seemingly has a less strict magic system than "Harry Potter".
Ya, legacy names can go on for as long as you want them to 😅 I have a cousin whose legacy name line is already onto the VI (sixth). (We're trying to catch up to them 😂)
It is very common in the US! For sure, Sr. and Jr. are the most common and not as many go onto the III and farther, but it is very common. Quite often, if you come across someone in the US that goes by, "KJ," "CJ," "AJ," etc. the first letter stands for their first name and the second letter stands for "junior' because they are named after their father. This is also pretty common with me having at least 2 cousins and nephews who do this as well 😅
Legacy names are known with popes and emperors or old people in general. This ran out of fashion a long time ago. If someone would introduce his child to me, "this is Richard III" I would have a good laugh and would not believe it at any rate, then, if you showed me the passport I would shout out loud "Americans!" and shake my head.
Legacy names may still be pretty common in rural areas when it comes to farmers, but I have never heard of the usage of roman numerals in addition to names in the German speaking world.
Gandalf is a Maiar, that is, approximately, an angel, sent to watch over creation by Illuvatar himself. His power level is nowhere even close to comparable to any other of the Fellowship of the Ring and the only reason he had trouble with the Balrog is because the Balrog, too, is a Maiar (corrupted by Melkor). It's *way* over 9000.
@@PassportTwo Legacy names became pretty much of a no-go in Germany after World War I and only the articles von and zu are legal - however the form of legacy name you wanted is illegal in Germany for historic reasons (the connection to the priviliges of nobility and royalty before 1919).
Midwife’s also do the care all the time during pregnancy. I appreciated this a lot, because it is much more human than a doctor taking care of pregnancy.
So, I had my (first) baby 3 months ago in a Munich hospital. It was a C-section, so I had to stay 5 days. The care was amazing and also during the birthing everyone was very nice to me.
I had to share the room but I didn't mind (though the first bed neighbor was a bit crazy 😅).
The food was ok. It wasn't great but at least edible. I agree with you that it was a very good idea to bring additional snacks. I had been told that before, so... xD
Hi, I am surprised to hear your catering in hospital was terrible. I have been to diffrent hospitals a few times including my child's birth and food was great. I had plenty of different options to choose. I have a standard German healthcare insurance, not private and the "hotel" side of being in a clinic has made a good impression each time.
The doctor will only help if it’s a medical emergency and the midwife assists the mother for several weeks after birth and that’s free of charge.
As you go out walking and maybe hiking a lot, did you consider getting a baby-sling or a special kind of rucksack to carry the child in? It is way more convenient than having to push a stroller or pram through the woods and much easier to travel by bus or train.
Congrats and all the best to the three of you.
First Things First: the best Magicuser ist of course Rincewind 😛
About that dual citizenship Thing, and you might have covered this at some time, while Germany generally does not Accept dual citizenship, there are (Lots of) exceptions. For example a friend of mine was born in Texas, while her (german) parents worked there. She lived in Texas for about 2 years and the Family moved back to Germany. She has German as well as US citizenship, as she was born to german parents, but on US soil.
So consequently although she lives, works and pays taxes in Germany, she has to fill out a crapload of IRS paperwok every year.
Lol, you do realise the reason Rincewind has wizzard on his hat is because he can’t spell?
The best magic user is of course Esme Weatherwax!
@@ballagh yeah, I do, still he is the best 😛
Allerherzlichsten Glückwunsch an Euch 3! Und Gandalf - gar keine Frage!
American here: had 2 babies in the states. Vanderbilt in Nashville has midwives and the doctors typically only intervene if assisted delivery is needed (forceps, vacuum, c-section etc).
I only had midwives both times :)
That's so interesting! Especially because in my research I found that according to the Scientific American, in 2019, only about 8% of US births involved a midwife 😲 (See here: www.scientificamerican.com/article/the-u-s-needs-more-midwives-for-better-maternity-care/)
@@PassportTwo it's becoming more and more popular to have a Midwife. More and more Americans are choosing to give birth at home and midwives do this not doctors. I'm going to deliver my 3rd at home (my 2nd child is adopted). I have no desire to be in a hospital. Delivering in Switzerland was not a great experience to me. Going home and all the things I got afterwards was cool. I hate hospitals in general. It doesn't matter what country it is.
Speaking of bureaucracy. Since your German is now quite good- listen to Reinhard Mey. He has a song " Einen Antrag zur Erteilung eines Antragsformulars, zur Bestätigung der Nichtigkeit des Durchschriftexemplars" Translation: An application to grant for an application form, to verify the invalidity of the carbon copy 😄 German bureaucracy at its finest
@@wolfim.3343 That singer very often is critical of some typical German habits.
@@PassportTwo I had a midwife with all 4 of my children from 2010-2015, as did all of my friends that gave birth in that time period. Only people I know that had a actual OBGYN were high risk or had some complications.
In Austria (and in Germany, too) its the mother, who delivers the baby ;-) Maybe thats why, epidurals are not so popular.
Congratulations to your new baby boy! Glad to hear that it went well!!
Your experiencesoundsike mine here in Sydney, Australia. There is a midwife present at birth here as she was with you. All midwives were amazingly supportive and calm. We also were left alone for stretches of time, but it was clear that she would come in if called. I stayed at hospital between 10 hours and 7 days after giving birth, due to baby needingtobein NICU. Food varied with each child- my husband brought me take away food once a day. Costs at each birth: we had to pay for parking. Unfortunately no midwife visits here, that would have been great! Elternzeit und -geld leider nicht mit Deutschland zu vergleichen.
Are your parents visiting soon? They must be keen to meet your little one. BTW: firstborn boys often were given the same first name as their dad in the past in Germany, with a different middle name. Not very common anymore.
Dumbledore of course
Congratulations to you both, giving birth system in the UK is same with Germany. Midwife in charge of delivery. Consultant or OB GYN only come if complications or C section needed.
Congratulations! so happy for you. Donni3 your hair looks great!
Thanks so much, Kim! For the congrats on our baby and on the hair compliment 😊
You don't want do leave the hospital in Germany because of the price, but because of the bad food! 100% true! I had a shoulder surgery last October, and I left 24 hours later, because the food was so bad. For the whole experience I had to pay 20 Euros (10 Euro per day).
Hi y'all,
congrats! I'm so happy everything went fine.
Hospital food - it depends on the hospital you're staying in. I had a c-section 23 years ago in Mannheim Klinikum (I chose this particular hospital bc I had a risk pregnancy with twins and at that time this hospital was the only one in a 25km perimeter around my home where the neonatology was in the same hospital as the maternity ward, so I went there "just in case" sth went not to plan). They had a big buffet in the foyer of the maternity ward (like in a hotel) for breakfast with cereals, rolls, sweet buns, jam, honey, eggs, cold cuts, and cheese. Lunch and dinner were pretty good (excellent for a hospital). Westpfalzklinikum is notorious among my relatives who live not too far away from K-town for having bad food.
CU twinmama
RQOTW Neither - it's Vilgefortz von Roggeveen, it took a witcher, a sorceress, and a higher vampire to defeat him... (sorry for any spoilers of the novels)
Very similar to the Netherlands.
You won’t see a hospital from the inside unless it will be necessary. There’s another building for giving birth.
A lot of babies are born at home also.
Congrats to both of you and welcome to your son!
Donnie's new haircut looks good.
Gandalf rules!😀
Thanks so much!
Thanks!
Agreed 😊
you can actually choose your food, put breakfast and dinner together as you like it, for lunch you can choose between 2- 3 dishes, actually the sister should ask about it once a day if she forgets to speak to the sister
Herzlichen Glückwunsch!!
Danke danke 😊
Swede here, my partner and I had our first child born in week 29+3 last November (2023) with an emergency c-section after my partner developed preeclampsia. We both had to stay at the local Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) for about a month. We later transferred to the Neonatal Care Unit (NCU) for another 2 months, totaling a bit over 3 months in the hospital and away from work.
I could not begin to imagine the amount of stress if we had to pay for that stay and not get our income at least almost covered by the national insurance fund. My partner also had what we call pregnancy insurance that gave her additional monetary means above the national insurance fund.
Here all healthcare services are free for everyone under the age of 18 and in the end, it cost us nothing out of pocket, however since I earn more than the national insurance fund covers I lost about 15% of my monthly earnings.
Since many Americans always default to either "wait time" or "taxes", last year (2023) the sum of ALL taxes ended up at just under $22,000, Remember that is income tax, communal tax, and ALL other tax forms we have here.
I want to give you a short correction on the ius soli: if at least one of the parents lives at least 8 years in germany and has a permanent residence permission, the child will get the german citizenship.
I'm sure it's: "You qualify to apply for it". Rules are never so unconditional.
@@holger_p
"(3) Durch die Geburt im Inland erwirbt ein Kind ausländischer Eltern die deutsche Staatsangehörigkeit, wenn ein Elternteil
1.
seit acht Jahren rechtmäßig seinen gewöhnlichen Aufenthalt im Inland hat und
2.
ein unbefristetes Aufenthaltsrecht oder als Staatsangehöriger der Schweiz oder dessen Familienangehöriger eine Aufenthaltserlaubnis auf Grund des Abkommens vom 21. Juni 1999 zwischen der Europäischen Gemeinschaft und ihren Mitgliedstaaten einerseits und der Schweizerischen Eidgenossenschaft andererseits über die Freizügigkeit (BGBl. 2001 II S. 810) besitzt.
Der Erwerb der deutschen Staatsangehörigkeit wird in dem Geburtenregister, in dem die Geburt des Kindes beurkundet ist, eingetragen. Das Bundesministerium des Innern, für Bau und Heimat wird ermächtigt, mit Zustimmung des Bundesrates durch Rechtsverordnung Vorschriften über das Verfahren zur Eintragung des Erwerbs der Staatsangehörigkeit nach Satz 1 zu erlassen."
@@mrchronos3374 Tatsächlich, kein "Kann" dabei.
The hospital food depends on the hospital. When I was last in hospital 9 years ago with a broken ankle, I could choose between four different variations of meals.
It all starts with the hospital meal. Nobody said having kids is easy.😂
haha, it was shocking for sure 😅
Congratulations on the new family member and good luck for the little family! I hope you all stay healthy and safe 😊
Both wizards have their strengths...
Costs: there was some confusion when my first child was born, so we initially ended up getting the bill, about EUR 5k for an unplanned Kaiserschnitt.
Language: our health insurance was offering a free pregnancy/birth guide that they posted in parts throughout the pregnancy, we got that and picked up most of the German we needed. If things get "complicated" a lot of the medical German is either compound nouns (which often explain themselves) or similar to the English but with a funny pronunciation.
Food: it's really hit and miss. Our second child has resulted in us spending a lot of time in hospitals with him (we've averaged about a month a year between us), while the breakfast/evening meals tend to be a little bland and similar to your experience, the lunch meals really vary in quality from hospital to hospital.
Congratulations to your new baby! I hope you have a great time settling in. Haha, yeah, the hospital food really isn't that great in Germany, but I think that depends on the region. One of my friends was in hospital in Bavaria and sent me a picture of her food, saying it was quite good. Gandalf of course! :-D
75€ for the room a night and that's it, that's wonderful! A quick google tells me it's 13k in the US and that's if you don't need a c-section
I haven't seen those figures, but you don't pay 13k out of pocket. Insurance covers a lot of the expenses, I just don't know what the out of pocket costs are like the €75 in Germany.
75€ a night is still a lot for a hospital stay. I paid waaaay less.
It’s been a few years for me, but my eldest daughter was born in the hospital, with only an assistant present during the delivery. We went there in the afternoon, stayed until the next morning, and went home with a new human being. My youngest daughter was born at home. The midwife (and a GP who was still training) arrived a couple of hours before the delivery and they left an hour or so after the delivery (at 01:30). After both deliveries, the midwife (another one) came the morning after for a couple of hours to help out. She helped us for about a week. Costs for child birth is free where I live btw (Netherlands).
As Bee N. already pointed out in a convoluted way:
We DO have legacy names in sense. It is not uncommon to name the first child after the parent. We just don't specify the passed generations in the legal documents.
Of course it's uncommon, how many German people do you know that have to carry their parents first names as theirs? I don't know anybody.
Perhaps some snooty rich or "noble people" do that, but not the normal folks.
@@Kahsimiah A friend from school with Polish heritage. His big brother had his father's first name and he himself and his twin brother had their father's name as their second name
@@HeresorLegacy so your proof that it is not uncommon in Germany is that the Poles do it. Seriously. :-D
@@Kahsimiah I left out that his father's side is Silesian. So German, even though today it is in Polish territory
I researched my family tree, and on my fathers side I have at least 4 generations of "Ernst". That only ended with my father in the 60s. So, I think it happened (they then had different second names they were actually called by)
Gandalf because I reaaaal, like the actor
One of the practical thing about the three days in hospital is, I think, that
A) first doctors visits for mom and Baby (U1 and when I remrmber correctly also U2) are there. So you don't have to drive somewherr else and be comfortable
B) whrn there are complications in the first days they can immediatily react
My daughter i.e. had lung problems vut it just appeared on her second day and so they reacted fast enough and she survived
C) you can learn. These first days are perfect for asking last questions about babycare and so on.
Congrats you both :) donnie your hair looks great :)
My sister gave birth via c-section three weeks ago to twins. And yes, the food wasn't good. I was constantly bringing snacks.
firstof all: CONGRATULATION again! second: Good to see you again Aubrey! third: couldn`t you name him Donald the short one? 😂😂😂😂 (Yes i know, german buerocracy is like german hospital food - horror!) btw best wishes to all of you and thousands of beautiful, lövely moments. feel hugged Michael/Hannover
Haha, we did debate naming him "micro Donnie" 😂